T&A Talk Sex (T and A Talk Sex)

T&A chat with a panel of filmmakers and comedian, @EdGalvez (www.edgalvez.net, please link), about their craziest ‘meet up’ stories.  Then the gang gets deep in reflection on their lessons learned (and not) from past loves, and how to make the new ones count. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/141217_Ep25_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

Why do men love it? Why do woman avoid it? T&A talk with C Dexter, a homosexual makeup  artist, about his experience giving and receiving and all the insights and tricks he has to offer. Plus, T&A share how they turned from blowjob prudes to hungry fellatio goddesses and what might be getting in the way of the bliss of the blowjob. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/150107_Ep26_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

T&A talk with Veronica Monet (www.theshamefreezone.com), veteran escort turned Sexologist, about the new research on female ejaculation- what is it, who can do it and how?  Plus, how to make your anger empower you, your relationship and bring you hotter sex. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/150114_Ep27_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

A gets called out on her #vesperstyle vibrator necklace! Then T&A talk with Erika Lyremark, business coach and author of ‘Think Like a Stripper: Business Lessons to up your confidence, attract more clients and rule your market’ about her journey from stripper to international mogul and her veteran’s perspective on the strip club industry and why it may not be so ...

T&A share their own forays with group sex, then talk with anthropologist Dr. Kate Frank, who submerged herself in researching the world of sex clubs and sex parties to uncover the truth about why we do it… and why we fear it. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/150120_Ep29_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

‘A’ shares the ins and outs getting her first ‘Sexological Body Work’ session and then the girls talk with Veronica Monet, a former Courtesan of 14 years who made $20k a date!  Veronica, author of ‘Veronica Monet’s Sex Secrets of Escorts: Tips from a Pro’ shares her fascinating journey through the sex industry, along with some of her insightful discoveries into sex and intimacy only a gifted pro could know.  Plus, listen in on her thoughts on sex trafficking, where the real solutions lie, and #sexworkerrights.  A fascinating woman and a must listen!

T&A watch #50shadesofgrey and report back with BDSM expert Jean Franzblau Jean Franzblau who explains what makes Anastasi and Christian tick and reveals the ins and outs of the BDSM world.  Plus, how to safely get into your own #50shadesofgrey life and resources galore on where to find your own dominant, submissive and play dungeon.  

T&A talk with somatic sex educator and relationship coach Charlie Glickman, co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure” on masculinity in the modern day and prostate pleasure- our resistance to getting it, our resistance to giving it and how to make it the hottest (and most pleasurable) thing you’ve ever done in the bedroom. Show Notes What is Somatic Sex Education?  (26:09/30:32) Just as in all other areas of our lives, our sexual tastes change as we get older. (27:20) So many of us tune out or ‘go inside our heads’ during sex-that will inhibit the experience you are able to have. (31:05) How can working with a Somatic Sex Educator be a totally different experience than exploring sexuality with your partner?  (32:25) When speaking on Masculinity, Charlie starts with a brainstorm exercise that asks the group to describe the aspects of a ‘Real Man’.   (33:10) Over the many years he’s been doing this exercise across all spectrums of society, the results are pretty consistent regardless of the specific group.  (33:47) Find Links, Resources & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/?p=274

T&A talk with sociologist Chauntelle Tibbals, author of "Exposure: A Sociologist Explores, Sex, Society and Adult Entertainment" about her research in the industry. If you have any judgements and concerns about the effects of (as A does), listen in as Dr. Chauntelle reports back from deep inside 's world and offers the inside scoop to help shed light on all our misconceptions, including the ill-use of you and how, and why, we need to develop our palette.

T&A talk latest trending topics: Emily Nagoski's NY Times article, Nothing is Wrong with Your Sex Drive, and ladies, ain't no shame in arousing your desire the way you want - research that even if it means watching your kind of , a vibrator with a facetime camera - say what?, and why we should have sex before marriage! 

a.k.a. Eating Out, Muff Diving or any other Euphemism you prefer! T&A talk honestly with comedian, Brigitte Dow (queer POV) and cinematographer, Brendan Swift (male POV) on the art of cunnilingus, and the complicated relationship we have with it.  What are common stigmas about hygiene and why? Can diet improve taste down there? And ladies, if a man wants to dive, don't be your own worst enemy by getting in your head! Learn a few tips & truths along the way. 

T&A unlock the mysteries of our pleasure chemical with guest, Susan Kuchinskas, author ofThe Chemistry of Connection - the science behind oxytocin in our bodies,  and its implications for us as social beings, Is monogamy natural or a social construct? Plus, how our behavioral patterns & the way we love are shaped as early as the first time we breast feed, and how can we adapt to be better at loving.  The good news is we're pretty good at learning & evolving!

It's not that your sex drive isn't there - it might not be lighting up due to the backwards way we understand women's desire and arousal cycle. This is a must listen!! Plus, Emily talks about the need to get over our cultural shame around sex because it's killing our desire! Emily Nagoski is author of Come As You Are: The New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life and blogs at TheDirtyNormal.com

A explores a mansion party and hooks up with a married couple while T tries to grow some balls to make the first move. On #Trending, a new documentary Monogamish is set for 9/2015 release featuring Dan Savage, Chris Ryan and more taking a look at how we love in the modern day.  Meanwhile Purvi Patel is caught in the Modern Witch Hunt and millenials are all for contraception... but are we fighting the right fight?

T&A talk with Lucky Mor, creator of F*ck, I love You, and filmmaker, Sean S. Bloch, on the Buddhist perspective of love and monogamy from Zen practitioner, Fabrizio Chiesa's new blog, A Buddhist’s Insights: Sustaining Love In Relationships, on the film Monogamish &... is how can sustained love be possible for me?

T&A face their future as possible baby makers and open up with comedian Madison Shepard (@madisonshepard). As the birth rate declines in America, and European countries watch their populations dwindle, hear the fears, concerns, thoughts and desires of three women in America facing the choice of whether or not to have kids.

T&A talk with Dan Ilic, investigative humorist & Senior Satire Producer at Al Jazeera America, and Stuart Campbell, screenwriter & actor,on the elements of control and surrender in relationship dynamics.  Do overly accomodating men kill our sex drive?  And in the modern day are we ok with women submitting and men dominating? Or is this oppressive?

Bonus Side Chat: T&A discuss Bruce Jenner's interview with Diane Sawyer, and ponder what the decision to go transgender says about our culture and our societal pressures to identify as "male" or "female".  Traditional gender roles are blurring from the workplace to the home: is transgender a physical representation of that? We mention a great TED TALK: Norman Spack: How I Help Transgender Teens Become Who They Want to Be

T&A talk with actor Luzer Twersky from the film 'Felix and Meira' about his life in the Hasidic Jewish community, why he left and his relationship to sexuality then and now.

