Are you feeling like your lawyer isn't telling your full story? In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the issue of legal gatekeeping and how it can impact your divorce case. They discuss why it's crucial for your lawyer to present all the relevant facts, including those that might be uncomfortable or distressing about Family Violence or Coercive Control. With new property legislation potentially on the horizon in Australia, it's more important than ever to ensure your story is heard, whether it concerns property settlements or children's matters. Tune in to learn strategies for advocating for yourself and making sure your experiences are properly represented in court. Trigger Warning this could be distressing or triggering for victim survivors of family violence or coercive control. 

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Feel like your lawyer is not presenting the full picture in your case.

• ❓ Are dealing with family violence or coercive control and want to know how it affects your legal proceedings.

• 💡 Need to understand the role of your lawyer versus the role of the judge in court.

• 🛡 Want to ensure that critical information about your case is not being withheld.

• 📚 Are interested in how upcoming legislation may change the way family violence is considered in property settlements.

Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story? 

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding Gatekeeping: What it is and how it can affect your case.

• The Role of Lawyers vs. Judges: Clarifying what each should be doing in the context of your story.

• Importance of Telling Your Full Story: How withholding information can negatively impact court outcomes.

• Legislation Update: A look at potential new laws in Australia that could affect property settlements involving family violence.

• Kennan’s Case: How this landmark case impacts current family law and property settlements.

• Strategies for Self-Advocacy: Tips on how to ensure your lawyer is representing all relevant facts.

• Impact on Children: The importance of being upfront about family violence to protect and support your children.

• Mediation and Legal Strategy: How to handle mediation and what to do if you're feeling pressured by your lawyer.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Episodes for More Insight:

• The Pep Talk You Didn't Know You Needed

• Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore

• Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably haven’t heard of for your divorce.

• Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know

• Using children as chess pieces in divorce

• Webinars and Courses:

• DIY Divorce Blueprint

• Weekly Webinars on Navigating Divorce

• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for listening to this important episode on ensuring your story is fully represented in court. Remember, your experiences are valid, and the right legal representation can make all the difference. If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances

Listen to This Episode If You:

🌟 Are navigating a parenting plan or consent or court orders for children at different stages of development.

❓ Want to understand how the court views plans for babies and the differing age groups all the way to teenagers.

💡 Are trying to figure out how to create a flexible and adaptable parenting plan as your child grows.

🛡 Are dealing with high-conflict ex-partners and need strategies to protect your child's best interests.

📚 Want to learn more about how to handle special situations like breastfeeding, car seats, and school-related issues.

Are you overwhelmed by trying to come up with a fair parenting plan or consent order offer after separation or divorce? Wondering what will happen as they get older, or struggling to figure out what is what when it comes to the different age groups—toddlers, tweens, and teens and everything in-between. In this episode, we discuss the unique challenges and considerations for each stage of your child’s development when creating parenting plans and consent orders or asking for court orders. We discuss topics like the primary attachment theory for babies, navigating parenting plans for young children, and managing the evolving needs of primary school-aged kids and figuring out what to do with stubborn teenagers. Whether you’re in the early stages of separation or dealing with an ongoing custody battle, this episode provides valuable insights on how to approach parenting plans that truly serve the best interests of your children.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Primary Attachment for Babies: Why babies up to three years old typically benefit from staying with their primary caregiver, and how this impacts parenting plans and court orders.
• Navigating Consent Orders: How to create orders that take into account the evolving needs of your children as they grow from toddlers to teens.
• Transitioning to Overnights: Strategies for gradually increasing parenting time and handling situations where the non-primary caregiver hasn’t been involved.
• Primary School Age Considerations: Managing custody and parenting plans as children start school, including logistical challenges like packing bags and attending social events.
• Teenagers and Flexibility: How to adapt parenting plans for teens who want more independence, and what happens when they refuse to follow the existing custody arrangements.
• High-Conflict Co-Parenting: Dealing with manipulative and controlling ex-partners, and tips for creating clear, enforceable orders to protect your child’s well-being.
• Navigating Changing Court Views: Understanding the recent changes in the Family Law Act and how it affects shared parental responsibility and 50/50 time.

• Free Resources:

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration (webinar)

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in (before you go checklist)

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in-4ab0c1ab-f43e-4db3-b49b-43c865aa8b1d (mediation checklist)

https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist (disclosure checklist)

Podcast Episode Timeline

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Plans

01:08 Understanding Parenting Plans for Babies

03:53 Challenges with Parenting Plans for Babies

13:56 Parenting Plans for Primary School Kids

17:56 Common Issues with Primary School Kids

21:56 Navigating Parenting Plans for Teens

22:55 Planning for Your Child's Future

23:41 Teenagers and Court Orders

24:13 Navigating Parental Breaches

25:44 Resources for Mediation and Disclosure

26:27 Mental Health and Teen Independence

27:32 Pressure on Children in Custody Cases

30:06 Handling Avoidant Parents

33:03 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes

33:51 The Importance of Detailed Orders

35:23 Co-Parenting with Manipulative Exes

38:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating parenting plans through various stages of your child’s life. We hope you find the advice helpful in creating a plan that truly meets the needs of your children, regardless of their age. If you found this episode valuable, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Do you think your divorce proceedings are on its way to court or mediation? The FCFCOA is taking control of the family court timelines with pre-action procedures that must occur before you go to court (unless it is urgent).  We discuss the pre-action procedures including mediation that you need to do before you even think about filing in court and the certain letters that need to be shared.  We discuss what these procedures are and what happens if you don’t do them. We touch on sharing your proposed orders, inviting your ex to mediation and doing your disclosure and if you need a lawyer to do it?

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Resources that might help you

FCFCOA Pre-action procedures fact sheet

• Attorney General Website list of FDRP

• Fact sheet on disclosure FCFCOA

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What are pre-action procedures for the FCFCOA

• What do you need to do to make these procedures happen

• How to invite your ex to mediation

• How to share your proposed orders with your ex

• Notice of intent to file

• How to share what you want to happen with the children

• How to share what you want to happen with the property

• What the timelines are for responding to your letters

• What situations don’t require pre action procedures

• What types of people you need for mediation

• What is the process that happens when you book in mediation

• What is disclosure

• What types of things should you disclose?

• What disclosure is described in the Family Law Act 

• How to avoid wasting money in this phase

• Doing your own disclosure

• What you should do if they don’t give you disclosure 

• What should you do if they don’t have disclosure at mediation?

• Guessing a valuation 

• What is a redacted disclosure document

• Should you hide names in your disclosure

• Privacy and disclosure

• What is a notice of intent to file

• What to write in a letter when doing a notice of intent to file

• Pre-Action Procedures

• Central Practice Direction

• What happens after sending the notice of intent to file letter

• What are the next steps after the pre action procedures?

• How long to wait between each step?

• What is a genuine steps certificate?

• Post Separation Abuse and how the pre action procedures will help stop it

• What happens if you don’t follow the pre action procedures

• What happens if you have not complied 

• Do you need a lawyer to help you with the pre action procedures required by the FCFCOA?

• Do you need a lawyer for your meditation?

• What does it cost to go to mediation in the pre action procedure stage?

• What do you do if the other side is threatening to take you to court and they haven’t done the pre action procedures. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition.  

Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how it’s recognized in the new laws.

• ❓ Are curious about how any type of  family violence impacts property settlements.

• 🐾 Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms.

• 💡 Need to understand the regulatory changes to Children’s Contact Services.

• 🛡 Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

1. Expanded Definition of Family Violence:

   • Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support).

   • Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements.

2. Family Violence and Contributions:

   • Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions.

   • Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse.

3. Pets in Property Settlements:

   • New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale.

   • Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns.

4. Children’s Contact Services (CCS):

   • Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers.

   • Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS.

5. Protected Confidences:

   • Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and children’s statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Supplementary explanatory memorandum 

• Family Law Amendment Bill

https://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Bills_Legislation/bd/bd2425/25bd013

• https://parlinfo.aph.gov.au/parlInfo/search/display/display.w3p;query=Id%3A%22legislation%2Fems%2Fr7234_ems_d9233ec7-832e-4627-88c2-6970f86eb262%22

• ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/

• Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app

• Episodes for More Information:

• Communicating Coercive Control in Your Affidavit

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw

• Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself

• https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=FvU_ux2ATBuiBL5IW2g8gQ

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811 

• LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation.

• Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.

• Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men.

• Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people.

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support.

• Relationships Australia: Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues.

• Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance.

• DVConnect Womensline: Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7.

• DV Connect Mensline: Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men.

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support.

These resources are here to help you. Please don’t hesitate to reach out for support—you are not alone.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances.

00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes

01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act

03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse

06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions

10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct

15:47 Pets and Family Law

19:12 Children Contact Centers

20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers

22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences

25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling

27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence

31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases

36:32 Documenting Family Violence

38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Living beyond the age of fifty and deciding to end a long-term marriage comes with its unique set of challenges and Laura and Lyn are here to help navigate those waters. With a blend of legal insights and personal anecdotes, this podcast serves as a beacon of support for those entering the uncharted waters of grey divorces

In this episode, the essential topics of asset division, spousal maintenance, gender roles, and future planning are explored. Gain some valuable insights into anticipating the involvement of adult children, the complexity of gifting during divorce, and tips on maintaining financial security through this challenging life transition.  

From empowering older women to stand up for their rights to discussing the nuanced considerations of future needs and ill health in property settlements, this episode provides a comprehensive guide to those facing grey divorces. 

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

Useful Resources:

Protecting Property and Pre-Nups Episode

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

You don’t want to miss out on the answer to these questions

1. What are some common challenges faced by individuals going through a grey divorce?

2. How does property division work in the context of grey divorces?

3. Are there specific considerations for pensions and spousal maintenance in grey divorces?

4. How can individuals protect their property in new relationships after a grey divorce?

5. What role do traditional roles play in creating problems in grey divorces?

6. How can reverting to traditional roles trigger separations in grey divorces?

7. Do older individuals in grey divorces often find themselves in traditional roles, and how does it impact their relationships?

8. What risks are associated with handing over finances to a new partner in a grey divorce?

9. How can older women in grey divorces overcome the inclination to follow traditional roles and fight for their rights?

10. What advice is given to older individuals with a traditional mindset to ensure they get their fair share in divorce negotiations?

11. How are future needs considered in property division for grey divorces, and what makes it different from younger couples?

12. How does ill health affect property division in grey divorces, especially when one party is significantly sick?

13. Can adult children become involved in property settlement disputes during grey divorces, and what impact does it have on the process?

14. Is it possible to give gifts to children during the property settlement process, and what are the legal considerations?

15. How can individuals make the separation process less painful and more efficient in grey divorces?

16. Why is it important not to delay bringing a property settlement application in court for older couples?

17. What unique pressures are faced by older individuals in grey divorces, and how can they navigate these challenges?

18. How can individuals rebuild their social circles and find support during and after grey divorces?

19. What suggestions are given for leading a fulfilling life after a grey divorce?

20. How can older individuals go about finding love again after a grey divorce?

Are you being bombarded by legal letters from your ex or their lawyer? In this episode we will be discussing what steps you can take and the five important things to look at when, why to respond, how to respond and when to respond or if to respond to the letters at all. 

Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide 

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Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement 

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You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• How are legal letters presented in family court

• How to determine when to respond to a letter

• How many letters is normal

• Do you need to stick to their legal letter deadlines for response

• Setting up healthy boundaries 

• Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the Family Law Act under section 60cc

• Why you should respond to anything that refers to any section of the family law act 79 for property. 

• When to expect a flurry of legal letters

• Can you add a deadline to your legal letter?

• How to deal with unreasonable deadlines in letters

• How to be firm in responding to legal letters or your ex’s letter

• Will your letters be read out in family court by the judge. 

• Domestic violence and communication with your ex during divorce proceedings. 

• How to keep costs down if being bombarded by legal letters. 

• How to check in legal letters if they are projecting

• Narcissists and legal letters 

• Why you need to be vigilant with legal letters so you don’t miss something really important. 

• Why setting up a new email address might be the best idea for you in your divorce. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement

You can’t negotiate a property settlement if you don’t know what the property pool is. You cannot find a fair and reasonable child support payment amount if people are not being honest about their property and income.  But how do you know for sure that all the property is on the table? In this episode Lyn talks us through how to do discovery and disclosure for yourself without needing a lawyer.  Superannuation, Houses, Businesses, Company shareholder information you name it, we talk you through how to do the detective work yourself. 

• Superannuation Information Form
• CITEC Confirm Website
• ABN lookup
• Redbook
• Subpoena form
• Podcast Episode on businesses and valuations
• Click here for to watch the webinar we discuss in this episode

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Find out more about the divorce course podcast

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is a form 6?

• How to find out the value of your ex partners superannuation 

• How to find out if your ex owns any other properties

• How to find out who’s name a house is in

• What is the difference between the bank valuation and a real estate agent valuation

• How to find out who is a director or a shareholder of a company

• How to find out if you are a shareholder or hold a role in a company

• How to determine what the cars are worth

• How to determine what your other assets are worth

• How to use citec confirm to find a personal property security search to find out if your ex has any loan debts owing.

• Bank accounts and swearing that they’ve revealed all their property.

• Subpoenaing banks 

• How to find out what your ex’s payslip says for property settlement

• Payslips and property settlements

• Disclosure and Discovery how to do it yourself

• How to do your own discovery without a lawyer

• Child Support and how to prove your co parents earnings to get the amount that is fair.

• What do judges usually do to people who lie about property in court.

• What to do if someone changes their name off the property too try trick you

• What is the Section 87 declaration, if your ex has changed this property to someone else's name

• What to do if your ex quickly changes his property and assets into other peoples names to avoid being fair in property settlement.

• What is the deadline to get property sorted in your divorce.

• Can the court let you come back later and get a change in the property settlement.

• What does the court do if there has been fraud or non disclosure.

• How to try avoid going to court and using mediation and letters instead

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

 DIY Disclosure and Discovery, for property settlement and child support -  How to find out what you don’t know

Ever wondered what the deal is when it comes to mortgages during a divorce or de facto separation under Australian law? In this episode, we tackle the daunting topic head-on. Together with my mother, Lynette Galvin, a family law expert with 35 years of experience, we address commonly asked questions about mortgage responsibilities, court handling of joint mortgages, and strategies for dealing with uncooperative ex-partners before you’ve gotten your property settlement. Whether you're dealing with domestic violence, financial uncertainties, or high-conflict situations, this episode provides some insight into this complex issue within the context of Australian law. (Please always see a lawyer for independent legal advice this is just an educational discussion not legal advice)

Listen to this Episode If You:

• 😫 You're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of managing a mortgage during a divorce or separation.

