The Joy Fueled Resilient Woman Podcast (Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams)

During the holiday season, everything seems magnified. The joy, the connections, the gratitude—but also the pressure, the grief, and the exhaustion. You’re juggling so much that it feels impossible to think clearly. Maybe you’ve caught yourself snapping at the smallest things or retreating because everything feels too overwhelming. Perhaps you’ve felt that heavy, unshakable sense of impending doom, all while running on empty.

It’s okay to admit that you’re tired.

Here’s the truth: it’s okay to take a break. Sometimes, the most vital thing you can do is pause. Mental health matters just as much as physical health, and the relentless pace of life doesn’t often give us space to acknowledge that. But when you create that space intentionally, when you step off the treadmill, you gain something precious: perspective.

That pause is not a sign of weakness. It’s grace. It’s a way of telling yourself that you are important. You are worth the time it takes to refuel, to breathe, and to simply be. It’s a chance to reconnect with what truly matters and to remind yourself that you don’t have to carry it all.

So if you’re feeling the weight of this season pressing down on you, I want you to hear this from the depth of my heart. Take that pause. Step back. Breathe. You’re too important to keep running yourself into the ground. 

Refuel, reset, and remember—you don’t have to do it all. You just need to take care of you.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"Mental health is just as important as physical health."

"Your wellness is critical for you to fulfill the purpose that God has called you for, he's created you for so that you can find joy."

"The best gift you can give yourself for the holidays is stepping off the treadmill."

(00:00) Feeling overwhelmed, stagnant, longing for hope, growth.

(07:07) Fall and holidays evoke memories and self-coaching.

(11:35) Pause for self-care; prioritize mental health.

(16:11) Pause, refuel, gain perspective from life's stage.

(18:52) Claim your year: grow, prosper, serve joyfully.

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Resilience is often misunderstood. Many think it’s about constantly pushing through, checking off tasks, and never slowing down. But this kind of resilience can quickly become a cycle—one that leads to burnout.

So, what truly fuels resilience? It’s a question worth asking, because the answer can open up a new perspective and vision for life.

Resilience doesn’t have to come from enduring everything without pause. True resilience is fueled by something deeper. It comes from joy, from living authentically, and from being present in the moment. It’s about embracing life fully—without the weight of regrets or the rush of constantly doing more.

For many, resilience may be rooted in fear—fear of not being enough, fear of failure, or the need for external validation. But resilience based on fear or perfectionism only leads to exhaustion. It’s a kind of resilience that burns people out, not one that lifts them up.

True resilience is about connecting to what matters most, finding peace in the present, and living with purpose. It’s about choosing joy over pressure, and authenticity over perfectionism.

When resilience is rooted in joy, it doesn’t drain—it sustains. It becomes a force that lifts up and encourages, rather than something that must constantly be pushed through. 

Sis, what will fuel your resilience today? You don’t have to live life on autopilot. It’s possible to choose joy, to live with intention, and to let resilience be powered by what  truly matters.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"The problem with seeking external validation, it will never be enough."

"We have happy moments. But sustainable joy comes from living authentically and living in the moment and creating joy for yourself”

(00:00) Resilient community's evolving journey.

(03:59) Listening to inner guidance, releasing unaligned connections.

(06:45) Encouragement and faith inspire podcast transformation journey.

(12:22) Reevaluating resilience and self-worth in relationships.

(16:51) Finding time for personal growth amidst busyness.

(21:19) Seeking validation isn't fulfilling; internal acceptance matters.

(24:13) Control, comparison, and perfectionism hinder self-worth.

(27:39) Live authentically for joy-fueled resilience.

(31:09) Five pillars cultivate joy-fueled resilience within.

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As we journey through different stages—whether it’s personal growth, healing, or simply choosing to do things differently—not everyone around us will understand or support the changes we make. Some people may not be able to come with us into this new season, and that’s okay. But it raises an important question: Who is walking beside you, and who is holding you back?

You have the permission to choose wisely. When you reflect on your closest circle, think about who you trust with your dreams and challenges. Not everyone will be supportive. Sometimes, hurt people—those who haven’t healed or are stuck in their own lives—can unintentionally hold you back. 

But what happens when you choose heart people? Heart people are those who listen, encourage, and lift you up. They are the ones who are truly invested in your growth, walking beside you through the ups and downs, and cheering you on every step of the way. These are the people who create a sense of community and support as you navigate your new season.

So today, I challenge you to take a closer look at your circle. Who are your heart people? And who might be holding you back? Give yourself the freedom to let go of those who aren’t supporting your journey and embrace those who are. Surround yourself with heart people, and watch how your path begins to open up.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“Who are you surrounding yourself with? Are they people who infuse joy, support your goals, and uplift your spirit? Or are they stuck in their own stagnation?”

"They are heart people who will support you. They will pour into you. They don't think your dreams are silly or you're silly."

"When you infuse joy, when you reconnect with joy, when you create joy in your life, it allows you to do the things, care for those, serve those who God has created you, has wired you to be a gift to."

(00:00) Choose wisely who you surround yourself with.

(03:40) Infuse joy, choose your companions wisely.

(08:44) Love, pray, distance from hindering friendships.

(12:59) Commitment that is rooted in support

(15:28) Create a community with supportive, validating listeners.

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What if the heavy burdens you’re carrying were never meant to be yours? Many of us find ourselves shouldering responsibilities that don’t belong to us, whether it's in our homes, relationships, or work. 

Today’s episode is a call to action — to stop being the excuse and start empowering others to take responsibility for their own actions. When we take on what belongs to others, whether in parenting, relationships, or work, it leaves us feeling overwhelmed and burdened with guilt. 

We often confuse this behavior with resilience, thinking we can handle it all, but in reality, it just leads to stress and an ever-growing emotional load. When we constantly step in to carry others' responsibilities, we prevent them from growing and becoming accountable for their own actions.

By lightening our own load and giving others the space to rise to their own challenges, we can create healthier, more resilient relationships. True strength doesn’t come from carrying everything on our shoulders—it comes from knowing when to let go, trusting others to handle their responsibilities, and focusing on our own well-being.

So, the next time you find yourself carrying more than your fair share, ask yourself: Is this my burden to bear? And remember, it's okay to let others step up and take responsibility for their own lives.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"You have to give yourself permission to delegate responsibility and give people back their own responsibility. You have to."

"True empowerment isn't about carrying others' burdens; it's about showing them they have the strength to carry their own."

"Setting boundaries is an act of love—it teaches others the value of responsibility and accountability."

(00:00) Personalized story inspired by Joanna Weaver's book.

(04:49) Stop excuses; empower responsibility in others.

(08:18) Confusing resilience with guilt and shame impacts.

(11:37) Parenting stress from shielding kids from mistakes.

(14:44) Empower adult children, stop being their excuse.

(18:35) Reject being used as an excuse.

(23:12) Motherly leadership style: accepting undue responsibility.

(26:35) Leaders shouldn't always accept fault for problems.

(30:33) Empower others; delegate responsibility; find joy.

(32:04) Live purposefully, delegate responsibilities, avoid distractions.

(37:02) Encourage responsibility; address unfinished work constructively.

(38:59) Assess burdens and focus on personal growth

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We live in a world that’s anything but quiet. The endless notifications, the to-do lists that never end, and the constant pull to keep going can drown out even our own thoughts. But there’s a quiet invitation waiting for you—a sacred garden of silence where you can meet Him. Are you carving out the time to step into it?

No one is going to tell you to pause. No one is going to hand you the permission slip to rest your mind. The truth is, you have to take that step yourself. We convince ourselves we’re fine, that we can keep going, that saying “no” to others isn’t an option. But when we avoid quiet, we miss the gentle nudge to say "yes" to God’s presence.

It’s not about finding time, it’s about making time. The beginning of your day is often the best place to start. Before the world pulls you in a hundred directions, carve out a small slice of silence. Invite God into that space.

Silence isn’t just an absence of noise, it’s an open door for connection. It’s in the stillness that we hear him, feel his guidance, and receive the peace that only he can provide. 

Bring your worries, your hopes, and even your exhaustion. Let him meet you there. This is your nudge to step into the garden today.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"No one is going to give you that time. No one's going to tell you to take time. You have to carve it out yourself."

"You feel like you're on this perpetual hamster wheeler treadmill because your brain is just overwhelmed and stressed out and overextended”

"Find that time to meet God in the garden”

(00:00) God meets you in silence and solitude.

(03:23) Create quiet moments to regain control daily.

(08:39) Take time for yourself; don't delay.

(13:08) Let God guide through silence and surrender.

(14:40) Seek renewal, invite God into your silence.

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As resilient women, we wear a lot of hats. Caregiver, professional, friend, partner, mentor—the list goes on. We juggle roles with grace, but sometimes, in the rush of it all, we forget to take a breath. We move from one responsibility to the next without pausing to exhale, let alone change hats. And over time, everything builds up.

We don’t realize how much we carry from one role to another until the weight feels unbearable. The stress from one space seeps into the next, and suddenly, what was manageable becomes overwhelming.

