The Momset Podcast (Tessa Romero)

"You make me mad..." oh no they don't, you respond with anger. Let's take a deeper dive into this total ownership piece and just how much it serves YOU when no one "makes you" anything. 

Course Enrollment opens March 15, you can find the details here

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes

You get to decide what is a need and what is a want and I fully hope that this episode helps you shift into seeing what you "want" to do for yourself is actually a NEED that can come before wanting to fold the laundry, doing the dishes or running that errand. You are your only limit and this can be so much fun to adjust in your daily life! 

YES, the MOMSET Community App is officially launched and buzzing with excitement from moms around the world. Come join us in daily community discussions, a weekly coaching session and access to my three courses!

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Founding members locked in rate of $67/month is for January ONLY. The price is $97/month starting in February.

Join us in this heartfelt episode as we explore the two things moms must know to inspire and motivate their kids by truly understanding their unique visions for the future.

Learn how to uncover what excites your child, provide the right support, and encourage their dreams without pressure and stress.

From active listening to celebrating small wins, this episode is packed with actionable tips to help moms nurture a positive connection and guide their children toward a bright future. Tune in and discover the power of understanding your child’s dreams.

I am starting my second 100 day challenge on Friday, July 1 and want to invite you to join me! I know it's a little short notice but 1) that's just less time to talk yourself out of it ;) and 2) you can start your own 100 day challenge ANY DAY you want! 

This challenge isn't about me and what I'm doing, it's about YOU becoming who you want to be by making and keeping small commitments to yourself. 

If you want to change your mindset and pick up a daily journaling practice that will radically improve your mindset then you can find my self-guided Alignment Journaling Course here! This course will teach you how to view yourself as who you want to be, align your mindset with that version of you and mentally rehearse the actions needed to live it out in your daily LIFE! Hint: why I journal out that method every-single-day. 

My personal 100 day commitment:

1. Daily Alignment Journaling to fill one page. 

2. Daily expressed appreciation to my husband. 

3. Daily expressed appreciation to my kids. 

4. Daily physical touch with my husband. (especially entered the newborn stage!)

5. Daily screen limits with my phone of 4 hours a day or less! (No nighttime scrolling while nursing my baby, this goal keeps me committed to getting my work done each day and staying intentional every time I pick up my phone!)

Are you in?! 

oh this episode is sweeet, and I am hopeful that this is a practical approach that can change the way you parent and feel as a mother!

I get it. That "no" that rushes to your mind when your kids ask a question like "can we buy this toy" or "mom, will you come swim?"

Our mind loves to do what is easy and somewhere along the way, "no" has become the easy answer.

Is it really easier though?

Is it easier to say "no" or "yes?"

This episode is unpacking how it IS (well, can be if you let it) easier to say YES!

We are talking through what happens when you become a "yes mama"

and creative ways you can ditch the "no" even for just one day.

I mentioned that Mind Body Alignment, my 12 week group coaching course, opens enrollment June 5, 2023

This is our last group coaching of 2023 and I believe you will know if you are meant to be there!

I will have the details posted soon for you :)

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Stop trying to skip to where you want to be and start conditioning your mindset to meet you RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE AT! Sharing some personal experience learning this mindset and how it helped me grow into who I wanted to be, just by accepting the steps and process that it required to get there. https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/Journaling Shamelessly encouraging you to GET THE Alignment Journaling Course because 1) you deserve a mental self-care practice that reconditions your mindset to support you and 2) The REVIEWS have been powerful of how hundreds of women are finding a new mindset within them in just ONE journaling experience using this method and 3) you deserve a mindset that supports you every single day in every single season of your life!  ALSO, July 1 I am starting my second 100 day challenge and you are welcome to join me!! What a great time to commit to journaling everyday together or getting on top of a habit you way to create. You are invited!

It is a SPECIAL time to have our first podcast guest on the show! Ashley Emerick has been in my courses and shares her incredible work into transformation over the past 15 months. I know her story will instill hope that this is all possible for you, too.

We then dive deeper into the meaning and perspective of having all that we need and how we, as mothers, can see that through with a better vision and devotion to what is meant for us.

I'm looking forward to sharing more of the incredible people and influences in my life with you. Thank you for growing with me in all areas. I appreciate you!

Read the book "Don't Give The Enemy A Seat At Your Table" by Louie Giglio that Ashley and I referred to in this episode.

Grab the Alignment Journaling Course to begin your work!

Have you ever thought that you need to provide heavy consequences and take things away in order to see better behavior in your kids?

Me too! I also think that you have had some initial negative thoughts spouting off in your mind when you're witnessing that poor behavior, just like I have.

Rest assured that I am here to share some mindset goodness in this episode by sharing a story that had one mama asking me "what about rewarding negative behavior? I feel like I need to have consequences and make threats in order to see good behavior." I love that question, so let's dive in to what I do!

In this episode we will unpack:

-behavior is a symptom, so what is the root cause?

-Yes, we have initial negative thoughts sometimes. What do we do next?

-Providing better opportunities for better behavior.

-Doing what we want to do with our kids!

-Ensuring that hard moment doesn't drag into a hard day...

and of course, being the mom you want to be because you CAN do that and it is very much up to you to do so!

I mentioned the Alignment Journaling Course in here.

You can find the fruit rolls that we love, right here!

Staying connected is easy peasy with me!

Connecting over email right here allows you to receive mindset coaching, special tips and the occasional fun finds!

You can find lots and lots of mindset swaps, practical coaching and daily thought work on my Instagram Account @tessaromero_

I love doing all that I can to serve you in becoming and remaining in alignment as the mother you want to be. I know we can do this and although it feels freaking hard at times, it is undeniably important and endlessly worth it. Let's keep going.

When you choose to view all that is happening as something that you need, you start learning A LOT very quickly.

I completely thought I was in labor and called our family 2.5 hours away so they could be there for it, only to have every contraction stop by 11:00 pm! I felt so disappointed and like I had let everyone down or wasted their time... which is NOT how I want to spend the last bit of my pregnancy.

Fortunately, I have more tools and landed on three refreshing perspectives that lifted me up by the very next morning. I'm opening up and sharing those with you here so that people pleasing tendencies are something you can actively work on overcoming too!

Let's stay connected on Instagram

and start your journaling practice with me following my proven method!

Motherhood, marriage and liiife are constantly giving us the opportunity to think greater and develop new ways to help ourselves be who we want to be through it all.

That's what mindset work is to me. This constant focus and unraveling of who I am and what she thinks.

This new tool is one that graciously found it's way to me in the middle of a hard moment with my kiddos and goodness I have used it almost daily since then.

Put this into practice and remember that the best way to change your mindset is not picking out all of the negativity, it's flushing out the negativity with a whole new perspective!

I adore you and love that we get to do this together.

I'll see you in the Alignment Journaling Course for more "flushing out the negativity" as we have our Marriage topic this February!

You know that moment that it feels like such a struggle to hold your tongue when you want to say something hurtful?

How it feels like a struggle to do your workout or even cook meals at home.

It feels like a struggle to choose to breathe instead of yelling at your kids when they are doing THE THING you asked them 143 times not to do.

I get it.

During my workout this week I added 10 pounds to my weights and it felt like such a struggle.

A struggle that I had put on myself, on purpose.

Then it clicked for me that I can intentionally choose areas that I am willing to struggle in because they matter that much to ME.

Breathing instead of yelling matters so much to me and I am okay with it feeling hard to do.

What matters so much to you that you're willing to experience the struggle that it takes to get there and accomplish that thing?

This episode will walk you through the mentality you need and a journaling prompt that will help you tremendously!

click here to have your email on my list of friends wanting an invite to my free three day workshop happening on June 6th, 7th and 8th!

Enrollment for Mind Body Alignment opens on June 5th and this will be my first group that I have a set limit of clients working with me to ensure that you get the time, energy and coaching you need during our 12 weeks together. This is my last group of 2023 so make sure YOU are there with US!

This is your last chance to enroll in Mind Body Alignment for my New Years coaching session! 12 Weeks with me to dive through your experiences and mindset so you can finally heal.

