Soul Salon with Ayandastood (Ayandastood)
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| 03 Dec 2024 | 58: the spiritual role of multi-passionates | 00:34:03 | |
Multi-passionates, gather! this soul session is all about the spiritual role of the multi-passionate... a love letter to my fellow multi-passionates. keep trusting that voice inside you, even when it makes sense to NO ONE (many times, including yourself!) i hope you enjoy this soul session, made with love!🌻🥰🤗 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 💛 if you enjoyed this soul session, you will love this one next: 51: multi-passionates, be confusing. Available wherever you listen. CREATIVE RESOURCES: 🧘🏾♀️ Get Creative Activations to move from fear to flow: get a FREE Creative Activation when you sign up 📖 Buy my ebook, Creative CataList for a JUICY supply of creative inspo I use daily ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 23 Dec 2024 | 59: you're not behind, you're divine. ✨ | 00:16:19 | |
It's December and many of us can feel BEHIND at this time of year. (At any time of year, actually! May this message find you at the most aligned time 🦋) We can feel like we haven't done enough and channel this feeling of unworthiness into all the things we hope to get done next year... but you deserve so much more radiant, radical love than that. If you feel behind in any way, consider this a love letter from me to you, bringing us home to love and y(our) inherent sacredness and divinity. Soul sibling, I'm sending you love & hugs today! 🦋 👀 FEAR OF BEING SEEN? My NEW free ebook, the Soulful Visibility Guide is here to support you. Time stamps: 00:00 You’re not behind 01:55 Sacred Shift: Step 1 05:00 Sacred Shift: Step 2 08:33 Sacred Shift: Step 3 15:01 Soulful Visibility Guide Related Soul Session: 55: You haven't missed the train, the train misses you. Spotify. Apple. YouTube Join the community: ✨ Website: www.ayandastood.com (Soulful Visibility Guide) ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood | |||
| 07 Mar 2024 | 41: pro-mote your work | 00:22:05 | |
if you find it cringe or challenging to promote your own work, this soul session will SPEAK to you. today we completely REFRAME AND RECLAIM promotion, breaking it down to its roots and paradigm shifting our understanding. connected to nature and service. In this episode you will learn:
Time stamps: (01:04): the evolutionary roots of our shame (03:42): reframing pro-motion (08:06): nature & motion (10:45): my own example of coaching (16:00): blocking motion (17:43): what you seek is seeking you I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend <3 Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching Sources mentioned: Morning pages essay by me ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching | |||
| 03 Oct 2023 | 26: romantic longing 🤎 — part 1 | 00:39:44 | |
today we are talking about longing for romantic relationship and what wisdom we can derive from this longing. how can we integrate rather than suppress our romantic longing? what else can it be channeled into? what does our longing have to say to us, and are we listening? we'll be leaning on works like bell hooks' Communion and Audre Lorde's Uses of the Erotic. This is part 1 of a 2 part series. stay tuned for next episode where we will be discussing things like: romantic friendship, the media we consume, and reimagining where we can find love and desire in our lives. sending all my love to you today, sunshine. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. key quotes from episode: “imagine we had a society structured on the principle of love: teaching us how we can be loving and receive love; creating the conditions for all kinds of love to flourish and thrive" "longing is love. what else can we channel the love underlying our romantic longing into?" Time stamps (00:44): poll + leave me a voice note <3 (03:10): what is romantic longing? (07:45): honor your longing (14:22): integrate your longing (23:25): self-love is the beginning (25:10): longing is love (33:00): love as a practice (36:39): how can you be more loving today? ☎️ advice hotline: voice note me here with a question or thoughts sources mentioned: Book: Communion: The Female Search for Love by bell hooks Essay: The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde Podcast episode: Redefining the Erotic by me on Spotify, Apple, YouTube Book: Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds by adrienne maree brown Quotes: Love Quotes from the Works of A. H. Almaas Tweet by @northstardoll join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 06 Jun 2023 | 12: why I love Paradigm Shifts | 00:29:39 | |
Why did I change the name of the podcast from "Reimagining" to "Paradigm Shifts"? Let's talk about it! An episode where I basically profess my love to paradigm shifts, why I'm ok with the fact that the podcast name is not unique to me, and how paradigm shifts are connected to pleasure. Key quote: "Paradigm shifts are embodied experiences of learning. They make us GASP, pause, stop walking, scream, open our eyes a wide... they feel magical and profound, both personal and communal." ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Time stamps:
Sources and clips included: The Laura Flanders Show: adrienne maree brown: pleasure activism Book: Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown (follow amb on IG here!) Essay: Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here it's lots of fun! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood_ on IG. | |||
| 20 Nov 2023 | 32: you are irreducible: why you are an infinite, interconnected, cosmic being and cannot be reduced to ANYTHING | 00:51:30 | |
we all face a deep unworthiness and are convinced there is something (or a lot) fundamentally wrong with us. this episode unpacks why you can’t be reduced to any one given aspect of your being or experience, or what society projects onto you and you in turn internalize as your own (eg, Beauty according to the colonial paradigm). you are infinite, complex, and multi-dimensional. you are love. you are divine. you are a multidimensional being forced to over identify with a one-dimensional identity that will reproduce the social order. you are not your productivity, your job, your social status, your “success”. you are not your failures, regrets, or mistakes. you are not the chapter of life that you are currently in. you are not what you fixate on about yourself. what if you are love? what if you are more complex, deep, layered, and awe-inspiring than the reality you've been given will ever let you see or understand? i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quotes from episode: “You are irreducible. You cannot be reduced to anything. You cannot be reduced to what the society has defined as deficient in you." "I cannot be counted. I cannot be measured. There is no way to take a Being, who has a lineage, millions of cells conspiring to keep them alive, and quantify their existence. That is the colonizer's way." "We become reduced to what society wants us to think about ourselves, because as long as we carry shame within us, we are less likely to demand anything from the social structures that surround us. Because we believe WE are the ones to blame for our own deficiencies, and we take that out on one another" Time stamps (06:22): You are irreducible (08:20): Social media and quantification of self (14:50): Society's mis-education (16:55): Everything is a mirror (26:19): Reduction, blame and alienation (30:07): You are love (40:37): 7 ways you are infinite (45:12): Spotify Interact (48:54): Rumi poem Sources mentioned: Poem: A gift to bring you by Rumi Book: You Are the Universe: Discovering Your Cosmic Self and Why It Matters by Deepak Chopra Quotes: Quotes on the nature of love by A. H. Almaas Essay: Marx on Alienation by Dan Lowe Background music: Sleeping Vibrations: Inner Abundance Sound Bath Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. | |||
| 05 Feb 2025 | 65: what you need to know as a visionary | 00:35:33 | |
Today, we explore the profound journey of the visionary — those who are a bridge to the next paradigm. 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide This Soul Session delves deep into the importance of not just having a vision but the patience and perseverance to hold onto it for long periods of time. It emphasizes the necessity of embracing both the highs and lows—the polarity—associated with the pursuit of dreams. We go into the Universal Law of Polarity to build our understanding of how seemingly opposing forces like light and darkness, intimacy and conflict, coexist and enrich each other. As visionaries, we are encouraged to transcend illusions and commit to the reality of our dreams. This Soul Session also touches upon the interconnection of personal aspirations and collective consciousness, urging us to align our actions with our highest visions over time, despite any resistance we might encounter. 00:00 Embracing your Visionary Identity & Role 01:08 The Power of Patience 01:44 Collective Dreaming and Offering 05:20 Understanding Polarity 10:29 Navigating Dreams and Resistance 14:17 The Reality of Pursuing Dreams 20:42 Aligning Actions with Vision 24:26 The Fullness of the Creative Journey 31:04 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 34:21 Soulful Visibility Guide Sources Mentioned: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert | |||
| 04 Feb 2025 | 64: fear is a portal to your dreams 🪞 | 00:20:51 | |
Today we are stepping through the PORTAL of transformation that is the Fear of Being Seen. You will connect with your manifestation/dream/desire — all for the purpose of collective healing and expansion. If you fear being seen, this Soul Session of the Soul Salon Podcast will help you alchemize fear into courageous action. Your vision sent you this, I hope you enjoy it! This Soul Session aims to encourage you to embrace visibility and share your unique gifts with the world, highlighting the transformative journey towards living a fulfilled, purposeful life. Also, discover a free resource, 'The Soulful Visibility Guide,' designed to help you step through the portals of fear into your dream life: 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide 00:12 Ego's Fears vs. Soul's Desires 02:12 The Illusion of the Ego 02:46 Alan Watts' Quote 03:35 The Glass Door Metaphor 06:38 The Dream Room Visualization 10:54 Navigating Through Portals of Possibility 11:54 Building the Skill to Walk Through Portals 13:59 Carrying the Energy of the Room 19:13 Conclusion: Stepping into Your Soul's Purpose Sources Mentioned: The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts | |||
| 28 Feb 2024 | 40: the fear of success | 00:44:03 | |
today's soul session is a spiritual perspective on why you fear your own success. if you're like me, you are both drawn to and repelled by your dreams. they are at once enticing and terrifying. in today’s soul session we explore a paradoxical fear that many of us face whenever we confront our dreams and desires. but in the typical style of this podcast, we are going to unfold a deep and spiralling web of ideas such as:
I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and if you feel called to, please share it with a friend or your community. i love you ✨💛 Work with me one-on-one as your coach to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching Time stamps: (00:06): The magic of your existence (01:53): My fears & dreams (05:11): The paradox of fear (06:22): God/source/universe & AWE (12:57): Why we fear our Dreams (14:17): Healing our relationship with Power (17:37): Nature & benevolent Power (21:15): Step into Y(OUR) Power (22:29): Co-Creation (27:52): Channeled journaling (30:00): Why we can't silence ourselves (31:35): It's bigger than You (33:10): You have these gifts for a REASON (35:54): Trust is the opposite of Fear (36:15): Your own POWER & WISDOM (40:31): Creativity is how we change the world (42:21): Affirmation Sources mentioned: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde Ant geopolitics by John Whitfield ADVICE HOTLINE: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching | |||
| 25 Jan 2024 | 37: inviting ease and pleasure into the creative process | 01:04:24 | |