Before you step into the next role, pause. Just five minutes can make all the difference. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and take off one hat before putting on another. That small act of silence can renew and refresh your spirit, leaving you better equipped for the next space you’re about to enter.

But when we pause, we reset. We allow ourselves to fully embrace each role with clarity and presence. You’re a resilient woman, and you wear many hats. But you’re not meant to carry them all at once. Take the time to exhale and refresh—you deserve it.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"You hope that you can focus on one role at a time, but you are all of those roles. You are a compilation of all of those roles and responsibilities at one time."

"There is a benefit in learning how to compartmentalize, to be able to be where you're at at that moment."

"You have to take a moment to transition and change hats."

(00:00) Resilient women wear many hats daily.

(06:30) Roles and stress at work affect home life.

(12:17) Recognize emotions, separate them, and transition smoothly.

(17:03) Transition to worship, allow Holy Spirit guidance.

(20:51) Transition roles, take breathers, avoid martyrdom.

(21:56) Take moments to pause and exhale regularly.

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The holiday season is here, and along with it comes a never-ending string of parties, events, and gatherings. Invitations pile up, and so do expectations—both our own and those we think others have for us. It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to do it all, only to find yourself stretched thin, burnt out, and wondering how you got here in the first place.

Sound familiar?

Maybe you’ve RSVP’d “yes” but deep down think, I just don’t want to go. Yet, instead of staying home, you push yourself to show up. Why? Often, it’s the fear of missing out—FOMO—that keeps us in motion. We don’t want to feel left out or let others down. But this constant pushing and stretching thin isn’t sustainable, and it often robs us of the joy this season is supposed to bring.

Here’s a different perspective: what if, instead of FOMO, you embraced JOMO—the joy of missing out? Sometimes saying no can bring the relief and rest you truly need. By skipping what drains you, you create space to pour energy back into what matters most.

This holiday season, give yourself permission to pause. It’s okay to miss out if it means finding joy, peace, and a little more space to breathe.

(0:00) Overwhelmed by overlapping commitments and responsibilities.

(06:02) Be present and avoid living on autopilot.

(08:55) Embrace JOMO: Joy Of Missing Out.

(13:38)  Practice moderation to avoid overwhelming yourself.

(15:08)  Embrace absence; it's okay to miss events.

(18:21)  Prioritize activities to focus on what's important.

(21:30)  Focus on joy; let go of FOMO.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"Our plate is so full, and life keeps serving up stuff on our plate without asking us how much we want."

"I want you to really evaluate every upcoming activity over the holiday season. Every dinner, every lunch, every breakfast, every meeting, every program, every event, and yes, every sale, everything. Please take a moment and prioritize. Where do you just have to be? Where do you just really, really have to be?"

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Living life on autopilot can feel a lot like running on a treadmill—always moving but never truly getting anywhere. Tasks pile up, expectations mount, and before you know it, the days blur together in a flurry of doing. Everything on the surface might look fine, but underneath, there’s a quiet ache—a sense that something’s missing.

This state of functional overwhelm is often mistaken for resilience. Society praises the go-getters, the ones who juggle it all and just keep pushing. But is that really resilience? Behind the mask of “having it all together,” there’s a withering of joy, connection, and purpose.

The truth is, resilience isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about stepping back. Presence is the antidote to overwhelm. It’s the conscious choice to be intentional with your time, your energy, and your relationships.

Sometimes, life offers divine interruptions—moments that force a pause and invite reflection. These are opportunities to step off the treadmill and recalibrate. They reveal what’s been missing: connection with God, with yourself, and with what truly matters.

Joy-fueled resilience isn’t a far-off dream, it’s a practice that begins with permission. Permission to slow down. Permission to say no to the things that drain you. Permission to focus on what fills your life with purpose and meaning.

As the year winds down, there’s a chance to reflect on how you’re living. Are you present in the moments that matter, or are you simply getting through each day? It’s not about perfection… it’s about intention. The joy, hope, and purpose you crave are waiting to be rediscovered—not in doing more, but in choosing to live with presence and grace.

(00:00) From autopilot life to joy-fueled resilience.

(05:42) Overwhelmed by managing life, lacked genuine connection.

(11:25) Determined multitasker managed work, family, chemotherapy challenges.

(14:07) Share humanity with kids to stop cycles.

(17:06) Daily resilience through life's disruptions and challenges.

(23:38) Joyful transformation is a worthwhile, intentional journey.

(25:22) Commit to joyful, purposeful living in 2025.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"You help love, encourage, fill in the gap, shield, diffuse, serve, caregive, and go the extra mile. That's just who you are. And you also, in private, struggle with feelings of exhaustion, overwhelm, and depletion."

"That's what joy-fueled resilience really is. Allowing God to be our GPS."

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Struggling with burnout, feeling overwhelmed, and disconnected from life's joy and purpose? You're not alone. Join me, Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams, as I share my transformation from a state of 'functional overwhelm' to a life filled with sustainable joy, peace, and purpose. Let's explore this journey together, one where we navigate through stress-eating, imposter syndrome, caregiver stress, and grief, using them as stepping stones to resilience and fulfillment. 

I'll be your guide, sharing over 25 years of clinical experience and personal struggles, drawing from my roles as a physician, transformational life coach, and spiritual seeker. Together, we'll unpack how overwhelm manifests in our lives and brainstorm ways to ignite that inner flame of strength and resilience. We'll aim to re-center our lives on God's purpose, transforming daily struggles into opportunities for growth. So, are you ready to unplug from the overwhelm and plug into resilience? Let's embark on this transformative journey together on the Overwhelmed to Resilient Podcast. See you soon!

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Are you familiar with the airline safety instructions about putting on your oxygen mask first before assisting others? This episode of our podcast delves into this analogy to highlight the importance of self-care and the potential dangers of neglecting oneself. If we don't take care of ourselves, if we don't put our oxygen mask on first, we may find ourselves feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and ill. We might snap at people, feel stuck, or struggle with chronic fatigue and other health issues. I hope this podcast episode serves as a wake-up call to prioritize self-care and embrace resilience. Remember, the first step towards caring for others effectively is caring for ourselves.


Show notes:
[1:49] A call for self-care
[5:29] Wired to be givers
[8:24] Over-extending yourself will take a toll
[9:09] Martyrdom is underappreciated
[11:43] Look at how you are showing up in life
[13:49] Changing your perspective about self-investment
[15:29] Outro

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Ever feel like you're just going through the motions, sticking strictly to the script life has written for you? I'm sharing my personal voyage of self-discovery and how daring to color outside societal lines has brought me immeasurable joy. Through my stories and experiences, I'll illustrate how vital it is to have a supportive tribe around you, the transformative power of prayer, and the necessity of embracing quietness in our chaotic lives. You'll learn the importance of acknowledging that there are things in life we cannot control, and that's okay. The real power lies in granting ourselves the freedom to be authentic without judgment or fear. So tune in, and let's discover together how to find joy in life's storms and rewrite our narratives from struggling to maintain control to accepting what is.


Episode highlights:
[0:00] Intro
[1:28] We learned how to color within the lines
[2:57] Inner battles
[3:53] Finding comfort and being able to go with the flow
[5:24] Finding joy even amid the storm
[7:40] Work on giving yourself permission
[8:50] Acknowledging that you're not in control of everything
[10:10] Everybody doesn't see the world the same way
[12:07] Divine revelation of new depths of joy and peace
[13:23] Take a moment and step back
[14:52] Pray. Be still and know that He is God 
[16:16] Find your tribe
[18:23] Outro

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Stepping out of your comfort zone can be terrifying. We will break down the fear of taking a big step, something that feels a lot like standing on the precipice of something unknown and potentially life-changing. I will discuss and draw parallels to biblical characters like Peter, his fear when Jesus walked on water, and his decision to step out of his comfort zone regardless. Life is all about these bold moves, particularly when you're standing at a crossroads, and the way forward seems foggy and distant. I will share with you how faith can be your guiding light during such times, with three key steps that can help you navigate the unknown. We will delve into the importance of sitting with your feelings and how the Holy Spirit can be your guide through the unsettling episodes of change. I will also share my personal journeys of growth, pivots, and how I embraced my purpose. This episode is a testament to the transformative power of faith and resilience in overcoming overwhelm and stepping into a new chapter of life. So, are you ready to step out of your comfort zone?


Episode highlights:
[0:00] Intro
[1:18] What it means to pivot
[2:07] Nothing that happens in life is wasted
[5:28] Pivoting is inevitable
[6:32] Feeling that you'll have in that pivot stage
[8:19] Stepping into His purpose
[9:20] How do we walk our talk? We walk by faith and not by sight
[12:27] Step out on faith versus staying in your comfort zone
[14:21] Step 1: Sit it with
[16:21] Step 2: Embrace what God created you to be and who He wants you to be
[18:28] Step 3: Go for it and walk by faith
[20:44] Outro

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The fast-paced nature of our lives often results in us feeling overwhelmed and simply going through the motions. It is referred to as functional overwhelm - a state of constant busyness and disconnection that leaves us feeling empty and merely surviving rather than thriving. We often find ourselves running from one task to another, trying to do everything we should do. However, this busyness often results in a feeling of disengagement and overwhelm. We find ourselves living life on autopilot, feeling like life is living us instead of us living life. I will share how to reclaim your true self, regain control, and break free from the autopilot. Join me in our overwhelmed to resilient movement, where I guide you through a reset of mind, body, and faith. Let's begin this transformation journey together, from the darkness of overwhelm to the light of resilience.


