SEX ED FOR YOU: Where Research Meets Reality (Lauren and Holland)

CONTENT WARNING: This is a tender episode that discusses sexual trauma and the steps we are taking to heal ourselves. Please skip this episode if it does not serve your body.

Welcome to SEX ED FOR YOU with Lauren & Holland: Where research meets reality! On our second episode we dive right into a discussion about our recent Hemlock Book Club where we discussed Elizabeth Lesser’s book, Cassandra Speaks: When Women Are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes!

Holland and I ask questions about blame, power, and what would happen if women told the stories! If you would like to know more about our HEMLOCK MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM, click here: https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Holland defines blame as disgust in her body. Which leaves us wondering how YOU would define blame? At minute 7:25, Lauren asks about the fears we encounter as we step into our power. Does the fear of being liked keep you from stepping into your power?

At minute 10:45 we are privileged enough to hear Holland tell a delicate piece of her story. TW: SA

At minute 11:50 Holland shares a recent term she learned: DROP. Commonly used in BDSM and Kink communities, it refers to the time AFTER a scene or experience when the body’s system stops producing morphine-like drugs, and as the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in again. One may feel a deep exhaustion, a sharp drop in temperature, as well as incoherence and un-coordination. The symptoms of drop will generally set in within 24-72 hours after an intense experience in which endorphins and adrenaline received a spike and thus will result in a crash with symptoms reminiscent of depression. For more information please follow: https://www.instagram.com/mx.sizzle_/

Holland shares the symbolism behind her tattoo, (check out the photo at minute 19:50!!) and the why behind her healing rituals. We discuss the power of differentiation and how so many things can be medicine or poison! The act of creating can redeem.

Holland expounds on how writing poetry has been a healing modality in this season of healing and Lauren remembers how she learned to write haiku poetry in her Healing Rituals class in school!

Lauren recently completed a healing ritual to release herself from specific misogynistic wounds. She shares what she wore, what she wrote, the responsibility it forced her to take for her own narrative.

Holland shares a little about Stockholm syndrome and how she identifies with some of the symptoms she identifies with.

Moving from survivor to thriver can be such a powerful choice for anyone who has been harmed - but it can ONLY be done when we are ready.

Make sure to listen at minute 42:20 for the most BEAUTIFUL line from Holland’s poem!

Pain can be pleasurable and Holland is looking forward to it! This tattoo is bringing Holland from Powerless to POWERFUL.

Interested in learning more about healing rituals? Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

The final episode of Sex Ed For You Where Research Meets Reality.

Until further notice ;)

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator & Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach.

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of relationship dynamics, exploring the impact of controlling behaviors like phone checks and the role intuition plays in navigating anxious attachment. We unpack the concept of micro-cheating, the blurred lines around flirting, and how self-fulfilling prophecies can shape our perceptions of trust. Plus, we discuss how to define cheating within a relationship and navigate tough conversations about unmet needs, codependency, and boundaries.

Cheating Worksheet Available Free on our site!

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

In this episode, Lauren and Holland delve into the biopsychosocial approach that defines our work. Our conversation centers on the often-overlooked nuances of addressing issues like vaginismus, dyspareunia, and various vulva-related concerns. We explore the unfortunate tendency to label these conditions without engaging in meaningful discussions with patients, highlighting the need for a more holistic understanding.

The episode delves into empowering practices that individuals can adopt at home to holistically confront these challenges, emphasizing the importance of cultivating a positive relationship with one's own vulva. Lauren and Holland discuss the pervasive shame associated with vulvas, shedding light on society's limited exposure to unaltered representations of their beauty. We underscore the pivotal role this plays in reshaping the narrative surrounding women's bodies, promoting a perspective that recognizes them as resilient, stunning, and deserving of adoration.

Adding a unique dimension to the conversation, Holland shares her insights on distinguishing between phallic and non-phallic love scenes, offering a thought-provoking exploration of intimacy. Holland also opens up about her personal experience with dyspareunia, bravely unraveling the myth of the "tight p*ssy" and how it perpetuated her struggle for years. This candid discussion challenges preconceptions and contributes to a broader conversation about dismantling harmful stereotypes, fostering empathy, and embracing the diverse beauty inherent in every individual's experience.

Resources:

• Vulvas in Nature Pinterest Board

• The World Health Organization Statement on Sexual Health

• Intimate Rose Pelvic Floor Tools

• OMG Yes

• Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz

• Sex for One by Betty Dodson

• Vulva Coloring Book

  
  

  
  

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode was recorded to help those of you who are currently in a relationship and considering long-term commitment: is this the relationship for you?

DOWNLOAD THE PARTNERHSIP CONSIDERATION JOURNAL PROMPTS HERE FOR FREE-- CODE: NUANCE

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode we talk about what sex can look like during the holidays! Mutual masturbation, self-pleasure at homes of origin, and reconnecting with past flames. We also briefly touch on what it looks like to be a learner of love.. aka, what does it mean to be a good lover? How can you tell if someone is a good lover? Then, we talk about what it can look like to reconnect with past flames and how that can affect you.

