Sorry For Asking with Adam Ramzi and Cole Connor (UBNGO)

Our first Podcast!  What are we doing here?  Adam and Cole discuss why we decided to start a podcast and what kind of things you can expect to hear on our forum.   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

This week the boys nab an exclusive interview with James Larusso, formerly known as gay porn star Tommy Defendi, who shares the extreme highs and deep lows of his very unique journey as a ‘heteroflexible’ performer, which started at the age of 18.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Adam and Cole are joined by Raging Stallion exclusive performer Drew Valentino, who answers questions about performing, his beginnings in the industry, and, of course, his propensity for pits. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Adam and Cole welcome podcast extraordinaire, H Alan Scott, as their first guest to discuss and compare notes on the porn that shaped them in their formative years.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Adam and Cole dive deep into the psychology, anatomy , and occasional help from science that it takes to keep their equipment stiff and ready in order to ensure a smooth day at work.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

You know what doesn’t get talked about enough? Gay butt sex! The boys have an in-depth conversation about the ins and outs and the joys and woes of anal intercourse, on and off camera. Sorry in advance, Mom. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Adam and Cole discuss health issues relevant to performers, including the arduous testing processes for monkeypox, Covid, and STIs, that can be prohibitive to a productive filming schedule. They also recount the tricky landscape of porn star Twitter drama, and deconstruct the mono-normative relationship structures that are particularly difficult to function when partaking in the world of adult content. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Cole and Adam catch up on recent events, including their respective travels and breakups, and the traumatic incident that required surgery for Cole.  They also examine what it’s like to date while being part of the adult industry.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Our Thanksgiving Episode!  Adam and Cole discuss a delicious buffet of topics, including queer party culture, double penetration, Adam’s recent travels and Cole’s upcoming directorial enterprise, and link them all back to the spirit of giving (and receiving).  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Adam and Cole revisit the monkeypox issue and underline the importance of sexual health as performers.  They also discuss the funny politics of unsolicited nudes and share insight on the ever involving and often frustrating process of setting up content collaborations.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Cole and Adam welcome prolific porn personality, Joel Someone, to share his experiences as the self-proclaimed ‘Maggie Gyllenhaal of gay porn,’ from working with every independent run studio to winning this year’s GayVN award for Best Bisexual performer.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

This week, the boys welcome the LA nightlife guru, who shares his experience bringing sex positivity and a sense of humor to his very unique parties, which feature vintage porn, sexy gogo boys, and a safe space for LGBTQ folks to get their freak on. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Adam and Cole welcome porn performer and Falcon Exclusive Andre Donovan, who shares the evolution of his sexual tastes and performer journey over eight years in the industry, and discusses his perspective on the importance of diversity, representation, and visibility for POC performers in gay porn and beyond.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

For the penultimate episode of season 1, Adam and Cole welcome actor and comedian Drew Droege to discuss a wide range of Hollywood’s film and television offerings that depict the evolving gay experience, sexual and otherwise.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

In the final episode of season 1, Cole and Adam share their wisdom, insights, and experiences with the body dysmorphia that often plagues performers in the gay adult industry, as well as the gay community at large. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sorryforasking/support

Welcome back to Sorry for Asking! In the season 2 premiere, Adam and Cole get used to the new and improved setup, provided by their partnership with Fleshbot x Cybersocket, while they catch up about the recent holiday season and share steamy stories from their recent sexy filming opportunities (including a shared group scene, in which Adam had a very exciting new experience). They also go in-depth about this year’s exciting gay porn awards season, their time at the GayVNs (where Cole brought home the coveted award for Best Leading Actor in a Feature), and also get into some of their New Year's resolutions.

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In this episode, Adam and Cole welcome decorated gay porn veteran Steve Cruz, who shares with us the twists and turns of his unique journey in the world of gay adult films. Starting out at the top as a star performer at Raging Stallion Studios, Cruz spent over four years in front of the camera before making the permanent switch to behind, becoming one of Falcon Media’s most prolific directors. He also shares his perspective on what it’s like to see how gay porn has evolved during his time as a member of the industry, as well as the evolution of the gay community at large as reflected by its general proclivities.

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This week, Adam and Cole are paid a visit by dom top superstar Wade Wolfgar, who gives the boys a glimpse into the many elements that have helped him compose his brand. From growing up in Calgary, to the winding road toward sex work and adult films, to his very unique delivery in his videos, to his propensity for older men; all of this rounds out to a frank discussion about the power dynamics that sometimes play out in gay sex and porn, and how the terminology to describe this interplay has evolved over time, on and off camera. We love you, Dad!

