UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (Kara Loewentheil)

This week I’m joined by Executive Coach and Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching grad Jamie Lee as we discuss how to ask for and advocate for what you want in your professional life (and all parts of your life). Tune in to learn about the “outside the performance review network” that’s important to getting ahead, the 3-step framework for advocating for whatever it is you want in your professional life, and how to interrupt the unintentional thought patterns that are holding you back.

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It would be nice to think we can leave capitalism at the office when we go home for the day. But the truth is, its reach goes far beyond just the way we make, sell, and buy stuff. It can affect the ways we place value on the actual human beings who do the work, which in turn can lead to burnout, hustle culture, and even ableism. 

In this episode I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching Students, Tina Koch and Rachèle Summers, as we discuss the tricky triad of internalized ableism, productivity culture, and capitalism.

Listen in to learn how you can begin changing productivity-related tendencies by examining the ‘shoulds’ in your life, how the first step in changing your internalized ableism is to approach your thoughts around it with compassion, and how you can begin pushing back on hustle culture and build emotional resilience by learning to sit with cognitive dissonance.

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What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how you want to live in the world? In this episode, you will learn the question I ask myself to instantly gain perspective and clarity on what matters most to me. Tune in to learn how this question can change your life, too.

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I love the way I dress, but lately I feel like there’s been some disconnect in my style. I’ve changed, and so has my business, and I want my style to evolve as well. But I found myself not really knowing how to get my outward style to match my inward expression and where I’m at currently in my life.

Tune in as one of my friends and style coach, Judith Gaton, helps me hone my style and we discuss how to mesh different aspects of your personality into your style, how you can use your thoughts and your style to create the person you want to be, and how it’s never really about the clothes — it’s your thoughts about yourself in them.

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You probably already accept the idea that not all of your thoughts are true. With that in mind, what should you believe? On this episode, I explain why no one can tell you want to think and share a quite counterintuitive framework for evaluating thoughts and deciding whether you want to believe them. I then show you how you can come up with your own new helpful thoughts that are in line with your goals.

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Working on bringing awareness to compulsive behaviors means being able to enjoy these activities mindfully, without the end goal of numbing. I'm focusing on the distinction that exists, and why we feel the need to get a break from our feelings, which is totally normal. Stay tuned because next week, I'll be teaching you how to start changing these habits if you want to.

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Society has a way of leading you to believe that the path laid out in front of you is unchangeable. But just because you see other people following the same path, doesn’t mean you have to follow it. In fact, embracing the power you have to create new ways of moving through the world is how you own your agency and create change in the world.     Today, I’m having a conversation with Trudi Lebron, one of my personal coaches, who specializes in diversity and inclusion work and creating just and ethical businesses.  Listen in as we discuss how you can create opportunities for yourself by claiming your agency, and how that can translate to creating business and institutions that treat people better.    

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Join me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way.

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Join me this week as I show you what mental flexibility is and why this skill is crucial in thought work. I’m outlining the irony that exists in resisting being challenged or in trying on a new contradictory thought, and why accepting, allowing, and holding space for two conflicting beliefs is what will help you move into alignment with the thing you want to become or have.

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Today, I want to teach you more in-depth about people-pleasing and why I think we should stop using that terminology. Join me today for People-Pleasing 2.0 and discover how this behavior sabotages your authenticity and perpetuates dishonest relationships. Plus, I share a couple of steps to ending this deceptive cycle. Awareness is key, my chickens. Notice your thoughts and you can change them!

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Is there an alternate version of your life that you fantasized about having, that you didn’t get to experience? When we don’t let ourselves grieve or acknowledge those fantasies that we left behind, it can sometimes cause us to get stuck or be unable to make decisions and move forward in our lives. Tune in to this week’s episode to find out what I mean by grieving a life you won’t live, how to do it, and why feeling regret doesn’t mean you made the wrong decision.

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I'm taking a slightly different route on the podcast this week, bringing you a metaphor that is going to act as an amazing tool for your thought work. Today, I'm using neuroscience to demonstrate the real power of your brain and why confirmation bias exists.

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Text your email address to 347-997-1784 for a worksheet that you can use to help adjust the prescription on your skepticals. Reply with "skeptical" (all lowercase).

