The Positive Psychology Podcast - Bringing the Science of Happiness to your Earbuds with Kristen Truempy (Kristen Truempy)

Turns out the way psychologists define humility differs from what the dictionary teaches you. Listen in to hear what humility is, what it's not, why it's useful, what researchers have learned about it and how women and men differ. 

If you have an Amazon Alexa / Echo device please check out the Positive Psychology Quiz or the Meditation Myth Buster. 

Translating psychological concepts into daily life is not easy. So in this new reflection episode I look back on the concepts my friend Susanna Halonen taught me back in 2014 on passion. I will examine how I apply her ideas in my own life, where I still struggle and how two years later, I still work on implementation. I highly recommend that you listen to the original episode 8 on passion to remind yourself of the details of her passion theory.  I hope that the reflection episodes help you deepen what you already know and inspire you to apply the concepts in your daily life.

What is happening in the US right now is an extreme version of things that have been around for hundreds or probably thousands of years. If you are confused or surprised by what’s happening in Minneapolis and other cities you need to listen.

How to be Antiracist

75 Things White People Can Do For Racial Justice

Transcript

What is a positive institution? What sets a good company or school apart from regular institutions? What can you contribute to make the institutions you are involved with more positive?

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What are high-quality connections? What do they feel like and what benefits do they have? What different lenses exist to make sense of our relationships?

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Why bother developing a personal spirituality? How can we engage in personal spirituality?

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What can I do right in love? That's the question Nate Bagley asked himself before he embarked on the Loveumentary project, where he has interviewed over 70 couples who are in functioning relationships. We talk about what it takes, delicate balances and ridding ourselves from unhelpful relationship beliefs.

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Parapsychology investigates some pretty incredible phenomena including extra-sensory perception, telekinesis and even reincarnation. Jeffrey Mishlove and I discuss what parapsychology does, its relationship with mainstream psychology and how challenging our own assumptions can help us learn things, we otherwise wouldn't have known.

If you want to dive deeper into the research he talks about you can check out his youTube channel.

Do we have to get away from traditional stereotypes of what it means to be a man? Is getting in touch with emotions only for women? Dr. Tim Lomas explains critical positive masculinity.

Maybe you don't need the tactics and motivation shared in this excerpt but chances are you know someone who would be grateful for a little bit more mental peace and quiet. Share this with them. Everything becomes better and more peaceful the more people can focus on what is important instead of the mental chatter that keeps us unhappy.

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Positive psychology has to be highly practical to be of use. So in this episode I share how I implement positive psychology into daily routines and how it shapes lots of important decisions. I hope that by hearing real-life examples it will get you to think about the different ways in which you can apply the ideas you like in your own life.

While science is at the heart of positive psychology we sometimes need role models to understand how concepts like curiosity or growing beyond our comfort zones can be applied to our own lives. Nathaniel Boyle from the Daily Travel Podcast talks to us about how travel helps us to grow into our true selves.

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Negative thinking happens in the heat of the moment. How can we change that and what are concrete ways to change the inner dialogue? This is an excerpt from three positive psychology coaching calls designed to illustrate the positive psychology of changing your inner dialogue in action.

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In our pursuit of happiness it is easy to become myopic. Why not freshen things up by trying, just for the length of this episode, to achieve utter misery? Randy Paterson is a psychologist and the author of the book How to be Miserable: 40 Strategies you Already use. He will shine a light on some of the strategies we use to be miserable (unless you are of course a regular listener, in which case, I trust, you have kicked most of these habits already ;-).

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We are both terrified and fascinated with risk. Today we talk to adventurer-badass Suzy Madge who researched positive risk in ski-mountaineers but also drops out of helicopters to ski remote mountains in places like Afghanistan. Furthermore Suzy works with police forces and is therefore perfectly equipped to illuminate risk from several different perspectives. She talks about how relative the perception of risk is, why calculated risk taking is important and how high-risk situations can lead to transcendent experiences.

http://www.suzymadge.com/

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What kind of questions does positive psychology ask about the body? How can you increase your awareness of your own body? Is self-image just about attractiveness?