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In this episode, Adam and Cole catch up over the latest adventures in the world of content creation, including Cole’s 20-man excursion to the desert, which prompts the boys to discuss something very important - preparation! Yes everyone, it’s the douching episode. There’s no one way to do it, everybody does it, and we all have stories. How it works, when it doesn’t, and all the nitty and (hopefully not so) gritty.

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Strap in, folks. Our special guest this week is the prince of naughty and nice, the sexy and talented Devin Franco. Devin shares with Adam and Cole about his religious upbringing in rural New Mexico, takes them on a tour of the porn that inspired his journey, including an enlightened take on the ins and outs of fisting and bondage, and tells stories about his path from popular performer to budding director. Sorry moms.

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Our first health segment! Have you ever wondered about penises? Like… what’s really up with penises? Adam and Cole get very lucky this week when they receive a visit from Los Angeles based urologist and CEO/co-founder of Popstar Labs, Dr Josh Gonzalez. In this episode, the boys get real deep with Dr Gonzalez, who shares his extensive knowledge about penile health, anatomy, enhancement and obsession, and all the things they could entail. He also plugs his specialty product, Popstar, which has been formulated to help dudes have bigger, tastier loads. Sorry not sorry!!

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This week, the boys fall deep into a discussion about general dating rituals and how life as erotic content creators has affected their own dating habits. What came first, the chicken or the egg? Has the evolution of their dating habits led to life in the adult film world, or has being adult film stars had an influence on the way they date? Is dating easier or harder? What does ‘dating’ even entail these days, in this age of sex available at the swipe of our tired, calloused thumbs? The one thing they’re sure of is, it feels good to have a laugh about all of it with a friend!

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For nearly ten years, UK sensation Josh Moore has climbed the ranks from novice “demon twink” with Michael Lucas to Falcon Exclusive porn king with over half a million Twitter followers. In this episode, Adam and Cole get the low down on Moore’s beginnings in the industry, his current lifestyle in London, and how being a performer has affected his social and sex lives. They also recount the times they have shared with him over the years, and get a glimpse of Josh’s shining future of continual success as one of gay porn’s absolute greatest.

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Get your ears ready. This week, Adam and Cole welcome prolific porn stud Derek Kage, who shares candidly about his journey to adult film work, from his mental health struggles early on to finding his footing in the industry and working for all the hottest studios. He also reveals the reason for his name, tells some very funny stories, and delivers it all with arguably the sexiest voice in gay porn. You might need to towel off after this one.

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This week, Adam and Cole catch up about the very busy beginning of summer happenings, work and otherwise, focusing specifically on the ins and outs of shooting studio porn. Sometimes it’s fun, sometimes it’s difficult, sometimes it’s grueling, and sometimes it’s hilarious - the boys share stories of their recent brushes with studio work and compare it to the very different experience of filming for their own content sites. They also open the discussion up to the audience, whether performers or not - how do you *get there*? What are the methods to finish? Does the climax indicate the end of the day, or can you keep going? Lotta questions, sorry for asking!

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This week, Adam and Cole welcome trans performer, activist, and sex goddess, Küper, who shares their very unique perspective having grown up in a repressed environment while straddling the non-binary spectrum, becoming a sex worker and adult film performer in their male form, and eventually coming out as trans at the turn of the pandemic era. They also speak about being an outspoken presence in the twitter sphere during the time of their transition, loudly voicing their concerns about representation in gay adult films, at first being silenced but then kickstarting a movement that would see substantial change in the industry in the time immediately following the BLM movement and thereafter.

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This week the boys welcome special guest, Mr Pam! Arguably the best-known cis female director of gay male porn, Mr Pam shares her journey to becoming one of the most beloved creative personalities in the industry. From her beginnings in the Bay Area squeaking into the biz almost by accident as an editor, to her creative director position with Michael Lucas, to spending eight years as the lead director of Naked Sword Originals, Mr Pam tells of the many joys and occasional pains of being committed to the world of gay adult films, as well as giving glimpses of what is next in her illustrious career.

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The boys catch up over their latest happenings and cover a random array of topics, successes, blunders, new kinks, old kinks, and other reasons to share regarding the this-and-that relevant to the life of a gay adult content creator, especially as the summer ramps up and things start to get BUSY. Join in our little conversation, sorry in advance!

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We’ve got royalty in the house this time, folks. Content creator, gogo star, and recent contestant on OutTV’s ‘Go Go for the Gold,’ King Dwarf is our special guest this week. In this episode, he joins Adam and Cole in the studio to talk about his experience growing up with dwarfism, the moment he realized he was packin’ some serious heat in his underwear, and all the steps toward international stardom, from his early camming days, to being a creator of his own content, to the liberation of showing his stuff on gogo boxes across the nation, and on global television. But do NOT call him a little person, as there is nothing ‘little’ about King Dwarf!