T&A talk with co-author, Nikita Coulumbe, of The Demise of Guys (along with co-author, Dr. Philip Zimbardo out May 7th) and Keeley Rankin on what's really going on with young men today? How did they fall behind the curve? And what can we do for healthy development, both sexually and emotionally. Nikita and Keeley are co-creators of the blog, www.bettersexed.org, and chat with us about today's challenges for men. See Philip Zimbardo's TED TALK here: http://www.ted.com/talks/zimchallenge?language=en 

T&A host an all women’s round-table discussion with Carie Belin, nurse practitioner and creator of online magazine, The Valorist (http://www.valorist.com/),  and Melissa Macedo, actress, musician (https://m.soundcloud.com/musicmacedo), and creator of the live show, Dirty Talk (http://Www.worldkinensemble.com), on the real motivations for female-on-female cattiness and how this attitude towards our own sex may be holding women back in the workplace.  And If so, what on earth can we do about it?

T&A chat with Carol Reynolds, famed Body Dynamics coach to the actors, on her work in body awareness.  Hear how our posture and our bodies can be key to understanding our deepest hang-ups, including our sexuality!  Carol shares specific examples, and discusses the importance of awareness, how certain exercises can release lifelong-held emotions that hold us back in life, in relationships and in the bedroom. Find out more about her classes and body dynamics at T. Schreiber Studio or at Caymichael Patton Studio in New York City.

T&A examine the need for fidelity and explore when boundaries can hurt us and help us.  Plus A shares her experience with being the 'other woman' and the girls offer a new definition of fidelity in this fresh look at cheating. See Esther Perel's TED TALK here

People are baffled by Bruce Jenner's transition to Caitlyn, but are more people attracted to transgender than we think? T&A talk with comedian Christopher Corbin from Jane the Virgin on his recent coming out as 'transgender attracted' in an effort to understand the transgender community.

T attends her first 'FemDom' BDSM party and deals with the challenges of becoming a dominant female.  Hear what it's really like to be inside a BDSM 'Dungeon', who really attends these parties and why, and why T is going back for more!    Want to check one out for yourself? This is a good place to start www.fetlife.com    

T&A chat with Diego Wallraff, a Sexological bodyworker, who explains how breaking through your sexual barriers isn’t just about the orgasm. Plus, A meets her sexual match, the band ADAM’s new masturbation music video, and T’s busy mind dulls her orgasm – how do you keep THAT from happening?? Due to a family emergency, T&A are posting episode 11 of their podcast.  A sort of "rerun", except that, until now it's been unavailable! 

Happy 4th of July, dear Americans!  Did you know many states have antiquated sex laws still on the books? You could even be arrested for PDA in some states.  T reads a list of outrageous laws in each state of America with guest, Rena Hundert, comedian and character actress, chiming in with her thoughts and opinions on the matter.   Sadly, A is still away, supporting her family in a time of emergency.  We are sending her lots of love and support!  

**Sorry for the technical difficulties and 3 min of empty space!  HERE is the REAL episode:)  growing pains UGH. While 'T' is away and working it at a comedy fest, 'A' shares some 'strange', sex practices from around the world.  From ritual cheating to adolescent love huts to wife stealing, it all sounds kind of out there... but is it really?  Maybe there is more to learn from these 'backward' countries than we think?   

T&A discuss their recent adventures in navigating sexual openess when A shares her epiphany from Magic Mike XXL and her fears of being TOO sexually open (ehem, slutty) after an amazing sex body work session.  Meanwhile, T wonders if she's as open as she thought when a lover acuses her of being in her head.  Wha?? As the ladies are still recording in little closets around the country, please forgive the travel audio :)

T&A take a look at the CA Yes-Means-Yes Sexual Consent Law in this heated round table chat with actor Evan O'Brien and comedian Madison Shepard.  Listen in as they discuss why it's so necessary, but is the need for such a law the result of the discomfort American's have talking about sex?   And... is it really the best we can do to empower women?  

T&A talk with Andrew McGregor, international writer and humanitarian, about his experience in the dating and mating game durring his extensive stays in countries all over the world, including Japan, Kenya, the Netherlands, Europe (and many more!) and how it all compares to relationships from his hometown country, America.  They talk about what he loves, hates and where Americans fall behind.  A fascinating and intelligent cross-cultural comparison from one of the most interesting men you'll ever meet, writer, humanitarian and founder of Chess-Boxing, he is also known by his fans and friends as King Drew- you'll have to listen in to hear that story:)   You can find his work at www.mightykingdrew.com  

You've heard all the crazy sex stories at Burning Man from orgies, insta-stranger sex and all the kink ... but what is it REALLY like at Burning Man?  T&A talk with 10- year Burning Man Veteran and film maker, Gina Levy (www.GinaLevy.com) along with two-time Burner and comedian, Madison Shepard (@MadisonShepard) about the history and inside scoop on what's really going on, and why Burning Man is for everyone.  Yes, even you. An inside look into the sexual culture of the Burning Man Festival.

'A' gets seduced... FOR REAL.  Hear A's recent revelation about being charmed and seduced and the cultural belief that kept her from embracing it when T&A discuss modern dating and the lost importance of seduction in courtship.  What is at the core of seduction? Is it really necessary any more and please don't get tricked by fake seduction.      

T&A talk with Melinda Penny Washington, a registered dietician, about her jourey from a successful but sick sales rep to a happy, healthy and whole person by changing her diet.  Hear Melinda talk about the importance of a healthy diet for our hormones and sexuality and her discovery of the magic, and science, of Essential Oils.  No, they arent's just natural perfumes... each has a scientific affect on the body, mind, and emotions.  Hear about how they work, how to detect quality and which ones turned Melinda into a sensual goddess.   Young Living Essential Oils: https://www.youngliving.com/en_US Melinda's company - Healthy Balance 3:  http://healthybalance3.com/ https://www.facebook.com/pages/Healthy-Balance-3/178969952859?sk=info&tab=page_info  

T&A are very excited to talk with Dr. Mindy Chateauvert, historian and author of the book, 'Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to Slutwalk' in part one of this two-part show.  Sex worker's rights are a hotly debated topic and everyone seems to have an opinion about its possible legalization- but do we really know what we're talking about?  Mindy answers all of our questions and gives us  an incredibly educated and eye-opening account of all sides of the debate.  Plus, A shares her experience from being in the industry and the girls talk about the damaging affects of America's 'Whorephobia' with Mindy (Mindy's term, we can't claim that one). See Dr. Melinda Chateuvert's work at www.sexworkersunite.com and follow her @whorestorian

Part 2! Sorry for the audio with this half everyone, still working out tech difficulties.  A bit of an echo but still AMAZING info so bear with us and keep listening!  Thanks for your patience, and if you'd like to read the transcript instead, click here: http://www.tatalksex.com/transcript-of-should-we-legalize-prostitution-with-author-dr-melinda-chateauvert-part-2-only/   T&A are very excited to talk with Dr. Mindy Chateauvert, historian and author of the book, 'Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to Slutwalk' in part one of this two-part show.  Sex worker's rights are a hotly debated topic and everyone seems to have an opinion about its possible legalization- but do we really know what we're talking about?  Mindy answers all of our questions and gives us  an incredibly educated and eye-opening account of all sides of the debate.  Plus, A shares her experience from being in the industry and the girls talk about the damaging affects of America's 'Whorephobia' with Mindy (Mindy's term, we can't claim that one). See Dr. Melinda Chateuvert's work at www.sexworkersunite.com and follow her @whorestorian

