That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding (That Hoarder)

There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about hoarding and hoarding disorder and hoarders and how much people misunderstand this weird condition.

And so I started jotting down some of them as I thought of them and I also asked on various different social channels what myths and misconceptions you heard a lot and which ones annoyed you the most and wow, you feel as strongly as I do about there being a lot of them around.

So I have narrowed it down to 15 and I'm going to talk you through them and how they manifest and why they are wrong.

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"Don't fall into the temptation of having a box for any old miscellaneous thing that doesn't have an obvious home, because I think that leads to the same problem you've already got, just in boxes instead of spread around the house or instead of on the floor or instead of where things currently are."

• Dealing with miscellaneous items without an obvious home or purpose
• Host's personal success and weird dilemma
• Listener secret
• Top tip

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Topics covered:

- The power and potential of curiosity in hoarding

- The benefits of changing beliefs and embracing new perspectives

- Admitting mistakes and apologising as a less stressful alternative

- The importance of admitting when you don’t know something

- Using curiosity to understand why tasks or environments seem impossible

- How therapy can increase curiosity and explore hoarding thoughts and patterns

- Accepting uncertainty and unanswered questions

- Being open to new experiences

- The positive impact of curiosity on mental health and personal growth

- Seeking out new information, different perspectives, and asking questions

- Examples of curiosity, such as exploring fears or understanding others' experiences

- Embracing creativity as a way to foster curiosity

- Engaging with people from different backgrounds and life stories

- Encouraging open communication, learning, and challenging assumptions

- The importance of trying new things multiple times before forming an opinion

- Deepening connections through a curious outlook

- Strategies to encourage curiosity, like treating tasks as experiments

- Framing dehoarding tasks as an experiment

- The effectiveness of the curious and experimental mindset in dehoarding

- Thinking outside the box for a more creative and innovative outlook

- Acceptance of different people and ideas through curiosity

- Adding depth to life through trying new things and learning

- Being present and engaged through attention to details

- Learning from mistakes and cultivating personal growth through curiosity

- Feeling safe to make mistakes and explore for curiosity to thrive

- The numerous benefits of developing a curious outlook

- Opening up communication and expanding one's world through exploration

- The ripple effect of bravery and curiosity on other aspects of life

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On this episode, I dive into why hoarders are so fixated on stuff. Joining me is Dr Jan Eppingstall, who looks into the theory of transitional objects developed by Winnicott and how they shape our attachment styles. We explore how these objects serve as a source of comfort and self-soothing, representing our primary caregiver. Jan discusses how uncertainty can lead to people-pleasing and masking of emotions. We also learn about the impact of insecure attachment on hoarding behaviours and the role of belongings in forging connections and fulfilling our emotional needs. We also discuss the complex interaction between genetics and environment in hoarding tendencies. Tune in for a deep dive into the psychological factors behind our attachment to our possessions.

- Transitional object theory by Winnicott

- The role of transitional objects in comforting children, representing the primary caregiver

- How transitional objects help children become independent and manage separation anxiety

- Uncertainty and people-pleasing behaviours

- Excessive attachment to belongings stemming from childhood experiences

- Attachment styles and secure and insecure attachment

- Using possessions to gain power, impress others, make connections

- Attachment theory and its impact on hoarding behaviours

- The use of possessions to forge connections

- Possessions as non-confrontational and not disappointing compared to people

- Attachment insecurity linked to negative thoughts about self-worth, shame, and unstable identity

- Growing up in a hoard leading to disorganised attachment and attachment trauma

- Understanding why people attach meaning to possessions

- Possessions reflecting aspects of personality, intelligence, or past achievements

- Ambivalent sense of self in hoarding and its relation to identity struggles

- Common themes for hoarding: avoiding negative emotions, holding onto past happiness, validating past pain

- Factors contributing to hoarding: instinctual nature of stockpiling and inability to avoid engaging with possessions

- Coping mechanisms, their classifications as acceptable or unacceptable, and the tipping point to excessive behaviours

- John Bowlby's attachment theory and its focus on distress and anxiety in babies when separated from primary caregiver

- Influence of early separation on psychological well-being, based on experimental studies during the Blitz

- The role of transitional object attachment

- Mary Ainsworth's extension of Bowlby's research through the Strange Situation experiments

- Identification of secure attachment and three types of insecure attachment: anxious, avoidant, and disorganised

- Hoarding tendencies being more common among first degree relatives

- Chromosome regions associated with hoarding, but no clear susceptibility genes identified

- Limited support for a genetic predisposition to hoarding

- Disproven hypotheses about hoarding and scarcity or deprivation

- The interaction between nature (genetics) and nurture (environment)

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'If you had told me on March 30, 2021, when I put up two episodes of me rambling into my phone, that two-and a-bit years later, I would have 100 episodes live, I would have over 100,000 downloads, I would have had an array of amazing guests, I would never have believed you.'

- Celebration of the podcast's 100th episode and over 100,000 downloads

- Gas man visit as an opportunity to assess progress

- Importance of talking about difficult topics and dismantling stigmas

- Power of experimentation, curiosity, and strategic questioning

- Recognizing the negative impact of self-criticism

- Understanding that beating yourself up prevents action

- Importance of addressing underlying patterns and reasons behind hoarding behaviors

- Creativity and unconventional strategies may be necessary in overcoming hoarding tendencies.

- Importance of asking strategic questions in decision-making

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Join me as I delve into wishcycling and the connection between hoarding and sustainable practices.

On this episode of Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder, I dive into the topic of wishcycling and how it relates to hoarding. I explore the concept of repairing and upcycling as effective ways to extend the lifespan of items, discussing the difference between repairing and intending to repair. I learn about the importance of following through with repair plans and setting deadlines.

Wishcycling, the act of putting non-recyclable items in recycling bins, is the main topic of discussion. I explore common items that are often wishcycled, such as plastic bags and crisp/chip packets, and the negative impact it can have I highlight the recycling initiative TerraCycle, which offers recycling programs for difficult-to-recycle items.

I emphasise the 5 Rs and how hoarders can focus on reducing consumption to tackle overwhelm in their homes. I also discuss the potential distractions these can pose for hoarders and the importance of prioritising oneself, the home, and the people we live with over broken or damaged items.

I also look at the uncertainty surrounding recyclable items and the complexities of the recycling process, emphasising the need to question if we really need something before acquiring it.

Topics:

• Definition of wishcycling and its negative effects
• Commonly wishcycled items and misconceptions
• The impact of wishcycling on recycling machines and materials
• Extending the lifespan of items through repair and upcycling
• Examples of effective repair and upcycling techniques
• The difference between repairing and intending to repair
• Overview of TerraCycle and its recycling programs
• Personal Experience with Repairing
• Setting a strict deadline to avoid procrastination
• Applying Principles of Reuse and Repair:
• How reducing consumption can help tackle overwhelm in hoarded homes
• Balancing Repair and Hoarding:
• Repairing as a potential distraction or excuse for hoarding
• Prioritising oneself and loved ones over broken or damaged items
• Tendency to reuse unsafe items in hoarded homes
• An overview of the five R's (reduce, reuse, repair, rot, recycle)
• The question of need and waste reduction
• Personal Motivation and the Environment:
• Survivors of trauma as environmentally motivated individuals
• Hoarding as a barrier to caring for the environment
• The personal and global benefits of reducing consumption
• Acknowledging uncertainties in recycling practices

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In today's episode, we're exploring the power of turning your chair round and embracing different perspectives.

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• Imagining advice from different perspectives
• Gaining new insights and advice
• Showing compassion towards yourself
• Questioning how things are done
• Exploring different ways to frame situations
• Beginner's Mind from Zen Buddhism:
• Dropping expectations and preconceived ideas
• Stepping out of comfort zone
• Initial discomfort leading to eventual comfort
• Trying new things can be scary but rewarding
• Questioning and reevaluating rules:
• Determining if rules are still useful and relevant
• Challenging yourself to break established patterns
• Confirmation bias: Seeking information that aligns with existing beliefs
• Perfectionism in organizing possessions:
• Energizing and motivating the organising process
• Believing in different possibilities
• Challenging the belief that things have to be a certain way forever
• Exploring new ways of thinking and doing things
• Challenging fears:
• Proving fears are not necessarily true
• Gentle self-reflection:
• Encouraging personal growth and understanding
• Turning the chair around
• Seeing possibilities and solutions with a fresh outlook
• Practicing beginner's mind and mindfulness
• Looking for something unrelated to existing interests

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With therapist Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the scarcity dilemma, uncovering the complex relationship between fear, control, and hoarding. We explore the link between scarcity and compulsive hoarding behaviours and how marketing tactics manipulate our emotions and behaviorus, leading us to accumulate more than we need. We look at strategies and discuss the psychological reasons behind the urge to hoard and the challenging process of letting go.

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• Importance of being aware of marketing tactics and their influence on emotions and behaviors.
• Creating a space between stimulus and response to choose how to react.
• Consideration of how a purchase will fit into our lives and finite home space.
• Advising against in-store hoarding and hiding behaviors.
• The urge to buy when something is believed to be scarce.
• Charity shops as challenging for those triggered by scarcity.
• Reactant theory and limited availability triggering increased attention and attraction.
• Psychological factors contributing to hoarding behaviour.
• Anxiety disorder and fear of making mistakes or being unprepared.
• Preference for acquiring goods now rather than having more cash later.
• Using possessions for control and anticipation of future needs.
• Anticipated regret and comparison of acquisition and non-acquisition outcomes.
• Scarcity perception, reactance, and fear of missing out (FOMO).
• Limited availability as a threat to personal freedom.
• Sense of urgency to buy and hoard when perceiving a shortage.
• FOMO as a prevalent fear of not being able to purchase.
• Mindset shifts and gratitude
• Recognising and expressing gratitude for abundance in one's life.
• Hoarding as compensatory behavior for insecure attachment.
• Filling the void of missing connections.
• Providing hedonistic pleasure and dopamine hit.
• Compensating for lacking or not acknowledging something.
• Finding fulfillment beyond material possessions.
• Importance of recognising and being grateful for small moments and human interactions.
• Random joy and emotional fulfillment over material things.
• Ethical concerns with therapists receiving constant marketing offers.
• Overwhelming amount of emails for online courses and discounts.
• Feeling uncomfortable and "icky" about this type of marketing.
• Effectiveness of different types of scarcity.
• Limited quantity scarcity vs. limited time scarcity.
• Limited quantity scarcity leading to competition and pride.
• Bargains as part of the gift and providing satisfaction.
• Disagreement with scarcity mindset versus abundant mindset descriptions.
• Lack of competitiveness or jealousy towards others.
• Belief in collaboration and not worrying about others' resources.
• Curiosity about the fear of scarcity and its underlying reasons.

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In this episode, we will be tackling the really gross and icky bits of dehoarding. It's not the most glamorous topic, but it's an essential part of the journey to a clutter-free life. We'll be discussing everything from dealing with unpleasant smells to handling sticky or disgusting substances that can accumulate over time. I've got some practical tips and strategies to help you navigate these challenges.