Episode highlights:
[0:00] Intro
[1:57] Living in auto-pilot
[4:04] Doing all the things but becoming so disconnected
[5:43 ] Checking off the box and trying to do everything
[8:37] An emptiness inside that needs to be filled that wasn't satisfied amid the doing
[11:06] Playing many roles in life but not present
[12:07] Put on your oxygen first
[15:23] God grants serenity to unlock wisdom on how to start the change from within
[17:43] How to begin living a life being intentional
[19:22] Learning to be content in whatever season or situation
[20:42] Step up and say, be done being burnt out
[21:33] Resilience means to live a life with intention
[23:28] Reclaim your identity through a triune reset
[24:26] Outro

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Are you constantly seeking validation from your work, family, or social circle, only to find yourself perpetually dissatisfied? Here is your chance to shift your perspective and find strength within yourself. Uncover the secrets of self-love and internal validation in this inspiring episode. We will challenge the conventional narrative of validation and talk about the dangerous path of relying on external sources for approval. I suggest turning the lens inwards, embracing our strengths and weaknesses, and living with intention rooted in self-love. I will guide you through the process of evaluating your life and identifying areas where you might be seeking love and validation externally. Our discussion extends to finding peace and joy in God's purpose and building resilience by nurturing your mind, body, and spirit. You will be empowered by internal validation and resilience and ready to face whatever life throws your way.


Episode highlights:
[0:00] Intro
[1:27] Are you looking for validation of your worth?
[3:51] Initial compliments don't last
[4:47] Focus on internal validation
[5:53] Know where your power comes from and who your power comes from
[6:28] Stop chasing validation outside of ourselves
[8:46] Invest in making ourselves the best we can be
[9:44] Everything happens for a reason
[11:30] The key to living God's purpose
[13:17] Outro

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Resilience and transformation are two words that carry immense weight in our lives. The concept of transformation and resilience isn't new, but our understanding of it needs to evolve. One of the profound ideas I will discuss is the concept that "what doesn't get transformed gets transferred." This implies that if we don't actively pursue change, we merely shift our old narratives and feelings of being stuck from one scenario to another. The idea is powerful and enlightening, giving us a fresh perspective on how we can handle the challenges we face. Transformation and resilience are not mere concepts but tools we can use to change our lives. They are the path to unleashing personal joy and living life to its fullest. As we journey through life, let us remember to embrace these tools and strive to be the best versions of ourselves.


Episode highlights:
[0:00] Intro
[2:09] Damaged But Still Good (Ptr. Michael Todd)
[4:55] Be transformed now!
[7:14] Life was leaving me
[8:55] Excuses for being afraid to do the work
[9:09] Definition of resilience
[10:29] Be the woman that God created you to be
[11:25] Tapping into resilience by being present, intentional, and living in God's purpose
[12:27] Choose to try to make every day the best you make it
[13:30] Find the courage and the environment that we can get the transformation
[15:57] Outro

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Toxic leadership can cast a long, damaging shadow over a workplace, creating a hostile environment of distrust and resentment. Toxic leadership can cause a perpetual cycle of hurt and resentment. When leaders are overwhelmed and hurt, they often transfer their unresolved issues to their subordinates, creating an unbearable work environment. But the good news is, as Christian women, we are equipped with a powerful weapon - resilience. Acknowledging achievements amid toxicity, expressing our inner wounds, and denying the past's power over the present are ways we can rise above toxic leadership. With a robust support system and the right mindset, overcoming overwhelming situations will lead to personal growth and positivity.

Episode highlights:
[1:37] Overwhelmed leaders lead, they hurt others
[5:34] It's a lie
[8:53] Impostor syndrome
[11:39] Picking sides
[14:40] Take the higher ground
[18:08] Intentional vs. reactive
[24:40] Don't allow the toxicity to get in you
[27:14] Call it out, confront it, and communicate it
[28:03] Outro

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The wisdom gleaned from today’s episode is not only profound but also practical. By taking the lessons learned from the two tomato plants and applying them to our lives, we can become more resilient and transform our lives to be more fulfilling and joyous. The journey from feeling overwhelmed to becoming resilient is indeed a journey worth embarking on. It opens a path for peace, joy, and a better understanding of ourselves and our boundaries.

Episode highlights:
[1:56] Accidental gardener
[2:49] Roma Tomato vs. Heirloom tomato
[5:57] The importance of boundaries
[9:06] The vine of support
[14:25] What you're able to do and what God is able to do
[17:00] Understanding the circles of our life
[22:40] The flame in you
[25:05] Outro

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Are you stuck in the past, chained to your history, unable to move forward? It is essential to remember that our past does not define us. Our faith and resilience are the driving forces propelling us towards our divine purpose. God has a unique plan for each of us, and by embracing self-compassion, self-love, and grace, we can unlock this divine purpose and step into the abundant future He has in store for us.

Episode highlights:
[2:08] To look forward and not backward
[5:44] Daily process of self-check, grace and compassion
[8:29] Understand and recognize our human nature
[12:40] You have the power to break out and move forward
[16:34] What God has in store for us is better than where we came from
[19:25] Outro

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Life is full of ups and downs, trials and tribulations. However, how we navigate through these challenges with the transformative power of a 15-minute daily routine determines our level of resilience. This practice, rooted in tranquility and appreciation, sets a positive tone for the day and is a constant reminder of life's abundance and endless growth opportunities. It's an effective method of jumpstarting resilience and instilling a positive and centered mindset.

Episode highlights:
[2:14] Start resilience with daily routine
[6:33] How to recenter: Psalms 23
[8:22] God is our true north, and we don’t want anything other than Him
[9:18] You are covered
[10:48] Daily renewal of commitment
[12:24] He is our protector
[14:16] The blessings
[16:37] You feel you
[19:00] Establish your routine
[20:16] Outro

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In our fast-paced world, the constant chase for happiness can often lead to dissatisfaction and a lack of appreciation for the simple joys of life. As we journey towards contentment, remember that it is not about settling or accepting less. It is about being present, embracing the ordinary, and finding joy in everyday life. It is about nurturing our mental, spiritual, and physical well-being, creating an environment that fosters resilience, and surrounding ourselves with like-minded individuals. Through these steps, we can transition from feeling overwhelmed to cultivating resilience, embracing contentment, and finding joy in the everyday.

Episode highlights:
[1:16] Looking for ultimate definition
[6:08] Contentment in what you're doing
[13:36] Finding joy
[15:30] Satisfaction as settling?
[22:24] What are you grateful for?
[26:45] Outro

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The experience of grief is as unique as the individual experiencing it. In this episode of Overwhelmed to Resilient, I will share my journey through grief, the loss of my mother, and the lessons I learned along the way to help those dealing with grief during this time to seek out their support systems and avoid isolation. It's important to acknowledge the emotions and allow yourself to grieve, even during a season typically associated with joy and celebration. The importance of acceptance and healing in the face of grief is a reminder that even during loss, it's possible to find resilience and strength.

Episode highlights:
(2:30) Mixed emotions
(4:21) It's a process
(9:15) Different phases
(11:21) Ask for help
(13:07) Three pillars
(14:43) The best way to get through it
(17:51) Remind yourself and give yourself grace
(19:47) Don't isolate yourself
(21:49) Know that God loves you
(23:30) Outro

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Are you tired of living on a metaphorical hamster wheel, repeating the same daily routines? In this episode of Overwhelmed to Resilient, I will share my personal experiences of juggling family commitments, maintaining a work-life balance, and prioritizing self-care. This episode is packed with relatable anecdotes and valuable life lessons, encouraging listeners to 'run their race' and embrace the unique journey that life presents. Life is not about perfection but about embracing change, making room for personal growth, and navigating the delicious detours that come our way. We may use narratives or scripts that no longer serve us. They might have been relevant at one point, but as we grow and evolve, it's natural for our needs and perspectives to change. It's okay to let go of these outdated narratives. Instead, we should focus on living life at our own pace, free of the expectations and judgments of others.

Episode highlights:
(1:20) Family legacy lives on
(2:32) God is awesome
(4:42) Open yourself to new
(8:33) Learn from experience
(9:16) Don't try to do too much the first day you're back
(10:24) Run your race and feel that accomplishment
(11:12) The importance of embracing your story
(12:10) The feeling of anticipation for new 
(14:07) Reflections on cooking
(18:28) Tap into your family
(19:42) The importance of traditions
(22:35) Choose your narratives wisely
(25:24) Do the work and face those narratives
(27:03) Outro

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Today’s episode begins with a candid reflection on personal anecdotes where humor provided much-needed relief during challenging times. From physical mishaps to the overwhelming pressure of living up to various roles and expectations, Dr. Phyllis shares how reclaiming her ability to laugh was pivotal in her journey toward resilience. It's a poignant reminder that laughter can be a powerful force for good amidst the seriousness of life. It’s a call to action for men and women to rekindle their sense of humor, laugh freely, and remember that life is a journey filled with trials and triumphs. It reminds us that resilience is about enduring hardships and finding ways to enjoy the ride with laughter as one of our companions.