Have you ever wondered when you should manage your mind versus when you should take action? Would you like to know the single question that will get you 90% of where you need to go in a coaching session? Are you curious about what my best piece of business advice is for new business owners?

Tune in to this week’s episode as I answer these and more questions from coaches about business and coaching. You’ll find out why there’s no such thing as knowing your niche, how you can get your clients to take a different perspective, and how to know when to switch from offering 1:1 to group coaching.

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This week on the podcast, I’m joined by three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Deb Malkin, Jill Angie, and Sarah Shiozawa as we discuss exercise — its risks, rewards, and morality. Tune is as we offer our definitions of exercise, unpack the “why” behind our exercising, and discuss the power of choosing for yourself what you do with your body.

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Are you having a tough time figuring out whether therapy or coaching is right for you? Both have their own benefits, but it can be overwhelming to figure out which one is the right fit. And let's be real - people are always trying to compare them and say one is better than the other (trust me, I've got thoughts on this). There's a lot to unpack here, and I'm diving into it all in this episode!

This week, I break down the debate of therapy versus coaching and how these practices can actually work together to support your personal growth journey. I guide you through some essential questions to consider when deciding between therapy, coaching, or a mix of both. Plus, I reveal the one crucial factor to keep in mind when making your decision. So grab your headphones and let's dive in!

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Being critical of other people is something that many of us do so often that we may not even realize we’re doing it. And not only do we criticize others, we often (maybe even constantly) criticize ourselves. But why do we do it? Tune in to find out what criticism is and understand why we do it, the good reasons why your brain may default to being critical, and how criticism has more to do with you than the other person.

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Today, we're talking about how you can get more things done in a given time and avoid unnecessary anxiety in the process. We also take a look at the reasons why you’re not getting as much done as you want or need to.

Join us as I explain how you can create a clear system and organize your work and personal life to have more time, save mental energy, and eliminate overwhelm.

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After the last listener Q & A episode, I got a lot of great feedback from you guys and have since received a ton of new questions. Today, I am answering more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from relationship advice and workplace issues to my morning and nighttime routines.

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We might call massages, face masks, and shopping sprees self-care, but often they’re really just illusions of self-care. It looks like we’re doing these things to take care of ourselves but we never really address the core issue of what’s causing the stress. True self-care gets to the root of the problem and tackles it head on. And when you truly start taking care of yourself, that’s when you start seeing big changes in your life. This week I’m joined by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. We discuss what real self-care is, how to be proactive instead of reactive with your self-care, and how true self-care is a revolutionary movement.

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On this episode, I talk about how your reaction to other people’s gender-based discrimination may be impacting your emotional state and creating unnecessary suffering and drama in your mind. I explain how judging, resisting or resenting others for their thoughts actually keeps you stuck in the constant loop of judging yourself.

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Just a few weeks ago we closed out our last Clutch College Live for a while. Over the course of the 3-day, live, in-person and virtual event, minds were blown and breakthroughs were made. A lot of what I coached on had to do with goals — and I want to share some of the amazing takeaways that came out of that weekend.

Tune in to find out the real reason you don’t set goals, what we’re actually afraid of when we’re agonizing over a decision, how to be prepared for the inevitability of your brain offering you an old thought that will not help you reach your goal, and how life is always 50/50, no matter what.

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In this episode I sit down with Bonnie Hammer, Vice Chairman of NBC Universal and author of the upcoming book, "15 Lies Women Are Told at Work and the Truth We Need to Succeed." And while I'm not normally impressed by people's job titles... with a book like that on the way? We obviously had to sit down for a chat. ;)

Join me as we discuss Bonnie's remarkable career journey, from her early days cleaning up behind-the-scenes to leading major TV networks. We delve into the importance of mentorship, the lies women face in the workplace, and how to shatter those barriers.

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Nearly all of us will experience a breakup at some point in our lives (if we haven’t already). No matter how or why the relationship ends, it’s what we choose to do once that relationship is over, that really matters. This week on the podcast, fellow coach Ali Ryan is joining me to talk about using thought work to navigate breakups, divorce, and separation. We’ll discuss how breakups can be a tool for transformation, why the relationship with yourself may be the most important when you’re going through a breakup, and what you gain from being willing to have a happy ending, even though the relationship is over.

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Do you ever feel like your relationship status defines your worth? Like your life is on hold until you find a partner? What if you could stop waiting and start being your own best partner—whether you're single, coupled up, or somewhere in between?

