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I recently received a dilemma from a Black Queen. Her performance in her role has been 10/10. She has maintained a 'Feedback Folder' which supports her overall performance. She has achieved all objectives to a high standard and continues to grow within the organisation. Within her performance review documentation, her line manager sought to use the Performance review document to 'humble her'. Her Line Manager added false, misleading, and detrimental feedback in her performance review document and when challenged has been bullying our fellow Black Queen to sign the document and therefore effectively agreed with the information knowing it is untrue. When challenged she was told 'it isn't a big deal, it isn't serious, and should challenge her within her role. How can our fellow Black Queen sign a document with false information that will then be kept in her HR file know that the information is untrue and without merit.
In this episode, we discuss the above and also how she has now had to file a grievance complaint. However, this has not been straightforward. Our sis despite my advice was influenced by her trade union rep and has now effectively found herself in a position where she has no leverage, shown her cards too early, she is now effectively is being managed out because she did not manage this situation and found herself conflicted. In that conflict, she was influenced by other voices and none of those voices centers Black Women.
We have all heard of or watched the 'Tinder Swindler' on Netflix. In this episode we discuss it and how we have fallen foul of some degree of swindling or dating deception. We will also discuss how we are swindled, manipulated, and sold a dream by organisations to then find out the glittering website, offices, and meeting rooms hide toxic and problematic workplaces.
In this episode we discuss self-confidence. Being confident in the workplace and navigating imposter syndrome whilst also navigating white-dominated spaces is an extreme sport.
'Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.'
A continuation from the previous 'Mass Exodus episode'.
In this episode, I discuss the reaction and fallout of my resignation and the audacious audacity of senior managers after staging a coup, in their attempt to use me to replace Debra, my line manager.
In this episode, we discuss colleagues who take credit for your work and how we develop the skills and tools to deal with these situations. I will also be discussing the importance of not pigeonholing yourself but ensuring you create options and in turn, choices that will enable you to navigate more freely in your career.
In this episode, we discuss Finding You Focus. Having the focus to know what you need to manifest and developing a plan to make your focus a reality. So many people are on the fast train without a destination because the focus is missing. Knowing what you are working towards, you need a FOCUS.
Since recording this episode Will Smith has released a statement apologising for slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars.
Whenever greatness and the TESTimony the devil will always show up to take the glory, in work and in life. The devil works overtime and uses people to deliver the agenda of disruption and chaos.
This is one for your Whatsapp group chats. When people get past the aesthetics of marriage the flowers the big dresses and the exuberant amount of money spent, people ignore the business side of marriage. The financial aspect sees both parties bring forth their finances into a financial pot. What does the business of marriage look like? Is marriage a business? - Yes, it is a financial institution and one we will discuss in this episode. When you are considering a life partner you must consider the business side of your marriage and what that brings and how monies are spent but also understand the financial health of your partner and financial associate and how both of you enter into the business of marriage.
Workplaces encourage and push the narrative of the 'good person' not allowing for questions or mistakes but instead placing undue pressure on staff to be perfect without mistake, question, consideration, or exception.
In this episode, we explore our need to be the 'Good Person' and why we continue to allow this toxic persona to control and govern how we navigate work, especially during the vulnerable times of probation or leading up to promotions and bonuses.
What is clear is we have all suffered from 'The Good Person Syndrome' some of us still do and are buckling under that pressure. Let's discuss.
In this episode, we will also be discussing the latest Employment Tribunal judgment where a 39-year-old White Woman took her employer's Gartner Consultancy to court for Bullying, Victimisation, less favorable treatment, and constructive dismissal. She won part of her claim, one being the use of the derogatory term used by her employer referring to her as a 'Good Girl'. The judge set a precedent and his statement justifying his ruling is a turning point that we all need to be aware of.
I went against everything I believed in and put aside my stance and got my friend a job where I worked. This is not something I have ever done outside of my best friend who I have worked with several times before. - For several months I felt like a hypocrite.
This person was a close friend who had been unemployed for 12 months, she told me this in the middle of the pandemic where the roles in my sector were slower than usual due to covid. I went against my better judgment I went against my personal views on this I couldnt reconcile myself with the fact that I was less of a friend for not knowing my close friend was struggling and unemployed and had been for an entire year when I had the contacts and opportunities to get her a role. I had this overwhelming feeling of guilt. I went against everything I believe in, my better judgment and I took a risk.... it was my biggest regret of 2021. My gut and my stance however strict never fails me. I felt that my emotional need to cover my friend blindsided me. I also allowed myself to be manipulated and rather than asking myself 'why had she beeen unemployed for 12 months in a boyant market pre pandemic'.
Sometimes things happen to remind you why you have taken a stance on a subject or topic, sometimes we are reminded that you have to make difficult decisions which may make you feel bad but there comes a point where you have to give yourself permission to put your mental well being and yourself first.
I recognise in myself the flaws in my character, especially when I feel responsible to save people especially friends. It is a burden brought about from my trauma with my mother, where I needed her to save me, to be there for me to cover me and she did not. She did not afford me the covering needed from her. I also now realise she did not have the capacity or the tools to cover me in the way I needed. I then carried the unresolved issues and burdened myself with wanting to save others. I have discussed this extensively with my therapist and sat in the feelings of feeling betrayed, disappointed and let down. I know where my responsibility sits, I also recognise that this big L is my learning lesson to carry as a reminder that friendship does not extend to trying to save someone, that is not my role. My role as a friend is to be supportive and encourage my friends to save themselves. Being a good friend is not measured by your ability to find a solution sometimes it is ok to support your friend to find the solution for themselves.
I have forgiven myself for the silly decision I made for going against my principals and I am also celebrating the liberation from the burden. I have learned the lessons and hope you can learn from me and do better.
Blackexit - when we choose to exit the oppressive limiting beliefs created by society to keep us in a chokehold but instead seek the environments that will give life to the greatness we want to manifest for ourselves.
What part of the working world is the worst part?..... I would say the first day would feature in the top 3. Trying to assert yourself without appearing overbearing, not knowing when to speak or if you should, trying to remember people's names, trying to create a good impression..... being seen.
Being a consultant is completely out of my preferred comfort zone having to start again over and over again for each assignment. This has proven to be a much-needed challenge learning to start over, and perform my due diligence taking into account all the previous learning lessons from previous roles. Black Women we are seen they choose not to see us but they soon realise we are here to stay as long as we choose to.
Music (Intro and Outro) Written and created by Nomadic Star
10 May 2022
DILEMMA - (What would Toya do?): 'Toya Talks - I am not respected in my organisation my manager does not introduce me and I do not have the respect of my colleagues'.
In order to recognise what brings you peace you have to know and understand your non-negotiables.
In the workplaces often white-dominated where we Black Women are often in the minority what does peace look like? Workplaces are often anxiety-driven toxic places so peace is often a myth, but when we are clear on our non-negotiables we must be in a place and position to communicate them even if it means using the system to do so because that in itself is our pursuit of PEACE!
*This episode includes x1 dilemma.
Credits: Opening segment from 'Know For Sure Podcast'.
