The 3D Parent Podcast (Beaven Walters)
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| 30 May 2021 | Uneven Distribution of Emotional and Mental Labor in Parenting Partnerships | 00:30:48 | |
In this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m discussing the uneven distribution of emotional and mental labor and how this impacts parenting partnerships. Emotional and mental labor is the work required for both logistical and psychological aspects of families. It doesn’t usually affect marriage partnerships until after couples have children. And the sad truth is that typically, one person in a marriage is doing the majority of the work. In heterosexual couples, it’s usually women. In the episode, I’ll illustrate what this unequal division looks like and how it can impact your family. Points we discuss include:
Carrying the majority of mental and emotional labor for your family is exhausting, but the first step to changing it is awareness of it. I encourage you to talk about this issue and share this episode with people you care about to get the discussion going. I hope that this episode validates your experience and gives you some tools for starting to shift the unequal balance. I’ll see you back here after the summer break! Stay tuned for some exciting and fresh content in August. Have a great summer vacation. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community
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| 23 May 2021 | Could Sleep-Away Camp Be Beneficial for Your Child? | 00:53:46 | |
In this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we are talking about sleep-away camp and whether or not your child should go. This can be a wonderful opportunity for your child to grow in maturity and independence, make new friends, and just have an incredibly fun summer experience. Today, I’ll guide you through some things to consider as you decide whether attending a sleep-away camp would be a good option for your child. Points we discuss include:
Sleep-away camp can be an invaluable experience for children. They have the opportunity to make memories and friendships that last a lifetime. However, your child may not be ready for it yet, or it may not ever be a good fit for them. You have to find the opportunity that’s best for you and your family. I hope this episode helps you take the necessary steps to make this decision. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!
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EPISODE RESOURCES: Homesick and Happy: How Time Away from Parents Can Help a Child Grow | |||
| 16 May 2021 | Why Don’t My Kids Listen (and How Do I Fix This)?! | 00:39:35 | |
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m talking about why kids don’t listen to their parents. This is an issue I hear many parents talk about in my coaching practice, and I also have personal experience with this issue as a mother of four children. Parents often assume that kids don’t listen because they are being disrespectful or lack discipline. But it’s actually an issue with how parents communicate. Points we’ll discuss include:
We all would love our children to do what we say just because we are the parent. But it doesn’t work like that. And ask yourself: do you like to be ordered, threatened, punished, or lectured? Neither do your kids! A relationship-focused approach to communicating with your kids is always better and sets them up for respectful communication with others in the future. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!
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| 09 May 2021 | Natural Consequences vs. Imposed Consequences | 00:32:49 | |
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m discussing the difference between natural and imposed consequences and how they affect our children’s behavior. All parents want their children to grow into true maturity and take responsibility for their actions. The traditional methods of issuing rewards and punishments may seem to work, but it ultimately backfires. In the episode, I’ll talk about how to use natural consequences and our relationship with our child to help them grow and learn from mistakes.
Points we discuss include:
I hope you'll think a little bit more about the use of both natural and imposed consequences and how they affect your children. When your children make a mistake, I invite you to take a step back and get to the reason why the mistake was made in the first place. Instead of jumping right into issuing an imposed consequence, take a step back and see if you could figure out the root of the behavior. Perhaps nature can teach the lesson through a natural consequence, and you can see if you can help your children come up with their own solution in a way to make things right in the future. | |||
| 02 May 2021 | 7 SURPRISING BENEFITS OF PET OWNERSHIP FOR KIDS | 00:41:46 | |
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m sharing the surprising benefits of pet ownership for children. Taking care of animals can help children develop responsibility, empathy, and motivation. It can be wonderful for both their physical and emotional health.
Points we discuss include:
While pet ownership is a big responsibility, it can bring so much joy into the lives of children. Should you decide to dive into pet ownership, you might discover and experience all the hidden benefits a pet can provide for your child and find a new way to connect as a family through your pet(s).
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EPISODE RESOURCES: 25 Benefits for Kids Growing Up with Pets How Pets Can Help Children with Mental Health and Development The Best Pets for Kids at Each Age 13 Low Maintenance Pets for Kids Episode 19: The Power and Importance of Play Episode 23: Parenting the Highly Sensitive “Orchid” Child Episode 42: Parenting Dominant “Alpha” Children Episode 47: Encouraging Empathy in Children | |||
| 25 Apr 2021 | BEST SCHOOL FIT FOR HIGHLY SENSITIVE CHILDREN | 00:44:17 | |
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m focusing on finding the best school fit for highly sensitive children. Typical or traditional school environments can often be highly overwhelming and even wounding for highly sensitive children. An overly stimulating classroom can cause high alarm for children with this temperament. Today we will examine the unique needs of children who are highly sensitive and discuss how to make the best decision for your child and your family.
Points we will discuss include:
If you have a highly sensitive child and a typical school environment seems like it is not a good fit for your kid or is not working, you may be right. Realize that you may need to go down a different path than you anticipated or change your child’s world if it is not working. And remember that what’s needed now will not necessarily be what is needed forever. Trust yourself to make the best decision for your child and your family. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent
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| 18 Apr 2021 | TIME-OUTS: ARE THEY IN OR OUT? | 00:31:59 | |
“Time-outs use your relationship as something that can be given and then taken away; it makes your relationship with your child conditional.” Time-outs are a widely utilized parenting technique. A time-out is a punitive consequence used to “teach a lesson” to a child. While this technique is popular and recommended by many professionals, there is evidence that time-outs do much harm and very little good for the parent-child relationship. That’s why in this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I will share why time-outs are problematic and suggest ways to discipline without using time-outs. Points we will discuss include:
Discipline choices either contribute or detract from the conditions which are optimal for growth, maturation, and the development of self-control. You cannot force maturity through time-outs. In fact, you may even stall true maturation and make it more difficult to have the power to influence your child through your deep connection. Perhaps it is the time-out itself which needs a time-out! I hope that you will think twice before giving a time-out and try a connecting strategy instead. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent
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| 11 Apr 2021 | DECODING BEHAVIORS WITH THE 3D PARENT LENS | 00:51:44 | |
“Most problematic behaviors are driven by an unmet need. So the question is not what to do, but rather, what’s the cause?” In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m focusing on one of the most common questions I get in my coaching practice. Many parents ask how they should respond to particular behaviors of their children. They ask, “What should I do when my child behaves like…” I can tell in their questioning that they are looking for a tool, trick, or fitting punishment/consequence to match and solve the behavior. However, what they should be asking instead is, “What is driving this behavior?” When parents can name the cause of the behavior, then they will realize they know how to respond. Points we will discuss include:
Parents, remember that it’s not about “what to do when…” That’s the wrong question. Asking that question is causing you to lose your sense of intuition and direction. Instead, it’s about asking what unmet need is driving the behavior. I invite you to put on your 3D Parent lens and determine what unmet need is causing the behavior and then provide the answer by meeting the need. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent
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EPISODE RESOURCES: Episode 19: The Power and Importance of Play | |||
| 04 Apr 2021 | PARENT COACHING: UNDERSTANDING AND RESPONDING TO AGGRESSIVE OUTBURSTS IN AN 18-MONTH-OLD | 00:55:14 | |
In this special episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m giving a live coaching session of myself working with a parent on a specific challenge they are facing. We’ll dive into the history and causes of the problem, as well as discuss potential solutions using the 3D Parent approach. I am joined today by Lauren, a mom of an 18-month-old boy, Baby J. Baby J is a spirited and adventurous little boy, but he sometimes has outbursts of emotional aggression. In the episode, I discuss with Lauren how she can help Baby J better express his emotions.
In the episode, we discuss:
Emotional aggression is a common issue, especially in young children who don’t have full language acquisition yet. Understanding the root of their frustrations and learning to help them express their emotions is very helpful in managing their outbursts.
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| 28 Mar 2021 | ARE YOU A GOOD PARENT? | 00:26:17 | |
Today’s episode of The 3D Parent Podcast is based on a question-- “What makes a good parent?” I recently learned that the number one searched question on the internet when it comes to parenting is “how to be a good parent.” I’m really curious how we define good parenting and how we judge whether we are or aren’t good parents. In today’s episode, I want to define what makes a good parent and hopefully provide you with some relief that you are, despite your challenges, a good parent.
Some points we’ll discuss include:
If you’ve googled “how to be a good parent,” please know that I am 100% confident that you already are. Stop worrying about how you or your kids compare and measure up, and remember that parenting is a journey to embark upon, not a race to be won. That journey is sure to come with many twists and turns, complications, and surprises. So trust that journey, and trust yourself.
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| 21 Mar 2021 | Sustainable Healthy Sleep Habits for Kids with Sarah R. Moore | 00:31:25 | |
“Kids are born knowing how to sleep. Our job as adults is to create an environment where sleep feels like a safe and happy place.” In this episode, I’m excited to welcome a special guest, Sarah R. Moore! She is the founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting. As a certified gentle parenting coach, she's a regular contributor to international parenting magazines, as well as frequent guest on podcasts and parenting summits. She offers a popular series of mini-courses, webinars, and expert interviews. She's currently writing two books that will be released this year. I’m excited to have her on the podcast to share her perspective on a more gentle approach to children’s sleeping habits. Some points we will discuss include:
Ultimately, you know what is best for your family, and you can feel confident trusting your instincts. We hope this episode has helped you feel less conflicted and confused about making decisions around children’s sleeping habits. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent
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| 14 Mar 2021 | A YEAR OF PANDEMIC PARENTING-- PARENTS’ REFLECTIONS | 00:29:12 | |
“Parenting is a great lesson in this pandemic. Parenting is a master class. You can make all the plans you want, but that doesn't mean they're going to work out.” In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m sharing your thoughts and reflections on a year of pandemic parenting. It has been one year since the arrival of Covid-19 in the United States, and I wanted to reflect on this past year. I put out five questions on social media and collected responses from you, my listeners.
The five questions I asked were:
In the episode, I read listeners’ responses to these questions, as well as share my own reflections. It was very interesting to hear a diverse group of people respond to these questions. I hope hearing these reflections helps you feel less alone in your own pandemic parenting. Please keep the conversation going with me on social media! I want to hear from you.
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| 07 Mar 2021 | HOW TO HELP THE CHILD WHO BULLIES | 00:12:57 | |
“A child who bullies is capable of transformation.”
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m talking about how to help children who bully others. Most of the conversations I hear around bullying are focused on the victims of bullying. It’s being forgotten that bullies are deeply wounded children who also need help.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope this episode reminds you that bullies are still children who need us and that it gives you some ideas about how you can help wounded children.
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| 28 Feb 2021 | HOW TO “BULLY-PROOF” YOUR CHILD | 00:49:43 | |
*Trigger warning: I will refer to youth suicide and self-harming behaviors as it relates to bullying. Please proceed with caution if talking about this topic is a trigger for you.*
“When children feel seen, heard, and accepted for who they are in their parent’s eyes, they won’t believe that they don’t belong or are without value like the bullies want them to believe.”
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I am talking about how you can “bully-proof” your child. It’s no doubt that parents want their children to find acceptance and belonging with their peers. Unfortunately, we know that this is not always the case. As parents, we cannot completely protect our children from bullying, but we can work to boost their self-esteem and help them feel loved and supported so that the words of a bully will not hurt them as much.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope this episode gives you practical ways to support your child. Remember that you cannot protect them from everything, but you can be as supportive and nurturing as you can to help them.
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| 21 Feb 2021 | SELF-CARE THROUGH PERSONAL STYLE WITH HOLLY CHAYES | 00:43:24 | |
“Clothing confidence comes from really owning the fact that if a piece of clothing doesn't fit, that's the only thing. That means it doesn't mean that your body is too big. It doesn't mean that it's too tall or too long or too curvy or too whatever. It just means that this piece of clothing doesn't fit.” --Holly Chayes In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m joined by style coach and consultant Holly Chayes. We are talking about how personal style is a form of self-care and self-expression and how to maintain that as a parent.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope this episode helps you think about the style you want to express and how you can balance that with all your responsibilities as a parent.
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| 14 Feb 2021 | CO-PARENTING LIKE A PRO WITH MERRY AND ASHLEY SENN | 01:03:22 | |
“You have to keep the kids at the pinnacle of the decision-making. They are the true north.” --Merry Senn
This week on The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m discussing co-parenting with special guests Merry and Ashley Senn. Merry and Ashley are good friends of mine from the theater community. They have been married for just over five years. They live in Edmonds WA and share 2 boys Calvin (12) and Sawyer (9). Years of friendship and couplehood have led them to begin their own podcast, Your Friends Ash & Mer. They have honest and mostly hysterical conversations about marriage, parenthood, and making it through this life together. The highlight of their show is when Ash & Mer talk to their incredible friends from every facet of their life and bring their unique and incredible stories to their podcast listeners. They are great examples of people who make co-parenting look easy, despite its challenges.
We will go over topics such as:
Merry and Ashley say that keeping their children at the pinnacle of their decision-making is crucial. If you keep their best interests at heart, then the best decisions will be made. Co-parenting is challenging, but with good communication and strategy, it is manageable.
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| 07 Feb 2021 | CONVERSATIONS ON RACE: A TIMELY ACCOUNTABILITY CHECK FOR ALLIES | 00:40:33 | |
In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I want to take the opportunity to speak to people who consider themselves allies in the fight against systemic racism. This episode is an opportunity for you to assess where you and your family are when it comes to your commitment to be an anti-racist family.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope this episode will help you evaluate where you are and help you move forward in your commitment to anti-racism.
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| 31 Jan 2021 | COULD AU PAIR CHILDCARE WORK FOR YOUR FAMILY? | 00:55:06 | |
“We felt there were a lot of opportunities to expand our knowledge of the world and to have our children increase their ability to interact in a meaningful way with people that didn't look like them and that didn't speak like them.” This week on The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m discussing if au pairs may be right for your family. My family has hosted a total of eight au pairs over the years, and I want to share my experience and tips with you about the au pair process. We will go over topics such as:
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| 24 Jan 2021 | PARENTING TIPS FOR EMPATHS AND HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE | 00:31:22 | |
“We tend to sometimes not be able to differentiate between somebody else's problem stress, worry, frustration and our own.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m discussing parenting tips for empaths and highly sensitive people. I’m defining Highly Sensitive People, or HSPs for short as people who have sensory processing sensitivity and about 15-20% of the population fits into this category. Being an HSP parent presents challenges, but there are also many gifts. We will go over topics such as:
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| 17 Jan 2021 | ARE BRIBES AND REWARDS EVER OKAY? | 00:35:53 | |
“Rewards are problematic because you're not calling upon your attachment and connection with your child to motivate change. You have to go to something external that you feel might have an influence on your children because you don't.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m discussing the use of bribes and rewards with children. While these kinds of external motivators can sometimes be helpful, using them for long-term discipline actually creates more problems. We will go over topics such as:
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| 10 Jan 2021 | ENCOURAGING HEALTHY EATING IN KIDS WITH GUEST, DR. ORLENA KEREK | 00:55:40 | |
“Your healthy meal is healthy for your children and a good way of introducing healthy eating at an early stage.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Orlena Kerek. She trained as a pediatric doctor in the UK. She now lives in Spain with her four children. She teaches families to enjoy healthy eating and living without having to think about it. She is the author of the book Feeding Toddlers and also hosts the podcast Fit and Fabulous at 40 and Beyond. Today we are discussing how to encourage healthy eating habits in your family.
We will go over topics such as:
If you set the foundation of healthy eating now, your children will form habits that will carry them through their lives. I hope this episode empowers you to make healthy decisions for your family. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!
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| 03 Jan 2021 | The 5-STEP 3D PARENT RESET | 00:22:45 | |
“You're going to make a change. It's going to be uncomfortable. You're going to maybe not know what to do at times.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m outlining the 5 steps of the 3D Parent reset. These steps will help you give your parenting a reboot in the New Year. This can really make an incredible difference for your family and for the way that you parent.
We will go over topics such as:
My hope is that this episode gives you a framework you can use as the start of revolutionizing your parenting and family dynamic. You can take your family in a direction that is aligned with your values.
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| 27 Dec 2020 | IDEAS FOR FAMILY CONNECTION ON NEW YEAR’S EVE | 00:24:43 | |
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be giving tips that you and your family can use to connect and reflect with each other on New Year's Eve or New Year’s day. This episode is meant to guide you and your family in the right direction while leaving behind any baggage from 2020. I will dive into some fun game ideas and different activities you could use with your kids. Even some activities for the adults!
We will go over topics such as:
Given the year that we had, it is important that we create a family connection in a fun and creative way. Don't stress yourself out trying to have the best New Year celebration, instead make it a celebration you will remember with your loved ones. I hope you are all able to close this year’s chapter and open a new book of possibilities for 2021. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!