• Dealing with gross things is important, but don't beat yourself up about it
• Take responsibility, not blame, use it to motivate improvement
• Presence of mould or goo in home is harmful physically, mentally, emotionally. Use gloves and a face mask to protect against anything gross or moldy. Use a grabber if needed
• Adding essential oil drops to a face mask or using Vick's VapoRub improves smell.
• Learn from experience, tackle issues one by one, prevent future problems: avoid bulk buying, store properly
• The importance of addressing the "gross and icky" bits of dehoarding
• Learning from unpleasant experiences and taking pride in overcoming them
• Tackling issues or challenges one by one in a methodical manner
• Taking proactive measures to prevent similar situations from arising again
• Practical tips for dealing with sticky or gross substances
• Addressing them individually until the whole house is clean
• Being cautious with bulk food purchases and storing perishable items properly
• Using bags for cleaning purposes is a logical use, not a waste
• Spraying antibacterial spray after cleaning to ensure cleanliness
• The importance of not avoiding unpleasant tasks
• Facing the situation head-on because it won't go away on its own
• Being realistic about what needs to be addressed
• Quick resolution of tasks that have been avoided for a long time
• The importance of ventilation to prevent mould and fungus spores from spreading
• The need for Personal Protective Equipment (PPE) when dealing with harmful substances
• Taking responsibility without blaming oneself
• Using experiences as motivation to improve hoarding habits
• Promoting a proactive attitude towards personal growth and improvement
• Overcoming the fear and worries associated with gross or unpleasant tasks
• Using gloves, face masks, and grabber tools to avoid touching or inhaling harmful substances
• Prioritising health and wellbeing when removing gross or unidentifiable items
• The consequences of failure to clean up grossness, including contamination and more waste
• Accepting that some things may not be savable and may need to be discarded

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Today, I dive into the importance of setting up systems to make dehoarding easier and less resistant. We'll discuss how examining the structure of our lives can help us determine what can be done to make the decluttering process more manageable. Plus, we'll explore the concept of choosing realistic timings that fit with our individual lifestyles for successful decluttering. We'll also explore the idea that the path of least resistance is often seen as negative, implying that someone isn't trying hard enough. In the realm of dealing with hoarding, however, the path of least resistance can be a gift. I'll explain how taking this approach doesn't mean avoiding challenges altogether, but rather making the overwhelming task of decluttering more manageable. Join me as I navigate the intricate world of compulsive hoarding, exploring the strategies and mindsets that can help us overcome this challenge. Get ready to uncover the path of least resistance.

• Choosing the simplest option to overcome challenges
• Uncertainty, struggle, progress in dealing with tasks
• Create a system to enable donating items
• Overcome barriers and get things out
• Simplify decisions, prioritise, and start somewhere
• Guidelines and formulas
• Confidence and small steps
• Choose the easiest option to start moving. Dealing with difficult challenges can be overwhelming. No shame in taking the simplest path
• Uncertainty improved by experience and research
• Need to be intentional to prevent worsening
• Think about what stops you and create a system to enable change
• Have a bag ready for charity donations
• Start somewhere, any room or item, and adjust approach as needed.
• Examining the structure of your life to facilitate decluttering
• The negative perception of the path of least resistance
• Acknowledgment of the importance of embracing challenges, but hoarding is already a significant one
• Importance of making progress and having mental energy
• Being more selective in future donation choices
• Prioritising getting rid of items over ensuring they leave the house perfectly
• Practical examples of following the path of least resistance in donating items
• The challenge of determining where to start decluttering
• Importance of thinking about structures that hinder decluttering
• The value of creating systems or structures for ease of decluttering
• The importance of following the path of least resistance to overcome difficult challenges
• Barriers to getting rid of items, such as the need for perfection
• Considering the easiest path to get items out of the house without throwing them away
• Encouragement to pay attention to personal objections to getting rid of items
• Research and intentionality as key factors in being neat and tidy
• How being intentional prevents worsening and improves the situation
• The benefits of considering the path of least resistance in making deliberate choices
• Choosing what feels good to enhance productivity
• The burden of donating items from a hoarded home due to the scale of possessions
• The struggle of perfectionism in choosing where to donate
• Considerations when deciding where to donate items
• Suggestions for starting decluttering in specific areas of the home
• The possibility of becoming overwhelmed and unable to make progress
• Comparison of the structure of a river to the structure of one's life

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I speak to Tracy McCubbin, an expert in decluttering, organising, and overcoming the emotional attachment to our belongings. With years of hands-on experience and a deep understanding of clutter, Tracy helps people reclaim their spaces. Tracy shares invaluable insights into the psychology behind stuff and the challenges that arise when inherited items become emotional burdens. She challenges the notion that objects hold inherent meaning and encourages listeners to question the attachment they have to their possessions. Tracy also provides practical advice on how to approach decluttering and organising. She dispels the myth of overnight transformations often portrayed on social media, reminding us that real progress takes time and effort. She shares anecdotes, including the story of the infamous painting of dogs playing poker and its unexpected journey to a new home. Join us as we explore clutter blocks through six items of mine,

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Introduction to the clutter blocks and their origin

Birthed from hands-on work with people and their experiences with hoarding disorder

The struggle of inheriting items from deceased family members

Difficulty in letting go of things due to sentimental attachment or financial value

Objects hold no inherent meaning, we assign meaning to them

Example of the speaker's wedding dress and societal pressure to hold onto sentimental items

The changing importance of objects over time

Acquisition of things becoming easier, questioning the need to hold onto them

Tackling decluttering and organizing separately

Not expecting immediate results

Unrealistic expectations created by social media

Working at your own pace

Time and energy limitations due to work and family

The initial chaos before improvement during the decluttering process

Hiring professionals for cleaning services if deep cleaning is not enjoyable

Selling or giving away unwanted items to avoid clutter

Celebrating progress by hiring a cleaning company and taking a break

Resisting pressure to do things one doesn't enjoy

Letting go of items and finding them in the hands of those who need them

Separating decluttering, organizing, and cleaning as separate tasks

Avoiding overwhelm and making the process more manageable

Replacing reminders of painful memories with positive ones

Not feeling obligated to keep crafts made by others

A client with a collection of birdhouses made by their father

Reflecting on the concept of regret and the things that are never thought about again

Choosing cash over a sale purse

Declutter, organize, and clean separately for success

Decluttering takes time and patience, but it's worth it

Feeling obliged to keep handmade crafts made by others

The meaning we attach to objects

Beautiful gift that's not my style

Dogs playing poker painting given new home

Father hoards baby strollers, never gives them away

Disaster relief donations often miss the mark

Hiring help for tasks you dislike

We make mistakes, let's learn and move on

Decluttering takes time and effort; it may get worse before it gets better

Psychological attachment to objects and challenges the belief that everything must be kept

Focus on good memories

Putting a time limit on completing tasks

Donate money, not random items

It is okay to not enjoy certain tasks and celebrate hiring help

We all make mistakes, but holding on to them is unnecessary

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In today's episode, we'll be delving into things that look like hoarding but aren't. Joining me is the incredible Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a specialist in hoarding disorder.

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We explore the how to determine if someone has hoarding tendencies, shedding light on hoarding and its connections to other mental health conditions, such as OCD and OCPD. We'll discuss the criteria for these disorders and how they relate to hoarding behaviors. But hoarding is just the tip of the iceberg. We'll also explore the relationship between hoarding, autism, ADHD, and depression, uncovering the common symptoms and challenges in these overlapping conditions.

So, join us as we discuss things that may look like hoarding but aren't.

Understanding the cause of hoarding behaviours

OCD and OCPD are mental disorders characterized by anxiety and rigid personality traits. Hoarding was associated with OCPD

Overlap of symptoms

Depression makes daily tasks exhausting and meaningless

Autism and ADHD: understanding and terminology

Often mask to fit in

Recognise sensory needs, respect neurodivergence, ask questions

Rejection sensitive dysphoria, impulsiveness, and addiction in ADHD

Understanding the causes of hoarding behaviours is important

OCD and OCPD are mental disorders. OCD causes anxiety and impairs functioning. OCPD is a personality disorder with rigid traits

Hoarding was considered a subtype of OCPD

People with OCPD may not see their behaviours as problematic and may exhaust themselves trying to meet unrealistic standards

Do individuals feel responsible for the welfare of objects, are they emotionally attached to them, do they experience distress from clutter or the act of saving?

A potential opposite extreme of compulsive minimalism

Feeling exhausted and worthless, maintaining a tidy house becomes unimportant. A depression nest forms

Hoarding often starts at a young age. Time and untreated depression can worsen it

Bipolar disorder

Increased understanding and awareness leading to more assessments.

Women are often overlooked

Understanding and accommodating individuals with neurodivergence is important

Sensory needs and routines may vary

ADHD is highly heritable but can also be influenced by environmental stressors and trauma

Variable attention stimulus trait

Creating your own options and not being afraid of failure in self-help

ADHD, depression, and hoarding often co-occur

Other conditions like OCD, anxiety, bipolar disorder, social anxiety, bulimia, binge eating, gambling, and personality disorders can be linked to hoarding

Treatment is challenging but not impossible

Definitions and criteria for hoarding tendencies

Compulsive spartanism

Differences and similarities between OCD and OCPD

Criteria for OCPD based on Freud

Hoarding originally considered a subtype of OCPD

Labels and understanding underlying needs

Focus on purpose rather than the diagnosis

Unrealistic standards and exhaustion from trying to meet them

Sensitive dysphoria and euphoria

Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted in daily life

Accepting help without distress or shame

Depression nests

Relationship between ADHD, depression, and hoarding

OCD, generalized anxiety, bipolar disorder, social anxiety, eating disorders, addiction, and personality disorders

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In this episode, we explore decision making and its connection to hoarding. I dive into neuroscience research, exploring the neural mechanisms of decision making in hoarding disorder, discover how individuals categorise their own possessions versus those of others, and how this impacts their ability to make decisions. I talk ways to improve decision making skills. From flipping a coin to considering our values, setting priorities, and seeking advice, I explore practical techniques that can help anyone struggling with indecisiveness. Along the way, I tackle the fear of uncertainty and how it can hinder decision making. I delve into the different decision making styles that researchers have identified and how understanding these styles can help.

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• Hoarding OCD patients struggle with decision making.
• Differences in decision making for hoarders.
• Anticipating regret
• Test small decisions
• Gather information, set time limits for decisions
• Accepting uncertainty
• Toss a coin, keep perspective, ask advice.
• Consider long-term consequences, stick to decisions.
• Start small; gain confidence in decision-making.
• Learning from past decisions improves future choices.
• Hoarders report anxiety and procrastination in decision making.
• Lack of self-trust skews decision-making
• Hoarding disorder linked to impulsive decisions and self-reliance.
• Differences in categorising own items compared to others'
• Writing down thoughts can clarify complexity and solve problems
• Fear of mistakes leads to decision avoidance.
• Hoarders anticipate regret
• Ask more than "what if"
• Perspective, flexibility, seek advice.
• Stick to decisions and avoid second-guessing or agonising over them.
• Psychology Today: 35,000 choices made daily
• Decisions can be overwhelming
• The butterfly effect and the impact of seemingly insignificant decisions
• Strategies for Decision Making in Hoarding
• Imaginary Person Technique
• Aligning decisions with values to prioritise what is truly important
• How values can guide decision-making in hoarding situations
• Neural Mechanisms of Decision Making in Hoarding
• Study involving brain scans and paper items
• Tossing a coin to make decisions and considering feelings about the result
• Setting priorities, asking "what if" questions
• Being open to different perspectives
• Tolerating uncertainty
• Understanding Decision Making Styles
• No definitive set of decision making styles
• Cultivating Compassion and Making Ethical Choices
• Cultivating self-compassion
• Making compassionate choices for a better quality of life
• Practical Tips for Decision Making in Hoarding
• Starting with small, easy decisions and gradually progressing to more significant ones
• Challenging oneself to try different options and gain decision-making skills
• Learning from past decisions to inform future ones and identify helpful strategies
• Considering long-term consequences rather than focusing solely on immediate ones
• Stepping out of immediate emotions
• Sticking to decisions and avoiding overanalysing or second-guessing
• Difficulty making decisions among patients with hoarding disorder and OCD
• Characteristics of hoarding disorder, including excessive indecisiveness and avoidance
• Hoarding disorder's association with procrastination, indecisiveness, and decision-related fears

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In today's episode, we're diving into the topic of when you feel like giving up. We'll be exploring the struggles, frustrations, and moments of doubt that can arise during the journey of overcoming compulsive hoarding. We'll uncover strategies to stay motivated and find the strength to keep going. Join me as we navigate the highs and lows of this challenging process and discover the power of perseverance.