Episode highlights:
(1:08) Toes and nose
(4:00) Life happens
(6:02) Life's storm clouds and our created narratives
(7:29) Lost humor and parents background
(12:08) Building resilience and finding joy
(13:00) Analogy between Mary and Martha
(15:05) Creating presents
(17:08) Joyful resilience
(18:18) Outro

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We found ourselves grappling with an unexpected flood of emotions amid a routine day, dawning just how crucial it is to understand and cultivate resilience against the emotional triggers we all face. In today's episode, Dr. Phyllis discusses how to get through the labyrinth of emotional responses that often catch us off-guard—sharing her tales of vulnerability and the quest for balance. She opens up about the startling moment when emotions took the reins despite her expertise and preparation, underscoring the value of self-awareness and the surrounding embrace of a supportive circle. Understanding our triggers can prevent them from undermining our happiness and productivity. This topic guides those looking to start the new year with a renewed focus on emotional health and resilience. It's a testament to the idea that we can navigate life's emotional storms and emerge stronger on the other side with the right tools and mindset.

Episode highlights:
(1:31) How God wired you, Luke 12:48
(3:24) Emotional vulnerability
(4:32) Speed bumps and response
(5:54) Reflection from experience
(9:05) Self-grace and aligning ourselves with our faith
(10:16) Three types of relationships
(11:21) How to maintain emotional well-being
(14:25) Personal anecdote of triggers
(19:52) Identify your triggers
(23:28) Work-life balance, dealing with people, and dealing with triggers
(26:42) Develop strategies to address it
(29:49) Outro

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In our hyper-documented world, the urge to capture every moment on camera is stronger than ever. But when we focus too much on recording life, we often miss out on truly experiencing it. In today's episode, Dr. Phyllis delves into how to explore the art of being present and embracing the now without the distraction of constant planning and capturing. The topic will be more than a reflection; it's a blueprint for a more joy-filled, authentic way of living. Listeners will be equipped with the knowledge and inspiration needed to transform their approach to life, ensuring that they don't just capture moments but create lasting, cherished experiences.

Episode highlights:
(1:07) Efforts vs. experience
(4:35) Personal anecdotes
(6:48) Capture memories or live them?
(7:33) Turn it around
(10:00) Boxes
(11:27) Practical pillars
(12:11) A moment to ponder
(14:17) The story of Mary and Martha: Luke 10:38-42
(15:59) Prioritize being present over being busy
(17:58) Outro

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In today's fast-paced world, where perfectionism and people-pleasing often take the front seat, it's not uncommon to find ourselves trapped in a cycle of over-apologizing and harboring unnecessary guilt. Dr. Phyllis addresses this very issue in the latest episode of the podcast, providing insightful pathways toward self-empowerment, grace, and intentional living.

Episode highlights:
(1:34) The burden of over-extending
(5:37) Guilt code
(9:37) Personal anecdote
(13:51) Jeremiah 29:11
(15:22) Taking responsibility for your happiness
(19:54) Resetting
(22:26) Conviction and a blessing
(25:45) Embracing self-acceptance and prioritizing life
(31:44) Guilt and resilience in Christian women
(32:48) Outro

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In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams shares her deeply personal journey from a high-achieving Christian woman to someone who has found true purpose through faith. This topic is not just about her transformation but is a mirror to many women who strive to balance faith, family, and career. Dr. Phyllis candidly reveals how the relentless pursuit of achievements overshadowed her spiritual path, leading to an identity crisis that many listeners may resonate with.

Episode highlights:
(1:18) Reflecting and revelation
(6:21) The hats we wear
(8:13) The response
(10:04) Tap into your inner resilience
(11:02) Psalm 139:14, NLT
(13:45) The message of hope
(16:46) Don't stop being you
(19:28) Outro

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Have you ever snapped at a loved one after a day spent generously pouring into others? In the bustling world of ministry and caregiving, women often find themselves donning multiple hats, each laden with expectations and responsibilities. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis casts a light on the pervasive yet unspoken phenomenon of compassion fatigue—a malaise that can beset even the most resilient souls. Let’s set the stage for a healthier, more resilient future where taking a pause is accepted and celebrated as vital to our ability to love and serve those around us.

Episode highlights:
(1:28) Compassion fatigue gnaws from within
(5:50) The guilt feeling when tired
(7:17) The treadmill analogy
(10:33) Permit yourself to be human
(13:46) Live life with intention
(14:42) Proverbs 31:10-31
(16:14) The importance of self-care
(19:24) Societal myths
(21:17) Outro

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In a world where the pursuit of the extraordinary often overshadows the beauty of the mundane, Dr. Phyllis invites us on a personal journey into the heart of gratitude in today's episode. This topic gives us a glimpse into how embracing the joy in life's simple pleasures can transform our daily routines and outlook.

Episode highlights:
(1:10) Everyday is the same?
(2:43) A moment that can ignite
(4:23) Understanding life's curve balls to thrive
(5:56) Reflect and connect with yourself
(8:01) The analogy of the hot shower
(10:38) What are you grateful for? 
(12:40) Create those moments
(13:50) Recognize and acknowledge those blessings
(17:01) Outro

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Have you ever caught yourself wholly absorbed in the roles you play, whether as a career-driven professional, a devoted parent, or a reliable friend, wondering where 'you' begin and where these parts end? We often find ourselves entangled in societal roles and expectations in today's fast-paced world. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis offers a profound exploration of identity and self-worth that goes beyond the conventional badges of honor that society bestows upon us. It's a candid topic about finding grounding in who we are at our core, not just in the many hats we wear.

Episode highlights:
(1:32) Reflection of our true self
(3:36) The pressures of living up to societal standards
(8:20) External validation
(10:20) What matters most
(12:15) God gets our attention for us to re-establish perspective
(15:30) Finding balance in our intrinsic value amidst external roles
(17:58) The power of coaching
(20:56) Self-worth
(24:32) Outro

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Have you ever sat in quiet despair, wondering if the life you’ve been living is the one meant for you? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about the labyrinth of life’s challenges; from career changes to the heartache of loss, it’s easy to lose sight of our true path. Her anecdotes serve as a testament to the human capacity for resilience and the power of faith in guiding us through life’s most challenging moments. Her words serve as a beacon of hope for anyone feeling lost or overwhelmed, reminding us that we can all find our true path and live the life we were meant to lead with the right mindset and spiritual guidance.

Episode highlights:
(1:11) Questions to ponder
(4:41) This is made for you
(5:37) Overthink, over fix, overfill
(7:59) Is your current reality leading to your destiny?
(10:06) Shift yourself toward God’s purpose
(12:11) The power of self-realization and vulnerability
(14:48) You have the ability to get through
(17:28) God has a plan for you
(19:56) Outro

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Have you ever felt shackled by the weight of the past, struggling to break free and fully embrace the present? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares a heartfelt narrative that inspires anyone seeking to break free from the grip of the past. It's an episode that resonates with many, offering practical insights and a supportive community for those looking to embrace the present. If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of always looking back, let this be your sign to step into the light of now with faith, forgiveness, and a heart full of resilience.

Episode highlights:
(1:40) Mind is elsewhere and keeps on looking back
(3:50) Lot's wife's mindset
(6:30) There's a suitable time and place to do a review and move forward
(9:35) Unforgiveness, retaliation, and being stuck
(11:06) A fulfilled life
(14:14) Tap into your inner resilience and learn from the past
(15:17) Are you aligned with your calling?
(17:09) Daily devotion with intention
(20:55) Outro

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Have you ever felt like you're carrying the world's weight on your shoulders, trying to control every outcome? In the modern whirlwind of life, the pursuit of peace can seem like a distant dream. Yet, the journey to inner stillness becomes critical in the heart of chaos. In today's episode, Dr. Phyllis delves into the art of finding peace and embracing self-compassion by detaching from outcomes inspired by Apostle Paul's teachings on contentment. Whether it's a project at work, a promotion, or a family challenge, we should stress the importance of focusing on what we can control—our actions and our mindset. Ultimately, we must leave the results in God's hands and find contentment in that surrender.

Episode highlights:
(1:12) The certainty of uncertainty
(4:51) Philippians 4:11 - A space of contentment and peace
(6:07) How are we wired
(7:50) Psalms 46:10 - Cultivating a sanctuary of stillness within
(9:36) God is in control: Give up your worry
(11:30) Aligning your self-worth with your self-belief
(15:20) Showing yourself compassion
(17:51) Outro

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Navigating professional life can often feel like an uphill battle, especially when the enemy is invisible: imposter syndrome. This persistent phenomenon can lead to self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy, but what if these feelings are indicators that you're on the cusp of something more significant? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis tackles this complex subject, offering a candid guide to overcoming these challenges and embracing resilience. Her wisdom and guidance serve as a beacon of light for those feeling overwhelmed and undervalued, offering a path toward recognizing one's actual value.

