The year 2020 has been a total nightmare. A Year of Lies and Loss. 365 Days of Suck. A Crap-A-Palooza. Or, as one friend put it, 2020 has been A Great Steaming Shit-Fuck.

Yes, in a year that seemed to be written by Stephen King, we’ve faced a global pandemic and endless idiots violently denying said pandemic. Millions of acres of Australia and California erupted in flames. The leader of the free world suggested we drink bleach as a health treatment. We had a stock market crash, riots erupted, millions of quarantined people lost their jobs, their homes, and their health insurance. Entire industries collapsed. Rudy Giuliani’s sideburns leaked on national TV. The My Pillow guy was somehow elevated to dictating national policy. The people in charge of protecting us from COVID, caught COVID. Crazy conspiracy theories became normalized by the criminal in chief, and, as of this writing, over 265,000 Americans have lost their lives from a virus that some still claim is a liberal hoax and/or no big deal at all.

What in the actual fuck is happening?!?!

After horror upon horror was hoisted upon us this year, I, like many others, seemed to believe that this was just how it’s going to be. I became addicted to drama and pain. I was compulsively reading the news and going into an emotional tailspin with each new, daily horror.

2020 became The New Abnormal.

But according to the stars, this era of patriarchal rage and elitism is on its last dying breath. On December 21st, the Winter Solstice, our universe is going to make a massive shift. Toward all the good we can handle.

Discussing the dawn of this amazing new era with me is world renowned intuitive guide, spiritual teacher and bestselling author, Sonia Choquette. We’re going to speak in great detail of The Great Conjunction, which many astrologers are calling one of the biggest astrological events of our lifetime. Light beings believe the world is about to change profoundly.

On December 21, a rare alignment between Jupiter and Saturn, is set to shake things up politically, socially, and affect your personal life as well.

THIS IS A NEW ERA WHERE YOU CAN CREATE HUGE POSITIVE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE

The only question you should be asking is, How Good Can I Stand It?

This is a rare moment in our lifetimes, a pivot away from the ego, toxic masculinity, top down power, age of rage. According to Sonia, we are stepping into a new era of happiness, pleasure and enlightenment.

We talk about what you need to do in order to open yourself up to receiving this incredible bounty coming our way, and what you need to do to create unlimited abundance of happiness.

Hint: Enjoy it.

Now, you may not believe in astrology. You may not believe in Divine Spirit, your guides or the vibrations of energy around you. And that’s totally fine. You do you. But regardless of anyone's believe, I think that we, as a civilization, need a serious reboot.

We all need hope. And whatever you believe or don’t believe, the fact is, it’s time for the world to change for the better. I want to do whatever I can to be a part of that change. It’s a radical concept, but I want to experience all of the happiness, pleasure, and love that I can stand.

And I can stand a lot.

TO LEARN WITH SONIA CHOQUETTE, BOOK AN APPOINTMENT OR JOIN THE GOOD VIBES TRIBE GO TO WWW.SONIACHOQUETTE.NET

Check out Sonia’s podcast that she hosts with her two daughters Sabrina and Sonia, called It’s All Related.

A New York Times bestselling author, Sonia’s books include…

Ask Your Guides: Connecting To Your Divine Support System

The Psychic Pathway: A Workbook for Reawakening the Voice of Your Soul

Your Heart's Desire: Instructions for Creating the Life You Really Want

Walking Home: A Pilgrimage from Humbled to Healed

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A great way for you to start enjoying this new energy coming our way is to get your free copy of my 2021 PLEASURE CHECKLIST!

Email me at info@sexedthemusical.com for this free guide to pleasure, adventure, my favorite must-haves, plus a highly scientific checklist that will help you get your sex life back on track.

We’re Going To Have Some Fucking Fun In 2021!

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What do plastic sheets, the New York City Fire Department, an overzealous puppy, an errant sesame seed and a head injury have in common?

They all play hilarious roles in the true confessions you’re about to hear.

That’s right folks, it’s time for an entire episode of sex fails, our First Annual Screw Confessions Extravaganza!!!

Get ready for a bunch of absolutely true and hilarious sex fails, told by listeners and guests of the show. Every one of these stories is so wrong and yet so very right.

So, put on your laughing pants, sit back and press play. I promise you’ll feel a lot better about yourself when it’s over.

ELLE

(That’s not her real name).

Just like the previous Under Covers (episodes 23-26, 37), this is a completely candid interview with a woman I’ve never met, about the most intimate details of her sex life. In each of these conversations, I’m asking women the same questions and I’m not at all surprised to discover how much so many of us have in common. Whether it’s the fear and shame associated with sex education, our first sexual encounters, the identical lies we’re told by others, or the lies we tell ourselves — it’s all there.

That said, this particular conversation takes quite a few highly unexpected turns.

All you need to know in advance is that Elle is 41, the mother of three, and one night experienced the biggest breach of trust imaginable in her marriage.

That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

Touch.

It’s the first sense we acquire. There are enormous emotional and physical health benefits that can come from human touch. Yet, many of us are going through life touch deprived. Floating through the world, self-armored yet longing for a personal connection.

Now you can buy that connection and start healing.

Cuddle Sanctuary is one of several new specialty organizations offering people the unique health benefits of personal human touch. 100% non-sensual, this touch therapy releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin, creates a safe space for people, and helps many find a well-needed semblance of connection in an increasingly fractured society.

In this episode I speak with Jean Franzblau, the founder of Los Angeles-based Cuddle Sanctuary. As we cuddle together in Jean’s lovely Cuddle Cottage (photos below), Jean explains all of the amazing benefits of her service, how she remains safe and exactly who seeks out her services.

You may be surprised.

To find out more about Cuddle Sanctuary and for free stuff and cuddle swag go to: http://cuddlesanctuary.com/store/

To find out how you can become part of this amazing group, check out Cuddle Sanctuary training: http://cuddlesanctuary.com/train-with-us/

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If you’d like to become a champion cuddler, Jean recommends you immediately pick up The Cuddle Sutra

If you’re looking for a professional cuddler outside of LA, Jean recommends:

https://cuddlist.com/

https://www.certifiedcuddlers.com/

I’m not the most adventurous eater. In fact, you can say I’m downright picky. There are some foods I flat out refuse to try. Brussels sprouts, lima beans, potato salad — even though I’d never tasted them, I was certain I hated them.

Then one day my husband made brussels sprouts and I tried them. And I liked them! Hey Mikey! Now, whenever I’m in the mood, I eat brussels sprouts.

Believe it or not, your sexual orientation has a lot in common with brussels sprouts. All of your life you can be convinced that you are ONLY ONE WAY. I am gay and that’s it! I am straight and that’s it! I’m asexual and that’s it!

But then someone comes along, lays some serious mack on you and the next thing you know you’re getting a hand job from a hot redhead in a dressing room of the Marshalls in Burbank.

Of course, I’m speaking hypothetically.

But, there’s a pretty good reason why you don’t have to be so defiantly locked in to your sexual orientation. Like any other trait or restrictive beliefs you might have, there’s always some room for fun and new experiences.

Which brings us to the concept of Sexual Fluidity.

On this episode, I speak with a woman who’s the all-time Sexual Fluidity champion of the world. Her sexual orientation has taken more thrilling twists and turns than the Monaco Grand Prix. And the best part is, she’s happily going along for the ride.

Whether you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex, or asexual…or a combination of any of these…or none of them, this show has something for you. Because, whether or not you use the correct terminology, humans don’t actually fit in categories. We’re changeable. Evolving. Allowed to change our minds. We’re all fluid.

There’s a funny thing about labels. They don’t really matter at all. As W.C. Fields once said,

“It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”

If you’re curious about where you would land on the sexual orientation scale, in 1948, Drs. Alfred Kinsey, Wardell Pomeroy, and Clyde Martin interviewed thousands of people about their sexual histories. They used this data to develop a Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale—more commonly known as “The Kinsey Scale.” There’s no official “Kinsey Test” you can take to find out your designation. However, many folks have collated the questions and created their own versions of the Kinsey Scale Test designed to determine where you would land on the Heterosexual/ Homosexual spectrum.

From the folks who brought you such quizzes as, Which Vegetarian Pizza Topping Are You? and Which Friends Supporting Cast Member Would You Most Like To Murder? here’s a very fun Buzzfeed version of the Kinsey Scale Test.

Fun Fact: I took the test and the outcome was hella accurate. Also, it turns out I’m a Mushroom and I’d like to murder Gunther.

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You get your teeth cleaned. You get your oil changed. You replace the batteries in your smoke detectors.

It’s a fact that certain things in life require regular maintenance.

Your sex life is one of those things.

In this episode, I speak with licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Shannon Chavez.

A nationally recognized expert, public speaker and prolific writer, Dr. Chavez specializes in “all things sexuality” working with individuals and couples (of all genders and orientations).

Because your sex life requires regular maintenance, it’s important to check in with an expert regularly, instead of waiting until you’re in crisis mode.

In this episode, we talk about how challenging it can be to suggest to a partner that you see a sex therapist.

Also, in order to enjoy a healthy sex life, Dr. Chavez recommends:

• What items should be removed from your bedroom immediately.
• How to create more intimacy with your partner outside of the bedroom.
• How to establish your rules as a couple.

Plus, she shares:

FIVE SIGNS YOU AND YOUR PARTNER SHOULD SEE A SEX THERAPIST

1. Communication Breakdowns
2. Constant Shaming or Shutting Down Requests
3. Unsure Where To Start In Order To Fix Their Relationships
4. Common Avoidance Patterns
5. Unable To Settle Issues Without Professional Guidance

Later, Dr. Chavez and I bond over our fondness for Liberator brand sex furniture (made in USA!)

The Liberator Sex Chaise (She owns one)

The Liberator Ramp (I own one)

The Liberator Wedge (I own one)

We also talk about our dream TV show that combines sex and interior design. This concept is registered and any attempt to produce it without my permission will be met with several very angry lawyers.

Dr. Chavez can be reached on Twitter @drshannonchavez

Check out her videos on YouTube

And find her on Facebook

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One year ago, this week, the TV show I was writing sent everyone home because of COVID. We all figured it would be a week or two but that hiatus turned into a week or 52. Now, after a year of being locked at home, setting aside the non-stop stress of the past year, have you figured out how to enjoy private time with your partner in a house filled with other people?

I’m guessing no.

On today’s show, I speak with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a nationally recognized sex therapist, relationship expert, licensed psychotherapist and educator specializing in “all things sexuality” for women, men, LGBTQIA, and couples.

She shares all sorts of great ways you can ask for and create space for private time, and best practices to establish boundaries with the kids in your house so you can enjoy adult play. Many parents think establishing boundaries with their kids will create problems. I assure you it’s NOT setting boundaries that creates much bigger problems. And you're always allowed to establish new boundaries whenever you wish.

From a little planning ahead, small gestures to make with your partner throughout the day, and a few sneaky tricks that will guarantee some private time, Shannon offers all sorts of ways to get the conversation started with the little ones, and get the party started later with your big one.

Based in Beverly Hills, CA, if you’d like to schedule a complimentary consultation or learn more about Dr. Chavez’s mind-body approach to sexual health and pleasure enhancement, she can be reached at https://drshannonchavez.com/ or by phone at 323.920.9473.

You can also find her online @drshannonchavez, plus check out her her YouTube channel for more helpful tips.

Speaking of Stealth Sex…

My new sponsor, Joyboxx would like to give one lucky listener a free Joyboxx! In order to win, email us a photo of how you store your pleasure products. Maybe you keep everything in a yucky shoe box under your bed. Maybe your crusty nightstand drawer? Maybe the top shelf of your closet? The bottom line is, if you’re not storing your pleasure products in an anti-microbial Joyboxx, you’re asking for all sorts of dirty trouble. And not the good kind of dirty either.

Email us a photo of your nightstand drawer or wherever you’re storing your pleasure products. The most tragic one will receive a free Joyboxx. Seriously, you’re asking for all sorts of germy trouble if you store your sex toys in the wrong place. Come correct with a Joyboxx.

Also be sure to use the code SEXED20 to get 20% off of your next order. I actually own two Joyboxxes…but, as you could imagine, I have a lot of sex toys.

Send those photos now to info@sexedthemusical. Don’t worry, we won’t ever reveal your name. Send your photos today!

PENIS OWNERS! We’re doing a show on first boners and we need your funny/mortifying stories. If you have a first boner story you’d like to share on the show, email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

If you judged an entire group of people based on the t-shirts that are marketed to them at Target, then you’d think all women are obsessed with wine, dogs, and the TV show Friends. Whether or not we all are (we’re not), the fact is, there’s a lot about women that’s completely manufactured in order just to sell us t-shirts. Meanwhile, information about our true desires is hidden away in shame.

Well, as your favorite truth teller I’m here to say that it turns out women over 40 are actual true genuine real sexual beings just like other human people types. What!?!? Yes, it’s hella true. We’re also not all obsessed with wine, dogs or whoever the fuck is your lobster. It’s more likely that we’re obsessed with Idris Elba. At least the 100 members of the 40 Thrive community who responded to our semi-scientific sex survey claim to be hotter for Mr. Elba than anyone else. But can you blame them?

No, you cannot.

Searching for truth over marketing, we asked 100 women over 40 a series of questions about their sex lives including sexual fantasies, how often they’re having sex, how happy they are in bed and how likely they are to hook up with another lady person. The answers may surprise you.

My co-host for this episode is my very good friend and podcast doula, Jackie MacDougall who reached out to the 40 Thrive Community, which she runs.

She also did all of the math.

During our conversation, I refer back to a previous episode I did on cheating, you can listen to it here.

Even if you’re also a woman over 40, whatever you think you know about the sex lives and desires of your fellow women over 40 is probably incorrect. Except the Idris Elba part because, duh!

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I know a lot of amazing single women. Highly accomplished. Attractive. Stable. Confident. Driven. Smart women.

They have careers. They have homes. They have their shit together.

Mathematically, you’d think there are at least a similar amount of men out there who share those attributes.

Apparently…not so much.

So where are all of these eligible men?

In this episode I interview acclaimed author, sexuality researcher and educator Lou Paget. The author of the game-changing sex guide for women How to be a Great Lover, Lou has been featured on Real Sex on HBO, and has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Redbook and my living room.

In this episode, I ask Lou why so many women are having a hard time finding eligible bachelors and she has some very surprising answers.

• What you’re really buying when you marry for money.
• The fastest way to turn off a guy.
• Why a dog is woman’s best friend.

If you’re a straight single woman who’s been having no luck finding an eligible man, this episode may have exactly what you need…ya know, other than the actual guy.

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Sex Education has a controversial history in this country.

Deliberate misinformation, scare tactics, religious corruption, institutionalized misogyny, and archaic educational materials are all part of the story.

Sex education isn’t required in every state and even if it is taught in your state, it’s not always required to be factually and technically accurate.

State and Local Legislators Decide What Can Be Taught in Sex Education

Even though it’s been proven conclusively that Abstinence Only Education DOES NOT WORK, there’s a very clear and direct correlation between unintended teen pregnancies and the states with conservative politics that will only teach abstinence.

No abstinence-only-until-marriage program has been shown to have any impact on young people’s behavior.

If you’ve had any institutionalized sex education in this country, there’s a good chance you were taught something wildly inaccurate.

SO I’M CELEBRATING THOSE LIES!

On this episode, I share some of the best worst lies I’ve heard.

I also play clips from this masterpiece: Molly Grows Up.

But Wait, There’s More!

Planned Parenthood is the nation’s largest provider of sex education, and they are under attack.

Therefore, for every download this episode gets in its first week of release, I will donate $1 to Planned Parenthood, up to $2000. Meaning, if 2000 people download the episode, I’ll donate $2000. It’s that simple.

If you want to match my donation, comment below.

I’ll also be posting daily stats on Instagram @SexEdMusicalPodcast

Correction: I mistakenly state in this episode that 39 states require that abstinence is included in sex education. The actual number is 37 states that require abstinence is included in sex education. I regret the mistake but not as much as I regret abstinence only sex education.

Well, if there’s one thing we’ve learned in the past few months it’s that pandemics are great for sex toy sales. Sure, movie theaters, malls and hair salons are shuttered, but sex toy sales are buzzing! I have friends who have actually worn out vibrators as they’re shelter in place.

But, what if you don’t have $120 for a new vibrator? Or you don’t feel comfortable ordering sex toys online? Worry not! We are people of the land! We are on the solutions team! I am about to teach you how you can DIY your own sex toys, dammit!

On this episode, I reveal how many things already lying around your house, are perfect fodder for homemade pleasure. Whether it’s a popular cooking oil, a much-maligned hair accessory or a favorite item from the produce department — you can absolutely create your own pleasure.

Pioneer Woman some sexy shit! That’s what I say. With a few simple hacks, the following items can deliver a lot of pleasure. Plus, you get even more pleasure of knowing that you did it all by yourself.

Look around your home for the following items:

• AN ARTIFICIAL PEARL NECKLACE
• A WOODEN SPOON
• SHOWER HEAD/TUB FILLER
• A YOGA BALL
• COCONUT OIL
• CANDLES
• SCARVES/NECKTIES
• A SCRUNCHIE
• CHEAP SHOWER CURTAIN/TABLECLOTH/TARP
• A CUCUMBER

Trust me when I tell you, when you can DIY your own pleasure, it's a whole new level of satisfaction.

Speaking of, here are all sorts of sexy positions you can try with your yoga ball. It’s like a core workout but with boning!

Win/win!!!

See ya next time…

It’s a dark, October night in Los Angeles.

I’m riding in the back of a strange man’s car.

All alone, I’m on my way to a Sex Party in a house full of strangers.

My husband has taken our kid to a theme park for Fright Night.

I chose not to join them.

Because I don’t like to be scared.

In this episode, on a totally last minute whim, I decide to attend a sex party.

Alone.

I have no idea who will be there.

I have no idea why I’ll be there.

But, much to my surprise, I go.

Then…things get scary.

And I like it.

The standards of masculinity are not exactly clear.

On one end of the spectrum, you have the guy driving a Prius who’s in touch with his feelings, does yoga, drinks kombucha, has tons of female friends and rejects all forms of violence.

On the other end, you have the guy driving a giant pick up truck who’s addicted to violence, porn, hating women, dominating men, and who rejects anything perceived as “feminine” such as admitting any kind of weakness or asking for help.

There has to be a middle ground. Perhaps a dude in a BMW addicted to violent yoga?

I don’t know. But it’s clear that with the rise of the #MeToo movement, rampant sexual violence and addiction, the normalization of misogynistic hate groups and the fact that an entire generation of young men are now being vastly outnumbered by women in college admissions, men are at a crisis point.

Can men be fixed?

This week’s guest, Traver Boehm believes they can. And he’s just the guy to do it.

Traver Boehm knows men. How they think, what’s behind their behavior, and most importantly — their unique challenges in today’s evolving landscape.

Traver is the the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the author of Man UNcivilized as well as a two time TEDx speaker, and podcaster.

Traver believes that many men are suffering from unprocessed trauma, more often than not, inflicted by other men. Of course, as one of millions of women who’ve had to endure unchecked male privilege, nauseating mansplaining, being paid less than male colleagues for the same work, sexual impropriety, walking through parking lots with keys laced through my fingers, being completely diminished, ignored, and charged more for just about everything, I have a somewhat difficult time feeling sorry for the apex predator.

On the other hand, I honestly like men and I think it would benefit everyone if the broken ones seriously got their shit together.

This is will not be an easy conversation for some of you to hear. If I somehow offend you with my feminist point of view, please know that I don’t fucking care.

(See list of justifiable complaints above).

To find out more about Traver Boehm’s work, the courses he offers, and his live workshops and retreats, go to manuncivilized.com

You can find Traver online @traverboehm and see his TEDx talk here.

If you occasionally get naked with men, and you want to take your pleasure and happiness to the next level, be sure to order a copy of my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, an Amazon #1 New Release in Sexual Health.

For every copy that’s sold, I promise to buy myself an unsweetened iced tea. See? Everybody wins!

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If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Infidelity is complicated for so many reasons. Many people can’t even agree on what cheating really is. If you got a lap dance at a club, is that cheating? If you flirted with a stranger at the grocery store, is that cheating? If you watched porn, is that cheating?

There are a lot of statistics about cheating available online and, unfortunately, a lot of the numbers are self-reported so their accuracy isn’t exactly guaranteed. I found one piece in the New York Times that said, “…national surveys indicate that 15% of married women and 25% of married men have had extramarital affairs. The incidence is about 20% higher when emotional and sexual relationships without intercourse are included.”

That’s a lot of cheating!

When it comes to infidelity, you can bury your head in the sand if you choose but, with those odds, there’s a good chance you’re going to encounter it in a relationship.

Then what?

On this podcast I speak with Robert Weiss. The author of 10 books on sex, intimacy and relationships including Sex Addiction 101, Out of the Doghouse: A Step-By-Step Relationship Saving Guide For Men Caught Cheating and Prodependence, Dr. Rob and I cover many infidelity topics including:

• WHY MEN TYPICALLY CHEAT
• THE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT REASONS WHY WOMEN TYPICALLY CHEAT
• WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING ON YOU
• THE ONE THING YOU CAN DO AS A COUPLE TO DRASTICALLY LOWER THE RISK OF INFIDELITY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Dr. Rob’s Sex, Love, and Addiction Podcast is a Top 10 Addiction Podcast. He also hosts a no-cost weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A on the Seeking Integrity sponsored website, SexandRelationshipHealing.com (@SexandHealing). The Sex and Relationship Healing website provides free information for addicts, partners of addicts, and therapists dealing with sex addiction, porn addiction, and substance abuse issues.

Dr. Rob can be contacted via Seeking Integrity.com and SexandRelationshipHealing.com. You can follow him on Twitter (@RobWeissMSW), LinkedIn (Robert Weiss LCSW), and Facebook (Rob Weiss MSW). 

Dr. Rob mentions the work of Psychotherapist Esther Perel, the bestselling author of Mating In Captivity, a bold and provocative take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity will transform the way you look at the rules of marriage and the way you live and love.

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Have you ever dated someone just in the name of science? I actually recommend it. For one thing, it removes a lot of the inherent fear and self-consciousness of the typical dating experience. It also helps your decision-making abilities because you’re in strict observation mode. Plus, if you keep a good field journal, you might get a good story out of it in the end.

The following dating story you’re about to hear is true.

No names have been changed because no one is innocent.

This episode follows one of the last disaster dates I went on back when I was single. Set in Chicago in the late 1980s and featuring a total stoner (not me), a legendary blues singer (also not me), and someone getting punched in the face (hopefully not me). Just sit back and press play cause this booze-fueled, emotional thrill ride, has just about everything.

And me.

Also, stick around for a brand new, hilarious Screw Confession. You may never look at Canadian hockey players the same way again.

If YOU have a Screw Confession you’d like to share on the show, we’d love to hear from you!

Please email us at info@sexedthemusical.com

Cynthia Nixon. Meredith Baxter. Niecy Nash. Cassandra Peterson/Elvira. Elizabeth Gilbert. Glennon Doyle. Carol Liefer. Wanda Sykes.

What do the incredibly accomplished and talented women on this list all have in common?

They all dated and/or married men…until later in life when they all fell in love with other woman.

Often to their own surprise.

Known as Later in Life Lesbians, these women discovered an entirely new level of intimacy, happiness and sexual satisfaction, with members of the same sex.

It should be no surprise. In a recent study, 95% of heterosexual men said they reached orgasm when being sexually intimate. How many hetero women had orgasms with their male partners? 65%.

Read that again. 95% of straight men had orgasms. 65% of straight women. In comparison, the orgasm rate for lesbians was 86%. Not that I even need to explain this, but the women who reported more orgasms were recipients of more oral sex.

Because, of course.

Men, I’ve been saying this for years. You are the next Fotomat.

What is driving so many women to switch teams later in life? Is this part of a much bigger trend? Is this all a backlash because so many straight women are sexually dissatisfied due to their male partners? Is this all about the dishwasher?

Whatever the case may be, sexuality is lot more fluid than many realize.

To get some answers, I speak with Coming Out Coach, Anne-Marie Zanzal. An author, and herself, a later in life lesbian, she provides one-on-one and group coaching to women coming out later in life. Her memoir Authentic Peace tells the story of her chaotic childhood, challenging marriage, sexual awakening, and recreating her life after 50.

