The New Manager Podcast (Kim Nicol)

At some point you will think: "How do I get this person to. . .?" You might be thinking about your manager, and how to manage up. Or you might be wondering why a person on your team isn't changing, even though you've already given them feedback about something. When you start managing people, you need to think more about how to get work done through others -- it's no longer just about you doing a task. Let's discuss!

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Feel like you've hit a career plateau? Listen to this conversation with career coach Wendy Saccuzzo for ideas how to handle it. We talk about:

• When feeling stuck is an inner thing, or an outer thing.
• The connection between career stage and life stage.
• Creating a vision for what you want.
• How to use a plateau to your advantage.

Connect with Wendy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendysaccuzzo/

Or her website: https://www.aboutworkstuff.com/

Join an upcoming Career Conversation: https://lu.ma/conversationsaboutcareer

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How do you get out of overwhelm? This episode walks you through the story of how one client found a path out. You'll hear how she first approached the challenge, what shifted after she started coaching, and what changed as a result. You'll learn more about human-centered leadership and why self-awareness and skill are so important to creating a sustainable solution. It must begin with you. Let's discuss!

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One reason we hold on to anxiety and perfection is because of an underlying belief that you need them to be successful.  You might think that perfection makes you detail oriented, and anxiety motivates you towards achievement -- and you may have been rewarded for them!  In this episode, you'll get some ideas for how to think differently, so you can achieve what you want but in a new way.  It will make you a better manager, and you'll become more authentically confident.  Let's talk about it.

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A story about a toaster reveals some powerful insights about trust and how we work together.

When you feel frustrated, how you identify the problem is everything!  Because the way you see the problem will limit the solutions you find.  And when it comes to working with humans, it's important to not fall into the pattern of blaming people and personalities.  It's easy to do, especially when it's a communication issue.  But doing so will keep you stuck and feeling helpless.  Instead, learn to think beyond your initial reaction -- and look at things in terms of process, system, and context.  This will save you so much time and energy, and will build more trust and resilience into the team.  Let's discuss!

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How do you make decisions?  In this episode I share a simple framework that can help you think about how you're making decisions -- and can also be a good way to understand the basis for how other's think about making decisions.  You'll find ideas you can use at work, and also in your career and life.  The resource mentioned is:  The Management Center.  Visit them at managementcenter.org to learn more about PTRs.

Bonus episode with *video* and an invitation!

Join me and career coach Wendy Saccuzzo for a live (on Zoom) Career Conversation on Pivots and Side Hustles.

One of the inspirations behind this podcast is the experience I had over 12 years ago, when I was promoted to a Director role and started managing a team of my peers. There wasn't much guidance or training available to me as a new manager, and it's one reason I started teaching Essential Skills for New Managers, which then led to this podcast.

My career journey has had a number of pivots (I've been a lawyer, a yoga teacher, and a public speaking trainer). Now I work full-time as a coach in private practice, but looking back I can see how my side-hustles helped me become a better manager, a more inspired leader, and led me to work I really love.

This free✨ live (on Zoom) event is on Thursday, April 25, at 9am Pacific Time.

RSVP here: https://lu.ma/hswnn6lv

If you'd like to explore 1:1 coaching with me, book a consult and let's talk about it.

There are only two essential skills that you need to be a great manager. Once you get clear on what they are, every other related skill is easier to understand.

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In this episode I share the talk I gave at ICF Converge 2021.  You'll learn more about how I think about manager development from a holistic perspective, and will come away with insights you can apply in your own work life.  You'll also hear three powerful questions to ask yourself, your team, or your manager.

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When you're a manager, you'll think about employee Engagement differently than when you were an IC. In this episode, learn why Engagement is so important, and how Mindset and Attitude play a role. When you have better understanding of what creates Engagement (or Disengagement!), you'll have a better idea of how you can address it with your team. Let's discuss!

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In this Listener Spotlight episode I talk with Amberlee, a new manager of a small team with big wisdom and insights to share. We talk about: self-care, perfectionism, identity, culture and intersectionality, and the role of vulnerability and transparency in being a human-centered leader and manager. You will learn so much from her!

To learn more about Amberlee and her work, visit her website: www.a-green.co.uk

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In this episode, learn how to be strategic about why you give feedback.  Hear six different reasons that drive feedback, and learn why your values and identity play a big role in your strategy.