Episode highlights:
(2:28) Feeling stuck at work despite relentless effort?
(4:49) Felt voiceless, overshadowed, and not enough
(8:32) Common experiences of feeling alienated or disconnected
(11:47) You are precious, and you're more than enough
(14:02) The importance of inner work
(15:47) Reframe your perspective for growth and opportunity
(18:10) Acknowledge God's signs
(20:13) Know your self-worth: Let go and let God
(23:46) Outro

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Have you ever stood at life’s crossroads, the way forward shrouded in mist, unsure of the next step? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis recounts stories of such moments in her life and the powerful epiphanies that an end can be a pause, a moment to catch a breath and realign. This topic is a heartfelt testament to the transformative power of setting a life vision, to begin with the end in mind. Embark on this journey to uncover how discontent can be the universe’s nudge towards change and how stepping back to consult with a higher wisdom can reveal a path to life’s loftiest dreams—be it a fledgling business venture or a life more authentically lived.

Episode highlights:
(1:41) Life’s crossroads
(4:08) A stirring in your spirit
(6:44) You are not alone
(8:05) Divine intervention
(11:27) Create your dream
(15:22) A life that aligns with our most authentic selves
(18:48) Putting in proper perspective
(21:06) Outro

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In this enlightening installment, Dr. Phyllis explores the heart of personal growth, revealing a bittersweet reality: not everyone in our lives will accompany us to the future we envision. Embracing the boldness of big dreams, she offers a candid look at the necessity of outgrowing certain bonds to unlock our true potential. Let’s journey together for a transformative exploration of the ties that propel us forward and the ones we must release to soar to new heights.

Episode highlights:
(2:20) The journey is a blessing
(4:05) Three types of relationships
(6:56) The power of women supporting women
(9:19) Around that inner circle...
(11:08) Not everyone can go with you
(12:30) Tap into these
(15:21) Outro

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It's time for me to pivot, and I want you to join me.

I want to share my journey through life's unexpected twists, from health battles to loss; I've found unshakable joy. I want to bring you along with me, so welcome to the Joy In The Pivot podcast.

Let's turn life's changes into triumphs together. Discover the four pillars of permission, presence, priority, and purpose to craft a fulfilling life, regardless of your circumstances. 

As a physician and mentor, I'll guide you through challenges with grace. Whether it's career shifts, relationships, or personal growth, find encouragement and empowerment here. 

Welcome to a journey where joy is a vibrant state of being, not just a fleeting emotion.

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Life presents us with countless turns and unexpected moments that can make us adrift. Yet, it’s at these pivotal points where the most significant transformations can occur. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis delves into the profound personal narratives of navigating life’s twists and finding the strength to embrace new directions with spiritual resilience and emotional agility.

Episode highlights:
(2:55) Life is a series of pivots
(4:38) Control
(8:41) When you hit a snag...
(14:16) Don’t give up
(19:05) Providence
(20:22) Moving forward with faith
(22:35) In that stillness, get ready to move
(24:18) Tell this to the enemy
(27:25) Do self-check
(29:55) Outro

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares intimate stories and personal reflections, illustrating how happiness is like a fleeting sunset, while joy is like the steadfast stars that grace the night sky. Her narratives remind us that our pursuit should not be for short-lived happiness but for the enduring joy that remains, even in the face of adversity. This joy serves as our anchor, guiding us through life's storms.

Episode highlights:
(1:18) Have you thought about it?
(4:17) It can become a source of others' approval
(6:48) Less than desirable feelings
(9:06) Strive for this...
(11:58) Icing on the cake and the cake
(13:15) From Saul to Paul
(15:03) This is joy
(17:34) You're not alone, and they're not the same
(21:05) Outro

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Embarking on a journey of personal growth often involves facing formidable emotional barriers that can seem impossible. In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis delves into the complex web of emotions that entangle us during critical junctures of change. She adeptly addresses the multitude of thought triggers that frequently anchor us to our current circumstances, hindering our progress toward self-fulfillment and enlightenment. The key to our journey lies in recognizing and overcoming these internal stopsigns that prevent us from moving forward. Equally important is finding a safe tribe, a supportive community that can help us on our path to personal growth.

Episode highlights:
(2:31) Internal stop signs
(4:11) Worry
(5:17) Grief: Coping with loss
(7:44) Guilt, shame and embarrassment: Moving forward
(11:38) Injustice: Life's fairness
(13:09) Ego: letting go of control
(15:16) Thought triggers
(18:07) The message
(19:59) God's control and finding peace
(23:16) Ask, and you will receive with no condemnation
(26:02) Not everybody can't go with you
(28:50) The Story of Joseph: Son of Jacob
(34:46) Find your safe tribe
(36:16) Finding your pivot through reflection
(34:24) Outro

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares insights on how to keep your joy alive amidst life’s ups and downs. She’ll shed light on safeguarding it from daily pressures and significant life changes. This discussion aims to inspire all listeners to hold onto their joy, face life’s changes with a positive outlook, and live life to the fullest. It’s an invitation for everyone to cherish and protect the joy within us.

Episode highlights:
(1:05) Taking the ‘J’ out of your joy
(3:32) Bad tire
(5:32) For healthy and sustainable joy
(6:39) People pleasing
(8:40) Overthinking everything
(11:04) Impulsiveness
(13:16) Introspection of transparency and honesty
(14:28) Outro

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In the dynamic realm of professional careers, setbacks and detours can often be misconstrued as personal failures. However, in this episode, Dr. Phyllis brings a unique perspective, delving deep into the concept that career pivots may not merely be stumbling blocks but could be a significant part of a divine plan leading us toward our true calling, inspiring us to see these challenges as opportunities for growth and transformation.

Episode highlights:
(1:56) Setbacks and detours
(3:46) Job is everything
(5:24) The coat of many colors
(9:34) How life comes full circle
(10:18) They meant evil against you, but God meant it for good
(12:34) The power of perspective
(14:19) The significance of your pivot
(16:01) Feeling of heartbroken
(17:55) Bigger and better
(20:50) Outro

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Is your career your knight in shining armor? In today’s eye-opening and transformative episode, Dr. Phyllis strips away the illusion of work as the ultimate savior. We’ve all been spellbound by the fairytale where professional success promises happiness and identity, but it’s time to wake up to a more nuanced reality. Discover when your job overshadows the essence of who you are and learn to create a life rich with purpose beyond the office walls. This episode isn’t just about balance; it’s a revolution against the prince charming myth of the workplace, urging you to reassess your career’s role in defining your self-worth. Get ready for a new perspective that could change your life.

Episode highlights:
(3:29) 'Prince Charming' concept
(5:18) Controlled play
(8:35) How work becomes your prince charming
(10:38) The maternal drive
(13:17) Know your priorities
(16:35) Reconnect with the divine plan
(18:37) You do make a difference
(20:06) Role of work in your life
(22:08) Stepping back
(26:38) Outro

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Standing at the juncture of familiarity and the unknown, we often contemplate whether to remain ensconced in our comfort zones or heed the subtle whispers of change. In today’s transformative episode, Dr. Phyllis discusses permitting oneself to pivot. Breaking free from stagnant situations by letting go of the need for external validation and embracing change with faith. This topic encourages listeners to take small steps towards their goals and emphasizes the importance of self-care amid responsibilities and trusting God’s plan for a fulfilling journey.

Episode highlights:
(2:47) The power of permitting yourself to pivot
(5:21) ‘Letting Go and Letting God’
(8:52) From leaning on achievements to leaning on God
(10:18) Checkboxes became comfort zones
(13:51) Moving to the next level
(15:07) Fulfilling your dreams
(17:05) Avoiding resentment
(19:37) Commitment to the journey
(21:18) Embracing life’s pivots
(23:05) Outro

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Have you ever found yourself caught between the prickly thorns of self-criticism and the relentless vine of past mistakes? In this episode of Joy in the Pivot, Dr. Phyllis discusses part 2 of the importance of operating oneself to pivot. Drawing from her own experiences, she explores where gardening has become more than a hobby; it has evolved into a powerful metaphor for nurturing the mind and soul.

Episode highlights:
(2:01) Replaying what happened
(4:54) Unexpected gardening adventures
(10:50) Overcoming self-criticism
(13:18) Embracing growth through life's decisions
(15:40) Battling negative thoughts from the enemy
(18:27) Lessons learned from pivoting
(21:23) Finding growth amidst challenges
(22:25) Permission to pivot for fulfilling your purpose
(24:26) Outro

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When we look back on the unfiltered ambitions of our childhood, we often discover the raw essence of our true desires. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis guides us on an introspective journey to uncover those latent dreams and reignite our innate superpowers. It's a transformational call to action that inspires us to embrace our deepest aspirations, pivot toward joy, and live our best lives filled with joy and fulfillment.

Episode highlights:
(1:40) Tapping to your dreams
(5:06) Pursuing financial freedom and fulfillment
(9:20) It's never too late to start
(11:46) Don't wait for the magic moment
(14:52) Living your best life 
(18:38) Embracing your dreams
(20:12) What is pure joy?
(22:44) Living with intention, dream big and live big
(25:02) Investing in your joy
(26:28) Taking the first step toward your dream
(29:38) Outro

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In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her journey of prioritizing fun and presence over perfection and validation. Reflecting on childhood memories of simple joys and her professional achievements, she highlights the importance of embracing small moments of happiness. Dr. Phyllis encourages listeners to assess their joy and presence in life, advocating for mindset pivots toward fulfillment and gratitude.