So, grab a cup of tea and press play!

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Reminder: Why was change important? Self-examine motivation for new things.

Stay present, take care of yourself, embrace failure.

Challenges and triumphs in a long journey and a big project.

Setting expectations based on order rather than timings is preferable for someone who finds it difficult to predict. Learn from experience and set realistic expectations. Consider the burden of letting others down if you communicate expectations to them.

Setting milestones helps celebrate small wins. Clearing the kitchen table can be a goal, leading to a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Having compassion for oneself is crucial.

A Facebook comment inspired compassion from children of hoarders, encouraging someone to not give up and be a hero for their kids.

Change up your habits, shift timing, remember why you started.

Remember why decluttering was important to you. Reflect on your motivation and discover new reasons, like enjoying extra space, treating yourself, or flexibility while working from home.

Taking breaks and finding inspiration from others helps prevent burnout during long-term projects. Look to successful people for motivation, even outside of your specific field.

Applying mindset to various areas of life, replacing unproductive habits, assessing and making adjustments, and the potential benefits of visualizing success.

Acknowledging slow progress is better than no progress

Feelings of frustration and impatience with the current situation

Be patient and work with circumstances

Mindful Approach to Avoid Feeling Overwhelmed

Being present in the moment instead of rushing to the next thing

Appreciating and being present in small tasks

Practicing mindfulness and avoiding constant engagement with everything

Importance of physical, mental, and emotional self-care

Maintaining motivation through scheduled and unscheduled breaks

Viewing failure as a learning experience, not a reason to give up

Importance of setting specific goals and milestones in decluttering

Celebrating accomplishments as motivation

Breaking tasks into manageable chunks to reduce overwhelm

Replacing rigidity with a more gentle and careful approach

Doing a bit, assessing, and making adjustments

Changing Environment and Finding Motivation

Changing environment or time of day to make decluttering feel new

Reflecting on initial motivation to stay motivated

Various sources of inspiration, including social media, podcasts, and books

Unrelated endeavours like trekking the Appalachian Mountains as a source of inspiration

Flexibility and Adaptability in Pursuit of Goals

Emphasizing the importance of flexibility and adaptability

Overcoming rigidity and perfectionism through adjustment and starting multiple times

Taking breaks and weekends off to prevent burnout

Failure as a Motivator and Opportunity

Understanding failure as a setback in life plans

Validating the feelings of discouragement and wanting to give up

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Jasmine Sleigh is a professional declutterer and has spent the past decade helping people to free up space. She focuses not only on physical belongings but also on the emotional and psychological aspects of decluttering. In today's episode, Jasmine likens her role to a dance, where she carefully navigates through uncertainties and potential triggers for her clients and stresses the importance of providing support and encouragement throughout the decluttering process.

We also discuss Jasmine's book, Being Owned: A Decade in Professional Decluttering, where she expands on the concepts discussed in this episode. Let's dive into the world of decluttering with Jasmine Sleigh.

• Facilitating crafts and donating unused items.
• Professional decluttering: a personal and people-centric approach
• Handling belongings requires adaptability and improvisation
• Sort out space, prioritise essentials, declutter
• Understanding lives through belongings; an intimate job
• Stuff has power, can be moved
• Keep belongings accessible for ease of use
• Helping people achieve their goals is the key
• Positive actions in a cost of living crisis
• Jasmine wanted to write a book about her experiences as a professional declutterer, focusing on the poignant stories of her clients and celebrating her achievements
• She also felt frustrated by people's misconceptions about the job
• The importance of using and sharing possessions, especially in the context of crafting and hobbies.
• Jasmine can only go as far as clients are willing to let her
• Training others has further shaped her understanding
• Emotional attachments and recent purchases may require more distance
• The power of belongings and the impact they can have
• Ensuring easy access and a comfortable living environment for individuals is the main priority
• Goal is to make people happier in their homes
• Using resources for good and the availability of second-hand items in a crisis
• Sorting through belongings and determining their importance in one's life narrative
• The Unpredictability of the Job
• Need for adaptability in dealing with unexpected situations
• Describing the job as a "dance" due to uncertainties and triggers
• Being present and flexible in the moment, avoiding over-preparation
• Ineffectiveness of threats and negative consequences
• The Process of Decluttering
• Recognising that there is no quick fix or magic solution
• Examples of finding forgotten items
• Belongings becoming overwhelming and causing a burden
• The ability to move and rearrange belongings to improve the situation
• Different levels of difficulty in letting go of different types of items
• Sorting out keepsakes at different life stages
• Importance of having hobbies and engaging in creative activities
• Creating a space to pursue hobbies and finish projects
• Passing on unused items for sustainability and resource usage
• Power dynamics surrounding objects
• Giving individuals agency to make choices about possessions
• Stories of reengagement and finding joy in personal belongings
• Being attuned to people and focused on their well-being
• Maturation and increased understanding after 10 years of working
• Importance of the home as a sanctuary for wellbeing

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Today, I'm delving into the world of excess and overstocked items. I have some insights on how to navigate the clutter of spares and backups that can often accumulate in our lives and explore the challenges of hoarding spares, the fear of running out, and the art of letting go. It's time to take action and make space for what truly matters. Let's dive in!

• Too many backups, no space for essentials
• Too many spares hinder finding things
• Hoarders stock up, but it's problematic
• Keeping spares, especially when on sale
• Overbuying and hoarding wastes time and money
• Allocating space reduces overstocking, prompts evaluation
• Consider cost, availability, and ease of replacement. Assess necessity based on these factors
• Evaluate spare items for necessary maintenance
• Risk and fear limit our daily lives
• Consider reasonable quantity and necessity, not excess
• We accumulate unnecessary backups, making it difficult to organize and discard unused items
• Keeping too many unnecessary items makes it hard to find what we really want
• Letting go takes faith but leads to easier access
• Buying in bulk is cheaper
• Overbuying and hoarding leads to an unmanageable situation, preventing you from enjoying life
• Fear of running out is understandable but excessive stockpiling is not helpful or cost-effective
• Dispose of obsolete tech and excess items, donate or discard thoughtfully
• Allocating a specific space for overstock might help control it
• Consider limiting the number of spares and keeping track of inventory
• Consider the cost and availability of replacing items. If easy and affordable, no spares may be needed. If costly or hard to find, consider quantity and storage
• Check if your spare items need maintenance. Don't keep duplicates if they don't work. Consider safety and cost when replacing items
• Balancing risk and spares in daily life, reassess as needed
• The waste feels horrible, but you can learn from it and make more conscious decisions about buying
• Don't beat yourself up, instead turn discomfort into determination to avoid future waste
• Think before buying unnecessary items
• Assess the importance and potential consequences of running out
• Balance the need for preparedness with space and cost
• Proportionality is key
• The concept of overstocking and hoarding spares
• Keeping a record of the quantity of spare items to alleviate anxiety about running out
• Difficulty of finding desired items among a clutter of unused items
• Taking Action to Get Out of Clutter
• Importance of taking action to declutter and organise
• Acknowledge fear of being without certain items, but encourage letting go of unused items to make space for what truly matters
• Donating unwanted items can make it easier to access needed items
• Availability of replacements locally or online
• Considerations like expiration dates and proper storage
• Fear of running out and hoarding as a response
• Balancing the benefits of buying in bulk with the negative impact on daily life and family dynamics
• Keeping old appliances as backups even if they are no longer functional
• Using discomfort as motivation to avoid overstocking and waste
• Reassessing judgments about spares over time as anxiety levels change
• Futility of hoarding obsolete tech
• Space, cost, and compatibility issues
• Reflect on own overstocking habits and take steps to overcome compulsive hoarding

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Today, Dr. Jan Eppingstall is here to shed light on the connection between executive function, executive dysfunction, and hoarding behaviour. We explore how executive function impacts our ability to organise and declutter our living spaces and uncover the challenges individuals face when it comes to decision-making, mental flexibility, and working memory. We'll also discuss strategies for improving executive function and overcoming the obstacles that hoarding behaviour presents.

• Depression and health conditions can impair focus
• Nervous shutdown and self-compassion during stress
• Trick yourself into starting
• Network atrophies when not engaged
• Issue with sticking to tasks due to desire for novelty
• Reducing food shops, using what's in cupboards
• Procrastination hinders progress, but changing behaviours helps
• Mental flexibility essential
• Flexible thinking in shopping, problem solving, creativity
• Executive dysfunction hinders organisation; hoarding makes it harder
• Lack of experience in decision-making, cutting corners
• Perspective and help are important when organising
• Lack of space hinders planning
• Executive functions affects losing things
• Fear of loss worsens clutter
• See-through boxes and labels
• Mindset affects executive function, self-care is crucial
• Many conditions cause brain fog and difficulty focusing
• Understanding our executive functions helps us manage stress, improve awareness, and leverage strengths
• Reflection can inform future behaviour
• Nervous system shuts down, could be triggered by dissociation
• Engaging in tasks helps people focus and enter a flow state
• Perfectionism = rigid thinking, efforts towards being more flexible
• Trying to organise a hoard is destined to fail
• Can we reassure ourselves when we put things away?
• Minimise visual distractions, motivation to improve surroundings
• Take care of your mind, believe in yourself, and prioritie self-care for better executive function
• Is difficulty organising due to executive function issues or the sheer quantity of items?
• Difficulty getting rid of things once they are brought into the home due to the endowment effect
• Suggestions for improving working memory through mental maths and storytelling memory games
• Identifying triggers and strategies for preventing or dealing with shutdowns
• Practicing self-compassion and reducing stress for better action-taking
• Introduction of the task positive network (TPN) and flow state during tasks
• Downsides of hyperfocus and its impact on cognitive attention
• Weakening or atrophy of the TPN due to lack of exercise
• How depression, autoimmune diseases, and long COVID can impact executive functioning
• Unique perception and organization of belongings for individuals on the autism spectrum
• Planning skills and lack of space as potential barriers

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Today's episode is all about batching and hoarding. Have you ever started a task only to get sidetracked and end up feeling disheartened and unproductive? Well, you're not alone. In this episode, I explore the concept of batching tasks together and how it can help you overcome the distractions and actually get things done. Join me as we delve into the world of productivity strategies, context switching, and the positive benefits of batching tasks. Get ready to declutter your mind and your home and find the encouragement you need to keep going. Stay tuned for some practical tips and insights on how to make batching work for you. Let's get started!

• For people who easily get sidetracked and lose focus quickly
• Using technique to focus on tasks efficiently
• More focus leads to increased productivity and visible results
• Batch tasks for efficiency and effectiveness
• Batching tasks simplifies decision-making and improves efficiency
• Batching tasks helps with transitions and procrastination
• Create a schedule for regular batched tasks
• Batch based on area, category, or activity
• Feeling unaccomplished by distractions when trying to complete tasks
• Focus on one task at a time to accomplish more and see noticeable results, providing motivation and encouragement
• Allows for a fresh perspective on completed work and saving time and energy
• Batching tasks simplifies decision-making, reduces analysis paralysis, and allows for forward planning, increasing productivity
• Helps with transitions and initiating task
• Beneficial for dehoarding, depending on progress. Establishing a schedule for regular batched tasks may be helpfu
• Batch items based on area, category, or activity. Stay focused and redirect distractions by saying "No, I'm working on this for now."
• Explanation of context switching and its impact on focus and productivity
• More noticeable results at the end of a decluttering session
• Boost in motivation and encouragement
• Importance of visible progress in overcoming feelings of disheartenment
• Comparison between concentrated progress in one area vs. scattered progress throughout the space
• Difference between visible and hidden progress
• Encouragement to apply batching techniques to stay focused and improve effectiveness in organising efforts

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In this episode, I look at the topic of regret when it comes to dehoarding. Drawing from my own experiences, I delve into the fear of regret that often plagues individuals who hoard. She discusses the negative impact this anticipation of regret can have on the state of our homes and our lives, as well as the importance of reframing our mindset. Through personal anecdotes and valuable reflections, That Hoarder shares how considering the potential regrets of not dehoarding and the potential benefits of letting go can help overcome this fear. She provides practical tips and strategies for navigating the journey towards a clutter-free life. Let's confront and conquer our fear of regret in the dehoarding process.

