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| 28 Aug 2023 | #29 - Nocturness / Avant-garde burlesque, and performance art | 00:32:34 | |
In this episode, Toshi talks to Nocturness. A performance artist, special effects model, stripper and a burlesque performer who has spent more than 10 years in the adult entertainment industry. She has a day job as a body piercer, and she also runs Libra Moon Stagewear, sewing clothes for strippers and burlesque performers. Nocturness is also the founder of Nocturne Sanctum, in which she directs and produces avant-garde events, including Concept Stage Spot. For more of Nocturness go here: https://www.instagram.com/_nocturness_ ------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 05 Sep 2023 | #30 - Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies | 00:38:22 | |
In this episode, Jane sat down in the studio with Morgana O’Reilly to talk all things bodies. Morgana is multi-talented: a successful actress, writer, performer, storyteller, and mum of two. She caught our attention at Sex in Space when she recently wrote and performed a solo show, Stories About My Body, which Jane had the pleasure of going to see. For more of Morgana, go here: https://www.facebook.com/ladymorganaoreilly/ ------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 11 Sep 2023 | #31 - Mama Doctor Jones / How to unlearn bad sex ed | 00:29:22 | |
In this episode, Toshi spoke with Dr Danielle Jones, who you may know from her social media as Mama Doctor Jones. Dr Jones is a board-certified ObGyn who, in 2021, moved from Texas, in the U.S., to Invercargill, New Zealand. Her mission is to change the world through empowering, entertaining education about women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) health. Dr Jones has a following of over 2.5 million across her various platforms, where she makes edu-tainment about all things periods, pregnancy, gynaecologic health and sex education. You can check out Mama Doctor Jones here: https://mamadoctorjones.com/ ------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 18 Sep 2023 | #32 - Angelique Jurd / Angel the adorable kitten + gay romance | 00:41:24 | |
In this episode, Tim sat down with Angelique Jurd, who writes male-male romance fiction which she describes as “people-driven stories, about slightly ‘broken’ boys”. Angel’s first book, Jesse’s Smile, was published in 2018. When she first went through school, Angel got a degree in languages, before travelling around the world, starting a family, working as a business journalist, before going back to school to study English Literature and Media Studies, after which she started writing contemporary gay romance. Angel is also a kitten, and, if anyone wants to see the fantastic cat ears she was wearing during the podcast, you can check out the video version of this conversation on our YouTube channel, Sex in Space. Find Angel here: https://angeliquejurd.com/ Pre-order Hidden Storm (The Road to Rocktoberfest) here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CD35C8DV ------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 25 Sep 2023 | #33 - Paul Barlow / Media, politics, and the sexual ideology dog whistles | 00:49:09 | |
Tim had the privilege of chatting with Paul Barlow. Paul is a media and marketing veteran with a decade of experience spanning technology, entertainment, politics, and more. As a former Stuff columnist, he's contributed to renowned New Zealand publications like Waikato Times, NZ Herald, and NBR. Paul's expertise extends to crafting content and strategies for diverse industries, including professional sports, cinemas, concerts, and corporations. But that's not all! No stranger to the world of media, having worn various hats as a radio host and podcast producer and presenter. His podcast series, "Paul... The Other One," boasts a dedicated following of over 10,000 fans across Facebook, TikTok, and YouTube. With a knack for delivering easily digestible insights and engaging long-form content, Paul is equally at ease both behind and in front of the microphone.
You can check more of Paul over on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@paul_barlownz or at: https://paultheotherone.com/ Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 02 Oct 2023 | #34 - Alex DiFrancesco / Why we were transfixed by trans fiction | 00:37:41 | |
On this episode, Jane had a conversation with writer, editor, and book lover, Alex DiFrancesco. Alex is a US-based commissioning editor of gender and sexuality books for Jessica Kingsley Publishers. We found them after reading an article that they wrote in the Guardian about the culture wars that surround them as a trans person editing children’s books – you can check out that article here: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/28/childrens-books-lgbt-transgender-acceptance Alex has also written some of their own books, including All City, Transmutation, and Psychopomps, and you’ll hear them talk about their novels in the podcast. Find Alex here: https://alexdifrancesco.com/ Or on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Alex_JKPGender Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 10 Oct 2023 | #35 - Jioji Ravulo / Liberating sexuality | 00:49:03 | |
In this episode, Jane spoke with Professor Jioji Ravulo. Jioji is the Professor and Chair of Social Work and Policy Studies in the Sydney School of Education and Social Work at The University of Sydney. His research, writing and areas of interest include health and wellbeing, youth, diversity and inclusion, decoloniality and educational leadership. Jioji has been involved with and invited to author over 70 publications, including peer reviewed journal articles, scholarly book chapters, research reports, and opinion pieces. Here at Sex in Space we found Jioji after watching his TED Talk, 'A liberating vision of identity that transcends labels'. You can check it out here: https://www.ted.com/talks/jioji_ravulo_a_liberating_vision_of_identity_that_transcends_labels?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare If you'd like to find more of Jioji, you can find him here: https://twitter.com/JiojiRavulo Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jiojiravulo/?hl=en Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 18 Oct 2023 | #36 - Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue / Age-appropriate conversations about porn | 00:39:36 | |
For this episode, Tim had the privilege of chatting with Cath Hakanson, who runs Sex Ed Rescue. Sex Ed Rescue helps parents find a better way to have conversations with their kids about sex. Sex Ed Rescue can help you with: giving age-appropriate answers to tricky questions about sex, starting conversations that feel natural and guided by your personal values, and having a closer relationship where your child knows that they can ask you about anything, no matter what. In part 1, we cover the origins of Sex Ed Rescue, and talking with your kids about porn. In part 2, we cover diversity and pleasure. Check out Sex Ed Rescue here: https://sexedrescue.com/ And find our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download as a PDF or buy as a print version. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 18 Oct 2023 | #36 - Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue / Talking diversity and pleasure with your kids | 00:27:26 | |
For this episode, Tim had the privilege of chatting with Cath Hakanson, who runs Sex Ed Rescue. Sex Ed Rescue helps parents find a better way to have conversations with their kids about sex. Sex Ed Rescue can help you with: giving age-appropriate answers to tricky questions about sex, starting conversations that feel natural and guided by your personal values, and having a closer relationship where your child knows that they can ask you about anything, no matter what. In part 2, we cover diversity and pleasure. If you want to check out part 1, we cover the origins of Sex Ed Rescue, and talking with your kids about porn. Check out Sex Ed Rescue here: https://sexedrescue.com/ And find our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download as a PDF or buy as a print version. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 24 Oct 2023 | #37 - Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ | 00:41:58 | |
Tim had the wonderful privilege of chatting with Shaneel Lal. They are an Activist for queer and indigenous communities, a columnist – for the NZ herald, a model, political commentator, Young New Zealander of the Year 2023, Instrumental in the successful campaign to ban conversion therapy in Aotearoa, and the author of a bestselling autobiography titled One of Them, which is great and out now. Follow and find out more about Shaneel and their work here: https://linktr.ee/Shaneellall https://www.instagram.com/shaneellall ----------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 30 Oct 2023 | #38 - Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks | 00:48:52 | |
Jane had the pleasure of chatting with Vanessa Hamilton from Talking the Talk Healthy Sexuality Education in this week's episode of the Sex in Space podcast. Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, and she’s also the parent of 3 teens, an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Her latest book release is 'Talking Sex: A Conversation Guide for Parents' which provides parents with strategies and educational points to help them feel confident having conversations about human sexuality with their kids. You can find Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/ Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingthetalk/ And check out her book, 'Talking Sex: A Conversation Guide for Parents' here: https://ambapress.com.au/products/talking-sex ----------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 08 Nov 2023 | #39 - Mitch Larsson / Being a male escort | 00:40:46 | |
For this episode, Tim was lucky enough to have a conversation with Mitch Larsson. Mitch has led a pretty interesting life - he's a father of one, and he's moved through a number of careers including sales, law, and professional photography, before a moment of clarity led him to become a highly successful male escort. More recently, he's a columnist for Mamamia, and the author of 'Time For Her - A Memoir of True Romance'. You can find more of Mitch here: https://beyouagain.com.au/ Check out his book 'Time For Her' here: https://www.shawlinepublishing.com.au/our-titles/new-releases/display/380-time-for-her%3A-a-memoir-of-true-romance ----------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 30 Nov 2023 | #40 - River Scott / LGBTQI+ Creative storytelling with purpose | 00:48:52 | |
This is episode 40! Get ready for a good one. Tim got to connect with the incredible River Scott. River is a multi-award-winning writer, broadcaster, podcaster, audio producer, and a dynamic force in the world of content creation. Their passion for storytelling is abundantly evident, and as a dedicated LGBTQI+ activist, they channel their energy into making a positive impact. Join us as we explore the fascinating story of a creative mind with a purpose.
