Wonderfully Done: Wholesome Sex and Dating Advice (wonderfullydone)

Ooooo Wonderfully Done Fans, we have got a particularly jizz-tastic episode hot off the editing floor for you to enjoy! Our guest in this episode is the intelligent and sensual genius that is Daddy Will!

​​Who is Daddy Will? Daddy Will is a content creator and educator focused on helping men give and receive more pleasure. His style is warm and affirming yet adventurous, and we’ve been a big fan of his work for absolutely ages!

Topics we explore in this episode:

• How Will’s career and content is informed by his background in personal training, massage, sex and tantra education and so much more
• What is tantra, and how can we start exploring it?
• How can we work on improving our partnered sex lives through solo masturbation?
• Ways to bring mindfulness and intimacy together
• Moving away from feeling in a ‘rut’ with masturbation
• What exactly is ‘sex magic’, though?

Where to find more Daddy Will:

• Twitter
• OnlyFans
• JustForFans

Our audio mix and mastering is by Raf Chavez from Big Mastering ✨

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! In this episode, Lauren and Vix celebrate Bisexuality+ Awareness Week by chatting about life as queer bi+ babes. Join them as they share identity journeys, ups and downs, confusions and frustrations, and importantly share in their bi-euphoria. Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Are you ready for a different Wonderfully Done experience? This week, we’re getting a bit silly in our very first babysode, where Vix and Lauren have both picked mystery sex-related piece of media to get the other to read!

The media we read in this episode:

Lauren’s pick for Vix: [F4M] Repeat Customer

• The Story: This Cobra girl has gone to the local baker a few times a week for a while now, and it's clear the handsome young man is smitten with her. Throughout she moves slowly but deliberately to take what she wants. This Cobra girl knows that the young man wants her, so she's not shy about her feelings.

Vix’s pick for Lauren: James Joyce’ Dirty Letters

• Who is James Joyce? Well Wikipedia says ‘he contributed to the modernist avant-garde movement and is regarded as one of the most influential and important writers of the 20th century’
• In 1909 Joyce leaves alone for Dublin on a business trip, and stays there until the end of December - and he makes a pact with his wife to write to each other erotic letters
• Apparently, he was also an incredibly filthy letter writer!

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Dearest sex and love nerds, today we’re talking about the D in BDSM 🖤 with a wholesome and yummy interview with a local Pro Dom in Melbourne. Meet Sir James! 

Topics we explore in this episode:

• Anecdotes and lessons learned from kink and sex work
• Legal limitations for sex worker advertising and operating
• Stigma and misconceptions around sex work
• Tackling shame and helping partners find their kinky interests
• How to be a fabulous first-time client
• Tips for adding domination into your dynamic at home
• How to be an active, supportive submissive

Who is Sir James? Sir James (He/Him) is a Pro Dom working out of Melbourne at Fetish House in Oakleigh. He’s a strong rugged man, specialising in services including Masculine Domination, Manhandling, Impact, Bondage, couples coaching, and more.

Where to find more Sir James

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SirJamesMedia

Fetish House Profile: https://fetishhouse.com.au/fetish-providers/james/ 

Email: SirJamesFetish@gmail.com

Content and Creators mentioned in this episode:

• Resource: Sex Menu
  • An awesome tool made by Dr. Stephen de Wit (Sex Therapist)
  • This sex menu outlines a wide range of activities and gives you the space to rate your interest out of 5, whether to you to give or receive a certain act, if you’ve done it before and a space for notes
  • Filling this in is a great opportunity to get in touch with what interests you in the world of touch, sex, pleasure, and BDSM right now
  • Really fun to do alone for personal knowledge or with partners! Also makes for great sexy homework
• Fetish House
  • The only custom-designed and built venue in Melbourne specialising in fetish, fantasy and BDSM
  • Versatile selection of available professionals, including Dominatrixes, Masters, submissives and more!
  • We love their extensive Etiquette Guide 