Love, can often come from a selfish place, even when it doesn't appear to be so.  But can we spot the difference between real love and false love?  T&A Talk with Dr. Richard Cookerly, relational psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Real Love False Love on the difference between the two, why learning real love can literally save our lives, and exactly how to go about changing our love practices.  A fascinating examination of the ways the American culture has learned to love and how to go about changing it.  Check out Dr. Cookerly's work at www.whatislovedrcookerly.com  

T&A talk about T's first experience at Burning Man and how it's not all drugs and sex!  Hear her stories and what made Burning Man so unique to her, her challenging assimilation back into society, and what made it such a stress free environment- despite no showers and dust storms. T goes to Burning Man for the first time and is here to tell you how amazing it is!  To begin with, T was really resisting going to Burning Man, even thinking about selling her ticket at the last minute!  But, she realized that because she was resisting it so strongly, that was a sign that she needed to go andpush her boundaries.  What an experience!  It’s so powerful and beautiful that it’s hard to express in conversation but we’re going to give you the highlights.  Stereotypes and Rumors The further you get from Black Rock City, NV, where the event is held every year, the less people understand it.  Burning Man is surrounded by myths and clichés, with tales and visions of a free-for-all of drugs and sex.    Resources & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/ts-first-experience-at-burning-man-ep-60-pushing-boundaries/ 

Melissa Silverstein (@melsil), writer, activist, and leading expert in gender parity in Hollywood (founder of www.womenandfilm.com and the Athena Film Festival talks with us about the facts of gender inequality in entertainment and how the disparity impacts our lives more than we think! After, T&A chat with eachother about how we, as women, grapple with erasing a history of silencing women in the public sphere.  Show Notes Are people aware that there is a lack of opportunity for women in film? (03:00) How many women are really working on the Top 250 grossing films? (03.25) Are the stats any different for TV?  (03:55) 84% of first-time TV directors are men and that affects a woman’s future in film?  (04:35) Women don’t get the opportunities to direct $100m movies (06:32) We all live in a world where an unconscious bias affects us  (08.28) There is an assumption that animated movies and action movies such as Superman are geared towards males and therefore even the characters and extras are overwhelmingly male (09:00) When women fail at something, they just fail out of the industry. When men fail, they get another chance  (11:18) People are hungry and desperate to see things that reflect themselves (13:25) Women are kept out of high-budgets because their competence is not trusted (14:15) Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/melissa-silverstein-women-in-hollywood-gender-parity-ep-61/

'A' reads her blog post on the film, Suffragette, starring Carrie Mulligan and Meryl Streep, directed by Sarah Gavron.  A's experience of the film screening at Telluride Film Festival provoked emotional turmoil, and brought up many of her own frustrations with the current state inequality in America.  While Suffragette follows the story of women fighting for the right to vote in the early part of the century, 'A' felt the impact from centuries of oppression for the female gender to present day - how insecurity and fear have been deeply embedded in our psyche as women, and how we might go about eradicating these hindrances slowing us down, and how we as a society, including men, can find a balance in allowing our feminine energies to exist without shame.  .  

'A' got a surprising diagnosis that threatens her reputation with her lovers...A bad smelling vagina can totally happen to you, but let's talk about it, so you don't feel ashamed, and you know what to do when it happens to you.  How the common medical recommendation of "have less sexual partners" just won't cut it anymore for the modern woman!  And guys, as awkward as this might sound, you want to listen up, because the more you know about vaginas, the better you'll be able to love them.  Show Notes Bacterial vaginosis is caused by E. coli in your vagina      (07:00) The mouth also carries the E. coli bacteria        (07:51) What are the popular themes and stigma surrounding female problems? (09:05) Can you get bacterial infections without being sexually active? (09:21) Bacterial vaginosis is NOT an STD and one of the major contributors is actually nylon underwear (11:30) What is the “Boric acid trick”?  (16:20) Vaginal problems can happen in times of high stress because the nervous system is tied to the lymphatic system (18:43) How can your period and sexual intercourse change the normal pH of your vagina? (20:00) The still ever-present overwhelming and subversive advice that less sexual partners means you won’t get vaginal problems (20:55) Did you know that men can get a pill to kill yeast that they might be carrying to their partners? (22:10) (the pill mentioned is Diflucan) Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/is-your-smell-down-there-normal-ep-63/

The first FDA approved female , Flibanserin(aka Adyii), will be available for consumers this October, 2015!  BUT, before you jump on the band wagon there's a few things about the creation of this drug you might want to hear about...  T&A talk with Liz Canner, director of the documentary film 'Orgasm inc.' about the race for the pharmaceutical's holy grail, how the 'need' for this drug even came into being, and big pharma's influence on our sexuality.  Fascinating, informative and uncomfortably eye-opening. Watch Orgasm inc. on Netflix, iTunes and everywhere else: www.orgasminc.org And, check out A's blog, 'Female : A Cautionary Tale'  for a deeper look at Flibanserin's story Show Notes In clinical trials, the subjects kept a daily diary and across the board, they recorded no significant daily increase in sexual desire (03:47) Who started the rumors of sexism and injustice at the FDA?  (05:09) Flibanserin was originally developed as an SSRI to treat depression, but it didn’t work as an anti-depressant  (05:40) What is ‘Conditioned Branding’?  (08:05) What is HSDD and is it real? (08:50) Drug companies have to have a clearly defined disease to start testing.  (09:45) The doctors that came together to define Female Sexual Dysfunction had ties to 22 drug companies. (10:28) Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/need-female--think-twice-before-you-pop-that-magic-pill/

T&A chat with Joe Praino, super dude, and host of both the Dirty Sports and Kooks of Komedy podcasts, about women and when the ladies cross the line at a bar or in the bedroom! Do women take liberties that men can't and is that okay?  Where do we draw the line? T&A also interviewed prominent podcasting men at the LA Podfest about their experiences with feeling violated by a woman. Interview SoundBites at LA Podfest from: Walker Uhl of The Deeper Dive Podcast , Mike Siegel of Travel Tales Podcast, and Murray Valeriano of Road Stories Podcast        Show Notes For a typical guy, if a girl is coming on super strong, then he’s probably going to be into it. It has to bepretty weird and over-the-top to scare a guy away.  (2:50) There’s a perception by some women that you can’t ever really cross a line because men stereotypically are ‘game’ for action (5:51) The most attractive to a guy is the woman who wants him  (6:22) But, coming on so strong that it jumps normal steps in the process can throw everything off (6:52) Find Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/can-a-woman-be-too-sexually-aggressive-w-joe-praino-of-the-dirty-sports-podcast/