• Regretting hoarding, but also regretting not changing.
• Focus on potential regret or potential benefits
• Regrets and fears may hinder decluttering items.
• Starting slowly can prevent future regret.
• Making decisions without regret is nearly impossible
• Setting time limits and asking for help can be helpful in making difficult decisions.
• Occasional painful regret can be transformative.
• Step towards personal growth and home improvement.
• Importance of considering both regret and lack of regret in decision-making.
• Focus on potential benefits, not regret or fear
• Reframe questions to consider gains or missed opportunities
• Identify core fears to address them.
• Examining fears of regretting and loss of objects, emphasising a realistic perspective.
• Weigh the pros and cons and take measured actions
• Holding onto everything restricts opportunities and can lead to a limited life.
• Making decisions without regret is difficult, but setting time limits and seeking advice can help
• Sharing fears with others can quiet them.
• Making decisions, big or small, can bring about regrets. Others may not have experience with hoarding but can offer perspectives on overcoming regrets.
• Personal growth and improving coping skills can enhance our lives and homes.
• Anticipation of regret in hoarding
• Negative impact on homes and lives
• Insurance policy approach to dehoarding
• Battle with fear of regret
• We forget to anticipate regret of not taking action
• Potential future regret from not making homes easier to live in
• Considering what might be missed out on if not taking action
• Reframing questions to include potential benefits
• Personal experience of not regretting donating to charity shops
• Focusing on potential benefits instead of potential regret
• Identifying the core fear beyond the fear of regret
• Addressing and assessing the fear
• Examples of fears related to specific objects or items
• Starting gradually and assessing each step
• Testing out fears and evaluating the actual feelings
• Using previous experiences to build confidence
• Taking action before reaching a crisis
• Importance of addressing the fear before drastic consequences
• Acknowledging the realities of life circumstances
• Encouraging steady and ongoing progress
• Weighing pros and cons and considering fears
• Making more considered and measured decisions to prevent future regret

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Today’s episode is all about the pros and cons of selling your stuff. If you've been following my journey, you know that I have been apprehensive about selling items in the past. But I've taken a tentative step into the world of selling my clutter. Today I'm going to share the lessons I've learned and explore whether selling is truly worth it. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an insightful discussion on the potential benefits and drawbacks of selling your stuff.

Selling stuff slows you down, hampers decluttering

Holding on to things instead of selling

Potential and creativity don't guarantee objective value

Saves money, extends life cycle, reduces waste, helps environment, satisfies hoarder brain

Time, effort, selling, selling process

Selling stuff may hinder hoarder's progress - delay, excuses

No guarantee of sales or payments; uncertain and time-consuming process

Setting parameters saves energy.

Selling slows down decluttering, creates excuses to keep items.

If we don't want to get rid of something, we might pretend we'll sell it without actually doing so

We use excuses to avoid throwing it away because we have a tendency to hoard

We believe someone else will want it.

Realistic value check.

We overestimate the value of our possessions.

Selling stuff can make money during tough times

Varies depending on what you sell.

Someone else can use them

Reusing is better than recycling or throwing away. It's environmentally beneficial

Selling can be both a motivator and an excuse for delaying getting rid of things

There is no guarantee of selling or payment for listed items.

Unpredictable

Listing and selling items require time and energy that could be used more productively.

Charity shops save time and effort compared to eBay

Not advocating selling everything

Previous stance on selling items and recent change in perspective

Importance of finding a balance and considering what is best for oneself and the items being sold

Making money while in debt or struggling with bills

Benefiting from the extra money, especially in a tough economy

Extending the life cycle of items by reusing them

Supporting the idea of reducing consumption

Sense of satisfaction in knowing that items will be put to good use by someone else

Uncertainty involved in the selling process

Difficulty in determining the right price for items

Frustration of receiving offers below desired price or dealing with non-paying buyers

Feeling demoralised if treasured items don't sell

Potential dissatisfaction with the final amount received after all the effort

eBay fees and the impact on the final selling price

Potential Hoarding Related Challenges of Selling

The tendency to use selling as a means to delay getting rid of items

The role of selling as a motivator versus an excuse to hold onto possessions

Assessing individual motivations for selling personal belongings

Considering whether the effort and time invested in selling outweigh other actions

Setting a minimum price threshold for Facebook Marketplace to avoid lowball offers

Taking into account one's overall personality and goals when deciding to sell or keep items

Insights and Lessons Learned from Selling

Realizing that overvaluing possessions is common for hoarders

Recognizing the importance of speed in decluttering and minimizing possessions

Learning about oneself and possessions through the selling process

Reiteration of the importance of finding a balance between selling and letting go

Highlighting the benefits and potential challenges of selling items

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In this episode, we're diving into the topic of squalor. Is it the same as hoarding? Can you have a squalid environment without hoarding being present? Compulsive hoarding and living in unsanitary conditions can have a profound impact on us. We'll explore the key factors and distinctions between hoarding and squalor, as well as the underlying causes that contribute to these behaviours. From acquired brain injuries and cognitive impairments to mental health disorders, we'll delve into the intricate web of reasons why people find themselves in these challenging situations. We'll also touch on the impact of substance misuse, the role of physical disabilities, and the link between hoarding and conditions such as dementia, schizophrenia, and OCD.

Join us as we explore the different characteristics, challenges, and possible solutions for hoarding and squalor. Whether you're facing hoarding tendencies yourself or seeking to understand these behaviours better, this episode is for you.

• Differentiating Hoarding, Squalor, Clutter, and Collecting
• Hygiene practices determined by culture.
• Unsanitary living caused by physical disability, dementia, illness, brain injuries, psychiatric disorders
• Long-term substance abuse damages brain's command centre
• Hoarding and squalor pose health risks
• Seek help for environmental neglect without shame
• The definition of unsanitary is determined by cultural hygiene practices, varying across cultures
• It relates to the reasonable person's judgment of cleanliness based on cultural norms.
• Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and contamination fears
• Substance abuse impairs decision making and damages the prefrontal cortex
• Hoarding and squalor pose health risks due to unhygienic living conditions and food safety issues.
• Prefrontal cortex damage explains dementia-related hoarding
• Unsanitary environments can result from socioeconomic factors such as poverty and limited access to sanitation services
• Lack of access to rubbish removal and funds for disposal
• Hoarding behaviours can lead to unsanitary living conditions due to hoarding severity, clutter volume, and difficulty discarding items. This attracts vermin and causes shame
• Living alone can lead to higher risk of unsanitary conditions
• Seek professional help, consider NDIS support for disabilities
• Clutter makes cleaning difficult
• Impairment in decision-making due to substance abuse
• Acquired brain injuries and neglect of personal and environmental hygiene
• Impairment of the command centre of the brain
• Deteriorating eyesight and its effect on recognising unsanitary areas
• Isolation and lack of support for seniors
• Loss and depression leading to neglect of hygiene
• Self-neglect among hoarders
• Characteristics of squalid living environments
• 1. Lack of purposeful clutter
• 2. Absence of emotional attachment to objects
• 3. Fear of objects that have touched other objects
• Root causes of squalid environments
• Waste management and food storage
• Socioeconomic Factors
• Access to education, poverty, and sanitation services
• Challenges faced by people living in public housing
• Role of support systems in overcoming squalor
• Seeking help from mental health professionals and GPs
• Overcoming shame
• Challenges Faced by Aging Hoarders
• Influence of injuries or loss on hoarding behaviours
• Avoiding unhelpful and meaningless labels
• Squalor cannot be overcome by willpower alone
• Emotional and functional purposes driving hoarding behaviour

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I've always believed in making positive change through my purchases. Recycling, supporting local businesses, and buying eco-friendly products have been my way of feeling like I'm making a difference, saving the world one shopping trip at a time. But I had a revelation. In today's episode, I'll explore the common belief that shopping can be a form of activism, that it is positive to support or promote whatever values are important to us. The struggles of aligning hoarding tendencies with ethical and environmental values are not lost on me. I'll delve into the difficulties of ethical purchasing and provide some insights to help you navigate through the clutter.

• Expressing beliefs through items can lead to clutter
• False advertising misleads consumers with "natural" claims
• Some environmentally friendly products are more toxic
• Resource extraction required for "ethical" consumption too
• Choose green options but be mindful of unnecessary consumption
• Individual actions won't save world; collective action needed
• Systemic change
• Believing we've done our part hinders change
• Hoarders struggle with ethical purchasing decisions; advice appreciated
• Although we can make ethical shopping choices, society convinces us that spending money on stuff is a form of activism
• Supporting local businesses is beneficial, but it doesn't negate the negative consequences of buying something
• Supporting recycling and shopping in charity shops can lead to excessive clutter and prevent others from purchasing
• Buying items to display or share beliefs/values can lead to clutter; shopping won't save the world
• Companies can mislead consumers by labelling products as "natural" or eco-friendly, leading us to believe we are making a positive impact
• Electric car batteries release significant amounts of CO2 before being purchased
• It's important to strive for better socially, environmentally, and personally, and to make informed choices when purchasing necessary items
• Stocking up on unnecessary items is problematic
• Collective action and societal change are needed for significant global change, not individual shopping habits
• Boycotts may not be effective in changing company practices if they are still profitable
• Changing to unleaded petrol required a law change
• Believing shopping solves problems hinders impactful change; focus on reducing consumption, reusing, and finding real solutions
• The hoarder's perspective on making positive change through purchases
• Recognising flawed thinking and greenwashing
• People believing they are saving the Earth through shopping
• Greenwashing and misleading consumers with eco-friendly claims
• Ethics of shopping and the reality of consumerism
• Contribution of consumerism and resource consumption to environmental damage
• Interconnection between social and environmental issues
• Pitfalls of feel-good consumerism and the importance of reducing consumption
• How buying green products can lead to complacency and less virtuous behaviour
• Eco junk
• Emphasis on consuming less and reducing consumption as a more effective solution
• Shopping cannot solve issues like climate change, racism, inequality, or homophobia
• Aligning ethical values with challenging hoarding tendencies

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The topic for today is perfectionism and its connection to hoarding. I talk with Dr Jan Eppingstall about perfectionism and its impact on hoarding behaviour. We share personal experiences and struggles with perfectionism, discussing the fear of failure and the tendency to give up if something cannot be done perfectly.

We also touch upon the importance of psychological flexibility, being present in the moment, and living by our values. Dr. Eppingstall enlightens us with insights on challenging rigid thought patterns, breaking free from the demands of perfection, and embracing personal growth.