• Tryst
  • Recommended listings page for independent escorts, with photos and lots of information on services, pricing and more

• Everything Harder than Everyone Else by Jenny Valentish
  • A fabulous new book focusing on ‘why some of us push our bodies to the extreme’, including a substantial interview with Sir James in the context of BDSM

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

A love for beautiful things is such a delicious part of being queer. In this episode, we're joined by an out-of-this-world sapphic artist, who we've yearned to interview since the Wonderfully Done concept was born. Meet Mayticks! 🎨

​​Who is Mayticks? Mayticks (she/her) is a divine artist who makes sapphic art that explores queerness, body feels, and connection  - basically all our favorite shit! She is a Canberra-based Australian cutie, queer, and draws a loooooot of nipples and leg hair!

Topics we explore in this episode:

• Exploring sexuality in erotic art, as a queer woman
• What’s the difference between drawing for 'a male gaze' vs 'a queer gaze' (gays)?
• Queer Romance - How Mayticks met her wife
• What makes art sensual vs. pornographic
• Challenging your own biases in your art
• Should Twitter make changes for 18+ gating?
• Today and the future in queer art

Where to find more Mayticks!

• Buy some beautiful art: www.etsy.com/au/shop/Mayticks 
• Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayticks 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/mayticks

A few key projects to check out:

• Classics... but make it gay I - Mayticks as an Illustrator + Merch designer (new edition coming in 2022!)
• Dames, Warrior Women of Legends II - Mayticks as a Merch Designer
• Cover Me Queer Zine - Mayticks as an Illustrator

Some recommended creators from Mayticks: Mayticks recommends following Twitter accounts @DamesZine and @Nova_Mali to see incredible queer-centered art by a talented array of artists.

Some of Mayticks' collaborators on Twitter include:

• @Renstrapp
• @fiona_creates
• @gildedruin
• @Aadorah
• @may12324
• @BlkDistraction
• @Shouty_y
• @ErenAngiolini

Fill your life with gorgeous queer art, and we'll see you in the next episode!

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

Hello, sweet angels! Today we’re here with none other than Nikki Darling, Australia's first gender-free sexual health and pleasure purveyors. We LOVE this online adult store, and jumped at the chance to interview the amazing owner - a fellow Lauren! We’ve been blessed with a cheeky little discount code for our listeners - just enter WonderfullyDone at checkout for 10% off your first Nikki Darling order! 😍

Our fabulous conversation includes:

• Insights into the daily life of running a sexual pleasure and health store
• Inclusive practice and communication around sex toys
• Trends in 2020 and predictions for 2021 (aka ‘the TikTok effect’)
• The challenges of growing a sexual brand in an increasingly sex-negative world
• Collecting and curating vintage and modern sex toys
• Recommendations for sexy resources and learning

And so much more!

Mentioned in this episode:

Glyde Sheer Latex Dams

FC2 Internal Condoms

Carol Queen, Ph D Louise Bourchier MPH

Tristan Taormino

Cyndi Darnell (The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal)

Betty Dodson

Go forth and follow Nikki Darling!

Twitter

Instagram

Website

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Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! In this not-so-‘baby’ babysode, Lauren has a deliciously robust and fun conversation with our dear friend Cara Tune, about FANFICTION and FANART! This has been an area of much joy and exploration for them both. As a (frequently sexy) subject veiled in stigma and mystery, it felt like a very worthy exploration! Who is Cara? She is the brilliant graphic designer behind the Wonderfully Done branding, and all around good egg! She’s an amazing professional artist: check her out at @caratune on Instagram and Twitter!

Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Prepare for cheerful chaos and hard love - we’re back with another round of Seven Minutes in Heaven!