• ❓ You have questions about who is responsible for paying the mortgage after separation.

• ⚖️ You want to understand how courts handle mortgages in property settlements.

• 🗣️ You're dealing with an uncooperative ex-partner regarding mortgage payments.

• 🏦 You need strategies for communicating with banks about mortgage issues.

• 🆘 You’re experiencing domestic violence and need advice on handling your mortgage.

• 📊 You’re unsure about the contributions and what counts in property settlements.

• 📈 You want to know the impact of rising property values on mortgage and divorce property settlements.

• 📝 You need clarity on consent orders and their role in property settlements.

• 🚧 You're in a high-conflict situation and need tips on maintaining boundaries.

What happens with Mortgages During Divorce & De Facto Separation?

Key Ideas in this Episode:

• 🏡 The intimidating nature of handling mortgages during divorce or de facto separation.

• ❓ Common questions about mortgage responsibilities after separation.

• 🕒 Importance of getting timely legal advice and understanding your financial situation.

• 🛡️ Strategies for dealing with mortgage payments during domestic violence situations.

• ⚖️ Different scenarios for mortgage responsibility: breadwinner vs. homemaker.

• 💼 Contributions in property settlements and what the court considers.

• 🏦 Court’s approach to handling joint mortgages during property settlements.

• 📈 Impact of rising property values on mortgage settlements and the importance of acting quickly.

• 📝 Role and process of consent orders in mortgage settlements.

• 🚧 Managing high-conflict situations and maintaining boundaries.

• 💡 Practical tips for sorting out mortgage issues promptly to avoid financial messes.

Episodes Mentioned to Listen to in this Episode:

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfour (Selling your house during divorce or property settlement: the process, the pitfalls and solutions)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyfive (I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredfour (Creative Ways to Keep your House in Divorce: out of the box thinking for your property settlement.) 

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredfive (Financial Fairness During Divorce: A How to Guide for Spousal Maintenance & Child Support)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfourteen (Child Support in Australia)

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Whether you are just recently separated or already have a parenting plan or orders, we’ve gone through all the issues that you may face over the school holidays and christmas period. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years experience talks through all the situations she has faced for her clients and how you can deal with them yourselves to ensure that the kids have a wonderful school holiday and you and your co parent don’t end up fighting and in court. Touching on the four different personality types including High Conflict, Manipulative and Controlling (narcissistic behaviours) , Amicable and Avoidant and how best to navigate the holiday season during the tricky time of separation and divorce.

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Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode

Christmas and Custody Arrangements 2021 Episode

Creating your own parenting agreement

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What does the spirit of the orders mean?

• What can you do if you don’t have court orders about christmas?

• How can you create a parenting plan for Christmas holidays?

• What types of arrangements can be made for holiday time in parenting agreement

• Avoidant ex and christmas holidays

• Can the court make your ex take the kids for school holidays when they are refusing?

• How to try to keep the other co parent involved in your kids life if they don’t want to be involved for christmas.

• What happens if your co parent refuses to take time off work to help look after the kids in the school holidays?

• What do you do if you can’t get your ex to agree on school holiday arrangements?

• What does school gazetted holidays mean?

• What defines school holidays for family court orders?

• What types of arrangements does the family court make?

• How do you ensure you can have a christmas phone call with your kids if you don’t have them on christmas day?

• What things manipulative and controlling narcissistic ex’s do over the christmas period with your kids.

• How can you stop your coparents family from trash talking to you or your family at christmas time?

• What orders can you seek to stop trash talking to the children?

• What is a Pop parenting course and how can it help you or your manipulative coparent. 

• What if the co parent won't let your child take the christmas presents from one house to the other.

• How to avoid conflict at christmas with your co parent

• Can you get someone else to do the handover for Christmas?

• What do you do about the elf on the shelf during christmas between your co parent and you?

• Christmas photos with Santa should you go twice if you are separated?

• Christmas traditions and how to keep them going after separation and divorce.

• Why is it important to be clear with the holiday arrangements?

• The case of Rice and Asplinand why it’s important to get your christmas holiday orders right.

• Can you ask the court to help make christmas traditions continue?

• Can you ask the court to order that the children be allowed to visit family over christmas?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you navigating post-divorce parenting arrangements, or the complexities of family court custody issues in Australia? Learn from this insightful episode from a seasoned family law accredited specialist expert with over 35 years in family law. Where you’ll explore the critical topic: "Best Interests of the Children." Whilst we don't claim to be child psychologists, we will shed light on what this concept means in the eyes of the Family Court, providing valuable educational guidance for a concerned parent just like you.

 Discover how the family court evaluates factors like relationships with both parents, the views of children (considering age and maturity), financial and emotional contributions post-separation, and practical changes in routines. 

Are you navigating post-divorce parenting arrangements, or the complexities of family court custody issues? 

In this episode we will address "What will happen to my children? How does the court decide? What's truly best for them?" While we can't replace personalised legal advice, we offer clarity and educational confidence in understanding your children's potential paths during divorce or separation in the eyes of the Family Court in Australia.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Decoding the Family Court's Perspective on 'Best Interests of the Children' in Custody Cases.

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

1. What are the primary considerations when determining the best interests of the children in family court?

2. How does the court balance the child's right to have a meaningful relationship with both parents and the need to protect them from harm?

3. What role do family report writers play in child custody matters, and how do their recommendations influence court decisions?

4. At what age can a child's views be considered by the court, and how does the court assess their maturity in expressing those views?

5. What impact does a history of domestic violence have on child custody decisions?

6. How does the court evaluate each parent's involvement in decision-making and spending time with the child?

7. What happens if one parent hasn't paid child support since separation, and how does this affect custody decisions?

8. How does the court consider the practical effects and potential disruptions on children when making custody arrangements?

9. How does a child's individual needs and vulnerabilities, such as neurodiversity or disabilities, influence custody decisions?

10. What are some common mistakes parents make when initially separating and how does it affect their custody cases?

11. Is nesting (where parents alternate living in the family home) a practical solution for maintaining stability during separation, and what are the potential challenges?

12. What happens if you need to leave the family home during separation, and how does it affect your rights concerning property? 

13. What factors determine the practical difficulty of a child spending time with both parents, especially in cases of fly-in, fly-out work arrangements?

14. How do distance and work commitments of parents affect custody arrangements?

15. Should parents worry that if one ex makes significantly more money than the other, the children might be ordered to live with them? 

16. What are the primary considerations that the Family Court takes into account when determining the best interests of the children in custody arrangements?

17. What does it mean for a parent to provide for the children's intellectual, emotional, and social needs?

18. How does a parent's mental health or diagnosed mental health issues factor into custody decisions?

19. What role does the maturity, sex, lifestyle, and background of each parent play in custody arrangements?

20. How does the court ensure that a child's cultural heritage is supported after a separation?

21. How does the court assess a parent's attitude towards their responsibilities of parenthood?

22. How does family violence, both between parents and towards children, impact custody decisions?

23. What role do domestic violence orders play in custody cases?

24. How does the court aim to avoid ongoing litigation and its impact on children?

How does the court consider children's ages and development stages in custody decisions?

25. What is meant by "equal shared parental responsibility," and how does it relate to custody arrangements?

26. What changes are expected in family law regarding the presumption of equal shared parental responsibility?

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

In every divorce, there are two primary positions people find themselves in: sitting pretty or completely overstressed. In this episode, Laura and Lynette break down these common divorce dynamics and provide strategies to help you navigate whichever position you're in. Whether you're feeling trapped in a gilded cage with everything provided for you, or you're overwhelmed with stress, paying the bills, and managing all the responsibilities, this episode offers practical advice on how to shift the balance and move forward in your divorce journey.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Feel like you're stuck in divorce limbo and don’t know how to move forward.

• ❓ Are overwhelmed with financial or emotional stress during your divorce.

• 💡 Need strategies to encourage your ex to engage in mediation or negotiation.

• 🛡 Are sitting comfortably but worried about what might happen if things change.

• 📚 Want to ensure you’re not being manipulated or controlled during the divorce process.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Sitting Pretty vs. Overstressed: Understanding the two primary positions in divorce dynamics.

• The Gilded Cage: Recognizing when comfort is actually a trap and why it’s important to start planning your next steps.

• Overcoming Financial Stress: Tips for managing overwhelming financial responsibilities and negotiating support.

• Mediation Strategies: How to encourage your ex to come to the table and negotiate fairly.

• The Impact on Kids: Why dragging out a divorce can harm children and how to avoid it.

• Balancing the Scales: Practical steps to move from an overstressed position to a more balanced dynamic.

• The Importance of Knowledge: How understanding your rights and the divorce process can protect you from manipulation.

• Finding Incentives: Creating motivation for both parties to settle and move forward.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Related Episodes:

• Divorce Limbo

• Central Practice Directions

• How to Engage in Mediation

• Webinars and Courses:

• THE Divorce Blueprint

• Webinars on Navigating Divorce

• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on navigating divorce dynamics. Whether you're sitting pretty or completely overstressed, understanding your position is the first step to moving forward. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Episode 165 Divorce Dynamic: Balancing Power & Progress 

Introduction to Divorce Dynamics

 Understanding the 'Sitting Pretty' Position

 Exploring the 'Overstressed' Position

 Strategies for Financial Stress

 Navigating Manipulative Tactics

 The Role of Emotions in Divorce

 Understanding Your Legal Rights

 Navigating Separation and Living Arrangements

 Emotional Preparedness and Counseling

 Financial Preparations and Legal Timelines

 The Importance of Mediation

 Impact on Children and Family Dynamics

 Taking Action and Seeking Help

 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Are you navigating a difficult divorce or separation? In this insightful episode, Laura and Lynette share five crucial steps to help you empower yourself through your divorce or de facto journey. They discuss how your actions, boundaries, self-affirmation, and standing up for yourself can significantly impact the outcome of your case. With practical legal education and empowering strategies, this episode is a must-listen for anyone facing a challenging breakup, especially if dealing with a high-conflict, narcissistic or manipulative ex-partner. Download the reflection worksheet that goes with this episode off our Patreon account.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Listen to This Episode If You:

🌟 Want to know how your actions can make or break your case.

❓ Need guidance on setting and maintaining boundaries with your ex.

💡 Seek methods to reaffirm who you are amidst false accusations.

🛡 Are looking for strategies to stand up for yourself effectively.

📚 Need tips on avoiding common pitfalls during your divorce.

📝 Want to ensure you're doing everything possible to navigate your divorce successfully.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Your Actions Make or Break Your Case: How your behaviour and decisions impact the outcome.

• Setting Boundaries: Importance of establishing clear boundaries with your ex.

• Reaffirming Who You Are: Techniques to maintain your self-worth and confidence.

• Avoiding Self-Sabotage: Tips to prevent actions that could harm your case.

• Standing Up for Yourself: Empowering yourself to take control and advocate for your needs.

• For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist  go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

• For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Episodes to Help with Communication Boundaries:

• Bombarded with Legal Letters

• Do I Really Need to Respond to That?

• How to Respond to a Word Salad Letter

• Episodes on Managing Emotions and Self-Affirmation:

• Things the Court Doesn't Care About

• Disclosure Episode

• Red Flags Lawyers

• How to Choose and Use Your Lawyer

• Parenting Apps for Communication:

• Our Children CoParenting Platform

• My Family Wizard

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Going through the divorce process? Learning the ropes of co-parenting? Dealing with a custody battle? This episode explores what role the school can and cannot play in your journey. We discuss what will be looked at in the family court moving forward if you end up in court.  We discuss how you can best support your child and their school experience whilst you go through your divorce. We discuss practical legal tips to help support you through this confusing time. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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CHILD SUPPORT episode on school uniforms and school books and fees etc.

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What to do if you or your ex wants to change your child’s school

• What happens with decision making at school before you get final orders or a parenting plan.

• What powers do the schools have when it comes to your child and custody issues?

• Can a school stop a parent from collecting them from school?

• What happens if you and your ex are arguing over school enrollments?

• What is a Child Impact Statement and how is it used in the Family Court 

• Moving schools during divorce and what you should consider

• School Fees and Divorce

• State School to Private School and Child Support issues

• What happens with Child Support if your ex changes your child to a private school and you didn’t want them to?

• Does the Family Court choose a school if you and your ex cannot?

• Should you consider putting a school name in your orders or parenting plan?

• What can you do if your ex is threatening to change your child’s school?

• What if you and your co parent don’t agree if our child should repeat a year

• Co Parenting and schooling decisions.

• Extra Curricular Activities 

• Extra curricular activities and co parenting decisions

• Our five top tips to dealing with school issues whilst going through your divorce proceedings.

• Can student counsellors get their notes subpoenaed for court?

• Tips for dealing with school events if domestic violence is involved.

• School report cards and school notes and coparenting and your court orders.

• Our Children Platform and how you can use it during your divorce process

• Why it’s important to keep the school up to date with the general information.

• Sharing school information with a co parent during divorce proceedings. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement

Do you feel like you are possibly being stalked or tracked? Is your ex partner harassing you via text, email or phone or face to face? You might be in a coercive control situation / domestic violence situation. In this episode we discuss what the different types of harassment are and where the line in the sand is that makes it illegal. We discuss what you can do about it. How you can go speak to and what the family courts view on this behaviour might be. Whether you’ve got a narcissistic ex , a manipulative and controlling or high conflict if your instincts are telling you something might be up, this episode is for you.

• Listen to our episode on Coercive Control in Divorce & after separation
• Listen to our Domestic Violence and Family Violence Part 1 Episode
• Listen to our domestic violence & family violence part 2 episode

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Find out more about the divorce course podcast

You Don’t Want to Miss out

• Coercive Control

• Harassment during divorce

• Stalking and tracking and what to do about it

• Divorce and stalking

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you struggling to document and present your experiences of coercive control or family violence in your paperwork or to your lawyer, mediator , police, court or counsellor? Feel like you have to KEEP telling your story and you wish there was a better way?

Whether you're preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with your lawyer, effectively communicating these experiences is crucial for your case.

In this episode, we cover simple ways to lay out your coercive control or family violence experiences in an easy to read and use format.

Lyn provides practical strategies to ensure your story is heard and understood, aligning your documentation with the Family Law Act, and presenting your case compellingly.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are experiencing coercive control and need to document it for legal purposes.

• ❓ Want to understand how the Family Law Act defines and addresses coercive control.

• 💡 Seek strategies for making your lived experiences clear and impactful in legal documents.

• 🛡 Are preparing for mediation, court, or consultations with a lawyer.