in this episode we are calling in ease, flow, pleasure, and love in the experience of creating, rather than as a reward. i talk about releasing the tension i've been carrying, the love i am feeling from all of YOU, the magical masterclass experience I had this Sunday with some of you, and end off with reflective questions that can assist us as we create with more pleasure and ease in 2024. <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Key quotes from episode: “The people you make art for don’t want you to suffer” “We embody the codes that we’ve learned from the systems that made us” “The invitation for you is knowing that you are worthy of ease, of pleasure, of flow. NOW. Not when the project is done.” “Pleasure is a measure of our freedom” — adrienne maree brown Time stamps (01:31): MasterClass reflections (05:15): The Love Dimension (05:56): From perfectionism to ease (15:00): Your invitation to ease (20:39) Experimentation (22:53): Tension & release (30:44): Pleasure activism by Adrienne Maree Brown (41:47): Abundant love (48:44): Pleasure & imagination (54:27): Reflection questions (01:00:00): Gratitude & affirmation Sources mentioned: Book: Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by adrienne maree brown Essay: What Plants Are Saying About Us YouTube Channel: Sadhguru Show: The Brothers Sun on Netflix Poem: I Put The Coffin Out To Sea by by Lisa Marie Basile Offering: My MasterClass experience Other resources: YouTube: The Perfect Bedtime Sound bath by Sleeping Vibrations YouTube: Yoga Nidra Questions to reflect on:
Join the community: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Other quotes from me in this episode:
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| 25 Mar 2024 | 44: the collective is dreaming through you. | 00:10:25 | |
if you dream of writing, there are people dreaming of reading you. if you dream of singing, there are people dreaming of hearing you. if you dream of being seen, there are people dreaming of seeing you. if you dream of teaching, there are students dreaming of being taught by you. your dreams are dreaming you back. even more: the collective is dreaming THROUGH YOU. Question for you: Who might be dreaming you back? book a one-on-one coaching session to step into your fullest expression and power, on- and offline: www.ayandastood.com/coaching Time stamps: (00:35): Individualistic vs. collectivist dreams (02:02): Example of my (our!) podcast dream (03:09): Who will expand through you? (05:11): Against perfectionism (06:37): You are a representative (07:41): The other side of desire (08:05): What you seek is seeking you (08:26): The beauty of surrender (09:24): Please follow & subscribe :) ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching | |||
| 06 May 2024 | 46: you have these gifts for a reason 💛 | 00:22:55 | |
If you are feeling unmotivated or uninspired, if you are stuck minimizing and hiding from your natural gifts, this episode is for YOU. You have these gifts for a REASON. This episode will get you fired up, calling you back into your power and ACTIVATING you to be brave in the face of the fear we all experience as we face our goals and dreams. You are someone’s cheat code. You are here to UNLOCK something powerful in the collective. NOT keep your gifts to yourself, hiding and playing small when you know that there is something bigger calling you, longing for you just as much as you long for it. You are not here to be silent and convenient for the status quo or those who don’t support you. You are an EXPANDER. You are here to break rules and break the mould that has been given to you, to truly make it your own, and to support the collective in our collective healing journey. What if: you have these gifts for a reason. And the reason is NOT simply your own self-actualization, but the realization of more love, healing, community, creativity (insert what you are here to help cause) for ALL of us. We need you in your power, bestie! We love you. I love you. Time stamps: (00:49): Collective consciousness (03:18): Who does it serve? (04:42): There’s a reason (06:11): Ego vs. Soul (10:00): Creative Power (13:50): Soul resonance (15:44): You are the cheat code (18:04): Two choices in the face of fear Book a one-on-one coaching session with me to support your creativity and unlock your next level of brave expression: www.ayandastood.com/coaching Sources mentioned: Essay: Age, Race, Class, and Sex: Women Redefining Difference by Audre Lorde (in the book Sister Outsider) Book: Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Quote: “We’re all just walking each other home” — Ram Dass ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛 | |||
| 14 Aug 2023 | 19: the myth of inclusive beauty | 00:25:32 | |
Today we unpack the prevalent myth of inclusive beauty. This episode is part of my Beauty Bites *insert chews* series, where we think against the Beauty hierarchy. I give 7 reasons why Inclusive Beauty is a myth, including: the way it functions is selectively inclusive which is not genuine inclusion, it leaves the underlying power structure of Eurocentricism untouched, and ultimately it's a profit strategy for corporations run by white western men to make more money! Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quote from episode: “Inclusive Beauty does nothing to challenge the underlying power structure of the Beauty hierarchy” Time stamps (00:00): Intro (03:49): Selective inclusion = exclusion (09:45): Underlying power structure remains (13:24): Barbie as an example (16:02): Erasure of personhood (18:35): The broader power structures surrounding inclusive beauty (19:17): A profit strategy (20:15): Optimization is not inclusion (22:30): Beauty is fundamentally exclusive (24:14): Closing Sources mentioned: Book: Thick: And Other Essays by Tressie McMillan Cottom IG: @bysahra on the Black best friend trope Article: Racial hierarchy Essay: Beauty standards are killing my people by "Rachel" Chart: Statista Beauty Brand Values by age group, 2021 Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com is my newsletter and where I share community events Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 13 Jun 2024 | 48: Palestine & the words I'm reaching for — Part 2 | 00:38:29 | |
Hi my loves, this is the second and final part of my mini-series uplifting the work of abolitionist scientist Dr Ayesha Khan who writes the most beautiful, informative, revolutionary Cosmic Anarchy Substack. If you haven't already, be sure to catch Part 1 on Spotify here and on Apple here. Again, I am reaching imperfectly — for Palestine, for you, for this work. ESSAYS mentioned: Subscribe to Cosmic Anarchy Substack. Learn more about Dr Ayesha Khan website & Follow on IG @thewokescientist
Poem: If I Must Die by Refaat Alareer Essay: Ethics, Risk & Apocalypse by Peter Gelderloos Book: Imagination: A Manifesto by Dr. Ruha Benjamin Other resources: 14 Trusted Charities Helping Civilians in Palestine | |||
| 11 Mar 2024 | 42: what if the opposite is true? | 00:25:33 | |
if you are a worst case scenario thinker/feeler/(anti-)dreamer, this soul session✨ is for you. let's unpack why it's time to let go of assuming the worst — not only in terms of what's possible, but also in our relationships and friendships. in this soul session, i share examples of times when i assumed the worst and the exact opposite happened. i invite us to ask ourselves this question the NEXT time we find ourselves stuck in a worst case scenario mindset. you will (re)learn how holding onto the worst case scenario to protect ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: we align our actions to what could go WRONG instead of RIGHT, thereby making the former more likely. you will hear me walk through common examples where we assume the worst and are often "wrong", such as:
let me say that i applied the lesson of this episode in the PROCESS of making, editing, and sharing it. here's how: my inner critic said (repeatedly): "what i'm saying is nothing ✨revolutionary✨ therefore it's not worth sharing this episode". or "i'm not adding anything new here!" the underlying assumption is A) we get our value from our uniqueness (individualism) and B) no one wants to hear and re-integrate the same lesson again from ME specifically. WHAT IF THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE? A) What if collective wisdom becomes more potent the more people share it? and B) What if people actually LOVE hearing and re-integrating wisdom they already know and feel to be true, and they love hearing it from ME (not exclusively but in a particular way) i love the feeling of applying a lesson i am sharing with you, because it makes me feel very aligned and like i'm sharing my life's wisdom with you. with that being said, I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛 Time stamps: (01:00): Reframe the worst case scenario (05:11): The energetics of possibility (06:33): Creativity & Rick Rubin (07:37): Approaching strangers (08:08): TikTok, cancellation, & judgment (14:00): Texting responses (15:19): Cancelling plans (17:22): Conflict (19:07): Reaching out to old friends (20:12): It's always going to be this hard (20:48): Valuing your opinion (22:33): Self-doubt (23:38): Summary Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching SOURCES: Book: The Creative ACT: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin Episode: 35: Awakening to Possibility by me ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching | |||
| 07 Aug 2023 | 18: overcoming creative resistance | 00:45:28 | |
Today I expand on a recent TikTok I created about overcoming creative resistance. The idea of resistance is based on Steven Pressfield's book The War of Art. If you are an insecure creative like me — terrified of bringing your ideas to life because of self-doubt, perfectionism, avoidance, anxiety, how can you overcome your creative resistance? By leaning on forces much greater than you, such as spirituality, serving the collective, and becoming a student of nature. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube (@ayandastood). Key quote from episode: “We can serve the collective through viewing our art as an offering in mutual service of the other. An offering does not have to be perfect. It just needs to Be.” Time stamps (00:00): My experience with creative resistance (05:35): Resistance (Steven Pressfield) vs Inspiration (11:24): Inspiration > Resistance (14:10): 3 forces bigger than you (14:20): Spirituality (25:54): The Collective (37:20): Nature (42:10): Summary & Closing Sources mentioned: Book: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield (https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/) Podcast: Steven Pressfield: Unlock Your Creative Genius on Oprah’s Super Soul podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/steven-pressfield-unlock-your-creative-genius/id1264843400?i=1000427290930) Book: All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks (https://bookshop.org/p/books/all-about-love-new-visions-bell-hooks/8888106?ean=9780060959470) Book: The Creative ACT: A way of Being by Rick Rubin (https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-creative-act-a-way-of-being-rick-rubin/18543579?ean=9780593652886) Book: The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron (https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-artist-s-way-30th-anniversary-edition-julia-cameron/6665657?ean=9780143129257) Book: Communion: The Female Search for Love by bell hooks (https://bookshop.org/p/books/communion-the-female-search-for-love-bell-hooks/8881836?ean=9780060938291) YouTube: Shonda Rhimes on MSNBC (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKEtjy-K7r8) Book: The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben (https://bookshop.org/p/books/retaliation/18887828?ean=9781771642484) Creative Quest by Questlove (https://bookshop.org/p/books/creative-quest-questlove/7326388?ean=9780062670571) Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG. | |||
| 26 May 2023 | 10: on finding your voice | 00:56:28 | |
