Unf*ck Your Relationships (Michelle Panning)

Today we’re going to talk about The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. No, not that apocalypse, don’t get all excited and throw all your predictions about end times at me.

Relationship professional John Gottam is an expert on all things lasting connection, and he has defined the 4 most prominent nails in the coffin when it comes to break-ups and divorces- The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse, if you will. These are dynamics I’ve encountered in my own relationships, and I’ve seen them countless times with clients. That’s why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast I’ll go more into:

• The 4 dynamics to look out for that affect relationships
• How to flip the script
• How to “fight better”

If you can break these bad habits and patterns, and embrace newer ones that ease rifts and distance instead of perpetuating them, you might just find yourself a love that lasts. It’s not about being right, it’s about being in a loving respectful relationship you both cultivate and care for, even during the harder moments. 

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You want to know why you’re struggling with setting boundaries?

I’ll give you a hint…it’s not because you don’t know how. If you’re in this space, I’m willing to bet you’ve heard HOW to set a boundary or what a boundary is a billion times.

What you need to be asking is WHY you aren’t setting boundaries.

I’ve said this before, I’ll say it again: EVERYTHING we do, we do it because we benefit in some way. If you’re resisting setting a boundary, there’s a reason…and until you uncover that reason, you’re not going to be able to set and enforce boundaries at all.

No more asking “How?” Instead, start asking “Why?”...and listen to my answer.

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m joined by four of my clients from The Connected Woman Program. We’ll be talking all about what this program did for their confidence and how it has changed the relationships they are in today. If you want to start feeling more worthy and confident in any relationship, this program might be for you. Stay tuned to find out more! 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• What life was like for these women before they started The Connected Woman. 
• What happened when they joined The Connected Woman. 
• Why you should join The Connected Woman. 

I hope this episode helps you understand what The Connected Woman can do for you and why feeling worthy is so important in any relationship. 

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I got introduced to a new phrase (but not a new idea) by a recent Chappell Roan interview: Walk Away Energy.

When asked how she stays so chill despite all her success, Chappell Roan said it was because she has “walk away energy.” And I absolutely had to sit down and talk about that.

“Walk away energy”  is similar to the detachment idea we were talking about here recently. It’s the idea that you are never, ever willing to stay in something that is past its expiration date; it’s the concept that you trust yourself enough to walk away from something when it’s over, or when someone isn’t treating you the way you deserve.

It’s taking all those thoughts of “But what if this is the best I can get?” and throwing them the f*ck away. 

If someone isn’t meeting your standards, you don’t have to stick around and tell them that you deserve to be treated better. 

When you have walk away energy, you don’t waste your time begging for the bare minimum. You just walk away.

It sounds easier than it is…but once you master it, you’ll find it’s your most powerful tool for attracting the kind of relationship you ACTUALLY deserve.

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Here’s a spicy little take for you…

So many of our “limitations” are self-imposed…because we glorify our own convenience and comfort over actually seeing some growth.

I recently signed up for a training I’ve been wanting to do for years. Actual f*cking years. I signed up, I paid in full, I booked for a single room, and…

They messaged back and told me they only had dorms available.

Shit.

If you don’t know this about me, I haaate sharing my sleeping space, period. My partner and I don’t even sleep in the same room. So when I found out I’d have to stay in the dorms, I started finding reasons to try and undo the plunge I already took…until I realized I was limiting myself from something I really, really wanted for the sake of nothing but my own comfort. And I told myself what I’m also going to tell you:

Get the f*ck over yourself.

If you let yourself set limitations based on your own convenience and comfort, and you feel as though you’re experiencing intense stagnation…news flash, babe. You’re actually the only thing standing in your way.

If we want something bad enough, we will do ANYTHING to make it happen. And yes, I do mean ANYTHING.

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What do you think men find alluring in a woman?

Whatever answer you gave…it’s probably wrong. 

It’s not about your appearance. It’s not about being a certain way or doing certain things to trick or coerce a man into wanting you.

It’s about connecting to yourself in a way that attracts a man who will love, cherish, and honor you. Not one who just wants to f*ck around and keep you around to boost his ego.

There’s a reason I go on and on and on about connecting to yourself on a deep level…because if you can’t connect to yourself, he can’t connect to you. And nothing is more alluring to a man than a woman who is not only deeply connected to herself…but actually loves herself more than she loves him.

Does that sound insane? Great. Then you’re the target audience for this episode. Let me tell you what men TRULY find attractive.

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We spend so much time identifying and dissecting warning signs in dating, it can feel hopeless. How would we even know if a guy is decent and datable? Would we recognize the signs? Well, lucky for you dear listener, I present the 12 green flags that will help you along your quest of finding out if he’s worth your time. In this episode, we’ll go more into:

• Learning how to spot a good potential partner
• Things to look for and reciprocate in your next relationship

Sometimes it’s good to shake things up, and view things in a more positive light. There ARE things to actively look for, not just avoid, and there ARE men out there who will help you feel loved, understood, and valued.

Learning how to spot them can be tricky, and this is why I want to share some of the green flags you should look for as you traverse the dating world. Keep those standards high, madam. You deserve the green flag guy. 

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You guys. I had the absolute pleasure of being a guest on Beatrice Kamau’s podcast, The Self Love Fix, this week, and we had the best fucking time.

If you don’t know Beatrice, she’s a self-trust embodiment coach who helps bad bitches magnetize their desires with ease through shadow work and developing self-trust…and happens to be a bad bitch herself! 

This week, we got to talk all things friendship: how to cultivate deep and lasting ones, why vulnerability is absolutely key in forming ANY relationship, how ingrained jealousy can threaten even those friendships you consider unbreakable, and even more. Every chance to hang out with Beatrice is a fucking gift, and I can’t wait for you all to hear the tough love we dropped this week.

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Stop. Putting. Him. Up. There.

On today’s episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we’re talking about pedestals and why you shouldn’t put men up there (but girl, we can understand the urge to do so).

No one is perfect, and if all you focus on is the good and build it up to mean more than it does, you’ll never make a genuine connection.

On this episode, I’ll explain in detail:

• Why we pedestal men
• What happens when we do

HINT: Nothing good

You can’t genuinely know or love a person if you can’t be yourself around them. 

Please stop shrinking your soul so his can shine.

And remember, he’s a human with human flaws. He farts. He pees. He gets the stomach flu. He probably wore puka shells in the early years when he believed that they were “the in thing.” 

All the good qualities you love in him, are in you.

Find someone who wants to enhance them, not overshadow them. And most importantly, make sure you remain true to what you need & desire most in your relationships, while continuing to embody your purest form of what makes you, you!

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day two of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking to whether or not honesty is really the best policy when it comes to dating and relationships.

Here are a few points I cover: 

• Being willing to take risks when connecting with new people
• Leaning into vulnerability
• Getting super fucking honest with ourselves
• How to say what you’re looking for on dating apps

I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record!

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Maybe you have a dude in your life, and he’s great. He’s cute and sweet and funny, and the sex is good. But GOD sometimes you just want him to be the man so you can be the woman. But, what if I told you that you might actually be the problem here. It’s not that he isn’t masculine, it’s that you BOTH are, and much like your fav pair of underwear, there can only be one. 

In this episode I break down :

• The differences between masculine and feminine energies 
• Ways to draw out the masculine from your partner (hint, be more feminine)

I’m not saying throw on an apron and pretend like it’s 1956 (if that’s your jam more power to you but for everyone who reads the above and immediately assumes I’m suggesting anything to do with submitting to manly authority, ew) but in order for him to take the lead on some things…you have to actually let him take the lead. 

This also means you’re going to have to do some soul searching to make sure the problem isn’t deeper- to make sure it isn’t actually you being unable to accept love and protection and the safety your relationship should provide. Let’s figure it out!

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We saw it all the time right when hashtags were becoming a thing: #friendgoals, #relationshipgoals, usually captioning pictures of girls with their heads squished together surrounded by brunch mimosas. And while brunch is a wonderful activity to incorporate into your friendship routine, it’s not necessarily a building block to a “friend goal” situation.