Referenced episode from the Toya Talks Podcast 'Not Every Battle Is Your Destiny To Fight' - Season 2 Ep 44
"You are not worth anything if you are not in the right place. If you are not appreciated, do not be angry, that means you are in the wrong place. Do not stay in a place where no one sees your value" - Anonymous
London Boys applies to those who think it's acceptable to be debating who pays for dates and think they should piggyback on the hard work and sacrifice of women who are building. Such limiting and elementary thinking is relative to the limited dating pool in London. Ladies, it is time to pivot and consider international dating. Open up the location and widen your dating pool.
The only way you can consider your dating options is to consider your dating pool you need to diversify and expand your options which also includes considering dating outside of the UK.
In this episode, we also discuss women who sacrifice their careers, hard work, and business for a relationship or for a man. You can have your own thing without needing to have a man jump on what you have. Remaining independent from a man or relationship is healthy it creates respect, boundaries, and independence. This should be celebrated.
Male fragility is loaded with ego and patriarchy. Women often trade in what they have built for a man/relationship disguised as love, when in fact it's a co-dependency rooted in low self-esteem and lack of respect for the sacrifices you have made to build yourself up. Black Women Work twice as hard and navigate work and careers uniquely from our non-Black and white counterparts we know the racist and oppressive structures we as women exist in and navigate through therefore why do some of us forget this in pursuit of love? Why must love come with the sacrificing of self? Whilst on the topic we also discuss SteffLonDon and Burna Boy and other celebrities eg Mary J Blige who blurred the lines between work/business and relationships.
In this episode, I challenge you to have agency over your career it requires you to accept that the work structure is created to ensure you rely on your organisations and managers to validate you through promotions and/or bonuses. Having agency over your life and career means you operate and see the world of work as transactional and when a workplace has served in achieving your objectives you move on and build on your career. You do not require permission to do so or operate in guilt via a form of displaced loyalty to an organisation or manager who is committed to keeping you stagnant in a position that only serves them and therefore oppresses your ability to grow and attain success and the financial benefits of that success.
Understanding the work hustle requires you to first understand that the work Hustle Is Sold Separately.
We will also be discussing the Fawcett Report into 'Women of Colour' experiencing racism in the workplace.
In the workplace, I have long accepted that there is no such thing as a perfect job or workplace. Workplaces often thrive in toxicity breeding fear and control. I will always seek balance and peace because no workplace is perfect.
In this episode, I discuss and conclude Florence who decided to attempt to discredit me and called into question my integrity her sole motivation was to abuse her position because she does not like consultants. After a Letter Before Action.....The organisation has agreed on an out-of-court settlement. Our greatest superpower is being underestimated.
As children, we were often not encouraged to use our voice, or have an opinion the old saying of 'Children should be seen but not heard.' This then evolves into being easily manipulated as we second guess ourselves or question the decisions we initially decisively make.
In the working world, we become susceptible to career manipulation this is demonstrated by displaced loyalty to a company that no longer serves you or being talked out of resigning, etc I am labeling this a Code Black!
This episode includes x2 dilemmas and a follow-up to a previous dilemma.
The passive-aggressive inverted commas in emails create the tension the author intended. The use of inverted commas as a microaggression is used to reinforce one's position and to provoke a response from you.
In this episode, we also discuss my most recent boss reapplying for a role she has been doing for almost 2 years
*This Episode also includes x2 dilemmas
Apologise for the disruption to the audio. We are replacing our Apple Mac for a greater podcast listing experience. - Back to regular programming next week.
ACAS gives employees and employers free impartial advice and mediation on workplace disputes, employment rights, and best practices.
ACAS must be used before approaching an employment tribunal. The view is that an employment tribunal must be used as the last resort and therefore ACAS provides a service of mediation to find a compromise in a workplace disputes. In the event that a compromise cannot be found and a Claimant has exhausted a grievance process and therefore not found a resolution through ACAS, a Claimant can take an employment matter to an Employment Tribunal.
In this episode I will be discussing my friend's case which we took to ACAS I managed to negotiate an out-of-court settlement for her of nearly £50k and renegotiated the terms of that settlement which included:
Payment within 7 days
A tax-Free settlement with all tax liability to be fully paid by her employer to HMRC
Payment of 10 therapy sessions
Agreed wording for an employment reference
Letter of retraction and an apology in writing for a false accusation made during the course of her employment.
Payment in lieu of notice to enable her to leave this employment on full pay for 3 months.
We will be using her employment dispute as a case study for this episode.
'The more you have to protect, the weaker you become, thats why everyone and everything around you cant be a liability; - By Dencia
Creating boundaries with your family especially in a culture laced in religion often creates division and a choice, a choice between your peace and showing up in a culture that will tell you your mental health cannot be more important than your family. The first daughter especially in the African culture i belong too comes with a burden of responsibility that you are born into. Your identity becomes the first born daughter and removes the person and stripes you of you individuality, you show up for your duty a duty your younger siblings then expect.
As we evolve and grow into adulthood the structure of the home that becomes the foundation is removed and adult siblings now make a choice to forge relationships and a further choice of forging healthy relationships such relationships require boundaries.
In a culture that sees boundaries as disrespectful how can a first born daughter create healthy sibling relationships and remove the duty to enable her to also live in her truth and pursue her peace and what makes her happy?
In this episode we discuss a dilemma received in the mailbox.
A fellow Black Queen sent an email to her line manager correcting the continued mispronunciation of her name. Her email was ignored, after following up for a response she then received a meeting in the diary from HR labelled 'Private and Confidential'.
In this episode we discuss the the model minority, the acceptable minority that allows themselves to be controlled and puppeteered. Case and point Rishi Sunak down to the final two in his bid to be Conservative Leader and the next Prime Minister. Note, what happens in government is mirrored in the work place.
In this episode I will be discussing why as Black women we accept crumbs instead of an apology that consists of acceptance and accountability. Why as Black Women do we allow those outside of our community to continuously use us and our trauma to make money. Why are we all too willing to see self appointed allies as Messiahs' of social justice.
What is clear is the weaponisation of 'be kind' and mental health to evade accountability. The issue isn’t where one sticks their foot or their pursuits in the bedroom. It is about racism and the use of racism by night and the pretence of allieship by day.
We will also be discussing how to protect your job from those seeking to piggy-back on your shoulders to advance their careers.
At the age of 96 The Queen of the United Kingdom passed away, this of course has given rise to topical discussions both on social media and within the workplace. The topic of the British empires role in colonisation is a painful one especially when people tell you how you should feel about the monarchy and how to react to the passing away of the Queen of England. One thing is for sure one cannot discuss the monarchy without being honest about their role in colonisation, slavery and the destruction and interruption of peace in Africa.
This episode should have really been entitled 'A Phased Return' a slight play of words if you understand the context.
What happens in politics usually finds itself in the office including the pricks and false narratives pushed for the success of the corrupt.
In this episode we round up things I have missed whist I have been away. I also share my hypochondriac boss taking credit for my work and removing my signature replacing it as hers and passing it off as her own. This really speaking to her character and the need to develop the 'Art of not giving a F*ck'.
This episode we discuss contract clauses risk and implications of clauses that you should be aware of for both employment and consultancy contracts
In a society that makes us conscious of the differences we have, we as Black Women know in the work place we are like moving targets. But the reality is we often sign a psychological contract where we subconsciously and/or consciously at a disadvantage to make others feel comfortable. Where do we draw the line and terminate this false belief that our discomfort is the required sacrifice for the benefit of others, others who do not consider us worthy of the freedom to operate freely from the burden of considering everyone else other than ourselves.