Enrollment closes December 23, 2021

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes

This deep rooted belief that everyone is doing the best they can has stirred up quite a bit of push back and so we are diving in deeper together on this episode to prove to you that YOU are doing the best you can AND so are THEY!

This does not mean we can not improve, quite the opposite. It means that you will meet yourself right where you are at so that you can access the healing, discovery, skills and tools you need to continue improving! The old approach of shaming and bullying yourself to change is completely backwards and ineffective. Allow this new belief system to instill in your mind and heart and I promise that your mindset and actions will change too.

Coaching enrollment for Mind Body Alignment, my signature 12 week course of self-discovery and healing so you can learn the skills and tools you need to become who you want to be with a mindset that supports you, opens on MARCH 15! Coming up so soon and I don't want you to miss out on the last coaching session of 2022 (that's right... this course will not run again in the group setting until January 2023!!). 

Use this link to find all of the details and get geared up to save your spot on March 15! We start together on April 3, 2022 

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes

oh my mama friend! I was facing heaps of natural consequences for myself last night after choosing the things I wanted to do over the things I needed to do. I did a 20 min workout at 8:30 pm and was journaling at 11:15 pm and stayed up connecting with my husband after he got home from his trip until 2:00 am! NOT MY NORMAL or my ideal, I am a in bed by 9:00 am kind of girl. However, I think it is very valuable to allow myself to experience natural consequences and hold myself accountable to doing things I say I will do so I can learn my lessons quickly and improve myself faster than that. 

You can hear the whole dang story in this episode and I hope it inspires you to see where your natural consequences are at. Then look at how much you can change! 

www.alignmentjournaling.com 

Now that we have discussed the "THING" that is creating huge obstacles in you becoming who you want to be without fear of judgment or failure, it is time to further unpack how you can make it make sense and turn to self forgiveness. I do not believe in waiting around for someone else to give us permission to heal, process and forgive ourselves. I waited for twelve years and I do not want that for you. Self forgiveness is a skill for you to develop and apply whenever needed, even on a daily basis as a mother!

This episode will make more sense and be effective if you listen to episode 4 first! 

Use this link to find out more about Mind Body Alignment 1:1 coaching  with me. I created Mind Body Alignment and my material to help coach  you through the obstacles holding you back from being who you want to  be, and I wholeheartedly believe my program is your missing piece to  finally becoming who you want to be and taking back your ownership over  your life.

https://bodybymommy.typeform.com/to/Nu3Z9pDw

You can find me and connect further on Instagram @bodybymommy 

A couple nights ago was a WOWZA kind of night in our home. Luke hit Liams let so Liam kicked Luke in the face, while I am cooking dinner, Marcus was cleaning the enormous silly string mess and we were "behind" our schedule. How do you get your mind back on your side when your body FEELS angry and all you want to do is give your child the cold shoulder and ignore them?! That's how I felt and here's how I did different than the way I felt. 

It turned into an incredibly empowering moment in motherhood as I felt myself breaking cycles, thinking greater and using self-discovery in the moment. 

The skills and tools I teach you in Mind Body Alignment serve you for a lifetime. Expectations, boundaries, shame resilience and Identity at work in this one!

AHHH, enrollment to Mind Body Alignment is open December 10-22!!

Man, the feeling of the "ah-ha" that comes when you uncover a harmful belief you've had for over 20 years is quite astounding. Let's call my weekend astounding then!

I'm opening up about the hardship of my weekend, what was uncovered and how I decided to rise above it by BEING REBELLIOUS in the face of it.

You'll learn what it means to be rebellious, where your beliefs are coming from and more of what to do when you catch a harmful one.

Journaling is an incredible way to rewrite the story of your beliefs and grow into someone new- that you WANT to be! You can have me coach you through my Alignment Journaling technique now!

This may be my unpopular opinion or maybe it's a shared perspective with you. Either way, I hope you'll take the time to consider just how necessary and beneficial reminders are in every season of life, especially the hard ones.

I adore you and would love to see your mindset flourish in motherhood.

Click here to receive details on my last group coaching session for the Spring of 2024 before I have my fourth baby in July!

Lets spend some time chatting about who you reallllly believe you are, deeper than who you are to others and more about who you are to yourself!

Apply for coaching here 

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Connect with me on IG 

@tessaromero_

Do you need a solid plan to implement when communicating with the people in your life and trying to think differently in the MOMENT?

Me too :) which is how I found this magic word duo that has been a game-changing-show-grace-giver-move on my occasionally reactive mind.

Good deal, right?! Listen in to learn the two words, why we are doing it and how to use them!

What I recommend most of all is to START WRITING. Open up your journal each day, even for just a few minutes, so you can discipline your mind to slow down and think greater. You will feel tremendous relief when you change the narrative in your mind. Learn how to journal here.

Come see the mindset swaps over on Instagram @tessaromero_

You know when you have a full circle moment as a mother?

It's the time that your kids are doing something that you did as a child and you are the one showing up as the mother now. Kinda trippy!

I had this moment when my two older boys fell down while chasing waves and got all soaking wet, sandy and very upset. I wanted to share that moment in this episode and how I showed up for them in a different way than what I experienced as a child.

You can change the way you respond in hard circumstances and have full circle moments in motherhood that truly heal your own childhood.

You can do some visualization work in this episode and use the power of mental rehearsal to start getting there.

I love you a whole bunch,

Tessa Romero

Come keep up with daily mindset work on Instagram

Get involved in my courses, including the NEW 5 Week MOMMY Mindset Course opening November 1!

My youngest son recently burnt his hand to the point of second degree burns covering his palms and fingertips, and I immediately knew it was something I could have prevented. The mom guilt was intense and the night was long for us.

I'm sharing the story here in the hopes of helping you navigate mom guilt that comes in recognizing our part and how to learn lessons that make you BETTER and allow the feeling of guilt to pass in it's good time.

Here is the link to the Shannon Tripp First Aid Kit I mentioned in this episode. It is SO good to have on hand and includes video tutorials.

We are amazing and it is a honor to be a mother. You are meant for your babies and I know that with certainty.

Tessa Romero

Just know that my water broke as I wrote the fifth perspective into the notes of my phone! I've got the birth story of my fourth sweet baby coming soon!

Use these five perspectives if you are nearing or go over your "due date" or guess date! Baby is coming soon either way, let's make sure you feel your best with a great mindset and vision.

Learn to write a better mindset following the Alignment Journaling Course with me.

I was walking on a beautiful beach in Maui and three older women collectively sighed "poor mom."

Only, I know I am a lucky mom. Are you ready to know that too?

Click here if you want to be a source of joy in your motherhood and KNOW who you are while you do it. My coaching membership is full of powerful tools and community that completely transform your everyday life.

Your mindset is shaping your motherhood more than you realize. In this episode, we dive into the power of perspective and how the way you frame your experiences will make a difference for you. Are you focusing on lack and hardship, or are you seeing the opportunities, growth, and joy in your journey? Tune in to discover how shifting your mindset can completely transform the way you experience motherhood—because the difference between a “poor mom” and a “lucky mom” is all in how you choose to see it.

🎧 Listen now and step into a more empowered, fulfilling motherhood.

Ever notice how when things go wrong, you blame others, and when things go right, you chalk it up to luck? I’m here to remind you that your hard work and intention deserve recognition. By breaking free from old patterns of blame and victim mentalities, you can claim ownership of your successes and learn from your challenges.

Tune in, shift your perspective, and discover how to flip your mindset—celebrating every victory and lesson on your journey to becoming the best version of you. This is your chance to reclaim your power and rewrite your narrative. Join me and begin.

Ready for more? Let me coach you inside of my membership. We'll be the ones to challenge you and treat you as who we believe you can be.

Join our March Challenge to adopt the 5 daily habits that change the game in your energy levels!

I like to get back into my morning routine when my baby turns about three months old... which can feel V E R Y difficult to start back into and even maintain when sleep can be unpredictable.

Personally, I feel better making that time for myself in the morning. Even when it feels difficult, I rely on these two perspectives to help me jump on out bed!

You've got this, mama! You have the time, you just need to make it.

Follow along on Instagram @tessaromero_

The transition for 3-4 kids was hands down the hardest for me. I realized it was hardest because I had failed to equip my kids with the self-esteem to be independent and responsible in the ways I really needed them to show up while I recovered postpartum.