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| 12 Dec 2023 | #41 - Blokes Talk Sex / Growing up with porn | 00:32:47 | |
Sex in Space is excited to introduce a new podcast series: Blokes Talk Sex, where we chat with men from all walks of life about all things sex. For this first episode, Jeremy and Tim spoke about their experiences with pornography growing up, and shared their thoughts as parents about why it's important to educate kids about pornography before they see it. Head to our website, www.sexinspace.com, to subscribe for updates about the release of our new book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn'. ----------------- Check out our book 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 08 Jan 2024 | #42 - Mike Parish / Dementia support in the queer community | 01:09:25 | |
TW: mention of abuse. For this episode, Jane had the pleasure of chatting with Mike Parish. Mike spent 40 years as an officer in the London Fire Brigade training in disaster management. In 2018 he co-founded www.forbrian.co, a dementia interventions company. Then in 2021, he founded the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group, which provides advice, support, knowledge and expertise in supporting LGBTQ+ people living with or caring for someone with dementia. Mike is also the husband of Tom Hughes, who he met in 1975 and lived in a beautiful, loving relationship with until Tom passed away with dementia in 2022. You can find more information about the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group here: https://www.lgbtqdementiaadvisorygroup.net/about You can find more of Mike here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jM5MYiStPD0&ab_channel=ssfdocumentary Below are some of the resources Mike refers to in the podcast: Ted and Noel: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/ted-noel/on-demand/75436-001 Compassion in Care, ‘Stripped of all Pride’ report: https://compassionincare.com/news/stripped-of-all-pride/ LGBTQ+ Learning Framework for social and care service providers to use: https://www.skillsforcare.org.uk/Support-for-leaders-and-managers/Supporting-a-diverse-workforce/LGBTQ-learning-framework.aspx
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| 22 Jan 2024 | #44 - Justin Hancock / A U.K. take on sex ed | 00:53:56 | |
On this episode of the podcast, Jane had the opportunity to chat with Justin Hancock, who has been a relationships and sexuality educator since 1999. He writes resources for young people at his website BISH, which is a crowdfunded website visited by thousands of young people every day. His website BISH Training is for practitioners who want to access resources and training. Justin's latest book, 'Can We Talk About Consent?' is a guide for teenagers about how to actually do consent (find it here: https://www.bishuk.com/can-we-talk-about-consent/). Justin also hosts the podcast Culture Sex Relationships, which features interviews with academics and practitioners about their work, touching on cultural theory, which informs his in-depth and thoughtful advice episodes. To find out more about his work visit https://justinhancock.co.uk/ ----------------- Check out our book 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 14 Jan 2024 | #43 - Dr. Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn | 00:24:49 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi sat down with Dr Jane Cherrington from the Sex in Space team, to talk about a new book that we’re releasing. It’s coming out this January 19th – it’s called ‘How to talk with your kids about porn’. It's going to be available in print form from Amazon, or you’ll also be able to grab a downloadable PDF copy from our website at sexinspace.com. Dr Jane was one of the researchers and writers for this book, so I spoke with her bit more about it – where the idea came from, why it matters, what readers can expect, and what she’s learned. ----------------- Find us at www.sexinspace.com to subscribe for updates about 'How to talk with your kids about porn'. Check out our book 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 29 Jan 2024 | #45 - Jelly O'Shea / An introduction to intersex | 01:02:58 | |
This is the first instalment in our podcast series in collaboration with Intersex Aotearoa. For this episode, Jane had the privilege of chatting with Jelly O’Shea. Jelly is a queer Pākehā intersex individual, was born in Ōtepoti/Dunedin and hails from Irish, Scottish, Dutch, and English roots. Currently residing in Te Whanganui-a-Tara/Wellington, with their rescue staffy Nessi and partner Flo. As a dedicated advocate and activist, Jelly passionately champions collaborative, community-led initiatives aimed at transforming marginalised communities affected most by the confines of patriarchal capitalism. Their focus lies in ensuring equitable health and wellbeing outcomes for intersex individuals and their whānau (families) across Aotearoa. With a firm belief in the power of advocacy, Jelly tirelessly works towards effecting positive change and striving to contribute to an inclusive society that embraces and uplifts those historically overlooked or marginalised. Find out more at https://www.intersexaotearoa.org/. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 12 Feb 2024 | #46 - Dr Melissa Kang / Welcome To Sex | 00:48:26 | |
This episode we had the privilege of chatting with the lovely Dr. Melissa Kang. Renowned in Australia and New Zealand for her iconic Dolly Doctor magazine column, but also a practicing medical doctor for marginalized youth. With academic roles at UTS and the University of Sydney, she uniquely navigates adolescent sexuality and health. Dr. Kang, alongside the wonderful Yumi Stynes, co-authored best-selling books in the "Welcome To" series, covering vital topics from periods to consent, boobs, and sex. Her expertise extends to mainstream media discussions on these critical super subjects. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at sexinspace.com to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 19 Feb 2024 | #47 - Scott Jones / Navigating faith and sexuality | 00:43:01 | |
Jane got to connect with Rev. Dr. E. Scott Jones for this episode of the Sex in Space podcast. Scott is the Senior Minister of the First Central Congregational United Church of Christ in Omaha, Nebraska, USA, and this episode explores his ability to navigate faith, family and sexuality while living in challenging, conservative environments. Scott has taught in the Philosophy Department of Creighton University and is the author of Open: A Memoir of Faith, Family, and Sexuality in the Heartland. Scott grew up as a Southern Baptist in the state of Oklahoma, where he earned his B.A. in Religion and Philosophy at Oklahoma Baptist University and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Philosophy from the University of Oklahoma. In 2015 Scott and his former husband celebrated the birth and adoption of their son. Fathering is the true delight of Scott’s life. Scott is active as an activist and serving on non-profit boards for a variety of organizations. He is currently involved in a local clergy action network fighting for gender-affirming care for adolescents and reproductive justice in the State of Nebraska. Scott enjoys hiking, reading, gardening, home DIY projects, and travel. Find Scott’s book here: https://a.co/d/bC1dDM9 Listen to his TED Talk here: https://youtu.be/-Wbjg_iBDBE?si=y2y_6aqcJuYHIlvk Check out godmademegay.com. ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Feb 2024 | #48 - Masha Plotkina / Meet Quinky, the 'Duolingo of sex ed' | 00:26:57 | |
For this episode, Toshi had the chance to chat with the wonderful Masha Plotkina, winner of the Young Female Entrepeneur of the Year 2020, and the founder and CEO of sex and wellness app Quinky. Quinky is the 'Duolingo of dating and relationships’ and is designed specifically for Gen Z audiences, and it looks to debunk taboos surrounding intimacy in a playful and fun way. We spoke with Masha about what users can expect from the app, the inspiration behind it, and what she hopes to achieve with Quinky. Find out more about Quinky here: https://quinky.me/ ----------------- Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: https://www.sexinspace.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 04 Mar 2024 | #49 - Hollie McNish / How to liberate yourself from shame | 00:51:07 | |
Toshi was lucky enough to chat with award-winning poet, writer and performer, Hollie McNish, for this episode. We found Hollie after watching a clip of her performing one of her poems, called ‘When I Am Dead, Will You Finally Shut the Fuck Up’ (which you’ll get to hear her read in the podcast). We sat down with Hollie to talk more about her work – the inspiration behind her poems, and how people respond to them, how we can challenge shame through language, sex education, masturbation, and her new book Lobster: and other things I’m learning to love, which comes out on the 14th of March 2024. Head to Hollie’s website, holliepoetry.com to pre-order your copy. Sign up to Hollie’s online reading of Lobster: and other things I’m learning to love here: https://www.fane.co.uk/hollie-mcnish -----------------
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| 11 Mar 2024 | #50 - Dr. Rogena Sterling / The history of the sex gap in biology classes | 00:32:37 | |
Today’s episode is the second instalment in our series with Intersex Aotearoa. Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Dr. Rogena Sterling, who is deputy chair at Intersex Aotearoa, and a lecturer and researcher at the University of Waikato. Rogena has a passion for human rights, a key focus of their PhD, and was the first openly intersex person in New Zealand to receive a PhD. Last year, Rogena published a chapter titled ‘Janet and John’: Intersex Invisibility in the New Zealand Curriculum, which looks at the way intersex has been excluded from the Western education system and explores ways that intersex can be better represented and included in the curriculum. The focus of today’s episode is, more broadly, the history of intersex – how the story of intersex has changed over time, what we can learn from the past, and why it’s so important to educate about what it means to be intersex. You can find more information about Rogena’s chapter, ‘Janet and John’: Intersex Invisibility in the New Zealand Curriculum here: https://www.intechopen.com/books/1002139 --------------------------
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| 19 Mar 2024 | #51 - Blokes Talk Sex / What is sex? | 00:35:04 | |
Today’s episode of the Sex in Space podcast is the second in our Blokes Talk Sex series. In the first episode, Tim and Jeremy had a conversation about their experiences growing up with pornography, and today they’re back to discuss the question, “what is sex?”. They unpack what the word really means, and what acts are included in the definition, the myth of virginity, and more. -------------------------- Check out our books here: https://www.sexinspace.com/books And find our merch here: https://www.sexinspace.com/shop -------------------------- Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 26 Mar 2024 | #52 - Zoe Madden-Smith / The subjects sex ed didn't teach you | 00:36:21 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi had the privilege of chatting with Zoe Madden-Smith, multimedia journalist at Re: News, an online news platform here in New Zealand. Zoe has a passion for telling stories that centre and resonate with young people, being 26 years old herself, and she’s especially drawn to stories about sex, health, and anything that’s seen as ‘too taboo’ to talk about (which are some of the things we love to talk about here at Sex in Space). We spoke about how she got into this role at Re: News, why the media has such an important role to play in sex education, what she wishes she’d learned from her own sex ed, and more. Zoe was nominated for Video Journalist of the Year and Best Feature Video in the 2023 Voyager Media Awards, and was Runner Up Junior Feature writer of the year in 2022. She also has experience directing and producing a whole bunch of short and long-form stories. You can email her at zoe@renews.co.nz if you have an idea for a story. If you want to check out more from Re: News, you can find them at: https://www.instagram.com/renewsnz --------------------------
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| 03 Apr 2024 | #53 - Nikki Denholm / Saying 'know' to sex | 00:51:51 | |
Jane had the privilege of speaking with Nikki Denholm for today’s podcast about her role as Director at The Light Project. With a background in health, Nikki is a pioneer who has specialised in establishing and leading positive, community-driven and solution-focused projects in response to emerging sexual health and gender issues. Nikki is also a company director of Exposure International – a collective of storytellers who want to bridge the gap between story and those who need to hear it. She’s the Project Director of the FGM Education Programme, and deservedly has been awarded a MNZM (New Zealand Order of Merit). Jane and Nikki chatted about what The Light Project is and how Nikki got to where she is, the impact of pornography on young people, what's required to help young people be prepared for the kind of content they might see online, why it's so important for parents to have conversations about sex, sexuality and pornography with their kids, how the resources available on The Light Project and In The Know can help both parents and youth become more educated about the online world of pornography, and Nikki's thoughts on our latest book, How to talk with your kids about porn. Check out the Light Project here: https://thelightproject.co.nz/ Find In The Know here: https://www.intheknow.co.nz/ --------------------------
