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Being a Strong Black Woman is played out. You've been doing everything on your own because you believe that no one will be there for you. If you grew up with an emotionally, mentally or physically absent mother getting your needs met in a way that made you feel seen, heard and loved, you probably don't believe you can count on anyone. In this episode I talk about  how being hyper independent is a trauma response and how you can begin healing that wound and start building supporting relationships where people can help and show up for you.

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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In today’s episode I talk about how being raised to be an obedient Black girl caused you to grow up into a woman who lacks autonomy and walks around parading as a strong Black woman. When you’re not allowed to mature emotionally.

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

This Podcast contains content that may be emotionally triggering. Please be kind to yourself.

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This was my hardest episode to record thus far. Jeeeeez! I felt like I was all over the place because this was the first time I really talked at length about how my mom treated me in comparison to how she treated my younger brother.  It felt good to finally give my inner child a voice to some pretty fucked up experiences she had to go through growing up. I shared because I know I'm not the only one and I'm still processing and learning how not to gas light myself and instead believe myself and center my experiences even if others won't.

I hope you find this episode valuable on your healing journey if you've gone through something similar. Love you!

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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When you've grown up with a challenging relationship with your mother it can make dating feel like the Hunger Games. In this episode I unpack my new choices around dating and how I'm discovering the ways I've given myself away for the sake of being loved by a man. 

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I ain't gone lie. Learning to comfort and nurture myself back to love has been one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Mainly, I didn't think I was worth it. So I felt like a fraud who was destined to feel alone and unworthy for the rest of their life. I'm so glad I was wrong. Even though healing and coming back to myself has been a journey. It's one of the single most impactful and important commitments I've EVER made. And it was a commitment I made to MYSELF.

In this week's episode I'm giving you and I some encouragement to commit to tenderness. When we're raised by an emotionally absent mother we learned to be tough and strong. But that strength became our greatest weakness. We unpack it today and walk away with some actionable tools to further our healing journey.

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives. JenniferArnise.com

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In this weeks episode, I'm diving into the second of the four pillars of Reparenting. Your nervous system is "Your nervous system is your body’s command center. Originating from your brain, it controls your movements, thoughts and automatic responses to the world around you. It also controls other body systems and processes, such as digestion, breathing and sexual development (puberty)." *clevelandclinic.org

When our nervous system is thrown out of whack because of consistent emotional/physical/mental neglect sends  messages to your mind that you are in some form of danger and from there you nervous system practices maladaptive tools it learned in childhood.

In this episode go through how I use my five senses to calm and regulate my nervous system so I can sooth my inner child and give her new messages and let her know that she is safe and can relax and let go of old pain.

Next week we'll talk about the third pillar and begin putting the process together even more.
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Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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Do you think you take good care of yourself? You shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair and that’s it. Do you even eat breakfast? I hate using the word self-care because it’s been commodified to mean facials and manicures.

In this week's episode we explore the 3rd pillar of reparenting...SELF-CARE. The intention behind self-care that makes it powerful and potent is rooted in 1. PATIENCE 2. COMPASSION 3. ACCEPTANCE. Self-care isn’t actually what you do, it’s how you do it. Care for the self isn’t primarily rooted in external activities. It’ how you can inject everyday activities with patience, compassion and acceptance towards ourselves. And in order to do this you have to be present. You have to be aware of what your SELF is asking for at any given moment in time.

The hardest part of centering and caring for yourself is battling your thoughts and feelings of unworthiness. Who am I to be happy? Who am I to know joy? If I deserved to be cared for then my mother would’ve cared for me. The belief we carry is that if she didn't love us then we must not love ourselves and no one can love. She’s our mother and she has to be right so we keep upholding the lesson as a way of showing we are worthy of her love by not challenging that thoughts about you.

By the end of this powerful episode you'll have a clear understanding of what Self-care really is and how you can create a powerful  and life changing practice.

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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This week I complete the 4 episode series introducing the methodology I use to help my clients heal their mother wound. Pillar four is all about joy.

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**Disclaimer: My audio is a little janky this week bc my mic wasn't connected properly. I apologize in advance and we'll be back to normal next week. 

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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In today’s episode…

→We made it through another Mother’s Day…and how to comparison and believing how things SHOULD be is leaving you stuck in your healing.