Making decisions is a skill, and an important part of being an effective manager.  Your mindset will influence how you make decisions, and how you show up at work.  Most of us learn that it's important to be right -- but that can come with adverse outcomes that you might not even realize.  What happens if you're willing to be wrong?  Let's talk about it.

If you start to feel stuck in a conversation wondering, "What is happening here?" you might be in Opinion Tennis.  In this episode you'll learn about this common pattern and how it can show up at work and in family gatherings.  And, I'll share two ways to get out of the pattern.

Ever heard the saying, "You don't get what you don't ask for."?  Many organizations are happy to pay for professional development for their people -- especially new managers.  After all, when you learn how to be more confident and do your job better. . . you do your job better, and the organization directly benefits.  But how exactly do you make that ask?  A lot of my students feel uncertain about how to do this, at first.  In today's episode, I walk you though the framework I've shared for years, that my students and clients have successfully used to get their work to pay for professional development.  It's worked in many kinds of organizations, and for a wide range of requests:  from a $36 workshop, to thousands of dollars in coaching.  The best part?  When you become someone who can speak up for yourself and ask, you can access so much more.  The other best part?  Your work might be *delighted* that you're taking the initiative.  Others benefit when you grow.  Get ready to take notes!  

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Being human means going through highs and lows.  Let's talk about what that means for you as a manager.  And:  what happens when you realize you don't love what you do?  In this episode you'll learn how a small shift in perspective can help you're feeling discouraged.

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Being a great manager doesn't mean having all the answers. There are many times you will need to coach someone on your team, or get curious about why something isn't happening. You'll want to know how the other person is thinking, what their process is, and where they're going off course -- so you can understand how best to help. That's when to use this phrase: "Walk me through. . ." Listen to learn more about how and when to use this phrase to unlock more clarity, understanding, trust, and possibilities at work. After the episode: Meet me at Transform 2024! More information here. Send me a note through my website or on LinkedIn to let me know if you'll be there.

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The Dishwasher Dilemma uses an everyday task to illustrate just how much nuance and thought goes into delegating tasks -- and what happens when things don't go the way you expected.

Managers spend a lot of time on : 1) Making decisions, and 2) Communicating. Those are foundational for managing relationships and emotions, whether you want to build trust, influence without authority, engage or motivate your team.

When you take time to develop foundational skills and mindset, it makes everything else easier.

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Your work might have budget to cover the cost -- and your boss might be delighted that you're taking initiative and owning your professional development.

Special pricing is available for 2+ or more, so ask me if you want to register with your team or colleague.

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You don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes being a great manager is about asking questions and listening. In this episode you’ll learn how to use one of my favorite questions to create more engagement, collaborations, and responsibility with your team.

Think you're in competition with a colleague?  In this episode, a listener writes in to ask for guidance when they and their coworker are both up for promotion.  And, as a manager, you might find yourself in a similar situation -- where two people on your team want a promotion, and you'll have to (1) make a decision about who and when, and (2) communicate the news.  Let's discuss!

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In this episode I talk about the concept of Inner Weather and Micro Climates at work, and how you can use them to find more power and influence. This is especially useful when you’re responsible for managing outcomes, but don’t have direct reports — when you have to manage by influence.

Being an effective manager and a great leader requires learning new skills and ways of working. In this episode, I'll walk you through three things that will make it easier for you to learn, and to tap into your own creative thinking and inherent brilliance:

1. Time
2. Safety
3. Simplicity

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Being on a leadership journey requires both personal growth and professional development. The way you did things in the past, does not mean it's the best way to do things now. Learning how to look with new eyes, take a new approach, and try a new way is part of the job!

In this episode, find out why you might say YES all the time (and why it's hard to say NO). Especially when you're a hard worker, and care deeply about those who are depending on you.

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Everything you do is driven by what you're thinking and how you're feeling.  Learn how to tell when a thought -- "I can do it" -- is helping or hindering you, and know what to do about it.  To work with Kim 1:1, request a consult at https://kimnicol.com/coaching/

The more aware you are of how to work with emotions, the more effective you will be as a communicator and leader. Especially when it comes to disappointment. This one emotion is often behind why we avoid conversations, or don't ask for what we need.

Instead of trying to avoid disappointment at all costs, try: 1) Accepting it is a human emotion, and let yourself feel it 2) Identify the unmet expectation, 3) Learn from it, and 4) Be curious about what's next. Let's discuss!