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| 13 Dec 2020 | EARLY SOCIALIZATION OF YOUNG CHILDREN | 00:21:19 | |
“You don’t need to seek out preschools and daycare for your children to become socialized. It can still be a great fit for your family but remember it’s not something you need to do.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be talking about young children and their socialization needs. I want to address a few myths, one of the biggest being, that daycares and preschools are the way to develop your children socially. I will also dive into the importance of the adults your children are surrounded by, and the role this plays in the socialization development.
We will go over topics such as:
My hope is that this episode brings you peace of mind if you are a parent who has been feeling pressure to put your child in a preschool or daycare environment simply to promote socialization. Remember, you are what your child needs in order for them to reach their full potential!
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| 06 Dec 2020 | HAVE YOURSELF A MERRY COVID CHRISTMAS | 00:33:14 | |
“This is the year where you can be making, baking, watching things and reading things because you're not as scheduled and you have more time. Let's take advantage of the benefits that come from a less scheduled holiday season.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be talking about alternative ways to have yourself a merry COVID Christmas this year. With the restrictions in place, this year's Christmas surely won't feel the same. That doesn't mean families can’t get creative and find new ways to still experience the magical holiday spirit! We will go over topics such as:
With lockdowns and safety restrictions, the holidays don't seem so fun and exciting as before. Thankfully, there are many resources for us to explore so that we can keep our family safe and still celebrate holidays with joy and excitement. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 29 Nov 2020 | SOLUTIONS TO SIBLING FIGHTING WITH SUSAN NORTH | 00:34:43 | |
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we're bringing in a professional mediator expert/parent educator and coach, Susan North. Susan will be joining us to discuss possible solutions to sibling fighting. We will be talking about the golden nuggets from her book The Opposite of Combat: A Parent's Guide for Teaching Siblings How To Collaborate & Solve Their Own Conflicts. We will go over topics such as:
While siblings fighting is a common occurrence in a household, many parents are struggling more than ever with increasing conflicts due to the stay-at-home set-up that we have today. If you are having a hard time dealing with mediation around your home, maybe it's time for you to explore Susan's philosophies and guidelines so you'll be equipped with the knowledge and skills necessary to help children of all ages navigate their own conflicts. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH SUSAN: CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 15 Nov 2020 | MAKING SPACE FOR FRUSTRATION | 00:21:05 | |
“I encourage you to embrace and make space for your children's frustration to move. It might be the answer as to what's been missing from your parenting and self-care practice during this period of high frustration.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be talking about making space for frustration which is very timely considering there is a high-level of frustration building up around the pandemic. Thankfully, there are a lot of easy-to-do activities that can help us and our children find the much-needed emotional release. We will go over topics such as:
When exploring the activities mentioned in this episode, remember that there is not a single activity that will work on all children. So I encourage you to have patience and understanding when trying to help your kid move their frustrations. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 08 Nov 2020 | RAISING KIDS IN A SCREEN-FILLED WORLD PART 1: HOW MUCH AND WHEN? | 00:38:11 | |
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to dive into an overdue topic, raising kids in a screen-filled world. It has become one of the most prevalent topics that parents think about, and probably will continue to do so. I'm going to share personal narratives, as well as questions to ask yourself, in terms of how to deal with screen time in your household. We will go over topics such as:
There is not a one size fits all recommendation in terms of dealing with a screen-filled world. Each situation will look a bit different for each family, so remember that the decision on screen time and gadget-restrictions should always depend on what works for you and your family members. As this is only the first part of this particular topic, feel free to share your particular concerns so we can address that in upcoming episodes. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 01 Nov 2020 | NAVIGATING THE TEEN: TWEEN PARENTING TRANSITION | 00:28:34 | |
“Parents, your job is not done yet. Your role has changed but it’s not done.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to share my insight and top tips with you on how you can navigate the tween:teen transition within your child. This is a period of time where many parents can find themselves uncertain or unclear on how to approach the shifts happening in their children’s behavior. I want to share my top seven tips that I found useful as I was navigating this transition with my own children. We will go over topics such as:
Navigating the tween:teen parenting transition is far from easy. I know when I experienced this phase within my two children, I found myself quite uncomfortable at first. Know that it’s normal and you will get through this transition. Parents, remember, your job is not done yet. Your role may have changed, but your job is far from over. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 25 Oct 2020 | CHORES, JOBS, ALLOWANCE, OH MY! | 00:28:09 | |
“It's always worth involving kids in chores, even though they may not always be done to your ideal standards. Don't disinvolve your kids from pitching in with chores just because you know you could do it better.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to delve into the topics of chores, jobs, and allowances within the household. I’m also going to share some tips on how to encourage your child to participate in chores, and the common pitfalls of parents when it comes to chores. We will go over topics such as:
Chores are a fundamental concept in life, and at some point, children must be able to learn how to do it in order to become an independent, full-functioning adult in the future. As parents, it is our responsibility to successfully incorporate the true values of chores even if it seems a little bit tricky! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 18 Oct 2020 | SAFE HALLOWEEN FUN DURING COVID-19 PANDEMIC | 00:15:56 | |
“There are low to no risk activities which could add up to a really great Halloween so that this year’s Halloween celebration is not full of scary disappointments, but more full of fun and celebration.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to share with you the recommendations of things to avoid for this year’s Halloween due to the unfortunate pandemic and things you can still proceed with while taking proper precautions.
Some of the topics I discuss include:
The pandemic has already brought a bunch of disappointments, not just for adults, but also for children. With the CDC’s consideration and guidelines for holiday celebration, it reminds us that we can still have a fun and joyful holiday without compromising our safety.
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| 11 Oct 2020 | DEVELOPING SELF-REGULATION IN CHILDREN | 00:34:29 | |
“Maturity also can't be hurried up nor is it guaranteed. Only growing older is guaranteed. And I think many of us could think about adults in our lives who are incredibly immature, who maybe are on a maturity level, not much beyond a five or six or seven years old. And it may be that they are not very developed when it comes to their integrative functioning, their mixing of conflicting feelings.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to dig in a little deeper on developing self-regulation in children. I’m going to provide parents and educators with signs to look for when the self-regulating skill is already developing and how to encourage its development even further.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
Understanding how self-regulation develops in children is an integral concept in parenting. Knowing the facts behind self-regulation helps ease anxiety for a lot of parents out there. In this episode, I hope that I can help parents nurture an environment that is needed so that self-regulation can develop in your child.
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| 04 Oct 2020 | PARENTING AN ANXIOUS CHILD | 00:33:59 | |
“Understand that the goal here is not to extinguish the flame of anxiety, but instead to lead your child through or around the fire. I'm going to end with this quote again by Dr. Deborah MacNamara: Fear is not a problem to get rid of. Rather, it is a way of moving us forward to caution, to tears or to courage.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be delving into the concept of anxiety including its root causes, neurological processes, and possible symptoms. I will also provide some insights on what to avoid when dealing with an anxious child as well as tips and tricks to help guide your child during their alarm state.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope that these tips will help you make sense of what anxiety is all about. While anxiety is a universal feeling, remember that there are ways you can explore to ease your child’s anxiety. Lastly, take note of the things that you should probably steer clear of to avoid worsening your child’s state of alarm. Remember that when parenting an anxious child, the goal is to help cope with anxiety and not to completely eradicate it.
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| 27 Sep 2020 | Children's Mental Health During Covid-19 | 00:38:16 | |
“I’m feeling so much of my own frustration and frustration in the face of my children's frustration that I am not parenting within my own intention. I am not treating my children with a level of warmth and love and respect that is in line with my intention. And I need to check myself on that. I need to reach out for my own source of support and help.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about our children’s mental health in time of a global pandemic and how you can maintain, and hopefully improve, their emotional well-being.
I am going to share some of the highlights that I have learned on the webinar I attended hosted by the Neufeld’s Institute. Additionally, I am going to share tips and insights on how to further support your child’s mental health during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Some of the topics I discuss include:
Eventually, this pandemic will come at ease and we will all move on from the traumatic experience that we are currently suffering. The main goal, however, for parents and caretakers out there is to help our children ease their pain and suffering. And the best way to do that is to heighten our support for our children’s mental health.
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| 20 Sep 2020 | REMOTE LEARNING REALITY CHECK | 00:38:14 | |
“The reality check is if your child is in a state of alarm, there’s no learning happening anyways.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am going to share seven actionable steps that you can take right away so you can bring back control as a parent in navigating remote learning.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
Juggling the work-from-home set-up and remote learning for our children can easily get overwhelming, especially with the uncertainties brought about by the pandemic. In this episode, I’m going to share seven suggestions and reality checks for parents to get a hold of remote learning more easily, as well as my personal experiences and struggles with remote learning.
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| 06 Sep 2020 | ENCOURAGING EMPATHY IN CHILDREN | 00:22:10 | |
“We as parents, as our children's first teachers, we're the ones that can do the work to plant those seeds of empathy for our own children.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to share some tips that you can implement in your own family to create an environment of empathy. I am also going to talk about things that might be getting in the way of your child's development of empathy.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
While children are born primed with empathy, it takes a loving and supporting environment to help develop those empathetic instincts within them. The key to understanding empathy is to accept that they cannot be taught. It is a delicate blend of children's innate capacity, environment, and upbringing. So I encourage parents to reevaluate the environment where they raise their child and analyze whether it is a viable environment for empathy to grow and flourish.
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| 30 Aug 2020 | WHAT KIDS DON’T NEED FROM THEIR PARENTS | 00:20:09 | |
“Instead of banishing your child or sending them to time out, make space for your children and let them know that they're welcome to be in your presence no matter what version of themselves is there.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we are going to discuss what kids don’t need from their parents. This is a different approach from what I usually do on my episodes but it is equally important as these are common mistakes that a lot of parents make.
We’ll walk through the difficult moments that parents usually experience with their child and discuss the underlying factors that contribute to your child’s frustrations. We will also navigate through what to do and what not to do during these challenging times.
Throughout this episode, I will unpack six pointers on what kids don’t need from their parents, and the reasoning behind why our children don’t respond well to these six things. I will also provide guides on what to do instead so that you will not end up wounding your relationship with your children.
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| 23 Aug 2020 | RV TRAVEL SURVIVAL TIPS FOR NEWBIES | 00:22:58 | |
“Bring that good attitude along so that you can have as much fun as possible on your RV travel vacation and try it. Your kids may be scared to jump in but it might just be one of the best trips your family has ever taken, just like it was for ours.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to share some valuable RV travel survival tips for newbies which I have personally learned and experienced last summer.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
Our RV camping adventure was one of the best trips that our family ever had and we made a life-time worth of incredible memories along the way. I hope that the topics discussed in this episode can help you plan your very own RV travel adventure. With safe travel options like RV travel, even the pandemic couldn’t stop us to create wonderful memories that will surely last a lifetime.
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| 16 Aug 2020 | CONVERSATIONS ON RACE: BOOKS AS “WINDOWS AND MIRRORS” WITH GUEST MIJHA GODFREY | 00:45:06 | |
“For me it was very important that children of color could see themselves blooming where they're planted and that your story doesn't take place necessarily in China or in India or in a country in Africa, that your story can take place here where you are and you belong here.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am chatting with guest Mijha Godrey, who is co-founder of Jambo Books. We’re having another conversation about race, and getting Mijha’s perspective on why she decided to start Jambo Books and her mission behind it.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
Storytelling and providing books is such a powerful vehicle to children and encouraging us to have important conversations. In this episode, Mijha is sharing how she began Jambo Books, why, and her long-term goals as well.
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| 09 Aug 2020 | RAISING CHILDREN WITH LEARNING DIFFERENCES | 00:41:17 | |
“Soon you'll find that raising a child with learning differences is a gift.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am sharing my top tips on raising children with learning differences, based both upon my personal upbringing and my personal experience with my children.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
If you currently have a child with a learning difference or maybe you grew up yourself with one, it can be an overwhelming situation at first. In this episode, I’m going to share my top ten tips on parenting children with a learning difference, as well as my personal experiences with this topic.
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| 02 Aug 2020 | PARENTING DOMINANT "ALPHA" CHILDREN | 00:56:30 | |
“The level of cooperation parents get from their children is usually equal to the level of connection. Children feel with their parents.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we’ll share with you valuable insights on how to effectively parent a dominant “Alpha” child.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
If you are tired of feeling powerless and constantly frustrated from having to walk on eggshells around your potentially explosive child, know that it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode, I’m going to share some pointers to shed light on what being an alpha is all about and offer solutions just for you. I encourage parents to dig deep into this episode so you can finally take back your natural alpha role as a parent and ultimately, help your child reach their full potential.
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| 26 Jul 2020 | MID-SUMMER JOY FIXES | 00:27:16 | |
“Stop being a martyr. You deserve a break. You deserve a rest. You are not supposed to be selfless. You need to take care of yourself so that you can care for others.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be sharing my six mid-summer joy fixes to bring back the joy in your summer. I know that we can’t rely on the usual summer activities that we’ve had in the past like summer camps or summer jobs due to the pandemic. With that in mind, I’m going to share with you some quick solutions that have been helping me make it through this unique summer with more joy and less stress.
We will go over topics such as:
If you’re having a hard time facing the difficulties of summer quarantine, try these six mid-summer joy fixes that I have for you. Hopefully, this could give you a redo on this summer and consequently, helps you find the summer joy you and your family definitely deserve.
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| 19 Jul 2020 | CONVERSATIONS ON RACE: A BLACK MOTHER’S PERSPECTIVE | 00:52:18 | |
“You have to be intentional. We treat black people fairly. We treat Asian people fairly. We treat Hispanic people fairly because we are all human beings and we all have the same worth.”
On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be diving into the topic of race and parenting and specifically getting a black mother's perspective with our very special guest, Nishea Clark. She is a New Jersey-based mother of two and founder of NVC Consulting. She will be sharing her insight and perspective on race and how that plays a role for her as a parent.
When it comes to conversations about race, it can be a controversial topic. With all of the recent events happening across the world, it’s time we shed light on different perspectives. Especially a black mother’s perspective, as a parent there are already enough challenges and obstacles to face.
In Episode 40 of the 3D Parent Podcast, I want to explore and have a deeper conversation about race and the role it plays for parenting.
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RESOURCES: The Invisible Load of Motherhood: Mothering Black Children | |||
| 12 Jul 2020 | DISCIPLINE WITH DIGNITY | 00:42:23 | |
“Think of the discipline again as a word that is meant to be about leadership. It requires us as parents to take responsibility for our children and be able to identify what's not working so that we can address it.”
On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be diving into disciplining your children with dignity. We will be reviewing the older, more popular ways to discipline your child, discuss why they are hindering your connection with your child, and how to improve your discipline tactics.
So what does discipline with dignity mean? It means disciplining your children through your connection and creating a safe environment for them to work through their emotions when they are met with boundaries or decisions they don’t like.
Just keep in mind, this won’t always be easy, but be firm in your boundaries and always work to maintain that connection with your child.
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RESOURCES: Connection to Parenting by Pam Leo | |||
| 05 Jul 2020 | CULTIVATING A DEEP CONNECTION WITH OUR CHILDREN | 00:45:24 | |
“You need to develop a sense of curiosity about your child, and you cannot get sucked up into the emotions of what’s going on.”
On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, I want to go deep in discussing deep connection with your children. First we’ll look at a couple of studies regarding the different types of connection that can be used to classify young children. Then we’ll discuss in depth the different stages of attachment and what stage looks like.
Before the conclusion of the episode, I will also identify some roadblocks for you that are common challenges that come up for parents in trying to establish a connection with their child. Finally, I will give you some tips so you can start incorporating connection at every attachment stage to help you reach your goal as a parent as your child’s secret keeper.
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RESOURCES: Connection to Parenting by Pam Leo The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J Siegel | |||
| 28 Jun 2020 | WHAT IS THE 3D PARENT APPROACH | 00:28:08 | |
“You need to develop a sense of curiosity about your child, and you cannot get sucked up into the emotions of what’s going on.”
This week on the podcast I will be talking about the 3D Parent approach and how you can start making that transition in your home today. Now, this won’t be easy, especially if you are used to trying to control your child’s behaviors with rewards and punishment. This may feel very foreign to you and you may feel like you have no idea what you’re doing. That is completely normal, but I want to encourage you to not give up.
In this episode I will break down the difference between approaching your child’s behaviors from a behaviorist perspective vs. a developmentalist perspective, and how to start making the transition to nurture their development without trying to force them into a box.
