Talking Kink With Alex + Ellie (Talking Kink With Alex + Ellie)
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| 27 Sep 2024 | episode 37: the golden spiced latte | 00:38:51 | |
Vida and Anthula from the Sex Symbol Podcast drop by to talk about watersports, the ins and outs of dealing with urine and bodily fluids, how to always be prepared for playtime, no matter how wet, messy, or wild things get, and how to manage the domination, submission, kink, humiliation, and laundry schedules involved. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 04 Oct 2024 | episode 38: the tales of edgar allen bro | 00:35:31 | |
If you’re wondering why online dating has become such a miserable experience, we have an answer for you. Or, at least, a big part of one. Thanks to social media algorithms, men at the lowest and most frustrated are being bombarded with terrible advice and scams promising to teach them how to fix their mental health and thrive. Unfortunately for them and the women they go on to try and date, the reality is that the advice is almost always a scam that fills them with rage and paranoia while draining their wallets. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 11 Oct 2024 | episode 39: all eyes on me | 00:39:55 | |
For some people, deciding to “bare it all” in front of an audience is less of an intimidating experience, but more of an exciting one. An experience that makes their heart race, brings a smile to their faces, and sends their senses into overdrive. Those people are exhibitionists, and they’re all about showing off and feedback from eager voyeurs anxiously waiting for their latest post or livestream. So, this week, we’re going to talk about a kink that’s all about being social, self-esteem, and self-improvement. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 18 Oct 2024 | episode 40: for all our good boys and girls | 00:29:37 | |
We’ve talked about why people like to surrender control in the bedroom, or kitchen, or car, or office, or hotel room. But what makes a woman who likes to stay in control and drive her submissives wild tick? Mistress Vivienne Hawthorn joins Alex and Ellie to talk about what it’s like to live as a domme 24/7/365, and how it inspires her to write and create unique experiences that would make pretty much anyone kneel and say “yes mistress.” Resources and further reading… - Mistress Vivienne | X/Twitter | Naughty Nook Publications- Dominatrix Psychology And Understanding Power- What It's Really Like To Work As A Dominatrix Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 25 Oct 2024 | episode 41: about that one time at band camp | 00:37:25 | |
Turning in your v-card. Popping your cherry. Becoming a man or a woman. Your first time. There are a lot of euphemisms for the first time someone has sex, and pretty much all of them are loaded with centuries, if not millennia, of culture, traditions, and social implications. This is why this week, we’re teaming up with our fellow podcaster Ruan Willow to talk about our first times and dissect what the big deal really is, and why the concept of virginity was so important back in the day. Resources and further reading… - Ruan Willow | X/Twitter | Substack- Virgin Fetish: History, Culture, And Ways to Play- At Least 20 Countries Keep Doing Virginity Testing- Why There Is No Such Thing As A Virginity Test- WHO Calls For Ban On Virginity Testing Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 01 Nov 2024 | episode 42: how to build a consensual harem | 00:50:33 | |
Sharing is caring and spread the love, we're all told. So, what happens when you have so much love to give and so much to share that one partner seems... limiting? While there are a lot of ways to explore non-monogamy today, polyamory offers more than just novelty and exploration. It offers something that's becoming rarer and more difficult to maintain: community. Sex educator and relationship expert Susan Bratton is back to teach us about the ins and outs of creating a thriving polycule. Resources and further reading… - Susan Bratton | Threads | Instagram- Defining Polyamory- The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory- Openly Poly Celebrities Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 08 Nov 2024 | episode 43: ain’t no lie, baby bi bi bi | 00:41:46 | |
At first blush, you may think that all sexualities are openly accepted today and the only debates around it are between those who want to accept everyone for who they are, and those who don't believe we should be in charge of our own lives if they don't follow rigid tradition. But that's not necessarily true. This week, we sit down with our friend and author Christian Pan to talk about bisexuality and the past, present, and future of those who embrace this identity. Resources and further reading… - Christian Pan | Website | All Books- The Best Bi Erotica Of The Year: Volume 1- Erasure Of Bisexuality- Pew: Six Facts About Bisexual Americans Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 15 Nov 2024 | episode 44: weapons of mass per-suede-sion | 00:38:27 | |