In these special episodes we answer at least four listener questions, but each question only gets seven minutes. A quickie, if you will. ;) The topics we cover in this episode include:

• Online sexting buds disappearing
• Check-ins on flirt welcomeness
• Long-term mismatched libido
• Challenges with flirting on the spectrum

Creators mentioned in this episode:

Article Recommendation: Sexual Currency

• Article by Swell - from Dame Wellness Dot Come
• What is Sexual Currency? The article describe it as: ‘ Anytime we hug, kiss, rub, squeeze, and nuzzle into a romantic partner, there is an erotic charge. This comes from the sexual relationship that exists between couples..  Sexual currency is a little different from physical affection. It is sexually charged touch that has erotic meaning.’
• Loved this article it’s a great reminder that keeping a saucy fire going in our relationships is work, FUN WORK, that we can make lots of little investments into
• Could be particularly helpful to anyone experiencing low libido in their relationship

Instagram Post Recommendation: 

Topic: Relationships with different neurotypes

• Stevie Writes shares neat things on kink, non-monogamy, Autism, sexuality and gender on their Instagram
• Really wow concept to see specified and to really sit and consider how this affects our perceptions coming together in communications and our experience of our reality
• The idea that our realities are all different - our perception is not reality - it is a version of it 
• Especially loved this: ‘'Getting comfortable with the ideas that difference can be met with curiosity and not condemnation is powerful work'

Instagram Recommendation: 

@thefatsextherapist

• Amazing trauma-informed sex therapist
• Spoke on an Instagram Live about having a maz (masturbate) on top of your bedcovers while naked, rather than covering yourself up, staying clothed etc. By seeing ourselves in a slightly more embodied way, we can create micro-moments of body acceptance and appreciation. We challenge our dear listeners to give this a try!

Resource Recommendation: 

YearCompass

• A great reflection tool to help me let go of a hard year, and set me up for the new one
• We are both filling this out this year (Lauren has done hers already ofc)

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Hey there, sweet little biscuits! 

Lauren and Vix are back with listener questions today as we approach the season finale. Woah! These are some spicy meatballs, full of challenging conversations that we’re sure many Wonderfully Done listeners can relate to.

Topics we explore in this episode:

• Navigating partners hang ups when you’re a young queer ‘virgin’
• Communicating seeking support re: painful penetration
• Negotiating rough sex while inexperienced
• Voicing what you want ‘in the moment’ with partners
• Questioning boundaries in mixed sexuality relationships 
• Navigating internalised biphobia

Content and Creators mentioned in this episode:

• Game: Later Daters
• Book: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristen Neff
• Book: Emotional Agility by Susan David
• Ms. Elle X - Domination tips on YouTube

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Y’all seemed to enjoy Season One, so we’re making a Second Season, babes! 

Frankly, we’ve been beyond delighted with the response to Wonderfully Done. When we set out to make this show, we had no idea we would receive such beautiful and heartfelt messages from our listeners.

For a brand spanking new season to be really fantastic, we need a bunch of new questions. This is where you come in!

In Season 2 we want to dig deeper into lots of juicy topics like: 

• Pegging
• Crushes
• Kink exploration
• Communication challenges
• Body acceptance

But you can ask us about ANYTHING!

Questions are always read anonymously

Short or long, anything goes!

If you’ve wanted to send a topic and have felt nervous, we encourage you to be brave! We would love nothing more than to chat through your curious thoughts, feelings and questions.

How to share a question?

• Email us at wonderfullydoneshow@gmail.com
• DM @donewonderfully on Twitter
• Curious Cat - https://curiouscat.qa/WonderfullyDone

BEWARE: WET FEELINGS AHEAD We really want to take a moment to say how grateful we are for each and every one of you, whether you’ve listened to one episode, or every one we’ve made.

It’s true! Wonderfully Done is back again for a fresh season of horny and wholesome content! We couldn't miss the opportunity to kick things off with a spooky themed episode. 🎃🖤 Is it a trick or a treat, though? You’ll have to be the judge! 

