Sex Chat for Christian Wives (Bonny Burns, Gaye Christmus, J Parker, and Chris Taylor)
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| 14 May 2024 | Self Touch (Quickie) | 00:02:02 | |
This week's sex tip quickie comes from Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage: self touch. | |||
| 09 Nov 2021 | 10 Best Things About Sex | 00:24:05 | |
What are the best things about sex? We compiled a list of ten and hope it will inspire you to pursue better and deeper intimacy in your marriage. Sponsor
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| 17 Aug 2021 | The Most Pleasurable Sex Positions | 00:25:05 | |
About this episode
Today’s episode has a tantalizing title, but what we’re really talking about are positions that work especially well for a wife, ones that don’t work, and positions might give you a better opportunity to orgasm.
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From the Bible
What does God have to say about positions?
His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. – Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Resources
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| 19 Jun 2018 | 36 - Pregnancy and Sex | 00:26:50 | |
It's been a while since any of us ladies were pregnant, but we remember. Mostly. So today, we’re tackling an important issue for many of y’all out there: sex when you’re pregnant. Because when you’re carrying a child, your body changes in so many ways, and those changes impact sexual intimacy.
From the Bible Genesis 1:27, Psalm 127:3, 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, 1 Samuel 12:24a Resources Sexual Positions for Pregnancy, or “My Belly’s In the Way!” – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Pregnancy Bed Rest Makes Sex Forbidden – Hot, Holy & Humorous "(You're) Having My Baby" – Paul Anka Episode 15 – Listener Questions (with talking to husband about sex) 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief – Hot, Holy & Humorous Request If Sex Chat for Christian Wives has blessed your marriage, please consider blessing us. We are asking for donations to help defray the cost of attending the October 2018 Declare Conference in Dallas, TX. This conference will serve as continuing education, helping us hone our skills as Christian communicators. If you've got some pocket change, please throw it into our cup. Sex Chat for Christian Wives GoFundMe Link. | |||
| 28 Aug 2024 | Making the Most of Your Five Senses | 00:29:25 | |
Let's talk about the five senses—touch, sight, hearing, smell, and taste—and how to make the most of them to increase your sexual interest and enhance your lovemaking experience. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance, a Christian sex toy & marital aid store. From the Bible For you created my inmost being;
My dove in the clefts of the rock, Resources
Donate to the Ministry by clicking HERE. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns | |||
| 19 Jan 2021 | Overcoming Boredom in the Bedroom | 00:24:24 | |
With people staying home more than ever these days, monotony is overwhelming our lives. However, there is one area of your life than can certainly move from monotonous to mind-blowing with just a few simple changes. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are talking about boredom in the bedroom and what can be done to generate more passion in your experience.
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| 23 Apr 2018 | 32-Advice for Our Newlywed Selves | 00:27:17 | |
What do we wish we'd known when we first got married? In this episode, the four wives chat about what they wish they'd understood earlier in their marriages and what they would like to advise wives now.
Find more on our show notes, available at our website. | |||
| 26 Mar 2018 | 30-Lies Women Believe, Part 2 | 00:37:09 | |
What are the lies that affect our marriages and limit our ability to enjoy sex and intimacy? And what are the truths that we need to embrace instead? We address two more lies in this episode:
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| 13 Nov 2024 | Be Present During Sex (Quickie) | 00:02:34 | |
This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with four ways to be fully present during sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! | |||
| 27 Mar 2017 | Women's Sexual Response | 00:26:15 | |
Episode 6: Women's Sexual ResponseAbout this episodeToday we’re talking about women’s sexuality and sexual response.
From the BibleWhat does God have to say about women's sexuality? 1 Timothy 5:14: "So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander." 2 Samuel 12:24: "Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him." Song of Songs 5, especially verse 5: "I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt." Song of Songs 7, especially verse 10: "I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me." ResourcesThe Forgiven Wife, Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality The Forgiven Wife, Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexuality Be Like Your Husband's? The Generous Husband, Orgasmic Massage To see an image representing the massive real estate of the internal clitoris, follow this link to wikipedia.