Since the dawn of humanity, it was the uniform of soldiers, aristocrats, and rulers. Today, it symbolizes luxury, sophistication, and sexual adventure. It's warm, stretchy, durable, and the sound of brushing against it makes enthusiasts' hearts skip a beat. And for some, it's a must have when it comes to playtime. Writer, ASMR artist, and leather and latex expert Alex Keeper joins Alex and Ellie to talk about where the now default image of a dominatrix clad in leather really comes from, and why so many people love everything about it. Yes, that's right, this week you two Alexes for the price of one. Resources and further reading… - Alex Keeper | LinkTree | OnlyFans | Instagram Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 22 Nov 2024 | episode 45: the ghosts of hookups past | 00:41:34 | |
Nothing lasts forever, including relationships. This is especially true if you're in alternative and non-monogamous lifestyles where you may need to part ways with partners who have very different places in your life. And despite being so unpleasant, breakups are an almost inevitable part of life unless you're amazingly lucky. Surely there has to be a way to work through them and come out with minimal emotional damage on the other end, right? This is why we asked relationship and intimacy experts Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON Love for some expert advice... Resources and further reading… - TurnON Love- Dr. Alison Ash- Sebastian Clarke- How To Break Up With Someone- Breakup Aftercare: What To Do After A Breakup Use discount code TALKINGKINK for $75 off Dr. Aly's Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills course. Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops… This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 29 Nov 2024 | episode 46: eat, drink, and be horny | 00:44:37 | |
There's a concept in psychology known as the hedonic treadmill. It says that when we're used to a certain level of pleasure or opulence after a major life event or experiences, we return our base level of happiness, and then want more. But unless you're an ascetic monk, you probably want to taste some of the finer things in life and feel some of the more intense pleasures without feeling like returning to your normal life is a step down. In this wild -- and admittedly boozy -- episode, SafferMaster and Lady Petra of The Kinky Cocktail Hour Podcast, take us through the ins and outs of being an ethical, and responsible hedonist. Resources and further reading… * The Hedonic Treadmill Theory Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 06 Dec 2024 | episode 47: friends with questionable benefits | 00:39:49 | |
It’s hard to understate just how much social media got people to reveal to the world at large since its inception. From feeling like we’re lounging on the couches of worldwide celebrities, to seeing our friends and neighbors at their most lustful and wild on some of the more spicier platforms and feeds, your mind might just assume that you really, really understand someone you’ve never met. That you have… a relationship. Except the truth of the matter is a lot blurrier and more complicated, merging friendship, fandom, and commerce, often times on purpose. Resources and further reading… * Friend or Faux: Are Parasocial Relationships Healthy? * In Defense of Parasocial Relationships * Chappell Roan And Invasive Fans * The Burden And Blessing Of Parasocial Relationships * The Development of Parasocial Interaction * Undercover As A Secret OnlyFans Chatter Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 13 Dec 2024 | episode 48: you find yourself very, very... horny | 00:42:07 | |
Imagine if you could just let go of all your inhibitions and bad habits, and let yourself drown in the bliss of your experiences, or open yourself up to adventures you never thought you'd be up for with just a snap of a finger. Or a trigger word. Or a carefully constructed phrase. That's the promise of erotic hypnosis; a way to nudge yourself into all the things you really want to do with all the fun and none of the responsibility. Erotic author Hardison Parker joins us to dive deeper into the joys, the science, and the nuances of all things hypnosis. Resources and further reading… * Hardison Parker - X/Twitter | Intrigueverse * Informed Consent And Hypnotherapy * A Beginner's Guide To Erotic Hypnosis * Why Hypnosis Doesn't Work For All Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 20 Dec 2024 | episode 49: hold me (not so) gently | 00:35:41 | |
Being an adult can be quite the bummer. Bills, responsibilities, work, fewer chances to let loose... But what if we told you that bringing back some roughhousing, tickling, and physical challenges can really liven things up? Alex and Ellie will tell you how often sex and martial arts can intersect, and how you too can join in on the fun, in a safe, sane, and responsible manner, of course. Resources and further reading… * Sex Differences In Response To And Recovery From Stress * The Relationship Between Physical Activity And Sexual Function In Adults Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 27 Dec 2024 | episode 50: the moan heard around the world | 00:36:21 | |