Sorry, friend (get it), but you’re actually going to have to work at your friendships. This is not to say that being someone’s friend has the rigidness of a relationship. That being said, you still want to make sure you’re surrounding yourself with good people, and that you’re one of these “good people” for those in your life. That’s why in this episode my friend Caitlyn and I: 

• Break down how to be a decent friend and human
• How triggers get in the way of vulnerability 
• How to show up for other people as a friend

If you want a real, lasting friendship, if you want #friendshipgoals, you have to earn it. You have to show up, and be the friend they need- the friend that you would want. 

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It’s my favorite time of year…

HAPPY CONNECTED WOMAN SEASON, LOVES!

This is my signature course for a f*cking reason, y’all. It is all about you connecting to YOU first and foremost—the romantic relationship is just a bonus on top of that.

Whether you're coming into this program single, married, divorced, dating, or anything in between, transforming your current or future relationship with a partner into something healthy and fulfilling comes as a result of you connecting to you…

And the vehicle that I use to get you there is embodied shadow work.

If you’re like “Um, wtf is shadow work?” then pause right here and go to my free three-day shadow work course, SHADOW HUNTER…but if you know what shadow work is, and you’re going, “What does EMBODIED shadow work mean?” then hit PLAY and let me tell you all about it.

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I lost something incredibly dear to me recently: my boobs.

Well, not entirely. Just part of them.

If you follow me on Instagram or have listened to my recent podcast episodes, you probably know that I had to have explant surgery to remove my breast implants thanks to a rupture. Fucking brilliant. Had the best time. (Not.)

While everyone was extremely supportive throughout the experience–my friends, my partner, and my surgical team–it was still an emotionally taxing experience, and it dredged up new insecurities I had no idea were ever there.

I want to talk about this so you all know that it’s all right to grieve a part of yourself…but you don’t want to wallow in that feeling forever. 

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Being abandoned is the best feeling in the entire world.

If that sentence made you go, “Um, WTF?” then you’re going to looove the rest of this episode.

I know it sounds fucking insane, yeah? How could anyone LOVE being abandoned? 

It’s more common than you think, actually. A lot of us have an addiction to being abandoned…but the root of that addiction is buried so deep in our subconscious that we don’t usually recognize it.

I know, because I used to be addicted to being abandoned. And if you can’t wrap your mind around that, think about it like this…

Do you lose interest in a guy when you don’t have to chase him?

Do you get major ick when you start to feel safe around someone?

Do you only think you’re “in love” when your nervous system is in total overdrive, leaving you “lovesick?”

Yeah, I thought that might sound familiar. Let’s talk about where this addiction to abandonment comes from.

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“I just don’t want a relationship right now.”

Did your heart just drop? You’re not alone—I’ve gotten this from men I dated in the past, and fuuuuck it hurts. 

It’s totally normal for it to hurt. Attachment happens fast as fuck—our bodies are designed to flood with chemicals to get us to bond with someone when they show us interest. 

But even though it’s normal, there’s still some shit we need to get straight…like what you should and ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT do in order to get a guy to commit to you.

I’m going to cover both sides today. So take a breath, brace yourself, and get ready for some tough love.

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“You’re too much.”

“You’re too emotional.”

“Your standards are too high.”

“You’re too picky.”

“You’re asking for too much.”

RED LIGHT, babe. Hold tf up.

Listen to me very, very, very closely.

You are not too much.

“But Michelle, they said—” I don’t give a shit.

“But Michelle, I asked for—” Did I fucking ask?

You are not too much. Period. Done. End of conversation. 

And if people keep telling you you’re “too much” then…maybe the problem isn’t you.

Maybe the problem is that you keep dating the wrong people.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

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In 2023, we’re taking the role of supporting character and chucking it into the bin.

The fact is, we are the main characters of our own fucking lives, and it’s about time we started acting like it. No more putting everyone else before ourselves. No more erasing our boundaries to make other people more comfortable. No more letting everyone and everything else decide what happens to us except ourselves.

It’s time to step into delusionally confident, utterly in charge, main character energy. And if you don’t know how to do that, good news—I do, and I’m telling you all about it today.

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Common belief of the collective “them” would have you believe that you have to be a perfect and flawless version of yourself in order to actually love yourself. I would argue that in subscribing to this school of thought, you’ll be waiting forever to love yourself, and I don’t love that for you. That’s why in this next episode I go more into:

• What self-love actually is
• How to accept all parts of yourself

Ultimately you’re the one who gets to decide what you believe and how you’re treated by yourself and others. Rejecting who you are, or being nasty to yourself isn’t going to help set the bar all that high, and really the person you’re hurting is you and your inner child. 

You and little you deserve love, compassion and respect, but you have to believe that just as much as I do for you to get there. Let’s go. 

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Brace yourselves, love. This is going to get spicy, and maybe not in the fun way.

Let’s talk jealousy.

Contrary to popular opinion, jealousy by itself is not a fucking red flag. It’s just another emotion, and like any other emotion—anger, fear, pleasure, pain, etc.—it’s actually just trying to tell you something.

The issue isn’t feeling jealous. The issue is the controlling, toxic, manipulative behavior that can come out of feeling jealous if you don’t tackle it in a healthy, communicative way.

Shaming yourself for being jealous is not the vibe, friends. There are better ways to tackle this without slapping yourself on the wrist every time you feel a fucking human emotion, and I’m here today to tell you how.

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When you start to step into your main character energy, you are going to piss people off.

It’s just a fact, babe. When you begin to evolve and stop settling for whatever low standards you used to accept, people are going to get pissed off about it. Why?

Because they’re going to start projecting their own unhealed wounds onto you.

I’ve seen it happen. In fact, just recently I got a SCATHING comment on one of my Instagram posts that got me thinking about why we need to be prepared to hold people in their projections…without letting it halt our own growth.

You can have empathy without halting your evolution. You can hold space for people’s wounds without stagnating your own growth to soothe them. And if there’s something you don’t want to make yourself available for, guess what? You. Don’t. Fucking. Have. To.

Responding > reacting, loves. Let’s talk about it.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about getting what you want and how you can use the law of attraction to speed up the process. I’m explaining how to manifest your ideal relationship and why the universe will throw you exactly what you want in life when you are clear on what that is. Want the secret to manifesting your dream relationship? Stay tuned! 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• The key to manifestation. 
• What to do after you decide what you want. 
• Celebrating yourself when you get what you want. 

I hope this episode teaches you how to stop putting so much pressure on yourself when it comes to reaching your desires. Decide what you want, get super clear on it, feel as if it's already done, and take action that aligns with your desires. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

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When you’re fighting to win the argument, not to reconnect with your partner…everyone loses.

We all looove winning an argument…at first. It feels f*cking great to get the last word. The high of nailing that last comeback is addicting…

And so, so fleeting.

It feels good in the moment to “win”...but the thing is, you haven’t actually “won.” In fact, odds are good that both your partner AND you have lost something through this conflict.

If you’re struggling with unresolved conflict in your relationship—as in, there’s an issue or an argument that just keeps coming back up between you and your partner, and you guys just keep going around and around and around on the fucking conflict carousel…

You need to decide whether you’re willing to compromise, or if you need to get off the fucking ride. 

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Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow-work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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If you look at me and think, “Well, it’s easy for her. She’s always been embodied. I’ll never be like that…”

LOL. No, bitch, I fucking was not.

I was living so deeply in my own head that I had no idea how disconnected I was from my body until I signed up for a feminine embodiment retreat. The practices we did there were triggering tf out of me. That retreat kicked my ass…

And it was the exact thing I needed. 

That retreat is why I do what I do now. In fact, I wouldn’t be hosting my own feminine embodiment retreat this year if I hadn’t done that.

When you’ve disconnected from your body, it’s incredibly difficult to get reconnected. But it’s sooo f*cking worth the work.

So if you’re like I was and you’re thinking, “Um, why tf would I go to a feminine embodiment retreat?” then sit down. I’m about to tell you exactly why. 