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Picture it - Cole Connor goes on a content trip somewhere in Wisconsin, and among the sizable group of studs bouncing around and filming hot scenes together, a hot, blonde blue-eyed muscle man is in the mix. But wait… he’s straight? Fast forward to today, Adam Kubatzke joins Cole and Adam on the cast to share what led him down the path from being a straight-couple-comedy TikTok sensation to feeling at home among his gay buddies enough to have some fun with the boys on camera. Is it gay for pay, or is it gay baiting? Or is it somewhere in between? And as consumers, should we care? Adam tells some funny stories and insightful truths about being an ally to the community, having deep connections with gay men, and peeling the onion layers of open-mindedness and sexual fluidity while capturing it for his very curious fans, regardless of labels, identities, and orientations.

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Summer is wrapping up, and this week it's just the boys! In this hilarious episode, Adam shares with Cole about a very scary health crisis he went through just before a lovely summer trip to Spain, and Cole expresses some excitement for his upcoming getaway to the Market Days festival in Chicago. Then we get into some discussion about when content subscribers start asking for custom videos, and what this could entail. Cole shares about participating in the widely growing phenomenon that is "foot content," Adam tells of folks' desire for "pit and smell" videos, and then the boys touch on the somewhat less popular request to include baked goods in the mix, whether on or off camera. There are some crazy stories up in here, sorry in advance!

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Ready to go deep into Cole's history? Who better as a guest than his mom, Paula? She joins us in this episode to discuss what it was like to raise a ham like Cole in Lexington, Kentucky, and what it's been like since to watch him grow into the big gay porn success story he is today. Some laughs, some tears, and many revealing insights into our sweet Cole Connor. Don't worry. Part 2 is coming soon...with Adam's mom.

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As promised, here is the second installment of For the Moms, this time with Adam's mom, Maral! In this hilarious and revealing conversation, we learn more about the history of Adam's coming of age, and into his adult film career, through Maral's eyes. She shares with the boys her experience witnessing the evolution of gay liberation from when she was young to today, what it was like to receive the news from Adam as he came out, first as a gay man and years later as a porn actor, and gives insight into how to be a supportive and encouraging (while also protective) mom to an adventurous guy like Adam. She also teaches us a very different definition of a Glory Hole. Thanks, Moms!!

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Grab a coffee, it’s just the boys this time! In this episode, Cole and Adam shoot the shit about a variety of subjects, including recent shoots, travels, and happenings. Cole tells stories about his trip to Hawaii and Adam shares about his wild time at Burning Man, from the sexy boys to the harrowing escape from an unexpected mud storm. They also open a discussion about a very fun category, specific to the gay male experience - GROUP SEX! Yay or nay? Do you like watching group scenes? Do we like filming them? Are groups a regular thing for fellas, or more of a niche sexual adventure? Let’s get into it!

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Gird your loins, listeners. Especially if you’re a twink. This week, Adam and Cole are paid a visit by muscle man Jake Jaxx, who tells his very complex story that led him down into, and out of, the content creation rabbit hole. From moving around the midwest to a lengthy stint in Florida, Jake’s sexual experience began with girls, and didn’t really land him into the wonderful world of homosexuality until his mid-late 20s in Jacksonville, where he discovered his propensity for men of the young, thin, and hairless variety. Jake then slowly began turning that into the very niche adult content market when he started filming himself nailing twinks, moved himself over to Los Angeles to continue this path until a certain video of his went viral and made a huge splash in the twittersphere. And just as things started to really get rolling, Jake pulled out to pursue his real passion - personal training. Jake speaks very openly in this episode about what it’s like to navigate the world of adult films as a person with ADHD, as well as a person with very sensitive emotional triggers. This has allowed him to compartmentalize sex on camera vs personal sex, though not always successfully. Just like when he’s showing off in his videos, Jake holds nothing back in this candid conversation. Sorry not sorry!

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For the past six or so years, the world has been falling in love with Max Adonis, for his sweet smile and demeanor in photos and TikTok videos, his stint as a contestant on OutTV's 'Go Go for the Gold,' as well as his very enthusiastic style of, um... 'delivery' in adult content. Now it's your turn, as you listen to this episode in which Max pays a visit to Adam and Cole in the studio for a fun and frank chat about his path to stardom. Aside from sharing about the content he creates, of which he is a firm believer that a creator should only make the kind of content he would want to watch himself, Max also gets personal about his very unique family history, which was in large part the reason for his hiatus from content creation during the height of Covid, as well as the liberation he's experienced as a nomad living in a van and traveling up and down the continent at his own pace. He also shares with us about his very unique story with the involved process of foreskin restoration. We love Max, and we know you will too!