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Rosie from Illinois bravely confronts the shock, confusion and disillusion following the election of Donald Trump. She sits with discomfort, struggles through some painful realizations and ultimately recovers a sense of direction and even excitement. This is not only relevant for those of you trying to make sense of the new political landscape. It's also a demonstration of how we can face our own contradictions and use the tension generated to propel us toward personal growth.

If you want a personal growth spurt of your own check out my 21-Day audiobook program called Brainwash.

Don't bail if you don't run. Everything that William talks about you can also do while walking. This episode is about how issues such as depression can be treated with movement. Check out Wiliam's TEDx talk here: Movement is medicine

If you own an Amazon Echo device have a look at the growing list of apps I have built. 

Writing can help us deal with trauma and the negative effects of inhibiting things and keeping secrets. We will explore how writing can be a great coping mechanism. Furthermore examples are given of how writing contributes to positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning and achievement.

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Susanna Halonen returns to the podcast with this conversation which is a meandering happiness buffet with lots of different bits to choose from.

• The poet Hafiz
• Evidence based theories versus interesting ideas
• What can poetry and philosophy contribute to a good life?
• The average scientific paper is read two or seven times (Susanna and I heard different numbers)
• Intuition
• Susanna's discomfort with how technology is shaping our lives and the voluntary limitations she puts on herself to ensure that she takes time for important things
• A sin against adulthood
• Happiness is Here, her new book
• A controversial relationship tip
• The happiest country in the world is where Susanna is from. She'll give us some insight into why that may be.

Learn more about Susanna and her new book Happiness is Here

To those of you who are terrified and not entirely sure what to do next: here are some thoughts to comfort but hopefully also inspire you to see this as the growth opportunity that it is. This episode does neither contain concepts from psychology or politics but is instead my heartfelt reaction. The psychology and the politics will come later as I decided to do a mini-series on politics and building our future.

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If you take your well-being seriously you have to prioritize and manage it. Today I will share how I do this focusing mainly on the tools I use, mostly smartphone apps.

You can find the full list of links on the page Apps to Manage Happiness

This episode is mostly for professionals and students in positive psychology, HR or management. We can produce the best research in the world but if we don't go where the majority of the worlds' attention is heading, it will not matter how good we are. Whenever something new comes along, like say the internet, smartphones or even the teabag people always repeat the same reasons why it's stupid, irrelevant or dangerous (There is actually a fantastic podcast that covers this topic called The Pessimists' Archive). Then once mass adoption hits they play catch up and try to be seen in a sea of millions (Good luck starting an app in the Appstore in 2018).

That's why I hugely respect what CAPP has done. They have combined the technology of virtual reality with their expertise of personality assessment to come up with a novel product that I believe a lot of HR people will start to use in the near future. Even if you are not interested in virtual reality in itself this episode is worth listening to, as Jamie Betts explains not only, how this assessment works and why virtual reality is important, but how these kind of innovations get rolling in the first place. It's very possible that you as a researcher, executive or tech geek might get some cool ideas how to implement the ideas we talk about in your own work.

If you are a positive psychology professional or researcher I implore you to invest 5-10% of your attention to understand where the future is going and how you can get your message across in that environment. This episode is a good starting point for that.

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The word narcissist is bandied around quite a lot these days. What is it from a clinical perspective? When does thinking well of yourself actually mean something darker is going on? And what can people do who live with or love(d) a narcissist? Barbara Monett is here to illuminate us on these issues both from a professional and a personal perspective. This is a longer one but I think it's worth sticking around, especially since Barbara dropped a truth bomb at the end that I feel is applicable to parents, teachers, bosses and anyone who has to work with others. You can find her here:

//www.barbaramonettlcsw.com/

You will find the transcript of this conversation when it's ready

Therese Joyce will explain why play and humour is much more serious and important than you think.