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You're going to face uncertainty. In your work, throughout your career, and in your life. Being a manager doesn't mean you always know exactly what to do -- yet you still need to lead. Today, let's talk about Three Tips for Uncertainty that will help you when you feel anxious about what's next.

1. Be Curious / Follow the Vibe.
2. Set an Intention.
3. Bring Friends.

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These are foundational for any manager:

1. Clarify what makes a good manager.
2. Identify what makes communication effective.
3. Design meetings and 1:1s, to use your time better.
4. Do feedback better: giving, receiving, and requesting.
5. Speak up, advocate, and set boundaries.
6. Plan for performance reviews, facilitating change and having tough conversations.
7. Manage up.

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Reflection Questions are not about having the "right" answer, or giving an answer that will gain the approval or praise of someone else.  The beauty of Reflection Questions is they help you to think a bit differently about your own experience, so you can see your inner wisdom and gather your personal insight.  In this episode I share 6 Reflection Questions that will help you think about your work and life, to prepare you to make strategic decisions as you move towards the end of the year.  Let's discuss!

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Before you manager other people, first you have to manage yourself.  It starts by understanding how your mind works.  For most of us, when faced with uncertainty the mind fills in the blanks with negative creativity.  You think about all the things that could go wrong, or how you're not good enough.  Learning how to manage your mind is something that will help you as a new manager and leader, throughout your career!  Let's talk about it.  

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Through 6-months of 1:1 coaching, you'll learn how to be a better manager and a more confident, authentic leader.

When you ask yourself "What makes a great team?", you must consider the variety of people you work with. That way, the concept of "great team" can become real -- and not just an abstract idea. What will make this team of people great?

Remember that communication styles vary, so expect to adjust your approach depending on the person. That's one of the best ways for you to build trust and be effective, even when team composition changes.

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This will help when you're in overwhelm (which can lead to procrastinating on making a decision).  One turn of phrase that can shift perspective, ease the burden, and help you focus on the present moment.

Nothing can fully prepare you for the reality of managing people. Different personalities, priorities, and communication styles can shake any new manager's confidence, and leave you wondering: "Am I really cut out for this?"

If being a manager is activating frustration and imposter syndrome, this episode will help!

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Enrollment for the April 2025 cohort is now open!

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Consider asking your work to cover the cost -- they might be delighted that you're taking initiative and owning your professional development!

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What, specifically, can you do as a manager to create great relationships at work?  In this episode I talk with Ross Swalve about manager lessons learned over more than a decade in the construction industry.  He has great insights and perspectives that I know will help you, so get ready to take some notes!

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Too many meetings on your calendar? Welcome to being a manager. Expect to have more meetings, including: 1:1s with your team, plus team meetings, meetings with your manager and other leadership and project meetings. . .

It's worth it to take a step back and make a plan.

Listen to this bonus mini episode for three questions to ask yourself to have better meetings and 1:1s.

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Volume pricing is available when you buy 2 or more seats, if you want to register with a colleague or team.

We're coming up on the end of the year -- the next 2 months will go by faster than you expect! In this episode you'll get my Q4 Checklist, with three simple questions every new manager should ask at this point in the year. It will help you feel grounded, calm, and confident as you approach year-end.

Plus, you'll hear why this is the perfect time in the year to ask *your* manager about professional development.

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If you avoid confrontation, you're not alone! Many new managers are uncomfortable with confrontation, especially if you've had success by keeping a low profile, keeping your head down, and working hard to keep the peace. Being an effective communicator means that sometimes you'll have to be direct -- even if you fear confrontation. In this episode, I'll break down what a confrontation really is, and then walk you through an approach to help you get past the habit of avoiding confrontations. So you can feel more prepared and confident, and worry less. Let's discuss!

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Is your work culture fast-paced?  Or is it actually reactive, frenetic, and anxious?  Let's talk about the difference, and what you can do. 

In the course of your career you will want to develop a well-nurtured network. This will help you navigate your career, as well as manage and lead more effectively. In this episode you will learn more about why you should care about growing and nurturing your network, as well as gain some specific, simple steps for how to do that. Let's discuss!