• Perfectionism and fear of failure drive hoarding.
• Perfectionism linked to hoarding and obsessive personalities.
• Rigid thinking
• Surprised by others' flexibility
• Children with insecure attachment blame themselves for parents' problems.
• Curiosity, experimentation, and flexibility lead to growth.
• Encouraging exploration leads to personal growth.
• Regretting inaction is a bigger regret.
• Relax, do it wrong, get more done.
• Perfectionism and fear of failure relate to hoarding.
• Concerns over mistakes and parental criticism are prominent.
• Being creative with limited resources to find solutions and not being rigid in following rules or plans.
• Turtle mode hinders logic, self-criticism hampers progress.
• Children with insecure attachment due to a parent's mental illness or preoccupation tend to believe they cause their parents' problems
• They feel pressured to help their parents and seek validation through achievements and obedience to alleviate their parents' sadness or anger.
• Perfectionism linked to trauma response, family expectations.
• Fear of negative emotions, regret of not pursuing dreams.
• People are adaptable and inventive
• Give yourself permission to make mistakes, relax, and get more done
• The reluctance to start or complete tasks to avoid an imperfect outcome
• Self-criticism and lack of confidence as common problems with perfectionism
• Overcoming perfectionism and embracing flexibility
• Psychological flexibility: being present, taking action guided by values
• The importance of curiosity and challenging behaviours
• Living by values rather than solely focusing on goals
• The role of a support system in venturing outside the comfort zone
• Taking small, cautious steps outside the comfort zone
• Opening up slowly leads to personal growth and a sense of accomplishment
• Breaking rigid thought patterns through repeated challenging
• Recognising triggers and behaviours associated with perfectionism
• Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) as helpful approaches
• Perfectionism as a manifestation of people-pleasing and trauma response
• Perfectionism leading to feelings of not being enough or worthy
• Using perfectionism as a coping mechanism for emotions and relationships
• Addressing perfectionism through therapy and exploring its underlying reasons
• Progress and success can still be achieved even if things don't go perfectly or as planned
• Regretting not doing the things we wanted to do in life rather than letting go of physical possessions
• Challenging negative "what if" scenarios and highlighting potential positive outcomes
• Demanding standards, self-criticism, fear of wasting or making mistakes in hoarding behaviour

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In today's episode, I dive into the topic of using AI to help us dehoard. I have some skepticism about AI and its ability to assist with decluttering. However, after exploring various AI options I share my findings and experiences with these tools. From providing tips and schedules to even taking on personas like Dolly Parton, AI can offer some assistance in the decluttering process. I also discuss the use of AI voice assistants and AI-driven coaching, discussing their potential benefits and my concerns. Join me as I explore the strengths and weaknesses of using AI as a tool in decluttering and dehoarding.

• Mixed results with AI
• AI voice assistance for dehoarding tasks.
• Privacy concerns, limited effectiveness of chatbots.
• Fact-checking is better done personally.
• AI decluttering apps listed by Bard didn't exist
• Bard provided good breakdown of timings in real-world context
• ChatGPT and Bard can expand on previous answers.
• Streamline decluttering, prioritise tasks, and explore personas with Chat GPT and Bard.
• I used an AI tool to mimic Dolly Parton's style for a video.
• AI voice assistants like Siri, Google, and Alexa can help with tasks like playing music and organizing, allowing users to have conversations and make requests
• AI chatbots cannot provide the same support as humans
• Privacy concerns and lack of trust.
• Not ruling them out completely,but cautious about therapy-oriented bots
• Asking specific questions can yield better results.
• Skepticism about using AI for dehoarding
• Not wanting to just repeat what others have said
• Description of AI bot
• Conversation with the AI bot
• Critique of the AI bot's advice
• Description of ChatGPT and Bard as AI tools
• Tips for using ChatGPT and Bard effectively
• Comparison of their capabilities with decluttering
• Limitations and challenges with specificity and relevance to hoarding
• Benefits of using voice assistants for organizing and task management
• Examples of tasks voice assistants can help with
• AI-driven coaching and therapy
• Potential benefits and use cases
• Concerns about privacy, emotional support, and effectiveness
• Strengths and weaknesses of using AI for dehoarding
• Personal observations on specific tasks AI is good at, such as scheduling
• Mention of AI's limitations, imaginary recommendations, and the need for skepticism

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In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I will be diving into a topic that is rarely discussed - homelessness and hoarding. We will explore the limited research available on the connection between these two issues and the complex factors that contribute to both. We uncover the connections between trauma, loss, and mental health issues that can lead to both homelessness and hoarding behaviours as well as the instincts associated with hoarding and the difficulties in interrupting these instincts.

• Homelessness and hoarding: connections and similarities
• Lack of hoarding-related academic articles
• Homelessness can be caused by hoarding
• Lack of support, finger pointing, no understanding
• Excessive stuff brings hope for normal future
• A sense of safety motivates us to accumulate possessions
• The physical barrier between us and the chaotic outside world is important
• Excess stuff can be seen as hope for a better future
• Society pressures us to make a perfect home
• Epigenetics, trauma, and genes influence hoarding behaviour
• Poverty pushes some to become hoarders
• Humans want to share during crises
• Neurodivergence, brain injuries, schizophrenia
• Homelessness and hoarding have similarities, including trauma, mental health issues, and fear of scarcity
• Possessions may be portable but excessive saving behaviour persists
• Homelessness caused by hoarding; trauma leads to hoarding in new home
• Need to ask "What do you need?"
• The comfort of material possessions
• Possible evidence of neurodivergence or organic brain injuries, schizophrenia, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, complex post-traumatic stress disorder
• The importance of asking the right questions and providing appropriate support
• Approach problems from various angles and keep iterating to find what works
• Short-term focus of government hinders this
• Homeless individuals trading stuff and the instinct to hoard when they find secure housing
• Difficulty in interrupting the primal hoarding instinct
• Strategies for interrupting the instinct, such as calculations and sharing with others in need
• Need for a holistic approach and joined-up thinking to address hoarding and homelessness effectively
• Lack of resources and understanding to support hoarders once they are housed
• Treating hoarders with dignity and respect
• Importance of appropriate questions and support due to the complexity of hoarding behaviours
• Lack of support and assistance in addressing the root causes of homelessness
• Sense of control and safety that possessions offer
• Importance of addressing the additional traumas faced by homeless individuals
• Study finding higher hoarding prevalence (18.5%) among homeless individuals compared to the general population (1.5-5%)
• Oversampling technique used to study rare subpopulations
• Overlapping risk factors of hoarding and homelessness (trauma, grief, brain injury, neurodivergence)
• Sense of safety and need to create a home driving the accumulation of possessions
• Scarcity mindset and stockpiling items due to homelessness
• Epigenetic processes potentially turning on genes associated with hoarding as a coping mechanism
• Poverty and uncertainty about basic necessities contributing to hoarding behaviors
• Importance of listening to frontline practitioners and individuals in order to understand their needs

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In this episode, I delve into the weird world of imperfections, flaws, and uniqueness. Drawing inspiration from the Crooked Spire of Chesterfield, I share personal struggles with self-criticism and acceptance. It's a round-about look at authenticity and self-acceptance, via imperfections and community. I also share a hoarding secret from a listener and a top tip. Join me!

• Chesterfield's Crooked Spire
• Folklore and reality behind the Crooked Spire's twist
• We often judge ourselves harshly
• Old churches, old books, imperfections, universal struggles
• Authenticity and honesty in safe spaces
• Embracing self-acceptance and confidence
• Challenging societal expectations leads to self-acceptance
• Embracing imperfection, finding strength in community
• Folklore and history intertwine at Chesterfield's Crooked Spire church
• We tend to see flaws in ourselves, not in loved ones
• Impact on self-esteem varies with mental health and stress
• Struggling with self-judgment
• Need spaces for self-expression, honesty, and mental health to avoid internal conflict and damage
• Often start with difficulty, but ultimately reach a point of empowerment
• Not conforming to societal expectations
• Changing Faces charity for people with visible differences
• Personal struggles with hoarding behaviour
• Encourages self-acceptance and appreciation
• Resilience and community embrace of imperfections
• Personal growth and acceptance related to societal norms
• Struggles with conforming to expectations
• The beauty of imperfections
• Old books with folded corners and underlined passages
• The podcast as a place of honesty and authenticity

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In today's episode, I look at the intriguing use of virtual reality in treating hoarding disorder with our guest, Dr. Hannah Raila. Dr. Raila, a psychology researcher at UC Santa Cruz, shares her insights on how virtual reality can help individuals desensitise to distress and practice discarding virtual possessions. She discusses the immersive nature of the VR experience, the potential for the technology to attract more male research participants, and so much more. Join us as we explore the innovative possibilities of virtual reality in the treatment of hoarding disorder.

• Novel treatment for hoarding using virtual reality
• VR sessions focus on virtual discarding practice
• Virtual reality to create distress for phobia treatment
• Practice desensitization to discard and declutter effectively
• Novel approach due to existing treatments not working for everyone
• Study methodology including recruiting participants with hoarding disorder for buried in treasures group and virtual reality sessions
• Creating a virtual world of participants' rooms and practicing discarding items in a psychologically immersive environment
• New treatments for hoarding needed, virtual reality tested for hoarding, based on successful use in anxiety and PTSD
• In-home visits helpful for reducing clutter but often not feasible
• In VR therapy, practice discarding virtual objects to desensitise to distress
• Virtual exposure therapy principle: Desensitise to distress by simulating real experiences
• There is a debate about hoarding disorder prevalence and gender participation in research and treatment. More women seek treatment, but the disorder may be even across genders
• The Stanford lab's community presence may influence gender participation
• Testing novel intervention with existing treatments, attracting more patients, need for RCT before nationwide administration
• Practice desensitisation by rating distress, discarding and tracking feelings to tolerate and declutter home
• Preparing new study on contamination fears for OCD at UC Santa Cruz lab
• Description of the virtual donation box, recycling, and trash bin in VR sessions
• Facilitating repeated rehearsal of discarding virtual possessions for real-life application
• Reported improvement in hoarding symptoms due to VR treatment
• Time and technology challenges in programming and designing virtual worlds for the intervention
• Practical Applications and Takeaways
• Monitoring and tracking distress levels when discarding items
• Applying desensitisation without a virtual space
• Starting with easy-to-discard items and gradually progressing to more difficult ones
• Potential of virtual reality to help people move up the ladder of difficulty in discarding
• Dr. Raila's plans to continue virtual reality work
• Conducting a study on difficulty discarding in the normative range

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A replay of one of my most popular episodes, which I made in response to one of the listener questions I hear the most. Enjoy!

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Another really popular episode that a lot of you enjoyed. See you in 2024!

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After a year where my subverted phrase of the year was "it'll do", I talk about how I'm hoping to continue shedding perfectionism and learn to be more resourceful and adaptable. Tune in to hear all about it.

• 2023 phrase "it will do" calms my perfectionist anxiety
• Striving for tidiness, resisting hoarding tendencies
• Retiring items when its purpose has been fulfilled
• Embracing "it'll do" mentality for 2023 led to less stress and overthinking, allowing for more focus on important things.
• Hoarders struggle with using what they have, but I'm seeking to become more adaptable and resourceful.
• Facing challenges in decluttering, balancing desire for tidiness and fear of letting go.
• Desire to reduce waste, finding satisfaction in finishing products.
• Examples of how "it'll do" helped me make decisions and reduce stress.
• Introduction of the new phrase for 2024, "make do," which emphasises resourcefulness and adaptability.
• The influence of financial awareness in choosing the new phrase.
• Desire to engage more with possessions.
• Exploring the contradiction in hoarders' tendencies to find multiple uses for items to justify keeping them but not being resourceful in other ways.
• The impact of perfectionism on the desire for the "perfect" item and the challenge to accept what is adequate.
• The potential risk of using "make do" as an excuse to keep everything and the need for balance.
• The acknowledgement of challenges in embracing "make do" and the importance of trusting the process.
• Finding pleasure in finishing and using up items as a result of a shift in perspective.
• Personal examples of feeling a sense of achievement in using items fully.
• Comparing the emotional attachment to well-used items versus unused items.
• The aim of "make do" to encourage thoughtful use of possessions and sustainable engagement with them.