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| 14 Jun 2020 | SUMMER SUCCESS DURING COVID-19 PANDEMIC | 00:25:20 | |
“This may have not been the summer you or your kids had envisioned for yourselves, but that does not mean it needs to be terrible. Make it a summer to remember for you and your family.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to share some fun ideas for summer activities that you can enjoy with your kids even with the restrictions brought on by the pandemic. Plus, most of the ideas that I will share are accessible and very affordable.
If you have a child who is disappointed by the cancellation of their summer activities, then this episode is definitely for you. Aside from the summer activities I’m going to share, we’re also going to discuss how these activities can help parents navigate the stress of this difficult situation.
I hope the topics that we will discuss here will help you plan your summer activities and make it one of the most memorable summers for you and your family, despite the difficulties caused by COVID-19. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids
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| 11 Jun 2020 | TALKING TO OUR KIDS ABOUT RACE, RACISM, AND PRIVILEGE | 00:53:15 | |
“It's okay to make mistakes when you're advocating or speaking out. And not everyone’s going to welcome your participation. That's okay. That's the price we pay for our privilege. Just listen, learn and continue to do the best you can to make a positive difference.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am going to share six actionable steps that you can take right away to address race, identity, prejudice within your own families.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
If you’re feeling intimidated or unsure of how to discuss the topics of race, racism, and privilege with your children, know that you are not alone. However, these conversations are necessary building blocks to a more equal society. So I encourage parents to make a commitment to complete at least one step a week to genuinely address these difficult topics within your households.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 24: Surviving and Thriving During the Coronavirus Outbreak Episode 28: Talking to Your Kids About Sex
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| 31 May 2020 | HELPING CHILDREN PROCESS DISAPPOINTMENTS | 00:26:29 | |
“I want to invite you to see this as an opportunity to help your child develop a capacity to be resilient. If you get in the way, you might be keeping your child from being able to develop those skills. Handling disappointment and sadness is like a muscle that needs to be worked out. Your child needs to continue to work out this resiliency muscle.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’ll share some valuable tips on how you can help your child process disappointments so they can grow into a mature and resilient adult.
We will also look at ways you can hold space for your children when they are in a fragile state, especially with stress and disappointments triggered by the pandemic. Finally, I’ll provide some pointers on what to avoid doing when your children are going through the process of disappointment and frustration.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 23: Surviving and Thriving During the Coronavirus Outbreak Episode 32: Tears: The Key to Getting Kids “Unstuck”
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| 24 May 2020 | TEARS: THE KEY TO GETTING KIDS “UNSTUCK” | 00:32:50 | |
“Crying and tears helped both of us deal with what was such a difficult day and a difficult process. It was a perfect illustration of how tears can be so helpful when a child can access those emotions and is willing to cry when they cannot do anything different and they realize they have to face what is in front of them.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about the concept of crying and how it can help your child become a mature, emotionally evolved human being.
Besides discussing the benefits of crying, throughout the episode we’re also going to share tips and suggestions that can help with getting kids “unstuck” if they aren’t naturally prone to crying.
Some of the topics that we will cover include:
So often as parents, we worry about stopping our kids’ tears, but as this episode explains, it’s even more important to teach your children how to properly let out their sadness and emotions through tears. So I hope this episode helps you get your children’s tears “unstuck” and don’t hesitate to reach out on the website if you have any parenting questions! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODE RESOURCES: Dr. Deborah MacNamara’s article about tears Hold on to your kids: Why parents need to matter more than their peers by Dr. Neufeld Crying: The Mystery of Tears by William H. Frey and Muriel Langseth
EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids Episode 24: Parenting the Highly Sensitive Orchid Child
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| 17 May 2020 | Q&A YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED: GRIEF, CONNECTION & MENTAL HEALTH WITH TEENS, BONDING W/ BABIES | 00:30:17 | |
"You do not need to see the invisible string. People who love each other are always connected by a very special string made of love. ‘But if you can't see it, how do you know it's there?’ your child may ask. Your response: ‘Even though you can't see it with your eyes, you can feel it with your heart and know that you're always connected to everyone you love.’"
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be answering questions from listeners just like YOU! I picked three listener questions for this episode that are relevant for different ages of children and span a variety of topics. Some of these topics are more specific to the time period that we’re in now while the others are a bit more general.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
I hope the tips we talk about in this episode provide you with the inspiration you need to build stronger relationships with your children and give you more confidence to trust your own instincts while parenting. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODE RESOURCES: Book: "The Invisible String" by Patrice Karst Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity Episode 30: How to Handle Your Adolescent’s Counterwill CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: | |||
| 10 May 2020 | HOW TO HANDLE YOUR ADOLESCENT'S COUNTERWILL | 00:27:28 | |
“This information I'm going to share was inspired and informed through a few courses that I've taken over the last couple of years from the Gordon Neufeld Institute. One of the courses was, “Making Sense of Adolescence” and another workshop that I took called , "The Counter Will Storm - Making Sense of Teen Resistance."
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about counterwill during adolescence. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids
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| 03 May 2020 | PARENTAL SELF-CARE WITH INSPIRATION FROM THE ELEMENTS | 00:14:55 | |
"Self-care, honestly, is not my strength. It is something that I am still actively working on. I'm still trying to take care of my mind, body, spirit, my heart. I am the type that tends to kind of overlook myself frequently, and it's something I'm working on because when I am taking care of myself, I'm at my best. When I am taking care of myself, I am parenting. I am working. I am expressing myself creatively."
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to tackle a topic that really hits close to home right now, and that is parental self-care in this time of a pandemic. We will be discussing different self-care ideas that you can do while at home with your kids, managing your household, and working from home.
If you’re someone who doesn’t have a routine or anything that’s working for you very well at the moment, this episode is definitely for you. In fact, we’re actually going to discuss how you can find inspiration to boost your self-care regimen in the four elements of earth, air, water and fire.
I hope you find the tips and ideas in this episode to be helpful and that they allow you to take good care of yourself so you can, in turn, take better care of your children.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 26: Working From Home with Kids Episode 23: Surviving and Thriving During the Coronavirus Outbreak
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| 26 Apr 2020 | TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX | 00:39:02 | |
"I wanted to shift gears today and talk about something different because my brain just needed a change, and you probably are sick of hearing it too. So let's take a journey together in a completely different direction. I want to talk today about having ‘the talk’ with your kids."
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be discussing human sexuality and how you as parents can have a conversation with your kids on this particular topic as well as the different subtopics associated with it, such as puberty and the human body among others.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
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| 19 Apr 2020 | SUPPORTING SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS | 00:29:58 | |
“My topic today is going to be relevant while we are in the midst of the stay-at-home orders during this pandemic. Right now, we have a lot of time for sibling togetherness and there's a lot of positives there, with families being together and spending so many hours of every day together, under one roof.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about supporting sibling relationships which I’m sure many of us are experiencing some challenges with in this extended time that we have to be together. At the root of a lot of these challenges is often sibling relationships.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope the topics that we will discuss here will further your understanding toward supporting sibling relationships and not unintentionally feeding more sibling conflicts.
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| 12 Apr 2020 | WORKING FROM HOME WITH KIDS | 00:23:19 | |
“This is kind of a reality podcast where you're hearing exactly what I'm talking about, happening all around me. So this is the topic, and of course, it's a very pressing one right now because of what we're all dealing with, with the school closures and parents like us are working from home. Some child care centers are closed, people are closing businesses and others are out of work. For some of us who are very, very lucky, we are very fortunate that we can work from home. We realize that this is a really tough endeavor and something that is new.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am going to share with you basic suggestions as well as more creative ideas for you to more effectively work from home while your kids are also there.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
I hope the tips in this episode will help your work-from-home experience with kids feel even easier, enjoyable and productive!
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids
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| 05 Apr 2020 | LOW-STRESS HOMESCHOOLING TIPS DURING THE PANDEMIC | 00:33:35 | |
“Now, the ways in which different people are approaching home learning is really varying. It varies state by state and school by school. Some schools have full-fledged remote learning up and running and it is going great. Other schools have just given optional assignments to their families and they can't require remote learning.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we'll share with you valuable insight on how to create a flexible and low-stress home learning routine for your family.
We will also look at the daily routines that we're doing and those being set up by people for their families. Like me, a lot of you are sure to have made even a minor adjustment to the routines that you've already set up initially to make them work even better.
I hope you find inspiration in our episode discussion and find the tips that we'll discuss to be helpful and beneficial, not just today, but all throughout your parenting journey.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 5: The Parent/Teacher Partnership with Guest Meghan Lanouette Episode 9: Encouraging Motivation in Kids
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| 29 Mar 2020 | PARENTING THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE "ORCHID" CHILD | 00:32:08 | |
“I have many different varieties of orchids in my own household. From the very rare and exotic 100% highly-sensitive orchid child to children who are more dandelion-like, but have a few high sensitivities in certain areas of their life.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am going to talk about a topic that is very near and dear to my heart which is parenting the highly sensitive child. Known in the field of Psychology as orchid children, they compose 15 - 20% of the entire child population.
Throughout the episode, I will share with you examples as I attempt to illustrate a little bit more about what they look like and how to parent these orchid children in the most effective way possible.
I hope that you will find the tips in this episode most helpful as you continue your parenting journey. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!
EPISODE RESOURCES: The Orchid and the Dandelion by W. Thomas Boyce, M.D. Helping Sensitive Children Flourish by Deborah MacNamara Is Your Child Highly Sensitive?
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| 22 Mar 2020 | SURVIVING AND THRIVING DURING THE CORONAVIRUS OUTBREAK | 00:41:25 | |
“We are going through some really unchartered territory right now all over the world. For me, specifically in Seattle with the Coronavirus outbreak in my area being so heavily impacted. It is really impacting all aspects of family life. For me, my family, my neighbors, my friends and other people in our greater area.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, our discussion will be centered around surviving and thriving during this coronavirus outbreak.
I want to focus my podcast on the real pressing topics at hand which include:
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| 15 Mar 2020 | PARENT COACHING: PEER OPERATION IN A 6 YEAR OLD CHILD | 00:50:20 | |
"It's probably been going on for the past two, maybe two and a half years. As I said, my son is six and a half years old and any time we're in a social gathering, social setting, he goes into a kind of hyperdrive, on a regular basis."
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we're going to listen in on this live parent coaching session where I will be working with the parent of a 6 year old boy, which is having some trouble handling being in social situations and participating in large social gatherings.
Together, we'll learn:
I hope the tips in this episode are helpful, not only to current parents, but for anyone who is embarking on their own parenting journey, and for you as well.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity
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| 08 Mar 2020 | HOW TO HANDLE YOUR CHILD’S LIES | 00:28:31 | |
"All of us have experienced at one time or another, our children lying when they're young. It can be kind of cute, they're not very good at lying (but) as they get older, it can become a more persistent problem. It can be distressing for parents and sometimes parents get really fearful that they're raising a pathological liar or a child who is going to really struggle with being honest and telling the truth throughout their entire life."
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about how to handle your child’s lies, as well as provide some insight to help make sense of what’s going on and where the lying might be coming from so that you may have a better understanding of what’s happening.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope these tips help with the issues you may have if you're experiencing lying with your children, and prove to be excellent ideas that you can apply. Especially if this has been a recurrent problem already.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity
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| 01 Mar 2020 | Q & A - YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED | 00:22:58 | |
“Sometimes kids get into trouble in restaurants because we're not really focused on them. We kind of turn our attention off to our kids and instead maybe we're engaging in conversations with the other adults at the table, and we kind of lose focus that our kids actually need our attention and our direction …“
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be answering three questions from listeners and providing tips and suggestions to help you navigate each of these specific scenarios.
Some of the topics covered in this episode include:
I hope the tips in this episode are helpful, not only to the listeners who asked the questions, but for you as well.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids
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| 23 Feb 2020 | THE POWER AND IMPORTANCE OF PLAY | 00:34:04 | |
“Kids who have the opportunity to do this open ended play, these children grow up into really confident older children, teens, tweens and adults, because they have this kind of ability to work through emotions, discover passions, work on critical thinking skills and creativity, and develop their own self sense of self …”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be learning about the importance of open ended play for our children and what that looks like depending on your child’s age.
I will take you through different kinds of open ended play for young children, tween and teens and even adults (yes we need play too!). I will also give you some guidance on what to look for in terms of play when you are selecting schools for your children, and tips on how to incorporate more time for play into your everyday lives.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children Episode 9: Encouraging Motivation in Kids
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| 16 Feb 2020 | PARENT COACHING: POTTY TRAINING SETBACKS WITH A 5 YEAR OLD | 00:44:46 | |
“… you're completely right. When we address it in the moment, it doesn't have the same impact because then all those defenses are up. So we have to address it and have this conversation outside of the incident.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be coaching a parent through some struggles with potty training her daughter. We will discuss some of the events leading up to this, her daughter's history with potty training, and any changes that may be relevant to this setback. Then I will help Gini develop a plan for her and her daughter to tackle this struggle in a way that will allow her daughter to master this skill on her own.
Some topics we will go over include:
I hope this episode is helpful for anyone with a child that is struggling to learn to use the bathroom on their own. Please reach out if you have any further questions!
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EPISODE RESOURCES: Aha Parenting: 4 Year Old Having Potty Accidents
EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 5: The Parent/Teacher Partnership with Guest Megahn Lanouette Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity
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| 09 Feb 2020 | MELTDOWN-FREE SHOPPING TRIPS WITH KIDS | 00:19:46 | |
“Give them jobs and engage them in the process to keep them interested, keep them from running around and find their own ways to entertain them. If they're engaged in the process, less likely they're going to be causing problems.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be discussing tips and tricks to make that trip to the store more manageable and avoid those meltdowns.
We will go over topics such as:
I hope these tips help you get through your shopping trips with as little hiccups as possible! Don’t hesitate to reach out on the website if you have any parenting questions!
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 9: Encouraging Motivation in Kids Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity
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| 02 Feb 2020 | Q & A - YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED | 00:29:00 | |
“Interest in doing something that might be a little bit hard, but you've pushed through, gosh, that's where the self-confidence and the resilience can really, really grow.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be answering questions from you, the parents, around situations that are particularly difficult for you at this moment in your parenting journey.
The topics we will be covering today range from struggles with consistently having your baby sleep through the night to having to set boundaries with your 16 year old regarding vaping marijuana. We will also touch on working through anxiety in children and tips for dealing with the “it’s not fair” argument.
I hope you enjoy this episode and can take away some useful tips! Look for full length episodes regarding some if these topics in the future!
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 1: Welcome to Becoming a 3D Parent Episode 2: What is the 3D Parent Approach
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| 26 Jan 2020 | CONFESSIONS OF A PARENT COACH WHO IS IN THE PARENTING TRENCHES | 00:28:02 | |
“ … my kids are faced with all these challenges, which causes emotional reactions in them, which can sometimes trigger emotional reactions in me. And so I'm not always executing where my intentions are as a parent. I'm not always able to reach the standard I set for myself and my parenting. But here's the thing, I'm OK with that. I'm human. I am not a robot. I don't always do things perfectly.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am taking you on a little journey of how I got to where I am today as a parent coach. My fears surrounding taking parent coaching on as a career, and how I coach myself when I realize my parenting isn’t aligning with my intentions as a parent.
I will be sharing some of my best tips and tricks to help you gut check yourself as a parent, as well as giving you a glimpse into my everyday life and struggle as a parent of four. I’m not perfect, I am human just like you, striving to be the best parent I can be for my children. Sometimes I miss the mark, and that is okay, as long as I learn and try to do better.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity
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| 19 Jan 2020 | PARENT COACHING: AGGRESSION TOWARD NANNY | 00:39:18 | |
“ … aggression is really what happens for kids when they don't want to feel something that is very vulnerable. So when there's a there's an underlying feeling that they just don't want to face, a lot of times kids will lash out in aggression.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I welcome a fellow parent and friend, Elizabeth and we are going to be focusing today’s episode around working through childhood aggression toward parents and a nanny or caregiver.
Throughout the episode we recognize there are a couple different things at play in this situation. We will revisit some topics that I’ve already discussed on the podcast, including understanding childhood aggression and cultivating a deep connection with your child. But we also touch on how to help bridge separation for a child if that is something that is causing them distress.
This episode is full of helpful tips and tricks on a variety of different topics, so it really gives you a good example of how all of the tools I’ve discussed can be utilized together to help you continue to raise your children with discipline without sacrificing your relationship with them.
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EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children Episode 8: Understanding Childhood Aggression
RESOURCES: The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
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| 12 Jan 2020 | SOLUTIONS TO HOMEWORK HASSLES | 00:25:47 | |
“I had made it all about me. I had somehow put this in this category of I was going to get judged or I was going to be a bad parent if my child's homework wasn't done, if it wasn't done to my standards and if it wasn't turned in on time.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we are talking about the dreaded homework struggle. Truth be told, I thought that I would not have a problem supporting my child with her education, but low and behold, my first born gave me a run for my money.