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| 08 Apr 2024 | #54 - Kate Muir / Everything you need to know about the pill | 00:52:54 | |
For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Kate Muir - women’s health expert, investigative journalist and documentary maker in the UK – about her latest book, Everything You Need to Know About the Pill (but were too afraid to ask), which is released April 11th, 2024. They spoke about what inspired the book, how the pill impacts hormones and libido, Kate unpacked some misconceptions around contraception, and explained why we need to be educating young people better about their options, and they discussed trans, non-binary and male contraception, as well as exploring the history of the pill – including the fact that it was female-funded! Kate has also produced the recent Davina McCall: Pill Revolution documentary, and created two ground-breaking Channel 4 films on the menopause, which ignited a massive conversation among women. Her book Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause (but were too afraid to ask) is out now in paperback. She is a campaigning speaker, and a founder member of The Menopause Charity. Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ Check out her book Everything You Need to Know About the Pill (but were too afraid to ask) here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Everything-Need-Know-About-afraid/dp/1398529516 Find Kate on social: @pillscandal and @menoscandal. --------------------------
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| 15 Apr 2024 | #55 - Sarah / Pantydeal: The sexy second hand online marketplace (more than panties) | 00:31:39 | |
For this week’s episode of the podcast, Jane had the opportunity to speak with Sarah from Pantydeal. Born and raised in Australia, Sarah moved to Berlin after graduating from Ballet school. In the last few years she focused her time on Event Management in the Cabaret and Burlesque scene. In 2023 she started with Pantydeal, an online market place and social community for buyers and sellers of used panties. It’s the largest platform of its kind and has a large focus on sex, kink and body positivity. Check Pantydeal out here: https://pantydeal.com/. --------------------------
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| 22 Apr 2024 | #56 - Trish Dribnenki / Thinking differently about drug use | 00:33:06 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi had the privilege of chatting with Trish Dribnenki, National Policy and Practice Lead for the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme. Together, they spoke about the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme – what started it, the services that it offers, and Trish’s role within the programme. Trish unpacked harm reduction and some of the misconceptions that people have around this philosophy, as well as how her work in this space has helped her navigate her own feelings of shame and self-stigma around drug use, and how us as listeners can make small changes in our daily lives to help reduce the stigma around drug use. Find more information about the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme here: https://www.nznep.org.nz/ --------------------------
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| 30 Apr 2024 | #57 - Damian Weatherald / Why people with disabilities might be having better sex | 00:36:06 | |
For today’s episode, Toshi had the pleasure of chatting with Damian Weatherald. Damian is an avid gig-goer to live music, sport, comedy, theatre and travel. He’s also a disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, a sex educator, and sex toy guru. We came across Damian on Instagram, when we asked our followers which topics they’d like to hear us discuss on the podcast. Damian approached us and said that he would love to speak with us about sex and disability, and we were super keen to have this conversation with him. You can find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/wheelie.rocking.pink/ Check out his website here: https://www.damianweatherald.co.uk/ --------------------------
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| 06 May 2024 | #58 - Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus / Stories we have about sex | 00:39:30 | |
For today’s episode, Jane had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus. Dr. Jenn is a clinical sexologist, sociologist, and relationship coach who has more than 20 years of experience in the sexual health and relationships space. She is the author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women, and is an international speaker about couples' desire, sexual consent, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, effective communication, women's empowerment, and mindful intimacy. Find more of Dr. Jenn here: https://www.drjennsden.com/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:22 – How Dr. Jenn got involved in this work 04:28 – Changes in the sex + sexuality space over time 06:40 – Why it’s important to do hard things 09:29 – What is a growth mindset? 12:51 – How awkward encounters can increase intimacy 14:19 – Dr Jenn’s course for couples 15:46 – Rewriting our sexual stories 17:22 – 10 day refresh for couples 18:11 – Our complicated relationship with pleasure 21:49 – From Madness to Mindfulness 26:00 – The lack of education around the clitoris 28:47 – Dr. Jenn’s tips for parents 31:56 – Advice for couples 38:25 - Conclusion -----------------
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| 13 May 2024 | #59 - Chanel Contos / How to do consent when it comes to sex | 00:22:35 | |
For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Chanel Contos, founder and CEO of Teach Us Consent, a campaign that mandated consent education in Australia. Chanel discussed the success of this campaign and the response she received from people within Australia and internationally. She unpacks what people can expect from her book, Consent Laid Bare, and discusses the last chapter which is titled “Dear Boys and Men” and what she hoped to achieve with this particular part of the book. Chanel also gives her advice on how to have healthier conversations and practices around consent and understanding personal boundaries. Find out more about the Teach Us Consent campaign here: https://www.teachusconsent.com/ Grab a copy of Consent Laid Bare: https://amzn.asia/d/87nIuxU Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:11 – What is the Teach Us Consent campaign? 03:22 – Responses to the campaign 03:52 – What Chanel has learned from working in this space 04:40 – What's most rewarding about being involved in this work 05:43 – What you’ll find in Chanel’s book 07:20 – Dear Boys and Men 10:11 – How to help people feel comfortable to say “no” 12:10 – What is affirmative consent? 14:24 – Advice to help have better consent practices 17:07 – How you can get in touch with your own boundaries 18:57 – Goals for the future 19:45 – How Chanel got into this space from starting in IT 20:46 – How you can support Teach Us Consent 21:17 - Conclusion
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| 20 May 2024 | #60 - Susie Orbach / Why fat's still a feminist issue | 00:28:03 | |
For this episode, Jane had the privilege of speaking with Susie Orbach, who is a British psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, social critic and the writer who hit the world with the iconic book: Fat is a Feminist Issue, which is an important examination of the obsession we have with food and body image. Written over 40 years ago, it remains hyper relevant to this day. Fast forward to 2009, and Susie followed up on this idea with Bodies. In this book she argues that the way we view our bodies has become synonymous with how we see ourselves – our body becomes the way that we measure our self-worth. In Bodies, Susie suggests ways that we might be able to heal from this kind of messaging. In the podcast, Susie spoke with Jane about this amazing body of work, and three main themes emerged – the development of feminism and the way that our perception of it has changed over time, our struggle as humans to be both connected and autonomous, and the way in which the food and beauty industries profit so significantly from body insecurity. What you’ll find in the podcast: How feminism was perceived when Susie was young What role should work have in our lives? The shift from relying on each other to competing Can we find common ground with others? Why connection is so important Why do so many of us feel bad about our bodies? How we can change the way we feel about bodies Why you should read Bodies A reflection on the times we’re living in
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| 28 May 2024 | #61 - Annah Pickering / Sex work advocacy | 00:20:24 | |
For this episode of the podcast, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Annah Pickering, the regional co-ordinator for the NZPC – the Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Worker’s Collective. The Sex Worker’s Collective is a national organisation here in New Zealand that empowers and advocates for the rights of sex workers, as well as doing work internationally around the decriminalisation of sex work. Check out the NZPC here: https://nzpc.org.nz/. -----------------
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| 03 Jun 2024 | #62 - Lucy Sante / It's never too late to transition | 00:34:58 | |
On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Lucy Sante, a Belgian-born American writer, teacher, and critic, who has contributed to the New York Review of Books for four decades about film, art, and photography. She transitioned at the age of 67 after downloading an app on her phone that had a gender-swapping feature, allowing Lucy to see herself as a woman. Earlier this year, she published a book called I Heard Her Call My Name, a Memoir of Transition, which brings together two threads of personal narrative – the first, the arc of her life, and the second, her recent transition that allowed her to reach a place of inner and outer alignment. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:23 – Feelings after promoting her book 02:10 – Lucy's experience being trans 04:40 – Containment vs desire 07:28 – Lucy's upbringing 08:52 – What triggered Lucy’s transition 11:45 – The impact of age on transitioning 13:56 – Lucy's social experiences as a kid 17:25 – First encounters with trans people 18:41 – Finding courage from others 21:33 – Why Lucy might have transitioned 25 years earlier 22:31 – Gender in society 25:33 – The debate with feminism 27:11 – The joy of transitioning 31:42 – Being transgender is not a choice 33:51 – Conclusion Check out Lucy's book here: https://lucysante.com/book/i-heard-her-call-my-name/ -----------------
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| 10 Jun 2024 | #63 - Dr Fiona Vera-Gray / Women talk porn | 00:41:33 | |
For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University. Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use. Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/ Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html ----------------- Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:14 – What kicked off the book? 02:58 – What are sexual scripts? 04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives? 06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy 08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy 09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation 13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn 15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences 17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use 22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn 24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have? 27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space 29:24 – Men’s responses to her work 30:51 – Supporting young people 32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work 34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences 36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn? 38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture 40:26 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 17 Jun 2024 | #64 - Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers / How to overcome sexual shame | 00:54:35 | |
For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more. Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/ Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK -----------------
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| 24 Jun 2024 | #65 - Shaun Hill / Sex, drugs and consent | 00:34:37 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus. Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure. Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/ ----------------- TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Intro 01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time 05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean? 07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about? 09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time 11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys 13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances 16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure 17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired 20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved 23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally 28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent 31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired 32:36 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 01 Jul 2024 | #66 - Madam Bella Cummins / Running a brothel the right way | 00:37:32 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond. At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state. During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services.