May is our Declutter Your Heart and Home 28 Day challenge in the MOMSET Membership. This is a fantastic time to create a home that serves you and your family so everyone can build their self-esteem and thrive harmoniously. Join here today!

Then I realized that I was stealing their self-esteem to build my own. I did just about everything for them everyday and I LOVED doing it. I felt GREAT, but at what cost? How did they get to feel when I took the opportunities from them?

I'm sharing the practical changes I have made to build my own self-esteem AND provided endless opportunities for my kids to build their own, too.

Have you ever found yourself saying "I deserve it!" at the end of a long day with the kids or diet that you completed? Let's unpack this mindset and see if you are using it to help you or if it's holding you back. 

Use this link to apply for my coaching program Mind Body Alignment and get all of your questions answered before we work together. 

https://bodybymommy.typeform.com/to/Nu3Z9pDw

This entire grocery trip and even the relationship with my son would be completely different if I had settled for a victim mentality.

You can see the best of yourself shine through when the circumstances seem the hardest. Take your next hard moment as your opportunity to show up, learn and grow, and you will know exactly what I mean.

If you want to master the victim mentality that has been tainting your daily experience in motherhood then you'll want to join my NEW and FREE 3 day Workshop!

You can sign up for free right here.

I'll teach you what the victim mentality is, why you use it and what to do instead that will empower you to meet your needs and desires while remaining in alignment with who you want to be.

The workshop is live March 13, 14 and 15th, 2024! Join now to save your spot and take on the victim mentality with me. 

All the golden goodness headed towards you,

Tessa Romero

I don't want my first thoughts to be negative and swimming in the "happening to me..." mentality. Yet, sometimes they are.

Here's a question I ask myself that lifts me up and out of that victim mentality and sets me on the high road of being who I WANT to be, no matter where I go or who I am with.

This one might feel challenging to take in so know

1. I LOVE YOU and all people in your life and mine.

2. We are meant to be challenged.

3. If it feels hard it's probably because you need to do it.

Give this a try and reach out to us at connect@momset.com for personal coaching options and episode requests!

Tessa ✨

WELCOME to the Momset Podcast- I'm so thrilled and just giddy to finally share Momset with you over here.

Momset is for you to come Raise Your Words and learn the tools that change your mindset and truly soften your heart through real healing and becoming the mommy you want to be in todays motherhood.

I am still very much getting life figured out alongside you and I know I am extremely devoted to this work and truly living it.

This episode is about three simple ways you can "get your spouse on board" since it's a top five question I get asked on a daily basis. YOU have a whole lot you can control and do in this, and that can start with these three practical steps!

REVIVE Retreat enrollment opens November 1, 2023

MOMMY Mindset Course

I love you dearly,

Tess

Come hang out on Instagram for more daily mindset work and inspiration!

This episode is such a fun one to give you three foundational principles to swap your thoughts and lots of real life examples sent in from my Instagram @tessaromero_ answered right here on the podcast! 

I would love feedback from you to know if you enjoy the Q&A portion and want to see this done more consistently on the show?

The mental load of motherhood IS a real thing and I believe we all experience a version of it. You are so, so valid to feel the way you do right this second.  However, as I have found a million descriptions of the "mental load of motherhood" and what it is... I haven't see tips, tools and strategies being shared about how to help ourselves through it. If anything I have noticed the constant push of descriptions and "relatable posts" to be littered with negative language that can describe the way women are feeling but aren't actually providing relief. Just my person observation.

I wanted to share an episode covering four ways that I help myself when I feel the weight of the mental load. These four tips are what help ME and I truly hope will help you if you want to give them a try.

You do A LOT every single day and I know a lot falls on you. That is why I always want to deliver practical skills and tools for us to use that have the potential of helping us feel better.

I hope this serves you.

You deserve the healing that comes with making peace with your past through self forgiveness and truly letting things go. 

lets talk about how to let go of the past and also the pesky little moments in your present. 

Appyl for 1:1 coaching here!

https://bodybymommy.typeform.com/to/Nu3Z9pDw

Sometimes your mind gets loud with the thoughts that no longer serve you and it feels heavy and hard to know which way is up, and worse than that, why you are even showing up.

That's what this episode is here for.

To remind you why you are showing up and doing what you are doing.

This is your very last chance to enroll in Mind Body Alignment and spend 12 weeks receiving coaching with Tessa and the Community.

Listen, you can be the exact woman you want to be.

You are someone that is ready to feel proud of how you handle the highs and lows, and I am here to show you how.

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Did you know the AVERAGE home has over 300,000 items in it!? Moms have way too much STUFF to manage. Today we have Julia Ubbenga, author of "Declutter Your Heart and Your Home" as well as minimalist living coach, here to encourage us ALL to start making changes.

If you're feeling overwhelmed in your home and like you spend your day managing "stuff" and find it impossible to keep up- you'll love this episode. After Julia was diagnosed with PPD and had recently left her job to become a SAHM... she knew she needed to make a change, too.

Julis is partnering with the MOMSET Membership to bring a whole home decluttering challenge to us through May. We will have an daily realistic declutter task and will be reading her new book together!

This challenge will focus on decluttering your mind, heart and home as Julia and I team up together! All MOMSET Members get to join!

Connect with Julia Ubbenga

Join me inside the alignment journaling course for more coaching through your mindset! www.alignmentjournaling.com 

How often have you told your kids

"you are so difficult!" "You are so mean!" and "You are a bad girl!"

that gets internalized to "I am difficult, mean and a bad girl..."

How about what you say to your spouse... what "you are" statements do you use?

"You are so selfish!" "You are clueless, you have no idea what this is like!" and "you are uninvolved!"

that gets internalized to "I am selfish, clueless and uninvolved." ouch.

You do this all the time with "I have a difficult baby..." all the way to "My MIL is inconsiderate!" Calling people things that we don't want them to be... not awesome for YOU or them. So, let's fix this mistake!

This podcast episode spills all the golden goodness about building "you are" statements that help to build up the people around you... instead of them internalizing negative statements made about them.

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful practice: writing a letter to your future self to read at the end of 2025. This is your chance to put into words who you want to become—before it even happens. This will give you direction and intention for the entire year to come.

Creating a clear vision for yourself activates the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS), which helps you focus on opportunities and actions aligned with your goals. When you know what you want, your mind naturally works to make it happen. The real trick is to actually know what you want and that is where a lot of women struggle.

We’ll guide you through:
✨ Envisioning the person you want to be and the life you want to create in 2025.
✨ Writing about your personal, professional, physical, and spiritual growth.
✨ Reflecting on how it feels to live as the version of yourself you’ve always dreamed of becoming.
✨ Setting your intentions and grounding them in gratitude for the journey ahead.

Start your letter with “Dear [Your Name]” and let your vision for the year come alive on the page. This is more than just a letter—it’s your declaration of what’s possible for you in the year ahead.

Let’s create a 2025 worth celebrating. 💖

p.s. My NEW Coaching Membership launches on our own app the MOMSET Community on January 7th. You can click here to have all of the details sent to you and lock in your membership saving $30 a month!

Do you know what your triggers are and how you numb? One of my triggers is when my kids just stand in front of each other and scream as loud as they can... it brings up all of my feelings so quickly and in that moment it feels easy to just lose it. Yelling can be numbing, too! This episode is to help you further do the self-discovery work needed to know your triggers and how you numb so you can start actually helping yourself through the hard moments and difficult emotions instead of trying to escape them. Expand to make room for all of your emotions to co-exist as needed. I walk you through four grounding exercises to try and see if they help you! 

I will be live today (Wednesday 11/17) on Instagram @tessaromero_ to make pretzels with you (YUM) and talk about triggers, numbing and mindset! 

If you are feeling called to take a 12 week journey of self-discovery and healing with me inside of Mind Body Alignment then please click this link to get all of the details and reserve your spot! A bonus mindset module will be loaded to your account in December and we start together on January 3! My program is 20% off through Friday, November 19 at 11:59 pm mst! Take advantage of my lowest pricing!

