We're All in This Together (Mike Robbins)
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| 19 Jul 2016 | Vulnerability and Power with Dr. Dacher Keltner | 00:55:41 | |
Today I’m speaking with my friend Dr. Dacher Keltner, a professor at UC Berkeley who is also the co-founder and faculty director of the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center. He is a renowned expert in the biological and evolutionary origins of human emotions and he studies awe, compassion, beauty and love. He just wrote a new book, The Power Paradox, and has also authored two previous books, Born to Be Good:The Science of a Meaningful Life and The Compassion Instinct.
The Greater Good Science Center The Greater Good Science Center began in 2001, as print magazine, with the intention of bringing peace and well-being to people. It has since become a place people go to for acquiring knowledge and learning how to put that knowledge into practice. The center capitalizes on core ethical ideas in our data-driven society. A talk at Stanford led to an exciting opportunity for Dacher to partner with Facebook. The result of their partnership was the modification of Facebook’s approach and platform, which gave users the ability to be kinder and more compassionate when engaging with each other on Facebook. According to Dacher, “Social interaction is a fundamental challenge in today’s world.”
The Power Paradox Today’s workplace is collaborative so the soft skills of leadership have become more important. Dacher teaches managers to build a culture of gratitude and respect. He shows leaders how to gain and keep power by doing good things for people. Service and humility are the last levels of great leadership. The more humble a leader is the more people will trust and follow them, yet power often leads people to do just the opposite.
Acts of Gratitude Acts of gratitude help to build cooperative teams, and the small stuff leaders do matters enormously in an organization. If a person is in a position of power, their actions ripple through social networks. The actions and emotions that leaders bring to work can influence the mood of the entire company.
The “We” Generation of Sharing Dacher interacts with students every day in his role as a professor and he believes this new generation is going to be amazing. They are more interested in the environment and the far reaches of the world than they are in buying a home or a car.
What does Bringing Your Whole Self to Work Mean to Dacher? It’s about being open and listening to everybody who comes your way. To be open, to hear, to respect and to dignify is Dacher’s first goal.
Resources: Mike Robbins Speaker Page | |||
| 30 Oct 2018 | Trust The Process | 00:30:34 | |
One of the most important things we can do in our work and our life is to trust the process. This is about trusting ourselves, others, and the overall journey, even when things seem difficult or confusing. Patience and trust are essential in business, family, and just about every other aspect of life, but they can be tough to practice, especially when things don’t seem to be going the way we want them to go. Today, we talk about specific ways we can trust the process more effectively and the mindset shift that goes along with accepting (and maybe even welcoming) uncertainty.
Key Takeaways: [2:47] The four different aspects of trust that are important to remember: trusting ourselves, others, the group, and life. [6:05] When we step into a new realm of growth, some of our most limiting patterns and beliefs will show up as a protection mechanism. It’s the ego’s way of thinking we are protecting ourselves from the unknown. Instead of accepting the growth mindset, we go into a ‘fixed’ mindset. [8:56] Being in the vulnerable state of uncertainty also breeds space for creativity and flexibility. [9:30] Dr. Brené Brown defines vulnerability as risk, emotional exposure, and uncertainty. We all fluctuate in which of those feelings and states feel uncomfortable, which feel exciting, and which make us feel a mixture of both. [12:08] I share my personal experience of trusting the process while launching my own business and branching out as a speaker and author. Continuing to trust the path led to Richard Carlson, whom I admire and is one of my inspirations, to write the foreword of my book. [18:29] Inspiration for those of you who are facing or will face rejection for your dreams, and motivation to keep plugging away: my first book proposal was rejected a total of 25 times. The process was arduous and there was no progress forward until I decided I was really ready to write the book, no matter what it took. [26:43] It’s common for folks to dedicate ourselves to work harder or longer if we want to accomplish something, but many times it’s about patience and trust. [29:13] It takes a lot of courage and faith to trust the process of your life and your work, no matter what’s unfolding right now.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way, by Mike Robbins The Shortest Distance Between You and a Published Book, by Susan Page | |||
| 14 Dec 2021 | Navigating the Holidays with Authenticity and Grace | 00:22:43 | |
I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with the holidays. I enjoy some of the rituals, food, music, gifts, and celebrations, but I’m not a huge fan of the pressure, expectation, disappointment, family dynamics, and grief that often accompanies this time of year. On this episode, I talk about some of the things that can make the holidays challenging and share some specific tips for what we can do to effectively navigate this season with authenticity and grace, especially this year. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 13 Aug 2019 | Authentic Leadership with Aimée Lapic | 00:45:40 | |
I’m joined on the show today by Aimée Lapic, the Chief Marketing Officer at Pandora. She’s a passionate, authentic, and high performing leader who cares deeply about her team. Aimée and I discuss ways to be authentic and caring as a leader, how to manage your personal and professional life without feeling guilty, and the key elements that make a great team.
Key Takeaways [3:25] Aimée shares a little bit about her background and where she grew up. [9:50] Back in the mid-’90s the internet was on fire and it gave Aimée the chance to hit the ground running in the Bay Area. She was able to work for startups and get her feet wet in online marketing and e-commerce. [14:25] When Aimée stepped into a leadership role, the biggest lesson she learned was that not everyone is motivated by the same things. You have to pay attention to each person and what they care about. [19:15] Aimée has always strived to be the top of her class but when she got into Princeton she realized that the country’s top students were also there and it was incredibly hard adjusting to this new environment. However, it gave her a good wake up call that she had to work even harder and that work ethic has served her well in life. [23:15] When Aimée became a mother, that’s when her high-achieving streak had to take a back seat. Being a working mom and managing three children is tough and sometimes you just have to let go and be happy with the ‘good enough.’ [29:25] Aimée believes she’s a better leader today because she is much more transparent about the conscious choices she is making. She decided to go into work late the other day because she wanted to have a nice breakfast with the kids. She decided not to have breakfast with the kids so that she could be on time for important meetings on other days. She makes conscious choices now and doesn’t feel guilty about them. [36:35] Aimée looks for talented people who have a growth mindset. She wants to know that her team can be empowered to do things on their own and not be micromanaged. When it comes to hiring, she actively seeks key characteristics like a positive outlook to make sure that they will fit into and adapt to the company culture. [42:00] Aimée believes that in order to develop good teams it comes down to having the people connect with one another on a personal level. When you have a connection, you build respect and trust. You don’t have to be the most qualified in the room, but if you know how to work together, then you really are able to move mountains.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material | |||
| 07 Dec 2021 | The Comparison Trap | 00:27:24 | |
We all compare ourselves to other people at times. This can be benign and there can even be some positive aspects to it, but, for the most part, comparison is an ego trap that distorts our perception and causes harm. On this episode I talk openly about some of my own struggles with comparison and some things we can do to navigate the comparison trap, especially these days. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 03 Feb 2021 | Why and How to Ask for Help | 00:33:00 | |
Asking for help is challenging for most of us, for a variety of reasons. With everything going on these days and many of us feeling understandably depleted, it’s even more difficult to request the support that we need. However, being able to ask for help is so important right now, not only for our own well-being, but for the health and success of our relationships, families, and teams. On this episode, I talk about why support is so essential and offer some specific tips for how to successfully get it. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“The answer is always ‘no’ if you don’t ask.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.” — @MikeDRobbins
“When we ask for help, we give other people permission to do something most people love to do...support another human being.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 25 Aug 2020 | Creating a Culture of Winning with John Beam | 01:11:04 | |
My guest on this episode is the Athletic Director and Head Football Coach at Laney College in Oakland, CA, John Beam. John and I have known each other since 1989 when I arrived at Skyline High School in Oakland where he coached football for 22 years. John and his Laney College Eagles are featured in the current season of Last Chance U on Netflix. As an incredibly successful high school and college football coach over the past 40 years, John knows a lot about what it takes to succeed and how to build a winning culture - in football, business, and life. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together - virtual program Last Chance U (Netflix) - Season 5 Trailer
Shareables:
“If you want people to trust you, you’ve got to keep it real.” — @beam_coach
“Winning teams create a culture of family and have each other’s backs.” — @beam_coach
“For people to count on you...you’ve got to do what you say you’ll do.” — @beam_coach
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| 13 Sep 2016 | The Importance of Valuing People with Jay Allen | 00:50:07 | |
My guest on today’s podcast is Jay Allen. Jay recently retired from his role as the Chief Administrative Officer at Charles Schwab, which is where he and I met a few years ago. Schwab is one of my favorite clients and getting to know Jay and work with him and his team in recent years has been a real honor for me. He retired last year to keep a promise to himself. Early in his work life, Jay vowed to have time to follow his passions. His career history before Schwab includes working for IBM, NBC, GE, a start-up, and his own consulting business.
What does Bring Your Whole Self to Work Mean to Jay? Jay shares a story of when he was given the role of manager over a group of people within his existing department. A peer who was also a friend was waiting in line to talk with him. When it was her turn she walked in and said something he will never forget. She said “They didn’t give you this job because they thought you could be a good manager. They gave it to you because they liked who you were.” Jay says it was an important experience for him and he felt lucky it happened so early in his career.
Valuing People One of Jay’s core principles as a leader is to value people as individuals - appreciating who they are, not just what they do. Over the years of Jay’s career, the various companies and roles he had, he always made a commitment to connect with people and value them on a human level, regardless of their role, title, or performance. He believes this is an essential aspect of leadership and culture.
Charles Schwab Charles Schwab is a purpose-driven financial services company. Jay’s mission as the head of HR was to take the core purpose of the organization and strengthen its foundation while preserving its ability to meet its financial objectives. His strength-based approach was capitalizing on what people were good at and letting them know what they were doing was worthy of their time. He asserts that one of the most important things a leader can do is make it known to people they are valued as individuals and deserving of respect.
Transparency in Communications Jay admits to being very curious, almost bordering on nosey. Early in his career he wanted to know everything, including the why. Some senior people seemed uncomfortable with open and honest communication, which he found off-putting and strange. Jay has a firm commitment to transparent and direct communications. His aim as a leader has been to root out corporate speak and corporate spin to deliver a message as clearly as was possible.
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| 13 Apr 2021 | Finding the Courage to Lead with Vulnerability with Laila Tarraf | 00:50:43 | |
It’s almost always scary and uncomfortable to be vulnerable, yet vulnerability is necessary for us to learn, grow, connect, lead, and succeed personally and professionally. My guest on this episode, Laila Tarraf, knows all about the importance of this paradox. She was the Chief People Officer at Peet’s Coffee and Tea, and over the span of five years lost her husband, her father, and her mother, all while raising her young daughter and leading a cultural transformation for the company. In her moving new memoir, Strong Like Water, Laila shares about her grief, growth, and personal transformation through these intense experiences. In our conversation, we talk about her book, her journey, and how we can all find the courage to lead with vulnerability in business and in life. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Strong Like Water (book), by Laila Tarraf (Website) Strong Like Water (book), by Laila Tarraf (Amazon)
Shareables:
“Being right isn’t the point.” — @LailaTarraf
“There is strength in softness.” — @LailaTarraf
“Vulnerability is not weakness, it’s courage.” — @LailaTarraf
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| 13 Dec 2016 | Time to Speak Up with Mike Robbins | 00:29:22 | |
It is time to heal, and change, and transform. In this solo episode, I explore how we, Americans, can speak up and engage in an ongoing productive conversation, about things that are uncomfortable and disruptive. I explore how we can connect to each other, when there is an overwhelming desire to fight. I ponder about our abilities to adapt and adopt and engage in meaningful conversations, which could influence significant change.
Key Takeaways: [1:48] Looking at the state of the U.S. and the state of the world, after the recent U.S. election. [3:17] How to engage, when you feel compelled to speak up. [8:19] What happens when you have the desire to fight. [9:42] The undiscussed differences between males and females, in terms of physical safety. [14:06] The tribal ‘us against them’ phenomenon. [16:35] The third option of, we are all in this together. [19:18] Do you have the courage to engage in uncomfortable but important conversations? [23:40] Look for a solution and a way to connect. [25:06] Adopting an awareness, having a willingness and being able to try.