We as Black Women have a duty to ourselves to protect our self esteem, build confidence in who we are, our careers and the fundamentals of what makes us who we are. White Supremacy protects the ideology that oppresses us but how do we burst the bubble of White Supremacy and do you recognise when this ideology is being pushed in the workplace? - Let's discuss.
Lets discuss quiet quitting defined as ' the practice of doing little or nothing while being present at ones place if employment'. - I define it as working smarter rather than harder and realigning your wants and expectations by doing the bare minimum delivering and still appearing to be working hard whilst strategically developing and then executing a strategy and exit plan to leave. All whilst appearing to be engaged and present.
We then discuss the contractual landscape with regards to enforcing payment terms whilst contracting/freelancing. What are we doing with non payment/late payment of invoices? Here I give you some tips and pointers that I am currently using to get paid whist avoiding having to to go to small claims court to get what you are owed.
In the work place respect from fear is temporary one should much more prefer genuine respect for what someone brings to the table eg: experience, deliverables or someone who delivers the job.
In this episode we discuss the attempts to rent the rage of Black Women an example of this, is the video released by the Original founder of GrassFields calling the Black Community to to help but not providing transparency and full disclosure. We discuss the learning lessons here.
This is a dilemma episode.
*Point of correction in the podcast i mention the tories wanting to increase the retirement age. They are actually wanting to increase the retirement age in the UK from the age to be more than 68 yrs old and not to 68 yrs old.
They will have you believe that they have no budget to negotiate or to meet you half way. Their egos wont entertain a negotiation because they use this a a tactic to ensure you know your place. Humility comes with humble pie when they realise that your skill set is not readily available on the market and this then provides you with leverage. Leverage = Power.
When will you start seeing yourself as a business? Are you an Ivy Park or are you Yeezy? How will you use the leverage of what you bring to an employer to create balance and fairness? What does fairness look like to you and why do you sit comfortable in an unequal relationship with your employer?
In this episode we will also discuss the work I had to do in working through my wedding blessing and in turn this triggering the lack of a mother daughter relationship. Mourning the fantasy sold separately of the conventional relationship and being honest on how milestones however painful remind me of how far I have come.
We are too grown to not understand and accept that 'princess treatment' is a toxic and dangerous concept. Breeny Lee was dragged on social media for pushing the narrative that if you behave like a 'princess' will and should expect to be treated like one. This doesn't make sense if you don't operate your life like this in reality, that aside women should be packaging themselves operating from a space of independence and mental maturity. We discuss this in this episode and i take it a step further in ask fr us to also consider how we treat ourselves.
We have two dilemma's in this episode that we address anonymously.
Following a interesting conversation at my recent hair dressers it prompted this episode about how we as women package ourselves and the flawed view of labelling men Kings for basic elementary things based of the low value of expectation. You wouldn't clap for a fish for swimming, so why are we elevating someone to a King who has no kingdom?
This episode contains x1 dilemma that demonstrates how we Black Women are winners but winning and wanting to win is a choice we cannot allow our identity to be tied into work or what society dictates we have to find peace in developing a self of sense, independence and confidence in our choices.
A recent interview with Esther Falana on Good Morning Britain sparked debate regarding being over 35 years old being too old to be a mother/start a family. This was a topic not covered with care and depth and proved reckless especially with the back handed age shaming without exploring this layered topic to provide a view that was both informative and factual.
Black Women in the world of work are both financially and from a position perspective significantly disadvantaged and spend more time climbing the career ladder this leads to career being the main focus and family life coming later. This also includes the consideration that society does not facilitate the socio-economic means to support family and motherhood/patenthood.
In this episode which is two part, I will be providing depth to this topic including the medical consideration and recommendation for us to check our ovarian health to remove the societal pressures in feeling that we are running out of time. - Lets discuss.
If this episode is now live it means I have given birth. Yes I am now a mother @ 38. I live by what I teach. Despite being shamed about not having children and not knowing myself if I wanted Children, I had to do a lot of work to get to this point. This includes therapy, Financial literacy/education, exploring my ovarian health and working through my mother daughter trauma which continues to be something I have to work on because going no contact has been a challenge but key to my mental health and I know that now. I have no clue what I am doing but what I do know is I have done the work and continue to do so. Everyone ignores mental health but it is a key factor in deciding whether to bring life into the world, until you work through your trauma how are you able to ensure you are not complicit in continuing the cycle of generational trauma?
Despite what society and culture has said I chose to focus on developing my career to enable me to create the life for my child that he/she deserves. In doing so I have also been able to develop my career to a stage that I have felt confident and comfortable to take time out to balance motherhood.
The last 9 months has also consisted of mourning my old life where I was the sole focus. There is now a required balance of Career & Motherhood.
Betrayal - I've learnt that the greatest betrayal and need to then forgive is towards ourselves. Not trusting our instincts and second guessing ourselves are all forms of self betrayal. That job interview that you attend and deep down you know something isn't right but you still accept the role. Or you know its time to leave a role for your own development or mental healthy but you stay out of loyalty for a company that is not loyal to you, despite your better judgement you stay only for them to make you redundant a few months later. Often the interest we pay in these circumstances is reduced self confidence and self esteem which then has a domino effect on our career choices and ultimately how we navigate our careers.
Society has attempted to condition us to believe we are undeserving, and through this we begin the road of self doubt. We question our decisions and even at times question if we are deserving of the fruits of our hard work. Can you see the vicious cycle of self betrayal?
With all this as a considered back drop, what then when we encounter betrayal from others. I have learnt a very important lesson that forgiveness starts with SELF. Either not trust myself or for trying to see the good when the ancestors showed me that something was not right. When betrayal comes from family this is indeed the toughest pill to swallow. How can people you share memories, blood and lineage with betray you? Even family who are not blood but considered family. How do you move past that betrayal?
Whilst I struggle with forgiveness I have learnt that forgiveness of others does not mean re-admittance into my life or even that I need to share that forgiveness. Forgiveness releases you, and whilst I am on this journey its comforting to know what the true meaning of forgiveness is.
In this episode I also discuss late payment interest charges on business invoices. The CEO of an agency attempted to gaslight and intimidate me out of pursuing late payment interest on an invoice which was 4 days late. He sought to question my reasoning and decided to then cause me self doubt in my legitimate claim all whilst the invoice remained unpaid then called me aggressive for asserting my position . All his attempts failed.
Audacity is at an all time high but we trust ourselves and our decisions because when we trust ourselves and our decision making we reaffirm our trust and confidence in ourselves.
Let me share with you what happened and the learning lessons.
I am going to preface every episode by saying Baby Brain is real.
Having recently given birth I can confirm and agree that now experiencing Baby Brain first hand that it is defined as ….’a state of impaired memory, concentration, or mental agility supposedly experienced by women during pregnancy or after giving birth. The condition of forgetting things and not being able to think clearly that pregnant women or women who have given birth are often said to experience: Baby Brain makes you feel so silly when you forget the most basic things.’
Curtis James Jackson III, known professionally as 50 Cent, is a renowned rapper and entrepreneur who has successfully transitioned from the music industry to becoming a prominent business figure. His journey from a rapper to a multifaceted businessman has been widely acknowledged and serves as an inspiring example of leveraging personal branding, business acumen, and strategic investments for long-term success.