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Are you a woman with all the knowledge, but none of the embodiment? Are you ready to remember who TF you are? Then you need to sign up for ALCHEMY - THE RETREAT: https://michellepanning.my.canva.site/alchemy 

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Online dating. So much potential. So much danger. In order to make sure you’re not matching with people who are wildly inappropriate for you (hold onto your butts here, I’m about to blow your mind) you have to actually be honest about what you want and who you are. 

Ugh, vulnerability. Why is vulnerability always the answer? Sorry kid, but in order to find “the one” you’re going to have to try and be honest instead of the “cool girl” — not that you’re not cool, but when you try to force it the authenticity just isn’t there. We’re humans, not male-authored characters in a fantasy series.

In this episode we’ll take a closer look at:

• Why honesty is the necessity in your dating profile
• Why mental games serve no one in a relationship

You’re gonna get there, friend, but in order to do so you have to stop standing in your own way. Whether that’s catering your personality to be palatable for men, or playing games to hold the upper hand, you’ve got to stop (Do you want to be a girlfriend or a Bond villain?). And learn to embrace and proudly present the truest, most authentic version of you from the very beginning of your entrance into the dating scene. 

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On today’s episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we’re talking about how to deal when you get your heart broken. Whether you were the initiator, on the receiving end, or the series finale was a mutual decision; breakups are tough to handle.

All the questions, self-doubt, and paranoia invade your brain, in between pints of cookie dough ice cream and “Legally Blonde” viewings... tears in your eyes, yearning in vain for the power Elle Woods wielded in the laptop scene (RIP fun Macbooks). But guess what, that can be you!

Here are a few things we cover in this episode:

• How processing the hurt and anger is how you heal
• How to cultivate a better relationship with yourself
• How to reframe and see what you can learn from it

If this episode finds you going through a breakup in real time, I hope it offers some hope and comfort. And I hope that even if you’re happily committed, it helps you remember that ultimately, your most important relationship is with yourself. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

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Here’s an exciting little secret for you…

Did you know that you’ve been cast as the MAIN CHARACTER in your love life?

In fact, you’re not just the main character. You’re the screenwriter. The casting director. The costume designer. The credits have YOUR name all over them, babe…

So why are you still acting like the f*cking side character?

Too many of you are out here acting like you have to apologize for wanting the spotlight + taking up space on the stage…when you OWN THE F*CKING STAGE.

This is YOUR life. YOU are the writer, the actor, the EVERYTHING. And if you don’t like how this little play is going for you…

Maybe it’s time to rewrite the script.

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Let me ask you a question…

What’s stopping you from being confident?

“Well, I’m super shy. I’m afraid to make my voice heard.”

“I don’t like being in the spotlight.”

“I don’t know how to assert myself; I don’t know how to take up space.”

Um…who said you had to?

Look, my expression of confidence…it’s loud. It’s bold. I take up space. It can be triggering for people to look at…

But if you aren’t like that, that doesn’t mean you can’t be confident…because that’s not what confidence IS. That’s just my expression of it.

I want you to be confident in who tf YOU are…and I want you to know what’s ACTUALLY holding you back from being the most confident, badass bitch in the room.

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Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy

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On today’s episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we’re talking about how to give up the ghost — of a relationship, that is.

While it’s probably gone on forever, these days the term for disappearing when dating is termed ghosting, and it can really throw you for a loop. Dating is hard enough without wondering why you and a dude couldn't stop texting one minute and the next he’s nowhere to be found. What gives?!

On this episode we’ll get into:

• Potential reasons for the ghosting (hint: not your fault)
• How to deal and grow from ghosting
• Knocking down that pedestal we put men on

Dating is like the Wild West. It’s confusing, lawless, thrilling, and frustrating. But I’m here to hopefully make it a bit more bearable when a guy goes radio silent on you. 

Confusing? Yes, but it’s actually a commentary on him, not you. Stop internalizing his bad behavior, and remember that as long as your relationship with yourself is strong, you can process and grow from anything he (or the universe) throws your way.

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

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It’s 2025. 

I don’t know about you, but I’m so fucking excited it’s a new year—and I don’t plan to finish it as the same person I was when it started.

I want to be UNRECOGNIZABLE by 2026…and I want to help you get there, too.

I want this year to be your ultimate fucking glow-up. But first, we need to go over some pretty crucial perspective shifts.

You CAN become the most confident, iconic, badass version of yourself. But not if you keep doing life the way you’ve been doing it…and not if you sit around refusing to take action to actually create some fucking change.

Let’s get to work.

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Here’s something you might not know about me:

I have genital herpes.

And you know what else?

It’s not a f*cking big deal.

Herpes is an extremely common STI. But with all the stigma and misinformation floating around, it’s also common to be living in total f*cking shame about it…

Which is what my lovely guest today, Bek Antonucci, is working to change.

Bek is an emotional wellbeing coach for women (also called a confidence coach) and supports women in breaking free from any of their limiting beliefs that they're holding about themselves so that they feel courageous enough to express themselves authentically in this world.

Some people also call her a herpes virus coach, because she speaks loudly, proudly, bravely, and boldly about the herpes virus online. She loves to see women break free from that so that they can live their most liberated free life, and she loves being able to help them on that journey. 

Herpes doesn’t have to wreck your entire f*cking life. And Bek’s here today to prove it.

WORK WITH BEK:

Website: https://shor.by/mSuQ 

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Follow Bek on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bekantonucci/ 

Listen to RAW, REAL, AND VULNERABLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raw-real-vulnerable-with-bek-antonucci/id1641025015 

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If you’ve been following me for a while now, you’ve probably heard me speak on the term duality—the concept of two opposing things being true at the same time. This week, I’m diving into one example of duality that very few people seem to understand: that you can be perfectly happy living your single life, and still desire a relationship.

Wild, right? You don’t actually have to choose between one or the other. You don’t have to pick between contentment and desire. You can feel both. You can have both. And nobody, NOBODY should be shaming you for it.

This is a controversial topic, but hey, those are my favorite to tackle. If you find yourself riddled with shame for wanting a relationship on top of all the other good things in your life, if you feel ungrateful or unreasonable for wanting more, you need to listen to this episode. It’s time to let go of all that shit.

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WELCOME TO 2024, BITCHES!

I fucking LOVE the first day of a new year…no surprise, cause I’m also a Monday girl. Most people are all about the weekend, but not me.

I love fresh energy. I love new possibilities. And I’m welcoming 2024 in with open arms…and bold intentions.

Intention-setting has changed EVERYTHING for me. But here’s the thing about intention setting…

I believe in setting big, bold intentions. But in my experience, a lot of people set safe intentions they KNOW they can accomplish…or even some they’ve already accomplished before.

This is called operating in the realm of predictability. And babe, we’re not fucking with that energy in 2024.

Leave the predictable behind. Let’s talk about what can happen when you live in the realm of POSSIBILITY instead.

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Every quarter, I do a life audit…and I’m inviting you to do the same. Sign up for 2024 CLEANUP now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/2024-cleanup/ 

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Confession…

When I first heard about scripting manifestation, I thought it was suuuuch bullshit.

Like, I’m sorry…you mean to tell me that if I write down what I want, it’s just magically going to happen for me? I don’t think so.

Well, that is exactly what I f*cking mean to tell you. Because scripting manifestation is actually THE shit, not bullshit.

Scripting is a powerful manifestation tool I use aaall the fucking time…and when I tell you it works, it WORKS.

If you think you’re shit at manifesting, if you think manifestation is total nonsense, or if you’re brand-new to manifestation and don’t know how to start…this episode is perfect for you. Let me teach you how to become the screenwriter of your own life.

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What’s your game plan with your emotions? Do you even have one? Do you go radio silent and withdraw, as you clutch tea and stare out the window, preferably at the rain? OR do you enjoy leaning into intense feelings, embracing them as you throw epic tantrums and verbal barbs? Is there a balance between the two? There is! Especially when we first go from suppressing to expressing, it can be hard to find the balance between validating yourself and your emotions and using it as carte blanche to word vomit every feeling that crosses your mind. On the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we’ll talk more about:

• Differences between emotional expression and dumping
• Tools to help you cope better
• Ways to make sure you’re expressing yourself appropriately 

A truly emotionally empowered woman discerns when and what and how to share because she knows that at the end of the day, she’s got this shit. She may turn to others for perspective from time to time, but she doesn’t need to make them feel like overwhelmed shit in order to feel better.  