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| 01 Mar 2023 | God, Sex, and Your Marriage, with Dr. Juli Slattery | 00:42:40 | |
Dr. Juli Slattery, the co-founder of Authentic Intimacy and author of numerous books, joins us at the virtual kitchen table to discuss some topics found in her latest book, God, Sex, and Your Marriage. Sponsor Venus Pearls Vaginal Comfort Suppositories, formulated to relieve vaginal dryness and enhance sexual response. Buy 2 Get 1 with coupon code B2G1 From the Bible
(in order of mention in the episode)
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NIV)
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:3-4
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
The wife’s body does not belong only to her. It also belongs to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong only to him. It also belongs to his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4 (NIRV)
The wife does not have [exclusive] authority over her own body, but the husband shares with her; and likewise the husband does not have [exclusive] authority over his body, but the wife shares with him. (AMP)
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:25-33
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 (MSG Paraphrase)
Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (KJV)
And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 1 Corinthians 12:9a (NKJV)
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| 05 Jun 2024 | Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley | 00:30:55 | |
We welcome guest Dr. Carol Tanksley, who is an author, speaker, podcaster, licensed OB-Gyn, and a trained and ordained minister. She joins us to talk about how your sexual story shaped you and how to pursue sexual wholeness as God intended. Sponsor Share the Soap – goat milk soap & bath products. Special offer for our listeners: free lip balm (any flavor) with purchase of aloe & goat milk lotion! Put both lotion and lip balm into your cart and check out with the code FCWJUNE. From the Bible John 4:1-42 (Jesus and the Samaritan Woman at the Well) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23 Resources
Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns | |||
| 14 Feb 2017 | 50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again | 00:26:05 | |
About this episodeOut in theaters right now is Fifty Shades Darker, the second film based on Fifty Shades series. These novels have spurred a lot of conversation and questions about erotica. And we’re going to address that topic head-on. 1. Why do you think so many wives have been drawn to erotic romance stories? What about this genre appeals to them? 2. I've had wives tell me that reading these novels awakened their sexual desire. What’s wrong with that? Isn't that ultimately good for the sexual intimacy in their marriage? 3. Some say that these erotic stories are no different from porn, and others say they’re no different from romance novels. What do you think about either or both of those charges? How are they the same or different? 4. Let’s get practical: What is okay and what’s not okay in the world of BDSM? 5. What are your own greatest concerns about the Fifty Shades phenomenon? From the BibleGalatians 5:22-23: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." Colossians 3:19: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." 1 Corinthians 10:23: "'Everything is permissible,' but not everything is helpful. 'Everything is permissible,' but not everything builds up." (HSCB) ResourcesThe Forgiven Wife: A Shaded View of Romance The Forgiven Wife: Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? The Forgiven Wife: As Bad As Porn? Authentic Intimacy: The Good News about Fifty Shades of Grey OysterBed7: 50 Shades of Uncertainty? OysterBed7: Libido Boundaries? Hot Holy & Humorous: Why I Haven’t Talked about 50 Shades Hot Holy & Humorous: Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? Hot Holy & Humorous: Q&A with J: How about Bondage in the Bedroom? | |||
| 04 Jul 2017 | 13-Mismatched Sex Drives | 00:25:46 | |
Today we are exploring mismatched sex-drives and how your marriage can thrive in spite of it. We will be answering the questions:
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| 27 Oct 2020 | Listener Questions | 00:24:28 | |
We answer listener questions, specifically:
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From the Bible Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. - Philippians 2:3-4 Resources Sex Positions for Women with a Tilted Uterus - Christian Friendly Sex Positions And don't forget... The Resource You Need to Reach or Amplify Your Orgasm—for only $10!
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| 01 Oct 2019 | Listener Questions | 00:23:33 | |
About This Episode Today's listener questions are:
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Learn About Married Dance Here (affiliate link) From the Bible In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! – Song of Songs 5:1 Resources What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Upcoming Webinar Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) - November 14, 2019 | |||
| 15 Jan 2018 | 25-Sex Is Funny | 00:19:06 | |
Sometimes as Christians, we can focus so much on the deeper meaning of sexual intimacy in marriage, on its emotional and spiritual aspects, that we miss a sense of playfulness—or even downright humor. But we’re not going to miss that today, because we’re going to talk about how real sex can be awkward, embarrassing, and even funny. For more information about our anniversary episode giveaway, head to http://forchristianwives.com/anniversary-giveaway/. | |||
| 23 Jun 2020 | Trying New Sex Positions | 00:23:05 | |
About This Episode Is it time to expand your sexual position repertoire? We discuss going beyond "missionary" to include other positions, with a dose of reality on what's do-able and how to introduce new positions into your marriage. Sponsor
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| 08 Feb 2022 | Our 5th Anniversary Episode (with bloopers!) | 00:26:31 | |
When we started podcasting in February 2017, we didn't know whether we'd get through one year, much less five years. But here we are, celebrating this amazing milestone with a bit of reminiscing, some bloopers, and our wishes and hopes for our fabulous listeners! Sponsor
From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. - Proverbs 31:25 Resources
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| 30 Apr 2019 | Christian Sex Therapy | 00:24:15 | |
Episode 56: Christian Sex Therapy, with Dr. Jessica McCleeseAbout this episodeHave you ever wondered what happens in sex therapy–especially Christian sex therapy? Listen in while Bonny talks with Christian sex therapist Jessica McCleese about what happens in the first session, treatment for pain during intercourse, sexuality and faith, and how much therapy is enough. Sponsor
From the BibleWhat does God have to say? Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers. Proverbs 11:14 ResourcesDr. Jessica McCleese YouTube channel When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain – The Forgiven Wife Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible – Messy Marriage | |||
| 31 Jul 2018 | A Conversation About Porn (Part 2) | 00:23:15 | |
Pornography affects so many marriages--even Christian marriages. Although porn can be a problem for both men and women, we're going to spend some time looking at a situation we know many of our listeners can relate to. Join us for the second of three episodes about a wife dealing with her husband's pornography use. In this episode, Bonny offers advice to other wives based on her own experience. You can find show notes for this episode at http://forchristianwives.com/episode-39-a-conversation-about-porn-part-2. For the first part of the conversation, click here: http://forchristianwives.com/episode-38-a-conversation-about-porn-part-1/.