Love you all & hope you enjoy! Love, H.

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode was recorded on 11/5 before results were announced. There is no mention of results.

In this episode, we focus on fostering a welcoming, open conversation about reproductive health, emphasizing that it’s not about telling you what you “should” believe, but rather offering informative insights and creating space for thoughtful disagreement. The episode touches on personal growth, highlighting how one can evolve their views over time with the slogan “I used to believe ____, and then I learned ____, and now I think ____”—showing that changing your mind is a natural and valuable process. We also delve into our personal experiences of shifting perspectives on policies related to sexual and reproductive health. Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-care, especially during stressful or uncertain times, and how comprehensive sexuality education is crucial for informed decision-making, empowerment, and overall well-being.

RESOURCES

• Dara Tucker
• Circles of Sexuality Handout - FREE!
• Card game to play with teens

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

This episode is centered around the question of egalitarian health, mostly pertaining to women’s health and the lack of support the American medical system has for women’s health issues. We dive into the following questions and further discuss important nuances of the medical system pertaining to sexual health like racial inequities and holistic medicine.

• What is patriarchal medicine?

• What does it look like to have an egalitarian health system?

• What are qualities of a good health care provider?

• What is patient centered care?

RESOURCES

• Henrietta Lacks
• Taking Charge of Your Fertility
• Period.
• Vagina: A Reeducation

FREE DOWNLOADBALE HANDOUT WILL BE AVAILABLE FRIDAY DEC 13 SIGN UP FOR OUR EMAILS TO BE NOTIFIED! :)

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator & Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach.

In this episode of Sex Ed For You: Where Research Meets Reality, Lauren and I start off by watching a recent reel post by Madion Prewitt, a former contestant on the Bachelor. This video started a conversation on submission within partnership, division of labor in households, and the importance of respecting your partner. We also dive into why the Bachelor/ette dating shows not only don’t work, but also are a horrible representation of polyamory; glorifying an unbalanced model of what can be a really healthy approach to consensual non-monogamy. We touch on the topic of mind-reading in relationships and how it’s important to communicate your needs; not just expect a partner to know them off the bat. Last but not least, we emphasize the importance of NOT putting sex on a pedestal; relationships are so so much more than just a p*nis and a v*gina.

RESOURCES:

• The Bitchelorette on Instagram
• Sex At Dawn
• The Ethical Slut

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode, we explore the complexities of cheating and relationship boundaries. What is the collective definition of cheating? Using a real-life example, we dive into the nuances of infidelity, the shadow side of sexuality, and maintaining healthy boundaries with exes. We also discuss how to communicate difficult truths with a partner and what it takes to rebuild trust after infidelity. 

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Lauren's story with religion, her personal journey with Christianity, and Sex Ed For You's stance on faith.

Resources:

• Circles of Sexuality: Use code EP24 to download for free
• "Good Sex" and religion: a feminist overview

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Lauren returns from her training-- Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent with even more wisdom than before. Lauren breaks down the WOC and tells us more about the basic principles of consent. Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

This conversation shows you, dear audience, the side of working in sex education that many don’t see– the high expectations placed on self and the feeling of being in the spotlight (especially in regards to dating and sexual practices). Lauren and I talk about the values policy we’re starting to build out and how that affects employee dating practices; a conversation sparked after a difficult dinner.

Resources

• Use code EP20 to download our Sexual Values Guiding Questions for free

• Use code EP18 to download our Sexual Values Worksheet for free

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Welcome to SEX ED FOR YOU with Lauren & Holland: Where research meets reality! The podcast for people who want to date and have great sex that is safe, fun, and enjoyable. Empowering our listeners to make informed decisions that lead to values-based living. 

On this debut episode we discuss the “why” behind this podcast from our various points of view and how we imagine the research will meet reality!

We firmly believe that research only tells one part of the story. We all deserve to make informed decisions of our very own and discover the results of our choices. Sometimes they align with the research - sometimes they do not!  We truly hope this podcast allows you to learn and laugh!

Holland really wanted this episode to be more than an introduction! So, you are welcome in advance for the hilarious stories of dates and sexual encounters that were less than great!!!

Lauren tells her “pick a color” story that will leave you in stitches, followed by Holland’s “chainsaw man” catfish disaster! Then Lauren closes us out with her “menstrual disk gone” wrong in Manhattan moment!

We hope you enjoy this first episode and our hilarious and cringey stories that include quotes like “it was as if the clitoris does not exist.” 

Interested in learning more about the type of education Sex Ed for You offers? Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock  

A conversation centered around the JOY that comes from trusting your own intuition and following through for self. Holland talks about being recognized in public for the first time as well as a recent recognition from a friend. Lauren gives her in depth story about how she came into sexuality education and the internal wisdom she had to follow to find it. 

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Here it is!! The most comprehensive list of all the products, games, and tools we recommend to clients and friends alike. This list will give you everything you need to know about the some of the coolest brands available in the field of sex and sexuality.