T&A, both diagnosed with HPV at varying points in their lives, get to the bottom of why there's so much conflicting information around HPV out there.  Expert, Dr. Diane Harper, who has been heard on NPR, Katie Couric, CNN, and other sites, fills us in on the 101 of HPV to the research and why it's important to have regular checkups for healthcare and prevention.  How does HPV work? Why is it so common? How can I prevent it? Do the vaccines work? Why don't they test men?! All of your questions are answered in a clear, concise way, thanks to Dr. Harper!  We know you'll feel as relieved as we do after listening to this episode.   Show Notes HPV is a tiny virus that has been with us forever-literally since the time of dinosaurs! (4:15) It literally bounces around on skin.  It does not live in blood or other bodily fluids (5:53) What are the avenues of transmission for HPV?  Hint: it’s not only our sexual organs (06:04) It’s definitely a survivor.  The way  it infects the skin cells allows it to hide from the immune system (06:54) Find relevant links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/hpv-should-i-be-afraid-of-it-the-truth-behind-the-std-with-dr-diane-harper-ep-66/

A woman's period is largely resented by both men and women, one of the 'downsides' to being a woman.  But can a woman's cycle be a missing key to greater sex and intimacy- for men and women?  T&A talk with author, midwife and sexuality teacher, Sheri Winston, founder of the Intimate Arts Center to learn about the cycle in a whole new way.  Hear how to shift your perspective, and your approach to you or your partner's period, and most importantly, why.  Plus, why having sex durring a period is a great thing! Show Notes The words moon, menstruation and lunar all come from the same root.  Before the advent of light, a woman’s cycle was literally dictated by the stage of the moon (7:45) If we think about that lunar cycle, it makes it easy to understand why our energy also waxes and wanes in tune with the fullness of the moon.  When the moon is full, we ovulate, and our energy is at it’s highest because Mother Nature is telling us it’s time to procreate  (9:15) Find all relevant links & FULL show notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/the-period-how-can-it-work-for-me-instead-of-against-me-wsheri-winston-ep-66/

In all this talk about gender equaity in the workplace, T&A tackle the deeper equality issue of approaching work and success with feminine qualities versus masculine, and how both men and women can benefit from ditching their old paradigms and finding a new way of approaching success.  The girls talk with Lisa Marie Jenkins, professional coach, speaker, & author of 'WAKE UP, BEAUTY! It's Not About the Prince' on how exactly we can go about this,  why it's so important and how this affects our male/female relationships. Show Notes Historically, men were protectors and providers; women were compassionate nurturers. Both sexes were playing very specific roles (11:40) The 70’s moved women into the angry, bra burning stage which was necessary to get the ball rolling but that is NOT what feminism is about (11:51) The year 1985 is a benchmark-that’s the year when women started earning 50% of all college degrees (12:12)  Today, we earn 60-65% of all degrees, Bachelors and Masters’ combined and we’ve been in the work force since the mid-80’s (12:16)  Can a woman be nice and competent in today’s workplace? (15:15)  Despite the higher numbers for advanced degrees, women only represent 4.7% of CEO’s in Fortune 500 companies and at major tech companies women only represent 20% of employees in all roles (18:30)  Where and how do women struggle the most in the workplace?  (21:00) What is ‘tentative speech’ and how does it hurt women?  (21:52)  Find Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/she-doesnt-want-sex-could-be-her-work-place-w-lisa-marie-jenkins-ep-68/

Comedians, Ester Steinberg (@esterk) & Matty Goldberg (author of Brain Humor), join T&A to reflect on this Thanksgiving about past sexual regrets and what we've all learned about love, life, relationships, and how we could of handled that one night stand a little better.  We all share intimate stories, and laugh along the way - A feel good episode about those cring-worthy moments! Show Notes What are the top 5 things people regret on their deathbeds?  (7:09)  “I wish I had lived truer to myself and not what other people expected of me” (7:59)  What type of guys was Ester into?  Did that work out for her?  (9:40) What scene from movie ‘Sideways’ makes Matty think of his biggest sexual regrets? (12:15)  Does it really help to say that you’re sorry for being a dick after the fact?  (15:04)  One of Ester’s pet peeves is men assuming she wants a relationship just because she’s female-can’t she just have meaningless sex too?! (15:34)    Find Refs & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/sexual-regrets-what-have-we-learned-happy-thanksgiving-roundtable-ep-69/

Reid Mihalko joins T&A to answer a question that has been on the minds of our listeners: How can I get my partner to open up sexually? or at least, how can I even get my partner interested in sex, and hopefully its exploration? Reid guides us through the larger picture of why we might be having sexual roadblocks in relationships, and how we can create clear communication with those whom we desire to have great sex! From there, T and Reid role play a common scenario of how a husband can approach his wife about reengaging in active intimacy and more enriching sex for both of them.  We get nuts & bolts, along with a deeper understanding, and how to find resources from here! Find Reid at www.ReidAboutSex.com and find more about our specific discussion at www.ReidAboutSex.com/TATalkSex Find our Holiday discount codes on site: www.TATalkSex.com Show Notes Our culture does not teach us to assess if someone is actually a good fit for us so we end up with someone who may be ‘nice’ but may not be on our same sexual wavelength. (09:05) We are not given the permission to discuss sexual ‘bottom lines’ b/c our previous generations didn’t look for sexual compatibility-they looked for stability & safety.  Duration was the metric of success and the way you showed that you ‘cared’ is that you put up with more.  (10:21) Find Resource Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/how-to-open-up-sexually-can-i-get-my-partner-to-go-there-ep-70/        

So many factors out there in the world affect our sexuality and ultimately, our ability to orgasm, including media, myths, education, mis-education, , on and on...  In this episode we talk with Sheri Winston, author of 'The Anatomy of Female Arousal' and founder of the Intimate Arts Center, about the myths and the realities of the female orgasm, how to orgasm with your parnter and perhaps even during penetration.  While romance novels and say we should be having mind blowing orgasms while riding a horse... in the rain... on command and with no foreplay, the reality is quite different- and it doesn't mean we're broken. SHOW NOTES: Quick Note:  Stay tuned through this episode to hear about our special holiday discount codes.  Information at end of show notes!   Do you feel broken because you don’t orgasm in a certain way, or even at all, with your partner?  We get some pretty bad ideas about orgasm from media and culture and many women think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them if they’re not having the ‘Big O’ with their partners.   So, many women only achieve orgasm through masturbation and, even worse, fake orgasm with their partners, a strategy that leaves both partners at a disadvantage both now and for the future-   LINK FOR FULL SHOW NOTES HERE : http://www.tatalksex.com/female-orgasm-myth-vs-reality-how-to-get-it-right-w-sheri-winston-ep-71/          

T&A talk with Mark W. Gray, the man behind 'Professor Puppet' on sex as a mature man, the choice of wether or not to have kids, and how to make the holidays special wether you're single, alone, married, or divorced.  PLUS, Professor Hans Von Puppet tells us how to spice up the romance for the holidays. Show Notes Why should men masturbate before a date?  (08:31) If you see something, say something!  Speaking up about what’s bothering you in your partner is essential to your relationship. (21:43) A lot of things can change our perspective on life, but the nice thing about having a child is that it’s another person that you are connected to for life. (27:00) He’s found that having two children is almost easier because it takes the pressure of the single child. (29:03) Can we make ourselves change our outlook on having children? (33:00) We are pulled in two different directions because we’re taught to have a career at the same time as we’re being societally pressured to have children. (34:40) Are we selling ourselves short by not aggressively pursuing parenthood? (35:35) Can caring for a child become a crutch, giving us an excuse to stop caring for our own selves? (37:11) There’s an illusion that we’re in complete control of where our life is going and sometimes the derailment can be as important as the path. (37:35) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/an-older-man-convinces-ta-to-have-kids-w-professor-hans-von-puppet-ep-72/

