The Ex-Good Girl Podcast (Sara Bybee Fisk)
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| 03 Apr 2024 | Episode 61 - How Working on My People Pleasing is Honoring Me with My Grief with Elizabeth Hester | 00:22:39 | |
Today I have Elizabeth Hester joining me on the podcast. She’s a current member of the Stop People Pleasing group coaching program that started back in January. She’s a mother, teacher, and lifelong student. She’s also the owner of multiple UPS stores in North Carolina. She’s been processing her grief from the loss of her husband in the ways that work best for her. Grieving goes hand in hand with people pleasing- it’s all about getting comfortable with uncomfortable feelings. While in the group program, she’s learned how to stop apologizing, how to say no, and how to respond when strangers ask her about her husband. Grief teaches you to acknowledge how short life is and not waste time people pleasing anymore. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 03 May 2023 | Episode 13 - Healing in a Community of Women | 00:30:24 | |
Community is an essential aspect of life, and when women come together and share their stories, it can be one of the most powerful forms of learning. When women unite, we can achieve great things and make a positive impact on ourselves and the world. Starting a new journey may seem daunting, but it can be made easier by breaking it down into manageable steps. I'll begin by asking you, "Why?" Why do you do the things you do? Why do you feel comfortable doing this? Why don't you enjoy doing that? We've been unconsciously programmed by the patriarchy, and I'm here to help you break down those barriers. Working towards a collective goal enhances our learning and understanding. Witnessing others achieve their goals can also help us apply their teachings to our own lives. You are powerful, and a comfortable life is within your reach. Find Sara here: | |||
| 19 Apr 2023 | Episode 11 - Our Story, Part 1 | 00:35:04 | |
My husband Dan and I are excited to share this episode with you. We'll be discussing the reality of marriage and partnership, including our upbringing, the beginning of our relationship, marriage, children, and how we've grown both individually and as a couple. It's essential, to be honest with ourselves and others, and we'll be diving deep and getting real. Additionally, we'll explore ways to integrate self-care and break free from the patriarchal influences of our society. We've learned a lot through our many years together and are grateful to share our insights with you. Find Sara here: | |||
| 20 Sep 2023 | Episode 33 - Good Girls and Money with Keina Newell | 00:48:09 | |
This week my guest is Keina Newell. Keina is a financial coach and founder of the Wealth Over Now program. We discuss our relationship with money and get into the connection between money and people pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism. Keina discusses how budgeting can be therapeutic and comforting. She talks about how gaining awareness about how you’re spending your money can change your ability to save and achieve your goals. She has her clients ask themselves when they’re shopping: “Why am I buying this thing? What is the feeling that's motivating it? Does it work with the math? Does it work with the budget? Could I just feel this feeling? What would it be like to feel uncomfortable rather than overspend? Rather than extend beyond what the math tells me is a good decision for me?” Keina feels it's her personal mission to help everyone make the money they desire to make and to create the life that they love. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 21 Feb 2024 | Episode 55 - How to Remodel a Relationship | 00:36:40 | |
This episode is all about relationships. As humans, we’re wired for connection and meant to have a variety of dynamics in our lives. Friendship, intimacy, and pleasure are necessary in life, as well as our independence. Life is the balance of independence vs. interdependence. In this episode I offer tools to help assess if you want to keep/continue to invest in the relationships in your life. This is your opportunity to consider your own needs first. Once you’ve assessed your relationship goals with yourself and others, you can move forward with ease and comfort. I can't wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 15 May 2024 | The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break! | 00:03:21 | |
Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes. Find Sara here: | |||
| 06 Mar 2024 | Episode 57 - What If Your Marriage Was A Tool For Liberation? with Maggie Reyes | 00:42:57 | |
Maggie Reyes is a wonderful marriage coach who I had the honor of having as a coach myself. Maggie helped me get to another version of my marriage that has been just so delightful. She has a podcast called “The Marriage Life Coach Podcast.” Maggie’s double-certified as both a Life Coach and a Sex, Love and Relationship coach by two of the most innovative thinkers and teachers in the self development industry: Brooke Castillo and Layla Martin. She also graduated from The Life Coach School (LCS) in 2012 as Certified Professional Life Coach. Back in the day, marriage used to be a business transaction. Now, we're flipping the script and finding liberation through our relationships. We can be the leaders of the relationships that we want to have. Ask yourself: "If we were equal partners, what would that look like?" Say to yourself: "I matter." Feeling freedom of expression in our relationships is essential. Can't wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 16 Apr 2025 | Episode 110 - We Have to Start Thinking Differently About Ourselves, and Here’s How | 00:26:21 | |
So many women blame themselves for their people-pleasing tendencies–I can’t speak up, I apologize too much, I have to avoid conflict at all costs. If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, the first thing I want you to know is that it’s not your fault, and there is nothing wrong with you. We’ve lived our entire lives in a patriarchal system that shapes how we think about ourselves as women. In this episode, I give you a peek behind the curtain of that unconscious operating system and provide a framework to explore–and change–the tendencies that lead us to believe there’s something wrong with us. Here's what I cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 15 Feb 2023 | Episode 1 - What is a Good Girl? | 00:31:03 | |
Do you expend energy and brain space worrying about what other people think of you? Do you seek praise from others? Are you chronically overwhelmed, overscheduled and overcommitted? Do you feel a lack of choice and freedom because of all your duties, obligations and expectations? Do you get those twinges of deep resentment and frustration towards people who say no to you? If you answered yes to any of these then you may be struggling with what I call “Good Girl Syndrome”. In this podcast episode we will explore this archetype and whether or not it is actually working for you. I will ask you questions that help you discover what you actually want and tell you how you can get it. And finally I will talk about how coaching can help you uncover what is happening when you experience these feelings, whether they are working for you, and what your other options could be. Find Sara here: | |||
| 17 Jul 2024 | Episode 71 - I'm Not Living The Beautiful Life I Could Be with Angie Wilson | 00:46:54 | |
I’m so grateful for my beautiful conversation with this week’s guest, Angie Wilson. Angie Wilson is a certified life coach specializing in helping women love their lives after divorce. With a master's degree in social work, Angie brings a rich background of experience to her coaching practice. She worked as a therapist and case manager for two years before dedicating 15 years to being a full-time homeschooling mom to her four amazing kids. In this episode, we dive into our shared background of growing up in conservative, religious families and how this experience impacted our people pleasing tendencies and years of perfectionating. Most importantly, we talk about our journeys to the other side–when we stopped looking outside ourselves for answers and started tuning into our intuition, needs, and desires. Angie's journey, one through divorce, was the most challenging experience of her life. Emerging stronger and more authentic, she transformed into a confident, independent woman. Now, Angie is passionate about guiding other women through recovery after divorce, helping them heal, grow, and find joy and fulfillment. With her compassionate approach and personal insight, Angie empowers her clients to embrace their new beginnings with confidence and optimism, and she brings that same energy to our conversation. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 13 Dec 2023 | Episode 45 - How Claiming Authority Changed Everything for Me: A Conversation with Kara Loewentheil | 00:50:25 | |
My mentor, teacher, friend, and colleague joined me to talk about how claiming authority changed everything for us. Kara Loewentheil, J.D., is a Master certified coach, host of the top-rated podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and creator of The Clutch, a feminist monthly coaching program that has helped tens of thousands of women across the world liberate themselves from the inside out. Women are conditioned to believe power and authority are negative. We notice power and authority if it’s being used against us or being used to do harm, but it can be used to do good as well. Women are socialized from the beginning to believe that power and authority are not for us. We’re here to tell you that it is possible to claim your authority. It takes breaking down the walls society built around us and knowing we have the power to live our full truth. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 29 Nov 2023 | Episode 43 - How to Create Secure Attachment in Relationships | 00:31:57 | |
We are programmed to constantly worry about whether we are safe and loved. This comes from attachment styles we develop early in life. It can be helpful to identify your attachment styles because you can have a different style with different people in your life. In this episode, I’ll give you an overview of attachment styles so that you can think about what yours might be. Our attachment style can change- it's not a fixed verdict. We can do the work to heal the parts of us that limit our comfort in relationships, especially your relationship with yourself. Find Sara here: | |||
| 20 Mar 2024 | Episode 59 - Transparency as a Woman in the Self-Help World | 00:24:58 | |
I want to have a conversation with you about the tension in this self-help marketing space so that you know where I’m coming from. I want you to know what my values are and I want you to know what I'm striving for. I want you to look at the lens of your own values through the products that are being marketed to you, because it is relentless. Making informed decisions about the self-help industry is so essential. Marketing can be misleading. We’re blamed for our problems and then sold products to fix them. There’s a multi-billion dollar industry backing the narrative that we need more. We need that one thing or ten things that might make our lives easier and happier. I’m here to tell you that you don’t need some fabricated form of healing made by society. Healing is feeling like you have the support and opportunities you need to make meaningful change happen in your life. Take care of yourself. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 19 Mar 2025 | Episode 106 - Vagina Business: FemTech with Marina Gerner | 00:46:35 | |