→We also  hit 10,000 episode downloads! THANK YOU guys so much! We are just getting started and there’s so much more in store for this community.

→How is your mother wound showing up in your money? Your dream is languishing because you haven’t taken control of healing and you’re waiting on fate or time to make it better. But guess what sis…it ain’t gonna happen. We discuss how healing is an action verb and if your life isn’t changing, are you really healing?

→I introduced my new group coaching program for entrepreneurs who are ready to pair healing the mother wound with growing a profitable and passionate business.

Use this link to schedule a call with me and learn more - bit.ly/healedmoney

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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In this episode I talk about how healing has changed my life and explain the process of using your dreams to propel your healing journey.  It's a candid and free flowing talk that will hopefully give you more direction and answer some of your "Jennifer, how do I...?" questions

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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Hey y'all! This week we're taking it easy on ourselves and I'm showing you how. I've been burning the candle at both ends and neglecting my healing and it shows. So I'm unpacking (as usual) and giving advice on how we can show up for ourselves and our purpose at the same dam time.

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Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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Season Two is here! This week is the first episode of the new season. We’ve got a new podcast name but the same work! In this episode I’m talking about how life been lifin and what its like to have a mother to tell your your doing a good job and the toll it plays on your self-esteem and self-worth. Then we talk about how to refine our healing plan while setting realistic expectations when frustration sets it. Make sure you tune in as we jump start Season 2 with a BANG!

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Ladies, why is it so dam hard to talk about our mamas and how she treated us? I've got the answers and what you can do about it in this episode.

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In today's episode I dig into the never ending longing we have to get our mother to admit to her wrong doing. I go over why we do, why we need to stop and what to do instead.

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This week we focus on the work of building a healthy relationship with ourselves by developing a strong sense of self-trust. I talk all the time about how healing our mother wound has nothing to do with the relationship with our mother and everything to do with the relationship we have with ourselves.

And to put it plainly, you have fucked up, neglectful and probably pretty sucky relationship with yourself. It makes sense. There's a good chance you treat you how she treated or treats you. 

In this episode we unpack why self trust is the most fundamental piece needed in building a healthy loving relationship with you. 

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In this week's episode we unpack the dynamics of creating a healthy relationship with yourself. Healing your mother wound is done by reparenting your inner child. And you reparent by creating a healthy and loving relationship with yourself.

Here are some questions I answered in this episode.

1.     What do you mean when you say having a relationship with yourself?

2.     How does the relationship with your mother effect the relationship with yourself?

3.     How does someone know if they have a bad relationship with themselves?

4.     Why should someone want a healthy relationship with themselves?

5.     Why don’t more people focus on this relationship with self?

6.     What do I do to fix the relationship with myself?

7.     What are the first three things I need to start or stop doing to build a healthy self relationship? 

8.     How long does it take to build a healthy self relationship?

9.     How does someone’s life change when they have a healthy relationship with themselves?


Ok, bye...love you!!

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In this week's episode I talk about the biggest mistake I made during my healing journey and how healing my mother wound helped me get back on track.

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How do you meet the needs your mother never met? There is no perfect parent, just as there is no perfect human. Some parents were unable to provide for their children materially and financially. However, there are needs that surpass those things, which we often neglect and set aside. Every person has emotional needs such as tenderness, patience, grace, understanding, and acceptance. When emotional needs are left unmet, they can significantly impact our behavior toward others and, especially, toward ourselves. Most people in this situation tend to mirror the rejection they received from others, being hard on themselves, and even neglecting the healing they truly need.

Healing from the needs your mother never met is never easy. It takes small, committed steps of self-care and self-control. It means letting go of and unlearning the habits you have become accustomed to. It involves spending time with yourself and seeking quietness to hear yourself clearly and understand your needs. It can also mean trusting yourself and being patient and appreciative of your progress. Remember, it's not your fault for what happened to you, but it's your responsibility to fix it. Stop blaming your parents, even if you have the power to, because healing cannot prosper there. 

In this episode, I will guide you through the essential steps of recognizing and addressing your unmet needs. 