Giselle Jones, a sex therapist at The Center for Healthy Sex, mindfulness facilitator, yoga instructor, and licensed pyschotherapist (phew!), talks with T&A about how to clear our minds and connect with our bodies for better sex! She's left no stone unturned in all the factors that contribute to a stymied orgasm.  She shares her wisdom, common issues that come up with patients, and most importantly, how we can all solve this problem with a few practical tools.  She even guides a mini meditation at the end of this episode.  Her voice is so soothing, your tension melts when she says 'hello'!  Show Notes We are bombarded with sexual images that are not realistic that can affect our sexuality. (09:10) What is the definition of mindfulness? (9:48) What is the enemy of enjoyable, juicy sex? (11:30) Listen here for an interesting description of the UCLA MARC Institute’s secular study program for mediation. (15:12) On an evolutionary level, our brains have not advanced that far from prehistoric times when it comes to the ‘fight or flight’ response. (15:50) What are two approaches we can take when looking at orgasm? (17:31) What are some things they do at The Center for Healthy Sex?  (19:55) It can be difficult to get people to ‘buy into’ the idea that sexual ‘problems’ are more emotional-based than they believe. (21:29) What common problem and response do women face that keeps us in a heightened state of anxiety? (22:34) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/in-your-head-during-sex-try-this-w-giselle-jones-sex-therapist-mindfulness-facilitator-ep-73/

It's time to take stock, and make sure our ducks are in a row, as we close out 2015 and begin a new year!  Comedians and Roast Battlers, Rena Hundert, Sarah Afkami (Comedy Central tv writer), and Robbie Kirkhuff (featured on The Todd Glass Show), join T&A to reminisce about 2015 - the good, bad, and the ugly! Robbie's Halloween takes an interesting turn with his first threesome, Rena masters the art of sexting, and Sarah gets honest about finding her focus in 2016! T&A share their personal journeys, what they gained from their lovers, and push this gaggle of comedians to consider what they really want for 2016. + You can Instagram or tweet us with the hashtag #2015sexcount or email T&A with a photo of your sex count number displayed, and the best entry wins a destiny card reading from yours truly, 'A'! Beware: this episode is a rollicking good time & may send your holiday hot toddy shooting through your nose with laughter!  Show Notes What is ‘spit roasting?’  (5:49) Out with it-who had the highest ‘number’ for 2015!?  (8:22) Listen here for the juicy details of Robby and Omid’s threesome.  (10:17) If everyone on the show was a monkey, what kind of monkey would they be? (18:10) Does online/smartphone sex count toward your numbers for the year? (20:03)  Wow-what was Robbie doing when he climaxed SIX times in one night!? (27:02) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/2015s-sexy-time-in-review-happy-new-year-a-comedy-roundtable-chat-ep-74/

With a new year ahead, forward motion means we have to stop and take stock of where we are and where we've been.   In this episode, T&A share some of their most important insights, and question some of their dating & relationship habits that may be holding them back in life.  Listen in and get inspired as the girls have an in-depth and honest conversation about balancing love and career, evaluate their compulsions and desires in life, and come up with some new habits for 2016 to help them reach their goals.   Show Notes What are T’s mantras for the year?  (1:35) What’s been A’s theme for the year? (2:18) What prompted A to do a 5-year review of her life?  What one thing did she see that was consistent all the way through?  (8:05) Is there safety in the drama of relationships that is keeping A from focusing on what she really wants to be doing? (10:35) What pattern has T noticed in the men that she chooses? (11:17) What realization did A have about herself and the men that she dates? (14:51) What feelings are motivating A in taking action in her career? (18:52) Do men have the same conflicting sentiments regarding work vs. relationships? (19:47) What moment of clarity did A have regarding her own talents and success while on vacation? (23:03) It’s a natural human trait to surround yourself with those you admire.  Was T taking it one step further, though? (27:54) When you have sex with someone, is there a subconscious desire to take on some of their qualities? (29:25) FULL Show Notes and Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/are-we-sacrificing-our-career-for-men-ta-review-our-2015-dating-habits-ep-75/

What if sex really was as important as eating, drinking, and sleeping in our every day lives? Amy Jo Goddard, accomplished sexpert and author, chats with T&A about how she got into this line of work, her own sexual education, and the lens of sexuality through which she sees the world!  A true honor to have this leading expert, speaker, and workshop educator join us with her honesty and enthusiasm around this topic.  She also explains the detail that went into making this book, based on her experience with clients and their personal journeys, and her commitment to accurate drawings of genital anatomy!  Show Notes Our culture devalues sexuality all of the time for many reasons (9:42).  We learn to treat sexuality as something that we only pay attention to when we want to fix it, not something that can be used throughout our lives for growth. (10:32) For most people, they learn sexuality from partners, so it’s luck of the draw what you learn. (13:20) Is sexual energy the same as creative energy? Why is that so important? (14:30) 2016 is going to be a ‘Power Year’ for ‘A’.  What’s that all about? (51:08) Let’s redefine sexual empowerment. (19:40) What does it mean to be ‘at home with ourselves’? (20:09) Is sexual energy a matter of simple physics?  How?  (21:35)  What is one of the best ways to ‘fuel the flame’ of sexual energy? (22:16) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/blog/

H. Alan Scott, comedian, writer for Vice, Fusion, and co-host of the Golden Girls podcast, Out On the Lanai, offers the gay male perspective with anal play and sex to help T&A untease this challenging sex act.  'A' shares her frustration with lovers who are eager to play back there, but don't know what they're doing.  Do you want to have anal sex with your partner, but they don't? Are you curious & don't know where to start? Do you do it, but feel like it's an unpleasant chore? Take the time to learn the art of anal play, so that you both can have fun trying something new! 

An Open Marriage is one of the most fascinating anomelies of modern society.  Typically judged for being weird, bizarre or too 'out there'... arent' you curious about what it can really be like?  We are!  And that's why we brought on Little Ralphie of Lily Vonschtup's 'Monday Night Tease',  who shares his experience as a male burlesque performer and bravely gives us an intimate look inside his ten year marriage to the love of his life... who also has a boyfriend... who lives in their home with them.  Not an effort to convert you, but a fascinating opportunity to understand a different way of looking at love and life.  Happy listening!   Also- check out Little Ralphie and team's conversation comedy podcast www.Midnight BreakfastPodcast.com

After T's dive into female domination, the girls explore the other side of the coin and report back on their experiences with submission when T goes to a female sub party and A meets up with a Dom from Fetlife!  It's easy to toss it off as 'kink', but listen in to find out why we don't.