It can be so hard for women to find reliable information about their bodies and what they truly need to be healthy. In this episode, I talk to award-winning journalist and author of The Vagina Business, Marina Gerner. Her book explores FemTech—innovations designed to genuinely support women’s health rather than mislead or market to them with misinformation. Together, we dive into the world of women’s health and knowledge can empower a vibrant female experience. Here’s what we cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen. Marina Gerner’s debut book is out now. THE VAGINA BUSINESS: THE INNOVATIVE BREAKTHROUGHS THAT COULD CHANGE EVERYTHING IN WOMEN’S HEALTH. A deeply researched journalistic investigation, it shines a spotlight on the fantastic potential of femtech (female technology) to transform women’s lives, if it’s done well. As a journalist, she has written about books and arts, as well as finance and tech for over a decade. Her range of expertise has led to Marina being called "a Renaissance woman of the modern age." Marina has won several awards and written for The Economist, Jewish Chronicle, Guardian, Financial Times, Wired, the Times Literary Supplement, The Times, and the Wall Street Journal. She has been a contributing editor at The Sunday Times Raconteur, the i newspaper and MoneyWeek. Find Marina here: https://www.instagram.com/marinagerner/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/marina-gerner-phd-2252ba26/ https://schedule.sxsw.com/2025/events/PP150229 https://www.marinagerner.com/preordernow https://marinagerner.substack.com/ Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 06 Nov 2024 | Episode 87 - Settle-Proof Your Dating and Relationships with Lily Womble | 00:57:35 | |
Do you feel trapped by the “rules” of modern dating? I’m thrilled to be joined by dating coach Lily Womble in today's episode to talk about how to break free from those dumb dating rules. I want each one of you to find the relationship you’re meant to be in, and that starts with making sure you never have to settle in your dating life ever again. Here’s what we cover:
Lily Womble is sparking a feminist revolution in the way we date and find love. She was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S., but after setting up hundreds of dates, Lily realized that the answer to finding love was much deeper than a setup, and that the way we are taught to date is still stuck in the patriarchal dark ages. She founded her company, Date Brazen, in 2018 and has since helped hundreds of women create love lives that are epic, settle-proof, and joyful-as-hell with her intersectional feminist approach. She changes lives daily on TikTok, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast, and sold-out coaching programs world-wide. Her book, Thank You, More Please: A feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules and finding love, is changing lives around the world, published by Legacy Lit. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband, Chris. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Lily here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 19 Jun 2024 | Episode 67 - Expanding Your Capacity for Pleasure with Danielle Savory | 01:04:04 | |
I’m excited to welcome Danielle Savory back to the show this week. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure, and intimacy. When she last joined us in episode 25, “Sexual Power with Danielle Savory,” she left us with the wisdom that “a woman's ability to be present in her body, to seek out and create pleasure for herself, to know what she wants and needs, and to be able to ask for it is the pinnacle of self-connection.” In this episode, we take a deep dive into what this means and explore the importance of giving ourselves permission to experience pleasure. Internal abuse and habitual social conditioning both take a toll on us, not just mentally but physically as well. By connecting with our bodies, we unlock the potential for healing and the ability to experience emotions exactly as we desire. It's a powerful journey toward self-discovery and fulfillment. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 18 Oct 2023 | Episode 37 - Boundaries with Olivia Vizachero | 00:53:39 | |
I am so excited to continue discussing boundaries this week with my special guest Olivia Vizachero! She is a Master certified life coach who helps people choose themselves as their top priority. When we decide to set a boundary and resistance comes up, that's where the work is. We can’t control how others react, we can only control ourselves and our thoughts and actions. Until you set a boundary, you will continue to feel discomfort. Which discomfort do you want to take on - the one that creates the best life for yourself or the one where you live in fear of other people's reactions? Find Sara here: | |||
| 22 Jan 2025 | Episode 98 - Resentment: It's Not Coming From Them with Sara Wilhelm | 00:48:45 | |
Have you ever felt resentment building, only to realize your own choices have led you to that place? A huge source of resentment is mistakenly blaming others for decisions that we are responsible for, but recognizing your power to control this can be transformative. In this episode, my guest, Sara Wilhelm, shares her recent breakthrough in understanding her resentment, and how she has made a plan to move forward in the direction of living more according to her values. Here’s what we cover:
I can't wait for you to listen! Find Sara here: | |||
| 04 Sep 2024 | Episode 78 - Unconventional Choices: Alternative Relationship Structures with Ali Ryan and Laura Jurgens | 01:03:33 | |
This week, I continue my series on unconventional choices by exploring alternative relationship structures. I am incredibly thankful to my guests, Ali Ryan and Dr. Laura Jurgens, for sharing their insight on alternative relationship structures and their experience and advice on navigating them with love and respect. Ali Ryan is the CEO of Ali Ryan Coaching. Ali is a certified feminist integrative coach dedicated to disrupting the status quo in parenting and leadership and shifting intergenerational cycles of trauma. With influence from her unique background and personal journey, Ali helps families and leaders break free from traditional molds, embrace more compassionate approaches, and foster environments where individuals can thrive and flourish, regardless of their past or present challenges. Dr. Laura Jurgens hosts the podcast Sex Help for Smart People and specializes in helping people connect better to themselves and their partners by playing their way to better intimacy. A dual-certified cognitive and somatic coach and former research scientist and biology professor, Laura uses experiential practices to enable individuals and couples to build joyful confidence. Her approach is practical, research-based, inclusive, and de-shaming. Together, they bring invaluable perspectives on relationship structures and how to engage in loving, consensual relationships that fulfill your wants and needs. If you’re interested in understanding alternative relationships or exploring the structure for yourself, or you want to take a more intentional approach to the type of relationship you choose to be part of, this episode is for you. Join us and learn how to excavate your actual desires from beneath your societal, good-girl programming and engage in relationships that align with your most authentic self. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Laura here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 14 Aug 2024 | Episode 75 - How To Drink Like a Woman Who Loves Herself with Colleen Kachmann | 00:41:26 | |
I am so grateful for my conversation with this week’s guest, Colleen Kachmann, where we tackle an important and often tricky topic: drinking. Tune in as we explore how drinking is tied to perfectionism and people pleasing and how, thanks to her own journey, Colleen is helping women rise above it. Colleen is a Certified Master Life & Recovery Coach who uses cutting-edge strategies in nervous system regulation, growth mindset, positive psychology, and self-directed neuroplasticity to help women reconnect with a higher sense of purpose so they can feel passionate and powerful again. She holds a Bachelor of Science in education, a Master of Science in coaching, and a professional certificate in Women’s Functional and Integrative Medicine. Through her own experience with alcoholism, Colleen founded Recover with Colleen after realizing that being “sober” is not a good goal. Pursuing happiness instead of sobriety is the ONLY way to reclaim your power. Once you realize that you can actually trust yourself, the only rule you need to follow is your intuition – you just need to learn how to listen. Colleen helps women bypass the stigma and drama that society associates with sobriety by focusing on what’s really important – our relationship with ourselves. Her passion is to help women liberate themselves from the oppressive belief that there is something fundamentally broken or flawed about them so that they can unlock a higher level of purpose, passion, and power. I can’t wait for you to listen. PLEASE NOTE that while Colleen's approach is empowering, it might not be suitable for individuals with alcohol use disorder or active alcohol addiction. If you or someone you know is struggling with severe alcohol issues, please seek professional help tailored to those needs. Find Sara here: | |||
| 15 Jan 2025 | Episode 97 - Stop People Pleasing: Current Members Share! | 00:54:54 | |
I want every woman to have the ability to create a life of her choosing, filled with the freedom to embrace her desires. I’ve worked hard to create a program that helps women achieve this, but the real magic of my Stop People Pleasing program comes from the women themselves who are willing to take risks, expand their capacity for feeling uncomfortable, and develop the skills needed to live authentically without the weight of constantly pleasing others. In this episode, I’m so grateful to be joined by four amazing women from my program–Allyssya, Sara, Stephanie, and Susan–who share their journeys with people pleasing. You'll hear about the changes they have made in their daily lives and in how they see themselves. Here’s what we cover:
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| 24 May 2023 | Episode 16 - F*ck Around and Find Out with Melanie Childers | 00:53:21 | |
In this week's episode, we f*ck around and find out! Our special guest is Melanie Childers, one of my closest friends in the business world. If you haven't found a business bestie yet, I strongly recommend you do, because Melanie plays a crucial role in reminding me of my true self and my immense capabilities. She's the driving force behind The Bad Bitch Mastermind, and you can find her podcast, The Bad Bitch Entrepreneur, on any podcast platform. During our conversation, we deal with processing emotions and how our past experiences have shaped us into who we are today. Now is the time to toss out the rule book and define what truly works for you. Embrace your individuality and make choices that align with your unique path. Find Sara here: | |||
| 04 Oct 2023 | Episode 35 - Women Talking: Movie Review with Chelsea Paxton | 01:20:40 | |
This is a powerful episode about an important movie, ”Women Talking”. I'm joined by Chelsea Paxton as we delve into the film's themes and the significance of language and speaking up. Sadly, women are often not taken seriously and are taught to suppress their feelings. Questions like "Are you really hungry?" or "Did that really hurt?" are dismissed with responses like "You’re fine," undermining women's experiences. It's crucial to change this lack of belief. Society often tries to dictate our roles, but reconnecting with our bodies and wanting is a challenge we can overcome. With the right resources and collective effort, we can create a more empowering and inclusive world. Find Sara here: | |||
| 31 Jul 2024 | Episode 73 - What I'm Working On At The Moment | 00:15:51 | |
This episode is all about honesty and vulnerability as I share what I’m currently working on in my life. While I’m a coach, I’m a person, too. As a person, I struggle with and navigate many challenges, especially those specifically related to womanhood. These experiences, part of my ongoing journey of growth and learning, make me a great coach and, despite what negative self-talk might try to convince me, a great human, just like you. So, if you’re struggling with anything or working through something, I want you to know that I’m in it with you, and I’m here to support you. Can’t wait for you to listen. Here’s a link to Episode 59: Transparency as a Woman in the Self-Help World, referenced in this episode. Find Sara here: | |||
| 03 Apr 2025 | Episode 108 - Why Are So Many Women Leaving the Church? | 00:39:14 | |