In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector. Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:06 – Bella's background 03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed 05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels 09:00 – Bella's vision and mission 11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from 13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses 14:26 – Lessons learned in life 16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex 17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount 24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry 27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice 30:26 – Bella's plans for the future 32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels 34:30 – Bella's message to listeners 36:04 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 09 Jul 2024 | #67 - Dr. Ian Kerner / Sex ed, desire and communication | 00:43:45 | |
On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives. Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication. Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/ Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare -----------------
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| 16 Jul 2024 | #68 - Dr. Evan Goldstein / Anal health and pleasure | 00:58:31 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between. Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more. Check out Butt Seriously here: https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/ -----------------
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| 22 Jul 2024 | Dr Alex Layendecker / Sex in space | 00:47:34 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:
ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about? 02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research 06:23 – Old space vs new space 08:30 – When might regular people have access to space? 11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps 13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space 15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space 17:40 – Why this research is so important 21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space? 31:20 – The animals that have mated in space 32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex 34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments? 38:01 – Funding research into sex in space 41:30 – The future of space travel 43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space? 46:15 – Conclusion
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Links mentioned in the podcast: The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/ SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/ The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 29 Jul 2024 | #70 - Daniel Principe / Empowering boys to navigate masculinity and culture | 01:02:54 | |
On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives. In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:
Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence. By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves. You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/ Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does 05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture 06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity? 11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from 14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well 17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships 18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops 20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice 24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces 30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate 35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme 40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use 48:23 – Why soft skills are so important 51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help 56:44 – Daniel's message for young people 58:32 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 06 Aug 2024 | #71 - Verity Johnson / Club Burlesque: celebrating freedom, sexuality and desire | 00:21:07 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club. Together they spoke about:
Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand. Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/ Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:33 – What is burlesque? 02:54 – Understanding eros 03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque 04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque 06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque 07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex 09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire 11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality 14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel 15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side 17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society? 18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque 18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire 19:52 – Conclusion
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| 14 Aug 2024 | #72 - William Moore / Exploring Male Girth Enhancement - the science and the impacts | 00:32:40 | |
In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health. Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/ Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/ -----------------
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| 19 Aug 2024 | #73 - Susan Bratton / An intimacy expert's guide to great sex | 00:38:21 | |
Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books. In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life. Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/ Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’ 02:08 – What is an extended orgasm? 04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm? 06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms 07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people 11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex 12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body 12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex 14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life 16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact 21:03 – Working out what you want in bed 22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner 26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love 28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values 32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life 36:01 – Summary and conclusion -----------------
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| 19 Aug 2024 | Sex in Space / Trailer | 00:03:04 | |
Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe. Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found. Subscribe to make sure you never miss an episode! Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer: Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065 Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903 Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876 Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039 Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077 Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766 Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 27 Aug 2024 | #74 - Kate Barnhart / Supporting LGBTQ+ homeless youth | 00:14:39 | |
For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important. Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless 01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer? 03:31 – Meeting mental health needs 05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives 06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives 08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives 10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives 11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here 12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle 13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC -----------------
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| 02 Sep 2024 | #75 - Verity Johnson / Male strip clubs - a lesson on female sexuality | 00:25:57 | |
Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female. Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/ Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – What is Men of Steel? 02:35 – How people respond to the experience 03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel? 06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club? 09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand 13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel 15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel 16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years 18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex 22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality 23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel 24:28 – Ticket info 24:42 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 10 Sep 2024 | #76 - Catherine Carr / Unpacking 'About the Boys' | 00:45:21 | |
Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today. Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:26 – Catherine’s background 03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about 06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project 11:37 – How Catherine put the series together 12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys 16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story 18:30 – The impact of social media on boys 21:03 – Problematic male influencers 24:51 – The gaps in education for young people 29:00 – Where young people are learning from 31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships 33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online 37:41 – The importance of honest conversations 40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism 41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’? 43:10 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 16 Sep 2024 | #77 - Dr Paula Hall / Compulsive porn use: what you need to know | 00:42:07 | |
On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours. Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue. Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers. Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/ Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/ Check out our book, 'How to talk with your kids about porn: https://www.sexinspace.com/book-2
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work 03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use 06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic? 08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue 10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help 12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you 14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners 16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use 18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents 24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution 27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography 29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people 33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue 35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive 38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast 39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery 40:43 - Conclusion Software mentioned by Dr Hall - Canopy: https://canopy.us/ Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/ Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/ -----------------
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| 23 Sep 2024 | #78 - Anil Padavatan / Understanding transgender healthcare | 00:39:40 | |
On the latest episode of the Sex in Space podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Anil Padavatan, the Health Programs Lead at GATE, (Global Action for Trans Equality), about trans healthcare. Together, they had a conversation about what trans healthcare is, why and how all kinds of people – not just those who are transgender – access services like puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, they debunked some common myths and misinformation surrounding this topic, and looked at the different ways that families can exist in the world. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:39 – What is GATE? 01:13 – What does it mean to be transgender? 02:42 – What is trans healthcare? 03:38 – What is gender affirming care? 04:48 – Some examples of gender affirming care 05:18 – Some reasons a person might access gender affirming care 06:09 – Cisgender people also access gender affirming care 08:13 – How do puberty blockers work? 09:37 – Are puberty blockers reversible? 10:41 – When can people use puberty blockers? 13:13 – Risks and benefits of puberty blockers 16:41 – The reality of medical interventions for young people 18:45 – What is hormone replacement therapy and who uses it? 21:34 – Being transgender and fertility 26:23 – What is gender affirming surgery? 27:50 – Who is able to access gender affirming surgery? 30:05 – The facts around gender affirming surgery and regret 34:25 – Different kinds of families 37:42 – Conclusion
Resources: World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Standards of Care 8:
Guidelines for gender affirming healthcare for gender diverse and transgender children, young people and adults in Aotearoa, New Zealand:
Southern African HIV Clinicians Society Gender Affirming Healthcare Guidelines: https://www.sahivsoc.org/Subheader/Index/sahcs-guidelines
Cornell University Public Policy Research Portal, What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?:
GATE Knowledge Portal: https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/
Reaffirming Autonomy of Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents:
Trans and Intersex Rising Zimbabwe: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 30 Sep 2024 | #79 - Melody Thomas / How good sex became a great project | 00:28:20 | |
For this episode we were thrilled to be joined by Melody Thomas, the creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them. Together, Melody and Toshi spoke about what she’s learned from her two seasons creating this podcast, how the work has impacted Melody’s own sex life, what she wishes she knew earlier about sex and relationships, and some of the most memorable moments from the conversations she’s had. Check out The Good Sex Project here: https://interactives.stuff.co.nz/the-good-sex-project-podcast/ Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – What is The Good Sex Project all about? 02:09 – How people have responded to The Good Sex Project 03:51 – Melody’s biggest learnings about sex and relationships 07:39 – Advice to feel more comfortable talking about sex 10:05 – Taboos that still need to be broken down 12:59 – Sex advice Melody would give to her younger self 14:31 – How you can prioritise your own pleasure 17:00 – Communication tips 18:47 – Identifying unhealthy relationships 20:20 – Why asking questions is so important 21:55 – The expectations we take from porn 22:57 – How Melody’s sexual experiences have changed over time 24:17 – How sex-negative thinking can impact our physical experiences 26:33 – Where listeners can tune into The Good Sex Project 27:06 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 09 Oct 2024 | #80 - Tina Horn / Understanding kink, fetish and pleasure | 00:37:37 | |
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Tina Horn – a writer, educatrix, and media-maker. She is the author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Hachette), a book based on her long-running indie fetish podcast. Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series Safe Sex /SfSx, and the cult detective thriller Deprog; she was also the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two other nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited. Tina has lectured on adult entertainment politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centres all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theatre, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence. Find Tina here: https://www.instagram.com/tinahornsass/?hl=en Or at her website: https://tinahorn.net/ Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 01:50 – What is a kink? 05:20 – The influence of the internet on our sexual behaviours 07:06 – How would you define rough sex? 08:49 – Our relationship with obsession 14:00 – Connecting to others through sexuality 15:59 – How to bring your desires and fantasies to life 22:02 – Different kinds of foot fetishes 26:50 – Embracing pleasure 29:13 – Places we can learn from 32:36 – Learning about sex from observation and conversations 34:08 – Why are people into that? The cultural investigation of kink. 35:30 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 14 Oct 2024 | #81 - Teri Hofford / Unf*cking how we see our bodies | 00:50:59 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by the lovely Teri Hofford. Teri is a body image educator, bestselling author, photographer and TedX speaker who helps people unf*ck their beliefs around bodies and business so that they can move closer to their most authentic selves. We were very excited to have a conversation with her today about all things relating to body image – the meaning that we make out of our bodies and where those thoughts come from, how we can reframe negative thoughts about ourselves, what confidence can look like for different people, and why being curious is so important when it comes to shifting the way we think and feel about our bodies. Find Teri here: https://terihofford.com/ Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terihofford Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:50 – What Teri does and how she got involved working in this space 03:06 – 5 reasons you look bad in photos 06:50 – Using photography to explore difficult subjects 08:44 – How to change your attitude towards your body 11:10 – Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend 13:07 – 3 steps to reframing negative body talk 16:17 – The impact of asexuality on body image 23:55 – Most common myths about body image + confidence 27:40 – Teri’s project celebrating bodies as they are 30:30 – Body Image Bootcamp: what it’s all about 33:34 – Being able to freely exist in your body 35:10 – Our bodies are a representation of what we feel about ourselves 40:14 – Teri’s message to her younger self 42:16 – Why we have to be intentional to reframe our thoughts about our bodies 45:02 – You’re not as special as you think you are 49:04 – Where to find Teri 50:05 - Conclusion -----------------
