Unraveling Adoption (Beth Syverson)
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| 03 Oct 2022 | Fentanyl Harm Reduction for Families with Nicole Miller - Ep 62 | 00:44:30 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Nicole Miller, a certified drug and alcohol counselor and coach from Oregon who teaches addiction pharmacology at Portland Community College. Even though she’s very knowledgeable about all kinds of drugs, I brought her onto Safe Home Podcast to help us focus on fentanyl. It’s such a dangerous drug, and deaths from fentanyl poisoning have skyrocketed in just the last 2 or 3 years. Our family really wants to raise awareness about fentanyl, so Nicole will help us all understand the risks and what we can all do to prevent deaths caused by fentanyl. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Helanna Johnson, our life coach Heather Ross’s daughter who died in December 2021 from fentanyl poisoning. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Nicole’s information:
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=============== =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:08 Nicole’s personal journey with addiction and recovery 3:14 Safe Home lifts up harm reduction 4:40 What is fentanyl? 8:33 What forms does fentanyl come in? How does it get mixed in with other drugs? 9:55 Having Naloxone/Narcan available to save lives, but never use substances alone 10:45 Fentanyl test strips 13:20 How fentanyl makes people feel 14:30 The dangers of fentanyl with experimental use of substances 16:30 Beth’s challenges getting Narcan from the pharmacy 19:41 Encouraging our loved ones to carry Narcan with them 20:24 Meeting addicted people where they’re at; facing reality and encouraging harm reduction 23:51 How can Narcan - the Lazarus drug - works 27:12 Opiates, pain, and tolerance 28:50 How Medical Assisted Treatment (MAT) affects the rates of recovery 33:48 When to use Narcan, signs of an opiate overdose 36:35 Fentanyl could be in ANYTHING off the streets 38:02 How does Nicole stay grounded working in the addiction field 39:15 What Nicole’s recovery coaching looks like 40:50 All overdoses are accidental --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 29 Jan 2022 | Hypnotherapy with Pamela Topjian - Ep 27 | 00:35:48 | |
In this episode, Beth learns about hypnotherapy with Pamela Topjian from Breakthrough Hypnotherapy. She talks about her own healing path from childhood trauma, how she got into hypnotherapy, and how hypnotherapy can help create more peace and heal trauma for teens and parents. Joey checks in at the end of this episode, too. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Pamela Topjian’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:51 Pamela’s memoir I Didn’t Come This Far to Only Come THIS Far 4:05 Adding to our healing modality toolbox 6:13 Pamela’s trauma story 9:08 Pamela’s career journey from nursing to hypnotherapy 12:34 Beth gushes over Joey 14:35 How Covid has exacerbated problems 17:05What hypnotherapy is like 23:32 Doing hypnotherapy remotely 24:47 How hypnotherapy can help parents with struggling teens --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 13 May 2024 | Nurturing Hope: A Recovery Update with Joey Nakao - Ep 145 | 00:25:14 | |
"I'm in a great place, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally." -- Joey Nakao Podcast Episode Synopsis:In this heartfelt episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes her son, Joey, back to the podcast after a five-month hiatus. Joey, a courageous 20-year-old in recovery from addiction, shares his journey of sobriety and self-discovery with listeners. The episode delves into Joey's recent experiences at Hazelden Betty Ford in Palm Springs, where he is participating in a PHP (Partial Hospitalization Program). Joey reflects on the challenges he has faced during his recovery, including moments of discomfort and the temptation to leave the program. However, he credits the supportive community at the treatment center for helping him stay grounded and committed to his sobriety. Joey opens up about his transformative experiences with meditation, where he received messages of healing and self-preservation. He also discusses his plans for the future, including moving into an apartment with a friend from rehab and continuing his recovery journey. As the episode unfolds, Beth and Joey discuss their upcoming book, Adoptees and Suicidality, which aims to shed light on the connection between adoption and mental health struggles. Joey expresses his desire to be more involved in the podcast and potentially pursue a career in counseling or recovery support. Throughout the episode, Joey emphasizes the importance of honesty, self-nurturing, and community support in the recovery process. He encourages listeners struggling with addiction to stay hopeful and seek help from those who can hold their truth with compassion. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Timestamps:
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| 06 May 2024 | Finding Her Beat: Healing and Identity Through Taiko with Jennifer Weir - Ep 144 | 00:29:13 | |
"Taiko drumming is a wonderful way to release lots of negative energy and have it transformed into positive energy. " -- Jennifer Weir Podcast Episode Synopsis:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes guest Jennifer Weir, a Korean adoptee who connected with her Asian identity through Taiko drumming. Jennifer shares her journey of being adopted from South Korea at a young age and growing up in North Dakota with very little Asian representation. Despite facing bullying and struggles with identity, Jennifer found solace in Taiko drumming, eventually becoming the executive director of Taiko Arts Midwest. The episode delves into Jennifer's experience organizing a groundbreaking concert featuring elite women Taiko drummers from Japan, the US, and Canada. The concert, captured in the award-winning documentary Finding Her Beat, highlighted the challenges faced by women in the male-dominated Taiko industry. The film showcases the power of Taiko drumming as a form of expression and healing, resonating with audiences worldwide. Beth and Jennifer discuss the complexities of Asian identity, the importance of processing grief, and the transformative power of Taiko drumming in navigating personal struggles. Jennifer's journey from a Korean adoptee to a Taiko drumming powerhouse serves as an inspiration to adoptees and individuals exploring their cultural heritage. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Resources mentioned in this episode:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Timestamps:00:01:05 - Guest Introduction: Jennifer Weir, Korean Adoptee
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| 01 Sep 2021 | Nicotine - with Jan Mabie - Ep 4 | 00:53:38 | |
in this episode, the whole family - Jan, Beth, and Joey - talk about nicotine. Jan used nicotine (among other things) and tells Joey it was the hardest drug to quit. Joey talks about the prevalence of nicotine and vaping in schools and suggests ways that parents can help their kids if they get into vaping. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon
RESOURCES: Here are some resources for teens and others who are struggling right now: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 800-273-8255 - 24/7 Lifeline Chat: https://Suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat - 24/7 Teen Line: call 310-855-HOPE 6-10pm PST Or text TEEN to 839863 Talk to other trained teens Youthline: call 877-968-8491 4-10pm PST Or text Teen2Teen to 839863. Need2Text: text TALK to 38255 24/7
And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling: Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
NICOTINE INFO: Truth Initiative: Inspiring Lives Free from Smoking, Vaping, and Nicotine - https://truthinitiative.org/our-top-issues/vaping-issue The Vaping Fix podcast - https://wondery.com/shows/the-vaping-fix/
TIME STAMPS: 2:07 Jan’s experience with nicotine 6:04 Jan’s experience quitting meth v quitting nicotine 6:53 Nicotine ads 9:30 Big Tobacco 10:50 Names of vape products 12:20 Difference between smoking and vaping 14:05 Vaping system costs 17:50 Why do people use nicotine 19:30 Using nicotine without getting addicted 20:10 Downsides of using nicotine 21:00 How kids procure nicotine 22:37 Nicotine then and now 26:57 Peer pressure 30:15 How Joey and Jan got off nicotine 40:00 Preventing kids from starting using nicotine --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 02 Sep 2024 | Shedding Light on Children of Priests with Brendan Watkins - Ep 161 | 00:28:39 | |
"The Church, of course, is doing everything it can to silence victims." - Brendan Watkins EPISODE SUMMARY: =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Brendan Watkin’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== TIME STAMPS:
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| 26 Feb 2022 | Neurodiversity and Gender Diversity with Lyric Holmans - Ep 31 | 00:50:17 | |
This week’s episode is about All The Diversities. Beth interviews Lyric Holmans, a non-binary, autistic self-advocate who runs the blog and Facebook page “The Neurodivergent Rebel” plus their company Neurodivergent Consulting. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: How to find Lyric:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:13 What happens when autistic people tell the truth 5:45 Lyric’s late diagnosis 11:25 Diversity within the Neurodivergent population 14:02 Lyric’s acting on stage and in life 15:05 Lyric’s school experience 18:30 The eye contact issue 22:06 Definition of neurodivergent 28:56 ADHD and “Does not apply themselves” 34:48 How non-binary gender intersects with neurodiversity 37:55 Definition of non-binary gender --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 05 Sep 2022 | Framework to Improve Mental Health with Renee Knapp - Ep 58 | 00:50:32 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Renee Knapp, a vice principal at a high school - or she would call it a deputy principal at a district high school where she lives in SW of Western Australia. But on top of that, she’s an independent consultant at Think Effective Consultancy, where she works with schools, communities, and passionate individuals to improve mental health and wellbeing outcomes through a proven process and framework for change. She is the Chair and co-founder of a Community Based Mental Health Action Team and she’s an Ambassador for the Australian & New Zealand Mental Health Association. RESOURCES: Renee’s information: Think Effective Consultancy website: https://thinkeffective.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/www.thinkeffective.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thinkeffectiveconsultancy/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn8qrZZ0hmktyC7Ot0QIXuw
Other resources mentioned in this episode: Mind Matters (Australia): https://www.positiveschools.com.au/2012%20Mind%20Matters.html GoZen videos for kids: https://gozen.com/ Reach Out for teens and young adults: https://au.reachout.com/ New 988 mental health crisis line: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988
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TIME STAMPS 1:50 The Big Picture work that Renee is doing to help kids’ mental health 2:20 Renee’s background and interest in mental health 7:30 Behaviors are not the problem 11:05 Common mental health problems in high school 15:00 Advocating for a CULTURE of well-being at school and Beth’s horrible experience with Joey’s high school’s culture 20:23 Examples of Renee’s framework in action 27:10 Finding passionate individuals who can hop on board 29:50 Framework instead of programs 32:40 Suicide as leading cause of death 37:35 Creating a plan for well-being in the school and community 39:13 Belonging and connection is the cure --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 30 Sep 2024 | The Intersection of Politics and Adoption with Mark H. - Ep 165 | 00:36:29 | |
"The way that fascism triumphs is if everyone goes silent and becomes quiescent." - Mark H. EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I, Beth Syverson, welcome Mark, a transracial adoptee from Korea and a passionate advocate for adoption-related issues. Together, we delve into the often-overlooked intersection of politics and adoption, particularly in the context of the upcoming U.S. presidential election. As an adoptive mom of a 20-year-old son, Joey, who is navigating his own path, I feel a deep responsibility to address the complexities surrounding adoption and how they relate to broader societal issues. This election is particularly significant, as it touches on critical topics such as racial justice, women's reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and the preservation of our democratic systems. With Joey preparing to vote for the first time, I am acutely aware of the stakes involved and the long-term impact our choices will have on future generations. Mark shares his unique perspective as a transracial adoptee and a gay man, highlighting the challenges he faced growing up in a predominantly white environment. He reflects on the societal norms of his youth, where discussing politics was often taboo, and emphasizes the importance of speaking out in today's climate. Mark articulates the existential nature of this election, particularly for marginalized communities, and the need for individuals to engage in political discourse. Throughout our conversation, we explore the implications of having a woman of color, Kamala Harris, as a presidential candidate. While Mark expresses excitement about her candidacy, he also addresses the racism and misogyny she faces, which resonates deeply with his own experiences of being “other”ed. We discuss how the political landscape has shifted, particularly within the Republican Party, and the urgent need for individuals to recognize and confront systemic racism. Mark and I emphasize the importance of activism, not just in the traditional sense of protests and demonstrations, but in everyday conversations with friends, family, and neighbors. We encourage listeners to engage with those around them, especially in swing states, to ensure that their voices are heard and that they participate in the electoral process. As we wrap up the episode, I invite listeners to reflect on their own roles in advocating for change and to consider how their political choices impact the lives of those in the adoption community and beyond. We urge everyone to vote, to educate themselves, and to have open discussions about the critical issues at stake in this election. This episode serves as a call to action for all of us to be brave, to stand up for what we believe in, and to work towards a more equitable society for everyone, especially those affected by adoption. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: If you’d like to connect with Mark H., send him an email through me at Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com. He’s staying anonymous in this episode in order to not jeopardize his job. Respond to this episode on Unraveling Adoption’s page on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, or LinkedIn. Other resource mentioned in this episode:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:01:00 - The Importance of Voting 00:02:30 - Introducing Mark 00:03:00 - Mark's Background and Perspective 00:06:00 - The Fog of Whiteness 00:08:30 - Representation in Politics 00:10:30 - Racism and Misogyny in Politics 00:12:30 - Understanding Systemic Racism 00:14:30 - The Role of White Allies 00:16:00 - The Stakes of the Election 00:18:00 - Mobilizing for Change 00:20:00 - The Importance of Conversations 00:22:00 - Adoption and Political Interests 00:24:00 - Activism in Everyday Life 00:26:00 - The Power of Individual Votes 00:28:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action | |||
| 13 Jun 2022 | Recovery Coaching with Tracy Struckman - Ep 46 | 00:39:51 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tracy Struckman, an Indiana-based recovery coach who has 8 years of recovery from a destructive heroin addiction. She now helps others who are struggling with addiction to find long-term recovery. She is just completing her licensure to become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and she does online consulting and workshops for people who struggle with addiction as well as their families. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tracy’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:35 Tracy’s childhood and adolescence and background of her heroin addiction 3:35 The addiction process - alcohol→marijuana→then heroin 5:41 Fentanyl’s dangers and access to Narcan to prevent overdose deaths 10:19 Addiction as a symptom of an underlying problem 13:32 Tracy’s rock bottom 14:57 A chance of rehabilitation in the criminal justice system? 16:23 What happened to cause Tracy to become sober 19:00 Tracy’s parenting and Tracy’s parents 25:10 What Tracy wishes would have happened differently when she was a teen 27:30 What is a Recovery Coach? 31:23 How parents can shift their focus off their kids and onto themselves 33:27 How is Recovery Coaching structured logistically? 36:22 Parents, don’t blame yourself! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 29 Apr 2024 | Codependency in the Adoption Constellation with Jonathan Newbern - Ep 143 | 00:28:48 | |
"...when you're walking around with a sense of loss, or you feel like your first mother or first family don't want you, there's two ways you go about this. Either A, you're going to get really enmeshed and get real clingy because you don't want to lose. Or B, you get this detachment, and as adoptees and groups sometimes say, ‘I'm going to leave you before you leave me.’" -- Jonathan Newbern Podcast Episode Synopsis:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of hosting Jonathan Newbern, a same-race domestic adoptee deeply involved with Codependents Anonymous (CODA). Jonathan shared his poignant adoption journey, marked by a late discovery of his adoption status and a tumultuous childhood. He bravely delved into the connection between relinquishment trauma, adoption trauma, reunion trauma, and codependency, shedding light on the complexities adoptees often face. Jonathan's personal experiences and insights into codependency from an adoptee's perspective provided valuable tools and practical advice for those struggling with similar issues. He emphasized the importance of seeking help, setting boundaries, and engaging in self-care practices to navigate the challenges of codependency. Throughout the episode, Jonathan's vulnerability and resilience shone through as he shared his journey of healing and growth. His message of empowerment and self-worth resonated deeply, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their struggles. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jonathan’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION
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| 27 Nov 2021 | Recovery with Jane Davis - Ep 17 | 00:39:52 | |
In this episode, Beth hears the story of Rev. Jane Davis, who is in recovery from alcohol addiction. She shares some alternative recovery treatment solutions she found besides the typical 12-step Alcoholics Anonymous model. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Resources that Jane mentions during the podcast: Oxford House - https://www.oxfordhouse.org/ Alcoholics Anonymous - https://www.aa.org/ SMART Recovery - https://www.smartrecovery.org/ Women for Sobriety - https://womenforsobriety.org/community/ Men for Sobriety - https://2994002.site123.me/ Refuge Recovery - https://www.refugerecovery.org/ How to become a Peer Support Counselor - https://www.mhanational.org/how-become-peer-support-specialist More Peer Support resources - https://www.samhsa.gov/brss-tacs/recovery-support-tools/peers ====================================== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ======================================= MORE RESOURCES: Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling ======================================= TIME STAMPS: 0:47 Jane’s intro & addiction story 7:35 Jane’s lowest point 10:16 Oxford House sober living house and the start of Jane’s sobriety 13:17 How Jane got through adolescence 17:30 More about Oxford House 24:07 Jane’s experience with 12 step programs (AA) 25:40 SMART Recovery 29:02 Refuge Recovery - Buddhist based recovery program 31:56 Jane’s work as a Certified Peer Support Worker 37:06 Jane’s best advice for people in recovery --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 04 Dec 2023 | "The Mulatto Child the Strubes Adopted" with Janell Strube - Ep 122 | 00:50:42 | |