After speaking with Britt Hartley in last week's episode, several listeners sent me the same video of Jared Halvorson attempting to call women back to the church. Today, I want to respond to that video and continue exploring how the tools of organized religion—Christianity in particular—were not designed with women in mind. We’ll dive into the harmful ways institutions view women and examine how patriarchy affects everyone--even those with good intentions. Here’s what I cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Jared Halvorson’s apology video: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DH06jbisdK2/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA%3D%3D Crystal Hall: https://www.crystalhallphd.com/ Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 18 Sep 2024 | Episode 80 - When the Internet Mob Comes for You with Sandy Connery and Jeni Barcelos | 00:49:57 | |
This week, my guests and I invite you to join a conversation we’ve been having over the last few years about women in business and the power of using, or not using, our voices in the face of cancel culture and online scrutiny. I’m thrilled to welcome Sandy Connery and Jeni Barcelos, friends, business owners, and co-founders of Marvelous Software. Sandy and Jeni, with their courage and resilience, share their experience facing the internet mob in 2020, how they navigated the situation while keeping their business afloat, and what they wish they could have done differently. As we delve into this timely topic, we’ll explore how to show up thoughtfully online and engage constructively with one another, even amidst social unrest and differing opinions. We might stir up some controversy, but we believe that sometimes, embracing your authentic self is worth a bit of trouble. I can’t wait for you to listen! Find Jeni and Sandy here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 22 Mar 2023 | Episode 7 - Too Much and Not Enough | 00:20:57 | |
The patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of life imposes certain values and expectations on the way women think, feel, and choose to live. When we fail to meet these expectations, we can often feel lackluster or unsatisfied. Even if we do attain these expectations, there is always another critique looming about the deficit in our lives. In this episode, we will discuss how perfectionism is a manifestation of these societal pressures, and explore ways to shift our mindset to focus on being better, rather than perfect. It's possible to feel accomplished in this society by doing things that bring us joy and make us feel whole. Instead of fixating on what we could do better, we can focus on celebrating our daily small wins and identifying what truly matters to us. What can you prioritize and celebrate more in your life? What are your daily achievements, no matter how small? How can you experience genuine satisfaction? Join me as I delve into these questions and more. Find Sara here: | |||
| 12 Feb 2025 | Episode 101 - What Does Eve Have To Do With Perimenopause? | 00:37:21 | |
If you follow me on social media or regularly listen to this podcast, you might know that I have taken on the role of a volunteer perimenopause missionary. This stage of life has had a significant impact on me, as well as my sisters and friends—just as it does for all women at a certain point. In this episode, I investigate how the lack of information and support for women going through perimenopause ties back to one important factor: how religious teachings about Eve have influenced the way society views and treats women. Here's what we cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 26 Apr 2023 | Episode 12 - Our Story, Part 2 | 00:41:11 | |
In this episode, My husband and I share many life experiences that have helped shape us into happier, healthier individuals. We prioritize authenticity with ourselves and each other, even though navigating life and relationships can be complex. We've come to realize how much we're influenced by outside forces, and we've learned to condition ourselves to be loving and respectful to all, including ourselves. We show up to honor each other's experiences and choose each other consciously every day. Unearthing self-love requires de-conditioning from things that were forced upon us. Remember, you own your life. We're here to share our story and remind you of your own power. Find Sara here: | |||
| 19 Feb 2025 | Episode 102 - Sex is Not "Extra" with Dr. Kelly Casperson | 00:52:03 | |
In her book, You Are Not Broken, Dr. Kelly Casperson points out the societal myth that sex is just “extra”--something to enjoy while it lasts and accept when it’s gone. I'm excited to welcome Dr. Casperson to the podcast today to discuss the impact of cultural stigmas about women's health and sexuality, and expand on last week’s episode about practical ways women can advocate for themselves when it comes to perimenopause. Here’s what we cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen. Check out these resources mentioned by Dr. Casperson: https://www.joinmidi.com/about-us https://www.blackswanltd.com/never-split-the-difference Find Kelly here: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/you-are-not-broken-book/ https://kellycaspersonmd.com/you-are-not-broken-podcast/ https://www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd/ Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 26 Feb 2025 | Episode 103 - Ten Things That Will Help Any Relationship | 00:24:20 | |
When it comes to relationships, we are designed to seek safety, belonging, and connection–we all want to know that we matter. For people pleasers and perfectionists, this commonly shows up as using certain behaviors to “earn” love in return, but that often doesn’t help cultivate real connection. In this episode, I offer you ten strategies you can use to improve any relationship no matter where you are in your journey. Here’s what I cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen. Listen to episode 23 of the podcast to practice saying what you want to say. Listen to episodes 36 and 37 of the podcast to dive deeper into the difference between boundaries, expectations, and preferences. Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 24 Jan 2024 | Episode 51 - The Size of Our Wanting is the Size of Our Life | 00:28:11 | |
Our wanting is essential and important. Women feel shame around wanting because we’ve been taught to not want things. “Don't be needy or selfish.” How many times have you heard or felt this? Do you choose not to hope or strive for your heart's desires because it's easier to not want than to be disappointed? Wanting is opening up to your curiosity on your path to self-discovery. You can want impossible things. You can have a big beautiful full thriving life doing what you want to do. I want you to love who you are; to have the experience of love and being in awe of ourselves is what I want for all of us. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 07 Aug 2024 | Episode 74 - The Female Double Bind and How to Get OUT | 00:22:32 | |
With everything happening in our world right now, especially politically here in the United States, we need to talk about the female double blind–the impossible double standards to which women are held that create no-win situations for us. So many examples of this show up in our everyday lives and are perpetuated by the media, and it needs to stop. In this episode, I delve into these double standards and the language that reinforces them, all aimed at keeping women from attaining leadership and power. As strong women, it’s time to dissect, understand, and reject the female double bind, no matter where you fall on the political spectrum. It’s time to see these double standards, call them out, and hold those perpetuating them accountable. The female double bind is always a trap, but together, we have the power to reject and rise above it. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 31 May 2023 | Episode 17 - Good Girls and Body Image with Corinne Crabtree | 00:52:53 | |
This week on The Ex Good Girl Podcast, I had a very special guest on this episode: Corinne Crabtree. She is an expert in helping women lose weight and feel as amazing as they truly deserve. Over a million women have taken her free weight loss course, and now she serves more than 14,000 paid members in the no BS weight loss program. The diet industry has perpetuated a damaging mentality about what we should and shouldn't eat and how we should live. It takes time and support to break down the boundaries created by society and its fake rules. When we devalue ourselves, society ultimately wins. Instead, we should establish our own rules based on love. Corinne's work emphasizes shedding the mental weight we carry around. We transformed our internal conversations and now share our knowledge with the world. It's all about making the conscious decision in every moment to prioritize yourself and your well-being. Let's celebrate ourselves daily! Find Sara here: | |||
| 09 Oct 2024 | Episode 83 - The Drama Triangle with Andrea Parks | 00:57:47 | |
Have you ever felt stuck in the same patterns in your relationships, unsure how to break free? In this episode, I sit down with Andrea Parks, a therapist who dives deep into the hidden dynamics that hold us back. Andrea shares how we can shift out of these roles and start truly healing and reclaiming our power. Tune in as we explore how these patterns can keep us stuck and how, through her unique perspective, Andrea helps guide people toward healing and empowerment. Andrea is a therapist and facilitator who specializes in trauma, codependency, and life transitions. She owns Bloom Healing, where she creates spaces for individuals to come together, heal, and reconnect with their authentic selves. With a background in counseling psychology, somatic bodywork, and developmental trauma, Andrea brings a wealth of experience to her practice and a deep commitment to fostering growth. Through her work, Andrea helps people break free from the roles they’ve taken on in relationships and empowers them to live more fulfilled, connected lives. Her passion is to create communities where healing is possible, allowing people to find their voice and power in a supportive environment. Find Sara here: | |||
| 09 Apr 2025 | Episode 109 - How to Stop Emotional Eating Without Shame with Laura Conley | 00:33:40 | |
It’s so common to tie our worth to our weight—this message has been ingrained in us from a young age. But the truth is, no number on the scale can give you the value and worth you're searching for. I’m so excited for you to hear my conversation with Laura Conley, a coach who helps moms lose weight for the last time. We talk about how our health isn’t tied to diet culture or calorie-counting, but to reconnecting with yourself and your body from a place of love and curiosity. Here’s what we cover:
I can't wait for you to listen! Find Laura Here: https://theyummymummy.lauraconley.com/3stepcalories https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lose-weight-for-the-last-time-with-laura-conley/ https://www.instagram.com/lauraconleycoaching/ Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 20 Dec 2023 | Episode 46 - People Pleasing and Parenting with Andee Martineau, Part 1 | 00:35:46 | |
Andee Martineau and I have a long history together. She introduced me to coaching. She has 6 kids and I have 5. We home-schooled our kids together and have a common religious background. She’s a true friend who’s been there for me and is along for the ride. Parenting is a hard job and learning how to stay healthy, balance, and manage everything life throws at us is a lifelong process. We can develop the skills to regulate our nervous system, handle what life throws at us, and stop people pleasing while parenting, as well as creating future people pleasers. Find Sara here: | |||
| 07 Feb 2024 | Episode 53 - Imposter Syndrome with Kori Linn | 01:01:06 | |
In this episode, Kori Linn and I discuss Imposter Syndrome. Kori is a life and career coach as well as the host of the Satisfied AF podcast. She helps clients, listeners, and social media followers create more satisfaction & delight in every area of their lives. Imposter syndrome points the finger at individuals and burdens them with being “better” or improving. It burdens the marginalized individual with changing so that they can fit the system without criticizing the system. People socialized as girls and women are literally trained to have imposter syndrome. We're socialized to second guess ourselves, be polite, and not to brag. Unwinding imposter syndrome starts with asking, “What are your perspectives of yourself and what would happen if you treated yourself with confidence?” Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 30 Aug 2023 | Episode 30 - You're Not Selfish | 00:28:26 | |