• We're Not Really Strangers
• The Date Deck
• Intimacy Cards
• The KIWI; code STRETCHY
• OhNuts; code SEXEDFORYOU
• Lauren's OhNuts story in Episode 5
• Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand
• Momotaro Apotheca Salve
• Momotaro Apotheca Suppository
• Emergency Contraceptives: Julie and Winx
• The Future Method, Dr. Goldstein's Butt Seriously
• Dame "Zee" Bullet
• Dame "Eva" Vibrator
• Maude Vibrators and Wellness
• Thump by Bellesa
• The Slippery Stuff Lube
• Snail Dispenser
• SKYN Latex-Free Condoms
• ONE Condoms Sizing Kit
• Lorals Safe Oral Sex Undies
• SEFY Episode on STI Testing

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Do you find yourself hating your birthday every year? Maybe you’re used to a heaping sense of disappointment when you allow yourself to anticipate a perfect day that ends up falling short of your unspoken expectations. In this episode, we talk about Lauren’s perfect birthday weekend– celebrating her daughter’s birthday and her own. Lauren gives us her recipe for a perfect birthday– asking for what you want. Then, Holland talks about her most recent disappointing birthday experience that fell short of communicated desires and expectations; proving a relationship was not the right fit. If you’re not yet convinced of how the Wheel of Consent is integrated into every single human experience; this episode may just convince you.

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Episode 43 is at its core, about the fact that self-care, in whatever form you most need, is not villainous. I discuss my most recent experience with revoking consent in favor of self-care and Lauren touches on respecting her own needs when others draw on her energy. We also discuss a new modality that Lauren is learning about in her Embodied Coaching Course: MEBES. Love, H

03:30 Consent & Revoking Consent

08:00 Pleasure Cannot Be Given or Received- Dr. Betty Martin

09:30 Be the Villain in Someone Else’s Story

13:20 Meh Means No

16:00 Schedule Space for Sex

18:30 Willing vs Unwilling

22:30 How Did H Cancel Her DC Trip?26:00 H’s Situationship with Clear Boundaries

32:26 MEBES

40:00 Pls Cancel “Hey How Are You”

44:50 Self Care Isn’t Villainous

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Join us as we candidly discuss the different phases of the menstrual cycle, shedding light on the often misunderstood aspects and sharing practical advice on how to embrace each stage with grace and self-care. Holland opens up about her own poignant and unforgettable experience—an intensely painful cycle from the month she moved to Virginia. Her story underscores the challenges many individuals face during their menstrual cycles, emphasizing the importance of compassion and self-care.

Throughout the episode, we emphasize the significance of shifting your perspective on the menstrual cycle. We encourage listeners to embrace the fluidity and dynamism of their cycles, urging them to let go of preconceived notions and instead approach their periods with an open mind. We believe that understanding the cycle's shifts and nuances can empower individuals to navigate their lives more harmoniously.

Resources:

• Track your cycle using this Google Sheet

• More information on the phases of the menstrual cycle.

• Momotaro, for all your vaginal health needs!

• Dr. Jolene Brighten

• The Period Doctor

  
  

  
  

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock 

TW: PET LOSS

If you follow us on socials, you probably already know that my (Holland’s) dog, Ollie, passed away recently. This episode was filmed a couple days after we held his funeral. We talk about the funeral, grief, and how we’re all adapting to a new life without our little best friend. We also touch on having funerals/goodbye rituals for past situationships and how that can be really beneficial. 

RESOURCES:

The Playlist we referenced

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode, we discuss the all too often overlooked intersection of religion, specifically Christianity, and sexuality. Because our primary clientele are folks who have some sort of history with religion, we find it deeply important to cover this topic with nuance and care. We dive into Rev. Bev’s "Sex Is Good!" series and tackle questions such as: Who does my body belong to? What is safety-seeking behavior? What is embedded theology? And how to navigate working with educators who hold different belief systems from their clients? 

In this episode, Lauren and I tackle the age old question, how should you flirt? What even is flirting? What’s the purpose of flirting? Pulling on our favorite resources, Pleasure Activism, Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, and my personal life (lol), we create a toolkit for you to use when flirting out in the wild. ;) Love always, H

RESOURCES

• Pleasure Activism
• Sexual Values Worksheet (CODE: FLIRT)

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Lauren and I talk about the 2023 Holiday Season, and all the chaos that ensued as a result of sickness, family, and circumstance. We dive into traditional gender roles, those that Lauren and I feel are enforced by the church and the construct of the "American Dream." We talk about what egalitarianism is to us and what it looks like for me to fight for true equity in familial contexts. Buckle in for some very funny & some very sad stories.

Love you all & Happy 2024,

Holland

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode is about all the aspects of holidays– the heartwarming, the challenging, and the transformative. I open up about a pivotal moment in my life; my first panic attack that happened during a tense family gathering. It was a moment that changed my perspective on mental health and family dynamics forever. Sharing this vulnerable experience reminds us that it's okay not to be okay, especially during the holidays.