One of the people I look up too, admire and respect is 50 Cent. After reading his book ‘Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter’ - I completely understood how he operates in business and his career. I developed a respect for him because of his transparency understanding of his self worth, honesty about his mistakes and how he started life that explain why and where he is now.
Notably 50 Cent is the mastermind behind: Ghost PowerBook I PowerBook II BMF Raising Kanan For Life
His creative differences with TV Network Starz saw 50 Cent recognise his worth and unwilling to compromise on his creative direction of his show he reached his walk away point.
In this episode I also share an anonymous dilemma/ life lesson regarding financial abuse.
What happens in politics often happens in life. Despite the disgraceful leadership filled with 'alleged' dishonesty Boris Johnson has now allegedly signed a £1M deal with the Daily Mail as a columnist. It surpasses understanding how anyone would think that he would have anything worth while to write about outside of politics, but the questions surrounding how he mis-managed covid as Tory Leader and Prime Minister continues.
This is the same man who ensured that his hair dresser would be included in the honours list. During covid and the press conferences Boris often looked like he was dragged through the bush backwards his personal appearance often reflecting the chaos of covid, most people were shocked that Boris even had a hairdresser. It just goes to show that he does not fear consequences he stands behind his privilege to protect him and now having been exposed as a dishonest former Prime Minister many will have to suffer him again as he takes up his new post as Daily Mail Columnist.
In this episode we will also be discuss maximising your earning potential through contracting. Toya Talks is not just for people in the corporate world, but is for anyone in the WORKING WORLD. The Contracting, Interim & Consulting Masterclass will be going live shortly on the toyatalks.com website.
Following on from the previous episode ' I like Money' I needed to do this episode. We are in a cost of living crisis which I believe is a fancy way of saying 'recession'. Others would define it as...
'a situation where the cost of basic necessities and everyday expenses rises significantly, outpacing the income and financial resources of individuals or households. It means that the cost of essential goods and services, such as housing, food, healthcare, education, transportation, and utilities, is increasing at a faster rate than people's wages or income growth. This imbalance can result in financial hardship and economic instability for individuals and families, as they struggle to afford the basic necessities of life. A cost of living crisis can have wide-ranging impacts on society, including increased poverty rates, decreased standards of living, and heightened inequality. It often necessitates discussions and actions aimed at addressing the root causes of rising costs and finding ways to improve affordability and financial well-being for individuals and communities.'
In a cost of living crisis even more so you have to understand and know how to pivot including pivoting from contracting to perm as a temporary measure as a response if needed.
The above also leads me to discuss the collapse of Credit Suisse. In this episode, we delve into the recent collapse of Credit Suisse, one of the world's leading financial institutions, and explore the valuable lessons to be learned from the perspective of an employee. We examine the implications of such a collapse on job security and the significance of understanding company benefits in times of organisational turmoil.
We begin by providing an overview of the events leading up to the collapse of Credit Suisse, including the factors contributing to its downfall. From risky investments and mismanagement to regulatory issues and reputational damage.
Next, we shift our focus to the employee's viewpoint and discuss the implications of an organisational collapse on job security. We explore the challenges faced by employees when a company faces financial ruin, such as potential layoffs, salary cuts, and loss of benefits. We emphasize the importance of staying informed about one's employment contract, severance packages, and any legal protections available.
Furthermore, we analyse the concept of company benefits and their true meaning during times of crisis. We explain how employees can ensure a comprehensive understanding of their benefits, such as retirement plans, health insurance, stock options, and bonuses, and how to evaluate their value when an organization collapses. Additionally, we provide insights on diversifying investments and safeguarding personal finances to mitigate the impact of such unforeseen events.
Lastly, we explore how individuals can prepare themselves professionally and financially for such occurrences. We discuss the significance of maintaining a diverse skill set, staying updated with industry trends.
Signs a company are in trouble
How can employees protect themselves from job losses
Future Career Planning
Company benefits and what they actually mean and even more so when a company is bought or collapses.
This is a dilemma Episode. - An organisation offered this woman a role and from there demonstrated so many red flags that included reducing the salary twice.
In this episode we will be discussing Tyler Perry and his bid to own BET Network. We take the learning lessons from this discussion into the world of work. Knowing your value and when you are being undervalued or taking advantage of and knowing when it’s time to move on.
The workplace has never been a safe place and is not a safe space for Black Women. Being pregnant places women in a vulnerable position, your hormones are raging, your body is changing and you are growing a whole human. Many of us are also managing underlying health conditions too. In spaces where Black Women are not afforded fragility I never felt safe to share with employers or colleagues that I was pregnant. I held down two contracts whilst pregnant and did not disclose my pregnancy. I attended all my hospital and midwife appointments and for 9 months grew a whole child whilst working remotely and never having to share my pregnancy. It felt safer to say nothing. Whilst I recognise this is not possible for all my fellow Black Women, in this episode i share why I made this decision and how I managed to navigate my pregnancy and maintain my privacy whilst still stacking for my maternity leave.
In this episode we discuss the abusive and manipulative technique of the 'Silent Treatment' adopted by some managers and colleagues in a position of any scrap of power.
This is a dilemma episode covering x2 dilemmas on of which touches on the topic of ‘Unlawful deduction of Wages’.
The Employment Rights Act 1996 (ERA) protects workers/employees from unauthorised deductions from pay. The rules on unlawful deduction of wages relate to underpayment or non-payment of an employee's wage or salary without their permission or consent.
Number 10 Downing St is the HQ. For us mere mortals it represents organisations we work for. Suella Braverman is an employee. The sacking of Braverman is more than an angry boss letting go of an employee this is the dynamics of a manager, CEO, Line Manager and HR not recruiting well and then dealing with the fall out of a rogue employee.
In this episode we delve deeper and draw learnings for our own strategic ventures in the world of work.
Let me be clear, I do not believe democracy exists in this country but this country purports to be democratic. When you seek to control the narrative there is no freedom of speech, when you dictate how a peaceful March should be done you erode democracy when you attempt to remove freedoms to push a personal agenda or narrative you erode democracy. I do not believe true democracy exists in this country.
What happens when a key member decides to leave a popular podcast? We had an up-close look at the dynamics of The Receipts Podcast as Milena announced her departure. We shed light on the aftermath of her decision.
We're not just talking about The Receipts in this episode; we're also shedding light on the larger picture - the challenges faced by Black women in podcasting and beyond. From being labeled as bullies for simply being confident, to struggling to bring others into our success, we share personal experiences and stories that underline the need for support and mutual respect within the community. We make a case for the importance of reinvesting in oneself and discuss how Milena's decision could serve as a lesson in this regard.
In the final part of this episode, we spotlight black-owned businesses and creators, sharing our personal experiences of supporting these enterprises. We underline the power of setting boundaries and how encouragement and mutual respect can transform businesses and careers. As we wrap up, we express our heartfelt thanks to you, our listeners, for your continued support and love. Get ready for an episode packed with discovery, introspection, and candid conversation on the podcast industry and the role of Black women in it. Join us for this journey, and let's learn and grow together.
Ready to challenge societal norms and redefine success on your own terms as a working mom? Buckle up as we tackle the complex world of balancing work and motherhood, shedding light on the stereotypes and expectations that often hinder our progress. From my personal experiences returning to work after maternity leave, to the guilt associated with placing a child in full-time nursery, we pull back the curtain on the realities often glossed over.