How many times a day do you find yourself thinking, 'I’m selfish for doing this for me instead of doing something for someone else.' You're not alone. Rather than prioritizing our own well-being, women often give themselves only scraps of our day for self-care. Cultural expectations put women into roles that often call for them to be selfless, aka the caregiver or the nurturer. Humans who have been socialized as females tend to feel held to the “rules” of gender roles from the past. These ingrained expectations are further perpetuated by media and pop culture, reinforcing traditional gender stereotypes. Breaking free from the programming takes time and focus, but that's what I’m here for. Let's get to the root of the issue and change the way we think in order to heal this discomfort. You can do what you want without taking from others. It’s about balance but also about embracing you and all you’re capable of. Find Sara here: | |||
| 08 Mar 2023 | Episode 5 - My Story Part 2 | 00:32:24 | |
How do our beliefs take shape? Are they ingrained subconsciously? Are you hiding your true feelings or opinions to avoid conflict? Straying from societal norms can be scary, as we may feel left out or isolated. Fear can keep us in a corner, but self-love and embracing our truth can help us break free. In this episode, I will explore how our society and certain groups train women to prioritize agreeableness, friendliness, and compliance. We may be trained to wait for external validation, but we can learn to trust ourselves and our inner dialogue. Join me as I delve deeper into these topics and offer practical advice on how to speak up for yourself and others. Find Sara here: | |||
| 01 May 2024 | Episode 64 - How I Created a Secure Relationship With My Husband | 00:40:14 | |
I am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him. This lack of safety and insecurity in our relationship, I eventually realized, existed because I wasn’t safe with myself, and it wasn’t until I learned to create that safety with me that I could start to create safety in our relationship. When I did learn to become secure in myself, I was able to see more clearly what needed to change in our marriage, and I had the strength to ask for that change. In this episode, I talk about how I learned to create security with myself and how from there, I began creating security in my marriage and all my relationships. For those of you who are, like I was, feeling stuck in a painful relationship, I hope this episode will give you some clues into your own process of creating security in yourself first and in your relationships second. I can’t wait for you to listen, and I’d love to hear your thoughts when you do. Find Sara here: | |||
| 27 Mar 2024 | Episode 60 - Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships with Kimberly Mathis | 00:56:29 | |
I’m so grateful for my guest Kimberly Mathis and this week’s fascinating conversation. Kimberly is a queer therapist-turned-general life coach with an ADHD brain who helps people change what feels unchangeable. She teaches her clients how to make their own decisions and navigate difficult relationships - including the one they have with themselves. She works with clients 1:1, loves sharing her work and life with her community on Instagram, and hosts a podcast called, "Decisions Change Everything." Healthy, respectful relationships can come in many forms. Traditional Western society pushes a heteronormative narrative about what makes a “successful” relationship- where longevity is valued more than quality. It IS possible to explore attractions and relationship dynamics in ways that are healthy, respectful, and respect your autonomy and someone else's. Communication is key, along with being vulnerable and tolerating discomfort. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 15 Mar 2023 | Episode 6 - The Goldilocks Zone | 00:24:23 | |
In this episode, we will explore the concept of the Goldilocks Zone. Our Western patriarchal society often tells women that there is a "right" way to be, and as a result, we can feel like we are either too much or not enough. We have been programmed to be hypersensitive to the opinions of others and to internalize those thoughts as if they are facts. There is a balance to be found between being selfish and being a people pleaser. It takes time and guidance to find what feels right for you. Throughout this podcast, I'll offer you guidance on how to navigate the space between extremes. I'll share tips on how to unplug from outside opinions of what you should be and instead, focus on relentlessly loving yourself. By the end of this episode, you will have a better understanding of how to find your own Goldilocks Zone and embrace your true self. Find Sara here: | |||
| 12 Apr 2023 | Episode 10 - Five Challenges That Will Change Your Life | 00:35:24 | |
Do you suppress your true emotions just to avoid conflict and keep the peace? Does your body feel relaxed, or is it trying to tell you how you really feel? Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency can take over our lives. But we can learn to become detectives in our own lives and stop this toxic behavior. Eventually, the changes we make will align with our decision-making process. In this episode, I explore the Five Challenges that have helped me become the most authentic and real version of myself. We need to be honest with ourselves, learn to ask for what we want, say No more often, be okay with disappointing others, and take care of ourselves. This episode offers many helpful tools to live more freely and comfortably. Find Sara here: | |||
| 21 Jun 2023 | Episode 20 - "I Will Not Lose Myself" with Hannah Carlisle and Michelle Call | 01:06:37 | |
This heartfelt conversation sheds light on the possibility of discovering your true self and living authentically. Hannah Carlise and Michelle Call, therapist/life coach, join me in discussing coming out later in life and navigating conservative religious upbringings. Choosing ourselves may be challenging, and dismantling the barriers of societal conditioning takes time. If you find yourself constantly neglecting your own needs, it's time to break that pattern. Hannah and Michelle's stories serve as proof that you can liberate yourself from guilt and shame and live from your heart. Whenever you feel doubt, remember there are others out there going through something similar. Find Sara here: | |||
| 07 Jun 2023 | Episode 18 - What Needs To Be Said with Alex Reegan | 01:11:19 | |
I am thrilled for you to tune in to this important episode of the Ex-Good Girl Podcast! In this episode, my dear friend Alex Reegan and I delve into the significance of feeling acknowledged and seen. Alex is a remarkable individual—a trans man, interfaith minister, author, speaker, and transformative spiritual coach. Growing up in an evangelical Christian family, he faced tremendous barriers in expressing his true identity. This led to years of battling depression, anxiety, and addiction as he sought to break free from the oppressive beliefs that constrained him. Through his inspiring journey, Alex finally found solace in sobriety, shamanism, and seminary education, which enabled him to reclaim his faith and trust in the Divine. With unwavering dedication, Alex empowers others through speaking engagements, workshops, and personalized sessions, helping them unearth their truth, shed shame, and foster unity. Additionally, he wrote an incredible book titled 'What Needs to be Said.' This episode centers around the transformative process of self-discovery and the path that leads us there. Alex is a true force of nature, wholeheartedly committed to choosing love and guiding others along their own journeys. I had the pleasure of meeting him in 2018, and he has profoundly impacted my life in countless ways. I strongly believe that we all have much to gain from listening and learning. I am immensely grateful for this extraordinary episode and, most of all, for Alex's presence in our lives. Find Sara here: | |||
| 12 Mar 2025 | Episode 105 - People Pleasing and Friendship with Jewel Hohman | 00:51:52 | |
Connection is a fundamental human need, yet many feel disempowered when it comes to making friends or deepening existing relationships. Today, I’m joined by connection coach Jewel Hohman to discuss the importance of strong friendships and how people-pleasing tendencies affect our ability to form meaningful bonds. Here’s what we cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen! As a connection enthusiast with a degree in psychology and sociology, over 4000 hours coaching on connection, and a pending master’s in social work, Jewel combines evidence-based self-help and the latest friendship research to help people build friendships that actually nourish them. In a post-pandemic world where millions are lonelier and more disconnected than ever, this conversation is urgent but mostly ignored, and Jewel is on a mission to change that! Find Jewel here: Instagram.com/connectionwithjewel https://www.connectionwithjewel.com/podcast https://www.connectionwithjewel.com/resources Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 11 Oct 2023 | Episode 36 - The B-word: Boundaries | 00:29:02 | |
Boundaries are about learning to share the power in any situation by identifying actions within your control. This week's and next week's episodes are all about boundaries. I have a special guest joining me next week, Olivia Vizachero, who will help me continue the conversation. Being a good girl means not having boundaries. It means that you are constantly prioritizing other people, putting off the things you need to do, and putting yourself, your needs, and your wants after everyone else's. You're praised and rewarded for it. But there’s another way of operating- establishing healthy boundaries. You can show kindness and love for yourself and others by setting boundaries with what works for you. It just takes some work and focus. Imagine how you would feel if you allowed some discomfort for your overall benefit. There are steps to take to make life function and flow for you. Can’t wait for you to listen. <3 Find Sara here: | |||
| 10 May 2023 | Episode 14 - Mother-Daughter Relationships with Karen C.L. Anderson | 01:14:39 | |
In this week's episode, Sara interviews Karen C.L. Anderson, a Master certified life coach and author who specializes in coaching about the mother/adult daughter relationship. They discuss the challenges that often arise in this particular relationship, exploring the generational aspects and the societal shift towards acknowledging trauma and the importance of emotional expression. Karen shares insights from her own journey of estrangement from her mother and the subsequent healing process, emphasizing the need to separate one's identity from the expectations imposed by the mother-daughter dynamic. They delve into topics such as people-pleasing, guilt, regret, and the significance of setting boundaries in a relationship. Karen's approach highlights the importance of self-love and acceptance, challenging the belief that unconditional love is contingent on meeting certain conditions. Sara and Karen conclude by discussing the power of questioning and redefining the roles and stories that have been passed down through generations, offering a fresh perspective on nurturing healthier mother-daughter connections. Find Sara here: | |||
| 31 Jan 2024 | Episode 52 - Let's Talk about Infidelity with Andrea Giles | 01:11:14 | |
This week I’m joined by Andrea Giles. She's a certified life coach and has a podcast called “Heal From Infidelity”. Andrea helps women sort out the confusion, grief, fear, doubt, and frustration that comes when infidelity (as well as other forms of betrayal) occurs in their marriage. Today we talk about our life stories and what got us here. We’re both on healing journeys and were part of similar religious worlds. Andrea shares her story of loss, dating, and parenting. Vulnerability and validation can make betrayal or being betrayed complex and tricky. People override their integrity for the feeling of belonging by stepping outside their marriage or partnership, and people pleasing contributes to the damage. We can work at this self-deception. Can’t wait for you to listen.
