The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce (Britta Jo)
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| 08 Dec 2023 | Welcome to The Stay or Go Podcast | 00:20:54 | |
Episode 1: Step into this first episode with me, Britta Jo, your guide and confidante as I share an overview of what this podcast focuses on including breaking free from fear-based narratives around divorce, embracing your authenticity so you can live life fully, realizing how shame and guilt actually keep you stuck, rethinking affairs, and much more. Later, I dive into my own story going from a deeply ingrained religious identity to the profound decision to divorce. My goal is to take an authentic approach in my episodes, peppered with a hint of irreverence, to create a space that is both nurturing and provocative for my listeners. I do the same thing with my coaching clients and you can learn more about that here: I want this podcast to be, not just a space for the disenchanted in marriage, but a sanctuary away from all of the noise around considering divorce for those seeking profound self-discovery and empowerment. Get ready to embark on a journey of dispelling myths, cultivating self-love, and navigating the delicate balance between staying and going to ultimately reach a decision you love. | |||
| 10 Dec 2023 | Feeling Stuck? Three Kick-Ass Tips That Help While Considering Divorce | 00:28:20 | |
Episode 3: For those who've been contemplating divorce and are feeling stuck, you're not alone. It's a very common theme amongst the women I coach and these three tips are here to get you moving forward in important ways. I delve into the profound importance of making yourself the priority and how your most powerful asset is a healthy, fulfilled you. Divorce can be daunting, especially when the brain clings to familiarity. I encourage you to look beyond short-term pros and cons. Consider the marathon of marriage and ask yourself, "Where do I see myself in 10 or 15 years?"
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| 09 Dec 2023 | Welcome to the Podcast, Take TWO! | 00:20:05 | |
Episode 2: Join me on a journey through time as we delve into the past and present in this second episode of The Stay or Go Podcast. Recorded a year and a half apart from the first, these episodes mirror the ebb and flow of life, reflecting the unpredictability of our human experiences. I'll take you through the monumental growth period I unexpectedly entered after recording the introduction episode. Life threw challenges my way—some heavy, some transformative. From the passing of my mother to pancreatic cancer, navigating trauma in my family of origin, and confronting repressed memories, this past year and a half has been a tapestry of emotions. In this episode, I open up a little bit about going back to therapy, the unexpected parting of ways with my best friend, and the profound impact of recent societal changes. From the Supreme Court's denial of women's bodily autonomy to advocating for speaking openly about child abuse, I dive into topics that matter to me. Amidst the heavy, there's also the unexpected joy of love. I share a little preview of the excitement and challenges of a newfound love and exploring the depths of a relationship and the lessons it brings. Hit subscribe, buckle up, and embark with me on this wild time travel trip forward. Intro episode for the podcast, TAKE TWO! | |||
| 09 Jan 2024 | Breaking Free: Challenging the 50-Year Marriage Myth | 00:29:38 | |
Together we will: 🤔💖 Explore the idea that measuring the success of a marriage solely by its duration may overlook the crucial element of quality. 🔄🌍 Unpack the impact of the evolving world on relationships and my theory that individuals today experience more profound personal growth and transformations, sometimes leading to shifts in beliefs and desires that challenge the foundation of a marriage. 🌱💪 Consider the philosophy of marriage as a conduit for growth, emphasizing the importance of both partners thriving individually and together. Understand that staying in a marriage solely for its duration may hinder personal and collective evolution. 👀🚪 Peek into the concept of cleaning out your mental "house" before leaving a marriage, ensuring that you carry forward lessons and growth rather than repeating patterns. 🔍💡 Get curious about your own desires, explore what you truly want from a relationship, and envision a future where both individuals grow and thrive. Remember, the evolving world offers numerous options for healing, mental health support, and personal development. 🌈✨ If you're questioning the happiness and growth within your marriage, this episode invites you to think outside the traditional 50-year framework. | |||
| 09 Jan 2024 | Considering Divorce? Understand the Life-Death-Life Cycle First | 00:44:33 | |
Episode 5: Embrace the Cycle of Life and Death. 🌱 Your Garden of Life: Picture your life as a vast garden, with different aspects like relationships, career, and personal interests. Understand the importance of choosing wisely where to invest your limited resources and ask yourself: What is the goal of your garden, and what does your soul truly desire? 🔍 Stripping Away External Labels: Challenge the external labels that define you. Explore the essence of who you are beyond roles, relationships, and achievements. Discover the strength that lies in connecting with your soul self, transcending external categorizations. 🌈 Trust Your Intuition: Dive into the magic of intuition as your inner compass. Trusting this deep knowing opens the door to a life beyond expectations, a life painted with the colors of joy, excitement, and authenticity. 🔄 The Cyclical Nature of Life: Acknowledge the cyclical process of joy and sorrow, life and death. Understand that the journey involves both letting go and welcoming the new. Learn to navigate these cycles with compassion and a deep connection to your soul. 🔮 Always More Ahead: Challenge the scarcity mindset and embrace the belief that there is always more ahead. Explore the abundance that comes with allowing life to unfold, knowing that every ending paves the way for a more aligned and fulfilling future. 🌌 Your Centered Journey: Shift the focus from external relationships to your inner self. Recognize that you are the center of your life's journey, and allowing paths to diverge can lead to personal and collective growth. Embrace the sufficiency and abundance that comes with prioritizing your authentic desires. 🌟 Conclusion: As you navigate the interplay of life and death, remember your constant presence in the ever-unfolding tapestry of existence. Embrace the depths, make peace with transitions, and trust that there is always more love, joy, and fulfillment ahead on your unique journey. 🌈✨ | |||
| 16 Jan 2024 | Why I Am a "Stay or Go Coach" Rather Than a Divorce Coach | 00:25:00 | |
Episode 6: Come along as I share the three reasons I've chosen to focus specifically on this part of your journey. 💔 Reflecting on my fresh post-divorce struggles, I reveal the power of neutrality and the importance of allowing you the time to find your own answers. Avoid the pressure of external voices and embrace the in-between space of self-discovery. 💖 Unveil the magic of personal change during the decision process and discover how it can breathe new life into your relationship. Learn from a client's inspiring journey, where honest communication transformed resentment into a renewed connection. 🌟 Embrace the opportunity for growth and self-empowerment, remembering that your truth is the guiding compass. Trust yourself to make decisions aligned with your soul, whether it's leaning into vulnerability or taking precious moments for self-care. 👂 As we wrap up, remember: I see you, I love you, and you're not alone in this profound journey. Tune in, embrace the wisdom, and empower yourself to make choices that align with your authentic truth. 🌻 | |||
| 23 Jan 2024 | Guilt Keeps You Trapped in Indecision. Let It Go. | 00:25:11 | |
Episode 7: Ever felt the weight of guilt while considering a different path? You're not alone, and we're about to untangle the threads of this societal programming. 💡 Unveiling the roots: Patriarchy. Yes, that P-word. Join me on a profound exploration of its influence on our choices, unraveling the intricate dance of staying or bravely deciding to move forward.
