Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 (Karen Bigman)

The holidays are here, and with 2025 knocking on the door, how are you preparing to step into the new year? Sure, a cozy holiday read is great, but what if you could unwrap something truly transformative this season?

In this episode, I’m sharing my top five midlife must-reads—books that dive into health, relationships, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of midlife. These picks are designed to help you embrace your journey, understand your body, and redefine your purpose.

Midlife isn’t just a season of life; it’s a chance to thrive in new ways. So, why not lean into the conversations we sometimes avoid? Let’s grow, feel empowered, and take on 2025 with clarity and confidence. Ready to dive in? Let’s go!

Links to Books:

• Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz 
• The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver
• Love Life by Matthew Hussey
• Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein
• Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue

Timestamps:

• (00:00:01) Introduction to the Episode
• (00:00:23) Book Recommendations for the Holidays
• (00:01:23) Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz
• (00:02:37) The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver
• (00:02:37) Love Life by Matthew Hussey
• (00:03:33) Sexual Intelligence by Dr. Marty Klein
• (00:03:33) Rebel Love by Dr. Chris Donaghue
• (00:04:47) Closing Remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

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In this episode, I delve deep into a personal narrative that is both vulnerable and relatable—my journey through relationships, dating after divorce, and the tribulations of midlife dating and menopause. I lay bare the emotional rollercoaster I've experienced over the last two and a half years, candidly sharing the highs and lows, and the temptation to succumb to negativity.

This isn't just a story of struggle; it's a chronicle of the hard-earned crossroads of hope that I've reached. I want to highlight the importance of not playing the victim or falling into despair, but instead, recognizing that every challenge faced is a step toward a better tomorrow.

As I recount the pattern of my past relationships, I emphasize the lessons learned, particularly the need for authenticity and clarity in communicating one's needs. It's a tale of repeated patterns—forming attachments too quickly after the illusion of intimacy and trying to mold incompatible relationships into something they're not. But it's also a story of growth and the realization that it's crucial to hold out for what truly satisfies one's needs, without compromise.

From setting arbitrary dating rules to understanding the importance of communication, I explore the interdependence that forms the foundation of a healthy relationship and the self-reflection necessary to find joy and fulfillment on one's own terms. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on personal growth, the quest for genuine partnership, and the courage to demand the love and life one truly deserves.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode I open up about my own journey back into the dating world after a long pause. I've learned the hard way that before diving headfirst into the dating pool, it’s crucial to take a deep look inward. I'll share with you the steps I took to understand my desires and the type of relationship that resonates with the person I've become.

I also discuss the significance of moving at a pace that respects both your emotional state and physical health, emphasizing the vital practice of safe sex, and the nuances of intimacy during menopause, the importance of communication, even when it means having those tough conversations about sexual health, and I'll share the lessons I've learned about safeguarding not just my physical health but my heart as well.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I sit down with Heather McPherson, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, to explore the complexities of sex addiction and its societal perceptions. Why are we so quick to label and judge? Heather dives into the origins of the sex addiction diagnosis and critiques its impact, advocating for a harm-reduction and education-focused approach instead. We also take a deep dive into sexual health, consent in non-traditional relationships like kink, polyamory, and open relationships—are therapists equipped to understand these dynamics? Heather explains why proper training is essential. Plus, she expands on how we define sex itself, pushing for a broader, pleasure-centered perspective. Curious about the future of sexual health education and community? This conversation is sure to make you rethink everything! Let's dive in!

About the Guest:

Heather McPherson is a licensed marriage and family therapist, entrepreneur, and the CEO and founder of Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a leading provider of education and certification for sexuality professionals. She is also the founder of the ReSpark Group, a national brand offering group therapy and a non-profit organization. Licensed in Colorado, Washington, and Texas, Heather specializes in sexual health and relationships. An AASECT-certified sex therapist, she's been featured in Playboy, CNN, and Rolling Stone. Heather’s passion lies in providing high-quality, evidence-based training for professionals in the field.

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Timestamps:

• (00:00:01) Introduction to Heather
• (00:02:09) What exactly is “sex addiction”?
• (00:06:11) Sex addiction vs porn addiction
• (00:14:07) The six guiding principles of sexual health
• (00:18:19) Integrating religion and sexuality
• (00:22:35) Gender differences in sex addiction
• (00:25:53) Evolution of sex therapy
• (00:28:54) Curriculum development for sexual health
• (00:31:19) How to become a certified sex therapist
• (00:35:49) Community importance in sexual health

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the...

In this episode I had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Rachel Rubin, a highly respected urologist and sexual medicine specialist known for her comprehensive approach to sexual health across all genders.

Dr. Rubin enlightened us on the vital connection between urology and sexual function, emphasizing the importance of understanding our bodies' anatomy and physiology to address sexual health issues effectively.

She shared her passion for educating both the public and healthcare professionals on the complexities of sexual medicine, underscoring the need for better sexual education and the removal of stigma from conversations about sexual health. It was an eye-opening discussion that challenged many preconceived notions about sexual wellness and the critical role of specialized care in improving quality of life.

I was particularly moved by Dr. Rubin's insights into the challenges faced by individuals seeking help for sexual dysfunction, highlighting the gaps in knowledge among general practitioners and the importance of advocating for one's sexual health. Her stories of empowering patients to communicate their needs and desires resonated deeply with me, reminding us all of the power of education and open dialogue.

Dr. Rubin's work not only offers hope to those struggling with sexual health issues but also calls for a broader societal shift towards embracing sexual health as an integral part of overall well-being. Her dedication to advancing sexual medicine and her advocacy for comprehensive sexual education are truly inspiring, making her one of my sheroes in the field.

Full video episode available: https://youtu.be/abpTfFYQAmc

Where to find Dr. Rubin: https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/ Instagram: @drrachelrubin Recommended reading: Vagina Obscura by Rachel E. GrossEstrogen Matters by  Avrum Bluming & Carol Travis

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a

It may surprise you to learn that your clitoris is one of the most magnificent organs in the female (vulva owners) body. It has only one function. It's a lot more intricate than you think and knowing it well can lead you to much greater sexual pleasure.

Most women cannot have an orgasm strictly from penetrative sex. The clitoris plays a big role in your orgasms. During perimenopause and post-menopause, changes to your vulva and more specifically your clitoris can affect your enjoyment. Extremely dry tissue can even cause your clitoris and labia to disappear! This doesn't mean the end of your sex life. Get to know this very valuable organ and up your enjoyment exponentially!

*A more detailed video explanation of this episode is available here: https://youtu.be/hnntXRueHg4?si=NCJvSKqvNRwg2LbF

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I delve into the complex world of gender and sexuality, acknowledging the vast array of terminology that exists today compared to the simpler times of my youth. I explore the distinctions between identity, expression, gender, and sexual orientation, emphasizing that these aspects of ourselves are not always aligned.

I introduce concepts such as the Genderbread Person to illustrate the differences between sex, gender expression, sexual attraction, and identity. I also share insights on how societal norms have evolved to recognize not only the binary of male and female but also the spectrum that includes intersex, transgender, and non-binary identities, highlighting the importance of understanding and respecting each individual's unique experience.

I hope to open minds and foster a deeper understanding of the fluidity and diversity within human sexuality and gender identity. I acknowledge that this episode merely scratches the surface of a vast topic and that language and labels continue to evolve. I aim to promote empathy and inclusivity, inviting listeners to embrace the complexity of human identity with an open heart and mind.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

Embark on a journey to redefine what it means to have truly mind-blowing sex in this eye-opening episode. In this episode I confront the traditional script of sexual encounters and propose a more expansive and satisfying approach.

It's a candid talk about the nuances of desire, the rhythm of sexual compatibility, and the profound role of intellectual connection in physical intimacy. Discover the transformative power of slowing down, the art of anticipation, and the joy of exploring your partner's body and mind in ways that defy convention.

If you're ready to turn the page on your sex life and embark on a path to pleasure that’s as mentally engaging as it is physical, this is the discussion you need to hear.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I'm getting personal about pubic hair—yes, the unsung hero of our nether regions. It's more than just hair; it's a natural barrier that keeps moisture and microscopic debris at bay. Remember the episode on the glorious clitoris, exclusively devoted to pleasure?

Well, pubic hair also plays its part in the sensory experience, with each tug awakening those delicate touch receptors. I discovered that even in ancient Egypt, pubic hair was not only represented artistically but also groomed for reasons beyond aesthetics, like preventing lice.

Fast forward to today, and the practice of hair removal has evolved into a statement of beauty and status. From chafing to increasing STI chances, it's a delicate balance. So, I'm here to share my candid experiences and to remind you that whether you wax, shave, or go au naturel, do it safely and for yourself.

Your body, your rules!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠

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Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

You may be lucky enough not to experience any major symptoms of menopause. Chances are though, you will have a dry vagina at some point in your peri and post-menopause life (and possibly even postpartum).

Dry vaginas are not only uncomfortable, they can lead to many other symptoms that can ultimately be life-threatening. In this episode, I'll explain why you may be experiencing a dessert-like vulva and what you can do to make it better.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Pain with penetrative sex is all too common. It causes many vulva owners to bolt from the bedroom and give up on sex. During perimenopause and after menopause our bodies change hormonally and physically. Now add the stress that comes with life challenges, why would you want to have sex? In this episode, I'll offer some explanations as to why you may be having pain with sex and what you can do so that you can enjoy sex again.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certifie Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: This episode is not intended to provide medical advice. If you have any questions about your particular situation, please visit a qualified healthcare provider.

Find a woman's sexual health provider in your area: https://app.v1.statusplus.net/membership/provider/index?society=isswsh Menopause.org resources: https://www.menopause.org/for-women/sexual-health-menopause-online

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In this episode, I dive into the benefits of testosterone for women. I share my own experience with testosterone therapy and how it helps me with everything from libido and orgasms to brain fog and muscle mass.

It’s not just about sex drive—testosterone also helps with bone strength, hot flashes, and even Alzheimer’s prevention. I break down how it’s prescribed, why proper dosing is so important, and why you should never borrow your husband’s testosterone (trust me, I’ve got a wild story about that).