Casper ter Kuile is on a mission to build a world of joyful belonging and one of the ways to get there are rituals. In times of trouble and change rituals can give us something to replenish our physical, mental and spiritual resources. Casper and I chat about how rituals are different from habits, how we can find rituals that really are an expression of our true self and that even the most mundane objects, such as milk cartons, can be used to engage more deeply with life. I've been wanting to chat to Casper since 2016 because he's someone who is truly invested in bringing innovation to spirituality. He is also the host of a hugely popular podcast called "Harry Potter and the Sacred Text". Long term listeners might recognize this podcast as the other creator Vanessa Zoltan talked about it back in 2016 on episode 89.

These are politically tumultuous times. In this episode we discuss some "necessary disillusionments" that we have to overcome in ourselves, stories that are unhelpful that we have to let go of to proceed and we dive into how opposing parties can find some real common ground. I will not shy away from super-charged topics (particularly one) where I make the argument that there are important reasons to not just force your political will onto others but why some unexpected science should make us rethink some of our opinions. You will be encouraged to think about what a democracy that deserves that name would be like and how you can be part of an 'emotional climate change' to secure sustainable political progress.

To build the kind of mindset that can help you navigate difficult political times check out my audiobook Brainwash at

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Based on the work of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi we will explore the creative personality, conditions that enable creativity and the creative process.

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There's a lot to say about what is going on now: this is the first of two episodes dedicated to Coronavirus. In this episode we'll look at what it is and what issues are to be considered. In episode 119 I will look at the psychology part of things and ideas on how to respond mentally to what is happening.

Originally I was reluctant to dig into grit: it just sounded like one of these many killjoy concepts that make us into the perfect corporate consumer soldier. How wrong I was. You don't need to have a flawlessly clean room or stay on the perfect diet for the rest of your life. Check out what grit is, how you can identify and cultivate it.

Positive aging is usually not a topic we care about when we are young. However during this talk with Piers Worth it turns out that what determines positive aging are things that happen often way earlier than we might think.

Welcome to the first episode of the Positive Psychology Podcast - Bringing the Science of the Good Life to your Earbuds. In this episode we talk about what positive psychology is, what it is not, the reasons for making the show, what you can expect from the show in the future and a little bit about your host. 

Today Mary Shores, CEO and author, will join us to talk about

• Why even a debt collection agency can bring positive change to the world
• How one powerful rule changed her business for the better
• A simple question to help align your actions with your goals
• Getting out of a dark place in 5 Steps
• Affirmation Deep Dive

Business has been underrepresented in this podcast so it's good to have Mary with us.

Okay full disclosure words such as karma will be discussed (and I will put them in a psychology context so the skeptics can chill...).

Links:

Pre-Order Conscious Communication and receive two bonues (Dream with a Deadline and Daily Desires Journal)

Ignite your Dreams Workbook

Fearless Ambition Facebook Group

People like to talk about values but what are they exactly? And how can something so abstract actually be helpful in our messy daily life?

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Learn why the search for passion is over. Susanna explains the 5 components of a passionate life.

• Internalizations
• The Pressure of Balance
• Unlimited Good versus Winner-takes-it-All
• Why Self-Compassion is your Foundation

Deirdre a listener from beautiful Cape Town asked me a few questions about my personal journey with depression and I decided to answer her questions on the podcast. Furthermore I added a section about what people who have loved ones with depression should keep in mind.

If your inner dialogue sucks and you would like to challenge and rework the responsible brain patterns check out my audiobook Brainwash at

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What beliefs stand in our way to change? How does change happen in our brain? Is happiness fixed and what influence do genes have? What can we do with all this information?

One thing that I have been obsessed about for years is bringing the message of positive psychology to places where they might not be expected. That's why I started the podcast in the first place, fooled around with Amazon Alexa and most recently started to have some fun with GarageBand. Therefore I proudly present my first piece of music. Have fun and try to listen to the lyrics :)

What are character strengths? Why should you use them? How can you identify them? How can you get going today?