Throughout the episode, I share my personal struggle with my child and her homework, and the steps I took to remove myself from the homework equation in an effort to help her become an independent learner and to keep our relationship intact.
I also include some tips surrounding how to support your child and provide them with all the necessary tools they may need, without stepping in and bailing them out of figuring it out for themselves. I would love to know if you try any of these tips and how they work for you!
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| 05 Jan 2020 | Q & A - YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED | 00:26:57 | |
“ … you might be feeling a little bit of grief, a little bit of sadness over the fact that your child is kind of growing out of another aspect of babyhood ... “
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be answering three of your questions surrounding struggles you may currently be experiencing on your parenting journey. The topics that I will be covering include, separation anxiety when transferring children between parents who may be separated or divorced, transitioning a young child from a crib to a “big kid” bed, and screen time.
For each of the topics mentioned above, I will address the questions by providing insights as to how I might handle the situation using the 3D Parent approach, and provide tips for each situation that you can apply or tweak to fit your situation.
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| 29 Dec 2019 | SAY YOU’RE SORRY! ENCOURAGING GENUINE APOLOGIES IN KIDS | 00:17:09 | |
“We need to move away from thinking that performance is more important than the actual process of going through and developing these feelings … We want them to be able to look at their sibling or their peer that is upset that they have upset and kind of put themselves in that child's shoes …”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we dive into helping your children understand the process behind giving a genuine apology. The key to this process might be difficult to grasp at first, because the key is to give the child time to process through their initial emotion. The one that caused them to act out, and let them come to feelings of empathy for the person they may have upset.
We’ll discuss the best way to give them time and space to process, but then check-in with them to help them facilitate an apology, different ways children may “apologize,” and when you may need to step in and provide an apology for your child.
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| 22 Dec 2019 | PARENT COACHING: FEARS AT BEDTIME | 00:35:31 | |
“It is important to kind of say, I can take this. I can help you. Oh yeah, worries are hard. I'm in this with you so that they kind of feel like this sense of security. Like I don't have to handle this all on my own.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I take you through a live parent coaching example with Sara Dean. Sara Dean is a mom, wife and the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast. After experiencing her own identity crisis after becoming a mom, Sara has found her passion and purpose rebuilding her identity and helping women, especially moms, own their space and put themselves first.
On the podcast we discuss her story of parenting so far, and one of her current challenges as a parent: addressing fears at bedtime. As you listen, you will hear Sara discuss in detail her son’s fears and behaviors, and then I will help her work through some ways she can help ease her sons fears and help him bridge the separation gap overnight.
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| 15 Dec 2019 | ENCOURAGING MOTIVATION IN KIDS | 00:23:35 | |
“If you're trying to force motivation by nagging them, threatening them with punishments or giving them bribes to try to get them to be motivated, you're not actually helping them develop this intrinsic self-motivation, which is really the key here.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we are going to talk about cultivating intrinsic motivation in your children to accomplish a task or goal. I want you to keep in mind, this is different than nagging them, or threatening to take something away or bribing them. This is helping them learn to motivate themselves to accomplish necessary tasks or goals.
Throughout the podcast, I will provide you with some direction on how to help guide them to their own motivation. We’ll walk through helping them find interests and passions, and then setting goals that may involve those interests and passions. We will also talk about helping them find motivation for things they may not want to do, like chores.
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| 08 Dec 2019 | UNDERSTANDING CHILDHOOD AGGRESSION | 00:33:12 | |
“Young children and immature children only have the ability and the capacity to experience and feel one emotion at a time.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we are going to be discussing childhood aggression. Now, there are so many aspects to this topic I’m sure we will be re-visiting it, but today I just wanted to identify what it is, where it comes from, and how to handle it in the moment and prevent it in the future.
Throughout this episode, we’ll discuss language you can use with your child to help them work through their emotions and depersonalize restraining them if necessary. I will also provide you examples of different ways you can channel that aggressive energy into more productive activities, such as sports, martial arts, and just fun activities like popping bubble wrap.
I can’t wait to share these tangible tips with you, they will really be game changers for you if you have a child that struggles with this.
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| 08 Dec 2019 | Q & A - YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED | 00:27:20 | |
“I want to encourage you, the 3D parent podcast listener, to collectively reject this notion that we've come to accept as normal in our society, as normal in our culture, that kids grow up into teens who hate and reject their parents. That is just not true.”
On this episode of the 3D Parent podcast, I am going to be taking the time to answer listener questions! Some topics that come up include cultivating gratitude with your child, handling behavior changes as your kids start to grow and mature, and helping your children learn to navigate speaking up for themselves.
If you would like to submit a question to be addressed in a later episode, please contact me via my website or my Facebook page with your question, and I will let you know when your question will be airing on an episode!
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RESOURCES: Article on Gratitude Benefits for Emotional and Physical Health | |||
| 08 Dec 2019 | MANAGING MORNING MAYHEM | 00:30:23 | |
“One of the most commonly discussed issues in my parent coaching practice with my clients is the mornings. How to get through the mornings without meltdowns, without chaos, without everybody ending up yelling at each other, with kids crying and just a whole mess that you feel terrible about the rest of the day.”
This week on the 3D Parent podcast, we will be discussing some tips and tricks to help create a smooth transition from sleep, to a morning routine and getting out the door and on your way for the day.
Mornings are one of the most common challenges that parents struggle with. Mostly due to the fact that it is a time of transition that is happening right out of a time of separation (yes, sleep is still a time of separation). Throughout this episode I am going to share some tips for making this time less stressful and more fun and easy.
After you listen to this episode, I encourage you to implement just one thing and see how it improves your morning with your kiddos.
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| 08 Dec 2019 | THE PARENT/TEACHER PARTNERSHIP WITH GUEST MEGHAN LANOUETTE | 00:42:57 | |
“It's like if the parents and the teachers aren't talking. It's like trying to build something with a door in between you, and trying to have two people building the same thing, but not communicating at all about it.”
This week on the 3D Parent podcast, we are talking to Meghan Lanouette. She is a second grade teacher in Seattle, Washington with over 14 year experience in elementary education. Her goal as an educator is to connect with her class and stimulate the child’s natural curiosity and drive to learn.
She shares with us her take on creating connections with her students and how to utilize that connection when working through a situation that requires discipline. She also emphasizes that the parents and the teacher need to come together to work as a team to create the best environment and outcome for their child, and speaks on how best to do that.
I hope you enjoy Meghan’s perspective and the episode.
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| 08 Dec 2019 | DISCIPLINE WITH DIGNITY | 00:37:39 | |
“Think of the discipline again as a word that is meant to be about leadership. It requires us as parents to take responsibility for our children and be able to identify what's not working so that we can address it.”
On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be diving into disciplining your children with dignity. We will be reviewing the older, more popular ways to discipline your child, discuss why they are hindering your connection with your child, and how to improve your discipline tactics.
So what does discipline with dignity mean? It means disciplining your children through your connection and creating a safe environment for them to work through their emotions when they are met with boundaries or decisions they don’t like.
Just keep in mind, this won’t always be easy, but be firm in your boundaries and always work to maintain that connection with your child.
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| 08 Dec 2019 | CULTIVATING A DEEP CONNECTION WITH OUR CHILDREN | 00:46:32 | |
“Let's raise children who won't have to recover from their childhood.” - Pam Leo
On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, I want to go deep in discussing deep connection with your children. First we’ll look at a couple of studies regarding the different types of connection that can be used to classify young children. Then we’ll discuss in depth the different stages of attachment and what stage looks like.
Before the conclusion of the episode, I will also identify some roadblocks for you that are common challenges that come up for parents in trying to establish a connection with their child. Finally, I will give you some tips so you can start incorporating connection at every attachment stage to help you reach your goal as a parent as your child’s secret keeper.
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| 08 Dec 2019 | WHAT IS THE 3D PARENT APPROACH | 00:25:42 | |
“You need to develop a sense of curiosity about your child, and you cannot get sucked up into the emotions of what’s going on.”
This week on the podcast I will be talking about the 3D Parent approach and how you can start making that transition in your home today. Now, this won’t be easy, especially if you are used to trying to control your child’s behaviors with rewards and punishment. This may feel very foreign to you and you may feel like you have no idea what you’re doing. That is completely normal, but I want to encourage you to not give up.
In this episode I will break down the difference between approaching your child’s behaviors from a behaviorist perspective vs. a developmentalist perspective, and how to start making the transition to nurture their development without trying to force them into a box.
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| 01 Dec 2019 | Welcome to Becoming a 3D Parent | 00:18:11 | |
“The answers were not in a book or a workshop. The answer was right there in front of me … I had to get to know [my daughter] on a much deeper level …”
Welcome to the 3D Parent Podcast! This week on the podcast I will be giving you an introduction to my background, my passions and how parenting with dignity, direction and deep connection can change your relationship with not only your child, but with your spouse as well.
Before I became a certified parent coach, I taught in various educational settings for over 10 years and have ALWAYS had a passion for helping children. But when I became a parent, and couldn’t find the answer to help my child, I realized a new passion: teaching parents how to cultivate deep connections and understanding with their children.
To hear the whole story you’re going to have to listen to the episode!
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| 11 Dec 2023 | #83 The 3D Parent Podcast Reboot! | 00:05:58 | |
This is our big announcement. Season 2 is on the way. Hear all about what I have planned on The 3D Parent Podcast, launching January 14th, 2024! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here! Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community | |||
| 15 Jan 2024 | #84 The 3D Parent Bootcamp Kick-off | 00:29:23 | |
In this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, I’m introducing a unique model for parenting I call the 3D Parent Approach. The 3D Parent Approach is NOT your typical one-size-fits-all parenting strategy. You won't find quick tips, tricks, or overly-simplified solutions here that only leave you and your child more frustrated. We're skipping the coercion, manipulation, fear, or any discipline practices that damage the precious parent-child relationship. The 3D Parent Approach is a breath of fresh air—an empathetic, holistic approach informed by the research in developmental psychology, attachment theory, and neuroscience. It's a paradigm-shift away from mainstream parenting strategies that often fall short, and towards a connection-based, intuitive approach. Points I discuss include:
Basically, I'm pulling back the curtain and introducing you to The 3D Parent Approach—a simplified model specially crafted for the superheroes among us, the parents of complex kids. This isn't about mere survival; it's about thriving in the rollercoaster ride of parenting. Ready to Take Parenting to the Next Level?
Before we wrap up this heart-to-heart, I want to extend the deepest gratitude to each and every one of you. Your excitement and warm welcome upon my return after a bit of a hiatus have been nothing short of overwhelming. It warms my heart to know that you've been eagerly tuning in, listening to all the episodes, and sharing your thoughts. As we embark on this new chapter, I can't contain my enthusiasm for our weekly rendezvous through the podcast. I'm thrilled to be back, and I can't wait to share more insights, stories, and laughter with you every Sunday. Your presence and involvement make this journey all the more special. I'm genuinely excited to speak with you all again, week after week, as we navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting together! Until next time, sending you all the positive vibes and parenting strength. Take care, and see you soon! Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the3dparent/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the3dparent/ The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/204315540894195/ | |||
| 15 Jan 2024 | #85 Becoming Grounded as a 3D Parent | 00:34:22 | |
Get ready to unearth the secrets of becoming Nurturing Alpha parent on our latest episode! This episode of The 3D Parent Podcast introduces the concept of parenting like a gardener inspired by developmentalism rather than outdated behaviorism, AKA sculptor parenting. Forget rewards and punishments, coercion and control. Instead, foster a fertile environment where your child can naturally blossom into their most authentic self. We'll explore:
Stop trying to control and start nurturing. Become the guide, the supporter, the safe haven that allows your child to unfold their unique potential. Ready to ditch the drama and cultivate a thriving relationship with your child? Subscribe to The 3D Parent Podcast now and discover the transformative power of the Nurturing Alpha approach. Bonus: In the next episode, we'll dive deep into the first "D" of 3D Parenting: Direction. Learn how to guide your child with clarity and empathy, without resorting to manipulation or control. READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?:
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| 15 Jan 2024 | #86 Parenting with Direction | 00:33:14 | |
In this eye-opening episode, I guide you through the art of asking the RIGHT questions in parenting. In the fast-paced world of parenting, it's easy to get lost. The concept of "Parenting with Direction" emphasizes the significance of cultivating curiosity about oneself, one's child, and the parent-child relationship. This curiosity acts as a compass, guiding parents through the intricate journey of understanding their child and their parenting challenges. The importance of asking the right questions cannot be overstated. Many parents instinctively ask, "What should I do when my kid does _____?" when faced with challenging behaviors. Redirecting this focus towards decoding behaviors and understanding the root cause sets the stage for a more effective parenting strategy. In this episode, I will guide you through decoding behaviors. Decoding behaviors is not about controlling them but understanding their origins. By asking critical questions – Is it me? Is it my child? Is it us? – parents begin to unravel the complexities of their child's behavior. This process is foundational to becoming the true expert on their unique child. Points we discuss include: READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?:
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| 15 Jan 2024 | #87 Parenting with Deep Connection | 00:49:24 | |
Are your kids acting out, withdrawing, or just not quite themselves? It might be a sign they're starving for connection. Beyond food and water – a deep, secure bond with you is the greatest need your child has, and it's more crucial for their well-being than you might think. In this episode, I'll dive into the second "D" of The 3D Parent Model: Deep Connection. You'll discover:
This isn't just another parenting podcast. It's a blueprint for building a foundation of love and security that will last a lifetime. So ditch the screens, put down the to-do list, and tune in to the episode that could change everything for your family. More than just parenting tips, this episode is a call to action. It's time to prioritize connection and break the cycle of relational connection starvation that so many children experience. By investing in this crucial bond, you're not just building a stronger relationship, you're contributing to the conditions which will result in a thriving, resilient adult. Don't wait! Subscribe to The 3D Parent Podcast now and:
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| 15 Jan 2024 | #88 Parenting with Dignity in Discipline Part 1 | 00:34:34 | |
Tired of yelling, time-outs, and power struggles? You're not alone. Traditional discipline methods often leave both parents and children feeling frustrated, hurt, and disconnected. But what if there was a better way? A way to guide your children towards good behavior while preserving their dignity and nurturing your relationship? This episode of The 3D Parent Podcast introduces Discipline with Dignity, a revolutionary approach that redefines discipline as leadership, teaching, and guidance with respect. We'll dive deep into common discipline methods and expose their hidden pitfalls, from the fear-based tactics of yelling and spanking to the emotional manipulation of shaming and guilting. But this isn't just about what not to do. We'll also equip you with the two essential tools for effective Here's what you'll learn:
Discipline with Dignity is more than a parenting technique; it's a shift in mindset. It's about treating your child with the respect they deserve while still providing the guidance they need to thrive. Ready to ditch the drama and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship with your child? Bonus: Don't miss Part 2 of this episode, where we'll delve deeper into specific strategies for meeting your child's needs and building a healthy parent-child dynamic! READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?:
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| 15 Jan 2024 | #89 Parenting with Dignity in Discipline Part 2 | 01:12:14 | |
Are you drowning in the sea of guilt about past parenting choices, or minimizing their impact by saying "I turned out fine"? Stop! Both extremes do your child a disservice. This episode of The 3D Parent Podcast dives deep into the the three phases of Discipline with Dignity: Proactive Discipline, Active Discipline, and Retroactive Discipline. Together, we'll learn how to build a secure connection with your child, navigate challenges together, and set healthy boundaries without resorting to drama. Here's what you'll discover on this jam-packed episode:
Congratulations, parents! You've completed The 3D Parent Bootcamp. I hope you're feeling inspired and empowered to apply The 3D Parent model in your parenting journey. Remember, you have everything within you to provide what your child needs to grow, mature, and flourish. READY TO BLOOM IN YOUR PARENTING JOURNEY? Subscribe to The 3D Parent Podcast and unlock the magic of The 3D Parent Approach. Remember, you are the gardener, your child is the seed, and together you can blossom into a thriving parent-child relationship. READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?:
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| 22 Jan 2024 | #90 My Biggest Parenting Struggle | 00:54:50 | |
Ready to reclaim your mornings from the clutches of chaos? Yes, you read that right. I'm back to talk about morning mayhem again! Episode #6 of Season 1 of the podcast was all about this topic, and here I am again, 84 episodes later, still battling the same beast. But hey, that's the beauty of parenting, right? It's a constant journey of growth and learning, and sometimes we have to revisit the same challenges over and over again. Why I Chose This Topic (Again!) There are a few reasons why I felt compelled to bring up morning mayhem once more.