Traveling around the world is usually an eye-opening experience. You get to see different cultures, learn different histories, hear different languages, and if you're lucky, or just on a mission, get to have sex with interesting new people in exciting new places. But if that's one of your goals, you're going to need to learn about the interesting ways people around the planet think, talk about, and legislate sexual encounters... Resources and further reading… * Most Sexually Active Countries * Sex Slang From Around The World Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 03 Jan 2025 | episode 51: better, faster, sexier | 00:38:17 | |
Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and said that you'd look better with a little ink, or a piercing, or a little cosmetic procedure to truly feel confident, happy, and ready to get down and dirty? You're far from alone. From tattoos, to piercings, to forked tongues, to genital modification, a lot of people have turned to science to help their self-esteem, feel more like themselves, give themselves an extra edge, or just restore or commemorate something an illness or accident took away. Resources and further reading… * What Is Vaginal Rejuvenation? * OB-GYN Gets Real About Vagina Facials Did you like this episode? Get the next one sent right to your inbox as soon as it drops... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 25 Jan 2024 | episode 00: putting the hot in hotwife | 00:58:52 | |
What do you call yourself when your husband likes to share you with another man? How do you make that discovery? How do you find a playmate? And how do you become a good playmate for a hotwife couple? For many, the first step into non-monogamy is through hotwifing where women find liberation, their husbands joy, and their playmates get to explore something new and exciting. We dive deep into the terminology, psychology, and personal experiences of this increasingly popular lifestyle. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 25 Jan 2024 | episode 01: monogamy?! in this economy?! | 01:18:21 | |
Sometimes, three is not a crowd. In a stag/vixen relationship, playmates have a lot more involvement and communication with both partners of a couple. And for some, the first few experiences are a gateway to ethical non-monogamy and its many questions and complexities. Do no strings attached encounters really come with no strings attached? What happens if you want the strings and polyamory is more your style? Can you be happy in the gray areas in between? Plus, Alex and Ellie talk success stories and spectacular failures in choosing and keeping partners. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 25 Jan 2024 | episode 02: cougar on the loose | 01:05:39 | |
Thanks to Stifler’s mom in American Pie, the idea of cougars, MILFs, and age play exploded into mainstream conversation and has become a permanent fixture in dating life. On this episode of Talking Kink, we explore the media coverage, history, mythology, and psychology of the MILF, DILF, and cougar phenomena, raise some questions about the relevant studies and theories behind the taboos and kinks around them, and see how far age play can really go. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 02 Feb 2024 | episode 03: in space, no one can hear you come | 00:53:32 | |
Various sages of science like Stephen Hawking and Carl Sagan said that humans have to learn how to live on more than one planet, and experts agree. We'd be a lot safer if what is an apocalyptic, extinction level disaster today is just an unfortunate accident thousands of years from now, and our species keeps going as if nothing happened. But there's a slight snag with that idea. Believe it or not, the future of humanity depends on whether we can have great sex in the alien environments beyond our cozy little home world. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 09 Feb 2024 | episode 04: use me, breed me, any way you want me | 00:56:50 | |
From a sex-positive joke on Reddit and the dystopian, yet sexually unhinged future envisioned during the sexual revolution, to conspiracy theories and the history of swinging in North America, Alex and Ellie explore the worlds of free use and breeding, and the strange places to which they can, and have led. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 16 Feb 2024 | episode 05: you’ve got a friend in you | 01:13:17 | |