in this episode, I speak from the heart on my own struggles with finding and accepting my voice. I discuss the dual need to both be visible/seen and invisible/hidden. I am following the echo and calling of Audre Lorde's essay "On the transformation of silence into language and action" in which she asks, "what are the words you do not yet have? what do you need to say?". I weave in some of the voices that appeared in my consciousness as I speak these words, in recognition of our collective and shared consciousness. If you are struggling to use your voice in any way - in your private relationships or on your public profile - this episode is for you. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Subscribe to my newsletter to get weekly vibes (essays, art, stories etc.) from me direct to your inbox: ayandastood.substack.com Key quote from me: Paint the world with your consciousness! Time stamps:
Sources and clips included: Selected Works of Audre Lorde, edited by Roxane Gay On the transformation of silence into language and action by Audre Lorde Highest self podcast Episode 482: How to Open Up Your Throat Chakra + Speak with Soul with Sahara Rose on Spotify and YouTube Everyday Ubuntu: Living better the African Way by Mungi Ngomane Why Do We Disconnect From Our True Selves | Dr. Gabor Mate by Way of Thinking What is meant by "Authenticity"?: Gabor Mate by Science and Nonduality (SAND) Freedom is a Constant Struggle by Angela Davis Cornel West quote: "You must let suffering speak, if you want to hear the truth." Learn more about Gloria E. Anzaldúa | |||
| 10 Feb 2025 | 67: neutralizing the fear of judgment | 00:18:01 | |
👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get myFREE Soulful Visibility Guide now.The fear of judgment can be punishing, and it holds many of us back from expressing our gifts and magic and truth. In today's Soul Session, we explore how neutralizing judgment can re-align you with your truth, power, and purpose. Learn to transcend the limitations imposed by others' opinions and step boldly into your creative purpose. Receive a free ebook, 'The Soulful Visibility Guide,' to support you on this transformative journey.00:00 Overcoming the Fear of Judgment01:03 Neutralizing Judgment02:39 Your Very Existence is Powerful05:16 Embracing Sensitivity and Expression11:35 The Path of Visibility and Support14:05 Transformation and Rebirth16:09 Final Words of Encouragement16:43 Special Message and Free GiftSources MentionedThe Tibetan Book of Living and DyingThe Hidden Life of Trees: What They Feel, How They Communicate: Discoveries from a Secret World by Peter Wohlleben | |||
| 09 Sep 2024 | 53: love yourself enough to fail 🌻💛 | 00:09:08 | |
babes, the IRONY of this soul session is my inner critic is telling me it is not good enough to share. that i should record it again (and the illusion is that I wouldn't find fault with that version, as well). 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 👀🚀 so in SHARING this transmission i am also embodying it, which, I think, is rather delicious and beautiful. from the deepest part of my soul, i want to remind you that your worth does not come from your ability to meet a perfectionistic standard. do not define yourself by all you COULD HAVE said, it minimizes the generosity and power of all you did say. do not define yourself by all the edits you COULD have made to your creation, it erases the wholeness of all you did create. i am on this journey with you, towards overcoming perfectionism, towards GENUINELY embodying and believing that we are endlessly worthy of all kinds of creation, towards unlearning perfectionistic standards learned in childhood. i love you so much, SOUL SIBLING!!!!!!! KEY QUOTES:
CREATIVE RESOURCES: 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level 🧘🏾♀️ Get Creative Activations to move from fear to flow: 📖 Buy my ebook, Creative CataList for a JUICY supply of creative inspo I use daily ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 19 Aug 2024 | 52: fear of being seen | 3 powerful shifts to support you. | 00:25:35 | |
in today's soul session, i share three powerful shifts to overcome the fear of being seen & the fear of judgement. we get into radically accepting the truth, integrating our own judgement, seeing beyond the Critic, and creating the world we wish to see. I introduce my method, Soulful Visibility, and share a personal story of a challenge I had making this episode... I hope you enjoy today's soul session, made with love! 💛🌻🥰 👉🏾 Get a free Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 👀🚀: www.ayandastood.com (08:16): Shift #2: Integrate judgement (14:08): Shift #3: Blocked expression (19:52): Personal story Sources mentioned Essay: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde CREATIVE RESOURCES: ✨ Work with me 1:1: www.ayandastood.com/coaching ✨ Get my ebook of creative catalysts: Creative CataList ✨ Get my creative meditations album: Creative Activations ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 12 Aug 2024 | 51: multi-passionates: be confusing. | 00:17:46 | |
MULTI-PASSIONATES, ASSEMBLE! if you want to do a LOT of different things, but you fear confusing other people, this is your sign: BE CONFUSING! This is a continuation of a TikTok I posted. We are RECLAIMING the state of confusion from this colonially imagined, logic-obsessed world. are you coming?! 👉🏾 Get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 👀🚀: www.ayandastood.com 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level 🧘🏾♀️ Buy my Creative Activations album and private podcast feed to move from fear to flow | |||
| 16 Sep 2024 | 54: manifest with the law of polarity. | 00:19:18 | |
My love, your dreams have sent you this message to remind you to surrender to the full experience of their pursuit. And since the collective is dreaming through you, we all ask this of you: to hold the polarity of your dreams. 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 👀🚀 We do not get to experience the beauty of a dream without the challenges. Every gift has a challenge and every challenge has a gift — this is wat the universal law of polarity teaches us. In this Soul Session, we invite the law of polarity to expand our Creative Consciousness by teaching us to accept the FULLNESS of our dreams, NOT the illusion of them (ironically). I hope you enjoy today's Soul Session, made with love ❤️ CREATIVE RESOURCES: 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level 🧘🏾♀️ Get Creative Activations to move from fear to flow: get a FREE Creative Activation when you sign up 📖 Buy my ebook, Creative CataList for a JUICY supply of creative inspo I use daily ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 27 Nov 2023 | 33: 7 reasons why you're irreducible (Ask ChatGPT✨) | 00:44:20 | |
many of us feel plagued by a deep-seated unworthiness ingrained in us by society and culture. at a fundamental level, we are convinced there is a lot wrong with us. part of this suffering comes from a society that reduces us to the level of its own distorted and violent view of reality, rooted in colonial and capitalist imaginations. in today's part 2 of our conversation on our infinite worth and power, I asked ChatGPT: why are we irreducible to any one given aspect of our lives? Here are my 7 favorite reasons it came up with, and my reflections on each. if you haven’t watched part 1, you can do so here. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 🤎 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quotes from episode: "You are the universe experiencing itself" “We are multi-dimensional beings often forced to live a one-dimensional reality” Time stamps (00:00): Soul check-in (11:48): Reason 1: Cosmic identity (19:50): Reason 2: Inherent divinity (23:57): Reason 3: Interconnected being (26:47): Reason 4: Multi-dimensionality (27:40): Reason 5: Capacity for growth (30:16): Reason 6: Unique experiences (33:52: Reason 7: Capacity for empathy (37:39): Summary of 7 lessons Sources mentioned: Episode: 32: you are irreducible by me (https://open.spotify.com/episode/0aARoL7F45K4tXoGBPtOxz?si=70d922c02375459b) Podcast: The Science of Setting & Achieving Goals by Huberman Lab Podcast (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1F7EEGPQwo) Article: The Buddhist philosophy of Anatta (https://www.newworldencyclopedia.org/entry/Anatta) Article: Nondualism: A brief history of a timeless concept by SAND (https://scienceandnonduality.com/article/nondualism-a-brief-history-of-a-timeless-concept/) Book: You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters by Kate Murphy (https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-re-not-listening-what-you-re-missing-and-why-it-matters-kate-murphy/6985911?ean=9781250779878) Book: You Are the Universe: Discovering Your Cosmic Self and Why It Matters by Deepak Chopra and Menas C. Kafatos (https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-are-the-universe-discovering-your-cosmic-self-and-why-it-matters-deepak-chopra/9794035?ean=9780307889157) 🎵 BACKGROUND MUSIC: Sleeping Vibrations: Inner Abundance Sound Bath (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KPpJ1GOt4_c) Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 15 Nov 2024 | 56: you are a gift to be shared, not hidden. 💛 | 00:05:12 | |
A quick, loving reminder of the power of y(our) voice, art, perspective! Divine & magical being, I hope you enjoy this soul snack! Sign up for an exciting announcement soon, if you haven't already: 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 👀🚀 | |||
| 04 Sep 2023 | 22: you are not an imposter. write your spiritual resume 📝💛 | 00:34:06 | |
if you ask yourself, who am I to do this thing I want to do? to write a book, start a podcast, become a songwriter.... this episode is for you. as insecure and fearful creatives, we ask ourselves, who am I to do the thing? but we don’t think imaginatively about how to answer that question. we look to other people and institutions to qualify us as what we already know ourselves to be, or what others have told us they see in us. if you worry that you are not worthy of pursuing your dreams or going after an opportunity, this episode is for you. let's learn to qualify ourselves and take a broader, experiential and relational view of our readiness to pursue our dreams. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quote from episode: “We are waiting for permission that is never going to arrive, so we have to bring that into being. We have to qualify ourselves” “Every experience you have had is Knowledge that you can draw from that “qualifies” you to go after your dreams” Time stamps (00:00): the myth of being qualified (04:03): why you are remarkable (11:16): my experience (15:00): reframe and reimagine (20:22): what have you been to yourself? (21:44): what is a spiritual resume? (23:42): romantic love as an example (29:57): closing join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 03 Jul 2023 | 13: insecure creatives, gather! Part 1 | 00:27:58 | |
If you are experiencing creative fear, resistance, or anxiety, this is for you. We are on the same journey, because I face this daily as an insecure creative myself. In this episode I read an essay I wrote for my Substack on the wisdom I rely on to overcome or move through creative fear and resistance: to create content on TikTok, to write on Substack, and to create episodes for you right here. Plus I have other projects I dream of. I know my worth is not in completing any of these things. But I also know that I don't want to be guided by my fear and anxiety, but by my wildest dreams and my desire to serve the collective. I want my deepest and fullest consciousness to guide me, in service of you and others like you, while I am still here on earth. Disclaimer: This is not about self-improvement but rather about honoring our creativity and our aliveness. How do we create art in a way that is not rooted in hustle or productivity culture? For me, spirituality - grounding myself in serving the collective and sharing my fullest consciousness as a member of the universe who will one day die - is the answer. To be my fullest expression while I still can, I know I need to be overcoming my fears to share my voice and my art. That is my truth, as inconvenient as it often is for me. It's a calling that many of us feel. If you feel it but sometimes struggle to honor your calling(s), this episode (and many more to come) is for you. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Book mentioned: The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin. His YouTube interviews are inspiring too, like this one with Jay Shetty.