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To know if you're doing a good job as a manager, you need to ask yourself: What does success look like? In this episode you'll learn 4 markers to look for: internal, external, intangible, and tangible. When you take time to define success, and know how to identify it, then success won't be a mystery and failure won't be a surprise. You'll feel more grounded and calm because you'll know how you're doing. And you'll feel more confident in how you communicate what's going on to your manager, and others. Let's discuss!

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There's a lot to learn about being a manager. To feel less overwhelmed by it all, focus on the essentials. You're invited to my free upcoming class on Essential Skills for New Managers, where you'll learn:

1) Where to start

2) What no one told you, and

3) How to advocate for yourself to get the support you want

Let's discuss!

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Quick episode with a reminder to TRUST yourself. Everyone is figuring this out as they go. Deep breath. You’ve got this.

You're not managing people yet, but it's the next step and you want to start preparing.  In this episode we'll talk about how you can start developing your mindset, before you shift from IC to people manager.

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Being clear about who gets to make what decisions can reduce uncertainty, anxiety, and frustration at work.  In this episode, learn how to think about authority and decision making as a manager.  And begin to notice how it functions around you.

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Ok, it's time for us to start talking about AI. Are you an enthusiastic user? Or do you feel reluctant to learn about it? It might seem overwhelming, like one more thing to learn about when you already have a full plate. So today, let's start with something simple: the present moment.

Do you currently use AI tools at work? And if so, how?

Are you reluctant to use AI at work? And if so, why?

I'm so curious to know!

Tell me all about it by leaving a comment on the episode (if you're a Spotify listener), or find me on LinkedIn and send me a message:

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Lastly, if you're coming to SF Climate Week, come to my event on Manager Readiness: https://lu.ma/6gvwztdp

What do new managers need to know about working with HR? And what can you do to create great relationships at work -- with your manager, your team, and internal clients?

This episode covers all that and more, with special guest Maggie Reyes. Before becoming a Master Certified Life Coach and expert in marriage and relationships, Maggie worked in HR. In this episode she shares her wisdom, strategic perspective, and practical tips to help you manage more effectively and lead more authentically.

Follow Maggie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themaggiereyes/

To work with Maggie, go to: ⁠https://maggiereyes.com/⁠

Listen to The Marriage Life Coach Podcast: https://maggiereyes.com/podcast/

Buy her book, the Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner

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To work effectively and sustainably, you want to think about what support you need. This might be new if you're extremely self-reliant. Your first impulse might be to say, "I'm good, I don't need any support." You might also do this if you feel that asking for support somehow makes you look bad. But being able to identify and advocate for resources is a leadership skill, and one that will benefit both you and your team. Let's discuss!

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Learning how to work with emotions is one of the most valuable skills you can develop as a manager.  It will make you better at managing up, managing your team, and managing clients.  It's also a key to understanding why you might be avoiding tough conversations, or giving feedback -- because you're worried about the emotional response from the other person.  In this episode you'll learn why emotions are valuable, and a few ideas for working with them.  Let's discuss!

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Many new managers get feedback to be more assertive.  What does that mean?  How do you do it?  Let's discuss!

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There are three skills every manager needs:  Advocacy, Giving Feedback, and Boundaries.  Today we explore how they all connect.  When you know what you want, the next step is to consider how to go about making happen.  Is it something you need to advocate for?  Do you need to give someone feedback, to create a desired change?  Or is this a boundary issue that requires you to clarify an agreement with yourself?  Let's discuss.

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Changes in leadership can be difficult.  I'm sharing my favorite metaphor for this situation, and the questions that can help you think strategically when you need to communicate about the change.

You won’t always know what to do. Instead, try asking yourself: Who do I want to be?

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Think about your career and work as being part of an ecosystem. It will give you a useful perspective for addressing problems you face as a manager and leader. Let's discuss!

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If you find yourself suddenly having to lead a team through hard times, this is for you. Layoffs are hard on everyone -- including those left behind, who are grieving the loss of their teammates, fearing for their own job security, and feeling betrayed or mistrustful of upper management and leadership.

When things feel out of your control, the ideas here will help ground you and give you an idea for how to approach the new reality in a human-centered way.

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Being a human means we tend to take things personally! I do it, you do it, and the people on your team do, too. Problem is that it really gets in the way.

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Being overly self-critical and diminishing your skills and accomplishments is one way to keep yourself small.  When you start to take up more space, it might feel weird -- like you're boasting, or being arrogant.  There's another way to think about it.  Rather than making yourself smaller or puffing yourself up into arrogance, this episode will give you a way to think about that let's you be "right" sized.