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This is it, folks! Here we are, at our season 2 finale, rounding out a full year of our amazing collaboration with the Fleshbot x Cybersocket team, featuring illuminating conversations and wonderful guests. In this episode, Cole and Adam cover a lot of ground speaking on their Folsom Street Fair experience, Halloween, and the upcoming holidays. They also have a chat about what a particular night on Folsom weekend inspired for them both, as they got an eyeful (and earful) of some very exciting sexual activities, that they don’t necessarily partake in themselves. What is kink? What is “kink shaming?” Is it fair, or is it kind of dated and unnecessary? The boys round out the episode by sharing their hopes for the holiday season, what they are grateful for during this complicated time in the world, and what they are excited for in the upcoming year. We love you all and we are so thankful for all who have tuned in! See you in 2024!

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The wait is over! We are back, beautiful listeners, and we have got quite a season in store, sorry in advance! In this episode, Adam and Cole catch up about the trouble they got into over the holidays, including the sexy men they’ve been making content with lately and the events that have been keeping them busy off-camera. We also get some stories about Cole’s experience at the recent GayVN Awards, where he took the stage to accept his win for Fan Favorite Cam Guy. Adam also tells us about some visits to our favorite dick doctor, Popstar co-founder Josh Gonzalez, MD, and shares stories about loving the smell of some guys’ faces and messing up his first foray into ‘foot content.’ Finally, the boys share their New Year's resolutions. Heads up, this season you can find the video for each episode on our YouTube channel. We’ve missed you all, and it’s so good to be back!

Our first guest of the new season is here! We give you Rocky Unleashed - fairly new to the adult film industry, Rocky has rocketed into the stratosphere in a matter of nine months, and shares with us his very thoughtful approach to the art of adult content. Having grown up near the Bay Area of California a theater kid who grew into a busy guy in the worlds of teaching yoga and making his own music after moving to San Francisco, Rocky discovered that he was called to channel sexual expression as an artistic contribution to share with the world. He explains his process of breaking from the conditioning of whether he could put himself out there sexually while also fulfilling his prior mission of bringing yoga and mindfulness to the masses as a practice of beating others’ perceptions and making decisions based on what feels good to himself, ultimately as a means of further appreciating and exploring the value of human connection. He also shares his work with Human Design and gives Adam and Cole a brief reading! Find more about Rocky at linktr.ee/rockyunleashed

We are super excited about this one, folks, sorry in advance. Adam and Cole welcome gay adult superstar, Sharok, this time, who shares very openly about the journey that has led him to the upper stratosphere of the world of gay adult content. Growing up in an Iranian American household on the west side of Los Angeles, Sharok started out with an escort agency in and around West Hollywood at the age of 18, only slightly dabbling in the world of adult films, took a break to explore his love of animals and birds, and then jumped back into filming as part of the Raging Stallion family in 2018 before embarking on self-produced videos for content sites. Since then, he’s carved out a very specific place in the industry, telling us about bringing his own desires to content creation, bridging the gap between his personal sex life and his public sexual persona, and bringing visibility as a content creator with a Middle Eastern background. He also tells of his love of Paris, his early friendship with Adam, and did we mention he used to breed pigeons and own parrots??

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Welcome back, folks - just the boys this time. In this episode, Adam and Cole catch up about some recent travels, shoots, and play dates, including Adam’s first time ever hooking up via the Sniffies website, prompting an important discussion relevant to the queer experience… are we hookup people? Do we like the anonymous situation, or prefer vibing someone out first? The boys also get into it in response to a listener’s question - what is a day in the life of an adult content creator like? What’s a studio shoot like? Adam and Cole each share what a shoot is like, the good and bad, the average day, what they like and dislike about studio shoots, and much, much more.

And here we are bringing you some more behind the scenes stories, folks, sorry in advance! This time, Adam and Cole are paid a visit by long-time adult film director Jasun Mark, who is responsible for bringing you some of the hottest gay scenes over the last nearly two decades. You may know his work best from his many years as the lead director of the studio giant Titan Men, but he’s also brought to the world scenes from Fratmen back in the day, to more recent studios like Hot House, Nasty Daddy, Say Uncle, and Trailer Trash Boys. Jasun is a high-energy storyteller who loves what he does, and we love him for his versatile resume as well as his wicked sense of humor about it all. Get ready for some laughs.