This week, I’m joined by Meghan Keane, founder of NPR’s Life Kit and author of Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner, to break down the shame and stigma around singleness and how it holds so many women back from fully living their lives. We talk about how to identify your values, manage your thoughts and emotions, and create meaningful, nourishing connections—with yourself and others.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/381

Does the future feel totally impossible to plan for right now? As someone who loves planning and going after my goals, I’ve found it really hard to wrap my brain around long-term thinking when everything—politics, the economy, even basic social norms—feels like it’s shifting under our feet. So in this episode, I’m sharing how I’m navigating this moment—and offering a mindset shift that can help you move forward with clarity, even when the future looks like a big ol’ question mark.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/388

Emotional growth doesn’t always feel great. But it doesn’t have to feel terrible, either. You get to choose whether or not you put the time and energy into changing a certain aspect of your life. The key is being able to recognize the difference between giving up on something because you think it’s too hard, and choosing to pursue something else that is more interesting and important to you. This week we’ll revisit a very important topic: How to know when emotional difficulty is worth it. I’ll teach you why the hardest things are not always the most worthwhile.

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Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about how much better your life would be if you lived in a country with more progressive policies? Universal healthcare, affordable childcare, endless vacation days—it sounds like paradise, right? I know I’ve been there. But is the grass really greener, or is this just another sneaky way our brains trick us into thinking the solution is somewhere “out there”?

In this episode, I’ll show you why fantasizing about a “better” life elsewhere might actually be holding you back—and how you can start rewiring your brain to create change wherever you are, no passport required.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/371

On this episode, we take another look at the real reason why, when presented with two or more choices, we often get paralyzed, unable to make a decision. From the questions you need to ask yourself to help you make a decision, to how to deal with the doubt, fear and regret, you’ll learn how to be a more decisive person, able to love the result of whatever decision you make. 

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While it would be nice if we could sit back and wait for our incredible intelligence and value to be recognized and rewarded, that unfortunately isn’t the way things work, especially for people socialized as women.

My guest on the podcast this week, founder and CEO of Squad Isa Watson, has masterfully navigated the white male landscapes of science, tech, and now startup, as a Woman of Color, and has used managing her mind to succeed in each of them.

Tune in to learn how creating opportunities for yourself and discomfort go hand in hand, why learning to be your own hype person is so important, how managing your mind can help when going through proper institutional channels (like HR) fails, and the difference between mentorship and sponsorship (and why you should intentionally cultivate the latter).

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Today, I want to give you a sense of what the deeper, second level teachings that we do in the UnF*ckYour Brain program look like and teach you an advanced level topic - taking responsibility for other people’s feelings (Emotional Adulthood 2.0). We take a look at how your prior programming is causing you to feel responsible for how other people feel and act, and why it is actually not a loving thing to do.

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As humans, logic and reason reassure us that something could or could not work — they help us make sense of what we perceive as possible. But logic and reason can only take us so far. They alone will never be able to convince us to do something we’ve never done before. Where logic and reason run out, that’s the point where we have to decide to take a leap of faith (or not).

Tune in to this week’s episode to find out why a leap of faith may be the missing piece for you to create meaningful change in your life, the role tolerating risk plays in making changes, and why feeling anxious about making a change doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a bad idea.

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Whether we’re at the top of a corporation, running our own business, or working as an employee, we’ll often find a million different ways to outsource our leadership to others. But if we can do the hard work of learning to trust ourselves as the ultimate authority over our own lives, that’s where the magic happens.

This week I’m joined by online business legend, Amy Porterfield. Tune is as we dismantle some of the myths about starting your own business and discuss developing a CEO mindset, how socialization affects female entrepreneurs in particular, and the biggest mistake Amy made in her first year of business (so you can avoid it too - whether you have a business or not).

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I see so many erroneous beliefs around the feeling of love and I'm going to clear them up on today's episode. What I'm uncovering on this podcast may be a little unsettling at first, but will really set you free in your relationships with others, whether they are someone you love so much you couldn't bear to lose them or someone you hate and never want to see again.

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On this episode, I want to talk to you about what actually creates lasting transformation. It’s an integral step in the process of unf*cking your brain that many of you miss simply because you’ve never been taught how to do it. Are you ready to see what you’re really capable of accomplishing?