I think for my mother, she didn't always really see me quite as a person of equal value. - Janell Strube A biracial adoptee, Janell Strube, shares her powerful journey of navigating racial identity and the impact of racism behind closed doors. Did she ever find the acceptance and understanding she sought? In this episode, you will be able to:
💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 My special guest is Janell Strube Janell Strube is an accomplished domestic interracial adoptee, memoirist, novelist, and poet. With her unique perspective as an biracial adoptee and an adoptive parent, she navigates the complexities of race and adoption with depth and insight. Having been adopted at just four days old through a church adoption and growing up in a predominantly white community, she faced challenges and prejudices that shaped her understanding of her biracial identity. Her writings and poetry offer a powerful glimpse into her journey, providing valuable insights for parents of biracial children seeking guidance and understanding. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Exploring impact of racism on biracial identity Learning strategies to navigate challenges 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Here's Janell's Tree poem: 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 20 Nov 2021 | Psych Hospitals & Suicidal Ideation - Ep 16 | 00:40:03 | |
Joey returns to the podcast for this episode about his experiences in psych hospitals due to suicidal ideation. Joey and Beth talk about the positive things about being hospitalized, and also some of the not-so-pleasant parts. They are continuing their work of de-stigmatizing mental illness and addiction through this important episode. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ======================================= RESOURCES: Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling ======================================= Time Stamps: 0:58 Joey’s update 2:36 How creating Safe Home Podcast is helping Joey 4:44 Background of Joey’s first psych hospital experience 12:11 Transporting to the psych hospital via ambulance 13:53 Joey’s first night at the first psych hospital 17:35 Things that make the hospital safe for suicidal patients 21:01 The kinds of kids end up at psych hospitals 23:33 Minimal therapy or help at hospital, but it keeps fragile patients safe 25:10 Visiting hours 27:40 Lockdown in Nevada 28:49 Covid at the hospital 33:51 Transitioning out of a hospital - IOP and PHP 35:31 Family therapy - oh joy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 10 Jul 2023 | Unraveling Adoption's Complexities as Both an Adoptee and an Adoptive Parent with Damon Davis - Ep 101 | 00:46:29 | |
Navigating Adoption's Complexities as an Adoptee and an Adoptive Parent with Damon DavisIn this episode of Unraveling Adoption, guest Damon Davis shares his personal journey both as an adoptee and as an adoptive parent, shedding light on the complexities and challenges faced by adoptees and their families. Don't miss this gripping episode that explores the highs and lows of adoption and the power of resilience. In this episode, you will be able to:
=========== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =========== My special guest is Damon Davis Damon Davis walks the twin paths of adoption and biology, he affords listeners an enlightening perspective on adoption. His narration brings to life his personal triumphs and trials, from being an adoptee to being a dedicated father of two adopted and one biological child. Check out his memoir and his podcast, both titled 'Who Am I, Really?' The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Strengthened Bond and Improved Well-being for Adoptive Families Adoption and Trauma =========== Other Resources:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =========== Timestamped summary of this episode:
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| 20 Jun 2022 | Anxiety Toolbox with Jeanette Matthew - Ep 47 | 00:55:46 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Jeanette Matthew. She lives in North Yorkshire in the UK, and she is a coaching psychologist who helps individuals and organizations transform their uncertainty, overwhelm, and lack of clarity into goals, action plans, and confidence. Her specialty is helping people deal with anxiety. Jeanette has delivered workshops around the world offering psychological hacks to managing and preventing anxiety, and teaching people the mindset tools we can adopt preventatively to see every day triggers through a different lens. In this episode, Jeanette gives plenty of practical tools to help our teens - and ourselves - manage anxiety. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jeanette’s information: Other Resources:
=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon Website: SafeHomeFamililes.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:37 Jeanette’s career background 8:00 Coaching v therapy 13:40 What is causing anxiety for our teens? 17:31 Learning to release outcomes 18:35 Sense of permanency of one’s life choices 25:30 Jeanette’s favorite tool for anxiety - a simple question to ground you in the present moment 34:45 Mindfulness tools 44:25 Choices over one’s own behavior gives us autonomy 49:02 Getting active and getting outside for anxiety relief --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 08 Sep 2021 | Psychedelics - Ep 5 | 00:57:49 | |
In this episode, Joey talks with Beth about his extensive experience with psychedelics, especially LSD and DMT. He talks about why he likes to use them, how psychedelics can be unsafe - and how they can be used in a therapeutic manner under specific circumstances. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon
RESOURCES: Here are some resources for teens and others who are struggling right now: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 800-273-8255 - 24/7 Lifeline Chat: https://Suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat - 24/7 Teen Line: call 310-855-HOPE 6-10pm PST Or text TEEN to 839863 Talk to other trained teens Youthline: call 877-968-8491 4-10pm PST Or text Teen2Teen to 839863. Need2Text: text TALK to 38255 24/7
And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling: Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
TIME STAMPS: 1:54 Types of psychedelics kids are using 3:54 Why do people use psychedelics? 6:00 What is a trip? 10:35 What is a bad trip? 16:33 DMT 19:00 Joey’s mental health issues from psychedelics 20:16 Joey’s suicide attempts 24:58 Psychedelic integration circles 28:00 How Joey obtained psychedelics at school 30:00 Therapeutic uses of psychedelics 36:48 Holotropic breathwork 46:00 Mushrooms 47:52 Joey’s advice to kids interested in trying psychedelics 49:00 Joey’s advice to parents 54:44 Deep existential thoughts from Joey --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 06 Jun 2022 | Holding Space with Tamara Gabbard - Ep 45 | 00:45:11 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tamara Gabbard. She lives in the jungles of Costa Rica with her toddler Rubi-Jean. Tamara is a Copywriter and Content Marketing Strategist, and she also identifies as a Soul Consultant and Clairvoyant. She combines her skills in both the practical and spiritual realms to help people who are struggling to break through the overwhelm that life can bring when trying to make an impact on the world. Like our son Joey, Tamara has done extensive personal research with psychedelics and other substances. She’s 5 years sober now, but she uses some of the things she learned through her psychedelic trips to inform her work, especially finding the root causes of whatever obstacle people get stuck on. Tamara’s story is pretty extraordinary. Even if you can’t relate to her exact experience, I know you will be inspired by her talk to dig a little deeper to help yourself and your struggling teen. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tamara’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon Website: http://SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:37 Tamara’s chaotic childhood 5:08 Teenage experimenting (and then deep dive) with substances 7:33 Tamara’s clairvoyance 13:50 Psychedelics and trauma 20:08 Holding space for people 21:55 How Beth has been holding space for Joey and Tamara’s advice for parents 28:41 Teens using psychedelics (including vaping DMT) 34:07 Safer use of psychedelics 36:40 The planetary shift 39:15 Tamara’s role as a Soul Consoultant to overcome trauma and blocks --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 10 Oct 2022 | Open-Hearted Adoption with Lori Holden, AKA Lavender Luz - Ep 63 | 00:47:17 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lori Holden, an adoptive mom of 2 teens, author of the book The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, written with her daughter’s birth mom and featured on required reading lists with adoption agencies across the country. She’s also a blogger at LavenderLuz.com, and host of the podcast Adoption: The Long View. Lori is an influential voice in the adoption world, advocating for openness in all kinds of adoption relationships. She often keynotes at adoption conferences and speaks to new and prospective adoptive families, helping them realize the benefits to EVERYONE of maintaining transparency in the adoption process. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lori’s information:
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TIME STAMPS: 1:50 Parents doing their own work 3:39 How Lori learned adoption wasn’t all unicorns and butterflies 5:05 Getting curious about adoption 6:40 A new child can’t cure infertility grief 9:35 Lori’s family’s adoption story 13:45 The importance of the biological bond 16:52 “You are mom” 19:38 Both-And 20:58 Adoptive parents that are closed off completely 22:37 What should adoptive parents say when their child misses their birthparent? 27:10 Open adoption’s trajectory 30:35 What if… 34:18 Listening to birth parents more 35:55 Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency 36:26 Constellation v Triad 38:35 Adoptive parents as the “bad guys” 41:38 Is Lori anti-adoption? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 14 Jan 2022 | LGBTQ+ Issues with Elena Joy Thurston - Ep 23 | 00:50:01 | |
In this episode, Beth talks with the founder of Pride & Joy Foundation, Elena Joy Thurston, about her personal story as a lesbian mom, and about how our LGBTQ+ youth are doing. She gives practical advice for parents to help their LGBTQ+ kids. Her foundation offers quarterly parent workshops, a queer writing project, diversity consulting, and a book about LGBTQ+ people in business. Elena Joy is a powerhouse and is making positive change in the world. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== RESOURCES: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling
Mentioned during this episode: Pride & Joy Foundation Parent Connection workshops: http://www.PrideandJoyParents.com; Elena Joy’s book Thriving in Business: Strategies for the LGBTQ+ Entrepreneur: Elena Joy’s LGBTQ+ author project OUTWrite Authors: www.OUTWriteAuthors.com An article about neurodivergence & LGBTQ+ people by Elena Joy: https://www.prideandjoyfoundation.com/blog/raisingLGBTQneurodiversekids An article that has book recommendation for the 2 books Elena Joy recommends that parents read: https://www.prideandjoyfoundation.com/blog/gifts%20for%20LGBTQ%20loves%20ones An article about Pride & Joy Foundation’s corporate inclusion trainings: https://www.prideandjoyfoundation.com/blog/corporateinclusion3e Elena Joy’s TED Talk about her life: https://www.ted.com/talks/elena_joy_thurston_conversion_therapy_almost_took_my_life_mindfulness_saved_it
TIME STAMPS: 2:06 Elena Joy’s bio 5:26 Conversion therapy 9:00 Me Too 11:52 Divorce and child custody 14:04 Starting Pride & Joy Foundation 17:32 Suicide prevention and helping LGBTQ+ college students 22:20 The state of our LGBTQ+ youth 23:39 LGBTQ+ and neurodiversity correlation 25:22 What do LGBTQ+ kids need from their parents 29:00 Love the sinner but hate the sin 31:00 Gender issues 38:33 Pandemic creating cultural change 40:22 Corporate diversity training 42:27 The Gay Agenda 43:30 Pride & Joy Publishing 47:55 Elena Joy’s career trajectory
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| 11 Apr 2022 | Non-Binary Musician Spencer LaJoye - Ep 37 | 00:52:10 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Boston musician Spencer LaJoye, who identifies their gender as non-binary. They came out as bisexual in college and years later came out as non-binary, all within Christian communities. Beth became aware of Spencer when she heard their song “Plowshare Prayer,” a unique prayer for all those against whom prayer has been used as a sword. The song has gone viral around the world, and you will hear Spencer’s back story plus the entire song toward the end of the episode. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Spencer LaJoye’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS 1:47 Spencer’s childhood and religious background 6:26 Spencer found community as an evangelical youth 8:48 Spencer’s college years and coming out as bi 14:16 Parents letting go of dreams for their child 19:46 Coming out as non-binary in 2018 21:49 Spencer’s gender journey 24:10 What our non-binary kids need 28:49 Being a friendly observer of your own body 30:25 Defining trans & non-binary 35:36 Background of “Plowshare Prayer” song 42:50 Performance of “Plowshare Prayer” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 17 Oct 2022 | BEST OF: Cough Medicine and Other OTC Drugs - Ep 2 REPLAY | 00:36:18 | |
Safe Home is on vacation this week, so we're replaying one of our favorite episodes. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 27 Mar 2023 | Adoption from 3 Perspectives with Kevin Burgart - Ep 86 | 00:45:18 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Kevin Burgart from the Nashville area. He’s an adoptee, adoptive parent of two children with significant special needs, and recently he became the adoptive parent of his grandchild as well. Since Kevin has been on both sides of this equation, he has a unique perspective on adoption. His life has been more challenging than most in many ways. We will dig into the obstacles he’s faced, and talk about what resources he’s found to help him cope. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kevin’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Kevin’s adoption story and childhood 2:53 How adoption affected Kevin’s teen years with emotional and behavioral issues 3:38 The start of Kevin’s search for his biological family, then blocked for 41 years 6:24 Adoptive parents were loving and helpful with search 8:04 New research about biological family in 1991, more falsehoods, adoptees beware! 9:21 Registration with databases, a few teasers 10:20 Finally received birth certificate after 48 years, but all his parents were gone by then 12:45 Pursuing other family members through DNA, expectation v. reality 17:35 Does Kevin feel “lucky” to escape being raised by his birth family? 19:05 Connections with Kevin’s 15 bio siblings 21:52 Deciding to adopt older children with special needs 24:10 Disruptions and chaos with adopted siblings 27:20 Major struggles with adopted son because of so much trauma in his life 33:55 Adopting their son’s infant child 37:30 How Kevin reckons with parenting these troubled children 39:00 Resources that have helped Kevin, and advice for adoptees in search | |||
| 30 Oct 2021 | Relapse from Joey's Perspective - Ep 13 | 00:18:39 | |
Joey rejoins the podcast for this special episode about his relapse. In his chat with Beth, he offers a boots-on-the-ground perspective about what caused his relapse, how things are going for him, and what he sees his future holding for him. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ======================================= RESOURCES: Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling
TIME STAMPS: 1:50 - Joey’s boots on the ground reporting of his relapse 3:18 - What led up to Joey’s relapse 4:34 - Joey talks about his enabler 6:47 - Benefits of getting kicked out 7:21 - Joey’s plan for dealing with his dad 8:39 - Sober living housing 10:08 - What Beth or Jan could’ve done to prevent Joey’s relapse 12:15 - Letting natural consequences occur 13:26 - Joey’s self-destruct cycle, but he’s still trying 15:16 - What Joey needs the most today 16:26 - Difference between connection/support and enabling 17:08 - Does yelling or shaming work? V --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 29 Aug 2022 | Marriage Under the Influence of Alcohol with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry - Ep 57 | 00:44:40 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry, a married couple from North Dakota who are bringing alcoholism out into the light with their podcast, Daily Dose of Dr Marry & DD. They are here on Safe Home Podcast to talk about how addiction affects everyone, not just the person struggling with addiction. They, like our family, believe that the opposite of addiction is connection, and they are aiming to destigmatize addiction so we can all heal. =============== MOVIES & CONVERSATIONS about addiction and shame event With Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 10-11:30am PST $15 (Half off for Patreon members, Open House attendees come free) Get your ticket here: https://ofsubstance.eventbrite.com =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Dayna & Mazz’s information: Daily Dose of Dr. Marry and DD: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF3myrebU1m8PhVe1HutQ2w Website: https://daynadelval.com/category/dr-marry-and-me/ Other resource mentioned in this episode: IGNTD Recovery: https://www.igntd.com/ Other Resources: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome www.SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:16 Why Dayna & Mazz decided to share their story on their podcast 4:03 How Dayna & Mazz met and their early years together 6:27 Early signs of alcohol derailing Mazz and their marriage, “married to a newborn” 10:11 Dayna’s reaction to the negative aspects of alcohol on their marriage 12:06 How Mazz’s body made him rethink his relationship to alcohol 15:15 The overwhelming worry about cost of treatment 20:46 What Mazz’s rehab was like 23:45 The benefits of having a late-onset addiction 25:20 Dayna’s quirky addiction 26:54 The culture around alcohol 31:46 What was underneath Mazz’s alcohol misuse? 32:34 Redefining marriage after Mazz’s recovery and getting support for the spouse of the addicted person 41:28 Getting rid of shame --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 19 Dec 2022 | Neurodiverse Family Adventures with Carolyn Balagot - Ep 72 | 00:40:34 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Carolyn Balagot, an advocate for neurodiverse people. In her family, she, her husband, and her 3 kids are all neurodiverse in one way or another - primarily with ADHD or Autism Spectrum Disorder. She has worked at her children’s school as a 504 case carrier, advocating for students’ needs. Her kids all went to school at Orange County School of the Arts, where I used to teach and which I highly respect and admire. Especially in an arts school, all kinds of diversity are celebrated, including neurodiversity. Carolyn will talk to us about her family’s challenges and triumphs, and help us know how to better advocate for our neurodivergent loved ones or community members. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Carolyn’s information:
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=============== Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:52 Carolyn’s family’s background and diagnoses 8:20 High-functioning and low-functioning are outdated. What vocabulary is correct nowadays? 9:50 Autistic people? Or people with autism? 12:35 504 v IEP accommodations 13:55 Is anxiety a neurodivergence? Is a student with anxiety eligible for accommodations? 15:48 Cum. files and labeling in school 18:33 What is ableism? What are some examples of ableist policies in school and work? 21:20 Did Carolyn’s child’s diagnosis make things better or worse? 22:30 Carolyn and her husband are waiting to get their own diagnosis of autism confirmed 25:40 How job interviews are challenging for autistic people and how to make them better 27:30 The powerful concept of universal design 28:43 Carolyn’s advice for parents who think their child might be neurodiverse 30:10 Why to steer clear of ABA - listen to adult autistic people 35:15 Why Autism Speaks is problematic 37:40 Carolyn’s advocacy for the LGBTQ community too --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 08 Aug 2022 | Mindset Shifting with Tiffany Gay - Ep 54 | 00:31:24 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tiffany Gay, a Philadelphia entrepreneur, mindset coach, and public speaker. Several years ago she experienced severe depression and anxiety, but through prayer, a shift in her mindset, and identifying her "Why" she was able to survive through her mental health breakdown. She regained everything back that she lost, including her mind, and now she helps others shift their mindset and find the root cause of their struggles. Her mission is to serve, support, coach, and mentor individuals with shifting their self-defeating, unfulfilling, unproductive, and unhealthy patterns of thinking. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tiffany’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:13 Tiffany’s childhood, one of 8 kids 2:44 How Tiffany’s father’s PTSD affected her family 5:20 Unfamiliar simultaneous lack - in full survival mode 8:48 How Tiffany managed her economic struggles 12:05 Tiffany lost hope for 2 years 14:15 TIffany’s turning point 16:00 The 5 steps Tiffany took - Identify her WHY, shift her mindset, reactive her faith, incorporate prayer, identify a support system 17:18 Why Tiffany found her healing path outside the healthcare system 18:25 How Tiffany got back on track 20:00 Tiffany is the CEO of her own life 24:11 How has Tiffany’s experience affected her parenting of her 12yo daughter 27:27 Breaking generational patterns --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 25 Apr 2022 | The Belonging Blueprint with Ross Leppala - Ep 39 | 00:48:58 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Ross Leppala, professional powerlifter, coach, host of the Project UnchainED podcast, and creator of The Belonging Blueprint course. He suffered from bullying and suicidal ideation when he was young, but sports, especially football, turned his life around. He became a powerlifter and powerlifting coach, and he has expanded his skills to help his athletes and others with their personal growth as well. He helps his clients create a sense of belonging within themselves. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ross’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:43 Ross’s childhood struggles with bullying 8:18 Ross found sports which helped with his self-worth issues 15:19 Personal growth and discipline gained through powerlifting 17:00 Ross’s life coaching process and tools 23:20 Ross’s advice for parents of struggling teens 37:21 The Belonging Blueprint course 44:16 The choice to create change --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 18 Apr 2022 | EMDR for Healing Trauma with Emma Stevens - Ep 38 | 00:35:03 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Emma Stevens, whose new memoir The Gathering Place: An Adoptee’s Story was written during her treatment with EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). EMDR has helped her deal with her adoption trauma and other developmental trauma from her troubled childhood. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Emma’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS 3:56 Emma’s adoption story 6:38 Alcohol was part of her family’s routine…and later her routine 11:23 Exploited by a therapist, then found EMDR 12:45 Starting EMDR and her memoir 15:10 Implicit memories stored in our bodies 16:16 Adoption’s primal wound 20:08 EMDR today 24:43 In utero and infant trauma 27:44 Personal growth for struggling teens + for parents of struggling teens 29:22 Dealing with infertility loss 33:23 Reckoning with the Primal Wound with Emma’s cameo --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 15 Aug 2022 | Families in Recovery with Pam Lanhart - Ep 55 | 00:54:32 | |
OfSubstance.EventBrite.com - 9/10 In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Pam Lanhart. She’s the Director of the Minnesota based non-profit organization “Thrive Family Recovery Resources” that she started in 2016 to help families with addicted loved ones. She’s a certified recovery coach, peer specialist, speaker, author, and advocate for those dealing with substance use disorder - and their families.. She has a book and a FB page called “Praying Our Loved One Home” that our Christian audience members will especially love. She recently lost her young adult son Jake to the disease of addiction, but like our dear friend Heather Ross, she is forging ahead, more determined than ever to help families so they can help their struggling teens and young adults who are battling with addiction. Pam subscribes, as I do, to the CRAFT approach of treating our addicted loved ones with unconditional love and positive regard, no matter where they are in their sobriety. RESOURCES: Pam’s information:
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| 28 Oct 2024 | From Ethiopia to America and Back Again: An Adoptee’s Fight for Justice with Mike Davis and Maureen McCauley - Ep 169 | 00:33:53 | |
"I thought I'll go to the embassy and I'll clear this up. Yeah, that I was adopted legally and I was US citizen." -- Mike Davis
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EPISODE SUMMARY: In 2005, Mike was deported to Ethiopia, a country he barely remembered, where he faced immense challenges, including language barriers and a lack of support. He shared the harrowing details of his deportation, including being dropped off at the airport with only the clothes on his back and a small amount of money. Mike's story is a stark reminder of the potential pitfalls in the inter-country adoption process and the devastating impact it can have on families. Throughout our conversation, Mike emphasized the ongoing struggles he faces, including the inability to access benefits he contributed to while working in the U.S. and the emotional toll on his family, including his wife and children, who have also suffered due to his deportation. We were also joined by Maureen McCauley, an adoptive parent and advocate for Mike, who has been instrumental in raising awareness about his situation and has created a GoFundMe to assist with his legal and medical expenses. Together, we discussed the broader implications of Mike's story, including the urgent need for legislative change to protect the rights of all adoptees, particularly those who are at risk of deportation. This episode serves as a call to action for listeners to educate themselves about the complexities of adoption and to advocate for the rights of adoptees. We encourage all Americans to support the Adoptee Citizenship Act and to reach out to their Congressional representatives to help ensure that no adoptee has to endure the hardships that Mike has faced. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Welcome to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:00 - Complexities of Adoption 00:02:00 - Meet Mike Davis 00:03:40 - Deportation Experience 00:05:30 - First Days in Ethiopia 00:07:00 - Citizenship Realization 00:09:00 - Adoption Paperwork Issues 00:10:30 - Legal Challenges 00:12:00 - Family Impact 00:14:00 - Criminal Charge Consequences 00:16:30 - Legal Representation Struggles 00:18:00 - Support from Maureen 00:20:00 - Adoptee Citizenship Act 00:22:00 - Broader Adoptee Issues 00:24:00 - Call to Action 00:26:00 - Final Thoughts from Mike 00:32:00 - Conclusion and Resources | |||
| 13 Feb 2023 | Music That Connects and Heals with Paul Kimball | 00:29:26 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption Podcast, Beth talks with Paul Kimball, an adoptee from Northern California and author of the memoir We Are All Human Beings: An Adoptee Ponders. Music has always been a huge part of his life, and he currently works as a conductor, horn player, and school music teacher. He didn’t realize it at first, but when he reunited with his birth mother, the passion for music made sense. In this episode, we talk about the power of music to transcend time and space and connect individuals deeply. =============== 💌 Sign up for Unraveling Adoption’s email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Paul Kimball’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:35 Paul’s adoption story 4:10 Paul’s magnetic attraction to all things Armenian 5:40 Paul’s love for classical music, especially cello music 7:29 Finding Paul’s birth family 9:52 Paul’s adoptive family’s support of his music aspirations 11:30 Paul’s dream to perform with his birth mother 12:25 Spending time with Paul’s mom and half-sister, then his secondary rejection 15:44 Honoring his mother with a memorial 17:45 How music has kept Paul connected to his mother, and keeps Beth connected to her adopted son 21:45 The importance of family preservationism and listening to adult adoptees 23:35 How Paul and Joey process their intense emotions | |||
| 01 Jan 2022 | Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome (CHS) with Hugh Daschbach - Ep 22 | 00:28:39 | |
Recently, Joey was diagnosed with CHS, and we thought the world needed to know about this disorder. Hugh Dascbach is a friend’s husband who also has CHS, and in this episode, he and I talk about the symptoms, the recovery, and the need to get the word out about it. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== RESOURCES: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Here’s the CHS Facebook Support Group that Beth mentions in the podcast: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1726680267460882/?hoisted_section_header_type=recently_seen&multi_permalinks=4376818802447002 Cedars Sinai explains CHS: https://www.cedars-sinai.org/health-library/diseases-and-conditions/c/cannabinoid-hyperemesis-syndrome.html =============== TIME STAMPS: 0:34 What is CHS? 2:06 Hugh’s background with cannabis 3:06 Medical marijuana to manage anxiety 6:30 Hugh’s CHS symptoms 10:29 Hugh’s CHS diagnosis and recovery 11:34 Joey’s advantage of youth v. Hugh’s healing process 12:36 Hello anxiety and insomnia 14:12 Utilizing other coping skills 16:13 Gradual rise of symptoms, cannabis building up in the system 17:54 Hot showers is the tip-off 19:50 Is cannabis addictive? 20:28 Better ways to deal with anxiety and pain 21:38 Tolerance breaks 22:14 Stigma around weed-users and CHS 22:59 Life contains pain 26:08 Update about Joey’s doctor --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 11 Dec 2023 | Open Adoption's Balancing Act with Ben Coolman - Ep 123 | 00:30:07 | |
I think that it's definitely a complicated thing, no matter how great the conditions are. But it definitely did something for me to have contact with my biological part of the adoptee experience. - Ben Coolman If the adoptee in your life is feeling overwhelmed by conflicting loyalties and uncertainty about where they belong, we want them to know they are not alone! Despite their efforts to maintain relationships with both sets of parents, they may find themself feeling torn between two worlds and struggling to find their own identity. This is a common experience for many kids and young adult adoptees who grew up in open adoptions, but there are ways to navigate this journey and find one’s authentic self. In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guest is Ben Coolman Ben Coolman, a 23-year-old philosophy grad student at Boston College, joins Beth on this episode. Ben's unique experience as a same-race domestic adoptee in an open adoption from birth brings a fresh perspective to understanding the dynamics of open adoption. Growing up with other siblings (not biologically related) in open adoptions, Ben offers valuable insights on navigating relationships with multiple sets of parents and the impact of openness on his life. His candid approach and personal journey provide a relatable and insightful take on the complexities of open adoption, making this episode a must-listen for adoptive parents, young adult adoptees navigating similar experiences, and community members who want to understand adoption's complexities better. Here's how to find Ben:
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Navigating the Complexities =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 16 Jan 2023 | A Complicated Adoption Reunion Story with Alex Baquero - Ep 76 | 00:44:06 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast (formerly Safe Home Podcast), Beth talks with Alex Baquero, a 31yo from Philadelphia who was adopted at 6 months old from Colombia. His adoptive parents are white, and he started reuniting with his birth family 12 years ago. He shares his adoption story and his complicated reunion story, plus he lets us know what tools have helped him along the way. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption's email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Alex’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Alex’s adoption story as a child 5:15 Both extremes are invalidating to adoptees 6:46 Growing up Colombian in a white family and white suburbia 8:02 Alex’s initial search for his birth family 10:30 How adoptive parents often get in the way of adoptees’ healing and reunion 16:10 Reuniting with his Scandinavian sisters 19:24 How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has helped Alex 21:30 How Alex got connected with his birth mother in Colombia 24:22 The complexities of traveling in Colombia 25:35 How Covid added to the complexity of reunion with his mother 28:25 Meeting Alex’s father’s side of the family, unexpectedly 31:10 How Alex managed his emotions and thinking during his time in Colombia 33:35 Aftermath back at home 37:55 Telling his adoptive parents about his reunion 39:03 Going forward…what are Alex’s future plans? | |||
| 30 Oct 2023 | The Roller Coaster Ride of Reunion with Brian Stanton and Rick Wertz - Ep 117 | 00:45:24 | |
"You can't make this up. It's a beautiful journey of discovery and connection." - Rick Wertz Adoptees searching for their birth family are often met with dead-ends and heartache, which can be overwhelming. But Brian and Rick's story will give you hope. They demonstrate the grace and determination required to HANG ON when riding the complex roller coaster ride of reunion. In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guests are Brian Stanton and Rick Wertz Brian Stanton is an adoptee who has a captivating story to share. As an actor, filmmaker, and playwright living in Los Angeles, he has used his creative talents to explore his own adoption journey. Brian's award-winning solo play, Blank, delves into the complexities of adoption, and he further documented his search for birth family members in his film, @Ghost Kingdom. Brian's reunion with his birth father, Rick Wertz, adds another layer to his story. Their reunion, filled with twists and turns, has provided them both with valuable insights into the complexities of adoption and the challenges of building relationships with birth families. Through their personal experiences and the support of various adoption communities, Brian and Rick have gained a deeper understanding of the emotional journey adoptees and NPEs face. Their story is sure to resonate with those seeking guidance and connection in their own reunion journeys. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Building Relationships with Birth Families =============== Other Resources:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 15 Apr 2024 | Solving the Genetic Puzzle of Health Issues in Adoptees with January - Ep 141 | 00:28:52 | |
"I hate when people say that my life should be a movie. Can we just ban that phrase?" - January Read the transcript here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01HV5M7AN2D7GP4H2P1NBVSNMQ [Note the guest's name shifted from Jeremy to January after recording and publishing this audio episode] Episode Summary: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson delves into the complexities of adoption alongside her guest, January, a 24-year-old adopted person from Texas. January shares his journey of struggling with various health issues and neurodivergence, only to discover the genetic roots of his challenges after reuniting with his birth family in 2022. January's adoption story unfolds as he recounts being adopted in Albuquerque, New Mexico, from a birth family in Denver. Raised in Texas by adoptive parents who were open about his adoption but painted a negative picture of his birth mother, January grew up questioning his identity and health issues without a clear genetic history. As January navigates his health challenges, including asthma, joint pain, and dysautonomia, he sheds light on the importance of knowing one's genetic background for proper diagnosis and treatment. With a recent diagnosis of hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS), January emphasizes the need for healthcare professionals to recognize and address invisible disabilities like EDS. Through his journey of self-discovery and reunion with his birth family, January finds validation and understanding in shared experiences with relatives who also have EDS. He highlights the significance of acceptance and support from adoptive families, healthcare providers, and the community in addressing the unique needs of adoptees with complex medical histories. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on the impact of closed adoptions, ableism, and stigma surrounding birth parents, as Beth and January advocate for a more inclusive and informed approach to adoption and healthcare. The episode concludes with a call to action for spreading awareness and support for adoptees facing health challenges and seeking reunion. To connect with January and explore more adoption-related content, visit his Instagram account, Borderline Adoptee. Additionally, listeners are invited to engage with Unraveling Adoption through their website and Patreon community to support ongoing discussions and resources for adoptive families and individuals impacted by adoption. Stay tuned for more insightful conversations and stories on Unraveling Adoption. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: http://unravelingadoption.com/calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: http://unravelingadoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
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| 19 Sep 2022 | A Transracial Adoption Story with Darcy Mittelstaedt - Ep 60 | 00:48:47 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Darcy Mittelstaedt, an adult adoptee originally from Korea, and adopted into a dysfunctional family in Nebraska at age 2. Once she came out of the fog, as they say in adoption-land, and came to terms with her relinquishment trauma and chaotic adoptive family life, she turned toward her adoption agency. She now helps inform the adoption agency’s families about relinquishment trauma and the struggles that interculturally adopted people have. Hers is a story of resilience and hope that I’m sure everyone, whether or not you are affected by adoption personally, will appreciate hearing. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Darcy’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:50 Darcy’s difficult childhood story 5:00 Darcy’s parent’s controlling style 7:49 Food control 10:33 The impact of Darcy’s parents’ divorce 12:14 The end of the road for Darcy 15:45 The family that rescued Darcy 18:05 Darcy’s compliant temperament and the role of the church 24:58 Darcy’s job at Boys Town 27:01 How Darcy collaborates with her adoption agency 32:15 Growing up as an Asian in a Nebraska farmtown 39:58 The importance of mirroring for adoptees 44:58 Hope for anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 17 Jul 2023 | How to Be an Anti-Racist in Adoptive Families with Lanise Antoine Shelley - Ep 102 | 00:50:18 | |
How To Be an Anti-Racist in Adoptive Families with Lanise Antoine Shelley"It's vital to feel a sense of connectivity to your name, to your environment, and to the people that you choose to love." - Lanise Antoine Shelley If you're an adoptee who's feeling a constant sense of disconnection and confusion as you try to fit into a world that doesn't fully understand or appreciate your unique transracial adoptee experience, then you are not alone! Many adoptees may find themselves struggling to navigate their identity, grasping at societal norms and expectations that do not align with their true selves. Despite their efforts to assimilate, they may still face rejection, ignorance, and a persistent feeling of being othered. This painful reality often leads to a deep yearning for acceptance and a strong desire to reclaim their authentic identity, free from the confines of societal expectations. And if you're an adoptive parent in an interracial or intercultural adoption, open your heart up to some possibly uncomfortable but extremely important truths about race in this episode. ===============
📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Lanise Antoine Shelley From the vibrant landscapes of Haiti to California's suburban tapestry, Lanise Antoine Shelley's journey transcends geographical boundaries and cultural transitions. Engrossed in the world of arts as a skilled actor, director, and painter, she deftly weaves her personal narrative of adoption into her work. Born in Saint Michel, Haiti, and transracially adopted in the USA, Lanise's intimate narrative strikes a chord with every adoptee struggling to reconcile their adoptive and biological identities. As the host of the podcast 'When They Were Young," she's amplifying adoptee voices and highlighting the importance of reclaiming one's identity. Her unique insights and empathetic approach provide an indispensable resource for transracial adoptees searching for belonging, and for adoptive parents who are open to learning new tools. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption
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| 23 Sep 2024 | Unpacking Adoption Trauma: Insights from an Adoptive Parent with Stacey Uhrig - Ep 164 | 00:36:35 | |
“They [our kids] can't be more regulated than you are. They can only be as regulated as the least regulated person in the house.” - Stacey Uhrig EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Stacey Uhrig, an adoptive parent and certified trauma recovery coach. Stacey shared her journey into adoption, which began after her own struggles with infertility. She emphasized the emotional complexities and challenges that come with adoption, particularly the trauma that both adoptees and adoptive parents may face. Stacey discussed her experiences raising two boys adopted from Korea and the significant insights she gained about trauma, attachment, and the impact of early disruptions in a child's life. We explored the importance of understanding the emotional wounds that children may carry from their past experiences, even before they come into our homes. Throughout our conversation, we highlighted the need for adoptive parents to do their own emotional work in order to better support their children. Stacey shared valuable resources, including her own ebook, What is Trauma Really?, and her podcast, Flip Your Mindset, both of which aim to educate and empower those affected by adoption. We also touched on the misconceptions surrounding trauma and the importance of approaching parenting with empathy and an open mind. This episode serves as a reminder that understanding adoption trauma is crucial for creating a nurturing environment for our children. I hope this conversation resonates with adoptive parents and encourages them to seek knowledge and support in their parenting journey. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Stacey’s contact information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction 00:01:00 - Stacey's Adoption Journey 00:03:30 - Challenges in Adoption 00:06:00 - Understanding Adoption Trauma 00:08:30 - Lack of Resources 00:10:30 - Importance of Education 00:12:30 - Personal Growth 00:15:00 - Impact of Early Experiences 00:18:00 - Parental Responsibility 00:21:00 - Coaching Approach 00:24:00 - Nature of Trauma 00:27:00 - Self-Reflection for Parents 00:30:00 - Work with Adoptees 00:33:00 - Conclusion and Resources
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| 12 Jun 2023 | Exposing the Dangers of Secrets & Lies with Greg Rostron - Ep 97 | 00:49:01 | |
Discover how late discovery adoptee (LDA) Greg Rostron exposes the danger of secrets and lies for adoptees’ mental health in this compelling and emotional episode. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Greg Rostron Greg Rostron is a late discovery adoptee from Sydney, Australia, who has bravely embarked on a journey of personal growth and healing after uncovering the truth about his adoption. Having spent much of his life unaware of this pivotal information, Greg experienced firsthand the impact that secrets and lies can have on an adoptee's mental health. Since reading The Primal Wound a few years ago, Greg has dedicated himself to advocacy and sharing his powerful story, emphasizing the importance of transparency and open communication within adoptive families. By addressing his own challenges and struggles, Greg has become an inspiration for others who are grappling with similar revelations about their past. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== The Importance of Sharing Information Timestamped summary of this episode:
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| 27 Feb 2023 | We Are Not Our Trauma with Simon Benn | 00:29:48 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Simon Benn, an adoptee living near York, England and host of Thriving Adoptees podcast. I was recently on his show, so I wanted him to be on our show as well. Trading podcasts across the globe. Simon has been on a healing journey for the last 13 or so years, after a discovery about his adoption that rocked his world. He wants to help other adoptees move toward healing with his podcast and webinars. =============== 💌 Sign up for Unraveling Adoption’s email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Simon’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:18 Simon’s adoption story and childhood 4:14 What Simon’s adoption file revealed about his birth mother 7:35 Revelations and epiphanies 10:05 What is the primal wound? What is wounded? Simon’s new metaphor 18:55 There’s no such thing as a second-hand insight 21:23 Simon’s advice for adoptees coming “out of the fog” 25:05 Simon reading his poems “Beneath” and “After the Fog” | |||
| 15 Jan 2024 | Podcasting to Elevate Adoptee Voices with Sarah Reinhardt and Louise Browne - Ep 128 | 00:38:44 | |
"Adoptive parents, go do your own work. It's kind of a natural birthright to know who you are." - Louise Browne Adoptive parents and allies: Do you want to better understand and support your adoptive child's experiences? Our guests, adoptees Sarah Reinhardt and Louise Browne, will be sharing valuable insights and guidance on how to gain a deeper understanding and provide the support that adoptees need to thrive. By listening to their stories - and other adoptees' stories they share on their Adoption: The Making of Me podcast episodes - you can gain a deeper understanding and provide the necessary support for your adoptive child to flourish. Tune in to gain some new insights to support your adoptive child's journey. In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guests are Sarah Reinhardt and Louise Brownee Sarah Reinhardt and Louise Browne are the dynamic duo behind the podcast Adoption: The Making of Me. As adoptees themselves, they bring their personal stories and insights in a candid and relatable manner on their own pod. Through their podcast, they aim to unravel the complexities of adoption, offering a blend of humor, empathy, and raw honesty. Sarah and Louise's journey of coming "out of the fog" in real-time adds authenticity and depth to their discussions, making their podcast an invaluable resource for adoptive parents and allies seeking to understand and support their children's experiences. Get ready to dive into their fascinating stories and gain a deeper understanding of adoption through their eyes. And find out more about their podcast's background and hopes for the future. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Timestamped summary of this episode:
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| 11 Jul 2022 | Yoga for Healing Trauma with Lorah Gerald - Ep 50 | 00:49:21 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lorah Gerald, an adoptee, an intuitive, a Kundalini Yoga Instructor, and writer. Lorah hopes to help others heal their trauma, adopted or not, by sharing her lived experiences as an adoptee as well as her education in breath work, energy healing and natural intuitive abilities. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lorah’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Holding feelings about adoption trauma inside v. healing in community 2:49 Lorah’s adoption story as a Baby Scoop Era domestic adoptee 4:40 A better life or just a different life? 6:40 What Beth was told about adoption trauma when she adopted Joey 8:32 What Lorah’s adoptive parents knew about adoption trauma 9:20 How Lorah acted out as a teen and how she avoided addiction 10:38 Lorah’s reunion story 15:34 Lorah’s mother’s forced hysterectomy 16:46 Lorah’s reaction to her adoption story as told by her parents 20:28 Lorah’s reunion story, continued 26:40 Lorah’s healing path - yoga, reiki, reading, etc. 28:35 Kundalini yoga & processing trauma through our bodies 34:55 Other physical trauma-healing tools that Lorah uses 39:03 Adoptee-only yoga sessions 41:43 How yoga has helped Lorah with trauma and well-being --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 02 Jan 2023 | Transitioning from Safe Home Podcast to Unraveling Adoption - Ep 74 | 00:21:25 | |
In this very special episode, Beth Syverson, host of Safe Home Podcast, explains her pivot to Unraveling Adoption. This is the last episode of Safe Home, and the first episode of Unraveling Adoption. She explains what the new title means, what the future plans are, and she provides ways for everyone to help get the new podcast launched. =============== 💌 Sign up for our email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Beth’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome Unraveling Adoption is created by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Amanda Mullins Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Thanks to all those who’ve helped make Safe Home Podcast happen, and some stats 9:17 Why are we making the pivot to Unraveling Adoption? 10:50 What does Unraveling Adoption mean? 13:05 What are our plans for the future? 16:26 Ways you can help --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 21 Nov 2022 | Coping with OCD's Intrusive Thoughts with Katherine Osborne - Ep 68 | 00:32:02 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with a family friend of hers from church - Katherine Osborne. Katherine shared with the church that she was recently diagnosed with OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I thought it might be good for our audience to learn from an eloquent teen how OCD feels. Nowadays people joke that they have OCD when they’re bothered when something doesn’t quite line up, or if one tile is a different color. You see memes about OCD all the time. But that’s a very simplistic view of OCD that doesn’t honor the lived experience of people who struggle with this disorder every day of their lives. In this episode, Katherine explains her own lived experience of OCD, and she mentions things she’s learned so far. But of course neither of us are OCD experts or healthcare professionals. We recommend getting professional help if you or someone you know might be struggling with OCD or any mental health issues. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Resources about OCD that Katherine recommends:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS 1:12 Katherine’s hobbies & college activities 2:25 When did Katherine’s OCD symptoms start? (Thank you, COVID. ☹️) 3:46 How Katherine experiences OCD in cycles - obsessions and compulsions 6:30 What are intrusive thoughts? 8:54 How does Katherine manage her OCD? 10:22 How Katherine was diagnosed with OCD. Did her diagnosis make things better or worse? 14:00 How OCD has affected Katherine’s social life 15:45 How do Katherine’s family and friends support her when she’s having a bad OCD day? 18:11 Is OCD more common for adults and teens? Is it growing? 19:40 Katherine’s advice to parents of teens? 24:13 Can someone pull an OCD sufferer out of an OCD cycle? 27:20 First steps if you’re curious if you might have OCD --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 23 Oct 2021 | Relapse from the Parents' Perspective - Ep 12 | 00:36:17 | |
It’s been 6 weeks since Joey relapsed and moved back to his dad’s house. In this episode, Jan and Beth talk about how they’re dealing with his downward spiral. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ======================================= RESOURCES: And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling: Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
TIME STAMPS: 1:17 The relapse story continues, 6 weeks later 2:13 Keeping a positive connection 4:47 Parents’ reaction to Joey getting caught stealing 6:05 Beth’s dream for society’s support for troubled teens 8:16 “Come, Come, Whoever You Are” 9:44 Safe Home approach v Tough Love approach 10:55 Our parental anxiety during relapse 12:25 Joey’s 2nd traumatic event in one night 13:47 Joey ditched Jan and Beth for pumpkin patch date 16:20 Joey “losing credibility” 19:00 Our advice for parents with kids who relapse 26:25 How Joey’s adoption contributed to his pain 27:20 What Jan and Beth would do differently if they could do it all over 28:05 Joey’s birthday angst 30:00 Some of the signs of trouble that Jan and Beth missed 34:09 Take the spotlight off your kid sometimes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 04 Dec 2021 | Joey's New Job - Ep 18 | 00:15:27 | |
In this episode, Joey joins Beth to talk about his NEW JOB! It’s his first real job and he’s found something he really loves to do. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ======================================= MORE RESOURCES: Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling ======================================= Websites that Joey mentions in this episode: Indeed job search engine: https://www.indeed.com/ Mint financial app: ======================================= TIME STAMPS: 0:49 Joey’s new job and how it’s going so far 4:06 Joey hit the wall with depression about a week in 4:56 Using substances and holding a job 6:41 Joey’s previous work experience 8:12 Career path with the dogs 10:05 Budget lesson --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 09 Dec 2024 | Navigating Identity: A Korean Adoptee's Journey with Nathan Nowack - Ep 174 | 00:26:12 | |
"I...sometimes I forget that I'm Asian unless I see myself in a mirror." -- Nathan Nowack Read the Transcript: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JEAFSD4KFY07AFGENGAPDN7A EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Nathan Nowack, a Korean adoptee, professional photographer, and co-host of The Janchi Show. Nathan shared his adoption story, having been adopted from Korea at just five and a half months old and raised in a predominantly white community in Oklahoma. He reflected on his childhood, noting the lack of cultural representation and the challenges of navigating his Asian identity in a world that often sees him as different. We discussed the complexities of transracial adoption, including the impact of his parents' approach to race and culture. Nathan emphasized the importance of understanding and acknowledging one's racial identity, especially in a society that often overlooks these nuances. He shared his experiences with microaggressions and the emotional toll they can take on adoptees, highlighting the need for greater awareness and sensitivity. Nathan also spoke about his involvement with KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network) and how connecting with other adoptees has been instrumental in his healing journey. He described the sense of community he found there and the importance of sharing diverse adoption stories, acknowledging that each experience is unique. As a father of three multiple-ethnicity children, Nathan is committed to helping them understand their cultural heritage. He shared how he incorporates Asian traditions and celebrations into their lives, ensuring they have a strong sense of identity. This conversation was rich with insights into the complexities of adoption, identity, and community. I hope listeners find Nathan's story as inspiring and enlightening as I did. Be sure to check out The Janchi Show and connect with Nathan on Instagram for more of his journey and perspectives. Thank you for joining us, and I look forward to our next episode! =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Nathan’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:26 - Nathan's Adoption Story 00:02:50 - Cultural Representation in Upbringing 00:03:50 - Transracial Adoption and Parental Awareness 00:05:32 - The Melting Pot Mentality 00:06:52 - Microaggressions and Identity 00:08:38 - Community and Connection 00:09:18 - Involvement with KAAN 00:10:56 - Upcoming KAAN Conference 00:11:41 - Healing Through Shared Stories 00:12:30 - The Complexity of Adoption Stories 00:13:44 - Reunion with Biological Family 00:15:17 - Communication Challenges with Siblings 00:16:37 - Sibling Trauma and Adoption 00:17:45 - Parenting Mixed-Race Children 00:19:15 - Cultural Education for Children 00:20:37 - Food and Cultural Connection 00:21:50 - Living Through His Children 00:22:45 - Closing Thoughts and Resources | |||
| 20 Feb 2023 | Engagement Journalism to Elevate Voices of Adoption with Amanda Kari McHugh - Ep 81 | 00:47:45 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Amanda Kari McHugh, an adoptee and an engagement journalist who is making her mark on the adoption community with her project Voices of Adoption which you can find on TikTok, Instagram, and Substack. In this project she elevates the voices of adoptees and birth mothers. Stay tuned for ways you might be able to participate in this project! Amanda is pursuing a double masters in journalism and engagement from grad school at the Craig Newmark Graduate School of Journalism at CUNY. She hopes to be a resource to help other adoptees and also to help other journalists find good adoption data. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Amanda’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:25 Amanda’s adoption story and childhood 4:25 Kudos to Amanda’s school counselor for knowing about adoption-competent therapists 5:50 Amanda’s attachment style is complicated 7:09 How lack of family medical history impacts adoptees 10:00 Advocating for adoption reform and dealing with pushback 12:00 Blasting apart adoption myths, getting people angry at her 14:35 Pushback has improved Amanda’s reporting 15:20 Where does Amanda find adoption data? Who keeps track of “goods transferred?” 18:50 Privacy laws - are they a farce? 20:00 The Yelp of adoption agency databases idea 20:44 Voices of Adoption on TikTok and Instagram 22:38 Objectivity is a myth but we can try to understand the other points of view 24:11 What exactly is engagement journalism? 25:00 “Domestic supply of infants” necessitated discussion about adoption and abortion 27:12 Amanda’s TikTok video (audio only) 29:25 The aftermath of the viral video 32:37 How the Voices of Adoption on Substack will create community-sourced resources 35:50 Amanda’s dream for collective members to get paid for their emotional labor 39:09 How to participate in Amanda’s projects and join the Voices of Adoption community 41:04 The importance of moderators in social media 44:11 How we can share our stories safely and authentically to help people coming out of the fog | |||
| 05 Jun 2023 | Acknowledging Grief and Loss in Adoption with Beth Tyson - Ep 96 | 00:59:16 | |
In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, trauma expert Beth Tyson discusses the often overlooked and misdiagnosed effects of ambiguous loss on children in foster care and adoptive families, calling for greater awareness and emphasis on connection to mitigate the impacts of trauma. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Beth Tyson Beth Tyson is a childhood trauma consultant, trainer, bestselling author, and public speaker who has dedicated her career to helping children and families affected by trauma. With a Master's degree in Clinical Counseling, she has worked with children in foster care, adoption, and kinship families to help them understand and cope with their experiences. Beth Tyson's passion for supporting these families has led her to create Connections Matter Academy, an animated short video series, and an award-winning children's picture book, "A Grand Family for Sullivan." By sharing her expertise with us, she aims to raise awareness about the impact of grief and loss in adoption and foster care systems, and help adoptive parents and community allies better understand adopted and fostered children's experiences. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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| 02 Oct 2021 | Stimulants - with Jan Mabie - Ep 9 | 00:36:39 | |
In this episode, Jan talks with Beth about her experience with speed in her 20s, plus other stimulants she's used (and continues to use). =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com
Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon
RESOURCES: Narcotics Anonymous: https://na.org/ “ADHD Prescription Drug Abuse: Do You Know Why It’s Wrong?” https://parenting.kars4kids.org/adhd-prescription-drug-abuse-know-wrong/