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Introducing real-life bite-sized positive psychology goodness. For a while I have been thinking how I could use more real life examples to illustrate the concepts we talk about in the regular episodes. Enter Anchor.fm

This is raw, real-life as it happens, sometimes out of breath other times cursing a bit more than I usually do but always with one mission: to be right there for you with helpful thoughts and examples to improve your day.

I have been recording on Anchor every day for a week, usually multiple times a day. Hope you enjoy it.

Episode 10 was for the guys, this one is for the ladies. Niyc Pidgeon, a positive psychologist who works mainly with female entrepreneurs and I discuss the differences between coaching men and women, when coaching makes sense, self-care and what kind of interventions Niyc uses with her clients to make them even more successful.

Find out more about Niyc at http://www.niycpidgeon.com/

Niyc mentioned this book:

Second Wave Positive Psychology by Kate Hefferon, Itai Ivtzan, Tim Lomas and Piers Worth.

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Lea Waters, a positive education expert from the University of Melbourne will talk about why positive education is important, how wellbeing and performance are linked and what teachers interested in positive education can do to get started.

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Acacia Parks discusses positive interventions. What are they? What works best and what can go wrong? How are positive interventions brought to the public? And how could a listener get started?

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You will have an opportunity to think about how individualistic you are and which things you prefer to do by yourself.

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How can decade-old problems and truly challenging issues be solved? By looking at conflicts which were resolved peacefully the principles of transformative action were discovered. In this episode we will outline how these principles could inform alternative ways of thinking and tackling terrorism.

Therapy with a positive twist: how does it work? How can we bring people to experience powerful breakthroughs and get them out of their heads? What's story and acting got to do with it? Dr. Dan Tomasulo, psychologist, therapist, MAPP and writer explores these questions with us today and gives us a backstage peek into the therapist's office.

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Today investor and fellow podcaster Matt Bodnar joins us to discuss money but we end up covering:

• Decision-making
• Blocking and tackling
• Financial literacy
• Limiting beliefs and how to reverse them (The 4 Questions)
• Pyramid of Action
• and more

In the second half Matt does such impromptu coaching taking on my money hang-ups.

If you are really into science or psychology as usual you may have to open your mind or skip this episode all together.

Matt referred to lots of resources, so here they are:

• Click here to check out Matt's podcast episode with Vishen Lakhiani
• Charlie Munger's books can be found here
• Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki
• Seeking Wisdom by Peter Bevelin
• Influence by Robert Cialdini
• Farnham Street Blog

And in case you want to be one of the first to get a copy of my first audiobook called Brainwash pre-order here:

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Imagine yoga for a second: was it a white, slender and well-off hetero-sexual woman? Well what about tattooed, black, fat and queer folks? Is it not for them? Jessamyn Stanley is an inspiring yoga teacher who doesn't just not fit the mould but demonstrates that these moulds are unnecessary altogether. We discuss how yoga can be a vehicle for body positivity, mindfulness and a constructive kind of comfort during hard times. Also it's important that we don't mistake the postures for yoga. The practice is about so much more.

Watch Jessamyn doing some poses that I as an overweight woman thought would squash my brain.

Listen to my own yoga journey and check out Positive Psychology on the Go.

Jessamyn mentioned this online resource for classes: https://www.yogaglo.com/

What do we talk about when we talk about trust? Is trust really disappearing? Ken will introduce us to his framework that allows us to think about trust in a deeper and more thoughtful way and illuminate issues such as trust in politics or whether overly trusting people are stupid or gullible.

If you have any friends who are deaf or hard of hearing but you feel they might benefit from this episode you can send them right over to the transcript.

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Constructive journalism is about news that is not junk food to your mind. Based on the work of Cathrine Glydensted we explore what constructive journalism is, how you are impacted by the news and what you can watch out for to ensure a more quality news diet.

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Why is coaching so popular and will it remain that way when the robots come? Today Christian van Nieuwerburgh, Associate Professor of Coaching at Henley Business School shares with us his insights into when coaching is needed, how it can unleash its powers in companies and when working with young people.