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Adults are being diagnosed with ADHD more and more these days. And receiving the diagnosis alone is helping many folks make sense of certain behaviors they have that have always been a bit quirky. But for some, a diagnosis of ADHD can also bring up feelings that are difficult to navigate.

This week I’m joined by life coach and host of the I Have ADHD podcast, Kristen Carder, for a conversation about thought work and neurodivergent brains. We discuss why ebbing and flowing may be better than consistency, why lack of motivation is not a problem, and how to support yourself or any neurodivergent person in your life.

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I hope my answers are helpful in getting you into the new year with a well-managed mind to create all the results you want. I’m sharing my thoughts on unrequited love and whether it’s a problem, the basis of libido and sexual attraction, and how to ask better questions when it comes to creating anything that you want in your life.

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Discover how you might be subconsciously sabotaging whatever problem you're facing. I'm sharing why this is actually normal and how you can start to solve it for good. Working through this is truly one of the keys to unlocking the possibilities of your own life.

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“Maybe this is dumb, but… ,” “I know I shouldn’t feel this way… ,” “Does that make sense?”

These may seem like simple, innocuous words, but they’re just an outward example of the many ways that women and people socialized as women don’t trust their own authority. It’s no wonder that as women we struggle with people pleasing, seeking validation, and not being able to tune into what we really want - we’re literally socialized to do these things.

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**This is an updated audio from 7/4/24**

On this episode, I'm diving into why some of us - mostly women - struggle with the reality of aging. I'm exploring all factors, from our cultural stories and stereotypes to the archetypes of women that play into our identities as we move through different stages of life.

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On this episode, we’re diving into a subject familiar to many lawyers: Procrastination!

Join me for this episode as I explain how procrastination works, why we procrastinate (it’s not why you think), and how we can rid ourselves of this stressful habit and become better and happier lawyers in the process!

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Listen in today to discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation. 

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There’s a common belief that being single is a lonely, dreary slog, especially for folks who are ultimately looking to partner up. In this week’s podcast episode you will learn how to love the f*ck out of your single life…whether you’re single by choice or are looking to change your relationship status.

I’m joined by Shani Silver, podcast host and author of “A Single Revolution,” for a conversation about how to reframe the way you think about and experience single life. This episode is powerful even if you’re currently partnered, because the more you love your relationship to yourself, the happier you will be in your relationships.

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Coaching tools didn’t descend from the heavens. They were developed by humans whose social context impacted the way they saw the world and their clients, including what they even viewed as a “problem” to be solved in the first place. In other words, those coaching modalities that you know and love? Yeah, those were made up. Before you abandon all meaning and run off into the woods, tune into this episode to learn why understanding this is exactly what will elevate your coaching. Kara Loewentheil and Simone Seol will discuss how learning the intellectual history of modern coaching concepts and embracing the subjectivity of coaching modalities will help you deliver powerful coaching to clients with radically different backgrounds and beliefs than you.

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Have you ever struggled to forgive someone? You’re not alone, but thought work can help. Tune into this week’s Greatest Hits podcast episode to learn how your resistance to forgiveness is harming YOU, and then learn a simple process that will allow you to forgive anyone (including and especially yourself).

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Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because deep down, you believe the only way to "resolve" it is if the other person totally agrees with you—or you have to surrender and agree with them. Sound familiar?

Tune in as I break down a game-changing reframe for navigating conflict. You’ll get practical tools for spotting your own thought patterns, speaking your truth without needing validation, and finding peace—yes, even if the other person still doesn’t see it your way. Because here’s the truth: resolution doesn’t mean agreement, and it’s time we all start living like it.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/370

On today’s episode, I break down what stress really is and why it is not necessary despite the conditioning of society that says that stress is good for productivity, that it drives us, that it’s fuel for achieving greatness. Discover what your life could be and how you can open up space for intrinsic motivation by changing your thoughts about what role stress plays in your success.

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This week, I’m diving into the basic premise of desire and why changing how we think about it can be so transformational. We tend to want to push this feeling away when we can’t have something, or rush to acquire the object of our desires if we can have it, but I want to suggest a new way to approach this feeling.