Fancy a peek inside the nerve-wracking job interviews while on maternity leave? Let's venture into the art of negotiating better employment terms, and why it's crucial to have multiple options at your disposal. Hear the tales of successfully maneuvering high-stakes salary negotiations while on leave, and the importance of continuous learning and adaptation in a post-pandemic world.
As we delve deeper, we'll explore how careful planning can ensure a smoother transition into the dual roles of motherhood and career woman. We'll discuss the power of setting boundaries, the value of being a subject matter expert, and why financial stability plays such a critical role. Find out how to build your career strategy, negotiate salaries and day rates effectively, and ultimately secure your future. This episode is your blueprint to navigate work and success in 2024, and beyond.
As we delve deeper, we share impactful tales of overcoming discrimination and hostility in the workplace. One listener shares her story of triumph in the financial services industry while dealing with uncooperative colleagues and an unsupportive line manager. We debunk the misconception that compressed hours are only for those with families and emphasise the importance of self-care in professional settings.
Finally, we tackle the uneasy territory of retracting a job offer in a hostile work environment. We lend our personal experiences and advice on signing contracts and highlight the importance of strategic decision-making in our careers. On top of that, we share insights on establishing a side hustle and navigating a career in contract management. Whether you aim to leave a legacy at your workplace or become a subject matter expert in your field, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge for everyone. Tune in for an engaging and empowering discussion that will surely leave you inspired and better equipped to handle your professional journey.
As the year comes to a close, I find myself in a poignant reflection of the personal and societal transformations that have left an indelible mark on 2023. The landscape of the UK has been one of tumultuous change, from royal family disclosures to political upheaval and an economic maelstrom that has held our leaders' feet to the fire. Yet, amid this national backdrop, my journey into motherhood has been the most transformative of all, fraught with joys, trials, and the task of breaking generational curses.
Embracing the duality of motherhood, I bare the raw and unfiltered truths of parenting in the digital age. The metaphor of my neglected toenails becomes a symbol of the relentless pace of life with a child, challenging the glittering façades of social media's portrayal of motherhood. Through candid tales and personal anecdotes, this episode weaves together the essence of nurturing a child while grappling with societal pressures, the shadow of past traumas, and the importance of self-care.
As we bid farewell to a year of profound love and gratitude, the discussion turns to the practicalities of negotiating life's financial and professional hurdles. This episode doesn't shy away from the harsh realities of navigating a financial crisis or the art of negotiation with employers, as I recount tales of securing work against the odds and managing family budgets with a frugal touch. Join me as I share insights into the evolution of remote work, the empowerment of saving, and the criticality of proactive career management. It's been a year of immense challenges, but through it, we've discovered the strength we hold and the hope that guides us into the unknowns of the future.
I've always believed that embracing your true self is a rebellious act of self-love, especially when the world tries to carve you into something you're not. This belief echoes through today’s conversation, sparked by Laura Matsu's powerful reflections on self-acceptance. I delve into the pivotal updates in UK employment law, specifically the new flexible working legislation. It's essential intel for every working woman in the UK.
The energy shifts as we navigate the delicate dance of professional friendships, taking cues from the Receipts Podcast's Tolly, Audrey, and Milena. On top of that, the Employment Relations Flexible Working Act 2023 brings fresh challenges and opportunities. I'll guide you through initiating those crucial flexible working conversations during job interviews, ensuring your mental well-being isn't left at the office door.
Wrapping up, we confront the frustration of fighting for one's worth in spaces that tend to sideline our voices and contributions. I stand with Taraji P. Henson as she navigates the tides of Hollywood, championing the need for fair recognition and compensation. Her narrative isn't just about the entertainment industry; it's a mirror to the broader workplace struggles that many of us face. So, whether you’re contemplating a career shift while juggling the prospects of motherhood or seeking the courage to demand what you’ve earned, this episode is a testament to your strength and a reminder to step boldly into your power.
Bouncing back from a job rejection can feel like an enormous task, especially when you're juggling the complexities of life's many roles. As a full-time mom nursing swollen glands, conjunctivitis and the many hats of motherhood, I've been there, and in this episode, I share my experience to encourage you to channel rejections into stepping stones. We'll navigate the treacherous waters of job hunting and relationships with recruiters, armed with personal stories and your shared dilemmas, to ensure you emerge not just unscathed, but triumphant and more resilient than ever.
Ever felt like a cog in the workplace machine , undervalued and overlooked? Let's unravel that thread together, as we examine the critical importance of recognising our worth within the professional sphere. From learning to stand our ground against systemic challenges to understanding when to make our graceful exits, this episode serves as a guide to mastering the balance between strategy and self-empowerment. Join me as we bid farewell to settling for less and celebrate the victories of those who've taken the learnings and teachable lesson shared on Toya Talks to new heights.
As we wrap up, our conversation turns to the quest for peace within the workplace. I'll share a personal encounter that tested my resolve and strategies for maintaining harmony amidst discord. This is more than just a podcast episode; it's a mentorship session designed to fortify your career path and ensure your professional journey is not only successful but also true to your personal quest for peace and empowerment.
Ever questioned the value of your voice in a world that seems to echo with others' expectations? This episode turns the spotlight on the empowering art of personal branding, and the tenacity required to purge toxic relationships from our lives. Our narrative begins with the importance of inspiration, drawing from the negotiation prowess of my mother and the legendary ambition of figures like Michael Jordan and 50 Cent. We unravel the influence of assertiveness and the courage to carve out our own destinies.
Navigating the entertainment industry's labyrinth as a Black woman often feels like dancing on a tightrope. In this heartfelt discussion, we reflect on Taraji P. Henson's encounters with undervaluation, shining a light on the crucial role of a robust personal brand and an unwavering support system. I'll share my own trials of missed opportunities and the systemic challenges that dare to define our worth, but most importantly, how we must architect our own success stories in the face of these adversities.
We spotlight industry giants like Oprah Winfrey and Elsa Majimbo, dissecting the complexities of mentorship under the limelight. From navigating professional pitfalls to celebrating collective triumphs, this is an invitation to manage your career with grace and confidence. So, tune in and equip yourself with the essential tools for a journey toward personal fulfillment and professional empowerment.
Ever felt the weight of expectations tipping the scales against your authentic self? I've wrestled with the same challenge, longing for societal acceptance while yearning to embrace my true identity. In the heartfelt echoes of this episode, I share my personal voyage from the chains of people-pleasing to the serene shores of self-acceptance. A particular spotlight shines on Black Women, as we delve into our unique narratives, encouraging you to redefine success and seize the freedom that accompanies it. My father's lessons on gratitude weave through our discussion, offering a compass for navigating both our internal landscapes and professional waters.
The professional realm is seldom a straight path – it's a rich tapestry of opportunities, rejections, and the intricate choreography of work-life balance. Join me as I recount tales of resilience in job searches, the enlightenment found in declining roles that don't resonate with personal timing, and the artful dance of contract negotiations. Through the lens of my own experiences, including the ups and downs of a contracting career and the transformative decisions as a new mother, this episode serves as a testament to the conscious planning and dedication needed for cultivating a thriving career that now balances mum life.
This is a call to action; to build personal growth opportunities, foster supportive networks, and engage in the crucial conversations about representation and advancement. If you're looking for a roadmap to navigate your career with strategy and intention, or if you're eager to share your own experiences, I'm here to offer insight and support. Let's journey together towards empowerment, integrity, and boundary-setting – the cornerstones of not just a career, but a life lived with purpose.