Dive deep into Episode #90 where I tackle the common challenge of difficult mornings head-on armed with The 3D Parent Approach! You'll discover practical strategies, insightful tips, and a healthy dose of empathy to help you transform your mornings from battlegrounds to blissful beginnings. READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?: **For Coaching Services** If you're looking for personalized guidance and support, consider exploring my parent coaching services. Let's work together to tailor the 3D Parent Approach to your unique parenting journey. CLICK HERE to book a complimentary parent coach consultation call. **Become a Podcast Guest** Are you ready to share your parenting challenges and triumphs? Become a guest and receive a free parent coaching session on my podcast, CLICK HERE and let's tackle your parenting concerns together. Your experience can inspire and support other parents facing similar struggles. | |||
| 29 Jan 2024 | #91 Emotional Regulation Through Mindfulness Practices with Aparna Venkatraman | 00:50:57 | |
Parenting is a beautiful yet challenging journey, especially when faced with the complexities of raising unique and dynamic children. In this heartwarming episode, we dive into the world of emotional regulation through mindfulness with the incredible Aparna Venkatraman, the passionate founder of Beauty in Parenting. Aparna's mission with Beauty in Parenting is clear—to support families worldwide in fostering heart-centered connections. Drawing from her 20 years of experience, she guides parents through the intricacies of emotional regulation, offering insights that touch the soul. Parents, this is an episode you don't want to miss! Some points we will discuss include:
We all get swept away sometimes. We lose our breath, our patience, our way. We yell, we cry, we wonder if we'll ever find our sanity again. But guess what? We're not alone. And within each of us, there's a wellspring of resilience, a reservoir of strength waiting to be tapped. On this episode, Aparna shows us the power of mindfulness–that quiet revolution that starts with a single inhale, a deliberate exhale. Did you enjoy today's episode? If yes, share it with your fellow parents with "extra" kids! The more the merrier, right? CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community CONNECT WITH APARNA: Website: Beauty In Parenting - Coaching for Parents of Babies, Toddlers & Teens Instagram: @beautyinparenting Facebook: Beauty In Parenting Free Self-Care & Priorities Chart (1-page pdf): Beauty In Parenting LLC
In this episode, I’m excited to welcome a special guest, Aparna Venkataraman. Having 20 years of experience connecting with 1000s of families in schools, children’s hospitals and non-profit organizations since her teens, Aparna Venkataraman is the founder of Beauty In Parenting and is a worldwide parent coach, meditation-breathwork teacher, motivational speaker and wellness advocate for doTerra essential oils. With her approachable nature, strong intuition and problem-solving skills, she guides parents of babies, toddlers and teens, couples and extended family to empower themselves and build healthy relationships with one another through effective communication, creating boundaries, self-care, confidence-building and lighthearted mindfulness techniques. (03:28) Aparna's Story: I sit down with Aparna to hear more about her story and what led her to this work. Aparna shares her intricate journey, starting from being a premature baby to grappling with childhood anxiety and depression due to emotional distance. Her studies in psychology and child development paved the way for impactful work with diverse groups, all while harboring a deep desire to support families. A pivotal year marked by loss, floods, and leaving a toxic relationship spurred Aparna to create "Beauty in Parenting," aiming to support families globally in finding heart-centered connections. I can't help but resonate with Aparna's story, and I bet many of you can too. It's a beautiful blend of personal struggles and professional growth, highlighting the importance of emotional well-being in parenting. (08:00) Exploring Aparna's Focus on Moms: I asked Aparna what led her to specifically support moms. Aparna opens up about her personal journey, sharing a glimpse into her challenging relationship with her own mother during her upbringing. This connection, or rather, disconnection, played a pivotal role in shaping Aparna's perspective. As she delves into her experiences as a toddler teacher, she shares that she began to notice a pattern — the profound impact of parent-child relationships on a child's behavior, development, and stress levels. The decision to focus on moms stemmed from a profound realization–the multifaceted role moms play in their children's development. She dives into the complexities, acknowledging the tendency for moms to prioritize others, often neglecting their own needs. The struggle to express these needs becomes a common thread among many moms. (10:58) Aparna's Involvement on working with Dads: Now, you might be wondering if Aparna exclusively works with moms. Well, the answer is no. I had the same question, and Aparna clarified that while her primary focus is on supporting moms, she does work with dads too. In our conversation, Aparna expressed her openness to supporting fathers who seek guidance on various aspects of parenting. She recognizes the importance of dads in the family dynamic and is willing to lend a helping hand. This inclusivity extends beyond individual coaching sessions. Aparna emphasizes the significance of family systems, acknowledging that a holistic approach involves considering the dynamics between all family members. In her coaching practice, she not only addresses individual needs but also explores how the entire family can thrive collectively. As we navigate through this discussion, it's evident that Aparna's approach is rooted in empathy and understanding. Her personal journey, combined with her professional experiences, has shaped a coaching model that goes beyond surface-level solutions. Aparna believes in the transformative power of identifying moms' needs, core values, and priorities, ultimately enhancing communication within the family. (10:24) What is mindfulness Let's start with the basics - what exactly is mindfulness? According to Aparna, it's all about heart-centered awareness and being present in the moment. For her, it started in her college days, during a tough semester. The calm it brought her was like a breath of fresh air. Here's what she had to say, "I really loved that feeling of calm that came over me, that feeling of presence. And also being in community too.” Mindfulness, as Aparna describes, is the ticket to being in the moment. It's about connecting with your family, knowing where you're at in life, and waving goodbye to those worries. Aparna's got a nifty trick up her sleeve - a daily reminder on her phone to take five or ten deep breaths. Simple, yet game-changing. "And the more I'm tuned into that, the less worries come, the less I feel, you know, dread for my day, or stress for my da,” says Aparna. Now, let's get practical. Aparna drops a strategy bomb on us. She suggests taking those five or ten deep breaths daily. It's not just a suggestion; it's a life hack. Aparna emphasizes, "It's a practice of really having your mind and your body become aware of the times when you need to feel that sense of calm before you become burnt out.” Here's where I chime in. I can vouch for Aparna's tip. It's deceptively simple but incredibly effective. I shared with her my struggles with consistency, and she agreed, "But when I do things like a very simple and quick mindfulness practice, like just five or 10 deep breaths, man, does it really change the way that I feel in my body?" And there it is, the clarity we all crave. Aparna acknowledges that it's about follow-through and consistency. But, as she points out, it's about meeting parents where they're at and not adding to their stress. She's all about integrating practical, shorter, and more effective techniques into daily life. (13:03) So Aparna specializes in both meditation and deep breathing. Curious about how Aparna found her way into this practice, I asked her. She shared, "I created meditation for myself about seven, eight years ago during this time of transition." It's a personal journey that became a powerful tool for understanding triggers and finding peace amidst life's chaos. Meditation, as Aparna explains, is not about becoming the perfect, peaceful person you might envision on a serene yoga mat. It's about sitting or lying with your thoughts and emotions, observing them, and learning to let them go. Aparna emphasizes the beauty of sitting with and understanding the waves of life that wash over you. In Aparna's words, "It doesn't have to be with a yoga mat or a meditation cushion, or you have to have an environment that looks really pretty and nice. It's more for you as well too." Remember that, folks—it's about your journey, not Instagram-worthy setups. Now, let's talk about deep breathing and breathwork. Aparna spills the beans on how this practice is a fantastic tool for tackling stuck emotions, health issues, or grief. Aparna breaks it down brilliantly. Meditation is that still, quiet space where you connect with yourself, while breathwork is more active and intentional, a conscious effort to release what's bubbling up inside you. It's like a dance between stillness and activation. I couldn't help but share my own experience with Aparna. Meditation can be a challenge, especially for someone with a busy brain like mine. But Aparna, being the guiding light she is, reassured me: "That just means I need more practice and to give myself grace for it being challenging." For those with ADHD or focus issues, Aparna highlights the effectiveness of breathwork. It's a tool, a proactive and active one at that, providing an alternative for those finding stillness in meditation a tad challenging. She notes that while meditation might take time to develop, breathwork can be an easier entry point for many. (16:46) So, I had this heart-to-heart with Aparna, and she laid out the goldmine of benefits that a mindfulness practice can bring into your life. It's not just about personal calm; it's about creating a ripple effect that touches your entire environment. I asked Aparna to spill the beans on what people can gain by committing to a mindfulness practice. Brace yourselves, because what she shared is nothing short of transformational. According to Aparna, personally, it brought more calm into her mind and body. The stress levels took a nosedive, and she found herself reacting less to family and setbacks. But it goes beyond personal peace – mindfulness helps you observe, accept, and have more grace and compassion for yourself and others. In her own words, "It'll help you to not see as many tantrums and meltdowns in life, whether you've got young ones or you've got teens or older children." And guess what? It's not just a personal journey; it extends to your relationships and connections with others. Then, Aparna shares a practical tip about using deep breathing to help a child going through anxiety. She talks about a client who traced their fingers and practiced deep breathing, turning it into a shared regulation time. As I reflect on my own experiences with my kids, I resonate with how these practices not only aid in the moment but strengthen the parent-child bond. Aparna emphasizes the trust and confidence built through these practices. It's not just about the exercise; it's about the shared experience and the osmosis effect of regulated emotions. And guess what? This is especially powerful for parents dealing with complex kids – those with ADHD, autism, sensory processing differences. It's about recognizing how you're wired, understanding your child, and building a toolbox that'll help you both navigate the decades to come. (25:35) So, my chat with Aparna took an interesting turn when we discussed tools for parents dealing with heightened emotions, especially when parenting complex kids. “One of the things that most commonly is a challenge for parents of complex kids is being able to regulate their own nervous systems, their own reactivity in the moment of heightened emotion.” Aparna sets the stage by addressing a universal challenge—parental reactivity. Acknowledging the struggle is the first step, and Aparna offers not just sympathy but tangible tools for those caught in the whirlwind of heightened emotions. Aparna's Tool #1: Sensory Objects - Stress Ball:"Sometimes it's having a sensory object like a stress ball." Aparna introduces the concept of sensory objects, emphasizing the need for tangible tools. The stress ball becomes more than a simple object; it's a lifeline, a grounding force for both parents and children in the storm of emotions. Aparna's Tool #2: Essential Oils and Aromatherapy:"I support others in essential oils and aromatherapy." Essential oils and aromatherapy emerge as soothing companions in the journey of emotional regulation. Aparna's support for these practices extends beyond mere suggestions; it's an invitation to explore the profound impact of scents on emotional well-being. Aparna's Tool #3: Physical Gesture - Hand on Heart:"Placing a hand on your heart. I love doing that when I'm doing deep breathing, especially." The power of physical gestures takes center stage. Placing a hand on the heart becomes a ritual, not just for deep breathing but for reconnecting with oneself. Aparna introduces a simple yet transformative practice to foster self-awareness. Aparna's Tool #4: Establishing Boundaries with Space:"Taking a step back and telling your child, hey, I'm going to take a moment, I need some space." Aparna draws from her experience as a toddler teacher to highlight the importance of boundaries. It's not just about physical space; it's about setting healthy boundaries, teaching both parent and child the value of a momentary pause. Aparna's Tool #5: Physical Gestures - Leaning Back, Eye Contact, Walking Away: "Sometimes just remembering when you're in the midst of, you know, this is really stressing me out that you can lean back." The nuances of physical gestures become crucial. Aparna suggests leaning back, making eye contact, or even walking away. These actions, seemingly small, hold immense power in diffusing tension and providing clarity in challenging moments. She not only empathetically addresses the societal pressure on parents to be omnipresent. This realization serves as a pivotal moment—an acknowledgment that it's okay to step back, creating a foundation for the upcoming educational insights but also offers a liberating perspective—a gentle reminder that setting personal boundaries isn't a luxury but a necessity. This shift in mindset aligns with the overarching theme of self-compassion and intentional parenting. (27:06) Also, Aparna shared valuable insights into the dos and don'ts of mindfulness practices, addressing frequency, duration, and optimal times during the day. As we explored the do's and don'ts of mindfulness practices, the conversation naturally shifted towards setting ourselves up for success. Aparna shared her valuable insights, and it felt like we were uncovering secrets to creating a balanced and serene life. Aparna's practical advice centered on the concept of a "calm corner." This isn't just for toddlers; it's a tune-in place for adults, a sanctuary where you can connect with your feelings, regulate yourself, and find peace. She advocated for parents to create this haven not just for themselves but also for their children, fostering a sense of familiarity and tranquility. She also provided practical advice on incorporating mindfulness into daily routines, suggesting morning and bedtime as opportune times. She also addressed the challenges of transitioning from work to home, offering solutions like using noise-canceling headphones and a "do not disturb" sign. The advice extended to parents, reminding them to set healthy boundaries and prioritize self-care without succumbing to guilt. Aparna highlighted the positive impact on parent-child and partner relationships, emphasizing the connection that arises from taking a little time for oneself.Aparna recommended setting reminders on phones and wearing comfortable clothing to reinforce the importance of these moments. She touched on the potential feelings of guilt but stressed the benefits of recharging and sustaining energy. In Aparna's own words, "I love helping families create some sort of a calm corner." She emphasized the significance of finding a peaceful space, whether it's a dedicated corner or a personal sanctuary within your home. • Towards the end, she discussed the significance of being present and connecting with children and partners, fostering healthier relationships through mindful practices. (34:20) Before we wrap up the conversation, we explored insightful deep breathing techniques tailored for various emotional states, including anger, frustration, mental focus, and sleep. Aparna shared a delightful visualization technique for managing anger and frustration. Imagining holding a dandelion or bubbles, inhaling for four seconds, and exhaling with a whistle sound provided a unique and uplifting approach. We discussed how this simple practice can release pent-up emotions in a healthier way. The discussion smoothly transitioned to mental focus, where Aparna introduced a sensory technique. By rubbing palms together, placing hands over the nose and mouth, and inhaling essential oils, individuals can enhance mental focus. Aparna emphasized personalization, suggesting oils like frankincense or citrus based on preferences. For sleep, Aparna outlined a bedtime routine, including dimming lights and creating a calm environment. She detailed a breathing practice with hands on the bed, emphasizing the rhythm of inhaling for four seconds, holding for seven, and exhaling for eight. This practice aims to promote deeper and longer sleep, benefiting those with varied sleep challenges.Aparna's practical advice extended to the use of essential oils for mental focus, offering a free wellness consultation for interested listeners. She encouraged the incorporation of these techniques into daily life, emphasizing the adaptability of the practices based on individual preferences and needs. The bedtime routine for sleep was presented as a short, effective practice, demonstrating its versatility with or without accompanying music. Aparna highlighted the potential benefits for both individuals and children as we explored these techniques, the focus remained on the simplicity and accessibility of incorporating mindfulness into daily routines, creating a toolkit for emotional regulation. Wrapping up our discussion, Aparna shared a personal aspect of her family life – a love for cooking together. From traditional Indian dishes to festive meals, the family finds joy and connection in preparing and enjoying food. The use of music during these cooking sessions enhances the experience, fostering a present and shared environment. (43:51) If you've been nodding along with the insightful conversation we just had with Aparna, you're probably eager to know how to tap into Aparna's expertise, and infuse more mindfulness into your parenting routine, First stop, https://www.beautyinparenting.com. Here, you'll find a free self-care priorities chart that's like your roadmap to scheduling more "me time" and savoring those sweet family victories. Aparna also offers a six-week parent coaching program, a deep dive into creating a self-care plan, establishing a calm corner, effective communication, and crafting an easy daily routine. This is where expertise meets your unique challenges. Connect with a vibrant community of parents in Aparna's free Facebook group, "The Sanctuary Self-Care Space." Delve into daily self-care inspiration and participate in occasional challenges focused on incorporating more "me time" into your life. It's a virtual sanctuary where support and ideas flow freely. For real-time updates and engaging content, follow Aparna on Instagram and Facebook under the handle "@BeautyInIParenting." Engage with her posts, share your experiences, and become part of a community that values your journey. Aparna loves hearing from parents like you and connecting on a deeper level. A huge shoutout to Aparna for being the fantastic first guest of Season Two on the 3D Parent Podcast. Your insights into self-regulation through mindfulness practices have truly set the tone for an incredible season ahead. Thank you, Aparna, for sharing your wisdom with us. And to all you wonderful parents, your journey to mindful parenting and self-regulation is just a click away! | |||
| 04 Feb 2024 | #92: “I Love My Child, but Sometimes I Can’t Stand Him” | 00:48:10 | |
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This episode is for you if:
Remember, you're a loving, resilient, and capable parent doing your best. With the appropriate support, self-compassion, and a growth mindset, you can overcome any challenge and cultivate the loving, connected relationship with your child that you aspire to. Tune into Episode #92 for a fresh perspective and practical support.