Lauren's story about her recent beach vacation and using play to renegotiate trauma is simply inspiring. Her journey teaches us that healing can come in unexpected ways and empowers us to explore our own paths towards healing and resilience.

We take a thought-provoking turn in the conversation when Lauren asks: Can you change someone's mind? We dive into the complexities of opinions, family dynamics, and the challenges of shifting perspectives, especially during holiday gatherings.

Navigating through family interactions during the holidays can sometimes be tricky. Lauren and I share practical advice on how to respond to inappropriate questions or comments from family members while maintaining personal boundaries and respect. 

And when it comes to kids' safety during the holidays, it's paramount. We discuss valuable tips on ensuring a safe environment and fostering open communication channels. Empowering kids to trust their intuition around extended family members becomes a crucial aspect of holiday safety.

Resources:

• Books for Parents & Families

Other Links:

• SEFY Merch Shop
• SEFY Logo Hat
• SEFY Gift Certificates

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Last week, we left off on a cliffhanger. Today, we’re back with the answers you so desperately desire. Listen to this episode to get the inside scoop on what it means to date authentically and align your longings on a first date! Lauren and I consider how much I’ve changed since moving to VA, and how that has deeply affected my dating practices. We give you some great advice about dating authentically and what it looks like to accept that YOU DESERVE TO DATE PEOPLE YOU REALLY LIKE! Besides, in the end, you either break up or get married, right?

RESOURCES:

• Discussions to Have with Potential Partners | CODE: BRICK

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode starts off with our quick anecdote to one of our listeners who said they don’t like our new intro: WE SEE YOU, truly! & say, pls feel free to skip it! This sets up the most amazing conversation about consent. I (Holland) found a Reddit post the other day written by a father about his daughter disclosing her discomfort around an adult in her life. This conversation is nuanced in so many ways and opens up the floor for Lauren and I to talk about the fact that abuse does not have just one face. We talk about signs of abuse and quite a few preventative measures you can take to help keep your kids safe! We may be beating a dead horse with a stick on this one, but AGAIN, conversations and communication can save lives. Lauren gives a few examples of how she’s created a safe container for her kid to come to her with vulnerable topics, conversations you can have about consent, and a game you can play with kids to model consent. We open up the conversations to other consent related topics like the Me Too movement and Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent. Hope you all enjoy! Love, H

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Lauren and I spend this episode talking about the ways we find purpose in our lives, hardships, and pain. From really difficult menstrual cycles to surviving abuse, we truly believe that everything we’ve each been through has purpose in the greater tapestry of humanity. I touch on my Oura Ring with a little insight on how I manage my cycle tracking. Lauren gives us a quick run down of the importance of the lovely Capricorn moon we all experienced on the weekend of July 21; how deeply this moon affected both of us is so cool! We spend the final half of the podcast discussing the power of our favorite phrase and how it so accurately described my previous weekend– notice, trust, and value your needs, wants, and desires. Love always! H

01:55 The Oura Ring & Cycle Tracking

04:37 The July Full Moon

05:50 The Moon and Menstruation

09:30 Finding Purpose in Pain

15:20 Questions to Ask Yourself Monthly Dr. Christine Page

22:00 Making Space for What’s to Come

26:37 Attuning to Self Amongst Other

31:00 The Power of Journaling

38:42 Leaning Into What You DO Want 

44:00 Types of Love

46:18 The Tapestry of Humanity

53:10 Second Mountain People

57:50 Lauren’s Weekend Tarot Pull ;)

• Monthly Questions by Dr. Christine R Page
• Emotional Agility
• Free Downloads on our Site
• Oura Ring

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode, Lauren and I talk through all the amazing experiences we had in New York. We had a beautiful gathering our first night there; toured the Met, the Museum of Sex, and Stonewall, saw a show off Broadway, and enjoyed stand-up at the Comedy Cellar. Lauren spoke on a panel about sex and relationship during menopause, then we rounded up the trip with a day in Brooklyn, visiting fun stores, cafes, and cherished friends. On the train ride back, we had one of the most productive and enlightening brainstorming sessions everrrr. Hope you enjoy! Love, H

• Leland Melvin

• PETA ad

• Streetwise Tours, with our guide, Andrew! 

• MUJI

• Juneshine

• The Well Center, Armonk

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This is a tender episode that Lauren and I made in response to an anonymous question we received the week prior. This brave person reached out to us asking for advice about their decision to have first intercourse within their current relationship. The original anonymous question is read aloud for the audience, but the additional context provided by our brave friend is kept out of the episode.

We first build a container that we feel lays the foundation of the following conversation: our backgrounds, our perspectives, and our shortcomings– i.e. we haven’t met this person, and only know a few details of the situation. From there, Lauren and I give our own stories relating to first intercourse and we try to give our friend tools they can use to analyze their own situation from a sex-positive, consent based perspective. We also follow the situation through – if this disagreement about intercourse ended in a breakup; what would that look like? We discuss what our friend can do to support themselves in a way that honors the bravery of their decision to stand on their values, yet also acknowledges the pain of a breakup. 