Alex and Ellie explore the logic, the good, and the bad behind having friends with benefits, pay tribute to a certain, very relevant movie, talk to Ellie's former playmate, revisit the fraught subject of cemetery quickies, and Alex wades into some tricky gray areas of friends with benefits and non-monogamy etiquette with his story about a very busy, unexpected, and slightly embarrassing night. Plus, a quick look back at some relevant smutty literature and a teaser for an upcoming guest. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 23 Feb 2024 | episode 06: i saw, i read, i came | 01:09:22 | |
Alex and Ellie take a tour through the history of erotica from cave paintings and the first recorded myths and religious texts, to the Sexual Revolution and a certain famous and infamous global bestseller, interview erotica author Logan Black on the ins and outs of the craft, and tackle the tricky topic of how and when people discover written smut. And just for good measure, we take a brief tour through book porn behind the aggressively prudish Iron Curtain and look at the graphic, visceral work of Eduard Topol. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 01 Mar 2024 | episode 07: better loving through electricity | 00:48:35 | |
Computers and AI have already been incorporated into almost every part of our lives. Now, techies and machines have their sights set on what they see as the final frontier: our minds and bodies, genitals included. From designs for robotic implants and neural interfaces, to virtual reality, digital companions, smart sex toys, and the real world arrival of the neon, electronica, and corporate dystopian cyberpunk aesthetic, the future of sex is nothing short of wild and mind-bending. Thankfully, Alex is an expert in most things tech and is happy to help you navigate through all the weirdness and jargon. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 08 Mar 2024 | episode 08: silence of the sheets | 01:02:05 | |
Finding a spark is easy. Keeping that spark alive can be difficult as life, kids, work, and stress take their toll. Without intentional effort, good boundaries, and dedication, even the most loving and passionate relationships can be strained, transforming beds into dead zones for lovers-turned-roommates. We tackle this thorny problem with Ralph from Dad Starting Over, investigate how efforts to fix sexlessness and loneliness can go horribly wrong, and review some of the resources intended to help get a little life back into a chaste crypt of a bedroom. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 15 Mar 2024 | episode 09: threeway gives you leeway | 00:59:05 | |
According to survey after survey, a threesome is the number one sexual fantasy around the world, and more and more people are using them as a springboard into non-monogamy. While it can be a blast to add one more person to the bed, or couch, or hot tub, things can also go spectacularly wrong if you don't communicate and set ground rules. Erotica author and threesome connoisseur Agent Ranch Hand joins Alex and Ellie to cover the pros and cons of a ménage à trois, and come up with tips and tricks for a successful one, whether it's real life or literary. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 22 Mar 2024 | episode 10: please allow us to butt in | 01:01:21 | |
Commonly referred to as sodomy for many centuries, and used to prosecute consenting kinksters, queer people, and gay couples all the way until the first years of this millennium, anal sex has become a common topic of conversation when it comes to sex, and one of the most accepted and least objected to taboos today. How did that happen? What's the allure? And what are the risks, rewards, do's, and don'ts? Sex, wellness, and kink educator, and one of Reddit's most popular anal performers, Dolly, a.k.a. NiceThings, helps Alex and Ellie get to the bottom of the subject matter. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 29 Mar 2024 | episode 11: the bare boners of evolution | 00:50:29 | |
Most of us have been taught that humans evolved somewhere in Africa and migrated throughout the world. That's a drastic oversimplification. Our species evolved in North Africa roughly 300,000 years ago and was one of at least 23 other hominids across the planet. And the same goes for most of the theories you heard about the differences between male and female brains, the evolution of gender norms, penis size, the role breasts play in sexual selection, and a great deal of evolutionary psychology. Join Alex and Ellie in exploring the many questions about how we evolved and why we look, love, think, and reproduce the way we do. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 05 Apr 2024 | episode 12: all in all, just another notch on the post | 00:56:01 | |
Comparison is the thief of joy, as Teddy Roosevelt once said, but deep down, we're all a little curious. How do we match up with those around us? And that curiosity even extends to how many partners we've had compared to those our age, or just overall. Turns out, those statistics are fuzzier and have more leeway than you might think, so Alex and Ellie bring some math and psychology to the "body count" question while dissecting and correcting the clickbait filling social media. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 13 Apr 2024 | episode 13: the not so subtle art of oral | 01:07:01 | |