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| 19 Jun 2017 | 12-Guy Talk: The Importance of Sex | 00:26:00 | |
Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands answer the question, "Why is sex important?" Paul Byerly (The Generous Husband and The XY Code), Scott Means (Heaven-Made Marriage), Brad Aldrich (One-Flesh Marriage), Tom Walter (The Romantic Vineyard), and Doug Taylor (Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife) discuss the importance of sex. After their conversation, Bonny, Gaye, J, and Chris chat about what the guys had to say. | |||
| 16 Jul 2024 | Feeling Confident in the Bedroom, Finding a Therapist & Viewing Oral Sex Differently (Listener Questions) | 00:24:00 | |
In this episode, we tackle listener questions—specifically how to feel more confident in the bedroom by choosing something positive to wear, how to find a therapist in your area or online, and how to mentally shift from seeing oral sex as “dirty” to something married couples can (if they both want) do. Sponsor Better Help – connect with a fellow believer online within our network of licensed, professional therapists. From the Bible Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Songs 2:3 Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. Song of Songs 4:16 Resources
Some resources may be affiliate links, meaning we receive a commission for purchases made through these links at no additional cost to you. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns | |||
| 29 Aug 2018 | 41-Flirting with Your Husband | 00:25:20 | |
GoFundMe - Thanks for your support! Author Charlotte Bronte said, “Flirting is a woman’s trade, one must keep in practice.” And yet, once we get married, we tend to forget how we flirted so successfully in our courtship. Or maybe we were never comfortable with flirting. Everyday life and awkwardness set in, and we fail to pursue our husband’s interest like we could. So today we’re going to talk about flirting with your husband.
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| 27 Apr 2021 | Listener Questions | 00:31:09 | |
In this episode, we answer a few of your questions.
If you want to submit a question for a future episode, click on Ask a Question in the menu on our website and submit your query. Sponsor
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| 30 Mar 2021 | Take Time to Titivate | 00:28:59 | |
titivate (v). – to make a person or thing neater or more attractive (Merriam-Webster). To titivate is to make small enhancing changes or to make oneself look attractive. For some women, titivation is a daily habit. For others of us, it takes intention to remember to do it now and then.
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| 15 Sep 2020 | Feeling More Sensual | 00:27:11 | |
Today we’re talking about sensuality and how wives can feel more sensual. What does it mean to feel sensual? Why can it be difficult, and why does it matter? And what can you do to feel more sensual yourself? SponsorsShare the Soap
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Use coupon code FCW20 for 20% off one purchase. From the Bible What does God have to say about sensuality? How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! (Song of Songs 4:10) And the rest of Song of Songs! Resources
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| 04 Sep 2017 | 17-Body Image | 00:33:21 | |
Today’s topic is body image, and specifically how our thoughts and feelings about our bodies affect sex and intimacy in our marriages. We want to help you think about how body image might be affecting you and how you can take steps to change the way you think and feel about your body. 1. What do we mean when we say “body image?” And what are some of the things that affect how a woman feels about her body? 2. So why are we talking about this? What does it have to do with sex and intimacy in our marriages? 3. What are some practical things that women can do to improve their body image, to begin to feel good about their bodies? | |||
| 31 May 2023 | Why We're Against Porn and Erotica | 00:33:32 | |
Today, we're discussing pornography and erotica, and you can probably guess where our collective opinions land. But we want to explore this topic just a little further to solidify where your values land. Sponsor Strong Wives - Coaching & Sexual Clarity Course From the Bible So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 (NLT) I will conduct the affairs of my house Drink water from your own cistern, Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. Proverbs 6:25 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” Matthew 5:27–30 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." Job 31:1 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4 Resources
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| 02 May 2023 | What We'd Tell Your Pastor (About Sex) | 00:29:08 | |
While some Christian leaders and churches address the topic of sex well, too many either mishandle it or ignore it altogether. We here at the virtual kitchen table have heard the stories, good and bad. And we’re bringing our collective wisdom today to share what we wish more churches knew about sex and how to encourage church leaders to talk more biblically, authentically, and respectfully about it. Sponsor SHARE THE SOAP: Its purpose is to provide you with the essentials you need in a way that lavishes your skin, fills your senses and lifts your mood so that you are free to share the gifts and talents you've been blessed with. From the Bible Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. James 3:1 (A heavy verse for all of us who dare to instruct others publicly. May God give us wisdom.) Resources
Note: All women who shared quotes and scenarios with Bonny gave her permission to share them on this podcast. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) | |||
| 09 Apr 2018 | 31-Listener Questions | 00:34:40 | |
Again, we address listener questions. Specifically:
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| 06 Sep 2022 | 4 Mindset Hacks that Can Lead to Better Sex | 00:28:21 | |
Today, Bonny and Gaye share fresh ways of thinking about changes you want to make in your sex life and offer practical tips for taking small, positive steps in that direction. Sponsor
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| 10 Nov 2020 | How Does Depression Affect Sex? | 00:35:44 | |
About this episodeThanks for joining us at Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Today we’re going to talk about something that affects more than 264 million people around the world–depression.
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| 03 Aug 2021 | Are You Compromising Too Much? (Listener Question) | 00:29:57 | |
Today, we discuss a question that a reader submitted recently: How far is too far? How much do I compromise? I know I'm not perfect. I know I could have showed up more in the bedroom and have said as much. But I do try. It's hard as a woman, wife and now mother of 2. He says I don't listen and no one ever listens. So, he demands I do things I do not like. At times, it's not so bad. I can't handle it when he is angry. He gets rough. And then when I ultimately refuse he is so fed up and angry he leaves me feeling like I just will never be able to make him happy. I am feeling hopeless. And I struggle with knowing if I really need to be doing more or if I'm over compromising. I love my husband. We have been together almost 9 years, and I consider him my best friend. However, at times I wonder if we can ever get past this to live a happy marriage. Sponsor
And check out Bonny's STRONG WIVES website! From the Bible What does God have to say about this topic? The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, “I have gotten a man with the help of the Lord.” – Genesis 4:1 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17 But whether we are at home with the Lord or away from him, we still try our best to please him. – 2 Corinthians 9:10 (CEV) For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. – Luke 8:17 Resources
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| 31 Aug 2021 | Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy | 00:24:40 | |
About this episode
We are going to discuss practical ways to help you discover fun and playfulness between you and your husband. We talk a lot about being lighthearted during sexual intimacy, and today we want to spark your creativity.