You can find his books at Sage Publications.

There's also a status update regarding the launch of my first audiobook Brainwash which you can check out at

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If you are new to the Positive Psychology Podcast (or a bit behind) and you are a bit lost why not check out the top 10 of 2015?

Kelly McGonigal's book the Upside of your Stress challenges everything we believe to know about stress. We discuss how previous research has been misunderstood, some surprising truths about stress and how we can develop a healthy stress response.

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Think of optimism as the climate in your brain: is the weather generally good or would you prefer better weather? What is optimism, how does it influence your brain and life, what are the benefits, what concerns do people have and what can you do to get more of it?

Maria Sirois from episode 21 on authenticity returns to the Positive Psychology Podcast to talk about happiness after loss. Maria has written

A Short Course in Happiness After Loss: (and Other Dark, Difficult Times)

We talk about when happiness is appropriate after loss, what we can do when tragedy strikes and how we can support those we love going through a hard time. Maria also mentions Viktor Frankl who has written an amazing book called

Man's Search for Meaning

If you want to hear Maria's take on authenticity check out episode 21.

And last but not least if you need something a bit lighter to listen to after these serious topics you can search for Nicola Yoon's great novel Everything Everything on Audible, download it for free if you sign up to try out Audible's membership (which I have been using since 2006) and support the Positive Psychology Podcast at the same time.

Positive Psychology is not just interested in happy clappy topics - it's also interested in how we can deal with difficult situations. In this episode I am not sharing research but instead tell the story of the death of my father. It's a taboo subject and the notion that some things can be positive about death is barely ever talked about. I share some personal lessons I learned about death, what I hope will be different and what will be the next time someone close to me dies.

What do we sacrifice on the altar of speed and instant everything? Why is the imperative for speed bad for you and what can we do about it? We will talk about some of the surprising benefits that patience has on our lives.

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• How you behave while you wait
• Strengthsspotting
• The Happiness Formula in your daily life
• Sacrifice no more

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This episode is for the geeks, those interested in where Positive Psychology is headed and the fans of Aaron Jarden. We discuss the importance and advancement of assessments, the need to define concepts such as flourishing, current developments in positive psychology and how companies can help the cause to bring more flourishing to this world.

Today we look at authentic leadership and why it's important for anyone, regardless of whether you have a formal leadership position or not. We will examine the benefits of authentic leadership, the qualities these authentic leaders have and how they lead.

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What is spirituality, what are its benefits and what is sacred? In this first part we look at what positive psychology knows and doesn't know about spirituality.

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Okay right now it's just me and my mother so come one over and be one of the cool people who joined from the very beginning. I want us to get to know each other (you know a lot about me and I mostly likely don't know you yet), share things that will help all of us become the people we want to be and of course chat about episodes. I will also share content from my new station at Anchor.fm It's like Twitter but for audio and allows me to share examples and stories as they happen in real time, always with an eye on making your day better. Furthermore I want you to decide which happiness commandments should be featured in the 100th episode and of course introduce yourself.

Find the Facebook page by searching for "The Positive Psychology Podcast" (somebody else snatched up Positive Psychology Podcast) or click on here

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My little cousin knew how to ask for Calpol when he was like two years old. Yet when it comes to psychological wounds we are not that well informed. Meet Guy Winch who is on a mission to change that.

https://www.guywinch.com/

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Writing is one the most powerful and yet under-appreciated positive interventions that exist. Today I talk to Dr. Megan C. Hayes about making a mess, encounters on the page and why journalling as usual might not be sustainable.

http://www.positivejournal.org/free-stuff/

Books and articles mentioned:

• Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
• The new Diary by Tristine Rainer
• Expressive Writing by James Pennebaker
• Beyond Expressive Writing by Sophie Nicholls

Did you know that you are a broadcaster and have a lots of influence over the people in your life? Former CBS news anchor turned Positive Psychologist Michelle Gielan discusses how changing what and how we broadcast is crucial for success, happiness and health. If Michelle's message resonated with you, you can get her audiobook Broadcasting Happiness for free if you go through http://strengthsphoenix.com/audible and sign-up for a trial membership.