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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I have a complicated relationship with vulnerability.

When I first started this work, I couldn’t even say the f*cking WORD. And even though I’ve gotten so much better about it…it’s still terrifying.

I don’t want people to see me as less than perfect. I don’t want them to see me struggle. Because what if they see I’m not perfect, that I don’t have it all together, and I lose my credibility? What if they don’t want to work with me anymore?

But I choose to be vulnerable anyway. Even on one of the scariest platforms to be publicly vulnerable: social media.

Social media is a GIFT. I wouldn’t have the business I have if not for social media. But I also can’t help wondering what kind of damage it’s doing to us to have perfection shoved in our faces at every turn…and how we can take the good without getting caught up in the comparison game.

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There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge, and when it comes to human design, my guest on the podcast this week is fucking BURSTING with wisdom.

I have never met someone more embodied in their work than Mallory, my wonderful friend and a passionate human design coach. (Like, she doesn’t even need fucking notes to dive deeper into human design and what it can do than anyone else I’ve ever heard.)

According to Mallory, human design is the shortcut to all your core dreams and desires. And your first step to mapping out that shortcut is by listening to today’s episode.

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I’d like to take this episode to talk about a topic I feel often gets pushed under the dating rug- the almost relationship.

We’ve all been there- you go on a few amazing dates, he’s wonderful, you’re communicating and connecting and planning events months in the future. You feel solid, and you just KNOW you're both on the same page. He mentions meeting his parents. This is it. Any day he’ll ask you to be in a real honest to goodness relationship…only he dumps you instead. What gives?

That’s why we delve deeper into:

• How to get over a relationship that never was
• Ways to be there for yourself in hard times
• How to tap into your power for future relationships

Look, even if you get married and ride off into the sunset, happily ever afters aren’t guaranteed. So better that you learn to grieve connections big and small so that you’re prepared and know how to rely on your greatest resource- yourself. No one can take your own power from you once you’ve found it. 

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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And we’re back, analyzing new ways our parents meant well but ultimately set us up for failure… Did you have parents who made sure you were physically fine, and then blatantly neglected you for the other stuff?

Maybe they thought they were making you independent, maybe they were relating to you the only way they knew how, but now here you are, stuffing down all your feelings and straight-up avoiding real connection. 

Yep, we’re going to talk about dismissive avoidant attachment: 

• How and why you became an avoider
• How to stop avoiding, heal, and truly enjoy personal connections

And no, it’s not going to be an all-out verbal brawl against your parents, they did their best. But their best might have had unintentional fallout that is affecting you and your ability to relate to people (as well as date them). 

So we have to acknowledge and process that before we can even start to move forward. Meet yourself where you’re at, and let’s get to work.

If you’re ready to go from void of emotion and avoiding connection in your relationships, to enjoying vulnerability, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

You can’t wait to meet HIM. The ONE. He’ll be attractive and put together and communicative, self-assured but also safe. But here’s the thing; if you’re holding him to high standards, chances are he’s holding you to the same.

So are you in a place to accept his healthy affection? Are you in a place where you can meet the same standards you have set for him? Are you prepared to enter into a relationship with confidence? In this episode we’ll look closer at: 

• How finding something and holding something are very different
• How standards for him are also standards for you

A decent man expects you to be able to communicate with a healthy side of vulnerability as needed. Acting out to test boundaries? Nah. Avoiding conflict because it makes you uncomfortable? He doesn’t dig it.

He’s not here to be your father, just like you’re not here to be his mother. You both want equal partners. This is why the relationship is healthy and balanced, but also why you’re expected to communicate in healthy and productive ways.

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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I’m just gonna be honest: the subtle growth we experience every day is fucking boring.

That’s just how it is. It’s fucking boring. When we aren’t experiencing huge, life-changing shifts, we feel like nothing is happening at all.

But that’s not the case at all.

Maybe you can’t name the shifts that have happened to you in the last six months. But I bet if you sat down and took a look at just how far you’ve come in that time, regardless of whether there were any huge “breakthroughs,” you’ll find that you’ve been steadily growing all along.

It’s time we let go of our addiction to catharsis and start embracing the progress we make day-to-day. Let me tell you why.

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about what it means to be emotionally available versus emotionally unavailable. I’m going to help you figure out what role this plays in your relationships and how to step away from being emotionally unavailable so stay tuned for all the details! 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• You are what you attract. 
• Signs of emotional availability.  
• Signs of emotional unavailability. 

I hope this episode helps you understand the difference between being emotionally unavailable and being emotionally available. Take a second in every situation and lean into your emotions because this is something that needs to be learned and relearned over time.

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open. 

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In 2025, we’re not settling for f*cking crumbs anymore, babe.

In 2025, it’s time to become the center of your own love life; to become That Girl. That Bitch. The Dream Girl. 

Whatever you want to call her, she’s yours for the taking—if you can actually get off your ass and do the work to become her.

No more putting everyone else’s needs over yours. No more leading with your insecurities…or masking them with false perfection. No more criticizing your man into the ground, then wondering why he doesn’t do what you ask him to do.

Have no f*cking clue how to make that transformation? Welcome to this episode of UFYR, my love. Let’s make it happen.

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Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience 

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Ready to stop obsessing over texts, chasing unavailable men, and feeling like you’re always one step away from being abandoned? Sign up for my FREE masterclass, CLINGY TO CONFIDENT: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/clingy-to-confident/ 

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Get ready for a coaching sesh in communication, loves. I’ve invited Shannon Torres, a client, business owner, and overall badass, to come on and chat about what happens when we can’t communicate effectively…with others or ourselves.

Shannon started off as most people do: unable to communicate feelings and navigating relationships through an endless cycle of repeated patterns. After years of personal development, she found herself listening to my podcast and ended up signing up for my Signature Program, "The Connected Woman," and it's been non-stop ever since! She recently started her own business as a Confidence & Communication Coach, helping others live courageously and speak honestly while cultivating connection.

I can’t wait for you all to hear the fucking WISDOM this woman has. 

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Website: www.confidentconvos.com
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Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy 

Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be breaking down my program The Connected Woman and showing you exactly why it's a must for anyone struggling personally or in a relationship.  I truly want to help you make a decision that feels good, so stay tuned for all the details!

Here are a few points I cover: 

• Why I created The Connected Woman. 
• How The Connected Woman helps cultivate your safety. 
• Getting clear on your thoughts.  

I hope this episode helps you decide if The Connected Woman is for you. It's time we break down your patterns and regain your self-worth! 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open. 

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm sharing the moment when I felt like everything shifted for me – and how the lessons I learned can help you become the next-level version of yourself!

Here’s what I’ll cover:

• My BIG life-changing shift that helped shape the rest of my career & life.
• Key questions to ask yourself in order to receive everything you deserve.

I hope this episode helps you trust that everything truly is always working out for you, no matter how challenging things may seem right now. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m getting into how you can strive to stop being so hard on yourself and focus on accepting all of you! Life will never be “perfect,” and that’s ok. You can be doing the work and still make mistakes. 

We’re going to talk about:

• Focusing on yourself and not comparing yourself to others
• Accepting all parts of yourself, even the ones you’re not as comfortable with

You’re growing, changing and putting in the work to be the best you. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions fully and do what’s best for you. You deserve it. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

This one’s for the anxiously attached girlies…and everyone, honestly, because there’s some fucking gems in here. But if you have an anxious attachment style, these lessons go double for you, mmkay?

Anxious attachment can feel like a life sentence. But the truth is, your attachment style IS something you can heal…but you have to start taking steps toward security.

In today’s episode, we’re going to go over 24 lessons I want you to take out of 2024 and into 2025. And once you learn these lessons and put them into practice, you’ll be shocked how quickly things can change for you.

Like I always say…when it comes to changing our patterns, we have to learn to clock them, own them, and clean them up. And these lessons are a great way to start.