Fellatio, mouth hug, blowjob or blow hobby, going down, giving head... No matter what you call it, oral doesn't have to be relegated to foreplay, a sort of underrated appetizer for more typical, usually much more penetrative acts, taken for granted despite also requiring skill, effort, training, and dedication. Alex and Ellie talk about oral do's and don'ts, and join erotic author Eli Casablanca to see how oral can steal the show when given the chance to do so, and done right. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 19 Apr 2024 | episode 14: ready player one | 01:17:40 | |
From low tech to high tech, prehistoric to the fresh off a brand new assembly line, Alex and Ellie dive into the past, present, and future of sex toys. Covering just about everything from bizarre laws that limits how many sex toys you can own and how the should be regulated, to improvised “pervertables,” to absolutely terrifying modern machinery of (advertised) pleasure, to a conservation about sex toy design and testing with sex educator and coach Violet Fawkes, this episode is almost guaranteed to make you an expert in adult devices. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 26 Apr 2024 | episode 15: teamwork makes the dream work | 01:06:04 | |
Have you and your partner ever looked at each other and thought “You know what would make this more fun? If we take our fun out on the road and meet some fun new friends!” Well, if you did and aren’t exactly sure where to start or how to kick things up that extra notch, Alex, Ellie, and guest Poppy Lang have some very useful tips, tricks, games, ideas, and words of caution for you. If you put in the work, you can have the kind of amazing times you may be imagining, if not even better, and we’re here to help make it easier and more fun. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 03 May 2024 | episode 16: why we swiped left on courtship | 01:14:46 | |
If you want to watch someone's brain melt out of their ears, build a time machine, then send a person from 1924 to modern times and tell them to find a date. As human progress and technology kicked into exponential overdrive, even something as basic as how we meet, start relationships, and develop them underwent radical, mental whiplash-inducing changes. In this week's episode, we trace the history of dating, courtship, and sexual revolutions, and even venture into outwardly taboo and secretive dynamics with Marcus of Secrets Of A Sugar Daddy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 10 May 2024 | episode 17: the cult who told me they loved me | 01:02:59 | |
We use the term cult very often and loosely these days, but the fact of the matter is that cults are out there, in great numbers, and able to prey on more people than ever. Even worse, when you find yourself confronted with the dark sides of mentors and friends who supposedly embraced you without conditions and with open hearts, it always, always turns very creepy and very sexual. Alex and Ellie wade through the sinister world of cults and the tactics they use to draw in new members, plus cult erotica writer Christian Pan weighs in on how these groups are portrayed in fiction vs. what they're like in reality. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 17 May 2024 | episode 18: bed, hack, and beyond… | 01:10:07 | |
An old Russian axiom says that there is no limit to improvement, and while that's not actually true when it comes to medicine, there are plenty of things we can do to make our lives a little longer, much healthier, and way more fun, in and out of the bedroom. The only catch is that you may have to experiment with some, shall we say, hacks to get the most out of modern medicine. Alex and Ellie look into the world of sexual biohacking and talk to veteran sexpert and biohacker Susan Bratton about both the outer limits of hacking your way to health and virility, and what's possible for anyone in their spare time. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 24 May 2024 | episode 19: what’s in the box? glorious pain. | 01:02:42 | |
Sometimes, pain and pleasure can go hand in hand despite seemingly being opposing sensations. And nowhere is this more true than in the world of CBT. No, not the kind offered by licensed therapists. The kind offered in dungeons and doms. Goddess Daniella of Pandora's Box joins Ellie to really make Alex squirm as much as possible as this episode navigates the world of torturing male genitals for fun, pleasure, and profit. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 31 May 2024 | episode 20: music make you lose control | 01:02:18 | |
There's something magical about getting into that perfect zone with the perfect music playing in the background. So, it's only natural to wonder how to best incorporate music into sex, and why it has such an effect on us. Podcaster and musician Marc of the Boombox Music Talk joins Alex and Ellie to explore the science, art, emotion, and spice factor of your favorite tunes. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 07 Jun 2024 | episode 21: the ties that (consensually) bind us | 00:47:56 | |