Brace yourselves, folks, we are back in daddy territory. This time, Adam and Cole are paid a visit by the very sexy Christian Wilde, and this conversation goes deep into all of our sexual psyches on multiple levels! First, we get to know Christian a bit, as he details his sexual identity journey (and why he refuses these days to commit to labels) as well as how he got to be the adult industry powerhouse he is today. Then as the boys ask questions about his shift into the director's chair at Kink.com, we get some philosophical takes on what it means to be a daddy, from the sexy power dynamics we’ve come to expect to the deep healing that is possible when one accepts such a role, on or off camera. Christian is a fascinating guy, and we know once you listen you’ll be just as excited to board the Daddy Wilde train as we are.

We know sequels can be hard, but with a guest like the Dick Doctor, we are pretty sure we pulled it off. You may remember last season, when urologist, sexual health specialist, and purveyor of the Popstar sexual health supplement, Dr Joshua Gonzalez joined us to discuss all things in regards to penile health. This time he returns to talk about another one of his specialties - male hormonal optimization! The science of testosterone replacement therapy has become way more popular in recent years among discussions of health and wellness for men, but there are a host of details and nuances that often get missed among the community. What even are steroids? Who is TRT right for? What kind of side effects can happen when we mess with our hormones? Dr Gonzalez gives Adam and Cole a few lessons on how it all works and what he can do to help us as we age and our systems change. Broaching the subject of what’s happening in our pants again, he also shares a new offering in his sexual health office called Shockwave Therapy, which Adam and Cole are both enjoying the benefits of. Take notes folks, our internal systems are even more complicated than our dating habits.

We are gearing up for pride season, and Cole and Adam get together in this catch-up episode to banter about the many goings on in their lives currently, as well as recent and upcoming happenings, in just the adorable way they always do. Cole discusses recent shoots in Florida, Adam talks about the ethics of canceling shoots, and the boys bashfully bring up their first-ever upcoming one-on-one scene! Also, Adam shares some fantasies he’d like to fulfill with a recent beau, as well as some outdoor fun he had during a camping trip, despite some hardships due to a recent surgery, which ties into our last episode with Dr. Gonzalez. Before wrapping up with Cole's latest scene that crosses some taboo lines, the boys give us their first shot at improv to describe a current trend in European content they find slightly questionable. It’s a hilarious and rather honest conversation between industry besties, sorry not sorry!

Happy pride month, folks! This time our guest is an exciting combination of many things, for example, a native Californian visiting all the way from Berlin! Adam and Cole welcome tatted muscle stud Troy Daniels to the studio, who shares his lengthy path to current status as a queer adult icon. Troy came out at 14 in 1990s Los Angeles, moved to San Francisco where he dabbled in studio work as well as in drag before relocating to Berlin. The boys ask questions about his journey, his very specific style of performance, and how he chooses collaborators in order to capture connected, energetic, and explosively sexy content on camera. They also discuss the days of condom porn, how things have changed since, and how transitioning to making his own content has allowed him to travel more to shoot with beautiful men across the world in just the last few years. We love Troy, and you will too!

Dear listeners, get your ears prepped because we’ve got Sir Peter calling in to talk to Adam and Cole, all the way from Madrid! He stayed up late just to hop on Zoom in his boxers and share with us his quick rise to gay adult star status. Growing up in Portugal, working for years as a flight attendant, and then landing eventually in Madrid, Sir Peter pitched himself to Tim Kruger of TimTales, convincing him that he had the goods to stand alongside the industry great. But as soon as his first scene released, the pandemic hit and he had to rely on his own content to make a splash in the scene. It worked though, and now Sir Peter is a Grabby award-winning Daddy and a Naked Sword Exclusive - a rare feat for a European performer to achieve from across the pond. He also tells us of his unique vision and entrepreneurial endeavors in the industry, with a dedicated website, toys, and even a graphic novel that depicts the exploits of our dear Sir Peter. Say yes, you’ll be swooning just as we were!

Summer is underway folks, and Adam and Cole are feeling the heat in all kinds of ways. First off, the boys recap their first time shooting together for a studio scene in Palm Springs, where they got to flex their professional muscles together. Then Adam shares his summer bucket list of performers to shoot with, leading to a discussion about some of the ins and outs of creating adult content. Finally, the boys have an open-ended conversation about some recent trends in the world of gay adult films that skew on the taboo side of things. We’d like to express that this particular episode was recorded before the big news broke out about recent charges held against a certain very prominent figure in the industry, who is named in this episode regarding other similar topics. Give this one a listen, and stay tuned for part 2 in a couple of weeks, where the boys will weigh in some more.