Resources: Charlie Rose’s Jon Stewart Interview | |||
| 24 Apr 2020 | Focus on the Good Stuff | 00:30:47 | |
On today’s show I talk about the challenge and importance of focusing on the good stuff in the midst of everything that is going on right now. Because things are so challenging it can be hard to tap into gratitude these days authentically, or we can feel guilty for doing so given how much suffering exists in the world. While it is important to be mindful of this, there is real power for us when we allow ourselves to focus on what we appreciate about what’s happening. While I wish this all wasn’t going on, there are some aspects of it that I am enjoying. And, it’s not only okay for us to acknowledge this good stuff, it’s essential for us to do so.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins Get copies of We’re All in This Together for your entire team or organization We’re All in This Together - virtual program
Shareables:
“It’s not only okay to focus on the good stuff right now, it’s essential.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Gratitude and victimhood can’t co-exist.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Feelings are meant to be felt...all of them.” — @MikeDRobbins
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| 06 Apr 2021 | Spirituality, Allyship, and Well-Being with Cherie Healey | 01:09:02 | |
When we bring our whole selves to work (and to life), so much becomes available for us and those around us. However, these things are easier said than done, especially right now. On this episode, I talk to my new friend Cherie Healey about the importance of spirituality, allyship, and well-being. Cherie is a coach, workshop facilitator, and speaker who is passionate about helping leaders unlock their potential and see what’s possible. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“Showing up fully and bringing all of who we are to work is so important.” — @CherieHealey
“We must be well to do well.” — @CherieHealey
“I am passionate about helping people see what’s possible.” — @CherieHealey
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| 28 Oct 2020 | The Importance of Fairness | 00:29:52 | |
I’ve been thinking about fairness a lot recently. We’re less than a week away from the election here in the United States and while I have both strong opinions and deep concerns about the outcome, what’s most important to me is that everyone who wants to vote is able to do so...and that all of the votes are counted fairly. On this episode, I talk about the election, the recent Supreme Court confirmation, and the World Series, all in the context of fairness. And, we discuss how essential fairness is to the integrity of outcomes, as well as to the morale, trust, and culture of any group, team, family, community, or society. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins Let’s Get Real About Cheating (podcast episode)
Shareables:
“Fairness is essential for an outcome to have integrity.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Lack of fairness is devastating to trust and morale.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose, but if it is fair, we can live with the result.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 15 Jun 2021 | Let’s Get Real About the Vaccine | 00:30:37 | |
Covid has, obviously, turned our lives upside down in so many ways. The distribution of the vaccine has been a game-changer these past few months. However, not everyone have access to the vaccine, and there are people who are hesitant to get it or simply refuse. On this episode, I talk openly about my own journey with the vaccine and share some thoughts about how we can have more authentic conversations about this incredibly important and emotionally charged topic. While everyone has the right to make their own personal choice, what we each decide to do in this regard does impact those around us and all of us collectively. And, given how essential this is, it’s important for us to find more effective ways to discuss it openly. Resources: | |||
| 02 Aug 2016 | Do More Great Work with Michael Bungay Stanier | 00:58:15 | |
Michael Bungay Stanier is my guest on this week’s episode of my podcast. He is the author of many books including Do More Great Work and, his latest, The Coaching Habit. Michael’s company, Box of Crayons, help organizations to do less good work and more great work.
What does Bring Your Whole Self to Work Mean to Michael? Michael references the insights in the book The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford and how the ‘I Am That’ process allows a person to acknowledge all that they are and show up as their whole person. He says there is something about understanding how you are different in this world and doubling down on what makes you unique.
Embracing Discomfort Balancing tension is hard. There is a fine line between strategy and guessing. Michael says to experiment in a way that limits risks is the way forward. He observes that most people don’t wrestle long enough with questions and they will generally default to safety.
An Inspiring Project In Michael’s book, Do More Great Work, he advocates having a great work project. A project a person can pour all of their creativity, energy and resources into. He knew he had to have a project of his own. He wanted to have a bold impact and considered what was the cheapest unit of change at a global level. He brought thought leaders and other intriguing people together to write articles on how to access great work. And, then along with The Domino Project and Seth Godin, he published End Malaria a book which, when purchased, sends a donation to Malaria No More to purchase mosquito nets for families in need.
Keeping Things in Perspective Michael believes that we sometimes take ourselves a bit too seriously, which ends up stressing us out and burdening us with unnecessary pressure. He thinks we should embrace all of who we are, even and especially the stuff that’s weird about us. This frees us up to do more great work and to not be so attached to the outcome.
Quotes “I’d rather be whole than be good.”- Carl Jung “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” - Byron Katie “Take my advice. I’m not using it.” - David J. Henderhan
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| 12 Nov 2019 | Well-Being Drives Success with Megan McNealy | 01:07:46 | |
I’m so pleased to have Megan McNealy joining me this episode. She’s a wealth management advisor for one of the top financial firms in the world who specializes in working with senior corporate executives. In addition to her work in finance, Megan started her own company called Well-Being Drives Success. She just released her first book, Reinvent The Wheel: How Top Leaders Leverage Well-Being for Success, where she shares her own story of healing from some significant health challenges, as well as 18 different pillars for well-being and corresponding interviews with leaders who share their best practices. Takeaways: [5:16] Megan McNealy talks about what inspired her to write her new book. [7:15] Megan shares how being diagnosed with auto-immune diseases impacted her life. [11:21] The journey of healing herself. [13:55] The idea that overworking drives to success. [16:17] The difference between healthy hard work and workaholism. [22:01] The crucial importance of having a good night’s sleep. [27:31] The mind control is an underrated aspect of well-being. [29:56] Relax: take things easy, put zero effort. [32:50] CEOs chosen by Megan to talk about the different pillars of well-being. [37:14] We can only go forward if we first take care of our well-being. [37:40] Megan talks about how healing herself changed her entire life. [42:04] Where your motivation to change to a healthier life comes from. [44:25] You have to be prepared for healthy habits. [45:01] Hold your focus. [50:26] Paying attention to your patterns regarding relationships. [51:30] You can do well and be well. [52:51] Personal growth and connecting to a higher power. [55:01] The common difficulty for women to prioritize themselves. [58:12] Men tend to internalize emotions and not really nourish themselves. [59:59] Why do people have such a hard time asking for help? [1:02:02] The tricky custom to reward results and outcomes.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Reinvent The Wheel: How Top Leaders Leverage Well-being for Success, by Megan McNealy
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| 15 Mar 2022 | Create More Free Time with Jenny Blake | 00:58:03 | |
Like most busy people, I crave more free time and find it challenging to create. However, according to my friend Jenny Blake, for us to thrive in our work and our lives, creating free time is not just a nice to have, it’s essential. On this episode, I talk to Jenny about why this can be so difficult, why it is so important, and how we can do it. Jenny’s forthcoming book, Free Time: Lose the Busywork, Love Your Business, is filled with actionable ideas for how we can create more space for ourselves to do more good work. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Free Time (book), by Jenny Blake Magic Mind (use promo code Together20 for a discount) | |||
| 25 Sep 2020 | Turn Your Outrage Into Action | 00:31:20 | |
If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably been feeling outraged in recent days, weeks, and months, with all of the traumatizing things happening in our country and our world. While this outrage is understandable and normal right now, it’s also volatile. Instead of either avoiding our outrage or using it in damaging ways, we have the opportunity to turn it into positive action. I imagine you’re probably also feeling exhausted, as am I. However, if we’re willing to dig deep, step up, and act with courage and commitment, we can have a real impact on this election, and on the future of our country and our world. We can’t control the outcome, but we can control our attitude and our effort...and we can leave it all on the field over these next 40 days. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins Confirm That You Are Registered to Vote Unlocking Us Podcast with Brene Brown
Shareables:
“Let’s turn our outrage into action.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Insight without action makes no difference.” — @MikeDRobbins
“There are really only two things we can control - our attitude and our effort.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 15 Jan 2019 | Why Belonging Matters | 00:50:21 | |
In today’s global business environment, there is a crucial need to reframe the way we think about diversity and inclusion. Eric Severson, Chief People Officer at DaVita, returns to the podcast for an impactful discussion on the concept of belonging, and why it matters so much in business today. Through his roles at DaVita, Gap Inc., and Macy’s, Eric has been a key leader throughout his career in developing innovative strategies and communities that foster belonging. Eric discusses why belonging is critical for an engaged culture, the challenge most diversity programs face, and ways to shift our mindset into connecting at an even deeper human level.
Key Takeaways: [5:07] The concept of diversity and inclusion began in the United States during the landmark legislation that arose during the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Employers shifted their focus to being compliant with the movement in inclusion to avoid charges of discrimination and lawsuits. [7:58] Belonging is such a universal need and desire that it is mentioned in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. [10:08] The beauty of developing a culture of belonging in both our professional and personal lives is that we are able to connect on the human level. This erases the emphasis on distinction and the “us vs. them” mindset and instead, highlights our common similarities. [13:34] An engaged workforce and customer population is one that not only welcomes people from all backgrounds but one that also is aware of ways they don’t. This is only when they can actively make strides in customizing the system to accommodate all. [23:08] A culture of belonging also encourages us not to judge our implicit cognitive bias but to understand it and really take in how it affects our decision making. [24:08] There is fear among some that their opportunities will be taken away in diversity programs. This can be alleviated by showing programs that create more opportunity for all and an environment with equal expectations of high performance. [31:27] In this ever-growing world of global communications and connection, success is found in asking the right questions that lead to finding common ground. [42:37] Airbnb is a great example in the movement of belonging and feeling welcomed no matter where you find yourself throughout the world. [44:39] At DaVita Village, leaders encourage everyone to identify a time in their life that they did not belong. This leads us to get in touch with the core emotions and attitudes of what it feels like to be on the outside.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Performance for Life with Eric Severson
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| 10 Oct 2023 | Why We Are Better Together with Ray Arata | 00:54:34 | |
The importance of diversity, equity, and inclusion is front and center in so many aspects of life and work these days. However, these can be emotionally charged and challenging issues to address in an authentic, productive, and effective way. My guest on today’s show, Ray Arata, is the co-founder of the Better Man Movement, as well as an expert in inclusive leadership and the author of two books. He shares some of his wisdom and perspective on the current state of DEI in today’s business world and talks about why we are so much better together (which also happens to be the name of the upcoming virtual conference he is co-hosting with Jennifer Brown). Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Better Together Conference (promo code MRBTC15)
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| 21 Aug 2018 | How to Become a Remarkable Remote Leader with Kevin Eikenberry | 00:51:16 | |
During this week’s episode, Kevin Eikenberry, Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group and author of many influential leadership books joins me to discuss his new book, The Long-Distance Leader: Rules for Remarkable Remote Leadership. Kevin expresses the importance of an achievement mindset, how to encourage better choice management and the process of building trust through interactional, not transactional experiences.
Key Takeaways:
[2:40] What the phrase ‘bring your whole self to work’ means to Kevin. [4:25] The difference between management and leadership. [9:01] The Long Distance Leader is clear about their intentions and expectations. [20:50] Building trust in an organization when people don’t see each other. [33:30] Challenges in the current business landscape. [40:29] It’s choice management, not time management. [45:30] Tips for tuning out and taking a break.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. | |||
| 12 Feb 2019 | Conflict Without Casualties with Dr. Nate Regier | 00:48:28 | |
Conflict is inevitable in relationships, with teams, at work, and in life. My guest today is an expert in compassionate leadership and conflict resolution. Nate Regier is an author, speaker, psychologist, and the CEO of a consulting company called Next Element. He shares with us how his unique upbringing shaped his view of compassion and drove him to develop a methodology to better solve conflict without casualties. He explains what the compassion cycle is and how we can resolve even the most difficult conflicts at work and at home. And, when we do this, our teams.
Key Takeaways: [4:54] Nate’s family did missionary work in Africa, which led to him living there and attending an ambassador school that represented 35 nationalities. He knows firsthand what it is like to exist in a culture with different perspectives and languages. [7:40] Nate has had to reconcile the two driving forces inside him of being both very competitive and goal-oriented versus the ethnic setting of pacificism and peace. [13:43] Nate and his team started Next Element when they saw a great need for a model that encouraged mental health mixed with productivity in the workplace. [16:45] We often think that conflict needs to be managed, mediated, or reduced when it is simply just a gap between what we want and what we are experiencing. It is neither good or bad, but the gap takes on energy depending on how we assign and label it. At Next Element, Nate and his team look at what people do with the energy, and the psychological behavioral dynamic behind the gap. [18:04] Conflict becomes destructive when we bring our need to be justified in, along with the conditions of being okay that we put on each other. [24:04] It’s the uncomfortable conversations inside the room that get messy, but these are also the ones that truly address and solve conflict. [25:49] A compassion cycle is made up of three core skills that people can learn to apply and manifest compassion: openness, resourcefulness, and persistence. [27:37] A common conflict in the workplace is unmet expectations. When the team has developed a safe environment, they can begin to be curious about what is at stake, how both parties are feeling, and the true emotions attached to the situation. [43:12] Nate’s new book, Seeing People Through is about looking through the lens of dealing with individual differences in an authentic manner. [44:58] LinkedIn is one example of a company Nate feels is doing it right in the area of team development and conflict resolution.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Beyond Drama: Transcending Energy Vampires, by Nathan Regier, Ph.D., and Jeff King, MSW Leadership and Self Deception: Getting Out of the Box, by the Arbinger Institute
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| 23 May 2017 | Giving Ourselves the Permission to Be Human | 00:30:25 | |
In this week’s solo episode, I examine how we deal with loss, the passing of time, the aging of our bodies, grief, and being human. I’m currently reading Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy, and it reminds me we all are going through some type of loss. As humans, when we go through something painful, we just can’t snap our fingers and move on. We still have to be responsible, show up for work and be there for our families. So how do we deal with loss and grief in the workplace? Permission to be human in the workplace is what my book, Bring Your Whole Self to Work, is all about. In this episode, I explore ways in which we can be even more human and vulnerable with ourselves, and others - especially when facing big challenges and changes. Key Takeaways: [1:19] Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy is not just about grief. [8:36] Using the phrase, “If you really knew me you would know this about me…” [13:28] Seeing the physical representation of the passage of time. [18:35] How do we interact and engage with people who have gone through loss? [23:29] Why do we feel shame and embarrassment when we are emotional? [25:11] Pain is a great teacher of kindness, resilience, and empathy.