How do you open yourself up to connect with a child who may seem a bit more challenging to understand? I get it. I've been there too. In fact, I used to be wracked with guilt every time I had those fleeting thoughts of frustration or impatience. But here's the thing – those thoughts don't make you a bad parent. They make you human. And as a parent coach, I've heard it time after time from other parents wrestling with similar feelings. Various factors that contribute to a complex child's behavior
How to Grow Your Acceptance Instead of Your Resentment
As parents, we often pour ourselves into our children, neglecting our own needs. But remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Prioritize activities that replenish your energy and emotional reserves. This could be anything from taking a walk to spending time with friends or pursuing a hobby you enjoy. By taking care of yourself, you'll be better equipped to handle the challenges of parenthood. An Affirmation for the Resilient Parent: In closing, here is my gift to you, an affirmation I wrote to read whenever you're feeling overwhelmed or discouraged: “Today, I am setting an intention to parent with warmth and strength. I will not avoid setting a limit, negotiate, debate, give in, or give a “yes” when I need to give a “no.” I accept that my kids may have tantrums and meltdowns over the limits I am generously going to set. I will anticipate push-back, but I will not let that trigger me or lead to a tantrum of my own. I will remember that my children are young and sensitive and sometimes their behaviors are a reminder of that. In these moments, I will remember that they are not trying to give me a hard time, they are having a hard time. I will not transfer my anger or frustration onto my kids or lash out at them through my words, tone of voice, or actions. I will not blame my kids for the difficult feelings I may have about being their parent and how hard it is for me right now. I will remind myself that I only get one shot to raise each of my children and I am committing to give them the best parenting I can because they deserve nothing less.” -Beaven Walters, The 3D Parent Episode Resources and Links: Book: Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
#86 Parenting with Direction
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| 11 Feb 2024 | #93: 6 Steps to Calm Your Anxious Child | 00:43:22 | |
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Now, if you're looking for more insights into anxiety and parenting, be sure to check out episode 50 of "The 3D Parent" podcast, where I cover a range of tips and perspectives on parenting an anxious child. It's a great companion to today's episode and can provide you with even more valuable information. Anxiety can be a tough nut to crack because it's not always driven by rational thoughts and it certainly doesn't come with an easy fix. But as parents, our role is to provide a sense of safety and support so our kids can weather the storm of anxious feelings and emerge stronger and more resilient on the other side. Before we delve into the strategies, I want to emphasize the importance of seeking professional help if you feel your child's anxiety is worsening or significantly impacting their daily life. While this podcast episode offers valuable insights, it's not a substitute for the expertise of healthcare professionals. Throughout this episode, I'll be sharing practical strategies to help you support your child through their anxiety journey. From creating a safe space for open communication to teaching coping skills, each strategy is designed to empower both you and your child. Anxiety can manifest in various ways, affecting not only the child but also their family dynamics. If you observe changes in your child's behavior, such as reluctance to participate in activities they once enjoyed or difficulty coping with daily tasks, it's essential to address these concerns promptly. Untreated anxiety can escalate over time and may lead to other mental health issues or behavioral disorders. Therefore, early intervention is key. Start by consulting your child's pediatrician, who can provide valuable insights and recommendations for further evaluation or treatment. In the show notes, you'll find a link to an article titled "When to Seek Additional Support for Your Child's Anxiety," which offers detailed guidance on assessing your child's needs and approaching the topic with them in an age-appropriate manner. Even if your child receives outside help, your role as a parent remains crucial. Therapy sessions typically occur for a limited time each week, leaving ample opportunity for you to provide ongoing support and guidance at home. Your deep connection with your child serves as the foundation for effective parenting, especially when addressing difficult emotions like anxiety. Now, let's take a step back and consider the bigger picture. Before addressing specific strategies, it's essential to nurture a deeply connected relationship with your child. As I discussed in Episode 87, "Parenting with Deep Connection," your relationship with your child is your most powerful tool. Building a secure, deeply connected bond lays the foundation for providing effective support, especially during challenging times like anxiety. A secure attachment with at least one significant caregiver is essential for a child's emotional well-being and development. This connection enables you to come alongside your child, understanding their emotions and providing the support they need. By nurturing this deep connection, you create a safe space for your child to express their feelings and navigate difficult emotions like anxiety. So, what exactly is co-regulation? Simply put, it's the ability for a parent or caregiver to use their own regulated emotional state to help a child regulate their difficult or overwhelming emotions, like anxiety. Now, let's talk about why co-regulation is so important, especially for children who may not yet have developed the skills to regulate their emotions independently. This could be due to their age, temperament, or the nature of their current circumstances. For example, younger children or those with highly sensitive temperaments may need to rely on their parents for a longer period of time to help them manage feelings of anxiety. The beauty of co-regulation is that it enables a parent to not only help to regulate their child, but also to model coping skills that children can carry with them into adulthood. By modeling healthy ways of managing emotions, parents are laying the foundation for their children to become emotionally resilient individuals who can eventually face life's challenges independently and with confidence.
This strategy involves helping your child name and personify their anxiety. By giving your child’s anxiety a name like, “Spike” or “Sheila,” you're helping them separate their anxiety from their core identity. This can empower them to feel a sense of control over their emotions, reducing feelings of overwhelm. Naming their anxiety allows children to acknowledge it as a part of themselves, but not all of who they are. This strategy draws from therapeutic approaches that focus on understanding and managing different parts of oneself. To implement this strategy, have a conversation with your child about anxiety or their worries and its physical manifestations, such as feeling panicked or experiencing an upset stomach. Help them understand that these feelings are normal and can be managed. Then, encourage them to come up with a name for their anxiety. Make it a fun and creative activity to help them feel more comfortable with the concept. Remember to reinforce the importance of using this name when discussing their anxiety in the future. Now, I’ll walk you through the Six Steps to Co-regulate with your Anxious Child: Step 1: Center Yourself Imagine it's the day of your child's first karate class, something they've been eagerly anticipating. But when the moment arrives, they're overwhelmed with anxiety and refuse to go. As a parent, your first instinct might be to feel anxious too. Step one reminds us to center ourselves before attempting to co-regulate with our child. For example, Take a few deep breaths and place your hand over your heart. Say to yourself something like, "I am safe. This is not an emergency. This is just a moment and will pass." Before you can effectively support your child, it's essential to regulate your own emotions. Children often pick up on their parents' anxiety which up-regulates and increases their anxiety, so taking a moment to center yourself is crucial. Step 2: Acknowledge Your Child's Anxiety by Name Remember when you helped your child name their anxiety? Now's the time to acknowledge it. Say something like "Hey, buddy, I see Spike's here today. That's okay. We'll work through this together." Next, ask your child where they feel Spike in their body. Are they feeling Spike's presence as butterflies in their stomach, tightness in their chest, or tension in their throat? By pinpointing the physical sensations associated with Spike's visit, your child becomes more aware of how their body responds to anxiety. This awareness is crucial because it helps your child recognize that anxiety is not an overwhelming force but rather a temporary state that can be managed. For instance, they might realize, "Whenever Spike shows up, I feel a knot in my stomach," or "Spike is hanging out in my chest, making it hard to breathe." By identifying where Spike resides in their body, your child gains insight into their emotional and physical experiences. This self-awareness forms the basis for managing anxiety more effectively in the future. It's like shedding light on the dark corners of their mind, enabling them to confront their fears directly. Moreover, as your child learns to recognize the physical manifestations of their anxiety, they become better equipped to cope with it. This newfound awareness empowers your child to take control of their emotions and navigate through moments of heightened anxiety with confidence and resilience. Step 3: Rate the Anxiety Asking your child to rate their anxiety not only increases their self-awareness but also activates their thinking brain. When we focus on numbers and bodily sensations, we move away from the primal fight-flight-freeze response and into a space where rational thought can prevail. It's like flipping a switch from panic mode to problem-solving mode. Imagine your child says, "My anxiety feels like an eight." That's a significant number, signaling a high level of distress. Now, armed with this information, you're ready to move on to step four – choosing an emotional regulation tool. Step 4: Choosing an emotional regulation tool Step four invites you to select from a range of tools designed to help your child manage their anxiety. From deep breathing exercises to mindfulness techniques, there's a wealth of options to choose from. Let's delve into ten of these tools to give you a starting point:
Step 5: Reassess Anxiety Level Reassessing your child's anxiety level involves asking them to rate their current level of anxiety. Encourage them to express how big their feelings of anxiety are now compared to before using the regulation tool. Start by asking your child to rate their anxiety level again. You might say something like, "Let's see how big Spike feels now. Can you give me a number?" Ideally, you'll notice a decrease in their anxiety level. From my experience, when using these strategies with my own children, anxiety levels almost always decrease, albeit not always completely. If their anxiety has decreased to a comfortable level, that's fantastic! You've successfully helped them manage their emotions. But if it hasn't decreased enough, don't worry. That's where step 6 comes in. Here's where you circle back to step four and repeat the same regulation tool. Repeating allows your child to become more familiar with it, potentially enhancing its effectiveness with each repetition. Encourage your child to engage in several more rounds of the chosen technique, aiming to further reduce their anxiety level. If they seem tired of the same technique or you feel another strategy might be a better fit, feel free to mix it up a little until the desired lessoned state of anxiety is achieved. The goal here isn't to eliminate anxiety entirely. Instead, the focus is on empowering your child to recognize that they have tools at their disposal to cope with anxiety. CONCLUSION Then there's my other child who found solace in box breathing during times of stress at a new school. Not only did she use it for herself, but she also taught it to her peers, spreading calmness in her surroundings. Episode Resources: Episode #50 “Parenting an Anxious Child” Episode #87 "Parenting with Deep Connection" Article: “When to Seek Additional Support for Your Child’s Anxiety” READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?: **For Coaching Services** If you're looking for personalized guidance and support, consider exploring my parent coaching services. Let's work together to tailor the 3D Parent Approach to your unique parenting journey. CLICK HERE to book a complimentary parent coach consultation call. **Become a Podcast Guest** Are you ready to share your parenting challenges and triumphs? Become a guest and receive a free parent coaching session on my podcast, CLICK HERE and let's tackle your parenting concerns together. Your experience can inspire and support other parents facing similar struggles. CONNECT WITH ME: **The 3D Parent Lounge Free Facebook Community**
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| 18 Feb 2024 | #94 Easing Sibling Rivalry-Part 1 | 00:26:19 | |
DESCRIPTION: “ My oldest craves more of my time and attention and takes out his frustration on his siblings, especially his younger brother. He is very dismissive and even insulting to his brother.”- Caitlin, Mom of 3 boys In this special episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I’m going to help out Caitlin, a devoted mom of three, whose eldest son feels a bit left out lately. He's craving more attention and sometimes ends up picking fights with his little brother. Feeling stretched thin and overwhelmed, Caitlin wonders how to fill each child's emotional bucket without stirring up more competition. How can she offer one-on-one time without igniting jealousy? And in the chaos of sibling squabbles, how can she intervene effectively? As a fellow parent of multiple children, I know the feeling of being pulled in all directions and I'm here to lend a hand. Using my 3D Parent approach, we'll start by gaining clarity on the situation: Is it Caitlin, her children, or their dynamic as a family unit that needs attention? Let's dive in and make sense of what is going on in this family so we can move towards finding some practical solutions to ease the tension and restore harmony in Caitlin's household. READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?: For 3D Parent Coaching Services: If you're looking for personalized guidance and support, consider exploring my parent coaching services. Let's work together to tailor the 3D Parent Approach to your unique parenting journey. CLICK HERE to book a complimentary parent coach consultation call. Interested in Receiving 2 Free Parent Coaching Sessions? Become a Parent Coaching Guest on the Podcast: Are you ready to share your parenting challenges and triumphs? Become a parent coaching guest and receive 2 free parent coaching sessions, one to be recorded on my podcast and one private follow up session to check in and see how implementing the coaching strategies is going for you and your family. CLICK HERE to contact me about this opportunity and let's tackle your parenting concerns together. Your experience can inspire and support other parents facing similar struggles. CONNECT WITH ME: **JOIN: The 3D Parent Lounge Private Facebook Group*
Today's episode is a special one where we're giving you a behind-the-scenes look at a coaching session. I'm excited for you to see how we tackle real parenting challenges head-on. The scenario Caitlin described is a familiar one for many parents—her oldest child's longing for attention manifests in behavior that is dismissive and even hurtful towards his younger siblings. Despite her efforts, Caitlin finds it difficult to sympathize with her oldest son's actions, leading to a cycle of tension and conflict within the family. Recognizing the need for support, Caitlin and her son have both embarked on separate therapy journeys to address these issues head-on. However, Caitlin finds herself facing her own past experiences with sibling rivalry, which only adds more layers of complexity to the situation and leaves her feeling overwhelmed with guilt. As Caitlin navigates the delicate balance of meeting each child's needs while maintaining harmony in the household, she seeks guidance on effective strategies for fostering positive sibling relationships. Her questions reflect the common dilemmas faced by parents in similar situations:
My 3D Parent Coaching approach began with helping Caitlin find her sense of direction as she pondered my 3 “Scan the Situation” questions: "Is it me? Is it my child or children? Is it us?" These questions allowed for a deeper exploration of her parenting challenges. With refreshing honesty, Caitlin admitted feeling stretched thin and overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood. She candidly admitted, "I think I'm definitely a piece of the puzzle," acknowledging her feelings of being stretched thin and grappling with guilt over not spending enough time with her children. One of Caitlin's primary concerns revolved around imaginative play, an area where she admittedly struggles. "I don't really know how to “pretend play," she admitted, highlighting the discomfort she feels when engaging in activities like building Lego sets or embarking on fantasy adventures with her children. I reassured Caitlin that she's not alone in this struggle, emphasizing that each parent has their own strengths and challenges. As Caitlin delved deeper into her concerns, she uncovered her belief in the value of independent play for children. However, she realized that her desire to foster creativity sometimes clashed with her instinct to intervene. The conversation also touched upon Caitlin's past wounds related to sibling rivalry and her instinctive "mama bear" response to conflicts among her children. Amidst the challenges, Caitlin expressed her deep longing for harmonious family moments. "I just want everyone to get along," Caitlin admitted, reflecting on her desire for unity within her family. Next, we dove into the second question, “ Is it my child/children?” Caitlin opened up about her eldest son's struggles with separation anxiety and intense emotions, shedding light on his behavior shaped by his drive towards seeking contact and closeness since infancy. Despite his articulate nature, he tends to bottle up his feelings, masking his inner turmoil. This emotional intensity often translates into verbal outbursts directed at his younger siblings. As we discussed the final facet of our exploration– the, "Is it us," question – I introduced Caitlin to the concept of the “Karpman Triangle”, a psychological framework for understanding a common dysfunctional family system. Caitlin recognized the roles she, her children, and her husband often fell into: the rescuer, the victim, and the victimizer. "It's like we're stuck in this cycle," Caitlin lamented, acknowledging the detrimental impact it had on their relationships. Breaking free from this cycle required intentional effort and awareness, which I assured Caitlin was possible. We also addressed Caitlin's perception of a scarcity mindset, particularly with her attention and affection. Her "mama bear" reactions stemmed from fears and insecurities, influencing her responses to conflicts among her children. By confronting these fears and adopting an abundant mindset, Caitlin could create a nurturing environment for her family. Handling sibling conflicts was another concern for Caitlin, who often felt panicked and unsure of how to intervene effectively. To help her manage these situations, I introduced the concept of "incident management" and outlined three essential steps: do no harm, take charge, and circle back later. Now, I know after hearing this parent coaching session and all of the nuanced details of what is likely causing all the conflict for Caitlin and her family, you might be ready to hear some proposed solutions. I’ve got them, but you will just need to be a little patient and tune in next week for Episode 95, Part 2 of this recorded parent coaching session where we will discuss ways to alleviate the struggles Caitlin and her family are currently facing. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING … | |||
| 25 Feb 2024 | #95 Easing Sibling Rivalry-Part 2 | 00:46:33 | |
DESCRIPTION: Welcome back to the continuation of our parent coaching session with Caitlin! If you missed part one, don't worry, you can catch up on episode number 94 where we delved into the challenges Caitlin is facing with her children. In part one, we peeled back the layers to uncover what's driving the tension in Caitlin's household. We discussed how her oldest child's frustration and jealousy were manifesting in conflicts with his siblings, diving deep into the dynamics at play within the family unit. Today, in part two, we're rolling up our sleeves and diving into solutions. From fostering individual connections with each child to effectively intervening in sibling squabbles, we'll tackle actionable steps to bring more harmony to Caitlin's family and yours. For 3D Parent Coaching Services:
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Guiding Children Through Repair: Now, let's talk about how we guide our kids through the process of making amends after a fight. During the conversation with Caitlin, I emphasized the importance of first validating their feelings and encouraging empathy:
Ideas to Help Improve Sibling Rivalry Stemming from Jealousy Caitlin expressed feeling spread too thin and feeling like filling her children’s “connection cups” was difficult. She also shared that she didn’t really enjoy playing with her kids and even questioned if inserting herself into their imaginary play was in their best interest. I shared with her a few solutions to help her kids feel pursued by her and “trumping” her children’s needs. Solution: “Special Time” I suggested that Caitlin (and her husband) create an intentional time for 1:1 connection with each of her children for the primary purpose of strengthening and securing the parent/child attachments. Here is some additional guidance on “Special Time”:
****Do not use it as a time to remind, nag, ask about homework, or talk about behavior problems or incidents. This is all about connection and fun. (If you're interested in seeing some sample activities you can try during “special time,” be sure to check out the link to a special time calendars to help you plan meaningful activities with your children.) Solution: Infuse Connection into Everyday Activities Another strategy I shared with Caitlin was to think of connecting with her kids as something she can embed into all of her interactions with the kids. It doesn’t have to feel like just another item on her to do list. Simple things can make a big difference. Here are some examples:
I hope the strategies discussed in this episode have provided valuable insights for you, Caitlin, and for all our listeners. Remember, as parents, it's our responsibility to nurture a strong connection with our children, not our children’s role to work for it or hold on to it. Understanding that the need for connection is fundamental, even surpassing basic necessities, and helps us prioritize meaningful interactions with our kids. While parenting may not always be easy, implementing simple strategies like scheduling one-on-one time can make a significant difference. By setting aside dedicated moments for quality interactions, we reassure our children of our unwavering support and love. Thank you for tuning in, and until next time! | |||
| 03 Mar 2024 | #96 Inconsistency: A Powerful Tool With Strong-Willed Children | 00:39:21 | |
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SHOWNOTES: Research has consistently shown that children who feel securely attached to their caregivers exhibit fewer oppositional behaviors. This alone underscores the importance of investing time and effort into nurturing the relationship with our strong-willed children. By providing a safe haven for our children to express themselves, we can significantly decrease instances of defiance and opposition. In addition to nurturing the attachment with our children, it's equally important to embrace the alpha aspect of the nurturing alpha role. This means consistently showing up as the strong leader of our children – guiding, teaching, and leading our children rather than coercing or attempting to control them. One aspect of consistency that often gets overlooked is our ability to attune to the current needs of our child and making adjustments as needed. While some may view this as inconsistency, it's actually a vital part of responsive parenting. As Dr. Laura Markham aptly puts it, “Effective parenting is not about blindly following rules or routines but being responsive to the unique needs of each child.” This means being willing to reassess and pivot our parenting decisions based on new information or changing circumstances.