Whether you’re curious about testosterone, considering hormone therapy, or just want to feel your best during menopause, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it!

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (01:03) Testosterone’s role in women’s health.
• (02:24) Benefits: libido, orgasms, brain fog, muscle mass, bone strength, Alzheimer’s prevention.
• (03:27) How testosterone is prescribed and why baseline testing matters.
• (04:31) Risks of misuse and why women need lower doses than men.
• (05:33) Off-label use and delivery methods (gels, creams, pellets).
• (06:26) Exercise and protein’s role in maximizing testosterone’s benefits.
• (07:18) Recap: Testosterone with estrogen & progesterone.
• (08:20) Closing remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube:

In today's episode, part 1 of 2, I had the pleasure of welcoming Dr. Stacey Gruber, a renowned expert in the field of cannabis research and its implications on mental health and substance abuse.

One of the most compelling parts of our conversation revolved around personal experiences with cannabis, including my own. Dr. Gruber eloquently addressed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding cannabis use for medical purposes, emphasizing the importance of finding the right product and dosage to suit individual needs and conditions. She also touched on the potential benefits of cannabis in enhancing sexual health and wellbeing, a topic that resonates with many yet often goes unexplored.

Dr. Gruber's work is not just about cannabis; it's about opening doors to new forms of treatment that could revolutionize how we approach mental health and wellness. Her dedication to advancing our understanding of cannabis and its potential benefits is truly inspiring, leaving me eager to learn more about how this plant could impact our lives in positive ways. *watch the full episode here

About Dr. Gruber

Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions.

Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

On today's show, I caught up with Kamna Bhojwani at the Sexual Health Alliance conference, where her raw honesty about sexual shame instantly grabbed my attention. With three psychology degrees and a master's from Columbia specifically focused on sexual shame, Kamna cuts through the bullshit to address what's really holding us back in midlife. We get real about everything - from awkward doctor visits to dating app disasters, from hormone changes to orgasm responsibilities. Whether you're divorced, dating, or just trying to figure out your changing body, this conversation tackles the shame that keeps us quiet and offers a fresh perspective on sexuality at any age.

Timestamps

(00:00) Introduction

(01:02) Meet Kamna

(02:28) "Sexuality isn't just about sex"

(05:10) Divorced & Dating: The New Rules

(08:04) "Why won't doctors talk about lube?"

(10:31) Men need help too

(12:21) Dating apps: Tool or Terror?

(14:34) "I got this, watch me"

(17:43) Finding your sexual power at 60+

(21:02) What even is sex, anyway?

Kaamna Bhojwani is a Certified Sexologist, sexuality researcher, educator and thought leader. Kaamna specializes in sexual shame which she studied most recently at Columbia University and is currently building the world’s first cross-cultural data set to understand its origins, nature and consequences. 

Find Kaamna here.

Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

After a long hiatus from sex, Tracy decided it was time to jump back into bed. Unfortunately, her body rejected the idea outright. She wasn't ready to lay back and take it. Tracy found an innovative new treatment that not only fixed the problem, it enhanced her sex life considerably. In this episode, you'll hear her story, the treatment she chose and her views on sex after 60.

Full video interview available here: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In the premiere episode of Season 2, Karen dives into the intricate tapestry of human sexuality and intimacy. Starting with a foundational question: "What is sex?" To explore this, we've gathered candid excerpts from a compelling discussion with a group of middle-aged women, each bringing their unique life experiences to the table. Episode Highlights:

• Defining Sex: The conversation begins with an exploration of what sex means to different individuals, challenging the traditional notion that it's solely about penetration.
• The Spectrum of Intimacy: We hear powerful stories illustrating that sex can be a varied experience, from a deeply personal act of self-pleasure to a shared, intimate connection without the goal of orgasm.
• Beyond the Physical: The discussion shifts to consider sex as a state of being that fosters intimacy, not just with others, but also with oneself.
• Vulnerability and Desire: The concept of vulnerability surfaces as a common thread, with the emphasis on the freedom to pursue one's desires in a safe and comfortable environment, irrespective of the form it takes.
• Inclusivity in Pleasure: The episode touches upon diverse sexual expressions, including S&M, and emphasizes the importance of inclusivity and openness in discussions about sex.
• Sex and Regret: Reflecting on experiences of regrettable sex, our guests confront the reality that not all sexual experiences are positive, acknowledging the complexity of sexual encounters and the impact of choice.

I invite you to join the conversation. What is your definition of sex? Share your thoughts, and we may feature them in upcoming episodes as we continue to unravel the mysteries and joys of sexual connection. Note to Listeners: This episode is a safe space for open dialogue.

Our goal is to dismantle taboos and encourage healthy, honest discussions about sex, fostering a community where we can all learn and grow together.

Send your thoughts on "What is Sex?" to: TabootoTruth@gmail.com We hope you find this episode both enlightening and thought-provoking. Remember, sex is as diverse as we are, and every perspective adds depth to our collective understanding. Tune in, share your story, and let's talk about sex.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Estrogen plays a role in your brain, bones, skin, and even your heart. When menopause hits and estrogen levels drop, the ripple effects can be dramatic—affecting everything from your mood and energy to your libido and long-term health.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, a board-certified OB-GYN, menopause expert, sex coach, and host of The Muslim Sex Podcast to talk about everything from the forgotten sex-positive history of Islam to painful sex during perimenopause that is so common but rarely discussed, and the ongoing debate over estrogen hormone therapy. If you’re in perimenopause (or just wondering what’s ahead), this episode will change the way you see your body—and give you the tools to take charge of your health. Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction to Dr. Sadaf Lodhi
• (02:08) Islam and erotology: The surprising sex-positive history
• (03:58) How colonization erased a sex-positive culture and changed everything
• (06:30) Religion, sex, and clients: How Dr. Sadaf approaches coaching
• (07:21) Vaginismus and painful penetration
• (10:23) Why pain with sex accelerates during perimenopause and menopause
• (11:19) The role of vaginal estrogen in reducing painful sex
• (12:03) Why the urethra gets bigger during menopause—and the risk of bladder infections
• (12:36) Contraindications for vaginal estrogen use
• (13:05) Why you should use vaginal estrogen even in perimenopause
• (14:07) Why doctors should start the menopause conversation at 35 (including ovarian insufficiency)
• (16:03) The hormone therapy debate: What you need to know
• (17:15) Should women take testosterone?
• (23:47) The ideal time for estrogen therapy: When to start and why
• (26:11) Dr. Sadaf’s upcoming retreat: Love, Nourish, and Thrive

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Dr. Sadaf Lodhi is a board-certified OB GYN with over 20 years of experience, specializing in sexual and menopausal health. She is the founder of Femme Vie Health, a concierge gynecology practice in New York, and provides telehealth services in Michigan. A certified sexual health specialist and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she is dedicated to empowering women through education and advocacy.

Dr. Lodhi hosts The Muslim Sex Podcast, making sexual and menopausal health accessible globally. She delivered a TEDx talk on sexual education for physicians and was honored as the 2024 Alumni of the...

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Irwin and Sue Goldstein to tackle the taboo around menopause and women’s sexual health. Why is it that we still don’t talk about what’s really happening in our bodies during menopause? It’s not just about hot flashes—there’s so much more going on beneath the surface that impacts everything from our physical health to our sexuality. Sue cuts through the noise about bioidentical hormones, while Dr. Irwin introduces us to a groundbreaking technique—a game-changer for understanding your own body. We’re breaking down the myths around hormone therapy, talking about why patient education and personalized care matter, and challenging the shame that keeps these conversations in the dark.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:05) Meet Dr. Irwin and Dr. Sue

(04:36) Secrets to a long marriage

(07:25) Menopause vs. male counterparts

(10:06) Recognizing menopause symptoms

(12:54) Hormonal support options

(18:08) Navigating perimenopause symptoms

(22:12) Vulvacoscopy

(30:45) Hormonal environment and tissue health

(35:00) Importance of hormonal monitoring

(40:15) Taboo surrounding female anatomy

(42:46) Consequences of untreated menopause

(44:48) Research and misconceptions about hormone therapy

Dr. Irwin Goldstein and Sue Goldstein are trailblazers in the field of sexual medicine. Dr. Irwin Goldstein, a renowned physician and researcher, has authored over 360 publications, making groundbreaking contributions that have shaped the modern understanding of sexual health. Sue Goldstein is a pioneering researcher and educator who has been instrumental in advancing knowledge of female sexual dysfunction. Together, they co-founded the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) in 2000, setting a global standard for research, education, and advocacy in women’s sexual health.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Hot Flashes and Hot Nights: Tips For Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: 

Let’s cut to the chase: relationships are hard. And let’s be honest, keeping the spark alive? Even harder. Between work, life, and the endless to-do list, intimacy often takes a backseat. But what if there was a way to flip the script? A way to not just save your relationship but make it hotter, deeper, and more exciting than ever?

In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, head of research at Couples Wellness for the app Arya.fyi and a PhD student at the University of Washington. We dive into the world of Arya.fyi, this incredible couples' wellness platform that’s all about helping partners explore and deepen their connection. Nicholas shares how Arya.fyi combines entertainment with education, offering everything from playful quizzes and customizable erotica to expert-led videos on topics like sensory play and even the history of kink.  We also talk about how the app uses a mix of AI and human experts to guide users through personalized experiences. Ever felt nervous about bringing up a new idea with your partner? Or maybe you’ve struggled to find the right words to talk about what you want? Arya.fyi’s got your back, making those conversations easier and way less awkward.

So, why is this app the talk of the town? And could it be the missing piece your relationship has been waiting for? Let’s just say, your bedroom might thank you later. Let's dive in!