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As a leader, you have more people looking to you -- and depending on you. You might feel more pressure and notice more fear of making mistakes. In this episode you'll learn how to recover from failure, and how your perspective will determine what happens next. Let's discuss!

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Being a manager is stressful. And hey, stress is normal when you're doing something new -- especially if you've had little to no training or guidance! The goal is not to eliminate all stress. Instead, you want to learn to distinguish between healthy stress, and unhealthy stress, and handle them differently.

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Why is it helpful to know about neurodiversity, if you're a manager? Because no two brains are alike! And it's estimated that 20% of the population is neurodivergent.

Terri Donohue is a neurospicy coach and Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion consultant. In this guest episode, she demystifies neurodiversity. Listen to find out why understanding the basics can make you a more effective manager.

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Happy New Year! Getting a fresh perspective is like looking with new eyes at a familiar scene. You will find new opportunities and possibilities. In this episode you will learn a simple framework to help you get a fresh perspective, so you can make micro-adjustments. Small changes add up, and can be easier to implement in the moment so you build up momentum.

Whether you are a first-time manager, an aspiring manager, or simply want a new approach to managing and leading others, this episode will help you.

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When you're really good at something, and then start managing people, it's easy to forget that: 1) being a manager is a different job and 2) there is a learning curve. It's also easy to forget that what works with one person, situation, or team might not be effective in another -- because people vary. So if you try to be "perfect" from the start, you end up putting pressure on yourself, second-guessing yourself, and delaying decision making. Instead, think in terms of process (not perfection). It will make it easier for you to learn faster, and with less anxiety and worry.

The first person you manage is always yourself. Let's discuss!

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"Control the control-ables." "Focus on your sphere of influence." How does this help you be a great manager? It reminds you to look for agency. In this episode you'll gain insight to why this matters, and a few key examples to get you thinking about your own situation.

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When you're a manager, you might feel caught in the middle between leadership and your team.  I think of this as the "squeeze", when you feel like everyone is unhappy and you can't figure out how to solve it.  Your manager is pushing you for more, while your team is struggling with their workload, and you're hearing it from both sides.  What to do?  In this episode you'll learn more about what happens when you feel caught in the middle, and feel like a failure.  Let's discuss!

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Being more confident doesn't mean you never have doubts. It means that you can move forward even when they pop up. How? By recognizing the thoughts that hold you back, and then being curious about what might be possible anyway. In this episode you'll learn more about the sneaky thought, "What's the point?" and how to not let it stop you. And, you'll learn why now is the perfect time to ask about professional development at work. When you're a manager, you'll need to develop new skills and abilities. Let's discuss!

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Being a human means you have access to all the emotions -- as does everyone you work with!  Becoming a manager will bring up everything from self-doubt, fear of failure, and frustration. . . to connection, inspiration, and confidence.  The best part of work is when we feel proud, valued, and respected.  The worst is when we feel a lack of trust, discouraged, or chronically frustrated.  Understanding emotions are important for every manager (and human, lets be honest.)  In this episode we walk through the very basics of understanding emotion as an experience, so you can begin to work with them more effectively.  

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Let's talk about why it's so important to see and respect your value -- even when your manager or workplace doesn't recognize it.

Managing people isn't just about managing tasks and work -- it includes managing personalities, shielding your team, and more.  There's a new level of emotional labor that comes with being a leader and people manager.  It's also common to feel more isolated and lonely as you gain more responsibility, and feel like you have to be more guarded about what you share and who you can talk with.  Let's discuss!

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This is the framework I use to organize how we think about the “soft skills” you need as a manager. It’s simple, but really useful! The map has four places: three tend to be most familiar, and one will take a little work.

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A good foundation makes everything easier, and it is never too late to revisit your foundation and make some improvements. In this episode you'll learn about Strategic Failure, and why so many new managers worry about whether they are doing a good job. Let's discuss!

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When you're a founder or small business owner and your business begins to grow, you create a new job for yourself:  people manager.  Here's what to know when you're a new manager for the first time as a founder.