From the viral tales of Ressa Tessa on TikTok to the tumultuous life lessons from the Wendy Williams documentary, we take an unflinching look at the importance of recognising red flags and holding true to our values in the quest for love and fulfilment.
Navigating the dating world can often feel like a high stakes game where knowing oneself is both the board and the prize. This episode is a candid reflection on the societal pressures to conform, the complexities of culture and societies view on relationships, and the mental health repercussions of a lonely heart's decisions. We analyse Ressa Tessa's viral mini-series as a cautionary tale, and I share my personal experiences to underscore the perils of compromising happiness to satisfy external expectations. Through these poignant stories, we grasp the profound impact our choices have on our lives and the quiet strength it takes to start again.
As I advocate for the power of transparency and the necessity of setting boundaries, especially in the realm of social media, we also dive into the emotional and legal entanglements that can arise from a lack of financial clarity in relationships. Portia Williams-Gubordia's alleged filing for divorce serves as a stark reminder to us all to remain informed, and don't shy away from the crucial conversations.
The world can be unkind, and for Black Women, the sting of racism and microaggressions is a harsh reality. I share a potent blend of personal stories and societal critique, focusing on my own experience at a swim school that became a battleground for parental rights and racial tensions. The episode also casts a lens on the political landscape, dissecting the Labour Party's response to bigotry and the media's role in shaping public perception. Through this narrative, we uncover the vital importance of speaking out, standing firm, and the power of allies in the struggle against discrimination.
As we navigate the undulating terrain of professional and personal growth, the stories of those like Diane Abbott and Raye serve as beacons of resilience and self-belief. In this episode, I examine the ways Black Women can equip themselves with expertise and confidence to confront workplace challenges, and I celebrate the triumphs of those who bet on themselves and won. To all my listeners, your unwavering support is the wind beneath the wings of the Toyah Talks podcast, and together, we'll continue to uplift each other and champion our collective well-being.
What if the working world is demanding hypocrisy from you?
Let’s pivot to the music industry and dissect the contrasting paths of Drake and Kendrick Lamar. We'll explore Drake's perceived struggle despite a privileged background and juxtapose it against Kendrick's authenticity and hard-earned success. This conversation leads us to a critical examination of Rishi Sunak's controversial tenure as the UK's Prime Minister, scrutinising his leadership challenges and the subsequent Labour Party victory. Recognising our strengths is crucial, whether in the boardroom or on the global stage.
Closing this episode, let's confront power dynamics and personal integrity in both politics and the workplace. We'll address microaggressions faced by Black women enjoying luxuries, emphasising the necessity of setting boundaries and maintaining self-worth. By sharing these insights, I aim to equip you with the tools needed to thrive professionally while safeguarding your mental health. Tune in for a rich, empowering discussion designed to celebrate your successes and arm you with the strategies to navigate professional challenges.
We explore the influential role of Black women in politics, drawing parallels between the US and the UK. We reflect on the groundbreaking impact of leaders like Barack Obama and Kamala Harris on political diversity and leadership. Despite these strides, the absence of a Black Prime Minister in the UK remains striking. We delve into Kamala Harris's career, examining her tenure as Attorney General and the criticisms she has faced. This segment underscores the ongoing challenges and triumphs of Black women in political spheres, highlighting the persistent need for systemic change and recognition.
Our conversation addresses the overqualification phenomenon experienced by Black women in the workplace. We discuss the systemic barriers that necessitate extensive qualifications for Black women to even be considered for roles often occupied by less-qualified individuals due to white privilege. Personal stories and societal conditioning illustrate these issues, and we also touch on the ethical implications of fundraising decisions, such as the GoFundMe campaign for Brendan Nwachibe. Join us as we navigate these complex topics, offering insights on career growth, identity, and allyship while fostering a platform for underrepresented voices.
Rethinking Networking and Inclusivity in Tech Events
Networking within the tech industry, especially at events targeted at the Black community, often feels more like a social affair than a professional gathering. We voice our skepticism about the effectiveness of these events and advocate for more inclusive and meaningful opportunities that align with the true professional aspirations of attendees. Highlighting the lack of Black representation in senior leadership, we emphasize the need for networking events that facilitate real connections with decision-makers. Additionally, we share our experiences with "Talks With Ash" on Clubhouse, underscoring the importance of respect and relatability in professional settings.
Financial struggles in the UK, from rising transportation costs, are taking a toll on many. We explore the burdens of the tax system, the challenges of raising a child, and the necessity of financial education often learned through modern platforms. Negotiating salary and maintaining privacy boundaries during job applications are crucial topics we address, offering advice on how to navigate these tricky waters.
Exhaustion, stress, and societal pressure often push us beyond our limits. But what if acknowledging burnout could change your life? Join me as I share my personal journey through the demanding terrain of professional fatigue, exploring how it manifested physically and emotionally, and how a timely holiday to Dubai became a turning point. We delve into the unique struggles black women face in the workplace, the difficult balance of rest and responsibility, and the societal pressures that drive us to overexertion. Through my story, we examine the impact of burnout and the critical importance of setting boundaries for well-being.
In our exploration of accountability and consent, we navigate the complex legal challenges faced by Young Philly, highlighting the importance of understanding facts before forming judgments. The discussion extends to the dynamics of responsible behavior in the public eye and the vital role of teaching children about consent and consequences. Through personal anecdotes and real-world examples, we underscore the necessity of raising emotionally aware children and addressing societal biases. The conversation on personal branding examines the professional relationship between content creators Chunks and Young Philly, advocating for strategic rebranding to protect one's career and legacy.
Career transitions and personal growth take center stage as we reflect on knowing when to walk away to preserve dignity and legacy, inspired by Anthony Joshua's boxing career. We explore the transition from a training contract to a solicitor apprenticeship, emphasizing self-compassion and the creation of supportive communities for black women in professional spaces. Rounding out the episode, I share insights on navigating employment probation, advocating for oneself, and finding peace and happiness through travel. Connect with me on social media for more insights and reach out with your dilemmas as we navigate the complexities of work and life together.
Racial abuse and exhaustion are not just buzzwords but lived realities for Black women in the workplace. Join us as we mark the four-year journey of the Toya Talks podcast, reflecting on the emotional and societal challenges that Black Women continually face. We underscore the importance of community support, vigilance, and documentation as essential tools in the fight for dignity and respect.
Witness the power of community mobilization in action, highlighted through the story of Feyi Flowers, a small Black-owned business allegedly facing appropriation and erasure by a larger company. This episode unravels the layers of business colonisation and celebrates the resilience of Black entrepreneurs who fight for recognition amid adversity. Noteworthy figures like Stormzy illustrate the strength of solidarity, while we navigate the political currents stirred by Kemi Badenoch and Kamala Harris’s political journeys, shedding light on the complexities of identity and perseverance.
From the high stakes of political identity to the personal challenges faced in professional spaces, this episode is a testament to the demand for excellence expected from Black Women. We explore the resilience required to overcome systemic biases, the significance of assertiveness in career management, and the necessity of confronting unfair labels in the workplace. Using stories from pop culture, like Drake's ongoing quest for validation, we delve into the intricate dynamics of identity and acceptance that echo through both personal and professional arenas.