Here are some resources for teens and others who are struggling right now: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 800-273-8255 - 24/7 Lifeline Chat: https://Suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat - 24/7 Teen Line: call 310-855-HOPE 6-10pm PST Or text TEEN to 839863 Talk to other trained teens Youthline: call 877-968-8491 4-10pm PST Or text Teen2Teen to 839863. Need2Text: text TALK to 38255 24/7
And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling: Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
TIME STAMPS: 1:00 Update on Joey’s status 3:20 Jan’s history with using speed 6:56 What it feels like to be on speed 8:00 Why Jan got kicked out of the Air Force 11:05 Jan’s low point led her to using speed 12:06 How stimulants affect hunger and weight 13:20 Cocaine v speed 16:11 Why Jan quit using stimulants 18:00 Jan’s first NA meeting 21:55 Why Jan was drawn to stimulants v depressants 22:47 Jan made do with low-paying jobs 27:46 Caffeine, chocolate, and sugar as stimulants 31:15 Ritalin and Adderall used and sold by kids --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 14 Mar 2022 | Tapping (EFT) with Andy Bryce - Ep 33 | 00:54:23 | |
In this week’s episode we will dive into a wonderfully effective and low-tech healing modality called EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique - or it’s sometimes just called Tapping. Beth’s guest is Andy Bryce, one of 26 remaining Founding EFT Masters in the world. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques, which combines psychology and acupuncture. Andy takes Beth through a mini EFT session as part of this episode. THIS EPISODE IS ALSO AVAILABLE AS A VIDEO ON YOUTUBE because of the visual content of the tapping session. Find the video of this episode here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYoW-LxFFes2EX71ENcFVCQ =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: How to find Andy Bryce:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:13 What is EFT? 4:50 Emotions come in waves 7:20 What spurred Andy’s interest in alternative healing modalities? 10:00 EFT can be done with a practitioner or alone 11:45 All ages can benefit from EFT 16:08 How EFT can help parents calm their anxiety about their struggling teens 21:50 EFT can help cure phobias 22:23 Beth’s mini EFT session with Andy 37:02 How to help our children find meaning --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 19 Feb 2024 | A Disappeared Adoptee Reunites with Revolutionary Roots - with Nelson de Witt - Ep 133 | 00:27:35 | |
My adoptive father talked about it as my birthright to go back to Central America. I really like that framing. So I think that was part of the reason why they let me go on so many trips and that was such a wonderful experience. - Nelson de Witt Discover the shocking truth about Nelson de Witt's journey to uncover his past after being adopted from Central America. His story is a heart-wrenching tale of forced disappearances, political strife, and the courage to face the truth. Nelson's experiences will leave you in awe and disbelief as he navigates the complexities of adoption and the impact of historical and cultural tragedies. Stay tuned to learn more about Nelson's daring quest for truth and how it continues to shape his life today. In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guest is Nelson de Witt Nelson de Witt, also known as Nelson/Roberto, is an advocate and survivor of El Salvador's civil war. He experienced a forced disappearance as a one-year-old and was reunited with his birth family at the age of 16. Nelson's personal story sheds light on the impact of forced disappearances on families. Through his experiences, he brings a unique perspective that helps to unravel the complexities of adoption and the historical and cultural context of the forced disappearances in Central and South America. His insights and advocacy work contribute to a greater understanding of the profound effects of such events on those involved - adopted or not. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Impact of Forced Disappearances Political Conflicts in Central America =============== Other Resources:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 16 Dec 2024 | Abortion and Adoption: Insights from Sociological Research with Gretchen Sisson - Ep 175 | 00:33:37 | |
"I use the language of supply and demand because this is a market-based system and it's uncomfortable for a lot of people, right? Because you're talking about a supply and demand of human beings." -- Gretchen Sisson Read the transcript here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JESZ6VPKJMRTMRHX6ZMBHDB7
EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Gretchen Sisson, the author of the acclaimed book Relinquished: The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood. Gretchen's work stems from a decade-long qualitative sociological study that delves into the experiences of relinquishing mothers and critiques the American adoption system. We discussed her journey into this research, which began while she was working with pregnant and parenting young people in Boston. Gretchen highlighted the stigmatization of young motherhood and the disconnect between societal narratives and the lived experiences of these women. Her research emphasizes the complexities of adoption, particularly how it intersects with issues of reproductive health and justice. Gretchen shared insights from her book, revealing that the majority of women who are denied access to abortion end up parenting their children, with only a small percentage choosing adoption. This led to a discussion about the implications of the recent Dobbs decision and its potential impact on adoption rates, as well as the troubling commodification of children within the adoption system. Throughout our conversation, we explored the reactions to her book from both the adoption community and the broader public. While many adoptees have resonated with her work, some adoptive parents have expressed defensiveness. We emphasized the importance of listening to adoptees and understanding the systemic issues surrounding adoption. Gretchen also touched on the need for better support systems for both adoptive parents and adoptees, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of family structures and the complexities of parenting. We concluded with a call to action for listeners to engage with the voices of adoptees and to consider the broader implications of adoption in our society. I encourage everyone to check out Gretchen's book, available in various formats, and to connect with her on social media. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation about adoption and its many layers. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Gretchen’s information:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption | |||
| 08 May 2023 | Tracing Roots: Genealogy and Adoption with Julie Dixon Jackson - Ep 92 | 00:51:45 | |
If you're feeling the crushing disappointment and heartache of repeatedly hitting dead ends in your search for biological family despite exhaustive DNA testing and genealogy research, then you are not alone! In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Julie Dixon Jackson, an empathetic and skilled genetic genealogist hailing from Southern California. As an adoptee born in Australia during the Baby Scoop era, Julie spent over two decades searching for her biological family. In this episode, she shares her expertise by helping fellow adoptees, NPEs, and donor-conceived individuals discover their origins through her company, CutOff Genes Investigations. Julie also hosts the CutOff Genes podcast, which delves into a variety of DNA-related topics, particularly in the context of adoption. Join Beth Syverson as she chats with Julie about the vital role genetic genealogy plays in uncovering family origins. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Searching for Biological Family Learning About Her Family History
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| 05 Aug 2024 | Rituals and Relationships in Adoption Reunion with Elizabeth Barbour - Ep 157 | 00:26:10 | |
"I think my mom, my adoptive mom, was probably scared that she was going to lose me to my birth family." -- Elizabeth Barbour EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson interviews guest Elizabeth Barbour, an adoptee who has been in reunion with her birth parents and 11 siblings since 1999. Elizabeth shares her personal adoption story and highlights the importance of navigating search and reunion in a healthy way. She emphasizes the need for support, education, and personal growth for all members of the adoption triad. Elizabeth also discusses the significance of rituals and ceremonies in maintaining long-term relationships post-reunion. Additionally, she mentions her upcoming book on adoption reunion and the spiritual journey she has experienced through adoption. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Adoption and Reunion
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| 06 Mar 2023 | Exploring Healing Arts to Process Trauma with Kelsay Elizabeth Myers - Ep 83 | 00:37:25 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Kelsay Elizabeth Myers, a professional writer, artist, and somatic movement educator living in Marin County, CA. She is passionate about personal and social transformation for trauma healing. She's a Korean transnational adoptee who has been on a healing journey the last several years, after spending the first 32 years of her life in self-destructive behavior patterns. Kelsay founded Dialogical Persona Healing Arts where she offers individual and group coaching programs and online courses that use expressive arts and transformational processes to help others discover new ways of understanding themselves, reclaim their creative flow and feel more settled in their whole system, so they, too can experience more power, excitement, and joy in life. She is currently a Ph.D student of Transformative Inquiry at California Institute of Integral Studies where she uses a variety of psychological approaches and arts-based research practices for trauma integration and wholeness. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kelsay’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 Kelsay’s adoption story and childhood, including racist microaggressions and bullying 4:58 Kelsay’s racial identity 7:20 Which was worse, racial trauma or adoption trauma? 10:40 How Kelsay’s trauma manifested in abusive relationships 13:20 Intuitively realizing her sexual abuse in foster care through her “felt sense” 15:26 Conscious dancing to begin her healing journey 18:05 Kelsay’s training in somatic movement healing modalities 22:45 How somatic movement has helped Kelsay deal with racism triggers 24:39 Somatic movement to help kids 27:37 Autoimmune conditions and somatic movement 30:57 Our culture’s mind/body split 32:05 Kelsay’s advice for transracial/intercountry adoptive parents | |||
| 23 May 2022 | Cannabis Science and Side Effects with Jason Wilson - Ep 43 | 00:57:49 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Joey joins Beth to talk with Jason Wilson about the science and side effects of cannabis. Jason is a botanist, educator, author, and podcaster whose primary interest right now is cannabis. He studies the chemistry and microbiology of cannabis, and has unique expertise in quality management systems and regulatory compliance in the burgeoning cannabis growing industry. He published a science textbook “Curious About Cannabis” and has a podcast with the same name. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jason’s information:
Anonymous testing of substances: https://www.drugsdata.org/ CHS Genetic Testing: https://shop.endodna.com/products/chs-dna-susceptibility-test =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson; Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao; Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson; Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com; Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube; Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 0:57 Jason Wilson’s intro and expertise 2:51 How today’s cannabis compares to the cannabis parents used back in the day 6:09 Jason’s concerns about modern synthetic products like Delta 8 THC 9:50 Different types of testing - qualitative and quantitative 14:32 How can consumers know if their product is good quality 17:28 How clean are dispensary products? 18:50 The dangers of street drugs from the black market 24:00 Vape industry marketing to kids 24:36 Is it “just” cannabis? 24:50 Can you get addicted to cannabis? 28:25 Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome (CHS) and stigma 31:12 Communicating with your kids about cannabis 32:42 The unique chemistry of edible cannabis, which packs a powerful punch 35:55 How much cannabis does Joey use? 37:28 Bi-phasic effect of cannabis - high dose v. low dose 39:50 Remedies for cannabis overdoses or overwhelm 43:00 High doses of cannabis can make psychiatric problems worse 43:35 Fentanyl in weed and how to test for it 36:35 Safest ways to use cannabis 49:48 Jason’s advice to parents about how to communicate with our kids about cannabis --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 11 Mar 2024 | Unveiling Biracial Identity with Bethany Fraser - Ep 136 | 00:30:38 | |
"I was always trying to fit in and chameleon wherever I was." -- Bethany Fraser TranscriptRead this episode's transcript: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01HR5W5M78X0PE4FV5GJNREW2AIn this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes guest Bethany Fraser, an adoptee and host of The Adoptee Diaries podcast. The conversation delves into the complexities of adoption, focusing on the impact of secrets and identity issues within the adoption experience. Bethany shares her personal journey of discovering her biracial identity in her 40s, after a secret about her ethnicity was kept from her by her adoptive parents. The discussion explores the emotional and psychological effects of this deception on Bethany's identity, psyche, and relationships. Throughout the episode, Bethany reflects on her experience as an adoptee, highlighting the importance of truth, trust, and transparency in adoption. She emphasizes the need for adoptive parents to be open and honest with their children about their origins and ethnicity, to foster a sense of belonging and self-awareness. The conversation is candid and heartfelt, with both hosts sharing their vulnerabilities and insights into the complexities of adoption. Beth and Bethany aim to create a space for adoptees to share their stories and find support within the adoption community. ===============
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| 19 Jun 2023 | Magnifying Adoptee Voices with Jennifer Dyan Ghoston - Ep 98 | 00:47:27 | |
Magnifying Adoptee Voices with Jennifer Dyan GhostonIn this episode of Unraveling Adoption, fellow podcaster Jennifer Dyan Ghoston shares her experiences as an adoptee and advocate. She raises up the importance of amplifying adoptee voices, particularly for Black same-race adoptees. But as the conversation comes to an end, a thought-provoking question lingers: are adoptive parents and allies doing enough to truly understand and support their adoptee's experiences? Tune in to find out. In this episode, you will be able to:
📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX My special guest is Jennifer Dyan Ghoston Jennifer Dyan Ghoston is a captivating storyteller, former detective for the Chicago PD, and passionate advocate for adoptees. Born into a closed, same-race adoption, she eventually reunited with her biological family and began a new quest to understand and support fellow adoptees. As the warm and empathetic host of the Once Upon a Time in Adoptee Land podcast, Jennifer shares her experiences and amplifies the voices of other adoptees while providing guidance to adoptive parents like our host Beth Syverson. Through her journey, she aims to promote openness and understanding within the adoption community, demonstrating her dedication to empowering others with her unique perspective and experience. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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| 10 Apr 2023 | Navigating Transracial Adoption with Amanda Baum - Ep 88 | 00:33:03 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Amanda Baum, co-founder of Fireside Adoptees Facebook Group. They recently launched a sister site called Fireside Adoptees Constellation which is open to anyone touched by adoption. Now living in North Carolina, she is an intercountry adoptee originally from Mexico but adopted into Utah. Amanda will be talking about how being a transracial adoptee has affected her life. And she will talk about ways she gets and gives support in the adoption community. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Amanda’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Amanda’s childhood and adoption story as a Mexican intercountry transracial adoptee 4:38 Culture shock of moving to a bigger, more diverse school 6:48 The difficulties of growing up as a transracially adopted child 9:57 Creating a blended transracial family 12:33 Amanda’s unfruitful search (so far) and the start of her activity in the adoption community 14:23 Microaggressions and bullying makes her feel “found out,” navigating race as a transracial adoptee 19:57 Connecting with other Mexican and Latin American adoptees 21:12 How and why Amanda started Fireside Adoptees 27:00 Why she named it Fireside Adoptees and what resources the groups offer 29:04 Let’s get curious!
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| 11 Sep 2023 | Reimagining Culture's Adoption Narratives with Gayle Swift - Ep 110 | 00:46:51 | |
Reimagining Culture's Adoption Narratives with Gayle Swift"What our children need is our common ground, our empathy, our support. They need us to step into their lens and understand their pain and feelings."- Gayle Swift What if the prevailing mindset surrounding adoption isn't as positive as we think? In this eye-opening conversation between Beth and adoption expert Gayle Swift, the US culture's (and churches') impact on adoption is challenged. It may cause you to question everything you thought you knew about adoption. Which adoption myths do you believe? And are you willing to view it differently - from an adoptees' perspective? In this episode, you will be able to:
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=============== My special guest is Gayle Swift Gayle Swift is a compassionate and understanding advocate for adoption, armed with both personal experience and professional knowledge. Diagnosed with cancer at a young age which took away her ability to get pregnant, Gayle and her husband took the path of adoption, solidifying a decision they'd made earlier in life. Now, she's an author of three influential and insightful books focused on adoption for varying age groups. Her mission isn’t confined to writing as she also co-founded 'Growing Intentional Families Together', a platform aimed at educating and supporting adoptive families. An adoptive parent herself, she shines a light on the intricate complexities of adoption, dispelling myths and encouraging a deep understanding. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Understanding the Impact of the Ghost Kingdom Acknowledging Adoptees' Heritage and Interests ===============
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption
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| 19 Aug 2024 | The Stolen Legacy of Indigenous Adoption with Pete Patton - Ep 159 | 00:28:19 | |
"I really want to focus on the collective nature of being stolen, because it wasn't just me. It was the vast majority of Native adoptees." -- Pete Patton Episode Summary:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, co-hosted by Beth Syverson and her son Joey, they interview Pete Patton,LCSW, an Indigenous Inuit adoptee who shares his experiences of being stolen and adopted. Pete discusses the historical context of racism in Oregon and the impact it had on Native American communities there and elsewhere. He also delves into his journey of reconnecting with his Indigenous heritage and the healing process he has undergone. Pete highlights the importance of understanding the collective experiences of adoptees and the need for reconnection with ancestors. The conversation sheds light on the complexities of adoption and the importance of listening to and learning from Indigenous voices. The episode emphasizes the significance of acknowledging and honoring the stories of adoptees and the importance of cultural reconnection for healing.