Timestamps:

• (00:00:00) Introduction to Nicholas Velotta
• (00:01:22) What is the Arya.fyi app?
• (00:02:55) How couples find Arya.fyi
• (00:06:18) The AI and human concierge
• (00:07:34) Fun and educational activities on Arya.fyi
• (00:10:57) 80% of users seek relationship advice
• (00:12:47) Can technology enhance intimacy?
• (00:14:36) The future of intimacy and technology
• (00:17:42) Sensory play is the #1 request
• (00:20:43) Sexual confidence and exploration
• (00:21:49) The importance of safety in relationships
• (00:23:31) AI in relationships: friend or foe?
• (00:25:22) What is sex, really?
• (00:26:34) The future of AI and human interaction

About the Guest:

Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist whose work examines the intersection of technology and IRL intimate relationships. As the Head of Relationship Research at one of the world's first "relationship wellness" apps, Arya, Nicholas develops psychological profiles of our intimate and erotic selves using a vast archive of user data. In addition to investigating the nuances of intimate relationships using never-before-available data, he crafts AI-enhanced algorithms to curate digital content and physical goodies that increase relationship satisfaction. Nicholas is also a Ph.D. student at the University of Washington who, somehow, finds time to post explainer videos on social media...as well as the occasional meme. :)

You can find Nicholas here:

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause,...

Low libido, or hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), can be a tough challenge for many women, particularly during midlife.

In this episode, I take a closer look at the various medical treatments available for low libido, covering everything from prescription medications to hormone therapy and beyond. Whether you're dealing with hormonal shifts, relationship challenges, or simply feeling drained, this episode offers practical advice and solutions to help you regain your sexual vitality and feel more like yourself again.

If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to subscribe, share with someone who might benefit, and leave a review! Let’s continue the conversation and break the stigma around libido and midlife—together.

Timestamps:

• (00:00:00) - Introduction 
• (00:01:12) - What causes low libido?
• (00:02:08) - Factors contributing to low libido
• (00:03:19) - Overview of prescription drugs
• (00:04:22) - How Addyi works
• (00:05:33) - Vyleesi overview
• (00:06:34) - Viagra and Cialis for women
• (00:07:35) - Testosterone and hormone therapy
• (00:08:35) - Wellbutrin and libido
• (00:08:35) - Cannabis and libido

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at

We all know orgasms feel incredible, but how often do we actually stop and explore what they really mean?

In this episode, I walk you through the science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm—the heart-racing, muscle-contracting, hormone-releasing magic that feels so good. We also take an honest look at how men and women experience orgasms differently: why women often need more time to get in the mood, and how men can experience orgasms without ejaculation.

But this isn’t just about anatomy or science; it’s about YOU. I share personal stories, including one about a friend who experiences orgasms from exercise (yes, you read that right!), and how communication, curiosity, and a little playfulness can transform your intimate experiences. Plus, we explore why orgasms aren’t just about pleasure—they’re great for your health, too. Better sleep, lower stress, and even a stronger immune system? Yes, please.

Whether you’re looking to deepen your connection with a partner, understand your own body more intimately, or simply enjoy life’s pleasures to the fullest, this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (00:50) What is an orgasm, really?
• (01:24) The science behind what happens to your body during an orgasm
• (03:35) The different types of orgasms
• (06:57) How male orgasms differ from female orgasms
• (08:22) Why men tend to get aroused more quickly than women
• (09:03) The health benefits of orgasms
• (09:45) Some unexpected areas of the body that can enhance orgasm
• (10:04) The brain is your biggest sex organ

Register for Hot Flashes & Hot Nights at Newport Beach, CA on January 29th:

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

You spot a red flag, and what do you do? Run. Someone’s still obsessed with their ex? Gone. Talks only about themselves? No thanks. Financially unstable in their 50s? Hard pass.

We’ve trained ourselves to scan for every possible warning sign before we even give someone a real chance. But here’s a thought—when was the last time you actively looked for green flags? The little signs that someone might actually be worth your time?

In this episode, I flip the script on dating and relationships. Sure, avoiding red flags is important, but what about spotting the signs that someone is actually worth your time? From emotional stability to simple acts of kindness (like holding the door or sending a thoughtful text), we’re diving into what makes a partner a keeper.

Are we so focused on running that we forget to notice when we should stay? Let’s talk about it.

Timestamps:

• (01:07) The biggest red flags in dating after 50
• (02:16) Why dating someone who’s “almost divorced” is a risky move
• (02:16) The self-absorbed dater: how to spot them fast
• (04:01) Why financial security matters more than ever
• (05:01) The top green flags to look for in a potential partner
• (06:03) How small gestures (like opening a door) say a lot
• (07:05) Why a good relationship with an ex isn’t a bad thing

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

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Monogamy might seem simple on the surface, but is it really? In this episode, I dive into the often-overlooked complexities of what it means to be monogamous, especially in midlife relationships. From historical roots to modern interpretations, I explore how personal experiences and upbringing shape our definitions of fidelity.

I also share personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and tips to help you clarify expectations and strengthen communication with your partner. Whether you’re starting a new relationship or redefining an existing one, this episode is all about creating clarity and connection.

Timestamps:

• (01:10) Different perspectives on monogamy
• (02:23) A little history about monogamy
• (03:34) Why it’s important to clearly define monogamy
• (04:38) Why personal boundaries matter—and how to define them
• (06:40) What “cheating” means to different people (and why it’s not always clear).
• (07:32) Is a "work spouse" considered cheating?
• (07:38) Nesting after divorce for the kids’ sake
• (07:45) Is attending a sex party without participating a form of cheating?
• (09:28) Why monogamy is based on religious models
• (09:47) How our upbringing shapes our views on monogamy

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at...

Ready to spice up your sex life? The good news? You won't get pregnant. The bad news? Your dry vagina may make you prone to UTIs and more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections. Here are some facts and precautions you can take to have a healthy, enjoyable sex life.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I sit down with Lilith Foxx, a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky, and polyamorous marketing professional turned board-certified sexologist. Lilith, an AASECT-certified sexuality educator, professional speaker, coach, and diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging consultant, shares her journey from tech marketing to becoming a prominent figure in the world of BDSM and sexual education. I delve into her personal experiences with BDSM, how it has empowered her, and her professional insights on navigating kink safely and consensually. Whether you're curious about BDSM, looking to explore your own desires, or seeking to understand the intersectionality of marginalized identities within alternative sexualities, this episode offers valuable perspectives and practical advice.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:32) – Meet Lilith Foxx: BIPOC, Queer, Neurodivergent, Kinky, and Polyamorous Sexologist

(01:54) – Lilith’s Journey: From Tech Marketing to Sexuality Education

(03:42) – Empowering Through Sexuality: Overcoming Assault and Embracing Kink

(04:41) – Kink is Not Therapy: The Importance of Mental Health Treatment

(06:09) – Reenacting Trauma: Psychological Risks and Rewards

(09:16) – Navigating Consent and Communication in BDSM

(12:45) – Understanding Kink and BDSM: Definitions and Misconceptions

(15:12) – Negotiating Boundaries and Consent in Kink

(16:03) – Starting Your BDSM Journey: Tips for Beginners

(19:05) – The Appeal of Pain and Masochism in BDSM

(22:40) – BDSM and Empowerment: Building Confidence and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

(23:32) – Inclusivity in Kink: Navigating Disabilities and Marginalized Identities

(25:30) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Where to Find Lilith Foxx:

Website: https://lilithfoxx.com/

Instagram, @TheLilithFoxx https://www.instagram.com/thelilithfoxx/

Twitter (X): https://twitter.com/thelilithfoxx

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelilithfoxx

In this episode, I explore the concept of consensual non-monogamy, contemplating its role as an alternative relationship paradigm. I examine the failure rates of traditional marriages and question the sustainability of monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model.

Historical perspectives are considered, highlighting the evolution of women's societal roles and the contractual origins of marriage, which reveal a very different picture compared to modern romantic ideals. I also share insights into the gradual shift towards non-monogamous relationships, particularly among the younger demographic, and reflect on the reasons behind this shift.

This episode is not an endorsement but rather an exploration of the various forms non-monogamy can take, from swinging to polyamory, and the potential benefits and challenges each presents. It's a candid discussion about the possibility of redefining relationships to fit the complexities of modern life and individual needs.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Is squirting the ultimate out-of-body orgasmic experience, or just another overhyped sex myth? Some women swear it’s euphoric, others feel indifferent, and some want nothing to do with it. But what is squirting, really? Is it just pee? Is it something every woman can do? And how can you (or your partner) experience it?

In this episode, I break down the science and psychology behind squirting, from the anatomy of the female body to techniques that can lead to female ejaculation. Plus, we talk about the mental blocks that might be holding you back—and why preparation (hello, waterproof sheets!) is key.

Are we too caught up in the mechanics of it all? Or is squirting just another way to explore pleasure without shame? Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

• (00:00) What people really think about squirting
• (00:58) What is squirting? Breaking down the myths
• (02:47) Female anatomy: Understanding the Skene’s glands
• (03:47) The technique: How squirting happens (and how to try it)
• (04:41) The psychological side: Overcoming mental blocks and shame
• (05:37) Final thoughts: Is squirting worth the hype?

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at

In this episode, I’m getting real about something that can completely transform your relationship: vulnerability. We often think of vulnerability as something women do, but here’s the truth—men can be just as willing to open up, and when they do, it’s absolutely amazing. 

Here’s the thing: men and women aren’t as different as we think. The fears women have about aging, like changes to our bodies or confidence, are so similar to what men go through. For men, things like erectile dysfunction can feel like their whole identity is being questioned. But just like we’re learning to embrace the changes in ourselves, they can too—and we can help each other through it.

If this sounds like something you and your partner need, hit that play button and let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:06) Event recap: Embracing Midlife Sexuality

(00:02:13) Importance of men being given space for vulnerability

(00:03:16) Normalizing conversations about aging and sexuality

(00:04:20) Encouraging playful and creative approaches to intimacy

(00:05:24) Upcoming event: Hot Flashes and Hot Nights

(00:06:20) Redefining sex and aging

(00:07:24) Adding humor and playfulness to sex

(00:08:14) Importance of discussing sex openly with partners

(00:09:20) Communication and vulnerability in relationships

(00:10:10) Conclusion and call to action

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control...

Hey there, and welcome to Season 4 of the Taboo to Truth podcast! I’m your host, Karen Bigman, and I’m thrilled to have you with me for another season of unapologetic conversations about sexuality in midlife. Whether you're navigating a dwindling libido, struggling with sexual health changes, or just trying to understand what's happening to your body during menopause, I’m here to talk about it all. This podcast is all about breaking the silence around these topics and creating a safe, supportive space where no question is too awkward or taboo.