Perfectionism isn't about being perfect. It's about feeling safe. In this episode, learn to recognize the signs of perfectionism holding you back -- including when you might drift towards micromanaging. When you can recognize when it happens and understand why it's happening, you will be more empowered to access your agency and choose a more useful approach. Let's discuss! After the episode: Book a consult to discuss 1:1 coaching with Kim: https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultation Join the Wait List for workshops and group programs: https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/

Becoming a better communicator and more effective manager means being less reactive and more intentional. How do you do that? Start by growing your self-awareness. When you slow down, step back, and see your own habits and preferences, you will be able to bring more intention to how you communicate. Instead of simply operating by default and being reactive, you become more deliberate and intentional. Let's discuss! After the episode: I'm taking new clients. To talk with me about your goals, challenges, and how 1:1 coaching with me can help, book a time here: https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultation Get on the Wait List to hear about workshops and the next group program: https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/

In this episode I talk with listener Adrian Bond about lessons learned as a new manager. We discuss: managing peers ("Who am I to tell these people what to do?"), the key difference between being a manager and a leader, how work stress can affect your home life, the importance of redefining success ("recognize what to STOP doing"), and the importance of training before you move up into a manager role.

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The end of the year is a great time do a personal Year in Review. I'm using the Year Compass, and will share some of the questions to get you started. Let's discuss!

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Ever been told you need to "toughen up" or be harder on yourself?  Have you noticed how that approach tends to create more self-judgment, resistance, and stress?  When being hard stops working, go to Compassion.  Managing people is hard enough without the extra pressure from an internal critic.  When you call in Compassion, it makes things easier so you can move forward with more ease.  It's a more effective way to work, and more fulfilling way to live.  Let's discuss!

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"What do other people think of me?"  If you have a tendency to be a perfectionist (and, thus, very self-judging), high empathy or people-pleasing, this question may pop up a lot in your mind.  It may activate your anxiety, and have you holding yourself back as a way to play it safe.  But there's another way to look at this -- a small shift in perspective that can grow your confidence and focus.  Let's discuss!

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Ever notice how being hard on yourself can make it harder to learn? The perfectionism and pressure to not make mistakes can really bog you down. Instead, be easy on yourself. In this episode I'll walk you through a series of questions to ask that will help you focus and make progress on one thing at a time. You'll increase your rate of learning, and reduce the feeling of overwhelm. Let's discuss!

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Add this to your toolkit for when you're feeling overwhelmed, or asking yourself "What should I do?" Take a step back, take a breath, and ask: "What is your role?" When you care a lot, it's easy to overextend yourself, avoid difficult conversations, and overly focus on how everyone else is feeling. By considering your role here, you will get more clarity -- while also being responsive to changing situations and relationships. Let's discuss! After the episode: Join the Wait List for the next group program, https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/ Get 1:1 coaching, https://kimnicol.com/coaching/

Every team is different. Even if you have the same people, the team can change over time -- because people can change over time. Today's episode gives you a few reflection questions to help sharpen your thinking and highlight some existing learning skills you've honed over time. Let's discuss!

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The topic of money will almost always bring up emotions. And when you're a manager, you are pretty much guaranteed to have more money conversations. It could be when someone on your team who wants a promotion or a raise, or when you're hiring someone new. Or it might be when you get promoted and are now managing your friends -- and now can see what everyone's salary is. In this episode you'll get some perspective and ideas that for how to feel more confident when you have money conversations as a manager. Let's discuss!

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Do you have a high performer on your team, and you aren't sure how you're supposed to manage them?  In this episode you'll learn about three common pitfalls to be aware of:  1) Neglect 2) Self-Doubt, and 3) Over-Reliance.  Plus, suggestions for what to do if your team member seems frustrated or impatient for a raise, or is looking to you for guidance on what to do next.

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Good leaders and effective managers think about strategy. They consider the desired outcome or goal, and then make decisions based on the available resources and assets, constraints and obstacles. Plus, when you become more strategic, you will feel less reactive to other people's urgency.

To develop this skill, start by understanding your own strategies. Why are you doing things the way you are doing them? In this episode, you'll learn a simple practice that will help you begin to see your own strategies in daily life. Increase your self-awareness, and you'll become more intentional about the strategies you want to put into practice at work. Let's discuss!

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As a manager, you make a lot of decisions. When you're in a situation where things aren't going to plan, how do you decide what to do? One way is to ask yourself: Where is my growth? That will help you pause, take a more strategic perspective, and make a grounded decision. Let's discuss!