Episode 10 is heartfelt, tender, and real. Thank you for trusting us with your question, friend. You are so worthy, so loved, so kind.

Click here for our sexual values worksheet. Use code: PODCAST10 to download for free until 12/20.

To submit your own anonymous question: click here or email admin@sexedforyou.com

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Holland has a BS in Public Health.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Lauren and I talk a little bit about what bisexuality looks like on a deeper level than is typically spoken about in day to day conversations. I give my own perspectives and lived experiences of bisexuality, coming out, and the lifelong journey of learning that I’ve come to appreciate. We bring up a few really interesting topics; like the fact that the LGBTQIA+ community is, at its core, a system and what that means for queer folk as we pave the way for generations to come. This conversation is so fun and interesting, but it’s just the tip of the iceberg; so we encourage you to do your own research, find sources that feel good to you and immerse yourself in supportive and loving communities and conversations.

Hope you enjoy! H :)

Resources

• The Kinsey Scale

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode tackles topics like age gap romance real-life applications and what conversations we think should preempt relationship attempts. Lauren and I discuss the importance of individuation, developmental age markers, and aligning your longings with potential partners. We give light to the fun aspects of fantasy that enrapt many people fascinated with a person who’s much older or younger than they are and encourage listeners to use their common sense when faced with such situations. We also have a candid conversation about making passing comments in public to people you find attractive and the right vs wrong ways to do so.

• ADVANCING SEXUAL HEALTH FOR THE CHRISTIAN CLIENT
• HOW TO BE THE LOVE YOU SEEK

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

TW: Sexual Assault

To start this episode I gave a much-anticipated recap of my weekend to Lauren, so y’all could see her very hilarious reactions to my antics and analyses of a chaotic party that I attended. Then, you get to hear the story of how my upbringing in Reformed Presbyterianism is quite different from Lauren’s. I talk about how it affected my values and my approach to early life and why I no longer subscribe to the religion.

Love, H

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode dives into the intricacies that come with the internet and its inevitable connections with sexuality. From nudes and snapchat to porn and butt play– this episode has it all! Resources: Amaze.org HELP MY KID WATCHED PORN WEBINAR ($30) Worksheets! Butt plugs: ⁠Cone small⁠⁠

Cone medium (vibrating + larger) Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Welcome to SEX ED FOR YOU with Lauren & Holland: Where Research Meets Reality! In episode 5, Lauren & Holland quickly discuss what it looks like to do power differently and allow the mess of humanity. In a world where everyone is on social media and our lives are so public, we encourage ourselves and others to remain authentic. This leads us to talk about the importance of establishing sexual values and what we think is influencing Holland’s generation (Zillenials) and those younger than she. 

The anatomy and physiology of vulvas is an important topic we feel isn’t often discussed, so we talk about what arousal looks like, why penetrative intercourse can be painful, and our own experiences with pelvic floor issues. Lauren offers positions to try that can help reduce and avoid pain. 

Finally, Lauren regales us with her story of the missing OhNut, which will leave you in tears of laughter.

Resources:

• The Vagina Rehab Doctor
• Intimate Rose
• The Side Lying Position
• OhNuts, use code SEXEDFORYOU

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

This episode covers the question we hear MOST often: "I want to want to have more sex." What does it mean to want to want more sex? Do you really just not want the sex you're having right now? What kind of sex do you really want to have?

Lauren and I talk about the motivations behind this statement and what we, as sex educators, think could be better questions to ask yourself before aiming just to have more sex.

Use code EP18 to download our Values Worksheet for free!!

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode is all about transitioning seasons and periodically checking in with self. What does it mean to gently move from one season to the next and how does one do that without losing all sense of self? What does it look like to end friendships as we outgrow them? We discuss how good intentions don’t negate harm done and how we each have learned to take accountability in hard situations. Listen along as Lauren and I discuss all the implications of seasonal growth.

Resources:

• We’re not really strangers

• VALUES BASED MISSION STATEMENT Code: EP22 

HEMLOCK FIRST MONTH FREE! CODE BRANCH

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Between Martha Stewart and the trending TradWife content, there’s been a lot of talk lately about women and their roles in society. Today, we dive into the nuances of what it means to be a bitch who bakes casseroles, despite the chastisement of societal norms.

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator & Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach.

In this episode, we draw parallels between the iconic One Tree Hill marriage and the intricacies of harmful sexual behaviors, shedding light on hidden misogyny within anti-porn rhetoric. We confront the phenomenon of women pitted against women and the all-too-common expectation of male "failure" when it comes to porn, while honoring the harm that trust and deceit play in this conversation. We discuss the importance of compassionately loving ourselves to heal past traumas by exploring the cornerstones of eroticism which help to integrate adrenaline, fantasy, and pleasure into our healing journey. I lament about the societal destruction of creativity and play-pretend in adulthood, advocating for relearning fantasy and embracing creativity. Lauren and I also tackle the taboo topic of communicating with partners about pornography, and emphasize the importance of recognizing the intricate production behind pornographic content. Join us as we navigate these complex issues with empathy, insight, and a commitment to understanding and growth.