This episode explores the cultural complexities underlying the case of Marcus Fakana, who faces prison time in Dubai under challenging circumstances involving consent and legality. It prompts a broader discussion about the importance of understanding cultural norms.
Additionally, we discuss the distinction between living and existing, the prevalence of coffee badging in modern workplaces, and the growing issue of fake job / ghost listings that candidates must navigate.
• Discussion of Marcus Fakana's case and its implications on cultural understanding • Exploration of the differences between living and existing • Discussion of coffee badging as a workplace trend • Examination of fake job listings and ghost jobs in the job market • Distinction between living and existing.
The episode unveils critical insights into the obstacles Black Women face in the workplace, particularly regarding the impact of white colleagues on their career trajectories. Through discussions on a Harvard study, workplace dynamics, and alarming revelations from a BBC investigation into McDonald's exploitation of young workers, the dialogue urges a reevaluation of systemic biases and the need for more supportive work environments.
• Discussion of the Harvard study examining Black Women in professional services • Findings on disparities in promotions between Black and white employees • Examination of intersectionality affecting Black women's workplace experiences • Insights on performance evaluations revealing biases against Black women • Analysis of the McDonald's 'sex for shifts' scandal and its implications • Discussion on Adidas AI-generated marketing and brand representation • Urgency for systemic change in workplace dynamics and policies
Staring down the tangled web of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) in powerhouse corporations like Microsoft, McDonald's, Ford, and Meta, we make a bold claim: Corporate DEI initiatives often amount to little more than hollow gestures, failing to make meaningful change. We dissect the aftermath of George Floyd's murder, scrutinising how it prompted a wave of DEI pledges that often fall short of translating into actionable progress. Through personal narratives and candid analysis, we highlight the systemic barriers Black women encounter in predominantly white industries, arguing for the necessity of legal mandates and rigorous reporting to ensure DEI efforts are more than just lip service.
Navigating the multifaceted dynamics of DEI, we touch on compelling examples from popular culture, such as the casting of "Wicked," to explore representation and tokenism. The UK's paradox of relying on immigrant contributions while marginalising its diverse populace adds another layer to our discussion. We also delve into the world of content creation, sharing my journey with social media platforms like TikTok, where authentic engagement has been more rewarding than on traditional venues. These stories are woven with insights on personal agency, emphasising the limitations of corporate loyalty to DEI principles.
We tackle the ongoing saga of TikTok's legal challenges in the U.S., focusing on the interplay between freedom of expression and national security. The episode also bravely explores workplace racism and implicit bias, with personal experiences that shine a light on the discomfort and obstacles faced by Black women. Through accounts of employment tribunal battles and the art of self-advocacy, we emphasize resilience and strategic action against discrimination. Sharing the importance of escapism and safe spaces, we celebrate the strength and solidarity of Black Women, striving together to navigate professional challenges while maintaining our identity and dignity.
In this episode, we share powerful insights on how strategic patience and authenticity can transform workplace challenges into victories. With the backdrop of recent Grammy wins by Black artists like Beyoncé and Kendrick Lamar, we celebrate their monumental achievements and explore their cultural impact, all while empowering listeners to remain true to themselves in diverse environments.
Across the pond, we tackle the intricacies of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in the UK and the economic challenges Black professionals face. Personal stories highlight the harsh realities of living expenses and political skepticism, painting a vivid picture of systemic hurdles. From the difficulties of accessing healthcare for ADHD assessments to potential changes in TV licensing, the conversation underscores the economic and social pressures shaping daily life in the UK.
A deep dive into Hollywood's power dynamics reveals allegations and legal battles, questioning the balance of influence and integrity. We also shift focus to Africa's journey toward economic liberation, discussing the impact of Western control and the significance of alliances like the Sahel State. Engage with us as we explore these complex narratives on the Toya Talks podcast, encouraging empowerment, dialogue, and growth for Black women navigating professional landscapes.
We dive deep into the emotional labour often required of Black women in workplaces, discussing the weight of conforming and masking one’s struggles. The episode promotes the radical idea of saying no—an act of self-love and preservation—and invites listeners to prioritise their mental wellness above all.
Listeners will also gain insights into the importance of financial literacy, debunking misconceptions surrounding personal tax responsibilities and empowering individuals to take control of their financial narratives. As AI continues to reshape the job landscape, this episode highlights the caliber of adaptability needed in today’s workforce. Create your personal tax account:
The insidious nature of the glass cliff phenomenon stands as a stark reality for Black women in professional spaces, creating a precarious balancing act between opportunity and setup. While many understand the concept of the glass ceiling, fewer recognize how Black women are strategically positioned at the edge of organizational precipices, handed leadership roles specifically during times of crisis when the probability of failure looms large.
This episode dissects how organizations conveniently embrace diversity when facing turbulence—appointing Black women to firefight situations they didn't create, with inadequate resources and impossible timelines. Through compelling examples like Kemi Badenoch's leadership of the struggling Conservative Party and Kamala Harris's eleventh-hour presidential candidacy, we examine the calculated pattern that reinforces harmful stereotypes when inevitable challenges arise.
Beyond career implications, we explore the geopolitical landscape of the Russia-Ukraine conflict, examining how NATO expansion, natural gas pipelines, and global politics affect everyday taxpayers. This connects to our central theme by highlighting how power structures function on both micro and macro levels. The conversation extends to corporate developments at Deloitte and Goldman Sachs, alongside Pat McGrath's groundbreaking appointment at Louis Vuitton—demonstrating both challenges and breakthroughs for Black representation.
Remember that true progress isn't measured by token appointments during crises but by equitable opportunities across all conditions. As you navigate your professional journey, recognise these patterns and position yourself strategically.
True representation means Black Women being promoted in all circumstances, not just when an organisation needs saving. Be the architect of your own career and recognise when you're being set up to fail.
Your career deserves architecture that builds toward sustainable success rather than precarious positioning at the edge of someone else's crisis. Take time to rest, as we acknowledge the National Day of Rest for Black Women, because the path to authentic leadership begins with caring for yourself.
The astronomical cost of living in the UK creates a bleak reality for citizens as April brings increased prices for essentials while personal tax allowances remain frozen. Black women face unique challenges navigating workplaces where excellence is met with discrimination and career sabotage from colleagues threatened by our success.
• The weight loss journey after childbirth requires discipline and sustainable lifestyle changes rather than quick fixes • Natalie B Fitness's women-only gym controversy highlights tensions between biological women's spaces and inclusivity • Biological womanhood encompasses experiences that deserve recognition without being labeled transphobic • Google's $28 million racial discrimination settlement specifically excluded Black employees, revealing deeper systemic issues • Corporate DEI initiatives often remain performative rather than creating meaningful change • Working remotely faces increasing resistance from companies despite proven effectiveness • UK taxation system aggressively penalizes success while the personal tax allowance remains frozen • Many taxpayers feel forced to pay twice for healthcare when NHS services are inaccessible
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Asserting yourself as a black women is often perceived as aggression. This in-turn puts us off asserting ourselves and builds up resentment towards our employers. I am an advocate of using the governance process and strategically understanding how to communicate with Human Resources and senior management. I have been sworn at, had things thrown at me, ignored, humiliated and in every situation I have known that a legitimate display of anger could change the narrative. Instead of focusing on the situation where we have been wronged and treated badly, the focus then turns to our reaction. Knowing this I have developed my superpower in being a black woman. Weaponising our tears is never an option for us, the stereotype of 'angry black woman' is the narrative developed by those who use this to oppress black woman. You cannot put black women in the corner.