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| 03 Jul 2018 | 37 - Periods and Sex | 00:21:47 | |
In ancient Judaism, a woman was unclean while she was on her period. She could only return to the marriage bed 7 days after her period stopped and only then after going through ritual cleansing. So, that means opportunity for sexual relations were not nearly as plentiful as it is for us since Christ came. So, my friends, let’s talk about periods and sex
From the Bible Leviticus 12: "Purification after childbirth." Leviticus 15:19: "When a woman has her regular flow of blood, the impurity of her monthly period will last seven days, and anyone who touches her will be unclean till evening." Leviticus 15:28: "When she is cleansed from her discharge, she must count off seven days, and after that she will be ceremonially clean." Galatians 3:23-25: "Before the coming of this faith, we were held in custody under the law, locked up until the faith that was to come would be revealed. So the law was our guardian until Christ came that we might be justified by faith. Now that this faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian." Resources Learn more about Orthodox Judaism laws surrounding menstruation here. The Unending Period (peri-menopause symptom) – Bonny's OysterBed7 No More Period, Period. – Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Intimacy & Your Period: Tips for Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous Support Us: GoFundMe | |||
| 30 Apr 2024 | Euphemisms for Sex (Quickie) | 00:02:12 | |
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| 07 Mar 2023 | Sex Scheduling 101 | 00:26:29 | |
Today, we are discussing sex scheduling. This is a term we throw around in our kitchen table conversations, and yet it’s been a while since we devoted a whole episode to this controversial topic. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring this episode! Check out their wonderful, natural skin products. Great for gifts or self-care. Also sponsored by the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise, coming October 12–21, 2023. From the Bible There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. Ecclesiastes 3:1 Resources
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| 25 Jun 2019 | Vacation Sex | 00:34:01 | |
Episode 60: Vacation SexToday we’re talking about vacation sex. We’re recording this episode at the beginning of summer, a time when many couples and families take a vacation. But, whether you’re planning a vacation or not this year (or if you’re listening at another time of year), this episode is for you too. Because we’re going to take a broad view of the term “vacation sex,” and look at ways to enjoy it any time of the year, without having to travel or spend a lot of money. We talk about why some women find it easier to enjoy sex on vacation, while others find it to be harder. And we explore ways to extend the definition of "vacation," so that it doesn't always require a lot of time and money. Finally, we look at ways to slow down and make summer less stressful and more enjoyable, whether you take a "vacation" or not. Sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon
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From the Bible Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." - Mark 6:31 Resources
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| 06 Sep 2018 | 42-Oral Sex | 00:20:49 | |
Thanks for your support! Click here for GoFundMe. We know that oral sex can be a difficult subject in plenty of marriages. Is it okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage? What about germs? What if a couple disagrees, with one spouse wanting to give or receive while the other spouse doesn't want anything to do with it? In this episode, we’re going to tackle these questions.
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| 06 Apr 2022 | Flirting with Your Husband, with Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer | 00:36:25 | |
With Bonny out again, we’re down one wife today, but we’ve invited not one but two other wives to join us at today’s virtual kitchen table. We’re so happy to have Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer, co-authors of The Flirtation Experiment, with us to discuss how flirting with your husband can lead to greater intimacy in marriage and the bedroom. Be sure to check out their book! Sponsor This episode was sponsored by Venus Pearls, from Burns Logsdon Therapeutics.
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| 14 Aug 2017 | 16-Guy Talk: Men's Sexuality | 00:29:13 | |
J, Gaye, Chris, and Bonny talk about what marriage blogger husbands had to say about what they wish women understood about their sexuality. | |||
| 22 Mar 2022 | Is Your Sex Life Boring? | 00:24:27 | |
About this episode
We’ve heard from many women that their sex life sometimes feels boring. Today, we talk about boredom in the bedroom and what to do about it. Sponsor
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 From the Bible
The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. – Song of Songs 7:13 Resources
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| 26 Jan 2022 | Self-Care for Wives | 00:29:16 | |
About this episode
This is a time of year when a lot of people are talking about taking better care of themselves—things like eating healthier, starting to exercise, getting more sleep, setting goals, or setting boundaries in their lives. But self-care, even though it sounds like a good thing, can be a touchy subject in some Christian circles. Let’s talk about self-care and what role—if any—it should play in the lives of Christian women.