“You're only healing if your life is changing and your life can only change when you take different actions." – Jennifer Arnise

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:02:29) The unmet emotional needs

(00:05:05) The role of quietness in nurturing unmet needs

(00:06:39) The inability to advocate for oneself

(00:08:43) Getting honest about self-treatment

(00:10:06) The habit of self-tenderness

(00:11:58) Create a habit of appreciation

(00:13:32) Healing work takes time

(00:15:07) Building self-trust through budgeting

(00:16:38) Take small actions that build up your life

(00:17:23) What does it mean to reparent yourself?

(00:20:19) Through the Battleground to Freedom

(00:22:12) Commit to yourself

(00:23:19) Healing work can be lonely

(00:24:12) The benefit of meeting your unmet needs

Key Takeaways: 

“Healing your mother wound is not about you and your mother, it's about you and you." – Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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What does it mean to grieve the mother-daughter relationship we’ll never have? 

Growing up, we all have an image of what a mother should be — nurturing, loving, and a source of unwavering support. Yet, for many, this ideal remains just that: an ideal. Instead, reality can be far from it, leaving a void that shapes our lives in profound ways. As children, we instinctively seek comfort, guidance, and affirmation from our mothers. However, when these foundational needs go unmet, it sets the stage for a journey marked by longing, introspection, and ultimately, grieving the absence of the mother we never had.

Many of us hold onto the hope that our mothers will change, but in reality, trying to get her to be different only hurts us more. It prevents us from truly healing. Grieving this loss is hard, but it’s necessary. It’s like opening a door to a new life where you can find more love and peace. This process involves acknowledging and feeling your emotions, taking care of yourself, and finding freedom in acceptance. Remember, this journey is about healing your relationship with yourself, not just with your mother.

In this episode, I will guide you on the journey of grieving the mother you'll never have and finding solace in nurturing your own unmet needs. 

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:01:54) Grief doesn't have a fixed timeline

(00:03:00) Moving past the shame response

(00:05:34) Show up for yourself

(00:07:44) Finding freedom in focusing on oneself

(00:09:20) The true role of mothers

(00:11:19) How does forgiveness play into grieving the mother that we'll never have?

(00:14:12) Accepting your mother’s limitations

(00:16:41) Build a healthy relationship with yourself

(00:19:07) Build a support system around you

(00:20:58) Hold yourself in high regard

(00:22:48) Move beyond manipulation

(00:24:30) Be easy with yourself

Key Takeaways: 

“When you can grieve the mother you've never had, you can also grieve the person you've pretended to be. From there you can begin to live authentically. – Jennifer Arnise

“The grieving process is like a birthing ground for something else to come.”– Jennifer Arnise

“The hardest pill you're ever going to swallow is the acceptance that you were treated poorly, neglected, abused.”– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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How do our relationships with our mother impact the way we connect with friends today?

Friends are essential pillars of support and companionship in our lives. They offer us not only camaraderie but also emotional sustenance and validation. However, our ability to form and maintain these friendships can be deeply influenced by our relationship with our mothers. When our mothers couldn't provide us with the emotional support we needed, we might unconsciously seek these from our friends instead which can lead to overcommitting in friendships, where we strive to be everything to everyone. We may fear disappointing others if we don't constantly give and sacrifice for them.

The journey of healing begins from within. Sometimes what we fail to realize is that the wounds we carry from our relationship with our mother can never be healed simply by being the best friend for others but through being a better friend for yourself. It requires acknowledging our own needs, setting healthy boundaries, and learning to prioritize our well-being without guilt or fear of disappointing others. 

In this episode, I will share insights into how overcommitting in friendships can be traced back to our relationships with our mothers.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:02:09) Overextending in friendships

(00:03:19) Healthy relationship requires reciprocity

(00:04:46) Accustomed to lack

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(00:07:02) Healthy friendships start with self

(00:08:04) Recognize your true feelings

(00:11:18) The process of building  better relationships

(00:13:11) Overcommitting in friendships 

(00:14:31) What does friendship mean to you?

(00:15:30) Start living your life

(00:17:01) Undo self-rejection and abandonment

(00:18:41) It's your job to rescue yourself.