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| 05 Jun 2024 | Episode 65 - The People Pleaser's Guide to Co-Parenting with Mikki Gardner | 01:01:54 | |
I really enjoyed my insightful and empowering conversation with this week’s guest, Mikki Gardner. Mikki is a mom to a teenage son, a Certified Life + Conscious Parenting Coach, the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence podcast, and the bestselling author of the People Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well. After navigating her own divorce hurdles and emerging stronger, she has made it her mission to help moms gain clarity so they can navigate divorce and co-parent with love and confidence. This week, we discuss co-parenting, whether we are still married to the person we're co-parenting with or not, whether they're another family member or someone else with whom we have a relationship. Mikki shares beautiful parenting principles and practical strategies on how to break free from societal conditioning and shift your energy to move away from what you don’t want and towards what you do want so you can be the actively loving parent your child needs. I can’t wait for you to listen.
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| 03 Jul 2024 | Episode 69 - Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part Two: Listen In On This Coaching Call | 00:35:51 | |
Welcome to part two of my series on how to make lasting, positive changes in your life. In part one, I shared my framework for change and three things you need to make it work: awareness, capacity, and skills. In this episode, I share a conversation I had during a coaching call with an amazing client. During this call, we discussed how she uses awareness, capacity, and the skills she's been learning in our sessions to stop abandoning herself and stop people pleasing. I am so grateful that she agreed to share this snippet from her session so that you can hear how awareness, capacity, and skills facilitate the shift to honoring yourself in real-life situations for lasting, positive change. After you listen, don’t forget to sign up for From Stuck to Secure, my masterclass and workshop series kicking off on June 25th, so you, too, can feel confident and secure as you learn to honor your needs and show up for yourself. Find Sara here: | |||
| 17 May 2023 | Episode 15 - The Power of Having a Coach with Krista St-Germain | 00:54:15 | |
My former coach, Krista St-Germain, interviewed me for her podcast The Widowed Mom a while ago, and I'm excited to share it on The Ex-Good Girl. During the interview, we discuss people-pleasing: defining it and ways to overcome it. We also explore how our connection with ourselves can vary from person to person. This episode is particularly special to me as Krista has been incredibly helpful in my life. It serves as a reminder of the profound impact a good coach can have. People-pleasing can come at a significant cost: the amount of time and energy we spend on constantly cycling through thoughts about others and what they think of us. Some women can spend up to 3 to 5 hours a day in this cycle. It's about reclaiming our time, brain space, energy, and peace. With the help of the right coach, we can break free from this rumination wheel and take control of our lives. Find Sara here: | |||
| 27 Dec 2023 | Episode 47 - People Pleasing and Parenting with Andee Martineau, Part 2 | 00:34:10 | |
Andee Martineau and I continue our conversation this week about people pleasing and parenting. Tolerating failures and disappointments with your children can be challenging but it is possible to deal with. The need to fix, save, and/or rescue can be consuming. As a parent, you have to be true to yourself and respect yourself first while also respecting and loving others. Stopping the patterns and the cycles of people pleasing is possible with awareness. Find Sara here: | |||
| 15 Nov 2023 | Episode 41 - Synthetic Gratitude: Why It Sucks and What To Do About It | 00:26:28 | |
“Just be grateful for what you have.” How many of you have heard this before? This is synthetic gratitude, which is a form of gratitude that is expected of women to provide and perform- to show we are staying in our place. I think understanding how synthetic gratitude works will be really helpful. In this episode, I’ve broken down 4 things that I've noticed due to synthetic gratitude and how to change it for your betterment. Can’t wait for you to listen! Find Sara here: | |||
| 01 Mar 2023 | Episode 4 - My Story Part 1 | 00:36:23 | |
Episodes 4 & 5 are about my story and the experiences that shaped my opinions and views. Experiences can take different forms - they can be both full of love and harmful teachings, create wonderful connections and deep anxiety, and be important for one phase of life but lose their significance as circumstances change. In this episode, I talk about my upbringing in the LDS (Mormon) Church, how it influenced me, and why I ultimately left. When I created Stop People Pleasing, it was from a deeply personal autobiographical experience. People pleasing can feel like walking through life with 20-pound weights shackled to each ankle. You can do it, but you'll be dragging a lot of resentment, fear, and obligation with you, and you don't have to. Much of what I was taught contributed to this. I'm deeply grateful for some of it, but unlearning some of it was necessary to reclaim my sovereignty. Whether it was religion, family culture, or society that taught you to be small or less than you are, it's time for the unlearning. Find Sara here: | |||
| 23 Oct 2024 | Episode 85 - Why Feminism Still Matters | 00:23:46 | |
On my recent trip to Bolivia, I had an interaction that reignited my thoughts on feminism. In this episode, I explore why feminism remains a vital lens for understanding our world and shaping our actions. Here's what I cover:
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| 10 Jul 2024 | Episode 70 - "I am so F*cking Proud of Myself" - Conversations with Women Who Have Stopped People Pleasing | 00:54:17 | |
I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to sit down with Allyssya Gossett, Abby Wolfson, and Jayne Newman to dig into what it's like to be a woman programmed to people please—and what it's like to be a woman who stops. Allyssya is an educator and life coach who helps women step outside their comfort zone and into confidence so they can live the life they imagine. Abby is a child sleep coach, a parent coach to single moms by choice, a former pediatric nurse practitioner, and a mom of three. And Jayne is a self-described recovering people pleaser with a familiar story: good times, bad times—life—but one that keeps getting better as she goes. All three of these remarkable women have gone through the Stop People Pleasing program and done the incredibly hard work of learning to live honestly and authentically despite other people’s discomfort. In the episode, each of them shares what the process has been like, how their world has shifted, and what happened that they didn't expect—like how eliminating people pleasing hasn't made them selfish but instead made them value their wants and needs equally. Or how eliminating people pleasing hasn’t meant changing their personality but showing up as their real self. Finally, they share about how hard this work is and how the support of other women makes them feel brave enough to do it. I hope this episode will help you find clarity, solidarity, and courage wherever you are on the journey to stop people pleasing. Find Abby here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 14 Jun 2023 | Episode 19 - Pleasure is a Human Right with Dr. Sonia Wright, MD | 01:01:23 | |
This is an exciting episode! Dr. Sonia Wright and I discuss pleasure and sex. She has opened my mind in so many ways and I hold her very close to my heart - We were in the same Master Certification class. Dr. Wright is not only a medical doctor and pediatric radiologist by training, but also a trained sexual counselor, master-certified life coach, and a passionate advocate of sexual empowerment. She's also a toys enthusiast and a midlife sex coach for women. Together, we delve into sexual intimacy, sexual orientation, gender, and women's health. Giving yourself permission to explore and discover who you really are is possible. Life is about enjoying it, we don’t have to fit into the good-girl mould and check off all of society's boxes. Everyone deserves to experience pleasure, and it's essential to make it a natural part of our conversations. Find Sara here: | |||
| 02 Aug 2023 | Episode 26 - I'm Turning 50! (And I have a present for YOU!) | 00:32:53 | |
It’s my 50th birthday this week and I never truly believed my life could be this good! My life is fulfilling, rich, and brimming with joy, opportunities, and meaningful friendships. It's both nourishing and beautiful, yet also challenging. I couldn't have imagined being where I am now, but here I am. I know many of us are walking together on this path. That's how I see us – co-travelers, supporting each other as we navigate the journey of creating a fulfilling life based on our wanting. So, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on how I got here and share it with you as my birthday gift to YOU! Can’t wait to celebrate together! Find Sara here: | |||
| 26 Jun 2024 | Episode 68 - The Three Things You Need to Make a Change: Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part One | 00:21:11 | |
Do you know what you need to make a change? I do. I can’t wait to share my framework for change with you. To make a lasting change, you need three things: awareness, capacity, and skills. In this episode, I share real-life strategies and examples of these three elements, and I invite you to join me on July 15 from 1-2 PM PST for a free skill-building workshop. It’s easy to get stuck on the “skills” part of making a change, which is why my Stop People Pleasing group coaching programs and workshops are designed to empower you to develop and practice new skills with courage, openness, and support. Get ready to delve into the process of change and learn how to navigate the discomfort that often accompanies it. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 11 Dec 2024 | Episode 92 - Grief Around the Holidays with Susie Ruth | 00:33:04 | |
The hopes and expectations we have going into the holiday season make this time of year particularly susceptible to feeling grief. In this week's conversation with Susie Ruth, an end-of-life coach and grief specialist, we discuss strategies for navigating grief and offer insights on how best to support someone grieving during the holidays. Here’s what we cover:
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| 01 Jan 2025 | Episode 95 - How To Set Goals That Actually Work with Goli Kalkhoran | 00:55:29 | |
When it comes to goals and to-do lists, the unrealistic expectations we often have lead to feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. Whether you want to set a goal for the new year or achieve a task this weekend, today’s guest, Goli Kalkhoran, shares why we often overreach and how to set practical and fulfilling goals that lead to success instead of shame. Here’s what we cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen. Goli Kalkhoran is Master Certified Life Coach, and former attorney, who helps unfulfilled professionals create a career (and life) they actually like. She is the host of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast where she uses her platform to de-stigmatize quitting and provide resources and inspiration to individuals looking to pivot in their established careers. She challenges people to exceed their own expectations and guides them through the initial steps of starting over in order to build a more intentional, fulfilling life. Find Goli here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 20 Jul 2023 | Episode 24 - The Powerful Combination of Choice and Voice | 00:31:58 | |