Love always, H.

RESOURCES AND LINKS:

• GET $40 OFF YOUR FIRST NUULY
• Help my kid saw porn webinar
• Unlocking desire 

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

You asked, we answered. Today’s episode tackles the following 4 questions:

• Why is there such value placed on the idea of virginity, yet sexual skills are still expected?

• How do you establish boundaries in a relationship surrounding sex?

• How can you manage and help a lowered libido due to antidepressants or hormonal medication? 

• How do you become good at sex?

This conversation was so much fun and so informative. We tackle all these questions with the now expected levels of nuance and guidance with tons of resources for you. See below for an abundance of information, resources, and a free download!

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

This episode is a sequel to episode 30; where we talked about all the erotic themes of Bridgerton. In this part, Lauren and I give our high level reviews and critiques of the third season of the show, highlighting some areas where the portrayal of intimacy could really use some improvement. Lauren gives us an in-depth look at the process of arousal and why we should NEVER be saying phrases such as “it’s gonna hurt.” 

If you like Bridgerton, and want some shows with a similar vibe, we suggest you check out Reign and Outlander (TWs for assault on both).

• 00:35 High Level Bridgerton Reviews

• 08:55 Give us MORE NICOLA

• 11:30 Why we DON’t endorse saying “it’s gonna hurt”

• 13:45 The Process of Arousal

• 19:10 Benedicked down

• 23:15 Communication Opening Doors For Everybody!!

• 27:00 The Featherington Girlies

• 28:30 Women’s Rights Discussions of The Season

• 31:00 Why do people love Bridgerton?

• 42:00 The topic of Race in the Bridgerton Universe

• 44:00 Holland’s Recommendation for A Similar Show (reign)

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

The reality of life is that you have a body. And sometimes, because of a myriad of reasons– ie society, body dysmorphia, etc– there are days where we just hate our bodies. This is truly a universal experience and I hope this episode both equips you with tools to use on those hard days and shows you that you are not alone in this. The conversation today centers around honoring your emotions then making the active decision to help move yourself from a place of disgust with self to a place of appreciation.

RESOURCES

Sonya Renee Taylor the body is not an apology

WinxHealth

Brick App (lock your phone physically)

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

A short and sweet episode to catch you up on some behind the scenes of Sex Ed For You, including my new title and what it means to us. Then, we dive into introducing you to our newly improved blog!! We're here to bring you the better version of Carrie Bradshaw you never knew you needed. ;)

Love always, H

02:00 Holland’s Title Change

03:30 Lauren is good at math

05:12 Holland is indeed killing it

06:50 What a Free Consult Looks Like

07:40 What is a CC&CC?

09:06 Your New Carrie Bradshaw

13:35 What Happens when Dirty Talk Goes Wrong

17:30 Why We Shouldn’t Use Anatomical Terms as Insults

20:35 The Power of Words

23:30 “Come for Me”

25:15 The New Spectrum of Consent

27:35 When Does “Dirty Talk” Cross the Line to Manipulation?

29:45 Our Scars Can Be Doors

RESOURCES:

Sign Up for Emails!!

Read the Blog: 7 Secrets to Devious Dirty Talk

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode is about the importance of learning the art of choice. We sat down for this episode with no particular topic in mind and out came this conversation about how the lack of autonomy and choice making skills in adolescence deeply affect your ability to choose later in life. We empower listeners (and ourselves) to make cognizant decisions about who we surround ourselves with and to critically examine how those people impact our perspectives on life. The entire conversation highly relates to Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent and her book The Art of Receiving and Giving.

RESOURCES

• Lauren's current read: The Biology of Belief
• The Art of Receiving and Giving, Dr. Betty Martin
• Dr. Betty Martin's Book Trailer
• The Human Design Book we love

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode, I open up about my journey with STIs and how being tested after a sexual assault encounter was a crucial turning point for me. I share my experience with testing and treatment, highlighting the importance of sexual health. This topic is difficult, but so so important for anyone who is sexually active. I hope you see a new perspective on STIs after listening along to this episode.

Lauren and I have an eye-opening discussion comparing STIs to something we're more familiar with, like strep throat. We break down the truth that the danger of STIs lies in leaving infections untreated. We also shine a light on what treatment looks like – from antibiotic pills to shots – shedding light on the straightforward but vital process.

Speaking from my own experience with treatment and testing, I emphasize the importance of being proactive about your sexual health. We dive into the responsibility we have in notifying our sexual partners if we receive a positive test result. Communication is key, and it's a crucial part of safeguarding everyone's well-being.