Topics we explore in this episode:

• • What makes Halloween sexy? Why are us queers super into it?
  • Our Horny Horror Movie recommendations
  • Costumes: Strategically hot? Occasionally terrible?

• Robust discussions on the fuckability of some classic MONSTERS Our selections include:

• • Swamp monsters
  • Ghosts
  • Vampires
  • Mothman
  • Werewolves
  • Witches/Warlocks
  • Frankenstein / Zombies
  • Shapeshifters
  • Goo creatures 
  • Tentacle monsters

Our Horny Horror Movie List:

• Jennifer's Body
• Ginger Snaps
• The Mummy
• The Shape of Water
• The Love Witch
• Eyes Wide Shut
• Rocky Horror Picture Show
• Bride of Chucky
• Queen of the Damned
• Dusk till Dawn
• Interview with the Vampire
• Bram Stoker's Dracula

What other movies do you love for Halloween? We’d love to know!

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

The season of LOVE has begun as we march towards February 14th, Valentine's Day! With our deep fascination in all things dating and sex, we’d be remiss if we didn’t share some robust chats about this polarising holiday!

Babysodes break away from our usual format, and explore something specific that tickles our fancy - such as an interview, discussing a particular topic of interest, or playing games.

In this episode we discuss:

• A brief history on the origins of Valentine's Day
• Figuring out how to give good gifts to please your sweetie(s)
• Navigating one person liking Valentine's while the other hates it
• Why Valentine's Day shouldn't be the only day you’re extra romantic with partner(s)
• Creative date ideas to break away from the classic ‘dinner and drinks’ combo
• Our very own Valentine's Day plans!

We’re absolutely big sluts for Valentine’s and would LOVE to hear your thoughts about it! Please especially feel free to share your best Valentine’s OR your plans for this year here! 

Ps. If you have a friend you think might enjoy our show, please share it with them - it would mean a lot to us!

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

Hello and welcome to Wonderfully Done, a wholesome podcast show about sex, communication and loving yourself, hosted by Lauren (she/her) and Vix (she/her). 

The topics we cover in this episode include:

• The ups and downs of isolation libido
  • Inspiration on how to keep things sexy and connected in your relationship
• Learning to love your tummy
  • We share some deeply personal feels about embracing tummies

This is our very first episode, and we hope you enjoy it!

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Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself!

In this episode, Lauren and Vix discuss ways to address experience anxiety with sexual partners later in life, and explore a scenario where messages from an old FWB cause tension in a long term monogamous relationship!

Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Why hello there, lovely listeners! We’re here to bless your ears with the dulcet tones of Queen Olivia Lucretia-Bourgeois Connie St Redfern III (a.k.a Connie), one of New Zealand's 10 most Iconic Drag Queens!

Lauren sat down for an interview with this marvelous friend of the show, and discussed topics including: 

• Having sex in drag: yay or nay?
• Generational differences in the culture and scene
• Intersections between drag, gender and sexual identity
• Inclusivity and experiences as a nonbinary ‘genderfuck’ bearded drag queen
• Transferring knowledge and education before and after the internet

And so much more!

Content warning: This interview includes discussions of homophobia, and a mention of catcalling and assault.

Go forth and follow them!

Twitter - @queenoliviastr

Website - https://thequeenolivia.com/ 

Listen to more of Connie’s wonderful life adventures and subscribe to Small Stories in a Big Country.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Bombay Bombshell teaches drag dance classes at Pump Dance Studios

Rainbow Story Times - Celebrating diversity and rainbow families, with stories read in the library by Wellington’s Kings and Queens!

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

In this episode, Vix and Lauren explore flirting tips and advice, and talk about how to have a conversation with your monogamous partner about attraction outside of a current relationship.

Here’s  cool comment from our Curious Cat on body feels: ‘I'm someone who loves people's bellies and thinks that they're a truly an attractive and sexy part of people. I've always felt guilty as it tends to be something people really hate about themselves, and I never want to focus on something that could make someone uncomfortable or fetishized. 