A revolution happens when women say what they want, especially when their words align with their real feelings. When you can express how you really feel, it makes you feel more comfortable standing up for yourself and setting expectations. One of the key aspects I teach my clients is how to articulate themselves effectively during difficult conversations. We are capable of updating the relationships in our life to match our wants and needs. Connecting to our own wants and needs is a process but it can be an incredible journey. One of the greatest advantages of remaining authentic, no matter the situation, is that there's no need to put on a performance to feel accepted. Having confidence and knowing that we can handle the stress that comes with advocating for ourselves is so important. The ultimate goal is to achieve overall integrity and lasting comfort. Find Sara here: | |||
| 22 Feb 2023 | Episode 3 - Stop The Ride, I Want to Get Off | 00:19:19 | |
So how do we stop being a “Good Girl”? I will dive right into 5 steps you can take to break the cycle of people pleasing, perfectionism, and invite you to join me in recovering from “Good Girl Syndrome”! Do you want to teach your own brain a new way of being? How can we apply these steps at work, with our parents, and families? Is guilt and shame normal and how can we stay out of overwhelm AND feel our feelings? You can learn how to shed the “Good Girl” role and move yourself in the direction of becoming who you want to be in the world! I can help provide you with the tools you will need. Don’t let your discomfort dictate your life. Build trust in yourself and have your own back! I got you and you got this. Find Sara here: | |||
| 25 Oct 2023 | Episode 38 - Why are the Holidays so Hard? | 00:29:28 | |
Let's talk about holidays and expectations. We want to make special memories for our loved ones but often put our own needs to the side to please everyone else. Boundaries can be tougher with family because of our upbringing. From gifting to decorating then planning, shopping, and cooking… the list goes on. I’m stressed out just talking about it! But there is a way to reduce that stress and make yourself genuinely happy while doing kind things for others. This episode is an emotional survival guide to the holidays and I’ll be discussing 4 steps you can take to make this time easier. Holiday happiness is possible for all- it just takes time, focus, and setting intentions beforehand. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 28 Feb 2024 | Episode 56 - How To Advocate For Yourself in a Medical Setting with Sara Hughes Zabawa | 00:53:26 | |
This week, Sara Hughes-Zabawa LCSW, CDWF joins me to talk about advocating for yourself in a medical setting. Sara is a therapist, licensed clinical social worker, Certified Daring Way™ facilitator, yoga instructor, & wellness coach. She’s passionate about helping clients thrive as they enhance the quality of their lives through fostering improved awareness, insight, skill-building, and quality education and resources. She also has first-hand experience with self-advocating in medical settings. Health issues leave us vulnerable. We're so used to deferring to an authority figure that rather than asking the hard questions, we often stay silent. Advocating for ourselves can be challenging but it's so beneficial to learn how. We have a right to be treated with integrity. If you need guidance and support, look for a patient advocate. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 16 Oct 2024 | Episode 84 - Belonging to Myself with Serena Hicks | 00:42:09 | |
Get ready for a deep and inspiring conversation with Serena Hicks, a trailblazing business coach who’s shaking up how we view success and belonging. In this episode, Serena and I explore finding self-acceptance and navigating life when you feel pulled between different worlds. Serena Hicks is a business coach driven by freedom—financial, personal, and spiritual. With a background that includes MTV News and an Emmy from The Tyra Banks Show, she blends corporate success with deep personal insight. Serena champions inclusivity and empowers others to thrive on their terms. Through her coaching philosophy, #LoveTrustMoney, she helps clients align business with values, transforming success into an act of love. We dive into the power of self-acceptance and explore what it means to truly belong to ourselves, especially when our identities span multiple worlds. Serena brings her unique perspective as a biracial woman and successful entrepreneur to our conversation, sharing how she's dismantling old systems and creating new paths for herself and her clients. If you’ve ever struggled with external pressures, or you’re looking to align your life with your true values, this episode is for you. Join us and discover how to break free from societal expectations, reclaim your inner freedom, and build a life that reflects your most authentic self. I can’t wait for you to listen. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Serena here: https://www.instagram.com/xoxoserenahicks/ https://www.facebook.com/SerenaHicksAF/ Find Sara here: | |||
| 08 May 2024 | The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break! | 00:03:21 | |
Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes. Find Sara here: | |||
| 05 Jul 2023 | Episode 22 - From Conversion Therapy to LGBTQ Advocacy with Elena Joy Thurston | 00:54:11 | |
This week, I am joined by Elena Joy Thurston. Elena Joy is an inspiring LGBTQ speaker, trainer, and founder of the nonprofit Pride and Joy Foundation. This foundation is dedicated to reducing the rates of suicide and homelessness within the LGBTQ community. Elena Joy is also featured in the award-winning documentary, Conversion, and has delivered a viral TEDx talk on surviving conversion therapy. Find Sara here: | |||
| 26 Jul 2023 | Episode 25 - Sexual Power with Danielle Savory | 00:51:06 | |
In this episode, Danielle Savory and I dive into the importance of giving ourselves permission to experience pleasure. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure, and intimacy. While sex and intimacy are essential aspects, it's also about fostering a deeper connection with our bodies. The burden of internal abuse can have both mental and physical consequences. By reconnecting with our bodies, we open up the potential for healing and the ability to experience emotions precisely as we desire. We experience separation from our bodies in many different ways: religion, diet culture, chronic pain, etc. When we acknowledge our discomfort and give ourselves what we need, magic happens. Connecting to your body can open up the possibility of healing and allow you to feel exactly how you would like to. I can’t wait for you to listen! Find Sara here: | |||
| 03 Jan 2024 | Episode 48 - Food and People Pleasing with Elizabeth Sherman | 00:55:35 | |
Elizabeth Sherman joins me this week to discuss midlife and the changes women experience on different levels. Humans socialized as women experience emotional, physical, and mental changes as they get older. Health should be the overall goal but our society's ways of thinking mess that up. Diet culture and the patriarchy are such negative influences. Food and emotions co-relate - we have to learn to listen to ourselves. Have the snack you want, then unpack why you wanted it and are leaning into certain comfort behaviors. Are you paying attention to you, or are you too busy worrying about others' thoughts, feelings, or reactions rather than being present with yourself? Increasing awareness and loving yourself can improve all aspects of your life. Find Sara here: | |||
| 30 Oct 2024 | Episode 86 - Bodily Autonomy with Dr. Stephanie Hack, the Lady Parts Doctor | 00:59:40 | |
So many of us women have not been properly educated about our bodies and how to know what is best for them. Today, I’m joined by Dr. Stephanie Hack to discuss how we can empower ourselves to advocate for what we want and need. Here's what we cover:
Stephanie Hack, MD, MPH, is a board-certified ob/gyn, podcast host, speaker, and founder of a women's health educational platform. Her special interests in health education and women's health empowerment have led to a career spanning two decades. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone, and we can support each other as we continue to learn about women's health. I can't wait for you to listen. Watch the PBS documentary The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause here. Find more information about the Stillborn and Infant Loss Support (SAILS) Gala here. Find Stephanie here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 05 Mar 2025 | Episode 104 - Embodying Real Wealth with Julie Murphy | 00:54:00 | |
Embodying real wealth means being true to yourself with every decision–whether in your career, family life, or finances. Today, I’m joined by financial planner and author Julie Murphy to discuss how aligning with your authentic self can transform your financial reality. So many of us are not living the life we want because we feel stuck in our financial situation. Julie offers a fresh perspective on how that shifts when we love ourselves first and create the safety that allows us to choose adventure. Here's what we cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Julie Murphy is a Chicago-based CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ and founder and CEO of JMC Wealth Management, Inc. Julie received her BS in Finance from the University of Illinois Champaign-Urbana and her MBA from The University of Notre Dame. With 25+ years of experience in the financial services industry, Julie and her team have successfully served thousands of clients throughout the U.S. and abroad. Julie is adept at all the critically important financial and life planning aspects. Consulting areas include, but are not limited to, portfolio management and asset allocation, including risk management, college planning, business and retirement planning, estate planning, life, disability, and long-term care insurance. Unlike other CFPs, Julie’s approach is unique. She works with clients to uncover their " relationship" to their assets. Her time-tested program, PACT (P: Picturing Yourself, A: Accepting Reality and Awakening, C: Choosing to Change, T: Taking Action) has transformed countless client's lives. Find Julie here: https://www.instagram.com/AwakenWithJulie https://www.facebook.com/AwakenWithJulie Free IMPACT Workshop: https://www.impactyourlifenow.com/registration-page Books: https://juliemurphy.com/store Free Worksheets: https://www.impactyourlifenow.com/Free-Downloads Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 10 Apr 2024 | Episode 62 - Acceptance is the Path to Power | 00:27:38 | |