Sex Ed For You isn't just about information – it's about empowerment. Lauren and I infuse this discussion with real experiences, laughter, and most importantly, a supportive atmosphere. We're here to dismantle stigma, educate, and encourage everyone to take charge of their sexual health with confidence.

For those who are curious, the testing ended up costing $45 at my local health department & they gave me tons of free, non-latex condoms! ;)

Love, Holland 

Resources:

• Syphilis Testing & Chart Reading
• More information on STI Testing
• Find your local health department (most accessible and lowest price point for testing & treatment!)
• What does an STI test look like?

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Our very elaborate & nuanced answer to the question: should you date long term, monogamously, or should you casually date in your 20s?

RESOURCES

• Polysecure
• Ethical Slut
• Sex At Dawn
• Dr. Caroline Leaf
• Pleasure Activism, Adrienne Maree Brown

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode is truly all over the place. We start off with a bang, talking about my most recent experience with my queerness and exploring what it means to me, and why labels feel relatively daunting. Then, we talk about Jennifer Aniston’s scene from “He’s Just Not That Into You,” where the person she’s been partnered with for years refuses to marry her, and we dive into all the facets of life that are quite literally just made up by humans– the government, money, and time. We talk about the nuances of these institutions and how they affect our lives. As both Lauren and I just finished watching our favorite reality TV love shows, Couple to Throuple and Love is Blind, respectively, we touch on the power of knowledge and permission (also, did you know Lauren was on a reality TV show??). Then, at the end of the episode, I tacked on a short 15 minute clip that we filmed last week after a chaotic day of filming. 

Love always!!! H

Resources:

• Patrick Hardwig, Videographer & Photographer

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode, Lauren and I talk about aligning your sexual preferences and longings with partners; both early in relationship, and in long-term relationships. We discuss what it can look like when a person wants to explore their fantasies in a relationship and the risks and rewards of that vulnerability. We bring up some fun memories – The Rice Purity test and the BDSM test, which we see as fun launching pads to good conversations.

Resources

• OhMiBod 
• Use Code SEFYPOD16 to download our Yes, No, Maybe list for free!

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Well, when you put your life on a podcast you should expect to be held accountable for your actions. We are not perfect, but we do our best to hold ourselves accountable for our actions and impact. Lauren leads us in a game that encourages the players to define themselves apart from their relationships; guiding us to think about how our values shape the lives we lead. We talk through one of our favorite worksheets that walks you through Accidents vs Violations and steps to repair.

RESOURCES

• REPAIR WORKSHEET (CODE: FUCKUP) 
• MX Sizzle

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator & Embodied Coach.

Enjoy this short Holiday Episode!! <3

Happy Holidays!

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time) https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Y’all, Lauren and I ran to the podcast chairs as soon as Bridgerton Season 3 came out. No S3 spoilers here, but if you haven’t seen S1 & S2 then you should probably watch those first. ;) This conversation was all about the erotic themes of the Bridgerton love stories we’ve seen so far: Daphne + Simon, Anthony + Kate, and the long awaited Pen + Colin. Lauren and I talk through our own favorite scenes from the show and which erotic themes are most common. We touch on the topic of sexualization and how sex is used to manipulate in control in the show. Lauren brings up Julia Quinn’s background and how her dynamic with romance books deeply influences the Bridgerton story. Last but not least, we talk through implementing core erotic themes into real life in healthy ways! Love always, H!

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Seasons of change often bring immense discomfort, including bodily discomfort. Lauren takes us through her weekend of detrimental sickness that led to clarity in decisions to close important chapters and move forward into new opportunities.

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Follow along as we walk through the process of selecting new values for SEX ED FOR YOU; detailing mine and Lauren’s personal stories of why values are so important to us as business people and just plain ol’ people people. 

Values Blog Post

Sex Ed Prep for Parents 

Find Your Why

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Welcome to Sex Ed For You: Where Research Meets Reality. The theme of episode 3 is communication; the main idea-- who are you, what do you want, where have you been, and where do you want to go? Lauren and I briefly discuss substance use and how it can effect partnership and compatibility. We agree that substance use and abuse are one of the most important things to discuss when considering partnership with someone! For information on codependency, we recommend: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. We also talk about how Lauren and I react when digesting information or difficult conversations. Typically, people will deeply desire one of three things: solitude, silence, or stillness. This conversation leads us to consider what it's like dating though a trauma-informed lens, as some people struggle to understand another's inherent need for one of those three things: solitude, silence, and stillness. Then, H gives Lauren and the audience 20 questions to ask a potential partner. Here's the link to download that list for free (valid until Nov 1)! We also discuss what it looks like to shift your perspective on dating for fulfillment and dating to add to an already joyful and fulfilled life: a life where you love yourself enough to not depend on the love of another. Lastly, Lauren and I lament the feeling of being "too much" for people, both romantically and platonically. Lauren shares that her partner and husband, Trey, is the first to truly affirm her "too much-ness." For more information on doing power differently, we recommend Cassandra Speaks by Elizabeth Lesser.