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes?preview_theme_id=2149160508

Gosh I could literally birth Drew all over again TODAY, that's how magical it was for me. I am so excited to share all about his birth story and how I overcame difficult circumstances of my photographer not being able to make it, to Liam (my 4 year old) joining in the birth and every contraction in between. So much magic and MINDSET working together. 

You can learn my journaling method that I referred to here! Alignment Journaling is hands down what I recommend to start building a mindset that aligns with who you want to be and focus on empowering yourself through annny circumstance. I have used it for three years and did it specifically to prepare for my birth with Drew- GAME CHANGER!!

As I mentioned in the podcast, here is the link to my birth playlist that brought so much peace to my birth and mind!

My mommy heart often goes to places about my boys future and sometimes it floods me with gratitude and other times it brings me to tears.

Motherhood has so much hard and good in it. It is hard to think about the future our kids will face and the possibilities that come with that. We know full well that they will experience hardship that is outside of our capacity of protection as mothers. They will live and they will learn and we will watch a lot of that.

Fortunately for us, we have a wonderful opportunity right now while they are still in our home. While they are still watching our every move and hearing the words we speak. Now is the time to be proud of the example we set and the way we influence, which is easier when you have a role model to follow. Right?

I am sharing my role model with you today, in hopes that you will go find yours. She's closer than you think.

Mind Body Alignment enrollment closes June 17! This course is all about uncovering who you are truly meant to be and teaching you the practical skills and tools you need to get there. It is a fresh start in your life on many levels and I hope to see you there.

This is your chance to BE who you want to be and embrace how different that may look from the way you were raised. Meet yourself exactly where you are at so that you CAN be different and make the changes you want to make.

Love you dearly!

We have the incredible opportunity to learn about the power of owning your motherhood from Brooke Romney. This episode is full of encouragement and practical approaches for moms.

Brooke Romney is an author, speaker and mom of four boys! She's a season ahead of me and shared fantastic insights to what works well for her and what she priorities to help her show up as her best. We can all relate to some of these pain points and benefit from the perspectives.

-Own what you love in motherhood.

-Double down on your influences.

-Protect your headspace in home and family.

-Staying real and real intentional.

I love her Modern Manners Flipbook and would strongly encourage you to keep this as a focal point in your home.

Brooke Romney is on Instagram!

Have you been searching for a way to build more connection and vulnerability in your relationship?

Because, SAME. It's something to continue striving for especially in my marriage. It can feel overwhelming to think about all of the ways we want to improve and show up so I wanted to make this short episode to teach you two itty bitty simple ways you can get started TODAY. No more waiting, now is your time to shiiine.

You know me, I love what can be simplified and implemented! It's all nice in theory without the real STEPS to get there, so I have pretty steps for you to take. 

These two things are for you if... 

1. You want to build back connection and vulnerability 

2. You find yourself criticizing... my husband calls it "the peanut gallery"

3. You find yourself arguing more than you'd like.

4. You're getting one word answers from your spouse and kids. 

5. You're craving a wholesome step into alignment. 

This podcast episode has got the golden goodness you're looking for and you can implement it today. The very next conversation you find yourself in or choices you observe someone else making. This will be fun!

Grab that laundry basket and pop in a headphone so we can get to work on what we do control... YOU! 

Remember that you can change before anyone or anything else does :) 

love you something fierce and I hope to see you inside of the Mind Body Alignment Summer Group! This is the last group of 2023, get yourself there!

http://mind-body-alignment-1.showit.site/

You've got this. Tessa Romero :)

p.s. we do this because we deserve to be who we want to be. We deserve to be the mother we want our children to have. It's all within us and this is the good work to do that brings her out. 

Well, this might be my first time crying on my podcast while reading through my three page journal entry that I wrote on June 11, 2019 the day I apologized to someone that hurt me so deeply, I swore I would never let it go. I am sharing three personal and vulnerable experiences with you so you can hear and see that I really have been through the journey of self-discovery and healing... and help you feel confident in taking your leap into the journey of Mind Body Alignment. Early Enrollment begins today 11/15/2021 through 11/19/2021 or until the first 100 spots have filled. If you are on the fence- I hope this is the gentle real life encouragment you needed to say "I DESERVE THAT KIND OF HEALING!" You deserve that clarity and freedom in your life and I am committed to showing you the way! 

Learn more and enroll in my coaching program through this link!

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes

Enrollment to my 12 week course closes on March 25, 2022 and it is the last coaching session of this year. If this is hitting home for you and you are having "aha" moments of where your resentment could be coming from and why the victim mentality has been so easy to slip into, enroll in my course. We can walk confidently in a direction that takes you back to who you want to be, together. I am excited to get to know you and help you over the next few months inside my powerful course. 

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes

Podcast Episode 130: Be Quiet - A Mindset Tool to Improve Communication

Join my coaching membership for personalized coaching through your circumstances. You CAN have a positive mindset during this time and it IS the way through whatever it is you're going through. Let us help! ✨

In this episode of Be Quiet, I’m teaching you a mindset tool that’s too easy not to implement, and I encourage you to use it in your marriage too! This tool—simply being quiet—can quickly reshape your mindset and communication skills, especially when dealing with challenging situations.

I’ll break down why, when, and how to “be quiet” and show you how Scripture supports this approach. We’ll dive into the power of pausing, listening, and thinking before responding. Plus, I’ll answer questions from listeners about how to effectively use this tool with kids and loved ones, address emotional triggers, and handle situations where silence feels uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever found yourself reacting before thinking or struggling with emotional responses, this episode is for you. Join me as I teach you how being quiet can help you build emotional maturity, strengthen your communication, and model healthy behaviors for your family.

Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll talk about asking effective questions after being quiet.

For more support, check out the MOMSET membership !

You will certainly be able to feel my pure excitement for you to have Alignment Journaling Course in your hands so, so soon! May 23 is the release day of my new course to guide you through exactly how to create your own powerful journaling method that incorporates mental rehearsal to reaffirm who you are and build a mindset that supports you! 

Course releases on May 23! I will send the link through email https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/pl/2147542807 and post it on my Instagram account https://www.instagram.com/tessaromero_/ 

You can choose to take the self-guided option for $97 and have full lifetime access to the course to go at your own pace. 

Or you are welcome to take advantage of this one time offer to have me coach you through the Alignment Journaling Course from June 5- July 2. This option includes the course pdf lessons and video modules, a private group coaching community and a weekly live coaching session with me for additional guidance and opportunity to get all of your questions answered and examples given as you build out your own journaling practice. This option is only available for June Coaching and is $297 for the month!

Here come the holidays with family gatherings, expectations and occasionally really freaking difficult circumstances to navigate. I hope this episode gives you a clarity in the way you want to show up this season and how you want to view the view around you. YOU are doing the best you can and so are they.

You can find my journaling course right here if you'd like to recondition your mindset to align with who you want to be.

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/Journaling

Enrollment into my 12 week course Mind Body Alignment is set for early access to everyone with my Journaling course December 1-10 and open enrollment for every else on December 11-21

I will share a link with details when enrollment opens!

Grab a pen and piece of paper and get really HONEST. Hold yourself accountable to who you are saying people are.

Who do you say your husband, kids, in-laws, neighbors and friends ARE? What if they could only ever be who you say they are, would you change what you say to and about them.

Remember the power of those "you are" statements and take the next step to building a world you want to see.

I am proud of you!

www.alignmentjournaling.com

Holidays are in full swing and that means YOU need to get your identity and Mommy Vision on track to serve you because there is a high likelihood that something will feel difficult.

Going to that persons house.

The gifts or lack there of.

Burning a dish or being responsible for all of the meals.

Family conflict that may come up.

Behavior firing off from different sources of stimulation &

usually you've been caring for yourself with low quality.

This episode will walk you through the common identity and narrative that comes around the holidays so you can be prepared to do different this year.

Now we are focused on who we DO want to be.

Focused on what we DO want to happen.

What a freaking blessing to make this shift.

Let's dive in!

p.s. you're coming down to the wire on joining my 5 week group coaching experience through the NEW MOMMY Mindset Course that just released. Grab the course and add on the $47 coaching option at check out to join us with live sessions and daily support!

Do you ever think that things are just going different than what you would choose for yourself?! Of course you do because we are humans living a big LIFE.