We talk about the growing phenomenon of women becoming lesbians later in life. The not-so surprising reasons behind their decisions. And then she gives me her Are You Secretly a Lesbian test.

It was an oral exam, natch.

No matter where you are on your journey, there’s a good chance you’ve made many life choices for reasons you don’t even realize. A lot of people stay in unsuccessful relationships for all sorts of reasons. It can be challenging to understand a brand new attraction or perhaps feelings you’ve kept suppressed for years.

But, remember, life is short. You deserve all of the happiness and consensual pleasure you desire.

Anne-Marie’s Social Media Links

Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/revzanzal

Website — https://annemariezanzal.com/

Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/annemariezanzalcoaching/

O Quarterly — https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a37762569/late-in-life-lesbian-story/

Blog — https://annemariezanzal.com/tips-on-queer-dating-when-coming-out-later-in-life-by-reina-gattuso/

Additional Information Resources

https://www.wellandgood.com/coming-out-later-in-life/

https://www.chatelaine.com/living/coming-out-later-in-life/

https://www.wbur.org/npr/129050832/story.php

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/things-lesbians-want-you-to-know_b_8577926

Hey, if your book club reads my book, 3 Secrets to the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, I’ll Zoom in, say hello and we can have a quick Q&A. We’ll keep it fun and light. It’s a great way for me to get to know to the folks who are enjoying my book. Is that you? Yes!?!

Well then let’s talk, sister!

Email me and I’ll Zoom into your book club for some fun.

Some restrictions apply…I just haven’t figured them out yet.

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

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There’s that voice in your head. That voice that can be very critical of you at the worst moments possible. We do all sorts of work to try to control that voice. Silence it. Take control of that voice and shut it down. Well, according to acclaimed Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt, that strategy is completely backwards.

In this episode, Allana Pratt reveals that we need not to silence or to kill that voice, but to seduce it. Make love to that voice. Let it know that it’s being heard and that it’s wanted and safe. I know! This goes against everything I’ve ever tried but, full disclosure, I’ve had very little success controlling that inner critic so clearly, I have been doing things all wrong. (That last comment courtesy of my inner critical voice).

Sit back and open your mind as I interview openhearted, unapologetic, learned and incredibly saucy intimacy expert and certified coach, Allana Pratt, who shares that Intimacy is an Inside Job.

Surviving a few messy breakups of her own, and after 20 years of helping singles and couples, Allana has discovered that most intimacy struggles boil down to a few common blind spots that once healed, allow vulnerable, authentic relationships to survive.

Working with men, women, couples and singles, Allana fearlessly leads you through the fire of your own inner critic, leaving you in a yummy pile of ashes so you can rise like the Phoenix and own your own power. We get into all of that and so much more in this very interesting conversation.

Instead of silencing, how do you seduce your inner critic?

How can you move past the devastation of heartbreak?

How can you use your vagina to get free bacon at a restaurant?

Okay, that last piece of advice is from me, but it’s still quite powerful. Check out this conversation and stay for the amazing advice she gives at the end about self-care in these uncertain times. It will help you get through the long and nerve-racking nights.

LET’S HIT THE LINKS!

Read Allana Pratt’s blog posts here.

Check out Allana’s YouTube channel with intimacy breakthrough videos here.

Discover your Intimacy Blind Spots here.

Contact Allana for coaching here.

Read my Medium post that’s pretty much exactly opposite of Allana’s advice, here.

I don’t know about the rest of you but it is non-stop sex having in my house. Oh totally! In between a home-schooled teen, the two of us working day and night, running errands for my elderly parents, trying not to watch the news, making sure all of the bills are getting paid, and wondering if there will ever be an end to this pandemic, our sex drives are OFF THE CHART!

And when I say, “off the chart” I mean, nonexistent.

Yeah, if your sex drive has vaporized, too, you are not alone. We are living in a time of maximum boner killers. But, all is not lost and help is here!

I reached out to my favorite Canadian, Dr. Jessica O’Reilly earlier this year to see if she has some tools that couples can use in order to reignite the spark and be more mindful of each other’s needs — ya know while navigating all of these endless boner killers. An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program.

Jessica has some great solutions for all of us and, because she’s so awesome, she’s offering my listeners an exclusive discount on select videos. Use the code WENDY for a 25% discount on Jess’ Mindful Sex, Last Longer in Bed: 6 Steps to Master Premature Ejaculation, Drive Him Wild With Pleasure & Drive Her Wild With Pleasure video courses, all found at happiercouples.com

Plus, use the code SEXMASTERCLASS to get 100% off of her Sexual Skills & Confidence Master Class! 100%! Come on, you’re not doing anything else right now except shopping online for dumb crap you don’t need, so spend some quality time with your partner and in just 30 minutes you can learn really smart strategies that will help boost your sexual confidence.

Gluten is bad for you! Step away from the sourdough bread-making and start focusing on love making!!!

Jessica shares some amazing things you and your partner can do in order to stay connected during these COVID times. Things that are simple, mindful and will not gross out your kids. Don’t worry if you’re not in the mood for sex right now. Just get reconnected first. The boning will soon follow. These techniques are terrific.

Dr. Jess’ latest book, The Ultimate Guide To Seduction and Foreplay is available wherever books are sold.

For much more of her insights, listen to the podcast SEX WITH DR. JESS. You might hear me on an episode or two.

For all things Dr. Jess, go to www.sexwithdrjess.com

Her video series can be found at happiercouples.com

And she’s on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram @sexwithdrjess

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In a world that routinely shuts down, dominates, gaslights, harasses, and demeans people of color, you’d think Black folks would not be interested in power play.

Well, you would be wrong.

“But I never see any Black folks in the kink world!”

Maybe that’s because when we see representations of kink in movies, online, on the “adults only” magazine rack behind the slushee machine at a gas station, we typically see 50 shades of white people. Sadly, we exist in a world that treats whiteness as a default. Orrrrrr, when you finally do see people of color, it’s often because they’re being fetishized by white people.

What if you are a person of color and you want to engage in a little kink? Is that going to be even more difficult than getting served some motherfucking eggs at Denny’s?

Hopefully, not.

On this episode, I get the lowdown on accessing pleasure, and the Black kink scene from therapist, educator and sex-positive enthusiast, Shanae “HonestlyNae” Adams. Shanae is on a mission of sexuality normalization, explanation and melinated representation. Known for leading dynamic workshops, a sex-positive mindset and eliminating taboos, Shanae takes me into the world of Black kinksters.

We talk about being an ethical Domme, the unique healing properties of kink, how to make sure you’re in a safe kink space, and how diverse groups are embracing their sexuality and finding deep pleasure through exploring hierarchical relationships and the dynamics of power play.

Shanae also offers really amazing tips for all of us to learn how to access and then demand pleasure. Hint: It doesn’t involve sex. At first, anyway.

I’m so grateful that Shanae introduced me to a world about which I knew absolutely nothing. Her deep understanding of opening yourself up to pleasure and the healing properties of kink are just a couple of the reasons why Shanae is a “go to” expert in the world of sexuality.

Want to learn more about your favorite things? Start listening to new people.

To work with Shanae or find out about her upcoming seminars, check out her website, HonestlyNae.com.

Check out the Sex Down South conference to see if you’d like to attend. Use Shanae’s discount code SHANAESDS and save 20%!

Here’s The Nap Ministry mentioned by Shanae.

Here is a list of Black Owned Sex Toy/Sexual Health Brands.

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Imagine one day you’re heartbroken, alone, and then to make matters worse, totally rejected by some random stranger in a seedy basement sex shop in New York. But within a few years, you are transformed into the most desirable woman in the room.

This amazing metamorphosis really happened, and you’re about to find out how.

On this week’s podcast, I speak to the Swinging Single Girl. We follow her story as she transforms from a brokenhearted reject into the most coveted person in a room full of sexy people. This is exactly the kind of evolution that can happen when you believe in yourself, embrace a life of adventure, and are completely open to the world's most interesting possibilities.

You’ll learn what it’s like to completely reinvent yourself in the swinging lifestyle, important lessons about setting boundaries both sexual and personal, and understanding the difference between love and just random sex with your friends…things we can all benefit from mastering.

Whether or not you’re interested in becoming part of this lifestyle, it doesn’t matter. Having spent five seasons on the set of the hit reality show Swing on Playboy TV, working alongside and then befriending many people in the lifestyle, I learned incredible lessons about my own closed-mindedness, why I was so defiantly boring, and that BBC doesn’t always stand for the British Broadcasting Corporation.

You’ll have to trust me on that one.

One of many topless women to have hugged me while I was at work, The Swinging Single Girl is incredibly honest, communicative, and self-aware — one of the many benefits of being in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Even if you can’t identify with her journey and life choices, there’s an awful lot anyone can learn here.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Imagine if your job is selling a product that is likely be rejected by 29 out of 30 buyers. Those are terrible odds. Well if you’re a TV producer trying to sell new shows, that’s a pretty typical fail rate.

On this episode I speak with Dave Noll, a wildly successful TV producer who has created, pitched and sold some of the most iconic TV shows in history, including the Food Network mega-hit franchise, Chopped.

But Dave’s path to the chopping block was loaded with booby traps, ridiculous detours, and, at one point, an angry butler and a dog.

I’m telling you right now, it’s a miracle any TV shows get made.

In this really fun conversation, Dave shares his rocky road to the top of the TV heap and how every rejection is actually a positive thing. Plus, to keep him nervous, we play a very fun game where I test his knowledge of TV shows about sex.

His answers genuinely surprise me.

If you want to follow along with Dave’s amazing adventures in the crazy world of creating and selling TV shows, you can follow him on LinkedIn, Instagram or Twitter @davenolltv. Even if you’re not a TV geek like me, all of his stories are inspiring and ridiculously entertaining.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

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For the third of this month’s Listener Favorite episodes, I present Under Covers “Nadia”

These Under Covers episodes came from a desire to share with women all sorts of amazing and true stories of women of all ages, economic, social and religious backgrounds. What I started to realize is that even though we’re all so different, in many ways we are the same.

If you want to take a deep dive into the first ten Under Covers episodes, check out this piece all about all of the conversations on Medium.com.

This episode clearly hit a chord with my listeners as it is the third most popular episode of all time. I was completely blown away by this woman’s confidence and how she became the total boss of her sex life while she was still a teenager. We can all learn a lot from her.

If you’d like to be interviewed Under Covers, please email me today and we can set it up. Also, don’t forget, all 5-star reviews left this month will receive their very own CUSTOM JINGLE performed by me on the show!!! Come on! Leave me some love and I will sing you a personalized jingle. You can’t put a price on awesome!

Alright friends, sit back and enjoy my third most popular episode OF ALL TIME, Under Covers “Nadia”

NADIA

(That’s not her real name).

Just like the previous Under Covers conversations, there’s a lot I could share with you about Nadia in advance, but the truth is, I knew absolutely nothing about her when I started this interview. I didn’t know her age, her job, her socioeconomic status, her religious background, where she lived, nothing. And that was 100% deliberate because these are bits of information we all use to subtly judge and categorize each other in advance. I wanted all of that off the table because going into an interview blind is a great way for me to experience these conversations exactly like you will.

I never knew what her answers were going to be.

This is all about hearing other women’s stories with no bias whatsoever, and realizing that there may be aspects of another woman’s vastly different life that actually resonates with your own. Suddenly, you’re not so alone anymore. Suddenly things make a little more sense. Maybe by hearing these stories, you can move forward with the knowledge that we’re all in this together and the best way for all of us to start healing is to start sharing our differences with each other.

With no judgment.

So, I will keep this brief.

All you need to know in advance is that Nadia is 31, married and polyamorous.

That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

MEMORABLE QUOTES

“There was a decade of my life where I was like, I’m only going to have sex with you if you excite me tremendously. So that was like a lot of really great sex for a while.”

“I’ve always felt constrained by the rules of monogamy.”

“The thing with rules is that whenever a rule is set, people want to break it.”

“I’m always loving multiple people. That’s a thing that is very real for me.”

“I think a lot of people often don’t understand that this kind of arrangement actually requires way more trust. Way more communication.”

“Most marriages do end and I’m much more hopeful for the longevity of my partnership now that we are open and talking about these things.”

Be sure to check out all of my super fun writing on Medium.com. It’s exactly like the podcast only completely different.

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May was National Masturbation Month! Did you spend all 31 days dialing your rotary phone?

I certainly hope so.

You may not realize this, but one of the keys to stronger, longer lasting orgasms is a healthy pelvic floor. But what is a pelvic floor, and does it require a cork underlayment?

Sorry…I watch a lot of home improvement shows.

On this episode, I talk to Dr. Rachel Gelman. With over 15,000 hours of clinical practice under her belt (pun intended) Rachel is a leading expert on pelvic health. For the next half hour, she’s your guide to, as she calls it, the “cave of wonders.” We learn the ins and outs of these true core muscles and how painful sex, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and many other issues are often signs you should see a pelvic health expert.

We talk about the Kegel industrial complex, menopause myths, and why you should not be afraid to see a pelvic health expert.

At 20:04 Dr. Gelman offers simple tips to help you maintain tip top pelvic health, and even reveals the $25 late night infomercial product that might be the solution to everything.

I am not shitting you! (Hint, hint.)

Absolutely delightful, brilliant and dedicated to ensuring the success of your downstairs business, Rachel Gelman treats people of all genders in her San Francisco office.

She also offers telehealth appointments.

Find out more about Rachel Gelman or book an appointment at https://www.pelvicwellpt.com

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Grindr. Launched in 2009, it’s been called “the world’s biggest, scariest, gay bar” by Vanity Fair. And they ought to know.

A location-based social networking and dating app used in almost every corner of the planet, Grindr reportedly has over 20 million members with over 3 million men using the app everyday — especially closeted Republicans who like to unwind with rent boys after an exhausting day of legislating against gay rights. See ya soon, Lindsey!

After you download Grindr, you enter what you’re looking for on your personal profile, what you can offer to other lucky people, and then you get all sorts of matches. Plus it tells you how close they are. Hot daddy with smelly feet 30 yards away!

Hooking up with randos was never so easy!

If you’re still not clear, here’s how it all works, courtesy of Conan O’Brien and Billy Eichner.

On this episode, I speak to my favorite new musical genius Adam Shenk, who after receiving tons of ridiculous pick up lines on Grindr, decided to set the worst of the worst to music. He created an Instagram page called @popgrindr and the rest is history. His jingles are quite beautiful and Adam is clearly very talented. Thousands of followers agree.

When he’s not creating beautiful jingles out of load-blowing requests, Adam is a mainstream singer/songwriter who is legit talented. Here’s his youtube channel. Hire him to play at your event, while you can still afford him.

I ask Adam what his rules are for jinglefying a pick up line, he plays some of his favorite songs and then I ask him to create a very special jingle on the spot, just for me. It’s quite lovely, you won’t want to miss it.

Also, if you’re ever in Southeastern New Jersey and looking to have anonymous sex, consider The Swan Motel in Linden. As heard on @popgrindr, the Swan Motel is on Route 1. Walking distance to Home Depot AND Applebees!

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PREESH!

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We already know that due to the COVID pandemic, it’s not currently safe to attend a crowded restaurant. It’s not safe to attend a busy gym. It’s not safe to attend large religious gatherings.

So…it’s almost certainly not safe to attend an orgy.

What’s a sexually adventurous person to do?

Attend one online?

That’s right, thanks to the pandemic, some folks are now opting for video platforms such as Skype, Zoom and FaceTime for their orgies. UK-based, high-end sex party club Killing Kittens hosted a 100 person orgy online in March complete with burlesque performers, a cage, a live DJ, and 100 masked members.

But, despite the fact that they are having a moment, Zoom, is not exactly thrilled with this burgeoning use for their beloved platform. They announced earlier this year that they were going to crack down (no pun intended) on “unacceptable use” and use machine learning to detect sex parties and nudity. For research. Totally.

Meanwhile, they have much bigger problems than a bunch of folks e-banging online. With so much Zoom usage due to the pandemic, the platform faced a huge privacy and security backlash as their default settings lacked real security. Suddenly pranksters started crashing private Zoom meetings, playing offensive videos and being all around creeps.

Zoom, you have much bigger problems than policing a bunch of consensual orgies!

Now that virtual play parties are the new normal and actually a very safe entry point into the sex party world, how do you find one? What happens when you get in? What are the rules?

My guest Lila Donnolo is a veteran host and sex educator. The brilliant mind behind the podcast Horizontal With Lila, she is a founding member of Hacienda Villa, a sex-positive intentional community in Brooklyn, NY. Lila is an expert in making private conversations public, being in service of eradicating shame, and at cultivating connection. On this episode, she reveals exactly what you need to do to get invited to a virtual sex party. The importance of knowing and following the rules. How you let attendees know if you’re interested in e-playing with them. How you protect your privacy once you start playing, and even how you protect your keyboard. These are things you need to do before you screw…online.

During our conversation, we also reflect back on the sex party I attended without my husband last year, and the lessons I learned from that crazy night.

Contact Lila for your Personal Intimacy Roadmap, 60-minute sessions of sex-positive, judgment-free, kink-aware, LGBTQ+ celebratory, gender-affirming guidance on your intimate struggles. A session includes: exercises, techniques, recommendations, homework & a tailored document you can refer back to like your own personal intimacy road map!

Definitely check out Horizontal with Lila and follow  @horizontalwithlila on Instagram. I’m going to have a much deeper conversation with her later this summer about her work at Hacienda Villa, her podcast and why she’s currently hanging out in an Indonesian jungle. She will be back on for a much bigger conversation very soon.

Meanwhile, here’s another link I mentioned: 9 Dope Podcasts About Black Love, Family and Sex That Keep It All The Way Real. Please support these podcasts and amplify BIPOC voices whenever you can.

Here’s a link to my writing on Medium.com if you want to read about my crazy adventures as head of programming at Playboy TV. Trust me, you totally do.

Now I’m gonna make some space in my nightstand for a roll of plastic wrap. Cause...well, ya never know...

See you next time!

Wendy

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Preesh!!!

For my very first Thanksgiving episode, I want to take this opportunity to say THANK YOU and to express my gratitude to all of you for finding this show and for listening.

On this day every year, we give thanks for the many things in our lives for which we are grateful, and I want you to take a moment and also give thanks for your sex life.

We all need be SEXUALLY THANKFUL.

Take a few minutes and listen to find out how you can make it a regular practice to be grateful for your body, for the pleasure in your life and the myriad benefits of making gratitude part of your daily routine.

Hint: Being grateful directly improves your sex life.

Thank you again for listening to the show and for investing in your sexual happiness. I feel very thankful that you’ve chosen to spend your time with me and to have the opportunity to create and host this show for you.

I hope you have a very happy, thankful and sexy holiday!

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Astrology has been around in various forms for thousands of years. Some people call it a pseudoscience, while many highly successful people base all of their major decisions on the stars.

Where you stand on the subject is your business. I’m not an expert in astrology by a long shot, but I can’t help but notice that there are very similar traits shared by friends who were born under the same signs. Eerily similar sometimes. Plus, I’ve had plenty of vivid psychic premonitions come true and multiple otherworldly experiences so I’m much more open-minded about the metaphysical world than others.

For my last birthday I decided to treat myself to a astrological reading. I asked around for some referrals and my friend Damona Hoffman, host of the podcast Dates & Mates recommended an astrologer she’s had on her show, Danny Santos.

Then I discovered that Danny specializes in sex/love/relationship/intimacy astrological compatibility!

SO I HAD TO HAVE HIM ON THIS PODCAST!!!

From the age of 11 years old, Danny Santos has shown an active interest in studying Astrology and Tarot. With Spanish and Cuban roots, both sides of his family have always been deeply connected to spirituality. Danny’s great grandmother was a tarot reader in her local village in Spain [and Danny still has the deck she read with to this day]. Through the guidance of other practitioners, Danny has spent nearly two decades furthering his education in astrology and tarot.

In his practice, Danny specializes in readings for couples, and will delve into their romantic compatibility using astrology, numerology and tarot. Danny’s readings give partners a unique glimpse into their romantic and sexual futures to see if their sexual stars are aligned. Remember, he’s not a licensed therapist so please enter into this work with an open mind and heart. You can find Danny online @santoscrystalvisions and arrange a reading with him by calling (248) 953-9082.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

We’ve all been there. You have a few too many drinks with your friends. You go back to some guy's apartment. On the way in, you face plant and smash your front teeth.

Okay, maybe that particular story hasn't happened to you, but it's definitely happened to someone.

On Disaster Dates 2, every single story takes a turn for the ‘What the fuck?!?’

Leading off is the hilarious Gia Mora. When her date says he’s taking her to an Earth Wind & Fire concert, Gia is beyond thrilled. Unfortunately, every thought is a dream, rushing by in a stream, bringing life to the kingdom of sanctimonious assholes. Also, you might not want to date a dude if his car is known for killing people. #JustSayin

Next up, the brilliant Lisa Laureta takes us along on a couple of dates that seem bad, but after further review, are actually horrific. Let’s just say, the neck tattoo should have been all the warning she needed.

Then, bringing us home with the shittiest story on this show (you’ll get that in a moment) is the fearlessly funny Cristi Rumpza. I wish this Disaster Date had been filmed to be used as either a cautionary After School Special or a John Waters movie. With every turn, this just gets bonkers.

Gia, Lisa, Cristi and I are all part of WhoHaHa (@whohaha) a creative community and digital content studio co-founded by actress, director, producer and overall mega-badass Elizabeth Banks. WhoHaHa celebrates and elevates women in comedy. I’m proud to be part of this amazing collective of funny, fierce and hella brave women.

Check it out and support the work of the amazingly talented women in this community.

CASTING CALL: IF YOU HAVE A DISASTER DATE OR FUNNY SEX FAIL YOU’D LIKE TO SHARE ON THE SHOW, I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU A.S.A.P. PLEASE EMAIL ME AT INFO@SEXEDTHEMUSICAL.COM PREESH!

ALSO! Now that sanity won and the dumpster fire that was 2020 is mercifully coming to an end, it’s time for you to take back all of the pleasure you sacrificed to late night sourdough bread, panic and CNN. My FREE 2021 Pleasure Checklist is full of fun adventures, inspirations, ways to make pleasure part of your daily wellness regimen, and a checklist to keep you on track so you can enjoy a brand new year full of all of the pleasure you desire.

Let’s have some fucking fun in 2021!

CLICK HERE FOR YOUR FREE

2021 PLEASURE CHECKLIST!!!

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Welcome Back!

This week I proudly present my most popular episode of all time, My Happy Ending Massage.

As you’re about to hear, this night was actually part of an amazing, three-day smutstravaganza I went on in Las Vegas.

Don’t judge.

I was away from home for weeks. I was facing a big birthday. I was dehydrated. Whatever the reason may be, I did engage in some very questionable behavior and you’re about to hear all about 2/3 of that behavior. The final piece will be revealed in my memoir. It’s worth the wait.

To briefly set the table, I’d been working in Las Vegas for several weeks, shooting season 5 of our show Swing, which was all about monogamous couples trying the swinging lifestyle. Just about every night was spent in the middle of the most sex-charged atmosphere you could ever imagine. Plus, we could never find good gluten free pizza.

As a result, I was more than a little frustrated.

So, here’s a trip back to the penultimate night of a smutty three day bender. A night that literally changed my life forever.

Other than the bad pizza, I don’t regret a thing.

Plus!!!

At 24:10 don’t miss a Screw Confession where a highly ambitious woman absolutely loses it when things get a little too deep.

NOTES

At 11:58, my dear Canadian friend, Sex & Relationship Expert, Dr. Jessica O’Reilly makes an appearance. One of my favorite people on the planet, I look at Jess as the Great White North Star of Sex.

To follow Jessica O’ Reilly go to:

www.sexwithdrjess.com

@SexWithDrJess

To read this story and see many other fun, completely uncensored stories about my time as Head of Programming at Playboy TV, check out my writing on Medium.com

Oh…and according to Yelp, the Bad Attitude Boutique on East Sahara Avenue, is permanently closed. No word on the lady in the track suit.

CORRECTION: I reported that the floor was cheap vinyl tile. That was incorrect. It was cheap laminate. I do not regret any of the mistakes made in this recording.