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In my younger years I believed the key to my success in the workplace was my line manager. A string of road blocks, incompetent managers and a large dose of office politics soon made me realise that success is a choice and the choice sits with me. Too much responsibility is placed on our managers when in fact a manager owes you nothing. We are often raised with the mindset to be grateful to have a job but this shouldn't then make us so grateful that we talk ourselves out of growing and developing in an organisation, or in our careers. The responsibility of progression, growth and success is yours. Managers manage a department they do not manage your career that's your responsibility.
Bullying in the work place is often masqueraded as banter or disguised in the all too familiar quote of 'you're being sensitive'. Many experience bullying in the workplace and often not know what to do and how to deal with it. As a black women the stereotypes that continues to be placed on us often serves as a deterrent in preventing us from speaking up when faced with bullying in the workplace. ITV's recent 3 part episode 'Sticks and Stones' follows a black man, Sales Associate Thomas Benson who is bullied at work. As the bullying intensifies we watch Thomas deteriorate and we see how the bullying effects his mental health, his home life and of course his work life.
Watching 'Sticks and Stones' was uncomfortable. In the early stages of my career I was bullied by colleagues, management and in different organisations. As i became more senior the bullying was overt but was still effective in crushing my confidence and self-esteem. As I began to understand the social aspects of work and grow as a person I very quickly understood the need to set boundaries with my colleagues and how to then deal with and speak up when I was bullied or treated unfairly. Often the bullying was motivated by the colour of my skin. Irrespective of how black women assert themselves, in comparison to our white counterparts we will be considered as aggressive or even the aggressor, however I refuse to accept this as a deterrent from speaking up. There are different ways of asserting yourself and understanding how to use the office politics, and workplace rules/regulations, and grievance procedure has made asserting myself at work easier. We are use to being the minority in the workplace and that and sometimes is uncomfortable in itself so if asserting ones self means we will have to be uncomfortable while doing so, then its' a feeling we are already use too. In this Episode I discuss workplace bullying advise on how to deal with bullying at work and also I share a recent example of an ex-colleague who is being bullied at work.
Most of us watched the video recently circulating on social media of a young lady Gracie looking stunning at work with her beautiful natural afro hair. In the video we saw her white colleagues touching prodding ummming and arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrring fascinated about her natural hair admitting they had never seen natural hair on a black woman before. What was more uncomfortable is Gracies facial expressions. It was undeniable that she looked uncomfortable. So many questions. Did they ask permission before touching her hair? If so did she say yes? If she said yes did she feel under pressure to say yes?
The video went viral. Watching this video several times and reading the reactions of fellow black women it caused me to step back and unpack my hair choices when going to work, including how I wear my hair to interviews etc. In this Episode I share with you my hair choices for work and why. I will also be sharing my views on the Gracie video and answer the question 'Do Black Women Have A Social Responsibility To Explain Natural Hair In the Workplace?;
Travelling to work via public transport is a sport and increasingly becoming a contact sport. The aggression encountered on the way to and from work are often laced with undertones of racism and sexism. This then sets the tone for ones work day.
I was recently sent an article by Erika Stallings 'When Black Women Go From Office Pet to Office Threat'. This is something we as black women encounter in the office when we are ambitious and wanting to progress, it's at this point we go from office pet to office threat. We are then met with tension, microaggression, racism the list goes on. I use this episode to explain and address 'Office pet to office threat' and provide some practical solutions, drawing upon my own experiences of this in the workplace.
Many underestimate the effects of anxiety in the workplace. But how do you work through and deal with anxiety in a professional environment? Let's explore this topic, in this latest episode of Toya Talks.
Some employment agencies are like lone rangers, mannerless, instilling fear into candidates and bullying them into taking roles that are obviously not suitable for them, all in the pursuit of their commission.
In this episode I share my experiences with employment agencies and offer practical advice on how to manage them. I also share with you agencies to avoid.
There is always a question around sisterhoods in the workplace and how effective are allegiances and alliances with people in the office that look like you. In this episode I explore allegiances & alliances, when they go wrong and exploring the root of some of the unhealthy competition between black women.
Setting boundaries in the work place is a common theme in my episodes. In this episode I use a recent example of a colleague who decided not to set any boundaries at work and as a result she welcomed an onslaught of disrespect which resulted in her contract being terminated with immediate effect.
As black working women we must set boundaries in life and in the office, this is how we protect our space, our mental health and maintain our respect.
Once a month I will be answering your work place dilemmas, all names will be anonymous. I will provide you with my advice, please feel free to also share and provide your advice and opinions on Twitter @toya_w #ToyaTalks.
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03 Mar 2020
DILEMMA - 'My colleague won't be receiving a bonus but I will, my manager told me. My colleague keeps asking me if I will be getting one or received my letter from HR. What should I do?
Once a month I will be answering your work place dilemmas, all names will be anonymous. I will provide you with my advice, please feel free to also share and provide your advice and opinions on Twitter @toya_w #ToyaTalks.
It's ok to not have it together and still be trying to figure out what path you want to take. Some people you talk to study something and then end up working in another, others have known from day dot what they have wanted to do.
It's important to appreciate that everyone is walking their own path and it's ok to be confused or uncertain about your career path. Not everyone has it together ,often people mask the wilderness they are walking in. Walking in the career wilderness, being unsure, confused or stumbling into a career crossroad is all part of your journey in discovering your purpose,
The Corona Virus is overwhelming and if the media is to be believed it is a global pandemic that is set to get worse.
I'm sure there are many lessons to be learnt but what is interesting is how employers are reacting and how they are responding with regards to their employees. If you want to know how your employer views you it's in a crisis when that becomes clear, roll on this episode of the Toya Talks Podcast.
So many work misconceptions that feed into the false sense of understanding about the work place. Many employers play on this and often take advantage of the lack of knowledge that many have about work. In this episode I tackle some of those work place myths!!!!
"I need to see my own beauty and to continue to be reminded that I am enough, that I am worthy of love without effort, that I am beautiful, that the texture of my hair and that the shape of my curves, the size of my lips, the colour of my skin, and the feelings that I have are all worthy and okay." By Tracee Ellis Ross
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This pandemic has tested the way in which people work and how businesses operate in the commercial space going forward. Let's talk about all things work etiquette. Many are interviewing via (video/voice) conference call and re-align your work boundaries as you work from home but let's not forget the importance of work etiquette.
Last week a 27-year-old young black lady shared on Twitter that she earns £130k a year working in the tech space. This went viral, and with that an onslaught of those whose demons were shaken by the realisation that the earning potential is endless.
In this episode, I unpack the issues surrounding those who are troubled at the prospect of black women prospering, in life and in the workplace.
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Having a learning disability is not a measure of intelligence and too often I see people associate the two with each other.
I am a black woman with a learning disability who has navigated the workplace successfully. It has not been without its challenges.
This week we discuss managing learning disabilities in the workplace and some of the feelings I have had to unpack to be able to manage my dyslexia. I am proud of my journey but, it is important we understand how learning disabilities manifest itself in the workplace and how one manages this in the pursuit of career success.
Music (Intro and Outro) Written and created by Nomadic Star
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