Key Takeaways: 

"When we grow up and we get into friendship, we become obsessed with people thinking that we are all the things that our mother wasn't to us."– Jennifer Arnise

"You can only have healthy friendships when you start being a good friend to yourself."– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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“To trust oneself is the first step to truly living.” When we think about trust, we often focus on trusting others. However, one of the most important forms of trust is self-trust. Many of us struggle with self-trust, feeling uncertain about our decisions and abilities. This lack of trust often stems from our early relationships, particularly with our mothers. Growing up, seeking approval and guidance from our mothers is natural, but if this relationship is marked by control or criticism, it can leave us feeling incapable of making our own decisions.

Building self-trust starts with acknowledging our own strengths and capabilities. It involves making decisions, even small ones, and reflecting on their outcomes without excessive self-judgment. Each decision we make, successful or not, is an opportunity to learn and grow. Remember, self-trust is not an overnight transformation but a continuous journey. It takes self-compassion, practice, and consistent effort to build.

In this episode, I will explore the journey of learning to trust yourself and healing from the impact of a mother wound. I will break down why many of us struggle with trusting our own decisions and how this can deeply affect our lives.  

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:01:53) Self-trust is the cornerstone of healing

(00:03:47) How a mother’s trust shapes her child 

(00:05:09) The comfort zone trap

(00:08:01) How not trusting yourself leads to self-rejection

(00:10:20) Empower yourself through small decisions

(00:13:07) Overcoming childlike fears

(00:16:04)  Aligning your actions with your words

(00:18:42) Take care of yourself first

(00:23:53) The impact of shame on self-trust

Key Takeaways: 

“But why would you trust yourself if you have no track record of having a solid sense of integrity with yourself?"– Jennifer Arnise 

“When you start to take care of yourself, yourself starts to take care of you and that builds self-trust."– Jennifer Arnise
 
“Healing your mother wound is about having autonomy and that is impossible without self-trust."– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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Becoming your true self is a journey that involves understanding who you are and being brave enough to show it. It’s about making choices that align with your own values and not just following what others expect of you. In today’s world, many of us struggle to stay true to ourselves because we’re constantly bombarded with opinions and expectations from others. We might find ourselves trapped in roles and identities created by the expectations and influences of those around us—especially our mothers. Many people live under the shadow of their upbringing, which can be exhausting and disempowering. However, this does not have to define our lives.

Being your true self can be challenging, even though it’s who you really are inside. The pressures to fit in, fear of disapproval, self-doubt, and breaking old habits can make it tough. However, taking steps toward your true self is worth it. We must realize that living authentically brings a sense of peace and fulfillment that can’t be found by trying to meet others' expectations. It means giving ourselves permission to explore our own interests and make choices that reflect our true desires and values. It involves saying no to things that don't align with your values to prioritize your own well-being even if it means facing criticism. 

In this episode, I will guide you through the journey of discovering and embracing your authentic self. We’ll look at how to let go of old habits shaped by past relationships and learn about your core values, needs, and feelings to create a life that truly represents who you are.

Topics Covered:

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(00:01:13) Impact of conditioned identity

(00:03:03) What makes up your identity?

(00:04:28) Living your values

(00:06:27) Understanding your needs

(00:08:06) What are your preferences?

(00:09:03) Understand your emotion

(00:11:18) The importance of authentic identity

(00:14:31) Embrace authenticity without fear

(00:17:48) The power of creating a new identity

Key Takeaways: 

"Oftentimes we have selected values that we're not actually living by."– Jennifer Arnise

"Pretending to be someone that you're not, is exhausting and it turns you into a liar and a manipulator."– Jennifer Arnise

"When you reparent yourself, you become your true self. "– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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5. Listen to the Podcast

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Everyone wants to have a positive, loving relationship with their mother. We all dream of a bond built on trust, kindness, and mutual respect. There is a special part of our hearts that aims to protect them, please them, and make them proud. We imagine that this deep connection will bring joy and fulfillment, and we work hard to achieve it, even when it feels challenging.

But what if, despite our best efforts, we find ourselves feeling more hurt and frustrated rather than loved and valued?

It’s important to understand that you don’t have to endure a relationship that continually causes you stress and sadness. Valuing yourself means recognizing when a relationship is harmful and making the choice to protect your own mental and emotional health. Going no contact, though a difficult decision, can sometimes be necessary to stop the cycle of pain and start healing. Choosing to prioritize your own well-being is not an easy path, but it is often the first step toward finding peace and building healthier relationships.