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What a GIGANTIC week!

Season two is happening, yo!

We’re about to reach 30,000 downloads!!!

My writing on Medium has garnered over 100,000 views.

I’m enjoying a very fun, remote-controlled vibrator (affiliate link) that you and your boo need right now.

Plus, I decided that enough is enough and I’m going to stop coloring my damn hair. It’s a gradual process so as to avoid a skunk line, (not judging anyone else’s choice, it’s just not my thing). This shit is happening. I’m gray for pay!

Plus, the owner of my favorite Mexican restaurant gave me a free order of guacamole today!!! #DevotedLifetimeCustomer

And if that’s not enough, you’re about to enjoy an all-new Under Covers episode!!!!

Life is sublime.

Now, on to today’s episode.

CARMEN

(That’s not her real name).

Just like the previous Under Covers conversations, there’s a lot I could share with you about Carmen in advance, but I didn’t know anything, so why should you? You may think my clumsy interview style in these segments is completely calculated by me to appear all folksy when in fact I’m masking that I’m a vastly prepared professional.

Well you are wrong sir!

That’s no act. I don’t know any of these answers in advance. I prefer it that way. I didn’t know Carmen’s age, her socioeconomic status, her religious background, what she knew about sex, her sexual identity, nothing. And that was 100% deliberate because these are bits of information that we all use to subtly judge and categorize each other in advance. I wanted all of that off the table because going into an Under Covers interview blind is a great way for me to experience these conversations exactly as you will.

This is all about hearing another woman’s story with no bias whatsoever, and realizing that there may be aspects of a vastly different life that somehow resonates with your own. Suddenly, you’re not so alone anymore. Things may make a little more sense. Perhaps by hearing these stories, you can move forward with the knowledge that we’re all in this shitshow together and the best way for all of us to start healing is to start sharing.

With no judgment.

So I will keep this brief.

All you need to know in advance is that Carmen is 36, single and heterosexual.

That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

Thank you for finding this show, SUBSCRIBING and sharing it with your friendies. I started this podcast with only two goals: To help women and laugh all day.

I feel truly grateful I get to do it every week. I sincerely hope it’s working for you.

If you have any questions or would like to be interviewed for the show, contact me at info at sex ed the musical dot com.

XOXOX,

Wendy

One of the best parts of creating sex-positive TV shows, speaking at Sexual Health Expos and hosting this podcast, is befriending and learning from leading sex experts.

On this episode, I speak with Stacy Kaiser, a highly successful licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert and media personality. You’ve probably seen her on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, The Doctors, Discovery Networks, MTV, Hallmark Channel or Lifetime, to name a few. Stacy is THE go-to therapist for major media outlets and has a thriving practice in Southern California.

Stacy answers questions submitted by listeners, including:

• How To Improve A Sexless Marriage?
• How Do I Introduce Fun New Sex Toys Without Offending My Partner?
• What If You And Your Partner Have Completely Different Sex Drives?
• If My Partner Loses Interest And Gives Me Permission To Have Sex Outside The Marriage, Is That Cheating?
• Is It A Bad Idea To Schedule Sex?
• What Are The Best And Worst Times To Discuss Problems In The Bedroom?
• Sex Tips For Empty Nesters

Stacy has really great insight that will help every relationship.

You can follow Stacy Kaiser online @TheStacyKaiser and find out more at StacyKaiser.com

Purchase Stacy’s book, How to Be a Grown Up: The Ten Secret Skills Everyone Needs to Know here.

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Whether it’s the stress of your day, hormones out of whack, or maybe your husband refuses to close the kitchen cabinets — whatever it is, it’s probably increasing your stress which interferes with your sex drive and your ability to experience the most pleasure possible.

That’s where cannabis comes in! And it turns out, menopausal women in the know are flocking to it.

In a recent story on Quartz-

According to sales data and a survey of 4,000 cannabis consumers by the San Francisco-based delivery platform Eaze, the number of female cannabis consumers nearly doubled in 2018, and with their growth outpacing men, women are on track to be half of the cannabis market by 2022. Female baby boomers on the platform grew by nearly a quarter between 2017 and 2018.

Once I sashayed into the magic of menopause, things got interesting. The occasional hot flash wasn’t the least bit bothersome to me because I’m freezing most of the time anyway. Plus those went away after just a few weeks. The biggest problem was bedtime. My ability to sleep through the night became nonexistent thanks to night sweats. They got so bad that I dreaded even going to sleep because I knew how miserable I was going to be throughout the night. All of this sleep deprivation led to an increase in anxiety, brain fog and exhaustion for me.

I didn’t know it yet, but it turns out there was an all-natural, non-pharmaceutical solution.

Many women have discovered the healing power of microdosing of cannabis in order to sleep through the night. But, not just sleep. In the burgeoning adult-use cannabis wellness sector, women of a certain age have also been turning to the plant seeking relief from pain, anxiety, prior sexual trauma and stress. Plus, cannabis is a natural aphrodisiac for many women and it helps us get more connected to our bodies in order to get out of our heads and experience enormous sexual pleasure. Win/win/win!

But how do you know which products to use? Where do you buy them? How do I consume them?

That’s where today’s guest comes in…

Ashley Manta is America’s High Priestess of Pleasure. An award-winning sex educator and coach, Ashley has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She appeared on the cover of Sexual Health Magazine in January 2019, and recently completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson. At the January 2020 XBiz Awards, Ashley was named Sexpert of the Year.

In this podcast episode, Ashley reveals exactly why cannabis has such a complicated past and who or what was behind the very targeted demonization of this miracle plant. She’ll explain how cannabis can enhance your sex life in many ways and exactly what you should believe from the budtender at the pot dispensary who’s recommending specific strains of weed for better sex (Hint: Nothing).

It’s a very fun conversation and you’ll learn a lot more about cannabis than you ever expected. In a good way.

To find out more about Ashley Manta:

Ashley’s Website: www.CannaSexual.com

Ashley’s new podcast, Elevated Intimacy: www.elevatedintimacypodcast.com (also available on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, etc.)

On Instagram: www.instagram.com/cannasexual

Ashley’s favorite CBD intimacy products: Foria Wellness http://bit.ly/2SKhXnH

The Dixie Mints I mentioned: https://dixieelixirs.com/product/dixie-relaxing-mints/

“Follow your bliss and don't be afraid. Doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be.”

—Joseph Campbell

Imagine you’ve produced some of the biggest hit shows in television. You’ve won accolades and prestigious, pointy awards for your work. You’re at the top of your game and everyone wants to hire you.

Yet, you’re totally miserable.

Not so hard to believe, really.

In this Re/Invented interview I speak with Emily Sinclair. An executive producer at the top of the TV game, Emily had it all. Executive Producing fancy shows…constant work…big money…someone always handing you coffee the second you want it…life at the top of the TV industry can be very seductive.

On the surface.

But Emily Sinclair had other priorities and instead of being an MVP, she was secretly more interested in the MLS. So, she walked away from the top of the TV industry and found a new home in real estate.

And she’s never been happier.

Tons of us are toiling away in careers we secretly hate. Worried that our colleagues might judge us for leaving. Fearful that walking away will be the biggest mistake imaginable. Well, you only get one life so you can spend it miserable and worried about what everyone else is thinking of you (they’re not). Or you can follow YOUR bliss and do that thing you truly, madly, deeply want to do.

As Lucille Ball once said, “I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.” And you know what, Lucy’s risks led to a pretty fucking awesome life.

• In this conversation, you’ll discover how Emily Sinclair realized she was miserable.
• How she worked through her fears of walking away from a big career, to work for no money at all.
• How she dealt with worries over her family, friends and colleagues judging her.
• Advice for anyone else who’s spending all day miserable instead of taking a big chance…on themself.

INTERVIEW SELECTS:

2:08 Women working in TV basically age in dog years. And there aren’t a lot of women in their 50s hanging around the craft service table. Trust me.

9:33 I was like, ugh, the world doesn’t need another fucking Realtor. And one of my friends said, “The world needs a good Realtor.”

10:23 I was looking for this kind of home and I found it in real estate.

10:58 There’s always someone younger, thinner, and hotter, whatever. There was always someone younger than me who didn’t have kids and was fine with traveling 6-9 months out of the year. And I became that annoying producer who was like, “I really need to be home.”

11:23 I felt like the universe was absolutely just guiding me.

12:11 I felt for sure that people were going to think I was a failure. And there’s sort of a Stockholm Syndrome that comes with being in entertainment. They beat you up, they make you feel like shit. And the moment you do something good, you’re the best thing ever.

12:26 I remembered feeling like, I never want to quit cause I’m not a quitter. I want to hold on as long as I possibly can!

13:15 I watched (my dad) fail so many times I was like, I’m not gonna let go of television!

13:57 I was really concerned that people were going to say, She failed! She couldn’t hack it! She didn’t make it. Like all that sort of mean girls stuff. And what I found instead was people would reach out to me and be like, oh my god, I love what you’re doing.

17:04 When I closed my first deal, it was truly like giving birth to a three headed cyclops.

17:38 I remember getting in my car and I broke into tears, cause I was so happy. Cause I was changing these peoples’ lives.

18:18 I have agency over my life. I decide when and where I work. I decide which clients I want to work with, and I have absolutely fired clients before. I never feel abused now.

19:57 If I could go back in time, and be with myself once again, I would say, “Honey, you are worth so much more than this shit.”

21:26 Don’t worry about the money. It’s gonna fill your soul for the next 20 years or whatever. People get so caught up in the money.

Trust me when I say an Emmy Award-winning TV producer knows all of the secrets to making your house look spectacular. If you’re buying, selling or just buy-curious (hehehe), here’s how you can contact Emily Sinclair:

EMILY'S WEBSITE

EMILY ON FACEBOOK

EMILY'S EPIC INSTAGRAM

EMILY'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL

CLIENT TESTIMONIALS

EMILY'S YELP REVIEWS

EMILY'S NEWSLETTER

Don’t forget to purchase my book, 3 Secrets to the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, a #1 new release on Amazon. It will turn you into a relationship boss!!

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV and other adventures, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

We’ll be back with another Re/Invented story soon. See you next time!

I found a funny quote the other day. It says…

"Dating after 30 is easy. It’s like riding a bike. Only the bike is on fire. And the ground is on fire. Everything is on fire. Because you are in hell."

Okay. Now imagine dating after 50!

On this week’s show, I interview actress, voice artist and my good pal, Mari Weiss. Mari was on the podcast nearly two years ago in an episode called How Being Tied Up Released Me. She shared an amazing story about dating a guy who slowly-yet-firmly led her into the world of BDSM.

Her first surprise was how willing she was to follow him.

Her second surprise was how much she enjoyed it.

Before and since then, Mari, like many other single folks, has gone on more than her share of dates. But unlike the days when you’re 25 and sprucing yourself up to no end in order to meet some grown man in a baseball cap, when you’re 50+ you have a lot more perspective on life. You’re also probably not so inclined to put up with anyone’s bullshit.

We talk about what causes women, particularly, to constantly set our own feelings aside and put up with people who are clearly unkind and/or unworthy of us.

And why it’s a radical idea to enjoy being single and child free. Which, according to science, is actually the healthiest option out there for women.

I also touch on my personal quest for happiness and the lessons I learned by pursuing all sorts of big things that I thought would bring me happiness. Turns out, I was missing the point entirely.

CASTING CALL: IF YOU HAVE A DISASTER DATE, OR FUNNY SEX FAIL YOU’D LIKE TO SHARE ON THE SHOW, I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU! EMAIL ME AT INFO@SEXEDTHEMUSICAL.COM

PREESH!

ALSO! Now that sanity won and the grown ups are in charge in Washington, DC, it’s time for you to take back all of the pleasure you sacrificed to cable news, Zoom calls and Instacarting Pop-Tarts. Burn off those Covid Carbs by using your very own FREE 2021 Pleasure Checklist full of fun adventures, inspirations, ways to make pleasure part of your daily wellness regimen, and a checklist to keep you on track so you can enjoy a brand new year full of all of the pleasure you desire.

Let’s have some fucking fun in 2021!

CLICK HERE FOR YOUR FREE

PLEASURE CHECKLIST!!!

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Slut. Whore. Trollop. Skank. Nympho. THAT kind of girl. Have you ever noticed how many words there are for judging women who enjoy sex?

Now let’s consider some of the words for men who enjoy sex. Gigolo. Stud. Casanova. Player. Ladies’ man.

Wait a second! All of those are compliments!

That’s weird.

No, it’s actually quite deliberate. In fact, if you want to insult a man who likes sex, you have to call him a man whore or a man slut. That’s right, you have to call him a name that is reserved for demeaning women.

On this episode, I read an excerpt from my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted. The chapter, entitled, Choose Your Words Wisely, addresses how the language often used for women who openly enjoy sex or celebrate their sexuality, is nothing more than an attack on our autonomy. It’s also rooted in patriarchal expectations of women and a way to keep us at odds with each other. This is completely calculated because infighting among the oppressed is what keeps us oppressed. So, in this episode I unpack the reasons why you might be thinking that sex and pleasure are not for you. Spoiler Alert: We’ve been brainwashed throughout history to think this way.

The truth is, you have every right to sexual pleasure and one way to allow more of said pleasure into your life is to deprogram yourself. That’s a big part of my book and also my work with other women who want to stop leaving so much pleasure on the table.

Speaking of my work, thanks to our friendly global pandemic it’s been almost two years since I’ve been able to speak before a live audience. I’ve missed you motherfuckers! Last week, one of my listeners collaborated with the fine folks at Dama Wines in Walla Walla, Washington and I hopped on a plane (actually 2 planes) to Walla Walla for a really fun meet and greet with my readers.

Before the book signing we had a really fun Q&A about sex and pleasure. Did I mention there was a lot of amazing wine on hand? Yeah, that didn’t hurt.

Anyway, this event made me realize just how much I miss meeting my readers and listeners face to face, so I came up with the single greatest or possibly most disastrous idea ever — which is why I’m all about it.

If you have a book club and you and your friendies choose my book, I’ll Zoom in, say hello and we can have a fun Q&A. (Wine or no wine is up to you). We’ll keep it fun and light but it’s a great way for me to say hello and get to know to the folks who are reading and enjoying my book. Is that you? It is!?! Well then let’s talk, sister!

Email me and I’ll Zoom into your book club for some fun.

Some restrictions apply…I just haven’t figured them out yet.

The excerpt I read in this episode is also available on Medium.com. Check it out along with many other stories I’ve published over the years.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

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For years I’ve been extolling the health benefits of masturbation. But did you know buzzing one off on the daily could lead to a lucrative career?

That’s right. You can be a sex toy reviewer!!!

Now, before you think just about anyone can become the Pauline Kael of strap-ons, you have to realize that this job takes dedication, a relatively fearless snatch and genuine writing talent. In fact, there’s one person who’s basically cornered the market to the point where she is quite rightfully, America’s #1 Sex Toy Reviewer — Hey Epiphora!

Having been featured in featured in Playboy, Slate, Women’s Health, VICE, and many other major outlets, Epiphora’s relentlessly honest sex toy reviews have earned her the reputation as one of the most trusted and smart voices in the world of dirty stuff.

Having been in this game for over a decade and personally tested and reviewed just about every ridiculous pleasure product invented since 2008, Epiphora is now the proud owner of more than 800 sex toys and counting. In fact, here are some amazing photos of her vast and impressive collection.

I don’t know about you, but I’ll never look at those over the door shoe storage things at Bed Bath and Beyond the same way again.

On this episode, Epiphora shares her humble beginnings as a college girl with a dream, to how her very discerning vagina (and writing talent) have helped her become America’s “trusted source for relentlessly honest sex toy reviews and snarky musings.”

She shares her opinions on…

All time favorite sex toys to Sex toys that could (quite possibly) kill you and just about everything in between.

It also turns out, we share quite a few opinions on long distance toys, remote controlled sex toys, one very popular “couples” sex toy we both did not enjoy at all, and the greatest, completely accidental pleasure product of all time, that just so happens to have a very well-known, conservative manufacturer that had its name removed from the product so as not to be associated with any kind of fun dirty stuff.

Her buzz-worthy review is here.

To find out more about Epiphora’s amazing work, you can follow her at:

Twitter: @Epiphora https://twitter.com/Epiphora

Instagram: @HeyEpiphora https://www.instagram.com/heyepiphora/

Facebook: @HeyEpiphora https://www.facebook.com/HeyEpiphora/

To add even more fun and pleasure to your life, be sure to order your copy of my new book 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, an Amazon #1 New Release in Sexual Health.

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It’s a vajical moment in every girl’s life: the day she becomes a woman.

It’s just like a Hallmark Movie — if Hallmark movies were about blood clots, crippling cramps and rage-filled late night searches for chocolate.

Each of us experiences this transition to womanhood in our own special way, and it’s a day of your life you will never forget…no matter how hard you try. On this episode four very funny and brave women share their hilarious first period stories.

SUWON WEAVER

First up, is the hilarious writer/comedian Suwon Weaver @suwonweaver whose mother, despite being an actual female mother person herself, completely unravels when her daughter gets her period.

L.J. NOEL

The very funny L.J. Noel gets her first period in the most dramatic way possible, and unfortunately she’s rewarded with a large standing ovation.

THEA TOUCHTON

Actress Thea Touchton @theatouchton joins the sisterhood of the stained underpants in the company of her grandmother who, caught somewhat off guard, outfits her with one of her diapers.

Finally, award-winning TV director and host of the podcast Mojo Girl Madness, Katy Garretson @katygarretson joins the prison of womanhood in an actual prison.

Here’s a photo of skin tight Dittos just to show you exactly how difficult it would be to hide a massive sanitary napkin in these groovy jeans.

I mentioned the amazing first period videos produced by the folks at HelloFlo, including The Period Fairy, First Moon Party and my daughter’s favorite, Camp Gyno. These videos are amazing and really changed how we talk and laugh about first periods. Thank you HelloFlo for being so fearless and funny and completely changing the way we talk about first periods.

ALSO! Now that sanity won and the grown ups are in charge in Washington, DC, it’s time for you to take back all of the pleasure you sacrificed to panic, Pop-Tarts and Marie Kondo-ing your sock drawer. Burn off those Covid Carbs by using your very own FREE 2021 Pleasure Checklist full of fun adventures, inspirations, ways to make pleasure part of your daily wellness regimen, and a checklist to keep you on track so you can enjoy a brand new year full of all of the pleasure you desire.

Let’s have some fucking fun in 2021!

CLICK HERE FOR YOUR FREE

PLEASURE CHECKLIST!!!

Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more.

Please share and follow wherever you enjoy podcasts.

Also, if you’d be so kind as to leave us a 5-Star Review, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it.

Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here!

Sex Ed The Musical is actively pursuing sponsorship opportunities. If you represent a super awesome brand that fits in with our super awesome philosophy and want to reach the smartest and sexiest podcast audience in the world, please email us at info@sexedthemusical.com.

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

You’re sitting down with your 10-year-old for a dinner of mac and cheese, chicken nuggets and grapes. All on separate plates, of course. On the table there’s a box of spilled apple juice, a few Snoopy stickers and several dried-out markers. Soccer gear is strewn on the floor alongside a few of this morning’s Cheerios and a naked Barbie missing half of her hair. It’s just another day. Until your kid turns to you and says, “Mom, I think I’m a lesbian.”

How would you react in that moment?

For many parents this is a moment they never saw coming, but it got there. Fast. What should you say? What shouldn’t you say? Were you completely surprised? Have you always known but never really accepted it? How do you hear this and let your child know that they’re safe and loved and what they’re feeling is perfectly okay?

It’s a situation that millions of parents have faced. And thanks to more positive role models and American culture becoming less hostile towards LGTBQ people, the average age of children coming out has dropped from their early 20s to anywhere between 14 and 16. Parents shouldn’t just assume their children are straight until proven otherwise. Even if your kid has a different identity in two years or two months, it’s important to support how they feel today. But where do you start?

On this episode, I speak with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Childhood Mental Health Specialist, Melody Parks. Reach her here at Parks Therapy. Melody reveals the struggles that children of all backgrounds must navigate and gives parents tools to help their children know that they’re loved, supported and safe regardless of sexual orientation. I also speak with a friend whose 13 year-old daughter decided to come out during a family vacation. Blindsided, the mother responded in the best way she could.

According to The Trevor Project, LGB youth are almost five times as likely to have attempted suicide compared to heterosexual youth. How you respond to your child’s coming out can be what keeps your kid alive.

I’ve also found several very helpful resources for parents of LGBT kids:

https://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/coming-out/coming-out-advice-and-guidance-parents

https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/OUR%20CHILDREN_PFLAGNational_FINAL.pdf

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/Four-Stages-of-Coming-Out.aspx

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/tips-for-parents-of-lgbtq-youth

https://nccc.georgetown.edu/documents/LGBT_Brief.pdf

https://www.insider.com/what-to-do-when-someone-comes-out-2017-12

I also recommend the book: This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids: A Question & Answer Guide to Everyday Life

Being gay is not a crime and it’s not a sin. Some people believe that having an LGBTQ child means they somehow failed as a parent. Disowning your child means you failed as a parent.

I think most experts will agree that the best thing you can say to your child when they come out is: I Love You.

That is the perfect place to start.

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Michele Bachmann once famously said, “No one knows his way around a penis like a gay man.” Or maybe she was talking about her husband?

Either way, it’s totally TRUE!

That’s why on this episode, I went to THE SOURCE! My very dear friend and gay husband, Mr. LaRue, to find out exactly what blowjob techniques will blow a guy’s mind.

I hate to call out the Blowjob Education Industrial Complex, whose annual operating budget must 7,504,503% larger than the Cunnilingus Community College budget, but the hard fact is that men are in charge of fucking everything. Which is why womenpeople are inundated with scrillions of classes, magazine articles, listicles, podcasts, instagram posts, Facebook fights, and videos all dedicated to making us Blowjob Beyonces.

Cunnilingus tips? Heeeey, look over there! It’s a boner!

Here is my irrefutable anecdotal evidence: I invited my pal, sex educator Nina Hartley to teach a blowjob class to some of my vanilla suburban friends in my house, and it was standing room only! And I have a big house! On the flip side, I had a cunnilingus class in my house and 6 people showed up. That included me and one friend who just so happened to be there to return a Pyrex baking dish they’d borrowed.

So yeah, we’re all getting sucked in to the pressure to become blowjob goddesses. That’s why I decided to go right to the source and got some insane BJ tips from my boo, Mr. LaRue, who knows his way around a boner.

You are about to learn things that I’ve never ever heard. And that, my friends, is saying something.

Comedian Jodi Miller is ON TOP!

A self-proclaimed "Jewgar", Jodi Miller has been performing stand-up comedy all over the country for over 20 years, and has also done 4 military tours including going overseas to entertain the troops in Afghanistan.

She’s currently seen as the host of the nationally-syndicated The World’s Funniest Weather, the head writer and on-camera talent for the nationally-syndicated game show, Funny You Should Ask, the host of the podcast Don’t Call Me Ma’am, and all of this well-earned success comes after briefly destroying her career while working for me at Playboy TV.

Since Jodi writes and stars on a very funny game show and I’m completely OBSESSED with game shows, I decided to turn this week’s podcast into a game show all about sex!!!

To give you an idea of how obsessed I am with game shows, my very own wedding was a game show. Here’s the story as heard on This American Life, hosted by Ira Glass.

But right now, it’s time for you to test your knowledge about sex!

• WHAT ARTICLE OF CLOTHING IS MOST HELPFUL FOR A WOMAN TO BE WEARING DURING SEX IN ORDER TO REACH ORGASM?
• DURING WHAT TIME OF THE MONTH DO STRIPPERS MAKE THE MOST MONEY?
• WHICH OF THESE PORN FILMS IS AN ACTUAL 2019 AVN NOMINEE: ASS ASTRA, HAND SOLO, or ONCE UPON A TIME IN HOLLY?

All of these questions and so much more will be answered on this week’s very funny and semi-educational episode.