Photo Credit for cover photo of Pete: Alberto Moreno ================ 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Pete’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS
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| 12 Dec 2022 | Destigmatizing Mental Illness with Amanda Lipp - Ep 71 | 00:39:48 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Amanda Lipp, a documentary filmmaker and social entrepreneur working at the intersection of mental health, storytelling, and technology. Amanda has produced over 80 short documentaries about mental health and social impact - covering topics such as youth psychosis, schizophrenia, art therapy, cyberbullying prevention, and housing relief from wildfires. A passionate mental health advocate, she has given over 150 speeches around the U.S. since age 18 sharing her journey navigating the mental health system. Amanda is passionate about mental health leadership, policy change, and tying films to mental health research studies. She serves on the Mental Health Advisory Panel at Google, and the Interdepartmental Serious Mental Illness Committee (ISMICC) created by Congress to advise on federal mental health policy. Amanda formerly served on the board of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), the largest grassroots mental health nonprofit in the U.S. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== RESOURCES: Amanda’s information:
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=============== TIME STAMPS: 2:09 Amanda’s lived experience with mental illness 6:05 Sports injuries and Amanda’s depression 9:50 Using drugs like an emotional credit card 11:05 Amanda’s support system and challenges of parenting a “problem child” 12:55 Amanda’s major mental breakdown as a college freshman - The Truman Show Delusion 15:08 Psychiatrist ICU and outpatient services from induced psychosis 17:50 Amanda’s daily regimen to maintain her mental health 22:40 Behind the scenes in mental health organizations 24:00 Amanda’s reprise of The Truman Show Delusion and how her parents handled it 26:37 The danger of cops responding to mental health crises, and the hope of the new 988 lifeline 28:50 The importance of compassion and curiosity in responding to psychiatric emergencies 31:50 Advice for how to be supportive to your loved one struggling with mental illness 33:46 How Amanda’s sexual identity intersected with her mental health 35:50 Seek out access points for professional help before a crisis occurs 36:43 Befriending all parts of ourselves with grace, and lean on community
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| 24 Apr 2023 | Ethical and Conscious Adoption with Astrid Castro - Ep 90 | 00:56:04 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Astrid Castro, Founder and CEO of Adoption Mosaic. She’s a transracial intercountry adoptee, coming from Colombia at the age of 4 along with her older sister. She has been in reunion with her birth family since 2012. Her organization, Adoption Mosaic, creates a strong community of people who can envision a new future of ethical and conscious adoption. Adoption Mosaic provides adoptee-centered courses, speakers, and consultation services to teach adoption competency to anyone in the adoption constellation and beyond. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Astrid’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS 2:55 Astrid’s adoption story 7:07 How common is it to get pregnant after adopting? 9:40 Growing up in the US as a transracial adoptee, lacking language to speak about adoption 14:40 How supportive are Astrid’s adoptive parents? 15:07 The need for more education for hopeful and new adoptive parents 22:08 Astrid’s shocking story of how she became available for adoption through the black market, and the impact of losing her language 37:03 Astrid’s reunion with her first mother 40:26 Astrid’s adoptive parents’ reaction to unethical adoption details that were discovered in reunion 43:15 Adoption Mosaic’s training offerings for adoptive parents 52:49 Adoption is an ongoing process for the rest of your life, not a one-time event
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| 31 Oct 2022 | A Recovery Journey with Veronica Silva | 00:33:59 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Rev. Veronica Silva, a New Thought minister and a nurse who has struggled with alcoholism since she was young, but who has been in recovery for 26 years. Veronica has been on a spiritual journey since June 24th, 1996, when she got sober from alcohol and drugs. She has had a passion for spirituality as a result of attending AA meetings and finding a God of her understanding. She is SO passionate about God that she recently became a Minister in 2020 - right in the middle of the pandemic. She is a true believer in going right into the discomfort of life to free ourselves from our suffering. She is a registered nurse and works at a cardiac procedures unit and loves helping others during their times of fear and anxiety. Here at Safe Home, one of our biggest priorities is to destigmatize addiction and mental health, so by hearing stories from people like Veronica, we are able to humanize addiction, find commonalities, and discover the way others have found their healing path. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Veronica’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:40 Veronica’s childhood and early introduction to alcohol 3:16 Spinning all the plates during high school, self-medicating for anxiety 4:38 Unconscious intergenerational rage and machismo 7:30 How spirituality helped Veronica 9:50 Being a young mom in recovery and later supporting her son in recovery 13:22 Tools that helped Veronica with the initial stages of recovery 16:30 Stay-at-home drunk 17:33 Going back to school to become a nurse 19:12 Another new career as a minister 20:20 Veronica’s advice for family or friends of addicted people, setting boundaries with love 22:19 High-functioning alcoholics 24:25 Alcohol’s prevalence in our culture 25:34 Meditation as a recovery tool 27:25 Learning how to set boundaries, resentment as a boundary indicator 29:05 Each personal growth journey looks different for everyone, just take a step any direction --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 01 Jul 2024 | Insights from Plant Medicine for the Adoption Constellation with Mee Ok Icaro and Leslie Pate Mackinnon - Ep 152 | 01:00:30 | |
“Psychedelics can offer a portal to other consciousnesses and open spaces beyond our regular reality.” -- Mee Ok Icaro (adoptee) “Psychedelics can be a powerful tool for deep work and accessing feelings”. - Leslie Pate Mackinnon (birth mom) “Psychedelics can lead to transformative experiences, dividing life into before and after the journey.” -- Beth Syverson (adoptive parent)
*********** All adoption constellation members (adoptees, birth/first parents, adoptive parents, and other allies) are invited to a Medicine Circle on July 7, 2024, led by Mee Ok Icaro and hosted by Unraveling Adoption. Register here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/medicine-circle-for-the-adoption-constellationwith-mee-ok-icaro-tickets-925600595297 *********** Episode Summary:In this episode, we are joined by two previous guests, Leslie Pate Mackinnon and Mee Ok Icaro, to discuss the role of sacred plant medicine in their personal healing journeys and its potential to bring the adoption community together. Leslie, a birth mother, shares her experience of coming out of the adoption fog and how plant medicine has helped her access deep-seated trauma, both psychological and physical. She emphasizes the importance of doing thorough research, having a support system in place, and being open to sharing one's authentic self within the adoption community. Mee Ok, a Korean adoptee, highlights the transformative power of plant medicine in connecting with her ancestry and understanding the interconnectedness of her lineage. She emphasizes the need for adoptees to have a voice in the adoption narrative and the importance of collective healing within the community. Beth, an adoptive mother, shares her journey of exploring plant medicine as a means of healing her own trauma and supporting her son through his struggles. She reflects on the role of adoptive parents in collaborating with adoptees and birth parents to create a more compassionate and understanding adoption community. The conversation delves into the challenges and rewards of integrating plant medicine into the adoption healing process, emphasizing the need for compassion, understanding, and collaboration among all members of the adoption constellation. The guests discuss the importance of personal healing as a foundation for collective healing and the potential for plant medicine to facilitate deeper connections and empathy within the adoption community. As the episode concludes, the guests offer insights and advice for individuals interested in exploring plant medicine within the context of adoption, encouraging a mindful and intentional approach to healing and fostering unity within the adoption community. The episode serves as a reminder of the power of compassion, understanding, and shared experiences in promoting healing and growth within the adoption community. ============== RESOURCES: Mee Ok’s contact information:
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============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS
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| 18 Dec 2023 | Supporting Adopted Youth with Meggin (Nam) Holtz - Ep 124 | 00:42:04 | |
Take the initiative to learn from all the resources that are out there. Recognize the importance of doing so for the benefit of adopted youth. - Meggin (Nam) Holtz If you're interested in supporting adopted youth in your family or community, then we have inspiration for you in today's episode! You may be trying to provide a loving and understanding environment, but still seeing your child struggle with feelings of not belonging. If you're feeling like your efforts to connect with an adopted youth in your life are falling short, then you are not alone! It's common to feel frustrated and discouraged when you see your child grappling with identity issues despite your best efforts to support them. In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Meggin (Nam) Holtz Joining us today is the remarkable Meggin (Nam) Holtz, an intercountry, interracial adoptee and adoption therapist. As a Korean adoptee who was raised in the US, Nam has been at the forefront of adoption advocacy, awareness, and support for over a decade. With a Master's in Social Work, she brings a wealth of expertise, working in a private practice with adopted individuals and their families, while also engaging in macro work towards adoption reform and education. Nam's award-winning documentary, Found in Korea, serves as a powerful catalyst for discussions about adoption among youth and young adults, showcasing her commitment to empowering adoptees and fostering understanding. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Artistic Expression for Adoptees Identity and Adoption Challenges of Biological Search 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 Other Resources:
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| 25 Mar 2024 | Self-Realization through Memoir Writing with Monica Hall - Ep 138 | 00:30:03 | |
"I think that being an adoptee groomed me to relinquish my own child." -- Monica Hall Transcript of this episode: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01HSM5N1067HY39ZRSGK11MB5T Podcast Episode Synopsis:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson welcomes guest Monica Hall, an adoptee and birth mother who has recently published her memoir titled Practically Still a Virgin: an Adoption Memoir. Monica shares her journey of healing and self-discovery through writing her memoir, which delves into the complexities of adoption, trauma, and family relationships. Monica opens up about her challenging childhood in Alaska, where she faced abuse and trauma within her adoptive family. She candidly discusses her experiences of relinquishing her daughter for adoption and the guilt and complexities that came with it. Through writing her memoir, Monica unravels layers of repressed memories and emotions, ultimately finding healing and clarity. The podcast episode highlights Monica's writing process, where she initially struggled with self-doubt and perfectionism but found guidance and support from a dedicated editor. Monica emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to start writing without judgment and to embrace the process of uncovering deep-seated emotions and experiences. As Monica shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery through writing, she encourages other adoptees and birth mothers to embark on their own memoir-writing journey. The episode concludes with a special giveaway of Monica's memoir, inviting listeners to participate by writing a review of the podcast or becoming a Patreon member. Listeners are encouraged to explore Monica's powerful memoir, Practically Still a Virgin, and to support her in sharing her story of resilience and growth. The episode serves as a poignant reminder of the transformative power of storytelling and the importance of finding healing through self-expression and reflection. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Monica's Website: MonicaHall.com Other Resources:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION Timestamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption Podcast | |||
| 09 Oct 2023 | Unlocking Adoptees' Genetic Blueprint for Optimal Mental Health with Dr. Evelyn Higgins and Joey Nakao - Ep 114 | 01:26:37 | |
"Don't let shame and stigma add to the struggles of being adopted. Personalized genetic testing can provide valuable insights and guidance for addiction treatment. Let's break the cycle and empower individuals to heal." - Dr. Evelyn Higgins Are you feeling overwhelmed by the endless trial and error of finding the right treatment for your mental health and/or addiction issues? Are you trying various medications and therapies that don't seem to alleviate your pain or provide lasting relief? I think many adoptees (and others!) can relate! It can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening to invest time, money, and hope into treatments that simply don't work, leaving you stuck in a cycle of disappointment and despair. In this episode, you will be able to:
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📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guests for this episode are Dr. Evelyn Higgins and my son Joey Nakao Dr. Evelyn Higgins is a highly accomplished professional in the field of addiction and integrative medicine. With 34 years of clinical experience, she holds expertise in addictionology and pain management. As the CEO and founder of Wired for Addiction, Dr. Higgins has dedicated herself to helping individuals struggling with addiction through personalized treatment plans based on genetic profiles. Wired for Addiction utilizes advanced technology to analyze 85 biomarkers, including neurotransmitters and genetic SNPs, providing a comprehensive understanding of an individual's unique biology. Through a 31-page gene mapping report, clients gain insights into their brain chemistry, hormonal interactions, and genetic aberrations related to addiction, anxiety, depression, and impulse control. Armed with this objective information, clients receive an individualized biochemical pathway support plan to guide their healing journey. Dr. Higgins' work has made a significant impact in the field, offering improved mental health and addiction treatment outcomes through personalized interventions tailored to each individual's genetic profile. Joey Nakao is a 19-year-old who has been on a journey of personal growth and healing while battling addiction for the past six years. As the son of Beth Syverson, the host of Unraveling Adoption, Joey's experience with addiction has led his family to explore numerous treatment options. Beth heard Dr. Evelyn Higgins on Heather Ross's podcast Living With Your Child's Addiction. She was fascinated with her expertise in addiction and genetic-based treatment plans. Joey decided to become a client of hers through her company Wired for Addiction (now also known as Wired BioHealth). With the hope of gaining insights into his unique biology and understanding how it relates to his addiction and mental health, Joey eagerly awaited the results of his gene mapping report, which you will hear about in this episode. By taking this proactive step, Joey is determined to improve his mental health and addiction treatment outcomes while uncovering a deeper understanding of himself. Through his journey, Joey aims to inspire and help others facing similar challenges, shedding light on the powerful impact of personalized interventions based on genetic profiles. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Genetic Testing for Personalized Addiction Treatment Role of Neurotransmitters in Addiction and Mental Health Other Resources:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== Timestamped summary of this episode:
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| 05 Nov 2024 | Finding Empowerment through Sex Work as a Korean Adoptee with Kayla Tange - Ep 170 | 00:39:45 | |
Finding Empowerment through Sex Work as a Korean Adoptee with Kayla Tange "I can be in my body, and in that moment, I feel safe." -- Kayla Tange
EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Kayla Tange, a Korean adoptee raised by Japanese-American parents. She has navigated a unique and complex journey through life as an exotic dancer, performance artist, and sex worker. Kayla shared her adoption story, detailing her early life in an orphanage in Seoul before being adopted at six months old. We explored how her experiences with ADHD and autism influenced her career choices and her desire for connection. Kayla candidly discussed her entry into the world of sex work, revealing how it provided her with a sense of empowerment and control over her body—something she felt was taken from her during her adoption. Throughout our conversation, we touched on the themes of identity, belonging, and the emotional complexities that come with being an adoptee. Kayla's reflections on her work and the connections she forms with clients highlighted the often misunderstood aspects of sex work, challenging stereotypes and emphasizing the agency she feels in her choices. Kayla also read a powerful piece from her contribution to the anthology Whorephobia, which delves into her experiences and emotions surrounding her adoption and her work. Her insights offered a profound understanding of the intersections between adoption, identity, and the search for belonging. This episode is a deep dive into the complexities of adoption and the ways in which individuals navigate their identities and experiences. I encourage listeners to reflect on Kayla's story and the broader implications it has for understanding adoption and the diverse paths that adoptees may take. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kayla’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:00:34 - Today's Topic: Sexuality and Sex Work 00:00:56 - Introducing Kayla Tange 00:01:52 - Kayla's Adoption Story 00:02:32 - Early Interest in Performance 00:03:20 - Career Path and ADHD Diagnosis 00:04:49 - Transition to Sex Work 00:05:59 - Job Satisfaction and Flexibility 00:06:33 - ADHD and the Nature of the Job 00:08:06 - Connecting with Customers 00:09:06 - Adoption Trauma and Connection 00:10:25 - Empowerment through Sex Work 00:12:17 - Commodification of Bodies 00:13:24 - Feelings of Displacement 00:14:01 - Experiences in Korea 00:15:11 - Creating the Film "Dear Mother" 00:16:28 - The Power of Performance 00:17:56 - Family Dynamics and Support 00:19:13 - Community and Support in the Industry 00:20:12 - Advice to Her Younger Self 00:21:45 - Advice for Parents 00:23:49 - Reading from Whorephobia 00:37:04 - Closing Thoughts and Future Plans | |||
| 13 Nov 2023 | Preventing Adoptee Suicide through Compassionate Community Support with Moses Farrow - Ep 119 | 00:48:24 | |
Did you know that adoptees are at least four times as likely to attempt suicide as their non-adopted peers? In this episode, Moses Farrow will shed light on the truth behind high suicide rates among adopted people, and will provide resources to help prevent adoptee suicide. In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Moses Farrow Moses Farrow is an esteemed guest on Unraveling Adoption, bringing a wealth of expertise and personal insights to the discussion. As an intercountry, interracial adopted person from South Korea, Moses resides at the complex intersection of adoption, race, disability, mental health, and activism. With over two decades of experience in the mental health field, Moses has dedicated his work to serving adopted individuals and other at-risk populations. His passion for advocating a complete paradigm shift in the adoption industry is rooted in his tragic personal experiences, having lost three adopted siblings to suicide. Drawing from his extensive background and firsthand knowledge, Moses offers a unique perspective on the challenges faced by adopted people and the importance of prioritizing mental health support. We are privileged to have Moses join us on this episode as we explore the pressing issue of adoptee suicide and discuss strategies for prevention and support. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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| 23 Dec 2024 | Unraveling the Layers of Childhood Trauma with Ron Jenkins - Ep 176 | 00:43:38 | |
"I didn't realize how strong I was until, you know, I got into therapy and started to understand all the things that I've overcome." - Ron Jenkins Read the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JFJJKB7XP00HAV5P6H6ETQGJ EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Ron Jenkins, a remarkable individual whose journey through the complexities of foster care and adoption is both harrowing and inspiring. Ron's story begins with the tragic loss of his mother as a young child, leading him and his siblings into the foster care system. He was eventually adopted by a woman who, rather than providing a safe haven, exploited the system for drug money, resulting in a chaotic and violent environment. Ron candidly shares the trauma he experienced, including the loss of several brothers to violence and the pervasive fear that defined his childhood. Despite these challenges, he made a conscious decision to steer clear of gangs and drugs, ultimately finding a mentor who changed the trajectory of his life. This mentor not only provided guidance but also became a father figure, helping Ron navigate his way to a football scholarship at Fresno State University. Throughout our conversation, Ron emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy, therapy, and the need to break the cycle of trauma. He encourages listeners, especially men, to seek help and recognize that they deserve the same opportunities as anyone else. Ron's journey of healing and his commitment to helping at-risk youth through mentorship and advocacy work is truly inspiring. We also touched on the impact of sexual abuse in Ron's life and how it shaped his relationships. He highlights the importance of addressing these issues through therapy, which has been instrumental in his healing process. As we wrapped up, Ron shared exciting news about a movie being made about his life, and he invited anyone interested in supporting this project to reach out. This episode is a powerful reminder of resilience, the importance of community, and the potential for transformation, even in the face of overwhelming adversity. I hope Ron's story resonates with you and inspires you to seek help, advocate for yourself, and support others in their journeys. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ron’s information:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction 00:01:43 - Ron’s Adoption Story 00:02:21 - Foster Care Challenges 00:03:57 - Violence and Trauma 00:06:36 - Avoiding Gangs 00:10:07 - Loss of a Brother 00:12:39 - Self-Advocacy 00:14:23 - Mentorship 00:16:30 - Impact of Sports 00:20:08 - Helping Youth 00:22:43 - Trust and Self-Advocacy 00:25:04 - Value of Therapy 00:28:05 - Sexual Abuse Experiences 00:33:16 - Relationship Patterns 00:36:10 - Breaking the Cycle 00:38:49 - Healing and Strength 00:39:39 - Book Recommendation 00:40:52 - Movie Project 00:42:17 - Closing Remarks | |||
| 04 Sep 2023 | Challenging the Adoption System with Chester Jackson - Ep 109 | 00:50:09 | |
Challenging the Adoption System with Chester Jackson"The journey is more about being on the path more than off... The hardest part about being an adoptive parent is you're almost guaranteed to be disappointed because your motivation and your drive and everything you're thinking is involved around some fantasy child. It's not about that real human." -- Chester Jackson Discovering the truth can be as exhilarating as it is terrifying. It can shatter the very foundation of your identity, leaving you scrambling to pick up the pieces. Chester Jackson's life seemed like a harmonious melody until a single piece of paper sent him spiraling into a world of unanswered questions and hidden secrets. Brace yourself as we delve into Chester's journey, where he unearths the unexpected twist that forever changed his life. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Chester Jackson Meet Chester Jackson, a seasoned professional, with two decades worth of experience in the adoption sphere. His multifaceted perspective of adoption is born out of his own late discovery of being an adoptee and his role as an adoptive parent. Chester currently serves as the lifeline for many as the helpline coordinator at Adoptive Foster Family Coalition in New York, offering much needed counsel and support. Filled with both empathy and insights, Chester is known for his unwavering commitment to bettering the adoption system and all those it touches. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Grasping Adoption's Real-life Consequences Preserving Links to Birth Heritage ===============