Challenges of Blind Consistency Insisting on consistency in discipline solely for the sake of consistency can be particularly problematic for parents of strong-willed children. As already stated, these children thrive on independence and may push back against rules and regulations that feel arbitrary or stifling. Dr. Dan Siegel, a renowned psychiatrist, cautions against rigidity in parenting, stating, "Rigidity in parenting can undermine the parent-child relationship and impede the child's emotional development." Even worse, persisting with discipline strategies that are clearly ineffective can increase tension and conflict within the parent-child relationship. Dr. Ross Greene, a clinical psychologist and author, emphasizes the importance of abandoning strategies that fail to align with a child's needs, stating, "The goal of discipline is not blind obedience but teaching problem-solving skills and fostering a healthy parent-child relationship." Three Inconsistent Approaches in Parenting In addition to fostering secure attachment and flexibility, parents of strong-willed children can benefit from introducing elements of unpredictability to their parenting, such as novelty, playfulness, and disorientation to engage these children's spirited natures and foster a deeper connection. Here’s more on how to use these approaches: 1. Novelty: Novelty can be an effective strategy for parenting because it invigorates the parent-child relationship, stimulates curiosity, and turns on a child’s instincts to orient to their parents. Moreover, incorporating novelty into parenting fosters a sense of spontaneity and joy, creating lasting memories and strengthening the bond between parent and child.
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So, the next time you find yourself repeatedly butting heads with your strong-willed child, take a step back and ask yourself: am I being too rigid? Am I sticking to rules just for the sake of consistency? Am I focusing on obedience rather than on connection? If so, perhaps some inconsistent approaches as mentioned in this episode will be worth a try to turn things around. Thank you for tuning in! If you learned a lot from this episode, please share it with a friend! | |||
| 10 Mar 2024 | #97 Fears and Phobias with Cai Graham | 00:52:42 | |
DESCRIPTION: The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community Website : Home - Cai Graham Email : cai@caigraham.com Anxiety Workbook : Fearless & Free : A Step-by-Step Blueprint to Help Teens & Young Adults Conquer Anxiety Facebook : www.facebook.com/thecaigraham Instagram : www.instagtam.com/caigraham SHOWNOTES: First off, I asked Cai: What's the deal with fears and phobias? Where do they come from? Are they just cousins of anxiety, or is there more to the story? So, according to Cai, fears and phobias are indeed related to anxiety, but they're not the same. Fears, she explained, are our natural response to a perceived threat. Our unconscious mind, in its wisdom, is constantly on high alert, a leftover survival instinct from the days of dodging saber-toothed tigers. Now, that was a legit threat, and our unconscious mind kept us safe from it. But here's the twist – for many folks dealing with anxiety, that alert system doesn't shut down. It's like our unconscious mind is stuck in a perpetual “danger mode.” So, even in a safe space, like a classroom, it's still on the lookout, “getting its knickers in a twist,” to quote Cai, over potential threats that don't actually exist. Now, phobias, on the other hand, is anxiety taken to the extreme. They're irrational and totally disproportionate to the actual threat. Cai brought up a great example with spiders. Some people, she explained, absolutely lose it when faced with a big eight-legged friend. That irrational fear kicks in, and it's disproportionate to the actual threat posed by the spider. It's like the mind's yelling, 'Perceived threat! Perceived threat!' but in this case, it's cranked up to eleven. Now, we touched on the bees briefly in our conversation, and Cai made a crucial point. If you're allergic to bees, being on a bit more heightened alert is warranted. It's not irrational in that case. But when the fear of bees reaches the level of sobbing, breaking down, and seriously interfering with your daily life – that's when it crosses into the territory of a phobia. So, there's this fascinating overlap between fears and phobias, but according to Cai, it all boils down to intensity and duration. How do they develop? Cai highlighted that fears and phobias can trace their roots to various factors. Take her own experience, for instance. She revealed a deep-seated phobia of swimming in deep water. And guess what triggered it? The movie, “Jaws.” Yep, that intense fear of being a shark's lunch began after watching that iconic movie. But it's not just about shark-infested waters. Cai delved into other triggers, like the dark. She shared that environmental factors like scary movies, or even a dog barking in the dark, can shape these fears during childhood. And let's not forget the genetic card. Some of us are more predisposed to anxieties and phobias. It's not just about learning behaviors from mom or dad; it's in our DNA.
How can parents create a supportive and understanding environment for their anxious kids at home? First things first, validation is key. Cai stressed the importance of acknowledging and respecting your child's feelings without overdramatizing them. It's a delicate balance – provide reassurance without inadvertently signaling, "Even Mum thinks there's something wrong." Then there's the art of open communication. Cai advocates for a lot of listening – no eye rolls when your kid starts their anxiety narrative. It's more like, "Okay, honey, let's talk. What do you need right now?" Simple, but so effective. “Home should be their sanctuary,” says Cai. So she advises creating a calm environment where they feel safe. But here's the secret sauce: teach them coping skills. Cai suggests playful ideas like visualization around their phobias. Is it’s fear of snakes, Imagine putting a sombrero on it. If it’s fear of dogs, picture a clown nose on a dog – turning fears into something less scary. Wasn't that conversation with Cai just enlightening? I'm feeling equipped with some fantastic insights into tackling fears and phobias for both parents and kids. If you're hungry for more wisdom, you can dive into the first chapter of Cai's anxiety book, "Fearless and Free," available on her website. Plus, exciting news! Cai is gearing up to launch a “Changing Pictures” course the first week of April, 2024, where you can equip yourself with the tools to reshape those anxious thoughts. So, head over to her Instagram, Facebook, or www.caigraham.com, and stay tuned for all the updates. | |||
| 17 Mar 2024 | #98 Tackling Hoarding Habits in Kids | 00:54:07 | |
DESCRIPTION: I hope you find these insights helpful and actionable. As always, remember to prioritize your child's well-being and seek support when needed.
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If your child's distress levels are off the charts when it comes to their possessions, it may be time to loop in a psychologist, a doctor, or someone who is an expert on psychological conditions in kids. 2. Can your child get clean clothes out of their closet, or is it so packed with stuff that they can’t get in there? 3. Can your child sleep in their bed, or is their bed temporary storage for everything? 4. Can your child do homework/projects at their desk, or is their desk covered with all kinds of stuff? These questions might seem simple, but they're powerful indicators of potential hoarding behaviors. Take some time to observe your child's space and ask yourself these questions. It's a great starting point for understanding what's going on and how you can best support your little one. Kids with hoarding tendencies often struggle to let go of useless items, fearing that they'll be lonely or abandoned if tucked away out of sight. It's like each object has its own feelings, and the mere thought of parting with them feels like a loss or even a betrayal. They also tend to react quite differently. They might get visibly upset, throw tantrums, or even show signs of aggression when faced with decluttering. IV. Fourth and finally, assess for psychological attachment to possessions For kids struggling with hoarding tendencies, letting go of an object can feel like a major loss. It's almost as if they're mourning the departure of a beloved friend. This attachment isn't just about the thing itself; it's about the memories and emotions tied to it. Take, for example, that crumpled napkin from their birthday party at the arcade. Sure, it's just a napkin with a smudge of pizza grease now, but to your child, it's a treasure trove of memories. They associate it with the laughter, the fun, and the joy of that special day. So, tossing it away feels like saying goodbye to those cherished moments. Treatment Approaches Here's how it works: in ERP therapy, your child brings in the items they've been holding onto, whether it's something they've saved for ages or freshly collected treasures. Together with the therapist, they'll assess how much they feel the need to keep each item on a scale from zero to ten. Starting with the items your child feels least attached to, the therapist gradually guides them towards letting go. Sometimes, it's as simple as leaving the item with the therapist for a week to see how it feels to be separated from it. The goal isn't to toss things away immediately but to help your child gradually become more comfortable with the idea of discarding possessions. Reward systems can also come into play to reinforce progress. Celebrating each step forward helps motivate your child to continue making strides in letting go of unnecessary items. II.) Encouraging critical thinking about possession III.) Importance of non-judgmental therapeutic environment Moreover, therapists also address any feelings of shame your child might be carrying. By unpacking these emotions, they help your child work through these feelings rather than letting them fester internally. Role of Parents in Intervening in Hoarding Behaviors with Children It's essential to understand the pivotal role parents play in reversing hoarding tendencies in children. By actively engaging and supporting their child, parents may be able to prevent mild hoarding tendencies from reaching a level that requires therapeutic interventions. Step 1) Identify the Issue For me, the realization that my youngest was struggling with hoarding behaviors came when her room became increasingly cluttered. Simple tasks like finding clean clothes or doing homework at her desk became challenging due to the overwhelming amount of stuff scattered around. Initially, my daughter brushed off my concerns, claiming she liked her room messy. However, her reluctance to have friends over hinted at an underlying embarrassment about the state of her space. Step 2) Initial Intervention Here is the process I took to help my daughter tackle her disorganized spaces.
Continued Interventions Subsequent interventions on other items can follow a similar pattern, but don’t try to do too much at once. In my daughter’s case, we tackled different categories of items, like art supplies, trinkets, books, etc, gradually, ensuring we didn't overwhelm her with too much change at once. Other Tips to Keep Kids' Collections Organized In addition to targeted interventions, there are several proactive steps parents can take to keep their children's collections organized and prevent hoarding habits from developing further:
As we wrap up our discussion on tackling hoarding habits in kids, I want to leave you with a few important points to keep in mind. First and foremost, remember that hoarding tendencies in children may indicate deeper emotional issues. It's crucial to approach the situation with sensitivity and empathy, rather than shame or judgment. | |||
| 24 Mar 2024 | # 99 Parenting Modern Tweens: Sephora, Sass, and Self-discovery | 00:46:53 | |
DESCRIPTION: Hey there, wonderful parents, and welcome back to the 3D Parent Podcast! Joining me today is Natasha, a supermom raising two incredible girls, ages seven and eleven. Natasha kicks off our session by sharing her concerns about her tween daughters' growing fascination with trends, brands, and materialistic values. She's noticing shifts in her behavior, from sweetness to occasional sassiness, and she's feeling the strain on their once-close relationship. Natasha also wonders about finding the delicate balance between offering support and letting her daughters navigate their own paths as they grow up. These are common challenges many parents face as their children transition from childhood to adolescence. Here are the burning topics what we'll cover: Trend-Oriented Culture: We'll explore how to navigate the materialistic trends that seem to dominate tween culture and discuss ways to instill deeper values beyond brand names. Managing Sass and Sensitivity: Natasha's facing the challenge of balancing her daughter's sweet, sensitive side with those moments of unexpected rudeness. We'll share some practical tips for maintaining a strong, respectful relationship during this “rollercoaster” phase. How Much to Intervene vs. Empower Independent Problem Solving: We'll delve into the delicate art of knowing when to step in and when to step back, offering insights on providing support without smothering independence as our tweens navigate the ups and downs of life. The emotional rollercoaster of tweenhood can sometimes lead to unexpected behavior, leaving us parents wondering how to handle those off-cuff rude moments without losing the precious bond we share with our child. Throughout this episode, we'll explore how to strike a delicate balance between setting boundaries and maintaining a strong, supportive relationship with our tweens. READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL? For 3D Parent Coaching Services:
SHOWNOTES: Let me introduce you to our guest, Natasha. Natasha is a super mom, raising two incredible girls—one almost seven and the other newly 11. As a fellow mom and friend, Natasha and I often find ourselves deep in conversation about the joys and struggles of parenting tweens. And today, we're inviting you to join in on the conversation as we tackle some of the challenges Natasha is facing. Let's address Natasha's concerns, one by one. First up, the trend-oriented nature of today's youth. It's no secret that tweens are heavily influenced by trends, from fashion to technology to social media. But how do we navigate this trend-centric culture without losing sight of what truly matters? Next, we'll tackle the rollercoaster of emotions that come with tweenhood. Natasha's concern about her oldest daughter's sudden mood swings is one that many parents can relate to. We'll discuss ways to navigate these hormonal changes with empathy and understanding, maintaining a strong parent-child bond even in the face of off-cuff rude moments. And finally, the age-old question: when to step back and when to step in? As our tweens grow older, it can be challenging to find the balance between independence and support. We'll explore strategies for knowing when to give our tweens space to navigate challenges on their own and when to offer a helping hand, whether it's in navigating friendships, schoolwork, or other areas of their lives. Before we dive into the nitty-gritty of tween development, let's take a moment to reflect on a simple yet powerful approach to addressing parenting challenges. When faced with any issue, whether it's with our kids or within ourselves, it's helpful to ask three fundamental questions:
As we explore the questions Natasha raised, it becomes clear that the challenges she's facing are multifaceted and deeply rooted in her daughter's developmental stage. So, let's roll up our sleeves and dig deeper into understanding the complexities of tweenhood together. At the heart of Natasha's concerns lies the developmental stage her daughter is currently navigating: early adolescence. At the age of 11, tweens, like Natasha's daughter, are embarking on a journey of self-discovery marked by significant changes in brain development. During this phase, the brain undergoes what can be described as "renovations." Neural pathways are pruned and restructured, particularly in the prefrontal cortex—the region responsible for impulse control, risk assessment, and emotional regulation. However, this remodeling process doesn't reach completion until the mid-20s, leaving tweens and teens with a brain that's still a work in progress. One key takeaway from this is understanding the challenges tweens face in regulating their emotions. Unlike adults, tweens struggle to hold multiple feelings in mind simultaneously. Instead, they often react impulsively to strong emotional impulses, much like their preschool selves. This limitation in emotional regulation is not a sign of defiance or disrespect but rather a reflection of their brain's developmental stage. Parenting modern tweens is challenging, but let's take a moment to reflect on the pivotal role you play in your tween's life. As we guide our tweens through the ups and downs of adolescence, it's essential to embody a “S.P.A.A.,” that’s an acronym I created to represent a parent who is a Supportive, Pleasant, Approachable Adult—a S.P.A.A.