As promised, Adam and Cole are here to deliver a follow up to the previous episode, The Taboo Twirl, to speak a little more seriously and directly on some subjects, specifically after the news broke about charges brought last month against prominent gay adult film star, Austin Wolf. They address some concerns and comments brought forth by friends, fellow creators, and listeners of the podcast after the airing of Part One, namely the fact that much of the adult content we consume is foundationally rooted in “taboo.” What is it about these scenarios that is enticing to consumers? What blurs the line between fantasy and reality? Do we have personal biases that affect how we perceive some of these scenarios? It’s a discussion that can fill many more episodes, but the boys discuss plenty to tie in all the loose ends from the previous episode with the current discussions surrounding these recent controversies.

Welcome back, listeners, and happy summer! Today, Adam and Cole are paid a visit in the studio by their dear friend, Brogan! The boys have a very fun chat about Brogan’s rise in the industry, starting as a young man in Minnesota undergoing a very unconventional bout with conversion therapy. Obviously, it didn’t work as intended, and Brogan found himself in New York meeting drag queens and becoming a sexy fixture of NYC nightlife as well as a formidable social media presence before delving into content creation of his own. At the beginning of the pandemic era, he pivoted and moved to LA, accepting studio scenes, collaborating with other creators, and cementing himself as a gay adult brand. Despite the scheduling and delivery of content, deep down we are all just bros who want to bake cakes and play with Legos. Brogan is a perfect, smiley encapsulation of this, and this conversation is a hilarious reflection of the man behind the bro!

We’ve got daddy fever again this week, and this time it’s because Adam and Cole are paid a visit by none other than one of the most prolific, hardworking, and evolved elders of the gay adult industry of our time, Mr Adam Russo! Adam tells stories of what it was like coming into his young gay adulthood in the 80s, during the rise and eventual height of the AIDS crisis, despite having rather supportive parents for the time. This led to a reserved sex life for a while, before he experienced his blossoming while moving across many locations in the country as he embarked on a career in art and design, before leading to his decision after age 40 to try his hand at being an escort and using adult films as his calling card to get him more work. But, as Adam states, all roads lead to where you’re meant to go, and as he steadily gained popularity, and notable longevity, as a star in the biz, he was called to being a “light worker,” leading him to his next path, which is to contribute to the collective evolution of the human race by elevating our joint spiritual consciousness. We go deep with this daddy, and it’s one heck of a ride. Love and light to you, Spirit Daddy!

Lots of stories to tell today, folks. Adam and Cole get together for a catch up after Cole’s exciting time in Chicago for the yearly Market Days summer festival. They then take turns telling some stories, including a fun birthday pool party that led to some mischief, on as well as offline, leading to a run in with an influencer who has joined the content creation world. This leads to Adam’s observation of Cole as a "sex witch," giving way to a very funny discussion about general game play in the queer social space. What is the difference between being aggressive and assertive? What works and what doesn’t for certain men, and how do we politely turn down eager advances that are unsuccessful? What is a ‘power play?’ Find out in this hilarious episode, sorry!

All hail our first ever returning guest performer: this week the boys are joined again by Drew Valentino! Drew visits Adam and Cole this time to discuss what a difference two years make in the gay adult content industry, since the last time he was on the podcast. No longer an exclusive with the Falcon group, and seemingly less interested in making content, Drew goes in depth about what’s changed in the industry since he first joined as a wide eyed and bushy tailed performer, collecting awards and cornering the market as a scruffy, tatted, pit-loving adult film star. He shares a bit about what has led to his decision to leave Los Angeles and give an imminent move to Madrid a try for a while, leaving behind his passion for standup comedy and building a new presence in the adult film industry while also channeling his comedy into a beefed up social media presence. He also gets deep about what (or who) he will be missing most in Los Angeles, giving way to a heartfelt discussion about a very alternative relationship that can develop among the backdrop of content creation. We will miss you, Drew, but can’t wait to see you conquer Spain!

Just Adam and Cole today, folks. After a last minute cancellation, the boys decide to hide from the insanity-inducing heat wave and get together to hang out and talk shop, starting with a little run down of how they feel about the upcoming elections. Then as they each catch up about their end of summer shenanigans, they begin a fun little discussion about some sexy beach stories they’ve experienced in the past. Adam busts Cole’s chops a bit about a recent favorite co-collaborator in his group scenes, which leads to Cole discussing his latest foray into the world of massage for hire. What are the rules and politics of a sexy massage? It’s a fun exchange that gets deep into body worship, the dom sub interplay of body work, and the emotional healing magic of physical connection. But we promise, our guest will come back next episode. Sorry!