This episode was inspired by an Instagram Reel that very beautifully and cinematically showed the breakup process. Lauren and I tackled this topic full speed ahead– what does it mean to communicate your desires within a relationship for more expansive partnership? What does it look like to be the villain in someone else’s story? How do we become okay with being the main character in our own story? 

Download the Consensual Communication Model here (the stick people we always talk about) (it's free!)

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Welcome to SEX ED FOR YOU with Lauren & Holland: Where Research Meets Reality! On our fourth episode, Lauren and I lean heavily into the reality aspect of this podcast. The day we recorded this episode was the day we launched this podcast, and boy were we exhausted! 

Not only were we overwhelmed with the details of launching, but we both were facing hardships in our personal lives as well. We discuss the aftermath of a triggering event, the therapeutic effect, and being torn between emotions and logic. 

Like Lauren’s shirt? Us too. Buy it here on our website!

Here are the authors + books we mentioned throughout the episode: adrienne marie brown, Cassandra Speaks by Elizabeth Lesser and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠

Have you ever met someone in their early twenties and found it impossible to connect? Or caught yourself cringing at a young couple’s codependency? If so, this episode is for you! We kick things off by discussing age-appropriate sex education for kids—essential lessons that lay the groundwork for understanding relationships, consent, self-advocacy, and body autonomy. From there, we explore how common relationship stereotypes often stem from a lack of these foundational lessons and examine how this gap impacts adult relationships today.

RESOURCES:

SIGN UP FOR EMAILS TO RECEIVE THE AGE-APROPRITATE SEX TALKS DOWNLOAD WEDNESDAY 1/1!

SEX ED PREP FOR PARENTS COURSE

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator & Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach.

We kick things off with a pact—a pact to change the narrative. Lauren and I recognize that in relationships, it's all too easy to focus on the negatives. So, we're committing to sharing the positives about our partners, shifting the conversation to celebrate the good stuff.

Lauren and I talk about relationship stereotypes, and different ways we’ve seen them play out in real life. We also dive into the complexities of aligning your longings with potential partners. For more on this, watch Episode 3: Communication in Early Partnership

Friendzoning and friends with benefits? We've been there! Lauren and I share our personal experiences and insights. Lauren delves into the importance of setting boundaries in friends with benefits relationships to ensure that both parties are respected.

Lauren discusses relationships of financial convenience and how her first marriage largely fell into that category. And I share my own personal anecdote, highlighting how relationships of convenience can deviate from traditional gender dynamics.

Sex Ed For You is not your average podcast. Lauren and I bring research to the table, infusing it with real-life experiences and laughs. We're here to empower and educate, all while keeping it fun and relatable. Get ready for an upbeat, honest, and informative conversation that'll leave you with a fresh perspective on relationships and a smile on your face. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one!

Love, Holland <3

Sex Ed For You Merch

Download: Journal Prompts to Reconnect with Your Sensuality

Order by Sunday, Dec 10 to get your merch by Christmas (US ONLY)!

Resources:

• How to Be the Love You Seek
• Alison Armstrong: The 4 Relationship Models
• Adrienne Maree Brown
• Julia Cameron: The Artists Way

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

SEX ED PREP FOR PARENTS COURSE IS NOW LIVE!!

In this episode, we’re letting you in on the inner workings of Sex Ed For You… hint: a lot’s changing! Plus, some updates about our very own version of the bachelorette in the most coded language ever, Holland’s love life ;) Hope y’all enjoy. H

• 02:08 Holland’s Job Title is Changing!

• 08:52 Holland’s Contract

• 13:36 The Root of The Issue– Finance

• 15:52 Tying in the Wheel of Consent

• 22:05 The Week of Chaos

• 32:47 Accident vs Violation

• 34:20 How & Why We Do Work Differently (feat tears)

• 39:00 Love Life Updates

• 41:50 So He’s A Cookie… ?

• 46:00 What Happens When Values Aren’t Aligned

• 50:05 We Want What’s Best For YOU!!!!

• 53:00 Our Version of The Bachelorette

• 58:20 Trusting Intuition

• 1:02:50 Connecting Your Body and Mind’s Intuition

• 1:06:40 Surround Yourself with People Who Trust You

• 1:09:45 A Case for Making Better Friendships

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this holiday episode, we ask why Halloween leads to the sexualization of professions such as nursing, firefighting, and, most controversial of all– nuns (nunning? nunnery?). Of course, this leads us back to one of our favorite sources; the circles of sexuality. DOWNLOAD here for free. Truth is, Halloween is just one instance of society writing us all a permission slip to dress however we want, so the question really is– what does it look like to give yourself permission to live your life how you actually want to? We encourage you to look at your personal recipe for a good time (ex. Halloween) and apply it to yourself, your dates, & your free time more often. After all, a recipe is only good if you use it.

RESOURCES

- The Psychology of Your 20s (H's fav podcast)

- Circles of Sexuality Handout FREE

- Learn more about the PLISSIT Model

- Dr. Jack Morin's book, The Erotic Mind

Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.