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| 28 Aug 2023 | 21: the power of recommitment & return | 00:34:43 | |
pov: the shame you feel for avoiding a creative project is keeping you from returning to it. let’s discuss why we need to embrace recommitment as a key part of the creative process. the constant decision to return and recommit to our projects and to our relationships, without shaming or blaming ourselves, is fundamental to the human experience. contrary to what we are taught to believe, our rest and our breaks are generative. we are cyclical, seasonal beings forced into linear, mechanic imaginations. let’s reclaim our ability to wander off the path we had imagined for ourselves, and then recommit to a different version of that path; enriched and enlivened by the experiences we have had along the way. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quote: “Don’t let the shame of staying away keep you from the magic of returning” Time stamps (00:33): The shame of avoidance (04:33): How nature embraces return (07:48): Lost connections with friends (09:36): Return is not regression (13:25): Recommitment is the substance of relationships (14:08): Beehives and birds’ nests (18:00): Athletes, crafts, identity & recommitment (20:50): Returning is a brave act (23:33): What will we recommit to this week? (25:02): The number one regret = lost connections (27:51): The life on the other side of return Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 23 Oct 2023 | 29: do what's sustainable 🐌🐝🦋🌺 | 00:47:43 | |
hi my loves. i recorded this episode a few weeks ago. it’s all about prioritizing sustainability in your creative and life pursuits, rather than burning out on impossible demands of yourself. what’s the easiest and smallest version of this goal or dream or desire i have, and how can i make promises that feel sustainable to keep? i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quotes from episode: “if you keep breaking the promises you make to yourself — why not make different promises?” Sources mentioned: Book: Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown Book: The Creative ACT by Rick Rubin Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 25 Sep 2023 | 25: you have nothing to prove | the myth of proving yourself | 00:40:05 | |
if you’ve ever desperately tried to prove yourself to others or to yourself, this episode is for you. today we are discussing the underlying paradoxes and unmet needs at play when we are in the zone of trying to prove and justify ourselves. tldr: you deserve to pursue things irrespective of the outcome; the people meant for you will love you irrespective of your "success" (which itself is a cultural myth); sometimes proving ourselves is a cry for love; when we cling to the need to prove ourselves, we allow our sense of self to be swallowed by other people's and society's expectations of us. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Time stamps (03:56): The paradox of proving ourselves (13:15): Attaching our worth to the outcome (17:17): Sacrificing the magic of the process (23:02): Losing ourselves (25:40): Lack of genuine support (30:02): Self-denial (33:30): Journaling questions (34:13): Write a letter to yourself ☎️ seeking advice and want to phone in with a question? submit a voicemail here (https://www.speakpipe.com/ayandastood) 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sources mentioned: Bio: J. Krishnamurti text quoted here Book: You Are a Goddess by Sophie Bashford Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 25 Mar 2025 | 71: it's already happening ✨ | 00:10:43 | |
Soul sibling, this is your loving reminder, that whatever you are calling in is not "going to happen" — it's ALL already happening, becoming, unfolding for and through you. Keep being, keep going, keep shining! ✨ This Soul Snack is here to give you an oomph of energy to take forth on your day as we co-create the worlds we wish to see! I hope you enjoy today's Soul Session, made with love! 🦋 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide now and step into the visibility you KNOW you deserve ✨. follow on socials ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood ✨TikTok: @ayandastood ✨ IG: @ayandastood ✨ Website: ayandastood.com | |||
| 27 Jul 2023 | 16: industrialized vs. spiritual beauty (💡: Jessica DeFino) | 00:29:22 | |
Welcome to a new series within my podcast called Beauty Bites *insert chews*. This is an ode to and a home for the very many thoughts I have on Beauty politics and breaking the colonial Beauty paradigm. In today’s episode we discuss an idea I learned from Jessica DeFino’s Substack, The Unpublishable. It is the idea that the beauty we are sold (industrialized beauty) is not the beauty we actually yearn for or need as human beings on earth (spiritual beauty). I wanted to discuss Jessica’s powerful idea further on the pod, so here it goes. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Key quote from episode: “Nothing that makes a person hate themselves should be allowed to be called Beauty” Time stamps (00:00): Intro to Beauty Bites *insert chews* (05:35): Intro to The Unpublishable Substack (09:47): The cultural importance of spiritual beauty (11:24): Ask ChatGPT: Beauty industry and religious language (16:56): Reclaiming Beauty (22:44): Democratizing the access to spiritual beauty (29:00): Closing Sources mentioned: The Unpublishable by Jessica DeFino Essay: Beauty, Appearance, Attraction, & Power The Ugliness of Beauty episode by me (Apple & Spotify) Moving Towards Ugliness Ft. Mia Mingus episode by me (Apple & Spotify) Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG. | |||
| 21 Jan 2025 | 60: mosaic mindset | 00:22:22 | |
Perfectionists, gather! In today's Soul Session (#60!!! 🥳) I share a mindset shift that can change the game for creating and unblocking your creative flow: the Mosaic Mindset. Instead of placing all the pressure on your individual creations, the Mosaic Mindset invites you to zoom out and see your work as part of a larger, beautiful whole, allowing you to build up a beautiful archive of work, and share your art more freely. This Soul Session is particularly relevant for artists and creators who intend to share their work online, in order to leave a loving footprint in the hearts and souls who long to find your work in the digital realm, but need more opportunities to find you. We delve into the co-creative process of life, the importance of recommitment, and the fear of being seen. Learn how to view your artistic journey holistically, and download the Soulful Visibility Guide for further support. 00:00 Share Your Magic 01:01 The Mosaic Mindset: A New Perspective on Creativity 11:42 The Power of Recommitment and Return 17:44 Soulful Visibility Soul Session mentioned: 21: the power of recommitment & return Get your FREE Soulful Visibility Guide ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood | |||
| 02 Dec 2024 | 57: fear of being seen, meet the Invitation Mindset | 00:31:24 | |
hello soul sibling! wherever you desire to be seen, there will be fear... online, on stages, in classrooms, hosting events, speaking up in meetings or calls... the fear of being seen is all over our human experience, because it is the fear of judgment, social rejection, isolation, humiliation... in today's soul session we continue our discussion on visibility blocks and a mindset shift to help you move through it: Invitations... what will you be inviting us to, next babes?! 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. CREATIVE RESOURCES: 🧘🏾♀️ Get Creative Activations to move from fear to flow: get a FREE Creative Activation when you sign up 📖 Buy my ebook, Creative CataList for a JUICY supply of creative inspo I use daily 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 06 Dec 2023 | 34: beauty as alienation from the self 👽 | 00:34:29 | |
if toxic, eurocentric beauty standards won’t let you rest: this episode is for you. i made a tiktok (620K views) about this idea in June that people resonated with, and so I decided to make an episode about it. let’s unpack how Beauty is a form of alienation from ourselves — and from each other. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 🤎 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quotes: “I believe there’s a world in which we see each other as Divine Beings that cannot be flattened into a toxic Eurocentric, colonial, elitist, ableist beauty standard that is always and already going to dehumanize us and remove us from the ability to experience ourselves and each other as Love.” “Beauty dislocates you from being able to claim yourself in the present tense” Time stamps (02:48): What is alienation? (05:07): Beauty as a distorted mirror (12:32): Beauty and Time (15:48): Intra-community Beauty standards (19:43): Mirrors and Love (25:50): The relentless pursuit and pressure of Beauty (27:17): 3D vs 5D consciousness (32:01): Why I struggled with this episode Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Sources mentioned: TikToks: On beauty as alienation by me Video 1 (https://www.tiktok.com/@ayandastood/video/7249132796822752518) and Video 2 (https://www.tiktok.com/@ayandastood/video/7249137595135872261) Essay: Estranged Labour, 1844 by Karl Marx (https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1844/manuscripts/labour.htm) Related episodes Industrialized vs. Spiritual Beauty (Idea via Jessica DeFino) Beautiful Lies Ft. Kalpana Mohanty Moving toward Ugliness Ft. Mia Mingus Read my hand-written essay on Breaking the Colonial Paradigm of Beauty Other key quotes: “We can be so much more if we dismantle the Beauty hierarchy” “Beauty robs you of your sense of self in two ways: Number 1, it equates who you are with how you look according to a toxic, Eurocentric beauty standard. Your “ideal self” is someone who looks a certain way, rather than someone who is a certain Being — which you already are. Number 2: you are always relegated to being worse than your ideal future self, so then when are you ever allowed to exist and to claim yourself? As you grow older and age, people say you don’t look yourself. If you gain weight, people say you don’t look yourself. If you lose weight, you are meant to “feel more yourself than ever”. So then who are you? Surely you always look yourself? No, because Beauty is the alienation of the self from the self” “A world with more radical love, rooted in an anti-colonial understanding of life, HAS TO dismantle the beauty hierarchy, and replace it with a deep love and awe for people as people, rather than value people based on their ability or inability to conform to toxic Eurocentric beauty standards” “You are a multi-dimensional being who, through Beauty and other oppressive structures, is forced to conceive of yourself as a one-dimensional self” “Beauty dislocates you from being able to claim yourself in the present tense” “We will always be alienated from ourselves when we are made to feel unloveable because of a standard that has been imposed on us, one that deeply limits how we then come to understand, experience, and make sense of ourselves and each other” Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. | |||
| 17 Dec 2023 | 35: awakening to possibility 🌻 | 00:43:56 | |