Happy spooky season, listeners. To kick off the final stretch of season 3, Adam and Cole bring to the table just the dose of infectiously joyful, confident femme-dom energy in the form of iconic performer and producer, Siouxsie Q! Siouxsie is a captivating storyteller, sharing about growing up in the Bay Area and being drawn to the abundance of freak flags in San Francisco before starting out as a peep show performer. This led to many kinds of work within the adult work arena, securing on-camera appearances and eventually becoming a creator behind the scenes for a variety of studios. Grab a pen and paper, because Siouxsie brings to this discussion so many avenues of learning about how to queer desire, the beauty of fluidity in sex and romance, the capitalist perspective of adult film work, and how to utilize it to your leftist advantage, bringing a personal aesthetic to the industry (she refers to her own as Bjork Swan Dress Energy), the many types of scenes she’s had a hand in bringing to the public, and how an unexpected romance developed into the most unconventional and rewarding personal as well as professional relationship with creator, Michael Vegas. We absolutely love Siouxsie, and you will too!

After a couple false starts, Adam and Cole finally get the chance to sit down with the legendary Reese Rideout to hear his tale. What false starts, you ask? Tune in to hear the wild story about what took so long to get Reese on the pod. Reese shares vividly about his path to gay adult film legend status, in the early days of Randy Blue all the way to his current blend of sexy and funny easily seen in his internet presence. Sexuality is a spectrum, and Reese has learned so much as he’s carved out a spot for himself in the pantheon - it helps when you have a wife who is also your business partner, scheduling scenes with other hot gay adult content creators! Reese’s story is fascinating, unique, and hilarious, but is also couched in some bouts with alcoholism and deep personal loss, as you’ll hear when he shares about losing a family member. We appreciate Reese for his candor and spirit, and it’s no wonder he’s lasted so long in this crazy industry.

Hey folks, let’s catch up! Cole and Adam get together this week to discuss a busy end of summer schedule, including some recent scene work and seasonally-themed collaborations. They also get into some of their younger scene partners and ask questions about whether or not the younger generation of queer men may be desensitized to sex, given its overwhelming availability compared to twenty years ago. Adam tells stories of his excursion to this year’s Folsom Street Fair weekend in San Francisco, including a new romantic entanglement he’s been mostly quiet about. The boys also discuss how the fall season has felt especially potent surrounding the impending election, which by now will be concluded to some hopefully positive results! Cole then tells the story of his first time doing a three-way bi scene, unlocking some new avenues of his own sexual exploration, which leads to Adam sharing a new desire of his, which (spoiler alert) will lead to the guest on our next episode. Sorry, but not so sorry!

After gushing about him at the end of our last episode, Adam and Cole give a warm in-studio welcome to the iconic emperor of trans masculine adult content and sexual healing, Viktor Belmont! In this hilarious and heady conversation, Viktor shares about his exceptionally unique experience of self-actualization, not only as a sexual healer and formidable adult content presence, but also as a trans man. Growing up in rural Oregon as a young punk rock lesbian, Viktor came to learn some things about himself before taking the transition plunge and relocating to San Francisco, where he lived modestly while developing an immediate understanding of the need to brand himself as a well-known sexual internet presence. In the days of MySpace and Tumblr, he gained a following as well as a very specific understanding of what it was he could bring to the table, not only to monetize his sexuality but also to bring some healing to clients of all kinds who could benefit from the firm hand of a trans male dom daddy. Viktor is a fascinating storyteller, so put on some headphones and fall under his captivating spell just as Adam and Cole do. Thank you Viktor, we love you, sorry not sorry!!

Lube up more than your nethers this time, folks. Your brain, heart, and soul could each use a good yank, as evidenced by today’s conversation with OG YouTube sensation turned holistic adult content producer, Davey Wavey. Adam and Cole dive deep into Davey’s history, growing up Catholic in Rhode Island, and falling into the early days of YouTube video diaries going viral and making coin, ultimately leading him to creating his own porn studio. After cultivating a community of followers and inviting them into the ongoing conversation of our collective queer sexual awakening and authenticity, Davey created Himeros.TV. In this episode, we get into the mission statement behind what Himeros is about, offering a different way to experience adult content that reflects a variety of physical as well as emotional and spiritual touch points. Did you know that porn could be healing? Davey had an inkling, and he turned it into something special with Himeros, an alternative to the gay erotica we are more familiar with, that may open up new avenues of how you process, consume, and enjoy erotic art, and thereby your erotic self. Adam and Davey share stories of how they met and worked together, and how working in this field has helped all three gentlemen on the path to deeper self discovery. May require a second listen, sorry not sorry!