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"I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint." Jeremiah 31:25
By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Genesis 2:2
And while they still did not believe it because of joy and amazement, he asked them, “Do you have anything here to eat?” They gave him a piece of broiled fish, and he took it and ate it in their presence. Luke 24:41-43
One day Jesus said to his disciples, “Let us go over to the other side of the lake.” So they got into a boat and set out. As they sailed, he fell asleep. A squall came down on the lake, so that the boat was being swamped, and they were in great danger. Luke 8:22-23
But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42
So Miriam was confined outside the camp for seven days, and the people did not move on till she was brought back. Numbers 12:15
So I commended enjoyment, because a man has nothing better under the sun than to eat, drink, and be merry; for this will remain with him in his labor all the days of his life which God gives him under the sun. Ecclesiastes 8:15 Resources
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| 30 Aug 2023 | Fact or Fiction: Sex Edition | 00:24:27 | |
Subscribe to our upcoming newsletter HERE! Recorded while still on our retreat in Nashville, Tennessee, we're playing a game and invite you to play along! Inspired by a board game in the Airbnb where we stayed, Chris and J present trivia questions about sex and test how much we "sexperts" really know. DOWNLOAD YOUR FACT OR FICTION PRINTABLE! Sponsor Married Dance online Christian sex toy / marital aid store 13% off sitewide for Labor Day with code LD23 at checkout. From the Bible For you created my inmost being;
My dove in the clefts of the rock, Resources
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| 12 Jun 2024 | Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie) | 00:02:11 | |
In this week's Sex Chat Quickie, Bonny Burns talks about praying for your sex life. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! | |||
| 08 Jan 2019 | 48 - Rethinking Sexuality, with Juli Slattery | 00:43:52 | |
Dr. Juli Slattery, president of Authentic Intimacy, joins us for this episode. Her most recent book, Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters, challenges us to think about sexuality in new ways. We talk with Juli about sexual brokenness, why the enemy likes to attack our sexuality, and how we can pray about our sex lives (even during sex!). From the BibleWhat does God have to say about brokenness and how we can fight the enemy's attacks on us (even in the area of sexuality)? And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one. 2 Thessalonians 3:3 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7 Resources25 Reasons God Made Sex Really Good - Bonny's Oysterbed7 Sexual Invocation - The Forgiven Wife Passion Pursuit - Authentic Intimacy Resources Passion Pursuit study hosted by The Forgiven Wife Links to Our Sponsors
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| 05 Mar 2019 | Resources for Great Sex | 00:30:32 | |
Episode 52: Resources for Great SexAbout this episode
Today we’re talking about resources for your marriage, and specifically about resources to help you enjoy great sex in your marriage.
From the Bible
What does God have to say about sex? A lot! The Bible says a great deal about marriage and intimacy. Start with the Song of Songs.
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| 30 Oct 2024 | What Women Ask Us (In Person) | 00:37:09 | |
What do women want to know about sex when we're face to faced with them? While we have regular listener question episodes, we wanted to address FAQs we get when speaking to a group or working with individuals or small groups. So get ready for six common questions and our answers. Sponsor Better Help can match you with a licensed, trained, experienced, and accredited therapist who shares your faith foundation. Access care through messaging, live chats, phone, and/or video conferencing. Check them out HERE. Our episode is also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a marriage-focused Christian sex toy store. From the Bible Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! For as high as the heavens are above the earth, But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. But that is not the way you learned Christ!— assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. You turned my wailing into dancing; Resources
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| 06 Aug 2019 | Healing from Sexual Abuse | 00:49:16 | |
Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuthMany of our listeners are survivors of sexual abuse, or we know someone who is. We’d like to talk today about how that trauma shapes survivors, how it affects their marriages, what healing looks like, and what we can do as the church to support survivors.
We are joined by Mary DeMuth, an advocate, author, and survivor herself. Mary has a new book coming out August 13: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis. Sponsor Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off.Learn more about Everpillow by Infinite Moon From the BibleWhat does God have to say about healing and sexual abuse?
Luke 4:17-21 - . . . and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written:“The Spirit of the Lord is on me,because he has anointed meto proclaim good news to the poor.He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisonersand recovery of sight for the blind,to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him. He began by saying to them, “Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing.”
Luke 10:25-37 - The Good Samaritan
Genesis 1:2 - Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters. Resources
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| 06 Jul 2020 | Making Space in Your Life for Sex | 00:27:40 | |
About this episode
Today we’re talking about making space in your life for sex. And whether you’re listening to this in the time of COVID, when we’re recording it, or at a time when things are more back to normal, you probably have some sense of what it means to make space (or lack space) in your life for sex, intimacy, and just in general enjoying your marriage. Sponsor
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| 24 Sep 2018 | 43-Dealing with Sexual Baggage | 00:35:30 | |
For many Christian wives, one of the biggest battles they face is with their own past. What we've learned, experienced, and done can affect the marriage bed for years. In this episode, we're going to talk about dealing with our sexual baggage. We are joined by Shannon Ethridge, best-selling author, speaker, and life coach. She has helped so many women overcome their sexual and emotional baggage in her own work. In this episode, she will join us to talk about dealing with our baggage. Learn more about Shannon at http://www.shannonethridge.com/. | |||
| 16 Mar 2021 | What You Need to Know About Sex | 00:29:45 | |
There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex. Sponsor
Click here to visit our sponsor (affiliate link). From the Bible But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources
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| 18 Jun 2024 | What Does God Have to Do with Our Sex Life? | 00:22:44 | |
For many Christians, it can be difficult to think about God and sex at the same time. How present is God in our bedrooms? And how does knowing that He knows make us feel? We dive deep into what God has to do with our sex lives and how to think about and embrace His involvement. Sponsors Thanks to MarriedDance, a Christian sex toy store that’s discreet and presents products in a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment. And be sure to check out J's upcoming cruise! From the Bible So God created mankind in his own image,
I belong to my beloved, Resources
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| 24 Apr 2024 | Seasoned Wives' Wisdom for Young Wives | 00:19:34 | |
Earlier on in our podcast, we had an episode in which we gave advice to our newlywed selves. Today we want to revisit that topic a bit, but rather than talking to ourselves, we want to share the wisdom we've gained with young wives. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance, a Christian marital aid and sex toy store, for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 Resources
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| 14 May 2019 | Listener Questions | 00:27:41 | |
About the Episode We tackle listener questions about gifts for a virgin bride, sex positions, and predicting sex drive.