Resources: Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg and
Tweetables: Seeing the physical representation of the passage of time demonstrates that life continues to move forward. @mikedrobbins We learn from successes and failures, but we tend to pay more attention to failures because they are painful. @mikedrobbins We are all just people trying to do what we can, traversing the ups and downs, and twists and turns of life. @mikedrobbins | |||
| 28 Mar 2017 | Set Your Intention and Make it Reality with Gopi Kallayil | 00:54:12 | |
My guest on today’s podcast is a true inspiration, to me and to so many other people in Silicon Valley and elsewhere. My friend Gopi Kallayil is a yoga instructor, a musician, an author, and has worked at Google for the past 11 years. Gopi manifested his own position, Chief Evangelist of Brand Marketing, because he wanted to do something he loved at the company he loves and feels honored to work for. In addition to his successful career in technology and at Google, he is the author of The Internet to Inner-Net, which came out in 2015 and is published by Hay House (my publisher as well). He is working on his second book, The Happy Human, which should be out next year sometime. Gopi is a true renaissance man of technology, mindfulness, business, philanthropy, community, spirituality, and creativity. He exemplifies bringing his whole self to work as well as just about anyone I know.
Key Takeaways: [4:03] What does ‘bring your whole self to work,’ mean to Gopi? [6:04] Gopi has had four seminal things happen in his life. [10:34] Gopi has two MBAs, one from Wharton, in the U.S., and one from the Indian Institute of Management. [17:05] Three truths Gopi has learned along the way. [21:32] Gopi admires Google for retaining the elements of its original mission. [28:18] How Gopi approaches networking. [33:56] Do what you love, and figure out how to build a career around it. [40:15] The 5 essential pillars of Gopi’s life. [46:12] Gopi has 100 things he wants to do in his life before he dies, and one of them was to write a book, so he did.
Resources: The Internet to the Inner-Net, by Gopi Kallayil Focus on the Good Stuff: The Power of Appreciation, by Mike Robbins
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| 22 Dec 2020 | Mental and Emotional Well-Being | 00:36:50 | |
Things continue to be challenging these days with all that is going on in our country and our world, and as we make our way through the holidays. Just about everyone I know and work with, myself included, is struggling right now mentally and emotionally. On this episode, I share some specific tips and techniques for how we can enhance our mental and emotional well-being, especially when we’re feeling tired and weary. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“Caring for ourselves and others mentally and emotionally is so important right now.” — @MikeDRobbins
“It’s okay to not be okay.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Mental and emotional well-being is essential for us and everyone around us.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 08 Jul 2020 | We Can Do Hard Things | 00:22:46 | |
Our friend Glennon Doyle, best-selling author of Untamed, often offers a great reminder to us all that “we can do hard things.” I woke up this morning thinking about this quote and idea. Things in our country and our world seem pretty hard and bleak these days, and many of us are struggling in significant ways - physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, politically, organizationally, relationally, and more. And, as hard as things may be, it’s important for us to remember how strong and resilient we are - individually and collectively. Not only can we do hard things, we have done lots of hard things, over the course of our lives and careers, and just in the past few weeks and months in the midst of all of this. On this episode, we talk about how to remember this and tap into our individual and collective strength. Resources: Bring Your Whole Self To Work (Kindle) by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self To Work (Nook) by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self To Work (Apple Books) by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together - virtual program
Shareables:
“When things are hard, it’s important to remember that we can do hard things.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Gratitude is a practice that shifts our perspective in a powerful and important way.” — @MikeDRobbins
“You have more than this requires.” — @MikeDRobbins
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| 08 Jan 2019 | The Power of Positive Intention | 00:30:46 | |
The New Year is a great time to clean the slate, set new intentions, and get super clear on goals. Today, I will be talking about some subtle yet profound shifts we can make to focus on how we can step into this year with positive momentum. We talk about the power of positive intention, the balance between vigilance and allowance, and some questions to ask yourself as you create and experience your highest vision of your life in 2019 and beyond.
Key Takeaways: [3:10] When we set intentions and goals and focus on the positive rather than a negative, we create space for positive outcomes. [8:05] As we set our intentions and goals, we can establish trackable actions and practices to keep us on a steady path. It is a balance of staying vigilant to our goals, and relaxing to trust and allow the blessings and opportunities unfold organically in our life. [12:31] When we lose a loved one, we often are gifted with the lesson of investing in the people and experiences that really matter most, rather than spending our time sweating the small stuff. [13:55] Ask yourself: what it is that you want, and why it is important? What can you gain from getting or obtaining this goal? [15:53] Often times, relationships, jobs and material wealth are really just ways we seek connection, vitality and joy. [28:20] Spend time reflecting on what it is you want to create and experience this year, and also what habits are you willing to let go of to let the new and higher value results in.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material The Secrets of High Performing Teams with Pat Lencioni Setting Intentions for a Successful New Year A Year to Live by Stephen Levine | |||
| 22 Jun 2022 | The Keys to Creating a Championship Team | 00:30:57 | |
As a lifelong Golden State Warriors fan I am, of course, fired up that they recently won another NBA championship - their fourth in the past eight seasons. However, as impressed and excited as I’ve been about their sustained success, what I find most inspiring is the incredible culture they’ve built. On this episode I talk about some of the key elements of creating a championship team. And while these things have been and continue to be exemplified by the Warriors, they’re important things we can all utilize within our own teams.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins Mike Robbins on Instagram What the Golden State Warriors Can Teach Us About Teamwork (podcast episode) | |||
| 16 Aug 2023 | Let Things Be Different | 00:24:45 | |
In many important areas of our lives and businesses we often want things to be different (i.e. better) than they are. However, one of the things that gets in our way of creating the kind of changes that we truly want, is our willingness to believe that they can be different in the first place. On this episode, I talk about the paradoxical nature of change and some specific ways we can allow things to be different in a healthy and authentic way.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins
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| 12 Jan 2022 | Stay in the Present Moment | 00:27:06 | |
As we find ourselves back in the throes of a covid surge, the increased stress and uncertainty can lead us to understandable feelings of fear, sadness, anger, and more. On this episode I talk about how we can give ourselves permission to experience all of this in a healthy way, and also about the importance of staying in the present moment, even and especially with things being so challenging and up-in-the-air right now. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 04 Apr 2022 | Trust Your Instincts | 00:25:40 | |
Trusting our instincts is an important aspect of growth and success in life, leadership, work, and more. And, even in the best of times, it can be challenging to do this effectively. Over the past few months and years, I’ve found it more difficult than ever to trust my own instincts, given all of the stress, change, and uncertainty we’ve been facing. On this episode, we talk about both the challenge and the importance of trusting our instincts these days, and some specific things we can do to enhance our capacity to do so. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins | |||
| 17 Mar 2020 | We Have More Than This Requires | 00:30:01 | |
When we’re facing something big, scary, and overwhelming, like what’s going on in our world right now, it is easy to feel small and like there’s not much we can do. However, when we think back on times in our lives when we’ve faced something challenging - personally and/or collectively - it can remind us of our strength and resilience. On this episode, I talk about how we can tap into our personal and collective power in the face of the fear and uncertainty of this moment. And, I share five specific things we can do and think about as we make our way through what’s going on right now.
1) Be real about how you feel
2) Reach out for support
3) Take Inventory of how resilient you are
4) Check in with other people
5) Focus on what you’re grateful for
Resources: Bring Your Whole Self to Work, by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together, by Mike Robbins I Can See Clearly Now by Wayne Dyer How to Navigate The New World We Find Ourselves in Right Now Dealing with Fear Authentically and Productively
Shareables:
“We have more than this requires.” — @MikeDRobbins
“It’s important to remember how strong and resilient we are.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Keep reaching out, asking for help, and supporting one another - we are not alone in this.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 25 Apr 2023 | The Importance of Holding Space | 00:26:39 | |
In our desire to support those around us, we often offer suggestions, advice, and feedback. And while this can be helpful and necessary at times, what’s usually most important, especially these days, is our ability to hold space. On this episode, I talk about what it means to hold space, why it can be challenging, and some specific ways we can do it effectively for others, as well as for ourselves.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins The Importance of Showing Up (podcast episode)
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| 17 May 2022 | You Deserve Rest and Relaxation | 00:24:30 | |
Resting and relaxing are two things I enjoy but find challenging to do. Living in a world that is obsessed with hard work, productivity, and results, it can be difficult for many of us to find the time and feel like we deserve to relax. On this episode, I talk about some of the specific reasons resting can be hard for us. I also share some tips for how we can embrace relaxation more effectively…and why it is so important to do so, especially right now.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins | |||
| 31 Oct 2023 | Artificial Intelligence - Friend or Foe? | 00:27:57 | |
Artificial intelligence is already disrupting many aspects of life and business…and it’s still in its infancy. Many of us, myself included, are both excited and scared about what AI can do, how it will change the way we work and live, and what the potential impact of it may ultimately be. On this episode, I share some insights I gained from attending the Wisdom and AI Summit in San Francisco earlier this week and some of the possibilities and concerns related to AI. I also share some specific things we can do personally to most effectively understand, embrace, and prepare for the impact of AI on our work, our teams, and how we live.
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| 28 Mar 2022 | Navigating Mixed Emotions and Strong Reactions | 00:27:30 | |
I watched the Oscars live, like millions of people around the country and the world. I was shocked and shaken by the incident that took place between Will Smith and Chris Rock, two entertainers whom I’ve had great respect and appreciation for over the years. On this episode, I talk about what happened between them, my initial reactions, and, more broadly, how we can most effectively deal with the messy and paradoxical nature of our mixed emotions to not just this incident, but to the real things that happen in our work and in our lives. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins | |||
| 03 May 2022 | How to Stay Grounded in the Midst of Uncertainty | 00:26:04 | |
With all of the stress and uncertainty that we’ve been through these past few years (and continue to experience today), it can be challenging to stay grounded. I’ve noticed my own difficulty to stay calm in the midst of challenges has increased recently. On this episode, I discuss five specific things we can do to stay grounded, even and especially when things are hard. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins Self-Compassion (podcast episode) | |||
| 07 Aug 2024 | The Serendipity of Success | 00:28:12 | |
I’ve always had a bit of a love/hate relationship with the saying, “Sometimes it’s better to be lucky than good.” However, this is often true. The tricky thing about good fortune is that we can’t control it. At the same time, very few individuals, teams, or organizations are able to truly be successful without some serendipity playing a role. On this episode I talk about some of what makes good luck challenging and elusive, as well as hard for us to acknowledge and attract. I then share some specific things we can do to enhance our ability to both prepare/work hard, and at the same time trust that serendipity can and will show up in the process.
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| 26 Jul 2022 | Dealing with Setbacks, Struggles, and the Messy Nature of Progress | 00:21:19 | |
I’ve been dealing with some setbacks recently - both personally and professionally. I’m also aware of the collective struggles many people and groups are dealing with these days. The nature of progress is often messy, and it can be hard to navigate for a number of reasons. On this episode I talk about this phenomenon and why it can be so challenging. I also offer some specific things we can do to make our way through setbacks as effectively and compassionately as possible.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins | |||
| 02 Aug 2023 | Toxic Productivity | 00:21:24 | |
Being productive is essential to many important aspects of our lives - both personally and professionally. However, when we overly identify with what we produce, neglect our self-care, and/or have an obsessive need to be productive all the time, it can become toxic. On this episode, I talk about some of the often-overlooked dark sides of productivity and I share some specific things we can do to make sure we’re being productive in a healthy and sustainable way.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins
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| 13 Nov 2024 | How to Prepare for What Comes Next | 00:23:40 | |
There is a lot of uncertainty in our country and our world right now. Big changes can be scary and unsettling. On this episode, I talk about some of the challenges and opportunities of uncertainty. While we often can’t control the specifics of what comes next, we can take care of ourselves, connect with others authentically, and take conscious and productive action.
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| 27 Nov 2018 | The Power of Giving with Scott Harrison, Founder of Charity Water | 01:00:37 | |
On this special Giving Tuesday episode I have the honor of talking to Scott Harrison, founder of Charity Water. For the past 12 years, Scott and his team have worked in 26 countries to help 8.4 million people get clean water. The water crisis is one of the largest humanitarian issues on the planet - there are still 663 million people without access to clean water in the world.
On today’s show, Scott shares his remarkable journey from New York City nightclub promoter and addict, to founding Charity Water and transforming his life. He talks about Charity Water’s important mission, shares personal stories about the impact of their work, and invites all of us to help by joining The Spring, a community of monthly donors worldwide supporting the live-saving work Charity Water is doing.