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On today’s episode, you’ll get to meet Hannah Berner, a hilarious stand-up comedian, host of the “Berning in Hell” podcast, and a member of Bravo TV’s “Summer House.” As someone who is not connected to the life coaching/self-help field, Hannah will offer a new perspective on how thought work plays a role in her life and her experiences. Our conversation will help you understand the messaging that women absorb from society that keeps them doubting themselves and their value, and how to use coaching tools to feel happier in your professional life and your personal life (no matter what your goals are).

Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/192

This week, we have another installment of the Listener Q & As. In this episode, we dive into topics such as dealing with overwhelm, empathy vs compassion, fortune-telling, teaching thought work to young kids, relationships, boundaries, and more!

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This week, I decided to give you a behind-the-scenes look at my annual review and share the important lessons that I learned along the way. Join me to hear 5 most important things that I've learned from going through the process of growing my business 5x times and find out how you can apply these lessons in your own life and business/career.

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If you have insomnia, do you spend so much energy dreading the possibility of waking up at night that you literally can’t fall asleep? This is a perfect example of anticipatory stress, the stress we feel in anticipation of anything we label “bad.” It’s also the main source of our suffering in any situation we dread. Tune in to learn four simple steps you can take to feel calmer even if what you fear comes to pass.

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You can experience pleasure whenever and however you want, without permission from anyone else. I’m diving into how women don’t spend time on things we truly love, and why we’re not encouraged to take real pleasure seriously. Taking the time to create and experience pleasure is the best thing you can do for yourself, and I’m showing you how today.

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Listen in as I take a deep dive into entitlement, how it shows up and why, and a new way to start thinking about the results you want that will save you time and energy, instead of sitting in entitlement, which drains all of your resources and leaves you in emotional drama.

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The workplace can be challenging for a lot of people, but women and those socialized as women face a further set of challenges. This week on the podcast I’m joined by Jenn Deal, Annie Framand, and Jamie Lee (three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students) to discuss what ambition is and why women have trouble identifying with it, how to advocate for yourself in the workplace, and the right way to negotiate.

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Annual mile markers, like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays prompt us to reflect on the past year. The act of reflection helps us to cultivate appreciation and enjoyment from our past experiences, but doing it in thoughtful ways is actually a really effective way we can work to create our future intentionally.

I recently celebrated my 41st birthday, a milestone in my business, and my anniversary with my partner, and took time to do my own little ritual of reflection by answering just four simple questions. Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn what the four questions are and how the answers can help you create a future so good, you can’t even imagine it right now.

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If you catch yourself worrying “Am I a bad person for thinking that?”, or carrying “Wtf is wrong with me!” guilt for the way you feel about something, congratulations: you’re a perfectly normal human. However, this level of concern about the moral value of your thoughts is unnecessary, and a little misguided! In this episode, I’ll read an excerpt from my new book, and talk about the importance of curious self-compassion (instead of self-judgment), and extending love to yourself in those moments. There's a better life waiting right next to you – you just have to believe it’s possible to see it.

Pre-order Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book

I like to call this the most delusional time of the year because many of us use this time to make goals and resolutions for the coming year that are completely unrealistic for the people we are right now. No wonder many resolutions go unfulfilled; our goals are out of touch with reality. Tune in to this week’s podcast episode to learn one simple concept that will change your habit-making life, how this concept can keep your goal alive even when all hell breaks loose, and how you can tell whether or not your goal is really just a fantasy you’re chasing.

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I’ve received questions on podcasting and how to be a credible host, what I think draws people to coaching and how to be a coach people are drawn to, and my thoughts on carrying your clients’ emotions as you coach them. I’m also responding to some questions you guys had on confidence and my best advice on how to be successful.

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What do a feminist life coach and a Mormon life coach have in common? A lot, it turns out, when it comes to thought work. On today’s episode, you will meet Jody Moore, mother of four, friend and colleague, and the most influential Mormon life coach in the world. Tune in to learn about the history of our unlikely friendship, how coaching has enabled us to have difficult conversations with people who have beliefs that conflict with ours, why it’s imperative to step out of black and white thinking in order to achieve any goal, and more.

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’ve got to get my shit together?" -- even if your life is... pretty together, given the circumstances? Even if you're the most productive woman on the planet, that nagging thought can still creep up—and it’s actually not about how organized or efficient you are. It's just a sign you've fallen into what I call the Efficiency Trap.