T&A talk with Jennifer Fink, producer of the Sundance Grand Jury winning short film, Thunder Road, and a romantically saavy male model for top brands like Ralph Lauren and Nautica on the subject of Valentine's Day, what is romance, and how can we create real intention that makes your paramour feel special.  Get on board with our failures, successes, funny stories, and good advice, born from personal experiences!

T shares a lesson from a recent ,family tragedy then the girls dive into the day's topic and T&A share their inner decision processes on what makes a guy a friend versus a lover.   Are their absolutes? checklists? What makes the cut and what doesn't... or is it a little more complicated than that?  T&A share their stories and deeper insights into what makes a guy a yay or a nay?

Why is sex with him or her so damn good?! Is it real love or is it a distraction from the truth? Listen in as T&A reflect on the best sex they've had and what was really motivating it.  In a culture that portrays sexual addiction as love,  T&A question their most powerful sexual experiences and discover what was really behind them.

T&A talk with Jessie Kahnweiler, creator of the boundary-pushing web series, The Skinny, that deals with bulimia, sex, and other sordid topics.  Jessie shares what she wants her audience to get out of her new show, as well her earlier short films, such as "Meet My Rapist" and "Jessie F*cks A Vet", and chimes in on T&A's convo about what our parents did or didn't teach us about sex. The Skinny is produced by Jill Soloway, premiered at Sundance, and can be found on the platform, Refinery 29. Jessie's IG @JessieBethKahnweiler / Twitter @JessieKahnweiler http://jessiekahnweiler.com/ http://www.refinery29.com/jessie-kahnweiler-the-skinny SHOW NOTES:  Jessie obsessions inspire her work (2:30) Jessie discusses how her rape experience still impacts her life (3:07) Jessie discuses the subtleties of an eating disorder and how it's influencing her new web series (6:16) So you're a "feminist comedienne"? & "Don't read the internet comments!" (13:22) Let's talk about blowjobs: what did you learn about sex from your family? (18:30) How our parents affected our sexuality (27:30) People Mentioned Jessie Kahnweiler http://www.imdb.com/name/nm3142059/ Eckhart Tolle: https://www.eckharttolle.com/ Other Links:  "Meet My Rapist": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bAAPkqn8Q0 "The Rape Girl":  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXoC9Jk-r3A Jessie Gets Arrested: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJ2b7woDYnw Jessie Fucks a Vet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fucv9JRolI

Let's change the paradigm on orgasm inequality, and understand why women aren't cumming, so that we can all cum more often in the future!  

In today's world of sexual liberation, Tinder, and hook-ups is it worth waiting before jumping in the sac with someone?    Join T&A as they dive into their personal experiences of promiscuity and share why they wait and why they don't. 

Kim Kardashian took a nude bathroom selfie and everyone had something to say.  Pink even called Kim out for sending a disempowering message to young women.  Is our automatic distaste for KK's photo just another form of slut shaming? In this episode T&A have a lively round-table discussion with Mark W. Gray of youtube sensation Professor Hans Von Puppet and comedian Courtney Banks on wether or not we should all be taking a nude selfie or two.  

T&A talk with profesional matchmakers Adelle Gomelsky Kelleher and Karen Law from the national dating service 'Three Day Rule', (www.threedayrule.com) and get a fascinating  look into the dating world- Why aren't people finding their mate? What are the biggest mistakes men and women each make when they meet a potential partner?  PLUS, Adelle and Karen share their insights into why dating in the modern day is so difficult, and what we can all do about it.  This is a must listen for anyone out there looking for a partner- either for a night, or for your life!  

Have you ever wondered how other people get themselves off?  We probably think the rest of the world opperates like us, but newslfash-they don't!  In our crazy journey of sexuality, many times the conversations at the party end up on masturbation and what fascinated us was how different each person's self-love sessions were!  In this episode we have a round table chat with comedian and podcaster of the show 'What Did I do?' Ramsey Badawi (@ramsbad) and comedian O.P. (@swankyop) about why we masturbate, why O.P. doesn't masturbate, what each of us does to get off, the role of fantasy and even a fun little hands on exercise that EVERYONE SHOULD DO if you really want to know how your lover likes to be touched.   Show Notes Do you masturbate? (2:30) Yes, women can have wet dreams (6:40) Oh the Guilt! (10:32) How has it affected your sex life? (11:41) What's important when you masturbate? (18:10) vs. Fantasy (The Good Ol' Imagination) (24:11) Sex vs. masturbation (31:10) "A" gets curious about guys and their technique (36:35) Closing Thoughts: "T's" vote is that it's actually good for you, in healthy amounts.  It's only addiction if you're not getting things done as a result.   Links from Episode: What have I Done? podcast: http://www.whathaveidonepodcast.com/#omidandramsey Ramsey Badawi: http://ramseybadawi.com/ & Ramsey's Twitter/Instagram: @ramsbad Opie's Instagram: @swankyopie Book:  Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan)

Obi and Booda from Dude Panel are here!!! And T wants to know- how much is a guy planning the first time he has sex with you? She's had a few sessions that make her feel like they've masterminded the whole thing- is it true??Plus, we talk about touch, our cultural inhibitiions and how we can incorporate touch more into our regular friendships without it getting weird- or can we? Does touch always have something sexual to it?  And if it does, is that such a bad thing, or have we just grown up thinking about the whole thing backwards?  We love the guys at Dude Panel- where they answer girl's questions about guys day in and day out.  They're super insightful, funny and cute to boot! Check out their show at www.DudePanel.com and Dude Panel on YouTube.  

T&A talk with Jamal Johnson, life coach, sexuality coach and One Taste trained orgasmic meditator, on about the landmines we all carry within that can keep us from connecting more deeply with our partner.  We talk about how to find them, how to disarm them and other tips and tricks from Jamal that will help us all learn how to be more honest, and clear with ourselves, so we can be more available for a deeper, intimate connection with our partner. Find Jamal's work HERE: http://jamaljohnsoncoaching.com/ Join Jamal's team in Costa Rica to reconnect with your body, to grow, and learn HERE: http://www.bewellbeorgasmic.com/costarica/index.php

T&A's first official advice show!  Listeners wanna know, 'How can I get better at deep throating?  Do I need to?'  'How do I get my husband to be more sensual after ten years of marriage?' and 'I'm thinking about becoming a sugar baby... what do I need to know?'  Listen in as T&A dish their perspective, and some hilarious stories on hard lessons learned in the first edition of 'Ask T&A'.  Have a question?  Send an email to advice@TAtalkSex.com  Advice shows air the last wednsday of every month.    

Relationships are all about communication, and texting adds a whole new level to the dating game.  How many times have you huddled around your phone with your friends at the coffee shop drafting the perfect text to a love interest's comment after finally deciphering what you think they meant?  Yep, we've been there too.  So we came up with our top six texting rules that will keep your relationship- or booty call- alive and kickin' while hopefully making your life a little bit easier.