Thanks for sharing your journeys on learning to love and accept your bodies, it's made me feel like it's not as a taboo topic as I've held it to be, and it's something I'd be able to discuss and be more open about with future partners. 

I love what you're doing and you're both amazing!’

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Saddle up cuties - today we’re talking about Unicorns! 🦄

Babysodes break away from our usual format, and explore something that tickles our fancy - such as an interview, discussing a particular topic of interest, or playing games.

In this episode we discuss:

• Unicorns - what are they?
• Unicorn culture - the good, the bad & the ugly
• Tips for being a good, respectful ‘unicorn hunter’
• Tips for a safer, better unicorn experience
• How to be them, and find them!

Content and tools mentioned in this episode:

Book Recommendation:

The Ethical Slut

• English non-fiction book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
• This is often suggested as a first read for Polyamory
• Take with a grain of salt

Dating apps through the lens of seeking threesomes:

Feeld app

• Used to be called Thrinder
• Kink and sexual encounter focused
• You can connect your profile with your partners
• People are pretty upfront with their specific sexual or kink related desires, which can make screening a little easier!

OkCupid

• More common to see non-monogamy & queerness explicitly on profiles

• Robust information on profiles

• You can connect your profile with your partners

Tinder

• Largest pool of selection, but less clear who is open to different lifestyles or their openness to it
• Since a recent update, you can connect your profile with your partners

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A big hello to you, our dearest sex nerds and romance sweeties! 

The topics we cover in this episode include:

• Guilt around feeling the need to reciprocate the gift giving of a partner
• Ideas for how to keep a long distance relationship feeling fresh and spicy in these pandemic times where travel is off the cards
• What monsters we would like to fuck the very MOST

Creators mentioned in this episode:

Podcast Recommendation:

Why Won't You Date Me?

• Hosted by comedy genius Nicole Byer
• You may know Nicole from hosting ‘Nailed It’ on Netflix
• Her podcast is an entertaining exploration of why she is single, love, life, and sex

Podcast Episode Recommendation:

‘Advice from a Dating Coach - Damona Hoffman by Why Won’t You Date Me?’

• A juicy episode packed full of social analysis, vulnerability and concrete suggestions around dating in today’s world
• Listen on Spotify

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It’s a holiday miracle! This will be our last episode for the year, and we are going out with a BANG because our guest this episode is the phenomenal Gwen Adora!

​​Who is Gwen Adora?

Gwen is our favourite mommy domme pop culture extraordinaire. She’s a creative, campy adult content creator after our own hearts, and the winner of the 2021 XBIZ Best BBW Clip Artist awards! Her business skills are top-notch, and we love that her wise words and glorious visage has also featured in Forbes, VICE and Vox. 

Topics we explore in this episode:

• Gwen’s pop culture and cosplay inspirations
• How to be the ultimate simp, OnlyFans tipping etiquette and more
• Respectful support and consumption of porn & seggs workers
• Creative expression in adult content creation
• Living with deplatforming and sex hostility online
• Tips for channeling sexy energy
• 2022 porn trend predictions and future sex media

Where to find more Gwen Adora

• Subscribe to Gwen on OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/gwenadora 
• Website: https://gwenadora.com/ 
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gwenadoraxo 
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gwenadoraxo/ 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/gwenadora 

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In this episode, Vix and Lauren discuss introducing partners to concepts like group sex, and the underexplored topic of coming ‘too soon’ when you’re a cis woman.

Creators Mentioned in this episode:

OnlyFans Recommendation: 

Little Sun Boy

Book Recommendation: 

‘Sex and Social Media’

• Written by Katrin Tiidenberg (Tallinn University, Estonia) and Emily van der Nagel (Monash University, Australia)
• A juicy book exploring the intersection of sex & social media 
• Lauren and Vix were both participants in the research for this book
• Buy your own copy of the book here!