This week, we uncover the real reasons behind the Efficiency Trap and how to redefine productivity in a way that aligns with your goals, priorities, and values. Let's break free from the endless to-do lists and find a path to productivity that truly matters.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/364

Money can bring up a lot of tricky feelings - especially for women. But no matter where you are in your money story, here’s the good news: you can rewrite it if you choose. Join me, and money speaker and educator Tori Dunlap, in this episode as we explore our money mindsets and the social conditioning that comes along with them. We talk financial feminism, learning to navigate living in a capitalist society while doing the least harm, and common misconceptions about investing.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/282

Join me as we get into topics like managing your mind under the influence of alcohol, mind over matter, cultivating confidence, managing thoughts of resentment, being around people with different religious beliefs than your own and more!

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Let’s start this year off with a chat about self care as many of us will be making resolutions to take better “care” of ourselves... and then falling back into old habits 3 weeks later. Join me today as I break down what self care really is and why managing our minds is the ultimate self care practice.

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This week, we're talking about how our society and upbringing has affected our subconscious (and conscious) thinking to constantly engage in people pleasing. Join us as I explain why we often choose to prioritize others’ wants and needs over our own and the detrimental effects this has on our personal and professional lives.

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Imagine your partner, friend, parent, or boss says something to you that leaves you feeling angry, hurt, or otherwise extremely negative. Now you’re wondering, are you supposed to coach yourself out of this feeling, or do you say or do something about it? Join me on this episode to learn what to do the next time you find yourself asking the question, “Should I coach myself or should I say or do something?” I’m showing you the hidden assumptions that are driving this question, how this framing of self-coaching relates to our socialization as women, and a new way to approach the question of whether to coach yourself or take action.

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Listen in today to gain a new perspective on why it’s so hard to fundamentally understand that other people have totally different thoughts to you, and how you buy into the assumptions you have about what’s going on in their brain. If you don’t know what a model is, I’m giving you the basics to help you understand this concept better, and I’m also sharing my interpretation of what empathy really means.

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Do you ever find yourself consciously committing to a new goal or habit and then failing at it? I think everyone can relate to, at some point or another, trying to do something new and it seemingly just not working out. This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I call unconscious commitments; understanding this is going to be life-changing in getting more clarity on why you sometimes have a hard time achieving your goals.

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Join me this week as I answer more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from boundaries, relying on external validation, cultivating self-confidence, family and relationship issues and more.

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I am Jewish, but I don’t consider myself to be particularly religious or spiritual. I know that may seem strange or like there’s a disconnect there, but Judaism is more than just a religion. So it doesn’t fit into the westernized ideal of what a religion is or should look like. This week on the podcast I share three ways Judaism has shaped my work in the world and I take a look at how the things that you learn as part of being in a religious community or any other kind of community impact how you think about the world.

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Tune in as I reflect on the biggest gifts podcasting has given me and how I've worked on them to create a successful seven-figure business!

Text your email (all lowercase) to 347-997-1784 and reply with "instagram" when prompted for the secret password to follow me on social media and get links to a couple of articles I wrote!

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If you have a big, ambitious goal- whether it’s becoming a bestselling author or something else entirely- this week's episode is for you.

When my book, Take Back Your Brain, hit the New York Times Bestseller list, most of the other books had been there for weeks, were written by authors with millions of social media followers, or both. So how did I get there? I'm pulling back the curtain this week and teaching you how to adopt the identity and habits you need to achieve whatever big, audacious goal you are working towards right now.

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Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!).

So, if your brain is hung up on what other people are thinking about you, what can you do to get some relief? Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn the very thought I recently coached one of my colleagues on that can help you give less of a sh*t about what other people are thinking about you.

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I get a lot of questions from people who are new to thought work that have to do with gaslighting themselves. It’s a totally normal concern and one that I’ve talked about many times on the podcast. But here’s why it’s so interesting. It comes from the assumption that your original unconscious thoughts are better or carry more importance simply because it is your original subconscious thought. Why are we giving more importance to the first thing our brains spit out than the thoughts we intentionally cultivate ourselves?

Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why our original thoughts aren’t necessarily our most helpful thoughts and how the most real or ‘you’ thoughts can be the ones you choose intentionally.