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From the Bible How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! Song of Songs 4:11 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 Resources Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers, Bonny Logsdon Burns Our Website | |||
| 13 Oct 2020 | Newlywed Tips, with Ngina Otiende | 00:27:44 | |
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Today, we have special guest Ngina Otiende of Intentional Today, and we're talking about...
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From the Bible
"...Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
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| 24 Nov 2021 | Our Holiday Gift Guide - Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples | 00:21:17 | |
About this episode
We can’t leave off the year without providing another wonderful gift guide! We’ll link to others in the show notes, but today we’re focusing on gifts that speak not only to marital intimacy but specifically our five senses.
This idea made us think of the song "Twelve Days of Christmas"! Instead of five golden rings, we’re addressing our five golden senses. Sponsor
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What does the Bible say about gift-giving?
Later on, during the wheat harvest, Samson took a young goat as a gift and visited his wife. – Judges 15:1 (Do not—I repeat, do NOT let your husband give you a goat for Christmas! Good heavens. ~ J)
"They were to be days of feasting, rejoicing, and of sending gifts to one another and to the poor." – Esther 9:22b. (This verse refers to Purim, but shows the same generous spirit we want to have at Christmastime.) Resources
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| 08 May 2018 | 33-Getting in the Mood 2 | 00:29:52 | |
The four wives revisit the topic of "Getting in the Mood." How to rev up your engine in anticipation of lovemaking. Each lady brings her favorite idea to the table and they all discuss. Visit our website, forchristianwives.com, for more resources and links related to this topic. If Sex Chat for Christian Wives has blessed your marriage, please consider blessing us. We are asking for donations to help defray the cost of attending the October 2018 Declare Conference in Dallas, TX. This conference will serve as continuing education, helping us hone our skills as Christian communicators. If you've got some pocket change, please throw it into our cup. Coupon Code: SC2018 (50% off first month, exp. July 31, 2018) | |||
| 22 May 2018 | 34 - Food and Sex | 00:28:57 | |
We've encouraged you to use all your senses to better experience sex, and that includes the sense of taste. The Song of Songs is filled with reference to both food and sex. Does that mean we can combine the two? In this episode, we're going to talk about food and sex. You might say this episode is a real treat! Find more info and resources in our show notes at http://forchristianwives.com/episode-34-food-and-sex/. | |||
| 26 Jul 2022 | Best of Summer 2022, Gaye's Pick | 00:25:15 | |
About this episode
Today we’re talking about something that most women are thinking about at this time of year — taking better care of our health. If you’re like us, you’re probably thinking about getting in shape, eating a healthier diet, getting more sleep, or losing some weight over the next few months.
And your reasons, like ours, are probably pretty straightforward — you want to look better. You want to feel better. You want to have more energy. And you want to avoid getting sick.
But there’s a bonus reason for taking care of your health that you may not know about — improving your sex life.
So let’s talk about some of the ways that good health can lead to better sex and intimacy in your marriage. From the BibleWhat does God have to say about this? "Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies," 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. Resources
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| 04 Sep 2019 | Higher Desire Wives | 00:36:13 | |
About the Episode Today we're talking about higher desire wives. But whether your sexual interest is higher or lower than your husband, you’ll benefit from our conversation.
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FOR 10% OFF, USE COUPON CODE: SEXCHAT10 From the Bible "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). "Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love" (Song of Songs 7:12). "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves" (Song of Songs 3:1-2). Resources Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture "Dealing with a Low-Desire Husband," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker 5 Truths for High-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous I Love My High Sex-Drive Sisters - OysterBed7 Q&A with J: When It Comes to Sex, My Husband Says I’m “Too Much” - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Higher-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: What If Hubby Is Passive in the Bedroom - Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Letter to the Low-Drive Husband - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy & Humorous HD, Facebook group for higher desire wives
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| 03 May 2022 | Non-Sexual Ways to Increase Intimacy in Your Marriage | 00:27:12 | |
About this episode
You probably know from your own marriage, or from observing other marriages, that non-sexual interactions can make or break a marriage. Today, we talk about why this is true and how we can leverage it to benefit our marriages. Sponsors
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From the Bible
Greet one another with a holy kiss. - 2 Corinthians 13:12
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| 02 Jul 2024 | Women's Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka | 00:44:08 | |
Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka join us today for a candid conversation about women and their struggle with porn. If you struggle, this episode will help. But if you don't, listen anyway so that you can be there to support fellow women trying to break free. And be sure to check out the new resource, Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out Of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy, cowritten by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Joy Skarka Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap, your go-to site for natural, quality bath and skin care products! And check out their special deal just for our listeners: free aloe gel with any order using coupon code FCWALOE. (Put gel in your cart, use the code, and the price for that will go to zero.) From the Bible It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1
I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God. Ezekiel 11:19–20
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, Resources
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| 14 Apr 2020 | Intimacy During Lockdown | 00:22:56 | |
We're recording this during the Coronavirus global pandemic, but today we’re focusing on the positive with some practical tips for fostering intimacy during lockdown.
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| 13 May 2020 | Listener Questions May 2020 | 00:18:06 | |
Today, we are answering some of your questions.
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| 29 Jan 2018 | 26-listener questions | 00:28:37 | |
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| 17 Sep 2019 | Romance and Your Bedroom | 00:26:15 | |
About this episode
Today we’re talking about bedrooms, specifically the effect of your bedroom on the quality of sex and intimacy in your marriage.