🔄 Stimulus, thought, feeling, response: the magic formula of emotional intelligence. Get ready for some mind-expanding insights into how our emotions are shaped and how we can reclaim our power.
🌈 The journey doesn't end there! We'll discuss the profound impact of protest behavior and emotional childhood in adult relationships, unveiling patterns that might mirror our past. Let's empower ourselves to break free from these cycles.
🌻 Your right to make healthy and aligned choices is non-negotiable. You are an individual first and a partner in your marriage second. Let's explore the freedom in embracing your individuality.
🎉 So, whether you're pondering the next steps in your relationship or simply seeking insights into the complexities of human connection, this episode is your guide. Remember to subscribe, rate, and join the community. | |||
| 30 Jan 2024 | Embrace Your One-of-a-Kind Journey | 00:28:43 | |
Episode 8: Join me as we navigate the pitfalls of comparison, embrace our unique paths, and celebrate the beauty of individual journeys. | |||
| 06 Feb 2024 | Own Your Story | 00:33:57 | |
Episode 9: A dear friend recently shared with me the concept of having a "mindset of storytelling" and it's a game-changer. Join me on a journey through her inspiring story highlighting the power of framing our experiences. Together we'll explore the crucial choice of lenses through which we view our lives—tragedy or triumph, victim or victor, and the realization is powerful: our experiences don't define us; it's how we interpret and tell our stories that shape our journey. We'll explore the idea of life in chapters, emphasizing the importance of choosing our narrative lenses and how the key is embracing the unexpected twists without clinging to old chapters. | |||
| 20 Feb 2024 | Repressed Memories and Childhood Trauma | 00:53:24 | |
Episode 10: In this episode I'll share my journey with repressed memories and how unveiling these and my childhood trauma has helped me develop resilience, compassion, and unwavering strength. 🦋✨ | |||
| 27 Feb 2024 | Unmanaged Complex PTSD: How It Affects Your Life & Relationships | 00:52:21 | |
Episode 11: Hey beautiful souls, It's not about blame but recognizing the past trauma's impact, offering a path to healing and self-love. I'll share raw truths about surrendering the salvation fantasy, redefining love, and fostering resilience within. Join us for an insightful dive into managing emotional landscapes. Take a deep breath and remember, you're not alone on this journey. | |||
| 26 Mar 2024 | Attachment Theory & It's Hidden Impacts on Your Marriage | 01:00:36 | |
Episode 12: 🌟 Welcome back, lovely souls! 🌟 | |||
| 02 Apr 2024 | There Are Certain People You Can Heal With; Sometimes Your Spouse Isn’t One of Them. | 01:11:21 | |
Episode 13: 🎙️ Join me on this episode as I explore relationships, attachment styles, and the transformative power of finding a secure partner. We'll dive even deeper into attachment styles and their impact on relationships, including my experiences with anxious and avoidant behaviors. Tune in to embark on a journey of healing, growth, and the potentials of secure attachment. 🎧✨ | |||
| 16 Apr 2024 | The Hidden Costs of Staying Married When You Want to Get Divorced | 00:44:44 | |
Episode 14: In this episode, I delve into the hidden costs of staying in a marriage that no longer serves you. While fearing divorce is natural, staying put comes with its own negatives often overlooked. 🚪 | |||
| 23 Apr 2024 | Considering Divorce is Messy, And That's OK | 00:44:42 | |
Episode 15: In this episode, I explore the inherently messy nature of human life and how this concept applies to the difficult decision of divorce. | |||
| 30 Apr 2024 | How to Know the Difference Between True Love and “Love” That Is a Mask for Control and Manipulation. | 00:50:09 | |
Episode 16: Hey there! Picture this: stormy clouds outside my office, perfectly aligning with today's intense podcast topic. We're diving deep into the heart of love, exploring the difference between true love and manipulation. | |||
| 21 May 2024 | The Importance of Inner Work Before Divorce | 00:25:53 | |
Episode 17: Hello, my lovelies! 🌟 It's been a couple of weeks, and I’ve been diving deep into the complex topic of affairs. This journey has been so enriching that it might turn into two episodes! 🎙️ | |||
| 28 May 2024 | A Call to Retrieve Your Soulskin & Return to Yourself | 01:15:31 | |
Episode 18: Hey beautiful souls! 💖 | |||
| 04 Jun 2024 | Leaving With Love and Becoming a Post-Divorce Glow-Up Coach With Quinn Otrera (Guest Interview) | 01:37:02 | |
Episode 19: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟 | |||
| 18 Jun 2024 | Affairs Part 1: The Pros and Cons | 01:19:54 | |
Episode 20: Hello, my lovelies! 💖 | |||
| 02 Jul 2024 | Affairs Part 2: Five Mistakes Husbands Make When They Find Out & What Women Really Want in Relationship (hint, you'll find it in the ACOTAR series) | 01:10:12 | |
Episode 21: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟 | |||
| 09 Jul 2024 | Dating After Divorce (With Quinn Otrera from the Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show) | 01:37:19 | |
Episode 22: Hey beautiful souls! 🌟 | |||
| 23 Jul 2024 | A Love Letter to My Pre-Divorce Self | 00:55:45 | |
Episode 23: Hello, beautiful souls! 💖 I’m diving deep in this spontaneous, heart-to-heart episode. Reflecting on nearly five years since my divorce, I share the messy, beautiful roller coaster of emotions I've experienced. 🌈✨ In this heartfelt chat, I open up about:
You'll hear about my recent trip to Vegas, deep connections with loved ones, and a song that encapsulated my feelings, leading to a profound realization. This episode is a call to give yourself the love and compassion you deserve. 🌟 We’ll explore the impact of childhood trauma, emotionally abusive relationships, and the importance of filling ourselves up, not just others. I reflect on living a deeply fulfilling life, understanding complex attachment styles, and building a life where you feel truly safe, loved, and deserving. 🌸 Let's embrace the ups and downs together, knowing every step forward is a triumph. Whether it’s the chaos of a late morning or the joy of creating a better life for our children, it's all part of our healing and growth. So, grab a cozy spot, maybe a cup of tea, and join me on this beautiful, imperfect journey. Remember, it's okay to feel everything—it's what makes us truly alive. 🌟 | |||