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As you rise into higher levels of responsibility and visibility, you may start to get feedback about "developing executive presence."  If you've ever felt confused by what that means, you're not alone!  It's rarely something we learn about early in our work life, and it's often not described in much detail.  So it can seem elusive and ambiguous.  In this episode, I break down how I think about Executive Presence and give some specific examples to help new managers think about what exactly it means, and how to get it.  Let's discuss!

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Do you know the Eisenhower Matrix? It's a classic framework for organizing tasks and clarifying priorities. In this episode, I walk you through the basics, adding a Neurodiverse lens that makes this framework even more useful.

This is also the 200th episode of The New Manager Podcast. Wow! Thank you for listening, and being part of this.

In this episode I also share an announcement: that I will be taking a break. After 200 episodes, it's time to pause and take some time to think about what to create next for you and this show.

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What do you do when you need to have a tough conversation, but you're afraid of conflict?  One of my listeners submitted this question, and it's something that many new managers struggle with.  Today I'll walk you through two steps to think about, so you can move forward.  Let's discuss!

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Effective managers know how to advocate for their team.  Start with learning how to advocate for yourself -- especially regarding professional development.  Learn what holds you back from speaking up, and how to think about it in a new way.

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Being conflict averse makes it hard to speak up and share your ideas. Maybe disagreements feel uncomfortable, like something bad is going to happen. Or you worry about being wrong so you stay quiet until you feel your idea is unassailable. When you're a manager, there are times you must be direct. And, I want you to have a few options so that you can participate more readily without feeling confrontational.

In this episode you'll get some specific language to use, that will help you feel more comfortable speaking up. And if you manage a team where some folks tend to be more vocal while others are more reserved, this will help you to facilitate group conversations so that all voices can be heard. Let's discuss!

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Most time management issues are not really about managing time, but about managing other things. If you've ever felt resentful about the number of meeting requests you get, or if you put a lot of pressure on yourself and feel like you're always behind, this episode is for you. Let's discuss!

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Being ambitious does not mean you need to be great at everything.  And when you focus on what you're not good at, you're more likely to overlook and diminish what you are good at.  In this episode we look at where this story comes from, how it effects you at work, and what to do instead.  We'll talk about three types of family pressure and one common career pressure (especially if you are underrepresented at work), so you can identify these in your own life.

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Work doesn't happen in a vacuum. When you're a new manager, there are two things that you'll want to identify in order to be more effective: Systems and Environment. These are often relational, making them tacit and invisible. And yet they are everywhere. In this episode, I'll talk about a few specific systems you'll want to identify, and some aspects of the larger environment you want to be aware of. Let's discuss!

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Where does confidence come from?  And if you receive feedback about being more confident at work, how do you do that?  In this episode you'll learn the difference between Performative Confidence and Authentic Confidence, and why knowing where the basis of your confidence is, is so important.  Let's discuss!

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In this episode I share a concept that has helped me organize my thinking, level-up my communication skills, and de-escalate conflict. Plus! Celebrating 10,000 plays.

Managing people requires a specific skillset and a different way of thinking.  It's like when you go to drive a car when you've only been a passenger -- there's always a learning curve, even though you've seen others do it countless times.  This episode will give you a productive way to think about it, so you don't feel stuck thinking there's something wrong with you (there isn't).

In this episode I share thoughts about job change — which can be exhausting under the best of circumstances. Our work relationship is tied to our identity, feeling of belonging, and our financial well-being. So any change can have a big effect in our lives.

Wonder what happens in coaching?  Let's talk about it.  Many of my clients have never worked with a coach before coming to me.  Learn why having a plan can get in the way of progress, and how coaching creates positive side effects like getting promoted.  

It's the end of the year -- you might be feeling some overwhelm! In this episode I walk you through a mindfulness practice to try when you want to feel more grounded and calm. Let's discuss!

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In this episode I share a practice to help develop your thinking about being a manager — so that you know what to do next. This will help you become more flexible, authentic, and effective at work.

Time Management may seem boring, but to me it is a sacred practice.  Because when you make decisions about what is on your calendar, you are making decisions about how to spend your life.  Making decisions about your time is also tied into bigger topics -- like your values, your fears, and what else is happening in your life right now.  There will always be more things to do than time (or energy) for it.  Let's talk about it.  

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Managers and leaders are always learning, and today's episode will walk you through a practice to help you learn through appreciative inquiry.

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