Certain people once picked up a particularly nice looking rope, or played a game as children in which their friends clumsily tied them up, and something just clicked. It felt nice. It felt like a warm hug. It felt… right. And now, quite a few of them explore ever more intricate bondage techniques to create nothing less than works of erotic art where nudity is optional, the designs ever more intricate, and emotions send them into a realm of pleasure and comfort. Plus, Brussels-based Shibari artist and photographer Nick, a.k.a. IrisRedHorse on FetLife, shares his story of self-discovery one knot at a time with Alex and Ellie. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 14 Jun 2024 | episode 22: silence of the kinks | 01:06:01 | |
Just be yourself was the cliche dating and interview advice. Today, this axiom has been replaced with something along the lines of showing up as your genuine, authentic, whole self. But what if society isn’t ready for your authentic self? And what if your honesty could make life a lot harder? Alex and Ellie tackle the thorny issue of why so many people in non-traditional lifestyles want to stay discreet, and talk to author Skylar Quinn about what it’s like to live a double life. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 21 Jun 2024 | episode 23: in safeword we thrust | 00:54:17 | |
For some people, a silk rope and occasional spank is nowhere near enough. No, they’re thinking about being groped in dark alleys, or kidnapped and taken to a dungeon, or blackmailed into becoming someone’s toy for as long as they wish. Alex and Ellie venture into the world of consensual non-consent, and talk to author ATR about the complex morality and politics of BDSM and catering to a partner’s darkest, most depraved fantasies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 28 Jun 2024 | episode 24: one flew into the cuckoo’s bed | 00:52:03 | |
Imagine a man catching his wife in bed with a stranger and rather than get upset or blow several gaskets, pulling up a chair and enjoying the show. It’s an attitude that’s been stigmatized so much so that “cuck” is a common slur nowadays. And yet, it’s one of the most popular fantasies among men and women, and there’s a thriving and discreet subculture of cuckolds, cuckqueans, hotwives, and hothusbands. Alex and Ellie look into the psychology of this kink and are joined by author Lucky to talk about what it’s like to live this lifestyle. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 05 Jul 2024 | episode 25: the art of the eargasm | 01:03:43 | |
Letting your mind run wild can be a powerful thing, especially when you have the right sound to guide it. In this episode, Alex and Ellie get lost in the world of ASMR, ramblefaps, erotic narration, and audio-only fantasies, with a few callbacks we can almost guarantee you’d never expect. Plus, Sexxxy Sheri of the DirtyBit Podcast tells us how she discovered the joys of sharing dirty bedtime stories. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 12 Jul 2024 | episode 26: world war xxx | 01:04:19 | |
It feels like today, we have more education about sex, kink, reproductive health, and an infinite oceans of porn and erotica to explore. Governments across the world agree. Unfortunately, quite a few of them don't see it as a good thing. We look at the ugly battle by politicians to control what you can see, hear, and do, even if you're consenting adult, chat with ErotiKinks author Tori Hamlin about the dreaded book dungeon, and Alex gives a glimpse into a dark, but plausible future where he may have to become an outlaw podcaster. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 19 Jul 2024 | episode 27: smart ring around your naughty bits | 00:59:15 | |
First they laughed, then ignored, then censored, but smart sex toys are finally here and ready for prime time. From smart materials to increase comfort, new hardware to improve reliability, to embedded AI algorithms to help you get your best climax again and again, the best and newest offerings from the sextech revolution are coming to a set of genitals either near you, or attached to you. But don’t just think of them as toys. Alex and Ellie talk to Dr. Justin Elliot of FirmTech about a new generation of devices that’s trying to bridge the attention gap between sex and health. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 26 Jul 2024 | episode 28: tit for tat with the snap | 01:04:13 | |