| 13 Aug 2024 | Feel First, Decide Later: Emotions as the Key to Divorce Clarity - Part 1 | 00:35:52 | |
Episode 24: Hey loves, it's been a minute since I last recorded, and today's episode is all about getting real and raw. I'm diving deep into the messy, uncertain parts of my own journey—especially around what it means to live a good life, and how to handle all the emotions that come with it. If you're considering divorce, you're really going to connect with this one. | |||
| 13 Aug 2024 | Feel First, Decide Later: Emotions as the Key to Divorce Clarity - Part 2 | 00:19:00 | |
Episode 24: Hey loves, in this episode, we’re diving deep into the sacred art of being with our bodies. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed or disconnected, this guided journey will help you ground down, tune in, and just breathe through whatever is coming up for you. | |||
| 27 Aug 2024 | Embracing Anger as a Catalyst for Change (With Quinn Otrera from the Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show) | 01:21:44 | |
Episode 25: Hey loves! 💛 Today, I’m sitting down with my bestie, Quinn, to talk about something we all feel but often avoid—anger. That fiery emotion many of us, especially when considering divorce, are told to suppress. | |||
| 03 Sep 2024 | My Life Post-Divorce: Better Than I Ever Imagined | 01:43:13 | |
Episode 26: Hey there, beautiful souls! 🌟 In this episode, I’m sharing the powerful transformation I’ve experienced since my divorce—from fear and uncertainty to a life filled with joy, freedom, and deep connection. | |||
| 17 Sep 2024 | Trusting the Timing of Your Journey in Divorce Decisions | 00:59:02 | |
Episode 27: Hey, loves! This week, we’re diving into the power of trusting the timing of your life—whether you’re navigating big decisions like staying or leaving your marriage or handling unexpected twists. | |||
| 24 Sep 2024 | Releasing the Fear of Making a Wrong Decision | 01:09:29 | |
Episode 28: Hey loves! 🌸 In this episode, we’re diving into some powerful truths about life and decision-making. I share personal stories, including how stepping into a new, fulfilling relationship has transformed my life and motherhood. | |||
| 11 Oct 2024 | How Your Journey Through Considering Divorce Teaches Resilience for Every Chapter Ahead | 01:41:17 | |
Episode 29: Hey everyone! After a whirlwind week, I felt the need to drop this episode because the energy right now is wild. If you’re feeling unexpected shifts in your life or relationship, especially if you’re considering divorce, know you’re not alone. 🌙✨ Braving the Wilderness - Brene Brown | |||
| 15 Oct 2024 | Kids & Divorce - Part 1: Disadvantages and Benefits (With Quinn Otrera from The Post-Divorce Glow-up Show) | 01:54:11 | |
Episode 30: In this episode, I’m joined by my bestie and coach, Quinn Otrera from the "Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show" podcast, to tackle a question so many of you ask: Will divorce ruin my kids’ lives? 💔👶 This is part one of our deep dive into the fears and challenges surrounding kids and divorce. Quinn and I open up about our own worries—how we feared our kids would struggle emotionally, fall behind in school, or feel completely lost after our divorces. We break down where these fears come from and what it really means to "ruin" your child’s life. Spoiler: it’s not as black and white as we often think! 🌈✨ We share how our kids navigated the changes, the surprises we didn’t expect, and how, even with challenges, it wasn’t the devastation we once imagined. This episode is a must-listen if you’re wondering how divorce might impact your kids and if it’s possible to find hope in the midst of it all. Grab a cozy seat and join us as we share our stories, insights, and some hard-earned hope. 💖 The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera | |||
| 22 Oct 2024 | Kids and Divorce - Part 2: Post-divorce Outcomes (With Quinn Otrera From the Post-divorce Glow-up Show) | 02:04:02 | |
Episode 31: Hey y'all, in this episode, Quinn and I dive into life after divorce and all the changes that come with it. 🌿 From navigating new relationships to balancing co-parenting and work, we explore how to embrace the "crisis period" (those first two chaotic years) and use it as an opportunity for growth. We share personal stories, insights from For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered by E. Mavis Hetherington, and talk about how change, while hard, doesn’t have to be negative. 💪 Whether you're worried about your kids, stepping into dating again, or finding your footing in your career, this episode will leave you feeling empowered to move forward. 🚀 It’s full of honest, relatable conversation, and packed with humor, heart, and plenty of aha moments. 🌟 This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life - Lyz Lenz The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera | |||
| 05 Nov 2024 | Dancing With Fear: 3 Tips to Help You Get Unstuck and Take the Next Right Step | 01:10:46 | |
Episode 32: Hey gorgeous souls! 💫 Buckle up for today’s super amazing episode where we’re flipping fear on its head. Picture this: moody Texas weather swirling with fog, a vibe full of tension and mystery, setting the perfect stage to dive into our biggest, juiciest fears. But don’t worry—we’re not here to run from them. Nope, we’re here to learn how to dance with them. 💃🔥 We’re getting real about how fear grips us when we're on the brink of a life-altering decision, like whether to stay or go in your marriage. Instead of fear controlling our moves, we’ll explore how to turn it into your dance partner—one that makes life electrifying and vibrant. I’m sharing three fierce tips: how to face fear head-on, understand it, and let raw, badass courage take the lead. Because the truth is, fear isn’t here to ruin you; it’s here to ignite you. Ready to transform your relationship with fear and feel alive like never before? Let's take that leap together, because this isn’t just about breaking free from indecision—it's about reclaiming your power and living boldly. ⚡️ Existential Kink - Carolyn Lovewell Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving - Pete Walker alex@stayorgocoaching.com - Waitlist for community | |||