Here’s to 2025, bitches. Let’s get you on your way to a secure relationship.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience 

Ready to finally take action to transform your life in 2025? Apply for one-to-one mentorship with me: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457

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In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m getting vulnerable. Like, really vulnerable. Here’s the deal; I have herpes. And you know what? It’s actually not the clusterfuck your high school health teacher warned you about. I still have fulfilling intimate relationships, and it’s even taught me to be in tune with my body’s needs in a new way. Am I endorsing you going out and intentionally getting yourself some syphilis tomorrow? No. But I am telling you if you have or contract one, STIs are common,  manageable, and in no way life (or love) ending.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

• How to approach STIs with a partner without making them run for the hills. 
• Remember that you’re not a human biohazard just because you have an STI.

Stigma and shame can steal so much from your life if you let it. Let’s remind each other that we are powerful, beautiful women who have nothing to apologize for, even if we’re  living with an STI. Don’t let that shame take a potentially fulfilling relationship from you, because you deserve to have everything you want no matter what! 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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EPISODE RESOURCES:

STI Educator - Emily L. Depasse: https://instagram.com/sexelducation

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

The truth of the matter is, there is no such thing as perfect: he’s not perfect but neither are you. You both have weird hang-ups and quirks and flaws. You’re both going to annoy the ever-loving shit out of one another from time to time. You’re going to fight. You’re going to disagree. This doesn’t mean your relationship is bad or doomed or that you need to end it. In this episode we’ll talk more about:

• Societal expectations vs reality
• How flaws are inherent in any relationship because people are flawed

If you feel safe, heard, seen, emotionally and sexually fulfilled- if you love him, don’t go looking for trouble where there is none. Your relationship is normal. It’s the world’s expectations that aren’t. So stop trying to make problems and make some sweet sweet love instead. 

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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Oh, you fearful-avoidant unicorns. You are a small percentage of the population. So small, but mightily terrible. I’m so sorry. Let’s break down your particular cross to bear.

Yet again, we’re going up against a traumatic childhood, however, this one is mainly fear-based trauma.  You likely had parents who loved to overshare (resulting in parentification of you, the child), when they felt like it. So now, you’re a commitment cretan who can’t decide if you want connection or to run for the hills. In this episode we’ll talk:

• About more tendencies of the fearful-avoidant 
• How to overcome 

You can love and be loved the way you want. You can get over your fear of intimacy without sacrificing self-preservation. 

You deserve all of that and more, and building off of everything that got you here with more awareness and self-love will go a long way. 

If you’re ready to go from void of emotion and avoiding connection in your relationships, to enjoying vulnerability, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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EPISODE RESOURCES:

Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Nowadays, inner child work is beyond popular. It’s trending. It’s everywhere. But as recently as five years ago, I had no idea what the fuck an “inner child” even was.

Hard to imagine, right? It’s even hard for me to believe. My relationship to my inner child has come leaps and bounds from where it was back then…but it was definitely a journey to get here.

I believe we all have multiple “inner children” within us…and for me, some of them are wayyy easier to have compassion for than others. But without doing the inner child work and learning to heal every stage of my inner child, trust me…my ability to have a conscious relationship would still be extremely fucking limited.

Let’s talk about why inner child work is so important.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman 

Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers

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If you don’t know my backstory, here it is: I left a long string of trauma-bonded, unhealthy relationships behind me before I entered my current relationship.

This is my first truly conscious relationship, and let me tell you…the lessons I’ve learned from it have fucking changed everything.

There are so many things you need to rethink, reprioritize, and revamp in your life if you want to have a truly conscious, healthy relationship, but instead of struggling through these lessons yourself, I’m here to tell you all about what I’ve learned from this almost-year-long relationship of mine. 

Life-changing doesn’t begin to describe it, loves. A conscious relationship will transform the way you experience relating and love…but it doesn’t happen on its own.

Not. Even. Close.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

If you’re curious about how a relationship check-in works, good news…you can experience it in real time when you purchase access to Relationship Revival, a 2-day workshop all about our monthly relationship check-in!

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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He’s baaaaack!

You asked for it, you’re getting it: give a big WELCOME BACK to Drew Wild, an addiction coach whose mission is to change the way this planet looks at and approaches addiction and to tear down any stigma with that word…and is also my amazing, hilarious, fucking glorious partner.

Today’s episode is going to be a little more lighthearted than the last time I had Drew on: we’re going to chat about what makes our relationship special, the best and hardest parts of it, and give all the juicy details behind one of my favorite stories…the story of how we met.

Get ready for a fun, tell-all, slightly distracted behind-the-scenes look at our relationship: the good, the difficult, and the spit-take-worthy moments.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Join Relationship Revival, a 2-day workshop all about our monthly relationship check-in: https://courses.michellepanning.com/offers/9i9UX4h2/checkout

Join Line in the Sand, Drew’s trauma-informed addiction recovery platform: https://www.litsrecovery.com/

CONNECT WITH DREW:

Follow Drew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drew_wild/

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Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I’m gonna be really honest, all right? There’s one thing that drives me absolutely crazy in my relationship:

My partner doesn’t use the dishwasher.

It’s such a small thing, but it drives me a bit mental. And for most of us, even if we’re not controlling people, this is how controlling tendencies show up: in the day-to-day. In the loading of the dishwasher. In the way they fold their socks. 

Why do we do this to our partners? Does this mean we’re terrible people? 

Good news: no. Bad news: you still gotta sit down and work on that shit, babe.

We end up being controlling in a relationship because we feel emotionally unsafe. We're feeling turmoil, and we're so afraid that if we lose control, we will lose everything. But we need to start examining the root of these fears if we don’t want to actually lose everything…including our partners. 

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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EPISODE RESOURCES:

Sign up for Swipe Right, a 2-day live workshop-style intensive for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

One of the most common things I hear when working with women is “I just want real love.” Dude, I hear you. I know. And sure, to some degree, lots of men are the worst. But, I have news for you- you’re part of the problem. 

Look, it’s never fun to identify what we’re doing wrong. But if you feel like you’re in an endless loop of attracting men who are super fun and hot and things go well until they crash and burn- eh, sorry but you’re employing a pattern. You’re doing it to yourself and you’re getting in your own way. That’s why on the latest episode of the podcast I talk more about:

• How you might be repeating bad dating patterns
• Things to look out for as you date
• Qualities to look for in a partner

Basically, you’re not asking the right questions. You’re probably so focused on the chemistry in the relationship that you’re neglecting the compatibility. Lucky for you though, I’ve got some great tips on how to combat this, and make sure your next relationship is set up for success. Get ready to find yourself some real love.

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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You want the key to being happy consistently?

Here it is, babes:

Building hot girl habits. 

You get consistently happy by consistently doing things that make you feel good—and that requires you to turn those things into habits. You want those things to become second nature for you, not things you only do every so often.

Your life as it is now is the result of habits you started building weeks, months…even years ago. So if you’re able to start building happier habits now…how much of a difference will you see in another year?

Caveat: don’t think that all the habits that contribute to your happiness are going to feel good right away. Not everything that is good for you feels good…and not everything that feels good is good for you.

So how do you tell the difference between what feels good and what’s actually good for you…and how do you take that and use it to build those much-needed habits?

Let’s go over it together.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy 

Get instant access to SHADOW HUNTER, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/

Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman 

Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience

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This may be my favorite episode to date…or at least, it was definitely the most fucking fun to record.

When my best friend in the whole world, the badass India Vine, told me she’d be coming to see me for the weekend, I figured…what better time to get her on the podcast?

Not only that…but what better person to interview me and Drew and ask us the questions other interviewers probably never would?

This shit is GOLD, my loves. There’s some truly juicy stuff in here…including the story about how Drew (absolutely, definitely, beyond a doubt) broke up with me.

Yeah–we’re going there. Grab some popcorn and a glass of your favorite whatever. This is gonna be FUN.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Sign up for RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/relationshiprevival/ 

Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience

Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3 

Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

CONNECT WITH INDIA:

Follow India on Instagram @indiavine!

CONNECT WITH DREW:

Follow Drew on Instagram @drew_wild!