• 📚 Need guidance on creating a comprehensive and organised record of coercive control incidents.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding Coercive Control: What it is and how it impacts family law cases.

• Family Law Act Section 4AB: Definition of family violence and examples of coercive control.

• Documentation Strategies: Tips for documenting coercive control effectively.

• Using Legal Language: How to align your documentation with the Family Law Act.

• Creating Impactful Narratives: Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.

• Organising Evidence: Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence.

• Frequency and Patterns: Highlighting the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.

• Presenting in Mediation and Court: How to convey your case effectively in different legal settings.

Family Law Act Discussed

Family Law act 4da

Episodes Mentioned that you can learn more about

The importance of record keeping during divorce & separation: the what, why, when and how to help yourself in mediation, family court or even just in negotiation.

How to Write an Affidavit

The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1

The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2

Here are the key highlights and important parts of the episode with timestamps:

[0:00] - Introduction

• Laura and Lynette introduce the topic of documenting coercive control for legal purposes.

[2:15] - Understanding Coercive Control

• Definition of coercive control and its impact on family law cases.

[5:30] - Family Law Act Section 4AB

• Explanation of how the Family Law Act defines coercive control and family violence.

[10:05] - Importance of Documentation

• Why documenting coercive control is crucial for your case.

[12:45] - Documentation Strategies

• Tips for effectively documenting instances of coercive control.

[15:20] - Using Legal Language

• How to align your documentation with the terminology in the Family Law Act.

[18:40] - Creating Impactful Narratives

• Techniques for making your experiences come alive in affidavits and statements.

[22:00] - Organising Evidence

• Best practices for compiling and presenting evidence in a clear and organized manner.

[25:35] - Highlighting Frequency and Patterns

• Importance of demonstrating the frequency and pattern of coercive control behaviours.

[29:10] - Presenting in Mediation and Court

• How to effectively communicate your case in different legal settings, including mediation and court.

[33:50] - Real-Life Examples

• Examples of how to document coercive control incidents and their impact.

[38:00] - Seeking Professional Help

• When and how to seek professional help from lawyers and other experts.

[41:30] - Resources and Further Reading

• Mention of relevant episodes and resources to assist listeners further.

[45:00] - Conclusion

• Laura and Lynette wrap up the episode with final thoughts and encouragement.

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement

Bonus Episode #5

Today's Q & A Divorce Questions: When can I legally use my maiden name again after separation, and what surname am I supposed to use until the divorce is finalised?

Can other people do handover for my child to my ex partner/ co-parent.

Send your questions to thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com 

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• Join us on Facebook

• Find out more about the divorce course podcast

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Having to go into a witness box? About to go to a family court trial or a family violence hearing? Are you feeling anxious about stepping into the witness box? In this episode, we offer invaluable guidance on how to navigate this daunting experience. Whether you're involved in family law  court proceedings or dealing with family violence or domestic violence trial, this episode provides ten essential tips to help you stay calm and composed. DOWNLOAD OUR PRINTABLE WITNESS BOX TIP SHEET FROM our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au go to the free resources tab.

From understanding the importance of honesty to managing your emotions to the rules of the witness box, Laura and Lynette share practical education to ensure you present your best self in court. Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are preparing to testify in family law court or domestic violence court.

• ❓ Want to know how to handle cross-examination.

• 💡 Need strategies to stay calm and collected while giving evidence.

• 🛡 Are looking for ways to effectively communicate your side of the story.

• 📚 Seek tips on how to present yourself and interact with the judge and lawyers.

• 📝 Want to understand courtroom etiquette and procedures.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• 📘 The importance of telling the truth and being honest in court.

• 👂 Listening carefully to questions and asking for clarification when needed.

• 🛑 Avoiding speculation and being truthful if you don't know the answer.

• ⏱ Taking your time to think before answering questions.

• 🎭 Maintaining respect and composure in the courtroom.

• 💧 Strategies for managing emotions and asking for breaks if necessary.

• 📑 Understanding who is in the courtroom and what their roles are.

• 🤝 The role of your lawyer and how they can support you during testimony.

• ⚖ How barristers structure their questioning to build their case.

• 📝 Tips on avoiding giving lengthy answers that could complicate your testimony.

• For Full Show Notes & downloadable checklist for witness box tips, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

• For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Documentation Episode

• Unfair Accusations Episode

• Trash Talking Episode

• What to expect on the day of your family court trial: divorce, parenting orders settlement or property settlement

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this essential episode on navigating the witness box. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this challenging time. If you found this podcast helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your feedback helps others find the support they need. Stay strong and take care.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you facing intimidation or bullying in your divorce proceedings? In this empowering episode, Laura asks her experienced family lawyer mother to share crucial insights and actionable education to help you stand up against bullying tactics at every stage of the legal process.

Key Topics:

• Dealing with legal threats: Learn effective strategies for responding to threats and intimidation.

• Documenting incidents: Discover the importance of documenting bullying incidents and threats for legal purposes.

• Responding to untrue statements: Get valuable tips on crafting effective responses to false statements and accusations.

• Role of lawyers: Understand the role of lawyers in dealing with bullying tactics and how they can support you through the process.

• Bullying at court: Gain insights into handling intimidation during court proceedings, including interactions with opposing parties and legal representatives.

• Post-court pressures: Understand how to navigate and respond to post-court pressures and tactics.

Empower Yourself with Actionable Steps:

• Learn how to strengthen your position by documenting incidents effectively.

• Gain insights into crafting responses to counter untrue statements.

• Understand the crucial role of lawyers in navigating divorce proceedings.

• Equip yourself with strategies to stand up against bullying tactics.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINTor go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au 

Helpful Questions Covered:

• How do you deal with bullies in a divorce situation?

• What happens when you give in to a bully's demands in the early stages?

• Can you appease a bully, especially in family law situations?

• How do bullies use imaginary or inflated threats during divorce?

• What are the consequences when bullies involve children in the process?

• How can a person respond to bullying tactics involving children?

• What role does documenting incidents of bullying play in court later on?

• Can writing a letter addressing bullying behavior stop such tactics?

• How do threats of going to court impact individuals trying to avoid it?

• What steps can someone take before court if faced with threats?

• Why is it important to consult with a family lawyer before making decisions?

Additional Episode Highlights:

The episode covers topics such as dealing with threats, handling bullying at court, and addressing post-court pressures. Listeners will gain valuable tips on documenting incidents, responding to untrue statements, and understanding the role of lawyers in the process. Whether facing threats from an ex-partner, dealing with a cheer squad in court, or handling pressure after proceedings, this episode equips individuals with actionable steps to navigate the challenging terrain of divorce while standing up against bullying.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family courts views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it is not liable for the outcome of your case.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Useful Resources:

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

These questions cover various aspects of bullying in divorce, including different stages of the legal process and strategies for dealing with bullying behavior.

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Summary: 

We cover seven top tips for things to do if you cannot afford your own lawyer for children’s or property settlement and you are self representing.  Please go to our show notes on our website to get the links discussed in this episode.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Links and resources:

Episode 28 Show Notes

Court Etiquette for self representation in court podcast episode

• Follow us on Instagram
• Join us on Facebook
• Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online 
• https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.

Have you got concerns about starting or current property settlement in your divorce? Are you concerned about the cost of consulting a lawyer? Worried that pursuing property settlement might disrupt your peace? Anxious about your ex having a savvy legal team? Concerned about how others might perceive you during this process?

We discuss all these apprehensions and more, offering practical tips and guidance to help you navigate property settlement with confidence. Our goal is to ensure you get a fair outcome without the stress of these worries looming over you or you just giving up on it altogether.

Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and empower yourself during this challenging time. Don't let these concerns hold you back from achieving a just property settlement. Listen now to find the solutions you need to address your worries and secure what's rightfully yours.

In this episode, we delve into the top seven worries people commonly have about divorce property settlement. Join us as we explore these concerns and provide valuable insights on how to address them.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Your Top 7 Property Settlement Concerns During Divorce: How to Address Them

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• "What do you say to people who claim that their ex is too smart or has hired an expensive lawyer, making the fight for a fair settlement too difficult?"

• "How do you address concerns that the ex-spouse is manipulative, sneaky, or dishonest, making the divorce process not worth the effort?"

• "What advice do you have for individuals who think it's not worth pursuing consent orders for property when they believe they have very little to divide?"

• "How can you assure someone who wants to prioritize peace for the sake of the children that pursuing a property settlement won't lead to unnecessary conflict?"

• "What should someone consider when they're afraid of the potential cost of divorce and would rather spend that money elsewhere?"

• "How do you respond to individuals who have seen others go through amicable divorces and feel embarrassed or ashamed to confront a more challenging situation?"

• "Can you provide guidance on handling a divorce situation when you feel overwhelmed by the comparisons with other people's experiences?"

• "What steps can someone take to protect their legal rights in a divorce, especially when dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex-spouse?"

• "How important is privacy when going through a divorce, and how can one balance personal privacy with seeking support and advice?"

• "Are there specific strategies for maintaining effective communication with an ex-spouse during a divorce, even if it's expected to be high-conflict?"

• "What considerations should someone keep in mind when deciding whether or not to pursue a divorce?"

• "How can individuals ensure they make informed decisions and navigate the divorce process effectively?"

• "Can you explain the importance of seeking professional guidance and support when going through a divorce?"

• "What are the potential risks of comparing one's divorce situation to others, and how can one avoid feeling pressured to conform to someone else's experience?"

• What do you say to someone who feels overwhelmed and ashamed because they believe their ex is smarter or more cunning in the divorce process?"

• "How can you encourage individuals to seek legal help when they fear that their ex-spouse will make the divorce difficult?"

• "What advice would you give to someone who thinks their case isn't worth pursuing because they believe there are minimal assets to divide?"

• "How important is it to maintain one's privacy during a divorce, especially when dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex-spouse?"

• "Can you explain why it's essential for people not to be embarrassed or ashamed if their divorce experience isn't as amicable as others?"

• "What steps can someone take to regain a sense of control and power when they've been guilted or shamed into giving up in their divorce?"

• "How can individuals ensure they make informed decisions and navigate the divorce process effectively, even when they're feeling overwhelmed?"

• "What's the significance of taking action in a divorce rather than procrastinating and avoiding it?"

• "Can you elaborate on why comparing one's divorce situation to others can be misleading and unhelpful?"

• "What are some strategies for maintaining peace and effective communication with an ex-spouse during a potentially high-conflict divorce?"

• "How do you address the concern that it's not worth pursuing a divorce due to a busy life, especially when dealing with kids and work responsibilities?"

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Demystify the valuation process and educate and empower yourself into a confident player in your divorce settlement process! By the end of this episode, you'll gain valuable insights, avoid common pitfalls, and make informed decisions when it comes to property & asset valuations in divorce and property settlement. 

In this episode, you'll embark on a journey of understanding as we explain property & asset valuations in divorce settlements. Get ready to learn the crucial aspects that will help you navigate this complex process with confidence.

Explore the role of valuers and delve into why their expertise is essential in divorce settlements. You'll gain insights into how to choose the right valuer and overcome challenges when your ex-partner disagrees or a mutual decision can't be reached.

Discover the ins and outs of the valuation process as we explore what needs to be valued, the methodologies used, and the importance of accurate documentation. We'll address specific scenarios, including high-conflict divorces and amicable separations, and shed light on the role of forensic accountants in complex cases.

Prepare to tackle practical challenges head-on, such as kerbside valuations, access to the property, and the crucial task of documenting your house's condition. We're here to equip you with the knowledge and strategies to navigate valuations effectively.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation Property Settlements

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• What is a valuer?

• How do you decide which valuer to use?

• How much does a valuer cost?

• Why do you need to use a valuer for your divorce settlement?

• What to do if your ex wont agree to a valuer?

• What happens if you can’t choose a valuer?

• How to get your ex agree on a valuer?

• What do you need to consider getting valued for your divorce proceedings?

• How do valuations happen?

• Do valuers come to your house?

• What is the process valuers take during the property settlement?

• How much is your furniture really worth?

• What do you need to provide a valuer?

• What does the valuer send you after they have finished?

• What if you don’t agree with the valuer’s appraisal 

• What kind of values will a valuer come up with?

• How do you avoid using a valuer?

• What happens if you can’t agree on how to split the property?

• House valuations and what you should know for divorce and property settlement

• Can you have a property settlement before you’ve sold the house.

• Property Settlement and Percentages

• Do you need to get your super valued during divorce?

• Do you need to find out how much your ex has in superannuation for divorce?

• Military Superannuation and valuations for divorce and property settlement

• Defined Benefit Superannuation and your divorce

• Does it matter when the valuations are done?

• What date of valuation will the family court look at for property settlement?

• How old can the valuation be for property settlement mediation or family court?

• Do you need to share the money you have saved after separation?

• What happens with shares and their values?

• What value amount is looked at at the time of trial or mediation?

• Business and Divorce

• What is a forensic accountant?

• How much does a forensic accountant cost?

• Should I get a forensic accountant for my divorce and property settlement?

• High Conflict Divorces and Valuation

• The pitfalls for high conflict divorces and valuations

• Manipulative and controlling divorces and valuations

• How do I be careful whilst getting valuations for divorce with a manipulative and controlling ex.

• The game playing that might happen during valuations for your divorce and property settlement.

• What do you do if you are worried the valuer might miss something to look at in your ex’s possession?

• Amicable divorces and valuations

• How not to use valuers if you are in an amicable divorce.

• How to deal with your avoidant ex and using a valuer to assess your house, or property. 

• When do you need a kerbside valuation for your property?

• What can you do if your ex won't let the valuer into the house to see the property and value it.

• Why you should always video your house before you leave so you don’t have to rely on your ex doing the right thing.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you? Learn about the signs of economic or financial abuse, hear some real-life examples of how economic abuse manifests in relationships and practical steps you can take to protect yourself and your financial future. Find out how it is legally recognized under the Australian Family Law Amendment Act 2024, and why it’s considered a form of coercive control. Also find out about the new laws effective from June 2025 and how they impact property settlements and financial disputes. 

🚨 Trigger Warning: This episode discusses economic abuse and coercive control, which may be distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) or Lifeline for confidential advice and assistance.

🎧 Listen to This Episode If You:

✅ Feel like your partner controls your money or financial decisions
❓ Have been told you’re “bad with money” or pressured into signing financial documents
💡 Are worried that financial abuse is continuing after separation
🛡 Want to understand how the new legal changes address economic abuse
📚 Need advice on documenting financial control and seeking help
💔 Are experiencing financial stress during or after separation

DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• What is Economic and Financial Abuse?
  