Episode highlights:
(2:32) Two sets of memories
(7:17) Finding place: Navigating life’s transitions
(10:42) Striving yet losing sight
(12:57) Fully present and having fun
(16:13) Overcoming challenges
(17:41) Embracing change
(19:07) Giving yourself permission
(20:25) Don’t get stuck
(22:32) Outro

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What would you do if your peaceful morning walk became a medical emergency? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis explains how nurturing Christian women tend to overburden themselves with others’ responsibilities, which can lead to exhaustion, hinder personal growth, and pull us away from our divine roles.

Episode highlights:
(2:16) Unexpected encounter
(8:43) The burden of others
(11:55) Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World
(14:24) Recognizing our limitations
(16:01) Taking the role of martyr
(18:17) Responsibility and empowerment
(20:50) Choosing what truly matters
(22:16) Free up some space
(25:14) Outro

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Working in a tough job can feel like a constant battle. It can drain you, whether it’s due to unfair treatment, a lack of recognition, or simply feeling unappreciated. In this enlightening episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her experiences in challenging work environments and offers invaluable advice on staying resilient and maintaining a positive mindset, even in the face of complexity.

Episode highlights:
(2:234) The emotional toll of feeling stuck and undervalued
(6:12) Personal experience with toxic workplaces
(9:08) Dealing with heartbreak from workplace toxicity
(11:48) The importance of knowing yourself and God’s plan
(14:33) Maintaining God’s anointing amidst chaos
(16:12) Putting on your “big girl pants” and doing the hard work
(18:37) Understanding your job as a temporary means
(20:43) Recognizing toxic behaviors and avoiding their influence
(24:02) It’s a mean, not an end
(25:51) Finding joy and purpose through faith and support
(27:50) Outro

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In today’s fast-paced world, rest can sometimes seem like a luxury rather than a necessity, especially for busy Christian women managing multiple responsibilities. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis emphasizes that rest is essential for a balanced life. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical principles, she shares insights on integrating rest without guilt and reclaiming our Sabbath. Tune in to learn to prioritize rest, embrace self-care, and trust God amidst life’s demands.

Episode highlights:
(1:43) The concept of rest
(4:23) Childhood memories of restful Sundays
(6:32) Personal struggle with constant busyness
(7:35) Learning to listen to the body’s need for rest
(9:34) Refueling energy stores
(12:55) Embracing the moment and nature
(16:03) Silencing negative noise and thoughts
(19:33) Trusting in God and resetting
(23:31) Outro

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This episode explores the crucial balance between one’s calling and broader purpose. Dr. Phyllis shares a journey of sincere dedication to a medical career, only to realize that this focus overshadowed other aspects of life and God’s broader purpose. She emphasizes recognizing signs from God, handling setbacks, and trusting His plan, even when it means stepping away from familiar roles. Learn how personal growth can emerge from dealing with rejection, embracing new roles, and balancing life and work. This episode serves as a poignant reminder to stay open to God’s guidance and to prioritize your well-being and faith over work. Tune in as we uncover valuable insights for a fulfilling and purpose-driven life.

Episode highlights:
(1:43) Stumbling block
(4:14) Ignoring signs
(6:15) Life consumed by work and handling rejection
(9:05) Attracted and addicted to new shiny things
(11:52) The importance of asking God
(14:30) New life roles and life lessons
(18:35) Labels and self-identity
(20:38) Christian perspective at work
(22:45) Being open to God’s guidance
(26:07) Life-work balance
(29:18) Take back your joy
(31:21) Outro

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Can faith at work change your professional life? In today's episode, Dr. Phyllis delves into the challenges Christian women face in maintaining their faith in the workplace. She emphasizes the importance of integrating faith into daily work life and offers practical advice on staying spiritually grounded, even in challenging environments. Tune in to learn how to stay true to yourself despite outside pressures and find liberation in authenticity. Discover how your faith can encourage self-growth and bring hope in your professional journey.

Episode highlights:
(1:47) Struggle to maintain faith in the workplace
(6:23) The power of prayer
(9:57) The importance of prayer before making decisions
(13:15) Integrating faith throughout the workday
(15:39) Packing faith along with lunch
(17:25) Let God take over
(19:55) Staying true to your faith at work
(22:22) God's story through our lives
(24:19) Value yourself and grow in your faith
(28:02) One piece of the pie
(32:01) Outro

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Are you feeling overwhelmed by the many roles you juggle and the 'tabs' open in your mind? Join Dr. Phyllis in this heartfelt episode as she explores these challenges. She emphasizes the importance of self-care, recognizing our efforts, and listening to God's guidance. Drawing from her deep experience as a physician and caregiver, Dr. Phyllis offers practical advice on achieving balance, pursuing your dreams, and taking purposeful steps toward a fulfilling life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will encourage you to dream big and live with intention.

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Episode highlights:
(2:00) The mental "Tabs" we keep open
(4:43) Encouragement and self-care
(5:45) Period of waiting
(8:03) To dream on
(9:33) God has something in store for you
(11:12) Life review and immediate action
(14:47) Don't put it off
(17:39) Give yourself permission
(20:06) Roles and responsibilities
(24:21) Living with purpose
(28:03) Outro

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Feeling like life is rushing by, leaving you constantly reacting and worrying? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her journey of breaking free from the autopilot mindset. She highlights the importance of being present daily, especially as a Christian woman. Dr. Phyllis emphasizes the value of living life with "intentional urgency™" – recognizing each day's preciousness without worry. This mindset shift allows us to appreciate our blessings, engage fully with our loved ones, and embrace God's purpose for our lives. Tune in to learn practical tips on living more intentionally and making the most of every moment.

Episode highlights:
(1:12) Feeling life is rushing by?
(3:20) Struggle with being present
(5:09) Mindfulness and the significance of presence in enjoying life
(6:26) Recording vs. experiencing moments
(9:53) Encouragement to change and be present
(11:26) Living with Intentional Urgency™
(13:13) Embracing life's fragility and seeking God's guidance
(14:56) Create your moment
(16:42) Outro

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Are you feeling impatient and trying to control everything? Join Dr. Phyllis in this heartfelt episode as she uncovers the importance of patience and trust in God’s plans. Learn from a personal story about an unexpected tomato plant symbolizing divine intervention and the consequences of not recognizing God’s blessings. Discover practical tips to stop meddling in God’s work, open yourself to unexpected blessings, embrace your worth, and don’t stop dreaming. This episode gently reminds you to stay engaged and let faith guide you through surprising twists and turns.

Episode highlights:
(2:14) Story of the unexpected tomato plant
(5:36) The consequences of impatience
(7:31) Trying to fix it
(8:47) Not as expected
(10:38) Know that you are worthy
(11:58) Allowing yourself to dream
(13:40) Thoughts and encouragement
(15:06) Outro

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Are you overwhelmed by your responsibilities and struggling to find time for yourself? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her journey with stillness and self-care, offering wisdom and practical tips for Christian women with big hearts. Learn how to overcome fear, regret, and disappointment to embrace the power of stillness and deepen your connection with God. Tune in to discover how a few moments of stillness can transform your life and help you serve others with renewed joy and strength.

Episode highlights:
(2:05) The power of stillness and how God uses it
(5:12) The dangers of losing oneself in service to others
(7:01) The struggle with self-care for big-hearted women
(8:16) Juggling service and self-care to avoid resentment
(10:21) Practical ways to incorporate stillness into daily life
(14:09) Fear
(16:17) Regret
(19:59) Disappointment
(21:41) Encouragement to face fears and embrace God's guidance
(23:50) The story of Peter walking on water and its lessons
(29:32) Outro

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Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle, even after learning what you thought were life's big lessons? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her journey through life's unexpected twists and turns and the importance of finding the courage to dig deep and hold on. She emphasizes that true joy and purpose come from trusting God's plan, even when life feels uncertain. Join us as we explore how to embrace change and find freedom in God's purpose for our lives.

Episode highlights:
(2:03) Embracing defining moments
(4:48) Going deep and facing narratives
(7:05) Self-worth and self-awareness
(13:02) Embracing stillness and relying on God, not self
(16:28) Embracing the mindset change
(18:37) Live with intentional urgency
(20:17) Let go and let God
(22:19) Period of transition and growth
(24:04) Pray for courage and discernment
(25:41) Outro

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Are certain friendships keeping you from where God wants you to be? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her wisdom on recognizing and letting go of relationships that drain your energy and hold you back. With compassion and understanding, she guides you on gently releasing these friendships so you can move forward in your life with strength and peace. Learn how healthy boundaries can help you grow and follow God's plan.