In this episode, I will share with you the challenges and benefits of going "no contact" with your mother, especially when the relationship is causing you stress, pain, and emotional strain. We'll explore what it means to take that step, why some people feel it's necessary, and the benefits and challenges that come with it.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:01:25) What does “no contact” mean? 

(00:02:08) The emotional cost of protecting yourself from your mother

(00:05:25) The burden of protecting your mother’s feelings

(00:07:36) Choose yourself

(00:08:51) Clearing the voice in your head

(00:12:05) The challenges of going no contact with your mother

(00:14:58) When family ties hurt

(00:17:45) Build other relationships

(00:19:40) Learning to live on my own

(00:23:19) Rules of no contact

(00:24:44) Start setting boundaries

Key Takeaways: 

"When we have to face reality, we have to bury the dream of the mother we've always wanted."– Jennifer Arnise

"Do not think that you can change your mother and make her the villain in the story when you have not taken responsibility for your own life."– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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In our quest for happiness, we often look outward for validation and affection. We frequently invest so much energy in seeking approval from those around us. We want to hear loving words, experience acceptance, and feel nurtured and valued. Many of us grow up longing for the kind of love we believe should come from our mothers. We look for it in relationships, achievements, and approval from others, thinking that these will fill the void within us. But the truth is, the love and acceptance we crave don’t necessarily come from others; they must first come from within.

We must realize that self-love is not a grand or complicated concept. It’s about understanding that we deserve to feel good and be kind to ourselves. When we learn to nurture ourselves, to speak kindly to ourselves, and to prioritize our own needs, we start to build a foundation of self-acceptance that is unshakable by external circumstances. It’s not about dismissing the value of external validation but about realizing that true contentment begins with self-love. Remember, self-love means treating ourselves with the same compassion we would offer a dear friend.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:02:03) Gratitude for support

(00:04:41) Cycle of self-blame

(00:06:10) Why we are our own worst critics

(00:07:41) Feel at home in yourself

(00:09:32) The manipulation of love

(00:12:19) Do you like yourself?

(00:14:43) Healing needs changing

(00:16:13) Showing up flawed

(00:18:27) How acting despite flaws reflects self-love

(00:21:40) Listen to yourself

(00:22:28) Treat yourself with curiosity

(00:24:56) How lightheartedness enhances self-comfort 

(00:25:58) Build healthier ways to treat yourself

Key Takeaways:  

"The reason I want you to heal your mother wound is so you can feel at home in your own body, your own mind so you can belong to someone."– Jennifer Arnise

"Healing your mother wound is about changing your actions, your habits and your patterns."– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound 

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In life, it’s easy to be tough and assertive when we’re defending someone else or fighting for a cause. We might stand up with confidence and take action when we see injustice or when someone we care about is being treated unfairly. But when it comes to standing up for ourselves, many of us hesitate or even back down. There’s often a sense of guilt associated with prioritizing our own needs.

However, we must learn to advocate for ourselves, speak up, and set healthy boundaries. Remember, boundaries are statements about what you want and need. They are not a conversation to negotiate or a tool to change others' behavior. Instead, they are personal guidelines for how you will respond in situations where your needs are not met. Boundaries are the lines we draw to protect ourselves from being overwhelmed, disrespected, or taken advantage of.  Therefore, we must not allow others to cross these lines because when we fail to establish clear boundaries, we risk losing our sense of self.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:03:43) How the mother wound affects our communication

(00:05:00) Children being seen and not heard

(00:06:12) How gossip takes over women conversation

(00:08:47) Setting a boundary

(00:11:02) Understanding the four parts of boundaries

(00:13:52) How you feel is not up for negotiation

(00:15:09) Understanding how you feel

(00:16:06) Prioritizing how others affect you

(00:19:46) Stand up for yourself

(00:21:26) Don’t settle for ‘what should be’

(00:22:50) Being guilty vs feeling guilty

(00:23:57) Healing the fear of punishment

(00:25:23) The power of speaking up

Key Takeaways:  

"Most people think a boundary is a conversation, something to be negotiated. It is not; it is a statement."– Jennifer Arnise 

"Healing your mother wound is all about you regaining autonomy."– Jennifer Arnise 

"Most people think a boundary is a conversation, something to be negotiated. It is not; it is a statement."– Jennifer Arnise 

"You have the power to build a new reality of support and community around you."– Jennifer Arnise 

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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The greatest challenge in healing is not the external obstacles but the internal beliefs we hold about ourselves. Healing is often misunderstood. Many of us believe that healing is like fixing a broken leg—it’s about making something that’s damaged whole again. However, healing is not just about repairing something broken; it's about understanding and transforming the way we perceive ourselves and our experiences. It's a deeply personal journey that involves examining and changing our internal beliefs and self-talk.