We have this idea that acceptance means approval, that if we accept when something goes wrong—when a boundary is crossed, when someone disappoints us, when we get rejected—we’re saying it’s okay. When this is how we define acceptance, we avoid it; and when we avoid acceptance, we reject reality. We avoid processing our unmet expectations; we avoid the grief that comes with unmet expectations; and ultimately, we keep ourselves stuck ruminating on what should have been. When we don’t accept what is, we use up all our energy thinking about the reality we can’t control until there’s no brain space left to think about the reality we can control. We tend to fear that accepting the reality of a situation means accepting our powerlessness to it, but when we think about it differently, acceptance actually becomes the thing that gives us our power back. That’s why I want to share my new definition of acceptance with you. I hope this will help you reclaim your power when unmet expectations leave you feeling powerless. Can’t wait for you to listen! Find Sara here: | |||
| 21 Aug 2024 | Episode 76 - Unconventional Choices: Childfree By Choice with Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley | 01:02:01 | |
I’m thrilled to kick off my “Unconventional Choices” series with an incredible lineup of guests and fellow coaches—Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G. Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley—all of whom have chosen to remain child-free. Together, we challenge societal norms and our “good-girl” programming as we discuss the pressures of motherhood and womanhood while celebrating the empowerment that comes from intentional choices. This conversation is for everyone interested in the diversity of women’s experiences and embracing our unique journeys without shame or judgment. I can’t wait for you to listen. Amber Taylor (She/Her), also known as the Pleasure Priority Coach, uses her skills to help Black Millenials navigate the gap between the peace and fulfillment they thought they’d feel and what they actually feel despite their achievements. Amber helps her clients curate fulfilling relationships and to never settle for less. Pauline Yan, CFA, CAIA (She/Her) is a financial educator and coach. After 16 successful years at a financial firm, she now helps women and first-time investors navigate the complex landscape of the stock market to make sound investments. Melissa G Wirt (She/Her) is a dual-certified life coach who helps people in midlife and beyond get unstuck and feel better about their careers and relationships. With compassion and understanding, she helps clients take doable steps to create results they didn’t think possible. Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley (She/Her) is the Stress LESS Coach. A former academic and Master Certified Life Coach, she helps smart, high achievers ditch the stressed version of themselves, create work-life balance, and live joyful lives without giving up on their career goals. Find Sara here: | |||
| 29 Mar 2023 | Episode 8 - Women Wanting: A Guide to Your Superpower | 00:28:57 | |
What is it that you truly desire? After much personal reflection and research, I've come to realize that women's wants and desires are our secret source of power and direction. My goal is for you to have a greater sense of your desires and to understand why it's essential by the end of this episode. Unfortunately, our disconnection from our own desires happens at a very young age. We are raised by caregivers who provide us with love, belonging, and acceptance. However, this also means that children are often seen as less than adults and need to be molded into desirable traits, such as obedience and compliance. This can become problematic because it leads to an adult telling a child how to feel, such as saying "That didn't hurt, you're fine, shake it off." Although this is done with loving concern, it further disconnects us from our own feelings. We learn to not trust our impulses and instead trust outside voices. As we get older, there are more voices trying to influence us, but we need to trust our own voice first. This is why your wanting is your power. It's your inner compass that always points you in the right direction. My definition of a 'good girl' is someone who is overly connected to outside influences and under-connected to herself. Let me help you reconnect with yourself and your aspirations. Find Sara here: | |||
| 06 Sep 2023 | Episode 31 - How Good Girl Programming Masks ADHD | 00:28:52 | |
This episode is an intro to the gender diagnosis gap with ADHD and our ingrained masking behaviors from social pressures to be a "Good Girl". Masking behaviors are the ways in which we perform, pretend, and suppress our emotions to be accepted. “Be polite, be nice, be on time”...all of this keeps us from attending to our real ADHD symptoms. You can be free of the shame, anxiety, and masking, it just takes time and finding the right resources. There are significantly fewer women properly diagnosed because we are performing and just trying to keep it together rather than getting the help we need. There’s nothing wrong with us. We have symptoms that affect how our brain works, and it has nothing to do with our character. If you've been curious about how you've been feeling, this is a great resource of information. There are tools to make life easier overall. Next week I have Kristen Carder joining me to delve deeper into this topic, you can check out her podcast ‘I Have ADHD’, and look into her group coaching program called FOCUSED. Find Sara here: | |||
| 13 Mar 2024 | Episode 58 - Stories from Inside Stop People Pleasing Group Coaching Program | 01:24:50 | |
This episode features conversations I did with four current participants of my Stop People Pleasing group coaching program: Natalie Hagwood, Elizabeth Sherman, Kelly True, and Gini Ewart. I hope that by hearing their stories, you're inspired to see what is possible for you, and take a little peek into some of the things that I teach. When each participant joins, I ask them the same questions about their experience. I feel like it helps potential participants to see firsthand accounts of how the program worked for others. We talk about what the program’s been like for them, the hesitations they may have had at first about joining, what has surprised them the most about the process of uncovering their people pleasing, what tools from the program have been most helpful, and what they would tell someone who’s thinking about joining. After you listen, if you want to practice some of the same things I’ve taught in the program, use the link in the show notes to get added to my free Facebook group. On March 25 - 27, I’m going to be doing a free 3-day challenge to teach you how to say no, or whatever it is you’re avoiding saying - and not die. In 3 short, practical sessions, I’ll teach you what you need to know. Then on April 1st, we’ll get together for a bonus free coaching session to cover what the experience was like for you. I hope to see you there! Find Sara here: | |||
| 26 Mar 2025 | Episode 107 - Religious Tools Were Not Created for Women with Britt Hartley | 00:44:45 | |
So much of our good-girl programming is rooted in religious teachings. Many of these rules keep us trapped in people-pleasing, but it’s possible to break free and develop a healthy spirituality– one that empowers you to live life the way you want. Today, I’m joined by Atheist Spiritual Director and author of No Nonsense Spirituality, Britt Hartley, to explore this transformation. Here’s what we cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Find Britt here: www.nononsensespirituality.com https://nononsensespirituality.com/book https://www.instagram.com/nononsensespirituality/ https://www.facebook.com/brittney.hartley.16 https://www.youtube.com/@nononsensespirituality Find Sara here: https://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/ https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/ https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333 What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside! | |||
| 25 Sep 2024 | Episode 81 - Stop Apologizing | 00:21:48 | |
What have you been apologizing for lately? Find Sara here: | |||
| 10 Jan 2024 | Episode 49 - What If 2024 is the Year You Stop People Pleasing? | 00:39:29 | |
What if 2024 is the year you stop people pleasing? What if you started to create a world around you where you feel respected by yourself and others? The universality of our preprogramming aka good girl programming silently shapes us. We can learn to overcome the discomfort, and gain the respect we desire from ourselves and others. It’s possible to belong, feel loved, and feel respected by others and ourselves. This is your year and I’m here for you. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 20 Feb 2023 | Episode 2 - How Did We Become Good Girls? | 00:13:38 | |
In this episode, I explore HOW we become “Good Girls”. I’ll explain how our socialization and basic needs are met and influenced by our experiences from birth AND lead us to developing our “Good Girl Syndrome”. At its core, people pleasing isn’t necessarily bad! However, we need to learn when and how to stop people pleasing as well, in order to best meet all our needs. I’ll explain the exchange of behavior for rewards and how this phenomenon works to shape us. By identifying and understanding the roles and rules in our lives and how and why they are created and impacting us, we can start to unravel the “Good Girl Syndrome. Most importantly I’ll help you set the stage to challenge these patterns in ways that you can use to step into your full power and best life! Find Sara here: | |||
| 20 Nov 2024 | Episode 89 - Things that Matter Most Right Now | 00:20:08 | |
It’s normal to want to bypass feelings of fear, worry, and sorrow during this uncertain time, but we miss the opportunity to create a vulnerable, trusting relationship with ourselves and our feelings if we send these big emotions into exile. In this episode, I discuss how moving forward starts with processing our emotions. Here’s what I cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 24 Jul 2024 | Episode 72 - Sneaky People Pleasing | 00:21:06 | |
Did you know that people pleasing can be subtle–even sneaky? People pleasing goes far beyond the stereotypical inability to say “no.” In this episode, I reveal the people pleasing tendencies that catch us off guard–things like excessive politeness, perfectionism, and difficulty setting boundaries. Because it can show up in so many different ways, you need both deep self-connection and a capacity for discomfort to break free from people pleasing. Join me to learn how to recognize all of your people pleasing behaviors and how to increase your threshold for discomfort so you can start living as your authentic self. I can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 17 Jan 2024 | Episode 50 - The Power of a Consult with Laura Sully | 00:22:18 | |
For this episode, Laura Sully joins me to share her experience having a consult with me. Booking a consult with me is the best way to start your journey with stopping people pleasing. When you start working with me, I’ll give you tools that are immediately useful in your life. Then we’ll get into processing emotions and dive deeper into the roots of people pleasing in your life. After working with me, you’ll see yourself in a completely new light and will be able to move through your days confidently. Your authentic self will start to show up everywhere, and your relationships will feel safe and connected. It all starts with booking a consult. Don’t forget to check out my 24-week Stop People Pleasing Program which is open for enrollment through the 26th of January. You can find more info on my Instagram. Find Laura's podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/5fJOJm6EXYD17FdDv24XLz?si=MM5nd_GCSq2C4EbaURQ6Ow Find Sara here: | |||