  

• Signs and Red Flags of Economic Abuse
  
  

• How Economic Abuse Is a Form of Coercive Control
  
  

• Legal Changes: Economic Abuse Recognized as Family Violence
  
  

• Impact on Property Settlements and Financial Outcomes
  
  

• How to Protect Yourself from Economic and Financial Abuse
  
  

• Support Services and Resources for Victims

📌 Links & Resources Mentioned:

🔗 1800 RESPECT – Support for family and domestic violence:

• Website: 1800respect.org.au
  
  

• Phone: 1800 737 732
  
  

🔗 National Debt Helpline – Financial counselling and support:

• Website: ndh.org.au
  
  

• Phone: 1800 007 007
  
  

🔗 Men’s Referral Service – Support for men using or experiencing violence:

• Website: mrs.org.au
  
  

• Phone: 1800 943 539
  
  

🔗 Understanding Coercive Control – Australian Government Resource:

• Website: Australian Government Resource on Coercive Control
  
  

🎙️ Related Episodes:

1. Recognizing Coercive Control: How to Protect Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/12jgZw1IwIFLK5oPlp0its?si=CvxdW85YRJ6e9pX1katgPQ
   
   

2. Navigating Financial Disclosure in Family Court https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist
   
   

3. Understanding Emotional Abuse: Signs, Impact, and Recovery https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=ujMpXOD8QzeLbeA_rlC4Ew
   
   

4. How to Tell Your Story and Communicate Coercive Control in Your Documents https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=rO-DnFixQqKTPMCbkpe3jA

⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:

💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811
⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website
📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14
👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978
👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800
🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123

⏳ Episode Timeline:

00:00 Introduction to Economic Abuse

00:24 Recognizing the Signs of Economic Abuse

01:09 Trigger Warning and Support Resources

01:57 Understanding Economic Abuse in Family Law

02:28 Examples of Economic Abuse

04:23 Subtle Forms of Financial Control

12:12 Post-Separation Financial Abuse

15:25 Questions to Identify Financial Abuse

21:30 Coercive Control and Financial Dependence

24:29 Understanding Coercive Control and Financial Abuse

25:34 Real-Life Examples of Financial Abuse

27:06 Legal Definitions and Changes in Family Law

30:37 Proving Financial Abuse in Court

32:03 Steps to Escape Financial Abuse

40:39 Support and Resources for Victims

42:53 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

Are You a Victim of FINANCIAL Abuse? Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore & What the New Laws Might Mean for You

Is your main divorce or de facto separation fear having a very expensive legal bill? Are you currently going through separation negotiations, mediation, property settlement or a child custody battle? In this episode we discuss the five most common and easy ways to rack up your legal bill and how to avoid it. If you don’t want an expensive divorce or separation, listen to these five things your lawyer or you might be doing and learn how to stop it. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Strahan and Strahan Case

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• The case of strahan and strahan and why its a cautionary tale

• Lawyer “Ping Pong” letters and how to avoid them

• Why getting the facts matter 

• Why proof will save you $$$ in your legal bills

• How to negotiate and keep your legal costs down

• Why negotiating your property settlement isn’t the same as negotiating for a house or used car with a sales agent. 

• What you need to take if you are self representing yourself at mediation

• How does hunting for documents cost you high legal fees

• Bank statements and disclosure in negotiations

• What type of disclosure do you need for mediation

• The new family law rules for disclosure 

• Why you should have a reason for each document your lawyer starts hunting

• What happens with disclosure in your court case

• Questions to ask yourself for each disclosure you ask for

• How disclosure correlates to legal costs

• Why the court is still using paper instead of online documents

• Why you need to have a copy of your documents in hard copy sometimes

• Post separation abuse, disclosure & your privacy

• Domestic violence and disclosure and privacy

• The central practice direction on disclosure

• Subpoenas and the process

• Who is allowed to issue subpoenas and how many

• Documents and disclosure and legal costs

• What is the step in step out approach

• What happens if you don’t like your lawyer?

• What happens if you need a second opinion from another lawyer?

• Can you change lawyers?

• Issues with changing lawyers

• The difference between an accredited family law specialist and a general lawyer

• Choosing a lawyer and how it can affect your legal fee costs

• Can you use a general lawyer for your family law case?

• Statistics of court self represented litigants 

• Statistics of cost of family court matters

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Lyn discusses the four main “dirty money deeds” done in divorce and property settlement and how to avoid them happening to you. We tend to expect the best in people but let's face it when it comes to divorce it is better to be prepared than sorry. This episode covers some of the things “the dirty deeds” that happen along the way when it comes to money and divorce in high conflict, or manipulative and controlling relationships. Hopefully this can help you be mindful of the pitfalls yourself and be proactive during your divorce to avoid big lengthy court cases.

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Click below to listen to the podcast episodes referred to in this episode: 

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• The four main ways people cheat their partners out of money during divorce proceedings.

• Where a high conflict ex might hide money during your divorce proceedings.

• Why it is important to keep an eye on the day to day bills etc.

• Child support and the tricks some people play and how to avoid them.

• Why you need to investigate and be on top of the ins and outs of the joint assets.

• How to stop racking up your lawyer bills

• Why it is important to learn to be self sufficient 

• Why you need to consider the emotional as well as financial cost when it comes to property settlement. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Summary: 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Lyn a family lawyer of 35 years & accredited specialist talks through the process of getting your own divorce. The do’s and don’ts of filing in the court yourself for divorce.

She talks us through what the process is, how it happens, when and how to do it and what to watch out for when doing a DIY divorce application.

If you are looking to do your own divorce, listen to this episode first. 

Links and resources:

• Divorce DIY Service Kit

• Video on how to do your divorce
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• Registering on the court portal

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

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• What is service?
• How do I divorce my partner?
• What happens after I file the divorce papers?
• Can I divorce my partner even if they refuse?
• Can I jointly file for divorce with my ex?
• How much does it cost to get divorced?
• What happens in court when you get divorced?
• How do I fill in the divorce application form?
• Where do I find the divorce application form?
• How long does it take to get divorced?
• When can I remarry again after divorce?
• How does my divorce affect property settlement
• How long do I need to be separated before I get divorced?
• What is the difference between separated and divorced?
• How to serve your divorce papers on your ex partner.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you going through a divorce or de facto separation and are considering hiring a lawyer or are already working with one? Listen to this podcast episode designed to help you. 

Explore the top ten things you should consider doing to make communication more effective and to help make the process easier for your lawyer (which in turn can save you money) 

These practical easy to implement tips will empower you, strengthen your client-lawyer relationship, and improve your chances of a favourable outcome. Tune in now for valuable insights.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Top Ten Practical Tips to Delight Your Divorce Lawyer and Slash Legal Expenses

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

1. Why does it matter to tell the truth when dealing with a lawyer?

2. How does telling the truth help the lawyer and the client?

3. Do lawyers terminate the relationship with clients who tell lies?

4. What are the benefits of being truthful in a case?

5. Do lawyers get in trouble if their client tells lies in court?

6. Why should emails be preferred over phone calls when communicating with a lawyer?

7. How does having a separate email address for legal matters help in communication?

8. What can happen if important emails are missed in a general email account?

9. How can CC and reference numbers help in tracking communication with a lawyer?

10. Why is it important to use specific subject lines in emails?

11. How does using specific subject lines and reference numbers help lawyers in filing and organisation?

12. How were communication and filing done in the past compared to the present?

13. What are the advantages of using emails over phone calls for communication?

14. Why is it important to respond quickly in phone calls and emails to save costs?

15. What should be done when the other party sends a letter to be reviewed?

16. How can writing responses in a word document and sending it to the lawyer be helpful?

17. Why do some people fail to answer all the questions in email responses?

18. What is the preferred method of responding to letters from the other party?

19. Reasons why taking a chronology or a timeline to a lawyer is helpful for your lawyer?

20. What information should be included in the chronology or timeline?

21. Why is being on time important when meeting with a lawyer?

22. Is it difficult for lawyers to be punctual?

23. Why is it important not to bring USB sticks to the lawyer and instead provide documents via email or other means?

24. What are the risks associated with using USB sticks to provide documents?

25. Should documents be printed out or emailed before meeting with a lawyer?

26. Why is it important to give your lawyer permission to text you?

27. Can you provide tips for dealing with a manipulative or controlling ex during the legal process?

28. What actions can be taken to handle a manipulative or controlling ex through the lawyer?

29. Are there any additional tips for dealing with a high-conflict ex during the legal process?

30. How can one navigate the legal process if their ex is avoidant?

31. How can communication be made less threatening for an avoidant ex?

32. What steps can be taken to alleviate anxiety associated with receiving communication from the lawyer during an amicable divorce?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

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Are you facing a divorce, property settlement and custody battle with a narcissist? In this enlightening episode, we are joined by a Master High Conflict Negotiation Coach Mia Madafferi, Founder of Grey Rock Consulting to unravel the complexities of divorcing a narcissist while maintaining your sanity and control.

Explore the transformative power of mindset in the face of legal abuse and coercive control. Gain insights into anticipating narcissistic behaviour, protecting yourself during court proceedings, and effectively navigating mediation. 

Discover the crucial role of self-awareness in breaking free from negative relationship patterns post-divorce and maintaining personal well-being.

This episode sheds light on common abuse patterns exhibited by narcissists, offering practical strategies and expert advice to empower listeners throughout their divorce journey. With a powerful mantra—"They are more afraid of you than you are of them"—this conversation serves as a valuable guide for anyone grappling with the challenges of narcissistic relationships and divorce.

Tune in to learn how to slay negotiation challenges, shift your mindset, and emerge stronger on the path to reclaiming control over your life and a better outcome in your divorce proceedings. 

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general education and insights. Each individual's situation is unique, and listeners are encouraged to seek legal advice tailored to their specific circumstances. The content herein should not be relied upon as legal advice.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

For Full Show Notes go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

Useful Resources:

Contact Mia —> https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/contact-us

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Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

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Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Questions not to miss...

1. How does mindset play a crucial role when dealing with a narcissist during divorce?

2. What are some common challenges faced by individuals divorcing narcissists or those with narcissistic traits?

3. How can a person shift their mindset to empower themselves during and after divorce from a narcissist?

4. What role does radical acceptance play in changing one's mindset when divorcing a narcissist?

5. Have you observed differences in the mediation process between individuals who have shifted their focus and those still stuck in old patterns?

6. What strategies can be employed to gradually extract oneself from the psychological control of a narcissist?

7. How does the concept of "baby steps" contribute to the process of changing mindset and establishing boundaries?

8. In what ways do narcissists escalate their behavior when they sense a loss of control, especially during divorce proceedings?

9. How can individuals protect their energy and mental well-being when they are required to interact with a narcissistic ex during divorce-related tasks?

10. What practical steps can be taken to minimize the impact of negative communication, such as setting up email rules and avoiding unnecessary text messages?

11. In the context of legal abuse, how can individuals protect themselves and maintain their power during divorce proceedings?

12. How does the legal system and court processes contribute to the challenges of dealing with a narcissist in divorce?

13. How can individuals anticipate and prepare for the tactics of a narcissist in legal proceedings?

14. Can you share insights on dealing with word salad communication, such as long and confusing messages or letters?

15. What advice do you have for handling legal abuse by a narcissist and remaining empowered during court proceedings?

16. How can individuals cope with the emotional challenges of facing legal abuse and ongoing coercive control?

17. What are some common patterns of abuse exhibited by narcissists, and how can individuals become aware of these patterns?

18. How can individuals protect themselves from falling into the same negative patterns when entering new relationships after leaving a narcissistic one?

19. In the fast-paced family court environment, what advice do you have for individuals to take the time they need and make informed decisions?

20. How can single parents, especially those who have left a narcissistic relationship, manage the overwhelming demands of parenting and legal processes simultaneously?

21. What valuable lessons have you learned from your experience in helping individuals navigate divorce and separation from narcissistic partners?

22. Can you share some final words of wisdom or key takeaways for listeners dealing with narcissists in divorce?

Are you trying to figure out how to divide the property after your separation or divorce? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with my mum, but also an experienced family lawyer — and we walk you through the eight most common ways people settle property in Australia.

Whether you’re hoping to keep the house, want a clean break, or are totally confused by super splitting, we’re breaking it all down for you. From simple percentage splits to creative asset swaps — and even the risks of doing absolutely nothing — this episode is your go-to guide for understanding your options.

If you’ve been wondering how the Family Court might view your proposed agreement, or you just want clarity before making any big decisions, this one’s for you.

⚠️ Trigger Warning: We do talk about separation, divorce, and family and domestic violence in this episode.
📌 Legal Disclaimer: Everything shared here is general info only — not legal advice. Always speak to your own lawyer about your unique situation before making any decisions or signing anything.

🎧 Listen to This Episode If You:

🏡 You’re separated and thinking about how to split your assets

🤔 You’ve heard “it’s always 50/50” and you’re not sure if that’s true

🔑 You’re trying to keep the house, super, or a specific asset

😵‍💫 You’re overwhelmed by all the legal options

😟 You’re scared of doing the “wrong” thing with your property settlement

⚖️ You want a fair deal that protects your financial future

🧠 You’re a visual thinker and need real examples to understand your options

DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE just a discussion about Australian Family Law and Divorce or DeFacto Separation.

🔑 Key Topics Discussed in This Episode

1. What a property settlement actually is – and why it matters after separation
   
   

2. Common myths about property division – including the truth behind “it’s always 50/50”
   
   

3. The 8 different ways you can reach a property settlement – from informal agreements to full court proceedings
   
   

4. How to decide which option is right for you – based on your safety, finances, and communication with your ex
   
   

5. The risks of doing nothing – and why delays can cost you more than just money
   
   

6. Keeping the house, super, or other assets – what’s realistic and what the court considers
   
   

7. How to protect yourself legally and financially – especially in high-conflict or coercive control situations
   
   

8. When and how to get legal advice – and how to prepare for it
   
   

9. Case examples to help you understand what each option might look like in real life
   
   

10. What to do if your ex won’t cooperate or communicate

🎙️ Related Episodes:

• Consent Orders vs BFAs: What’s Best for You https://open.spotify.com/episode/5qgGhdAl5UaOo7LHb2Yf5Y?si=1d87hZ-iQ2iPadSuzyHBAQ
  
  

• I Really, Really Want to Keep the House
  https://open.spotify.com/episode/6TzW9skKgvO8fjm0gcFPRg?si=uz9H0V3eRsaXzKKoLlMfaA

• Selling the House in Divorce: What You Need to Know
  https://open.spotify.com/episode/6YUc34CVu6aCmunjQT1Sp6?si=7I8graLWQrm3PD_4brxOng

⚠️ Emergency Contacts & Support Services:

💜 Women’s Shelter Service: Call 1800 811 811
⚖️ Legal Aid: Visit Legal Aid Website
📞 Lifeline (24/7 Crisis Support): Call 13 11 14
👨‍👦 Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978
👧 Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800
🚨 National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732
🖤 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123

⏳ Episode Timeline:

0:00 – Trigger warning and legal disclaimer

1:00 – What are we covering in today’s divorce property settlement episode?