To find out more about Jodi Miller go to jodimillercomedy.com

In the not too distant past, actresses on television or film sets were asked to appear nude or to be in graphic sex scenes that made them feel uncomfortable, and they could either agree, or get fired. Women weren’t the only performers who were coerced, just a horrifically vast majority. As Kristen Lopez writes for RogerEbert.com in a 2018 piece called A Matter of Legitimacy: Female Nudity On-Screen:

“…Hollywood marketing and audience interest still encourages the consumption of female bodies, in spite of increased awareness of the male gaze and the continued statistics charting the lack of male nudity on-screen. Actresses today feel the need to “explain” their reasons behind deciding to be nude or not, damned if they do or if they don’t, all in an aid to justify the audiences’ comfort lusting after female flesh and perpetuating the continued double standards regarding male and female nudity in film.”

For many marginalized performers, the systemic power imbalance made it impossible for them to advocate for themselves if they wanted to keep working. But now, in the wake of #MeToo and high-profile takedowns of Hollywood power brokers who’ve enjoyed years of predatory behavior that was hushed up by colleagues, there’s a new era.

The era of The Intimacy Coordinator.

On this episode, I interview Jean Franzblau, a professional, highly trained Intimacy Coordinator, and a member of the Intimacy Professionals Association, who is working on sets to make sure that performers are not coerced into doing sex scenes, and that all graphic depictions on camera are choreographed and negotiated in advance. If a performer has an issue, the Intimacy Coordinator presents it to the director and producers and advocates on the behalf of talent.

Not everyone is working with Intimacy Coordinators, and it’s not as if studios and networks that are employing them, have had a sudden awakening. People have turned a blind eye to predatory behavior for as long as there’s been a Hollywood. It's just that now corporations realize that, just like COVID safety protocols, making sure a set is safe for its performers is a legitimate OSHA concern, not to mention that unchecked egregious behavior will expose them to potential litigation and public relations nightmares. No one wants or can afford that today.

As a safety measure for all parties involved, many studios and networks now employ Intimacy Coordinators. We’re going to find out exactly what an Intimacy Coordinator does, how they advocate for talent, and assist writers and directors in the technicalities of certain sexual situations.

We’ll also find out why they can write off yoga mats.

It’s all in this interview.

Also!!!! Huge News!!!

We (barely) survived the dumpster fire that was 2020. But, we have a new year coming up with a new President and a badass Female Vice President OF COLOR, so things are looking up!

It’s time for us to take back sanity, humanity and pleasure. Which is why I have created, for you, a free, full-color collection of 2021 Sex Goals to get your new year back on track! I’ve done all the work, so you can have all the fun.

You deserve pleasure, especially after the shit show we continue to live through. Plus, there are genuine mental and physical benefits associated with having sex. Orgasms lower stress, help you sleep better and strengthen your pelvic floor. I don’t know about you, but I had a baby 14 years ago and every time I sneeze it’s like a horrible game show.

All of you women over 40 know what I’m talking about.

So, think of my free 2021 Sex Goals as a way for you to practice self-care, strengthen your pelvic floor, and set goals to add adventure and fun to the new year. I’m here to help you take back your pleasure and own it.

FREE!!!

Just email me at info@sexedthemusical.com for your free, 2021 Sex Goals — Your Guide to a Whole New Year of Adventure, Self-Care and Pleasure.

Let’s have some fun in 2021!

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Now that we’re about to cross the 60,000 downloads threshold, Sex Ed The Musical is actively pursuing sponsorship opportunities. If you represent a super awesome brand that fits in with our super awesome philosophy and want to reach the smartest and sexiest podcast audience in the world, please email us at info@sexedthemusical.com.

Thanks, as always, for listening!

You’re in the throes of passion. Looking to add a whole new level to your pleasure, you want your favorite sex toy. Maybe there are kids in the house so you keep it stashed away behind those pants you’ll never fit into on the top shelf of your closet. Your partner goes hunting for it, they’re taking a long time, with every second you’re losing your mojo. They can’t find it. They’re yelling for you from the closet. Where is it?!?! You’re getting angry. GAHHHHH!

Orrrrrr, you think you’re slick and you keep your favorite vibrator in your nightstand drawer. Annnnnnd, you’re probably not washing it after every use but who cares, it’s just you using it and it’s totally fine in there, right? Uh, no. That drawer is filled with used hair ties, old Starbucks cards, throat lozenges, a backstage pass from a Duran Duran concert and a thick layer of dust, germs, and crust.

THIS IS NOT CUTE and you are asking for all sorts of trouble if you’re not storing your pleasure products correctly.

But how???

On this episode, I interview Deborah Semer, the founder of Joyboxx, the world’s only hygienic sex toy storage system. Guess what, it’s not easy starting a sex product company — especially when the product is also designed to protect your health, well-being and privacy. That’s a lot for one thing to do.

How did this journey take Deborah from an altruistic career in the non-profit world to sprawling sex toy factories in China? Why is this product unlike anything that’s ever been to market before? And why is a dusty shoe box from under some dude’s bed part of her origin story?

You’re about to find out.

If you’re interested in innovative pleasure products, best practices for storing for your sex toys, how to ward off nasty germs in the time of COVID or badass women who take big risks in starting their own companies, this episode is for you!

Plus, as the first sponsor of the show, Joyboxx is offering you a special 20% discount on your order. Order here and use the discount code SEXED20 for a 20% discount.

Joyboxx is a game changer and I really believe in it. Trust me, I hate everything.

For more information, you can check out the Joyboxx YouTube channel where you can find a clip of me first discovering the product at Sexual Health Expo six years ago. Also, check out their Instagram for really fun stuff.

PENIS OWNERS! We’re doing a show on first boners and we need your funny/mortifying stories. If you have a first boner story you’d like to share on the show, email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

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Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here!

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

One of the best parts of my ridiculous job as head of programming at Playboy TV, was being able to learn from all of the amazing experts I worked with. Highly qualified educators, experts and authors who were truly concerned about the state of sex education in this world and how to inspire us to pursue lives of healthy passion, sexual adventure and pleasure.

At the top of that list is my friend, Dr. Jessica O’Reilly.

As host of my show Swing, she not only introduced couples to the swinging lifestyle but then worked with them after they spent the night in the Swing house, helping them unpack their feelings in order to understand how the experience affected their relationships and communication moving forward. Jessica is whip-smart, caring, non-judgmental, kind, and one of the world’s leading educators when it comes to understanding the ever changing world of human sexuality and relationship maintenance.

Now as we’re all (hopefully) staying home and flattening the curve, there’s a lot of stress brewing. Financial stress. Health stress. Home schooling stress. Toilet paper hoarding stress. There’s not a lot of space left for nookie. So I reached out to Jess to see if she has some tools that couples can use in order to help maintain intimacy and be more mindful of each other’s needs, ya know in this world of boner killers.

Jessica, of course, has some great solutions and, because she’s so awesome, she’s offering my listeners a discount on select videos. Use the code WENDY for a 25% discount on Jess’ Mindful Sex, Last Longer in Bed: 6 Steps to Master Premature Ejaculation, Drive Him Wild With Pleasure & Drive Her Wild With Pleasure video courses, all found at happiercouples.com

Plus, use the code SEXMASTERCLASS to get 100% off of her Sexual Skills & Confidence Master Class! 100%! Come on, you’re not doing anything else right now, so spend some quality time with your partner and in just 30 minutes you can learn specific strategies that will help boost your sexual confidence.

Gluten is bad for you! Step away from the bread-making and start focusing on love making!!!

In this episode, Jessica shares all sorts of great ways you and your partner can stay connected during these COVID times. Things that are simple, mindful and will not gross out your kids. Don’t worry if you’re not in the mood for sex right now. You still want to stay connected, and these techniques are terrific.

Dr. Jess’ newest book, The Ultimate Guide To Seduction and Foreplay is available April 14th.

For much more of her insights, listen to the podcast SEX WITH DR. JESS.

For all things Dr. Jess, go to www.sexwithdrjess.com

Her video series can be found at happiercouples.com

And she’s available on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram @sexwithdrjess

Fun Fact: In the photo I used of her for this post, which was taken at the Playboy TV studios by Michael Falco, Jessica is laughing because I was behind the camera and I just flashed her. Hey, whatever it takes to get a good shot for my girl, I’m down for it.

SUBSCRIBE TO SEX ED THE MUSICAL RIGHT HERE!

Coming Soon! Have you ever gotten caught? Maybe you were pleasuring yourself alone and someone walked in on you? Maybe your partner caught you with someone else? Maybe you got your foot caught in a dungeon? However you GOT CAUGHT I’d love to hear from you for an upcoming episode all about getting caught.

We’d love to share your stories anonymously so please email me today!

See you next time!!!

Wendy

As promised, here's a shot of Jessica in the reindeer onesie. Note the fabulous makeup and hair because, Jessica.

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“Always listen to your heart, because even though it’s on your left side, it’s always right.”

— Nicholas Sparks

On this episode, I reveal the surprising true story behind the creation of Sex Ed The Musical. I don’t want to give too much away right here. Let’s just say it required a fuckton of failure, a lie to some big-time studio executives and staring at someone a lot smarter than me.

Not necessarily in that order.

QUESTIONS THAT WILL BE ANSWERED IN THE NEXT 9 MINUTES

• What really sparked the idea for this podcast?
• Why is your past not at all relevant to your future?
• Exactly how many Shamans do I know?

And in case an episode of just me talking about me isn’t enough me, below is a link to me talking about me with someone else who’s not me.

Here I am on the MILF Podcast also explaining the story behind this podcast, except much longer and to someone a lot taller than me.

Did you ever tell a lie about yourself that actually turned out to be true? Share your story in the comments. I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever been in a situation so ridiculous that you started looking around for hidden cameras? Well my guest on this episode, actor Sarah Randall Hunt, had so many over the top horrible first dates (admittedly several of which were her fault), that she turned them into a very sweet rom-com web series called Stupid Cupid.

As the co-creator, star and producer of the series, Sarah was forced to relive a lot of bad decision-making on camera. Part therapy and part cautionary tale, this is a show that anyone who’s ever been single can relate to quite well.

The first season of Stupid Cupid is available on YouTube here. Also, you can follow Sarah and all of her hilarious adventures on Instagram @sarahrandallhunt.

I met Sarah through WhoHaHa, a creative community and digital content studio that celebrates and elevates women in comedy. Co-founded by creative badass Elizabeth Banks, WhoHaha partners with innovative companies to develop opportunities for comedic female creators and bring ideas to life.

Please support this incredible organization and the many BIPOC, female and queer content creators out there.

My new sponsor, Joyboxx would like to give one lucky listener a free Joyboxx! In order to win, email us a photo of how you store your pleasure products. Maybe you keep everything in a yucky shoe box under your bed. Maybe your crusty nightstand drawer? Maybe the top shelf of your closet? The bottom line is, if you’re not storing your pleasure products in an anti-microbial Joyboxx, you’re asking for all sorts of dirty trouble. And not the good kind of dirty either.

Email us a photo of your nightstand drawer or wherever you’re storing your pleasure products. The most tragic one will receive a free Joyboxx. Seriously, you’re asking for all sorts of germy trouble if you store your sex toys in the wrong place. Come correct with a Joyboxx.

Also be sure to use the code SEXED20 to get 20% off of your next order. I actually own two Joyboxxes…but, as you could imagine, I have a lot of sex toys.

Send those photos now to info@sexedthemusical.com

Don’t worry, we won’t ever reveal your name. Send your photos today!

PENIS OWNERS! We’re doing a show on first boners and we need your funny/mortifying stories. If you have a first boner story you’d like to share on the show, email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

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Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here!

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Amy Jo Goddard is a Sexual Empowerment Educator, Coach, Bestselling Author and All Around Epic Badass in the world of feminism, human sexuality and education.

In this interview, Amy Jo covers many amazing subjects including:

• Why Is A Sexually Empowered Woman So Threatening?
• Why Owning Your Sexual Power Is The Key To Owning Your Overall Power As A Woman
• How Much Deprogramming Women Need When It Comes To Sexuality
• The Common Misunderstandings About Female Sexuality
• How To Reclaim The Pleasure You Deserve After Leaving A Sexually Unfulfilling Relationship

A highly sought-after expert for over two decades, in addition to her writing and work leading a variety of classes, workshops and programs, Amy Jo is also the host of the Fire Woman Retreat - a three-day, life-changing event that empowers women to own their sexuality, reclaim it, heal it and then celebrate it.

Amy Jo has given me a special discount code for listeners of this show: wendy100 will save $100 when you register online for her upcoming Fire Woman Retreat which is taking place in Southern California on September 27-29, 2019. When you experience this amazing event, you’ll have a completely new framework for your sexuality that will help you create what you really desire.

To find out more about Amy Jo Goddard, and learn how you can take her amazing classes and workshops, or for personal coaching contact her here.

Amy Jo Goddard is the author of two books:

Woman on Fire: 9 Elements to Wake Up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power, and Sexual Intelligence

And she’s co-author of the bestseller, Lesbian Sex Secrets For Men

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Doing our part, for your ladyparts. 

“Make failure your fuel.”

—Abby Wambach

About 4 years ago, after I left Playboy, I was feeling completely directionless in my career. Overnight all of my structure, value and access to unlimited free lube had vanished. I had not vision for my future.

Looking for some next-level guidance, I reached out to a Shaman I had met a few months earlier at a retreat.

She point blank asked me, "Exactly what is it you want to do?"

Without even thinking I replied, "I want to help women and laugh all day."

She looked at me softly in this very knowing way and said, "Then do that."

Uhhh…

So, I did exactly that.

As you’re about to hear in this episode, this is a story of almost having everything, then losing almost everything, then finding a whole new success powered by a world renown soccer player and a litany of complete indifference.

That might be the worst logline ever. Or the best.

Just listen to this very special episode and all of it will make perfect sense.

Here’s the link to Abby Wambach’s life-changing speech at Barnard College.

Here’s the link to my life-changing book.

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Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! Including a very special excerpt from my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Welcome back you sickening bitches!

(sorry…I’ve been watching a lot of RuPaul’s Drag Race)

Sooooo, after going Under Covers with a few fellas, I figured I’d flip the script and in this episode speak to a professional in the world of sex.

A Sex Coach, to be exact.

Okay, what’s a Sex Coach? Great question, thank you for asking.

According to the folks at Sex Coach U, Sex Coaching is not is not sex therapy. (Sex Coaches) focus on the present and the future, helping clients move towards what they want to achieve. Sex coaching typically takes place over a shorter time frame than sex therapy. Sex coaches are not sex workers. Most sex coaches will work “talk-only” with clients and sex coaches do not offer erotic services.

In this Under Covers conversation, find out how a childhood with hippie parents shaped the sex coach. How her early sexual experiences and freedom created a natural transition to helping others with their own sex lives. We go into her experiences with kink, role playing and all sorts of private places…with full consent, as always.

Wherever you are on your journey, remember that there are trained professionals out there who can guide you. Most of us have been raised with a lot of shame and trauma when it comes to sex and sometimes you need someone uniquely trained to help you understand that, unpack it and then kick that shit to the curb.

There's never any shame in asking for help.

In other news, I think my semi-sabbatical has come to an end. I’m going to be releasing shows with much more regularity now. I appreciate your patience and for you listening and following the show. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

If you can do me a solid, please send me an email at info@sexedthemusical.com and let me know your thoughts and what you’d like to hear on the show. I promise I won’t spam you. I barely have enough time to get this shit finished every week. But I’d really love to hear from you.

And you’d like to go Under Covers with me, please let me know ASAP. I’d love to take this journey with you.

XOXOXOX,

Wendy

Don’t forget to purchase my book, 3 Secrets to the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, a #1 new release on Amazon. It will turn you into a relationship boss!!

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV and other adventures, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

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Again, if there’s anything or anyone you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

NEWS FLASH! It’s not just disinfecting wipes, toilet paper and all-purpose baking flour flying off of the shelves right now. Retailers all over the world are reporting that sales of sex toys have spiked over the past two months as people are looking for new ways to find comfort and stress relief during their self-quarantine.

Some countries are seeing sex toy sales buzzing with increases over 200%.

What do those buyers know that you don’t?

Well, first of all, masturbation is the ultimate in social distancing sex, right? But, there are actual health benefits associated with dialing your own rotary phone.

1. Orgasms keep your happy place happy. Blood flow keeps it supple and regularly running water through the pipes is essential to keeping plumbing in tip top shape.
2. Orgasms offer pain relief. If you’re someone who suffers from menstrual cramps or the occasional UTI, you know that buzzing one off can give you some serious, all-natural pain relief. (This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.)
3. Orgasms are good for your heart. Sexual activity and orgasms can reduce stress thanks to the surge of oxytocin, the "love hormone" that occurs with a happy ending. According to the science people, orgasms can also lower blood pressure levels in women.
4. Orgasms help you sleep better by releasing endorphins. Having a couple of months of insomnia lately? Having an orgasm before bed may be the perfect cure.
5. There’s a good chance you literally have nothing better to do right now.

Now that you know masturbation can be a critical part of your self care regimen, perhaps it’s time to get a helping hand?

(pun intended)

HERE ARE MY TOP THREE SOCIAL DISTANCING SEX PRODUCTS THAT YOU NEED RIGHT NOW!

THE MAGIC WAND™ RECHARGEABLE

THE LEGEND. THE O.G. THE CLOSER. The Magic Wand™ Rechargeable is the (not so) Little Black Dress of all pleasure product wardrobes. You need one of these. With 4 intensity power levels and 4 vibration patterns, this wand delivers magic every time. It offers unparalleled power and deep, penetrating vibrations through its firm massaging silicone head. Plus, apparently it’s also good on sore muscles. Who knew? There’s a reason why this was the most-requested pleasure product but the professional sex-havers I worked with at Playboy TV. Trust me, they know pleasure.

NO MORE WET SPOT PLAY BLANKET

As they say on their site: “Put it down before you play, when you're done, all the "fun" is in the blanket. Then, just throw it in the wash when you're ready!” YOU GUYS, think of this as lining a cookie sheet with parchment paper or your slow cooker with one of those simple clean up bags. Yes, not exactly sexy imagery, unless you get turned on by Pot Roast. Not judging. You do you. This brilliant product is the perfect sex/fluid barrier to throw down on top of your $700 duvet cover. Have all of the fun and cleanup is a breeze! Plus, if you’re trying to learn how to squirt, the problem might be that you’re worried about your ridiculously high thread count sheets and the ensuing wet spot. Worry no more friends! Just throw this blanket UNDERNEATH YOUR BUTT (available in three different colors) and then let go! When you’re done, toss it in the laundry and sleep on your perfectly clean and dry sheets. No evidence left behind. Also great for Hotel Sex, Car Sex, and Silk Isfahan Area Rug sex. Manufactured by kindly Canadians in three colours, you need this! Get one today, eh!

THE WOMANIZER PRO, CLITORAL SUCTION DEVICE

Yes, this is absolutely the worst name ever for a female pleasure product, but i can’t be in charge of everything. According to their website “Womanizer Pro is our signature product in a luxurious design that will lead you to the most intense moments of pleasure. Indulge in contactless stimulation with our unique Pleasure Air Technology. This powerful combination of suction and pressure waves will gently bring you to a wholly new orgasmic experience - and with 12 levels of intensity you decide how fast you want to get there!” you guys, this product is awesome and so gentle that you can use it all night long. hey, it’s a health issue!

Okay, there ya go. My Top Three Social Distancing Products You Need Right Now during this super sexy COVID-19 pandemic.

Please stay healthy and take care. We’ll get through this together. At the very least, now, you’ll certainly be able to get through it alone.

See ya next time!

Wendy

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Kate Quigley is fearless, brash, and one of the fastest rising comedians working today. Of course she’s also hella hot, but that’s not why I love her.

In addition to hosting a show for me on Playboy TV, which you will hear ALL ABOUT in this episode, she’s been seen on The Office, The Josh Wolf Show, The Megan Mullally Show, Talkshow With Spike Feresten and was the host of The 2016 AVN Awards which aired on Showtime.

Kate headlines as a stand-up comic all over the country. She recently returned from an Armed Forces Tour performing for troops in Japan, Singapore, Guam, and Diego Garcia. She can be seen regularly at the Improv, Icehouse and the Hollywood Laugh Factory and has been featured as a Sports Illustrated, "Lovely Lady of the Day" & The Chive's "Girl You Should Know." 

Kate is also the host of the wildly popular podcast, Date Fails, which receives over 30,000 downloads a week on the All Things Comedy network.

She is flat out killing it. Follow her here.

On this episode, we talk about how I totally ruined her life by plucking her from obscurity and putting her on Playboy TV. How she went from being a very sheltered and innocent young housewife to a wild divorcée making up for lost time by exploring balloon dungeons, latex fetish clubs, training as a dominatrix, getting tied up, electrocuted, teased with knives, hosting a swinger party, attacked by a vampire, set on fire, wrestled by an Amazon and having her feet worshipped by randos in Las Vegas, all on camera.

Since I love game shows, Kate and I play America’s slowest growing new game show sensation, Sex Ed The Game Show and you should definitely play along, too. Although, your score will totally suck because these questions are really stupid and hard. Luckily Kate’s unique training with Playboy TV and her time spent working alongside porn stars gives her an edge. Wait, does that mean she was edged by porn stars?

No, that is definitely not what that means.

Kate and I have a lot of fun on this episode and despite the fact that I deliberately mispronounce classic TV actor/director Peter Bonerz’ name for comedy sake, it’s a very fun and fact-filled diversion.

RANDOM FOLKS/ITEMS/PLACES MENTIONED ON THIS EPISODE

Orpheus Black

Wartenberg Wheel

Hollywood Forever Cemetery

28,000 Year Old Dildo

Icelandic Penis Museum

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You’re about to meet my friend Sabrina Schroeder, who is single, smart, adventurous, athletic, hilarious, a cat lover, defiantly carnivorous, a beer enthusiast, and a million more things. 

Oh yeah, she’s also disabled.

In this episode, we talk about what it’s like to date when you’re disabled. How she meets people. What it’s like to have sex when you have disabilities. How she navigates the always complex dating world, and the hilarious way she’s rebelling against her parents.

You’ll never guess in a million years.

Nearly 1 in 4 adults in the United States has some type of disability. Very focused on the importance of representation, in this conversation, Sabrina shares great advice about acceptance, honest communication, and best practices for dating someone disabled.

Spoiler Alert: Her advice is great for everyone regardless of ability.

Although this is a very funny conversation at times, whatever your personal circumstances or relationship status may be, there’s a lot to be learned here. As Sabrina says on her blog,

“By recognizing the diverse range of disabilities, both visible and invisible, we can work towards a more inclusive society that values and respects the experiences and needs of all individuals.”

You can find out more about Sabrina and contact her through her website: BeyondBarriers.net

She’s on Instagram @sabrina_schroeder93 and on Facebook.

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“Our next comic is a comedienne, so please be nice…”

You may have heard on the previous podcast that last week was a particularly crappy week for me. I needed some serious cheering up. So, I called in the big guns and reached out to one of the funniest people I know. As one of the country's top comedians, Cathy Ladman is a fearless, anxiety-venting performer who draws huge laughs from such taboo subjects as her battle with anorexia to the endless indignities of menopause.

At the top of the comedy world for nearly 40 years, Cathy appeared nine times on The Tonight Show. Johnny Carson was such a fan that she was the only female comic to appear on the last two of Johnny’s Tonight Show Anniversary specials.

She’s made numerous appearances on The Late Late Show, had her own HBO One Night Stand comedy special, and was awarded the American Comedy Award for Best Female Stand Up Comic. A successful comedy writer for television, she’s also a versatile actor who has appeared in such acclaimed shows as Mad Men, Curb Your Enthusiasm, How To Get Away With Murder, Pretty Little Liars, and Modern Family to name a few.

Cathy and I have a lot of fun talking about her early days in clubs, which comedy legends were big part of her nightly childhood bedtime routine, and then I give her some insider tips for turning her recent cancer treatment into a wealth of comedy material.

I’m helpful that way.

You can see Cathy Ladman live April 23 and 24 at the Alameda Comedy Club in Alameda, California. If you can’t make the live show, you can stream it any time you’d like at http://comediaplex.com/.

Check out a terrific archive of her appearances here on YouTube and you should definitely follow her on Twitter @CathyLadman.

I have a brand new book coming out this summer. To get a free sneak preview email me at info@sexedthemusical.com and I’ll send a free chapter your way!