Trying to be the perfect woman is killing your love life.

I mean it—this little perfectionism thing you’ve got going on? It’s not protecting you from anything, babe—it’s actually keeping you stuck in the same patterns you’ve been playing out for your whole dating life.

Perfectionism is not a protector—it’s a prison. And until you get up the courage to show up as the person you actually are, not whatever kind of woman would be the perfect match for the guy you’re seeing this month, you’re not going to find that secure, healthy relationship you want so badly.

So how do you clock this, own it, and clean it up? Here’s what you need to watch out for…and what you need to do to quit the perfection game.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

This is not your average confidence course. Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy 

Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience 

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You might not know it…but if you’re a people-pleaser, your need to be liked is seriously f*cking with your confidence.

How do I know? Because once upon a time, I was also a people-pleaser.

…No, seriously. I was 100% a people pleaser. 

I don’t come off like one now. I’ve done a lot of f”cking work to clean up that pattern. But let me tell you…until I did, my confidence was f*cked.

If you’re not willing to be totally, courageously yourself—and you’ve got a bad habit of trying to chameleon to whatever expectations or desires other people have for you—then you’re going to be in for a rude awakening when you can no longer keep up that mask. And there’s only one way to kick the habit.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join The EXPERIENCE, a year-long mentorship for the woman who wants to play in the frequency of big love, epic sex and mind-blowing relationships with men…and herself: https://michellepanning.com/the-experience 

Join MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy

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I talk a lot about becoming utterly unfuckwithable, but let me tell you…over the past few months, I feel that I’ve truly UPLEVELED in my ability to be exactly that.

I have unfuckwithable confidence. I have an unfuckwithable sense of who I am. I have unfuckwithable integrity and emotional intelligence. I have come leaps and bounds in the past few months, and I want to tell you all about it.

Mentorship played a HUUUGE part in this transformation, thanks to receiving some hard truth I needed to hear from one of my mentors, but that’s not all—it required a whole fucking lot of mindset work on my part. And there are some things about mindset work I want to share that are going to flip your world upside down.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy 

Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience

Apply for 1:1 mentorship: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457 

Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers

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This one’s going to sting, loves…

But we need to talk about feminine energy.

Specifically, we need to talk about performative feminine energy.

We’re seeing a huge resurgence in embracing feminine energy…and that’s fucking amazing. We love to see it. But with that resurgence, I’m also seeing an upswing in people mistaking performative femininity for actual feminine embodiment.

And if you don’t know the difference (or don’t know shit about the feminine, period) don’t stress. We’re going to fix that right tf now.

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience

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We’ve all heard about what happens when we get hit with a hundred fucking awful things all at once.

A ton of people have talked about how to expand your capacity to hold more when bad things are happening. But here’s the thing…

We don’t only hit our capacity for negative shit. We also have a certain capacity to hold good things…and when we reach it, we end up primed to dive straight into self-sabotage.

I have had the BEST beginning to my year. My life is so fucking good right now…so good that I actually started getting wayyyy overwhelmed.

This doesn’t make us ungrateful. It doesn’t mean anything bad about us. It just means we need to expand our capacity a little wider…and I’m here today to tell you how to handle it when the good becomes TOO good.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Join Relationship Revival, a 2-day workshop all about our monthly relationship check-in: https://courses.michellepanning.com/offers/9i9UX4h2/checkout

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CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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Why do we insist on seeking answers from sources outside ourselves?

I’m not exempt, either. When I got my brand-new car and got into my brand-new house—things I’d been pining over for such a long time—I had an incredibly sobering, fucking shattering moment of ego death where I realized, “Michelle, you've lost yourself in the pursuit of all of those things. Now what?”

And that’s not to say I was wrong for wanting or pursuing those things. But I want all of those things and a connection to myself.

All that to say, I fucking know how important that connection to self is…which is why I am so fucking excited to tell you all about an upcoming opportunity all about feminine embodiment, coming back to yourself, and connecting to your body. All in all, I see it as a homecoming…and now that I’ve experienced it, I want you to experience it, as well.

Introducing Alchemy: The Retreat.

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about my favorite books that have changed my life. I fully believe that you can get a lot out of reading books, if you actually apply the information learned to your own life . Stay tuned to hear all about my top six must-read books for women! 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• Must-read books for women to change the way you think. 
• How these books have changed my life. 

I hope this episode encourages you all to go out and purchase whichever book speaks to you. Each of these books offers a different perspective about life and changes the way you might view certain circumstances & experiences.

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:

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Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Secure your spot in Swipe Right now! The waitlist is now open: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right-waitlist 

Hands up if you’re someone who deals with a F*CKTON of anxiety, depression, and/or dysregulation.

(You’re in good company. Just a couple years ago, both my hands would’ve been in the air too.)

If that’s you, I’ve got some amazing news: today’s guest has exactly the toolset you need to start climbing out of constant dysregulation.

I am so thrilled to welcome Anna Ferguson (aka @annatheanxietycoach, find her on Instagram!) to the podcast!

Anna is a qualified counselor, coach, author of The Vagus Nerve Reset, and an integrative nervous system therapist. She passionately supports individuals in coming home to themselves through harnessing the healing power of their unique physiology, body, and nervous system. She also integrates her background in psychology and counseling with somatics, breathwork, and holistic process to create a functional, effective, and practical therapeutic approach to anxiety, stress, and trauma.

I knew I HAD to have her on…and trust me, you’re going to be f*cking glad you listened.

WORK WITH ANNA:

Visit Anna’s website to see all the ways you can work with her: https://annatheanxietycoach.com/ 

Pick up Anna’s book, The Vagus Nerve Reset: https://www.amazon.com/Vagus-Nerve-Reset-Stress-Anxiety/dp/0593689909/ref 

CONNECT WITH ANNA:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annatheanxietycoach/ 

WORK WITH MICHELLE: 

Ready to MASTER your shadows so you can magnetise high-AF-calibre men and fuckloads of money? Join MEN, MONEY, MAGNETISM now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/mmm/ 

Get instant access to SHADOW HUNTER, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/

Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience

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This one’s for all my ladies who feel like all they attract is men of the emotionally unavailable kind…girl I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you’re the problem. No, keep reading, just hear me out; like peanut butter cups and bad romance novels, bad boys are kind of addictive. It’s why the second he starts to show interest you feel smothered and sprint your cute butt right outta there to find you a man who will have you stress eating by your phone all night. 

Why, tho? Well, in this episode we explore:

• Why you always seem to end up with emotionally unavailable men
• What this can mean for your own self-esteem

Dating this type of guy is as sucky as it is safe; chances are you’ve dated a string of them and you’re used to the chaotic highs and lows that accompany dating an emotionally constipated male. 

It also means you never really have to worry about sharing anything real, or truly risk your heart. But this dynamic is about as refreshing as a birdbath on a 90-degree day. And if you never get a grasp on why you seek these guys out and learn to stop, well, have fun with relationship heat stroke. 

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I have heard way, way, wayyy too many people ask why the spark has disappeared from their relationships…and then blame their partner for lack of effort.

Here’s the truth: the minute you let your relationship shift into autopilot, you will lose that level of connection you had at the start. Relationships don’t run on their own, regardless of how long it’s been; you always need to be putting effort into it to keep it alive.

The good news? Putting effort into your relationship actually doesn’t take that much from you…sometimes, it’s as simple as listening to them talk about how hot it is outside and agreeing that yes, it is in fact hot outside. Sometimes it means taking a look at the bird they pointed out in your tree. Sometimes it means saying “Me, too” when they say they’re tired.

These little things are called “bids for connection,” and trust me, while they don’t seem that important…they stack up to something much bigger.

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If you want to call in a man who leads…

Take your hands OFF the fucking steering wheel.

If you keep stepping in to plan things, if you keep making decisions, if you keep reaching out again and again and again when your energy isn’t being met…what makes you think he’s going to magically wake up one day and take over?

If you step into your masculine, he will step back into his feminine. And that’s fine, if that’s what you want…but if you’re not fulfilled in it, if you’re getting resentful, then it’s time to stop and step back.