This episode is expanding your mentality to be able to have a greater capacity to accept what you are given, even when it is different than what you want or would choose for yourself.

This is YOUR life.

YOU get to decide what you think about it.

Is it happening for you, to you or just happening and has nothing to do with you? Let's get your mindset serving you.

I'll coach you in my membership.

You can see my free content here.

You've tried the black out curtain, sound machine, weighted blanket, reward, sleep consultant, prayer and routine and you kiddo is still an early morning riser.

Well, same! I'd say you are in dang good company!

My oldest is approaching 6 and quiet literally from the time he was born until now, he's been an early morning riser.

I remember obsessing over our routine, his food, the schedule and feeling complete panic each day as I wearily awaited the outcome of my efforts to see what time he'd wake up.

Back then it was between 4:00-5:00 am each day, and now he is a solid 5:45/6:00 am and I AM GRATEFUL.

I've had my fair share of negative thoughts around this still and this past week I gained a new perspective on his early mornings that has me welcoming him into my routine to journal and workout with great JOY! It's like I finally "get it!!!"

I want to share this perspective with you in the hopes that you start your day with peace, even if it's at 5:30 am with your little one.

You can join me in my 12 weeks of coaching for New Years of 2024 by clicking HERE! I only coach through this incredible course twice a year and this is your chance! We go deep into self-discovery and healing work so you can retrain your mindset to know how freaking unstoppable and completely WHOLE you are.

Enrollment closes December 23 and we are offfff on January 1!

How will I get my kids to listen. 

How will I get them to get along with each other. 

How will they be okay in the world we have today? 

How will I know I did right by them?

Trying to control "how" and "when" will leave you swimming against a raging current of negative thoughts. It's completely hopeless and exhausting.

Today we are unpacking the faithful thought "Trust that it will rain." As well as what it would look like as a journaling prompt with several examples.

Truly, this fresh perspective has been shedding layers of fear and anxiety for me and I know this sweet relief is too good to keep to myself.

Let me know where you're at and what you need so I can create episodes just for YOU. Reach out with what you'd love to hear next at connect@momset.com

You're a treasure in my life,

Tessa Romero

In this episode, I’m sharing a simple practice that transformed my perspective and strengthened my marriage during one of the most full times of my life: writing a daily letter of appreciation to my husband.

When preparing to welcome our fourth baby, I wanted to prioritize grace and connection in our marriage. This daily habit became my anchor and a tool to focus on gratitude rather than victim thoughts and unmet expectations.

Tune in to learn:

• The science behind appreciation: How gratitude boosts happiness and connection by rewiring your brain.
• Why this is for YOU: Shift your mindset, see the good, and show up as the wife you aspire to be.
• What to appreciate: Practical examples to notice and honor what your spouse is doing right.
• The ripple effect: How this practice not only transforms your mindset but can also inspire more positive behaviors in your marriage.

Whether you keep this journal as a personal tool or surprise your spouse with it as a heartfelt gift, this simple challenge can transform the way you see your marriage.

Ready to take the appreciation challenge? Let’s dive in!

I get it, I really do.

It's fun to say catchy slogans and our mind loves a good rhyme and humor feels really good especially in the hard times.

Even with all of that being true, there is also truth that some slogans and phrases and rhymes and humor- are bad for us.

They feel good in the moment and then unintentionally work their way into our subconscious mind and change the focus of our lives and what we seem to be looking for each day.

All of a sudden we feel angry and stuck. We start complaining more than before and losing our patience with our kids and spouse.

Why? Unintentional programming with a mix of experiences and a pinch of influences. It all adds up and makes a big impact.

This episode is unpacking "nap trapped" as a way to share perspective that makes a difference and the way you can keep what you love about catchy phrases while protecting your feelings of empowerment at the same time.

You are a mommy and a difference maker by nature.

The new MOMMY Mindset Course is coming so, so soon and it is designed to teach you practical mindset tools and skills that you can practice and sharpen EVERYDAY while finally feeling like the gentle, soft, empowered, cared for and remarkable mommy of your home.

Thank you for being here and caring about words as much as I do. Thank you for bettering yourself with me so we can give our kids an incredible head start in life and loving relationships.

Here's the Instagram

MOMMY Mindset Course

Tess Romero

On a recent family trip I got to take the role of "that mom" on an airplane. The one that holds a screaming baby while battling the negative thoughts in her head, swimming in the victim mentality and even making a snarky comment to her husband.

That was me AND I didn't let it end there.

I'm sharing the mindset I used to practically realize where my thoughts were at and what I needed to do instead so I could be who I want to be no matter where I am or who I am with.

This is completely possible for you, too!

If you're noticing a lot of negative thoughts in your mind then you need to use Alignment Journaling to set them straight on a proactive and consistent basis!

I only do what I want to do each day. Even when doing the things I "need" to do before the things I "want" to do... I view it all as what I want to do and SO CAN YOU!! This is not a mindset that only works for "lucky people" and "perfect circumstances." 

This mindset will help you become empowered to show up and do the things you say you're going to do in your life, because you are now focusing on what you really want. 

It's January 11 and my first real day in my morning routine that I want for myself and it felt HARD AS HECK to do it- but I wanted to do it. You're not too late to take advantage of 2023 and I am right here with you to teach you how to build a mindset that grows you into who you WANT to be. 

grab my course for more mindset work and coaching from me :) 

www.alignmentjournaling.com 

Bust out that basket of laundry and prepare to be leveled up in your motherhood while getting all the clothes folded and sorted. Com on- you know you have some to get done.

This episode breaks down the four biggest reasons why I avoid saying "you can't" to my kids. You'll be able to shift your language once the WHY to do it is there.

Keep up with me on IG @tessaromero_

I'm the mindset coach for moms that teaches you how to use a pen and piece of paper to create the mindset that you want- no matter the circumstances.

We are still going strong with this and (just yesterday) we were on a 7 hour flight with all three boys and only used a movie for 30 minutes!!! Can you even believe that because it is still blowing my dang mind. This is my personal preference and there is absolutely zero judgment for when and how you choose to give your kids screens.

I noticed that I didn't like how often I was using it and there was difficult behavior coming up more often AND my kids were frequently asking to watch something. I was over it and decided to make a big ol' change. If this sounds like you... then come on in!

REVIVE enrollment is open for the women that are meant to be here with me. Being the mother you want to be takes HEALING your way there, not shaming your way there. Fortunately for you, I've been through my fair share of hardship and time out of alignment. This is exactly how I have created Mind Body Alignment (my signature 12 week course) and REVIVE (my three day all inclusive totally immersive healing retreat.)

I may not be able to do the work for you, and that's okay! I sure as heck can be a fantastic guide, coach and challenger in your corner helping you get the work done!

It seems a bit odd to me that when I share about serving seamlessly, the biggest objections that come up against it are fear based thoughts around "doing too much."

Doing too much for our kids, spouse and others.

Seamless service is not about doing everything for someone else. It is taking opportunities to serve others well when and how you can. To see a need and fill it with the same attitude you want your kids to have when they see a need to fill.

We need the right attitude married to our behaviors!

Enjoy this episode to nudge your perspective into new open territory that breathes life and change into your attitude.

For additional resources, start the 24 Days To A Renewed Mind video coaching guide I created for YOU to have a better overall mindset as you begin this work with me.

All my best,

Tessa Romero

This episode is packed with helpful perspective about leaving your kids while you go on a trip and more perspective to get you parenting with your spouse.

If you've ever cringed at your spouse parenting different from you or swore you need to do everrrrything the same as each other AND felt angry when that doesn't happen- this is for you.

Email connect@momset.com with the subject "coaching" if you are looking to join one of our small group sessions or 1:1 coaching spots for the remainder of 2024! We'd love to get the whole 12 week framework and tools into your mind and home.

Stay connected on Instagram @tessaromero_

I referenced journaling as I prepared to come home. I use the Alignment Journaling method in all of my entires. You can now get the kids companion journal "Raising Writers" completely free when you join the course!

My coach, Natty, is a gift and the four questions she asked me as I sat puzzled with what my "next step should be" completely shifted my focus and perspective in one swift whirlwind.

I am sharing these questions with you in the hopes that you use them to gain clarity and shift focus when and where it is needed in your life.