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Are your efforts to challenge sexism, racism, and other oppressive systems leaving you frustrated, overwhelmed, and burnt out? Tune in to this week’s Greatest Hits episode to learn how to use coaching tools to create social change without draining yourself or feeling angry all the time. When you learn how to liberate yourself from fear and judgment, you create endless energy to liberate the world.

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Listen in today as I give you a different perspective on the fear of uncertainty and how you can start to slowly let go of it. You don’t have to be terrified and let it stunt your growth. In fact, you can discover a whole new way of using thought work and stretch yourself in ways you never would have imagined.

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Women are taught that someone else always knows better than we do. Even in areas where women are stereotypically presumed the authority, like running the household, we’re still constantly told that we don’t know what we’re doing! (Think all of the messaging about how we should parent our children or how we’re doing meal prep all wrong.) Tune in to this week’s podcast episode to find out how this socialization plays out in our lives, what is the most important thought work you can do, and how you can start taking back your authority.

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We’ve heard the word trauma used liberally the past few years, both in relation to shared global events (like the pandemic) and in relation to more trivial things (like someone cutting in line at Starbucks).

When a psychological concept goes mainstream, it’s bound to be understood differently by different people. So, what IS trauma? What is NOT trauma? And if we want to change the relationship with our trauma and the way it makes us feel, how can we guide ourselves to think differently about it?

Tune in to this week’s episode as podcast host, New York Times best-selling author, speaker, and spiritual leader, Gabby Bernstein shares about her own trauma treatment story and the role curiosity and compassion have played in it.

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You might already know this, but feeling loved doesn’t hinge on someone else loving you. Even if you grasp that external love can’t dictate your feelings, or recognize how societal conditioning shapes women’s views on love and dating, there may be hidden thoughts blocking you from accessing the emotions you crave. Tune in this week as I explore the distinction between loving and being loved, and which feels better. I’m sharing the fundamental socialization that has us assessing our relationships in unhelpful ways, and what happens when you switch your focus from being loved to loving.

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As women and people socialized as women, we’re often making decisions from an emotional place, deciding what to do based on whether doing it or not is going to make us feel worse, aka ashamed or guilty — two emotional states that we’ve been taught to avoid. Tune in to find out why guilt and shame are not moral truths of the universe (and what they actually are), and how deciding what to think and feel on purpose will help you lead a life that’s aligned with your values.

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Does saying “no” make you feel like you’re going to die? Are you so fixated on taking care of everybody around you that you neglect yourself? People socialized as women are taught that they are responsible for everyone else’s thoughts and feelings, and that their value comes from taking care of others…so it’s no wonder that so many of us struggle with people-pleasing.

On this episode, you will meet three of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students - Maggie Reyes, Sara Fisk, and Sonia Wright - for a conversation about where people-pleasing comes from, how it manifests in their clients, and how to interrupt your people-pleasing habit.

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Are you unknowingly sabotaging your time management? As women, we’re trained to take on responsibility for everything—other people’s feelings, outcomes we can’t control, and tasks that were never ours to begin with. The result? Exhaustion, overwhelm, and decisions that don’t serve us.

In this episode, I’m sharing how over-responsibility snuck into my own plans for 2025 and what I did to get back on track. I’ll walk you through the self-coaching process I used to uncover and shift the sneaky thought patterns holding me back—like feeling responsible for other people’s feelings or thinking I don’t deserve to fully use my privileges. If you’re ready to ditch the overwork cycle and start reclaiming your time, this episode is for you!

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Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it is still an economic institution that women regularly lose their financial independence to. So, whether you're single or partnered, how can you prevent this from happening?

To answer this question, I'm joined by tax attorney, wealth expert, and author of her new book, "All the Presidents' Money", Megan Gorman. Megan shares how to have those important money conversations with your partner early on and her advice for creating a monthly money ritual with your significant other to stay on the same page. She also explains why women often give away our financial power in relationships - and how we can take it back.

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Join me on the podcast today as I show you why you have to sell yourself and commit to watering, nurturing, and growing the new thoughts you’ve planted in your brain to make your visions and dreams come true. You’ll inevitably have mixed results along the way, but that’s just part of the process.

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Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life.

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Join me this week to discover how you might be disempowering yourself by not embracing the agency you have over your own life. There is no right or wrong, failure or success. You can have any adventure you want, and there is no wrong story to write.

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A bonus interview with Jami.

If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit https://unfckyourbrain.com/the-society to learn more.