| 12 Nov 2024 | Election Results 2024: A Pause for Grieving and Holding Each Other in the Face of Oppression | 00:39:50 | |
Episode 33: Hey everyone, this episode gets personal. After an intense week of emotions, I’m inviting you to join me in exploring the power of pausing. Last week’s election stirred up so much anger, grief, and reflection on what it means to live in a patriarchal world. I’m sharing how sometimes, the most radical act is simply to rest, feel, and give ourselves permission to be still. If you’ve been feeling the weight of it all, know you’re not alone. Let’s talk about why rest is resistance, and how honoring our grief can be a strength. 💪✨ Grab a cozy spot, take a deep breath, and let’s dive in. | |||
| 26 Nov 2024 | Following the Call of Fear Into Your Brilliance | 00:55:08 | |
Episode 34: Hey loves! This week, we’re wrapping up a month-long theme in the community that has been absolutely transformational: Dancing with Fear. 💃✨ While we often view fear as something to avoid, I’m inviting you to see it as a sacred signal—a call to grow, expand, and step into your brilliance. This episode is packed with insights from my own journey, community breakthroughs, and powerful tools to shift your relationship with fear. We’ll dive into: Whether you’re staring down the fear of the unknown in your marriage or learning to trust yourself again, this episode will inspire you to see fear as a catalyst, not a cage. Trust me, there’s a path forward—you just need the courage to step into it. 💖 Listen, reflect, and remember: you’ve been doing this dance for longer than you realize. You are already braver than you think. | |||
| 03 Dec 2024 | From Closet to Confidence: Stephanie’s Journey Considering Divorce and Beyond | 01:08:04 | |
Episode 35: Hello, hello, y’all! 🌟 I am beyond thrilled to bring you today’s episode—this one is truly special. I finally got to sit down with Stephanie, a woman I had the honor of coaching through one of the hardest decisions of her life. In this heartfelt conversation, she bravely shares her journey: from navigating the darkest moments of her marriage to slowly, deliberately building a life she loves after divorce. Stephanie’s story is raw, real, and oh-so-inspiring. We talk about everything—from what it’s like to be a stay-at-home mom with five kids to finding her voice and ultimately stepping into her own power. 💪 She also opens up about the emotional complexity of her journey, including moments of guilt, resilience, and discovering that the grass is greener when you water it yourself. 🌱 Whether you’re in the thick of considering divorce, feeling stuck in the “how,” or just need a dose of empowerment, this episode is a must-listen. Plus, Stephanie’s reflections on life post-divorce (including finding love again! 😍) will leave you feeling hopeful and energized. 🎧 So grab your favorite drink, find a cozy spot, and join us for this powerful episode. Let Stephanie’s story remind you that transformation is possible, one small step at a time. 💛 | |||
| 10 Dec 2024 | The Bold Vision: Expanding the Stay or Go Mission and Impact for 2025 | 00:47:31 | |
Episode 36: Hey, y’all! 🙋♀️ Today’s episode is a heart-to-heart about evolution, intuition, and embracing where our soul is calling us. ✨ I dive into the big shifts happening in my work and vision for the Stay or Go community, along with how listening to your inner voice transforms not just your decisions but your entire life. 💪 I share what led me to this moment—from reflections on trauma healing, trusting the soul over fear, and finding clarity on how I can best serve YOU. Spoiler: the podcast and the community are where it’s at! 🎙️🌟 We’ll talk about making brave leaps, living in alignment with your desires (not scarcity), and what it truly means to shift from “What do I need?” to “What do I most want?” 💭💖 Plus, I’ll tease some exciting changes and projects ahead for 2025, including deeper podcast content, retreats, and new offerings. This episode is all about building a life that makes you say, “Holy shit, I LIVED!” 🤩 Whether you’re on the brink of a big decision or ready to expand your vision for the future, this one’s for you. 💕 | |||
| 17 Dec 2024 | The Stay or Go Community | 01:28:12 | |
Episode 37: 🎉 Today’s episode is a heartfelt, behind-the-scenes dive into something truly special I’ve been building—a space that’s more than a community; it’s a movement. I’m peeling back the curtain to share the vision, the energy, and the life-changing experiences inside The Stay or Go Community. 🌟 From the courage to embrace your bigness to finding joy and support while navigating one of life’s hardest decisions, this episode is all about creating a revolutionary sisterhood for women like you. 💪✨ Whether you’re just starting to wonder if divorce is the right path or you’re ready to redefine what’s possible for your future, this space is designed to empower and celebrate your journey. I’m sharing why this community is so unique, the tools and support you’ll find here, and why considering divorce doesn’t have to mean going it alone. 💕 Together, we’re breaking generational cycles, rewriting the narrative around divorce, and building lives that feel unapologetically ours. 🎙️ Join me to hear all the juicy details, the personal reflections, and why applications to this space are officially opening for YOU today! 🎉 Let’s create a life that’s not just aligned but radiant. | |||
| 24 Dec 2024 | When Staying Feels Wrong: Trusting Your Intuition Over His Efforts | 01:27:50 | |