You can find out more about Michelle at http://michellegielan.com/

If you want to take the success scale go to http://broadcastinghappiness.com/success-scale/

And last but not least if you want to download the manifesto she talked about go to http://transformativejournalism.com/the-manifesto/ . 

Thanksgiving is over but regardless of the time of the year it's really helpful to be conscious of all the resources that are at our disposal. It provides us with perspective and show us that whatever is bothering us, is not the only thing we have (or lost) in life.

In this episode we talk about 16 categories, some of which we don't usually think about, when thinking about what we have.

If you are unhappy with your own resources you can use this list to build resources the same way people traditionally think about building wealth.

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Consumerism has a lot of downsides but what if rather than giving up hope we look at how to make it better? For that to happen we need to become aware of our relationship with materialism, limiting beliefs we have even if we don't know it and what alternatives already exist.

You clearly love podcasts so why not teach someone how to listen to them and help them find shows they would enjoy?

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And if you are fed up with seeing the world from a cynical and hopeless point of view check out my audiobook Brainwash

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At work, as parents and in our relationships we say that we want one thing but then we behave to encourage something completely different. If our words and behaviours do not line up we will experience a lot of unnecessary conflict. Check out what kind of incentives make people tick. 

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Dr. Richard Wiseman is on a mission to make people go to sleep more often and more deeply. You will hear what happens we we sleep, what happens when we don't sleep enough, the benefits of sleeping, how to fall asleep more easily and a little bit about dreams.

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 Today we are going to talk about positive emotions. We will cover

• why one big misunderstanding makes people question the legitimacy of positive psychology
• what positive emotions are good for
• emotional contagion
• how positive emotions affect health
• what you can do to increase positivity

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The holiday season has kicked off and people all around the world are wondering what to do about 'negative' family members. Waiting them to change has not helped so what now? Try to involve them in a strengths-based conversation. See how different the conversation pans out when we start asking more meaningful questions than 'how are you?' I invited Erica Virvo on for this demonstration because her fun and adventurous spirit has led her to experience the kind of life many people dream they could lead themselves (hint: she's not a trust-fund baby).

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Mindfulness is not just for vegan yoga practitioners or new agey types: CEOs do it (so if they have time you probably do too) as well and many others. This episode will cover what mindfulness is, what it isn't, why bother and how to develop it.

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We will talk about the anatomy of habits, discuss BJ Fogg's work on tiny habits and then address some things which make successful habit implementation more likely. This episode is meant to revisit some of the aspects of the Happy Habits interview episode (number 26) and to add a different approach to habits that is easy and helpful. We will also talk about the obstacles and excuses that can trip you up.

For those of you who want to delve deeper into the topic of habits I can recommend two books:

• The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
• Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin

If you go through this link you will not only get a new audiobook for free but you will also get the fuzzy feeling of knowing that you sponsored a month's worth of hosting fees.

We talk a lot about the things that make us happy and are supposed to change our life. Some of us try out a bit of advice here and there but most of us don't go about it fully. Tal Gur gave himself 10 years to achieve 100 goals. Today we hear from a doer, someone who decided that he was ready to dedicate himself fully to explore and experience what a fulfilled life really means.

Savouring is the ability to notice and appreciate past, present and future experiences. Savouring has been shown to make us happier so we will look at savouring exercises and talk about how you can apply them to enjoy the Holidays even more.

I have never been more terrified of releasing an episode of the Positive Psychology Podcast. It's the closest thing to taking off my clothes and running around naked online that I have done. If you want to know why listen in and check out

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Dani DiPirro is the creator of Positively Present . We talk self-love (it's not just self-care!), facing and working on our fears and when it's time to seek professional guidance. 