What weird sexual fantasies are you keeping to yourself? T&A share openly about their sexual fantasies with their guest, Sarah, comedian and writer for DICE, Chelsea Handler's Netflix show, Chelsea, and Comedy Central's The Legend of Chamberlain Heights, coming out this fall! We all have images and ideas that maybe surprise even ourselves.  Do you have shame or judgement around your own fantasies? What if you expressed them without judgment to understand yourself and your partner better? Join us as we explore our own fun, surprising fantasies honestly and openly, as well as our earliest fantasies that have shaped our sexual identity.  We just might activate your imagination! Write us with thoughts & questions at advice@tatalksex.com 

T&A talk with Scott Barry Kaufman, cognitive psychologist, author, and speaker about his article 'The Myth of the Alpha Male" to better understand what qualities women most want in a man.  Do we ladies prefer Alpha or Beta? It turns out it's a little more complicated and nuanced.  Tune in to better understand how we can attract the perfect mate.  ...and check out Scott's article at The Art of Manliness of you want to read from where our conversation started.  Find more info. about Scott and his other work on creativity and the mind HERE: www.ScottBarryKaufman.com  

Leah Knauer - actress & comedian voted one of Twitter's Funniest Women by SMOSH, & appeared on Not Safe with Nikki Glaser and Corporate, both on Comedy Central - talks with T&A about her time in abstinence club, and then the ladies talk openly about how to get over those breakups that hurt our hearts, and the age old problem of guys who don't get the hint that you're just not that into him.  What's the best way to handle all of these?! Leah shares openly, honestly, and with humor. 

In this month's advice episode listener's wanted to know where it's OK to cum on your partner and our thoughts on creampie eating, kissing after oral and even guys enjoying eating their own cum.  Plus, the rebound relationship, should it be encouraged rather than shunned?  And to top it all off, a great inquiry questioing the normalcy of period sex where T&A weigh in on the good, the bad, the ugly, and how to make it a success.  Email your questions to advice@TAtalkSex.com to get your questions answered for next month!    

In this lively and informative chat with Tripp host of the hot podcast, 'How To Talk To Girls', T&A get solid advice from a guy who's learned the hard way about dating and talking to women.  A social scientist of his own accord, Tripp shares some of his fascinating insights that are also- practical.  From key differences in men and women's communication styles, attraction and the friend zone, this is a great conversation to listen to if you want to be more natural, and succesfful, with women without having to follow douchy, dis-ingenuous 'bro' how-to's.  Check Tripp out @Trippadvice

Are you bored with sex? Not getting off like you used to? Maybe it's time to evolve! "How?", you ask?  Listen in as T&A discuss a new way of approaching sex that will keep you alive, invigorated, and in the game.  T gets honest about a profound shift in her sexual desire, and A helps process it with a breakdown of how we evolve as human beings in our sexuality to achieve mastery over our own desires - become the captain of our own ship.  How does our sex life evolve over the years? And why didn't anyone teach us this? We don't have to feel driven by our desires, but rather we can feel empowered by knowledge and experience as we choose the sexual experiences we want to have.. and with confidence.  

Feminism is a hot topic today! With so much pressure to be a feminist - or be "pro-fem", wearing a "this is what a feminist looks like" t-shirt - T&A had to ask, what does it mean to be a feminist? After an alarming audition for a network TV show, 'A' questioned 'are we going in the right direction?' Listen in as 3 generations of women - Helen (79), Gina, from Gen-x, and Annie (17), all from the same family - discuss feminism.  ...and what does that mean for the men in our lives? These ladies speak honestly and openly about our own experiences, what concerns us most moving forward in our culture, and how we, as men and women, can all self-actualize for more contentment!  Helene graduated college in 1957.  She hosted consciousness raising groups in the 60's, and worked for many years with the League of Women Voters on the Equal Credit Opportunity Act and more! Gina is an award winning filmmaker including films screened at Sundance Film Festival, shortlisted for an Oscar nomination, and collaboration on documentary work that lead to a Pulitzer Prize.  Annie is a Gen-Z girl about to graduate high school. She is already proactive in changing Sex Ed policies in New York and participates in various Civil Rights organizations.  

Every month listeners write in with their questions to Ask T&A.  In this month's episode (T&A's 100th show!!) one woman discovers multiple orgasms and masturbation bliss with her new Rabit vibrator, but after a month of using it now has a hard time orgasming with her partner.  Does she need to breakup with her vibrator?  Will she be able to orgasm with her partner again??  Plus, consent.  Consent is all over the media and one guy wants to know if T&A have ever been pushed beyond their limits, and just how exactly a guy is supposed to know if she's playing coy or really saying no?  Get your questions in for next month's episode by emailing advice@TAtalkSex.com

T&A share the top things they love and hate that guys do, or don't do, in the bedroom.  After A has another maddening experience with a man and her breast, the girls thought it might be time to share some enlightening tidbits about some bedroom habits that don't work, but somehow still happen- like treating nipples like radio dials.  Prepare to be entertained and enlightened in this lively and informative roundtable chat with T&A's good friend 'Nicole'.  

In this latest episode T&A catch up on the somewhat wild week apart they’ve had when A vacationed in Montreal, took a sexy lover and had the best casual sex of her life so far, while also coming face to face with her lover’s alter, not so good, ‘sex personality’.  Plus, insight into what builds intimacy in daily life with your partner- and what tears it down.  And finally - T gets banned from her lover’s abode! Learn and laugh in this week’s episode with T&A.

Due to some technical glitch when moving to their new network, the very first 17 episodes of 'T&A' somehow didn't get aired.  So this week Episode Numero Uno is being made available especially for you from the secret archives of T&A.  Listen in as T&A introduce themselves and talk to 'The Immigrant', an anonymous friend of A's who just recently had her first (and only) experience as an escort- an opporutnity set up by her Dad... ?!?!  T&A were anonymous at the time, and the show was called 'Pushing Boundaries with T&A'.... they also were radio virgins- so be gentle :)   To hear an update from 'The Immigrant', listen to Episode #92: '6 Texting Habits That Will Save Your Relationship'  

On this month's episode of Ask T&A, a listener writes in about his wife's hyper-sensitive clitoris and asks for some suggestions on what else he can do in the bedroom to please her.  Plus, is it OK if she only orgasms in one position?  And, if she has to masturbate herself to orgasm while I'm having sex with her, am I doing something wrong?  Then T&A clarify what STDs you can and cannot get from a sensual massage and the ladies read some listener's thoughtful  comments on last month's advice episode talking about consent.

Ayahuasca- that psychedelic drug shamans take to go on spiritutal 'journeys'.  Well, T&A had the chance to take it and what a journey they went on.  Listen in as the girls share their experience from beginning to end- the shamanic circle, the vomiting, confronting demons and the utter bliss.  And despite T being convinced she was dying while A was having non-stop orgasms... it was all worth it.  Listen in to find out why.

Does the modern march towards equality keep men from being men and women from being women?  And how is that affecting our relationships?  In this riveting and lively conversation T&A talk with two, true gentlemen: John, A's lover- and Stuart, T&A's dear friend, to get their insightful and provactive take on what it means to be a gentleman and why they get turned off by a woman who won't let them treat a lady like a lady.  A fascinating conversation to be heard by any man who's a little lost on how to be a man in today's culture, and for any woman who might be losing touch with her femininity in an effort to be the strong woman of today.