This season, I’m on a mission to help you rewire your desire and spice things up after 50. I’m bringing in a wide range of experts—from sex addiction specialists to sex technology gurus—and I’ll be teaching you techniques to make your sex life even better. I want you to feel empowered to explore what works best for you, so get ready to dive in and learn something new!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I sit down with the renowned mediator and family attorney Susan Guthrie, who brings over three decades of experience in the intricacies of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.

Susan's unique approach to marital issues through mediation has breathed new life into long-term relationships that seemed to be at a crossroads. She shares her wisdom on how couples can legally redefine their relationships, open up dialogues on intimacy, and why a "marital mediation" could be the saving grace your relationship needs. We dive into an in-depth discussion about the unspoken challenges many couples face after years of marriage.

Susan provides us with real-world examples of how changing the dynamics of a relationship, with the help of legal contracts, can lead to a more fulfilling partnership. If you're considering a change in your marital life or simply looking for ways to spark new life into your relationship, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge, practical advice, and the possibility that love, indeed, can evolve with time.

About Susan Guthrie, Esq.  Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law Attorneys and Mediators in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for more than 30 years. Susan provides online divorce and legal coaching services to select clients around the world.

As a leading dispute resolution professional, Susan is honored to serve on the Executive Council of the American Bar Association’s (ABA) Section of Dispute Resolution as the Budget Officer and to be a Co-Chair of the Advanced Mediation Institute.

https://www.instagram.com/susanguthrieesq/

https://divorceandbeyondpod.com/top-episodes

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Diving into the depths of communication within the context of consensual non-monogamy, this episode revisits the essential conversations that can either make or break the dynamic of a long-term relationship.

I discuss the complexities CNM it entails, especially when considering introducing such a concept into a relationship. The episode provides listeners with the tools to initiate a dialogue with their partner, highlighting the successful journey of couples like Britta and Gary (Episode 28) who navigated these waters before, the art of communication, advising against starting with negatives and instead, fostering a supportive and loving atmosphere. In the end, the message is clear: broaching the subject of spicing up one's intimacy should be done with care and should never be confined to the bedroom.

Love is the starting point, and from there, the possibilities for growth and excitement in the relationship are endless.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Why do we have shame about talking about our bodies and sex? What does "losing your virginity really mean?"

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Get ready for some jaw-dropping insights, because they reveal that anyone with a pelvic floor can turn up the heat with pelvic floor physical therapy! These remarkable muscles aren't just for show; they're the secret sauce behind your bowel, bladder, sexual prowess, and more!

Discover how pelvic floor therapy can set your bedroom ablaze. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, or muscle tension, this episode has the sensual secrets to reignite the spark in your love life. From lubes that'll make your head spin to tantalizing vibratory tools, they've got the inside scoop on maximizing pleasure. Listen to this terrific episode to get the "ins" and "outs" of your pelvic floor.

Find Allea:

Allea Francis PT, DPT Pelvic Floor Specialist Daybreak Physical Therapy and Pelvic Wellness, Inc. ⁠949-312-1784⁠ ⁠Daybreakpt.com⁠

Instagram: @thepelvicptdoc

The-ology Vibrator https://amzn.to/49uTBoA

Recommended Lubricants: Good Clean Love, Uberlube, Slippery Stuff 

Pleasure Map: A pleasure map in pelvic floor physical therapy is a personalized guide that helps individuals explore and understand their own sexual anatomy and sensations. It includes illustrations and information about erogenous zones, nerve pathways, and muscular structures involved in sexual response. This tool empowers individuals to communicate effectively about their sexual health and preferences with healthcare providers and partners.

Sensate focus: guided by a pelvic floor physical therapist, is a structured approach to rebuilding intimacy for those facing pelvic floor concerns. It emphasizes non-sexual touch and communication, creating a safe space for partners to reconnect and regain comfort with intimacy. This gradual progression helps reduce anxiety and allows for a more enjoyable and confident sexual experience.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/

⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I delve into the complexities of sex in midlife and navigating the waters of getting intimate and the often unspoken trials of dating during menopause. I am thrilled to have Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, join us.

Alyssa shares her journey through divorce at 41 and the rediscovery of self as she ventured into the world of online dating. We get candid about the realities of dating post-divorce, the hilarity of trying to find a sexual partner, and the intricacies of managing expectations and self-perception when it comes to menopause and sexual health. Alyssa’s approach to styling not only changes profiles but also changes lives by fostering confidence in the dating scene.

From discussing the importance of protection and STD conversations to embracing sexuality at any age, Alyssa's insights are as refreshing as they are invaluable. If you're navigating the dating world in midlife or just looking for a relatable conversation on modern love, this episode is not to be missed.

As a fashion editor turned stylist and art director, she brings a unique perspective to the table, transforming the online dating experience by empowering individuals to take charge of their dating profiles. With her expertise, Alyssa has garnered attention from The New York Times, The Today Show, and Oprah Daily, among others, and has recently published a book titled "The Art of Online Dating."

Find Alyssa on her website, stylemyprofilenyc.com, or follow her journey on Instagram @AlyssaDineen and @StyleMyProfileNYC.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Today, I'm peeling back the curtain on the world of adult toys. We’re starting off by busting some common myths. Have you ever heard that adult toys are a 'last resort' or that they could numb your senses? Well, it's time to separate fact from fiction with some real talk and expert-backed information.

Plus, I’m taking you on a tour through the exciting variety of adult toys out there. From the classic vibrators to the more adventurous BDSM gear, I'll be explaining how each type caters to different preferences and how they can enrich your personal experiences. Moving on, let’s talk about something super important: using these toys safely and with the right knowledge. I’ll be diving into why choosing the right materials like silicone or stainless steel matters and how the right lubricant can make all the difference. And if you’re wondering about keeping things clean and hygienic, I’ve got some pro tips for you. This episode is for anyone who's curious, looking to learn, or just wants to hear an honest conversation about adult toys. Remember, exploring your sexuality is perfectly normal, and doing so safely and respectfully is what it's all about.

Prefer the video version? https://youtu.be/XHwU2c90XUw

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Ever feel like your sex life is on autopilot? We’ve all been there – the same routine, the same positions, the same predictable outcome. What if I told you your sex life could be playful, adventurous, and deeply satisfying again? Routine can be the death of passion—but it doesn’t have to be.

In this episode, I delve into 10 ways to have better sex and break free from "wallpaper sex" (you know, the same old routine). Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or exploring solo pleasure, these tips will help you reconnect with pleasure, curiosity, and fun. Some of these tips will surprise you. Some might even make you blush. But one thing’s for sure—you’ll never look at pleasure the same way again!

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (00:15) The problem with "wallpaper sex"
• (00:34) Naked dates
• (00:58) Clothed sex with no genitals involved
• (01:11) Mutual masturbation – why watching is half the fun
• (01:30) Shower sex (safety first)
• (01:50) Sexy card games to unlock fantasies you’ve been too shy to share
• (02:16) Watching ethical porn sites like MakeLoveNotPorn
• (03:05) Sexting like a pro (steamy examples included)
• (03:28) "Sex snacking" – tiny touches that keep the spark alive
• (03:52) Surprise your partner – the fur coat reveal (my signature move)
• (04:12) Change location – break free from the bedroom

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

And, if you’re in the Los Angeles area, join me and urologist/sexual medicine specialist Dr. Ashley Winter for a night of menopause trivia, laughs & myth-busting on April 9th, Wednesday! 

Menopause Madness: Hot Flashes & Hot Nights https://www.eventbrite.com/e/menopause-madness-hot-flashes-hot-nights-los-angeles-registration-1274530979469

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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In this episode, I'm opening up about a topic that's often whispered about but rarely spoken out loud: mismatched libidos. I'll share with you my thoughts and experiences on the lack of sexual desire—whether it's something that can be revived or an intrinsic part of someone's being.

I talk abut strategies for finding what gets you in the mood, and how to communicate these needs to your partner. Whether it's setting a romantic scene or experimenting with new forms of foreplay, finding the key to your desire can be a rewarding journey. Let's get comfortable and start the conversation on making our sex lives as fulfilling as they can be.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I revisit the topic of painful sex, specifically for women. I delve into the medical term for painful sex, dyspareunia, and explores various causes and solutions. I provide valuable insights into how women can redefine sex to include many other pleasurable activities that do not involve pain. I also discusses the importance of addressing painful sex and offers practical advice on treatments and therapies available to overcome this issue.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:25) – Revisiting the Topic of Painful Sex

(01:18) – Hormonal Changes and Painful Sex

(02:13) – Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause

(03:43) – Understanding Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

(05:03) – The Role of Lubricants in Reducing Pain

(06:08) – Tools and Products to Help with Painful Sex

(07:43) – Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy

(09:03) – Addressing Infections and Other Medical Issues

(10:28) – The Importance of Sex Therapy

(11:50) – Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration

(12:18) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Mentioned in the Episode:

https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-rings

https://hellobonafide.com/products/revaree

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Ever wondered why the clitoris is often misunderstood, despite being the ultimate pleasure powerhouse? Did you know it has over 10,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of the body?

In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of the clitoris, an organ uniquely designed for pleasure. I break down its anatomy, both external and internal, and explain why it’s so vital for sexual satisfaction. I also tackle misconceptions, explore how menopause impacts sensitivity, and share actionable tips for self-exploration and partner education. My goal is to empower you to understand your body better, embrace your pleasure, and enhance intimacy. Let’s celebrate the glorious clitoris and what it means for your sexual wellness.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:17) The unique purpose of the clitoris

(02:24) Anatomy of the clitoris

(04:20) Misconceptions about the clitoris

(05:28) The G-spot explained

(06:37) Model demonstration of vulva anatomy

(07:40) Nerve endings and sensitivity

(08:43) Menopause and sensitivity changes

(09:46) Encouragement for women to explore their bodies

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Hot Flashes & Hot Nights, Thriving Through Menopause, 12/12, 6pm. Echo Park, LA: https://www.taboototruth.com/upcoming-events

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I address howwe can bridge it to ensure women's sexual satisfaction. In heterosexual sex, understanding and education play crucial roles in addressing this issue. Men often don't realize that clitoral stimulation is essential for women to orgasm.