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Three years ago on this podcast, I began asking women of different ages, sexual identities and socioeconomic backgrounds a series of questions about the most intimate details of their lives. I called the interviews Under Covers.

All of the women were asked the same questions about their sexual awakenings, different partners, early experiences and relationships, with the hope that we could find healing in discovering how much we all share.

Well this season, I’ve decided to flip the script. I’m taking the exact questions I asked women, and I’m asking them to men.

In this first Under Covers with a man, I speak with a guy I’ve named David. That’s not his real name, every one of these interviews is completely anonymous.

All you need to know is that David is 51, married and identifies as gay. That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

LINKS

Here are some stills from Angels In Chains.

The Paley Center on Angels in Chains

For all things Charlie's Angels, check out CharliesAngels.com, run by my pal Mike Pingel, THE Charlie’s Angels authority.

David’s mega-hot sexual golden ticket Lance Parker on IG

Dayum!

If you’d like to read a recap of my first ten Under Covers interviews, check out this piece, and see more of my writing on Medium.

If you’d like to be interviewed Under Covers, please email me. I’d love to hear from you and I’m especially looking for people of color and LGBTQIA folks. There’s no judgment and I will not reveal your identity.

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This Under Covers social experiment has been really mind-blowing for me and the answers, however small the sampling is, tell a very interesting story.

First of all, I started doing these interviews because I wanted you to know that YOU ARE NORMAL. This idea that we’re strange or, dirty or unworthy of sexual pleasure all stems back to us being stigmatized during sex education. I spoke to one woman who believed that she never deserved oral sex simply because she didn’t look like the models she saw in magazines.

What in the actual hell are we telling ourselves? And why are we restricting or demonizing our desires?

That’s why I started doing these interviews, so you might hear something from another person and think, OH MY GAWD, I thought I was the only person dealing with that!!!

WELL, YOU’RE NOT.

The sex education that most kids receive whether from school or home is frequently fear or shame-based, rarely mandated to be fact-based, and is often filled with bizarre threats of unintended pregnancies and terrifying STIs that will kill you!!!

No wonder there’s so much dysfunction out there.

Bottom line, most of the women I spoke to and many, many millions more were only taught about shame or fear when it comes to sex as a way of trying to control us and dissuade us from thinking about or desiring sex. The result of this misinformation, of course, has shown up in millions of bedrooms for what could be a lifetime of sexual dysfunction.

If we’re going to raise kids who have healthy sex lives and real agency and self-confidence, we MUST change our approach to sex education and make it fact-based and not shame or fear-based. If you told your child over and over again DON’T EAT COOKIES, DON’T EAT COOKIES, WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT EVER EAT COOKIES BECAUSE THEY WILL KILL YOU, your kid will probably hoard a mountain of Oreos and Chips Ahoys under their bed and have a serious cookie problem. I’m not a psychologist and I realize I’m oversimplifying things but only to a degree. I am a parent and I can tell you for certain that any time you severely restrict something from a kid, all it does is make them go out of their minds and want it more and more. Restriction can lead to pathological hoarding. Case in point: Toilet paper.

Speaking of…

I mentioned in this episode I had zero toilet paper problems during these crazy covid-19 times because last year I received a LUXE BIDET. That’s right! You can add this genius item right beneath your existing toilet seat and you will NEVER NEED TOILET PAPER AGAIN! Plus you’re super clean and it’s quite earth friendly. Buy one and you will never go back to toilet paper. (Also it’s great to purchase for older parents who might start having mobility issues). As of this posting, this particular model has nearly 5-stars and close to 10,000 reviews. It’s only $41.99, requires no external power source or batteries, and is pretty easy to install. My dreamy husband did it himself. Because we have a fancy Japanese skirted toilet, we needed a special valve and the folks at Luxe sent it to me free of charge. They’re a great company and they offer amazing customer service. Buy this bidet and your life (and nether regions) can change for the better!

Trust me, I hate everything.

Okay, now back to our show…

On this Under Covers episode I speak to Amanda (not her real name).

All you need to know in advance is that Amanda is 33, single and identifies as sexually fluid.

And that’s where all similarities end…or begin.

Also, I’m going to post an in-depth look at the most surprising data from the first ten Under Covers interviews on Medium. You can always check out my work there at https://medium.com/@thewendymiller

If you have any questions, have a fun Screw Confession to share or would like to be interviewed Under Covers, please email me. I love hearing from you.

Take care and please stay healthy and stay indoors!

Wendy

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It seems to be one of the last bastions of unchecked racism.

“I’m looking for someone special to spend the rest of my life with. Someone kind, loving and adventurous. Together we’ll create a perfect life where we’ll explore the world, always be there for each other and bring out the best in each other. No Black men.”

Whaaaaaa?

Sure, is it well within your rights to be completely honest about what you absolutely want or don’t want in your dating profile. Even if it’s, like, 100% totally overtly unmistakably racist.

To this day, blatant racism can be found all over dating profiles and it’s not just for haters. There are other folks who are known ONLY to date certain races other than their own.

Asian Women Only!

Ummm, I suppose that could be considered flattering…until you realize that some of those searchers may only be interested in fetishizing you. Either way, making these demands can turn dating into a pretty dehumanizing experience.

To walk us through all of this, is Certified Dating Expert and Writer Damona Hoffman. Host of the highly successful Dates & Mates Podcast, Damona is a dating profile whisperer of the highest order. The product of an interracial and interfaith marriage herself, Damona is uniquely qualified and trained to address racist messaging in dating profiles.

As Damona says in our interview, “We are in a time where everyone is waking up and realizing that the way we have been operating is racist.”

Yep.

There’s also a good chance that there’s some unconscious bias at play with most of us. Maybe what you’re looking for in a potential partner is based on where you grew up, who you met in school or how the media portrays certain groups and amplifies dangerous racial stereotypes.

The bottom line is, dating is a numbers game. If you only want someone from a very, very, very narrow group, you’re probably missing out on a lot of potentially fun and groovy people.

Curious about your own unconscious bias? Take this quiz available on Tolerance.org to test yourself for hidden bias. As they say, “Your willingness to examine your own possible biases is an important step in understanding the roots of stereotypes and prejudice in our society.”

If you’re searching and have an open mind, the perfect match just might surprise you. To enlist expert help at finding that someone special, reach out to Damona or follow her online @DamonaHoffman

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Preesh!

Did you know you can lose weight by having sex? What?!? That’s amazing! Two things I love, boning and toning. That has to be true, right?

Welllllll…according to the Dr. Felix Sex Workout Calculator, a woman who weighs 140 pounds and has sex in the missionary position FOR AN HOUR, will burn 84.6 calories. To lose one pound of weight, you need to burn 3500 calories. So if a woman wanted to lose one pound of weight, she would need to have continuous missionary position sex for 41 hours. 41 straight hours of boning to lose one pound. I don’t know about you but my vulva would probably break after 41 minutes, forget 41 hours. But we’ve all been told SEX IS A GREAT WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT.

Unfortunately that is not exactly true.

For years magazines and “news” headlines have fed us non-stop misinformation about sex, and reproduction. And we bought it all. Shoe size dictates dick size. Oysters make you horny. Women don’t like sex. Well, actually heterosexual women are the least sexually satisfied group, but we’re going to save the Orgasm Gap for another day. This week I’m busting the biggest myths out there when it comes to sex. Enough is enough!

How are some of these ingrained myths directly tied to patriarchal programming? Who actually believes that semen prevents tooth decay? And what’s the name for people who use the pull out method?

After listening to this episode, you’ll have plenty to talk about at your next Zoom dinner party. The bottom line is, when it comes to sex, you shouldn’t always believe what you’ve been told. Especially if it’s some dude bragging about the size of his junk.

Cause you’re about to find out, that, my friends, is never a good sign.

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Having sex with someone new can be a potentially stressful situation.

“How do I measure up with their other partners?”

“What do they think of my body?”

“Am I pleasing them?”

Now, imagine you’re in bed with a professional SEX COACH whose job is to teach people how to enjoy the most fulfilling sex and pleasure possible.

That is A LOT of pressure. For you…and them.

On this episode I speak with Wendy Perkins, a trauma-informed orgasm, and neuro-pleasure coach. An author and sought-after expert who’s been featured in BuzzFeed News, Wendy hacked her own ADHD, and now helps people discover unique pathways to take ownership of their pleasure.

Oh yeah… she’s also single and dating.

As you could imagine, when potential sex partners find out she’s an orgasm and pleasure coach…well, the reactions she gets are pretty surprising.

Wendy reveals how male potential sex partners typically fall into one of three categories when they learn about her job. Female potential sex partners have a completely different reaction. Plus, there are the folks who flat-out expect a free sex masterclass every time she gets in bed with them.

Yeah not so much.

She also shares pro tips on how to “guide” a partner in bed without making it seem like a lesson, and the best thing to say to get out of a night of terrible sex.

There’s a lot to be gained from this fun conversation.

Wendy Perkins can be reached for private coaching and more at Owning Your O and can be found online @owningyouro.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

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We’ve all been there. A cozy downtown restaurant. You look amazing. The lights are low. As you peruse the martini menu, your date casually mentions that he identifies with serial killers.

WAIT WHAT!?!?!

Yup.

Dating is no joke and sadly, it’s not getting any better out there. I even mention my worst date ever, featuring a total drunk (not me), a legendary Chicago blues singer (also not me), and someone getting punched in the face (hopefully not me). Good times.

On this episode, you’re going to hear some hilarious, dangerous, illegal, backwoods, museum-quality disaster dating stories from three very funny women.

Yale educated actress Victoria Savage (@SavageVtoria) has a date at the Getty Museum that’s almost as deadly as the Last Days of Pompeii.

Actress, vocalist and writer Heidi-Marie Ferren (@heidi_marieferren) takes us along on a date that takes a dangerous turn down a deserted country back road, and that’s not even the scariest part.

And author, actor and executive producer Candy Washington (@CandyWashington) finds herself on a first date sitting across the table from a guy with all of the charm of Jeffrey Dahmer. On a bad day.

These stories are 100% real and real funny.

Candy, Victoria, Heidi-Marie and I are all part of WhoHaHa (@whohaha) a creative community and digital content studio co-founded by actress, director, producer and overall mega-badass Elizabeth Banks. WhoHaHa.com celebrates and elevates women in comedy. I’m proud to be part of this amazing collective of funny, fierce and clearly DROP DEAD GORGEOUS women.

ALSO! Now that sanity won and the dumpster fire that was 2020 is coming to an end, it’s time for you to take back all of the pleasure you sacrificed to this annus horribilis.

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Email me at info@sexedthemusical.com for this free guide to pleasure, adventure, my favorite dirty stuff, plus a highly scientific checklist that will help you get your sex life back on track.

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Is your Master Bedroom a Sexy Romantic Oasis?

Or Fifty Shades of No Way?

People dream about remodeling their kitchens, bathrooms and creating fantasy backyards. But, what about the one room in the house where you spend more time than anywhere else? The room that’s supposed to be your private sanctuary. The room where your most important intimate time is spent. You know, the room that’s probably overloaded with mismatched bedding, unfolded laundry, pictures of your family, stuffed animals, unfinished projects, stacks of books and a dresser covered in ATM receipts.

YUCK!

Here’s a sad but true fact: If your master bedroom has lost its mojo, there’s a good chance your relationship is next.

But do not despair, because I am obsessed with two things - Interior Design and Better Sex. For anyone looking to next level the naughty, I have put together this relationship-saving list of TEN STEPS TO THE SEXIEST BEDROOM EVER!

This isn’t Extreme Makeover: Perv Edition. This is a very simple and doable list of relatively easy changes you can make to your bedroom so instead of a Crappy Catch-All it’s your PRIVATE SEXY OASIS.

You can do this!!!!

I promise you don’t have to be a master of power tools or some high-end designer. Just about anyone can tackle this list. You can even do it with your boo and put in some sweat equity before sweating on top of each other later.

You deserve the sexy oasis of your dreams! These ten simple steps that will add some serious FUCK SHUI™ to your bedroom. Let’s get it on!

STEP ONE - PUT A LOCK ON YOUR DOOR

It’s your bedroom, the place where naked fun is supposed to be happening. Privacy is critical. Plus, both women and men can have difficulty reaching climax if they’re afraid they’ll be interrupted. You need to feel comfortable and safe in order to have an orgasm. Constantly checking the door is a major bummer. You need a lock!

If you’re concerned you’re not able to install a lock or worried about drilling into your wall, try this simple portable door lock. It’s also great for traveling and we all know how awesome hotel sex is! Get a damn lock!

STEP TWO - WATCH WHAT YOU WATCH ON TV

A lot of my esteemed colleagues might disagree with me but you don’t have to throw away your bedroom TV. Just be mindful not to watch any boner killers when it’s playtime. No news, financial shows or that gut wrenching, 4 minute ASPCA commercial. Cause that thing will murder any mojo within a 200 mile radius. I’m talking to you, Sarah McLachlan. There’s lots of video kindling you can enjoy together from tame to XXX. Here is Esquire’s list of 28 Sex Movies To Stream On Netflix Right Now.

STEP THREE - INSTALL A DIMMER SWITCH

Trust me when I tell you this, because I produced hundreds of hours of premium adult TV shows: THE BETTER THE LIGHTING THE BETTER THE SEX. Lower the lights to set the mood. The good news is most light fixtures will work with standard dimmer switches, including those with halogen and incandescent bulbs. If you have LED fixtures in your bedroom you may need a specialized dimmer. Just ask that helpful guy at your local big box hardware store. Bwahahahahaha, I’m joking of course. That guy is zero help and he’s not around anyway. Check online and always be safe when working with electricity. You might want to hire a professional electrician for this one. Trust me. Harsh lighting can kill any mood. Installing a dimmer switch is an investment in your love life!

STEP FOUR - GET SOME CANDLES

Candles make any room more romantic. Of course, always use the safest operation possible and if you’re concerned about open flames, you can get battery operated candles. Be mindful of using multiple scented candles because you don’t want your bedroom to smell like the backroom of Bed Bath and Beyond. Unless that turns you on. Hey, you do you. I really love these luxury scented soy jar candles from Lulu. They have tons of really beautiful scents to choose from. Consider anything with vanilla, cinnamon, lavender, jasmine and amber to set the mood for romance. If you want something that doesn’t have an open flame, check out this really popular set of remote controlled candles in various sizes. They create amazing ambiance in the room, you can turn them on and off with a remote, and no matches are required.

STEP FIVE - REMOVE THE FAMILY PHOTOS FROM YOUR BEDROOM

There are 36,000 photos of your kids, family and cats all over the damn house. Please remove them from your bedroom. The last thing you need to see when you’re getting railed from behind is a picture of your mother-in-law. I don’t care how hot she is! Your bedroom is for your own sexy time and connecting with your partner, it’s not a virtual scrapbook. Clear all of the family photos out of there, STAT. You can keep one or two of you perhaps from a romantic vacation or your honeymoon. Everything else has got to go!

STEP SIX - CLEAR OUT THE CRAP

I’m not saying you need to totally Marie Kondo your bedroom but…yeah, you kinda do. Clutter makes noise and it also adds to stress. It’s impossible to have a mind-blowing orgasm when your tax returns are 2 feet away on the nightstand. Clear that shit out! Laundry, kid crap, unfinished projects, stacks of books and magazines, that exercise bike underneath the clothes you’re donating to charity any day now…it all has to go! Be ruthless. This room is for sleep and sex. Your vision board will be just fine in the other room. This is your LOVE NEST, you need to get the crap, clutter and paperwork out of there. The “quieter” your room is, the more relaxed you’ll feel and the better sex you’ll have.

STEP SEVEN - INVEST IN BETTER BEDDING

You don’t have to spend a fortune but you need to make an investment in sexy bedding. All new sheets, pillow cases, throw pillows and a new duvet cover can wake up your bed. We’re talking rich colors and silky, sexy textures. That’s why hotel sex is so fun. It’s in a room free of clutter with really fine bedding. This cute little heart pillow looks sweet but it’s actually a wedge specially designed for sex by one of my favorite brands, Liberator. These 1800 Thread Count Luxury Egyptian Cotton Sheets come in 17 different colors and are surprisingly affordable. Do not spend a third of your life on low thread count sheets. You deserve Egyptian Cotton bitch!

STEP EIGHT - GET A NAUGHTY VAULT

I’m a big fan of sex toys, high end lube and whatever else adds to the fun in bed. But if there’s anyone else in your house, you can’t store naughty stuff in your nightstand. You also don’t want to hide everything in a box on the top closet shelf. You want everything locked away but within reach. You need a Naughty Vault. A lockbox that slides right under your bed and keeps your favorite play items within reach but out of prying hands. No one will know it’s there. I really like this Vaultz Underbed Locking Storage Chest. Available in numerous sizes and colors, a Naughty Vault will keep all your playthings nearby and very secure. Just remember to keep everything fully charged and cleaned so it’s ready when you are.

STEP NINE - COLOR IS IMPORTANT

Your bedroom is a love nest. Stark white walls are fine for an art gallery but when you’re setting the tone for romance, you always have to think about color. For a sexy bedroom, consider darker, richer colors. Olive. Deep violet. Charcoal. Warm greys. Lavender. It’s just paint. Go crazy. Everyone has their own opinions and reaction to color, it’s a very personal choice. Just envision your own personal retreat. Maybe paint an accent wall or go all in. There are tons of examples online. Play with color to create your ultimate love nest.

STEP TEN - SOUNDPROOFING

You definitely want a little extra privacy for when things get a little extra freaky. There are all sorts of things you can do to help quiet your bedroom. Think about installing natural cork tiles or hanging some heavy curtains behind your bed. The patron saint of serial remodelers, Bob Vila has some great suggestions for ways you can soundproof your bedroom. Do it in the name of design and no one will be the wiser.

Alright, this list might seem a little daunting but if you tackle little bits and pieces, before you know it the joint will be rockin.’ If you’d like to share some before and after pictures of your new love sanctuary, I’d love to see them and post some here. Email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

Hey, you never know, you just might be America’s Next Fuck Shui Star™.

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I can certainly see why you might assume my life is a non-stop, swinging, suburban bacchanal. Unfortunately it’s a lot less groovy than you’d imagine. Sure I can be found at the occasional sex party. However, while most folks are there for NSA, consensual hook ups, I’m likely being overwhelmed by bad flooring.

That’s because I have a problem. I’m a serial remodeler.

As a result, I’m totally addicted to home improvement and real estate shows. I watch hours and hours of kindly Canadian contractors, stressed-out house flippers, kitchen and bathroom rescues, and people pretending to house hunt. If I’m being totally honest, it’s really more of a love/hate relationship. I love the shows but I hate the insane needs they invent for said hunters.

“We need 11 bedrooms, 10+ acres, must be walking distance to city center, with a 360 degree mountain view, spa bathroom, spa living room, spa crawl space, zero-gravity sneaker closet, cat washing room, 35 car rooftop garage in an Open-Concept-Victorian-Tudor-Mid-Century-Modern-Farmhouse-Turnkey-Fixer. Our budget is up to $45,000.”

Cut To: Me yelling at the TV.

But the other day as I was hate watching, I started to wonder if some of us apply these same insanely picky standards to other aspects of life. Specifically dating.

If you look at how you're searching for a partner through the prism of house hunting, are your superficial requirements pricing you out of the market?

Yes, you should always have high standards. I’m simply suggesting that in order to find true love, some folks might need a little emotional remodeling.

And that’s where this week’s guest, Veronica Grant, comes in.

Veronica Grant is a Love + Life Coach, host of the Love Life Connection podcast, and creator of the Deep Work Deep Love Course suite. Veronica’s work has been featured in O the Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Your Tango, and countless podcasts.

As someone who struggled in love herself and was tired of unsolicited and usually patronizing dating advice (even if well-meaning), she created the resources she wished were available before she met her husband. She’s here with great advice on how to shake up how you find love.

We talk about the surprising forces behind bad decision-making. How to recognize if you’re assigning happiness to the wrong things. Plus, the one part of your body that never, ever lies.

Oh yeah, she’s also obsessed with home improvement and house hunting shows so we have a lot of fun with this one.

If you’re looking for help, here are numerous ways you can connect with Veronica Grant.

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Amish Paradise.

Eat It.

Like A Surgeon.

I Love Rocky Road.

Smells Like Nirvana.

I Lost On Jeopardy.

White & Nerdy…

Since the early 80s, “Weird Al” Yankovic has been churning out hit song parodies, some more enduring than the original songs that inspired them.

An unapologetic nerd and proud outsider, his songs are not just commentaries on pop culture, they’re also full of references to Star Wars, comic books and lunch meats. But there’s something about the “King Of The Nerds” that speaks directly to his army of die-hard fans: It’s 100% cool to be yourself, especially if you’re weird.

One of the outsiders Weird Al inspired is Pickles Kintaro, a burlesque dancer in San Francisco.

In this episode, Pickles reveals how, as an outsider for most of her life, Weird Al’s music absolutely validated her and empowered her to accept herself and then completely celebrate her weirdness. With nothing but a butter churn stripper pole, and a dream, Pickles gathered a team of misfit burlesque dancers with a shared mission. They called themselves, Tight and Nerdy: The First and Only All Weird Al-inspired Burlesque Troupe.

And a legend was born.

Okay, maybe not a legend but a lot of really hilarious shows.

Thanks to Weird Al’s legions of fans and an Instagram shout out from the King of the Nerds himself, the burlesque show was a hit from the jump.  

Then they caught the eyes of filmmakers who decided to produce a documentary all about it. The film is called Showgals: The Documentary, and as of this writing it’s currently the second most popular documentary product on Kickstarter. Please support this fantastic film and its lovely filmmakers here.

Will “Tight and Nerdy” faithfully continue their naked tribute to Weird Al? Or are they hanging up their bologna? This question and so much more will be addressed in this very fun and revealing interview.

100,000 DOWNLOADS, BITCHES!

This episode marks the 4th anniversary of Sex Ed The Musical. I’m so excited that we’ve had over 100,000 downloads. This season I’ll be dedicating myself to stories about people who are having fun while naked…which isn’t always that easy.

Also, I’m thrilled to announce the release of my new oracle cards ASK YOUR GAY BFF. Called “The answer to everything!” by beloved gay icon Bruce Vilanch, these highly opinionated and uncensored oracle cards have all the answers you’ll ever need…only extremely gay.

Pick up yours today at cardtobelieve.com, and don’t wait, because they will definitely sell out.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

There are lots of men. Straight men who are often married with children. Navy SEALs, football players, construction workers, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, factory workers — you name it. Just regular guys…who happen to prefer to have sex with other guys.

Are they gay?

Not if you ask them.

Sexual identity is complex. On this show I speak with The Straight Guy Whisperer, a gay man whose sexual partners are almost exclusively straight, married men.

We talk about why these men reach out to him, what they’re really looking for, and the surprising reasons a gay man can be the safest partner for a straight guy.

The Straight Guy Whisperer might sound familiar to my regular listeners. He’s the expert in my SECOND MOST POPULAR EPISODE OF ALL TIME: Expert BlowJob Tips From A Gay Man. This guy knows his way around another man and the fact that he almost exclusively hooks up with straight guys should tell you that he understands their pleasure on a level many women do not.

At least not yet, anyway.

Are these straight guys really closet homosexuals or bisexual? Can you exclusively have sex with someone of the same sex but still be 100% straight? A lot of that has to do with how you personally identify and what that really means. After all, at its core, your sexual identity is a label that you use to help others categorize you.

As Toni Morrison famously said, “Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.”

Regardless, we can all get caught up in labels and panic and fear when it comes to sexual identity. Even though, when it all comes down to it…Pleasure is Pleasure. Happiness is Happiness. And Love is Love.

Regardless of how you identify, there’s going to be something very enlightening for you in this conversation.

REMEMBER, TO GET AN EXCLUSIVE, COMPLETELY FREE SNEAK PREVIEW CHAPTER OF MY BRAND NEW BOOK COMING OUT THIS SUMMER, EMAIL ME AT INFO@SEXEDTHEMUSICAL.COM AND LET ME KNOW WHERE TO SEND IT.

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Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts.

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Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here!

If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

Thanks, as always, for listening.

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About once a week, someone asks me how to have a threesome. We’re talking friends of mine, people I know through work, women I’ve met at yoga. Okay, I don’t go to yoga once a week, I probably go once a month but it’s so horrible it feels like once a week.