Episode 38: Have you ever wondered, If he’s trying so hard now, why don’t I feel like staying? You’re not alone, my loves. In this fiery and truth-packed episode, I tackle one of the most confusing and emotionally draining dynamics I see in women considering divorce: when your partner suddenly does a complete 180—but your heart and body still say, “No.” ❤️🩹 Together, we’ll explore the emotional rollercoaster of guilt, relief, and self-doubt, uncovering why his efforts might feel too little, too late. I’ll break down the spectrum of relationships, from the truly toxic to those that look good on paper but lack the deep connection you deserve. Most importantly, I’ll show you how to stop silencing your intuition and start trusting your values and priorities for your life. This isn’t about whether he’s changing; it’s about whether the relationship aligns with the real you. 💪✨ If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the merry-go-round of confusion, guilt, and misplaced responsibility, this episode is your guide to clarity and courage. | |||
| 31 Dec 2024 | Why Your Timeline Is Perfect: Reframing Divorce Decisions for the New Year | 01:02:15 | |
#39: ✨ Hey, beautiful souls! As we stand on the threshold of a brand-new year, this episode is your heartfelt invitation to pause, reflect, and exhale. 🧘♀️ Together, we’ll unpack some of the sneaky feelings that tend to creep in around this time—like frustration with your timeline, shame about where you think you "should" be, or the endless loop of comparison to others. I’m sharing a transformative tool I’ve been loving lately, inspired by 10x Is Easier Than 2X, to help you reframe your perspective and celebrate your progress instead of focusing on what feels missing. 💡 Plus, I’ll sprinkle in some fun, soulful resources—because stepping into 2025 should feel expansive and magical. 🎇 And can we take a moment to celebrate this podcast’s incredible first year? From over 2,230 recorded minutes to being listened to in 110+ countries, I am in awe of this journey and all of YOU for being part of it. 💖 Let’s make 2025 a year of softer beginnings, lighter hearts, and deeper self-connection. 🌟 Ready to honor where you are and trust the timing of your journey? This one’s for you. | |||
| 07 Jan 2025 | There Is a Better Way: Reclaiming Women’s Desires and Soul Calls in 2025 | 00:50:37 | |
#40: Welcome to the first episode of 2025, y’all! 🎉 I’m already obsessed with this year. In this episode, I’m reflecting on the magic of 2024—the year that showed me just how life-changing healthy, secure relationships can be. 💖 From deep personal growth to experiencing what it’s like to truly thrive in love and partnership, last year was a game-changer. And yes, I’m spilling all the details, including my rom-com-worthy New Year’s Eve moment. 🥰✨ But this isn’t just about me—it’s about what’s possible for you. I want this episode to be a reminder that life can get better than you can imagine right now. Five years ago, I couldn’t have dreamed of being where I am today, and that’s the hope I want to share with you. Plus, I’m kicking off the new year with three tools to help you reconnect with the deepest parts of yourself—books, resources, and even a tool to make sense of your dreams. Because, my loves, this is your year to step into your power and create a life that honors your desires. 🌟 Let’s make 2025 a year of big, bold, beautiful growth—together. 💪💫 | |||
| 14 Jan 2025 | When the Pain Feels Too Big: Navigating Depression and Connection | 01:26:41 | |
#41: Hey there, loves. This week’s episode is raw, real, and deeply personal 💔. I’m diving into something I’m currently in the thick of—navigating the waves of depression through the lens of complex PTSD and the abandonment depression cycle, inspired by Pete Walker’s incredible book. I share how a tough week with my oldest son has brought up layers of emotional triggers that connect back to deep childhood wounds. Together, we’ll explore what this cycle looks like—emotional flashbacks, spiraling shame, inner critics—and, most importantly, tools for working through it. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever felt overwhelmed by emotions that seem so much bigger than the moment in front of them. It’s a reminder that healing isn’t linear, but it’s worth every step. 🌱 We also talk about the connection between parenting and our own inner child, and how facing the hard stuff can unlock profound growth—both for ourselves and our relationships. It’s messy, it’s real, but there’s beauty in it, too. Grab your favorite cozy spot, and let’s walk through this together. You’re not alone—I promise you that. 💛 | |||
| 21 Jan 2025 | Three Life-Changing Concepts for Your Considering Divorce Journey | 00:58:49 | |
Episode 42: Oh, y’all, this episode is buzzing with energy because I’m back in my flow! 🌊 After a few weeks of slowing down and leaning into the ebb, I’m here to share what it feels like to embrace the natural rhythms of life—and how that can completely transform the way you approach challenges like divorce or deep personal decisions. 💫 This week, I’m diving into three foundational principles that have been life-changing for me and my clients: We’re going deep, so you may want to listen to this one twice! 🎧 Next week, I’ll break down actionable steps to shift your vibration and start creating the life you want, but for now, this episode sets the stage with powerful insights and inspiration. Remember, my loves, the flow always returns after the ebb. 🌺 Let’s lean into the divine feminine and trust the journey together. 🎙 P.S. Don’t forget to text 90Min to 33777 if you’re ready to book a transformative 90-minute session with me. Let’s create the shift you’ve been waiting for. ✨ | |||
| 28 Jan 2025 | Why ‘I Love My Husband’ Isn’t Enough: Changing Your Reality Without Empty Affirmations | 01:04:10 | |
Episode 43: Hey there, lovely listeners! 💛 This week’s episode is a big one—I’m diving deep into the phrase “Your thoughts create your reality” and unpacking all the nuance behind it. If that statement has ever made you feel overwhelmed, shamed, or even a little stuck, you’re in the right place. 🌀 We’ll explore the emotional traps of shame and spiritual bypassing, and why simply swapping your thoughts for “better” ones doesn’t work. Instead, I’ll walk you through what it really looks like to reclaim your power and transform your beliefs from the ground up. Think of it like tending to a garden—you’ve got to dig up those old roots before planting something new. 🌱🌸 I’ll also share insights into how our subconscious programming shapes so much of our lives and why releasing trauma is the key to truly shifting your reality. If you’ve been feeling stuck, this episode might just be the clarity you need. 💡 As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts—subscribe, rate, and share with someone who needs this! P.S. Don’t forget, you can text “90Min” to 33777 to schedule a session with me. | |||