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How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs. Song of Songs 1:16-17 Resources
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| 20 Feb 2024 | Ask Your Spouse (Quickie) | 00:01:23 | |
We're launching a new feature of the Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast—Sex Chat Quickies! On the weeks between our full-length episodes, one of our hosts will bring you a quick sex tip. This week's tip is what to ask your husband. | |||
| 06 Nov 2018 | Episode 46: Listener Questions | 00:28:09 | |
In this episode, we answer listeners' questions about struggling to initiate sex, catching your husband ogling another woman, having an orgasm during intercourse, and filming yourselves having sex. Be sure to check out our show notes at forchristianwives.com for links to helpful resources! | |||
| 15 Jun 2022 | The Orgasm Iceberg | 00:28:48 | |
When God created women, He gave us an amazing gift—the clitoris! Its only purpose is our sexual pleasure, but many of us don’t know too much about this part of our body. In this episode, we’re going to help you learn about the wonderful clitoris. Sponsor
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| 08 Jun 2023 | Sex for Busy Moms | 00:32:47 | |
Today's episode focuses on a group of women who often struggle to enjoy sex or prioritize sex in their marriages – busy moms. This group includes women across a wide range of ages and life stages 0151from those caring for infants and toddlers at home to those juggling all of the activities, demands, and worries involved in raising teenagers. We talk about some of the things that get in the way of busy moms enjoying sex in their marriages and share some ideas for creating a more enjoyable sex life. Sponsor From Share the Soap, check out the new quarterly subscription box! And for FCW listeners only, use coupon code FCWJuly and get a free lip balm. Put the Celebrate box and the desired lip balm in the cart, apply the coupon, and the lip balm will be free. Coupon good for the month of July. Visit Share the Soap. From the Bible She is clothed with strength and dignity; Resources
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| 28 May 2019 | Orgasm | 00:45:07 | |
About the EpisodeIt may be the pinnacle of pleasure, but lots of women still have questions about orgasm. Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage joins us as we answer many of the orgasm questions we get from our listeners and readers.
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| 29 Nov 2022 | What About Quickies? | 00:26:38 | |
Quickie can be used as a noun or adjective to simply mean “something done or made in a hurry.” When it comes to lovemaking, quickies are drive-through sex, rather than the full meal or feast we might prefer to have. But quickies in a marriage can serve a positive purpose, and today we talk about when and how to incorporate them into your marriage, as well as when not to. Sponsor LIMITED-TIME OFFER! Use coupon code FCWQUICK at Share the Soap and get 30% off anything (whole cart) except merchandise (tshirts, water cups, etc). Good only until December 9, 2022.
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| 23 Aug 2022 | Best of Summer 2022: Bonny's Pick | 00:30:36 | |
There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex. From the Bible What does God have to say about sex? But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources
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| 11 Jan 2022 | New Year, New Sexual You | 00:29:48 | |
We’re back! It was an eventful December and early January for us and will share what we have been doing.
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| 01 Mar 2024 | Prioritizing Sex | 00:27:06 | |
What does it mean to prioritize sex? What does that look like in a real-life marriage, especially in a real-life marriage and when there are obstacles to sexual intimacy? From the Bible Do not deprive one another—except when you agree for a time, to devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5 (CSB)
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| 16 Aug 2017 | We Need Your Help | 00:01:00 | |
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| 09 Jul 2019 | Listener Questions | 00:21:05 | |
Episode 61: Listener QuestionsAbout This EpisodeToday, we are answering some of your questions!
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| 20 Jul 2021 | Accepting Your Body | 00:29:00 | |
About this episode
Today we’re talking about feeling comfortable in your body. This is a struggle for so many women, and it affects every area of our lives—inside and outside the bedroom.
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So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. - Genesis 1:27
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| 12 Mar 2018 | UPDATED 29-Lies Women Believe, Part 1 | 00:21:31 | |
What are the lies that affect our marriages and limit our ability to enjoy sex and intimacy? And what are the truths that we need to embrace instead? The four wives talk about two lies in this episode:
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| 02 Mar 2021 | Enjoying Sex | 00:48:21 | |
Sex therapist and educator Joyce Penner joins us to talk about learning to enjoy sex more. Why do some women have a hard time seeing sexual intimacy as a gift? And what can these women do to pursue the enjoyment of sex with their husbands? Sponsor
From the Bible What does God have to say that can help us better enjoy sex? Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, NIV I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10 The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, The Message Resources The resources below include affiliate links that earn us a small commission when you use the link to make a purchase. Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Resources for Adult Children of Alcoholics: You can find more resources at Joyce's website, Passionate Commitment. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com | |||
| 14 Aug 2018 | 40-Healing after Porn Discovery | 00:41:28 | |
This episode concludes our “Conversation about Porn” 3-part series. The four of us are return as a group around the virtual kitchen table to help give some perspective and thoughts on moving forward in a marriage after pornography use is discovered. (Just a quick aside, we are aware that pornography isn’t just a problem husbands have. There are also wives battling the urge to consume porn or read erotica. In a future episode, we will tackle that. But, for today, we are focusing on a marriage where the husband has been viewing porn.)