My hope is that if you, like me, want to feel like someone that can talk to God like you hear other people do, you can. And you can use these four questions to get started.

If you're interested in one on one coaching with me, please email me at info@bodybymommy.com with the subject "coaching"

It feels messy sharing about my faith here and to be honest, I am learning so much and changing my mind in an ongoing way- which feels so freeing.

You are loved.

You are forgiven.

You can move forward.

Let's keep working on the story in your mind with good ol' fashioned pen to paper journaling. There's a reason that writing is so relieving and healing and I want you to know exactly how to do it!

www.alignmentjouranling.com to learn with me.

You've been working really hard to pull yourself up and out of the victim mentality. Catching yourself in the "happening to me" shenanigans and steering clear of complaining the best you can.

You've chosen to do this work annnd you have friends and relationships with others that are not on the same page!

Now what?!

You don't need to cut out every person and end every relationship. You also don't need to feel dragged down after a few hours with your friends.

This episode has you covered with a fresh perspective on where you're at and what some powerful steps can look like for you!

Enjoy this one AND remember your last chance to work with me in 2024 is ending soon! Mind Body Alignment only opens enrollment twice a year and you can find our amazing bonuses and details on this link!

I'll see you in the group and catch you here next week!

Tessa Romero

It's time we agreed on one thing, that we ARE influenced.

Who you choose to allow into your head space will influence you for better or worse and the mind is such a fascinating place. The subconscious mind has no sense of humor so all of the "dark humor of motherhood" and little gabs at spouses and "jokes" about kids, are taken literally in your mind.

I want you to intentionally choose who is in your mind. Are they living their rent free- taking up space without giving you anything in return?

Clean up your influences today and see how your mind shifts!

I've been working really hard on myself this year and I want you to have the same clarity and vision for your life to be beautiful, joyful and pleasant to be in mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Lets stay connected on IG so I can keep the mindset flowing your way!

Put pen to paper before you join me back here next week! I'll teach you step by step how to journal for lasting change.

Motherhood is an endless teacher and there are four lessons I have learned now that I have four children, that would have helped me tremendously to understand when I had my first.

This show is diving into the perspectives that can give you freedom to be the mom you want to be early on.

Follow along for daily mindset on my IG @tessaromero_

Get started in my journaling course to change the pattern of your daily thoughts.

"When does it get easier?!" Really, changing your mindset can become really fun when you are vulnerable enough to implement these three points AND see each negative thought as an opportunity, not a failure!

I included journaling prompts at the end of this episode to help you get pen to paper and really start doing the GOOD work that leads to your sustainable change. 

Love you friends!

I've worked with women that have felt crushed by the weight of a past experience for 55 years. It's my own experience to carry debilitating anger and use destructive tendencies to try and "keep myself safe" for over 12 years.

I know it is not time that heals our wounds.

You don't need to count that time that passes in anger and make sure that you've hated yourself for a certain amount of time first.

No, there is a much better way.

You can heal more in five days than most people hope to heal in five years, because it is YOU that heals the wounds. It is you that actively chooses who you are, what you want and what you are willing to do.

Time is patient and gracious letting us choose how we use it and ensuring to pass at the same steadfast pace regardless.

Be grateful for time and be the one that heals now.

We have a limited amount of spots remaining for our only REVIVE Retreat of 2024! You can coach with us for 8 weeks leading up to the retreat and then another four weeks afterwards!

Wednesday-Sunday in February, thats five days of revival, to come focus entirely on your release, regulation and transformative healing. It's time to set it all down in a space prepared to release the weight for you. Its time to heal!

Do you have to yell when you feel angry? No. That's a choice that you, as the leader make, when your feelings deliver a message to you. This episode is here to walk you through where your feelings are really coming from (hint... not other people or your circumstances) and what they are trying to tell you. Use this as your sign to step fully into your role as the leader of your life.

Grateful that I got to create this life changing course for you to see the progress you want for yourself in life!!

www.alignmentjournaling.com

In this episode, I share a raw and honest moment we commonly find ourselves in as moms.

I talk about a challenging experience where I put myself in a dark room to help my baby fall asleep, only to find myself overwhelmed by the situation. As I reflect, I realize how I resisted help, even when it’s offered, and how the victim mindset took me under for a few moments.

Explore the importance of recognizing when we’re stuck, learning to regulate our emotions, and accepting support when we need it. Join me as I talk about the power of resetting, self-compassion, and the choices we can make to empower ourselves on this journey of motherhood and personal growth.

Follow along for daily mindset in motherhood on Instagram

In the oddest way imaginable, this is the hardest episode I have ever recorded and absolutely that I've ever shared with you.

I have felt so ashamed to have a love for God and a relationship with Him, for the past five years, so I hid it from everyone. I hid it from you, my husband and my kids. My whole family and my clients and my courses and content.

Yesterday I had the most profound revelation, I am forever changed by it and I am ready to tell you this.

I love God and He loves me.

So, through the tears and transformation that I am working through, I want to share with you what happened that left me hating God for 17 years and why I felt so ashamed when I finally came back to Him 5 years ago.

I hope this helps you <3

stay connected on Instagram with me

and start rewriting the story in your mind.

I love it when I have a story to share of a recent experience and that is just what I have in store for you today.

My husband baked my sourdough starter (that I have tenderly babied for a month to get going) to 300 degrees ... wowza.

Now, I could have harshly reacted and expressed disappointment on to him and justified every second of my behavior, and I didn't.

What if we didn't do what we could justify, and instead chose to do what could lead to better interactions and truly teaching others how to treat us through the way we treat them?

Ironically, I did the same thing to my sourdough starter the very next day and that is when the power of my chosen response really clicked for me.

Listen along and reflect on where and how you'd like to intentionally shift your chosen responses.

The REVIVE Retreat enrollment closes on January 31 and this is my LAST self-discovery and healing retreat for close to two years. Get yourself to this transformative event with us.

I am in your corner and cheering you on like a proud mama!

Tessa Romero

I have noticed a growing nagging narrative that mothers need to do less and this podcast episode is all about drive my pointed tip pen into that myth bubble.

Just over it.

The answer to feelings of exhaustion is not going to be doing things that leave you feeling exhausted, uninspired, unintentional, procrastinating, avoiding and numbing.

If we want to grow the feeling of exhaustion into the feelings of fulfillment, creativity, enthusiasm and excitement, then we are going to be required to do MORE of what creates those things.

That can look different for us, so let's dive into the episode!

I also mentioned the workout app that I personally use and LOVE, is Mamele :) You can find the details here!

Quick update:

New brand will have an appearance soon!

The new MOMMY Mindset Course will empower you to raise your words and teach you valuable tools that make it fulfilling to do so.

That course will be coming in October!

I love you dearly,

Tessa Romero

Your circumstances are hard and that is valid! I want you to build a mindset that helps you through what is out of your control and sometimes that includes really difficult circumstances like infertility, miscarriage and illness. You have tremendous power through controlling what you think and do and this episode might be the perspective shift you need to start really controlling what IS in your control. 

Mind Body Alignment Coaching enrollment opens March 15 for Spring session beginning April 3

You can find details here 

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/mindbodyalignment/yes

"If I forgive then they'll be let off the hook..." "Tessa, I want to forgive them but I can't just let them back into my life after everything they've done."

Gosh, do I relate and have some good news for you. I like to think I have gotten really good at forgiving because I also invite in a crucial piece that keeps me in charge of my seasons.

This episode is deeply connected to the way I coach women, just like you, through the journey and throws of becoming who you want to be no matter where you go or who you're with.

Join our membership to receive coaching with me! I'll teach you the tools and show you the way they work even in YOUR unique circumstances and relationships.

All my love,

Tessa Romero

Are you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed in motherhood? Like your mind is on constant overdrive and lacking any thought about your own abilities to handle the circumstances you find yourself in? I've been there, too. 

I will let you know that I have walked through the darkest parts of my mind and lowest point of my life, just so I could get HERE. You can find your undeniable truth walking through the parts of you that need healing. I fully believe that it is not motherhood, our children, that make us feel overwhelmed and exhausted, and I want to share this light with you.

Take a deep breath and calm your mind while you take this is because I recorded this to serve you.