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

The end of Season Two has arrived! ❤️ To you we offer a special Anal August treat, and vulnerable chats about body feels and journeys of personal sexual freedom.

CW: This episode has some heavy exploration of body image issues and fatphobia

Topics we explore in this episode:

• Broaching the desire for pegging with a cis het male partner
• Practical advice on developing self esteem & confidence
• Fat liberation, body neutrality, body acceptance and more
• The concept of sexual freedom with lashings of practical advice
• Thoughts and feelings about Season Two and what is to come

Content and Creators mentioned in this episode:

Book Recommendation: Intuitive Eating - A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach

• Written by Elyse Resch and Evelyn Tribole

Health at Every Size

• Written by Linda Bacon

Podcast Recommendation: WHY ARE PEOPLE INTO THAT?!

• Hosted by Tina Horn
• A fascinating podcast really getting into the guts of why people are into different kinds of sex, kink and more with interesting and thought provoking guests

Thank you so much for an incredible second season, cutie beans! 

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

With the rise of online dating, words and terms to describe ourselves and our desires are more prevalent than ever. The tricky thing about words is that many (especially in the world of sex and dating!) don’t actually have a singular meaning understood and accepted by all people. So what the heck can we do?

Questions we ask in this episode: 

• Do we use any slang or language in our own dating profiles?
• Do we use labels? How do labels help us? How do they limit us?
• Why does slang and new language emerge around sex and community? Is it just like horoscopes, or what?
• How do we have conversations asking what terms actually mean for different people?
• When is it about understanding ourselves, and when is it about explaining ourselves?
• What should people ‘know’ or learn? When do we ‘need’ to know specifics?

Words and terms we explore:

• Top
• Bottom
• Submissive/Sub
• Dominant / Dom / Domme
• Vers / Switch
• Polyamorous vs. non-monogamy etc
• Open Relationship vs. Ethical Non-Monogamy
• Labels like: stud, stem, femme, butch, otter, bear, twink (presentation slang)
• SW lingo: PSE, GFE, BBJ

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Happy Season Two, sweet beans! By popular request, we’re launching the season with more chats about bisexuality and non-monogamy. Hooray!

The topics we cover in this episode:

• Chatting through common fears for bisexual/pansexuals such as:
  • The possibility of ‘uncontrollable desire’ in a straight-passing relationship
  • Lack of experience anxiety
  • Internalised biphobia
• The tricky dance of one partner wanting to be polyamorous, and the other partner feeling uncertain about opening up the relationship.

Creators mentioned in this episode:

Book Recommendation: Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good 

• Written by by Adrienne Maree Brown
• A book exploring the power of pleasure in our lives, as a tool for self love and healing, social justice and so much more.

A few choice quotes:

“Your no makes the way for your yes. Boundaries create the container within which your yes is authentic. Being able to say no makes yes a choice.”

“Ultimately, love for the self is the deepest pleasure we deny ourselves. I work daily to be courageous enough to indulge in the purest pleasure of self-love.”

“We have been raised to fear the yes within ourselves, our deepest cravings. But, once recognized, those which do not enhance our future lose their power and can be altered. The fear of our desires keeps them suspect and indiscriminately powerful, for to suppress any truth is to give it strength beyond endurance. The fear that we cannot grow beyond whatever distortions we may find within ourselves keeps us docile and loyal and obedient, externally defined, and leads us to accept many facets of our oppression as women.”

Book Recommendation: Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

• Written by Tristan Taormino
• Explores the real-life benefits and challenges of many styles of open relationships. Includes tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, communication etc.