2:00 – What is the classic percentage split in a divorce—and how does it work?

3:30 – Why isn’t property always divided 50/50 in a divorce? What factors do courts consider?

5:30 – What are the risks of saying “You take the house, I’ll take the super” during divorce?

7:00 – When would this kind of divorce agreement be rejected by the court?

9:00 – Should we just sell everything and divide the cash after a divorce?

11:30 – Why can selling assets post-divorce shrink your overall property pool?

13:00 – What happens if one person buys the other out in a divorce settlement?

15:30 – How do you make sure the house is valued fairly during divorce proceedings?

17:00 – Can we trade assets like cars for cash or super for shares in a divorce?

18:30 – Is super always equal in value when dividing assets in divorce?

20:00 – What is superannuation splitting—and how does it work in a divorce?

22:00 – Is equalizing superannuation always a fair solution in divorce settlements?

23:30 – Can one person take on debt in exchange for more assets—and is that safe in a divorce?

25:00 – What are the legal risks when one partner takes on joint debt after divorce?

27:00 – What happens if we leave everything as it is and avoid a divorce property settlement?

29:30 – What real divorce stories show why doing nothing can go wrong?

33:00 – What are the new 2025 divorce-related laws—and how does post-separation spending affect your case?

34:30 – How can you figure out what’s fair in your unique divorce situation?

Episode 193 Beyond 50/50: Creative & Legal Ways to Settle Property in Divorce in Australia

 #DivorceSupport #PropertySettlement #FamilyLawAustralia #SeparationSupport #DivorceTips #KeepTheHouse #SuperSplit #FinancialAbuseAwareness #FairDivorce #LegalHelp #SplitAssets #CoParentingSupport #EqualPropertySplit #FamilyCourtMatters #DivorceCoursePodcast

Are you about to enter the Family court system? Have you been threatened with costs? Have you been asked to pay your ex’s legal fees? Has your lawyer mentioned a Calderbank offer? Are you just confused about the mention of costs in all your legal letters? Well this episode is for you. In this episode Lyn Galvin, a family law specialist of 35 years guides through what costs are, when they are ordered, why and how the court uses costs in the family law system for children’s custody matters and for property settlement. This is general advice only. Always seek independent legal advice as every persons situation is different. 

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You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What are costs?

• Why might you be ordered to pay someones costs?

• Why is a cost order sort by people in the family court?

• What is a calderbank offer?

• How are calderbank offers used in parenting and property matters in the family court?

• When should you worry about costs

• What does the court use costs for?

• What are the costs implications if you are self represented

• When are costs ordered?

• What kind of things you need to watch out for so you don’t end up paying your ex’s legal costs. 

• The Family Court of Australia and Costs

• Why lawyers put a cost order at the bottom of their orders sort

• Why making an offer to your ex during family court proceedings could help you later on after a trial. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

The second step once you’ve decided to divorce is to decide who stays in the home and who goes and how? Lyn discusses with Laura the options for you and your new living arrangements based on your divorce type. They discuss after separation the legal pros and cons of staying in the home and what has happened to clients in the past and how to try and avoid this happening to you. She also discusses what to do if you don’t have enough money for court.

You don’t want to miss:

• How to make the physical separation less stressful.
• How to decide who moves out and who stays.
• How to stay safe during this time if you are experiencing domestic violence. 
• What happens to the family home and what the rules are in family law.
• How to focus on the short term to get the basic living arrangements sorted.
• Pros and Cons to staying in the home vs leaving the home
• The legal view on who gets what stuff out of the house.
• What to do if no one agrees to leave.
• What an ouster order is.
• What a sole occupancy order is. 
• What do you do if you don’t have enough money for court? 
• How long the whole divorce legal situation usually lasts. 
• What is the difference between divorce and property settlement?.
• Why you have to wait 1 year before you are allowed to file for divorce.

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732
• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE http://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/about-womens-shelters/
• LEGAL AID: https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. 

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Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement

Have a family business? Worried about how it is included in your divorce? This episode explores the topic of divorce and business. We cover what the court does in relation to sharing up your business between you and your ex partner. A must listen if you are going through divorce and have a small business. Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years shares all the info you need to be aware of when you approach your divorce with a business in your property pool.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

• Spousal Maintenance Episode

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

You Don’t Want to Miss

• How your business gets valued to be included in the property pool for divorce

• If you were not involved in the business are you entitled to something after separation?

• What cases are relevant to family law and family businesses

• The timing of your relationship and how it effects your share of the business

• What the time and money invested in your business is valued at during the divorce settlement.

• How is the business included in the family property pool for property settlement. 

• Contributions and how it relates to your family business. 

• Is your side hustle included in the divorce?

• The basic law and how it relates to your business and your divorce.

• Family law rules on business valuations

• Business valuation issues and how to address them.

• What to watch out for in divorce and business 

• Sneaky tricks people use to avoid business valuations and how to keep an eye out and catch them out.

• Do you scale down or scale up your business before divorce?

• To buy or sell the business during divorce.

• What lessons can you learn from divorce court and your business?

• What is regarded as a short marriage?

• How do they calculate the length of the marriage in the family court?

• Do you sell the business or buy them out during divorce?

• Who gets the business in the divorce?

• Decisions you need to make before you make decisions on your business in your divorce.

• Accountants during your divorce what you need to know.

• Why you need your own accountant during your divorce.

• The case of Weir and Weir (1993) FLC 92 – 338 and how it relates to your divorce and business.

• The cast of Townsend (1994) 18 fam lr 505 and how it also relates.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

If you are facing your first Christmas whilst going through your divorce, this episode is for you. A lighter bonus episode that explores 8 issues that people face when it’s Christmas and how to consider navigating it with your co parent or ex.

* Can you access your lawyer over Christmas?

• What happens with Family Court over Christmas?

• Why you need to learn to say “Christmas is when you say it is.”

• How to deal with Christmas alone or without the kids.

• Navigating Christmas traditions with two households

• How to deal with your ex's family at Christmas

• Christmas handovers

• Presents and CoParenting

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are You a Victim of One-Sided Marital Contributions? Did you find yourself doing all the work in your household, from taking care of the kids to being the primary breadwinner and paying all the bills? Have you shouldered the household burdens while your ex-partner seemingly did nothing? Have you ever felt manipulated or coercively controlled into doing it all? What happens then when you want to separate? How can you present this in court and protect yourself from false assumptions?  

As the modern landscape of marital/de facto roles changes, sometimes it can be one person who makes both all the financial contributions and the non financial. This episode deals with what to consider if this is happening to you.

We delve into the world of gold diggers in divorce, equipping you with the knowledge to protect your financial interests and regain control of your life. Discover helpful legal insights and strategies you need.Learn about strategies to use to ensure your true contributions are recognized and how to safeguard your assets when dealing with a financially uncooperative ex. 

Get ready to address child support, manage high-conflict relationships, and handle manipulative and avoidant ex-partners. Join us in this comprehensive exploration of gold diggers in divorce, empowering you with expert guidance to secure your future.

Please remember that this podcast offers general education for Australia and is not a substitute for legal advice. Always seek independent legal counsel, as each situation is unique.

Gold Diggers in Divorce: Strategies to protect your assets from a non contributing ex.

Don’t miss out on hearing the answers to the following questions

• What happens when someone in a marriage refuses to work?

• What can you do if your ex is sitting at home and not contributing while you work hard?

• How do you protect your financial interests in a divorce when you've been the primary earner?

• What if your spouse demands spousal support after contributing very little?

• How can you deal with an ex-partner who's financially manipulative?

• What are the key factors considered in property settlements during divorce?

• How do you establish your contributions to the marriage when your ex is claiming otherwise?

• What is the court's approach to spousal support when one partner has contributed less?

• Can selling investment properties be a solution to financial disputes during divorce?

• What about child support when one partner isn't contributing to childcare?

• How do you approach child support when one partner is not contributing to childcare?

• What if your ex suddenly wants 50/50 custody when they weren't involved before?

• How do you counteract a manipulative ex's claim of increased involvement with the children?

• What do you say to those who are being used by their ex-partners and portrayed as the bad guy?

• How can you address the situation when your ex is manipulative and controlling?

• What should you do if you are dealing with an avoidant partner who refuses to leave?

• How can you deal with a high-conflict ex-partner who turns any conversation into a fight?

• What are some strategies for dealing with an amicable ex-partner in property settlements?

• How can you prove your contributions and handle spousal maintenance claims?

• How can you plan for a smoother divorce and financial security?
  

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you getting frustrated because your ex is delaying everything? Or has nothing happened for ages to sort out your property and children's issues after you separated from your ex? Are you worried because it might be a delay tactic for some reason? You might be right. Delays can be strategic for parenting matters, domestic violence matters and property matters.  In this episode take a look at the pitfalls of falling for delay tactics and letting things drag. Discover ways you can overcome these delays in the three different stages of divorce or de facto separation process. Learn from an accredited family law specialist about delay tactics that happen from right at the beginning whilst still living under the same roof, to the strategies used whilst in mediation and negotiation all the way up to delay tactics during court. No matter what personality type you have in divorce you may be faced with delay tactics. This can be frustrating when you are trying to move things forward. Listen to this episode so you can get on with your life even when your ex doesn't seem to want to. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

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Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

Costs & Calderbank Offers 

How to Divorce a Statue 

Delay Tactics in Divorce: How to counter them & How it can affect your Property, Children's & Domestic Violence matters.

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• What are delay tactics

• When do delay tactics cause problems

• Tactically how do delays help your ex during divorce?

• Section 117c of the family law act and why you need to know about it?

• The family law act and updates coming 

• How to cope with living under one roof and they are delaying

• Can a judge send someone to jail in the federal circuit and family court of australia?

• Some of the worst delay tactics a family law expert has seen 

• What happens if your ex starts dragging the chain 

• How to deal with centrelink during delays

• How to protect your state of mind during the delay tactics

• What happens if your ex won't disclose?

• What happens if your ex wants to delay so they can spend the cash before you start proceedings?

• What is the waiting period to get divorced?

• What is the property settlement deadline for de facto separation

• What is the property settlement deadline for divorced couples?

• What is a no fault divorce in Australia

• What incentives does your ex have to stall everything after separation?

• Do delay tactics help in parenting matters?

• What kind of delay tactics do you watch out for in parenting and children’s matters

• Do delay tactics cause problems in domestic violence matters?

• What happens if your ex pretends they don’t get your letters?

• What happens if your ex says let's deal with this all after christmas?

• What can you do if you are trying to get the matter moving along and your ex doesn’t want to?

• What about if they delay mediation?

• What happens if they delay disclosure in mediation?

• What is the central practice direction and the obligation to respond to your letters?

• Why putting in a time and date that you expect a response helps with delays.

• Tips on writing letters to people who are delaying doing something to move your divorce forward.

• What is a default judgement and how you can get it if your ex just won't lift a finger.

• Can you be financially compensated if your ex is delaying everything

• What are the cost implications of delay tactics?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you wondering if you really need a lawyer for mediation or family dispute resolution? In this episode, we discuss the ins and outs of mediation and whether you really need a lawyer by your side. Explore the different types of meditations, the pros and cons of having legal representation, and pick up some helpful tips for those on a tight budget who may not be able to afford a lawyer. If you're wondering how to approach mediation in your divorce journey—whether it’s about property settlements or children's matters—this episode will provide valuable insights to help you make a decision.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are considering mediation but unsure if you need a lawyer.
• ❓ Want to know what happens during mediation and the role a lawyer plays.
• 💡 Need strategies for navigating mediation on your own or with minimal legal assistance.
• 🛡 Want to weigh the pros and cons of bringing legal support to your mediation.
• 📚 Are on a tight budget and looking for ways to handle mediation cost-effectively.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Types of Mediation: The different stages of mediation, from initial discussions to court-appointed mediation.
• Do You Need a Lawyer?: The advantages and disadvantages of having a lawyer during mediation.
• Cost Considerations: How to handle mediation if you’re on a tight budget and can’t afford legal representation.
• Mediation Preparation: Tips on how to prepare for mediation and what documents to gather.
• Self-Representation: How to navigate mediation without a lawyer, including understanding the process and legal expectations.
• High Conflict vs. Amicable Mediation: How the nature of your relationship with your ex can impact whether or not you need a lawyer present.
• Settler’s Remorse: What happens if you agree to something in mediation and regret it later, and how to avoid this.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Related Episodes:

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode166 (Understanding Legal Gatekeeping: Is Your Lawyer Telling Your Full Story in Divorce?)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisodefour (How to negotiate an agreement after divorce.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentytwo (Convincing the unconvincible in divorce negotiations for family law0

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftyfour (FDR, Conciliation Conference & Mediation: the what, how, when, who, why of your family dispute resolution)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasteightyone (10 things that could happen legally and emotionally after mediation (in the family court or privatley)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastonehundredtwo (What Is Mediation & Am I Ready For It? Navigating mediation during your divorce or de facto separation.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode125 (when you mediation goes wrong and what to do next in your divorce, custody or property negotiations)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode136 (The real deal with mediation: dispelling 5 myths)

• Free Resources:

• Mediation Checklist (Available on our website)
• www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Webinars and Courses:

• DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol
•  
• Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au
•  
• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast
•  

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline: 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia
• Police: 000
• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)
• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636
• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this episode on mediation and legal representation. Remember, your situation is unique, and weighing the pros and cons is crucial to making the right decision. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Has your ex just told you that they are the bread winner so therefore in the divorce they will get most of the property settlement? Has your ex just quit their job so they avoid paying child support? Has your ex downplayed your contributions in the marriage. Or are you just plain confused about what is considered in divorce when it comes to income/salary/wages. Well this episode is for you.

Learn about how salary and earnings impact property division and child support in divorce proceedings. We aim to demystify the most common misconceptions floating around at the moment and put your mind at ease. 

Join our insightful discussion around the concept of earnings, and let us shed light for you on how the courts assess both financial and non-financial contributions when dividing assets. Additionally, learn about the concept of "future needs," which encompasses various factors such as earnings, age, health, and childcare responsibilities. 