When you are ready to heal your overwhelm and exhaustion, I am here to walk you through it inside of the Alignment Journaling Course.

www.alignmentjournaling.com

Have  you ever felt so triggered by your kids and you end up snapping at  them? You probably told yourself you won't do it again, but the next  trigger pops up and BAM... you snap.

Why?  Well, self-discovery needs to be done if you are going to make  sustainable and meaningful changes to your actions because you need to  understand whhhhy you do what you do.

Why do you feel triggered by your kids or when you don't feel heard?

That is self-discovery.

Who are you and why do you think, say and do the things you do.

Healing is just that... healing what you find along the way so you CAN change for good and the better moving forward!

Masterclasses start December 13 and run through December 23! Registration to reserve a  spot at the best day and time for you will open up next week and all  masterclass will be a FREE 90 minute session to discuss mindset, more  specifically "How to change your mindset no matter the circumstances"  and it will be so good!

Listen to episode 130 for Part One "Be Quiet" before you jump into asking great questions!

"To answer before listening—that is folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13

Get better at seeing the real problem because behavior is a symptom of a problem. When you’re quiet and ask a few good questions, you can let the problem reveal itself to you. 

This episode gets into WHY we are asking questions, WHAT the benefit is and HOW to do it- the words to avoid and use!

Buckle up buttercup and let's dig in! :)

Click here to get personal coaching from me and my team inside of our fantastic membership full of moms ready for skills, tools, healing and ownership.

I feel so grateful to have friends in my life that share their unique and bold perspectives with me so that I may be blessed with them, too. That's what I want to share with you today, too.

It can feel really hard to heal when life continues to look the same way and we continue to think the same way about our experiences.

A friend of mine shared a bold perspective with me earlier this year and I believe it can help you make shifts like it did for me, too.

Consider the writing exercise at the end of this episode because pen to paper is MAGIC for your mind. Love you dearly and thank you for being here!

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the powerful phrase “They watch them, they study me” and what it means for moms striving to strengthen their mindset and hold themselves accountable as role models for their children. While outside influences—peers, media, and even family members—may play a role in shaping our kids, it’s our actions, attitudes, and reactions that leave the most lasting impact.

Join me as we explore how to embrace this truth, even when it feels overwhelming, and how to use it as a guiding principle to set a strong, positive example for your kids.

• Understanding that while peers and media might capture their attention, your example shapes their character.
• How to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t.

• Using the phrase “They watch them, they study me” as a grounding mantra to respond with intention.

• Kids may watch others around them, but it’s your actions they truly study and emulate.

Ready to Strengthen Your Mindset?
Tune in now to hear how “They watch them, they study me” can empower you to show up as the mom you want to be—even in a world full of strong influences.

Let’s Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @TessaRomero_
• Email: support@momset.com

Please subscribe, rate, and review! Let’s spread the message of empowered, intentional motherhood. 💖

"You shouldn't feel guilty for that..."

Have you heard that little phrase being tossed around on social media or even in your friends circle?

It's sounds pretty convincing right? Like we can just hype ourselves up and out of the feeling of guilt by chanting "I shouldn't feel guilty for this!!!"

Only, that's not how feelings work and what does it do to tell ourselves we shouldn't feel any feeling?

How do you feel when someone says

"you shouldn't feel mad about that..." rather than seeking to understand why you feel mad about that?

"you shouldn't feel excited about that..." rather than holding space for your excitement to grow?

I am opening up my unpopular opinion on the feelings of guilt we experience as mothers to best help you know how to actually help yourself through it and receive the value that comes from your emotions.

If you're feeling called to dive deep into this work with me through 12 weeks of coaching and come to my 5 day retreat, then click this link! We only have a handful of spots remaining for our intimate luxury retreat for mothers wanting to finally heal and grow.

Okay, I love this episode. Just taking messy action on my closet floor with my three week old on my lap as I find my rhythm and do what I love to do! I hope this episode better serves and empowers you to confidently control your own mindset even when someone around you has a negative mindset they are struggling with. Lots of ideas added in for examples and pumping up YOUR empowerment to know you are never stuck.  Love you dearly friends! 

Oh man, has the victim mentality been spreading like wild fire in a dry terrain. Listen, I get it!! There's a lot out of our control and sometimes it feels really freaking good to just sit right where you're at and feel upset and complain about what's going on.

I go to that place too! The goal is to be CONSCIOUS of when you are in it so you can then pull yourself out of it when you are ready. Do you really want to stay in that place for days or even hours after your kids were fighting that morning or date night gets canceled because the babysitter is sick? I don't.

The first step to take is going to start building out a conscious awareness to your language which is such a gift!

This is how you begin to change your mindset AND model the mindset you want your kids to have.

All of the time, energy, money and efforts you are investing into yourself will have the GREATEST return of all for you and your family. Your return is measured in emotional regulation, presence you hold and capacity that has expanded. This type of investing is the most profitable form to do because it is investing in YOURSELF and YOU are the one that will make the largest difference in your life.

Take this first step with me. Replace this onnnne word in your language and watch the magic spark a whole new kind of flame!

My free three day "Mastering Your Mindset Workshop" is starting up June 6th, 7th and 8th of 2023! You are going to want to be there if you have been seeking a way to build more practical skills and tools that will change the way you feel and what you do on a daily basis.

Just click here to make sure you are send the link for the workshop and the coaching goodies that come along with it :)

I'll see you soon!

This episode gives you a real look and several examples of how your identity and mindset control EVERYTHING you think, say and do. Applying these tips can get you one step closer to taking back ownership of who you are and how you show up each day. 

Let me know how you liked the interactive activity at the end and feel free to send me a picture of what you came up with to my IG @bodybymommy I would love to see you working on your own self healing. 

https://bodybymommy.typeform.com/to/Nu3Z9pDwg

Click this link to see if my coaching program Mind Body Alignment is a great fit for you. Once you fill out the application I will personally reach out to answer all of the questions. 

Love ya sis! Can't wait to talk again next week

My husband was out of town for a few days and I got to experience what it is like when I AM showing up as who I want to be, and when I am not. I got to learn so much in that time spent with my three boys and being able to figure out "what's really different here?"

I know that circumstances can feel really freaking hard and honestly, I know the feeling of mom guilt.

Where do we go from there? Listen to this episode to bring some light into your mindset and encourage you to show up today with a NEW perspective.

You can sign up for my FREE Three Day Mindset Workshop here!

I will coach you through building your identity, cutting off your victim mentality and leaning in to your empowered mind.

I am excited to see you there June 6th, 7th and 8th, 2023

enrollment for my 12 week course Mind Body Alignment opens up on June 5th! This is your last chance to coach with me for 12 weeks inside of our private group and course for 2023! LAST GROUP that I will be coaching before I bring in more coaches to serve this mission alongside me in the New Year.

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As you are focusing on your identity and the be "WHO AM I?" I want you to pay extra close attention to the things you do and do not identify with because it can help you not only understand who you are today, but how to become who you want to be in the future. 

Here is the link to apply for Mind Body Alignment coaching with me. 

https://bodybymommy.typeform.com/to/Nu3Z9pDw

From one mama to another, I get it. I get the tantrums, night time wake ups, craving a quiet moment to yourself and feeling overstimulated in the daily details.

I also know that even with all of that, you want to BE the mama you envisioned yourself being. You want to see progress in the intentional direction of your choosing and feel proud of who you are.

I have two steps to break down for you that will help you do that!

Along with these two steps you will find what to avoid along the way and direct examples of what this looks like in action!

I love that you are here and we get to do this work together,

Let's get started!

Tessa Romero

Start journaling to calm your mind.

Follow along on IG for daily examples and inspiration!

ohhhh MAMA! This episode covers everything about my upcoming enrollment for Mind Body Alignment happening November 15-19, 2021 to gear up for coaching beginning January 3! We are talking how and why coaching started for me, whats included, the cost, the length and what the coaching experience is like on the inside. 

If you've been on the fence about coaching with me, now is the time to jump in! 20% discount and special bonuses... but I will let you decide for yourself once you get all of the info and have your questions answered! 