Thus, healing involves more than just addressing the hurt caused by others; it also requires working on the limiting beliefs we’ve developed as a result of that hurt. Indeed, the greatest challenge in healing is not the circumstances we face but our willingness to shift the way we see and take care of ourselves. When we focus on our needs and well-being, we start to see things differently. Healing happens when we decide to change the negative thoughts we have about ourselves, allowing us to move forward and create a future that isn’t held back by old beliefs. Remember, each step taken towards understanding and transforming these internal beliefs is a step towards reclaiming our true selves.

"The first thing that will further your healing goal is prioritizing yourself. To prioritize yourself, there must be a shift in your thinking."– Jennifer Arnise

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:01:43) Prioritizing what matters

(00:03:45) Being good to myself

(00:05:07) Healing is a change of perception

(00:07:01) What does it mean to be healed?

(00:09:04) Do less and have more

(00:11:08) Embracing the long road of healing

(00:12:29) Challenging self-limiting beliefs

(00:14:25) Changing how you see yourself

(00:18:05) It’s harder to stay where you are

(00:20:23) How would my life change for the better? 

(00:22:29) Healing works best with support

Key Takeaways:  

"Some things have to get done, some things can wait till later."– Jennifer Arnise

"You can have a better body, more money, more friends and not be healed."– Jennifer Arnise 

"If you cannot change the way you see yourself, nothing else is gonna change."– Jennifer Arnise

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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This is a different type of episode this week. All the cake, no icing. I’m in the middle of moving and my house is a pretty much packed up. So I recorded this week on my iphone while walking around the house.

Life should be back to normal in a few weeks but I kinda like this more candid, WYSIWYG vibe. And it prompted this weeks episode. How do you accept what is?

I hope you enjoy and let me know of you like this style of video or if you want me to go back to the “studio” version.

Luh you! 

Bye

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In this heartfelt episode of the Black Mother Wound podcast, I reflect on my personal healing journey amidst a staycation celebrating my 50th birthday. 

I encourage you to embrace your own paths to happiness and authenticity, despite the challenges. 
The episode underscores the importance of making choices for one's own growth and wellbeing. 

00:26 Personal Reflections and Birthday Celebration
02:06 The Emotional Impact of Self-Acknowledgment
05:10 Healing from the Mother Wound
08:23 Empowerment and Self-Approval
18:27 The Importance of Autonomy
26:23 Final Thoughts and Life Update

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In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, host Jennifer Arnese explores her struggles with procrastination, anxiety, and feelings of unworthiness—all stemming from her mother wound. She candidly shares her journey of healing, self-reprogramming, and building trust in her own abilities. Jennifer discusses the impact of childhood programming on adult behavior and the importance of acting on intuitive inspiration immediately. This unplanned, raw conversation aims to resonate with listeners facing similar struggles and offers insight into navigating self-doubt and achieving personal growth.

00:00 Introduction to the Black Mother Wound Podcast
00:40 Facing Procrastination and Anxiety
04:50 The Impact of the Mother Wound
09:45 Navigating the Gap of Unworthiness
29:12 Trusting Yourself and Overcoming Doubt
35:28 Conclusion and Next Steps

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7. Check out the website

Hey there and welcome to the She Is Loved Project! In our introductory episode, I'm going into detail about what a Black mother wound is, how it's effecting your life and what you need to do about it.

If you grew up feeling emotionally disconnected from your mother or had an outright toxic relationship with her, you need to listen up because we're clearing the path for healing.

Takeaways:

• No child escapes the wounds of emotionally unavailable mothers, but daughters are impacted the most- what do patriarchal norms and black culture have to do with this?
• The journey into motherhood can be terrifying for some black women- learn the common factor that toxic mothers share. 
• Why well-meaning advice like "it will all be better when we get to heaven" is cruel and what to offer instead. 