Book Recommendation: The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

• Written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
• Despite the first edition hitting the world in 1997, this book remains a go-to for those wanting to learn more about the world of open relationships with ourselves and others

Lots of love, Lauren and Vix

Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! In this episode, Lauren and Vix discuss three shorter topics, including how to set up expectations by sharing your actual desires, making conversations about sexual health less awkward, and returning to dating cishet dudes after dating queer babes. Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! In this episode Lauren and Vix have juicy chats about what to do when a partner reveals a kink that straight-up makes you uncomfortable, and how to approach conversations about arousal and how your body responds sexually. Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! In this episode, Lauren and Vix explore motivations behind encouraging a partner's sexual self confidence, and discuss ‘normal’ in relation to masturbating. Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

A big hey, hi, hello to our favourite sex and love nerds! We have some extra juicy topics for you in this episode, expect lots of ROBUST discussion! 👀💞 The topics we cover in this episode includes:

• Having a teacher fetish in your early 20’s

• • Power dynamics
  • If you have ‘risky’ fetishes, what are safe but spicy alternatives?
• Exploring feelings of shame around buying penis-centric sex toys

Content mentioned in this episode:

• Women by Nadia Lee Cohen (photography collection)
• Smut Peddler presents: Silver (NSFW comic)

Connect with us! 

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Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! In this episode, Lauren and Vix discuss how to manage fears and expectations when approaching dating apps, and share inspiration plus personal experiences in the delicious world of taking nudes and sexting cuties! Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between.  Questions like:

• Is my vibrator lying to me?
• How do I take nudes I’m proud of?
• How do I tell my partner I want to peg them?

This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. So, if you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself! Sweet listeners! This is the final episode of Season One of Wonderfully Done! Wow! Seriously, thank you for being with us and sharing in this space. We thought we’d do something fun and fresh before taking a little season break!

In this episode, we revisit a game from our highschool days: Seven Minutes in Heaven. In our version, we’re answering four of your questions, but each question only gets seven minutes! This episode is chaos in the funnest of ways, and we absolutely plan for a round two!

The topics we cover are:

• How to be a total baddie, and the key to our personal confidence
• How to open the door to chatting about sex and relationships with your pals, and encouraging sex positive culture in groups
• How to recover after an unreturned affection from someone in the workplace
• Defining intimacy in the context of our relationships - ie. physical, emotional, etc

Creators Mentioned in this episode:

• Book Recommendation: ‘Sex and Social Media’

• • Written by Katrin Tiidenberg (Tallinn University, Estonia) and Emily van der Nagel (Monash University, Australia)
  • A juicy book exploring the intersection of sex & social media 
  • Lauren and Vix were both participants in the research for this book
  • Buy your own copy of the book here: https://bit.ly/3gtMIHK

• Book Recommendation: ‘Love 2.0’ by Barbara L. Fredrickson

• • It’s all about ‘Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection’
  • Really good, accessible, not too long! The idea that Love is made in moments and is frequent but recurring. Not a destination but a habit etc
  • Website: https://www.positivityresonance.com/ 

• Artist Recommendation: Exotic Cancer

• • A wicked awesome illustrator and stripper who is also based in Melbourne Australia! We adore her work!!!
  • Website: https://exoticcancer.com/
  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exotic.cancer/ 

If you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!

Happy Anal August, sweethearts! In this episode Lauren and Vix talk about sharing nudes with friends, followed by Vix interviewing Wonderfully Done’s very first guest! Josh, a queer psychologist, joins us for some real talk about anal and poop shame!

Our Special Guest for this Interview:

Josh Muller (they/them)

• A passionate advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community
• Josh describes their passion as - ‘..to help people live rich, full, and meaningful lives. LGBTQIA+ people often experience poor mental health and wellbeing, though this is due to stigma and discrimination in society. Working individually with people to help improve their lives is important, but only in conjunction with work to change society through advocacy and activism.’
• Visit their website here!

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋

Woah there, it’s the first Wonderfully Done episode of 2021!