Navigating a Trend-Oriented Culture with your Tween: While it's natural to have concerns about materialism and consumerism, it's essential to approach the situation with empathy. Remember, we live in a society inundated with marketing messages and peer influences. Instead of criticizing your tween's choices, use these moments as opportunities for meaningful conversations. Moreover, when it comes to purchasing high-ticket items like Sephora products or designer clothing, consider the occasion and your budget. If it aligns with your financial means and your tween's desires, there's no harm in indulging them occasionally. After all, birthdays and holidays are times for celebration and joy. However, in between these special occasions, consider implementing an allowance system. By giving your tween a sense of financial responsibility, they'll learn the value of money and understand the cost of their desired items. It's easy to view our tweens' fascination with trends and brands through an adult lens, but remember, they're not approaching these things in the same way we do. It's all part of their journey of self-discovery—a process of exploring who they are and expressing themselves in their own unique way. So, let's ditch the judgment and approach their interests with curiosity and understanding. Responding to Sass/Rudeness while Maintaining a Close Connection: It's essential to understand that all behavior is communication. When our tweens display sass or rudeness, it's often a sign that they're struggling with their emotions or feeling overwhelmed. As parents, our initial response should be one of empathy and compassion, rather than reacting with frustration or anger. One valuable mantra to keep in mind when faced with sass is "do no harm." This simple phrase serves as a reminder to pause and reflect before responding. By taking a moment to collect our thoughts, we can avoid escalating the situation and respond with empathy and understanding. Dr. Ross Green's insight that, "kids do well when they can," offers another perspective on tween behavior. Remembering that our children are doing the best they can in the moment can help us approach their sass with patience and compassion. It's also essential to recognize that tween sass is often driven by impulse rather than malicious intent. During this stage of development, their brains are undergoing significant changes, leading to increased impulsivity and emotional dysregulation. Understanding this can help us respond with empathy, knowing that our children are struggling to navigate their emotions. Instead of reacting with judgment or shame, we can choose to respond with curiosity and compassion. As parents of tweens, it's crucial to understand where our children are on the developmental bridge between childhood and adulthood. Just like crossing a physical bridge, at times, our tweens are closer to their wiser, more grown up versions of themselves, while at other times, they may be closer to their younger, more childlike selves. When your tween is struggling with emotional regulation or seems overwhelmed, they might be leaning more towards their younger, less mature side. In these moments, they need extra support and understanding, much like we would provide for a younger child. Setting Expectations Based on Maturity: On the flip side, when your tween demonstrates signs of maturity and responsibility, such as handling stress without constant meltdowns, it's essential to adjust our expectations accordingly. For instance, if your tween forgets to clear the table after dinner during a particularly tough day, it might be a sign that they need a bit more grace and understanding. However, if they consistently demonstrate maturity but slip up occasionally, gently reminding them of their responsibilities can be both appropriate and empowering. Choosing When to Intervene: One of the most significant challenges of parenting tweens is finding the balance between being a partner and a problem-solver. While we want to be there for our children and provide guidance, it's equally important to allow them space to navigate their challenges independently. Learning from Mistakes: Finally, it's essential to recognize that allowing our tweens to make mistakes and learn from them is a vital part of their growth and development. While it may be tempting to swoop in and fix every problem, giving them the opportunity to navigate challenges on their own fosters resilience and self-confidence. Sometimes, stepping back and letting tweens experience the consequences of their actions, can provide the most powerful opportunity for growth. Parenting tweens in the modern world is no easy feat, but by understanding our children's developmental stages, setting appropriate expectations, and empowering them to navigate challenges, we can help them thrive during this critical period of self-discovery. Remember, it's okay to let go of the wheel sometimes and allow our tweens to find their own course, even if it means they stumble along the way. After all, it's through those bumps and falls that they'll learn and grow into resilient, capable individuals. | |||
| 08 Apr 2024 | #100 The 100 Minute Connection Challenge: One Week to Stronger Family Bonds | 00:31:42 | |
DESCRIPTION: Hello, wonderful listeners, and welcome to a special milestone episode, the 100th edition of the 3D Parent Podcast! First and foremost, I want to extend my heartfelt gratitude to each and every one of you. Your support, your feedback, and your dedication to listening to this podcast have been the driving force behind its success. It's your enthusiasm that fuels my passion for sharing valuable insights and guidance on parenting through each episode. In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life. But amidst the chaos, it's essential to recognize and address our children's innate need for connection. They crave our time, our attention, and most importantly, our presence. And that's where the 100 Minute Connection Challenge comes in. Now, for this momentous episode, I wanted to switch things up a bit and stay true to the theme of 100. So, I've devised an exciting challenge for you – the 100 Minute Connection Challenge. This challenge is designed to inspire you to deepen the bonds with your children over the course of a week. Because let's face it, one of the most vital aspects of parenting is nurturing a strong, secure, and heartfelt connection with our kids. Throughout this episode, I'll be sharing all the details of this challenge, including how it works and what you can expect. But wait, there's more! I've also created a downloadable PDF bingo board, with a link to download found in the show notes. This bingo board serves two purposes: to inject an element of fun into the challenge and to hold yourself accountable for completing the 100 minutes of connection activities with your child in the coming week. READY TO TAKE YOUR PARENTING TO THE NEXT LEVEL?: For 3D Parent Coaching Services:
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Episode Resources: CLICK HERE to Download The 100 Minute Connection Challenge Bingo Board PDF Book: “Hold On to Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld, Ph. D. and Gabor Maté, M.D. Blog: www.71toes.com CLICK HERE: Episode 87 of The 3D Parent Podcast: Parenting with Deep Connection SHOWNOTES: Hello and welcome to Episode 100 of the 3D Parent Podcast! Can you believe it? We've hit the big 100! I'm genuinely thrilled to have reached this milestone, and I'm deeply grateful for your continued support and engagement. So, to mark this special occasion, I wanted to do something meaningful, something that reflects the essence of what this podcast is all about: nurturing strong connections between parents and their children. I've been pondering what to do for this significant episode, and I wanted to keep it aligned with our theme of 100. Hence, I present to you the 100 Minute Connection Challenge – a week-long challenge dedicated to strengthening the bond between you and your child. Why this challenge? By dedicating just 100 minutes of your week to intentionally connect with your child, their behavior will become more manageable, meltdowns will become less frequent, and the overall atmosphere at home will become more harmonious. Sounds pretty amazing, right? That's why I'm challenging you to give this 100 Minute Connection Challenge a go. Trust me, I've seen firsthand the incredible impact it can have. In my one-on-one parent coaching sessions, I often start with focusing on connection because many behavioral issues stem from relational issues. When parents prioritize connecting with their children, those challenges often start to fade away. Now, let's talk about why this challenge is impactful, especially in today's world. Our children are craving connection more than ever. In our busy lives filled with work, school, activities, and endless distractions, it's easy to overlook the importance of quality time spent with our kids. Sure, you might be spending time together with your children, but how much of that time is truly focused on genuine connection? Often, our interactions with our children revolve around tasks and obligations. We're busy ticking off to-do lists rather than simply enjoying each other's company. That's where the 100 Minute Connection Challenge comes in. It's a reminder to slow down and prioritize moments of genuine connection. And don't let the seemingly small timeframe fool you. 100 minutes spread out over a week may not sound like much, but when it's dedicated solely to bonding with your child, it can make a world of difference. When children are craving connection, they may exhibit behaviors such as separation anxiety, clinginess, insecurity, or a constant need for attention. These are all signs that they're working to fulfill their attachment needs, seeking reassurance and closeness from their primary caregivers. As parents, it's crucial for us to recognize these signs and respond with empathy and understanding. Instead of viewing them as attention-seeking behaviors, we should see them as signals of unmet needs, a call for connection and reassurance in a world that often feels overwhelming. So, what can we do to address this connection hunger and create a more secure attachment with our children? It starts with restoring a sense of rest – a state where our children feel safe, supported, and free from the burden of seeking our attention through problematic behaviors. When our children are in this state of rest, we'll see them thriving, exploring, and embracing their true selves. That's the essence of childhood – to be free to grow and discover without the burden of seeking connection. And as parents, it's our responsibility to nurture a foundation of trust and unconditional love with our children. Strategy for Providing Rest in Relationship But it doesn't stop there. Another aspect of trumping the needs is going above and beyond what's requested. Let's say your child asks for a bedtime story. Instead of simply reading a book, you make it an interactive adventure, complete with sound effects and character voices. You exceed their expectations and make the experience even more special. Or perhaps your child randomly tells you they love you. Instead of just saying "I love you too," you respond with "I love you to infinity and beyond," borrowing a line from Buzz Lightyear in Toy Story. It's these little moments of going the extra mile that can truly strengthen the bond between parent and child. Now, I know what you might be thinking: "But I have more than one child! How do I make this work without leaving anyone out?" Well, here's the trick: while I encourage you to spread the love across all your kids, I also suggest focusing extra attention on one child, especially if you're feeling a bit disconnected from them lately. Think about it like this: choose the child you're currently struggling with the most in terms of your relationship. That child who seems to bring out the most friction or oppositional energy – they're your top pick for this challenge. By devoting intentional time to connect with them, you might just turn things around for the better. Now, let's get into the nitty-gritty of this challenge. I've whipped up a downloadable bingo board filled with connection activities for you to tackle. You can find the link under “Episode Resources” right in these show notes. This bingo board is your roadmap for the week ahead, guiding you through 100 minutes of intentional bonding with your child. But hey, if some of the activities don't quite fit your vibe or your child's interests, no worries! I've included a blank bingo board in the PDF where you can jot down your own ideas. The key is to spend a total of 100 minutes over the week engaging in these connection activities.
Five special time sessions (10 min. each): these are golden opportunities for one-on-one quality time with your child. No screens, no distractions, just you and your kiddo. Whether it's a fun activity they've been wanting to do or something you lead, the choice is yours. Write a little love note (2 min.): Write a simple love note to tuck into your child's lunchbox, backpack, or coat pocket for them to discover. It's a tiny gesture that'll bring a big smile to their face. Who doesn't love a surprise love note? 10 Affirmation Fingertip Activity (10 min.): Inspired by a blog called 71 Toes, this activity involves brainstorming 10 positive words to describe your child. Then, using a permanent pen, write one letter of each word on the tip of your child's fingers, explaining why you chose each word along the way. It's a beautiful way to boost their self-esteem and deepen your connection.. Connection Phrases (30 sec.): For those days when time is tight, we've got some 30-second activities up our sleeve. Just a quick phrase out of the blue, like "I was thinking how lucky I am to have you as my child" or "I love who you are," can work wonders in strengthening your bond. Some of you might be a tad skeptical. You're probably thinking, "Is spending just a little over an hour and a half really going to make that much of a difference?" Well, hear me out. Sometimes, it's the small, intentional efforts that yield the biggest impact. So, even if you're not entirely convinced, I urge you to give it a shot. Trust me, I've seen firsthand, both in my personal life and through my work as a parent coach, how dedicating a bit of extra time to connect with your child can create ripples of positivity throughout your relationship. Remember, nothing is more crucial than the relationship you share with your child. When you're facing challenges or feeling lost as a parent, always come back to this foundation: connection. Whenever you're unsure, focusing on strengthening your connection with your child is always the right move. So, let go of your worries and concerns for a moment. Set them aside and channel your energy into nurturing that bond. Commit to a week of intentional connection and observe how it transforms your dynamics. So, are you up for the challenge? | |||
| 14 Apr 2024 | #101 The Gifts of High Sensitivity with Sarah R. Moore | 00:51:14 | |
DESCRIPTION: Now, I'm super excited to bring Sarah back on board for another riveting discussion, this time diving into the gifts of highly sensitive children. Points we will discuss: If you're intrigued by our discussion and want to learn more about supporting highly sensitive children, be sure to tune in to the full episode with Sarah Moore. And don't forget to check out her book, "Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior," for valuable insights and strategies. For 3D Parent Coaching Services:
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Like many of us, Sarah's upbringing was shaped by a highly sensitive parent—her single mom. Growing up in that environment, Sarah not only inherited her mother's sensitivity but also witnessed firsthand the challenges and strengths it brought.
Sarah mentioned that highly sensitive children possess a temperament trait that they're born with. It's not something they can change any more than they can change their eye color or their natural inclination to be introverted or extroverted. This sensitivity is measurable on brain scans and is simply part of who they are. On the other hand, hypersensitivity is an adaptive behavior, often stemming from a lack of emotional support and validation during childhood. These are the children who believe they have to exhibit big, dramatic behaviors just to get noticed. They may have learned that they aren’t safe or valued unless they express themselves in extreme ways. And here's where the misconception arises—people tend to lump all sensitive behaviors into one category, assuming that every sensitive child is hypersensitive. But that couldn't be further from the truth. Highly sensitive children may indeed have big feelings, but it's not the same as consistently exhibiting negative behaviors as a result of learned hypersensitivity. So, why does this distinction matter? Well, it shapes how we approach and support these children. Highly sensitive children thrive in environments that validate and nurture their sensitivity, whereas hypersensitive children may require additional support to unlearn negative behaviors and build healthier coping mechanisms. Are there positive aspects of sensitivity? If so, what are they? Sarah emphasized that just as we don't categorize emotions as strictly positive or negative, the same principle applies to high sensitivity. Instead, she suggests looking at the unique strengths and gifts that come with it. Among these gifts are:
Sarah adds another layer to the discussion by highlighting the importance of nurturing highly sensitive children's ability to trust themselves. When empowered to trust their intuition and inner wisdom, these children develop a strong sense of self-confidence and authenticity. They become adept at navigating life's challenges with grace and resilience, unafraid to stand up for what they believe in. However, Sarah also offers a word of caution to parents and caregivers. While the capacity for deep empathy and connection is indeed a gift, it can also leave highly sensitive individuals vulnerable to exploitation or burnout if boundaries are not established. Teaching children discernment is crucial, ensuring they invest their emotional energy in relationships that are mutually supportive and healthy. Understanding and celebrating the gifts of highly sensitive children is essential for their healthy development. By recognizing their unique strengths and nurturing their self-trust, caregivers can empower these children to thrive in a world that may not always understand them. Through empathy, creativity, intuition, and compassionate leadership, highly sensitive individuals have the potential to make profound contributions to society while cultivating rich, fulfilling relationships along the way.
Highly sensitive children experience emotions in a big way. Think of it like turning up the volume on your feelings. The highs are higher—the joy, the connection, the happiness—they're all dialed up a notch. But, on the flip side, the lows can feel more intense too. Anger, grief, frustration—they're all part of the package. Now, as parents, it's crucial that we create a safe space for our children to express these emotions. Rather than dismissing or minimizing their feelings, we need to validate them. This is their reality, and by accepting and acknowledging their emotions, we help them feel heard and understood. One of the key traits of highly sensitive children is their incredible capacity for empathy. Even at a young age, they're attuned to the emotions of others, often picking up on subtle cues that others might miss. I remember Sarah sharing a story about her own daughter noticing the emotions of strangers in a store. It's moments like these that highlight just how emotionally in tune these children can be. But here's the thing—high sensitivity isn't just about emotions. It's also about how these children experience the world around them. While they may not always have sensory issues like sensitivity to tags on clothes or loud noises, in general, they are more sensitive to their environment. So, if your highly sensitive child asks you to turn down the music or complains about bright lights, it's not just them being difficult—it's them genuinely feeling overwhelmed by their surroundings. Also, highly sensitive children come in all shapes and sizes. Some might be introverted, while others are extroverted. But regardless of their personality, they're all taking in more of the world around them than the average person. It's like their senses are turned up to full blast, and it's up to us as parents to help them navigate this sensory-rich world with grace and understanding. When our highly sensitive children express themselves through big emotions, Sarah urges us to become detectives of the heart, seeking to understand what lies beneath the surface. What are they feeling? What do they need from us in the moment? By asking these questions and truly listening to our children, we open the door to meaningful connections and opportunities to support. However, Sarah also warns against the pitfall of becoming the “fixer” of all our children's problems. She recognizes the importance of allowing our children to experience discomfort and disappointment, knowing that it's through these struggles that resilience is built. Instead of rushing to solve every challenge, Sarah encourages us to show up fully for our children, offering unwavering support while also empowering them to find their own solutions. One of the most poignant aspects of Sarah's message is her emphasis on “being-the-calm in our children's storms.” She acknowledges that it's natural to be affected by our children's intense emotions, but she challenges us to see it as an opportunity to model healthy coping mechanisms. | |||