Women may not be aware of their own needs, leading to frustration during penetrative sex. Factors like stress and distractions can affect arousal, but it doesn't mean women want sex any less than men. Sex is often portrayed as a quick, performance-driven act in media.

The narrative around sex must change to bridge the orgasm gap. Women are sexual beings, and embracing their changing needs can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠

⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

What’s the role of power in your relationships, and how does it shape intimacy?

In this episode, I delve into the nuanced world of power dynamics, kink, and midlife sexuality. Inspired by the provocative themes in the film Babygirl featuring Nicole Kidman, I bring my perspective as a sex educator to explore topics that are often left unspoken, but deeply impactful.

From the transformative possibilities of power exchange to the surprising ways infidelity might reignite connection, I tackle the complexities of modern relationships with insight and empathy. I also discuss the importance of honest communication about sexual dissatisfaction, the identity of kink as more than just an activity, and society’s evolving perspectives on age and gender in relationships.

Whether you’re curious about exploring kink, reflecting on your own sexual identity, or seeking to deepen connection in your relationships, this episode offers thoughtful reflections and practical advice to help you navigate intimacy with greater clarity and confidence.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (01:15) Power dynamics and blackmail as a kink?
• (06:00) Dynamics of kink exploration and self-expression
• (07:30) Why you should openly talk about sexual satisfaction with your partner
• (08:15) Age-related dynamic shifts in relationships with younger partners

Mentioned:

• Film - Babygirl (2024): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt30057084/
• Book - The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel: https://www.amazon.com/State-Affairs-Rethinking-Infidelity/dp/0062322583

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email:

Online dating is the way for people of all ages to meet today, though it comes with its own set of challenges and rewards. The variety of dating apps available allows you to find one that aligns with your values and lifestyle, whether that's based on religion, interests, or relationship goals.

It's crucial to approach these platforms with a sense of authenticity and honesty, both in how you present yourself and in what you expect from others. In this episode I discuss my experience navigating the apps, the first dates and the next ones, communicating on dates, and boundries and red flags to consider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice.

Disclaimer: Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared?

At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn’t back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change.

In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why do abusers get more protection than victims? How do tech platforms keep enabling harm? And what can we do about it?

We’ll also explore the blurred lines between online sex work and exploitation, the problem with calling it “revenge porn,” and how Norma found power in the unlikeliest of places—including OnlyFans.

This isn’t just a story. It’s a wake up call. Are you ready? Let’s get into it!

Timestamps:

• (00:39) Introduction to Norma Buster
• (01:50) Norma’s story: Surviving stalking and image-based abuse from ex-boyfriend
• (04:48) The legal fight: How laws fail victims of revenge porn
• (09:04) Tech-facilitated abuse: When the internet becomes a weapon
• (11:03) Why sex workers need legal protection/Sex Work and Decriminalization
• (14:44) Is OnlyFans legal?
• (15:00) The difference between legalization and decriminalization
• (16:36) Norma's journey to OnlyFans
• (20:12)The therapeutic aspect of sex work
• (24:07) How her advocacy impacts dating and relationships
• (27:01) Norma's definition of sex

About the Guest:

Norma Buster is a sex-positive victim’s rights advocate and the Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg, a law firm specializing in tech-facilitated abuse. Once a victim of image-based sexual abuse, she now fights for others in similar situations, advocating for stronger legal protections and digital safety. She’s also the creator and host of Oral Arguments, a podcast that explores the intersections of sex, tech, and the law.

You can find Norma here:

Website

LinkedIn

Instagram

CA Goldberg Law Firm

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing expectations, and creating space for genuine connection in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:41) - The Importance of Receiving Pleasure

(02:13) - Cultural Pressures on Women and Self-Care

(04:54) - Learning to Accept Help

(05:44) - Exploring Intimacy and Communication

(07:00) - Understanding Personal Preferences in Pleasure

(12:38) - The Role of Stress in Intimacy

(16:03) - Using the Erotic Blueprints for Exploration

(21:01) - Final Thoughts and Resources

Listen to the Life Turned On Podcast

Visit the Linger Boutique

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

If you can't tell your partner what you want, how can you possibly have good sex? Learning to talk about sex is much harder than just doing it. It takes work, but I promise you, great sex is worth it!

As women become perimenopausal and post-menopause, the way we enjoy sex changes. You may become more sensitive or sex may become more painful. Communicating this to your partner is critical.

Starting a conversation about how you enjoy sex with a long-term partner or a new partner can be very anxiety-producing. Don't let this stop you! Your pleasure is paramount.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:46) - Schedule change announcement

(01:15) - Creating the perfect environment

(02:30) - Exploring toys and pleasure tools

(03:15) - Mindful body awareness techniques

(04:00) - Using audio and visual resources

(05:16) - Closing thoughts and next episode

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, we sit down with Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D. a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues, to discuss how men can improve their sex lives through emotional regulation, removing sexual entitlement, and enhancing consent and negotiation skills. Eric, an award-winning author, shares his personal journey and professional insights on creating healthier, more enjoyable sexual relationships. I also delve into his approach to addressing issues related to patriarchal norms, empathetic communication, and the importance of consent. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or exploring non-monogamy, this conversation offers valuable guidance on fostering deeper and more respectful connections.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction

(00:25) – Meet Eric FitzMedrud, Ph.D.: Expert in Relationship and Sexual Issues

(01:37) – Eric's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Insights

(03:01) – Navigating Consent and Desire

(04:55) – Challenges Men Face in Modern Dating

(06:10) – The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships

(09:18) – Understanding Men's Emotional and Sexual Health

(19:54) – Addressing Common Misconceptions About Gender and Attachment

(23:14) – Practical Tips for Better Sexual Communication

(38:26) – Eric's Personal Experience with Polyamory

(44:05) – Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Where to find Eric:

Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/

Book: The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex

Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drericfitz/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drericfitz

I'm opening the conversation about sex in midlife. Sharing my story made me realize how little we discuss the challenges so many of us face. Allow me to start! From missing Os to the shame of telling my partners, I'll tell you the truth. No topic is taboo here. Bring it on!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Register for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com!

In this episode, we welcome the incredible Mahri Relin, founder of Body Conceptions. Mahri shares her passion for supporting women's fitness and body positivity, which led her to create a unique and empowering workout method that doesn't just challenge but also uplifts women without body-shaming.

Mahri reveals how her fitness philosophy expanded to address the specific needs of women during various life transitions, including fertility and perimenopause. She sheds light on the delicate balance between hormones and fitness and how understanding this balance is crucial for optimal well-being and shares her insights into managing stress, understanding the pelvic floor, and nurturing a positive relationship with our changing bodies.

This episode is a profound exploration of finding empowerment, meaning, and embracing change as we journey through midlife, all while prioritizing our health, both physical and emotional. Don't miss out on Mahri Relin's valuable insights and actionable tips for a healthier, more fulfilling life during and after midlife.

Meet Mahri

As a former professional dancer, Mahri Relin spent 12 years dancing around the world. It was through dancing that Mahri discovered her passion for fitness. Mahri spent her early years in the fitness industry working as a trainer for the Tracy Anderson Studio and went on to become the Creative Director for FlyBarre at Flywheel Sports. After extensive experience, Mahri realized that there were big gaps in fitness solutions for women going through their most significant life events and changes.  She refined her own dance-inspired method through extensive research in and out of the studio and devoted her life to providing women with the most intelligent, personalized, and joyful fitness experience possible. As a NASM Certified Personal Trainer, Corrective Exercise Specialist, AFPA Pre and Postnatal Exercise Specialist, Certified Wellness and Nutrition Consultant, and fitness enthusiast, Mahri is on a mission to help you tap into your unique strengths and flourish as the best version of YOU!"

The Method

Body Conceptions is designed to create a lean and sculpted body of a dancer, but you don’t have to be a dancer to do it! Throughout each session, every part of your body is targeted – from your arms and abs to your thighs, glutes and heart. Both the cardio and body-sculpting components of the method use integrated movements that involve multiple muscles and require engagement of and connection to your core. Every session will test your limits – but the current, exciting music combined with the energy and joy infused into the workout will make you almost forget you are working so hard. Deemed one of the two "Best Body-Sculpting Workouts" in New York City by Vogue, Body Conceptions has been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Shape, Harper’s Bazaar, Redbook, DuJour, The New York Daily News, The New Pork Post, Well + Good, Prevention and Dance Spirit Magazine.  Mahri has also created specialized content for Fitness Magazine, SELF, health.com, Elizabeth Street, Well-Rounded and FITiST.   For more information, visit: http://www.bodyconceptions.com.

Mahri Relin MS, CPT, Owner and Founder Pre/Postnatal Exercise Specialist Corrective Exercise Specialist

Body

As we countdown to the new year, it’s time to leave behind the dull sex life of 2024 and step into something hotter and more exciting. Want to know how to turn up the heat in the bedroom or even at your next sex party? In this episode,I’m sharing five tips for better sex in 2025.

What’s the secret? Well, let’s just say communication is key (but I’m not talking about just words), making time for sex is a must (yes, even if it means scheduling it), and being creative will totally change the game. Oh, and did I mention why not all sex is about the orgasm? Trust me, you’ll want to hear why.

Hit play, and let’s make 2025 the year of hotter, more thrilling sex. You won’t want to miss what’s coming next.

Timestamps:

• (00:00:01) Introduction
• (00:01:09) Tip 1: Communicate
• (00:02:08) Tip 2: Make time for sex / Schedule your sex time
• (00:02:28) Tip 3: Lubricate and make everything slippery
• (00:03:12) Tip 4: Be creative / Try new things
• (00:03:43) Tip 5: Don’t focus on the outcome / Orgasm
• (00:04:31) Closing remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Take control of your pleasure...

Sex and Menopause- two words that often are not said in a positive light in the same sentence. Society suggests that women that are menopausal are old, washed up and sexless. I'm happy to report that I'm a living, breathing example of busting that myth and I want you to join me. Whatever you're experiencing, hot flashes, dry vaginas, low libido or a sexless marriage, you are not alone!