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| 02 Feb 2021 | Valentine's Day | 00:34:24 | |
About this episodeToday we’re talking about Valentine’s Day. It’s coming up soon, and women feel all kinds of different things about it. Some women love it, some hate it, and some feel kind of ambivalent about it. And it plays out differently in different marriages. So, we talk about it and come up with some ideas for making it fun and romantic for all kinds of couples and marriages. Sponsor
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| 09 Feb 2023 | The Spectrum of Sexual Desire | 00:31:51 | |
When it comes to sexual interest, we tend to talk about which spouse has the higher or lower drive. Whichever you are, it can be helpful to understand where the opposite is coming from. So today, we’re going to illuminate what desire is like for the higher drive wife and lower drive wife—recognizing that this can help us better understand our own spouse’s perspective and be advocates for one another! Sponsor Thank, Share the Soap! Also sponsored by: Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage, October 14-21, 2023 From the Bible I belong to my beloved, Resources
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| 02 Oct 2017 | 19-Initiating Sex | 00:22:59 | |
The women talk about why initiation matters and share some ideas to help you get things going! | |||
| 23 May 2017 | Audio Difficulties | 00:00:44 | |
We're due for a podcast episode, but we've having audio difficulties. So we're postponing the next episode until we can work out the technical issues. We promise another interesting conversation around the virtual roundtable soon. Thanks for staying tuned! | |||
| 16 Aug 2023 | Things Not to Do During Sex | 00:22:50 | |
We have often shared tips of things you can do to enjoy sex more, but today we're going to talk about things not to do. In this episode, we address 6 things not to do during sex. SponsorHot, Holy & Humorous Intimacy Cruise From the Bible
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| 13 Nov 2017 | 22-Sexual Harassment #UsToo | 00:37:47 | |
Our conversation touches on a difficult topic: sexual harassment and assault. We share some of our own stories and talk about how sexually traumatic experiences affect our marriages, about what churches sometimes get wrong, and how we as Christian women can support each other in healing. | |||
| 20 Aug 2019 | Female Sexual Health | 00:37:27 | |
About the EpisodeToday, we are discussing female genital and reproductive health. What we affectionately call "hooha" health.
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| 14 Sep 2023 | Listener Questions - Depriving, the Mess, and When It Can't Happen | 00:28:18 | |
Once again, we're answering your questions! Today, we'll cover three topics: what does "deprivation" really mean (1 Corinthians 7:3-5), dealing with the messiness of sex, and when sex cannot happen. Sponsor Share the Soap has a September Special for our listeners! Buy a Face Set (face renewal, eye gel & facial soap) and get a free lip balm. Put the face set & lip balm of choice in the cart, then add coupon at checkout: FCWFS. Helps skin transition to the Fall! From the Bible
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Resources
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| 14 Mar 2024 | Sex Drive & Genetics, Erectile Problems, and Missing Sleep for Sex (Listener Questions) | 00:26:48 | |
Today, we tackle listener questions about whether low sex drive might be genetic, as well as how to address lack of desire; dealing with a husband's erectile problems; and what to do about a husband who disrupts a wife's sleep for sex. Sponsor Share the Soap goat milk aromatic bath and body skin care Sex Chat Special: Order Face Serum, get Lip Balm for free! Enter code FCWSPRING at checkout (through March 31, 2024). From the Bible Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Song of Songs 2:7, 3:5, 8:4 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:19 Resources
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| 10 Oct 2024 | Sex Post-Vasectomy, Competing with His Phone, Plus-Size Lovemaking & Lube Tips (Listener Questions) | 00:23:26 | |
Chris and J answer listener questions about sex after a vasectomy, competing with his phone for attention, plus-sized lovemaking, and how to use lube without losing the mood. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap, our favorite skin-care shop, for sponsoring this episode. Check them out: Share the Soap online store From the Bible Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance. Proverbs 1:5 (ESV) Resources
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| 06 Jul 2021 | The Sleep-Sex Connection | 00:23:59 | |
What do we do in our beds besides sex? Sleep, of course! Today we’re going to talk about the relationship between sex and sleep.
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| 28 Jun 2022 | How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex | 00:30:44 | |
We’ve talked a lot on this podcast about being able to discuss sex with your husband. And even have "more than one conversation," which is Gaye’s trademark advice. But today, we want to walk through the specifics. Whether it’s actually for small changes, an overhaul of your sex life, or something in between, how can you talk to your husband about sex? Sponsor
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| 31 Jul 2024 | Myth-busting What You’ve Heard about Sex, with Gaye Christmus! | 00:31:38 | |
The gang's all together again! Gaye Christmus joins us to talk about myths about sex, where they come from, and what truths wives need to embrace instead. Sponsor Married Dance – a Christian sex toy store From the Bible I slept but my heart was awake.
My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord.” And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice. Resources
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| 10 Sep 2024 | Explaining Women's Sexual Response | 00:28:20 | |
We discuss how a wife's sexual response differs from her husband's, and how she can explain her female sexuality to him. Sponsor Happy Fall from Share the Soap! Buy 2 Get 1 FREE any item! Put 3 items in the cart. Use coupon code FCWFALL. Lowest item will be FREE. Mix and match products. *Applies to all products except Just a Girl Merch.* From the Bible You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body Resources
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| 19 Mar 2024 | Undress for Your Husband (Quickie) | 00:01:02 | |
In this week's sex tip, Chris talks about undressing for your husband as a sort of foreplay that helps both of you. | |||
| 22 Nov 2023 | Stocking Stuffers for Married Couples | 00:26:43 | |
We carry on our annual tradition of sharing Christmas season gift ideas with stocking stuffers that are sweet, surprising, sensual, and sexy! Happy holidays, everyone. Sponsors Gift Ideas
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| 16 Oct 2024 | Mismatched Drives #1 (Quickie) | 00:02:24 | |
This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about things to consider when you and your spouse have mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! | |||