Other Resources:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== Timestamped summary of this episode:
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| 20 Nov 2023 | Ayahuasca for Transforming Trauma and Pain with Mee Ok Icaro - Ep 120 | 00:48:37 | |
Reserve your FREE ticket to the Sacred Plant Medicine for Healing the Adoption Constellation webinar featuring Mee Ok as one of the panelists, December 3 at 1pm PST: https://healingadoptiontrauma.eventbrite.com
When you're in the margins and outside of the dominant narrative, you're very aware of what is just taken for granted. - Mee Ok Icaro A transformative journey unfolds as Mee Ok, a Korean transnational adoptee, embraces the healing power of Ayahuasca, finding dramatic physical healing, challenging her beliefs, and finding spiritual growth amidst the risks and rewards of this sacred plant medicine. In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guest is Mee Ok Icaro Mee Ok Icaro is a noted writer, poet, teacher, book doula, and sacred medicine support practitioner. Born in Korea and adopted by a white evangelical couple in the US, her personal journey has been shaped by the complexities of transracial and transcultural adoption. Mee Ok was one of the case studies in Dr. Gabor Maté's recent book, The Myth of Normal, where she shared her experiences of overcoming scleroderma through the use of sacred plant medicines. Her story was also featured in an episode of Netflix's series [Un]Well, shedding light on her healing journey. Mee Ok's expertise and insights have led her to participate in Dr. Maté's panel for his Wisdom of Trauma Summit, where she shared her profound knowledge on the responsible use of sacred plant medicines. Her upcoming involvement in Unraveling Adoption's Sacred Plant Medicine for Healing the Adoption Constellation panel promises to offer valuable perspectives on how adoption, trauma, and physical pain can be transformed by sacred plant medicines. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Transformative Power of Ayahuasca
Other resources mentioned in this episode:
=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 22 Jul 2024 | The Impact of Colonization on an Inuit Greenlander Adoptee in Denmark with Kâlánguak Absalonsen - Ep 155 | 00:32:55 | |
"We have only ourselves. And when I'm thinking about that, I'm thinking how strong we are. Because we have survived and still live and still create and still talk about our history." -- Kâlánguak Absalonsen Episode Summary:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Kâlánguak Absalonsen, an adopted person from Greenland living in Denmark. Kâlánguak shared her unique perspective on adoption, colonization, and the challenges faced by Inuit people in Denmark. She highlighted the impact of colonization on adoption practices and the struggle to maintain cultural identity in a foreign environment. Kâlánguak’s personal journey of self-discovery and reconnecting with her Inuit roots was both inspiring and heartbreaking. She emphasized the importance of giving voice to marginalized communities, like Inuit adoptees, and the strength it takes to navigate the complexities of adoption without the support of family. Through her blog, book, and advocacy work, Kâlánguak is shedding light on the experiences of Inuit adoptees and challenging the narratives imposed on them by society. Her resilience and determination to reclaim her identity serve as a powerful reminder of the strength within adoptees. As the host, I was deeply moved by Kâlánguak’s story and her courage to speak out. I encourage listeners to visit her website, read her book, and support her efforts to amplify the voices of Inuit adoptees. Let's continue to spread awareness and understanding of adoption's complexities and support adoptees in their journey of self-discovery and healing. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES:Kâlánguak’s contact information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION Time Stamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to Kâlánguak and adoption in Denmark | |||
| 26 Jun 2023 | Walking into Recovery: Dallas's Adoption Journey - Ep 99 | 00:42:01 | |
Dallas remembers being told he was adopted at five years old. And at 19, he had a life-shattering realization about his adoption. Struggling with anger issues and feeling disconnected from his family, he spiralled into self-destructive patterns with drugs and alcohol to cope with his pain. Now, Dallas is on a journey of self-discovery and growth, using some unconventional tools to help him cope with his struggles. But what was the unexpected twist that prompted his self-destructive behavior? And what was the key that opened the lock of his recovery? In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guest is Dallas Get to know Dallas, an inspirational figure who has successfully navigated the challenges of adoption trauma and addiction to emerge stronger and more resilient. With a past marked by substance abuse and self-destructive behavior stemming from surprising revelations about his biological parents, Dallas embarked on a transformative journey of self-discovery and growth. Through his determination to overcome these challenges and the invaluable lessons he's gained along the way, Dallas supports and guides others grappling with the intricate ties between adoption and addiction. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Dallas’s information:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption
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| 18 Dec 2021 | Bullying with Maria Lundstroem Lopez - Ep 20 | 00:49:26 | |
In this Safe Home episode, Beth discusses the tough topic of bullying with a long-time friend of hers, Maria Lundstroem Lopez, who was regularly beaten and treated horribly in elementary school. Beth's son Joey was also bullied with racist microaggressions throughout his whole school journey. Maria talks about how these wounds from being bullied have stuck with her until adulthood and gives some ideas for how to deal with bullying in today’s schools and families. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ====================================== RESOURCES: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling ======================================= TIME STAMPS: 2:34 Maria’s background 5:38 Maria’s coping tools when she was being bullied 9:15 How Maria helps make safe spaces for her music students 12:42 Bullying ourselves 14:57 Some people use drugs to cope 17:20 Maria’s suggestions for parents of kids who are bullied 18:15 Joey’s experience being bullied & how his school responded 22:22 Maria standing up for herself --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 27 Jun 2022 | Trauma and Resilience with Cheyanne Alsop - Ep 48 | 00:50:45 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with one of Joey’s friends, 19yo Cheyanne Alsop. Like Joey, Cheyanne was adopted, her adoptive parents later got divorced, and she struggled with mental health issues throughout her adolescence. Cheyanne’s harrowing childhood would leave most people completely paralyzed emotionally. But because of her willingness to get help and to work on her own emotional toolbox, Cheyanne has graduated high school, she’s got a job, and she’s on her healing path. Her story gives us all hope for our struggling kids, and she and Joey give some great advice to teens and parents at the end of the episode. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Cheyanne's contact info: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cheyanne_autumn1618 Other Episodes mentioned during this episode:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 0:30 A little update with Joey 3:17 Cheyanne’s infancy and first relinquishment at age 3 4:42 Cheyanne’s childhood trauma with her grandparents 11:15 Moving to her aunt’s in foster care system 13:45 Getting matched with Cheyanne’s adoptive parents 16:55 Cheyanne and Joey talk about adoption trauma 22:20 Adoptive parents’ divorce created more pain and caused first hospitalization 25:00 Cutting and self-harm, Cheyanne’s rock bottom 27:58 Cheyanne and Joey’s advice to teens considering going to residential treatment programs 29:25 DBT - Dialectial Behavior Therapy, working hard in treatment 34:37 Things that have helped Cheyanne survive 36:38 How Cheyanne’s steered clear of the addiction route 41:23 Cheyanne’s plans for the future 44:13 Cheyanne’s advice for adoptive & foster parents 46:25 Cheyanne’s advice for teens 47:30 What Joey admires about Cheyanne --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 15 Jan 2022 | Somatic Experiencing (SE) with Emily Jaworski Koriath - Ep 25 | 01:02:53 | |
Emily Jaworski Koriath talks with Beth about the intersection between her career as a singer and voice teacher, her own trauma, and Somatic Experiencing, a body-centered method of healing trauma that she has found to be extremely effective for herself and others. =============== Emily Jaworski Koriath’s Information: Emily’s Website: https://www.emilyjaworskikoriath.com/
Other things mentioned in this episode: Alexander Technique: https://alexandertechnique.com/ Steven Porges’ Polyvagal Theory: https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ and his book The Polyvagal Theory: The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe Sharon Loeschen’s Safe Home episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nEuFl8lg9yw&t=1s Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma--An Integrative Somatic Approach by Kathy L. Kain Voice and Trauma Research and Connection Group Rilke’s poem with “No feeling is final”: https://onbeing.org/poetry/go-to-the-limits-of-your-longing/ =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:43 Emily’s unusual music career journey 5:20 How Emily’s interest in trauma work began 8:40 The connection between Emily’s singing voice and trauma 10:51 Emily’s trauma 13:05 Emily’s voice students’ trauma and her responsibility as a teacher 18:38 Connections with our animals 19:44 Modeling self-care and co-regulation 24:02 Emily’s openness around her depression 28:00 Somatic Experiencing 35:00 Car accident example 40:16 Disconnection from our body 44:30 SE on Zoom 51:00 How Emily’s SE sessions are structured
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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon
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| 25 Sep 2023 | Troubling Tropes in Media's Adoption Stories with Kira Omans - Ep 112 | 00:34:58 | |
Troubling Tropes in Media's Adoption Stories with Kira Omans"Adoptees are so infantilized in media and just seen as subjects in need of rescue and that they were given an opportunity at a better life." - Kira Omans In a world where narratives shape our perceptions, Kira Omans defies expectations. As a transracial adoptee from China, she carries a tale waiting to unfold. But when she stepped into the glimmering lights of Los Angeles that she became more aware of the cruel twist that media had woven for adoptees. With a fire in her heart and a determination in her eyes, Kira has embarked on a journey to challenge the harmful stereotypes in media. In this episode, you will be able to:
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=============== My special guest is Kira Omans With a heart for advocacy and a passion for performing, Kira Omans is a force to be reckoned with in the media industry. As an Asian-American adoptee, Kira was raised in a mostly white community in Alexandria, Virginia, and her unique upbringing has significant influence on her career and activism today. As an actor, stunt person, and voiceover artist now based in Los Angeles, she has landed roles which showcaseher talent and commitment to her craft. Yet, more important to her than the glamour of Hollywood, is the work she's doing to challenge and change demeaning adoption narratives within media spaces. Kira is dedicated to ensuring that adoptees, particularly those from transracial backgrounds, are portrayed more accurately and respectfully in their on-screen representations. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption
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| 06 Feb 2023 | Moving Beyond Adoption Using Magnetic Mind with Kat Linquist - Ep 79 | 00:54:40 | |
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: On Saturday, March 11, Unraveling Adoption is hosting a free webinar called Moving Beyond Adoption - An Immersive Experience with Kat Linquist so you all can experience this amazing work that Kat does. It’s 10am-noon PST on Saturday, March 11, 2023. Tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/moving-beyond-adoption-an-immersive-experience-with-kat-linquist-tickets-532651855037 If you are curious about how Magnetic Mind can help you in your adoption journey - or with any blockage in your life - come on over on March 11 to check it out. The event is open to anyone 18 and older. You don’t have to be an adoptee to attend. =============== In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Kat Linquist, an adoptee, an intuitive, and a practitioner of a transformation modality called Magnetic Mind. She has done her own release work around her adoption trauma using this process based on neuroscience. She will be sharing her adoption story and how she helps adoptees heal with this healing modality. At the end of this episode we will be telling you about a free workshop where Kat will be demonstrating this technique. So stick around to the end to hear all the details. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kat’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS 2:02 Kat’s adoption story - the big disconnect 8:00 What prompted Kat’s search for her birth family? 11:00 Kat’s first experience with Magnetic Mind - a major transformation and reunion 22:00 No human can escape without some sort of trauma. How can we rewrite our trauma narrative? 28:51 Magnetic Mind can take people back into their lineage to repair damage done 30:57 Does Kat consider herself healed from adoption trauma? 34:25 Focusing on what we want to create through Magnetic Mind 36:53 Beth shares her experience with Kat using Magnetic Mind on her 46:25 What modalities are wrapped into Magnetic Mind? 49:35 How Kat works with people who want to heal using Magnetic Mind, including a FREE webinar we’re hosting on March 11 (Get FREE tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/moving-beyond-adoption-an-immersive-experience-with-kat-linquist-tickets-532651855037)
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| 14 Oct 2024 | Creative Paths to Healing Childhood Trauma with Jonathan Moon - Ep 167 | 00:45:07 | |
“I'm telling all the skeptics who may be listening, just go in there with an open mind because you're not going to lose anything. You have so much more to gain.” - Jonathan Moon
EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Jonathan Moon, an adopted person who has navigated the complexities of relinquishment and adoption trauma. Jonathan's journey began in Korea, where he faced significant challenges as a child, including living on the streets and experiencing significant instability. He was adopted to the U.S. at the age of nine and has recently embarked on a path of healing and self-discovery. Jonathan shared his unique story, including his reunion with his grandmother through a Korean TV show and the emotional complexities surrounding his birth family. He discussed the struggles he faced growing up, including the impact of his father's alcoholism and abuse, and how these experiences shaped his identity. Throughout our conversation, Jonathan emphasized the importance of community and connection among adoptees, highlighting how sharing similar experiences can foster understanding and healing. He also opened up about his journey toward healing, which has included acting classes, therapy, and alternative healing practices like myofascial release and ketamine therapy. Jonathan's story is a testament to resilience and the ongoing process of healing from trauma. He is currently working on an artistic film titled Voice of Waters, which aims to share his experiences and insights with a broader audience. I encourage listeners to check out his website and support his work. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jonathan’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:14 - Meeting at Untangling Our Roots 00:02:51 - Jonathan's Early Life 00:05:48 - Life with His Grandmother 00:08:00 - Transition to Living with His Father 00:09:20 - Challenges at His Father's Home 00:12:52 - Living on the Streets 00:15:04 - Adoption Process 00:18:34 - First Days in America 00:20:34 - Family Dynamics 00:22:05 - Struggles with Trauma 00:23:24 - Military Experience 00:24:18 - Reunion with Birth Family 00:27:33 - Confronting His Birth Father 00:28:55 - Journey to Healing 00:29:24 - Acting and Self-Discovery 00:31:20 - Therapy and Healing Modalities 00:33:22 - Myofascial Release Therapy 00:35:16 - Ketamine Therapy 00:37:43 - Profound Experiences with Ketamine 00:40:31 - Exploring Other Healing Practices 00:41:34 - Creating Voice of Waters 00:42:42 - Closing Thoughts and Resources
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| 25 Dec 2021 | Adoption Story with Brenda Bash Cooper - Ep 21 | 00:49:47 | |
In this episode of Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with a childhood friend Brenda Bash Cooper about her own adoption experience and how it informs her work with traumatized crime victims at her job. She and Joey - and countless other adopted people - share that deep-down feeling of unworthiness. In her experience, Brenda attributes that feeling to her relinquishment trauma. Whether your family is touched by adoption or you’re just curious, this chat will inspire you to think deeper on the topic. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== RESOURCES: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Beth mentions the book The Primal Wound in this episode. It’s life-changing reading for adoptive families. =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:45 Brenda’s current life 3:34 Brenda’s adoption story 7:02 “not good enough” - adoption and attachment 12:12 Adoption trauma and healing 17:40 Reconciliation with biological father 31:41 Reconciliation with biological mother 39:46 Trauma experience and Brenda’s work with crime victims --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 27 Jan 2024 | Breaking Free: Reclaiming Identity as an Intercountry Adoptee with Sariah Baker - Ep 130 | 00:46:32 | |
“I think for adoptees, my biggest advice for them is to ask if you need something. Whether it be therapy, whether it's understanding your story, whether it's being able to know your identity, ask. And if they don't want to tell you, keep asking.” -- Sariah Baker In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guest is Sariah Baker Sariah Baker, a 31-year-old human resources manager living in Portland, Oregon, brings a unique perspective to the complexities of intercountry and interracial adoption. As an intercountry adoptee from China, raised in a white Mormon family, Sariah's story delves into the intricate layers of identity she has navigated throughout her life. Her experiences offer valuable insights into the challenges and triumphs of finding and embracing one's true identity. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Other resources:
=============== Uncovering the Impact of Adoption Trauma Embracing the Vital Role of Adoptive Parents =============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 09 Oct 2021 | Parent Coaching - with Heather Ross - Ep 10 | 00:39:49 | |
Two moms talk about how they've managed their own lives while trying to support their kids struggling with substances. Beth chats with Heather Ross, who was her and Jan's parenting life coach last year, and who has an amazing podcast called Living With Addiction. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon ======================================= Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Here is our life coach Heather Ross’s Living With Addiction podcast episode that is mentioned, on which you can hear Beth, Jan, and Joey as her guests. Subscribe to her podcast to listen to her other episodes too! Find Heather Ross Coaching on Facebook and Instagram. Find a life coach on any number of topics at https://thelifecoachschool.com/ ======================================= RESOURCES: Here are some resources for teens and others who are struggling right now:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 800-273-8255 - 24/7 Lifeline Chat: https://Suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat - 24/7 Teen Line: call 310-855-HOPE 6-10pm PST Or text TEEN to 839863 Talk to other trained teens Youthline: call 877-968-8491 4-10pm PST Or text Teen2Teen to 839863. Need2Text: text TALK to 38255 24/7
And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling:
Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
TIME STAMPS: 2:05 What is life coaching? 2:50 Parents can’t stop their kid from using substances 7:30 How to deal with parental guilt about the past 10:47 How to deal with parental anxiety about the future 13:14 Heather’s history with her daughter and life coaching 17:10 Parental support that Beth experienced (or not) 20:40 Beth taking care of Beth so she could take care of Joey 22:04 Parent coaching can help every relationship 24:05 How Beth’s and Heather’s kids want to help others with our podcasts 26:58 Heather’s experience with AA and Alanon 28:00 Releasing judgment for families with struggling teens 31:50 The self-coaching model that Heather uses - Think/Feel/Act cycle 36:40 How to find Heather Ross Coaching 37:10 How to find any life coach in general - Life Coach School --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 16 May 2022 | Safe Home Families Update with Jan & Beth - Ep 42 | 00:43:20 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth and Jan, Joey’s moms, give a State of the Family update. They talk about what’s been happening with all 3 family members, and share their vision for Safe Home Families as well. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Safe Home Families information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon - https://Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:30 Family updates - Beth, Jan, and Joey 6:03 How Beth and Jan work together to maintain boundaries 13:48 Changing the things we can, which often prompts change in the family system 14:53 Adolescence and wanting more independence 23:50 Changing geography to try to solve problems 25:25 How our boundaries bring us peace and sanity 27:00 Safe Home Podcast expands to Safe Home Families 28:12 New support system for adoptive parents is coming 32:09 A boost in hope for Joey’s future 33:48 Our Patreon account - thanks to our current Patreon members - Camille, Susan, Nina, Rica, Mara, and Steve & Barbara 37:42 Huge gratitude for our first sponsor - Beth & Laurie Hansen --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 09 Jan 2023 | A Birth Mother's Perspective with Leslie Pate Mackinnon - Ep 75 | 00:48:09 | |
We are just switching our name from Safe Home Podcast to Unraveling Adoption, and this is the first full episode under our new name. In this week’s episode, Beth Syverson chats with Leslie Pate Mackinnon, a licensed clinical social worker and an adoption activist for the past 30 years. Leslie is a seasoned and well-respected therapist in the adoption community. She is a nationally known trainer who travels across the country training therapists, agencies and child welfare workers about the psychological issues inherent in adoption and third-party reproduction. Following four decades of successful practice in Atlanta, Leslie and her husband relocated to Asheville, NC. Leslie comes to this work by way of being a birthmother in the 1960s, the Baby Scoop Era. She understands adoption trauma deeply, both as a lived experience and as a therapist for all members in the adoption constellation - adoptees, birthparents, and adoptive parents. On Safe Home Podcast, we’ve had 8 episodes so far with adoptees, and 1 episode with another adoptive parent, but this is our first episode from the birth mom’s perspective, which is a super-critical piece of this puzzle. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Leslie’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 All voices in adoption matter, and adoptees’ voices come first 3:16 Positive adoption language and listening to adult adoptees 6:35 Birth parents’ stories are often suppressed 8:16 Leslie’s birth parent experience #1 16:08 Adoptees and birth parents both get stuck in culture’s judgements about adoption 17:03 Coping with trauma with substances, the intersection between adoption and addiction 25:30 Adoptive parents talking openly with their children about their adoption 28:35 Leslie’s birth parent experience #2 33:25 Birth parents’ difficulties, then and now 39:00 The importance of family preservation, and Follow the Money 44:10 How Leslie & Beth are dealing with their past regrets | |||
| 16 Oct 2021 | Depression - Ep 11 | 00:32:18 | |
Beth and Joey compare notes about the way depression feels for each of them. (This episode was recorded several weeks ago, before Joey's relapse.) =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =======================================
RESOURCES: Here are some resources for teens and others who are struggling right now: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 800-273-8255 - 24/7 Lifeline Chat: https://Suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat - 24/7 Teen Line: call 310-855-HOPE 6-10pm PST Or text TEEN to 839863 Talk to other trained teens Youthline: call 877-968-8491 4-10pm PST Or text Teen2Teen to 839863. Need2Text: text TALK to 38255 24/7
And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling: Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ ======================================= For those listening to these episodes in order, Joey is still in relapse mode at the time of this episode's publication, but it was recorded about 6 weeks ago while he was still living with Beth and Jan.