By the end of the episode, listeners will gain valuable knowledge and a clearer understanding of how the court strives for equitable, rather than necessarily equal, distribution in divorce cases.

Key Points:

• Debunking the myth that higher income guarantees a larger share of the property pool.

• Understanding how courts evaluate financial and non-financial contributions during property division.

• Exploring the concept of "future needs" and its significance in divorce settlements.

• Recognizing the court's aim for equitable distribution, considering various factors beyond income alone.

• Learning about the word “CAPACITY” and what it means in the court and what it means for CHILD SUPPORT & PROPERTY SETTLEMENT

Listen to this episode if you want to:

• Gain clarity on how salary and earnings impact property settlement and child support.

• Understand the factors considered by courts when dividing assets in divorce cases.

• Learn about the concept of "future needs" and its role in achieving fair outcomes in divorce settlements.

• Learn about what to do if your ex quits their job to try not pay child support.

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned 

Your Future Needs and how it affects your divorce and property settlement Part 3: Sorting your property settlement in divorce

How to divorce a statue: 7 tips to divorce an avoidant ex even if they stonewall you or disappear.

Surprising issues that are irrelevant in divorce & separation proceedings. So you can focus all your efforts on the things that your mediator, divorce lawyer or judge will actually care about.

Property Settlement: What is Fair?

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Do you know your separation date? Do you know why it is important for divorce or de facto separation ? Do you know how to document it? Are you going through a difficult divorce and finding yourselves separated under one roof? Do you feel stuck and unsure of what steps to take next? Look no further! In this podcast episode, Laura and her Mother, a Family Law Specialist provide education and practical tips on navigating the challenges of living with your ex during a divorce and 5 tips and ways to document your separation date. 

Learn about the importance of seeking legal advice, documenting the separation, and establishing an independent life whilst still being stuck in the same home. Whether you're contemplating the decision to leave or considering reconciling, this episode delves into the complexities and implications of separating under one roof and separation dates. Don't miss out on valuable insights and guidance - listen to this episode to gain clarity and take the next steps towards your new life.

Please always see a lawyer and get independent legal advice before acting on anything. This podcast provides australian general education only and cannot be applied to everyone’s individual situations, so always go see a lawyer.

Episode Highlights:

• Practical tips for living arrangements while separated under one roof

• Establishing an independent life and documenting the separation

• Recognizing the implications of separating under one roof in property and child custody cases

• Separation dates and why they are important

• Importance of seeking legal counsel in your individual circumstances

Don't wait any longer - tune in to this episode to gain valuable insights for navigating your divorce or de facto separation.

Beyond the Split: Understanding Separation Dates and Cohabitation with your Ex

Don’t miss out on the following questions

• How do I handle the situation of being separated under one roof?

• How can I set up an independent life after a breakup while still living under one roof?

• What are the steps I should take with my lawyer?

• How can I determine what assets I can afford to keep?

• What are the financial implications of property division when it comes to separation date?

• How do I properly document my interactions and communications?

• What are some sneaky tricks to be aware of during the divorce process?

• Why is a divorce, separation date or de facto separation date important?

• What are the top five ways to establish a separation date?

• How to deal with living under one roof after separation?

• What are some practical tips for separated under one roof arrangements?

• Is nesting a solution co parenting with your ex?

• How can I set up a new independent life after separation if living under one roof still?

• If you sleep with your ex after separation does that count as getting back together?

• What happens if you have a brief reunion but then break up again? 

Useful Resources:

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Episodes Mentioned in this episode 

Separated under one roof: the do’s and don’ts in divorce

I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.

Debunking Divorce Myths and Your Essential First Steps

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Can you meditate with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits in your divorce? Although you might see it as a waste of time, there is actually some good that can come out of it even if you don’t settle.  Our experienced accredited mediator and also experienced family law specialist will guide you through how you can make your mediation for family law matters (like property or parenting) work for you. Learn some strategies and steps you can take if you are dealing with someone who has narcissistic traits. Don’t waste your precious chance to settle or find out more about your ex’s plans. Listen to this episode today and get your agenda and strategies sorted. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course

Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

After Mediation Episode

FDR Mediation or Conciliation Conferences Episode

Convincing the Unconvincable Episode

 Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and Negotiation Tips when divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What might surprise you at a mediation with a narcissist

• Why you think you know what your ex is thinking is a mistake for mediation

• Why it's a bad idea to assume your ex thinks like you leading up to mediation.

• When you understand what they care about you can have success in mediation

• What is the shuttle process?

• Why the shuttle process helps in mediation with a narcissist

• How you can ask the mediator to help you with the narcissistic attacks during the mediation. 

• How to let your mediator know about their behaviour

• The three things a narcissist will care most about in their agreement with you.

• Does it matter if the mediator knows they are narcissists?

• How you can use the mediation to help tailor your affidavit for trial

• The cat and mouse game sometimes used in mediation by a narcissist

• How to avoid the game playing in mediation with a narcissist

• Which issue do you deal with first in mediation with a narcissist?

• Can you make suggestions to the mediator?

• How to agree on the agenda for the day

• How to make sure your narcissistic ex doesn’t run the agenda for the day.

• Why you should avoid using the word narcissist when going through family court unless they are officially diagnosed. 

• What should you do to show to the mediator or the judge that  your ex has narcissistic behaviours?

• How to “rebrand” your offer in negotiation so that your narcissistic ex will agree to it. 

• Do’s and Don’ts of mediation with a narcissist 

• Why you need to be mentally fit to get the most out of the mediation.

• What is the current mediation success rate?

• Is the family court full of narcissists? 

• Why taking proof and documentation to a mediation is a good idea.

• What the mediator will do to help you in a mediation with a narcissist

• Is a shuttle process a good idea with a narcissist?

• How to be aware of old patterns and how to stay out of them during negotiations with your ex.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Show Notes:

Please note: This is general advice only.

Links below as discussed in this episode. 

NSW Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 65 64 63

ACT Domestic Violence Crisis Service (DVCS)  6280 0900

SA Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1800 800 098

QLD DV Connect -1800 811 811

TAS Safe at Home Family Violence Response and Referral Line 1800 633 937

VIC Safe Steps  1800 015 188

WA Domestic Violence Helpline 1800 007 339 

NT Darwin Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Women’s Shelter 8945 2284 

Legal services (Australia-wide) Family Violence Law Help 

Discussion topics 

• Pet Relocation during domestic violence
• Centerlink and how it can help you.
• Shelter, Food, and Safety during relocating from domestic violence
• Mental health assistance after surviving domestic violence
• Mental health care plans 20 session and how to obtain one
• Psychologists for Domestic Violence Survivors 
• How to deal with police during a dv incident?
• How to report DV or Family Violence to the police
• Family violence and the police
• Why reporting domestic violence to the police is important 
• Who is a Domestic Violence liaison officer and why they are important? 
• How to apply for a Domestic Violence Order or Protection Order
• What is the difference between a temporary protection order and a protection order
• Domestic Violence Order process
• PPN Police protection notice
• What is a magistrate and what they do with your application.
• Courts and safe rooms
• What to expect when you arrive at court after you’ve applied to the court and how you are supported. 
• Duty Lawyers and Counsellors at the court

Link to apply for an order https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/going-to-court/domestic-violence/domestic-violence-orders/applying-for-a-domestic-violence-order

Why it is important to be specific when reporting domestic violence or applying for a domestic violence order?

Victims assist link http://www.victimsofcrimeaustralia.com.au/?gclid=CjwKCAiA4o79BRBvEiwAjteoYEAeGHTmKG00cWJRjQkNTro1ouehUOiSOX0sIAhE0Udb9b3jOgEjbxoCC6YQAvD_BwE

Online form link for a Protection Order https://www.qld.gov.au/law/crime-and-police/abuse-family-matters-and-protection-orders/apply-for-a-protection-order#start-application

PDF version for applying for a protection order https://www.courts.qld.gov.au/__data/assets/pdf_file/0006/162168/dva-f-1.pdf

Are you in the process of getting divorced and need to find the right lawyer for your case? Choosing the right legal representation can be daunting, especially during an emotionally charged time. In this episode, Laura and Lynette dive into the ten essential steps and questions you need to consider when selecting a lawyer. They discuss the importance of finding a lawyer whose experience, ability, and personality align with your needs, and they offer practical advice on navigating this crucial decision.

Listen to This Episode If You:

- 🌟 Are beginning the process of divorce and need to find a lawyer.

- ❓ Want to know the key questions to ask a prospective lawyer.

- 💡 Seek understanding of the importance of lawyer-client compatibility.

- 🛡 Are dealing with the stress and confusion of legal proceedings.

- 📚 Need strategies for ensuring your lawyer can meet your specific needs.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

- Finding the Right Lawyer: Tips on what to look for in terms of experience, ability, and personality.

- Asking the Right Questions: Essential questions to ask during initial consultations to ensure a good fit.

- Understanding Costs: The importance of discussing billing practices, hourly rates, and getting itemised accounts.

- Legal Updates: Ensuring your lawyer is knowledgeable about recent changes in the Family Law Act and other relevant legislation.

- Step In, Step Out Services: Understanding flexible legal services and how they can save you money.

- Importance of Compatibility: Why it’s crucial to find a lawyer you can trust and communicate with effectively.

- Handling Legal Fees: Strategies for managing costs and budgeting for your legal expenses.

- Role of Communication The significance of clear and consistent communication between you and your lawyer.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Choosing a Family Lawyer & the Red Flags not to ignore

Three ways to choose and use your family lawyer (that you probably haven’t heard of for your divorce.

Divorce Budgeting 101: Understanding Legal Fees & Six Simple Saving Strategies

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

Are you dealing with an ex with narcissistic behaviours and having to navigate the world of coparenting? Are you about to go into the family court system or are already in it with a narcissist? This divorce course podcast episode is for you. Mia from Grey Rock Consulting is going to discuss and help you navigate co parenting whilst dealing with the narcissistic behaviours. Lyn helps us explore the legal implications of fights, reactive behaviour and not thinking about the best interest of the children. She will guide you on to how best to show the family court what you are dealing with. 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Other podcast episodes mentioned in this episode

Grey Rock Method Episode

CoParenting with a difficult ex - Lorrie Brooks

Go here to learn more about Mia and Grey Rock Consulting

https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• Why an ironclad court order is the best defence against a narcissistic co parent

• Why wishy washy court orders wont work in this situation.

• The court's opinion on parents that can’t co parent

• How to avoid conflict with a narcissistic co parent 

• What happens if your court orders don’t specify what to do in a certain parenting situation?

• How to consider the best interests of the children when making the decision.

• Tips on how to deal with having a ex who counter parents

• Accepting what you can and can't control. 

• Why can't you speak ill of your co-parent to the other child.

• What to do when you want to talk badly about your co parent.

• Adult matters and why you shouldn’t burden the kids with it.

• Why leading by example for your children is so important. 

• Why explaining and defending yourself isn’t a good idea. 

• Is it important to defend yourself against accusations from a narcissistic ex in coparenting communications?

• What the Judge might think of your communication if it is full of fighting, accusations and drama

• How sometimes massaging a narcissist ego may be helpful

• What to do if they write something that isn’t true about you in the communications.

• Do you need to defend yourself from all their accusations?

• Why it isn’t a good idea to use the label of a narcissist during family court case

• How to describe the conduct to a judge in the family court trial.

• How to objectively document issues that occur with the coparent.

• Getting a psychologist for your children to help deal with the uncertainty of divorce.

• What does the Australian Institute of Studies show about kids in the middle of conflicting parents. 

• Tips for making sure you do the right thing legally when getting your child a psychologist.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Summary: 

In this episode we begin to cover the ins and outs of domestic violence and what the legal process is to get out of it.  Lyn discusses with Laura what a protection order is and how you can apply for one. She also discusses the process in court and what to expect. We also cover what you can do to prepare and what you should do on the day. Part 2 for a more in-depth look, coming soon.

You don’t want to miss:

• What is legally considered domestic violence?
• The best evidence for DV and how you can do it. 
• If you need a domestic violence order for protection
• How to get a domestic violence order
• What is a court like? How can you be safe at court.
• What the rules are for domestic violence.
• How can the police help you?

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

Queensland Government Links

DV - Guide to completing an application for a protection order

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
• These videos explain the court process for applying or responding to domestic violence orders.
• Going to court as an applicant
• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)
• Once your application for a domestic violence order has been filed, you will receive a date for your first appearance at court, which you must attend. Find out what happens in court and your safety in the courtroom.
• What is domestic violence?
• What are the patterns of domestic violence? 
• What are other types of abuse?
• Is my relationship healthy and how can I work on issues?
• What is domestic violence?
• What are the patterns of domestic violence? 
• What are other types of abuse?
• Is my relationship healthy and how can I work on issues?
• How can I stay safe at home?
• How can I support and protect my child?
• How can I keep my partner away from me?
• How can I stay safe if I leave home?
• How can I become financially independent?
• How can I safely use technology?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

The first step once you’ve decided to divorce is to get prepared. Being prepared before you separate can help you streamline and shorten your divorce process, saving money and drama. Lyn the Family Lawyer describes what needs to be done, how and why. Lyn discusses with Laura what has happened to clients in the past and how to try and avoid this happening to you by following her tips. 

You don’t want to miss:

• Practical steps to take before you leave.
• Information on how and what to gather to take to your lawyer.
• Our checklist on what to gather and document.
• What to do with your bank accounts, insurance and mortgage records.
• What to do if it is too late and you’ve already left. 

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. 

And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review. Thank you.

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement

You still need to live right? That means you still need money. If you’ve not been the breadwinner that puts you in a tricky situation if you leave. In this episode we discuss spousal maintenance, what it is, when you can get it and how to apply. Don’t let the threat of no money be the only reason you stay in a marriage you’d prefer to be out of.  

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Links and resources:

Initiating Application Form

Fact sheet on preparing an affidavit

Affidavit Form

Financial-statement-kit

Section 75 of the Family Law Act - Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance

Section 77 of the Family Law Act - Urgent spousal maintenance cases

• Follow us on Instagram

• Join us on Facebook

• Sign up to hear more about our divorce course online 
• https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

You Don’t Want to Miss

• What is spousal maintenance?
• What is spousal maintenance in Australian family law?
• Can you apply for spousal maintenance?
• How do you apply for spousal maintenance?
• The different types of spousal maintenance?
• What's the difference between child support and spousal maintenance?
• How to avoid the good girl bad girl situation with spousal maintenance.
• How spousal maintenance can speed up your property settlement or slow it down. 
• How hard is it to supply for spousal maintenance?
• Can you get funds for lawyers from your ex partner?
• Can you engage a lawyer if you have no access to your money?
• What is an initiating application?
• What is a financial statement?
• What is an affidavit for spousal maintenance?
• What is the new court urgent list?
• Can you get spousal maintenance without going to court?
• Can you go to mediation to get spousal maintenance?
• When can you apply for spousal maintenance?
• What is the likelihood of your application being rejected in court for spousal maintenance?
• What does the federal circuit and family court of Australia do with urgent cases?
• Does your centrelink payments effect your claim on spousal maintenance? 
• Can you apply for spousal maintenance whilst still living in the same house with your ex?
• DV and spousal maintenance issues
• Where to go for help if you are struggling for money while waiting for a property settlement. 
• What do you write in your spousal maintenance application?
• What do you write in your affidavit for spousal maintenance?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.