Join my email list https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/pl/2147542807

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Alright... I think this might be my favorite podcast episode to date! I want you to invite every single feeling you experience to have a seat at your advisory board so that you can really listen to the message it wants to deliver to you. No more feelings acting like neglected toddlers starving for your attention. Welcome them in to speak to you when they have something to share, and speak to them like the respectful considerate leader that you are. YOU ARE A LEADER. 

Use the visualization and journaling exercise provided in this episode :)

grab the journaling course HERE to change your own freaking life!

www.alignmentjournaling.com 

Okay, I love audio books a lot AND I'm noticing my love for them actually comes from a limiting belief that "I am a slow reader" and "I am not good at reading." So, here I am. Devoted to reading everyday instead of just listening on Audible. I finished two books in the last three weeks and I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF!!! Which brings us to this episode!

You've heard "if you don't use it, you lose it" in many examples. Think about it with muscles and playing an instrument.

Muscles need to be used if you want them to stick around, and music skills need to be practiced to keep them.

I was reading the book "Hunt, Gather, Parent" recently and there was a specific part that stood out to me about cultivating awe to help parents and children feel angry less often.

Then it hit me... if I don't spend more intentional time creating good feelings of joy, gratitude, awe, love and excitement, then it would make sense that I would lose the ease of creating them.

It makes sense why anger, frustration, irritability, shame and insecurity are so easy when we've been using them SO MUCH.

I am unpacking this shift with you in the hopes that by the end of this episode, you are clear on what you'd like to lose and how you can begin doing so.

Find the journaling course here if you'd like my help rewriting the story in your mind and increasing the ease of feeling GOOD!

Remember, God loves you and you are already forgiven. It's okay to give yourself a fresh perspective and chance at life.

With love, Tessa Romero

"How do you have a strong mindset on Mother's Day when _____?"

I asked this question to my community and the answers came flooding in ranging from "it's just like every other day" to "you still do everything you normally do" and "my MIL makes it all about her."

I've got your back annnd your mind with these 3 key steps that will be a game changer for you! Well, it's really 4 steps because we needed to lay a good foundation first!

Take in this episode and get your very special Mother's Day ready to be unforgettable and truly restorative for you and your sweet family!

I'm cheering you on today and everyday.

Tessa Romero

At the end of all of my pregnancies I have experiences a "mental breakdown" where I feel my mind flooded with A LOT of self-doubt, negativity and harsh criticism of myself. This happened last night and I want you to feel more prepared for how you can help yourself if this every happens to you because I woke up this morning feeling absolutely clear and focused on what I need. 

Journaled first thing about who I am and the mental rehearsal I needed to tell the TRUTH to myself and then moved right into my action steps to fiercely overcome all of that criticism and negativity I got wrapped into the night before. 

My course to teach you Alignment Journaling so you can build a mindset that aligns with who you WANT to be!

Can you imagine a day in your life that you didn't think you're angry? You no longer saw yourself as the drowning mom that blows up over the little things and lost her sense of self?

Let me tell you from personal experience, you are so much closer to change than you can even imagine!!! I'm so excited for you because I came from where you are at and you are going to love where you are headed.

It's time you knew how to stop being angry! This is one of the single best things I have ever done in my healing journey and if I were to go back 6 years ago, knowing what I know now, this is still the first thing I'd do.

Enjoy the episode!!

Next, you need to save your spot in the Spring Group Coaching with me through my all new and improved signature course Mind Body Alignment.

This is my last group coaching before having my fourth baby and I want to make sure I got YOU where you NEED to be before I step into my postpartum season!

You'll know if you NEED to make a big change in your life, marriage and motherhood and I know that MBA Coaching is freaking it! Make sure you sign up for the additional three bonuses that are in-freaking-credible!

All my love and so much more,

Tessa

"she's my hard one."

"she's my sweet one."

"she's my baby."

That is exactly how my client described her three daughters to me after speaking through a stream of tears that she "feels so disconnected with her oldest."

Guess which one is her oldest? "The hard one."

This episode is all about what you CAN do about that so you can start feeling more connected with all of your kids, without trying to control who they are, how they feel and what they do.

This is practical work that CAN be done. So let's do it!

Hang tight because I have a brand new parenting mindset course" being released this September. It will teach you all of the practical tools you can be using on a daily basis, no matter your circumstances.

You can start your mindset work right now inside of my journaling course. Teach your mind how to think in a way that empowers you!

www.alignmentjournaling.com

Follow along on Instagram to keep the daily inspiration flowing!

love you dearly and we will talk really soon!

"You can't pour from an empty cup." TRUE 

You don't have to wait until you're running on empty to fill your cup. Also, TRUE!

This week we are breaking down some examples of how to continuously pour into your own cup so that you can overflow into those you love and matter most to you. You are going to want to know  your love language for this one and I am going to provide several examples of how you can speak your own love language every single day. 

Here is the love language quiz! 

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/singles-quiz/

If you are interested in working with me through my Mind Body Alignment coaching program, use this link to get all of your questions answered and finally overcome the mental obstacles holding you back in your life and health journey. 

https://bodybymommy.typeform.com/to/Nu3Z9pDw

Oh man, does reading that title fire something up in you?! Well, if you take the time to allow this perspective to be delivered to you throughout this episode, there's a very high chance that you will receive it and the benefits that it can give you.

Come in here with an open mind and know that there's a very good chance that your mind is choosing to believe something harmful about daily circumstances that actually makes them harder on you instead of easier.

This mentality I shared here is about bringing more ease and acceptance to your circumstances so you can see the purpose that is there and utilize what you are given AS something you did need.

You can join me in the Alignment Journaling Course to build a daily writing practice that actually serves you in your growth!

You really can do this and I know that with my whole heart,

Tessa Romero

Hi, friends! My name is Tessa Romero and I am a women's life coach specializing in moms! I work with women all over the world to coach them through the process of developing the necessary skills and tools to become exactly who you want to be, and now my goal is to use this podcast as a way to help YOU too! 

Be sure to jump on here every week to catching coaching tips that could be a complete game changer for you, and when you are ready to take the leap and start working one on one together- I AM HERE! 

Follow me on Instagram @bodybymommy 

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It's episode ONE HUNDRED and time to share the whole dang story of how I got started in this work and three key pieces of encouragement for YOU.

This is the whole story of where I started and desperately wanting to be a stay at home mom leading me to my first business venture that eventually became MOMSET we have today! Whew, buckle up for this one my friend and I truly hope you leave with an "I can do this, too" mentality.

I adore you and this life so dang much! Take the three pieces of encouragement and get the heck after the life you WANT to experience, even if it takes a journey of 8 years and beyond like me.

Thank you for being here!

xoxo Tessa Romero

p.s. You better believe I journaled SO MUCH about each step and the vision I've held on to using Alignment Journaling. I'd love to teach you how to do that, too!

A simple exercise to actually improve your mindset in your marriage AND your feelings towards your spouse in a very genuine and wholehearted way.

Here is the link to grab the journaling course to be apart of the weekly coaching emails I send out and the monthly coaching session I do with the community!

https://tessa-romero.mykajabi.com/Journaling

Email me to request past resources

info@bodybymommy.com

Have you ever felt persecuted at a doctors office because the physician does not agree with your life choices and priorities?

How about feeling persecuted by a family member for the way you are choosing to raise your kids?

Maybe you've felt persecuted by your spouse when you expressed an opinion or desire.

The truth is, we are GOING to get persecuted in most every area of our life. The magic is in the way you handle it.

Do you become aggressive? Do you hide your hurt? Do you "one up them?"

My recent experience at a doctors office was exactly what I didn't know I needed (and certainly wouldn't have chosen for myself at the time) to help me step further into who I really am.

A wonderful woman that can feel hurt and be kind. I can show my hurt, rather than hiding it and be human and be kind. It really was so healing for me to experience that hurtful moment AND claim my opportunity.

I hope this episode inspires you to treat people differently, even if you are being persecuted.

We have a new Mindset Course coming out in October that will help you surrender the negativity you have previously used so you can pick up the empowered tools that you need. I am so thrilled and want you to be the first to know when this powerful course is ready for you!!

Click here to be the first to know!!

Follow along on IG for daily mindset encouragement and tools.

love you dearly, Tessa Romero