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| 21 Oct 2024 | #82 - Danielle Broster / Understanding online sexual extortion: how to keep your kids safe | 00:45:15 | |
On this episode of the podcast, we were joined by Danielle Broster from the Australian Federal Police. Danielle is a Senior Prevention Officer for their Online Child Safety Team, which she has been a part of for five years. The Australian Federal Police lead an education program called Think U Know, which aims to prevent online child sexual exploitation. Together, Danielle and Tim had a conversation all about sextortion – what it is, who it affects and the warning signs that someone might be a victim, as well as advice for parents on what they can do to help protect their kids against sextortion. TRIGGER WARNING: this episode discusses topics related to sextortion, online exploitation, and the manipulation of young people. These are sensitive and potentially distressing subjects, so listener discretion is advised. If you find any part of this conversation overwhelming, please reach out to support services if needed. Find Think U Know here: https://www.thinkuknow.org.au/ ACCCE (Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation): https://www.accce.gov.au/ Timestamps
00:00 – Intro 02:33 – How Think U Know started and what they do 04:08 – What is sextortion and who does it target? 11:07 – Do perpetrators follow through with threats? 12:45 – How big is the issue? 15:42 – Advice to help prevent sextortion 20:30 – What conversations to have at what age 22:00 – What are the red flags that suggest someone might be at risk? 23:46 – What empowers young people to report sextortion? 25:46 – Signs someone might be the victim of sextortion 27:58 – Balancing privacy and trust with your child 31:05 – What to do if you find out your child is a victim of sextortion 34:15 – How the AFP is helping prevent sextortion 36:32 – Top tips for both parents and teens 38:05 – Where to find more information 40:57 – How the tech landscape has changed over time 43:57 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 28 Oct 2024 | #83 - Top 10 sex ed parenting tips from experts | 00:15:22 | |
On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – ten of our top parenting sex ed tips from experts. We’ve spoken with a lot of parenting experts on our podcast over the years and we wanted to put together some of our favourite tips from these conversations. We’ll cover things like how to talk with your kids about consent, masturbation and porn, advice for how you can be the kind of parent your kids feel safe to come to – and why that’s so important – as well as how you can respond, rather than react, when they ask you a tricky question. 00:00 – Intro 00:34 – Make it normal for your kids to talk to you about what they see online 02:07 – Why you don’t want to shame kids for their bodily reactions to sexual content 03:10 – Be the go to place for your kids to learn facts and values, rather than the media/porn 04:06 – Think about helpful sex conversations you've had in your own life 05:27 – Why your tone matters even more than what you say when having sex talks with your kids 06:20 – How to talk with kids about masturbation 06:59 – How to explain to kids how babies are made 09:28 – How to talk with your kids about porn 10:50 – How to teach kids about consent 12:12 – How to respond rather than react when your child asks you a tricky sex question 14:26 – Conclusion
Our experts include: Cath Hakanson, qualified sexual health nurse, author, speaker and the founder of Sex Ed Rescue. Vanessa Hamilton, sexuality educator and the founder of education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’, with over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse. https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/ Dr Jane Cherrington, PhD in discursive psychology, with some post-doctoral work around the themes in porn, founder of the Sex in Space Project. Justin Hancock, writer/editor of BISH, a trained sexual health trainer, qualified youth worker, and a sex and relationships educator since 1999. Nikki Denholm, director at The Light Project, which aims to equip youth, their whānau and communities to build porn literacy and positively navigate the new porn landscape. https://thelightproject.co.nz/ -----------------
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| 06 Nov 2024 | #84 - Arielle Zadok / From screen to real life: intimacy, consent & sex education | 00:51:51 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were joined by Arielle Zadok. Arielle is an intimacy coordinator, sexologist and founder of The Sexy Directory, an upcoming sex education platform launching in 2025. When she’s not facilitating intimacy on film and television sets, you can find her leading transformative intimacy workshops and speaking about sensuality, sexuality and intimacy at events. Arielle also hosts and produces Birds & Bees Don’t Fck, a show that normalizes how sex education of the past failed us, and how we all managed to get through that. Each week she brings on a comedian or sexpert for these fun, free flowing, educational conversations. Together, Arielle and Tim had a conversation about the role of intimacy coordinators in film and television, the responsibility of media creators to portray sex and intimacy in an authentic way, what makes a great sex scene, and the impact that misinformation from places like pornography has on real sexual interactions. Find Arielle here: https://www.ariellezadok.com/ Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariellezadok Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:39 – The state of sex ed 03:53 – Arielle’s early interest in sex and sexuality 08:20 – How Arielle got started as an intimacy coordinator 13:59 – The need to portray intimacy in an accurate way 17:53 – What does a good sex scene look like? 20:12 – Intimacy coordination and kink 23:10 – What Fifty Shades of Grey got wrong about kink 30:18 – Does intimacy coordination exist in pornography? 34:35 – The problem with using porn as a form of sex ed 37:00 – Where we should be learning about sex from 39:05 – How messages about shame and masturbation impact our sex lives 44:13 – Education and The Sexy Directory 49:49 – Where to find Arielle 50:27 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 12 Nov 2024 | #85 - Amal Awad / Beyond veiled clichés (her book title!) | 00:50:28 | |
On this episode of the podcast, we were lucky enough to be joined by Amal Awad. Amal is a writer, director and performer, and as a journalist has contributed to publications including The Guardian, The Sydney Morning Herald, ELLE and Frankie. She’s produced and presented for ABC Radio National, and is the author of eight books, both fiction and non-fiction. Together, Amal and Jane had a conversation about the complexity of the experience of wearing a veil, and the personal and societal pressures that play into this. They spoke about modesty and the policing women’s bodies in society, as well as the contrasts between wearing the veil in the Western world compared to in the Arab world. Amal and Jane also had a discussion about female sexuality and education around sex and bodies. Find Amal here: https://amalawad.com/ Read 'Beyond Veiled Clichés': https://amzn.asia/d/bOs4xPc Watch ABC Australia’s video, Why Muslim women wear a hijab, burka or niqab & the importance of modesty in Islam: https://youtu.be/hkLjExxCQdY?si=piVVLOL-uLBCT5me TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Intro 00:41 – How does Amal’s work connect with Sex in Space? 02:23 – The need for nuanced conversations about the veil 06:51 – Amal’s experience wearing a headscarf 11:22 – The policing of women and their bodies 15:08 – The veil and symbolism 19:16 – The difference between belief and faith 22:57 – Wearing the veil in the Arab world vs the Western world 26:23 – Female sexuality and religion 32:24 – Understanding the lack of education around sex and bodies 35:07 – Different expressions of modesty 38:54 – Why Amal chose to stop wearing the headscarf 43:25 – About Amal’s book: Bitter and Sweet 49:16 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 19 Nov 2024 | #86 - Dr. David Perl / Understanding and healing from limerence | 00:36:37 | |
On today’s episode, we were joined by Dr David Perl, a qualified expert on limerence. Growing up with a father who survived Auschwitz and a mother facing frustration and anger as a stay-at-home mum, David’s path to success was anything but ordinary. Seeking the approval of his parents, he pursued a career in medicine, graduating from the prestigious University of London in 1984. Exploring various disciplines within medicine, including psychiatry and aviation medicine, he eventually founded docleaf, a renowned Crisis Management and Trauma Psychology Consultancy. Along the way, he acquired expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, counselling, and even earned an advanced postgraduate diploma in Leadership Coaching. However, it was his own personal experience of developing limerence in 2010 that ignited a new purpose for David. Determined to help others impacted by limerence, he founded limerence.net, a platform that includes a supportive forum to aid individuals on their healing journey. Together, Toshi and David had a conversation all about limerence – what it is, who is impacted by it, and ways to deal with it. Check out Dr David’s site here: https://limerence.net/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:32 – David's experience with limerence 05:29 – What is limerence? 07:10 – Why do people get limerence? 10:14 – Advice for someone dealing with limerence 11:26 – How can we get over limerence? 13:37 – Limerence and affairs 15:13 – Can limerence turn into love? 16:43 – David’s key tips for getting over limerence 19:47 – Should you tell your limerent object about your feelings? 22:46 – Why self-compassion is so important if you’re struggling with limerence 26:44 – Understanding male and female friendships 32:01 – Limerence is a symptom 33:45 – Where you can find more of David 35:21 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 26 Nov 2024 | #87 - Kate Muir / Everything you need to know about the menopause | 00:52:36 | |
On this week’s episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk again with Kate Muir, a women’s health expert, investigative journalist, documentary maker, and author of books on the menopause and the pill. Together they had a conversation all about the menopause and Kate’s book, Everything you needed to know about the menopause but were too afraid to ask. Kate and Toshi discussed the difference between perimenopause and menopause, the impact of the menopause on mental and physical health, the role of hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and what young people should know about the menopause. Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/ Check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menoscandal/?hl=en Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:35 – Kate's story with the menopause 03:29 – The difference between perimenopause and menopause 06:56 – The impact of the menopause on physical and mental health 10:10 – How does hormone replacement therapy work for the menopause? 13:24 – Is there a relationship between hormone replacement therapy and breast cancer? 15:39 – Societal attitudes towards HRT 21:34 – The accessibility of health knowledge 23:18 – How women's relationship to menopause has changed over time 25:22 – Why so many women suddenly put on weight in midlife 27:37 – Osteoporosis, bone density and HRT 32:30 – The impact of hormones on Alzheimer's and dementia 36:34 – Why we need to be getting hormones to all those who need it 38:35 – What young people should know about the menopause 40:15 – The rewiring of the brain during the menopause 42:45 – The impact of AI on accessibility of science 45:36 – Kate’s new book, How to have a magnificent midlife crisis 48:07 – Advice to people wanting to support someone going through the menopause 50:30 – Where to find more of Kate’s work 51:28 - Conclusion -----------------
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| 04 Dec 2024 | #88 - Dr. Niobe Way / Why listening to boys could change everything | 00:53:12 | |
In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Niobe Way about the social and emotional lives of young boys and men. Dr. Niobe Way is an internationally recognised NYU developmental psychologist who has spent nearly 40 years researching social and emotional development and has found that boys and young men desperately want and need the same thing as everyone else: close friendships. Yet they and we grow up in a stereotyped “boy” culture, one that devalues and mocks those relationships, rather than recognising that they’re necessary for human survival. Her social science research has made her an expert on friendships, loneliness, teenagers, gender stereotypes, masculinity and the roots of violence. In this conversation, Dr. Way shares insights from her latest book, ‘Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves and Our Culture’. She explains how these “rebels,” as she calls the boys and young men in her research and in her classrooms, teach us about their and our crisis of connection, evidence of which is visible in our soaring rates of depression, anxiety, loneliness, suicide, and mass violence. They also teach us about the solutions to the crisis, which is to care, to listen with curiosity, and to take individual and collective responsibility for the damage we have done to them, to ourselves, and to the world around us. Find Dr. Way here: https://www.niobe-way.com/
TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Intro 01:26 – How Dr. Way got started researching boys and their friendships 03:57 – The four themes she learned from young men 10:56 – Close: the movie about boy friendships 12:08 – Which men are most at risk of suffering from this crisis of connection? 16:38 – What Dr. Way means when she refers to ‘boy’ culture 17:20 – Why curiosity is key to connecting with others 21:29 – Dr. Way’s advice for parents 24:06 – The impact of technology and how we use it on ‘boy’ culture 26:07 – How we could change technology to connect better with others 28:15 – Having feelings is normal for everyone 33:41 – Why ‘boy’ culture is not just about masculinity 38:40 – Society tolerates our ‘soft sides’ more when we’re younger 39:37 – What we can learn from listening to children and teenagers 43:02 – Why this book is not Dr. Way’s opinion 45:25 – Dr. Way’s hopes moving forward 49:11 – Why Dr. Way focused her work on boys and young men 50:32 – Where to find more of Dr. Niobe Way 52:54 – Outro -----------------
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| 10 Dec 2024 | #89 - Ella D'Aloia - How yoni massage can transform your relationship with your body | 00:38:36 | |
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had a conversation with Ella D’Aloia. Ella is a certified holistic sex coach and therapeutic yoni massage practitioner who specialises in female sexuality. Together, Ella and Toshi spoke all about yoni massage - what it is, what the benefits are, what to expect from a session and how to find the right practitioner. They also had a conversation about how through her intimate and supportive approach, Ella helps women to reclaim their bodies, pleasure and sexuality so they can live a life filled with joy, pleasure and aliveness. Find Ella here: https://www.ella-daloia.com/ Or check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ella_daloia_/ TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Intro 00:46 – How Ella got started in this space 02:46 – What is a yoni massage? 05:39 – What are the benefits of a yoni massage? 11:57 – How many sessions does a person need? 14:50 – Is yoni massage sexual? 17:18 – Why you need to do your research into yoni massage practitioners 18:20 – How does Ella create a safe space for clients to feel comfortable? 19:34 – What can you expect from a yoni massage session with Ella? 23:05 – Standout client experiences for Ella 25:44 – What Ella has learned from her work as a yoni massage practitioner 28:57 – Ella's message if you’re feeling hesitant about getting a yoni massage 30:27 – Can you have a yoni massage if you’re on your period? 31:44 – Why it’s so important to be connected to our bodies 33:22 – Where listeners can find Ella and her work 33:55 – Is there a version of yoni massage for men? 35:06 – How you can check if a practitioner is certified 37:12 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 20 Dec 2024 | #90 - 13 Experts Share Tips for a Better Sex Life | 00:15:25 | |
On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – thirteen of our top tips from experts on how to have a better sex life. We’ll cover things like how you can use responsive desire to feel aroused – and why taking time to build arousal is so important, how to bring variety into your sex life, advice on how to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner, and more.