Are you going through a divorce and are worried about your ex spending/hiding all the money before the property settlement is sorted? In this episode we look into various scenarios of how your ex may be spending big to deplete the property pool and what can be done about it.

Learn about the concept of "wastage" in the family law world and how the family court can view it. Discover what the family court has done in the past if wastage has been determined. If you are worried, this episode will give you some practical tips on how you can protect yourself or calm yourself. Listen now to and be proactive in your divorce or de facto separation. Don't let your property pool become a property puddle before financial settlement occurs. We also touch on disclosure and a previous full court ruling on someone who wasn't playing fair.

Please note this is general education only not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. This podcast is based in Australian Law. 

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Episodes Mentioned you Should Listen to

DIY Disclosure Episode

Your Finances and the red flags to look for with Pedro Marin

The Post Separation Abuse Wheel Part 2

Cases mentioned in this episode

http://www8.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1981/70.html

http://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1981/70.html?query=

Help! My ex is spending all the money and I'm worried there won't be enough left for me at property settlement.Safeguarding your property pool during the divorce

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• Is wastage a common behaviour among exes going through a midlife crisis?

• What are some common examples of wastage during a midlife crisis?

• What are the rules around wastage in family court?

• How does wastage affect the division of property in divorce cases?

• What actions can be taken to stop wastage during the divorce process?

• Is wastage considered a negative contribution to the asset pool?

• Is there any legislation regarding wastage in the Family Law Act?

• How can wastage be proven in court?

• Is spending on luxury vacations considered wastage?

• Can running down a business be considered wastage?

• How can the value of assets be determined before and after wastage?

• What can be done if there aren't enough assets left to compensate for the wastage?

• How important is it to know the property pool from the beginning of the divorce process?

• Is mediation a good time to be asking?

• Is it too late to ask certain questions at mediation?

• When should you ask important questions before mediation?

• What should you do when you notice certain behaviour from your ex?

• Is it better to stop waste or try to get it added back later?

• How can you prevent your ex from wasting assets?

• How can you handle non-disclosure issues in court?

• What can you do if your ex refuses to disclose financial information?

• Is it a bad idea to retaliate and waste assets in response to your ex's behaviour?

• What can happen if you engage in dishonest or dodgy behaviour during the process?

• How long has the Family Law Act been in effect?

• Are there any new surprises in family law cases?

• How can you conduct searches and gather information about assets?

• Should you take action even if you have an amicable relationship with your ex?

• What should you be looking out for if you have a manipulative or controlling ex?

• What should you be looking out for if your ex is a narcissist?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

• Is wastage a common behaviour among exes going through a midlife crisis?

• What are some common examples of wastage during a midlife crisis?

• What are the rules around wastage in family court?

• How does wastage affect the division of property in divorce cases?

• What actions can be taken to stop wastage during the divorce process?

• Is wastage considered a negative contribution to the asset pool?

• Is there any legislation regarding wastage in the Family Law Act?

• How can wastage be proven in court?

• Is spending on luxury vacations considered wastage?

• Can running down a business be considered wastage?

• How can the value of assets be determined before and after wastage?

• What can be done if there aren't enough assets left to compensate for the wastage?

• How important is it to know the property pool from the beginning of the divorce process?

• Is mediation a good time to be asking?

• Is it too late to ask certain questions at mediation?

• When should you ask important questions before mediation?

• What should you do when you notice certain behaviour from your ex?

• Is it better to stop waste or try to get it added back later?

• How can you prevent your ex from wasting assets?

• How can you handle non-disclosure issues in court?

• What can you do if your ex refuses to disclose financial information?

• Is it a bad idea to retaliate and waste assets in response to your ex's behaviour?

• What can happen if you engage in dishonest or dodgy behaviour during the process?

• How long has the Family Law Act been in effect?

• Are there any new surprises in family law cases?

• How can you conduct searches and gather information about assets?

• Should you take action even if you have an amicable relationship with your ex?

• What should you be looking out for if you have a manipulative or controlling ex?

• What should you be looking out for if your ex is a narcissist?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Episode 18 - Court Etiquette: What to say and do if self representing in Family Law Court

Summary: 

We discuss what the court etiquette rules are in the Family Court of Australia. What to do when you enter the courtroom. How to find the room in the first place. Who to speak to. When to stand and when to sit. How to speak to a judge and what to expect on your first visit to court?

You don’t want to miss:

• What is the best court etiquette
• Who is the respondent and who is the applicant?
• When to stand and when to sit in a courtroom.
• How to introduce yourself to the judge
• When is it ok to speak to a judge in family court.
• Can you represent yourself in court?
• How do you leave and enter a courtroom?
• How to prepare in advance
• What to wear to court
• Self representing in family court, what to expect.
• A family lawyer's top tips to court etiquette for those who have never been.

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Links and resources:

• Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse

• Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast

• This will open (www.courts.qld.gov.au)

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.

• 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

The DARVO method—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—is a tactic often employed by narcissists in legal battles, particularly during divorce or family court cases. In this episode, we shed light on the DARVO strategy and share eight essential ways to protect yourself against it. Whether you’re facing family violence court, property settlement agreements, or a child custody battle, these insights will empower you to stay calm, gather evidence, and ensure your truth is heard. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Listen to This Episode If You:

• 🌟 Are dealing with a narcissistic ex who might be the type to manipulate the narrative in court.

• ❓ Want to understand the DARVO method and how it impacts family court cases.

• 💡 Need strategies to counteract manipulation and lies in affidavits or legal documents.

• 🛡 Want to protect yourself from being gaslit and maintain your mental health.

• 📚 Are looking for ways to keep communication calm and factual during a contentious divorce.

Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode:

• Understanding DARVO: What it means and how it shows up in legal battles.

• Importance of Written Communication: Why all communication should be documented via emails or apps.

• Respond, Don't React: Techniques for staying calm and responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally.

• Gathering Evidence: How to collect and organise evidence to challenge false claims.

• Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of setting clear boundaries to protect your mental health.

• Affidavit Strategies: How to stick to the facts and tell your story effectively in legal documents.

• Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Understanding that the truth will unfold over time with patience and perseverance.

Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:

Episodes for More Insight:

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcasttwentyfive (Divorcing a narcissist: what to expect in the family law process and courts and how to prepare)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastthirtythree (The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastfiftytwo (Co-parenting: How to successfully do it even with a high conflict, narcissistic controlling or avoidant ex partner.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventytoo (How To Use The Grey Rock Method in Divorce & Family Law Proceedings with a narcissistic ex)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastseventyfive (Co parenting and family court with a Narcissist)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetythree (Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours.)

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyseven (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 1)

• Post-Separation Abuse: What You Need to Know

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninetyeight (The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it. Part 2)

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• https://link.chtbl.com/divorceepisode113 (Why your narcissistic ex might want a parenting coordinator and what you can do about it)

• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode134 (Mind over matter: divorcing a narcissist)

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• https://link.chtbl.com/DivorceEpisode140 (The Narcissists’ Chess Board: Understanding The Divorce SLAY strategy

• https://link.chtbl.com/divorcepodcastninety (A simple way to protect your children from being used as chess pieces in your divorce or de facto separation)

• Webinars and Courses:

• DIY Divorce Blueprint www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol

• Webinars on Navigating Divorce www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

• https://www.patreon.com/TheDivorceCoursePodcast

* ARC App website https://download.arc-app.org.au/

* Empower You App https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline: 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia

• Police: 000

• DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week)

• DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636

• National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)

Thank you for tuning in to this important episode on understanding and counteracting the DARVO strategy. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to protect yourself and ensure that the truth comes out. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the help they need. Stay strong and take care.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.

Are you facing the challenges of co-parenting after a divorce or separation? The idea of parenting coordinators might sound appealing, promising to ease communication and decision-making between you and your ex. But, before you sign up, it's essential to understand the potential pitfalls.

Join us in this podcast episode as we delve into the concept of parenting coordinators and explore the concerns surrounding them. From issues of control and decision-making to the impact on children's upbringing, we dissect this increasingly discussed topic. We'll also offer alternative strategies for resolving co-parenting conflicts and emphasise the importance of active parental involvement.

Whether you're navigating the complexities of co-parenting or just curious about the potential downsides of parenting coordinators, this episode offers valuable insights and advice. Remember, knowledge is your best tool for making informed decisions.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is a parenting coordinator?

• What are the risks of a parenting coordinator with a narcissistic/ manipulative and controlling ex

• Are parenting coordinators a good idea for co-parenting?

• Can parenting coordinators make decisions about child-raising?

• Can parenting coordinators help in high-conflict situations?

• How do parenting coordinators impact the financial aspect?

• Are there risks of bias with parenting coordinators?

• How does the involvement of parenting coordinators affect children?

• Why is the concept of parenting coordinators seen as a potential issue?

• What concerns are raised about parenting coordinators?

• What caution is advised regarding parenting coordinators?

• How is the idea of parenting coordinators viewed?

• What analogy is used to explain the perspective on parenting coordinators?

• What is considered crucial in the business of co parenting after a separation?

• What potential effects could parenting coordinators have on children?

• How is the idea of parents learning to manage co-parenting challenges perceived?

• How is co-parenting compared to a business partnership?

• What concerns are expressed about the lack of regulation in the field of parenting coordinators?

• What alternative options are proposed for resolving co-parenting conflicts?

• What could be the consequences if parents rely solely on parenting coordinators?

• What advice is given to parents considering parenting coordinators?

• What is the purpose of the pop parenting courses?

• What should people going through post separation abuse watch out for when parenting coordinators are recommended?
  

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If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general education only this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Everyone seems to start talking about the percentage split in divorce for property straight away. In this episode, you will learn about the dangers of negotiating property split percentages prematurely in your divorce proceedings. We aim to help you discover why it's crucial to prioritise understanding the property pool before discussing percentages, as well as the potential financial and emotional costs of jumping into percentage negotiations too soon. 

Understand how focusing on property pool valuations can lead to smoother negotiations and prevent misunderstandings down the line. 

Listen to gain practical tips for dealing with different divorce personality types, from amicable to high conflict, and learn strategies for navigating negotiations effectively. With valuable insights and cautionary tales, this episode provides essential guidance for anyone facing divorce negotiations, helping you avoid costly mistakes and achieve a fair outcome.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

Listen to this episode if you want to:

• Learn why negotiating percentages early in divorce proceedings can be detrimental

• Understand the importance of focusing on the property pool before discussing percentages

• Gain practical tips for dealing with different divorce personality types

• Avoid costly mistakes and achieve a fair outcome in divorce negotiations

The Pitfalls of Premature PERCENTAGE NEGOTIATIONS in Divorce property settlement

Don't Miss Out On These Key Points:

• The dangers of negotiating percentages prematurely in divorce proceedings

• The importance of understanding the property pool before discussing percentages

• Potential financial and emotional costs of jumping into percentage negotiations too soon

• Practical advice for dealing with different divorce personality types

• Strategies for navigating negotiations effectively and achieving a fair outcome

For Full Show Notes, go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog

For more support, visit www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. This is just one lawyer's opinion of the family court's views in Australia. Do not base your case on anything mentioned in this episode unless it is first discussed and approved by your personal lawyer. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different. By listening to this show, you are agreeing that it and the company that runs it are not liable for the outcome of your case.

Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned 

Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation property Settlements

Five Proven Steps you can take to finally get that agreement for property settlement or parenting consent orders

Your Future Needs and how it affects your divorce and property settlement Part 3: Sorting your property settlement in divorce

Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during and after marriage

Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement

Useful Resources:

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Don't forget to hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on our upcoming practical steps and guidance for your divorce or de facto separation. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review to help others. Thank you.

Please note that this podcast provides general education only and is not legal advice. Always seek independent legal advice, as every situation is different.

If you’ve got a question about travel or moving and custody this is the episode for you. What are the rules when it comes to overseas and interstate travel and co-parenting and custody?  What should you be looking to include in your parenting agreement or consent orders when it comes to the children’s passports, international travel and holidays? In this episode we discuss the general rules and what you should consider before finalising your agreement or consent orders. Also we explore what the Family Court usually rules when it comes to overseas and interstate issues. Find out what happens if one co parent decides to move interstate or overseas away from the children but still wants to see them regularly. If you are about to make an agreement with your co parent make sure you listen to this episode too. General information only, always seek your own legal advice as each situation is different. 

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Links mentioned in this episode

High Court Case MRR V GR 

Hague Convention

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What happens if your co parent takes the passports?

• What happens if your co parent tries to take your children overseas without your permission or a court order. 

• What is a PACE alert and how does it stop your children being taken overseas?

• Why do people include the Hague convention in their parenting agreement or consent orders?

• What is the Hague Convention?

• How do you arrange passports for the kids with your co parent?

• How much notice should a co parent have before taking kids overseas?

• What is a reasonable amount of time to take the kids overseas?

• How you can use the smart traveller government website in your consent orders 

• How often do co parents end up in court over overseas holiday travel arrangements 

• Can you co parent take your child interstate without telling the other parent?

• What happens if a parent wants to move overseas with the child?

• How the court decides what is in the best interest of the child for overseas and interstate living with arrangements.

• What happens to custody arrangements if your co parent gets an interstate job and they have to move?

• How can you create parenting orders that accommodate one parent travelling overseas or interstate all the time?

• How can you create a parenting agreement that accommodates a parent moving to another state?

• How do you stop the other parent from withholding the children from you in another state or country?

• Can the court make an order to bring back a child from overseas or from another state?

• Can you be forced to live within a certain radius in parenting court orders?

• What happens if the other parent moves a long drive away and handover becomes problematic?

• Things to consider when moving interstate that may affect your child custody arrangements?

• What is the High Court Case Mrr Gr - Roses Case and how does it affect interstate moving and child custody arrangement decisions?

• Do you need to notify the co parent if you are going interstate for a holiday in Australia?