Key Takeaways: [4:08] Charity Water is focused passionately to end the water crisis. Based in New York City, they started 12 years ago, and seek to bring clean water to the 663 Million people currently affected by the water crisis, drinking contaminated water. [6:22] Giving Tuesday was a response to the commercialization of Black Friday and Cyber Monday. [11:13] Dirty water harms more people in the world than all forms of violence. Many women suffer from violence, rape, and animal attacks as they travel far from their home seeking clean water. [14:43] Scott referred to his former self as a “degenerate, disgusting club rat in New York City.” He attended NYU and promoted at nightclubs on the side. On the outside, he had material wealth, but on the inside, he felt emotionally and spiritually empty and knew he needed to turn his life around and rediscover faith. [23:29] Scott shares the story of his choice to follow the humanitarian path, and how he did join a mission as a photojournalist and writer, but still had to pay his way. He went cold turkey on all his vices and sailed away to Liberia on a 52-year-old, 522-foot ocean liner that was gutted and now a giant hospital ship. He soon realized that no one in the country had running water, sewage or even running electricity with one doctor for every 50,000 people. He then made it his life’s mission to both provide everyone on the planet with drinking water, and create the perfect charity that people could trust. [32:58] The core principles of Charity Water are:
[42:47] More leaders and celebrities are donating their birthday to raise funds for specific campaigns, and Scott talks about raising $59,000 when he donated his birthday one year. [51:13] The Spring Community arose when Charity Water wanted to connect members of the community and create an ongoing dialog of how much their donation helps. They anchored it at $30/month, and it has grown to over 104 countries around the world.
Resources: Join The Spring - Monthly Giving Community for Charity Water Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. | |||
| 03 Oct 2017 | Asking the Deeper Questions Around Race and Inequality | 00:31:10 | |
In this solo episode, I explore how human beings engage with one another, how we take a stand or speak up, and how we express ourselves when faced with hot-button, emotional issues. Last week, the President publicly commented about the athletes and teams who are taking a knee during the national anthem to protest racial oppression and inequality. And as a former pro-athlete, who always stood with my hand over my heart in front of the flag during the national anthem, I wonder what I will do the next time I am at a sporting event and the national anthem is played? I believe this issue goes deeper than politics, deeper than the social commentary it’s about who we are as human beings. How do we respectfully take a stand for what we believe in?
Key Takeaways: [1:07] Taking a knee and what it says about who we are as human beings. [6:24] It's hard for 'privileged' white men to talk about race and inequality. [16:51] Using dehumanizing language is at the genesis of genocide. [21:37] The false choice we are faced with. [25:17] Embracing each other even when we disagree.
Resources: Focus on the Good Stuff: The Power of Appreciation, by Mike Robbins Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone,
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| 26 Apr 2022 | Acceptance, Surrender, and Embracing Powerlessness | 00:27:40 | |
In a recent session with my counselor, Eleanor, the themes of acceptance, surrender, and embracing powerlessness came up once again. These things are both very important and incredibly challenging for me and so many of us. On this episode, I talk about why each of these are essential, especially right now, and also why they can be difficult for us to embody. I also share a specific technique for how we can more deeply and effectively make peace with anything and everything we’re facing these days. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new paperback edition), by Mike Robbins Embracing Powerlessness (blog post) | |||
| 20 May 2020 | Care About and Challenge Each Other | 00:30:26 | |
On today’s show we talk about caring about and challenging each other, which is Pillar #4 from my new book, We’re All in This Together: Creating a Team Culture of High Performance, Trust, and Belonging. For teams to perform at the highest level and unlock their greatest potential, they need to have a strong balance of nurturing and high expectations. When people on a team feel cared about and know that their leader and teammates will push them to be their absolute best, everyone can thrive. This isn’t always easy to do for many reasons, but it is essential for true success, even and especially in challenging times like right now.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins Get copies of We’re All in This Together for your entire team or organization We’re All in This Together - virtual program
Shareables:
“Great teams understand that it’s the combination of caring about and challenging each other that activates their success.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Our role is what we do specifically. Our job is to help the team win.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Recognition is about what people do. Appreciation is about who people are.” — @MikeDRobbins
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| 09 Oct 2018 | Can We Find Common Ground? | 00:29:24 | |
This week, we continue exploring the themes of gender, equality, and inclusion and discuss finding a common ground in this time of intense polarization. It’s often a challenging and uncomfortable conversation, but I feel it is a crucial one in order for us to show up authentically and really bring our whole self to work and life. I believe it’s time we stand up, speak up, really listen to each other, and then see if we can find common ground from a place of authentic connection and vulnerability.
Key Takeaways: [5:22] We have been polarized as a country for a long time. The divisiveness over oppression and victimization of people seems to be at an all-time high, and action must be taken. [11:34] Explore your own personal ideas on what finding common ground would like to you. How would we debate and even disagree with each other in a respectful and supportive manner? [12:29] It’s not just politics where the “me vs. you” battle exists. In work, we also tend to find like-minded people, and then make the “others” seem less than or our adversaries. [16:17] I share a story where a heated argument on a plane turned into finding some sort of common ground through vulnerability and curiosity. [22:09] We may not understand or relate to the story of others, but having empathy for all is key. [24:25] As human beings, we are all filled with tons of contradictions, and that is why having a two-party system often feels antiquated. [26:16] We need the space to safely debate, discuss, and even fight with each other at a deep level. Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material.
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| 04 Jun 2019 | How to Live in Wonder with Eric Saperston | 01:15:12 | |
My friend Eric Saperston is an award-winning filmmaker, best-selling author, international speaker and the Chief Creative Officer of an organization called Live In Wonder. He’s an amazing human being and joins me on the show today to discuss what he has learned from over 25 years studying the behaviors of extraordinary people. Eric met, hung out with, and interviewed actors, musicians, artists, and business executives while creating his documentary The Journey. He talks about the common thread he found in icons such as Jimmy Carter, Jerry Garcia, and Billy Crystal. Eric then discusses what is next for him and his team, and what we can expect from the new series Three Things: Wisdom From Strangers.
Key Takeaways [7:39] Extraordinary people know how to pivot. They aren’t afraid to change, learn, and grow in new directions. [9:33] Eric discusses how The Journey came to be. After he graduated college he sought a time to press pause and enjoy life before entering the workforce and didn’t want to get a corporate job or graduate degree like most of his friends. One of his mentors suggested he find a way to provide value to both himself and others, and that and that suggestion changed the trajectory of his life. He looked at his skills and gifts and set his purpose to having conversations that led to bridge the gap between youth and elders. The three things he examined were:
[17:02] One year turned into four with three other travelers and over 200 interviews. This lead to a development deal with Walt Disney Studios, and a win at SXSW. The Journey premiered in 2001 in theatres worldwide. [21:23] The Journey was at the cutting edge of the digital movement, and his interview form is much like the podcast interviews we see modeled today. [23:46] When you go down a path no one else has gone before, it’s hard to measure success. Eric and his team dealt with outside doubt and skepticism. Many couldn’t see what the end result would be, but he stayed true to his purpose and service. [36:57] Eric had an epiphany one night in Costa Rica and realized the commonality of all the extraordinary people he spoke with: they lived their life with wonder. Instead of getting boxed in and living life too seriously, they stayed in a childlike state of play and exploration. This led to gratitude and fun, which made them magnetic and captivating to others. They also were exceptional question askers, lived with curiosity, and listened to what people had to say. [47:31] Their new series Three Things: Wisdom From Strangers captures answers from people contained from all walks of life. [56:55] Success doesn’t bring us closer, it’s our collective struggles that build deeper relationships. [67:28] Three things Eric is grateful for:
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Three Things: Wisdom From Strangers Live in Wonder (book) The Journey (film) | |||
| 01 Mar 2022 | Keeping Things in Perspective | 00:21:35 | |
Given the level of stress, weariness, and uncertainty that many of us are experiencing these days, it can be challenging to keep things in a healthy perspective. In light of the terrifying invasion and violence happening right now in Ukraine, I’ve been thinking a lot about the millions of people impacted by this. So much of what seems hard in my own daily life pales in comparison. On this episode, I talk about the importance of perspective, how we can avoid the trap of unhealthy comparative suffering, and some specific things we can do to shift our mindset in positive and productive ways, even in the face of difficulty. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 11 Feb 2020 | Letting Go of Approval and Control | 00:30:35 | |
Letting go of approval and relinquishing control are things that I’ve struggled with for many years, and continue to work on. My counselor Eleanor recently said to me, “You obsessively seek approval. Stop doing that. And, when you don’t get the approval you want, you go into control. Neither of these things serve you or work very well.”
She’s right. Seeking approval and/or trying to control everything can get in our way in life, both personally and professionally, and can stop us from achieving our goals. In this week’s episode, I share some of my thoughts around why we don’t need everyone to like us and approve of everything that we do, as well as why trying to control things and people doesn’t serve us or anyone else. I also talk about the things we can control, in a healthy way, and how to focus on those things to create the impact and outcomes that we truly want.
Key Takeaways: [2:46] Letting go of seeking approval and having control is something we may struggle with, but it is important to do as it can impede living our best lives. [3:42] How much of my time and energy is spent and ultimately wasted insatiably wanting everyone to approve of me, like me, and validate me? [6:28] Mike shares one of the things he finds most difficult about parenthood, particularly when dealing with teenagers and adolescents, and how that relates to his life in general. [10:59] Reminder to self: It’s not necessary for everyone to like me. [15:33] Not everyone will approve of you. What’s important is that you don’t let that need for approval stop you. [19:47] When we don’t get the approval we are seeking, we often go into control mode. However, in reality, there are only two things you can control. [24:54] Trying to control things and people doesn’t work. [29:29] Let’s let go of our obsession with needing to be approved of and our controlling tendencies.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material We're All in This Together, by Mike Robbins (Pre-order) What You Think About Me is None of My Business, by Terry Cole-Whittaker
Shareables:
“We waste so much time and energy seeking the approval of others.” — @mikedrobbins
“There’s a big difference between wanting the positive engagement of others, which is essential to our success, and thinking we need approval, which is often insatiable and damaging.” — @mikedrobbins
“There are only two things you can control...your attitude and your effort.” — @mikedrobbins | |||
| 29 Oct 2019 | It’s The Relationships That Make a Team Great with Dean Stotz | 01:09:37 | |
I’m very excited to welcome my friend, mentor, and former coach at Stanford, Dean Stotz, to the show this week. He was the Associate Head Baseball Coach at Stanford University for 37 years, retiring in 2014. Dean has been an incredibly important person in my life since he first started recruiting me back in 1991. He has had a huge impact on me by exemplifying what it means to be a great coach, husband, father, leader, and human being. He and his family are like family to me and my family. In this episode, Dean and I talk about how he went from coaching the freshman team when he was a senior at Stanford in the mid-70s, to building one of the top baseball programs in the nation, along with Head Coach Mark Marquess. He also shares how his own evolution as a parent affected his coaching, what he thinks are the keys to a great team from a cultural and chemistry standpoint, and what leaders can do to inspire those around them.
Key Takeaways [6:26] A few of the key aspects within a great team are members that aren’t territorial or consumed with protecting their spot, who are willing to be vulnerable, and are selfless in nature. [11:07] Over the past years, Dean has evolved to be even more vulnerable and transparent as both a parent and a coach. When you show that you do care and are there for someone as a human, you can build the type of trust needed to really coach and push them. [12:10] Dean pitched in the Little League Series at 12, and went on to play baseball in college as well. He has been involved in all phases of coaching in his expansive role on the staff, and currently serves as the team's lead recruiting coordinator, primary hitting instructor, and third base coach, while also handling various offensive and defensive aspects of the game. [24:33] Winning the National Championships is obviously a great feeling but the hard work and teamwork that went behind it make the win even better. [32:45] Family is a huge part of Dean’s life and his wife Kathy and their kids are very invested in his work as well. Dean suggests making a traditional family dinner around the table when you can, as it’s a great way to connect and unplug from the day. [36:55] Dean was inspired by his parents to provide a life rich in love and help people that can’t help themselves without needing anything in advance. [49:22] The relationships we have at home have a huge impact on our work. [58:22] A true team celebrates the wins but also helps each other through the hard times. [1:04:14] Great leaders are willing to do the things they expect from others. [1:05:01] Life is about adjustment and modifications. We can try something, assess to see if it works, and then pivot from there.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Focus on the Good Stuff: The Power of Appreciation, by Mike Robbins | |||
| 06 Nov 2018 | What To Do When You Feel Jealous | 00:31:24 | |
In a world where we are constantly posting our achievements, our successes, and the highlight reel of our vacations on social media, it’s understandable that we would feel jealous from time to time. On this week’s episode, we talk about jealousy and the impact it has on our relationships, our work and even our own feeling of worthiness. We talk about how to deal with the energy of jealousy when it shows up, and even when a little jealousy might be good for us. If you ever find yourself challenged by jealousy in your life it's important to remember it's rarely the feeling that holds us back, it's what we do with it that matters most. Key Takeaways: [4:34] We all have different situations that trigger jealousy. For some, it’s about money, fame, or public success while for others, it’s the jealousy over someone else’s love or relationships. [8:32] Feeling jealousy is part of the human experience. It’s what we do with the feeling that matters. The four steps to move through jealousy are:
[9:10] Most of us (myself included many times) tend to recognize our jealousy and even acknowledge it, but yet continue to punish ourselves and then repeat the same patterns. The real shifts happen when you forgive yourself for feeling jealous and change your behavior upon accepting the feeling. [9:29] When we feel jealous, it’s common to fall into the trap where we believe if we prove our accomplishments we will be good enough. When we truly believe that we are enough, we are just being our authentic self, and not needing to prove it to the world. [16:44] In work, relationships, and life in general, we typically get the results of which we believe we are worthy. [18:11] Standing in the place of worthiness is something many of us are not taught in childhood even up to early adulthood, but it is an important skill we can practice daily. [18:25] Know the difference between positive and negative competition. Positive competition is healthy, motivating, and brings out the best of us and the people around us. Negative competition breeds jealousy and the idea that someone must lose for us to win. [26:05] Notice the energy that comes up when you feel jealousy. Usually, these feelings relate to a time in our development that we are still stuck in or a place where we are continuing to believe old stories or patterns.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. | |||
| 26 Feb 2019 | What Makes a Team Great with Chris Draft | 01:02:07 | |
In today’s episode, the first official one with the new name of the podcast (We’re All In This Together), I reconnect with my friend and former teammate, Chris Draft. Chris played baseball with me back at Stanford when he came in as a freshman in 1995. A two-sport athlete, Chris also played football at Stanford and then went on to have an incredible, 12-year professional football career in the NFL. Today, we talk about the characteristics of great teams. We also discuss Chris’s dedication to using his platform to educate and inspire others, as well as how he’s turned tragedy into purpose in his life.