Episode highlights:
(2:01) The concept of different definitions of friendship
(4:36) Personal story of being hurt by unequal friendships
(6:09) The impact of energy-draining friendships
(9:19) Metaphor of life as a hot air balloon and the importance of cutting off “sandbags.”
(11:42) The necessity of continuous personal growth and setting boundaries
(14:14) Importance of deleting toxic relationships and preserving emotional health
(18:44) Master your storage
(20:17) Taking inventory of all relationships, including family
(22:19) “Embrace self-friendship now”
(24:09) The concept of “adulting” and carrying the responsibility of managing your friendships
(27:47) Ensuring your circle is supportive and aligned with your growth.
(29:04) Outro

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Are you feeling tired and questioning your self-worth? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis reminds you that it’s okay to love yourself, especially for Christian women who often struggle to put themselves first. She discusses why self-love is crucial for your growth and resilience. Learn how to embrace who you are, own your worth, and prepare for the new season God is calling you into. Whether you’re struggling with guilt or need encouragement, this episode will help you see that loving yourself reflects God’s love for you.

Episode highlights:
(1:45) Self-love and the challenge of selfishness in Christian women
(4:25) The importance of embracing your worth and growth
(6:00) Celebrating your God-given purpose
(7:03) Recognize, rest, and rejuvenate
(10:30) Owning who you are and moving forward with grace
(13:41) Embrace your true self
(15:47) The power of self-affirmation and looking ahead to new seasons in life
(18:05) Jeremiah 29:11
(20:28) Outro

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Do you ever feel like life is running you instead of you running it? In this episode of The Resilient Woman Podcast, Dr. Phyllis, a seasoned life coach and physician, invites you to explore the power of resilience. Discover how to reset, grow, and align with your purpose despite life’s challenges. Whether you’re a busy caregiver, a loving wife, or simply trying to keep up with the demands of everyday life, this podcast is your space to recharge and find strength. Let’s journey together toward a more resilient, purpose-driven life.

Episode highlights:
(1:38) Challenges faced by Christian women in fast-paced lives
(3:48) Dr. Phyllis’s background and personal journey with resilience
(5:34) The theme of resetting and growing in alignment with God’s purpose
(6:06) Upcoming discussions on resilience, myths, and practical tips for daily life
(7:01) Outro

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Are you living the life you’ve always dreamed of? In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Phyllis shares her journey of discovering that there’s more to life than the roles we fill. She encourages women over 50 to reignite their passions and dreams, reminding us that it’s never too late to live fully. Listen as she shares valuable insights on resilience, joy, and finding purpose beyond our day-to-day routines.

Episode highlights:
(0:00) Intro
(1:52) Dr. Phyllis’s background in medicine
(3:56) Reflection on a pre-retirement event and bigger dreams
(5:50) Pursuing passions outside of career paths
(8:23) The impact of work and life roles on dreams
(10:32) Finding fulfillment after 50 and reconnecting with childhood dreams
(13:45) Life lessons from hospice care
(15:32) Encouragement to pursue new paths and live without regrets
(16:17) Viewing life as one journey with different seasons
(19:20) Outro

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Is apologizing holding you back? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis helps you explore the real reasons behind constant apologizing and how it could signify people-pleasing. She shares her journey of overcoming the need to say “sorry” for everything, highlighting the emotional cost of taking on unnecessary guilt. Dr. Phyllis invites listeners to reflect on how often they apologize and whether it’s genuinely warranted or just a way to avoid conflict or seek validation. By recognizing these habits, listeners can learn to let go of the burden of pleasing others and reclaim their sense of self-worth rooted in faith and purpose.

Episode highlights:
(2:03) Over-apologizing as people-pleasing
(5:48) Taking responsibility for others’ problems
(8:40) Seeking validation through people-pleasing
(12:49) Letting others be accountable
(19:13) Embracing faith over people-pleasing
(22:21) Practical tips for change and growth
(24:57) Outro

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Are you a Christian woman feeling stuck, even though everything looks fine on the outside? In this uplifting episode of The Resilient Woman Podcast, Dr. Phyllis offers practical encouragement to stop seeking approval from others and start fueling your life with God’s joy and purpose. She invites you to permit yourself to dream again and take steps toward the life God has planned for you. Listen in to learn how to shift your mindset, regain your strength, and live daily with more peace and intention through your faith.

Episode highlights:
(01:07) Introduction and episode overview: “Unstuck Power 101”
(03:14) Feeling stuck despite external achievements
(05:09) The myth of being permanently stuck
(08:13) The power of taking control and permitting yourself to grow
(12:01) Envisioning the life you want and how you want to feel
(17:09) The importance of daily progress toward your goals
(22:10) Closing words and encouragement to stay resilient
(23:20) Outro

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Are you feeling stuck or unfulfilled despite your efforts? In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis offers an uplifting message for Christian women facing life’s challenges. Reflecting on Romans 5:1-5, she reminds us that “nothing is wasted.” Every struggle—whether in your career, family, or personal life—helps build resilience, character, and hope. You can find more profound joy and purpose by trusting God’s plan and living with intention. Tune in to learn how to let go of control, take care of yourself, and embrace life’s changes with faith and confidence.

Episode highlights:
(0:00) Intro
(2:34) Scripture reading from Romans 5:1-5 and key message: “Nothing is wasted.”
(4:22) Moving from reaction to intention
(6:21) Feeling stuck and seeking joy in transitions
(10:04) Rejoice in your sufferings
(11:20) The fear of stagnation and loss of meaning
(16:18) Encouragement to pursue long-held dreams
(18:26) Peace and Joy: All of it is good
(20:13) Outro

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Do you ever feel like you’re constantly falling short or questioning your abilities? It might seem like imposter syndrome, but maybe the issue is that you simply have too much on your plate. We often confuse being overwhelmed with self-doubt when, in reality, it’s the never-ending to-do list and unrealistic expectations that are dragging us down. It’s not that you’re not capable – it’s that you’re trying to do everything at once.

As Christians, it’s important to remember that God never called us to do it all. He calls us to trust in his guidance and focus on what matters most. When we re-prioritize and let go of the pressure to manage everything ourselves, we can find peace knowing that we’re enough just as we are, without striving for perfection.

(00:00) Resilient Woman podcast: support for overwhelmed Christian women.
 (05:54) Replenishing energy often gets neglected; avoid overcommitment.
(09:39) Neglecting self-care leads to burnout and resentment.
(10:47) Stop overcommitting; prioritize personal growth and rest.
(15:03) You must replenish yourself to avoid burnout.
(19:15) Their issue, not ours. Believe in yourself.
(24:06) Pat yourself on back, reduce your load.
(28:08) Delegate tasks to make room for joy.
(29:09) Share this with another resilient woman.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“You’re doing all the things but there is no gas in the tank”
“When you continually have a lot on your plate, it’s going to make you feel that you’re not enough”
 "We feel wired and created to do it all. Over the years, it’s appeared we can do it all”

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 https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/
 https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

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It feels like we’re constantly reacting—emails, notifications, the never-ending to-do list. It’s easy to get caught up in the rush, but living in this reactive state drains you. Psalm 46:10 reminds us to "Be still, and know that I am God." This isn’t just about slowing down; it’s about intentionally creating space to be present with God. When you pause, even briefly, you allow yourself to reset. You stop living on autopilot and start living with awareness and intention.

These moments of stillness don’t have to be grand. They can happen before you get out of bed, during a quiet drive, or while taking a walk. The key is to make room in your day for presence. When you do, you invite peace and clarity into your life. Instead of carrying the weight of stress, you give God the space to meet you, replenish you, and help you live above the chaos. 

So this week, pick one moment to pause, breathe, and be still—you’ll be surprised how much it changes your perspective.

(00:00) Reacting impulsively leads to regret and mindfulness.
 (03:18) Be still, present, appreciate life and journey.
 (06:49) Taking breaks improves productivity despite interruptions.
 (13:36) Avoid martyrdom; prioritize self-care and purpose.
 (17:36) We often don't appreciate sacrifices until adulthood.
 (20:48) Live intentionally with purpose, presence, and mindfulness.
 (24:39) Look up. Problems are small. God’s bigger.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:
“We’re wired to serve and go the extra mile and if we aren’t careful then we start feeling like the martyr “
 “Create a space for you and God to meet.”

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Have you ever felt overwhelmed, stretched in every direction by responsibilities at home and work? It’s easy to feel like life is living you instead of you living your life. Your brain is on overload, and saying no feels like an impossible task.

You might be wired to be a go-getter, eager to meet others’ needs, but constantly saying yes can lead to burnout. It’s crucial to recognize that you’re not meant to be everything to everyone.

Setting boundaries is key. Start by evaluating your priorities and reminding yourself that “every fire is not your fire.” Enjoy this season of your life, but make space for joy by establishing limits. When your cup is overflowing, take a moment to assess what’s causing it.

If you don’t set boundaries, that overflow can turn into resentment, making you feel upset when others ask for more of your time and energy. You might find yourself at a breaking point, saying or doing things you regret.