Our experts include: Dr Laurie Mintz: author, speaker, therapist and emeritus professor, whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives. Melody Thomas: creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them. Dr Ian Kerner: licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Susan Bratton: intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Damian Weatherald: disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, sex educator, and sex toy guru. Dr Jenn Gunsaullus: keynote speaker, sociologist, sex coach, and author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Suzanne Werder: nurse practitioner from the New Zealand Sexual Health Society. Hollie McNish: award-winning poet, writer and performer. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:36 – How to use responsive desire to feel aroused 01:25 – How to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner 02:06 – Why it’s important to take time to build arousal 03:15 – How to practice self-advocacy in non-sexual situations 03:57 – Why you should embrace laughter in sexual experiences 04:40 – How trying something new in bed can help build intimacy 05:14 – How we can reframe the way we think about condoms 05:48 – Use a hand massage to practice communication 07:02 – Why it’s important to treat others how they want to be treated 07:42 – Why you should be asking questions in bed 09:03 – Why it’s important not to rush into sex 10:54 – How to bring variety into your sex life 13:33 – How to prioritise your own pleasure 14:17 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 23 Dec 2024 | #91 - Dr Laurie Mintz / Tips for a satisfying sex life (re-release) | 00:48:22 | |
This week here at Sex in Space we’re re-releasing one of our episodes from 2023. In this podcast, Jane had the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Laurie Mintz, an author, therapist, speaker and emeritus professor, to talk tips for a better sex life. Dr Laurie is more than qualified to speak on this topic, as the author of two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship. These books were written with the aim of empowering women sexually and they both have published studies demonstrating that readers enhance their sexual functioning. Dr Laurie aims to provide scientifically accurate, sex-positive information to enhance female pleasure. She gives presentations and workshops to professionals and lay audiences, and has a TEDx talk that’s received more than 2.5 million views. Together, she and Jane spoke about what causes women to have low libidos, the two types of desire (and why you should know them), what the orgasm gap is and why it exists, the truth about sex positions, the issue with penis-size jokes and practical takeaways for a better sex life. Find Dr. Laurie’s website here: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Watch Dr. Laurie’s TEDx talk here: https://youtu.be/oD2ja2BT-0E?si=e_qwyGySYx7GXRWg Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 03:15 – Why Laurie wrote her first book 04:53 – What causes women to have low libidos? 07:31 – The two types of desire (and why you should know them) 09:10 – Why we need to rethink the way we talk about sex 14:59 – How reading Dr. Laurie’s book can improve your sex life 17:04 – Shame and sex are enemies 18:44 – What inspired Dr. Laurie to start educating about the clitoris 20:37 – What is the orgasm gap and why does it exist? 23:03 – The need for porn literacy 25:19 – Why sex ed in the Netherlands is so effective 26:42 – The truth about sex positions 29:53 – Why women have pain with penetration (and what you can do about it) 32:50 – Why do women fake orgasm? 34:42 – The issue with slut-shaming and penis size jokes 36:07 – What does it mean to be sexually active? 37:37 – Dr Laurie’s communication tips 41:34 – Why it’s important to learn how to pleasure yourself 43:53 – 12 commandments for a better sex life 46:05 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 02 Jan 2025 | #92 - Vanessa Hamilton / Sexuality education for parents: top tips for tricky talks (re-release) | 00:46:45 | |
This week we’re re-releasing another of our podcast episodes. This time, we’re revisiting a conversation that Jane had with Vanessa Hamilton, a sexuality educator and founder of the education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’. Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, she is a parent of 3 teens and is an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Vanessa has immersed herself in helping parents, teachers and health professionals understand human sexuality and, specifically, how it relates to children. Together, she and Jane spoke about the key topics parents should address with their kids about sexuality education, including consent, pleasure, and pornography. Vanessa provides strategies for tackling uncomfortable situations and gives examples of how to use teachable moments with young people, as well as providing a script for responding when a child asks how babies are made. You can find more of Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 00:49 – How Vanessa ended up in the sexuality education space 03:26 – The scale of the sex ed gap within adults 04:48 – The impact of confidence on having sex ed chats 05:47 – How to talk with young people about sending nudes 07:18 – Vanessa’s take-home message to parents 08:50 – When should you start thinking about having conversations with your kids about sexuality? 09:42 – Why your tone is more important than what you say to a child 10:13 – What topics you should be covering with your kids (and why saying something is better than saying nothing) 12:47 – The majority of parents support this education 13:38 – Why Vanessa doesn’t like the term ‘sex ed’ (and what she uses instead) 15:20 – Reframing how we think about pleasure 17:01 – How consent is part of our everyday experiences 19:59 – How to explain how babies are made 23:35 – What are the contributing factors towards teen pregnancies? 24:46 – What kids are learning about sex from pornography 26:36 – Why Vanessa wrote her book ‘Talking Sex’ 29:11 – How to respond when you encounter an uncomfortable situation with your child 31:10 – How to practice having conversations about sexuality 32:22 – The barriers for male parents having these kinds of conversations 34:14 – Examples of how to use teachable moments with your kids 38:15 – Make yourself the adult that your kids can come to 39:56 – Why it’s important to give young people a framework to think about pornography 42:10 – How to respond if you think your child has seen inappropriate content online 43:21 – How to get a copy of Vanessa’s book ‘Talking Sex’ 44:23 – Vanessa’s book on consent for parents and teachers 45:05 – Just get started: it’s easier than you think 45:39 - Conclusion -----------------
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| 09 Jan 2025 | #93 - Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle (re-release) | 00:39:48 | |
This week, we’re re-releasing one of our most popular podcast episodes – a conversation with 72-year-old OnlyFans sex worker, Michelle Hardenbrook. Jane chatted with Michelle about how she got started in the industry at the age of 55, how she educated herself about sex and intimacy, as well as Michelle’s thoughts on penis size, shape, and confidence, how to experience orgasm after prostate cancer, and advice for any listeners who are wanting to understand sex work better. Find Michelle here: https://www.instagram.com/terrytowngal1951/?hl=en Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:39 – How Michelle got started in sex work at the age of 55 04:43 – Practical tips for managing finances as a sex worker 07:31 – Michelle’s transition to working online and building an audience 13:02 – Michelle’s role as a mentor and the value she brings to other sex workers 14:23 – Michelle’s thoughts on pimps in the industry 16:35 – Michelle’s life lesson: don’t panic 18:15 – How Michelle educated herself about sex and intimacy 20:31 – Michelle’s experience with vibrators 23:30 – Michelle’s response to unsolicited images 25:29 – Michelle’s thoughts on pen*s size, shape and confidence 28:20 – The impact of aging on libido and sexual experiences 30:42 – How Michelle helps clients who have had prostate cancer 34:18 – Advice to listeners who don’t understand sex work 35:52 – Michelle's advice for new sex workers 38:31 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 16 Jan 2025 | #94 - David Jay / Exploring asexuality: intimacy, relationships and community | 00:42:19 | |
On today’s episode, Toshi had a conversation with David Jay, who is the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education network, which is the world’s largest online asexual community. Together, they had a conversation about the experience of being asexual and the expectations that society has around sexuality, as well as how David has redefined relationships and intimacy as an asexual person. They also discussed three-parent families and the importance of building a community of care, and finished the conversation talking about why conflict is actually a really good thing. Find AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) here: https://www.asexuality.org/en/ Find David's book, Relationality: How Moving from Transactional to Transformational Relationships Can Reshape Our Lonely World, here:
Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 01:26 – What does it mean to be asexual, or ‘ace’? 03:26 – What is compulsory sexuality? 04:39 – David’s experience as a young ace person 06:32 – How society has different sexual expectations for different bodies 08:15 – The impact of asexuality on how David sees relationships and intimacy 11:12 – The benefits of having intentional friendships 13:33 – Why you should be thinking about creating a community of care 16:35 – What it’s like to be in a three-parent family 19:44 – Two things you can learn from this podcast 23:01 – Advice if you want to be more intentional in your friendships 24:24 – Why being asexual is so liberating 26:39 – What David would have wanted his younger self to know 28:20 – How the ace community has changed over time 33:04 – Why relationships with others are so important 37:19 – Why conflict is a really good thing 39:34 – David’s message to ace listeners 40:43 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 23 Jan 2025 | #95 - Victoria / Understanding sex work as a social service | 00:31:29 | |
In this episode, Toshi had a conversation with Victoria, a former escort who is the president of UTSOPI in Belgium, which is the Belgian Union of Sex Workers. Together, they had a conversation about the way that Victoria views sex work as a social service, something that’s not just about physical intimacy but is very connected to human emotions and is effective at combating loneliness. Toshi and Victoria also discussed the stigma that is still associated with sex work, why you should be hugging the people in your life, and the difference between loneliness and being alone. Related links: https://www.utsopi.be/ Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:35 – Only 10% of sex work is about sex 07:27 – How clients responded when Victoria quit sex work 09:08 – The difference between loneliness and being alone 10:09 - The benefits of sex work on emotional health 12:26 – How Victoria came to see sex work as a social service 17:25 – Human connection is important in every job 18:33 – What Victoria learned from sex work 20:26 – The stigma still associated with sex work 22:23 – How sex helps Victoria stay young 24:10 – Why you should be hugging the people in your life 25:17 – Victoria's own experience as a client of sex work 30:09 – Conclusion -----------------
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| 22 Aug 2023 | #28 - Vixen Temple / Sex work activism | 00:34:21 | |
In this episode, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Vixen Temple, who is incredibly multi-talented. Vixen is a sex worker, a Takatāpui performance artist, a writer, a poet, a sex witch, and sex work activist. We’re delighted to have her join us to talk about just a fraction of the work that she’s doing – and given who we are that’ll be focusing on sex. For more Vixen, check out: ------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 13 Aug 2023 | #27 - Jo Corrall / This is a vulva | 00:55:58 | |
We had the pleasure of talking all about vulvas with the lovely Jo Corrall. Jo is the founder of This is a Vulva, a sex education and vulva acceptance project. Her mission is to teach people what the vulva is (newsflash – it is not a vagina) and celebrate the diversity in genitalia. When people learn about vulva diversity and see photos and images of vulvas that look like their own, they start to accept their own genitals and feel happier! Who doesn’t love that? You can check more of Jo, the vulva gallery, her book and more at: ------------- Check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book to download or buy. Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspacedotcom https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspacedotcom https://www.facebook.com/sexinspacedotcom For more info, check out our website at: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| 08 Nov 2021 | #14 - Sonya Renee Taylor / Radical self-love | 00:55:16 | |
Our Guest this Pod is the gorgeous Sonya Renee Taylor – award winning Performance Poet, long-time activist, educator and transformational leader. Force of nature. Sonya is Founder and Radical Executive Officer of the delightfully named: ‘The Body is Not An Apology’ (TBINAA), a digital media and education company promoting radical self-love and body empowerment as the foundational tool for social justice and global transformation. Check her out at: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/sonyareneetaylor/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100052496942731
Sonya's shout out is for the wonderful Tu Tama Wahine o Taranaki. They are a tangata whenua development and liberation organisation, helping to meet the needs of whanau, with services and activities based in education, justice, health, community and social development. Their services are free, accessible and confidential to all individuals and whanau. Check them out at: https://www.tutamawahine.org.nz/
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| 26 Apr 2023 | #22 - Jo Robertson / Sex therapist and parent consultant | 01:01:09 | |
In this episode, we are honoured to feature Jo Robertson, a trailblazing sex therapist, betrayal trauma specialist, and parent consultant who has dedicated her career to helping individuals and families navigate the complex landscape of sexuality and relationships. With her extensive expertise and experience, Jo serves as the research and training lead for The Light Project, a charitable trust that provides essential support and education to youth, families, and professionals dealing with the challenges of pornography and other sexual issues. To learn more about Jo and her inspiring work, visit her website at https://www.jorobertson.org/ and check out her compelling TEDxTalk at https://www.tedxchristchurch.com/jo-robertson. Don't forget to explore The Light Project's invaluable resources and programs at https://thelightproject.co.nz/.