| 04 Feb 2025 | Divesting Your Energy from Toxic Systems and Relationships | 01:15:36 | |
Episode 44: Okay, y’all… this episode has been weighing heavy on my heart, and I need to talk about it today. 💔 A new bill in Oklahoma is trying to repeal no-fault divorce—and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. Christian nationalism is gaining power, pushing laws designed to trap women in unhealthy marriages, and if you think this won’t affect you… think again. But this isn’t just about politics—it’s about power. 💪 The same toxic dynamics playing out on a national level are the exact ones keeping so many of you stuck in marriages where you’re not seen, valued, or free. This episode is a wake-up call to divest your energy from systems that don’t serve you and reinvest it into what actually supports your freedom and well-being. 🚫 We are not going back, and we are not staying silent. 🔥 Tune in, get informed, and let’s start building the communities that will keep us strong—because we’re going to need them. 🔗 I’m linking must-read resources in the show notes—please check them out. And if this episode speaks to you, share it, rate & review, and let’s get this message into the hands of every woman who needs it. 💜✨ Show Notes: Support for Christian Nationalism in All 50 States Article Christian Nationalism Wikipedia How to Challenge Christian Nationalism - Drew Strait Podcast: For Trump’s Evangelicals, the Inconvenient Teachings of Christ Deevers Introduces Slate of Legislation to Restore Moral Sanity in Oklahoma Take it From a Divorce Coach and Attorney: Ending No-Fault Divorce Is a Scary Suggestion A Thousand Little Moments: The Insidious Loss of Women’s Freedom to Christian Nationalism | |||
| 11 Feb 2025 | “Something Had to Die for More to Be Born” With Guest Allison Alexander | 01:13:07 | |
Episode 45: Y’all, this episode is something truly special. I’ve been hinting at it for a while, and the moment is finally here—I’m joined by the incredible Allison Alexander! 🎉 Allison’s story is powerful, raw, and so deeply resonant for anyone who has ever questioned whether to stay or go. She takes us through her journey, from the moment she first felt the whisper that something wasn’t right in her marriage, to the radical self-discovery that followed. Through breathwork, movement, and deep inner work, she found clarity, peace, and ultimately, the courage to choose herself. We talk about: And here’s the best part—Allison is bringing her magic directly to our community with an upcoming breathwork workshop on the 21st of this month! If you’ve been considering joining, now is the time. Because trust me, this is going to be next-level transformative. 🌿✨ 🔗 Join us for the workshop: Text STAYORGOCommunity to 33777 to apply! Also, don’t forget to check out Allison’s work—she offers intuitive coaching, tarot readings, and so much more. Connect with her through the links in the show notes! This episode is a must-listen for anyone craving clarity, embodiment, and deep self-trust. You are worthy of choosing yourself. 💛 Show Notes: | |||
| 25 Feb 2025 | The Dream You Inherited vs. The Dream You Create | 00:53:22 | |
Episode 46: Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t actually feel like yours? Like maybe the decisions you’ve made—your marriage, your career, your whole damn life—were handed to you rather than chosen by you? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is exactly for you. 💡 Today, I’m diving deep into The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz and unpacking the life-changing concept that so much of what we believe about ourselves isn’t even ours. We’ve been programmed—from childhood, from culture, from religion—to follow a script we never agreed to. And when we start to question it? That’s when the real magic happens. ✨ We’re talking: 🔥 The lies you’ve been taught that keep you stuck in your marriage (and in life) And yes, I’m getting vulnerable as hell about my own journey—how my political and personal evolution has changed everything about how I show up in the world. Next week, I’ll be sharing an episode that dives even deeper into that transformation in honor of the protests happening on March 4th. So, if you’ve ever felt like you’re at war with yourself, if your inner voice is screaming that something isn’t right, or if you just need to hear that you are not crazy for wanting more, then hit play, my love. This episode is for you. 💛 P.S. If this episode speaks to you, share it with another woman in your life who might be feeling stuck in someone else’s dream. And if you haven’t yet, hit that subscribe button and drop a review—it helps so much! 🎧💖 Show Notes: Don't Believe Him - The Ezra Klein Show Ezra Klein - NYT Opinion The Voice of Knowledge - Don Miguel Ruiz | |||
| 04 Mar 2025 | Why My Power and Politics Are Inseparable—and Yours Might Be Too | 00:54:43 | |