TIME STAMPS: 1:19 What is depression for Joey? 2:08 What is depression for Beth? 3:57 Depression to numb out 4:43 Joey’s first experiences with depression 6:02 Did depression affect Joey’s decision to use substances? 7:06 Drugs as depressants 9:04 How Joey pulls out of a depression cycle 12:47 How Beth pulls out of a depression cycle 13:22 Beth’s depression history 17:48 Passive suicidality and suicide attempts 19:38 How psychedelics mixed with Joey’s depression 22:40 Depression while sober v while using substances 23:31 Dreaming to deal with depression 28:05 The one thing that helps Beth the most with depression 29:48 What Joey suggests for someone struggling right now --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 02 Oct 2023 | Healing Adoption Trauma Through Alternative Therapies with Ridghaus - Ep 113 | 00:56:31 | |
Reserve your FREE ticket to the Sacred Plant Medicine for Healing the Adoption Constellation webinar featuring Ridghaus as one of the panelists, December 3 at 1pm PST: https://healingadoptiontrauma.eventbrite.com "Somatic therapy starts to move the body...taking breaths, activating the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems so that I started to have full body sensation as we talked about different things." - Ridghaus In the depths of his journey through adoption, Ridghaus faced a powerful twist that would forever alter his path. What began as a selfless decision to relinquish this son for adoption suddenly transformed into a revelation about his own life. A surprising call from a social worker shattered his previous beliefs and opened new doors of possibility. In this episode, you will be able to:
My special guest is Ridghaus Ridghaus is a fascinating and multi-talented individual who brings a unique perspective to the world of adoption. As a "human becoming" and lifelong learner, Ridghaus has explored various roles and identities, including being an archaeologist of cultural artifacts, a Dudeist priest, a poet, a teacher, a filmmaker, and a guide for others's journeys. His personal experiences with adoption have deeply shaped his understanding of the complexities within the adoption constellation. From relinquishing a son in an open adoption to discovering his own adoption later in life, Ridghaus has navigated the emotional terrain of adoption with resilience and introspection. His journey and his use of a controversial healing modality have provided him with valuable insights that he generously shares with others. Join us in this episode as we delve into Ridghaus' unique perspective and gain a deeper understanding of trauma and healing in the adoption journey. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Understand Adoptee Complexities Explore Trauma and Somatic Experiences Recognize Importance of Support Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 05 Dec 2022 | An Unforgettable Adoption Reunion Story with Doris Blumenthal - Ep 70 | 01:00:14 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Doris Blumenthal, an adopted person who lives in Northern California. Her adoption story is one of the adoptee narratives in the documentary Reckoning with the Primal Wound, which you’ve probably heard me talking about before. The filmmaker Rebecca Autumn Sansom was on this podcast in Episode 30. If you haven’t seen Reckoning with the Primal Wound yet, I highly recommend it, and I also want to let you know that this episode contains spoilers. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Resources mentioned in this episode:
=============== Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 Doris’ adoption story, crossing paths with birth mother in the early days 6:40 The overwhelming need to know one’s biological roots 9:16 Doris’ adoptive parents’ attitude about adoption 11:54 The mysterious photograph and the broken relationship with Doris’ bio brother 13:35 Complex emotions with Doris’ paternal sisters 14:36 Starting the pre-internet search process 18:50 First attempt at finding birth mother 20:15 How DNA searches help 21:11 A common problem for adopted people: lack of health history 21:56 Minnesota sisters and other maternal relatives 22:54 How Arizona’s open records laws enabled Doris to find her birth mother 25:05 Finding Doris’ birth mother’s home - and SPOILER ALERT if you haven’t seen the Reckoning film yet 28:00 Doris’ brother’s attitude toward Doris, privacy v. right to know 31:35 Another amazing coincidence 33:40 More details about the reunion day 38:45 Did she find the mysterious photograph or any other mementos? 40:35 How Doris handles her complicated grief 43:45 Most adopted people have a deep desire to meet their natural parents 45:05 Doris’ dream of ideal records for adopted people 47:33 Backlash from sharing her story in the Reckoning with the Primal Wound documentary 51:34 Doris’ advice for adopted people who are contemplating reunion, and book recommendation 53:30 Doris’ book recommendation - The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier 56:37 Doris’ advice for adoptive parents regarding reunion --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 20 Mar 2023 | Retreats for Adoptees with Cindy McQuay - Ep 85 | 00:41:49 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast, Beth talks with Cindy Olson McQuay, an adoptee from Pennsylvania who is the co-founder, with Erin Cosentino, of Hiraeth Healing Retreats for Adoptees, DCPs (Donor Conceived People), LDAs (Late Discovery Adoptees), and NPEs (Not Parent Expected). Cindy is a baby scoop era domestic infant adoptee, and she had a rather idyllic childhood with well-informed and open adoptive parents, which was somewhat unusual at the time. Besides her work for Hiraeth, she advocates for adoption law reform and educates the public about separation trauma. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Cindy’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support UnravelingAdoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:25 Cindy’s adoption story and childhood 6:40 Cindy’s search for her birth family 10:35 Does a “good adoption” preclude adoption trauma? 15:44 What prompted Cindy to become an adoption activist and search angel? 16:58 Adoption v. Guardianship 18:46 The problems with intercountry adoption and surrogacy 21:49 What is Hiraeth Hope & Healing? 25:25 The overlaps between adoptees, LDAs, DCPs, and NPEs 27:03 What do people experience at Hiraeth retreats? 31:40 Scholarships ARE available! And help them find mansions to host these retreats 35:17 Advice for non-adoptees and adoptive parents | |||
| 21 Oct 2024 | Educating the Next Generation: Adoption Messages in Children's Books with Allison Olson - Ep 168 | 00:30:57 | |
"I can read a book and tell you if it's written by an adoptee, written by an adoptive parent or written by somebody who's just a famous author and someone told him to write about adoption and they know nothing about it." -- Allison Olson EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Allison Olson, an adoptee and adoptive parent who has made significant contributions to children's literature on adoption. We explored her personal adoption story, which began in 1979 when she was adopted as a baby in a closed adoption, and how her experiences shaped her perspective as both an adoptee and a parent to an adopted child. Allison shared her insights on the evolution of adoption practices, particularly the shift from closed to open adoptions, and the importance of representation in children's books. She expressed her frustration with the common narratives found in many adoption-themed picture books, which often portray adoptees as "lucky" rather than "loved." This inspired her to write her own books, including Surrounded by Love: An Open Adoption Story and Learning About My Friend's Adoption, aimed at educating children about adoption in a balanced and loving way. We discussed the challenges adoptees face in educating their peers about their experiences and the need for more resources that accurately reflect the complexities of adoption. Allison emphasized the importance of normalizing conversations about adoption and providing children with the tools to understand and embrace their identities. Listeners will find Allison's work invaluable, as it not only addresses the needs of adopted children but also serves as a resource for their friends and families. I encourage everyone to check out her books and share this episode to help spread awareness about the importance of thoughtful representation in children's literature. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Allison’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:00 - Allison's Adoption Story 00:03:00 - Closed vs. Open Adoption 00:07:00 - The Impact of Openness in Adoption 00:10:00 - Challenges in Children's Adoption Books 00:14:00 - The Need for Balanced Representation 00:17:00 - Creating Surrounded by Love 00:20:00 - Learning About My Friend's Adoption 00:24:00 - The Responsibility of Educating Others 00:28:00 - Resources and Closing Thoughts | |||
| 18 Sep 2023 | Uncovering Hidden Roots with Peter O'Brien - Ep 111 | 00:38:50 | |
Uncovering Hidden Roots with Peter O'BrienUncover the profound journey of a late discovery adoptee (LDA) as he confronts the shocking truth of his adoption, embarks on a relentless search for his birth family, and navigates the complex emotions and conflicting loyalties that arise along the way. Find out the interesting way he found out he was adopted in his mid-50s, even though his adoptive parents were planning to go to the grave without him finding out. "Finding my biological family was a journey filled with ups and downs, but in the end, it helped me understand a part of myself that I never knew existed." -- Peter O'Brien In this episode, you will be able to:
=============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== My special guest is Peter O'Brien Today’s guest on Unraveling Adoption is the fascinating Peter O'Brien. A late discovery adoptee, Peter's world was transformed in his mid-50s as he unearthed the secret of his adoption. Originating from Sydney, Australia, this retired accountant-turned-genealogist, leveraged his passion for family history to aid his personal awakening and understanding of his adoption journey. While his incredible story does have a twist of irony to it, it demonstrates Peter's resilience and strength in facing intriguing and often challenging revelations. His wisdom and experiences provide invaluable insights for those just discovering their adoption and grapplying with the multifaceted complexities. The resources mentioned in this episode are:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== Timestamped summary of this episode: | |||
| 03 Jun 2024 | Behind the Scenes of Because She's Adopted: A Filmmaker's Journey with Kristal Parke - Ep 148 | 00:28:42 | |
"I truly felt the weight of the world telling the story. I felt like it was a great responsibility, but I had to do it." -- Kristal Parke Read the transcript here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01HZE3F00W8S92RJM8N2F3METT EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kristal Parke, an adoptee and filmmaker behind the acclaimed documentary Because She's Adopted. Kristal shared her journey of self-discovery and identity exploration through the creation of her film, which delves into her childhood, reunion with her birth mother, struggle with addiction, and intentional reconnection with her Indigenous heritage. The film has received critical acclaim and won awards, shedding light on the complexities of adoption. Kristal discussed the impact of her film on her family, crew, and herself, highlighting the vulnerability and growth that came with sharing her story. She emphasized the importance of owning her narrative and the evolution of her understanding of adoption. The podcast episode also touched on the behind-the-scenes process of creating the documentary, including the support of her adoptive family, crew members, and the challenges and joys of filming. Listeners were encouraged to watch the film, which is set to be officially released by fall 2024. Kristal shared details on how to stay connected with updates and screenings. =============== 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Kristal’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: www.UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== Timestamps:
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| 07 Mar 2022 | A Family's Recovery Journey with Dawn McCord - Ep 32 | 00:47:59 | |
In this week’s episode you will hear another family’s story of adolescent addiction and recovery. Dawn McCord’s son Carson had a tumultuous adolescence but he found recovery through wilderness therapy. Dawn’s new memoir "Chasing Carson: A Family's Journey through Adolescence, Addiction and Recovery," provides an honest account of their whole family’s healing process. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: How to find Dawn McCord and her book:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:05 Did Carson give his blessing for the memoir? 3:35 Dawn and Beth are committed to reducing the shame around addiction 6:25 Adolescents’ risky behavior is part of normal development 9:30 Carson’s addiction story 14:11 Compounding the addiction story with poverty or racism 16:16 Ideas for helping our struggling kids 21:30 The dangers of social media for our kids 24:45 Carson progressed to heroin and found wilderness therapy 33:25 Reorganizing home rules and revising family habits 35:38 How Dawn has stayed sane 40:00 What Dawn would have done differently (hint: smart phones) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 25 Oct 2022 | More Than Sex Ed with Emmalinda MacLean - Ep 64 | 00:49:07 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Emmalinda MacLean, co-founder of More Than Sex-Ed, a Los Angeles-based non-profit whose mission is to nourish healthy development through honest conversation about sex. She is the Director of Curriculum & Instruction at More Than Sex-Ed plus she wrote a children’s book around the topic of consent called “Everybody, Every Body!” =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Emmalinda’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:42 How Emmalinda landed a career in sex ed 4:24 Gender diversity is NOT a new thing 7:21 Parental backlash? 8:22 Beth’s sex ed experience at church 10:33 Teaching consent 12:00 Questions about “gay sex” 14:00 What is sex? 15:52 Can parents rely on school or church to teach about sex? 17:53 Don’t Freak Out! 19:33 Acknowledging pleasure reduces victimization 20:25 At what age can kids start learning about sex? 22:30 The topic of menstruation and Turning Red 25:23 How does gaming and social media affect our kids? 27:30 What’s the deal about furries? 30:18 Anonymous question box and porn 33:31 What about sexting? 35:19 What should parents do regarding phones? 36:03 How the fall of Roe will affect our teens 39:19 Emmalinda’s best piece of advice for parent 42:10 LGBTQ+ identities 44:00 What services does More Than Sex-Ed provide? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 25 Sep 2021 | Opiates - with Emma Roberts from National Harm Reduction Coalition - Ep 8 | 01:03:35 | |
In this episode, Beth talks with special guest Emma Roberts from National Harm Reduction Coalition about what her organization is doing to help mitigate harm from opiates and other substances. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson, with design help from Nina Smith Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon
RESOURCES: National Harm Reduction Coalition: https://harmreduction.org/ Find Naloxone near you (to reverse opiate overdose): https://harmreduction.org/resource-center/harm-reduction-near-you/ Find sterile syringes near you: https://www.nasen.org/map/ Johann Hari’s TED talk ”Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong” that Emma mentioned in the podcast: https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong?language=en
Here are some resources for teens and others who are struggling right now: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: call 800-273-8255 - 24/7 Lifeline Chat: https://Suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat - 24/7 Teen Line: call 310-855-HOPE 6-10pm PST Or text TEEN to 839863 Talk to other trained teens Youthline: call 877-968-8491 4-10pm PST Or text Teen2Teen to 839863. Need2Text: text TALK to 38255 24/7
And here are some resources for therapy, coaching, and counseling: Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling Miguel Rosell - Guided Core Integration: https://miguelrosell.com/ Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/
TIME STAMPS: 1:35 Emma Roberts’ background with harm reduction work 5:10 Definition of harm reduction philosophy 6:50 Harm reduction v. “Just Say No” 7:10 Harm reduction origins with AIDS 8:40 Connection as antidote to addiction 11:30 Frustrations with our Kaiser Permanente healthcare system 16:17 Harm reduction offers more tools for your tool kit 18:47 Harm reduction in sex ed 20:15 Opiate overdoses higher since Covid 22:08 Presence of fentanyl 23:44 Importance of having Narcan/Naloxone available 25:50 Where to get Narcan/Naloxone 28:16 Indiana outbreak of opiate overdoses 31:25 Syringe services 31:58 Teens and opioids 35:46 Risks of injecting substances 42:27 War on the War on Drugs 45:57 Looking for the root cause of substance use 48:17 Proliferation of opioid prescriptions 51:28 Labelling people as addicts 53:20 Drug/Set/Setting - evaluating risk 57:21 How we can support National Harm Reduction Coalition (HarmReduction.org) 59:57 Loving people back to health --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| 26 Feb 2024 | Food Behaviors and Adoption Trauma with Rebecca Berg - Ep 134 | 00:24:15 | |
"The root of the work, I would say, is really slowing down and learning how to sit with the discomfort of different sensations in the body." -- Rebecca Berg TranscriptRead this episode's transcript: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01HQC31S90118VY2NM91EADH9Q
SynopsisIn this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Rebecca Berg, a registered dietitian and adoptee who specializes in the intersection of adoption and food behaviors. Rebecca shared her personal journey of overcoming orthorexia and how early childhood trauma can manifest in issues around food. We delved into the complexities of adoption trauma and its impact on food relationships, highlighting the importance of understanding the connection between food and emotional well-being. Rebecca emphasized the need for adoptees to feel connected to their bodies and prioritize self-care, especially when dealing with stress and anxiety. She discussed the concept of "safe foods" for children with trauma histories and the importance of creating a structured and consistent meal environment to promote a sense of safety and security. As an adoptive parent, Rebecca provided valuable insights on supporting adopted children with food issues, emphasizing the significance of co-regulation and offering familiar, comforting foods to build trust and stability. She also introduced the concept of "body doubling" as a supportive technique for individuals struggling with nutrition and mental health challenges. Throughout the episode, Rebecca highlighted the importance of seeking professional help from registered dietitians with expertise in mental health and eating disorders. She shared practical advice for adoptive parents and individuals struggling with food-related issues, emphasizing the need for patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to explore and experiment with different approaches to nutrition and well-being. The episode concluded with a reminder to join the upcoming town hall meeting on March 10th to address the serious issue of murders of adopted children by adoptive parents and brainstorm ways to create safer environments for adopted children in our communities. Overall, the episode provides valuable insights into the complex relationship between adoption, trauma, and food behaviors, offering practical strategies for individuals and families navigating these challenges.
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