Regardless, I am asked this question over and over again.

This is a fact: Having a threesome is the number one sexual fantasy of heterosexual couples. I have a shit ton of anecdotal evidence to know this is true. I was once hosting a birthday party and a couple I’ve known for over 20 years came up to me and asked me how they could have their first threesome. At MY birthday party!

But I don’t blame them. Adding a special guest star to your show can be a great way to add some serious fun and, if you do it ethically and with the right planning and communication, a great addition to your horizontal repertoire.

Of course, this is super easy for me to say. I hang out with professional sex-havers and pleasure chasers all the time. I’m in what you’d call a “target rich environment.” Unfortunately, the rest of you are out there scanning the aisles of Trader Joe’s for that elusive unicorn. Trust me, I’ve looked and she ain’t there. Or, if she is, she’s probably just there to buy some non-dairy oat milk, not to hook up with you and your boo in that fucked up parking lot.

So where do you find your elusive unicorn? How do you approach them and attract them? When do you invite them over? What’s the perfect fruit to serve for a threesome?

All but one of those are very important questions and I’m about to answer all of them for you. Okay, not me personally, but two very special guests who’ve been on my show previously. A lot of you new listeners who are sending me emails, aren’t scrubbing through the entire episode catalog so you don’t know what’s in there. No worries, it’s all condensed for you right here.

Threesome School is now in session!

To hear the full interviews with my threesome experts and for tips on how you can have a fantasy threesome with anyone in the world, check out these episodes.

HOW TO HAVE A THREESOME (WITHOUT HAVING ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR BED)

THE SEXUALLY ADVENTUROUS WOMAN

HOW TO BE SEXUALLY AUTHENTIC (featuring a particularly disastrous threesome story)

Full interview with a professional unicorn - HOW TO FIND SOMEONE FOR YOUR FIRST THREESOME, A UNICORN GETS REAL

A great source of information about Unicorns: Unicorn-Adventures.com

A New York Times review of the threesome dating app Feeld.

Good luck and happy hunting!

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Unicorn Image by Annalise Batista from Pixabay

There’s a famous saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” Yet, despite all of the red flags, when it comes to dating, some people keep making the same mistakes over and over again and keep wondering why they just can’t find the right person.

On this episode, I interview Mindset Mastery coach, Stephanie Kwong. Known as a secret weapon who helps people get to their next level, Stephanie uses her unique training to help her clients break through old patterns and rewire their subconscious in order to make extraordinary shifts in their lives.

But what really attracted me to this story was the fact that Stephanie herself had a pattern of choosing one bad partner after another with the same disastrous results. The teacher became the student and using her own modalities she rewired her own subconscious and, finally trusting herself, found the love of her life a thousand miles away.

She’s practically living in a Hallmark movie — only without the obscure Canadian actors and fake snow.

So, whether you’re looking to break out of your negative dating patterns to find “the one,” or you’re interested in making a different kind of shift in your life, Stephanie is just the coach who can help you rewire your subconscious, and get out of your own way to manifest the life of your dreams with ease.

Listen, Laugh, and Learn how to fall in love with the right person.

To work with Stephanie or find out more, visit her website - https://www.stephaniekwong.com/

Follow her on Instagram @iamstephaniekwong

And you can find her on Facebook @stephaniekaikwong

Hey friends, I have a brand new book coming out this summer. To get your free sneak preview chapter email me at info@sexedthemusical.com and I’ll send it your way!

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Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts.

Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it.

Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here!

If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com.

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

When I started working at Playboy TV, people immediately began to ask me how I was going to “explain my job” to my daughter. Strangely, I was never asked that question about any of the other places I worked. After all, I spent years working at NBC and never once was I asked to explain Supertrain. But after I became Head of Programming at Playboy TV, I was repeatedly asked how I was going to justify my job to a 4 year old.

Turns out, my kid didn’t have a problem. On the other hand, there were one or two very judgmental moms at her fancy private school who, after finding out where I worked, tried to make things extremely difficult for me. And the most famous mom of all, was my biggest hater.

Which only proves, no matter where you go, there are always mean girls.

My guest, columnist and reporter Ray Richmond, had a much different experience. His mother went from giving hand jobs to movie stars in a seedy massage parlor across from FOX, to founding a huge sex product empire. That’s right, a tiny, Jewish mother working in a “rub and tug” is the Godmother of the multi-billion dollar lube and sex toy industry.

And the best/most unbelievable part of this story is that her X-rated enterprise was entirely bankrolled by her boyfriend — a well-known Los Angeles restaurateur who also happened to be a married, devout Christian, anti-smut crusader.

Wait, what???

And THAT’S not even the craziest part.

This is a true story about religious faith, true love, and lubrication.

You are not going to believe this.

And, as part of our special Holiday Giveaway month, the fine folks at Überlube have generously donated their amazing sex lubricant.

All you have to do to be eligible to receive a bottle of Überlube for free, is go to our iTunes page, subscribe, write a 5-star review and email the text of your review and the name you used to info@sexedthemusical.com.

A randomly selected new reviewer this month will receive a bottle of Überlube in the mail. Subscribe, review and email us today so you can be eligible to receive a bottle of Überlube!!!

To find out more about Überlube, which is produced in Chicago just like I was, go to Überlube.com

More About Ray Richmond

Clifford Clinton Bio

Clifton’s Cafeteria

Dealing With Mean Moms

Pink Cheeks for Waxing, Anal Bleaching and Waffle Mix

Cover Illustration courtesy of Pixabay

CORRECTION: Clifford Clinton was not depicted in the film, L.A. Confidential. He was depicted in the book, L.A. Noir.

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fan·ta·sy

/ˈfan(t)əsē/ noun

1. Imagination, especially when extravagant and unrestrained. Often impossible or improbable.

It's a fact. We all have fantasies. From scoring the game-winning touchdown, to winning an Academy Award, to destroying the drum kit in your next door neighbor’s garage with a sledge hammer.

I’m speaking hypothetically, of course.

Fantasies are a healthy and normal part of the human experience.

Within the vast array of fantasies, you’ll also find Sexual Fantasies. Their main purpose is to turn us on. But what happens if one of them actually comes true? They say you should never meet your heroes because there’s a good chance they won’t possibly live up to your expectations. I get that.

Is it the same for sexual fantasies? Are they better kept in the imagination? What if you had the chance to make your biggest sexual fantasy come true in a perfectly safe and consensual way? A sexual fantasy you’ve been dreaming about as long as you can remember.

Would you do it?

My guest this week was given the opportunity to make her biggest sexual fantasy come true. Instead of overthinking or being fearful that it or even she might not live up to her expectations, she simply said, “Let’s do this!”

That split-second decision changed her entire life.

You’re about to meet a woman who emailed me and said she got the chance to live out her life-long sexual fantasy. She wanted to share her story with me on my podcast. After I determined this was an actual person, and a very funny and charming one at that, I was all in.

“Let’s do this!”

This has to be one of my favorite interviews of all time. And within all of the life-changing lessons she learned in this one fateful night, there’s a lot of takeaway:

1. Why is authenticity the ultimate aphrodisiac?
2. What’s the one trait all happy couples share?
3. Why did someone bring nachos to a sex party?

You’re going to get all of these answers and a whole lot more in this very fun, candid and inspirational conversation I had with a total stranger…who’s no stranger to happiness.

Don’t forget to purchase my book, 3 Secrets to the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, a #1 new release on Amazon. It will turn you into a relationship boss!!

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV and other adventures, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more.

Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts.

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Again, if there’s anything or anyone you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

To celebrate this holiday season, all December long I’m reissuing my most popular episodes with a fun twist! I will be giving away amazing gifts, and it’s super easy for you to enter for a chance to receive one!

All you have to do is go to my show’s iTunes Page, subscribe and leave a 5-star review!

Then email me at info@sexedthemusical.com and share the text of your review and the name you posted it under. Every week in December I’m going to randomly select one listener who posted a 5-star review and send them a very special thank you gift.

To celebrate this episode all about Menopause with Dr. Sherry Ross, I will be sending one listener a copy of her new book She-ology: The Definitive Guide To Women’s Intimate Health. Period. With a forward written by Reese Witherspoon. Plus, the dilators Dr. Sherry recommends to help lessen the pain associated with sex during menopause.

Thanks for subscribing and for writing a review! I really hope you enjoy this episode.

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Ahhhhh, MENOPAUSE.

All those hilarious memes about hot flashes, mood swings, night sweats, and that wacky brain fog.

But, I promise you, menopause is no joke.

It’s time we all stop being polite, and start getting real about menopause.

On this episode, I have a completely uncensored and candid talk with highly-respected OB/GYN to the stars, and self-proclaimed “vagina whisperer” Dr. Sherry A. Ross.

We talk about pain during sex, what causes it and what you can do to prevent it so you can enjoy sex life again. We talk about vaginal dryness and remedies that work. We talk about the importance of a good vibrator. How to advocate for yourself when you’re at the doctor’s office. We even discuss if “squirting” is a real thing? Hint: It is.

Dr. Sherry and I go there!

This episode answers the questions you have about your middle-aged ladyparts and what the hell is happening to them! The bottom line is this: You don’t have to suffer. There are solutions out there and Dr. Sherry shares them with me right here.

SHOW NOTES

2:18 Do you have to shave your legs before going to the gynecologist?

3:09 You can tell by looking at a vagina if someone is having a lot of sex.

4:34 What causes painful sex?

5:15 Hydrate your vagina with Revaree Hyaluronic Acid for Vaginal Dryness

6:09 Dr. Sherry’s preferred dilators to help help eliminate pain during sex.

6:47 What causes pain during sex.

7:51 Extra virgin coconut oil is the best lube.

8:13 Bathe with extra virgin coconut oil.

8:51 Why it’s not a good idea to have only sex twice a year.

9:45 How to use Dr. Sherry’s preferred dilators.

11:18 The importance of talking about menopause.

11:57 Using boric acid to even out the pH balance in your vagina.

12:11 Revaree.

12:39 Why you should be using Dr. Sherry’s preferred vibrator.

13:19 Women are reluctant to introduce sex toys with their male partners. Check out episode 7 to find out how you shouldn’t introduce sex toys.

13:41 Vibrators make your male partner’s life easier.

13:51 Women have been marginalized to express their sexual desires.

14:11 The average time you spend with your doctor is 7.5 minutes.

14:33 Squirting!

16:48 Hormone replacement therapy.

17:35 Things that may trigger hot flashes.

18:23 When to know if you need hormones or if you need to stay on hormones.

19:03 The importance of discussing menopause and women’s health issues.

19:55 Is there a light at the end of the vagina tunnel?

20:25 Any correlation between how your mother experienced menopause and how you will.

22:04 The importance of discussing pleasure with girls.

22:42 Is using a vibrator going to desensitize you for manual stimulation?

23:36 Despite numerous mentions, my show is not sponsored by the Hitachi Magic Wand.

24:07 Your Peloton might be traumatizing your vulva.

24:43 The coconut oil you shouldn’t get.

25:05 How to advocate better for yourself with your doctor. What should you do before even walking into the exam room.

26:14 How to recognize you’re being gaslighted by medical professionals.

27:07 The biggest myth about menopause.

27:25 Using a MonaLisa laser to help with vaginal dryness and atrophy.

27:52 Porn has ruined our vaginal self esteem.

29:05 Dr. Sherry’s Visual Vaginal Library

29:50 Vaginal farts.

Order Dr. Sherry’s book She-ology: The Definitive To Women’s Intimate Health. Period.

Some of the links in this post are Amazon affiliate links, meaning at no additional cost to you, I will earn a ridiculously tiny commission if you click through and make a purchase.

Welcome Back!

Yep, I’ve taken a few weeks off this summer to release my first book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted which, I am thrilled to announce is a…

A Top 100 Book on Amazon and the

#1 NEW RELEASE IN SEXUAL HEALTH!

I wrote this book because I realized that millions of people are caught up in toxic relationship overthinking. They’re constantly repeating the same mistakes and bad decisions with no idea how to change this behavior. In my work as a Sexologist and the creator of premium, sex-positive programming, I’ve discovered if you really want to have a happy and healthy relationship, you only need to do 3 things.

And one of the things has nothing to do with your partner at all!

Once you put my 3 Secrets into play, a lifetime of love, happiness and fun can follow.

3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted is a completely clear and candid roadmap to relationship success, offering ADVANCED SEX TIPS, TOYS, and ROMANTIC ADVENTURES that will turn you into a Stealth Superfreak. Plus, IRRESISTIBLE AND SIMPLE RECIPES designed to set the table for romance. In addition, the book features an entire section specifically designed to empower women to become the AUTHENTIC, SHAMELESS, POWERFUL, SELF-LOVING, EPIC BADASSES they’ve always wanted to be.

Whether you've been with a partner for years or you're currently single, this is the last relationship book you'll ever need.

Oh and fellas…trust me when I tell you that this book is THE PERFECT GIFT for your female partner.

Trust. Me.

Now, I’m super thrilled to be sharing the most downloaded episode from the past season. I know it resonated with a lot of you.

I found a funny quote the other day. It says…

“Dating after 30 is easy. It’s like riding a bike. Only the bike is on fire. And the ground is on fire. Everything is on fire. Because you are in hell.”

Okay. Now imagine dating after 50!

On this week’s show, I interview actress, voice artist and my good pal, Mari Weiss. Mari was on the podcast nearly two years ago in an episode called How Being Tied Up Released Me. She shared an amazing story about dating a guy who slowly-yet-firmly led her into the world of BDSM.

Her first surprise was how willing she was to obey him.

Her second surprise was how much she enjoyed it.

Before and since then, Mari, like many other single folks, has gone on more than her share of dates. But unlike the days when you’re 25 and sprucing yourself up to no end in order to meet some grown man in a baseball cap, when you’re 50+ you have a lot more perspective on life. You’re also probably not so interested in putting up with anyone’s bullshit.

We talk about what causes women, particularly, to constantly set our own feelings aside and put up with people who are clearly unkind and/or unworthy of us.

And why it’s a radical idea to enjoy being single and child free. Which, according to science, is actually the healthiest option out there for women.

I also touch on losing my best friend and how I traveled to Chicago to scatter her ashes in a sacred temple I will not be naming. Let’s just say, all of its followers are true blue.

Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more.

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Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! Including a very special excerpt from my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

Boundaries. The word itself can be as intimidating as barbed wire.

Scary to set.

Scary to express.

Scary to defend.

But you know what’s scarier than setting or defending boundaries? Having no boundaries at all.

There’s a good reason you might be afraid to establish boundaries. Perhaps you were socialized never to make waves, or told to be obedient at all times otherwise you might upset someone. Or you were told that you’re responsible for everybody else’s feelings, or selfish if you ever put yourself first. It’s entirely possible you were fed those lines of bullshit. Especially if you were a girl. Also, it can be very challenging to advocate for yourself, especially if you’re used to always putting others before you.

Just like applying sunscreen, brushing your teeth, or washing your hands regularly, establishing boundaries should be a critical part of your daily self-care routine. You are well within your rights to ask for what you want and to reject things that are not serving you. Because, you are taking care of yourself and your needs. Plus, how you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you.

YOU ARE WORTHY AND YOU DON’T NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR IT

Sorry, I have a few more things to say…

In this episode, I mention a recent Canadian study I found that revealed how and why women apologize more than men. Sorry. Many thought that was only a stereotype, but, sorry, it turned out to be true for a surprising reason. Here’s a link with info how you can read the study in full. Sorry.

I also refer to a piece on Bustle.com How You Can Set Boundaries With A New Sexual Partner. Even if you’ve been with someone for a while, the advice here is very helpful and really affirms the importance of establishing sexual boundaries not only for your own health but for a healthy relationship.

I also share the story of a woman who was having painful sex because she was afraid that asking to use lube would somehow offend her husband. GAHHHHHH!

I mention a lube I really like called Sliquid Organics Gel. Because I have a super delicate ecosystem, I love this product. It’s aloe vera based and water soluble. 100% Vegan friendly with no animal testing. It’s glycerin, paraben and petroleum free. It’s latex, rubber and plastic friendly. It’s hypoallergenic, non-toxic, non-staining, unflavored and unscented. You can purchase it here.

If you feel as if you’re not worthy of getting what you want or that you always find yourself saying “Sorry” before voicing an opinion or really anything, please check out this episode about establishing boundaries, especially sexual boundaries, and why you are 100% allowed and encouraged to establish them for your own well-being.

As Brené Brown says, “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”

Or, as I say, “If people can’t respect your boundaries, fuck ‘em. Or better yet…don’t.”

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Has your sex drive vanished?

Are you no longer interested in intimacy?

Would you rather spend 45 minutes waiting in line for a vegan taquito sample at Costco, than have sex?

Well…you’re not alone.

In April 2018, Pamela Joy delivered the TEDx talk, Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire, which has been viewed nearly 2,000,000 times. Her brave and personal story clearly struck a note with all of the other women facing this exact challenge.

In fact, looking for a solution to her sex life, changed the trajectory of her entire life.

Pamela left a career in high tech and founded Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. Now, through her writing, speaking and coaching, she hopes to inspire individuals and couples to find ways to renew and deepen desire and intimacy in their own relationships.

On this episode, she offers solutions for:

Finding a middle ground for the desire discrepancy between you and your partner.

How to get out of the pattern of having painful “obligation sex” with your partner.

How simple things such as your morning cup of coffee or the smell of your favorite shampoo can lead to an increase in your sexual pleasure.

And much, much more.

A lack or a complete loss of sexual desire is a problem that affects not just millions of women but people of all genders and sexual orientations. Whether it’s sharing these stories with your friends or seeking the help of a professional sex and intimacy coach, there is hope.

Pamela Joy, M.A. is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach (CSC) and has a Masters in Counseling Psychology. She is available for private online coaching sessions for couples and individuals who want more pleasure, more intimacy and more connection in their relationships. You can contact her directly at pamela@downtothere.com or 1-650-887-4751.

If you’re looking for other ways to enjoy a happy and healthy relationship, be sure to check out my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted.

An Amazon #1 New Release in Sexual Health, it’s been called,

“An NSFW Masterclass in maintaining a Happy, Healthy, Sexy relationship!”

I completely agree!

Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more.

Please follow, share and subscribe wherever you enjoy podcasts.

Also, if you’d be so kind as to leave us a 5-Star Review, we’d gratefully appreciate it.

Check out my writing on Medium.com here! Including a very special excerpt from my 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted

Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

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Throughout the first season of this podcast, I’ve featured all sorts of hilarious Screw Confessions. Perhaps you recall…

• The woman who had sex in a car that turned out to be parked in front of a police station.
• The woman who, in the throes of passion tore a headboard off of the wall and peed on her partner.
• One woman’s plan to spend an afternoon masturbating that was rudely interrupted by the New York City Fire Department.

This episode features a very special Celebrity Screw Confession courtesy of the hilarious Kate Quigley. Out of respect for the world-famous supermodel in this story, we won’t be revealing his name. Kate has told this story on stage several times which is why we’re okay with revealing her as the storyteller.

And, if you have a Screw Confession you’d like to share with us ANONYMOUSLY please email me. I’d love to feature your hilarious sex fail in an upcoming episode.

Also, I spend a lot of time in this episode extolling the virtues of a vaginal moisturizer product called Revaree. In Episode 14 I interviewed OB/GYN to the stars and famed vagina whisperer, Dr. Sherry Ross. She absolutely RAVED about Revaree for women of a certain age. I recently started using it and, she’s right, it’s a game changer.

Just know that the opinions expressed on this show are my own. I am not a paid spokesperson for this product and Revaree does not sponsor this show.

Yet.

(Call me, Revaree!)

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PRODUCTION NOTES

The role of my gay bestie was played by my gay bestie: Jack Ryan.

Supermodel Photo by Jesse Gross.

Wendy Miller’s hair and make-up by Miss Pat Collins.

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This week’s conversation is with a male, who spent his first 24 years as a female.

Not exactly by choice.

As Forest says on his website, thehumanconditioncoaching.com

“Growing up as a doubly closeted gay boy in the Midwest, I cultivated a vivid world inside my head where I felt safe and free. Eventually, I would have to come out of hiding no matter how scary it felt. I realized the fear was never going to disappear, but I felt like I was starting to disappear after so many years of keeping parts of myself boxed in.”

For the first 24 years of his life, Forest didn’t have the language to articulate his experience and was unable to identify himself as transgender. Feeling uncomfortable in his own body, Forest went on an incredible journey to discover his truth.

Now that he has, he’s helping others find their way as well.

A self-described empathic, spiritual, queer, trans, kinky, white boy with a vulva, Forest knows a thing or two about authenticity and pleasure. Which is why I really loved going Under Covers with him this week.

He’s also the first person I’ve interviewed Under Covers that requested his identity not be hidden. This is because he’s on a mission to help others with his work.

He continues…

“Healing my relationship with my body, my gender and my sexuality has been at the center of my journey. Abuse has become so normalized in society that sometimes it becomes difficult to notice we are feeling disconnected from ourselves, our needs, our wants, our joy, our pleasure, our senses. It is no accident that people who are not cis white straight men often feel shame around their body and sexuality.”

Forest feels called on to share everything he’s learned and to guide folks on their own paths inward. Healing is at the center of his work and regardless of where you are on the gender spectrum, there’s a lot of information and inspiration to be gained from this conversation.

For relationship resources and more, please visit Forest’s website thehumanconditioncoaching.com

Or you can email him at radiantforest77@gmail.com

Now…for this conversation, all you need to know is that Forest practices solo polyamory, is a writer, visionary and spiritual slut. That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

If you’d like a custom autographed copy of my book, 3 Secrets the the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, but you can’t attend a book-signing in person, email me and I’ll snail mail you a signed bookplate you can affix to your copy. Because, I’m super nice that way.

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

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We’re all socially distancing. Sheltered in place. Huddled braless in front of Netflix, confused, foraging for snacks and wondering if we might have to turn old socks into toilet paper.

IT’S A MADHOUSE!!! A MADHOUSE!!!

How are we to survive? I know! Let’s laugh at other peoples’ misfortune. That always works for me. Since, this is a show about sex, we’ll laugh at their sexual misfortune. Win/win!

On this episode, my guests share hilarious Screw Confessions. And in a Sex Ed The Musical first, we have our first gay male Screw Confession!

This is really huge!

(That’s what he said.)

Actually, that’s not at all what he said. If you want to know exactly what he said, you gotta listen to this episode.

You’ll hear two very funny comedians, Jodi Miller and Kate Quigley sharing their hilarious Screw Confessions and then a few other all-new stories. It’s kind of a big deal you guys. So, as you’re sheltering in place and staying safe, have a laugh and check out this episode.

Hey! If you have a Screw Confession you’d like to share with me, please email me and let’s get you on the next show!

Until next time…

Stay safe!

Your pal in podcast sex,

Wendy

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"The biggest critics of my books are people who never read them."

--Jackie Collins

It brings in over a billion dollars in sales every year.

It’s devoured by dedicated customers who can never get enough.

It’s a global phenomenon with fans across every demographic.

Yet, erotic literature gets very little respect.

Henry Miller. Anaïs Nin. D.H. Lawrence. Vladimir Nabokov. John Updike. Erica Jong. All literary giants while also experts at writing about some really hot sex. Erotic fiction has highbrow roots but a very lowbrow reputation.

However, when Fifty Shades of Grey sold over 125 million copies worldwide and self publishing gave anyone with a computer the opportunity to upload their work for sale on Amazon’s Kindle store, the entire game changed. Suddenly women who loved reading erotic fiction saw an opportunity. Readers became writers. For some, success came practically overnight. For others, the pressures of taking each story to another extreme became unsustainable.

In this episode, I interview filmmaker and author Austen Rachlis, the producer/director of the documentary Naughty Books.

"Naughty Books follows three writers: Kelli Maine, Kristen Proby, and CJ Roberts, as they navigate what unexpected success means for their lives, both professionally and personally.

On the surface, this movie is about self-published romance novels, but at its core, it’s about women challenging the status quo and stepping forward to tell the world they aren’t ashamed of their sexuality. In a world where #MeToo dominates the headlines and predatory behavior is pervasive, Naughty Books celebrates women reclaiming their sexuality on their own terms."