Episode 47: I’ve been getting messages asking me to “just talk about divorce” and leave politics out of it. But here’s the truth: personal power is political.🔥 The same fire that helps you leave a suffocating marriage is the fire that makes me speak up. 💥 In this episode, I share my own messy awakening—how I went from staying small to reclaiming my voice. And why I refuse to shrink for anyone. If that hits deep, this one’s for you. Let’s dive in. 🎙️💪🔥 Show Notes: Where Trump policies and Project 2025 proposals match up What To Read Before Donald Trump’s 2025 Address to Congress D.L. Mayfield: Recovering Autonomy After Religious Authoritarian Parenting Post from last week's episode “White Women Need to Focus on White Women.” Powerful Resources for Educating Yourself on Others Experiences Outstanding: A Comedy Revolution Accounts to consider following: https://www.instagram.com/50501movement/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/jesscraven101/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/workingfamilies/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/xavier.ramey/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/thehumanityarchive/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/raytrospectively/ https://www.instagram.com/dasiadoesit/ https://www.instagram.com/thesimpleenvironmentalist/ https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon/ https://www.instagram.com/ezraklein/ https://www.instagram.com/adriennemareebrown/ https://www.instagram.com/everydayactivist.co/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/pattiegonia/ | |||
| 11 Mar 2025 | Lost in the Divorce Decision? Try This Game-Changing Tool for Clarity | 01:06:06 | |
Episode 48: Hey my lovelies! 💛 Let’s get cozy and take a deep breath together because today’s episode is a game-changer. I’m sharing a powerful tool that I created this week—one that has already been giving me massive shifts. And now, I’m passing it on to YOU! 🎉 Here’s the deal: So many of us are just coping—putting out fires, managing chaos, running on fumes. But what if instead of constantly trying to “handle” life, we deeply resourced ourselves so that we didn’t need to cope as much in the first place? 🤯 This shift is EVERYTHING, especially for those of you stuck in the cycle of trying to gain clarity about whether to stay or go in your marriage. In this episode, we’ll break it all down: If you’re tired of feeling exhausted, stuck, and unsure of your next move, this episode is for you. And if you try out this worksheet, I want to hear from you! Drop me an email at decide@stayorgocoaching.com and tell me how it goes—I seriously love hearing from y’all. 💌 Ready to go from coping to thriving? Let’s dive in! 🚀💖 🎧 Listen now, and if you love this episode, don’t forget to rate, review, and share—it means the world to me! 💫 | |||
| 18 Mar 2025 | Reclaiming Pleasure: A Deep Dive Into Desire & Embodiment with Ranelle Chapman | 01:07:39 | |
Episode 49: Ladies, get ready for a deep, juicy, and transformational conversation! This week, I’m bringing on my gorgeous and radiant friend, Ranelle Chapman, a transformational coach and founder of Tantra Maha. 🌿✨ We are diving into something that so many women struggle with but rarely talk about—desire, embodiment, and the power of reconnecting with your body. If you've ever felt disconnected, numb, or like something is missing when it comes to intimacy, this episode is going to be a game changer. Ranelle shares her journey of overcoming shame, healing from trauma, and embracing her full sensual self. 💃💖 We talk about: We also get into the juicy details of tantric practices that can help you feel more alive, turned on, and fully present—not just in the bedroom, but in every aspect of your life. 🌊🌙 Plus, Ranelle is hosting a special workshop inside the Stay or Go Community, where she’ll guide us through deep, embodied practices to awaken our desires and step into our feminine power. Don’t miss out! ✨ Ready to break free from old narratives and embrace your full, radiant self? Tune in now! 🎧💫 🎙 P.S. Don’t forget to text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 if you’re ready to join an amazing group of women supporting each other through this journey of considering divorce! Join now and get in before our amazing workshop with Ranelle Chapman on March 23rd! Show Notes: Text “90Min” to 33777 to schedule a session with me. | |||
| 25 Mar 2025 | You Can’t Logic Your Way Out of a Marriage (And What to Do Instead) | 00:52:33 | |
Episode 50: Hey loves! 💕 Oof, what a week. Between spring break chaos and some big personal shifts (more on that later 😘), I feel like I time-traveled and landed back in my body just in time to record this super juicy episode. And let me tell you—it’s a goooood one. 🔥 If your brain is in total overdrive trying to figure out whether you should stay or go, this episode is for you. I’m diving deep into why over-relying on logic might be the very thing keeping you stuck. 😩🧠 Because sis, your brain isn’t neutral—it’s been programmed by culture, patriarchy, trauma, and all the things. So of course it's confused. In this episode, we explore how to tap into your true inner knowing—your soul compass—and why that matters so much when making life-altering decisions like divorce. And the best part? I’ve got a gorgeous, powerful little gift waiting for you at the end... 🌈🔮 A PDF guide to help you create your very own daily tarot reading tool using ChatGPT. Yup, we’re using AI to access your divine feminine wisdom—how cool is that?! So if you’ve been trying to think your way to clarity, babe, it’s time to try something new. 💫 Breathe. Pause. Tune in. And let’s begin this journey back to you together. And hey, if this episode speaks to your soul, take a moment to pause and let it sink in. Maybe even shoot me a review—it truly means the world. 🌍💗 With so much love, Show Notes: For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community | |||
| 01 Apr 2025 | Put Your Oxygen Mask on First: Why Supporting Yourself Comes Before Others | 01:11:51 | |
Episode 51: Buckle up, babe—this episode is a straight-up download from the universe ✨ and I am OBSESSED with what came through. Today, we’re diving deep into something so many of us as women struggle with: putting everyone else first…and losing ourselves in the process 💔. I’m unpacking why you’ve got to put your oxygen mask on first 🛑✈️ before trying to change the blueprint for your kids, your marriage, your mama, or anyone else. Through powerful client stories, my own raw truth (including a super emotional share about my oldest son 💔), and real-time realizations, we’re exposing how unprocessed trauma—ours and others’—quietly hijacks our present-day decisions. And the kicker? Most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. We're talking inner child healing, boundaries with moms who “mean well,” and why over-functioning is NOT the badge of honor we think it is. By the end of this, I hope you’ll feel deeply seen, wildly empowered, and reminded that you are allowed to prioritize yourself without guilt. Actually—scratch that—you must. Show Notes: No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Untamed - Glennon Doyle To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 | |||