today’s episode is all about embracing POSSIBILITY as an abundant energy that can unlock itself even further. possibility, and moving through the world with the openness, expansiveness and abundance mindset it invites us into, is a beautiful self-fulfilling prophecy. unfortunately, impossibility works the same way. i discuss some of the ways the energy of possibility has affected my friendships, and unpack four related areas full of possibilities: conflict, romantic relationships, creativity, and social change. we also get into other things (like we always do) such as soulnliness vs. resonating with the people around you, delusion, wholeness, and more. if you are calling in more possibilities at this stage of your life — this episode is for you. I also share an exciting announcement in this episode about a special opportunity to work with me 1:1 through my creative coaching container, launching in January 2024. Stay tuned for more details in the coming weeks. 👀🤎 i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love. 🤎 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Time stamps (01:43): Soulnliness (05:27): Possibility & fiendship (16:50): Possibility & conflict (23:17): Possibility & romantic relationships (30:16): Possibility & creativity (see episode 24) (31:31): Special announcement (34:17): Possibility & social change (39:44): Wrap up & summary “Possibility is an energetic frequency we can all tap into” “There’s an amazing reclamation of Delusion on the internet — but let it not just be delusion for our own individualistic hopes, dreams and desires to manifest our own will. Let it also be a delusion we embrace to fuel our collective dreams — the delusion to believe we can end systems of oppression, the delusion to believe we can return to community with each other and with the earth, the delusion and confidence to insist that — in the words of Arundhati Roy — another world is not only possible, though some of us may never get to see her, she is on her way.” “We deserve people around us that make us feel more possible.” “It always seems impossible until it’s done” — Nelson Mandela “Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. Maybe many of us won't be here to greet her, but on a quiet day, if I listen very carefully, I can hear her breathing.” — Arundhati Roy “ I refuse the prison of “I” and choose the open spaces of “we.”” — Toni Morrison,The Source of Self-Regar “Assuming other people and opportunities will reject us is a self-fulfilling prophecy: in order to protect ourselves from rejection, we end up rejecting ourselves. We reject ourselves from the possibilities of love, fulfillment, aliveness.” Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Sources mentioned: Book: The Source of Self-Regard by Toni Morrison (https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-source-of-self-regard-selected-essays-speeches-and-meditations-toni-morrison/9585719?ean=9780525562795) Book: Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World by Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo (https://bookshop.org/p/books/sensitive-the-hidden-power-of-the-highly-sensitive-person-in-a-loud-fast-too-much-world-jenn-granneman/18547944?ean=9780593235010) Speech: Come September by Arundhati Roy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hVfjW81gGg) Episode (mine): 24: Let it Become (https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ez2vp4qp73hdB9PfJ5Yaa?si=a64d1b5353854463) Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. | |||
| 04 Oct 2022 | 1: welcome to my podcast! | 00:14:04 | |
Hello sunshines! Welcome to the first episode of Reimagining with @ayandastood– a podcast where we reframe, rethink, and reimagine everything standing in the way of love and liberation. I am so excited to be on this journey with you! Don’t forget to tune in, share it with a friend if you like it, and don’t miss out on my next episode– The Ugliness of Beauty. Full transcripts to all episodes are available here. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Highlights: (01:00) My journey to starting this podcast (03:52) Don’t try to do things alone if you can avoid it! (05:52) Audre Lorde Quotes on silence, language, and action (11:21) Community values and moving for, with, and through love Links: Instagram: @reimaginingwithayandastood Substack: https://ayandastood.substack.com/ - Subscribe if you can! Tiktok: Watch Ayandastood's Newest TikTok Videos Instagram: @ayandastood • Instagram photos and videos Audre Lorde Essay: The Transformation of Language into Silence and Action | |||
| 24 Oct 2022 | 2: the ugliness of beauty — part 1 | 00:46:34 | |
The response to eurocentric Beauty standards has been to diversify and include more people of marginalized identities. But this vital response alone is not enough. Our society regards Beauty as something inherently aspirational, noble, and good. Is it? Full transcripts to all episodes are available here. In this series, I invite you to reconsider Beauty as a social heirarchy, and move towards reimagining what Beauty (or something much better!) could be. I hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, leave a review and share it with a bestie! ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Highlights: (04:10) What could beauty be? More on this in later episodes… (05:25) What is the paradox of Beauty? (12:54) Why is Beauty ugly + what does Beauty do? (17:51) Roles within the supply chain (26:25) How our obsession with beauty reinforces our obsession with whiteness (34:50) The allure of Beauty & how it justifies racism, oppression and exploitation (45:27) The ugliness of beauty as a political concept
Audre Lorde Essay: The Transformation of Language into Silence and Action On the Politics of Ugliness book edited by Sara Rodrigues and Ela Przybylo
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| 24 Oct 2022 | 3: moving toward ugliness Ft. Mia Mingus | 01:16:31 | |
Hello Sunshine! Welcome to another episode of Reimagining with Ayandastood. Today, we are joined by the one and only Mia Mingus. In this episode, we explore Beauty, Desirability, Ugliness and Magnificence. Full transcripts to all episodes are available here. Mia Mingus is a writer, educator and trainer for transformative justice and disability justice. She is a queer, physically disabled, Korean-American transnational adoptee raised in the Caribbean. She works for community, interdependence and home for all of us, not just some of us, and longs for a world where disabled children can live free of violence, with dignity and love. As her work for liberation evolves and deepens, her roots remain firmly planted in ending sexual violence. Find Mia at @MiaMingus on Twitter and suppert her on Venmo @Mia-Mingus if you can! ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Highlights: (03:22) Intro to Mia Mingus (07:42) What brings Mia joy (11:28) What does it mean to Move Towards Ugliness? (16:07) Experiences that led Mia into this work (27:15) What does it mean to embrace each other’s Magnificence? (33:19) How desirability has been used to commit violence (46:36) How the need to feel beautiful is rooted in harm (1:06:25) How can we find ways to Move Toward Ugliness? (1:13:13) What is the antidote to shame? (1:18:49) Why is the burden of Beauty so high? Links: Mia Mingus: Writing: About | Leaving Evidence Twitter: @miamingus IG: @mia.mingus Reading: “Moving Toward the Ugly: A Politic Beyond Desirability” by Mia Mingus
Sip & Politic is an incredible podcast by my mutuals Joy Malonza & Carla Marie Davis. Find it on Apple here and Spotify here Support my amazing mutual Ismatu on Substack here and on TikTok @ismatu.gwendolyn Ayanda: | |||
| 10 Nov 2022 | 5: beauty & desirability Ft. Asherah aka @therealasherah | 01:06:07 | |
Welcome to another episode of Reimagining with Ayandastood. I am so thrilled to introduce our guest for today: an incredible human being, creator, singer, songwriter and activist– Black, Trans, Queer, Nigerian, UK-based creator Asherah, aka @therealasherah. Asherah is passionate about liberation for all the oppressed and uses her content to educate her audience on feminism, LGBTQ+ rights, desirability politics, Black liberation, and so much more! She regularly amplifies marginalized voices on her TikTok and interacts with other creators in her distinct greenscreen video stitching style, creating the feeling of direct engagement with tons of perspectives and voices. She amplifies mutual aid efforts supporting the needs of Black trans and queer individuals on her TikTok above and LinkTree below. Don’t miss out on this insightful episode as we talk about her experience with dating, desirability, beauty and much more! If this is your first time tuning in, subscribe to avoid misssing out on upcoming episodes! ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Highlights: (06:18) What do you need to say? (070:6) Perception of self vs. Others' perception of you (07:58) Who is Asherah? (15:38) Love, dating, trust, and fetishization (24:03) The dark side of Desirability (28:01) Asherah’s creative use of her Desirability in content creation (37:00) What role does Beauty play in the world? (1:01:35) Solidarity among Black women
TikTok: @therealasherah
Substack: www.ayandastood.substack.com - Subscribe if you can! Tiktok: Watch Ayandastood's Newest TikTok Videos Instagram: @ayandastood • Instagram photos and videos Audre Lorde Essay: The Transformation of Language into Silence and Action | |||
| 05 Dec 2022 | 6: beautiful lies Ft. Kalpana Mohanty | 01:01:24 | |
In this episode, I am joined by Kalpana Mohanty, writer, Ph.D. Candidate and Trudeau Scholar at Harvard University. She works on disability, colonialism, and gender in South Asia. Kalpana grew up in Portugal, Canada and India. Her proposed PhD topic focuses on the history of disability in India, particularly during high colonialism. Inspired by her own lived experience as someone with chronic illness who lives with a disability, Kalpana is passionate about accessibility in all forms, whether that be making academic spaces accessible for all students or making scholarly work engaging and interesting for a non-academic audience. She is committed to using the rigorous framework and theory of academia to address wider cultural issues ranging from the serious to the trivial as a cultural commentator. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Kalpana's Links:
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| 01 Nov 2022 | 4: the ugliness of beauty — part 2 | 00:38:53 | |
We continue our grand tour of the Ugliness of Beauty. This will be an ongoing series. Don't forget to listen to Part 1 first! In this episode we dive deeper into the paradoxes and ironies underlying Beauty and the role Beauty plays in upholding and normalizing systems of oppression. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. | |||
| 15 Dec 2022 | 7: viral justice Ft. Ruha Benjamin | 00:55:34 | |
I am so thrilled and honored to be in conversation with Ruha Benjamin, a Professor of African American studies at Princeton University, founding director of the Ida B. Wells JUST Data Lab and author of three books, Viral Justice (2022), Race After Technology (2019), and People’s Science (2013), and editor of Captivating Technology (2019). ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Highlights: (01:20) Get to Know Ruha Benjamin (02:51 ) What is viral justice? (04:45) The three types of plotting (09:44) Ruha's journey shaping this work (22:40) How can we be vulnerable but not exposed? (27:38) The power of poetry (36:16) Mutual aid and other life forms (41:20) The Doula Effect and how we can bring it to our daily lives Ruha's Links: Website:https://www.ruhabenjamin.com/ | |||
| 20 Dec 2022 | 8: white feminism Ft. Rafia Zakaria | 00:59:47 | |
Today I am delighted to be in conversation with Rafia Zakaria, an American Muslim author, attorney, and political philosopher, to discuss her powerful book, Against White Feminism: Notes on Disruption. In this book, Rafia challenges white feminism’s global, long-standing affinity with colonial, patriarchal, and white supremacist ideals. Covering such ground as the legacy of the British feminist imperialist savior complex and "the colonial thesis that all reform comes from the West" to the condescension of the white feminist-led "aid industrial complex" and the conflation of sexual liberation as the "sum total of empowerment," Zakaria follows in the tradition of intersectional feminist forebears Kimberlé Crenshaw, Adrienne Rich, and Audre Lorde. Zakaria ultimately refutes and reimagines the apolitical aspirations of white feminist empowerment in this radical critique, with Black and Brown feminist thought at the forefront. Rafia is a writer at the Baffler and Dawn magazine and a Fellow at the African American Policy Forum, an innovative think tank Co-Founded by Kimberle Crenshaw that connects academics, activists and policy-makers to promote efforts to dismantle structural inequality.
☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Highlights: (03:09) Rafia’s journey to publishing this book (12:34) What is white feminism? (22:03) Moving away from individualism towards collective action (29:02) A Perspective Empowerment History and Collectivism Solidarity (46:21) Technology & white supremacy (52:20) Engineering our future: How feminists inform politics (56:36) Rahia’s dream for the feminist movement Rafia Zakaria's Links: Twitter:Rafia Zakaria @rafiazakaria Instagram:@rafiazakariafeminist LinkedIn:Rafia Zakaria
Against White Feminism: Notes on Disruption by Rafia Zakaria Unfocused Feminism: The battle lines go beyond the bedroom and the boardroom by Rafia Zakaria | |||
| 23 Dec 2022 | 9: connected conflict Ft. Zanele Mji | 01:19:05 | |
Join me for a fun and energetic convo with journalist, storyteller, and podcast host Zanele Mji as we discuss connected conflict, friendship, relationships, and growth. Zanale is a South African award-winning investigative journalist based in Joburg whose work marries narrative non-fiction, hard news, and analysis. She is the host of the Golden City Podcast which you can find on Spotify and on Apple Podcasts. In this episode, we talk, learn, reflect, and vibe together. I hope you enjoy it! <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here.