Look, we live in crazy times. During the pandemic, sex toy sales have increased 200%. Erotic fiction sales have also increased. What does this tell you? Women need relief. An escape. We need Me Time.

So, crawl in bed. Light your favorite pumpkin spice candles. Get under your weighted blanket and discover the amazing story behind your favorite Naughty Books.

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Would you ever consider having an open marriage?

In the Colonial Era, marriage was largely about property and procreation. Of course, back then the average life expectancy was about 36 years old. Which means, “till death do us part” wasn’t really that long of a commitment.

The modern idea of marriage as being about romance, companionship and registering for new dishes at Macy’s, didn’t emerge until the last couple of centuries. As society’s goals and structure changed over time, its rules and expectations of marriage evolved along with them.

Now, marriage seems to be at a brand new crossroads.

A recent study revealed that remarkable transformations in relationships have occurred over the past several decades. 20% of adults have engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy and the public’s interest in polyamory is clearly on the rise.

Despite the allure of sex with numerous groovy partners with no retribution, creating a successful, ethically non-monogamous relationship has an extremely high degree of difficulty. But, if you consider that 45% of all marriages fail anyway, maybe it’s worth the risk?

On this episode, I speak with The Sex Guru℠, Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones. A clinical sexologist, and nationally recognized sex and relationship expert who’s been featured in Playboy, People and Time, she answers such questions as:

• How to know if you’re stable enough to open up your relationship.
• The best time to open up a relationship.
• How to start the conversation safely and ethically.
• How adding a new play partner can completely reinvigorate a stale relationship.

Even if an open relationship isn’t for you, there’s a lot you can learn from Dr. Jones about the advanced levels of communication, honesty and understanding required to have a successful open relationship…and, actually, a traditional relationship as well.

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Thanks, as always, for listening.

See you next time!

“This is the best way for me to be seen. How I want to be seen. And that is as a Muslim woman.”

When nurse practitioner Neda walked into a pole dancing class while wearing a hijab, she had no agenda. A life-long athlete, she had purchased a Class Pass and decided to use it to learn some “ho stuff” from “a bunch of strippers.” However, she learned a lot more than just some “ho stuff,” and by the end of her first class, she was hooked to the pole.

Now with nearly 50,000 followers on Instagram, @hijabluscious is a study in sharp contrasts. Despite the fact that in much of the western world, a hijab is often interpreted as a symbol of Muslim women’s oppression, she proudly rocks her head and neck covering while pulling off some dope shit on the pole.

“I had people trying to share my videos out of contempt. Trying to harass me. All that did was give me more attention.”

Due to the many pole dancing videos she’s shared, Neda has received all sorts of angry threats and accusations. While at the same time, she’s inspired thousands who would previously never consider pole dancing at all. Plus, she’s kind of famous!

On this episode, we talk about how members of the pole dancing community first reacted to her when she walked into the studio, what the early reactions were when she started posting videos, and how she achieves balance both on and off the pole.

@HIJABLUSCIOUS LINKS

IG - https://www.instagram.com/hijabiluscious/

POLE DANCING WITH THE TRY GUYS (VIDEO, NEARLY 2 MILLION VIEWS) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jelxsmzI71s

MUSLIM GIRL INTERVIEW - https://muslimgirl.com/meet-neda-the-hijabi-who-loves-to-pole-dance/

AMALIAH.COM INTERVIEW - https://www.amaliah.com/post/58142/year-hobbies-pole-muslim-women-sports-fitness-neda-hijabiluscious

MUSLIM MAMAS INTERVIEW - https://muslimmamas.com/neda-the-hijabi-pole-dancer-by-marzia-hassem/

If you’d like a custom autographed copy of my book, 3 Secrets to the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, but you can’t attend a book-signing in person, email me and I’ll snail mail you a signed bookplate you can affix to your copy. Because, I’m super nice that way.

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

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There’s not a lot I can say about this episode except that it’s my most intensely personal one yet. Which, if you've been listening to this show over the past two years, is really saying something.

Plus, it features Charo, my eyebrows, and the opportunity to send thousands of dollars to paypal.me/wendymiller1661

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For the first of this month’s Listener Favorite Episodes, we’re going to focus on the top sexual fantasy for couples - a THREESOME. So many couples fantasize about having a third join them in bed but…

HOW DO YOU FIND THAT PERSON?

HOW DO YOU BOTH AGREE TO THAT PERSON??

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH POTENTIAL JEALOUSY ISSUES???

These are all common questions and there’s a lot to consider before you both decide to get naked in front of someone else.

In one of our most popular episodes ever, I reveal, step-by-step, the safest and easiest way for you and your partner to have a threesome. The best part is, you get to have sex with anyone you want!!!!

Don’t believe me? Just listen.

EPISODE NOTES

My long-suffering husband is played by…my actual long-suffering husband, Karl T. Wright. He’s dreamy!

Christina Hendricks could have been played by Christina Hendricks. At least, that’s what I’m telling myself.

Also, don’t forget, YOU CAN GET YOUR OWN CUSTOM JINGLE PERFORMED BY ME ON THE SHOW! Simply leave us a 5-star review on iTunes and you’ll be hearing your name sung by me! It’s practically priceless!

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This week we’re erasing the stigma of singledom to help solo people literally embrace their badass selves with Your Friendly Neighborhood Sexologist Dr. Megan Stubbs.

Face it, quite a few of us spent the past year completely isolated and alone. No longer able to connect with others in person, millions have been dealing with touch deprivation. Even some partnered people are touch deprived.

In her new book, Playing Without A Partner: A Singles’ Guide To Sex, Dating and Happiness, Dr. Stubbs offers all sorts of creative solutions for you to become your own best friend in the bedroom.

Episode Topics Include

• How the pandemic wreaked havoc on millions of sex lives.
• An encouraging increase in diversity in the world of Sexologists.
• The sudden explosion of unqualified people branding themselves as Sex and Intimacy Coaches.
• The surprising change in rules around New York’s many gloryholes.
• The best ways to create a sense of touch and pleasure, even when you’re a party of one.

Megan Stubbs is a sexologist, relationship expert, and body image specialist. With her degrees in biology and human sexuality, she is able to combine two of her favorite things, science and sex, into a cohesive platform to impact her audience. She is mindful of inclusion and brings a sensitivity to ethnic diversity rooted in her own complex heritage. She believes that sex should be fun and uses her lighthearted, intelligent, and humorous delivery to make it happen. She has been featured in many popular outlets including Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Self, Men's Health, Woman's Health, and Bustle to name a few.

To find out more about Dr. Megan Stubbs, visit her website, https://www.sexologistmegan.com/ today. You can also follow her online @sexologistmegan.

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In the early scenes of the Hitchcock masterpiece, Psycho, we see star Janet Leigh in a white bra and slip. These images were even featured on movie posters, which was quite scandalous for 1960. However, later in the film, after Marion has unmarried sex, steals thousands of dollars and becomes a fugitive, Hitchcock presents her in a black bra to illustrate she’s now a good girl turned bad.

Nothing can tell a woman’s story quite like her underwear.

For ages and ages, women’s lingerie has been a subject of great fascination and fetishization. From vintage Sears catalogs to an entire pageant featuring stately models clad in lingerie and angel wings (???), some folks simply can’t get enough of ladies in their unmentionables. For many women, however, bras can also be a subject of great annoyance, shame, and abject disappointment. ESPECIALLY if you’re a “full figured girl” as movie bombshell Jane Russell used to say in Playtex bra commercials from the 70s and 80s.

Finding foundations that fit can be challenging for more voluptuous bodies and though, to some it may seem like a high class problem, I assure you it’s much more of a high class pain in the ass.

Enter Jenette Bras.

As they say on their website…

"Most women blessed with a figure like ours are wearing the wrong size bra. Chances are that right now half of your boob is bulging out somewhere or other. I call it Mall Bra Syndrome. It’s a low inventory, low wage, low skill business model that just about works for gals up to a C-cup, if they’re not too picky. If you need a bigger cup you’re likely to be offered a bigger band instead. Seriously? Instead of fitting bras to our bodies, they expect our bodies to fit their limited selection of bras.

Well, I come from a long line of women who are big on bosom and short on patience. So, enough already."

Jenette Goldstein, a working actress who appeared in numerous blockbuster films and hit TV shows, decided to do something about the difficulties of finding a perfectly-fitted bra for the “full figured gal.” So she opened Jenette Bras, where their slogan is, “The alphabet starts at D.”

Since I totally qualify and was in dire need for some new foundations thanks to a 50 pound weight loss, I headed over to their brand new Burbank, CA store where, and I am not kidding, my life changed.

How did my life change at a bra shop? Great question, thanks for asking. As you’re about to hear in this episode, it was thanks to a simple photo, snapped at my request, by highly trained bra fitter. For the first time in my life, I finally saw what my body really looked like.

And I liked it.

In this interview we cover…

• How Jenette convinced director James Cameron to shoot her and her plentiful rack in a very specific way
• How bra sizes are completely arbitrary, meaningless and stupid
• The importance of being professionally fitted for a bra
• Why spending more for a handmade bra makes a lot of sense
• When it’s actually okay to get a cheap bra
• The surprising physical trait shared by Black women and Jewish women

I also get very real about my own personal struggles with body issues and trauma.

This episode is about a lot more than tits, but, we all know that’s always a great place to start.

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Janet Leigh photo from Psycho, Unknown author, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

Sometimes, a lady just wants some company.

As the poet laureate of our generation, Cardi B recently propounded, “I want you to park that big Mack truck, right in this little garage.”

Who can argue with that?

Unforch, quite a few garages are situated right in the middle of a global pandemic and locating an acceptable Mack truck and then making space for it in your garage can be a bit…challenging?

On this episode, stand up comedian, writer and actress Danette Rodriguez shares a story about being a single girl looking for some D in NY, K?

The struggle is definitely real. But there’s a big lesson in Danette's story about setting boundaries, being a good communicator, and figuring out who deserves a spot on your booty call list and who is a garbage person.

Can someone be both? Neither? These are things a girl needs to navigate in these uncertain times.

As I say in the worst Carrie Bradshaw impersonation ever, “Can you have your cock and eat it, too?” Well, we’re about to find out.

Because, there is nothing wrong with wanting some supplemental company, but in this COVID era, there are many more precautions required than the usual safe sex.

And sometimes, your hormones will fuck with you when you just wanna fuck.

So check out this story of Dating in the Age of COVID, with my guest, the very funny Danette Rodriguez. Who, by the way, was wearing lipstick for this interview and probably wants you to know that she looked quite fantastic.

Find out more about her at danetterodriguez.com

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When you think of swinging, what’s the first image that comes to your mind? Some key party in the 1970s? Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman in masks? A suburban couple revealing their lifestyle on The Oprah Show? I’m going to assume all of those images in your mind have one thing in common.

Everybody is white.

If you’ve been paying attention you know it’s already dangerous to be driving while Black.

Outside a store while Black.

Voting while Black.

Riding a train while Black.

Sitting in your car while Black.

Wearing a hoodie while Black.

Walking in your neighborhood with a friend while Black.

Minding your own damn business inside your own damn apartment while Black.

But when it comes being a swinger…do Black people really do that?

Yes they do. And for some…it can be, well, interesting.

On this episode, I talk to one half of a “rarity” in the swinging community: A Black couple. Pursuing the lifestyle of their choice, both he and his wife have experienced all sorts of interesting comments, rejections and flat out fetishization. My guest discusses what it’s like to be at a sex party with Trump supporters, the crazy expectations or blatant racism they encounter on swinger dating sites and also the historic implications of being a Black man watching your wife have sex with a White man.

Everything you think you knew about the lifestyle is about to change.

If you'd like to contact my guest Mink and his wife Andy, check out the swinging lifestyle site Kasidie.com and search for MinkandAndy. At the very least, you know it's going to be a funny night.

Here's my Medium.com story about the night I dragged my husband to a swinger party for work. It did not go well.

It’s important to remember that the racial awareness that's happening right now in this country is not just some trend and we must keep working to educate ourselves and help put an end to systemic racism. White people need to better understand our part in this country’s deeply rooted racist past and the millions of ways we’ve benefited from it without even realizing. There's a lot more work that needs to be done.

Please don’t ask or expect Black people to educate you. You have to listen, learn and do the work yourself. Below is a brief list of book to read that will help you better understand centuries of systemic oppression much better. Please do your part to support Black artists, Black-owned business, and try to use your platform to amplify Black voices whenever you can.

• How to Be an Antiracist/Ibram X. Kendi/2019 
• White Fragility/Robin J. Diangelo/June 26, 2018
• Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? And Other Conversations About Race/Beverley Daniel Tatum/2017 
• White Rage/Carol Anderson/2017 
• Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race/Renni Eddo-Lodge/2017
• Between the World and Me/Ta-Nehisi Coates/2015
• The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness/Michelle Alexander/2010
• Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower/Brittney Cooper/2018
• I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings/Maya Angelou/1969
• Just Mercy/Bryan Stevenson/2014
• Me and White Supremacy/Layla F. Saad/2020
• Raising our Hands/Jenna Arnold/2020
• Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love, and So Much More/Janet Mock/2014
• The Bluest Eye/Toni Morrison/1970
• The Fire Next Time/James Baldwin/1962
• This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color/Edited by Cherríe Moraga and Gloria E. Anzaldúa/1984
• Women, Race, and Class/Angela Davis/1981

Thank you for listening. See you next time!

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A couple of years ago I was at a big national event for podcasters, journalists and writers in the world of sex. There were a lot of amazing speakers there but one woman was the talk of the entire show. She’s known as The Sexual Psychic and I had never met anyone like her before. She has this inexplicable way of seeing into everybody’s sexual future. After her speech, people were lined up for hours just to meet her. It was incredible.

After two years of hand-written letters, because she refuses to speak on the phone or use email, I finally got her to agree to be on my podcast. She’s based outside of Santa Fe and claims that technology interferes with her gifts so she shuns all of it. She’s never done any podcasts or recorded interviews before, just a handful of live speaking engagements under her very specific terms. It takes up to three years just to get on the waiting list for a reading with her. So it’s truly amazing and an honor to have her on this show. I traveled to New Mexico to meet her and she had to have all of my recording equipment “cleared” by a Shaman before I could turn anything on. She demanded that I only use brand new Energizer batteries, nothing is allowed to be plugged in at her off-grid compound.

Before traveling to see her, I asked listeners to send in their questions. She answers all of them during this interview. Seriously, I’ve worked with lots of A-list celebrities and high-powered executives in my career so it’s rare for me to be completely intimidated by someone but, well, this woman has a deeply powerful energy like no one I’ve encountered before.

However you feel about psychics, visionaries, light workers and oracles is your choice, obviously. I just want you to have an open mind when you listen to this because, this woman is really something special.

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What would you say if you could go back and give sex advice to your 20 year old self?

Or even your 15 year old self?

That is one of many questions I ask on this episode of Under Covers.

For these conversations, I’ve interviewed women of all ages, from all religious backgrounds, and walks of life. Regardless of what we don’t have in common, there’s a lot more we all share.

On this episode I speak with Kim (not her real name).

All you need to know is that Kim is 41, married, and created a life of self-acceptance and sexual pleasure on her own terms, after escaping an abusive relationship.

And that’s where all similarities end…or begin.

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Are you in an “alternative” relationship?

No, you are not, because there’s no such thing as an “alternative” relationship.

Who’s to say what is alternative and what is mainstream? I’m guessing someone who’s in a so-called mainstream relationship. But to other folks, your mainstream relationship may actually look like an alternative relationship. Jesus, I’m writing like an Escher drawing.

Let’s look at it this way. If you are a consenting adult and you are in a super happy relationship with another consenting adult or adults, then you are in the perfect relationship for you. And that’s all that matters. I hate arugula. Does that mean everyone else has to hate arugula or they’re deviants? Nope. You eat whatever greens you want, it’s none of my damn business if you want to eat filthy, disgusting and horrible arugula.

And please don’t email me about my hatred of arugula. I didn’t say anything or judge you when you said you hated tasty, delicious cilantro.

Speaking of tasty and delicious, on this show, I talk with comedian, writer, producer and host Vanessa Gritton about her current relationship. She’s openly bisexual and so his her male partner, and you know what, the two of them have never been happier.

Now a lot of people have a lot to say about bisexuality. “That’s not real!” “Choose a team!” “You’re really gay and can’t admit it!” “Arugula is delicious, you are so wrong!”

Yup…it doesn’t matter what anyone has to say about your relationship.

Like, at all.

Ever.

So instead of wondering what’s normal and what’s alternative and what’s weird and what’s acceptable, check out this conversation with Vanessa about her life and her decisions and why she’s hella happy. That’s all anyone really wants.

Any maybe some donuts.

You can follow Vanessa @nesgritton

Vanessa also hosts numerous comedy and pop culture shows for El Rey Network and clearly hangs out in Burbank diners way longer than acceptable. Check her out. She’s very happy.

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There’s a lot of misunderstanding about asexuality.

Some believe if they’ve suddenly lost interest in sex, they’re asexual.

Some believe that people “become” asexual as a result of sexual trauma.

Some believe that asexual people just haven’t met the right person yet.

Nope. Nope, and Nope.

There’s a lot about asexuality that many people simply don’t understand. Looking for answers, I went to one of my very favorite sources of information in the world of sex and sexuality, renown psychologist and sex therapist, Dr. Shannon Chavez. Dr. Chavez explains that asexuality is not a condition, it’s a sexual orientation, similar to homosexuality, bisexuality or heterosexuality. It’s not something that requires medical attention. It’s not celibacy. It’s not a sudden drop in libido, and it’s not a choice.

In this conversation, I realize there’s a lot we all have to learn about asexuality. Asexual people can have happy relationships. They can fall in love. They can have typical sexual responses.

Are you wondering if you might be asexual? We’re about to shed a lot of light on asexuality and hopefully increase your knowledge on this frequently misunderstood sexual orientation.

If you’re interested in speaking to a nationally recognized expert, therapist, and educator specializing in “all things sexuality” including help for men, women, LGBTQIA, and couples, you can contact Dr. Shannon Chavez here.

For more information on asexuality, Dr. Chavez recommends:

The Asexuality Visibility and Education Network

And the book, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ON ASEXUALITY

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/

https://www.glaad.org/amp/ace-guide-finding-your-community

https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/six-ways-be-ally-asexual-people

Now, I wouldn’t base a research paper on this, but here’s an entertaining list of notable supposedly asexual individuals throughout history.

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I started doing these interviews with women I’d never met because I wanted to paint a picture for my listeners who fear that perhaps, when it comes to sex, there’s something wrong with them or that they’re not normal.

The first thing I’d like to point out is that there’s no such thing as normal. The concept of “normal” was invented by someone with a big, fat, throbbing agenda who was trying to dictate what other people should or should not be doing in bed. Over the years it’s been reinvented and reinterpreted, but at its core, pursuing normalcy is a trap. The idea of Sexually Deviant Behavior is culturally and historically specific and the classification has been weaponized to punish and stigmatize just about anyone — especially women.

What you’re about to hear is a summary of the most amazing moments from the first ten Under Covers episodes. I’ll share my findings, averages and some of the most touching, gut-wrenching and hilarious quotes from these brave women who agreed to be interviewed by me.

My goal with these episodes has been to help you realize that you’re not alone. You’re not “weird” and you’re not either too slutty or not slutty enough. You’re perfectly fine, and so are these 10 women.

You can read this piece, and see more of my writing on Medium.

If you’d like to be interviewed Under Covers, please email me. I’d love to hear from you and I’m especially looking for more minorities and other underrepresented folks. Please don’t be shy. As you’re about to hear, there’s no judgment and your identity is never revealed.

Thank you for listening to the show and sharing it with your friends. If there are topics you’d like me to cover or to request an interview, please email me. I’d love to hear from you.

I hope you’re staying safe at home and if you have a few extra minutes (hahahaha), throw on some headphones and listen back to episodes you might have missed. There may be a gem in there that speaks JUST TO YOU.

Take care and stay safe!

Wendy

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7th grade.

It’s a boy/girl party in my best friend’s basement. There are about 10 of us there. Rumors by Fleetwood Mac, is playing non-stop on the record player. The lights are low. The air is filled with equal parts anticipation and terror. Someone suggests we play a game called 7 Minutes in Heaven.

The voice you’re about to hear belongs to someone who was also at that party. We eventually lost touch with each other when I moved to the big city in 8th grade, but we recently reconnected. When I asked him if he’d be interested in being interviewed as part of the Under Covers series he graciously agreed.

I have no nostalgia for my middle school years. I always felt like a misfit and a weirdo back then. Probably because I was a misfit and a weirdo back then. I never had the right clothes or the right shoes or the right anything. I was frequently bullied and take joy in knowing that my biggest bully married into what’s been described as an extremist religious cult. She is now is required to wear a wig and obey her husband at all times.

Meanwhile, I do whatever the fuck I want and eat all the bacon I desire. Bwahahahaha!

Yep, I’m a little triggered by all of this episode but the truth is, this episode ain’t about me. Three years ago on this podcast, I began asking women I’d never met a series of questions about the most intimate details of their lives. I called the interviews Under Covers and you can find all of them here.

All of the women were asked identical questions about their sexual awakenings, sex education, partners, early experiences and long term relationships, with the hope that my listeners could find healing in discovering how much we all share.

This season, I’ve flipped the script. I’m taking the exact questions I asked women, and I’m asking them to men.

Last week I interviewed “David.” A married, gay man, his answers to my questions were incredibly honest, revealing and often hilarious.

In this Under Covers episode I speak with someone I’m calling “Josh.”

All you need to know is that “Josh” has been divorced twice, identifies as very heterosexual, and once spent 7 Minutes in Heaven with me in my best friend’s basement.

That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

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Earlier this week, an active player in the NFL made huge news. Carl Nassib, a defensive end for the Las Vegas Raiders came out as gay. As of this writing, he is the only openly gay active NFL player.

Hopefully, he won’t be alone for long.

“Carl Nassib’s powerful coming out is a historic reflection of the growing state of LGBTQ visibility and inclusion in the world of professional sports, which has been driven by a long list of brave LGBTQ athletes who came before him,” said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. “As an accomplished athlete who is now the first out gay active player in the NFL, Carl Nassib’s story will not only have a profound impact on the future of LGBTQ visibility and acceptance in sports, but sends a strong message to so many LGBTQ people, especially youth, that they too can one day grow up to be and succeed as a professional athlete like him.”

Representation matters. But for every massive step forward, there remain hundreds of steps backwards.

According the Human Rights Campaign, “2021 has officially surpassed 2015 as the worst year for anti-LGBTQ legislation in recent history.” The HRC reports that more than 250 anti-LGBTQ bills have been introduced in state legislatures in 2021, including at least 35 bills that would prohibit transgender youth from being able to access age-appropriate, gender-affirming medical care.

So when a badass defensive end for the Raiders, of all teams, comes out as gay and then makes a $100,000 donation to The Trevor Project, make no mistake, it’s a big fucking deal.

Okay, but what does this have to do with my life?

Well…

Let’s imagine you’re sitting down with your 10 year-old for a dinner of mac and cheese, chicken nuggets and grapes. All on separate plates, of course. On the table there’s a box of spilled apple juice, a few Snoopy stickers and several dried out markers. Soccer gear is strewn on the floor alongside a few of this morning’s Cheerios and a naked Barbie missing half of her hair. It’s just another day.

Until your kid turns to you and says, “Mom, I think I’m a lesbian.”

How would you react in that moment?

For many parents this is a moment they never saw coming, but it got there. Fast. What should you say? What shouldn’t you say? Were you completely surprised? Have you always known but never really accepted it? How do you hear this and let your child know that they’re safe and loved and what they’re feeling is perfectly okay?

It’s a situation that millions of parents have faced. And thanks to increasing positive role models and representation, the average age of children coming out has dropped from their early 20s to anywhere between 14 and 16. Parents shouldn’t just assume their children are straight until proven otherwise. Even if your kid has a different identity in two years or two months, it’s important to support how they feel today.

But where do you start?

On this episode, a repeat of one of my most downloaded episodes, I speak with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Childhood Mental Health Specialist, Melody Murray https://www.parkstherapy.com/. She reveals the struggles that children of all backgrounds must navigate and gives parents tools to help their children know that they’re loved, supported and safe regardless of sexual orientation. I also speak with a friend whose 13 year-old daughter decided to come out during a family vacation. Blindsided, the mother responded in the best way she could.