Key Takeaways: [0:58] The name of the podcast has changed to We’re All In This Together (which is the title of the new book I’m working on). The show will remain the same for the most part but will also include more about creating a positive team culture and why every role matters. [2:01] It wasn’t easy to come in as a freshman and play on the Stanford baseball team, but Chris did it. In 1995 we were ranked #1 in the country and went to the College World Series. He also was a star football player and went on to have a 12-year career in the NFL. [2:52] In addition to his success on the field, Chris started a foundation in 2006 and used his platform to raise money and awareness in. [3:17] Chris retired in 2010, and experienced a sudden and shocking loss when his wife passed away in 2011 due to lung cancer. He decided to take that pain and turn it into his own mission and continues to focus on helping the community of those struggling with cancer and their families. [6:10] Chris grew up in Anaheim and was a football player in high school as well. He taught himself defense and would be moved around in the game to fill in different positions that were necessary for the team. [11:44] Chris gave his everything to both teams, and would often practice for two hours at baseball and then leave for two hours of football practice. He knew that in order to give his best at one, he had to make the tough decision to commit to football. [16:22] Chris got drafted by the NFL in 1998 and loved the feeling of being connected to a community. [27:22] The best teams know they have a job to do, and appreciate every role in the team. When we are engaged fully helping the team win and understand our roles, magic happens. [32:43] One of the biggest blessings in Chris’s life was the ability to walk beside his wife during her fight with lung cancer. He got to see first hand her strength and was grateful to be there with her and take that experience to [44:27] Chris had started his foundation in 2006, with a focus on bridging the players and the community. Their campaign to Change the Face of Lung Cancer was to stress the importance of research along with prevention, and give confidence to the survivors that they are not alone. [52:37] The Foundation was also inspired by two people with cancer who showed immense strength and character that also is a key component of success in the NFL.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material | |||
| 19 Mar 2024 | The Importance of Owning Our Story | 00:29:31 | |
When we own our story, we allow ourselves tell the truth about who we are, what has happened, and how we truly feel. If we choose to share our story with others, we can both liberate ourselves from debilitating fear and shame, as well as connect with them in an authentic and vulnerable way. On this episode, I talk about why it takes courage to own our story and why doing so is essential for our freedom and fulfillment. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins
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| 04 Jul 2017 | How to Integrate Parenthood and Business with Vicki Hoefle | 00:49:50 | |
From the moment we are aware our first child is coming, we become parents. We continue to be parents for the rest of our lives. We don’t stop being parents when we show up at work, have a date with our spouse, or when we end a relationship. During this week’s episode, I speak with Vicki Hoefle about all aspects of parenting.
Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator and certified ICF (International Coaching Federation) coach with over 20 years’ experience. She is the author of Parenting as Partners, Duct Tape Parenting, and The Straight Talk on Parenting. She shares her wisdom and perspective on the expectations placed on both mothers and fathers, how to raise respectful, responsible and resilient children, how corporations can support parents in the workplace, and how parents can transfer the relationship skills from their home life into their work life.
Key Takeaways:
[2:29] What the phrase, ‘bring your whole self to work,’ means to Vicki. [6:06] Vicki’s personal journey accidentally led to a full-time teaching career. [9:52] The importance of having a system to get a family through the bumpy moments. [15:31] Parents can integrate the skills they are practicing at home, to create healthy relationships at work. [19:15] Expectations and equitable distribution of parenting duties between mom and dad are highlighted in Vicki's new book, Parenting as Partners. [36:07] In order to get to courage, you need to go through vulnerability. [44:31] How can companies support employees around personal home/life issues?
Resources: I’m Okay, You’re a Brat! by Susan Jeffers
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| 15 Nov 2022 | Don’t Waste a Good Crisis | 00:23:02 | |
Many years ago, I heard Dr. Michael Beckwith say, “Don’t waste a good crisis.” At first, I thought this was a bit strange and even harsh, but the more I thought about it and experienced it, the more I understood the importance of this paradoxical wisdom. On this episode, I talk about how we can authentically reframe difficulty and I share some specific things we can do to navigate crises as effectively as possible. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Don’t Waste a Good Crisis (blog post) | |||
| 13 Jun 2017 | Step Into Your Power with Gabby Bernstein | 00:50:30 | |
This week I spoke with my friend, the amazing Gabrielle Bernstein. You may know Gabby from her appearances on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, The Dr. Oz Show, The Today Show, or maybe you’ve read one of her New York Times bestselling books, like her latest, The Universe Has Your Back. During our conversation, Gabby shares some of the key moments of her life which called her to her life’s work. She shares some insights, tips, and suggestions for how we can step more into our power and do the work we are meant to do. Gabby believes there will be more and more people waking up and being called...and that bringing our whole selves to work is as important as ever right now! To find out more about Gabby’s free video training and her Spirit Junkie Master Class, visit Mike-Robbins.com/Gabby Key Takeaways: [3:49] What the phrase ‘bring your whole self to work’ means to Gabby. [5:12] There are few other addictions that get you as much praise as Workaholism. [13:46] The Universe Has Your Back was Gabby’s most vulnerable book. [22:57] Gabby created The Spirit Junkie Master Class to help people step into their power and the work they were meant to do in the world. [36:20] Gabby believes deeply about her intention, and is clear about her mission. [47:16] Gabby is grateful for the people who show up for her every day.
Resources: The Universe Has Your Back (book)
Tweetables: If you don’t like the career path you are on, the more you look for joy in your environment, the more you will be led to what you want. @gabbybernstein There is the fine line between passion for what we do and workaholism @mikedrobbins It’s important to be the light wherever you go, especially when you are feeling uninspired. @gabbybernstein | |||
| 15 Jul 2020 | Loosen Your Grip | 00:29:48 | |
I have a tendency to hold onto things tightly, often to my own detriment. Unless it’s an actual emergency, gripping things tightly almost always limits our joy, perspective, and effectiveness. These past few months, a lot of us have been holding on both personally and professionally pretty intensely, which is completely understandable, yet often problematic. In this episode I talk about this dynamic and how important it is for us to loosen our grip, especially right now. Doing this allows us to be more creative, responsive, and open, and it’s also a much more fun and successful approach to work and life. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together - virtual program
Shareables:
“When we loosen our grip it allows us to relax, respond, and engage more authentically and effectively in the most important aspects of our lives.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Unless it’s an actual emergency, holding on tightly almost always limits our joy, perspective, and effectiveness.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Live your life as though you’re going to die (because you are).” — @MikeDRobbins
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| 16 Apr 2019 | Finding the Talent Within the Team | 00:50:11 | |
Lisa Hufford, Founder, and CEO of the talent solutions company Simplicity Consulting, joins the show today. She and I chat about her interesting story and perspective on how she has grown her company, her book Navigating the Talent Shift, making the transition from corporate to consulting, what qualities and characteristics make a great consultant, and what she sees the most successful managers doing.
Key Takeaways: [5:27] Even if you don’t see others doing what you want to do, challenge yourself and go after what it is you are seeking. While at Microsoft, Lisa took her position from directing a large sales team to a consultant with contract work. She paved her own path based on using her valuable skills in sales and strategic project management. [12:08] In consulting, you get to choose who you work with. However, it takes courage, self-discipline, and clarity on your values. [15:46] When going from a corporate role to consulting, one of the biggest challenges can be the transition of generating the business and managing the administrative side while still growing and taking on new clients. [21:02] Companies must tap into the right talent pool now, more than ever, with the expanding gig economy providing more options and opportunities for employees. [23:55] Lisa sees the most successful managers thinking about their Teams and being aware of the opportunity cost of hiring full-time employees. [31:12] Lisa and her team at Simplicity Consulting work with their clients within the cultural norms and structure communication in a way that works efficiently within their specific company. [33:51] When transitioning to a consultant role, it is important to set yourself up for success and work first on what you know and where you feel comfortable. [35:43] Oftentimes roles need to get filled ASAP, and Simplicity Consulting can help provide an On Demand team that provides SPEED (Success, Plan, Execute, Evaluate, Decide). [40:49] Simplicity Consulting focuses mainly on Marketing, Communications, and Project Management. [45:23] Seek out brands that align with your values and make you excited to be part of the team.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Be You: Five Steps To Living Your Personal Brand, by Lisa Hufford | |||
| 05 Jun 2018 | Create a Championship Team | 00:43:22 | |
Today’s episode is the fifth in a series of solo podcasts in which I discuss each of the five principles of my new book Bring Your Whole Self to Work: How Vulnerability Unlocks Creativity, Connection, and Performance. During this episode, I unpack the fifth and final principal, Create a Championship Team. A positive culture is an intangible, foundational element of teams and organizations that achieve peak performance. Building a strong culture and good team chemistry involves fostering a psychologically safe environment where people can be real, develop, celebrate, connect, and embrace their humanness.
What can you do to bring your whole self to work and create a championship team around you?
Key Takeaways:
[3:01] Driving culture and chemistry in a positive direction. [8:34] Distinctions in teams. [16:13] The two key drivers of high performance. [24:51] The importance of inclusion. [27:47] Successful teams celebrate. [30:58] Culture is the heart of a company.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. | |||
| 21 Apr 2020 | We’re All in This Together | 00:32:39 | |
Today is the day...my new book, We’re All in This Together, is officially available! On this show, I share the origin story behind this new book, the specific reasons why I wrote it, the significance of the title and timing, and how it connects with what we’re going through right now. I also talk about the four pillars of the book and how these things relate to you and your team. The moment that we’re in calls for us to come together in a new and different way. Now more than ever, we truly are all in this together.
The Four Pillars of the book are:
1) Create Psychological Safety
2) Focus on Inclusion and Belonging
3) Embrace Sweaty-Palmed Conversations
4) Care About and Challenge Each Other
Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together - virtual program
Shareables:
“We’re All in This Together.” — @MikeDRobbins
“One of the great paradoxes of life is that we’re all unique, yet at the same time we have so much in common as fellow human beings.” — @MikeDRobbins
“There is no ‘them,’ it’s all ‘us’.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 31 Jan 2023 | Navigating Uncertainty | 00:30:26 | |
There seems to be quite a bit of uncertainty and fear in the air these days, economically and otherwise. Even though we’ve been through so much uncertainty over the past few years (and throughout our lives), whenever it gets significant, it can cause quite a bit of stress and challenge. On this episode, I talk about some of the things that make uncertainty difficult and scary. I also share some specific things we can do to more effectively navigate it ourselves and support those around us. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Don’t Freak Out (podcast episode)
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| 06 Jan 2021 | The Power of Creation | 00:29:09 | |
While the calendar has turned from 2020 to 2021, we still find ourselves in difficult and uncertain times. We do have the opportunity to tap into the power of creation as we start this new year. On this episode, I talk about how important and powerful it can be to create this new year with intention. I also provide a specific process and series of questions we can answer as we set our goals for 2021. Conscious creation is essential and can help us both manifest what we truly want and focus on what matters most. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“Creation is the process of taking our intentions and putting them into action.” — @MikeDRobbins
“New year, be you.” — @MikeDRobbins
“There’s a big difference between fixing and changing.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 07 Jan 2021 | Darkness Cannot Drive Out Darkness...Only Light Can Do That | 00:19:32 | |
I felt so sad, angry, and scared watching the violence take place on Capitol Hill in Washington DC yesterday. I recorded a special episode of the podcast to address this, and share some thoughts and insights about how we navigate through these challenging times, find common ground with one another, and create the kind of change that is required at this pivotal moment. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.” — Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“We have no morally persuasive power with those who can feel our underlying contempt for them.” — Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“It’s time for us to dig deep to find the courage, strength, and love we need to create the change that is necessary.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 20 Mar 2018 | A Wake-Up Call to Listen to Your Inner Wisdom with Amy Ahlers | 00:40:48 | |
My guest this week is an Author, Speaker, Life Coach, Mother, and one of my favorite people on the planet, Amy Ahlers. For almost two decades, she has provided business coaching and support for people, leaders, and companies such as Google and Oracle. Her books, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Reform Your Inner Mean Girl are both bestsellers. Her podcast and her Inner Mean Girl Reform School, Find Your Calling and Lift Off Business Academy programs help women (and us men too) find balance and success in both life and in business, as well as to tune into their voice of truth. Key Takeaways: [4:47] The perils of showing your work to the world. [5:59] Amy’s career journey includes trading life coaching in exchange for office work. [11:46] How has the corporate environment changed in the last few years? [18:37] The expectations men and women put on themselves. [25:49] Why it’s important for women to be in leadership positions. [35:08] Tuning into inner wisdom. Resources: | |||
| 26 Jul 2016 | Performance for Life with Eric Severson | 01:01:53 | |
Today I’m speaking with my friend, Eric Severson. Eric has been working and studying the field of Human Resources for over 25 years. He spent many of those years at Gap Inc., which is where we met. At Gap Inc., he served as the co-CHRO in charge of global enterprise talent strategy and operations. He is a leader who works to create culture and support the growth of talent. In 2014, Eric was appointed by the US Commerce Secretary to be a part of the National Advisory Council on Innovation and Entrepreneurship (NACIE). The organization's initiatives include looking at how to create organizations where people can bring their whole selves to work and be successful. They also focus on how organizations and corporations can be positive influences in society at large.