The very first working photo cameras were announced in 1839, the first nude was shot less than a year later, and by 1851, nudes of models for artists and appreciative viewers became routine. In other words, as long as cameras existed, we wanted to get naked in front of them. But why? And how did the nude selfie go from scandalous or artistic, to so commonplace that even spies are sick of looking at our bits? We talk about the history, technology, and psychology of nudes and selfies, and chat with Ruan Willow of the Oh Fuck Yeah podcast about how she incorporates exhibitionism into her work and art. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 02 Aug 2024 | episode 29: hoe away from home | 00:57:55 | |
Well, you’ve done it. You’ve used every room in your and your parents’ homes for kinky fun, both loud and stealthy. You’ve taken on some heart-stopping public challenges. But things are getting a little stale. You need a little change of scenery. A place you can get away and still have your fun around like-minded adults and only like-minded adults. We’re here to help prepare you for a lifestyle-friendly destination, talk about risks and how to manage them, and author Ophelia Dickerson shows us how some amazing little getaways don’t always require you to travel halfway across the world but just a few hours out of your usual way. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 09 Aug 2024 | episode 30: my neck, my back, ow, what’s in my crack?! | 01:13:05 | |
When you’re naked, vulnerable, and lost in bliss, the absolute lat thing you want to think about is getting injured or for an embarrassing slip up. Unfortunately, this is also when disaster can — and often does — strike. Alex, Ellie, and Dolly are here to share their own misadventures, help you turn your tales of bedroom terror into funny memories, and offer tips to stay safe between the sheets, on the couch, or bent over a counter. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 16 Aug 2024 | episode 31: dear gentle (smut) reader | 00:30:06 | |
Penthouse was the raunchy, vivid, real foil to Playboy’s highbrow sensibilities, and one of its most important feats was to give us a window into each other’s sex lives thanks to its Forum magazine. And this week, we’re covering how they got the idea, where they took it, how they turned the dirty confessional into a mainstay of virtually every online community in the process, and the surprising directions in which the brand would branch out. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 23 Aug 2024 | episode 32: dream a little spicy dream of me | 00:45:33 | |
Usually when we think of sleep, we think of rest, dreams, and comfort. But there’s a lot more to it than that, and a surprising amount of it involves sex. Alex and Ellie take you through the biology of sleep, explore the unusual conditions that make you turn your hottest dreams into reality while you’re still asleep, and dive into the ethically complicated world of those who love to mix sleep and playtime. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 30 Aug 2024 | episode 33: we have to praise you like we should | 00:29:48 | |
Gather round good boys, good girls, and good pets, we’ve got an episode all about you, how great you are, and how your partners can really appreciate you in and out of the bedroom. That’s right, we’re exploring the ins and outs of praise kinks, how not to lay it on too thick but still make your partner blush, and how to make your playtime just a little bit more wholesome and verbally affectionate. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 06 Sep 2024 | episode 34: here’s to our biggest onlyfans | 00:34:35 | |
You know something is a trend when legacy media outlets start writing a swarm of articles about it, and the Great Pornification has officially reached this distinction. Influencers, creatives, and even some brands are now finding out that thanks to late stage capitalism and runaway algorithms, sex is the last thing left to sell without being buried by bots, knock-offs, and household names. And all that comes with a whole host of side-effects that need to be examined very carefully. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 13 Sep 2024 | episode 35: to thine own self be true | 00:43:04 | |
Despite what many a loudmouth pundit would have you believe, sexuality can be complicated. It can flow and change over time for reasons we don’t entirely understand. More often than you’d think, it doesn’t work exactly as you’re told it should, and the research into why is often incomplete. So, how do you figure out who you are and what’s next? Erotic writer and blogger Miss Pearl joins Alex and Ellie for a primer on exploring your inner self. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||
| 20 Sep 2024 | episode 36: knock me up before you go-go | 00:44:11 | |
After having already dipped our toes in the world of breeding kinks, we’re taking it up a notch. From worshipping the pregnant body, to lactation fetishes, what happens when you make pregnancy and fertility the main focus? Plus, we broach the topic of falling birth rates and the dark side of modern natalism, and Ellie gets her revenge after the praise kink episode. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.talkingkinkpodcast.com | |||