How you respond to your child’s coming out can be what keeps your kid alive.

I’ve also found several very helpful resources for parents of LGBT kids:

https://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/coming-out/coming-out-advice-and-guidance-parents

https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/OUR%20CHILDREN_PFLAGNational_FINAL.pdf

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/Four-Stages-of-Coming-Out.aspx

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/tips-for-parents-of-lgbtq-youth

https://nccc.georgetown.edu/documents/LGBT_Brief.pdf

https://www.insider.com/what-to-do-when-someone-comes-out-2017-12

I also recommend the book: This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids: A Question & Answer Guide to Everyday Life

Being gay is not a crime and it’s not a sin. Some people believe that having an LGBTQ child means they somehow failed as a parent.

Disowning your child means you failed as a parent.

I think most experts will agree that the best thing you can say to your child when they come out is: I Love You.

That is the perfect place to start.

Did you know that interracial marriage was illegal in 16 states until June 12, 1967?

1967!

On this episode, I reveal why I’ve been hiding behind my privilege for the past two weeks and why the anniversary of this landmark ruling finally inspired me to step forward to do what I can to help support the cause.

The Loving v. Virginia ruling personally affects my own life. Why? Great question, thanks for asking.

My husband is a Black man.

Sooooooo, in my lifetime, my marriage was illegal in 16 states.

Listen to find out which states in our country were clinging desperately to their “good old days” when enforcing systematic racist laws was just part of the fun.

Now I realize that this podcast has always been about the pursuit of sexual authenticity and stepping away from judgment at shame. But there is a lot of shame attached to doing nothing to help others. I’m not here to play white savior or to tell you something you don’t already know. I don’t have things figured out. There’s plenty of things I’m going to get wrong. But doing nothing is the biggest mistake of all.

White people, please do not ask your black friends to explain racism to you. That is not their job. The information is out there. You can be an ally. You can help effect change. YOU have to do the work. You need to educate yourself.

DO NOT EXPECT THE OPPRESSED TO SET YOU FREE.

Time Magazine offered these links for books to read and movies to watch to help you better understand the horror of institutionalized racism and how, thanks to government sanctioned redlining, for every $100 in wealth that a white family has accumulated in America, black families have $5.04.

$100 for white folks. $5.04 for black folks.

This is not an accident and it’s just one example of glaring injustice.

There are places where you can donate some of your wealth to support the cause.

Black Lives Matter

You can also support organizations committed to ending mass incarceration such as the Equal Justice Initiative

Help support the National Bail Fun Network, a network dedicated to being an organizing tool aimed at ending pretrial and immigration detention.

A memorial fund has been established for George Floyd. You can donate through this GoFundMe.

You can donate to Breonna Taylor’s family through this GoFundMe.

Support Black Owned Businesses. New York Magazine put together a comprehensive list here.

Bon Appétit has compiled a list of Black Owned Restaurants in numerous areas that you can support.

To help protesters, you could provide childcare among other things for those attending rallies. You can sew masks to protect protesters.

Letters For Black Lives offers a set of crowdsourced, multilingual, and culturally-aware resources aimed at creating a space for open and honest conversations about racial justice, police violence, and anti-Blackness in our families and communities.

We are at a critical time in our history.

You can say, well I certainly had nothing whatsoever to do with this discrimination, this really doesn't apply to me at all. I am woke! Okay, well good for you but, if you are a white person, this is very much your problem right now. Injustice that has plagued this country for centuries, injustice deliberately created to destroy, torment, and enslave people of color must end now.

Understand and acknowledge your privilege. You might mean well. You might consider yourself enlightened. A good person. You may despise racism in every form. However, if you are white, you are still part of the problem.

The time is now to become part of the solution.

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Necessity is the mother of invention.

According to the interwebs, this proverb was first said by Plato.

Or Frank Zappa.

Or a cartoon, crime-fighting squirrel.

Okay, it doesn’t really matter who said it originally, cause I’m not paying any royalties to anyone. The fact remains, it’s true. Because right now, as millions of us remain sheltered in place, confused and overwhelmed, we’ve needed to reinvent many things, including how we can access professional help. So, if you were smart enough to become a licensed therapist who sees clients online, YOUR BIG DAY HAS ARRIVED!

On this episode, I speak with one of my very favorite sex and relationship therapists, Dr. Shannon Chavez, who is doing an amazing job helping folks who are struggling with issues that are exacerbated by these uncertain times. We talk about several things including:

• What happens when a global pandemic shuts down your sex drive?
• Can I be single and still see a sex therapist?
• How to cope with touch deprivation.
• What’s the best way to handle a partnership with vastly differing sex drives?
• What really happens with a sexual surrogate?
• Are online sex parties a thing? That maybe I can attend?
• Am I required to have sex right in front of my sex therapist?

She answers these questions and so much more.

Dr. Chavez, a nationally-recognized expert in all things sexuality, works with men, women, LGBTQIA folks and couples in her very busy private practice in Beverly Hills. She has an amazing way of disarming the shame associated with sex and offers really smart solutions with no judgment attached.

You can schedule a complimentary consultation with Dr. Chavez here and find out more about her practice and the Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement Center. Dedicated to helping people overcome sexual concerns and break free from the stigmas surrounding sex, Dr. Chavez offers individual and couples therapy, sex therapy and coaching, and sex education. She hosts workshops, lectures, and community events on sexual health.

Dr. Chavez is a Licensed Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.

Her email is info@drshannonchavez.com and her phone number is 323-920-9473.

Hope you enjoy the show! See you next time.

Lite Brite, Ants In The Pants, Rock ‘Em Sock ‘Em Robots, Masterpiece, Operation, Mousetrap, Smash Up Derby, The Evil Knievel Stunt Cycle, Simon, and Gnip Gnop — these were the games of my childhood.

Little did I know that all of those amazing toys originated from one company located in a highly secretive bunker just a few miles south of my suburban Chicago home. Marvin Glass, the founder of Marvin Glass & Associates, was one of the most prolific and brilliant toy inventors of the 20th century. His company’s product list is my childhood.

One of the most beloved and collectible board games of all time, also created by Marvin Glass & Associates, was a game called Mystery Date.

Here’s the commercial from 1965.

One of the most sought-after games of the 1960s, if you were a little girl back then, this game was EV-ER-Y-THING. Marketed to girls 6-14 years old, the game was a runaway hit. The best part of every slumber party and girlie playdate, the Mystery Date commercial jingle became part of the vernacular. To this day, most women in their 50s can probably sing it word for word.

Yeah, so like every other little girl, I was OBSESSED with this game. In a way, it made me feel grown up and a little naughty to be playing a game about dating.

But…

Now a million years later, in a completely different world. I find it to be a little more problematic. I have a biracial, 14 year-old daughter and looking back on my beloved childhood board game, I kinda have some issues. Like real issues.

On this episode, I chat with three good friends about Mystery Date. Frances Callier, a comedian and regular pundit on the Sexy Liberal Show. My dyed-in-the-wool New Yorker friend, TV writer and producer, Francesca Rollins, whose connection to the game is as New York as can be. Plus my friend and lifetime Mystery Date superfan, Mike Mannarino, an executive with a major Silicon Valley tech firm.

Through today’s lens and current political climate, this game looks a lot different to all of us. And the subtext is, in a word, icky.

I’d like to say a special thank you to rights and clearances consultant Amy Goodfriend and to the wonderful folks at Hasbro for allowing me to use their awesome jingle in the show.

Also, I’m not gonna lie, I wish I still had the original version of the game. With the right framing, I actually think it could still be a lot of fun.

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You know that Sunday night feeling when you sadly reflect back on your measly 2 days off and realize you did absolutely nothing fun at all?

Well, get ready to kiss that 'Sunday Night Sad' goodbye!

In this episode, I have compiled a list of 10 things you can do this weekend that are SEXY, CHEAP and FUN — just like me!

Ranging from absolutely free to nothing all that insane, this is the perfect list to wake up your sex life. The time is now! Have fun. Be adventurous. Stop leaving pleasure on the table!

NUMBER 10 — VISIT A LOCAL SEX TOY STORE

There are lots of local sex toy shops and many of them are not repulsive at all. In Los Angeles, NY and Chicago, I highly recommend The Pleasure Chest. If you’re looking for something kinkier in LA, check out The Stockroom. In NY, Babeland is a fantastic shop and I’m a big fan of Good Vibrations in San Francisco. These are all brick and mortar shops but they also have online stores. If you can’t go to a local shop with your boo, check out some of the amazing stores online together and enjoy a virtual naughty shopping trip.

NUMBER 9 — TAKE A SEX EDUCATION CLASS

Many of the major sex toy shops offer live classes but there are also several places online, where you seriously your sex skills and basic knowledge. Grab a laptop, cuddle up and get your learn on. This article from September, 2018 on Mashable offers links to 20 Online Resources For Sex Education. Smart is the new sexy.

NUMBER 8 — GET A ROOM AT A NEARBY CHEAP MOTEL

Hotel sex is fun. Cheap motel sex takes it to a whole new level. But, before you get stabbed in a darkened hallway, do a little research on Trip Advisor to see what others have said about that nearby no-tell motel with free HBO. Manage your expectations, this is for a fun, deliberately sleazy outing. Safety first! So here’s an excellent tarp to put on a sketchy bed to add an extra layer of kink and sanitation to your night.

NUMBER 7 — NAKED DAY!

Spend the whole day naked with your boo. Obviously, this means don’t leave the house. However, if you live in a nudist resort and want to do something freaky, leave your house wearing pants. Crazy!

NUMBER 6 — DON’T DO THIS, IT’S TOTALLY ILLEGAL

Yes, sneaking a quickie in a nearby Open House sounds super sexy and dangerous but it’s illegal. Whatever you do, don’t find a secluded spot behind a locked door and get busy. It’s illegal and you can get arrested.

NUMBER 5 — HAVE SEX IN EVERY SINGLE ROOM IN YOUR HOUSE

If you have a 200 square foot apartment, this might not be much of a challenge. If you live in this house, you’d better hydrate.

NUMBER 4 — ROLE PLAYING

You hit a local bar and order a drink. A minute or two later, your partner comes in and tries to pick you up. For the night, you both construct fake identities, backgrounds and even a British accent if you want to put in the labour. Have fun, take this as far as possible and if you’re in a hotel bar, go straight up to your room that has already been checked into. Extra credit if one of you goes by the name Mr. Gladstone.

NUMBER 3 — GO TO A SEX CLUB OR LIFESTYLE PARTY

At a sex club or a lifestyle party, your boundaries will be respected better than just about anywhere else. Consent is a big part of the conversation. But how to find these places? Check out lifestyle website Kasidie.com for links to local and national lifestyle clubs and events. SDC.com is another source for adults seeking all sorts of information. There are also several adult play parties you can find through MeetUp.com and Eventbrite.com. Go online and do some research. Chances are, there’s an event or club not far from you. Also, when it comes to rules and communication, you must be as clear as possible before you get there. Here’s a great article about How To Prepare For Your First Orgy Or Sex Party, written by my friend and favourite Canadian, Dr. Jessica O’Reilly.

NUMBER 2 — DO SOMETHING WACKY TOGETHER

Your pre-gaming doesn’t always have to include sex. My husband and I went ax throwing one night. It was ridiculous and so much fun. Whether it’s bowling, a tango lesson at a local ballroom dance studio or a trippy artistic immersion — the whole point is staying connected to each other. The nookie will follow. Find fun, new, weird things and do them together. Your genitals will thank you later.

NUMBER 1 — BUY THIS REMOTE CONTROLLED VIBRATOR

Hours and hours of fun will be had when you purchase one of my all-time favorite sex toys. One of you puts the vibrator in their underwear. Then you give the remote control to your partner…and BUZZ-ANG! You’re going to have an incredibly fun night.

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For the second of this month’s Listener Favorite Episodes, here are EXPERT BLOWJOB TIPS FROM A GAY MAN

As you’re about to hear, there is a very funny backstory to this episode and how it all came to fruition. Basically, it was a last minute Hail Mary that turned into a total blockbuster with my listeners. Which, of course, makes total sense.

Now as we all know, Michele Bachmann once said, “No one knows his way around a penis like a gay man.” Or maybe she was talking about her husband?

Either way, it’s totally TRUE!

That’s why on this episode, I went to THE SOURCE! My very dear friend and “gay husband,” Mr. LaRue, to find out exactly what blowjob techniques will blow a guy’s mind.

I hate to call out the Blowjob Education Industrial Complex, whose annual operating budget must 7,504,503% larger than the Cunnilingus Community College budget, but the hard fact is that men are in charge of fucking everything. Which is why womenpeople are inundated with scrillions of classes, magazine articles, listicles, podcasts, instagram posts, Facebook fights, and videos all dedicated to making us Blowjob Beyonces.

Cunnilingus tips? Heeeey, look over there! It’s a boner!

Here is my irrefutable anecdotal evidence: I invited my pal, sex educator Nina Hartley to teach a blowjob class to some of my vanilla suburban friends in my living room, and it was standing room only! And I have a big living room! On the flip side, I had a cunnilingus class in my house and 6 people showed up. That includes me and one friend who happened to be there just to return the Pyrex baking dish they’d borrowed.

So yeah, we’re all getting sucked in to the pressure to become blowjob goddesses. That’s why I decided to go right to the source and got some insane BJ tips from my boo, Mr. LaRue, who knows his way around a boner.

You are about to learn things that I’ve never ever heard. And that, my friends, is saying something.

This, one of my most popular episodes ever, really sucks! In the good way.

Be sure to check out my super fun writing on Medium.com. It’s exactly like the podcast only completely different.

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If you’re a woman in a heterosexual relationship, there’s a good chance you’re getting a lot less oral sex than your male partner. This Oral Sex Gap stems from many reasons. For one, women are pretty much “expected” to give blow jobs to their male partners, while a lot of hetero men easily justify why they don’t return the favor. Is it laziness? Is it patriarchal entitlement? Is it a part of a nefarious brainwashing effort that’s convinced women that there’s something too challenging, unattractive or disgusting about their bodies?

Perhaps…

But, it’s not just the men who are saying no to oral sex with their female partners. A lot of women refuse to accept oral sex. Many women feel too vulnerable or have hypersensitive clitorises which makes cunnilingus difficult to enjoy. Or they bought that load of bullshit that a lot of dudes have been serving up for years.

Whatever the reason, CEO and founder of Lorals, Melanie Cristol saw an opportunity to offer a sexy product that allows women to accept pleasure without feeling awkward or vulnerable. The product, Lorals, are very thin, flavored latex underwear that are like a wearable dental dam…only a lot less awkward.

In this episode, I talk to Melanie about the oral sex gap and how we can ensure that women are receiving as much pleasure as possible.

Later in the episode, I enlist the services of a married couple who try Lorals and give me their thorough and unbiased review. Even they were a little surprised by the product.

AND, as a special Holiday Giveaway, the folks at Lorals have donated a four-pack that will go to one lucky listener. All you have to do to be eligible to receive the free Lorals is go to our iTunes page, subscribe, write a 5-star review and email the text of your review and the name you used to info@sexedthemusical.com

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Remember, if you’re going to let something get between you and oral sex, let it be Lorals.

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Imagine you had the perfect partner.

Someone who constantly saw to your needs. Put you first. Gave you whatever you wanted whenever you wanted it. Treated you with respect, tenderness and unconditional love at all times.

Sounds pretty amazing, huh?

Well, it turns out this relationship is possible. That very person is right within reach. Closer than you’d ever imagine.

That person is YOU.

On this episode, I lead you to a partner who gives you the ultimate in acceptance, pampering, seduction and satisfaction. At the center of it all is trust.

Trusting yourself.

Most of us have been socialized to put ourselves last. To be responsible for everyone else’s feelings and needs — even if they’re not aligned with our own. Well, it’s time to put that bullshit in the rear view mirror and learn how to seduce and satisfy yourself.

All of this is not necessarily groundbreaking, but thanks to Complexity Bias we often discredit the simplest things in life, even though they often work the best.

This week, I’m showing you just how easy it is to seduce yourself.

You’re welcome.

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Literotica

Danielle Steel

Lady Chatterley’s Lover by D.H. Lawrence

Bridgerton

The L Word

Emily Nagoski — Come As You Are

Womanizer Pro (Terrible name, awesome pleasure toy.)

Betty Dodson

Original Magic Wand, Rechargeable  (You seriously, absolutely, totally need this.)

Hey, if your book club reads my book, 3 Secrets to the Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, I’d be happy to Zoom in, say hello. We can even have a quick Q&A. We’ll keep it fun and light. It’s a great way for me to get to know to the folks who are enjoying my book. Is that you? Yes!?!

Well then let’s talk, sister!

Email me and I’ll Zoom into your book club for some fun.

Some restrictions apply…I just haven’t figured them out yet.

For all sorts of fun stories from my days running programming at Playboy TV, sure to check out my writing on Medium.com.

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What a MASSIVE week!

This podcast surpassed 15,000 downloads!!!

I managed not to say anything stupid on two other podcasts - Dates and Mates and Sexy As A Mother.

My writing on Medium garnered over 20,000 views.

I found a new, amazing remote-controlled vibrator (affiliate link) that you need right now to make your life a lot more fun.

And if that’s not enough, we’re back with an all-new episode of Under Covers!!!!

I think I can safely say, I won this week.

Now, on to today’s episode.

NADIA

(That’s not her real name).

Just like the previous Under Covers conversations, there’s a lot I could share with you about Nadia in advance, but the truth is, I knew absolutely nothing about her when I started this interview. I didn’t know her age, her job, her socioeconomic status, her religious background, where she lived, nothing. And that was 100% deliberate because these are bits of information we all use to subtly judge and categorize each other in advance. I wanted all of that off the table because going into an interview blind is a great way for me to experience these conversations exactly like you will.

I never knew what her answers were going to be.

This is all about hearing other women’s stories with no bias whatsoever, and realizing that there may be aspects of another woman’s vastly different life that actually resonates with your own. Suddenly, you’re not so alone anymore. Suddenly things make a little more sense. Maybe by hearing these stories, you can move forward with the knowledge that we’re all in this together and the best way for all of us to start healing is to start sharing our differences with each other.

With no judgment.

So I will keep this brief.

All you need to know in advance is that Nadia is 31, married and polyamorous.

That’s where all similarities end…or begin.

MEMORABLE QUOTES

“There was a decade of my life where I was like, I’m only going to have sex with you if you excite me tremendously. So that was like a lot of really great sex for a while.”

“I’ve always felt constrained by the rules of monogamy.”

“The thing with rules is that whenever a rule is set, people want to break it.”

“I’m always loving multiple people. That’s a thing that is very real for me.”

“I think a lot of people often don’t understand that this kind of arrangement actually requires way more trust. Way more communication.”

“Most marriages do end and I’m much more hopeful for the longevity of my partnership now that we are open and talking about these things.”

In every city across America, there are Sex Clubs. Some are private and require memberships. Some require you to send nude photos to make sure you conform to a certain aesthetic in order to be admitted. Some are super elite and cost thousands of dollars to attend for just one night. Some are exclusively gay. Some are exclusively kink centric. Regardless of their individual rules, crowds and aesthetics, Sex Clubs are places where adults can meet each other and have sex right on the premises.

You might think that by entering a Sex Club, you’re immediately surrendering all of your clothes, rights and consent just by virtue of being there. That cannot be further from the truth. In fact, in many sex clubs rules are posted everywhere and entrants must agree to all of the rules before then can join the crowd. Your boundaries and personal space are more respected in a Sex Club than in your typical bar…or grocery store…or subway car…or the myriad other places you can be groped without your consent.

So what really happens inside of a sex club and why would you ever want to go to one?

On this episode I speak with Brad and Tammy McCray, the owners of a unique Sex Club in Portland called Sanctuary. When it comes to Sex Clubs, Sanctuary is an outlier. They don’t require a membership before you can enter (which is common practice for many other sex clubs). They don’t charge male and female guests different entry fees (also common among other Sex Clubs). They are LGBTQ+ and hetero mixed (very rare among Sex Clubs). And they are body positive, welcoming of all gender identities, kinks, and relationship configurations.

And here’s the crazy part — it totally works!

If you’ve always been a little curious, now’s your chance to find out what really happens inside of a Sex Club, what you can expect, what you are always within your rights to demand and how you’re probably safer in a room full of perverts than your local grocery store.

How To Find A Sex Club Near You — Of course you can check Yelp or search “Sex Clubs Near Me” but you’re also going to get a lot of strip clubs, which is not the same thing as a Sex Club.

Check out swinging lifestyle sites such as Kasidie.com, an adult community for sexually adventurous people. It’s not the largest swinger community but it’s very easy to navigate and there are easy to find links to sex parties and sex clubs near you.

There are also couples dating apps out there but a lot of them require you to link them to your Instagram or Facebook profiles. This can be privacy problematic so you may need to set up a new profile that’s not linked to 800 of your closest friends. Although, at least 40 of them should be able to recommend some fun sex clubs. If not, you might want to get some new friends.

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Cheating in a marriage occurs for a number of reasons. But it turns out, one of the main reasons for infidelity is revenge. Revenge Cheaters have sex outside of their marriage to get back at their partners for having affairs. And many feel completely justified.

On this episode, I speak to a woman who’s been on both sides of infidelity. Her husband cheated on her and she eventually cheated on him, for a very surprising reason.

There’s a lot to this story and, hopefully, by listening you may discover ways for you to get on the other side of the pain caused by infidelity or an abusive relationship, so you can start healing, too.

MEMORABLE QUOTES

“I thought I couldn’t do any better and I just figured, okay, well I’m not going to get anybody else, so I’ll just take what’s given to me.”

“I was trying really hard to be that good wife, and that good person and be a good mommy, and I never really, I don’t think, fully dealt with it.”

“I wanted to leave him. I didn’t know how.”

“I’m not proud of the fact that I did what I did but I’m not really apologetic about it either.”

“I did want to end the marriage and I knew if I stayed with him it was going to kill me from the inside.”

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Fear is a natural, powerful human emotion. It alerts us to the presence of danger, or the threat of harm whether real or imaginary. A little fear is fine, it prevents you from doing stupid things. However, when it prevents you from experiencing things that can enhance your life and make you a happier and more authentic person, you really need to examine it.

And then kick its ass.

After conquering one of my biggest fears, I was inspired to share this story with you. Because, what seems like a pretty innocuous night in my back yard is actually a stepping stone to enormous change, pride and possibility.

Like everyone else, I’ve dealt with fear in my life. I’ve given away my power. I’ve worried about what people would think of me to the point where I was afraid to share my own story. I’ve been afraid that I might be judged, ostracized or mocked for doing what I’ve always wanted to do.

But I did it anyway.

And you know what? My entire world did not fall apart. In fact, it got better.

Because it doesn’t matter what people think about you — that’s none of your business. Period. And you absolutely cannot live your life in fear of what everyone else thinks. Are total strangers or people you barely care about the ones who get to set the direction of your life? I was afraid to write my memoir because I didn’t want to be judged by this super catty mom at my kid’s school. For years, I actually let one bitter and horrible person derail my life’s work. It finally dawned on me that her opinion of me doesn’t matter. My parents’ opinion of me doesn’t matter. Anyone’s opinion of me doesn’t matter.

Only my opinion of me matters.

There’s a very good chance you are not living your authentic life and pursuing sexual adventure because you are afraid of being judged.

Hospice worker Bronnie Ware, author of the book, The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying: A Life Transformed By The Dearly Departing catalogued the most common regrets expressed by people on their death beds.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

BOOM.

What is preventing you from enjoying a life true to yourself? Why are you allowing fear and people who truly mean nothing to stop you? How can you get past this fear and start living the sex life of your dreams?

In this episode, I share a story of my own fear and how even though I thought I was a boss at eliminating fear, it turns out I wasn’t. However, one night spent sleeping in my back yard changed everything for me.

Hopefully, this episode will inspire you to face your fears…and then conquer them like a motherfucking BOSS!

In fact, I’d love to hear some of the fears you face and then conquer. Please email them to me at info@sexedthemusical.com. Or just say hi! We’re always here and love hearing from you.

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