Highlights

[00:01:33] What is the She Is Loved Project?

[00:02:03] Why is the mother wound not talked about in the black community?

[00:03:23] My promise to the She Is Loved Podcast and community

[00:04:53] Suffering in silence

[00:07:13] The mother wound defined

[00:09:15] Understanding the plight of our mothers

[00:10:43] Acknowledging the black mother wound

[00:13:05] How the black mother wounds show up in daughter(s)

[00:14:45] How religion and culture keeps us in bondage

[00:26:35] How these wounds impact every area of our lives

GRAB MY MOTHER WOUND HEALING CLASS REPLAY BUNDLE (OVER 12 HOURS OF TEACHING AND HEALING CONTENT) - https://bit.ly/MotherWoundVideos

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

BUSINESS INQUIRIES: Email me at info@jenniferarnise.com

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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4. Buy my book
5. Listen to the Podcast
6. Watch the Podcast on Youtube
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Do you know what happens when an emotionally unavailable woman becomes a mother? 

The outcome is a daughter who is broken, defensive, and untrusting. 

In the first episode, we discussed the Black Mother Wound, the impact of toxic mothers on daughters, and the first steps you can take to heal your Mother Wound. This week I get RAW as I share my story. In this episode, you will walk away with these key takeaways:

• Abuse doesn't have to be physical. Withholding affection as a form of punishment is abusive.  
• Gaslighting is a form of manipulation in which the manipulator wants their victim to question their beliefs, feelings, or perceptions. Daughters of toxic mothers will often gaslight themselves as a coping method. Are you guilty of this? 
• The healing journey isn't always pretty. When you acknowledge your Mother Wound and put your healing before the emotional triggers of others, you gain internal peace. I'll show you how.

Takeaways: 

• [00:00:52] My story
• [00:01:33] The power of autonomy over your story 
• [00:03:04] How vulnerability gives me the strength I need to heal
• [00:03:45] Identify emotionally unavailable behavior 
• [00:05:31] What is survival parenting 
• [00:08:52] This is why daughters are expected to excuse abusive behavior? 

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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Struggle love is defined as a relationship in which one partner does "the absolute most" for the other without reciprocity, aka "any DAMN thing in return."  Unfortunately, growing up with a toxic mother feels similar. As little girls, we bend over backward to "win" her heart while our hearts shatter.  

Too many Black women live as fragmented versions of themselves; it's no wonder why we hustle for the love and validation we have been conditioned to give others. In this episode, I share why this happens and what you can do about it. 

Takeaways: 

• Love is a basic need that no human can be without. In toxic mother-daughter relationships, love isn't given freely; it has to be earned in most cases. The outcome is thousands of Black women endlessly hustling to prove their worth.
• Until the injured woman heals the wounds of her childhood, she will never be capable of giving or receiving love authentically - not even to herself. 
• Denying your needs as a way to receive love from another person only leads to frustration and Eispair.

Highlights: 

• [00:01:03] Do you feel like you're not good enough to receive love without working for it? Here's why wounded women hustle for love.
• [00:04:33] This is why trying to "earn" love will NEVER work 
• [00:10:47] 3 personality traits of a wounded woman and how they show up in our careers and relationships. 
• [00:21:38] How healing and doing the work shows up in your life.  
• [00:25:16] This is what your inner little girl wants you to say to her.

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DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. 

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Show Notes:

Hiding from the truth while telling yourself that you are healing is self-destruction 101. In this episode, I take this behavior to task as I share my story of hiding, settling, and procrastination PLUS what I'm doing to move in a new direction.

This episode is for you IF:

• You've spent years devouring personal development without manifesting a damn thing.
• Fear of making a mistake keeps you from making a decision
• You struggle to take action on things YOU KNOW you desire.  

In this episode, I share how to spot anxiety and fear masking as "inner work and preparation." 

Takeaways: 

• Why healing and hiding can't share space -Join me as I share my experience with therapy and what I'm doing to show up differently. 
• Are you manifesting the life you desire? One way to measure your journey is to look at your results and the actions you've taken. 
• Change can be difficult for the wounded girl who may question her abilities - In this episode, I discuss how to safely move into action by asking yourself the right questions in a safe environment.