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In today's episode, I delve into the emotional impact of emergency dehoarding. Over the last few weeks, I've faced the daunting task of decluttering my home in preparation for an impending electrical testing. I explore the rollercoaster of emotions, from terror and shame to motivation and determination, as I grapple with the challenges of addressing my hoarding situation. Join me as I uncover the journey of navigating through the paralysis and panic to making progress, all while acknowledging the emotional and physical toll of the process.

Stay tuned for practical insights, personal revelations, and a determined commitment to moving forward and not slipping back.

• Overcoming fear and making progress step-by-step.
• Planned time off and charity donation preparation.
• Anticipated shame, ensuring access, fluctuating emotions.
• Continual progress and proactive cleanup mindset.
• Therapist support pivotal.
• Overcoming challenges with tools and focus.
• Cannot sustain that intensity, but need to keep moving.
• Making rooms accessible.
• Overcoming challenges one step at a time, managing panic and making progress amid fear.
• Took time off, arranged charity collection.
• Struggling with hoarding shame, balancing pragmatism and terror.
• Focus on forward movement and addressing small tasks promptly.
• Realising the value of decluttering and talking to therapist.
• Facing challenges, equipped with tools and deadline.
• Unable to sustain pace, seeking balance and progress.
• Despite challenges, maintaining progress is beneficial in the long run.
• The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding
• Paralysis and panic when faced with the task of dehoarding the house
• Overcoming initial resistance and taking gradual action to prepare for impending electrical testing
• Managing emotions of terror, shame, and exhaustion during the process
• Finding motivation in focusing on progress and benefits of a cleaner home
• Coping with difficult tasks by reminding myself that it all had to be done
• Creating a loose daily plan to guide efforts
• Booking a charity collection for excess belongings providing practical assistance and motivation
• Acknowledging the imperfect nature of the donation process but recognising its necessity
• The role of support from a therapist and knowledge gained from a podcast about hoarding in managing the process
• Developing a "toolbox" of knowledge and strategies through podcast, interviews, research, and listener stories
• The benefits of having a deadline to stay focused and make progress in the hoarding situation
• Reflecting on the improved hoarding situation and the emotional and physical toll of the process
• Acknowledging the progress made and the determination to continue moving forward and not slip back
• Making a conscious effort to avoid reverting to old habits, aiming to maintain balance and not let up on efforts to overcome compulsive hoarding

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Today I delve into my experiences of overcoming avoidant behaviours when it comes to decluttering. I share how the Hummingbird Method has been instrumental in breaking down the fear and anxiety associated with tackling daunting hoarded areas.

Join me as I explore the power of gentle, gradual progress and the freedom that comes from challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours.

• New method for managing tasks: hummingbird method.
• Overcoming fears
• Use the hummingbird method to beat procrastination.
• Versatile method adaptable for different tasks and problems.
• Challenging rigid beliefs to overcome hoarding habits.
• Experiment, try new things, open new doors.
• Gentle approach to tasks.
• Change is necessary for progress.
• Trying new things, starting small.
• Understanding the Difficulties of Letting Go
• The fear and difficulty involved in letting go of hoarded items
• The sense of freedom and positive change that can result from letting go
• Exploring hummingbirding
• Overcoming inflexible behavior and thinking through the hummingbird method
• The daunting piles were not as intimidating as imagined
• Challenging limiting rules and stepping into avoided areas to confront tasks
• Embracing a New Approach
• Encouragement to experiment and try new ways of approaching difficult tasks
• Starting with small steps, such as opening the cellar door
• The passive nature of the "Hummingbird method" in breaking down avoidance barriers
• Comparison to a kitten gradually expanding boundaries to become more comfortable
• Applying the Hummingbird Method
• Using the method to tackle fears and avoidance behaviours
• Gradually familiarising yourself with daunting tasks or situations
• Illustrative examples of avoiding tasks and gradually confronting them
• Comparing the method to a child overcoming a fear of balloons at a party
• The importance of flexibility and openness in challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours
• One tool in a range of strategies
• Recognising that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for overcoming hoarding and avoidance behaviours

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By acknowledging potential roadblocks ahead, we can prepare emotionally and practically for upcoming challenges and even get more efficient when we’re dehoarding. I talk about the importance of being proactive, realistic, creative and adaptable when facing obstacles, while also seeking professional support when needed. I look at the need for planning, prioritising, and breaking down tasks into smaller chunks to overcome difficulties.

• Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and motivation.
• Anticipating challenges leads to proactive decision-making.
• Anticipate obstacles, reflect, and evaluate for success.
• Stay open to possibilities, prepare for obstacles.
• Planning can overcome mental obstacles for success.
• Preparing for challenges in dehoarding process.
• Anticipate challenges and plan preventive measures.
• Allow yourself rest, plan ahead, ask for help.
• Anticipating obstacles while working. Subconscious problem-solving.
• Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and reduces discouragement.
• Anticipating challenges improves decision-making, reduces panic.
• Being proactive is key.
• Planning to deal with nostalgic stuff eventually, while focusing on current tasks and building up decluttering skills.
• Anticipate and adapt to obstacles, focus on progress rather than completion. Reflection and objective evaluation are key.
• Stay open to possibilities, prepare with needed supplies, seek advice on overcoming obstacles from others.
• Address decision fatigue, burnout, and overwhelm to avoid stops and starts and make consistent progress.
• Prepare for challenges, gain confidence from past experiences.
• Anticipate and prevent burnout by pacing work, taking breaks.
• Take days off even if it feels wrong. Plan ahead and seek help.
• Tip for calming mind
• Importance of Anticipating Obstacles
• Benefits of problem-solving and emotional preparedness
• Improving efficiency and momentum in the decluttering process
• Assisting in planning, prioritising, and decision-making
• Overcoming Challenges
• Difficulty of anticipating obstacles, particularly for novices
• Leveraging experience to anticipate and surmount obstacles
• Adaptability, creativity, and flexibility in addressing anticipated obstacles
• The value of trust, resourcefulness, and forward planning
• Nostalgic items as potential distractions and triggers
• The importance of realistic goal setting and objective evaluation
• Anticipating Logistical Challenges
• Ensuring necessary supplies are available
• Learning from others' experiences with obstacles and their solutions
• Importance of planning, breaking down tasks, and consistent progress

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Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall I explore the nuanced concept of insight in hoarding. From defining overvalued ideation to understanding the levels of insight, we unravel the challenges individuals face in recognising and addressing their hoarding behaviours. Through personal experiences, expert advice, and valuable research insights, this episode sheds light on personalised treatment approaches, effective communication strategies, and the importance of empathy and compassion. Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of hoarding disorder and discover practical ways to support individuals on their journey to overcoming compulsive hoarding.

• Insight into Hoarding
• Levels and Types of Insight
• Insight Variability Among Individuals
• Factors Influencing Insight (e.g. Comorbidity, Trauma, Life Experiences)
• Insight Study by Helena Drury and Colleagues
• Insight in Diagnosis of Hoarding Disorder
• Relationship Between Hoarding Severity, Self-Criticism, Shame, and Preservation of Self-Concept
• Overcoming Clutter Blindness
• Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts
• Taking Photographs of Living Spaces
• Vulnerability in Showing Spaces to Someone Else
• Exposing Oneself to Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts
• Identifying and Addressing Lack of Insight
• Anosognosia and Overvalued Ideation
• Reflecting Feelings and Thoughts
• The LEAP Technique for Support People, Coaches, and Therapists
• Understanding Hoarding Behaviour
• Motivations Behind Hoarding Tendencies
• Defensive Denial and Psychological Reactance
• Demographics and Characteristics of Hoarders in Research Settings and Community Services
• Neurocognitive Damage and Insight into Hoarding Behavior
• Communication and Approach in Supporting Hoarders
• Validating Concerns and Correcting Misunderstandings
• Empathetic and Compassionate Approach
• Using "Yes, And" Technique in Conversations
• Tailoring Therapy Approach for Hoarding Clients
• Treating things as an Experiment
• Importance of Curiosity and Playfulness in Therapy Approach
• Limitations of Manualised Treatments

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Today, I am joined by the insightful Paige Pritchard, a money coach and the owner of the Overcoming Overspending community. Together, we dig into the complexities of overspending, addressing its emotional roots and psychological impact on individuals' lives. Paige offers invaluable insights into understanding the deeper motivations behind spending habits and emphasises the need to reclaim control and satisfaction in life. We discuss practical strategies, such as the "urge jar" to create distance from impulsive buying and find fulfilment without overspending. Join us as we explore the psychological effects of spending habits and discover empowering approaches to overcome overspending.

• Overspending defined
• Impact of shopping on time, relationships, confidence.
• Men face stigma for impulse spending, too.
• Striving for perfection
• Products tied to identity and feelings
• Resist urge to splurge
• Anticipation brings more pleasure than actual events.
• Recognise brain's response
• Individual approach: abstainer vs moderator.
• YNAB for budget transparency.
• Budgeting software provides helpful transparency for planning.
• Impact of shopping on time, relationships, and financial confidence.
• Perfectionism and spending habits
• Consumerism links products to identities and emotions
• Delay impulse buying
• Baseline awareness of brain's response to threats
• No spend challenges
• Personal spending behaviour
• Signs of overspending
• Financial implications
• Time spent on shopping and acquiring
• Impact on relationships
• Financial self-confidence
• Impact on environment and clutter
• Understanding Motivations and Emotional Experiences Behind Spending
• Aspirational spending
• Consumer culture
• Deeper motivations behind spending habits
• Impact of spending habits on psychological wellbeing
• Deeper reasons behind excessive spending
• Regaining a sense of control
• Escaping life
• Managing Impulse Buying
• Scarcity Spending
• The "urge jar" as a tool
• Form a new habit loop
• Dopamine without spending money.
• Fear of missing out
• Managing Regret
• Decision Making
• Inevitability of emotions
• Implications of extreme approaches.
• Budgeting software
• Managing annual expenses
• Psychological perspective behind impulsive buying
• Creating distance before making a purchase.
• Impact of social media on contributing to overconsumption
• Downplaying shopping addiction.
• The seriousness of shopping addiction and its effect on people's lives, especially for women.

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I take a look at the time-consuming nature of living in a hoard, including the impact of clutter on daily life. I cover the stress, procrastination, and decision fatigue that come with hoarding to shed light on the ways in which hoarding not only affects our living spaces but also consumes valuable time. Tune in for a candid conversation that challenges perceptions and offers a fresh perspective on the journey to overcome compulsive hoarding.

• Questioning time for tidying in a cluttered life.
• Gradual realisation about time consumption.
• Tidying takes time, hoarding takes longer.
• Organising the kitchen, decluttering, and categorising food items.
• Knowing where things are saves time.
• Reducing possessions saves time and effort.
• Hoarding makes cleaning harder and time-consuming.
• Rethink hoarding, liberate yourself, save future time.
• American society invented the concept of human failure.
• Organising saves time and reduces clutter.
• Having too much stuff makes cleaning difficult and time-consuming.
• The burden of hoarding and time wasted
• Reframing thoughts to improve decluttering.
• The concept of human failure was an American invention due to a capitalist society.
• The misconception of tidy people spending all their time cleaning and tidying.
• The realisation that living in hoarding is time-consuming due to the difficulties caused by clutter.
• The Impact of Hoarding on Daily Life
• The stress and time wasted in finding everyday items in a hoarded home.
• Decision-making process and procrastination caused by overwhelming clutter.
• Cleaning Challenges and Time Management
• The additional time required for cleaning and maintenance in a hoarded home.
• The difficulty of keeping a hoarded home clean compared to a neat and tidy home.
• The liberating aspect of dehoarding by freeing up time for the future.