The topics we cover in this episode includes:

• Showing appreciation for fat bodies without being a creepy-creep

• • Discussing the ‘curvy wife guy’ internet moment
  • Shame around appearance preferences
  • Feelings around dating and sexuality as a fat woman
  • Expressing desire respectfully
• How to approach a pal with a friends-with-benefits proposal (without being decimated from embarrassment!)

Creators mentioned in this episode:

Podcast Episode Recommendation:

 Are we allowed to have sex in space? Feat. Dr Shawna Pandya, Yvette Gonzalez and Dr Alex Layendecker

• TW: Sexual Assault approx after the 20 minute mark
• Episode of The Future of Sex Podcast interviewing three experts in space travel and sexuality
• Discussed lots of topics like:
  • None of the space agencies out there are sharing data or research on sex or masturbation!
  • What effects would space have on bodies, fluids and the mechanics of actually having sex?
• Listen to this episode on Spotify here

Toy Recommendation: Lelo Sona 2

• Clit sucking toy, can also be used on nipples, or you know, EXPLORE ;)
• Has a really neat range of sucking patterns
• Step up from the Satisfyer Pro 2
• Be warned, some of the patterns are pretty intense!

Show Recommendation: The Untamed

• Homoromantic Chinese fantasy drama on Netflix
• Warring family clans, centering around two men who have a great obsession and fascination with each other
• Excessively pretty men and gorgeous interiors!
• Reminds Lauren that context sets the intensity - she’ll read really explicit fanfic, but then watching this where everything is really understated, just the smallest stuff is like GASP!
• A relaxing, visually pleasing and slow watch

“Honestly when it’s just me… I really do like my body.” - Hien Pham

We’ve had a bunch of messages from Wonderfully Done listeners asking for us to have a lovely ace guest. Well! We recently had the absolute pleasure of interviewing a dear friend of ours, Hien Pham. As well as being a brilliant (and often smutty) artist, Hien is gay, gray-ace and an advocate of body acceptance and sex positivity - everything we love! 

Who is Hien Pham?

Hien Pham (he/him) is a digital artist specializing in gentle and optimistic queer comics.

He grew up in Vietnam on war stories before moving and finding a home in Australia. His work revolves around respite, around caring and loving and being loved and cared for.

Topics we explore in this episode: 

• Self-healing through creative expression
• Fat joy and fighting fatphobia
• Dating while ace, and dating ace people
• Being a smut creator while on the ace spectrum
• What even is ‘masculinity’, anyway?
• Vulnerability and how audiences can help break shame cycles
• Sex as character development, and ‘flaws’ as good character design

Where to find more Hien

• Support Hien on Patreon: http://patreon.com/wavingpeople 
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/wavingpeople 
• Website: wavingcomics.com

Content and Creators mentioned in this episode:

• Sex Education: Oh Joy Sex Toy
  • If you haven’t visited them yet - GET OVER THERE!
  • Wonderful sex ed comics from health, to sex and sexuality, to how to guides
  • Sex toy reviews galore

• Comic: ‘Side Effect, Right Effect‘
  • Comic for Oh Joy Sex Toy by Hien Pham
  • A personal share about mental health, mazzing and being kind to yourself

• Artist: G.C. Houle
  • An glorious ace non-binary artist
  • Twitter: https://twitter.com/gchoule
• Comic Maker: Gina Biggs
  • A comic creator of 20+  years with a focus on sci-fi, romance, and fairytales
  • Runs Filthy Figments
    • Described as ‘the internet’s premiere collection of Erotic Comics by an amazing lineup of cartoonists’ 
  • Twitter: https://twitter.com/ginabiggs
• Comic Artist & Writer: Sarah Winifred Searle
  • Referenced as the cool creator who talked about sex as character development
  • Twitter: https://twitter.com/swinsea 

• Inclusive, queer and sexy comic companies: Smut Peddler & Filthy Figments

Connect with us! 

Our website: www.wonderfullydone.show Facebook: Wonderfully Done Twitter: @donewonderfully

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Lots of love, Lauren and Vix 💋