| 05 Feb 2025 | Episode 100 - I've Got Some Thoughts About That: AMA with Clients | 00:43:25 | |
I started this podcast to contribute to the conversation around people-pleasing and perfectionism. Now, as The Ex-Good Girl Podcast reaches the 100th episode, I am extremely proud and grateful. My goal has always been to share tools, strategies, and stories to help you overcome challenges that result from good girl programming and live the life you want. It has meant so much to hear from all of you along this journey about the skills you’ve implemented and the progress you’ve made in your lives and relationships. Today, I’m answering your questions about people-pleasing, patriarchy, and so much more. Here’s what I cover:
I can’t wait for you to listen! Find Sara here: | |||
| 29 Jan 2025 | Episode 99 - Breaking Down Patriarchy with Amy McPhie Allebest | 00:57:03 | |
In this episode, you’ll hear my conversation with Amy McPhie Allebest, a writer, teacher, and feminist historian whose work has helped shape my understanding of patriarchy and expand my worldview. In her podcast, Breaking Down Patriarchy, Amy offers thought-provoking insights that inspire continued learning about the roots of patriarchy in society. Today, she shares some of those powerful ideas and personal stories, which I hope you find valuable as I have. Here’s what we cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Check out these reading recommendations from Amy: Find Amy here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 23 Aug 2023 | Episode 29 - Ten Reasons Why Coaching Works to Stop People Pleasing | 00:26:31 | |
Wouldn't you love to have the golden ticket to a happier life? I got you! In this episode, I dive into the ten reasons why group coaching is effective in putting an end to people pleasing. If you're intrigued, mark your calendar for the week of September 18th, when my next group coaching course kicks off. I'm offering a variety of options, from a free consultation and webinars to enrollment in my comprehensive Stop People Pleasing course. I understand that coaching might seem unfamiliar to many, but that's exactly why this episode is here for you. We all deserve access to these valuable resources, and it lights me up inside to help people. Life's challenges can feel like stormy waters, but together, we can navigate them successfully. The key lies in embracing self-honesty and cultivating the necessary skills to stay on track and avoid getting derailed. One of the primary benefits of coaching is its ability to expedite this process; you receive guidance from individuals who have already traversed this path. Find Sara here: | |||
| 08 Jan 2025 | Episode 96 - What to Do When You Mess Up | 00:27:01 | |
Mistakes are a part of life–we all make them, whether it’s with ourselves, with others, or in pursuit of our goals. Even as we grow emotionally and strive for greater self-connection, our inner critical voice often shames us for every misstep. In this episode, I explore why self-compassion is key when we mess up, and how leaving self-criticism behind is essential to lasting growth. Here’s what I cover:
I can't wait for you to listen. Find Sara here: | |||
| 13 Sep 2023 | Episode 32 - Good Girls and ADHD with Kristen Carder | 00:50:57 | |
This week the amazing Kristen Carder is joining me to talk about ADHD. I’ve been looking forward to this for a while. She is an incredible coach with 10 years of ADHD expertise and also my friend. I’ve started to become curious if I have ADHD after looking at the symptoms. It's mindblowing once you make the connections and realize that this might be something you struggle with. ADHD intersects with the "Good Girl" programming in that masking behaviors are often present in both. After Kristen’s diagnosis at 21 years old, she started her research and wanted to find a way to help others. She created the podcast, I Have ADHD, and the group coaching program called FOCUSED. There’s a lot in the episode that can help start the conversation with yourself and resources that can help if you think you have ADHD. Find Kristen here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 29 May 2024 | The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break! | 00:03:21 | |
Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes. Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below. I can't wait to connect with you. Find Sara here: | |||
| 02 Oct 2024 | Episode 82 - We are Smart Enough to Invest with Kara Gaisie | 00:43:51 | |
This week, I’m excited to dive into a conversation that challenges traditional norms around money and investing. My guest, Kara Gaisie, is here to help us break free from outdated beliefs that have kept women from fully stepping into their financial power. Kara Gaisie is a wife, mom, and master-certified financial coach who helps women entrepreneurs break free from the cycle of overworking to reach financial independence. After spending over 15 years as a CPA in Corporate America, Kara launched her coaching business in 2019, focusing on achieving financial freedom without compromising her lifestyle. In this episode, Kara shares her wealth of experience as both a CPA and life coach, guiding us through her journey of investing and building wealth. She shows us that financial independence is within our reach, empowering us to take control of our finances and create a life of freedom. Join us for this empowering conversation and discover how to start growing your wealth, take charge of your financial destiny, and rewrite the story you’ve been told about money. I can’t wait for you to listen! Find Kara here: Find Sara here: | |||
| 04 Dec 2024 | Episode 91 - Good Girls, Glinda and Upholding the Patriarchy | 00:26:55 | |
When we cause harm to someone else, the good girl tendency is to feel shame and defensiveness. Instead, if we get to a place where we are generous and can grieve our mistakes, we can move on to be better versions of ourselves. In this episode, I talk about how the themes of Wicked relate to my journey of becoming an ex-good girl and the importance of self-compassion when you have to question your beliefs. Here’s what I cover:
I can't wait for you to listen! Read the Substack essay mentioned in the episode: Defying Gravity: Wicked and the Weight of Social Justice Find Sara here: | |||
| 14 Feb 2024 | Episode 54 - Grief is Part of the Process | 00:28:39 | |
Grief plays a big part in the journey to stopping people pleasing and perfectionating. It's the death or the changing of a former life- a former way of seeing the world, a former way that we used to relate to each other in relationships, a former way that we used to be rewarded and recognized. It comes up a lot in my group coaching program, Stop People Pleasing, and in my work with individual clients. As we change for the better, we lose parts of our past, sometimes including relationships. We create new boundaries and ways to function which don't always align with the dynamics in our life. We should never have to hide or pretend to stay in relationships. If you’re experiencing some grief during this process, I hope this episode is helpful for you. Find Sara here: | |||
| 01 Nov 2023 | Episode 39 - Midlife Magic with Jen Berlingo | 00:50:32 | |
I have an extraordinary guest this week! Jen Berlingo, MA, LPC, ATR (she/her) is a midlife coach, a licensed professional counselor, a nationally registered art therapist, and a master-level Reiki practitioner. She wrote a book called Midlife Emergence, which reached #1 in several Amazon categories. She is also a visual artist and created the painting on the cover of her book. Jen is a dynamic being who assists in helping others to hone in on their own desires and live their truth. In this episode, Jen and I go into the challenges that happen during midlife and how to better manage them. Find Sara here: | |||
| 22 May 2024 | The Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break! | 00:03:21 | |
Because everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes. Find Sara here: | |||
| 22 Nov 2023 | Episode 42 - How to Make Sense Of Your Chronic Pain with Deb Malkin | 00:46:46 | |
In this episode, Deb and I talk about repressed emotions and how they relate to physical pain. Deb Malkin is a feminist mind/body coach, specializing in using the tools of neuro + bioplasticity and consciously curious hypno-coaching to help people unlearn pain and emotional stress symptoms. As a queer, fat, radically unapologetic human with their own unique mind and body, Deb joyfully works with everyone. They bring an awareness of how the intersections of social conditioning, family narratives, and biopsychosocial determinants of health (racism, sexism, stigma...) impact our felt sense of wellness/wholeness/self-worth + love. Find Sara here: | |||
| 08 Nov 2023 | Episode 40 - How To Disappoint Someone and Not Die Of Guilt and Shame | 00:37:03 | |
This episode is out just in time for the holidays, giving you a chance to wrap up the year with a little extra kindness for yourself. In this episode, I'll reveal seven life-changing steps. These steps might sound simple, but they're not necessarily easy to implement. It's worth keeping in mind that letting folks down is just part of life, and I'm here to help you deal with the worry and fear that can come with it. Uncomfortable feelings are something we all face from time to time, and the trick is to learn how to handle them while still showing ourselves some love along the way. Once you've given this episode a listen, I'd be thrilled to hear from you. Send me a DM and tell me how these steps played out for you. Find Sara here: | |||
| 11 Sep 2024 | Episode 79 - I Wanted Something Just for Me | 00:41:08 | |
I am so excited to share my story with you of how I and three of my travel companions and friends came to found Yapay Bolivia, a nonprofit organization dedicated to alleviating poverty through sustainable healthcare solutions. This isn’t your average story–it’s a tale of thrilling and sometimes frightening medical events, the kindness shown to me by some of the most inspiring and wonderful women I’ve ever met, and the profound transformation I underwent. It's a story of compassion for the previous version of myself that made all of this possible. I am incredibly proud of Yapay Bolivia's work and truly grateful that it’s a part of my life. The work I engage in through this organization exists outside of my roles as a mother, wife, and professional—it’s something just for me. I would love for every woman out there to have something like this, whether that means founding a nonprofit or taking small steps toward anything that brings joy and impact to her life. Even the smallest beginnings can lead to significant, positive ripple effects. My journey of wanting something just for me has turned into a meaningful organization that makes a tangible impact on the lives of women and children in Bolivia. I hope it inspires you to pursue something you genuinely want to do, and I can’t wait for you to listen. PS. If you’d like to donate to Yapay Bolivia, an organization where 100% of donations go directly to impactful projects, your support can help us expand our programs to reach a larger community. Please check out https://yapaybolivia.org/ to learn more and make a difference. Find Sara here: | |||