And that’s a wrap on season 3, folks! To close out the chaotic and crazy year that was 2024, eavesdrop on Adam and Cole as they catch up at the beginning of this holiday season, sharing about holiday plans, some scene work, recent creative endeavors, competition in their fields… What kind of energy do we wish to bring in to the new year? Adam’s new home and Cole’s upcoming creative redirect are two examples of how switching things up in the new year can bring some inspiration to their lives, in order to kick some old habits and jumpstart new ones. The boys pontificate on how to take better care of themselves as winter approaches, mentally, physically, and even financially, in order to ensure a fruitful and clearheaded start to the looming new year. Thank you all for listening to season 3 of Sorry For Asking, and we will be back!!

Aaaaand we’re back! Season 4 of Sorry For Asking begins with Adam Ramzi and Cole Connor catching up over the best things about the holidays, how they navigated the week of the LA fires, Adam’s trip to Costa Rica, Cole’s multiple trips to Florida, some recent shoots, upcoming opportunities, and the hopes they share for the upcoming year. Adam has entered his reading glasses era while he continues headfirst into his relationship, as well as the growing business of party planning, and Cole tells tales of how massage has become more of a career while his content has had an uptick in MMF content (look it up). Also, the boys discuss a little bit about the difference between charm and cringe, when dealing with the wandering hands of partygoers in shared queer spaces. The world is in a weird place, but Adam and Cole are still here to pontificate thoughtfully on all that goes into being adult content creators in LA during this strange time in history.

Season 4 gets its first guest in the form of the beautiful, talented, and incredibly smart Emil Jameson! Emil visits Cole and Adam in the studio to talk about his past and present, and his three-year journey as an adult content creator. Emil details his beginnings as a midwestern kid who moved around all over the world from childhood to graduate school as a linguistics master's degree holder. He also shares with the boys how his very conservative Christian upbringing affected his coming of age as a young, closeted bookworm to his slow coming out process, and eventually coming into his own as a self-actualized gay young adult who understood that shame and modesty no longer served him. He shares about some of his favorite scenes, his eventual foray into studio work, and the boys share a moment to grieve the late Roman Mercury, who passed away suddenly a few weeks ago. To close the episode, Emil reflects on what advice he’d give his younger self from his current perspective, which proves poignant and fitting to many others in the community, in or out of the adult industry. Don’t miss this one, folks, Emil is a true keeper.

This week, Adam and Cole get paid a visit by the very sexy and smart Logan Stevens, a true “multi-hyphenate” in the industry! Logan shares candidly about his path from being an only child in Wisconsin more concerned with nature documentaries than cartoons, and hanging out with trees instead of people, to getting an education in anthropology that led to international jobs and internships in government. Feeling unfulfilled by this call, he followed his more creative side by going to New York and flexing his musical skills and costume designing muscles, all while also understanding the privilege and lucrative potential of being just generally damn attractive. As creators, we grapple with these many callings, and sometimes we follow where the money is - this conversation with Logan touches on the many avenues we find to survive in the American capitalist landscape when you are creatively capable, but also gay and hot. Logan has found himself in this position because it suits him, and we go deep into why and how, and it’s oh so much fun.

He’s back, folks! Two years after his first visit to the studio, Derek Kage returns to chat with Adam and Cole for a very well earned catch up. In the two years since his appearance, he’s risen in stardom, and in wisdom and experience in the industry, and tells us a lot of what’s happened. With several awards and starring vehicles under his belt, Derek shares about how success in the industry isn’t slowing him down at all. In fact, he’s got some new passions and projects, his foray into the straight porn industry turning heads all over the internet. Derek remains steadfast in his convictions that no matter what kind of content he is creating, he knows himself and what he offers and that an attitude of gratitude is keeping him afloat and working more steadily than ever. He also shares some important facts about his work with the Free Speech Coalition, that led to him winning their Advocacy award, proving that making adult films isn’t just about hot content, it’s also about preserving our rights to free speech and, above all, privacy. You’re gonna love this one, y’all.

We have another last minute guest addition this week, in the form of the very handsome Daniel Gainsbrook! Daniel joins Adam and Cole in the studio to share stories and perspectives on what it’s like to be an adult content creator with a Punjabi background, having grown up in Pakistan and even having been at one point married, with children. Daniel moved to Canada and took the reins of his life and pivoted into the gay adult film landscape, looking for a place to belong. Every journey into the gay adult content stratosphere is unique, and Daniel’s story is proof that sometimes going with your gut is the best way to personal liberation.