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| 09 Jan 2018 | Why We Need Women to Lead with Will Marré | 01:14:26 | |
My guest on today’s podcast, Will Marré, is a passionate women’s leadership advocate. He has worked for over 25 years helping corporations like Gap Inc., Nike, GE, and Johnson & Johnson create cultures of inclusiveness. During our discussion, Will shares the history of women in the corporate system, why male behaviors are favored in the hierarchal structure, and why the system needs to change in order for a corporation to flourish. He also shares five things women and men can do to create a workplace with a higher emotional intelligence and equal opportunity.
Key Takeaways:
[3:18] Why Will became a women’s advocate. [8:48] Why are ‘alpha’ male behaviors favored in the corporate system? [23:16] Creating cultures of inclusiveness that soften the hard edges of hierarchies. [27:05] Unpacking sexual harassment. [41:17] Why women disengage in the workplace. [53:04] Five things men can do to give women equal opportunities. [56:15] Five things women can do to empower themselves. [1:02:55] How Will stays mindful and conscious in his work. [1:08:20] The Institute for Leadership Synergy.
Resources: A MIllion SMART Women on Facebook Leadership BS: Fixing Workplaces and Careers One Truth at a Time, by Jeffrey Pfeffer | |||
| 25 Oct 2016 | Checking in and Getting Real with Mike Robbins | 00:42:22 | |
I fly solo in this episode as I explore the common themes of these first fourteen episodes of my Bring Your Whole Self to Work podcast. I also share openly about some of what has been going on in my life, with my work, and behind the scenes with this project. I ‘ve been fortunate to have amazing thought leaders, business leaders, and changemakers on my list of interviewees. My guests have been gracious enough to share the experiences that have shaped their perspectives, and the wisdom they have acquired during their wide-ranging careers, life changes, and personal adjustments. Recurring topics of conversation include passion, gender, change, sexual orientation, body image, leadership, culture, and more. Each guest has inspired me to look deeper within myself, to investigate what judgments I may have adopted in my own life, where I hold myself back, and how to bring more of myself to my work and life. I look forward to introducing my listeners to more amazing guests, on my quest to gain insights for my upcoming book, Bring Your Whole Self to Work. This episode is full of thoughts, ideas, and insights I have gained through these first interviews and as I continue to explore this multifaceted topic.
Key Takeaways: [2:46] How the Bring Your Whole Self to Work Podcast came to be, and how it will be used for the book, Bring Your Whole Self to Work. [4:19] So far, 2016 has been intense, in both challenging and wonderful ways. [9:51] Truth telling can be difficult, if it is coming from a wound, as my friend, Glennon Doyle Melton shared. [14:27] When we are dealing with things in our lives, how do we show up fully in all of our roles? [15:01] The personal details my interviewees have shared on this podcast have been about growth, consciously or unconsciously. [18:40] Change as a journey has been a human theme, weaving its way through the past interviews. [23:04] Michael Bungay Stanier inspired me to look at the patterns of body image and appearance people have. [24:17] The current election has me inspecting my own judgments, and exploring areas where I may be righteous. [31:17] Just how much do we hold ourselves back in certain situations? [33:20] The concept of bringing your whole self to work has simple aspects, as well as thought- provoking considerations. [35:14] How does our gender, or sexual orientation, play into our ability to show up authentically? [39:21] I am grateful you are here with me, as I find my way through the early days of my new podcast.
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| 09 Feb 2022 | Appreciate Yourself | 00:22:40 | |
Most of us appreciate when other people express appreciation for us. Clearly some of us are more motivated by this than others, and it can be a bit uncomfortable to receive, but it’s very rare to meet someone who feels over-appreciated or doesn’t enjoy being acknowledged at some level. However, the most important and most difficult aspect of appreciation is being able to do it for ourselves in a genuine way. On this episode, I talk about why authentic self-appreciation can be so hard, and I offer a series of reminders and techniques for how to do it effectively. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 20 Jan 2021 | A New Day in America - Finding Common Ground in These Divisive Times | 00:54:07 | |
As President Biden takes office, he is focused on unity, coming together, and finding common ground, especially in the midst of this incredibly challenging time. Doing this is much easier said than done for a number of reasons. On today’s show, I interviewed author, speaker, and Army veteran, Robert “Bo” Brabo. Bo worked as the Chief of HR Operations for the White House Communications Agency and as a Presidential Communications Officer for George W. Bush and also for Barack Obama. Bo and I talk about some of the lessons he learned in the military and working in the White House, as well as how we can come together and find common ground at this pivotal moment in the history of our country. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins From the Battlefield to the White House to the Boardroom, by Bo Brabo
Shareables: “For us to come together we have to focus on our core values and all the things we have in common.” — Bo Brabo
“It’s important to simply reach out and have a conversation - this allows us to come together and find common ground.” — Bo Brabo
“We’re all in this together.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 28 Aug 2024 | Ready or Not: The Power of Taking Courageous Action | 00:27:53 | |
Readiness is an important part of life and success, both individually and collectively. However, when we’re attempting to do something big, new, or both, the paradox is that we’re usually not quite ready and always ready at the same time. On this episode I talk about how we often get in our own way with perfectionism, procrastination, and fear. I then share five specific things we can do to take courageous action, whether or not we feel ready to do so.
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| 29 Jan 2019 | Bringing the Human To Work | 00:48:40 | |
Claude Silver takes her title as the Chief Heart Officer of VaynerMedia quite literally. Her role at the firm started by Gary Vaynerchuk is to bridge the gap between a winning team, great work, and deep connections amongst the human beings involved. Today, she talks about how she brings authenticity into her work, the importance of empathy in company culture, and how to approach tough conversations at work and in life.
Key Takeaways: [4:40] Claude has quite a large team at VaynerMedia, made up of 900 human beings. She thinks of HR as the “heart” of a company and takes the responsibility on for leading the way to infuse self-awareness, kindness, and empathy into their everyday work. Through in-person meetings, she is able to assess cultural patterns and social nuances that are going well and those that may need a boost. [6:02] Claude is very proud to work with Gary Vaynerchuk and feels there is no one quite like him in the advertising agency business. He demonstrates the important qualities that leaders should possess to inspire and ignite the team on the frontlines. [9:34] Claude finds that creativity comes when we are in the flow and focused on activities that expand and open our mind and hearts. She has been known to ask her team to bring in poetry that inspires them, just to get out of the everyday grind and into the space of creation and imagination. [12:53] Human beings are wired to connect and be in a community. Great leaders create a safe space by also providing areas that their team members can go to be accepted and feel as though they belong. [19:36] We are all capable to extend generosity and compassion, no matter where we came from. [26:44] Giving feedback from a place of cognitive empathy and understanding is a gift and an act of caring. Often times “nice” is code that we don’t want people upset with us, or to rock the boat by challenging them. However, even when our feedback does come with specific action items to move forward, it’s ultimately up to the individual to motivate themselves. [33:34] Claude works with her team to create a culture of meritocracy and family first. They want their teammates to be champions, and while culture needs to be blessed from the top, it is everyone’s responsibility to grow and stay true to the mission. [39:12] A large part of success as a corporation is the ability for the workers to feel the safety net of having a space to speak with candor, and that they are valued. The more interconnected different teams can be, the more everyone realizes their role is important to the overall success.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity, by Kim Scott
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| 06 Apr 2020 | Authentically Addressing Our Needs and Our Grief Right Now | 00:32:31 | |
On today’s show I talk about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and the Five Stages of Grief, and how I have been thinking about these things a lot the past few days. I’ve been inspired by a few thought-leaders in recent days - Chip Conley, Brene Brown, David Kessler, and Elizabeth Gilbert. In this episode, I address how we can meet our needs, understand where we are and how we feel, and acknowledge the grief and loss we may be experiencing at this time. Allowing ourselves to truly feel how we are feeling, without judgment, can move us to a place of acceptance and, ultimately, meaning, in the midst of all of this. Resources: We’re All in This Together - virtual program We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Peak: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo From Maslow (book), by Chip Conley David Kessler and Brene Brown - podcast interview Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief (book), by David Kessler Elizabeth Gilbert and Chris Anderson - TED interview
Shareables:
“We have more than this requires.” — @MikeDRobbins
“If we don’t feel it, we can’t heal it.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Now more than ever - we’re all in this together.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 06 Mar 2018 | How to Ditch Your Inner Critic with Susan Peppercorn | 00:44:16 | |
My guest today, Susan Peppercorn, is a Speaker and Coach who focuses on Positive Psychology through her organization, Positive Workplace Partners. During our conversation, she shares key strategies for shifting perfectionism into excellence, the importance of feedback from others, and the benefits of an accountability partner from her new book, Ditch Your Inner Critic at Work: Evidence-Based Strategies to Thrive in Your Career.
My book, Bring Your Whole Self to Work comes out May 1, 2018.
Key Takeaways:
[2:12] What the phrase ‘bring your whole self to work’ means to Susan. [3:14] Susan attended the first Positive Psychology course given by Tal Ben-Shahar. [9:19] The challenges of finding work we love. [15:41] The difference between the dream, perfectionism, and excellence. [23:34] How do we authentically embrace failure in a productive way? [27:04] The importance of support, accountability, and feedback. [38:21] Strategies to Ditch Your Inner Critic at Work.
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| 20 Jun 2023 | What Do You Want? | 00:27:17 | |
Tapping into our desires is one of the best things we can do to create our desired reality. However, for a number of reasons, it can actually be hard to identify and share what we want - both individually and collectively. On this episode, I address some of what makes desire challenging. I also share some specific things we can do to tap into the power of our desires to help us create the types of outcomes and experiences we truly want.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins
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| 07 Jan 2020 | Making Positive Change with the Start-Stop-Continue Technique | 00:25:16 | |
Happy New Year! Continuing the theme of making positive change as we head into 2020, I want to share a technique that you can use to get some clarity now and over the course of the year - for yourself and for your team. The Start-Stop-Continue technique is a simple, healthy, and positive prompt that you can use for yourself personally, with your teams as a group exercise, or even as a whole team exercise. I explain how to use this effective technique in different ways - to give and receive feedback and to make important changes individually and collectively. As we kick off this new year, consider what can you start, stop, and continue?
Key Takeaways: [2:50] Mike shares an anecdote about asking and receiving feedback and communicating with team members. [8:07] Mike has started using variations of the Start-Stop-Continue technique personally, with his team, and the teams and leaders he works with. [8:25] You can use the Start-Stop-Continue technique to set goals and intentions for the new year. [11:45] Use this technique to get feedback from others about what you can start, stop, and continue doing to improve in all aspects of your life, whether it is at work, your family, or in your relationships. [14:59] Using this technique in a group setting takes courage and skill. Mike explains how he has run this exercise with teams he works with. [18:50] This exercise can also be a good activity to do as a team at the end of a season or during a retreat. [20:53] Fixing comes from shame, change comes from choice. Approach this exercise from a healthy, positive place of change, rather than a shame-based place of fixing. [22:52] Consider: What can you start, stop, and continue? Where can you ask for and give feedback in this manner?