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Today, I'm looking at psychological flexibility and rigidity with Dr. Jan Eppingstall. Join us as we explore the impact of changing hoarding behaviours and learn about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a powerful tool in addressing psychological inflexibility. Discover the six core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility, and gain insights into challenging rigid beliefs. We'll also discuss the role of curiosity and acceptance in fostering adaptability and open-mindedness.

So, grab your headphones and get ready for an enlightening conversation on embracing change and overcoming psychological rigidity.

• Importance of Psychological Flexibility in Hoarding
• Psychology inflexibility's role in hoarding behaviour
• Impact on life satisfaction
• Application to all humans, not just clinical pathologies
• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a Model for Psychological Adaptability and Health
• The 6 core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility
• Acceptance vs. experiential avoidance
• Diffusion vs. cognitive fusion
• Flexible attention to the present moment vs. inflexible attention
• Self as context vs. attachment to conceptualised self
• Committed action vs. inactivity or impulsivity
• Hexaflex and its origin
• Changing Behaviours
• Trying new things, compromising, and risk-taking
• Change in one area affecting various aspects of life
• Techniques for Managing Panic Attacks
• Addressing panic attacks through curiosity and acceptance
• Healing experience of being understood and accepted
• Macro and Micro Perspectives
• Techniques such as meditation or mindfulness
• "Yes, And" Technique and Promoting Open-Mindedness
• Role in promoting compromise and open-mindedness
• Importance of considering alternatives with a curious and open mindHoarding, rigidity, and psychological inflexibility
• Experiential avoidance and rumination
• Inflexible actions
• Adapt to different situations while staying true to your values
• Taking action towards values, maintaining psychological flexibility.
• Practice observing your thoughts through thought listing
• Working on being less rigid, more flexible.
• Mediation in statistical analysis.
• Consider alternatives, embrace curiosity.
• Finding flexibility in perspective improves relationships
• Values to guide actions.
• Acceptance, understanding, and support from trusted individuals.
• Discussion on rigidity and inflexibility in hoarding, its correlation with various mental health issues.
• ACT academics aimed to create unified therapy model, different from DSM.
• Living in state of inaction, choosing values for action.
• Experiential avoidance, cognitive fusion
• ACT for hoarding.
• Questioning negative thoughts, being psychologically flexible, and testing beliefs to overcome attachment to possessions.
• Flexibility vs. avoidance in behaviour and mindset.
• Awareness of thoughts and feelings helps in making wise decisions.
• Being creative and adaptable in different contexts
• People may act differently in various situations, but there is a constant sense of self.
• Neurodiversity may impact ability to visualize or notice thoughts.
• Struggling with rigidity and flexibility, challenging it.
• Questioning values, flexibility, and inflexibility in decision-making and life choices.
• "Yes, and."
• Actions not matching with values
• Thought listing exercise to align with values.

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Today, I look at the link between loneliness and hoarding behaviour with special guest Vassia Sarantopoulou, an expert psychologist and relationship counsellor. Come on a thought-provoking journey as Vassia and I discuss the complexities of loneliness, and practical steps for combating the shame associated with hoarding. There's the deep impact of societal expectations on emotional expression and emphasise the importance of forming genuine human connections for those affected by hoarding.

From identifying warning signs of loneliness to exploring the link between trauma, grief, and hoarding, this episode offers insights into the struggles faced by individuals dealing with compulsive hoarding and the loneliness that often accompanies it.

Vassia shares effective strategies for overcoming loneliness, reaching out for support, and finding ways to rebuild connections when you hoard.

This episode is a candid and compassionate exploration of the intersection between loneliness and hoarding, offering support for those seeking to break the cycle.

• Loneliness and Its Impact
• Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Loneliness
• Two Layers of Loneliness: Normal Feeling vs. Deeper Sense of Loneliness
• Common Causes of Loneliness
• Overcoming the Fear of Rejection and Making New Friends
• Difficulties in Discussing Personal Struggles with Friends
• Importance of Creating Safe Spaces for Discussing Grief and Negative Emotions
• Combatting Shame and Overcoming Self-Judgment
• Steps to Combat Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour
• Impact of Societal Expectations on Emotional Expression
• Building Human Connections and Combatting Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour
• Practical Steps to Build Human Connections and Combat Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour
• Addressing Shame and Overcoming Self-Imposed Judgment Related to Hoarding
• Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships
• Practical Advice and Resources
• Purpose of Social Activities: Engaging in Activities to Reduce Pressure and Stress
• Building Relationships and Disclosing Hoarding: Choosing the Right Moment and Managing Expectations
• Taking a Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships
• Impact of Hoarding Symptoms on Loneliness
• Warning Signs of Loneliness and Isolation
• Mental and Physical Health Effects of Loneliness
• Seeking Harmful or Unhealthy Relationships Due to Loneliness
• The Contribution of Trauma, Grief, and Loss to Hoarding Behaviour and Loneliness
• Dual layers of loneliness lead to isolation.
• Loneliness stems from disconnecting from ourselves.
• Impact of loneliness mental and physical health.
• Loneliness and trauma can lead to hoarding.
• Reconnect with old friends, join social groups.
• Healing involves selective sharing and seeking help.
• Guide, allow time, ask, express, connect authentically.
• Layered loneliness: valuing connections, deeper isolation, worthiness doubts, fear, rationalisation.
• Relying solely on objects for emotional needs
• Neglecting physical appearance
• Changes in sleep
• Loss of interest in activities
• Hopelessness or helplessness.
• Traumatic experiences can lead to hoarding and social isolation as a protective mechanism.
• People in healing choose carefully who to share with

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Today I welcome Meg Kissack to talk about compassionate productivity. We discuss the importance of showing up for yourself, taking imperfect action, and acknowledging the value of rest. We gently challenge traditional productivity advice, emphasising the emotional aspect of getting things done and the need to deprogramme the idea that rest must be earned. The conversation also addresses misconceptions about self-care, the impact of advertising on self-worth, and the necessity of embracing vulnerability and rewriting the narrative of success.

Tune in as we advocate for embracing personal quirks, fostering genuine connections, and initiating more honest discussions beyond the façade of social media perfection.

• Compassionate Productivity and Personal Growth
• The importance of showing up for oneself
• Taking imperfect action
• The value of rest as a productive element
• Deprogramming the idea that rest must be earned
• Making friends with our future selves
• Small actions can make a big difference
• Replacing inner critic with inner wisdom
• Making tasks fun and easier
• Redefining Self-Care
• Redefining self-preservation
• Recognising and resisting marketing tactics and old narratives
• The impact of advertising targeting women and playing into insecurities
• Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Worth
• Rewriting the narrative of success
• Overcoming the fear of starting something before feeling completely ready
• Finding wisdom in people who are open about failures and the process of success
• Recognising self-worth without achieving goals or milestones
• Practicing self-compassion and acceptance
• Self-worth and embracing personal quirks
• Disparity between ideal productivity routines and reality
• Complexity of mental health issues, financial struggles, and relationships
• Unrealistic and patronising nature of one-size-fits-all approach to productivity
• Ddisconnect between privilege and reality
• Struggle with pushing through, compassion for self.
• Shame cycle of productivity and self-judgment.
• Transactional mindset, cruel self-treatment, need for imperfection.
• Self-worth leads to better decisions and boundaries.
• Self-worth isn't a game to unlock.
• Struggle with self-compassion and body image.
• Bohemian Rhapsody helps motivate and focus.
• Challenging the consumerism of self-care experience.
• Productivity doesn't always mean more is better.
• Struggle with cultural pressure to push through, learned to be compassionate for better well-being.
• Shame cycle, internalisation, and moral judgement. Compassionate productivity needed.
• Struggle with mental health and hoarding is complex and not easily fixed.
• Value yourself, make decisions that support you, self-worth leads to positive change.
• The struggle of starting small tasks with the intention of leading to bigger accomplishments.
• Questioning spending and self-care without materialism, commercialisation of self-care.
• Active self-care vs passive self-care.

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In today's episode, I talk about trying to dehoard when life is jam-packed with commitments. I share practical tips for making the most of those precious spare moments, tackling small areas at a time, and procrastination. I discuss productive procrastination, setting achievable goals, and seeking help, as well as valuable insights on time management, priorities and self-compassion.

• Strategies for Dehoarding When You're Really Really Busy
• Utilising small pockets of time for dehoarding
• Waiting for a call, boiling the kettle, or other short intervals
• Making a list of tasks for different time durations
• Focusing on small areas and celebrating small victories
• Seeing visible progress and maintaining motivation
• Productive procrastination and not making things worse
• Harnessing time spent on other useful tasks
• Saying no to new items and time commitments
• Gamifying decluttering and being consistent
• Setting daily goals for items to get rid of
• Seeking help from others with time-consuming tasks
• Tracking time to save time and prioritise
• Tracking time for analysis and identifying areas for saving time
• Using data to approach work about schedule changes
• Prioritising and understanding personal motivations for decluttering
• The importance of rest and downtime while working on decluttering
• Declutter efficiently using small pockets of time.
• Small victories lead to progress.
• Productive procrastination: using time for useful tasks.
• Learn to say no to new commitments.
• Consistency is key for successful project completion.
• Delegate tasks, track time for better efficiency.
• Balancing work and leisure is essential for well-being.
• Forgive yourself, prioritise and seek self-compassion.
• Reframe busyness as even more reason to simplify and declutter
• Small victories help to spur further progress
• Making the most of odd bits of time.
• Commitments and requests you don’t want to do
• Consistency over time is more productive than sporadic bursts.
• Delegating tasks
• Rest and downtime are essential for mental and physical health. It's not about suffering, but finding balance.

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Today, I talk about prioritising when you're facing a hoarding situation and can only manage the absolute basics, with guidance for people struggling with motivation, energy, and overwhelming emotions like depression or grief. Tackling the challenges of hoarding when feeling depleted, the episode explores practical ways to approach the situation. Tune in for strategies to navigate hoarding with compassion and practicality, understanding that even the smallest progress is a step forward.

• Prioritising tasks and setting realistic goals
• Identifying the most effective tasks with limited time and energy
• Being objective and evaluating what can be done with available energy
• Avoiding busywork and focusing on tasks that push the needle
• Adjusting high standards and expectations to avoid disappointment
• Finding motivation in something you care slightly about
• Identifying and prioritising safety concerns
• Setting tiny, achievable goals to avoid feeling like a failure
• Using the hummingbird method to set yourself up for success
• Opting for tasks that require less emotional energy and decision-making
• Making tasks easier and setting up for success
• Incorporating comfort TV or music to make tasks more manageable
• Establishing a single daily task
• Seeking help to understand the reasons behind challenges
• Exploring available options for support and improvement
• Setting up a reward system without resorting to purchasing items
• Practicing gentleness and self-compassion
• Overcoming obstacles and taking small steps
• Recognising that small progress is still progress
• Implementing tasks that take only a few minutes to accomplish
• Understanding that self-care can involve both urging yourself to do things and allowing yourself to rest
• Consider effective use of limited time and energy.
• Find one thing you care about.
• Being kind to your future self.
• Consider options for small impactful actions when lacking energy

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Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the nuanced approaches needed for effectively supporting people with hoarding disorder. Jan provides valuable insights for therapists, emphasising the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and empathy in therapeutic sessions. The episode explores evidence-based interventions, the significance of exposure therapy, and the challenges counsellors may face when working with hoarding clients. Additionally, practical tips for building trust and understanding the unique needs of hoarders are shared. Listen for the tools you need to make a meaningful difference in the lives of your clients.