And if that means you never go on another date again…so fucking be it, babe. You’re not making yourself available for a relationship where you’re leading anymore.

Here’s how you finally learn to lean back…and how to preserve that energy moving forward.

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Conscious relating isn’t a skill you can just DECIDE to learn.

It takes fucking work. It takes doing THE fucking work. But if you’re anything like me, sometimes you don’t learn lessons until you’ve fucked around and found out once, twice…a lot.

If you’re NOT like me and CAN learn things without fucking them up first just in case, this episode is going to be great for you. I’m here today to share a few things I had to do before I was able to actually have a truly conscious relationship.

People can get trapped in the never-ending loop of “doing the work” without actually DOING anything. Action is a key piece of the process, and if we don’t take it, we’re just going to keep looping the same old patterns over and over and over again.

Let’s break the pattern.

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“I keep trying and trying, but the men I’m attracting just aren’t it. Why can’t I find a man that meets my standards?”

I don’t know…do you keep compromising on those standards, maybe?

Here’s the thing. A lot of people don’t feel like they’re compromising, because they settle for an “almost.”

He’s “almost” what you said you wanted. He “almost” gives you everything you need in a relationship. You’re “almost” happy.

Almost isn’t good enough. We’re not settling for “almost.”

Today, I’m going to share a story about a client who wasn’t willing to settle for “almost” good enough…even when it looked like sticking to those standards might make her end up alone.

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I am so fucking excited to share today’s episode with you all. I have invited the illustrious Victoria Alario onto the podcast to chat with me today!

Victoria is a multi-passionate and multifaceted entrepreneur with a focus on helping women unleash their confidence and step into their 2.0 self. Her work helps women build their self-esteem, embrace their purpose, and get everything they want out of life. She's known for telling it like it is, keeping it real, and pushing you out of your comfort zone to raise the bar—which, hello! She fits right in here!

I brought Victoria on to chat about her enhanced lingerie line, her commitment to celibacy and how it’s affected her confidence and dating life, her journey to her own 2.0 version of herself, and even more fantastic insight into all things confidence. I loved getting to know her, and I know you will, too!

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Here’s what to do if you feel someone pulling away from you. Ready?

Let them.

I’m serious as f*ck. If someone starts to pull away from you, if someone wants to break up, if someone refuses to meet your standards, if someone won’t pick their shit up off the floor even when you’ve asked a hundred times…

Just let them.

The “Let Them” theory, coined by Mel Robbins, is literally that simple. People are going to do what they’re going to do whether you try to change it or not…so just let them. You’ll be amazed how much weight lifts off your shoulders.

However, as amazing as this framework is, I think there’s a piece missing—and that piece is shadow work. 

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What gives? Things were going so well, you felt like you really liked this guy. Why then, seemingly out of nowhere do you now loathe the very way he breathes? 

This, friends is the dreaded ick; the sudden irritating or off-putting thing you randomly notice after things were going so well.  I got more information about it, but you’re not gonna like it. Because it’s actually not about him or his teeth or gremlin toenails or any other slightly off-putting things that really shouldn’t be automatic dealbreakers if aside from them you genuinely like the person. In this episode we’ll talk more about:

• What the ick actually is
• How to avoid it
• How to discern between the ick and intuition

The truth of the matter is, the ick is actually more about you than it is about him. This means that you hold most of the cards in terms of dealing with, and getting past it and in doing so, finding real and meaningful love.

It’s gonna take work though, and honestly about yourself and the way you seek connection. Let’s go. 

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When you hear “detachment,” what do you think it means?

If your mind went straight to the idea of apathy, not caring what happens or what you’re doing, etcetera…you’re not the only one. 

But you’re also wrong. 

Detachment isn’t apathy. Detachment is power.

And when you master detachment…it’s going to transform your whole motherf*cking life.

Here are some of the things you need to detach from—and how to begin to let it all go.

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As humans, we are hardwired to avoid pain at all costs…

But here’s the hard truth, loves: you cannot avoid being hurt in a relationship. Period.

I’m not talking about big hurts; I’m not talking about breaches of trust, intentionally crossed boundaries, or abuse of any kind.

I’m talking about the little ruptures that happen in our relationships every fucking day: little comments that hurt our feelings, small arguments that turn into huge amounts of resentment, and even things as simple as miscommunications between us and our partners.

No matter what you do, you can’t avoid getting hurt…but you can learn how to get over the fear of it. And most importantly, you can learn how to repair when wounds are dealt to you or by you.

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I have a question: why the fuck are we still policing women’s bodies in 2023?

Getting Botox? Great. Plastic surgery? Who the fuck cares. Let people LIVE.

If you ask me, the WHAT is not important. It’s the WHY we need to examine.

If you’re getting your nails done because you love having acrylics…good for you, boo.

If you’re getting your nails done because OMG I CAN’T BE CONFIDENT WITHOUT MY NAILS I NEED THESE TO EVEN LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE…mm, maybe we need to have a talk, babe.

Let’s talk about the difference between wanting a certain aesthetic and NEEDING a certain aesthetic.

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News flash: healing isn’t always good.

I can already hear the comments: “Who the fuck are you and what have you done with Michelle?” Take a breath, okay? I promise I’m going somewhere with this.

When we uncover our wounds, it’s absolutely crucial to not let them sit untouched. We absolutely should be doing the work to heal ourselves. The healing industry is so beautiful for helping us transcend our shit. And you know what else?

It can be shadowy as FUCK if you let it be.

Healing work is so important, but when it becomes our entire lives, it can actually do a lot more harm than good. Let’s talk about what happens when healing becomes an addiction, and how we can shift our mindset to something ACTUALLY healthy instead.

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“He was everything I’ve ever wanted. How am I supposed to get over him?”

Uh…you mean the guy you dated for two weeks, tops?

Yeah…we need to chat about this, babe.

Look, I’m not going to tell you that the timeframe of a relationship determines its emotional impact. It doesn’t. What I AM going to tell you (because I’ve had to tell myself a million fucking times over) is that there’s no way in hell you know this man well enough to say he’s “the one” after two fucking weeks.

“But we had so much fun together!” You went out for cocktails. Of course you had fun. I could have fun with a fucking broom if it took me out for drinks.

“But we had such great chemistry!” Contrary to popular belief, chemistry ain’t rare, babe. And telling yourself that story is going to get you into a heap of shit faster than you can say “the one that got away.”

You’re allowed to grieve the relationship you THOUGHT you were going to have. But if you’re sitting around pining after a man you only knew for a couple weeks…hit play, girl. It’’s time for a reality check. 

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Um…is that number right?

You see it too, yeah?

We have officially hit 150 MOTHERFUCKING EPISODES.

And to celebrate the big 150…I want to give you a bit of coaching I have given to sooo many women…including myself.

How to stop mothering your man.

Yeah. This one’s hard for me, I’m going to be honest. But if you ever want to be able to be in your feminine energy, lean back, and receive from your partner, you have to figure out how to let your man handle his own life…and not step in every time you think he needs help. 

The fact is, if he’s truly not making the effort to manage his own life, and you think his life is going to burn to the ground if you take your hands off…I have one thing to say to you:

Fucking let it burn.

And if you can’t imagine how to do that, then this episode is for you.

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking to you about overcoming vulnerability and why it's so important for your personal life and your relationships. Instead of living behind a mask, it's time to realize that vulnerability is different for everyone and we all have different things to share with others. 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• What is vulnerability? 
• How to overcome your fear of being vulnerable. 

I hope this episode helps you overcome your fear of being vulnerable and realize that vulnerability is healthy. It takes bravery and risk to be vulnerable, but a relationship without vulnerability is a relationship with no connection. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

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News flash: the death of communication is the moment you stop being curious.

There’s a better way to tell your partner when something is bothering you. Reacting when you’re in your ego and allowing your emotions to loop a story that may or may not be true? That’s not it.

Curiosity is the biggest fucking factor of healthy, calm communication. Because once you start getting curious about what’s triggering you—or getting curious about what’s triggering your partner—you’ll be in a much better place to start asking the right questions and explaining yourself in the right way.

Time to remaster the art of curiosity. 