Highlights: 

• [00:00:23] This year, I have one intention - tune in to hear what it is and how you can create actionable steps to move in your desired direction.
• [00:05:38] Before therapy, I was stuck in The Dark Night of the Soul; this is what I was hiding even while in treatment why you shouldn't do the same thing.  
• [00:11:09] What do double dutch and fear aversion have in common - it turns out a lot. 
• [00:23:23] There is a science to healing and manifesting - learn how to tap into it and release the fears that are holding you back. 

BUSINESS INQUIRIES: Email me at info@jenniferarnise.com

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. 

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Let's kill the fake sh*t! I'm not here to romanticize healing by only talking about the beauty that takes place AFTER you've made it through the fire. I'll save that for the other coaches on the market.  Healing Black Women from their mother wounds isn't about "emotional bypassing."  We try to go around the tough sh*t to get to the good part, but that's not how healing from a mother wound works. 

This year in the She Is Loved Community; we are doing the work. We're burning down the building, sifting through ashes, and finding pieces of ourselves that were buried under the foundation. Today, I'm discussing what it feels like to take healing seriously; so that you can go after what you want in 2022.  

Join me for part two of Are You Hiding or Healing.

Takeaways:

• Our relationships with our mothers have caused us not to trust ourselves. Have you ever struggled with feeling unworthy or deserving? Learn how the lack of permission and authority we experienced as children prevented us from following our dreams.
• Living in pursuit of your dreams isn't about collecting validation from outside sources - we've been there and done that as daughters to toxic mothers- pursuing our dreams is about validating our right to exist as we ARE. 

Highlights

• [00:01:23] Recap of part one of the Hiding or Healing conversation
• [00:03:45] Why our wounded little girls struggle to take our lives seriously - it goes deeper than our degrees and titles.  
• [00:06:30] What are 3 things you must embrace for authentic healing?
• [00:07:39] Learn why following your life's purpose is about more than achievement
• [00:11:02] 3 tools that you need in your arsenal in 2022
• [00:12:00] Identifying my mother wound around feeling worthy

Jennifer Arnise is a Spiritual Coach/Mentor and Intuitive Healer, speaker and author who who helps Black women heal from the painful relationship with their mother so the can love themselves fully and experience more passion, pleasure, joy and fulfillment in their lives.

BUSINESS INQUIRIES: Email me at info@jenniferarnise.com

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. 

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Attempting to drag your toxic mother across the healing finish line so that YOU can receive your trophy of peace, happiness, and the fairytale version of the relationship you want with her isn't going to happen. Your race belongs to you and you alone. The concept of healing alone is one of the many harsh realities that wounded daughters must accept. In this episode, I want to help you reframe the way you view healing - it will be difficult, at times- but trust that you ARE the woman for the job. 

You might be asking yourself, why can't we heal together? 

The answer is usually because of our mother's own unhealed trauma and her out-of-date methods for coping. Unless your mother is ready to heal herself, she will not be an active participant in your recovery.

Takeaways:

• The idea of holding black mothers on a pedestal is and has always been unhealthy. Healing your Black Mother Wound will make some people uncomfortable as you go against the status quo. The She Is Loved Project is here to support you. 
• The fantasy of who we believe our mothers ought to keep us from healing. In this episode, I share tips for letting go of the illusion and creating a positive reality for yourself. 
• All of our mothers are dealing with something, but I have found that if your mother is dealing with gender/racial-based trauma coupled with - rape, molestation, and incest, you must understand that she cannot participate in your healing until she deals with her own. 

Highlights

• [00:02:03] Healing your Mother Wound has nothing to do with healing, fixing, or repairing the relationship with your mother - it's time for some tough love.  
• [00:04:15] Your pain and trauma don't have to be validated by anyone to be real - this is why waiting for validation is doing you more harm than good. 
• [00:07:12] Wounded daughters grow up to be emotionally immature women.  I share how you deal with the bruised ego and let go of the fantasy in this episode. 
• [00:08:26] Forgiveness is ideal, but we don't live in a perfect society - listen as I explain why forgiveness isn't required to begin the healing process.  
• [00:09:29] Letting go of your mother is easy; letting go of the fantasy is what you struggle with.
• [00:14:43] Have you ever felt like your mother held resentment towards you? Based on my work with clients, I share what I believe is true about unspoken resentment.  

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