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| 01 Mar 2021 | #02 - Sarita Das / Pleasure positive sex | 00:52:12 | |
Sarita Das is a non-binary, queer, Bengali-Pakeha powerhouse who is both multi-disciplinary artist and Somatic Sex Educator. Their drag persona is Rotiboi, and they dabble in screen and theatre work – they are the host and co-creator of a queer strip club night in Auckland called BODYHAUS, which has been their life long dream, so we are here to talk to them about all things somatic sexology and otherwise. Check them out!
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BODYHAUS: https://www.instagram.com/bodyhausnz
Sarita's chosen cause this week is: https://www.gofundme.com/f/aid-for-hijra-trans-community-in-bangladesh
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| 22 Feb 2022 | #17 - Dr Laurie Betito / A regular ”sexpert” | 00:58:19 | |
Welcome! Today Dr Jane Cherrington is back, talking to Dr. Laurie Betito.
Dr. Betito is a Clinical Psychologist with a specialty in Sexual Wellness, and has been a practicing Psychotherapist for over 30 years, and has published several academic papers.
She’s a regular “sexpert” on TV in her native Canada, and she’s hosted her own show called “let’s talk sex” on MenTV. She’s been featured in such magazines as MENZ magazine. MUM magazine, and A2Z Parents. She’s written an amazing book titled “The Sex Bible For People Over 50”. She has 2 fantastic TEDxTalks, and she has her own excellent Podcast called “Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito”. She’s president of The Sexual Health Network of Quebec and the Director of the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Centre.
Check out: Follow her on the gram: Check out her TEDxTalk from TEDxMontrealWomen: Check out her TEDxTalk from TEDxJacksonHole: Her shout-out for this episode is for the Sexual Health Network of Quebec:
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| 22 Feb 2021 | Sex in Space / Trailer | 00:01:24 | |
Sex in Space is a new weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.
Coming soon to everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found.
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| 24 Mar 2021 | #05 - Kassie Hartendorp / Sexuality and indigeneity | 00:46:43 | |
This week we're sharing a conversation with Kassie Hartendorp who is an incredible political activist and a passionate advocate for the LGBTQIA and takatāpui communities. She is Director at ActionStation - which is an independent, crowdfunded, community campaigning organisation - and studies Ahunga Tikanga – which are Māori Laws and Philosophy at Te Wānanga o Raukawa. She came to talk to us about indigenous gender, sexuality and the decolonisation of the ways we educate and celebrate LGBTQIA communities.
Check out their amazing work at: https://www.facebook.com/ActionStationNZ/ https://www.instagram.com/actionstationnz/
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| 13 Jan 2022 | #16 - Dr Jane Fleishman / Sex and older adults | 01:03:03 | |
Welcome to the first episode of 2022. This week it’s our very own Dr Jane Cherrington, talking to Dr Jane Fleishman, who is an angelic trouble maker and sexuality educator, who specialises in sex and older adults, and she is on a mission… Enjoy. If you need little more Dr Jane Fleishman in your life, or maybe somebody else’s life, then head on over to: https://www.janefleishman.com/ ...and check out her TEDxTalk: “Is it ok for Grandma to have sex?”
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Dr Jane Fleishman's shout out is for Woodhull Freedom Foundation. They envision a world that recognizes sexual freedom as the fundamental human right of all individuals to develop and express their unique sexuality; to be personally autonomous with regard to bodily integrity and expression; and to enjoy sexual dignity, privacy, and consensual sexual expression without societal or governmental interference, coercion or stigmatization. Hell yeah. Check them out at: and Woodhull Freedom on all your social channels.
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| 24 Mar 2023 | #21 - Cindy Gallop / Make love, not porn | 01:28:56 | |
On this episode Toshi and Tim talk TikTok, fantasy penis size and throw out some more social and podcast recommends. The main event this time though is a really great interview with the wonderful and powerful Cindy Gallop. On her website Cindy describes herself as: a brand and business innovator, consultant, coach and keynote speaker – we would add to that list – she is also a fabulously innovative sex activist. With a background of a high powered and awarded day job in advertising that spanned continents she stepped right out of the comfort zone of the industry and founded the radical online space of Make Love Not Porn – and if you’ve not already heard of it – you’ll know about it after today. Through this sort of work, she is reframing and opening space for healthy conversations about the ever-increasing bombardment of porn and sexual content we are exposed to at all ages, and using those conversations to facilitate better, more open, and healthy sexual relationships. Cindy also describes herself as an experienced, confident women up for the challenge of re-education, rehabilitation, and reorientation when it comes to sex. Awesome. Find out more about Cindy at: https://www.instagram.com/cindygallop/ https://twitter.com/cindygallop https://www.linkedin.com/in/cindygallop/ and be sure to check out MakeLoveNotPorn: https://www.instagram.com/makelovenotporn/
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| 08 Mar 2021 | #03 - Robyn Salisbury / Finding sex therapy | 01:04:04 | |
This weeks interview is with Robyn Salisbury – the founder of Sex Therapy NZ, and our local sex-centric agony aunt in the Sunday Star Times. She has spent thirty years as a clinical psychologist and sex specialist, she is the author of “Staying in Love” an incredible resource for couples navigating long term sexual connections – she advocates for healthy intimacy, pleasure at any age and the vitality of a life in which needs, desires and boundaries can be communicated freely.
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Read Robyn's amazing books: Staying In Love: The Top Secrets of Great Relationships
Free to Be Children: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse in Aotearoa New Zealand
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| 22 Feb 2021 | #01 - Richie Hardcore / Porn and masculinity | 00:46:13 | |
Sex in Space Episode #01 goes live, with Richie Hardcore. Richie is an educator, public speaker, and activist; working in violence prevention, drug and alcohol abuse prevention, sexual consent, mental health, and wellness. The charity Richie would like to support for this episode is http://www.gracefoundation.co.nz who work with people coming back into the community from incarceration, and help them reintegrate. They also run residential homes. He has worked with them and is a big supporter of their kaupapa. If you want to see more of Richie, his work, or plug into his digitised thoughts, you can find him at https://www.instagram.com/richiehardcore on the gram and twitter, https://www.facebook.com/richie.hardcore/ on facebook, and he also has a website and blog at: http://www.richiehardcore.com
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| 30 May 2021 | #11 - School of Sexuality Education / Combating sexual illiteracy | 01:11:02 | |
In this episode we share an interview with a formidable double act, the lovely Dolly Padalia and Dr Emma Chan from the the School of Sexuality Education. Since recording this interview, their organisation has had a name change. They used to be called Sexplain, so you’ll hear that pop up a couple of times during our chat. Dolly Padalia is deputy CEO & COO of the School of Sexuality Education out of the UK - an organisation that offers inclusive and comprehensive sex education for the 21st century, with workshops on porn, consent, sexting and healthy relationships, in schools, universities, youth groups, and other learning centres. 37,358 young people have taken part in the School of Sexuality Education’s sex and relationship education workshops. Dr Emma Chan, who is the School of Sexuality Education’s reproductive and sexual health lead, a doctor, a blogger, and activist. Her blog: squishsquashsquelch.com is far more than just “doodles” on love, sex, genitalia and gender. It’s really wonderful, creative and informative... the doodles themselves had us scrolling for days, and we highly recommend the recipe for homemade play dough.
Check them out on the gram: https://www.instagram.com/school_sexed/ or via their website:
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| 12 Jul 2023 | #25 - Suzanne Werder / Sexual health in practice | 00:32:23 | |
Our very own Jane Cherrington had the pleasure of sitting down with Suzanne Werder, a nurse practitioner from the New Zealand Sexual Health Society. With an impressive 29 years of experience in the field of sexual health, working within Aotearoa's unique and diverse society, Suzanne has had a career serving individuals of all ages and backgrounds on things such as sexual disease prevention and education to promoting sexual well-being and wellness. Let’s dive in. You can check out the New Zealand Sexual Health Society on www.nzshs.org Before we sign off, we want to remind you to check out our book, available at sexinspace.com/book or simply search for "The Organ Education Forgot" on Amazon. Don't forget to leave a like, follow, comment, or review wherever you're tuning in from. Your support means the world to us. Until next time, safe travels and see you on the next episode!
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| 01 Aug 2023 | #26 - Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives | 00:49:42 | |
In this episode, our very own Dr Jane Cherrington had the pleasure of chatting with Dr Laurie Mintz, a feminist author, therapist, professor, and speaker, whose life work has been committed to helping people live satisfying sex lives. She’s also the author of two incredibly important books when it comes to empowering women sexually – Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship.