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Let me see if this sounds familiar to you…

You’re sitting on the couch at home. Maybe you’re reading a book. Maybe you’re watching TV. Maybe you’re playing a video game. Whatever it is, you’re just trying to relax…and then you hear a car pull into the driveway.

Adrenaline rush. You’re on your feet in an instant, searching for something to do, trying to look busy when your partner or parents or roommate or whoever walks inside.

Have you ever stopped to wonder where that instant flood of shame comes from?

At some point in your life, you were taught that resting = being lazy…and that lazy is the worst thing you can be. So now, you can’t even sit and watch TV without convincing yourself you’re a lazy piece of shit who doesn’t deserve to sit and relax for five fucking minutes.

Resting is not laziness–actually, it’s a proactive way of taking care of ourselves. But to get comfortable with it, we first need to decondition ourselves from the beliefs we picked up as children.

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Listen up, loves! We’re going to be covering a LOT more subjects surrounding dating for the next while, because…

IT’S SWIPE RIGHT SEASON!

Swipe Right is my program all about dating: setting standards, non-negotiable boundaries, online dating mindset, and everything else that you could possibly need to know. We’re gonna be chatting about allll the things, but today we’re going to start with what NOT to do when you’re starting to date someone new.

I could go on about dating mistakes all fucking day. I really could. But for today, I’ve narrowed it down to a handful of the most common things I see that you absolutely should NOT be doing while dating. 

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I’ll tell you a secret: I spent wayyy too long trying to decide what I wanted to talk about for this episode.

It’s Main Character Energy season, which means a lot of content around CONFIDENCE has been coming out of this space lately. And I kept trying to shove my message into that same box for today, but you know what?

It wasn’t working. And I realized why pretty quickly: I was trying to please everyone else instead of doing what felt in alignment to me.

So, fuck it. This is my podcast. I can do what I want. And I want to talk about what happens when we try to shrink ourselves into a box to please others instead of focusing on pleasing OURSELVES.

I practice what I preach, and I’m demonstrating that shit today. So maybe this lands for you, maybe it doesn’t, but I’m not doing it for you…I’m doing it because it pleases ME. And that’s what you should start doing, too, loves.

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about our feelings and emotions, the one thing everybody hates talking about. It's super important that you understand why you feel the way you feel and why you sometimes act the way you act. Stay tuned to hear all the details and tips! 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• What happens when our emotions are triggered. 
• Taking a step back when you're triggered. 
• Balancing your emotions. 

I hope this episode helps you understand your emotions, patterns, and triggers more. Know that you are not on your own and whether you explode or shut down, you're perfectly whole and there are ways to change this. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open. 

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EPISODE RESOURCES: 

Trauma Healing Modalities mentioned in the episode:

Somatic Psychotherapy

EMDR
Somatic Experiencing 

*You will need to do your own research to find a practitioner near you*

What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the words “dating app?”

If it’s a resounding “ugggghhh,” guess what? You’re going to want to listen to this episode.

I get it. Lots of people have told themselves all kinds of stories around why dating apps are the fucking WORST. But here’s the thing: when you engage in this mindset, you’re actually cock-blocking yourself from meeting a whole pool of people you would never connect with otherwise.

I met my partner in person, but I FULLY advocate for dating apps. I learned so much from them and grew in so many ways…and you can do the same.

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am talking all about the level of truth and trust that I have been dropping into lately. Understanding the fact that you cannot f*ck anything up is so valuable, not only for your relationships but for your entire life. If you’re ready to find your truth and stop questioning every step you take, stay tuned! 

Here are a few points I cover: 

• Why you need to start telling yourself the truth
• What love is and how to start finding your truth

I hope this episode helps you start diving into your truth and asking yourself what you really want. You cannot mess anything up when you're open & honest because deep down, that's what you have wanted all along. Don’t question your boundaries or desires, just let them be. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

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In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day One of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking to exactly what it means to truly be a connected woman.

Here are a few points I cover: 

• How we have been taught not to trust ourselves
• How we are searching for ourselves in other people
• Learning to connect with your intuition
• How to step into your full sense of self-worth and become the Queen

I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record!

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Hellooooo, my loves. I am freshly back from a fucking INCREDIBLE business retreat, and I am utterly bursting with all the things I want to say, starting with this…

If you think that deep friendships are “unicorn friendships,” you’re absolutely fucking wrong.

If you’re sitting around pouting because none of your friends are able to meet you in this place of depth, if you think that they have no interest in doing the work alongside you, let me ask you this:

Have you tried fucking asking?

If you’re not willing to initiate, if you’re sitting around projecting the idea that your friends can’t meet you at your level, if you’re unwilling to risk rejection by sticking your neck out and being the first to pursue something deeper…that’s just not the vibe, my friend.

If you want deep friendships, you absolutely CAN find them…but only if you’re willing to do what it takes to plumb those depths. Let’s unpack all these misconceptions surrounding what it truly takes to form deep friendships.

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Let me lead with this: being in your feminine has NOTHING to do with your makeup, your clothes, or whatever TikTok has decided to take too literally today.

These external things can all be EXPRESSIONS of your feminine, but the truth is…if you’re really in your feminine energy, it’s going to absolutely ooze out of you, even if you’re just in trackies.

Sooo many people get the feminine so fucking twisted. There’s a totally distorted view of feminine energy and why it matters so much to our dating lives, and today, I want to get on here and clear the air.

So let’s talk about masculine and feminine…and why we need both in order to be well-rounded human beings.

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My loves, you are NOT ready for all the wisdom that is about to drop on this episode of UFYR.

Please welcome Gabrielle Stone onto the podcast!

If you aren’t familiar, Gabrielle Stone is no stranger to the world of entertainment. Growing up on set with her legendary scream queen mother, Dee Wallace, from Cujo and E. T., she had days of licking off Mommy's fake blood and watching movie magic unfold behind the scenes. Seeing the world with Mom and Dad gave her the travel bug at an early age…until Gabrielle experienced a real-life horror when she lost her father suddenly at age seven.

After many years of working in the industry herself, Stone transitioned from meaty acting roles to writing and directing. Her award-winning films It Happened Again Last Night and After Emma gained her awards for writing, directing, and acting, but she had a bigger role in life that would soon present itself.

After the rug was vigorously pulled out from under her when her husband's affair came to light, she found herself falling into the arms of another man. After a second failed attempt at love and a massive heartbreak, she decided that instead of falling landing flat on her ass, she'd make a career out of it. And so came the birth of her book, Eat, Pray, FML, where she shared all the mistakes she made, all the lessons she learned, and most importantly, how she became a fearless leader from it all.

Long story short? Gabrielle Stone’s a fucking badass, and she has so much wisdom to share that I couldn’t NOT have her come on the show. Let’s jump right in.

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Hello, loves. Let’s talk about healing anxious attachment.

Every time I do an episode about anxious attachment, BOOM! It magically becomes one of my most popular episodes. So I know this message is fucking needed—and I know you’re going to benefit from hearing it.

Even if it includes a big dose of tough love.

I have been where you are. I used to spend 80% of my time in anxious attachment mode, and it was fucking hell. But to start healing that, I couldn’t just read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, get aware of my patterns, and then magically get cured.

Awareness wasn’t enough. I had to CHOOSE not to play into that anymore…and that’s not as easy as it sounds.

Healing anxious attachment is absolutely possible. But are YOU ready to commit to what it requires from you?

Let’s find out.

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We talk all the time about why you need to do the work…but what happens AFTER you do the work?

One of my long-time clients, Ashley LaButte, is here to share her story. From realizing something needed to change, to committing herself to actually DOING THE WORK, to finally manifesting something she’s been working for years to manifest…her story truly displays how f*cking beautiful your life can get when you actually commit to doing the thing.

You can’t just throw money or intention at something and expect it to work. You have to show up for yourself…or nothing’s ever going to change for the better.

If you’re just fine with your life the way it is now, then I want you to ask yourself this…

Are you really fine with life being “fine?”

Does “fine” feel like all you’re meant for?

I think I know the answer. But if I can’t convince you…maybe Ashley can.

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