As more travel takes T&A out of the studio, we get to play you episode two of our secret archives from when we first started the show all those years ago (2014:)  Get to know T&A so much more as we interview each other and have an in-depth share of our personal stories and what led us to start the show- then called 'Pushing Boundaries with T&A'.  

In this lively episode T&A talk with Dave Neal, comedien and host of the podcast, 'Sex Actually' and rest assured when you get three hosts of sex talk podcasts, there's a lot of sharing going on - like how Dave successfully managed to get out of the friend zone with his now girlfriend(!)  Plus T&A take advantage of having a guy in studio and pick Dave's brain on what might be behind some male behaviors that keep popping up that we women just don't get.  Check Dave out @DNealz and be sure to listen to Sex Actually wherever you do your podcast listening.

In this month's advice episode, listeners Ask T&A - what's going on that's making the sex I have uncomfortable? Can a relationship survive without sex? Plus a listener's thoughts on gentlemanliness, dating and finances

While T&A make their way back from Burning Man, listen in on secret archived episode #3 where the girls talk with burlesque performer Mona Bella to take a look at the difference betwwen sexuality and sensuatliy, and what impact they both have on our sexual experiences.  Are you sensual? Sexual? Can you be both? How? and Why? 

Still decompressing from their Burning Man 2016 adventures, T&A hop on air to talk all about it aaaannnd of course, T&A happened to land in the hands of two, savvy lovers who gave each of them sexual experiences that will forever change their sex lives.  Hear about T's first ever tantric massage and what quality in a lover she now refuses to go without! Plus, A has the best sex of her life and shares the secret that made her go from completely sexually uninterested, to the best sex of her life- instantly.  When the man burns... it is no joke.  

Obi and Booda, the esteemed dudes of Dude Panel Radio (also for your viewing pleasure on youtube), hijack this week's episode of T&A Talk Sex and turn the hosts, into the guests.  Hear the gang talk about growing up and getting bullied (and kicking ass), Booda's new revelations on the importance of taking the romance out of falling in love, and an in-depth and hilarious analysis of what each of the host's sex sounds actually mean. 

In this month's episode of Ask T&A, the girls tackle three listener's questions... well, two listeners and one very curious uber driver.  A wife writes in wanting to know how she can get her husband to be more romantic with her, the curious Uber driver is dying to know how to get his wife to be sexual with him again, and one listener in transition wants to try a period of celibacy- but can she do it without leaving her relationship?  All this, a load of laughs and a firey debate between T&A over differing views in this months advice episode.  Have a question or comment?  Write in for next month's episode at advice@TAtalksex.com

EP 114! In homage to the fall and the change of season, we're talking all about endings and new beginnings, with comedien Lahna Turner.  'A' shares her relationship revelations from a session with a psychic that changed her romantic life, then Lahna gets candid and raw about currently going through a divorce and we get the full  story of how 'Limeade', her new comedic, visual album from the title parady of Beyonce's 'Lemonade' came into being.  Plus, a lively debate over how to handle the death of intimacy after children enter the picture with a real-life mom, and then we cap it off with 'New Dick', Lahna's HILARIOUS new song from Limeade.  

After T&A attended amateur stripper night in support of their friends, they were seriously thinking about a career change!  Inspired by these regular 9-5 er's struttin' their stuff for the first time on the pole in PUBLIC, T&A sat down with a couple of these brave ladies to hear all about their experience.  They share how they got into taking pole dancing class, their biggest challenges, their partner and friend's reactions, and how it helped transform them into the sensual creatures they always wanted to be.  And yes, this does translate to the bedroom.  Ladies, if you struggle with being sensual or even understanding what that is, and guys, if you want to understand women more, tune in to this fascinating and lively episode.

Wow, we totally had a show topic for this week- and then Jayson Thibault from Punch Drunk Sports happened! Which made for an epic episode.  His candid discussion about all things relationships, sex, family, and growing up with lesbian parents bring us to a higher level of honesty! How does a young boy growing up with all women affect him as a man? How does T growing up with her father affect her as a grown woman? A shares her personal story about her mom's ovarian cancer, and how she handled the experience.  And so much more real talk happens in this episode.  Enjoy!

It's Ask T&A Day!  In this month's episode, find out what causes a red, irrated and smelly penis, but the scarier thing is how unnoticed this goes by most men!  Then, T&A dive in and give an incredibly detailed play by play of how to make a girl cum from oral sex, and more specifically, them :)  All the insider tips and tricks are in this one! Happy listening...

Do we bale on our relationships too soon?  Have you ever wondered if maybe you would be better off if you just had some patience and stayed with that person? The idea of sticking through a relationship come hell-or-highwater has become somewhat of a relic.  When an 'insurmountable' obstacle comes along, we chalk it up to incompatability, and skip along to find someone more up our alley now that we're wiser for it.  But is this a modern mindset that keeps us from reaping the rewards of a long-term,  investment?  Should we listen to our grandparents?? In this week's episode, 'T' drags herself from the dredges of her period malaise to share her thoughts as to why it might not have been the wisest decision to leave her most recent long-term partner...  but then again, would she be the person she is today if she hadn't?  It is a rousing topic and lively debate this week as the girls dig in...

Let's be honest, all this 'Consent is Sexy' talk... isn't really that sexy.  But when T&A's friend Dave Booda from the podcast 'Dude Panel' wrote an article sharing his experience of being acused of rape from a lover he thought he had consentual, awesome sex with, it was clear the issue needed addressing for even the most well-intentioned guy.  He thought this chick was totally on board... so how do you know she really does want to have sex with you?  T&A have a lively discussion around Dave's article sharing their own experiences and how at the root of all this consent talk is good old fashioned seduction.  Listen in to find out how to get her begging for you so you never have to wonder if she really does want to have sex with you.  Here's a link to Booda's article published in the Good Men Project.  http://boodaism.com/permission/

Inspired by the lush, sexy, and joyous erotic thriller, The Handmaiden, directed by Park Chan-wook, T&A invite Carlisle Forrester (comedian and podcast cohost of 2 Girls, 1 Guy) to discuss the eroticism featured in the film, and what it says about women, our ability to get turned on by each other and our resistance to diving down under.  Then all 3 ladies speak freely about their own sexual encounters with other women, and what we learned about ourselves through it. 

It's Thanksgiving week, which means time for T&A to reflect on all the things they're grateful for this year- the not so suitable for the dinner table things.  Lora Somoza from the podcast, 'Between the Sheets with Lora Somoza' joins this roundtable chat which sparks scintilating conversation on vibrators, masturbation, their body issues growing up as kids and even some deeper family issue stuff.  Fun and entertaining, yet always deep, Happy Thanksgiving from T&A!

T&A weigh in on audience's questions: In this month's episode of T&A's advice show, how to rebound after a bad first date (on election night!), best car sex positions?  And can too much masturbation hurt your sex life??