(02:02 ) Intro to Zanele (04:30) Multiple Versions of Conflict (09:19) The Inner Family System (15:48) Our experiences with conflict (29:27) How we journal (49:40) Redefining Kinship (1:00:10) Thoughts on Friendship
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| 15 Apr 2024 | 45: there'll always be more to say 🌻💛 | perfectionism & creativity | 00:20:06 | |
hi precious beings! if you're battling with perfectionism, this episode is for you. earth angel, consider this your permission slip to declare your unfinished work FINISHED because completion is a myth maybe?! find out... i love you all, thank you thank you for being here! I hope you enjoy today’s soul session. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend 💛 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching | |||
| 18 Sep 2023 | 24: let it become | on creativity, relationships, & life 🐛🐝🦋🐣 | 00:36:14 | |
If you obsess over planning things instead of letting them unfold naturally, this episode is for you! Join me as we explore the notion and paradox of Becoming. Let’s release the illusion of control, and let the seed of your ideas and your relationships grow into what they wish to become. Nourishing the seed is meaningful and necessary — trying to control and define its possibilities may not be. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quotes from episode: “Honor the magic within you by understanding that you cannot fully contain, predict, or control its expression.” Time stamps (01:39): Controlling our creativity (04:37): Optimizing in dating (07:20): Nourish the seeds (08:29): The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts (12:16): Accessing our wisdom (16:45): Breakups, birth & death (22:14): Trust the process (23:35): Examples (play, dance, etc) (28:30): My podcast’s Becoming (29:50): The importance of space ☎️ seeking advice and want to phone in with a question? submit a voicemail here Sources mentioned: Book: The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety by Alan Watts Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG Quotes from this episode: “When we let something new Be, we also let it Become” “In our very Being is the state of Becoming” “Surrender the illusion that we are in control" “Suspend judgment, initially at least, and let yourself have the first draft. If you are writing and editing at the same time, for example, you are curtailing the possibilities of your words before they have even been given a chance to be fully expressed" “On a first date, you don’t need to interview someone. You can choose to just experience them” “We have so much love to give. We only need to stop ourselves from constantly silencing that giving. We have so much wisdom to share; sometimes what we are craving most is just the space to let that voice inside of us speak; to let it unfold — to let it become" “What will you surrender to this week? What will you allow to manifest through you? Instead of trying to exert control — pause, and tap into a wisdom, power, and intelligence that is bigger than your ability to plan for it" “Honor your inner child, and your inner manifestation of love — the part of you that craves love, and the part of you that is love — and create from that place” | |||
| 21 Jul 2023 | 15: showing up together & what I'm avoiding rn | 00:15:02 | |
If you're like me you have a bunch of scary projects or tasks or responsibilities or texts you are currently AVOIDING. you keep telling yourself to "just face them". but hard things are not meant to be faced alone! in this episode I discuss a community event called Showing up together on Sunday Jul 23 at 11am-2pm EST. if you can't make it or are listening to this after this date, no worries, this is hopefully just the beginning! This event is:
Key quote from the episode: “It’s called Showing Up Together — because why would we show up alone?” ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Time stamps:
Sources mentioned: Essay: Cosmic Anarchy Substack by Dr. Ayesha Khan Specific essay mentioned: “Heavy, difficult emotions are important to face & only overwhelming when carried alone” Book: Viral Justice by Ruha Benjamin Book: Freedom is a constant struggle by Angela Davis Book: Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown Book: Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey Essay: Cornel West on Existential hope Clip: Tricia Hersey: Rest & Collective Care as Tools for Liberation by Sounds True Article: Bodymind by Stimpunks Foundation Creator: Follow 5hahem on TikTok. Support them via their LinkTree here The Highest Self Podcast by Sahara Rose Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG. | |||
| 17 Jun 2024 | 49: comparison is (not) the thief of joy | 00:36:11 | |
“comparison is the thief of joy” they say, a quote originally from Former US President Theodore Roosevelt (random!). but what does the idea that we just "shouldn't" compare ourselves to each other ignore, and in turn, normalize? find out in this soul session and learn:
Time stamps: (02:46): Shame & comparison (06:28): Crisis Response (Bayo Akomolafe) (26:42): Comparison as a cultural cold Sources Mentioned: Philosopher: Bayo Akomolafe Book: The Disappearance of Rituals: A Topology of the Present by Byung-Chul Han Podcast: Philosophize This: Episode #189 ... Everything that connects us is slowly disappearing. - Byung Chul Han pt. 2 Essay: Comparison as Symptom by me on my Substack ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube CREATIVE RESOURCES: ✨ Work with me 1:1: www.ayandastood.com/coaching ✨ Buy my ebook of creative catalysts: Creative CataList ✨ Buy my creative meditations album: Creative Activations | |||
| 11 Oct 2024 | 56: fear is a portal from ego to soul ✨ | 00:09:36 | |
hello soul sibling! in today's Soul Session, i start off by sharing how nervous i felt recording it. we discuss how fear can be a portal from the ego to the soul, and why unconditional love can be a cozy home to return to when we feel stuck in perfectionism, fear, embarrassment, or self-doubt. 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. CREATIVE RESOURCES: 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level 📖 Buy my ebook, Creative CataList for a JUICY supply of creative inspo I use daily ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 20 Feb 2025 | 68: this quote on fear changed me forever ✨ | 00:25:23 | |
👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide now and step into the visibility you KNOW you deserve ✨. We all let fear stop us from pursuing what feels true to us. In this energizing Soul Session, I share a quote that fundamentally changed how I think about fear forever. We delve deep into the power of recognizing and embracing our fears, and how this awareness can fuel our creativity and visibility. With heartfelt wisdom, we come home to our divine essence, the interconnected nature of creation, and the importance of self-love. Tap in to reconnect with your divine purpose, creative dreams, and visibility goals. 🎵 Song featured: She Moves Me by Savanna. 00:00 Introduction and Purpose 00:24 You Are Divine 01:31 The Power of Self-Worth and Love 02:03 Welcome to the Soul Salon 02:26 Stepping into Visibility and Creativity 04:07 Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen 05:06 Personal Journey and Eye Contact Struggles 06:32 The Transformative Power of Fear 07:40 The Quote... 10:39 Embodying Courage and Creative Fear 14:06 Healing and Self-Worth 19:59 The Importance of Being Seen 23:14 Conclusion and Free Ebook Follow me on socials: ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood | |||
| 12 Oct 2023 | 27: romantic longing 🤎 part 2 | love poems, self-defined romance, removing barriers to love | 00:38:09 | |
welcome to ACT 2 of our convo on longing for a romantic relationship and what wisdom we can learn from this longing. In this episode, I read you a love poems, invite you to define romance for yourself, and share my pov on what romance means to me, and how it can be accessed through friendship. I am sending you love, today and always. 🤎 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. key quotes from episode: “I dreamed of romantic love and I thought I knew the packaging it would arrive in. But the substance was most important — and it did not come packaged as a romantic lover, but as a best friend” “I will love and be loved. Save and be saved a thousand times.” — Kate Baer “Value all deep bonds equally” — bell hooks “Is it really so that the one I love is everywhere?” — Rumi time stamps (01:49): welcome to Act 2! (06:50): poem: Idea by Kate Baer (20:10): my definition of romance (28:27): conceptual barriers (36:43): poem: Looking for love by Rumi ☎️ advice hotline: phone in with a question here sources mentioned: Poem: Idea by Kate Baer Poem: Looking for love by Rumi Essay: The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde Book: Communion: The Female Search for Love by bell hooks join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 11 Sep 2023 | 23: disposability culture & my fear of being cancelled | 00:56:47 | |
today we are digging deeper into my own creative fear — why and how I fear cancellation, my experience with it thus far, and what I tell myself in the face of this fear. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quote from episode: "I fear the social death that comes with disposability culture, where Black creators are built up just to be teared down" "I'm not fearless, I'm terrified" "I want to love myself so much that I am never disposable; I am never worthless" Time stamps (00:24): quick affirmation for you (02:46): i'm not fearless I'm terrified (06:48): self-sabotage and fear (20:32): disposability culture and Black creators (28:49): what this fear stops me from doing (31:19): my past experiences with cancellation (42:05): what I tell myself in the face of fear Sources mentioned: Book: Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds by adrienne maree brown Book: The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest Essay: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde Podcast: The Highest Self Podcast by Sahara Rose Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com (www.ayandastood.substack.com) please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 02 Feb 2024 | 38: how to overcome the fear of being CRINGE on social media | 01:00:59 | |
we are becoming FEAR ALCHEMISTS in 2024. hi darlings! in this episode I am giving a MasterClass on moving through and BEYOND the fear of being cringe/embarrassing/shameful online. this is a deep wound that many of us carry: fear of being cancelled, ridiculed, dragged, rejected, or criticized. it stops us from sharing ourselves, promoting our work, art, and services, and opening ourselves up to the LOVING POSSIBILITIES that exist for us through the global portal that is the internet. i have faced this pain (both the fear and the experience) and sat with it and soothed and nurtured, it still lives in me but it is now in a place where i can alchemize it into wisdom, grounded in a collective understanding of creativity and healing. so i wanted to speak to this pain and give us some mindset and perspective shifts on how we can TRANSFORM the fear of being cringe into posting through the fear and embarrassment, with love for ourselves and for the people seeking our voices, art, services, and perspectives. Affirmation: THE WORLD NEEDS Y(OUR) VOICE/ART/GIFTS/CREATIONS JUST! AS! THEY! ARE! ☎️ seeking advice and want to phone in with a question? submit a voicemail here OR write-in an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Time stamps (01:16): Validate (07:04): Neutralize (16:18): Connect (27:51): Serve (42:33): Zoom out (49:35): Desire (51:20): Summary Work with Me: Work with me one-on-one: https://ayandastood.com/work Information on my Creative Fear MasterClass dropping mid Feb will be updated here: https://ayandastood.com Sources mentioned: The Creative ACT: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin Join the community: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com | |||
| 18 Mar 2025 | 69: fear of making 'mistakes' | 00:24:39 | |
The fear of making mistakes blocks our collective expression, by design. In today's Soul Session, we dive into deeply-rooted childhood fears of getting things wrong and how these stop us from what we are here to express and embody in this life. 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get your FREE Soulful Visibility GuideBy embracing the inevitability of making mistakes and reframing them as invitations for deeper self-love and growth, we can unlock our true creative potential. Join me in the Soul Salon for a cozy chat. Let's co-create a compassionate space where it is safe to make mistakes and learn how this acceptance can lead to more authentic and liberating self-expression for all of us.00:10 The Fear of Making Mistakes01:32 Childhood Conditioning and Fear02:08 The Irony of Creation and Mistakes03:06 Safe Space for Mistakes03:30 Life's Mistakes and Evolution04:09 Meditation Insights on Mistakes08:39 Witnessing Humanity in Mistakes10:07 Unconditional Love and Creativity19:08 Journaling Questions for Self-Reflection20:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement23:22 Conclusion and Free GiftFREE Soulful Visibility Guide: ✨ ayandastood.com Follow on socials:✨ YouTube: @ayandastood ✨TikTok: @ayandastood ✨ IG: @ayandastood✨ Website: ayandastood.com | |||
| 12 Jun 2024 | 47: Palestine & the words I’m reaching for — Part 1 | 00:43:38 | |