Elaine, a listener of the podcast, wrote in and suggested that I cover shame from the perspective of positive psychology. We will look at the work of Brené Brown, a rockstar shame and vulnerability researcher. Furthermore I will also address shame from a personal point of view, simply because not talking about it breeds more of it.

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What contributes to feelings of self-worth? What is self-esteem and self-efficacy and how can you get more of it?

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This episode is full of questions and ideas to get you thinking about sex in a more positive way. Sexual identity, sex positivity, porn and religion are covered among other things.

For our friends who are hard of hearing I am starting to include transcripts. Just visit this link for the full transcript (scroll down. The transcript might go live a few hours after the episode itself):

http://strengthsphoenix.com/podcast/113-sex-the-positive-psychology-podcast/

Certain ideas keep coming up again and again, no matter what topic we cover in the podcast. These seven concepts let you take a step back and focus on the meta ideas which help you leverage whatever kind of personal growth you are aspiring to.

If you have tried a few times to change your thoughts, but have lacked the structure and recurring practice to do it, check out Brainwash.

What is meaning and why is it important? What are the benefits of having a purpose and where does suffering fit in? What can you do when you want to explore meaning in your own life?

Dan McAdams' work has illuminated how stories shape our identity. Today we dissect the elements of story to unearth the narrative we tell ourselves. Furthermore we will look at a life-stage model and how reaching or missing expected milestones can shape our identity.

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To get a free audiobook of your choice check out

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Comfort and convenience

• We seek comfort through convenience.
• The time that convenience was designed to create for more important things is often taken up by more convenience
• Convenience is a never ending task.
• Our tolerance for discomfort steadily decreases which in turn is related to a lowering of our psychological well-being
• A way out is to allow more risk and failure back into our lives

Consumerism

• The number of ads outnumbers probably all other messages we get every day
• Without thinking about our relationship with consumerism it controls us
• Rethinking consumerism is not about saying goodbye to fun and joy
• It's about aligning what's important to us with how we spend our energy and resources
• This creates room for the great stuff

Antidotes

• gratitude
• savouring
• mindfulness
• thinking about values and what you do and don't do
• creation

Resources mentioned:

The Upside of your Dark Side by Todd Kashdan & Robert Biswas-Diener

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• Positive Money
• Savouring

You can download any Audible book for free (psychology or say the Harry Potter series) if you go through strengthsphoenix.com/audible . I am currently listening to Adam Grant's Originals, Brené Brown's Rising Strong and The Candy Machine by Tom Felling.

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If you love Harry Potter you are probably excited by the title but if you are not hold your horses and give our insightful guest Vanessa Zoltan a chance: the principles we discuss can be applied to your favourite books, music and movies and even if you don't care about any of these things this discussion will make you consider your spiritual life and why it's helpful to cultivate one even if you're an atheist (like Vanessa is). In their hit podcast Harry Potter and the Sacred Text Vanessa and her co-host Casper ter Kuile use different practices to unlock the mysteries of the books. This deepened understanding can help all of us to live a life that is based on our values and that uses role models to handle moments of crisis well.

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How can you spend your money in ways that make you happier? Right in time for Christmas shopping we discuss five principles which help spending your money in a way that makes you and the people around you happier.

In this episode we look at ways to steer through the crisis while accounting both for the hard and the positive. We'll look at common ways anxiety and depression take over your brain and how to replace those patterns with something more healthy.

Transcript

For all the peeps who are not into rap but want to shake their booty to original music made by yours truly I give you

Goofballs Unite!

What’s a revolutionary thing to do?

It’s to badly dance in your truth

Unconcerned with a perfect appearance

Or propagating eternal youth

Do you remember what you didn’t do?

All in the name of being cool?

Don’t waste tonight and realise

The marketing slogans made you shy

If you look at me from behind

It’s not a twerk that you will find.

Got no idea what my ass is doing

but I am having a great time.