• What if your co parent wants to take the children to a non Hague convention country?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

 If you have experienced domestic violence or family violence and you are about to go into the family court system this episode is for you. We discuss why this form is so important and what happens to this form during the court proceedings and how the judge considers it.  We explore examples of child abuse or family violence and examples provided by the court. If you have you been asked to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence, risk form listen to this episode? This form is a mandatory form to be  filed with any Initiating Application, Response to Initiating Application or Application for Consent Orders seeking parenting orders in the Family Court of Australia. 

Click here to go to our online store to download the video guide 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Click here to listen to our the one thing you can do podcast episode referred to in this episode

Click here to listen to our episode on Coercive Control

FCFCOA Website information on Notice of Child Abuse, Family Violence, Risk

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form?

• Why does the court need it?

• What is considered as family violence?

• Physical Violence and child abuse

• How is neglect considered child abuse?

• How is exposure to family violence part of child abuse? 

• Why do you need to fill in the notice of child abuse family violence risk form?

• Initiating application and notice of child risk?

• Response to application and notice of child risk?

• Why do you need to fill in this form when filing consent orders in the Family Court of Australia?

• How does the court look at the notice of risk and consent orders

• What is the statement of truth on the Notice of Risk and what does it mean in the Family Court?

• What is the difference between a consent order and a family court order?

• How a notice of risk makes sure that the child's welfare is put first in consent orders and family court orders.

• How to keep your family lawyer costs down

Do you need to fill in a notice of child abuse, family violence or risk form to file with your court documents? Feeling overwhelmed by the legal forms and the legal jargon? Mum and I’ve got the solution for you, jump onto our website www.thedivorcecourse.com.au and click the link to the online courses and download our 1hr step by step instructional video on how to fill out this form and more. Together let’s fill it out and take away some of the fear of doing this alone. Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au today. 

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you about to go to mediation or have you just completed a mediation and are wondering what happens after, if you agree. In this Family Law episode we discuss 10 things that happen emotionally and legally after you settle at mediation. Our Family Law specialist expert explores what to expect if you have walked out of a mediation with a verbal agreement,  a written agreement or signed consent orders. We then look at what you do with your agreement or orders. This is  a great episode for those about to start the separation process or who are going to mediation so you know what might happen next and what you should aim for and do after. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

Mediation Episode

FDR Mediation Episode

Pre-Action Procedures Episode

Resources that might help you

• Attorney General Website list of FDRP

• Fact sheet on disclosure FCFCOA

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is settlers remorse and how to stop it

• What happens after mediation if you’ve finally agreed to everything.

• What is litigation neurosis and how can if affect you after your case is settled

• Questions to ask yourself if you wake up and want to change your mind

• Can you undo an agreement after mediation

• What happens if you walk away with a verbal agreement after mediation

• What is a heads of agreement?

• What happens if you both sign a heads of agreement?

• What isn’t confidential in a heads agreement

• What happens with a signed consent order

• What is a consent order

• What stamp duty can you avoid using your court order or filed consent orders

• What you should do once you end up with consent orders filed or sealed court orders

• What happens to you after mediation

• Does mediation work is it worth it

• What's the difference between mediation and divorce

• Section 9 of the Family Law Act and what it means for transferring your car or house over to your ex or to you.

• What happens if you don’t follow your orders?

• What happens if your ex doesn’t follow the orders?

• Is it finally over once you have consent orders signed and filed?

• Is it finally over if you walk away with an agreement after mediation?

• What options do you have if you need to change the orders?

• Financial agreement or property consent order?

• Do online financial agreements stand up in court?

• Why it’s important to get individual legal advice on your situation

• How does the court approve a consent order?

• Why it is important to get your orders checked before signing.

• Things that might not get approved through the family court with consent orders

• Do judges personalities play into court outcomes?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Introducing special guest financial planner Pedro Marin.

Pedro Marin (instagram) @pmrfinancial

• How to approach a bank to get information
• Your home loan and divorce
• What is financial abuse? 
• What are the red flags for financial abuse?
• Superannuation
• Sole purpose tests and how they can help you
• Pre-separation dirty tricks case studies to watch out for.
• Thoughts before signing any documents
• How to get a handle on your finances instead of relying on someone else.
• How to choose a financial planner.
• Tinder for financial planners?!?
• Financial planners and divorce

Finding planners

https://fpa.com.au/find-a-planner/

https://www.adviserratings.com.au/

National Debt helpline 

1800Respect Services directory 

Life Line domestic violence information

Commonwealth bank information on financial abuse

Sole purpose test information links: 

https://www.ioof.com.au/financial-advisers/news-and-insights/adviser-news/articles/apr-2020/sole-purpose-test

https://www.apra.gov.au/sites/default/files/apra_asic_letter_oversight_of_fees_charged_to_members_superannuation_accounts.pdf

False Allegations of Parental Alienation: How Abusers Use It to Maintain Control 183

Learn about how abusers use parental alienation allegations to deflect from their abusive behavior and maintain their power. Explore how accusations of parental alienation can be weaponized against the healthy parent to continue coercive control or abuse, often leaving the targeted parent in a difficult legal and emotional battle.

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.

Listen to This Episode If You: 

🌟 Are facing false parental alienation claims in your divorce or custody case.
❓ Feel like your ex is using alienation accusations as a tactic to continue coercive control.
💡 Want to understand how to identify when alienation accusations are used to deflect from abusive behavior.
🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict separation and need tools to protect your relationship with your children.
📚 Need strategies to counter false accusations and focus on the best interests of your kids.

Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:

1. The Abuse Behind Parental Alienation Allegations

   • How abusers use alienation claims to deflect attention from their coercive control or abusive tactics.

   • The psychological and emotional impact on the healthy parent when accused of alienation.

2. Understanding Coercive Control in Divorce and Custody Cases

   • How coercive control continues even after separation through alienation accusations and using DARVO tactics.

   • The power dynamics at play when one parent tries to isolate or manipulate the children from the safe or preferred parent.

3. False Claims of Parental Alienation

   • Why abusive partners may accuse the other parent of alienation to keep them under control.

   • How these accusations undermine the healthy parent’s credibility and alienate them from their children.

4. Protecting Yourself and Your Children

   • How to document and respond to alienation accusations in a way that protects your relationship with your children.

   • The importance of seeking legal support to defend against false alienation claims and protect your rights as a parent.

5. The Impact of Alienation on Children

   • How false parental alienation tactics affects children’s well-being and their relationship with the targeted parent.

   • Strategies for ensuring your children have a healthy relationship safe parents.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

Free Resources:

• Parental Alienation Resource

• Word Salad Checklist

• Mediation Checklist

• Before You Go Checklist

• Recordings show psychologist's harmful conduct against family | ABC News https://youtu.be/WdyCOQtVPuk?si=kX4LaPR5eN5vxfaJ

• Re Andrew [1996] FamCA 43; (1996) FLC 92-692 http://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FamCA/1996/43.html

Recommended Episodes:

• Mind Over Manipulation: The Grey Rock Technique

• How to Read a Legal Letter Like a Lawyer

• Navigating Post-Separation Abuse - https://youtu.be/SUKUR65ARfs?si=YMbQLnCPQexRr3wv

• Court Conveyor Belt: What to Expect

• Navigating Trash Talking in Divorce: https://youtu.be/7FuiLHYXX2U?si=uD94wdFSHb6OucLm

• DARVO 8 Ways to Protect yourself During Divorce - https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=g-ODhmqLOKw3EqfR

• Why your Narc ex may want a parenting coordinator https://youtu.be/ZoOwuYb6sdk?si=gKUN3x_rTv4fTeSL

Emergency Contacts:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811

• LEGAL AID: Visit Legal Aid

• Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling.

• Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support for men.

• Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for young people needing help.

• National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123

Final Thoughts:

Parental alienation accusations are often used as a manipulative tactic by abusers to continue their coercive control after separation. Understanding the dynamics of false alienation tactics and taking proactive steps to protect yourself and your relationship with your children and protect yourself in court.  Stay focused on what’s best for your kids and make sure you have the legal support and strategies in place to counter false claims.

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.

00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation

01:16 Understanding the Alienation Industry

02:10 The Pipeline of Alienation Claims

08:14 Child Custody Gatekeeping and Accusations

17:21 The Role of Professionals in False Alienation Cases

21:17 Legal Strategies and Reunification 

24:58 Financial Incentives for more abuse through Child Custody

25:23 New Child Custody Laws in the Family Court Of Australia

26:04 Coercive Control and Family Court

26:36 Choosing the Right Family Professionals for your Custody Battle

29:09 Family Therapy and Legal Implications in the Family Court

34:52 Documenting and Defending Against False Accusations of Alienation

42:56 Fighting Against Reunification Camps

44:42 Support and Resources for Parents

No matter where you are up to in the divorce or de facto separation journey, disclosure will be part of the process. Explore what it is, when you will need it, what it is used for and what happens if you or your ex don’t do it. This episode discusses disclosure for property settlement and childrens matters  in court, mediation and in negotiations. Explore what to do if you are feeling under pressure to provide too much disclosure and what to do if your ex isn’t providing enough. Learn about the process involved in looking at disclosure and what you can do yourself to keep your legal fees down. Learn about how to protect yourself if you are worried about your safety and disclosure. This episode comes with a handy downloadable guide click here to get it now —> GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

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Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic

DIY Disclosure Episode

Dirty Money Deeds Episode

Pre Action Procedures Episode

Disclosure: the what, why, when & how of disclosure for divorce or de facto separation.

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is disclosure?

• When do you need disclosure?

• How to avoid racking up legal bills with disclosure?

• Types of disclosure documents

• How to present disclosure?

• How do lawyers go through disclosure?

• How to keep disclosure relevant

• What happens if your ex doesn’t disclose?

• What happens if you don’t disclose?

• What will happen if disclosure isn’t done before mediation?

• What happens if they are asking for too much disclosure?

• How do you provide disclosure?

• Does your ex get to look at your disclosure?

• How do you ensure privacy with your disclosure?

• Can you redact some parts of your disclosure?

• What is the process of sharing disclosure?

• Do you keep having to provide disclosure?

• How do you keep your legal bill down with disclosure?

• How can be disclosure be used in the Family Court?

• What if you see lots of cash withdrawals in their bank disclosure?

• What to do if you find out something in their disclosure that matters?

• What you might say to their lawyer if you find something in disclosure?

• Can you do property settlement without disclosure?

• Will the family court allow you to do a settlement without disclosure?

• What happens if you know they don’t have anything to disclose?

• Should you sign anything without seeing their disclosure?

• Do mediators or judges look at disclosure?

• How to present disclosure findings to the judge or mediator?

• What if you are overwhelmed and don’t want to do disclosure?

• Things to look for in your ex’s disclosure?

• Can you refuse to do disclosure?

• What if your lawyer is asking you to provide too much disclosure?

• High conflict and disclosure

• Manipulative and controlling and disclosure

• Narcissists and disclosure

• Avoidant and disclosure

• Tax returns and Tax returns assessments and disclosure

• Superannuation and disclosure

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement 

One Moms Battle - Post Separation Abuse Wheel

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What is coercive control?
• What is post separation abuse?
• How can you be isolated after separating from an abusive ex?
• What to do if you feel like you are being harassed and stalked?
• How to approach a police officer refusing to take your statement about domestic violence. 
• Why it is still important to report your concerns and incidents each time. 
• How to try prove abuse of legal services
• How the children are used in post separation abuse
• Counter parenting and what to do about it.
• Alienation allegations and what to do about it.
• Neglectful parenting and what to do about it
• What is an unfriendly parent in the eyes of the court?
• Abuse vs alienation
• What is an ICL independent children’s lawyers
• What is a contact centre?

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 
• LEGAL AID
• Lifeline 13 11 14
• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978
• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800
• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123
• Relationships Australia 
• Police on 000
• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill
• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636
• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Discover how every word and action can impact your case, and learn strategic approaches to navigate manipulation from an ex-partner. From securing sentimental items to making legally sound decisions, we equip you with some essential tools to navigate your divorce journey effectively.

Delve into the often overlooked but vitally important legal dimensions of divorce or de facto separation. Whether you're amidst the process or foresee it on the horizon, our expert insights are a compass through the emotional and legal storm.

Tune in now to gain expert guidance from a family law specialist on safeguarding your interests and ensuring a smoother ride through the family court  to your new future. Your journey through divorce doesn't have to be tumultuous – let's navigate it together.

Please note this is general education only, this is not legal advice. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What legal considerations should people keep in mind while going through a divorce?

• How can being reactive during a divorce be detrimental, and what's a better approach?

• What should you do with valuable and sentimental items during a divorce?

• Why should promises made during the emotional turmoil of a breakup be approached cautiously?

• How can social media and electronic communication impact a divorce case legally?

• What strategies can help prevent actions being used against you in a court of law?

• How does the court view possessions and belongings in a divorce, and why does it matter?

• Why is it important to create a clear plan for children and pets during a divorce?

• What happens if you make promises during a divorce that aren't legally binding?

• How can you safeguard your belongings and pets during a divorce?

• What could be the consequences of reacting strongly during a breakup?

• Why is it important to consider the legal aspect of divorce, even amid emotional turmoil?

• What are some practical steps to ensure a smoother transition during a divorce?

• What does "start as you mean to go on" mean in the context of handling child custody arrangements?

• How does the court view the history of parenting responsibilities after separation when making custody decisions?

• Why is it crucial to establish a strong presence in your children's lives early on after separation?

• What is the significance of maintaining the status quo in a legal context, especially regarding children?

• How has the law changed in terms of shared parental responsibility and equal time arrangements?

• What steps can you take to ensure that you're financially prepared for the challenges of divorce and separation?

• Why is it important not to rely on your ex-spouse for financial support during the divorce process?

• How can you safeguard your financial interests while navigating property settlement negotiations?

• What precautions should you take when communicating with an avoidant ex-partner during divorce?

• How can written communication be misinterpreted or manipulated in high-conflict divorce cases?

• Why is it essential to be careful with your words and actions when dealing with a manipulative and controlling ex-spouse during divorce?

• How can seemingly innocuous actions, like accepting help with childcare, be used against you in a high-conflict divorce situation?

• What role do school/ day care pick-up registries and other school records play in divorce court cases?

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE

Click here for our free before you leave checklist 

Click here for our free mediation checklist

Sign up here for our next free online webinar

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Episodes Mentioned in this episode- Link to listen below

Taking control of your finances & red flags of financial abuse with guest Pedro Marin

The Narcissist Playbook in Divorce

Consent Orders: it’s not rocket science. Explore the what, when, why, how of property and parenting consent orders after divorce so you know what’s what.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732