| 08 Apr 2025 | The Sex Talk You Were Never Supposed to Hear With Quinn Otrera | 01:41:32 | |
Episode 52:🔥 Buckle up, babes! In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m teaming up with my soul sister Quinn for a full-on, no-holds-barred intimacy chat. We're diving DEEP into the orgasm gap, the tragedy of hetero sex myths, and what it really means to reclaim your body and your pleasure—especially after divorce. 💦 We’re pulling back the curtain on everything we were never taught to talk about—from painful sex and religious shame to mind-blowing orgasms and the freedom that comes with saying “I deserve more.” 💥 This one’s juicy, unfiltered, and straight from the heart—and yes, the fireworks were literally going off in the background. 🎆 (You’ll see what I mean! 😂) Whether you're considering leaving your marriage, already divorced, or just feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, this conversation is a permission slip to put YOUR desires at the center. 💖 We talk: ✨ The orgasm gap (and why it’s so damn real) ✨ What makes sex worth having (spoiler: it’s not a hard dick) ✨ Religious and cultural programming that’s kept us silent ✨ The power of community in healing and reclaiming pleasure ✨ And why post-divorce sex can be the best sex of your life 🙌 This is the sex talk we all deserved but never got. You ready? Let’s go. 💋 Show Notes: The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show - Quinn Otrera Vitamin O: Get Yourself Off, Get Your Life Back - The Post-Divorce Glow-Up Show The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward Vitamin O: Why Orgasms are Vital to a Woman's Health and Happiness, and How to Have Them Every Time! - Natasha Janina Valdez Do Straight Women Really Exist? - The Cut Maria - Dua Lipa To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 | |||
| 15 Apr 2025 | Stop Settling: What A Great Marriage Actually Looks Like | 01:18:30 | |
Hey y’all 💛 I am beyond excited to share this juicy episode with you because we are going all in on a topic I feel SO passionate about—what actually makes a marriage GREAT. Not “fine,” not “meh,” not “just surviving”—but truly great. ✨ In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own love story 💕, share how my definition of a great marriage has radically changed, and break down what I believe is actually required for a deeply connected, life-giving relationship. We're diving into: 💡 Why emotional adulthood is non-negotiable 🛡️ What it means to be a “secure base” for each other 🧠 How trauma, codependency, and attachment styles affect our marriages 📉 Common myths we’ve all been fed (like “staying no matter what” equals success—nope!) 🔥 The difference between surviving a marriage vs. thriving in one PLUS—I spill the tea on the real work my partner Joe and I have done to build the kind of connection I used to dream about 🌈. This episode is a rallying cry to stop settling, start being radically honest with yourself, and dream bigger when it comes to love. You deserve a relationship that helps you soar—not one that holds you back. 💻 Don’t forget to check the show notes for links to my newly refreshed website (hello, branding glow-up!), past episodes that connect with this one, and where to watch the pod on YouTube (yes, VIDEO is here! 🎥). 🧠💗🔥 This one’s a game changer. Let it land. Come back to it. And most of all—know that you’re worthy of a love that feels like home. Show Notes: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love - Amir Levine YouTube Episodes That Relate: Episode 4: The 50-Year Marriage Myth 💍 | Time Doesn’t Equal Success Episode 7: Guilt Is Keeping You Stuck—Here’s How to Break Free Episode 12: Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Change Everything Episode 16: True Love or Trauma Bond? How to Tell the Difference 💛 To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777 Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community For the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777 | |||
| 22 Apr 2025 | When the World Feels Unsafe | 00:35:27 | |
Whoa 😮💨 this episode came in hot, y’all. It was not the one I had planned—but sometimes the universe throws something at you that cracks your heart open in just the right way, and you’ve got to go with it. 💥 So today, I'm taking you inside a real-time nervous system ride—from receiving a message in my DMs that hit me right in my childhood wounds, to processing an emotional flashback, and coming out the other side feeling grounded and so connected to my purpose. 💫 This one’s for every woman who’s been told she’s too much, too slow, too sensitive, too anything… and showed up anyway. 🙋♀️ I walk you through how I handled that CPTSD moment, what I really think about patriarchal standards of efficiency, and how our current political climate in the U.S. is activating all the old stuff for so many of us. We talk about what it’s like to question your path when everything feels uncertain, and why staying human—with humor, music, and dance parties—is a radical act of resistance. 💃🕯️ I’m sharing a gorgeous list from Paul Shattuck called “80 Tiny Moves for Everyday Resistance,” and how I'm using it to reclaim my energy and purpose. You’ll hear some of my fave tips (like wearing something meaningful or creating a playlist that reminds you who you are 🎶), and how even the smallest acts can reconnect us to our power. Whether you're leaning toward staying or going, this episode is a reminder that this work matters—and you are so not alone. 💖 Come breathe with me, laugh with me, maybe cry with me a little too. We’re in this together, babes. Show Notes: The Harms Are Cumulative. Your Overwhelm Is the Goal. Let’s Get Unstuck - Paul T Shattuck, MSW, PhD Stay Human: 80 Tiny Moves for Everyday Resistance in the Authoritarian Harm Complex - Paul T Shattuck, MSW, PhD | |||