You’ve skipped leg day all your life

your squats are shaky

but the groove’s divine

Hit the dancefloor

don’t be shy

Goofballs ahoi, let’s unite

(Bridge)

There they are

smirking away

Eyerolls rolling

throwing shade

Sometimes they’re

just in your thoughts

They should never

call the shots

In their world

they’re the height of cool

Unless they change

they peak at school

How bizarre would it be

to let losers determine your destiny?

My jiggly bits wrote half this song

how dare I praise ‘em? That’s so wrong

Imagine me having the gall

A big girl that claims space at all

Hey I bust out of my seams

still got plenty of self-esteem

Hit the dancefloor, don’t be shy

Goofballs ahoi, let’s unite

The most revolutionary thing to do

Is to badly dance in your truth

Unconcerned with a perfect appearance

Or propagating eternal youth

When you’re connected to your bliss

How will they sell their stupid shit?

How will they keep on ruling you?

If you live the values that you choose?

Steven talks to us about how magic impacts well-being and what we can do to get some of that threefold goodness into our own lives.

If you wait for the end you will hear an action-movie style ad for my audiobook Brainwash.

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How can we make good habits and break the bad ones? Braco Pobric tells us a couple of happiness secrets and relates them to real-life experience.

Who doesn't want more happiness, optimism and balance in their life? Self-compassion, championed by Dr. Kristin Neff, is one of those things that almost nobody has enough of. We are very self-critical because we're afraid otherwise we might lose our edge. That is however not true so why continue beating ourselves up? In this episode we explore what self-compassion is, why it's often misunderstood and what we can do to get more of it.

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What is courage? What different kinds of courage exist and how can courage be cultivated?

'Be yourself' is the kind of advice we hear all the time. But how do you do that? Dr. Maria Sirois talks to us about what authenticity is, what the benefits and dangers are and how we can get started on our journey to a more authentic self.

This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with a friend about her teenage daughter. While body image is particularly hard to navigate in your teens even as adults many of us struggle. Today we'll talk about why multiple perspectives are important, what doesn't help, and what I call the offense and the defense.

One of the most interesting ways to implement positive psychology is by using techniques from the arts. You don't have to be a liberal arts college major to use and enjoy these techniques. Shannon Polly and I discuss how acting as if, posture, reading great speeches and improv theatre techniques help her Fortune 500 clients grow personally and develop and stronger executive presence. We also discuss how acting and authenticity relate to each other and have a special fun surprise at the end.

Shannon is a leadership development facilitator, coach, speaker, author and founder of Shannon Polly and Associates, with degrees in both music and drama. She is also among the first 150 people in the world to graduate with a Masters of Science in Applied Positive Psychology.

You can learn more about her work at

http://shannonpolly.com/

Character Strengths Matter: How to Live a Full Live

Shannon mentioned the comedian Yakov Smirnoff in case you're curious what a comedian with a positive psychology degree is like.

Amy Cuddy's TED talk on how body languages influences how we feel.

If you enjoy the talk you can download her audiobook for free if you sign up for a risk free trial at strengthsphoenix.com/audible

Sonja Lyubomirsky The How of Happiness

Michelle McQuaid's Strengths Challenge

You can download any Audible book for free (psychology or say the Harry Potter series) if you go through strengthsphoenix.com/audible

Audible does sponsor the podcast so should you decide to go through this link I will get a little something to cover the costs such as hosting at no extra cost to you. I love Audible and have been a customer since 2006 and a member with 1 or 2 books each month since 2010.

For more episodes of the Positive Psychology Podcast click

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Did technology make relationships better (hello Skype) or does it make us lonely? Today we talk to Jason Feifer, host of the thought-provoking podcast Pessimists' Archive and editor-in-chief of Entrepreneur Magazine to learn how to think about technology and the effects it has on our lives. You will also learn a fancy Japanese term you can throw around at the next dinner party and hear a guy speak a really really old language.

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Ryan Niemiec returns to discuss what mindfulness is, what the benefits are and how we can personalize the practice by tapping into our strengths.

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We will talk about what forgiveness is, what the benefits are, the steps which different forgiveness programs have in common and some questions you can ask yourself if you are struggling to forgive someone.