Over 50% of the population will go through the menopause transition over the next 40 years. If you're female and own a vulva, you will be one of those women! Rather than crumble up and join a female ashram where you put yourself out to pasture or relegate yourself to the back of the bedroom, I say embrace it!

Get yourself some sex toys, put on some sexy lingerie and embrace your inner sexuality.

Menopause is THE opportunity of your lifetime. ENJOY IT!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Register for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com!

Sex used to be fun and pleasurable but now every time you try to get into it, you throw out your hip. You're not alone, menopause and the normal effects of aging can wreak havoc on your sex life. This week I'll give you some ideas on how to change it up so you can get rejigger your intimacy and make it pleasurable again.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

What can you do when you're never in the mood? In this episode, I explain some of the reasons you might not want sex and what you can do about it because sex is good for your health!!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Register for my October 9th webinar on sex, hormones, and menopause, and get 50% off with code MENOACCESS before September 30th at taboototruth.com!

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth. As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body

(00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach

(04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expect

(06:45) – You’re Not Alone: Encouragement for Navigating Menopause

(08:00) – The Importance of Sexual Health for Overall Well-Being

(09:30) – Exploring New Sexual Experiences and Breaking the Vanilla Routine

(11:15) – Personal Reflections: Dating Apps, Relationships, and Lessons Learned

(13:20) – What’s Next: Upcoming Guests and Topics to Look Forward To

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I tackle the often stigmatized topic of herpes and STIs in midlife. Dating can be complicated enough without the added stress of navigating STIs, particularly herpes. I share my personal experiences and insights, aiming to break the silence and dispel common myths surrounding this condition. Herpes is not life-threatening, and many people live with it without significant issues. By focusing on open communication and honesty, I emphasize the importance of talking about sexual health with partners. My goal is to create a supportive environment for candid discussions about herpes and other STIs. Together, we’ll explore how to manage these realities while still enjoying a healthy and fulfilling sex life.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Introduction to STIs and Herpes

(01:12) – Stigma Surrounding Herpes

(02:11) – Personal Experience with a Partner

(04:00) – Understanding Herpes Transmission

(10:41) – The Importance of Disclosure

(15:19) – Navigating Relationships with Herpes

(17:32) – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I'm diving into the world of kink, a term that captures a broad spectrum of activities beyond the conventional or "vanilla" intimate practices. Kink isn't just about the extreme of dungeons and dramatic scenarios; it's fundamentally about venturing into desires that stray from one's usual experiences, which could be as straightforward as altering the ambiance with different lighting.

Within this realm, BDSM stands out as a notable subset, encompassing bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. Many people find kink a playful and explorative outlet, a healthy way to relieve stress, and an avenue for fostering deep trust and communication with their partners.

This journey into understanding kink and BDSM invites us to broaden our perspective on the diversity of human pleasure and the ways in which adults can engage in consensual, informed, and joyful exploration.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:39) - Origins as a Financial Contract

(01:04) - Today's Marriage Success Rates

(01:37) - Chemistry: From Sparks to Comfort

(02:00) - Marriage's Unspoken Expectations

(02:29) - Trading Intimacy for Chores

(03:43) - Signs of Lasting Love

(04:17) - Breaking the Silence

(05:19) - Small Steps to Reconnection

(06:28) - Creating Playful Surprises

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Alyssa Dweck, a seasoned gynecologist and chief medical officer of Bonafide Health, whose expertise in female sexual health and menopause offers invaluable insights.

Dr. Dweck shared with us the common sexual health challenges women face, especially during menopause, such as sexual pain, diminished libido, and the impact of medical issues on sexual function. She emphasized the importance of open communication with healthcare providers and highlighted non-hormonal treatments like vaginal moisturizers and lubricants as game-changers for women experiencing vaginal dryness.

Dr. Dweck's approach to addressing these sensitive issues with compassion and evidence-based solutions truly resonated with me, reinforcing the message that women do not have to navigate these challenges alone. We also delved into the realm of hormone therapy and its misconceptions, particularly the nuanced conversation around vaginal estrogen and systemic hormone therapy.

**Please note that this podcast episode is not intended to give medical advice. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

About Dr. Dweck: Dr. Alyssa Dweck, MS, MD, FACOG is the Chief Medical Officer at Bonafide Health, LLC. She is a practicing gynecologist in Westchester County, New York, provides care to women of all ages and has delivered thousands of babies. A graduate of Barnard College, she has a Masters Degree in Human Nutrition from Columbia University and her Medical Degree from Hahnemann University School of Medicine in Philadelphia, now named Drexel University. Dr. Dweck trained at Lankenau Medical Center Wynnewood, Pennsylvania, where she was Chief Resident in 1994. For more information visit: https://hellobonafide.com/blogs/authors/alyssa-dweck https://hellobonafide.com/

Email: doctordweck@gmail.com 

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram @taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ 

After a long marriage, I was feeling liberated and ready to reignite my sex life. I soon realized that, for me, getting intimate was more than just sex. In this episode, you'll hear a little about my story. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/taboototruth/message

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Menopause isn’t a disease. So why does the world treat it like one? The whispers start early. Get ready—your body is about to betray you. The fear. The shame. The idea that once you hit a certain age, you’re less vibrant, less desirable, less… you. But what if that’s all a lie?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a renowned OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and author of Menopause Bootcamp, to break down the myths, misconceptions, and truths about menopause. From the science behind hormonal changes to the emotional and societal impacts, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating—or preparing for—this life stage.

We explore why menopause isn’t a disease, how hormone therapy can be a game-changer, and why the fear of breast cancer shouldn’t overshadow the benefits of treatment. Plus, we tackle the buzzwords like “natural” and “bioidentical,” and discuss the role of lifestyle, diet, and community in thriving through menopause.

This isn’t just a conversation about hormones—it’s about reclaiming power, understanding our bodies, and embracing the wisdom that comes with age. Are you ready to redefine menopause? Let’s dive in!

About the Guest:

Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is a board-certified OB-GYN, women’s health expert, and advocate for integrative medicine. She is the author of Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Yourself, and Flourish as You Age and a frequent media contributor, including as the Chief Medical Correspondent for The Drew Barrymore Show. Dr. Suzanne is passionate about empowering women to take control of their health and embrace menopause as a transformative life stage.

You can find Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz here:

Website

LinkedIn

Instagram

Book

Timestamps:

• (00:47) Introduction to Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz
• (01:46) What is perimenopause and menopause?
• (05:13) The wide-ranging symptoms of perimenopause
• (08:02) The rise of antidepressants during menopause
• (09:41) The truth about hormone therapy
• (20:23) When to start hormone therapy
• (25:33) Busting the biggest myths about breast cancer risk
• (27:59) Hormone therapy and osteoporosis
• (29:07) The overlooked cancer risks you should know about
• (32:52) Natural vs. Bioidentical Hormones: What’s the real difference?
• (39:42) Can lifestyle choices make menopause easier?
• (43:03) Menopause Boot Camp & what’s next on the journey

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical...

In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives about midlife sexuality, offering hope and practical guidance for couples at any life stage.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:05) - Meet Dr. Emily Jamea

(03:06) - Moving Beyond "Dysfunction" Language

(07:04) - Gender and Desire in Midlife

(15:54) - The Five Secrets Framework Revealed

(20:32) - Understanding the Phases of Sexual Connection

(24:21) - Single Life and Relationship Readiness

(27:35) - Lifelong Sexuality

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Find Dr. Emily Jamea here:

https://emilyjamea.com/

https://emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast/

Instagram: @dremilyjamea

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea/

FB https://www.facebook.com/dremilyjamea

Pre-order book: https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren’t equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly connected with our bodies. This episode is all about breaking the silence, reclaiming our sexual well-being, and moving toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Desire Discrepancy

(00:17) - Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:04) - Meet Dr. Rachel Zar

(02:05) - What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

(03:17) - Understanding Sexual Therapy Training

(05:14) - Common Issues in Sex Therapy

(10:30) - Navigating Painful Sex and Low Libido

(15:01) - The Importance of Education and Awareness

(22:37) - Understanding Foreplay vs Core Play

(30:52) - The Role of Exercise in Enhancing Sex

(31:36) - Kink Affirmative Therapy Explained

(40:43) - The Definition of Sex and Its Spectrum

(41:18) - Conclusion and Resources for Listeners

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Connect with Dr. Rachel Zar:

Website: https://www.rachelzartherapy.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-zar-phd-lmft-cst-107a9610/

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Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In part 2 of my interview with Dr Staci Gruber, we delved into the complexities of cannabis use, including its potential for addiction, known formally as Cannabis Use Disorder (CUD). We also touched upon the evolution of cannabis potency over the years, with today's products containing much higher THC levels than those from decades ago, raising the stakes in the risk-benefit analysis of cannabis consumption.

The conversation further explored the medical applications of cannabis, highlighting its utility in managing pain, sleep disorders, and other health issues. The conversation also ventured into the areas of women's health, underscoring the lack of research and the growing interest in cannabis for managing conditions like endometriosis and menopause symptoms. It was a reminder of the importance of being an informed consumer, understanding the goal of your cannabis use, and ensuring the safety and efficacy of the products you choose.

Our dialogue underscored the evolving landscape of cannabis use and research, highlighting the need for more education and open conversations between consumers and healthcare providers to navigate the complexities of cannabis as both a medicinal and recreational substance.

Watch the full episode here. About Dr. Gruber Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions. Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I bring you an intimate conversation with Britta and Gary, a couple whose decision to open up their marriage invites us all to rethink what commitment looks like. They offer a candid look into the decision-making process behind adopting a lifestyle of ethical non-monogamy and the profound dialogues that supported their transition.

Britta and Gary pull back the curtain on the complexities they faced, such as handling jealousy, maintaining open lines of communication, and the enriched sexual connection that followed. Their story is one of bravery, love, and the continuous evolution of a relationship that refuses to be boxed in by societal standards. This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about or considering an open marriage, as it challenges preconceived notions about love, sex, and partnership.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

How do emotional and sexual wellness intertwine to redefine intimacy in midlife?