hello soul siblings 🥰, I have MISSED YOU! 🫶🏾 as we bear witness to genocide and support and uplift the student and other protests in response, today I want to share and amplify the work of the WONDER-MAGIC-FUL Dr Ayesha Khan who writes the beautiful, informative, revolutionary Cosmic Anarchy Substack, which I am entirely obsessed with. I am sharing their work imperfectly, reaching for these words, and reaching for you. I send you my love, today and always. Thank you for being here. 🥺💛 ESSAYS mentioned: Subscribe to Cosmic Anarchy Substack Learn more about Dr Ayesha Khan website + Follow on IG @thewokescientist
Poem: If I Must Die by Refaat Alareer Palestine Is a Story Away: A Tribute to Refaat Alareer by Mosab Abu Toha Book: Gaza Writes Back: Short Stories from Young Writers in Gaza, Palestine edited by Refaat Alareer Subscribe to Cosmic Anarchy Substack Learn more about Dr Ayesha Khan website Follow Khan on IG at @thewokescientist Other sources mentioned (in order): Book: Necropolitics by Achille Mbembe Book: In Pursuit of Revolutionary Love: Precarity, Power, Communities: Precarity, Power, Communitie by Joy James Book: Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds by adrienne maree brown Soul Salon episode: 7: viral justice ft. Ruha Benjamin podcast episode on Spotify and Apple Book: Viral Justice: How We Grow The World We Want by Dr. Ruha Benjamin Book: Imagination: A Manifesto by Dr. Ruha Benjamin Essay: How the Universe resembles a human brain by Paul Ratner Essay: Heavy, difficult emotions are important to face & only overwhelming when carried alone by Dr. Ayesha Khan Other resources: Decolonize Palestine reading list 14 Trusted Charities Helping Civilians in Palestine Time stamps (01:00): Intro to Dr Ayesha Khan & Cosmic Anarchy (05:04): Overview of 3 takeaways (13:46): Deconstruct & Reconstruct (15:38): #1: Dehumanization of Palestinian men & buys (31:09): Reflections & Resources (34:30): The importance of in-person community (40:26): Poem: If I Must Die by Refaat Alareer | |||
| 17 Oct 2023 | 28: palestinian liberation, decolonization, resistance poems, & resources | 00:56:30 | |
as a Black South African, my existence and freedom today are only possible because of the liberation efforts of anti-apartheid revolutionaries like Steve Biko, Winnie Mandela, Chris Hani, and Nelson Mandela. all of these people were labeled terrorists by the apartheid government and international community. like Israel, the USA and UK financially supported the South African apartheid government (until it was no longer popular to). after many attempts at non-violent protest, the ANC had to turn to armed struggle. they found that there was no other call for justice and freedom for Black South Africans that would be heeded. this is the case in all liberation struggles. the violence that was used to oppose the apartheid regime in South Africa can not be put on equal footing with the extreme violence of apartheid itself, and must always be viewed in its proper context: an attempt by an indigenous people to be free from the militarized and everyday terror of a white supremacist apartheid state. the same is true for Palestine, with respect to Zionism. decolonization is not a metaphor. when we see thorns of violence, and when they pierce our skin, we must look at them and consider: if i am against this thorn, i must acknowledge that this thorn has a stem, this stem has a root, and if i am not against the root of violence, suffering, and terror that gave this thorn life and made its existence not only possible but inevitable, I cannot in good conscience claim to be against violence at all. colonialism and imperialism are the root of all structural violence; are the true terrors against humanity and this earth, so normalized and so protected that to condemn them is to be labeled with words only appropriate for the militarized forces of the world that create the most heinous, and organized forms of violence we as human beings have ever been made to experience and witness. this is an episode in solidarity with my Palestinian siblings, suffering under the weight of an oppressive regime. Free Palestine — free every colonized people from imperialism and colonialism, from bombs, raids, checkpoints, seiges, humiliation, terror, blockades, forced removals, occupations, prisons, slavery, and exploitation. re-indigenize this earth so that peace, community, and love can be returned to the center of human life on this precious planet. DONATE: Medical Aid for Palestinians is on the ground in Gaza where they are working to stock hospitals with essential drugs,disposables and other healthcare supplies. Palestine Children’s Relief Fund is the primary humanitarian organization in Palestine. They deliver crucial, life-saving medical relief and humanitarian aid on the ground The World Food Program has been distributing fresh bread, canned food and ready-to-eat food to those who sought refuge in United Nations Relief and Works Agency shelters in Gaza Doctors Without Borders is providing support to hospitals and health facilities in Gaza UNRWA is providing medical support, trauma relief, and food assistance on the ground in Gaza LEARN: Decolonize Palestine has an overview, myth database, and reading list. Support their Patreon here SOURCES MENTIONED: Video: Why Hamas Attacked Israel - And What's Next For Gaza by Dena Takruri for AJ+ Paper: Decolonization is not a metaphor by Eve Tuck and K. Wayne Poem: Refugee by Mahmoud Darwish Essay: My Palestinian Poem that “The New Yorker” Wouldn’t Publish by Fady Joudah Poem: Shades of Anger by Rafeef Ziadah Poem: HADEEL by Rafeef Ziadah Poem: The Shelling Ended by Najwan Darwish Poem: My Sixteen-Year-Old Mother by Ahlam Bsharat Documentary: Oceans of Injustice Essay: Poetry is Not a Luxury by Audre Lorde | |||
| 19 Feb 2024 | 39: the wisdom of feeling lost | 00:37:00 | |
in today’s episode we talk about the deep state of consciousness that being LOST entails, rather than the inferior state it represents in the western imagination. I frame this in terms of colonial consciousness which privileges "clarity, direction, Knowing, confidence" vs. the deeper truth of the universe, nature, and indigenous consciousness, which embrace chaos, magic, cyclical time, and humility in the face of the unknown and unknowability of all truths of the universe. At the same time, I am sending love as I know being lost feels deeply uncomfortable and isolating. An update episode on the name change is coming soon angels! WORK WITH ME: Pov: you are a spiritual soul with a powerful voice and message that you dream of sharing with the world. You are here to serve the collective and the divine through the gift of your voice and ability to channel wisdom and insights. When it comes to sharing that voice on social media to find your dream audience, community, and clients, you often feel blocked by perfectionism, fear of judgment & being cancelled, self-doubt, and lack of trust in your voice. You want to quantum leap into the version of you that is taking up SPACE, speaking your truth, and opening up your throat chakra. Work with me one-on-one and let’s get your voice shared with the world. Visit www.ayandastood.com/coaching TIMESTAMPS (01:15): Western imagination (06:26): What we gain from being lost (12:30): Birth and Death in life (17:50): Lost in isolation (19:30): The God of the Self (22:18): Finding teachers & surrendering (24:30): Spiritual awakening (32:08): The universe is always inviting us SOURCES MENTIONED: Essay: Heavy, difficult emotions are important to face & only overwhelming when carried alone by Dr. Ayesha Khan Book: The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts Substack: The Unpublishable by Jessica DeFino Podcast: The Highest Self Podcast by Sahara Rose Episode: 16: Industrialized vs. spiritual Beauty by me ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com | |||
| 14 Nov 2023 | 31: the paradox of being sensitive — part 1: creativity 📝🎥🎨🥹 | 00:53:59 | |
if you’ve ever felt that the same sensitivity that makes you drawn to creative work also makes you TERRIFIED of starting, finishing or sharing yours — this episode is for you. the irony of this episode is more than i can express to you — throughout this process i faced so much shame, fear and avoidance (particularly in the editing phase). i feel there’s so much more to say and so much i wish i had said differently. but i'm telling myself that my inner critic is a LIAR, and & i'm choosing to let it be. thank you today and always for being here on this journey with me. i hope that you receive my offering, and i hope my words take the shape of some of your wounds today.i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Video available on Spotify and YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quotes from episode: “Our sensitivity can be the water that hydrates and nourishes our creativity, or the water that drowns it.” Sources mentioned: Book: Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World by Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo Poem: Why Bother? By Sean Thomas Dougherty Book: The Creative ACT: A way of Being by Rick Rubin Essay: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde Join the community: my newsletter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Every Sunday: Join showing up together, a virtual working session every Sunday on Zoom from 9am-12pm EST. Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 03 Feb 2025 | 63: you fear what you crave: to be seen. it's time. | 00:22:26 | |
Our journey on the fear of being seen continues! Today we discuss stepping out of your protective shell and embracing your fullest expression. Delve into "overcoming" fears of visibility, childhood wounds, and societal pressures that lead us to hide and dim our light — the same light that is our only hope for healing and transforming the world. 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide Discover the paradox of craving visibility while also fearing it, featuring insights from Audre Lorde and offerings like the free 'Soulful Visibility Guide'. This Soul Session is a call to stand in your power and share your magic with the world. 00:00 Introduction: The Power of Visibility 00:44 Overcoming Childhood Wounds 02:21 Embracing Your Gifts and Talents 03:40 The Paradox of Visibility 04:55 Breaking Free from the Shell 07:04 The Infinite Journey of Love 07:58 Audre Lorde's Wisdom on Visibility 10:00 Embracing Radical Acceptance 12:18 The Collective Awakening 17:37 Invitation to Soulful Visibility 19:26 Conclusion: You Are Love Sources Mentioned: The Transformation of Silence into Language & Action by Audre Lorde A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" by Marianne Williamson Gold by Rumi | |||
| 31 Jul 2023 | 17: reclaiming the erotic | 00:39:00 | |
Today we are redefining and reimagining the Erotic. What is it, why is it so powerful, and how can we bring more of it into our lives? We will hear clips from Audre Lorde’s seminal essay, The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, as well as words of wisdom from adrienne maree brown, and Esther Perel. I hope this makes you feel enlivened, and invites more Erotic experiences into your life. I dream of a society rooted in aliveness instead of death, especially of the most marginalized. Let's dream together. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the VIDEO of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Key quote from episode: “What makes you feel alive? Keep a note on your phone of moments, experiences, people, that enliven you" Time stamps: (00:00): Intro to The Erotic (07:09): Intro to Audre Lorde (13:33): Esther Perel on the Erotic (17:17): What makes you feel alive? (19:10): Public parks as Erotic spaces (22:11): adrienne maree brown on Audre Lorde’s Uses of the Erotic (22:55): Love & The Erotic ft. bell hooks (33:66): Audre Lorde on how the Erotic functions in her life (36:30): Closing Sources mentioned: Essay: Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde Essay reading: Audre Lorde reads Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic As Power Website: Adrienne maree brown Book: Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown Book: Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown Book: All About Love by bell hooks YouTube: What is Erotic Intelligence? (Mindvalley Talks) by Esther Perel TED Talk: Rethinking infidelity by Esther Perel Discussion: Reimagining Desire post on my Substack Essays on porn by adrienne maree brown: Liberating Desire & The Pleasure Dome TikTok: Follow Misako Envela @MisakoEnvela on YouTube and @misako_envela on TikTok Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG. Next Showing Up Together Event: August 6, 10am-1pm EST | RSVP here | |||
| 02 Jun 2023 | 11: essay reading: "on the transformation of silence into language and action" by Audre Lorde | 00:18:05 | |
in this episode, I read an essay I refer to often in this podcast, Audre Lorde’s “On the Transformation of Silence into Language and Action”. This episode was initially meant to be my original “return” to the podcast. I ended up cutting some of my reflection down to let the essay stand on its own, but my reflections on it will continue to be peppered throughout the podcast. ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Key quote from the essay: “What are the words you do not yet have? What do you need to say?” — Audre Lorde. Time stamps:
Sources and clips included: Essay: On the transformation of silence into language and action by Audre Lorde Read Audre Lorde's Bio Book: Selected Works of Audre Lorde, edited by Roxane Gay Clip: "There is no hierarchy of oppressions" by Audre Lorde Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood_ on IG. | |||
| 24 Jun 2024 | 50: fear of success, awe, & reclaiming our power. | 00:12:53 | |