Remember, you owe it to yourself and those around you to create space for joy. Setting boundaries allows you to recharge and be more present. Prioritize yourself and recognize that joy comes from having some control over your commitments. 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“You have to set boundaries which means you have to be able to start looking at your priorities.”
 “You owe it to yourself and those around you to set boundaries so you don’t get to a place where you don’t start resenting everything and everyone around you”
“You’re not meant to do it all, you’re not God”

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(00:00) Podcast: Setting boundaries to prevent damage control.
(05:20) Overburden leads to resentment and guilt.
(07:29) Overwhelmed, stressed, on edge, ready to explode.
(11:27) Set boundaries for health and personal growth.
(13:36) Prioritize joy and boundaries for self-replenishment.
(16:52) Perfectionism limits enjoying life; set boundaries.
(21:52) Set boundaries today for your future well-being.
(23:37) Model behavior and set boundaries for children.
(27:16) Set boundaries, reflect, create capacity, move

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Moving into 2025 is an opportunity to step forward with hope and purpose. While 2024 may have brought its share of breakthroughs and setbacks, it’s important to see it as a chapter in a much larger story. The lessons of last year are tools for growth, not limits on your future.

What did 2024 teach you about yourself? Maybe it revealed strengths you didn’t know you had or opened your eyes to areas where growth is still needed. It’s easy to dwell on disappointments, but those moments don’t define you. Instead, they can be stepping stones toward something greater.

Sis, we all face moments when fear and self-doubt threaten to hold us back. It’s easier to focus on helping others fulfill their dreams while putting our own on hold. But stepping into your purpose requires courage, trust, and the belief that you were created for something meaningful.

You’re not walking this path alone, and you’re not the only one who feels the weight of uncertainty. Let this new year be a time to embrace the truth that God’s plans for you are good and that he’s not finished with your story.

As you move forward, don’t put a period where God places a comma. Take time to reflect on what you hope to see in 2025. Write it down, pray about it, and allow yourself to dream. It’s never too late to begin again, to take that next step, and to trust that this is the season to step into all that you were made for.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“If 2024 taught us anything, it's that life is precious and fleeting. God calls us to live in the moment, not in fear of the future or regret of the past."

"Living in the moment doesn't mean that you're ignoring your responsibilities. It means fully embracing life and the life that God has given you."

(00:00) Embrace hope, courage, and purposeful growth today.

(05:21) Realign priorities, deepen faith, learn reliance.

(07:11) Disappointed by divisiveness during U.S. presidential election.

(13:06) Use phone apps or journal to jot insights.

(15:41) Transition from focusing on death to life.

(17:41)Embrace God's timing; live joyfully, responsibly.

(23:35) Trust God's timing; fear not, live purposefully.

(25:56) Courageously embrace personal growth and God's purpose.

(28:51) Embrace God's purpose; reflect, dream, and pray.

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Every day, it feels like something new comes at you. Some mornings, you just want to pull the covers over your head and hide from it all, but you still get up. You keep going because there's something within you – a spark of resilience that God placed there, a superpower that propels you forward.

Today, let’s celebrate that. You were created to be resilient, a woman with a big heart and a deep capacity for caring. God shaped you with purpose, and there’s nothing wrong with the way you serve and give to others. But sometimes, you forget to use that energy on yourself. This isn’t a call to stop caring for others, but a reminder to care for you just as fiercely.

Resilient woman, you don’t thrive when you feel stagnant or stuck. It’s time to fuel that resilience with joy. Lean into God’s plans for you, plans that include moving forward, learning, and becoming. He didn’t create you to be depleted or just serve others without also nurturing yourself.

So, take a moment. Think about what brings you joy. What parts of your own dreams and personal goals have you set aside? It’s time to bring those back, to embrace your superpower with love and purpose. Yes, not everyone will understand. Not everyone will see the strength behind your resilience or the depth of your heart, and that’s okay.

So, celebrate yourself. Revisit those dreams you’ve put on the shelf, and remember, this is a journey. Your resilience is a gift. Embrace it, fuel it, and use it to become all that God created you to be.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"I see you. I see everything that you do for everyone else. But now it's time to focus on you."

"Your resilience is, yes, it is your superpower. And don't let anyone make you feel bad about it."

"The opportunity is for you to become a better steward of your superpower so that you can make that shift to infusing some joy by adding in your own personal development”

(00:00) Keep going, despite overwhelming expectations and challenges.

(05:11) Passion for puzzles and helping through challenges.

(10:25) Reevaluating life's purpose and personal growth.

(11:43) Continuing growth is difficult but necessary.

(15:23) Fuel resilience with joy, personal development, growth.

(20:27) Paused, coughed, returned; acknowledged presence and struggles.

(24:59) Embrace passions; now’s your time to act.

(27:11) Share helpful insights; grow a supportive community together.

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As resilient women, we often carry the weight of shame—shame over past experiences, unmet dreams, or goals left unachieved. We’re strong, we’re determined, but sometimes we feel burdened by lingering feelings of “not enough.” We’ve gone the extra mile for others, faced storms head-on, and shown up time and again. Yet, there are moments when we feel stuck, as if we’re spinning in place rather than growing forward.

What if we could see shame differently? What if, instead of letting it keep us trapped, we took a closer look at its source and gently put it in a corner?

Many of us wear different masks. We have our public persona—the resilient, capable woman who keeps going no matter what. She’s strong, she’s unwavering, and she gets things done. But behind that mask is often a private self who feels the weight of everything she’s taken on, who may feel lost or uncertain, despite her outer strength.

Being resilient isn’t about perfection. It’s about courage—the courage to keep going, to rise above, and to learn from the things that tried to hold us down. You’ve weathered storms and navigated difficult seasons, and here you are, standing strong.

Now is the time to let go of any shame holding you back. Embrace where you’ve been and where you’re going. Remember that your resilience has carried you through so much already.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"I know how it feels when life is living you instead of you living your life."

"Feeling stuck can mean that you just don't feel like you're growing."

"So if you look at where you've come from, from birth, the experiences that you've had, there's a reason why you see yourself as a resilient person. It's because life has not always been easy."

(00:00) Lady Gaga on embracing life despite shame.

(03:24) Public extrovert, private introvert, avoiding emotions.

(07:55) Unfulfilled dreams can lead to feeling stuck.

(12:36) Resilience grows through challenges and overcoming negativity.

(14:54) Break negative cycles; everything contributes to growth.

(18:47) Helping you grow, embrace journey without shame.

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In life, we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to succeed. We feel like every choice, every project, and every decision needs to be perfect. But here's the truth: not everything will work out, and that's okay.

The concept of “fail fast and move on” is a powerful tool for growth and resilience. It's about recognizing when something isn’t working and not wasting any more energy trying to make it work. 

We’ve all been there: stuck in a situation that isn’t right, but we keep pushing because we don’t want to admit defeat. The fear of failure or the feeling of wasted time can keep us in a loop, trying to make things work when it’s clear they won’t. But this mindset keeps us stuck and prevents us from reaching our full potential.

Letting go isn't about quitting—iIt's about making space for something better and not holding onto things that aren’t aligned with your goals or values.

Once you’ve made the decision to move on, it’s time to focus on what’s next. What can you do that will bring you closer to your goals? What will fuel your growth and help you become the person you want to be?

(00:00) Live intentionally, embrace life's fluid seasons.

(06:51) Structured paths offer false control illusions.

(09:46) Know when to persevere or let go.

(12:33) Passion shifted; growth requires discernment, act accordingly.

(15:29) Let go, fail fast, and move forward.

(18:50) Empower and renew her through Jesus Christ.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"There's a difference between quitting when something is hard or difficult versus getting out of something, refusing to continue in something that is causing you harm or is no longer serving your growth trajectory.

“It's okay to quit in the middle of something that is no longer serving you or investing in your personal growth." 

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When was the last time you sat in complete silence? Not just a moment without conversation but a true pause- a space free from background noise, notifications or that buzz from daily life. For many of us, silence feels strange, even unsettling. We’re so used to the noise of the world- that silence can feel like a void we don’t know how to fill. But what if that discomfort is actually an invitation? 

If silence feels uncomfortable, it’s worth asking: What am I afraid to hear? Is it the thoughts I’ve been avoiding, the feelings I’ve been suppressing, or the truths I’ve been reluctant to face? The background noise we cling to can sometimes act as a shield, distracting us from the deeper work we’re called to do.

But in the quiet, God meets us.

In those moments, be an active observer of what’s coming into your ears and your mind. Are you allowing distractions to fill the space that silence could occupy? Are there opportunities in your day—while driving, before bed, or early in the morning—to choose quiet instead of noise?

As you grow more comfortable with silence, you’ll notice something remarkable: it’s not empty. It’s full of clarity, peace, and even joy. The quiet becomes a place where you can reflect, reset, and reconnect with God.

Sis, silence is where the growth begins.

Quotes from Today’s Episode

"I want you, and I pray for you to have the courage to be uncomfortable in silence because in that silence is where you begin to start unlocking your joy."

"Maybe the best thing you can do, I feel, I really do feel, is don't try to find something to go jump into as a distraction, but get quiet."

"Rest your brain, rest your eyes and get quiet”

(00:00) Exploring the power and importance of silence.

(04:18) Embrace silence; overcome discomfort and fear.

(07:09) Embrace silence to unlock joy and transformation.

(14:34) Encourage personal growth by embracing uncomfortable silence.

(16:00) Embrace silence and avoid constant distractions.

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