Are you a perfectionist who wants to do something big? Most of the tools life coaches use to help their clients go after big goals don’t take perfectionist thought patterns into account, which sets you up to fail before you’ve even started. Tune into today’s episode to learn how to work WITH your brain and blow your f*cking mind.

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I invited Heather Hubbard to the show to share what she’s learned in her legal career and how she implements that into her coaching practice. In this episode, we explore the concept of staying in the flow of life and why it’s absolutely necessary in our daily lawyer hustle.

From the importance of meditation to Heather’s tips for making partner without going crazy, you’ll get a good understanding of what you can begin doing today to lead a balanced life as a lawyer.

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Are you worried that wanting more money is greedy? Does talking or even thinking about money make you uncomfortable? Whether you love money and want more of it, think money is the root of all evil, or anywhere in between, this episode will help you understand why unf*cking your thoughts around money is such an important feminist issue.

You will meet three graduates from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching program - Chernique Vertus, Keli Jackson, and Natasha Tekeste - for a frank conversation about why women find it so controversial to want money, what keeps women from making more money, why making money is a social justice issue, and how to use coaching tools to shift your money mindset.

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Have you ever felt embarrassed about perusing the self-help section of a bookstore or reading a self-help book out in public? Maybe you wonder whether trying to fix yourself is just the patriarchy at play in your brain. Do you even need to ‘fix’ yourself to begin with? To explore the answers to these questions, this episode is the first in a 10-part series aimed at getting us all on the same page about the foundation of feminist thought work. Listen in to hear the difference between sexist self-help and feminist self-help, and how one is deeply harmful while the other frees you. 

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Do you struggle with burnout? If so, you can thank our capitalist, patriarchal and puritanical society for that. In this special episode with Caroline Dooner - burnout expert and author of The F*ck It Diet and Tired as F*ck - you will learn how to use coaching tools to overcome burnout for good. (And no, this doesn’t look like just taking more vacation time!)

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Today I'm showing you how thought work can be used in various scenarios to improve your sex life and your physical experience of sex. It’s not all biology, your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall.

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On this episode, we take a look at the reality behind drama and who really causes it in your life. I explain why you should actually consider spending more time with people who you think affect your vibe and show you exactly what you need to do to totally escape drama and toxic people with only a small change.

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Tune in this week as I answer questions on the topics of managing “toxic” family members around your kids, thought management around physical touch, controlling your mind around uncontrollable circumstances, and more.

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Because discussions about abortion tend to be so polarized, it can be difficult to unpack your thoughts and feelings about the decision, even though more than 1/3 of Americans will have an abortion in their lifetime. This week, I’m joined by Amanda Kingsley, a Certified Life Coach, Doula and host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast, to explore the prevailing thoughts many women have about their abortions - and how to let go of unnecessary pain and suffering around the decision.

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In this bonus episode, I dive deep into the perfectionist brain with my friend and coaching colleague, Dr. Katrina Ubell. Tune in to my conversation with Katrina to learn why not all coaching tools work for all brains, how perfectionist thinking can hold us back from reaching (or even setting) our goals and how it keeps us stuck in a cycle of allowing anyone but ourselves to be the authority over our own lives.

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No matter how long you’ve been coaching yourself, it’s normal to have blocks and challenges come up. If you’ve been self-coaching and just not seeing the results you want, there are a few specific reasons that may be holding you back. Tune in as I share with you the six primary blocks to self-coaching and find out why we really have to see circumstances as neutral, why we need to dig deep in our thought work practice, what role shame plays in thought work, and why insight alone isn’t going to change your brain.

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Most people think of creativity as the ability to make art - to paint, sing, write, sculpt, etc. But even if you don’t consider yourself a “creative person,” you are creating your life, every day - your relationships, your career path, even the food you eat for lunch.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by three graduates from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching course - Elana McKernan, Judith Gaton, and Kori Linn - to discuss how you can use coaching tools to claim your creative authority and create ANYTHING you want in life.

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This week, my partner, the Gentleman Consort (GC for short), is making his podcast debut and you’re going to get a behind-the-scenes peek at our relationship! In part 1 of this 2-part series, we cover the gamut from first impressions and first dates, to the GC’s introduction to thought work, to feeling disappointment in a relationship, to how perfectionism and communication affect your relationships.

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