02.00 - Intro 05.03 - Looking for lost libido! 10.40 - Why words about sex matter 16.19 - Why you should read Becoming Cliterate 18.30 - The Orgasm Gap 24.33 - We need porn literacy 26.15 - Why sex education matters 28.12 - The problem with sex positions 31.26 - How to prevent pain with penetration 33.20 - Why do women fake orgasm? 36.15 - Why slut shaming is a problem 37.36 - What does sex mean? 39.07 - Practical communication tips for lovers 40.59 - Why you should be using ‘I-statements’ 42.19 - Stop asking questions that are not questions! 43.02 - This book can teach you how to masturbate 45.43 - Dr Laurie’s 12 commandments 47.35 - Conclusion
If you want to hear more from Dr Laurie Mintz, you can find her at drlauriemintz.com
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| 16 Mar 2021 | #04 - Mark Fisher / HIV and making babies | 01:26:05 | |
This weeks interview is with Mark Fisher, an international and now local leader in the HIV sector, who now heads Body Positive, an organisation committed to advancing the care and quality of life for people living with HIV in Aotearoa. He has also worked closely with Women Positive and NZ Aids Foundation to set up the world’s first ever HIV positive Sperm Bank in 2019, which he will talk more about with us today, and the ongoing stigma that still surrounds the HIV positive community.
Check out Body Positive Inc: https://www.bodypositive.org.nz
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| 03 May 2021 | #09 - Evie Fehilly / Drag king, clown and sex educator | 01:09:55 | |
This week share a great conversation we had with Evie Fehilly. Sex educator, clown and sex clown. Drag king, queen and all-round queer mega-star, Fehilly creates taboo busting theatre, but also puts sex education at the core of her work – both hosting the sex-clown cabaret in London, and running workshops at feminist sex shop – Sh!
Check them out at: https://www.instagram.com/eviefehilly or: Sh! https://www.sh-womenstore.com/ Evie's charity of choice today is: https://www.decolonisingcontraception.com/
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| 04 Jul 2023 | #24 - GET SOME with Michelle Fischler / All things sex in space | 00:22:07 | |
We're excited to share a recording of our team—Jane, Toshi, and Tim—chatting with the incredible Michelle Fischler for her podcast, GETSOME. Michelle is a certified Sex Therapist who fearlessly and insatiably explores human sexuality, inspiring transformative conversations across cultures, belief systems, and lifestyles. We discussed everything from Kangaroo Vaginas to literal sex in space. A huge thanks to Michelle for inviting us and allowing us to share this recording. Let's get started!
Make sure to check out GETSOME with Michelle Fischler on all major podcast platforms. For more information about Michelle, visit michellefischler.ca.
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| 18 Nov 2021 | #15 - Girls Get Off / Empowering pleasure | 00:47:08 | |
Today we share an awesome interview with Viv and Jo, AKA Girls Get Off, who are on an absolute mission to empower women in all things pleasurable, removing the stigma or taboo that comes with talking about (and making the most of) getting off. They're all about riding that O Train and helping other women to do it too. Check them out at: Follow them at: https://www.instagram.com/girlsgetoff/ https://www.facebook.com/girlsgetoff
The shout out for today, thanks to Viv and Jo, is for UN Women Aotearoa New Zealand. UN Women is the United Nations Entity for gender equality and the empowerment of women with a mission to ensure that globally, all women and girls have equal opportunities. Women’s empowerment is about ending violence, responding to women’s urgent needs in an emergency, providing training and supporting women’s employment, leadership and economic development. UN Women Aotearoa New Zealand is one of thirteen National Committees spread out globally, who contribute to the mission of UN Women. Our role in Aotearoa New Zealand is to mobilise women’s empowerment efforts through raising awareness, contributing to projects that deliver better outcomes for women and girls – and their communities and in investing in sustainable projects that support local women to autonomously support the empowerment priorities of their communities. Check them out at:
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| 30 Mar 2021 | #06 - Chye-Ling Huang / Asian sexuality and open relationships | 00:53:38 | |
We sat down with Chye-Ling Huang, who is a Chinese-Pākehā director, writer and actress, and co-founder of Proudly Asian Theatre Company, which is dedicated to showcasing and empowering Asian storytellers in Aotearoa. She is currently lighting up the small screen in New Zealand playing 'Theo' on our national soap - Shortland Street. She dropped in to talk to us about her documentary Asian Men Talk About Sex and her experience of the intersections between sex, sexuality and Asian identity in New Zealand... and some other juicy stuff too.
The content is rich with this one! Check her out on the gram: https://www.instagram.com/chyeling.huang/ Watch Asian Men Talk About Sex: Learn more about Proudly Asian Theatre: http://www.proudlyasiantheatre.com/ Enjoy Life is Easy: https://www.facebook.com/lifeiseasywebseries/
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| 21 Apr 2021 | #08 - Dame Catherine Healy / Sex work, empowerment and activism | 01:22:03 | |
This week we bring you an amazing conversation with Dame Catherine Healy. She spearheaded the decriminalisation of sex work in New Zealand, is national co-ordinator and founding member of the NZPC, Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Workers' Collective, the only sex worker union in New Zealand, and is world-renowned speaker, researcher and advocate for sex workers rights and de-stigmatising our sex workers.
Check out NZPC, Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Workers' Collective
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| 18 May 2023 | #23 - Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle | 00:46:05 | |
Jane jumped in for an awesome chat on this one with Michelle Hardenbrook. She's a dynamic and thoroughly original online sex worker who is in the top 1% of earners on OnlyFans – oh and she's 71. Hope you enjoy!
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| 12 Apr 2021 | #07 - Ash Holwell / Raising kids without gender | 00:55:03 | |
We're back after a little easter break. This week, we bring you the wonderful Ash Holwell! Born in Whangārei NZ, Ash has trained, studied and worked as an industrial designer, artist, and theatre maker in Wellington, Rotterdam, Vienna, and Auckland. He is known in both Whangarei and Pōneke as a free-thinking entrepreneur, who creates spaces for community connection and radical resource distribution from the ground up. In Whangarei, he started Whare Bike, OneOneSix and in Te Whanganui a Tara he has recently opened Two/Fifty Seven, a collaborative workspace in the CBD encouraging cross-pollination across arts and business to amplify the impact of people working for the social good. He talks to us today as the father of Indigo Taetaeata Fox, who he is raising and supporting to grow into who they are without gender.
Ash has some great recommended reading for you this week, instead of the usual social links.
Check out: Raising Them - Dr Kyl Myers
Raising Zoomer
French Children Don't Throw Food - Pamala Druckerman https://www.amazon.com/French-Children-Dont-Throw-Food/dp/0385617615
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory -Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/More_Than_Two
Sex at Dawn - Dr Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_at_Dawn
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| 22 Jan 2023 | #18 - We’ve written a book about the clitoris | 00:30:44 | |
BONUS EPISODE
Welcome to 2023! An exciting year for the Sex in Space crew. Dr Jane Cherrington and Tim sit down for a chat about the amazing new book "The Organ Education Forgot - A little book about the clitoris" that the team here have been working on.
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| 11 Feb 2023 | #19 - Our Secret Spot / Journey into swinging | 01:19:59 | |
In this episode, we talk with Lawrence and Jess, the dynamic duo behind Our Secret Spot, the premier swingers club in Sydney, Australia. These two are on the cutting edge of sexual exploration and pleasure, and we were thrilled to have them on. Our Secret Spot is more than just a nightclub, it's a portal to a world of fantasy, seduction, and satisfaction. It's a place where your wildest dreams can come to life and where you can explore your deepest desires in a safe and fun environment. Lawrence and Jess have created a space that is both exciting and welcoming, and their commitment to providing a sexy, fun, and safe environment is what sets Our Secret Spot apart from the rest. So, buckle up and get ready to hear all about their journey, their vision, and what makes Our Secret Spot the go-to destination for swingers in Sydney. Check them out at:
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| 20 Oct 2021 | #13 - That‘s Handi / Disability and sexuality | 00:59:41 | |
Welcome to season 2! This episode we are featuring an interview with Heather Morrison and Andrew Gurza. The co-founders of Handi. Handi are literally making sex toys designed by and for disabled people. Handi was started with the belief that everyone should be able to ‘get off’ so they’re on a mission to put sexual pleasure within (everyone’s) reach. They unpack their fascinating origin story, their research and their fantastic first cab of the rank toy, The Handi Joystick. It’s a great chat and an awesome way to kick off season 2. Check them out on facebook and the gram: https://www.instagram.com/thatshandi https://www.facebook.com/thatshandi To register interest in the toys and buy the book, ‘The Handi book of love, lust and disability’ head on over to: If you want to check out more of Andrew, he has a website AndrewGurza.com He is AndrewGurza_ on all social channels: https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza_/ https://twitter.com/AndrewGurza_ And he also has award winning podcast of his own, called disability after dark. It recently won gold in the Outstanding Adult Series at the Canadian Podcast Awards. Their chosen charity shout out is for Cerebral Palsy Society of New Zealand. Find out more at:
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| 19 May 2021 | #10 - Cole Meyers / Authentic trans representation | 01:29:47 | |
For episode number 10 we are sharing great conversation we had with Cole Meyers. Cole is a writer, activist and educator. They are the writer and co-producer for the recent internationally and critically acclaimed film Rūrangi. He works as a consultant on trans and gender diverse narratives and inclusion in film, television, web series and theatre, including at Shortland Street, where he is currently a dialogue writer and previously a story-liner. He is a regular speaker and interviewee on trans representation, and is passionately focused on supporting the authentic representation, creative opportunities and powerful potential of gender diverse people.
Please check their amazing film at: https://rurangi.com/ or: https://www.facebook.com/rurangiofficial or: https://www.instagram.com/rurangiofficial/
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| 22 Feb 2021 | Sex in Space / Teaser Trailer | 00:00:41 | |
Sex in Space is a new weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.
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| 19 Oct 2021 | #12 - Olivia Hall / Painful sex and reclaiming the word “fat” | 01:08:37 | |
This episode we are featuring an interview with the wonderful Olivia Hall.
Olivia has a master’s in gender at the London school of economics where she wrote her thesis on women’s experiences with painful sex and seeking medical support. She has an undergraduate degree in gender and politics from the university of Otago and completed her honours in sociology at Victoria university of Wellington. Her undergraduate thesis looked at fat women’s experiences navigating sex and sexuality in Aotearoa. She’s also a spoken word poet and toured New Zealand performing their feminist show How We Survive.
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Their chosen charity shout out is for Wellington Rape Crisis. Find out more at:
https://wellingtonrapecrisis.org.nz
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| 23 Feb 2023 | #20 - Roald Dahl, snake clits and a new co-host | 01:03:09 | |
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