Sending love beams, soul siblings! I am hosting a FREE MasterClass on Creative Kinship on Zoom this Sunday, June 30 @ 10am-11:30am EST / 2-3:30pm UTC. Register here. ✨ GO DEEPER WITH ME: 👉🏾 FREE MASTERCLASS ON CREATIVE KINSHIP THIS SUNDAY 6/30: https://ayandastood.substack.com 🚀 Book a 1:1 Creative Activation Coaching Session to unlock & unblock your creativity: www.ayandastood.com/coaching 📖 Buy my ebook of creative catalysts for a JUICY supply of creative inspo: : Creative CataList 🧘🏾♀️ Buy my creative meditations album to move from fear to flow: Creative Activations Sources mentioned: Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life by Dacher Keltner | |||
| 01 Feb 2025 | 61: what if if gets to be easy? 🌻 | 00:26:02 | |
You deserve the ease you’ve been unconsciously rejecting or denying as possible. In this Soul Session, we explore how social conditioning often overshadows our natural gifts and the possibility of finding joy and ease in creation. From childhood passions to adult aspirations, we discuss the importance of feeling worthy of ease and support in our daily lives and creative pursuits. Join us in reprogramming paradigms for a life rooted in love, community, liberation, and EASE. 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide ebook NOW. 00:00 Introduction: Embracing Ease 00:03 The Worthiness of Ease 01:05 Childhood Joy and Creativity 02:13 Attention and Soul Nourishment 02:55 Collective Healing and Your Gifts 03:46 Embracing Natural Gifts 04:45 Challenging Perfectionism 06:01 Creating Heaven on Earth 11:45 Metaphors and Reality 18:33 Visibility and Self-Expression 23:55 Conclusion: Stepping into Power with Ease Essay mentioned: Metaphors Make The World by Benjamin Santos Genta Also consider: Uses of the Erotic by Audre Lorde | |||
| 21 Aug 2023 | 20: you are not a machine: why inconsistency is natural 🦋🍄🌻 | 00:46:32 | |
This is for anyone who is struggling to stay consistent with their creative project or goals in life. I am with you! And so are the sunsets, the fruit trees, the weather, the harvest, the ocean waves. You are made to believe you are separate from and “above” nature. But we are all nature. A peach tree does not produce a peach every Monday on demand. So if you’re struggling to do the same, this is for you <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quote from episode: “Nothing in nature is perfectly consistent, and you are nature, so why would you be?” Time stamps: (01:12): The colonial imagination (06:38): You are cosmically aligned (11:58): Digital platforms & the mechanization of self (16:46): Examples in nature of inconsistency (33:43): In what way are you fluctuating? (41:33): Cosmic timing for our creations Sources mentioned: Meditation series: 21 Days of Abundance by Deepak Chopra Book: The Creative ACT: A way of Being by Rick Rubin Novel: Under the Udala Trees by Chinelo Okparanta Join the community: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG | |||
| 02 Feb 2025 | 62: channeled message from your dreams✨ | 00:06:53 | |
Here is a gift for you, a channeled message from your dream in times of challenge or doubt, when action and vision are not aligned. Soul sibling, y(our) dream is dreaming of you. What you're calling in is calling you in! 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide | |||
| 19 Mar 2025 | 70: you are an instrument of love 🎷 | 00:19:05 | |
Hello divine soul! Today we affirm YOU as and each of us as instruments of love. What if: love wants to speak and express through you? To sing, dance, cook, feel, heal, and grow through you, through us? 👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide now and step into the visibility you KNOW you deserve ✨: https://ayandastood.com/ In today's Soul Session, we explore the collective grief for unexpressed art, music, and ideas lost to fear, supremacy, and conditioning, and the importance of expressing your creativity in this lifetime. Soul sibling, let's tap into the power of unconditional love, and you as a vessel for it. We are creating loving ripples across the EARTH. Join us! 00:00 You Are an Instrument of Love00:31 The Grief of Unexpressed Creation01:21 Embracing Your Divine Expression03:32 Perfectionism and the Gift of Expression03:46 Health and the Gift of Voice06:07 The Power of Love and Expression08:26 The Cure for Cancer: Holistic Health15:57 Surrendering to Love's Expression16:49 Conclusion: Leaning into Love✨ get your FREE Soulful Visibility Guide: ayandastood.com follow on socials ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood ✨TikTok: @ayandastood ✨ IG: @ayandastood ✨ Website: ayandastood.com | |||
| 15 Jan 2024 | 36: celebrate your soul’s garden, just as it is | 00:38:17 | |
in this episode we honor the garden of your soul AS IT IS rather than focusing on the seeds you will plant this year. we remember you’re whole as you are. you’re complete as you are. you're divine as you are. i expand on this metaphor, inviting you to reflect on the different seeds, plants, flowers, trees, and beings within your soul’s garden and the role you play in that of other people. I also discuss my struggles with cultivating soil of self-compassion within my soul's garden — including in the creation of this episode. i hope you enjoy this episode, made with love <3 ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Time stamps (02:25): My word for 2024 (05:00): Your soul garden (09:11): Eternal seeking (11:40): What role do you play? (15:17): Non-linear time (18:36): My soul garden (25:11): Celebrating you (30:29): Nature is always complete Join the community: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com | |||
| 25 Sep 2024 | 55: you haven't missed the train, the train misses you. | 00:28:50 | |
precious being, if you feel it's TOO LATE this soul session was handmade for you. 👉🏾 get a FREE Creative Activation —a guided audio meditation to support your creative practice. 👀🚀 a reminder to never minimize what you are bringing and embodying and how we cannot wait to experience your magic on the train you feel too late to catch. shame and ageist timelines and a culture obsessed with doing things "first, early, youngest" can prevent us from feeling worthy of even TRYING to pursue our dreams, at any age. a loving reminder that the train misses you. we are ready to receive you. are you ready to make your offering?! i love you ❤️ 00:00 Not too late 03:02 Multiple versions of you 06:01 Creative Activations 07:33 The Train 11:56 Creative Kinship 17:00 Generosity 19:44 Ripples 20:55 You 10 years from now 22:00 Polarity & illusions 24:03 Collective Utopia 25:03 Creative Activations Related Soul Sessions: 54: manifest with the law of polarity 44: the collective is dreaming through you. CREATIVE RESOURCES: 🧘🏾♀️ Get Creative Activations to move from fear to flow: get a FREE Creative Activation when you sign up 🚀 Work with me 1:1 on creativity and/OR visibility to unlock your next level 📖 Buy my ebook, Creative CataList for a JUICY supply of creative inspo I use daily ✨ YouTube: @ayandastood | TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the form here. | |||
| 18 Mar 2024 | 43: become the energy you crave (or envy) | 00:11:52 | |
today i bring you a bite size dose of ENERGY I recorded in December but felt wasn't "good enough" at the time. in honor of breaking up with perfectionism, i bring you this offering. let's call it a SOUL SNACK if you will. topics include: envying someone's success, listening to yourself, embodying what you seek, and the energetic messages of the universe. i love you, sunshines & soul siblings! i hope you enjoy this experience. stay tuned for more, and share it with a friend if you resonate 💛 TIME STAMPS: (00:51): Are you listening? (01:38): Reframing envy (05:50): Who I'm drawn to (06:33): Energy is a spectrum (07:09): Collective healing (09:55): Unity consciousness (10:23): What are you calling in? Work with me one-on-one in coaching to unlock your authentic expression and face your fear of being seen online: www.ayandastood.com/coaching ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: my muse-letter: ayandastood.substack.com please join me here! follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG and @ayandastood on YouTube visit my website at www.ayandastood.com Work with me 1:1 www.ayandastood.com/coaching | |||
| 06 Feb 2025 | 66: create through fear 🐉 | 00:20:13 | |
👉🏾 Your fear of being seen is DONE holding you back. Get my FREE Soulful Visibility Guide: https://ayandastood.com/ This finds you ready to accept fear and radically enter Creator Mode — because the Dragon of fear guards the Treasure of y(our) dreams... 🐉 In today’s Soul Sessions we explore the profound connection between fear and destiny through an insightful reflection on a memorable episode of Diary of a CEO Podcast hosted by Steven Bartlett and featuring Trevor Noah. Discover the beauty and necessity of vulnerability, courage, and embracing fear as essential components in the journey towards fulfilling your dreams. This Soul Session is a heartfelt reminder to befriend your dragons and embrace your creative path, knowing that fear and nerves are part of the transformative process of pursuing your dreams, and honoring the collective dreaming through you. Chapters: 00:00 The Dragon and the Treasure 00:03 DOAC with Trevor Noah 01:11 The Power of Vulnerability 03:30 Facing Fear in Pursuit of Dreams 04:38 Trevor Noah and Esther Perel on Stage Fright 05:58 Embracing Fear as Part of the Journey 07:32 The Illusion of Fearlessness 09:21 Befriending the Dragon 11:13 The Importance of Facing Fear 15:36 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 18:55 Conclusion and Free Gift Sources Mentioned: Podcast Episode: The Diary of a CEO with Trevor Noah 2024 by Steven Bartlett: YouTube Video: A Live Conversation with Esther Perel and Trevor Noah: Where Should We Begin? | SXSW 2024 by Esther Perel Book: Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert Essay: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde Follow me on socials: ✨ TikTok: @ayandastood | IG: @ayandastood Soul Session No. 65 | |||
| 07 Nov 2023 | 30: free Congo 🇨🇩🤎 — overview, book (Cobalt Red 📚) & how we can help | 01:17:46 | |
Congo is currently undergoing a silent genocide. We are lifting our voices for the people of DRC. This episode is my imperfect attempt to amplify the ongoing situation in Congo, and share the 5 greatest lessons I learned from a book I read in light of the moment we are in called Cobalt Red: How the Blood of the Congo Powers Our Lives by Siddharth Kara. In this episode, I also read an overview of what’s happening in the Northern Kivu regions where militia groups are massacring, exploiting, and sexually assaulting Congolese people. Free Congo, Free Sudan, Free Palestine, Free Haiti, and free all nations and peoples suffering under colonial, capitalist, supremacist, and military violence. 🎥: Watch the video of this episode on Spotify or YouTube. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. Key quote from episode: “Cobalt mining is the slave farm perfected.” — Siddharth Kara, Cobalt Red Time stamps: (04:46): Situation overview (18:31): Documentary: Crisis In The Congo (22:26): Book: Cobalt Red & the 5 lessons I learned (25:35): Map of DRC conflicts (29:13): Lesson 1: Exploitative tech giants (43:30): Lesson 2: Human rights atrocities (56:33): Lesson 3: Colonial history (01:03:07): Lesson 4: Stolen future: The assassination of Patrice Lumumba (01:11:47): Lesson 5: Public Health Crisis (01:17:47): How we can help (donate, amplify, share) LEARN: Book: Cobalt Red: How the Blood of the Congo Powers Our Lives by Siddharth Kara Documentary: Crisis In The Congo: Uncovering The Truth by Friends of the Congo Talk: Cobalt Red with Siddharth Kara by Foreign Policy Association Book: King Leopold's Ghost: A Story of Greed, Terror, and Heroism in Colonial Africa by Adam Hochschild Instagram infographics: Follow @powerfulcountries [Source(s): UnitedNations, IPIS Research, International Rescue Committee, AfricanNews, Al Jazeera, Human Rights Watch, NY Times, Wikipedia, AP News, Relief Web, and The Independent] DONATE: Congolese-led organizations Panzi Foundation is renowned for its work in treating survivors of sexual violence. The foundation supports survivors of gender-based violence. HEAL Africa Based in Goma, HEAL Africa runs a hospital and provides health care, training, and community development programs. UCOFEM (Union Congolaise des Femmes des Médias): An organization focused on women’s rights and gender equality. International organizations International Rescue Committee | |||
| 21 Jul 2023 | 14: insecure creatives, gather! Part 2 | 00:38:46 | |
This one is for my fellow creatives facing self-doubt, insecurity, resistance, fear, anxiety. If you know you want to start, complete, or share your creative project — this episode (and the last one) is for you! I recommend listening to Part 1 first but also you can dive in right here. Sending love! ADVICE COLUMN: ☎️ seeking advice and want to PHONE IN with a question? submit a voicemail here. 📩 OR WRITE IN an advice question anonymously at the ASK Ayanda form here. Key quote: “Things shift for you as a creator when you focus on serving the collective.” Time stamps:
Essay: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action by Audre Lorde Book: The Creative ACT: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin Clip: Follow Simplifying Sam on TikTok and link to her video here Clip: My video on Beauty as alienation from the self Clip: ABTalks with Jay Shetty interview by Anas Bukhash Join the community: Subscribe to my newsletter at ayandastood.substack.com Follow me at @ayandastood on TikTok and @ayandastood on IG. JOIN FREE EVENT: Showing up together on Sunday Jul 23
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