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material We’re All In This Together Podcast Episode: “Completing the Year Powerfully” We’re All In This Together Podcast Episode: “Creating the New Year Consciously” | |||
| 18 Sep 2020 | There’s No Right Way to Do This | 00:26:19 | |
As we continue to navigate through these unprecedented times of change and challenge, there’s a trap that we can fall into - thinking there is some “right” way we’re supposed to be handling it all. The truth is, there is no right way to do this. Each of us is doing the best we can with the resources we have. And, while we can definitely make positive and healthy choices and changes, shaming ourselves and putting pressure on ourselves to do things “right,” especially these days, is detrimental to our well-being, success, and connection with others. In this episode, we talk about some ways to let go of our obsession with “doing it right,” and instead, focus on trusting ourselves and operating with compassion. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins Nothing Changes Until You Do, by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“There’s no right way to do this.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Stop ‘should-ing’ on yourself.” — @MikeDRobbins
“The truth can’t be rehearsed.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 01 Feb 2022 | The Art of Savoring | 00:26:45 | |
For a number of understandable reasons, especially these days, it can be challenging to slow down and savor our experiences. The pace of life and work, the stressful and uncertain nature of things right now, and the tendency many of us have to plan and worry, among other things, all make savoring difficult. However, when we pause and truly take things in, it brings us into the present moment and allows us to more fully appreciate our experience of being alive. I talk about this important phenomenon on this week’s episode - pointing out some of the challenges we face in this regard, and sharing specific tips for how we can practice the art of savoring more effectively. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 04 Feb 2020 | Why Embracing Loss and Grief Is So Important to Our Growth | 00:31:22 | |
Loss and grief are inevitable parts of life. Both personally and professionally, we face a lot of loss and grief that we have a hard time dealing with. However, even though they can be scary and painful to talk about, and we mostly tend to live in denial about them, it’s essential for us to grapple with these powerful emotions. I share some of my thoughts around loss and grief, and some of my own personal losses of loved ones and people close to me, as well as why it is so important for us to address these emotions. Ultimately, these are very common and universal experiences that everyone experiences, and we need to be more open, real and honest about them.
Key Takeaways: [2:07] Loss and grief are part of life, but parts that aren’t often talked about or acknowledged. [3:05] Kobe Bryant recently died in a tragic accident. His death affected Mike more than he expected, and he explores why that might be. [8:51] Like everyone else, Mike has experienced the loss of loved ones and people close to him, and as much as it is uncomfortable or difficult to think about, it is important. [12:14] Being more aware of death on a daily basis would dramatically change how we live our lives. [15:01] Thinking about and grappling with our own mortality and the moralities of everyone around us can shape our interactions with the people who matter the most. [18:19] There are loss and grief that happen every day in our lives that we have a hard time dealing with. [23:18] We have to learn to lose in life, and learn to grapple with and embrace the emotions that accompany that loss. [29:25] Grief, loss, and disappointment are some of the most common and universal life experiences.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson Nothing Changes Until You Do, by Mike Robbins
Shareables:
“Life is precious and fragile - let’s seize the day.”
“Learning to embrace loss and grief is essential to our growth, development, healing, and success in life.” — @mikedrobbins
“If we live our lives more aware of our own death, it fundamentally changes the way we live.” — @mikedrobbins | |||
| 14 Jun 2023 | You’ll Never Regret Being Kind | 00:31:05 | |
Being kind to others and to ourselves is one of the best things we can do. However, for a number of reasons, especially these days, it can be challenging to be kind in an authentic way. On this episode I talk about some of the things that get in our way of being kind to others and particularly ourselves, and I share some specific ways to utilize the power of kindness in how we lead, parent, and operate at work and in life.
Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Let’s Be Kind to Ourselves (podcast episode) The Power of Kindness (podcast episode)
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| 07 Nov 2017 | Be True to Yourself with Jenna Ushkowitz | 00:46:38 | |
This week I talk to the multi-talented and inspiring Jenna Ushkowitz. You may know Jenna from her work on Broadway, as Tina on the hit TV show Glee, or from one of her podcasts. Last year, I had the pleasure of being on an episode of her Infinite Positivities podcast. Her new podcast, Epic Fail, asks actors to share what they believe to be their biggest failure and what they learned from that experience. During today’s show, Jenna talks about being committed to the career in show business she started at age three, what it felt like to be involved in a project (Glee) that changed her life and the lives of others, the importance of embracing vulnerability in her work and life, and her new film Hello Again.
Key Takeaways:
[5:05] How authenticity integrates into Jenna's work. [8:59] What early life was like for Jenna. [15:23] Glee set Jenna's career and soul on fire. [23:56] Jenna's latest project is an Epic Fail. [32:04] What it’s like to be in the tabloids. [34:49] “Hello Again” is a movie about human connection. [43:02] What ‘bring your whole self to work’ means to Jenna.
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| 28 Aug 2018 | Leadership Without Titles with Drew Dudley | 00:43:28 | |
In today’s episode, I talk with leadership author, speaker, and entrepreneur Drew Dudley. Drew inspires us to appreciate leadership in all forms and rewire the way we think of what it truly means to be a leader. He shares some practical tips on how to discover the leader within ourselves, the power in recognizing leadership in ways that may not be traditional, his famous lollipop story from his viral TED talk, and the low down on why Canadians are so polite. Drew’s brand new book, This is Day One: A Practical Guide to Leadership That Matters just came out last week. Key Takeaways: [4:14] Drew fell into his current path by accident. He recounts his time and takeaways from Cystic Fibrosis Canada and a role at Leadership Development at the University of Toronto. He loved mobilizing the college students and translating corporate and business speak into a youthful language. [6:26] Often in leadership, the terms “accessible, practical, and simple” can be seen as pejorative. Drew feels that precisely the opposite is true. Leadership should be open to all, streamlined and tangible. One of the reasons he wrote This is Day One, is to meet people exactly where they are in leadership. We no longer should be intimidated by the term leader, and don’t have to wait for a title or paycheck to validate how little or much we matter. [10:24] We are surrounded by leaders every day. Most of the leadership on this planet comes from people that don’t see themselves as leaders and Drew traces it back to education and socialization. It’s hard to feel like a leader when it feels like your validation comes from outside other than yourself. [15:54] Education should provide a safety net for making mistakes and failing. When the youth starts out as “perfect” with points taken away for what is viewed as a failure, it takes away key characteristics such as courage and resilience. [19:55] Most of us feel like imposters from time to time, but the brave ones acknowledge it and talk about it to empower those around us. [21:49] When Drew works with leaders of all forms, the Top 3 values that usually come up are integrity, honesty, and respect. He works with folks get crystal-clear on those values, prioritize them, and give credit for exemplifying them throughout their day. [25:18] There is a strong distinction between real leaders and catalysts for harm. Real leaders expand the capacity for others and remove fear in order to succeed and expand. Catalysts for harm add fear in order to win for themselves or just their select and chosen group. [31:28] We explore the idea of management as a business skill and leadership as a human skill. [34:26] We talk some cross-border leadership, and Drew encourages us to love Canada from afar. [36:13] It’s important to show people that they matter and have the ability to impact the world. When we feel as though we don’t matter, that breeds helplessness and fear, which turns into anger and hatred. [37:16] Drew shares how to start living Day One as a leader, and to turn core values into actionable demonstrations. Pick a value, define clearly what it means by asking yourself the phrase “this value is a commitment to _____?”, create a question you can’t answer without living it, and then recognize when you or those around you embody it. Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. This Is Day One: A Practical Guide to Leadership That Matters, by Drew Dudley | |||
| 24 Jul 2024 | How to Embrace Change | 00:28:21 | |
As the saying goes, “the only constant in life is change.” While this is true, change can be tricky to navigate since most of us seek and fear change at the same time. On this episode, I talk about some of the reasons why navigating change, especially these days, can be challenging. I then share six specific things we can do to embrace change effectively.
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| 02 Apr 2019 | Letting Go of the “Rules” That Get in the Way of Leadership and Success | 00:50:05 | |
Kevin Kruse is a New York Times bestselling author and entrepreneur who has a mission of reaching over 100 million leaders. He joins me on the show this week to talk about his new book, Great Leaders Have No Rules, adapting a leadership strategy in modern society and creating conversations that lead to deeper clarity and understanding about values.
Key Takeaways: [4:47] As a graduate of Rutgers University, Kevin was the first in his family to go to college. He is originally from Orange County but his family moved out to the East Coast in his teenage years. [12:02] In using baseball as an analogy for business, shortening the season may have benefits, but it’s important to keep sight on how revenue would continue to be generated. [12:50] In this fast-paced and ever-changing society, great organizations learn to modify and adjust how they do business and engage with their customers. [14:20] The stronger the connection is internally between leaders and their team, the greater the customer experience will be. [17:21] Great leadership starts in the hiring process with the right people aligned with the company values and goals. [18:09] Kevin’s inspiration to flip the script on traditional leadership led him to write his new book, Great Leaders Have No Rules. [20:14] Every time we bump into a rule, it shorts us of making a decision and makes us feel less involved. [22:04] Rules crowd out relationships. [24:04] Rules start from a good place, but over time, when the rule is broken or unmet, it causes defensiveness and dishonesty. [25:33] A conversation must be had about the expectations and boundaries within the rules. The more a team understands why the rules are there in the first place, the more likely they are to be compliant. [26:07] Set boundaries as a team. [26:33] When we bump into a rule it is not the end of the world but an opportunity for feedback and a teachable moment. [36:47] Constant screen time impacts our ability to be immersed in the moment and connect fully with others. In Kevin’s Chapter, “Turn off Your Smartphones,” he proposes checking it to process the information and then setting it aside. [38:59] LeadX created an experimental AI-powered executive coach who can answer questions and give action items based on leadership and management essentials. [45:55] Kevin’s goal is to work with a team and impact over 100 million leaders.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material
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| 11 Feb 2021 | We’re All in The Same Storm...But in Different Boats | 00:30:49 | |
We all have different family situations, but just about everyone I know and work with these days is struggling at home to some degree. From isolation, to disappointment, to illness, to worry, to irritation, to depression, to financial concerns, to grief, and more, this has been and continues to be an incredibly challenging time for our relationships and our lives. On this episode, we discuss some of the hardest aspects of navigating the pandemic in our families. We also talk about some specific things we can do at this time to take care of ourselves and our loved ones in a real and healthy way. Resources: We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins Why Empathy is Important: How to Become More Empathetic The Language of Love - new podcast with Laura Berman Unlocking Us - podcast episode with Brene Brown and Melinda Gates
Shareables: “We’re all in the same storm, but in different boats.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Check in with the people in your family - we need to lean on each other right now.” — @MikeDRobbins
“It’s okay to not be okay.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||
| 28 Feb 2023 | The Only Way Out is Through | 00:30:42 | |
I went to see a powerful one-man show this week in New York called Without You, by Anthony Rapp, the actor who originated the role of Mark in the musical Rent on Broadway. Anthony shared a moving story in the show about dealing with the loss of his mother and being told that “the only way out is through,” regarding his grief journey. This phrase and concept, while challenging at times, is so important for us to remember as we navigate various aspects of work, family, and life, especially these days. On this episode, I talk about why it’s essential for us to lean into discomfort, even when it’s painful or scary. I also share some specific things we can do individually and collectively to make our way effectively through hard things. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins | |||
| 12 Feb 2025 | Staying Grounded and Hopeful When Things are Uncertain or Challenging | 00:19:52 | |
With all that is going on in the country and the world these days, as well as inside our families, teams, and businesses, it can sometimes be difficult to stay authentically hopeful. On this episode, I talk about some of the uncertainty that is impacting me and many of the people I know and work with right now. I then share five specific things we can do to stay as grounded and positive as possible.
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| 27 Feb 2018 | After Further Review, Each Day Is an Opportunity with Joe Sweeney | 00:44:24 | |
My guest today, Joe Sweeney, is passionate about his work and living the best life possible. His diverse career has included being a Sports Agent representing Brett Favre, President of Wisconsin Sports Authority, an Investment Banker and a Private Equity Investor. He has written three books, Networking is a Contact Sport, Moving the Needle, and his most recent, After Further Review, is a book that encourages readers to take a timeout, take stock of their lives and inspires them to live a better life.
During our conversation, we discuss how to navigate life, death, and change, with appreciation and gratitude.
My book, Bring Your Whole Self to Work comes out May 1, 2018.
Key Takeaways:
[2:09] Networking is a Contact Sport. [7:41] Does birth order affect how you navigate life? [11:52] Is it better to lose or to win? [24:21] The art of letting go. [32:48] After Further Review focuses on inspiring people to live a better life. [36:57] What is your ‘why’? [41:19] What ‘bring your whole self to work’ means to Joe.
Resources: Think and Grow Rich: For Men and Women who Resent Poverty, by Napoleon Hill | |||
| 04 Jan 2022 | Showing Up: How Men Can Become Allies in the Workplace | 00:53:49 | |
Inclusion, belonging, and allyship are essential in business and life. These things can be challenging and complex. My friend and colleague, Ray Arata, is an expert in inclusionary leadership and the founder of the Better Man Conference. He joins me on the show today to talk about these important topics and about his powerful new book, Showing Up: How Men Can Become Allies in the Workplace. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) Showing Up: How Men Can Become Effective Allies in the Workplace (Amazon) | |||
| 06 Oct 2021 | Creating More Space to Think with Juliet Funt | 00:51:48 | |
Work and life seem to be getting busier and busier all the time. Creating space in our schedules and in our minds is more important and challenging than ever these days. On this week’s episode, I talk to my friend and colleague, Juliet Funt. She’s the author of the new book, A Minute to Think, and an expert in training people, leaders, teams, and organizations specific techniques which allow them to reclaim creativity, conquer busyness, and do their best work. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins (now out in paperback) | |||
| 17 Dec 2019 | Give and Receive Feedback, Even When It’s Uncomfortable | 00:33:01 | |
In this solo episode, I’m diving into feedback. Here’s the thing about feedback, in general, for me — I don’t always love it. But really, receiving feedback (and giving it) is so important to growth. I share my recent experience of receiving feedback from my editors on my latest manuscript, and how having a “sweaty-palm” conversation really helped move me forward with integrating that feedback. We can all benefit from enhancing our capacity to give and receive feedback, so I have some strategies to move ourselves from a space of defensiveness and self-criticism, into a growth mindset and openness of receiving and accepting feedback.
Key Takeaways: [2:23] What stands between you and the relationships you really want to have with people is a 10-minute ‘sweaty-palm’ conversation you're too afraid to have — but they're such a critical part of every single relationship. [3:21] There are two primary areas where you might have a ‘sweaty-palm’ conversation — conflict and feedback. [7:00] When we get feedback from someone, there are often three beats that go off in our heads simultaneously. 1) Defensiveness, 2) Self-criticism or self-loathing, 3) Growth mindset. [20:34] We don’t give or receive nearly as much feedback as we probably need to. Why? Because we’re uncomfortable. [22:09] How can you get more feedback in the way that you want? Ask for it. [24:07] Feedback is more a function of the relationship than the way the feedback is given. It takes time to cultivate a relationship to that level of trust where feedback can be freely given and received. [25:06] We can set up an environment both in our minds and in our relationships where we can receive feedback from others openly and with a growth mindset. [30:34] We can all benefit from enhancing our capacity to give and receive feedback.
Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material Bring Your Whole Self to Work, by Mike Robbins We're All in This Together, by Mike Robbins (Pre-order on Amazon) | |||
| 07 Dec 2022 | The Importance of Showing Up | 00:24:36 | |
Our ability to support and empower others, as well as create success and fulfillment in our lives has to do with if and how we show up. For a number of reasons, especially these days, this isn’t always easy. On this episode I share about some recent struggles and a tragic loss and what they have taught me about the importance of showing up. I also talk about how we can show up for ourselves and others, even and especially when things are hard. Resources: | |||
| 20 Sep 2022 | The Power of Proximity with Tyler Merritt | 01:15:00 | |
My guest on this episode, Tyler Merritt, believes that proximity breeds empathy…and that with empathy, humanity has a fighting chance. I agree and am so inspired by him, his work, and his books. Tyler is an actor, activist, founder of the Tyler Merritt Project, and the author of the remarkable memoir, I Take My Coffee Black, as well as the brand new children’s book, A Door Made for Me. In our wide-ranging conversation, Tyler and I discuss race, religion, inclusion, authenticity, and the importance of proximity. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Before You Call the Cops (video) | |||
| 24 Apr 2018 | Being Fully Present as a Parent with Susan Stiffelman | 00:38:15 | |
My guest this week, Susan Stiffelman, is a parenting expert. She started her career as a teacher and a therapist. In her books, Parenting with Presence and Parenting without Power Struggles she acknowledges that parents are transforming and growing along with their children. She speaks to large organizations, like Google, and was the parenting expert for AOL and the Huffington Post for many years. She has been featured on the Today show and partners with other experts and authors in her online summits and programs. My book, Bring Your Whole Self to Work: How Vulnerability Unlocks Creativity, Connection and Performance comes out officially May 1, 2018, but you can pre-order it now and receive special audio bonuses. And, you can join me on May 5th for a live book launch at the Book Passage in Corte Madera at 7 pm. Key Takeaways: [3:21] Susan explores a person's ability to transform and grow while raising kids. [7:29] How Susan works with organizations to assist parents who often spend a lot of time at work. [10:47] Advice for parents who are knee deep in the early years. [16:43] Acknowledge the times when you are not present with your children. [27:04] The next big wave of support for parents is coming to organizations. [30:25] The difference between working mothers and working fathers. Resources: Pre-order Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. | |||
| 08 May 2018 | Be Authentic | 00:45:47 | |
Today’s episode is the first in a series of podcasts in which I discuss the five main principles of my new book Bring Your Whole Self to Work: How Vulnerability Unlocks Creativity, Connection, and Performance. During this episode, I address the foundational first principle, Be Authentic. This principle is important because it is the one all the other principles in the book build upon. It's not always easy to be authentic. It takes conscious effort, mindful intention, and real courage. I share the authenticity equation and a group activity that help can help you, your team, or any group move through the fear of being vulnerable and demonstrate the human connection we all share. Over the next few episodes, I will be exploring the additional four principles of my book. They are #2 Utilize the Power of Appreciation, #3 Focus on Emotional Intelligence, #4 Embrace the Growth Mindset, and #5 Create a Championship Team. When you order Bring Your Whole Self to Work: How Vulnerability Unlocks Creativity, Connection, and Performance from 1-800-CEO-READ you will get a nice bulk discount price when buying multiple copies of the book for your team or organization. Key Takeaways: [3:39] Being authentic is hard, but it is important. [9:40] What does it mean to ‘Be Authentic’? [11:40] When do we justify being phony or inauthentic? [17:02] The Authenticity Equation. [27:00] The ‘If you really knew me you would know…’ exercise. [39:23] The two types of credibility - personal and professional. Resources: Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material. | |||
| 18 Oct 2016 | Success is Being Loving and Joyful with Joe Greenstein | 00:51:54 | |
My guest on today’s podcast is my friend Joe Greenstein. Joe’s latest creation, InnerSpace, focuses on teaching founders of startups how to take care of themselves and how to build cultures in line with their passions and products. Joe’s career history seems to align perfectly with what he is creating now. He had an entrepreneurial mindset as early as high school, and while in college a paper he wrote turned into a joint business venture with his professor at the time. His early attempts at the next big thing caught the public’s interest, but never showed the promise of longevity. It wasn’t until he created Flixster and acquired Rotten Tomatoes, with his friend and business partner, that he started to move the needle towards financial prosperity. While he is happy to have experienced the chaos of Silicon Valley during his start-up experience and the ultimate sale of his company to Warner Brothers, he is passionate about the work he and his team are doing at InnerSpace, and also about his new adventure of fatherhood.
Key Takeaways: [3:00] What does Bring Your Whole Self to Work mean to Joe? [7:57] Not all of Joe’s entrepreneurial ventures were financially successful, but his ideas were always sound. [15:00] The business world is so disconnected from what happens in education. [19:06] Joe had an idea to create a site to share movie reviews, called Whosawwhat.com. [27:27] Rotten Tomatoes was buried under corporate bureaucracy at the time Flixster acquired it. [29:53] Joe explains the emotional impact of selling a company he built from scratch. [33:27] The downsides of getting caught in the web of inauthenticity. [40:39] Joe left Flixster to experiment with what he wanted to do with his life, which turned into Inner Space. [44:39] The same organizations entrepreneurs create to serve them, often become enemies of their well-being. [46:44] Success is being loving and joyful.
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| 11 May 2021 | Transformation from the Inside Out with Scott Shute | 00:58:23 | |
There is such a strong need for transformation these days - in our work, our lives, our families, our organizations, our society, and our world. As we have seen and learned in many painful ways over the past year or so, some of the ways we operate - personally and collectively - aren’t ideal, equitable, healthy, or sustainable. On this episode, I once again talk with my friend Scott Shute. As the Head of Mindfulness and Compassion Programs at LinkedIn, Scott develops and delivers programs that assist in the well-being of leaders, teams, employees, and customers. He also has a brand new book out today called The Full Body Yes. Scott’s book, his work, and his life are dedicated to changing our work and our world from the inside out. Resources: We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins TheFullBodyYes.com (book site) The Full Body Yes (book on Amazon)
Shareables:
“Compassion is empathy in action.” — @ScottShute1
“There is real freedom and power when we realize life is happening for us not to us.” — @ScottShute1
“All transformation starts from within.” — @ScottShute1
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| 25 Mar 2020 | Separated But Together | 00:34:08 | |
This whole experience with the coronavirus continues to be bizarre, challenging, fascinating, scary, and more. The paradox of this moment is that while we are all physically separated from one another, we’re also together in this experience. For those of us who are able to work from home, we’re both fortunate and we’re also probably dealing with lots of practical challenges in this regard. In this episode, I talk about some specific things we can do to stay connected to our teams so that we can not only get our work done effectively, but grow, develop, and deepen our relationships and our culture in the process. Remembering and operating from the perspective that we’re all in this together, which we are, is essential right now. Here are the specific suggestions I make in this episode: 1. Address the moment, your feelings, and other people’s feelings 2. Over-communicate 3. Double down on authenticity - do the “if you really knew me” exercise 4. Appreciate people - use the “appreciation seat” exercise 5. Have enough self-awareness and humility to admit you have no idea what’s going on right now and how it will all play out Resources: We’re All in This Together - virtual program Bring Your Whole Self to Work (book), by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together (book), by Mike Robbins Leading in the Midst of Uncertainty (Forbes article) Untamed (book), by Glennon Doyle Shareables: “The paradox of this moment is that we’re all physically separated, yet we’re all connected through this common experience.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Anyone who says they know how this is all going to play out is either lying or crazy.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Now more than ever - we’re all in this together.” — @MikeDRobbins
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| 18 Feb 2020 | Should We Talk About Politics at Work? | 00:31:01 | |
We’re living in politically divisive times. On the heels of impeachment, with the primary process in full swing, and with the Presidential election looming this fall, things seem to be getting even more intense on this front. And while we’re often told, directly or indirectly, not to talk about politics at work, it’s hard not to do so these days. For a number of reasons, it’s important for us to find ways to talk about politics, in a respectful and authentic way that brings us closer together - at work and in life. This week on the podcast I share my thoughts on how we can do this and specifically how we can create a more open and inclusive environment at work, where people feel safe to share their opinions about politics and more (even and especially if those opinions are different).
Key Takeaways: [3:04] How can we be more authentic and bring our whole self to work in the midst of incredibly intense and divisive political times? [6:03] There's wisdom in not talking about taboo topics like politics, religion, and money, but it is increasingly more difficult to separate our personal and professional lives and we need to find ways to talk about these topics in a more mature way. [11:01] We have been through some difficult political times and recent Presidential elections have been a very intense process. [14:51] The last Presidential term has been particularly difficult for Mike. He explains why he feels like the campaigning has not stopped since Donald Trump was elected, and what that means for the general sentiment on the ground. [17:48] Even as we feel more divided politically, we need to find ways to respect, support and relate to people who might vote differently from us, and who might hold different opinions. [23:51] Being inclusive can’t just happen on certain, select fronts. There is inner work that needs to be done on a personal level to become inclusive, not just on a surface level. [28:27] Mike challenges us all to be real, authentic, and vulnerable with ourselves and with each other.
Resources: “An open letter to my fellow straight white men…”, Mike Robbins Blog
Shareables:
“How can we be in environments where we have to interact with people who see things differently than we do, and still be able to maintain a sense of openness?” — @mikedrobbins
“It’s important to create an environment that is psychologically safe enough for people to respectfully disagree about politics and more.” — @mikedrobbins
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| 17 Jan 2024 | Operating with Elegance | 00:25:21 | |
The conventional definition of elegance is about beauty and grace. However, when I think about operating with elegance at work and in life, it’s about putting forth intentional effort and expecting maximum results, in a balanced and non-attached way. On this episode, I talk about why this can be challenging in our effort and results obsessed world. I also share some specific things we can do to tap into the power of elegance and manifest the experiences and outcomes we truly want.
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| 19 Jun 2020 | Get In The Game...and, Take Care of Yourself | 00:30:47 | |
Things continue to be incredibly intense in our country and our world these days. And, if we want to make a difference, have impact, and create real change, we have to get in the “game.” In other words, we need to put ourselves out there, take action, and actually do things that align with our values and our desires for change, growth, and success. Doing this takes courage and a willingness to fail. Simultaneously, we can’t be in the game all the time or we will burn ourselves out. We have to take time to rest, re-charge, and rejuvenate, which is something I’ve been struggling with recently, but is so important. We talk about these important dynamics on this episode. Resources: 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice How to Be an Antiracist (book), by Ibram X. Kendi White Fragility (book) by Robin DiAngelo
We’re All in This Together (new book), by Mike Robbins We’re All in This Together - virtual program
Shareables:
“Life happens in the game, not in the stands.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Jump and find your wings on the way down.” — @MikeDRobbins
“Taking time to rest and rejuvenate is essential for us to do if we want to be of service in the most effective way we can.” — @MikeDRobbins | |||