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with somatic sex educator Kiana Reeves for a deep dive into the evolving dynamics of relationships and sexual intimacy, particularly during midlife. We talk about the vital connection between emotional and sexual well-being, exploring how authentic communication and intentional practices can transform both personal and partnered experiences.

Kiana shares her expertise on somatic approaches to intimacy, offering insights into how cultivating love, safety, and embodiment can lead to a richer, more fulfilling sexual life. We also discuss the power of redefining conventional expectations, embracing vulnerability, and fostering deeper connection as key components of a vibrant midlife journey.

Whether you’re navigating changes in your relationships, seeking tools to enhance intimacy, or simply curious about the intersection of emotional and physical wellness, this episode provides thoughtful reflections and actionable tips to help you feel more connected, confident, and alive.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction
• (01:34) The empowering world of somatics
• (04:29) Exploring different somatic practices
• (06:09) Why it’s important to clearly communicate your desires and needs
• (10:14) The emotional complexity of casual encounters
• (17:08) How to reignite connection as a long-term couple
• (24:53) Breaking the tug-of-war of needs in partnerships
• (27:00) Kiana’s inspiring journey of motherhood and self-discovery

Kiana Reeves

• Website: https://www.kianareeves.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kiana.reeves/

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative...

Have you ever experienced an orgasm? Have you been enjoying them all your life and now they've changed or disappeared altogether?

Here's a conversation about what some of the causes may be and some ways you can get your groove back.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In 1996 the Women's Health Initiative ran a study to determine whether or not Hormone Replacement Therapy (Menopause Hormone Therapy) was beneficial for preventing cancer, cardiovascular disease and osteoporosis. 5 years later, the study was abruptly stopped after concluding that there was an increased breast cancer and cardiovascular event risk. In this episode, I explain the findings, why there no longer valid and what you can do to help relieve your menopause symptoms.

North American Menopause Society (NAMS)

Women's Health Initiative

Estrogen Matters with Avrum Bluming, MD & Carol Tavris, PhD

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Who says turning 65 means giving up amazing sex and settling for solitude? Just because you don’t have a husband or kids doesn’t mean life has to be dull—if anything, it means you’re free to live exactly how you want.

In this episode, I sit down with Cindy Gallop, a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant, and founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, to challenge outdated beliefs about aging, sex, and relationships. Cindy’s fearless approach to life proves that getting older isn’t about slowing down—it’s about embracing what you truly want.

We dive into why she chooses to date younger men, why marriage and kids were never part of her plan, and how we can all redefine intimacy, confidence, and pleasure as we age. Plus, Cindy shares how MakeLoveNotPorn is changing the conversation around real-world sex and helping people feel seen, accepted, and empowered. She also dives deep into how MakeLoveNotPorn differs from OnlyFans, the unique challenges they face—especially the uphill battle of advertising bans on social media.

It’s time to step into a world where sex is shame-free, open, and truly fulfilling. Let’s dive in!

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction to Cindy Gallop
• (01:09) No husband, no kids: Ultimate self-care routine
• (02:27) Dating younger men—casually, unapologetically, and on her own terms
• (02:32) The problem with society’s lack of role models for aging women
• (03:07) Body image, menopause, and post-menopausal pride
• (03:52) Why she proudly shouts her age (65!) and the power of #SayYourAge
• (04:19) MakeLoveNotPorn: The platform changing how we talk about real-world sex
• (05:27) The lube: Why there’s no such thing as “too much”
• (06:36) Cindy on finding the confidence to date younger men
• (07:14) The glaring double standard: Older men vs. older women in dating
• (08:47) Cindy’s revelation: Being every young guy’s fantasy
• (09:25) The rise of niche dating sites—and how to find the right one for you
• (13:29) What MakeLoveNotPorn celebrates
• (14:39) How MakeLoveNotPorn stands apart from ethical porn
• (16:56) The Social Sex Revolution: Why we need to talk about real sex
• (19:40) OnlyFans vs. MakeLoveNotPorn: The key differences
• (21:15) Challenges in Promoting MakeLoveNotPorn: Censorship, stigma, and funding struggles
• (23:30) What makes someone sexy? 
• (24:40) Join and subscribe to MakeLoveNotPorn and Wefunder campaign 
• (25:52) Cindy’s definition of sex

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Cindy Gallop is a trailblazing entrepreneur, advertising consultant,

I'm honored to host Dr. Mohit Khera, a world-renowned expert on male sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera brings his vast experience to the table, discussing the sensitive issue of sexual health with compassion and understanding. We take a deep dive into how modern medicine is transforming the way we approach and treat conditions such as erectile dysfunction, discussing both traditional and cutting-edge treatments that are giving new hope to many.

The episode also explores the often-overlooked emotional and psychological dimensions of sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera gives his expert advice on the importance of a supportive partnership and the benefits of a comprehensive treatment plan that includes both medical and lifestyle interventions.

For anyone affected by or interested in male sexual health, this episode is an invaluable resource, offering hope, enlightenment, and practical guidance from one of the leading voices in the field.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. 

In this candid episode, I dive into the world of unconventional sexual experiences and the importance of open-mindedness when it comes to intimate exploration. From the common fantasy of threesomes, particularly heterosexual men's desire for a threesome with two women.

I share stories, like my ex-boyfriend's experience with a threesome, which highlight that the reality often differs from the fantasy portrayed in adult entertainment. This isn't just about the act of a threesome; it's about encouraging non-judgmental conversations surrounding diverse forms of sexual expression. We explore ways to spice up your sex life, from introducing ethical porn and literature to discussing kinks and fantasies.

It's all about embracing your desires and finding what works for you and your partner, whether that involves using toys, experimenting with role play, or even considering swinging or other forms of open relationships. There's no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual pleasure. Let's break free from societal norms and spice up your sex life!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com https://www.taboototruth.com/

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In today's episode, I'm sliding into an in-depth conversation about why lube is the unsung hero of sexual health. Whether you're facing the dry spells of menopause or just looking to add some extra glide to your intimate times, I'm here to demystify lubricants. It's a candid discussion about the body's needs and the simple ways lube can address them. Get ready to lubricate your knowledge with my comprehensive guide to choosing the right lube for your body.

I'll explain why common household oils are a definite 'don't' and discuss how the wrong products can disrupt your body's delicate balance. From the science behind water-based lubricants to the long-lasting benefits of silicone-based options, I'm sure you'll be equipped with the information you need to make informed decisions.

Tune in as we share pro tips on maintaining your body's health while maximizing pleasure. Let's make friction a fiction and find your perfect match in the world of lubricants.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I explore the multifaceted world of sexology and the importance of finding the right professional to address sexual health and intimacy issues with Sex Counselor, Heather Howard, PhD, MPH. We delved into the differences between sex therapists, counselors, sexological bodyworkers, and surrogate partners, highlighting the significance of their roles in helping individuals and couples navigate sexual challenges.

This was an eye-opening conversation. We talked about the diverse approaches and ethical considerations within this field, underscoring the importance of a nonjudgmental, informed, and supportive environment for addressing sexual concerns.

Navigating the world of sexual health and intimacy can sometimes feel daunting, especially when trying to find the right support. The insights from our discussion serve as a reminder that it's okay to shop around for a provider who makes you feel understood and respected. Whether you're dealing with the aftermath of a divorce, exploring new aspects of your sexuality, or facing sexual health challenges, the key takeaway is that you're not alone, and there's professional help available.

(01:20) What is Sexology?

(07:01) Sexuality Counselor vs. a Sex Therapist

(17:46) What happens in your session?

(19:52) Treating painful sex in your sessions-an action plan

(27:16) What is you're single and have issues with sex?

(32:20) Touch vs. Hands-off sex therapy

(42:23) What qualifications should you look for in a sexology professional?

(48:09) When should you see a sexology professional?

(51:40) The key to finding the right professional

Find Heather Howard

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

Recently, Bumble faced backlash for their ad campaign, with slogans that seemed to undervalue personal choices about dating and celibacy, sparking questions about the role of dating apps in modern society. As someone deeply engaged with Bumble and Hinge, I've noticed a shift. It used to be easier to transition from matching to meeting in person, but now it feels like connections are less serious. This change has led me to ponder if the effectiveness or appeal of dating apps is diminishing.

In this episode I peel back the layers on:

• The shifting dynamics of dating apps like Bumble and Hinge.
• The quest for genuine connections amidst AI's rise.
• Innovations we crave for deeper, real-life engagements.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Todd "Max" Carey, a director and filmmaker who has delved into the intriguing world of kink and BDSM through his latest documentary. Todd shared his insights on the complexity and fluidity of human sexuality, emphasizing kink as an umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of practices and preferences, many of which are becoming increasingly mainstream. 

In our conversation, Todd challenged conventional labels, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of our desires and the roles we play in our intimate encounters. Todd's journey into the kink community revealed a profound sense of community and communication, underscoring the importance of consent and mutual respect in all forms of sexual expression. We also touched upon the transformative power of kink for individuals, including those working through trauma, and the potential for creativity and innovation in personal relationships.

Todd "Max" Carey is an award-winning film producer and director making documentary films that explore the hidden and fascinating aspects of human nature. Learn more about "touch Kink" the documentary here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In today's episode, I'm diving into polyamory, a lifestyle choice centered around engaging in consensual relationships with multiple partners. Polyamory, a blend of 'poly' meaning many and 'amor' for love, manifests in various forms, including hierarchical polyamory, where a primary relationship takes precedence over others, and non-hierarchical relationships, where all partners are considered equal.

The essence of polyamory lies in the mutual consent and agreement on the terms of the relationship, which distinguishes it from infidelity. It’s a path that requires open communication and a clear understanding of the guidelines everyone involved agrees to follow. Navigating polyamorous relationships can be complex, involving not just sexual connections but emotional ones that demand a high level of understanding and constant communication to manage potential jealousy and ensure the relationship's health.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend CJ. CJ opened up about her journey from being in long-term monogamous relationships, including a ten-year marriage that ended due to intimacy mismatches, to exploring an open relationship with her husband. She shared the challenges and discoveries she faced while venturing into online dating, embracing her bis$xual identity, and ultimately finding fulfillment in an open, kink-friendly relationship.