• Therapeutic Approach to Hoarding Disorder
• Importance of Collaboration in Therapy
• Hands-On Support and In-Home Visits
• Exposure Therapy
• Patience, Empathy, and Understanding in Therapy
• Different Modes of Therapy (CBT, ACT, Person-Centred Therapy)
• Education and Support for Mental Health Professionals
• Minimal Education on Hoarding Disorder in Clinical Psychology Programs
• Building Expertise in Hoarding Disorder
• Seeking Supervision
• Need for an Eclectic Approach in Therapy
• Values Clarification, Problem Solving
• Challenges for Therapists
• Generalist vs. Specialist Counsellors
• Addressing Co-Occurring Mental Health Issues
• Impact of Hoarding on Other Mental Health Issues
• Preparedness of Therapists to Deal with Hoarding
• Effective Therapies (Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Techniques)
• Collaboration with Professional Organizers
• Building Trust with Clients
• Generalist counsellors deal with common mental health issues.
• Open dialogue and willingness to share knowledge.
• Understanding clients holistically
• Struggles with hoarding and perfectionism in therapy.
• Assisting clients with letting go of possessions.
• Exposure technique for easing attachment to possessions.
• Tiny habits

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"I thought, Gosh, this is easy. I wonder if this is how people who aren't hoarders just go about cleaning and tidying, they just see something that needs doing and do it" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"The benefit of these systems or processes is it removes one barrier. And that barrier is having to make decisions, and making decisions is tiring and it's difficult and it ties me up in knots." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"I think that the differences in presentation and behaviour has to do with what is at the heart of perfectionism, which is fear of failure"   For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"If we are to continuously dehoard and if, should we achieve a normal home, we want to maintain it, then we need to have habits rather than just one-off actions. And creating habits is something that I think about a lot. And I've tried lots of things, and some of them have worked, and a lot haven't."   For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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Your home does not exist to hold on to the ghosts of everybody you've ever met, or every dream you've ever had, or every purchase you ever made. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project 

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If you can work out exactly what's tripping you up, exactly what is making you need to get distracted, that's immensely helpful. Because if you can address those worries in yourself, you may find that you're just more capable of staying on the task at hand when you don't have whatever fear or worry it is hanging around

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Most hoarders need some degree of professional help if they're going to get through this problem. But the number of therapies available is overwhelming and bewildering. So today, we're going to talk about some of the types of therapy on offer for hoarding disorder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"If you give it to your brother, and he puts it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to an animal shelter and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to Oxfam, and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. So the key is to put it in the bin yourself and not force other people to be part of this dysfunctional chain. Because you're creating work and costing people money."

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If you tackle a smaller task, your sense of achievement will power you on to the next task. And your enthusiasm for the project is likely to last longer.

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"This paradox of such high standards leading to such low standards is a real one. And it's something we each need to examine for ourselves and come to our own conclusions." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"You put your stuff in bags, you drop it off with a warm fuzzy feeling inside, because they are going to earn some money because of you. So your excess clothes are going to help fund cancer research or arthritis research, or a children's hospice. And you can feel great about that. And you can also feel reassured that those clothes are going to someone else who really wants them. And so it's not wasteful." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"This is really important for everyone, and I bang on about it all the time with my kids. And my clients. If you don't write the task down in a list, those tasks lurk at the edge of the four or so slots of your working memory - I'm sounding very teacherish now - so this is valuable mental real estate. And it impacts your ability to do other focused work. So you always have these random to dos floating around as you're attempting to pay attention to your project that you're currently working on. If it's on a list, it's out of working memory."   For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"You don't dare ever throw anything out or sort anything out or give anything away in case it turns out to be a mistake. That fear takes over everything in a way that is just not proportionate to the consequences." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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"The real world is messy, people are messy, they don't come with like nice little squares and nice labels. The world doesn't work that way. But the way we make sense of the world works that way." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding. Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project  Support the show

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We see so much potential in things that others do not. We see so much potential in things that others do not. Most people see an empty crisp packet that should go in the bin, a hoarder will see something they can melt down and sew into a shopping bag. So you're not throwing away trash, you're throwing away a potential creative project that would be good for the environment, and look super cool and unique.

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"So if we're highly motivated, we can do hard things. If we've got zero motivation, the thing needs to be very easy to do." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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I think we often look at an item and get completely stuck and having a series of questions that we can just methodically go through can be a really helpful thing. I think when we get too in our own heads about it, we get caught up in maybe the nostalgia of an item, or maybe the potential uses of an item. 

We lose the ability to be objective. And having a series of questions can just help us get back into that zone of being a bit more objective and, dare I say it, a bit more reasonable about what we keep and what we get rid of. 

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But the thing is the more you do something, the better you get at it. And the more you do something, the easier it gets. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"So I think the biggest change I see in myself is that I just approach things a bit differently. I am not as defeatist. I don't just say I can't, or it's too much, or I don't know how." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"The goal is to wire in these habits, so they happen on autopilot every time when prompted. And how do we do that? We work in a specific way." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"You will probably, if not certainly, find things you knew you owned, but thought were long lost. There are things that I know I have but I couldn't tell you what room they were in, never mind what part of the room or what drawer or what cupboard or what pile, let's face it. Things that I really want to find and that, as yet, I haven't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"It's about how I hated routines, how I resisted them, how I was scared of them. And how I tentatively, tentatively, slowly, slowly started to successfully incorporate some into my life."

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"The idea of avoiding distress might initially sound positive or helpful, so that reinforces that suppressing it or avoiding it is a helpful skill when it really, really isn't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"We seek out behaviours that release the largest dopamine hit we can, we feel so good, we do it again. And soon it becomes a habit." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"Dehoarding is hard. But it's a means to an end and it can get you somewhere good. Not dehoarding… sure, you're not having the stress of dehoarding, but you're having the immense stress of living knowing that if there's a fire, firefighters might not be able to get to you. That's also hard." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"It might be that your landlord is doing an inspection, it might be that you've had a leak and it's going through to the flat below so you need to let somebody in to fix it. It might be that your electricity has blown. But for some reason, that has become unavoidable, you have to let somebody in and you are panicking."

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"Why do we endow extra value on things we own compared to things we don't own?"

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"I know that people feel sick with regret when they go out on a binge and come back, they've had that almost dissociative episode where they rushed off to the shops and bought all this stuff and come home and see it all together and have this overwhelming feeling of regret."

"Or when all the Amazon boxes arrive and you're just like, 'Oh, what have I done?'"

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"So that lack of control over each and every decision was both terrifying and liberating at the same time. I liked somebody taking that out of my hands. And I hated somebody taking that out of my hands." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"We all have the same thoughts, there are other moms out there who had all the same types of thoughts that I had. But where people with OCD go a little bit different is that they tend to think that those thoughts are significant somehow. They interpret those thoughts as being significant." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Jenna on Instagram All The Hard Things podcast https://www.treatmyocd.com/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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Lazy people don't lie awake at night thinking about whether they're a terrible person because they threw away a scribbled shopping list from 2014. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"We don't do things for no reason. So what is the need? If we recognise that we're doing this behaviour, what's the need that that self-sabotage fulfils?" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"So today I am going to talk about DOOM. And I'm going to talk about OHIO. And I'm going to talk about how DOOM and OHIO relate to hoarding, as well as executive dysfunction, and some other stuff." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"So you'd be wanting to think about which emotion it’s soothing, and helping people put in place other strategies. Because if you're going to take away one behaviour, which would be the hoarding, you have to, if that's meeting a need, you need to be replacing that with something so you're not leaving people without useful tools." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"So think of embracing imperfect solutions as a counter to perfectionism." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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Why do I find those empty spaces so anxiety provoking? And why do I find them so devoid of personality? And so why do I associate stuff with soul and personality? For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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Bereavement or loss can act as one of the types of trauma that could spark or intensify hoarding disorder. And there's a phenomenon called Grief Hoarding, where somebody dies and a loved one takes in all of their stuff. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"If you want to be the kind of person who goes running every day, you have to start running. If you want to be the kind of person who cooks from scratch every day, you have to learn to cook. If you want to be the kind of person who reads a lot of books, you have to start reading books. And if you want to live in a dehoarded home, you need to dehoard your home." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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" There's something within us that feels like it's a solution, even if it's, in reality, a massively maladaptive one that has destructive consequences." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"ACT promotes accepting what is outside of your personal control, and committing to action that improves and enriches your life. That's kind of in a nutshell. But to understand ACT, and how it works, there is a need to touch on the theory that underpins it." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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Everything in a hoarded home is so much more difficult. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"One extreme is that a hoarder can shop compulsively, spend a lot of money, get into debt because of buying so many things and get into real financial trouble because of the hoarding.

"But the other extreme is people who hoard money. And I'm not talking particularly about the billionaires, although obviously they hoard money. That's not really what I'm talking about. I'm talking about everyday people who you hear about it don't you? Somebody dies and then it turns out, they had millions of pounds in the bank. And often they lived a really frugal life.

"They wanted to save money the whole time. And yet, unbeknownst to everybody, they had a lot of money in the bank, often refusing to spend even when they really really needed to."

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So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content.

And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before.

I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around.

Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret).

So, for you, enjoy! For the full transcript, click here. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/

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So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content.

And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before.

I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around.

Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret).

So, for you, enjoy! For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/

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Whenever anything goes wrong, whether it's something terrible I've done, all the way to just being in a traffic jam, I find a way to yell at myself in my own head about what a terrible person I am and how awful I am and why everything in the world that's bad is my fault.

It's a really exhausting way to live and yet it is pretty constant in my head.

And I know when I hear from you that it's not just me, we all I think give ourselves a really hard time, we are our own worst critic.

For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/

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The research into resilience in the sphere of positive psychology does indicate that we can practice and develop our resilience. And that starts with awareness, then acceptance of where we are right now and a plan to build on our strengths and weaknesses. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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Where to start when dehoarding your home? I'm asked it a lot and it's a huge question, and not one with a simple answer. In this episode, I take you through both the physical and psychological places to start with addressing your hoard. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"If we want to make more progress, I think the best way of doing that is to look not just at what we achieved and didn't achieve, but what worked and what didn't. Because then we can do more of what worked and less of what didn't work." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"Big and bold can be quite performative. But it's not necessarily that useful. It might look good briefly. But you don't often get the long-term change you're looking for. "   For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"The work is how do you get out of defensiveness and into generosity?" - Couples therapist Laura Silverstein, on couples and hoarding.   For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"We're wired to connect, we need others to co-regulate our emotions and in order to feel a sense of belonging, we'll do anything to achieve this." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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Each step in each of those cycles just perpetuates the other steps. And so we spiral downwards, because we feel we can't get out of the cycle. 

And the thing with vicious cycles, by definition is that you're setting yourself up to fail.

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The portrayal of hoarders is really damaging. It contributes to stigma. It's very othering, people talk about like we’re some separate species to look at in a zoo. And I think dramatising what is a mental illness i s... well, it's unhelpful, but I think it goes beyond unhelpful, into actively destructive. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show

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"Really early on, I was like, this isn't about the stuff. This just isn't about the stuff." - Tracy McCubbin, professional organiser and child of a hoarder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Tracy McCubbin Tracy on Instagram Tracy on TikTok Making Space, Clutter Free by Tracy McCubbin Make Space for Happiness by Tracy McCubbin

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"We need to be the one to break the cycle before the thing you've inherited passes down to the next generation. You might think that your inheritance is cash or a house, but it could actually just be trauma. So be the one to break the cycle." - Dr Jan Eppingstall

For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/

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This week, I am going to talk about four teeny tiny things that are making a bigger difference to my dehoarding efforts than, in all fairness, they should.

They are punching above their weight, as ideas go.

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"Sometimes plans work for a bit and then they stop suiting us or they stop suiting the circumstances.

Sometimes they were never quite right in the first place. And if you get stubborn and dig your heels in because you said you'd do it this way even when that's not working, all that does is disadvantage you and the progress you could be making if you weren't setting yourself up to fail"

For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/

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