CJ's story is a testament to the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of exploring one's desires and needs without shame. We delved into the complexities of navigating non-monogamous relationships, the significance of communication and boundaries, and how these experiences have enriched her life and marriage.

Now a certified life and sex coach, CJ, emphasizes the importance of destigmatizing sexual exploration and encourages others, especially women over 40, to embrace their desires boldly and without shame. Her journey is not just about the pursuit of sexual fulfillment but a deeper understanding of self-love, partnership, and the myriad ways in which we can connect with others. Her insights and experiences are a valuable resource for anyone curious about or actively exploring non-monogamy, kink, and personal growth.

You can find CJ here.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort.

It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me.

This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion.

Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these.

You can find Alycia here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interviewed me -  Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause.

My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age.

We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way.

Find Kate here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence.

Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life, especially as we age and navigate the inevitable changes that come with long-term relationships. Batsheva emphasized the importance of debunking myths around sex, advocating for a proactive approach to addressing sexual issues, rather than succumbing to the hopelessness that can arise when sex and intimacy issues remain unaddressed.

We discussed how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sex, highlighting the need for communication and effort in rekindling intimacy. Addressing sexual challenges requires acknowledging that sex and relationship dynamics can evolve, emphasizing that solutions are often within reach with the right guidance and willingness to explore. Through our discussion, it became clear that addressing sexual health is not just about enhancing personal relationships but also about fostering a deeper sense of self-awareness and satisfaction.

(00:00) Introduction: Embracing the Awkwardness in Sex

(00:29) Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:30) Meet Batsheva Marcus: Expert in Women's Sexual Health

(03:33) The Dynamic Nature of Sex Life

(06:30) Addressing Sexual Issues in Long-Term Relationships

(17:03) The Importance of Scheduling Sex

(26:22) Prepping for Great Sex

(27:10) The Role of Fantasy in Sexual Arousal

(28:26) Understanding Neuroplasticity and Sexual Desire

(29:05) The Importance of Hormones in Libido

(32:00) Navigating Non-Monogamy in Relationships

(35:28) Exploring Kink in Long-Term Relationships

(41:11) Addressing Sexual Shame and Openness

(46:21) Defining Sex and Its Boundaries

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience.

The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds differently through dirty talk.

It doesn't have to be offensive or crass; it can be sweet and subtle, starting with something as simple as sexting to build anticipation for your next intimate moment together.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Rahner, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator who is transforming the conversation around sexuality with her authentic and vulnerable approach.  We delved into her journey from a 25-year career in IT to becoming a sex educator inspired by listening to Dr. Ruth as a teenager.

Jennifer shared how she rediscovered her passion for sexuality at 45 and her transformative experiences with workshops led by Betty Dodson, a renowned sexuality educator focused on masturbation and pleasure. Jennifer candidly talked about how she teaches classes such as "Anatomy of Pleasure" to offer the sex education many didn’t receive, especially emphasizing the importance of understanding vulva anatomy.

We also discussed how she manages to balance her polyamorous lifestyle with her family life, the importance of open communication in relationships, and the societal pressures around monogamy. Through her work, Jennifer helps people feel less alone in their sexual experiences, encouraging open dialogue and self-exploration to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age.

(01:15) Meet Jennifer Rainer: A Journey into Sexuality

(02:11) Discovering a New Path

(04:27)The Influence of Betty Dodson

(05:38) Understanding Body Sex Workshops

(08:13) The Anatomy of Pleasure

(09:20) Exploring Squirting and Female Ejaculation

(20:29) The Importance of Sexual Communication

(23:48) Navigating Communication in Relationships

(25:03) Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships

(28:53) Introducing Non-Monogamy to Family

(34:36) Challenges and Misconceptions of Polyamory

(39:33) Embracing Sexuality in Midlife

(42:29) Defining Sex and Finding Pleasure

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Reflecting on my journey, I've covered an array of topics—from orgasms, UTIs, and hormone therapy to interviewing incredible experts like Dr. Alyssa Dweck and Dr. Mohit Khera about sexual dysfunction and menopause. I've tackled tough subjects like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, and sexual health at different life stages. Your interest and trust drive me, whether I'm in a bar hearing someone's personal story or answering your questions anonymously on the show.

As I take a short break to prepare for season three, please keep sending your questions and reviews. This milestone and every episode is dedicated to opening up crucial conversations, helping us all feel less alone and more empowered in our sexual health and identities.  

(00:00) Welcome to the 50th Episode Celebration!

(00:11) Reflecting on the Journey

(01:18) Season Highlights and Personal Growth

(02:32) The Importance of S3x Positivity

(03:14) Addressing Menopause and S3xual Health

(04:11) Support for Men's S3xual Health

(04:40) Breaking the Taboo: Talking About S3x

(05:35) Exciting Plans for Season Three

(06:13) Engage with the Community

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Embarking on my journey back into dating and relationships after my marriage ended taught me hard but valuable lessons about intimacy and self-worth. From the initial thrill of sexual liberation to the heart-wrenching lows of rejection, I learned the importance of knowing myself and my emotional needs.

Whether you’re navigating menopause, exploring new relationships, or just trying to understand your body better, it’s crucial to communicate openly and find what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. Join me in breaking the silence and embracing the beauty of midlife sexuality—grab your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s dive in.

(00:00) Introduction to The Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:47) Karen's Personal Journey

(02:43) Navigating New Relationships

(03:58) Understanding Sexual Needs and Communication

(08:04) Emotional Impact of Intimacy

(11:06) Learning from Heartbreak

(12:55) Self-Discovery and Growth

(19:01) Final Thoughts and Encouragement

(20:56) Closing Remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This episode is a replay of one of our most popular episodes since launching last September.

In this episode, I delve into non-monogamy, a topic stirring a lot of curiosity, especially among those in long-term relationships. I discuss what non-monogamy is, various forms it can take, like swinging and polyamory, and how it might either revitalize or challenge your relationship. This isn't an endorsement of any lifestyle but rather an exploration of different relationship paradigms. If you’re curious and have questions, head over to my website and use the form to ask me anonymously. 

Our discussion also ventures into the historical context of monogamy, the evolving roles within relationships, and the importance of trust and communication when considering non-monogamy. It’s crucial to ensure both partners are secure and comfortable with this choice. Whether you're in a long-term commitment looking to spice things up or simply exploring options, join me with your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s break the silence together. Remember, it’s okay to ask and discuss these topics openly.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jump into a riveting conversation that breaks down misconceptions and tackles the universal challenges of dating and sex in midlife. In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Dineen, a renowned dating coach, stylist, and author, as she shares her journey of rediscovery post-divorce. From navigating the intimidating world of online dating to revealing personal stories of "losing her second virginity," Alyssa’s candid dialogue is both inspiring and downright hilarious.  

Check out this episode where we discuss:

• Navigating the hurdles of online dating post-divorce 
• Dealing with sexual insecurities and STDs 
• Embracing intimacy and redefining personal boundaries in midlife

Join us as we dig deep into these crucial talks. Alyssa’s experiences highlight how courage, honesty, and a bit of humor can make rediscovering oneself a transformative journey. We’ll strip away the taboos and bring open-hearted discussions to the forefront.  

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Have you ever wondered what sex really means? This spring, I attended the Association of Sex Educators, Coaches, Counselors, and Therapists conference in St. Louis. I met remarkable professionals dedicated to fostering a more sex-positive world. Curious, I asked 24 of these experts—from sex therapists to professional cuddlers—what their definition of sex is.

Interestingly, "sex" means something different to everyone. From a sacred energy exchange vital to life to wonder, creativity, and lust all bundled in one. One interviewee emphasizes that sex transcends the physical—it's about identity, intimacy, and respectful connection, always with consent.

Join me as we dive deep into what "sex" means through a rich tapestry of perspectives.

Check out this episode where we discuss:

- The expanded definitions of sex beyond the physical act

- The importance of consent and respect in sexual encounters

- How pleasure, creativity, and curiosity define sex for different individuals

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, I explain the differences between bioidentical, synthetic, and natural hormones and various hormone delivery methods. I highlight the benefits of hormone therapy for managing menopausal symptoms and long-term health. The episode aims to provide women with the knowledge needed to navigate hormone therapy and improve their quality of life during menopause.

(01:49) Understanding Hormone Therapy

(05:03) Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones

(06:41) Compounded Hormones: Risks and Considerations

(10:32) The Importance of Proper Hormone Therapy

(12:19) Topical Estrogen

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach. 

Women often worry about whether he’ll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here’s what we explore in this episode:

• The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partner
• Navigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractions
• How clear communication—both emotional and sexual—can build a stronger relationship

The key takeaway is to focus on what you truly value and deserve. Open up those lines of communication, both in your daily interactions and in bed. Let's break the cycle of settling and find connections that truly matter.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative Solutions

In this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness.

Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more.

He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions. 

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues

(00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe 

(01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices

(03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe

(05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain

(08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use

(09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health

(12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms

(20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices

(41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness

(43:28) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Soum Rakshit, FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way.

Check out Mystery Vibe

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Breaking Barriers

In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska.

Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers.

Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy.

Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality. 

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech

(00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology

(01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech

(02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry

(05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech

(08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech

(18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech

(20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform

(31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond

(34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education

(36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective

(37:40) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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• Instagram
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• LinkedIn
• YouTube
• Linktree
• Erobella Safer App
• Erobella.com
• Erobella Podcast - Sex Workers Tells

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

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In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis?

Check out this episode where we discuss:

• The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido.
• How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being.
• Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons.

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:58) - A Rant on Testosterone Inequality

(02:01) - Understanding Testosterone in Women

(02:50) - Symptoms of Low Testosterone

(05:16) - Personal Experience with Testosterone

(08:29) - Forms of Testosterone Therapy

(10:48) - Benefits and Side Effects of Testosterone

(12:31) - Final Thoughts and Recommendations

(13:31) - Closing Remarks and Call to Action

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast