Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology | (Amber Dalsin)

Avoid spending time in disconnection, or worse another conflict cycle that drives you farther part, most couples want a way to come back together.

Many couples want love to be easy, like taking a deep breath of air, or drinking a glass of water.

And yet, the communication that seemed to flow effortlessly at the beginning of the relationship feels stale, difficult, and at times very hurtful.

Most couples have heard that relationships take work, and still, they feel like love shouldn’t be so hard, they are tired of their communication struggles.

In this episode, we are going to discuss 3 ways to improve your communication fast.

The three things we are going to cover are:

1. Time for Friendship

2. Tune into your Partner’s Channel

3. Commitment to Peace

Many couples have different communication styles- and that gets in the way of them feeling truly seen and heard by each other.

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The episode is a deep dive into how understanding your instincts (and your partners, too) can help you increase connection and reduce conflict in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss:

- Different types of instincts

- Your spiritual makeup    

    - Energetic systems

       - The different ways people take action     

- How a deeper understanding of yourself can improve your relationship

 

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Relationship Mistake Quiz: https://quiz.drveronica.com/sf/4187cf4e

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I know how much it sucks to be distant from your partner, to walk on eggshells wondering if your next step is going to set off a landmine, feeling hurt frustrated abandoned overwhelmed and not sure how to repair. All couples are going to have fights and it's important to learn how to make things better after these fights happen. In this podcast, we talk about · Ways to increase the chances you will talk about your fight without fighting again · That you can both be right · Listening to the reasonable part of what your partner is saying · Managing triggers · Avoiding destructive communication · Apologising This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Strategies for Better Communication with Nancy Evan and Scott Aaron. 

In this episode do a deep dive into what Nancy and Scott do to nurture their friendship and keep the lines of communication open. 

Whether your relationship is struggling because you feel like you’re disconnected, don’t know what to talk about anymore, or struggle to hear what your partner is telling you, there is a nugget of gold in this episode for you. 

In this episode we cover:

- Communicating the hard things before they bubble over

- The use of conversation cards keeps conversations flowing

- How to balance running a business together and being a couple

- Why they don’t yell at each other

- How to work together as a team 

To learn more about the online course Communication Cures click here: https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures

Nancy- https://www.instagram.com/thebyobagency/?hl=en @thebyobagency

Scott- https://www.instagram.com/scottaaronlinkedin/?hl=en @scottaaron 

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After working as a couple’s therapist for the last 10+ years, I know that one of the hardest skills to master in a relationship is listening. And as a person, I too can be guilt of being a poor listener. Maybe I pick up my phone when someone is talking, jump in when someone is talking and tell them a related story about myself before they are done, or try to solve my partner's (or friend’s problem), when they haven’t asked for advice.

This podcast is all about gaining the skills to help you become a better listener. That way you can increase connection with your partner, help them feel seen and heard, and feel more like you are tackling issues as a team.

Here are 6 skills you can practice to become a better listener. 

  1. Demonstrate you’re listening  

    2. Be mindful of your face

3. Accept the speakers perspective as valid   

4. Express support as you listen    

5. Ask open-ended questions   

6. Ask if they want problem-solving or just to share

 

Click here to get the Emotional Validation Cheat Sheet

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-validation-cheat-sheet

 

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If self-isolation is hitting your partner's mood hard, here are some simple steps you can take. 

From feeling useless to action you can take.

Here are 6 things couples can do to fight the dark days of cabin fever together.

This episode had been adapted from the Blog on Depression at the Canadian Centre for Psychology and Relationship Resources. You can check out the blog here https://www.ccprr.ca/blog/6-tips-to-help-your-partner-through-depression

Quarantine

Low mood

Depression

physical distancing

Social distancing 

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or mental illness. Check with your health care provider before making changes. 

If you and your partner have felt disconnected, are getting stuck on conflict, or just want to rekindle the spark in your relationship, this episode is for you.

 

Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill cover how to use the Connection Codes framework to help couples connect emotionally, and even overcome conflict in as little as 4 minutes.

 

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Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation where he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool.

Now, they are authors, speakers, and have Connection Coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships.

 

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Simple Strategy to Be HEARD & Understood

To be heard, understood, respected, appreciated, connected - fundamental desire. This human needs is found in all races, religions, and groups- its woven into the fabric of our being. If you’ve wondered the strategy to use, so that he will listen, this is the episode for you.

To discuss the episode, we are going to use an example from the TV show the Crown and how in this one conversation Prince Charles (at least momentarily focuses on his relationship and not with that of his mistress). You can tell what I have been watching as you listen to the episodes. Princess Diana and Prince Charles and a key moment between them, where they are both feeling, heard, understood, and connected. I want to point out how right they were (or how right the writers of the TV show were).

We are going to look at the 3 steps to be heard and understood.

1. Start with feelings
2. Describe the facts of the story you are telling yourself
3. Let your partner be the hero not the villain

If you want to follow along with a PDF of this script click the link https://bit.ly/3StepScript.

This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a couples therapist in your area for specific advice for your specific relationship.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Give us 50 minutes and we will give you meditation tools to reduce anxiety and stress, as well as give you a mediation to use to regulate your nervous system when you are upset with your partner.

Have you ever wondered…

…how meditation helps people?

…why meditation is important?

…can meditation help anxiety?

If the answer is YES, checked out this episode of Relationship Psych – The Podcast

· We cover how to use meditation when you are upset with your partner so you can regulate your nervous system to better work through conflict.

· Common misconceptions about meditation and how to overcome them.

· We do a 3-minute mediation that you can try for yourself to uncover if it helps you release tension.

· How to begin meditation if you don’t know where to get started.

In the episode you hear about free guides:

Get the FREE GUIDE: 50 Strategies to Calm Anger and Anxiety by clicking here.

As well as Jasmine’s FREE MEDITATION: Click here to download your 5-minute mediation.

Here are Jasmin’s links:

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More about Jasmine:

Jasmine Irven is a Certified Meditation Teacher and the founder of the Sustainable Bliss Collective, a community and membership for ambitious women who need reminders to reprioritize their self-care.

This podcast is for informational purposes only. This is not therapy. Be sure to be in a safe place, and not driving if choosing to try the mediation.

Get the tactics to feel seen and heard, cultivate a strong partnership, so you can be walking hand in hand with your closest confidant into your 80s.

I love to bring TV shows into the podcast to teach relationship lessons.

Last night my husband and I were watching For All Mankind. It’s a TV series that takes us back in time to the space race, highlighting missions to the moon of Apollo 11, the controversy of the Soviet Union landing on the moon first, and how the USA was the first country to have a man walk on the moon. Now there are lots of relationships in the show and I was trying to think about how to talk about one… but in truth, I am still waiting for a for a great teachable moment that is more than TV love…

So, this brings me to something VERY important.

TV is not real life.

Think about how odd our world is.

Love and belonging are core needs, like food, water, and shelter.

Yet we go through 12 years of education and most of us go to school even longer.

We learn math, science, language arts… but when, when do we learn about connection.

I know I didn’t have a single class until the 4th year of my psychology degree.

So how are we supposed to learn connection?

If we are lucky we have parents that modeled a good connection for us.

Many of us are not that lucky.

Here are two tools you can use to create emotional intimacy in your relationship.

Yes, these are emotional intimacy tools that can be learned.

These two ideas come from the Gottman Method and their years of research.

1. Spend time truly catching up on each other’s inner worlds.

2. Create a culture of cherishing.

To get the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet Click here: https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet

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When couples are fighting, they say things like: I would like to feel more connected to my partner I want to feel understood by my partner I’m unheard and getting resentful I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight We struggle to find a resolution Tools to improve your communication and prevent fights If you want more help on how to improve your communication, check out my self-paced course for couples, Communication Cures.  Click the link to learn more.  https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Why Partners Tune-out of Difficult Conversations 3 ways to keep them engaged One of the most common problems my clients in couples therapy tell me about their frustrations when their partner emotionally checks out of a conversation, or physically leaves. I’ve seen some couples who can quickly remedy this problem fixing it in a few sessions, where other couples see me for years with the same problem. If you want to be one of the couples, that the problem is quickly solved for, this is the episode for you. Theses step are simple in concept, hard in practice. But if your goal is for your partner to stay, think about your role. Certainly, there are things they can do to work on their part and practice staying…. But hey, this episode is about ways you can keep your partner engaged. The 3 ways we covered to keep your partner engaged are: 1. Commitment to keeping thigs emotionally safe 2. Ask for what you need 3. Explain your feelings in a softer way This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or relationship problem. Check with your health care provider or couples therapist before making changes.

When couples start therapy they often tell me they want to communicate better, have tools for how to communicate, want the relationship to be more peaceful, and want a level of respect and kindness.  

Do you relate? 

I know I want a peaceful relationship with respect and kindness. What wonderful goals for these couples.

 In this episode, we cover 3 reasons you’re having conflicts. 

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No one wants to feel disconnected, misunderstood or alone with the person they love the most.

Have you ever noticed you and your partner?

· Have blowout fights when all you wanted to do was share what was in your heart?

· Can’t stop interrupting each other because you have different views?

· Are afraid to share how you really feel and think in case it pushes your partner away or causes a fight?

No one wants to feel this way with the person they love the most.

I remember the early days of the relationship with my husband. I loved him so much but were had a lot of conflicts. And because of that – we worried we were incompatible.

We both had to make some changes so we could bridge the communication gap in our relationship.

Here are the 3 biggest mindset shifts I had to make to have a better connection with my husband.

1. Remember why you got together in the first place.

2. Tolerate different views

3. Repair

If you found this helpful, but you know you need a little more help with your communication so you and your partner can have more peace and get back to loving each other, check out my blog.

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/blog

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If you’re in a romantic relationship and found yourself wondering “are we compatible?”, “is love enough?”, or “what if we don’t have chemistry?”, this episode will help you understand the difference between compatibility and chemistry. It will also give you a framework to evaluate if you and your partner have enough in common to be compatible, with or without chemistry.

In this episode I discuss:

· The difference between chemistry and compatibility in a relationship

· Neurotransmitters involved in chemistry

· Why love isn’t enough

· 6 components of compatibility in a relationship

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How Loving Relationships Become Angry Relationships And little itty bitty actions that make relationships better. This episode looks at what happens when we fall in love, actions we take that make love work, how to stay in love, and how to prevent divorce. In this episode we discuss: Caring days Relationship success What makes relationships work Why we fall in love How we stay in love How relationship problems are created This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for specific relationship advice to help your unique relationship. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She is a Couples Therapist in Toronto. She does individual relationship counseling and couples therapy.

4 Ways to Create a Fight If Aliens wanted to know how to have a conflict, this is how you would do it. In this episode, we explore what aliens would see on their 3D TV screen if they were watching couples on early do conflict in a way that’s going to lead to problems. What is talked about: The Gottman’s Four Horsemen Stonewalling Criticism Contempt Defensiveness Other episodes discussed in this podcast- Relationship Psych- Episode 5, 4 Doomed Communication Patterns Free Guide  How to finally get him to listen to you. www.emberrelationshippsychology.com This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does virtual individual relationship counseling and virtual couples therapy.

Don’t let fighting become the root of evil in your relationship. Nasty fighting can turn even the best of relationships sour. In this relationship advice podcast we talk about: How to fight fair How to solve conflict with your partner How to take breaks Going to bed angry Differences in how men and women to conflict Coming to terms with taking breaks in a fight Remember the allure to talk about the problem, and talk about the solution instead Putting conflict into perspective Optimal Heart Rate for conflict with your spouse (Teachings from The Gottman’s) This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for advice to help your unique relationship.

The secrets every woman wants to know.

After doing couples therapy with hundreds of couples, I routinely encounter similar problems as I assess couples. It takes different forms, but sounds like this “I can’t get my partner to open up,” “I wish we were closer,” “we don’t have intimacy,” “my partner doesn’t talk,” and many more comments indicating that emotional connection is lacking.

In this episode we discuss the TV and Book Series Outlander by Diana Gabaldon. We look at the scene in season 1 episode 7 The Wedding, where they need to consummate their marriage.

In this episode we discuss:

How questions get your partner to open up

How to create emotional connection

How to pick the right time to talk to your partner

How to talk your partner will listen

For more on questioning and getting your partner to open up, check out the blog Use Questions to Create Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner.

If you want questions, check out our Game Questions Uniting Couples, where couples can get to know each other’s inner world while enjoying a competitive spirit.

Check out the instagram posts @relationshippsych

This podcast, is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental or relational problem. Check with your health or relationship therapist before making changes. 

Discover the secrets to good mental health over the lifespan.

Even if we keep putting 29 candles on the birthday cake every year, the earth keeps going around the sun, and we age.

Tune in to hear about how we can keep fit with our mental health, how we can optimize our mental health, and what to expect as we age.

We cover:

· The truth about how aging affects mental health

· Poking holes in the myths about the psychological effects of aging

· How to support the mental health in older adults

· Questions to ask your partner so you can create a meaningful life together

· How to take care of your mental health as you age

· The impact of your social circle on your mental health

About Dr. Julie:

Dr. Julie Erickson is a clinical psychologist at the Forest Hill Centre for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and an adjunct faculty member in the Department of Applied Psychology and Human Development at the University of Toronto. Her research has focused on understanding the mental health needs of older adults and reducing their barriers to obtaining evidence-based psychological treatment. Dr. Erickson provides cognitive behavioral therapy to adults across the lifespan with a focus on mood and anxiety disorders, OCD, and trauma-related disorders. She also teaches graduate courses and workshops on cognitive behavioral therapy, psychological disorders, and aging & mental health.

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Conflict is hard, and here are some tools to help you have a peaceful conversation, even when you are angry. 1. Remember you’re a team 2. Soften each other 3. Repair 4. Take breaks 5. Come back and talk without fighting This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a relationship professional in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

What makes the relationships survive different? Understand what makes a relationship succeed or fail after cheating from the privacy of your home. We discuss: Normal reactions to learning about an affair What not to talk about after an affair How to make amends for an affair How to know it’s time to have sex after an affair How to rebuild trust after an affair. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and medical, mental health, or relationship condition. Talk to a health, or relationship provider in your area before making changes.

In this episode, Stan covers the basics of attachment, the neurobiology of connection, and practical strategies to create a safe and long-lasting love. We cover: · How attachment develops · How attachment impacts future relationships · What attachment has to do with safety and security · What autonomy has to do with attachment · Why people cling · How come people feel not enough or insignificant · Why you can be securely attached and free in relationships · What secure functioning is · How to build secure attachment in your relationship · Why love isn’t enough in relationships · Why creating a joint purpose in a relationship matters · How you can change your attachment style Stan Tatkin – the PACT institute https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/?hl=en @drstantatkin Stan’s books https://www.thepactinstitute.com/books This episode is for informational purposes only. To have secure attachment is freedom

Your brain on love. Sexual chemicals and how they lead to love in the brain. Decline of the Hot and Heavy Stage of a Relationship- in this episode we are going to explore the impact the brain’s chemosignals in early attraction. Chemosingals are the glue that bond early relationships. The primary reason for sexual chemosignals is to bond couples together long enough to start a relationship and possibly a family. While there are many, in this episode talk about two chemosignals that facilitate attraction and relationships. 1.  Pheromones 2. Oxytocin Keeping connection alive, when chemosignals are quiet Making the brain work in your favor in a long term relationship. Tips to keep your relationship alive. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health or relationship issue. If your relationship is struggling check out local couples therapy in your area for help, or a local health provider. Before making changes it’s a good idea to check with your local provider.

Has your sex drive changed over time? Maybe menopause is making you feel different in your body and your sexuality has shifted. If you want a new way to think about sexuality and how it changes over the lifespan, this is the podcast for you.

In this podcast we cover:

● Ways women’s sexuality changes over the lifespan

● Ways hormones and menopause impact sex drive

● The difference between reactive desire and spontaneous desire

● How to change your sex life to match your stage of life

Jessica Elizabeth Cole is a psychotherapist specializing in sexuality and relationship issues, including out-of-control sexual behaviors and betrayal trauma. She practices in New York City, focusing her work on rebuilding relational trust and sexual expression after traumatic and/or significant life changes.

Contact 917-282-3270

Email Jessica.e.cole@gmail.com

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What to do to feel closer, have a deeper connection and have conversations that can go on for hours.

FREE GUIDE the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet

This is a conversation guide with 36 questions designed to help you and your partner deepen your connection through conversation.

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet

Click the link to get the free guide.

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My Partner Pulls Away and it HURTS. Help.

How to deal with a partner that pulls away when they are under pressure.

In this episode we are going to be discussing some over-generalizations about how men and women typically do conflict and deal with emotions. Surely this is not the case of all women and all men, and in same sex couples it may look a little bit different, but some patterns will also be the same. Most of the literature comes from research on heterosexual couples.

For more relationship advice check out The Canadian Centre for Psychology and Relationship Resources, CCPRR.ca, where relationship advice is a simple click away.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure mental health or relational issues. For Treatment, talk a mental health or relationship professional in your area for advice specific to your relationship.

The SECRET to GREAT Sex in Long-Term Relationships How to make your sex life better with your spouse. It’s normal to want to have sex and it’s normal to not really want to have sex, so there is no road map for how to make sex great in a long term relationship, but there is a secret that can help. The secret is communication. In this episode, we explore Masters and Johnson’s research on sexual response and how to communicate about desire, arousal, and resolution. We cover how to talk about initiating sex, and things to share with your partner that you like. Episodes references in this episode are: Episode 20- Your Brain on Love Episode 11- 4 Point Road Map to Increase Sexual Satisfaction in your Relationship This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medial, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem.

Maladaptive Relationship Behaviour. 2 Steps towards change. In this episode, we discuss early childhood experiences and family influences and the impact on romantic relationships. I've been struck over the last week, doing marriage therapy in Toronto about how our early experience shape our adult relationships. In this episode we discuss: Relationship influenced by our history Emotional triggers in relationships Perpetual problems Gridlock perpetual problems Book Seal Team Six by Howard E Wasdin and Stephen Templin Don Cole, Gottman Trainer, Center For Relationship Wellness and his comments about background history in relationships. Teresa Wiseman and her 4 parts of Empathy Episode 2 HELP, My Partner is Driving Me Crazy, on Relationship Psych- The Podcast Free Guide How to Finally Get Him to Listen to You available at www.emberrelationshippsychology.com This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She is a Couples Therapist in Toronto. She does virtual individual relationship counseling and virtual couples therapy.

Discovery how stress can impact your relationship and how you can calm your stress.

In this podcast we discuss the role of stress in the body, how to take care of yourself, and simple activities to promote stress recovery.

 

Dr. Doni Wilson is a Naturopathic Doctor, certified professional midwife, certified nutrition specialist, and bestselling author of Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health. For more than 22 years, she has helped thousands of patients overcome health challenges and achieve wellness by using specific strategies that address the whole body and ultimately resolve the underlying causes of distress. Dr. Doni suffered from migraines for over 20 years, and in the process of solving them, she developed her Stress Recovery Protocol. Dr. Doni brings awareness to the impact of stress on our health and how it is possible to recover from burnout and become resilient to stress in the media and at public and professional events. You can find her blog, podcast, called How Humans Heal, and her Self C.A.R.E.TM program at DoctorDoni.com.

 

Dr. Doni Wilson’s website: DoctorDoni.com

Podcast: How Humans Heal

Book: Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health: The Personalized Program to Calm Anxiety, Boost Energy, and Beat Burnout

What Attachment has to do with Communication

Some people avoid conversations

Other people aggressively attack conversations

While yet others openly chat and hear the other person and calmly express their side.

Depending on our underlying attachment styles, and beliefs and values in her world, we will respond in conversations in different ways.

In the episode The Secret Behind Creating a Love That Lasts With Any Attachment Style (37) we review the attachment styles in a relationship. For more on attachment, see that episode.

In this episode, we will explore attachment common communication patterns that arise due to our attachment styles being activated.

We look at activation responses in:

Anxious attachment

Avoidant attachment

Secure attachment

And what it would take to start to change these responses.

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Crack the code to emotionally intimacy where you consistently feel seen and special.

Last Friday, after 6 months of lockdown, patios reopened. Sitting on a picnic bench with a plastic divider next to me, my eyes landed on a couple whose gazes seemed to burn into each other, and it was as if they were oblivious to the 50 other people on the patio (6 ft apart).

➣As I watched, they sampled each others’ beer, tasted each other’s food, all while keeping their gazes firmly fixed on the other.

➣No phone, no silences, just palpable connection.

How long do you think this couple had been together?

My guess is it was a new relationship.

Why? Because new love lights up the pleasure center of our brain. In a flash, it becomes effortless to talk, gaze and caress each other.

Have you ever looked at a couple like this and had conflicting feelings?

→On the one hand, you feel irritated with their public display of affection and wish they would get a room.

→But, on the other hand, you feel a prick of envy and long for the good old days?

After spending nearly 6 months mostly talking to my husband, sometimes I feel like a dried-up well with nothing left to say…

…With my shoulders slumped and feeling reasonably jealous of this couple in love, I excused myself to the bathroom.

I decided I was over feeling sorry for myself and was going to set the stage to rekindle connection with my husband.

In the episode, we discuss what I did to reignite our spark.

If you want to learn how to Emotional Intimacy, Check out the Emotional Intimacy Blueprint.

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After being sleep-deprived, I was reminded about how important sleep is to a happy, healthy and harmonious relationship.

At risk of sharing overly simplistic suggestions, in this podcast we are talking about the importance of good sleep hygiene and the impact on a relationship.

 

This podcast is for informational purposes only.  

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Relationships require you to let down your armor and expose your heart. Much of the time it doesn’t feel safe to take down your armor. That could be because… · You’ve been betrayed by your current partner in the past · A past partner has broken your trust · Or you grew up in a family where trust was nonexistent and you have never known how. If you know you want a love that feels both safe and free, this is the episode to help you determine if you have a partner that can help you get there. In this episode we cover 6 signs it is safe to trust your partner and other topics like… · Warning flags that you should not trust someone · Why trust might be hard for you · Signs it’s safe to trust your partner again after betrayal · The benefits of trusting someone · Gottman’s research on trust There is a free guide that outlines the 6 signs to trust your partner, and an exercise to help you evaluate if they are trustworthy. Download the free guide here: https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/6-Signs-Its-Safe-to-Trust-Your-Partner This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Have you tried to raise an issue to your partner and rather than hear you, they whine, make excuses, or worse – they turn the issue on you?

Maybe you are the person who responds in these ways, and you don’t know why you do this.

 

In this podcast I will cover the common reasons people are defensive, and how to overcome it.

In this podcast we discuss:

- 5 reasons people are defensive

- The role of criticism

- What to do if you’re defensive

- Tools to change defensiveness

- Tools to decrease the chances your partner is defensive

 

 

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Improve your COMMUNICATION SKILLS with your partner.

Discover how to express your inner feelings with pushing your partner away.

(and even hear their inner feelings too).

I have seen too many couples feel like they are living parallel lives with their partners.

Many couples feel lonely in their marriage and feel like it should be easier.

I get what it’s like to be drifting apart without a clear way to steer the ships back together.

By hitting the relationship research and truly doing my best to put the theory into practice, I have transformed by own relationship and what to give you the tools to do that too. In this episode we discuss:

Instead to improve your communication here are some steps you can take.

1. Look at timing.

2. Work on being a great listener

3. Communicate back what you have heard

4. Ask questions

5. When your partner is done share your point of view.

Remember there are always different ways to look at things.

To improve your communication take time to practice.

Want help? Check out the emotional intimacy cheat sheet. IT’s a guide to help you create a speaker-listener exercise with your partner, with done for you questions to ask your partner os you can practice your skills.

Text sheet to 1-313-710-9683 to get your copy of the emotional intimacy cheat sheet so you can try this out for yourself.

This will help you develop the tools to create connection.

That way you can stop living in a lonely relationship, that feels like you keep drifting farther apart.

Instead learn what it's like to cultivate connection, feel respected and like what you have to say really matters.

Until next time remember communication with your partner is really a skill so keep practicing.

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Do you want long lasting love? Do you want to understand what prevents divorce?

This podcast is going to provide the roadmap to long lasting love. We will learn from the masters of love, as well as the disasters of love, in order to sort out the secret sauce of what makes a relationship work.

Mentioned in the this podcast:

Christine Padseky 

Aaron Beck- Love is Never Enough

Gottman Method

Emotion Focused Therapy

Cognitive Behavior Therapy 

For more from the Canadian Centre for Psychology and Relationship Resources check out https://www.ccprr.ca/

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or mental health condition. Check with your health care provider before making changes. 

In this episode we are bringing to light the hidden mental load that exists in relationships. Whether it’s remembering doctor’s appointments, booking the dog in for it’s vaccines, or cleaning up the kitchen, there is a way to restore fairness and respect in your relationship.

· How to work better as a team.

· What mental load is in a relationship.

· Tips to explain mental load to your partner.

· How mental load could be impacting your relationship.

· How to ask for what you need without blaming your partner.

· What it takes to make your relationship fairer.

· That willingness is key to making your relationship work.

· Why it is important to change, even if, you partner doesn’t change first.

Tag a friend in the tile of Liz and I and be entered to win 1 of 6 books.

@emberrelationshippsychology https://www.instagram.com/emberrelationshippsychology/?hl=en 

Liz’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/?hl=en

Book I Want This to Work https://www.amazon.com/Want-This-Work-Navigating-Relationship/dp/1683647955

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6 Steps to heal past resentments

Past pains get in the way of current pleasures

We all want conflict to stop and to feel deeply connected to our partners. It sucks to have the same conflict again and again. Like we are spinning our wheels and getting nowhere.

Lonely, angry, feeling invalidated and disrespected, sometimes we can end up even more resentful when trying to actually address the issue. It feels like relationships should be easier… but if you’ve ever talked to someone in a relationship, you know relationships aren’t easy.

After working with hundreds of couples… most of them come to therapy with a past resentment. Here are 5 steps you can take to manage a past hurt.

I have gotten this from the Gottman Method. They talk about how to process the aftermath of a regrettable incident and that is what we are going over today.

Listen up, because I want to help you heal those past resentments so you can feel safe and loved in your relationship… be happy… and allow the past incidents to be forgotten.

The key to working through a past incident is to be able to talk about it, process it without it becoming a fight again. Couples need to work hard to commit to talking… not fighting about it.

Then when they actually talk, here is what they should cover.

1. Start with how you feel.

2. Describe what about

3. Explain your triggers

4. Take responsibility

5. Constructive plans

Now you know what it takes to heal from a past resentment. However, just talking about it is way simpler than it sounds. You know this if you have ever tried to process a past resentment with your partner.

If you are stuck, this might be a good time to seek out advice from a local couples therapist to help you work through these steps.

When couples can learn to do this, can turn a lonely and distant relationship into and peaceful and loving connection.

This is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and psychological or relationship issue. See a local couples therapist for advice for your relationship.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

5 Conversations to remedy stay-at-home order fueled problems. 

"I thought love would be my cure, but now it's my disease." – Alicia Keyes, "Love Is My Disease". Don’t let this quote speak the truth for you.

Spending 24/7 with someone you adore can make even the greatest love turn to frustration. Learn how to transform irritations into productive conversations, so you can look at your partner with adoration in your eyes.

Do your best to make these conversations positive and productive. Stay away from pointing out what is wrong, blaming, criticizing, taking shots, defending, or withdrawing. Work to state your wishes and dreams as positive needs, not what you do not want.

Positive need: “I wish we could spend an hour together each day.”

Pointing out what is wrong is: “We don’t spend enough time together.”

In this podcast we discuss 5 conversations

1. Alone vs. Together Time

2. Rituals of Connection

3. Expressing Appreciation

4. Household Tasks

5. Date Night

Check out our Guide to Stay in LOVE Through Lock-Down, on sale until June 1, 2020. https://www.ccprr.ca/shop-relationship-resources/guide-to-stay-in-love-through-lock-down

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. Check with your health care provider before making changes. 

What to do when you’re mad at your significant other 3 steps to being angry and keeping your partner close (ish) The 3 concepts are 1. Time out 2. Remember the flip flop 3. Focus on yourself Partner will make us mad… its inevitable… but we can keep working to do anger like our partner is someone we love. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical or relationship problem. Seek couples therapy in your area for help for your specific relationship.

If you’ve wanted to build a deeper connection in your relationship, feel safe with your partner, and repair past hurts, this is the podcast for you.

In this episode we discuss:

· How to prevent damaging your relationship

· Why ask yourself “is this helpful?”

· The difference between impact and intention

· How to repair your relationship after a rupture

· The importance of loving your partner the way they want to be loved

· How to increase safety in your relationship

· Why you will make mistakes in your relationship and why bother being willing to change

· Why friendship is important in long-term love

· How to deepen the friendship with your spouse

To find Tamara

IG: @h.associates https://www.instagram.com/h.associates/?hl=en

Website: https://hnapractice.com/

About Tamara:

Tamara is a healthy relationship therapist that covers the spectrum of relationships from individuals, to families to couples. All areas of our lives require us to have the tools to navigate the different types of relationships not just romantic ones. Repairing the unhealthy dynamics in her own family, she has definitely learned a thing or two about relationship repair and rebuilding, along with the importance of meaningful connection.

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Emotional intimacy a simple strategy that builds connection End loneliness and disconnection in less than 10-20 minutes a day In this episode we discuss: What builds emotional intimacy Questions to ask for emotional intimacy The difference between creating emotional intimacy in the TV show Love is Blind vs. Raised By Wolves. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. Talk to a couple's therapist in your area for help for your specific relationship issues. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

A Mistake that STOPS Communication

Avoid doing this if you want good communication with your spouse.

To illustrate a mistake that most people make when they are communicating, this episode looks at an interaction between Princess Margaret and her husband that I witnessed watching the TV show the Crown. Now, I have no idea if this is what she was really like, and as TV does it made for some really interesting marriage moments. Season 3, Episode 3 on Netflix.

In this episode we discuss:

• Relationship communication
• Enduring vulnerabilities
• Relationship contempt
• Relationship conflict
• Relationship repair
• Divorce
• What communication mistakes
• Toxic communication patterns

This podcast is for information only. See a couples therapist in your area for help with your relationship problems.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

When couples are feeling unseen, unheard, resentful or unloved they commonly wonder if they are compatible.

In this episode, we cover 4 key ideas to consider when you are thinking about your compatibility.

1. Do you have the same beliefs and values about what a relationship is?

2. Are you facing a deal-breaker?

3. Are you willing to learn how to do conflict together?

4. Are you willing to accept/tolerate your partner’s flaws?

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5 Ways to Build Love Maps

The crux of a solid relationship

In this episode we are discussing LOVE MAPS. What is a love map anyway?

It is knowing your partner’s inner world and having mental space for their experience and what is going on in their life.

We are going to get to know more about these love maps and why they are a foundational part of relationship success.

We look at three evidence-based strategies for building love maps and two strategies thought up by my couples.

We discuss interventions from the Gottman Method and the Book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work : A practical guide from the country's foremost relationship expert by John Gottman and Nan Silver. We specifically look at the chapter on Principle 1 Enhancing Love Maps and the exercises on pages 52-60.

Relationship Psych Episodes Discussed in This Episode Are:

In the previous episode, how to get him to finally listen to you we hear the stories of five women and their emotional reactions to not being heard.

Episode 26 emotional intimacy: a simple strategy that builds connection

episode 16 The communication mistake that is preventing you from being heard and how to fix it

This podcast is for informational purposes only. Seek a couples therapist in your area for specific advice to help your unique problems.

Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

Have you ever wished to be heard, that you felt safe to bring up difficult topics, or maybe you just wanted you and your partner to be good role models for your kids when it comes to how to fight?

If you have, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we cover a sensitive topic that comes up in relationships. We cover 3 essential skills for managing conflict.

 

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Secrets To Successful Relationship Repairs

Have you wondered why relationship repairs are the most frequent post I make on Instagram? @emberrelationshippsychology

This episode is about the power of relationship repairs.

Imagine, you and your partner start sliding down the nasty spiral, the way all your big fights start, and then one of you quickly does a ninja move and halts the process, reconnecting you, getting you back on track. A repair.

On a cold snowy January day, I pulled up to a restaurant and saw my future husband sitting outside on a bench in the cold.

My heart fluttered in my chest and I knew that he was special. He would teach me about passionate love, and within 2 weeks he would also teach me about heartbreak.

In this episode we talk about:

Preventing conflict spirals

What makes relationship repairs work

How to stop fighting with your spouse

Emotional connection

How to stop a fight

Communication in relationships

This podcast is for information only. See a couples therapist in your area for help with your relationship problems.

Host:

Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Stop Giving Your Power Away

How putting everyone’s needs ahead of your own could be sabotaging your relationship and your mental health.

Break free from overwhelm, feel supported, and take your power back.

In this episode, I share some of my story and how I learned to give my power away. I describe how I fluctuated between subjugating my needs to everyone else’s and how I tried to regain my control.

I talk about the first steps to getting your needs met.

There are suggestions about assertively getting your needs met.

Your needs are valid.

This show is for informational purposes only.

This authentic conversation about struggles, triumphs and the courage to be selfish with herself left me compelled to be more vulnerable and braver in so many areas of my life.

If you are looking for a story about overcoming incredible odds to overcome challenges, breaking multi-generational cycles and healing this is the podcast for you.

 

 

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If you’re like me, you probably went to school for 12 years, but never learned a key skill for connection and belonging – communication.

Many of my clients tell me they struggle to

· share how they feel because they fear their partner will be defensive.

· Stay level headed enough to understand the other person’s point of view

· Clearly communicate their needs

· Feel like their partner cares about their needs

Do you relate?

In this podcast, we will cover some of the answers to these questions, 2 communication struggles, and 3 tips for better communication.

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Stop doing these now, if you want your relationship to last.

John Gottman terms these four patterns in a relationship, the four horsemen of the apocalypse because they are so bad for relationships. Even the masters of relationships do them from time to time, but the key is catching it quickly and making relationship repairs.

The 4 horsemen of the apocalypse are

1. Criticism

2. Defensiveness

3. Stonewalling

4. Contempt

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or mental health condition. Check with your health care provider before making changes.

If you aren’t feeling as loved, appreciated, or valued as you would like in your relationship this episode is for you.

In this episode, Ricky talks about how to make people feel valued and happy, what it takes to feel more like a team, and what makes relationships work.

 

Book women are superior to men: https://drrickyarenson.com/book/

Website: https://drrickyarenson.com/

 

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What does it mean about you if you and your partner are very different?

In this podcast we discuss differences in relationships. Some topics include:

Being different than your partner

Arguments

Feeling invisible and taken for granted

The movie The Darkest Hour and lessons from Clementine.

How to accept your partner’s negative qualities.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure mental health or relational issues. For Treatment, talk a mental health or relationship professional in your area for advice specific to your relationship.

I have been obsessed with Love is Blind. Reality TV about Love is my jam. I think I work with couples because I love love… so this show tugs at every heartstring.

It is easy to point out things they have done wrong, you don’t need to be a couples therapist to watch and go “ooooofffff bad move”. And if you’re struggling to understand some of the moments that maybe could have gone different, just go on Instagram and look at the memes…

In this episode we are looking at 6 moments that went right.

THERE ARE LOVE IS BLIND SPOILERS in this episode.

This episode is for informational purposes only.

Yesterday I sat down at the dinner table with my husband, and we ate in silence. We were both tired, it had been a long day, and I thought “what if this is what our relationship was like?”. I would probably feel lonely, disconnected, and bored.

I can imagine over a series of silent dinner eating, I might feel like we are drifting apart. Or I might even get mad on the inside that he wasn’t talking to me (even though I could have initiated the dialogue).

I have clients tell me that at first the silence was like an ache in their chest, but over time the ache hardened into awall. They stopped caring that they weren’t connected, instead they built a wall between them and their partner and shut down their emotional connection.

If you have had many moments in silence, are feeling disconnected, and want to rekindle the connection between you and your partner, here are some practical tools to help you do that.

1. Use conversation starters to help you have great connections.

2. Think/talk about what is going right.

 

We have gone over two tools to help improve your emotional connection. Look, you can’t start and keep a fire going without fuel and a spark. In your relationship, you need a spark of willingness to take action, and the fuel is both partners engaging repeatedly in actions/beliefs that will fuel the relationship.

Connection isn’t a one-and-done process. It needs to be consistently worked on over the course of the relationship to keep the connection alive.

 

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

 

Do you want a deeper connection with your partner? Maybe your relationship started out with a close emotionally intimate connection, or maybe you’ve never had it but would really like it. In either case you’re in luck. In this episode Dr. Wyatt Fisher gives practical tools on how to create emotional intimacy in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss:

- what is emotional intimacy?

- what gets in the way of emotional intimacy?

- what to do if these things don’t feel natural or organic?

- what makes you feel more emotionally close to your partner?

- what are 3 things someone could do today to start developing a more emotionally intimate connection with their partner?

- the head heart intervention

- the bullseye intervention

Where to find Dr. Wyatt Fisher

https://www.drwyattfisher.com/pages/marriage-podcast-marriage-steps

https://www.instagram.com/marriage_drwyatt/

https://www.tiktok.com/@marriage_drwyatt

https://www.facebook.com/marriagedrwyatt

https://www.youtube.com/c/MarriageDrWyattShow

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Fix your communication fast- for couples

Have you wondered how to fix relationship communication problems?

If so, this show is for you.

We are going to cover:

How to fix communication after it breaks down, why communication matters, and a tool to help you improve your communication as soon as today.

Sticks and stones will break your bones and words and meanness will hurt you.

My heart started pounding in my chest as my fingertips started to shake, I was reading a comment on one of my reels on Instagram. It said, “this is stupid, if my partner is crazy, I want to say so, and their feelings are their own problem.”.

So why do people make dismissing comments like this? That is what this show is all about!

This is what we are going to go over:

• What we learn about emotion in our culture
• Gender differences in learning emotions and communication
• The ways people dismiss emotions
• A strategy to improve communication
• How perspective taking helps work through difficult issues
• The use of empathy in communication with your partner
• Toxic communication mistakes

Link to the Emotional Validation Cheat Sheet https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-validation-cheat-sheet

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

How to make your relationship happy again. We are going to go over some steps to make your relationship better and two common mistakes that will get in the way. In this episode we talk about: Your relationship goals The actions you need to take to reach your relationship goals Mistakes getting in the way of actually creating a happier relationship Get the Course Communication Cures by clicking here. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures This episode is for informational purposes only.

Understand how sexuality drives us, how our sexuality becomes problematic or even addictive. In this episode, we especially look at what leads to problematic sexual behaviors, compulsive sexual behaviors or addiction. Topics covered include: ● What is the role of attachment and sexuality? ● When do sexual intimacy problems develop? ● How can attachment heal sexual intimacy problems? ● How to change sexually compulsive behaviors? ● What happens to children sexually when their emotional needs are not met? ● What is sex addiction? ● How to determine the difference between infidelity and sexual addiction. ● How partners typically react when learning about their partner’s problematic sexual behavior. ● How the pandemic and COVID may have led to situations for someone to be unfaithful. ● What gets in the way of changing compulsive sexual behavior? Elizabeth (Liz) Lacy is a licensed clinical social worker, advanced certified schema therapist, trainer, clinical supervisor, member of the Sexuality Attachment and Trauma Network in NYC and trains internationally on addictions. She has been working in sexual addictions and personality disorders since the mid-1990s. Liz Lacy website: http://www.elizabethlacy.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Problems, different interests, ridged positions and conflict makes lot of couples come to therapy and wonder if they are even compatible, if they are soul mates and if they should be together.

It sucks to love someone a lot and wonder if you should be together.

This is a great question and it's hard to answer. 

This podcast is for informational purposes only. 

Have you ever found yourself behaving in the same way as one of your parents? Or Maybe you find yourself acting as if you are back in your family home even though you are a grown adult who has created a life of their own?

If you relate to either of these, this podcast is all about breaking cycles and living with intention.

In this podcast we discuss:

- What cycles are

- How to become aware of your patterns

- How to collaborate with your partner

- How agreements can help you and your partner make changes

- How win-win solutions can help

- Why expressing needs are important

Kara’s website: https://www.karahoppe.com/

Baby Bomb Book: https://www.karahoppe.com/the-book

Kara Hoppe, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, feminist, and mother. She has spent more than a decade as an inclusive therapist working with individuals and couples toward healing and growing, and toward becoming grounded, integrated people with better access to their own instincts, wisdom, and creativity. Hoppe also offers virtual retreats for parents and expectant couples, based on her book Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, a 2021 INDIES finalist. Her work has been featured in The Atlantic, Parents Magazine, Fatherly, and YourTango, among other publications. She lives with her husband and two children in Pioneertown, CA, and sees clients in private practice via telehealth.

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

In this podcast we cover the top 6 reasons relationships fall apart. Listen up to gain insight on what to watch out for and repair so you can keep your relationship healthy and connected.

In this episode we cover:

· The ideal ratio of positives and negatives in a relationship

· How negative interactions breed more negative interactions

· What leads to emotional withdrawal

· What happens when you fail to accept influence from your partner

· The difference between negative and positive sentiment override

· How to make repair attempts

Isabella Gondek is a Registered Psychotherapist, and is Level 3 Gottman Trained. For more about her therapy services, you can contact her here: https://stradwickclinic.ca/contact/

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

COMMUNICATION Skills for couples. Even the best couples have conflict- how to stop disconnection in its tracks. In this podcast we discuss: The enemy in the relationship: the conflict cycle. Feeling heard and understood How to do everyday communication Levine & Heller’s book Attached, and the reasons for effective communication Tips to help couples communicate: Use empathy Use body language Stop interrupting Ask good questions Free Guide  How to finally get him to listen to you. www.emberrelationshippsychology,com This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

If you and your partner are feeling more like roommates than lovers, and you want to reconnect, listen to this podcast.

In this podcast, we discuss how to talk so that your partner wants to meet your needs, how to create uncompromising intimacy in your relationship, and what gets in the way of being physically intimate in relationships.

 

Alexandra Stockwell’s website: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/

 

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If you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship.

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In this episode, we look at how sleep deprivation and poor sleep health could be negatively impacting everything from your relationship to weight loss.

We look at how to improve your overall functioning and relationship through sleep.

We cover:

· Conditions for your bedroom to sleep better

· How much sleep do you need

· The relationship between sleep and illness

· The relationship between sleep and weight loss

· The impact of sleep on your relationship

Terry’s website: https://terrycrallern.com/

This episode is for informational purposes only.

How to say simple words to make your partner blush.

In Gary Chapman’s book, 5 love languages he talked about the language words of affirmation. You use words to encourage, affirm, and appreciate. While this comes naturally to some, I have watched many couples struggle to find the words that connect to their partners hearts and ears.

The whisper of a sweet nothing is just a few words that expresses how you feel, or what your partner means to you. You don’t need to be a poet to craft the right thing to say. Simply expressing your heart is the language of the soul.

This episode was inspired as I watched Season 3 Episode of The Medici. The show depicts the love story of Lorenzo and Clarice. It’s far from a your typical perfect romance, but there is a quiet love that resonates through the show.

It made me think we do not need to wait until our loved ones are ill to whisper words of love, adoration or kindness. We can do it day in and day out, so if they were to ever fall ill, they would already know our true love and appreciation for them.

How do you speak sweet nothings?

1. Speak your truth

2. Take small steps that feel comfortable

3. Use compliments

4. Share memories

If this feels hard, check out the guide Rose Colored Glasses. Each week there is a prompt followed by a place for reflection to share a memory or concept. You could use this as a way to share with your partner how you feel, to share the sweet nothings.

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health or relational problem. Check with your treatment provider to see if the advice is for you.

Can’t afford couples therapy, and need to get clear on what to do to improve your relationship? This is the episode for you. Chris Harder- at Fast Foundations 2 Day Event shared a great tool to understand your problems, how to fix them, and what you need to achieve the solution. The stop, start, and find a method! In this episode, we discuss Kate and Toby and what happened in their marriage after they give birth to their child, Jack, who has a visual disability. We review how without knowing what they were doing they use the stop, start, find method. If your relationship is hanging on by a threat and you are typing “free couples therapy” into your search engine, try this method. Episodes referenced in this episode are: Relationship Psych - episode 24: 4 ways to create a fight Relationship Psych -episode 25: Communication Skills for couples This relationship podcast is meant for information purposes. See a couples therapist in your area for relationship advice for your specific relationship. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She does Couples Therapy in Toronto. She does online individual relationship counseling and online couples therapy.

If you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant trap is · How to get out of the anxious-avoidant trap · What attachment is · What attachment styles are · Fears that underly different attachment styles · Examples of protest behaviors · How to start to change your patterns · How and why to advocate for your needs Where to find Nicole Website: https://renovateyourrelationships.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the practice of peace/ Nicole’s attachment workbook: https://www.thepracticeofpeace.com/hey-instagram @renoyourrelationships Amber’s Free Guide: Attachment Styles 101 https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/attachment-styles-101 This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Secrets behind creating a love that lasts with different attachment styles. How to break free from connection problems, even if one partner is avoidant or the other is anxious. Many couples want a safe connection, with open communication. They want the rejection, loneliness, disrespect or the fear of not being enough for their partner to end. They just want to feel… safe. In this episode we are going to cover what attachment styles are, and a simple tool that can help create connection no matter your attachment styles. We use the TV show Bridgeton to illustrate different attachment styles. We discuss the two dimensions of attachment: avoidance and anxiety. We review and the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant. The sound relationship house and building love maps. How to create connection through friendship. If you feel like you need help connecting with your partner I’ve got a simple template for you to conversations to increase connection between you and your partner. I want to teach you to empower yourself and your partner with done-for-you questions to ask each other to deepen emotional communication. Get it now, click the link, put in your information, and have the cheat sheet delivered right to your inbox. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental or relationship issue. Seek out a local couples therapist in your area to see if this information is right for your relationship. Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Long distance is hard.

· You are lonely.

· You do miss each other.

· You fight over silly things because you miss each other and you’re sensitive.

· You have different expectations for how connection looks, texting, phone calls, and what your in-person time should be like.

I get it, my husband and I dated long-distance for 14 months. We would fight about things like:

· The appropriate amount of time it takes to text back

· When to schedule longer calls

· How often we should talk on the phone

· Who should come see who and when

· What our time should look like we when actually saw each other.

These months were some of my loneliest, but when I saw him, it was often exhilarating.

Here are some tips that helped.

1. Discuss your expectations around contact.

2. Build rituals of connection for contact.

3. Strategize around what your time together will look like and how often you will see each other.

4. Build a social circle for yourself.

5. Acceptance, life on life’s terms.

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A cheat sheet of loving phrases.

In this podcast, I cover sweet-nothing examples. I give you a list of 21 sweet nothings you could try to see if they work for you.

 

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The communication mistake that is preventing you from being heard and how to fix it. What to do to finally be listened to. If you’re wanting to feel close, connected, listened to, respected, understood, and like you matter. This is the episode you have been waiting for. To really feel heard there ARE certain communication styles that put a dead halt on passion. In this episode we discuss the concept ARE, Are You With Me? From Sue Johnson’s book, Hold Me Tight, and what this has to do with being listened to. We learn from her concept a couple of simple steps to take to increase our chances of finally getting our partners to listen to us. Other episodes referenced in this show are Episode 5: 4 Doomed Communication Patters. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issue. If your relationship is struggling check out local couples therapy in your area for help, or a local health provider. Before making changes it’s a good idea to check with your local provider.

How to make your partner feel loved & special

The five love languages can guide your way.

Gary Chapman, author of the book the 5 Love Languages defines the 5 Love Languages. This episode is about using these as a guide to help your partner feel loved and special.

TV/movies have lied to us… it looks easy, simple, it depicts a false picture of what “true love” is. If we were lucky enough, maybe we had parents that modeled what how to make love last.

Many people didn’t.

And even if you did, most of us are a touch lost on how to cultivate a strong love that lasts.

The good news is there is a road map to create a secure, adoring, relationship where you really feel liked… even if things haven’t been good for a long while.

In this podcast, we are looking at the 5 Love Languages to help partners connect.

The 5 Love Languages are:

1. Words of affirmation

2. Quality time

3. Acts of service

4. Receiving gifts

5. Physical touch

If you want to know more about making your partner feel loved and special, and are open to increasing words of affirmation, join us in the "#sweet7" text Challenge.

Uncover the love in your relationship through using words of appreciation. 💌

In this 7 day challenge, you will get 7 texts over 7 days, with 7 small & simple things you can do for your partner.

Stop feeling disconnected and out of sync.

...Ace the art of appreciation to cultivate a connection with your love.

April 1-7, get a text daily with instructions for sweet words to say or leave for your partner.

To join, just text "sweet" to 1-313-710-9683 and you will be added to the text sweet 7 challenge.

You will get prompts to help you find the words to say to make your partner feel loved and special.

Discover how to create deep connections through words of affirmation.

I hope to see you in the challenge.

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An affair is like having a grenade go off in your marriage. Shockwaves stun you, the smoke makes your eyes water, while the shards tear apart your heart.

Eventually, the smoke and dust settle, and you are left to pick up the pieces.

Sometimes affairs end in healing and healthy relationships if the couple takes the time to clean up their relationship and rebuild.

Other times, couples decide there was too much destruction, so they move on.

If you’ve wondered if you can heal after an affair, or if your marriage can succeed after an affair, listen to this podcast.

Anthony Trucks courageously shares how an affair shattered his marriage, and what he and his wife did that allowed them to build an even better relationship.

About Anthony Trucks:

Anthony Trucks is a Former Foster Child, NFL Football Player, Competitor on American Ninja Warrior, Author, Life Coach and Entrepreneur.

From foster care to the NFL, to successful business owner, Anthony Trucks has accomplished what statistics would say is impossible.

As a speaker and success coach, Anthony teaches people how to design and build better lives and businesses by learning how to access the power of their identity to tap into their full potential and Make Shift Happen!

IG: https://www.instagram.com/anthonytrucks/?hl=en

New Book, Identity Shift: https://identityshiftbook.com/

This is not specific relationship advice and an assessment has not been done, so be sure to see a therapist in your area for specific advice for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.

The truth you didn’t know about healing from infidelity, tools you can use to overcome betrayal, and steps to rebuild so you can create a relationship that was even stronger than before.

In this episode we cover:

• What goes wrong in relationships that sets the stage for infidelity.
• Dos and don’ts after learning about an affair.
• If affairs are really about sex.
• Different kinds of people who have affairs.
• The 3 stages of healing after infidelity.
• What is an appropriate consequence after infidelity so your partner can trust again.

Bio:

Mac Stanley Cazeau, LMHC owner and operator of Therapy Is For Everyone Counseling where he specializes in individual counseling, marriage, family, and couples counseling. Mac’s caseload tends to be 70% couples, and 30% individuals/family, of which majority are black men and women.

Mr. Cazeau obtained his Undergraduate Degree in B.S Psychology from Queens College and Masters of Mental Health Counseling from Long Island University. Furthermore, Mr. Cazeau obtained 3 certifications from the Gottman Institute & one certification from the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT ) model. Mr. Cazeau’s therapeutic philosophy focuses on a holistic approach, utilizing a variety of techniques, tailoring the therapy to each individual's needs.

Mr. Cazeau specializes in the following:

• Relationship Counseling
• Improving Communication Skills
• Conflict Management
• Increasing Friendship, Intimacy, Admiration, and Fondness within Couples
• Attachment, Love Addiction
• Healing from Trauma & Affairs
• Dating and/or Recovering from A Narcissist
• Divorce/Separation & Family Dynamics
• Depression, Anxiety, Anger Management

Website: Therapyisforeveryone.org

Email: Talk2Mac1on1@gmail.com

IG: @Talk2Mac_Therapist

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If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is lacking connection, you feel ignored, or your partner dismisses you, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we talk about what a bid for connection is, and how understanding them and turning towards them can create emotional intimacy, connection, and increase relationship satisfaction.

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Do you want to stop feeling disrespected and unheard in conversations with your partner? Whether it’s repeat disagreements about your in-laws, sexual intimacy, different personal goals, preferences in housecleaning or the budget, I know it can make your heart pound, your face hot, and your jaw clench. In this episode, we talk about why bother fighting fair. We cover the impact of destructive conflict, the desire to be heard and understood, and how to prevent things from getting worse. A key idea we talk about is being willing to fight fairly. Because before you can fight fair, you have to be willing to try. Do you have beliefs about conflict that get in way of changing? I know I did. Listen up to hear what they were and how come I changed them. If you know you want some help fighting fair, and you need a strategy, get on the waiting list for the online course Communication Cures. Registration will be open for a week at the start of March. By joining the waiting list, you will also get $100 off the regular price. The link to join the waiting list. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.ca/communication-cures-waiting-list-2022 This podcast is for informational purposes only.

If you are struggling with conflict in your relationship Figs provide insight into how couples get into fights, and how come it’s hard to get out of the conflict.

Topics covered in the podcast:

- Couples conflict

- Changing from a me vs. you to us vs. the problem

- Raw feelings that lie beneath the conflicts

- Attachment

- Wounds in relationships

To learn more about Figs:

www.Empathi.com

Link for course: empathi.com/psych

To get the course: Create an empathi.com account and visit  to redeem our flagship Conflict Solution course, free of charge

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If you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship.

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Have you ever thought, I want to feel

· Liked

· Loved

· Respected

· Cherished

· Appreciated

If you answered yes, you are wanting to strengthen or maintain your relationship fondness and admiration system. In Gottman and Silver’s 1999 book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work they outline one of the 7 pillars is the fondness and admiration system.

In this podcast we cover:

· What the fondness and admiration system is

· Why the fondness and admiration system is so important

· Why contempt isn’t helpful in relationships

· How to strengthen your fondness and admiration system

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If your sexual relationship is as stale as month-old bread this podcast will lay the steps to create a passionate and enjoyable sex life. In this relationship advice podcast episode, we are talking about the following: How to talk about sex with your partner How to initiate sex with your partner Sex idea to keep it interesting How to decline sex with your partner Talking about sex likes and dislikes This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship issues. Check with a provider in your area for advice to help your unique relationship.

Do you and your partner struggle to communicate? Have you ever experienced…

- Things you thought were small issues turn into a blowout fight.

- Your partner tells you they feel criticized.

- You see your partner walk away in conflict and it makes you upset.

        - You’re unsure what is going wrong and why you are fighting so much with the person you love.

In this episode, we are going to cover what Drs. John and Julie Gottman studied relationships and identified what they call the Four Horsemen of conflict discussions. When these communications styles make up the majority of interactions, the relationship breaks down. When couples come to me for communication issues, most of the time these four communication patterns are dominating their communication and their relationship.  

Link to Communication Cures

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/communication-cures

 

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This episode is the follow up to episode 73: How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz Lacy. Betrayal Trauma is the impact that happens when there have been repeated betrayals in multiple ways by your partner. It is a “harsh violation of trust by someone you depend on.” This episode is all about what Betrayal Trauma is, the impact of betrayal trauma, and working through betrayal trauma as a couple. In this episode we cover -what betrayal trauma is -how betrayal trauma is different than the trauma from an affair -what the symptoms of betrayal trauma are -what to consider when you’re wondering if you should stay or go after being betrayed -the signs your partner is headed toward change -how to help the betrayed partner feel safer - the difference between an affair and a compulsion - common mistakes therapists make in dealing with betrayal trauma with out-of-control sexual behavior - what to tell the children after betrayal trauma Liz Lacey website https://elizabethlacy.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only.

5 Reasons Couples Therapy Will Not Work for You

If your relationship needs help, but you are not sure if couples therapy is for you, this relationship will help clarify why you should not do couples therapy.

When couples come to therapy many are in joint agreement they need help, whereas sometimes it is one dragging the other.

Since therapy can have a stigma, many people can be fearful o try it out. So here is why you should not..

Save your money and do not engage in therapy if:

1. Domestic Violence is Present in The Relationship.

2. One Partner Has Already Decided the Relationship Is Over

3. There Is A Relationship Secret

4. Wanting the Therapist to Take Your Side

5. Lack of Action Outside of Session

Now you know why you should not. But if you are considering dipping your toes into a therapy session… you can try that without jumping all the way in.. well you are doing that by listening to this episode. But therapy should include theory and strategy to help you achieve your goals.

Without strategy… it's just a venting session.

If you want to see some strategy behind what loving and successful couples do, I have 6 little steps for you that I teach my couples. There are 6 small actions couples can take each week to reignite their love and keep their relationship stronger. To get this check out the FREE guide 6 small things successful and loving couples do. To get it hit pause and text 1-313-710-9683 and text successful to get the pdf sent right to your phone. This guide will set you up to understand the simple steps to creating a long-lasting love.

I hope you have some ideas about why you should not try couples therapy.

This is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any psychological or relationship issue. See a couples therapist in your area for advice for your specific relationship.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

How missing bids for connection can take the wind out of your sails.

In this episode, we review what a bid for connection is and how to turn towards, turn away or turn against bids for connection.

We got over examples for how to respond to your partner differently and improve the chances of a strong emotional connection.

If you are interested in learning more about Emotional Intimacy check out the mini-course: The Emotional Intimacy Blueprint.

· Discover the 7 pillars of emotional intimacy and how to implement them to create a loving relationship.

· Stop feeling like you are two separate island and learn how to build a bridge between you.

· Get worksheets to implement the concepts into your relationship as soon as today.

Check the link to get the Emotional Intimacy Blueprint https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-blueprint

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3 Secrets to Emotional Intimacy Tips to get the emotional connection you want. Feeling got and understood by your partner really feels nice. This episode is all about how to feel close, connected and create more security with our partners. In this episode we discuss: Psychologist Jim Coan’s research on partner’s buffering pain How to create emotional connection Unhelpful behaviors in relationships Stopping negative conflict Ending problem cycles Creating rituals of connection Ideas for happy homecomings Relationship Psych Episodes Discussed in this Podcast Episode: Episode 22: maladaptive relationship behavior Episode 20: your brain on love Episode 7: how to create emotional intimacy with your partner To get the free guide How to Get Him to Finally Listen to You visit www.emberrelationshippsychology.com This relationship podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical, mental health, or relationship problem. It should not be seen as relationship advice for your specific relationship. Seek out couples therapy or marriage counseling by a practitioner in your area for advice for your specific problem. Host: Amber Dalsin., M.Sc., Psychologist. She is a Marriage and Family Therapist in Toronto. She does virtual individual relationship counseling and virtual couples therapy.

When you need soothing the most, it's when your partner turns their back. Understand the mystery about why it is so hard to stay and give comfort. In this podcast we discuss: Differences in what tears mean Fight/flight/freeze response to tears Softening emotions Compromise Repair statements See repair statements on Instagram @relationshippsych This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any mental health or relational issue. Talk to a provider in your local area for more support.

Why Emotional Connection is So Hard

It’s because of this little ingredient…

Connection requires vulnerability.

“Being vulnerable is like jumping off a cliff. You take a big leap of faith, and you hope someone is there to catch you.”

In this episode, we discuss connection, the family of origin, and attachment needs.

Communication solutions course: Communication Solutions — Ember Relationship Psychology

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Discover what causes 95% of divorces, and tools you can use today so can create a loving and long-lasting relationship.

Whether your relationship is struggling with difficulties feeling seen and heard, lack of intimacy, or the same problems over and over, Dr. Fackrell shares some practical tools couples can use to increase their connection.

In this episode we cover:

· What gender is filing two thirds of divorces and why.

· How to handle it when the same problems come up over and over.

· What is means to actually show your partner love in a meaningful way, so you actually hit the bulls eye.

· Why bother working on your relationship.

· Strategies to improve your relationship.

Dr. Tamara Fackrell loves good marriages. After practicing as an attorney mediator who works with divorce and other family matters for ten years she decided to get her PhD in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. Dr. Fackrell has been active attorney mediator for over 20 years now and she also does prevention by speaking and helping married couples with Mediation Marital Strategy Sessions. She is an international speaker and the author of over 15 books. She has seen firsthand what does and does not make marriage work.

Website: https://mindfulmarriage.love/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindful_marriage/?hl=en

This episode is for informational purposes only.

Having a new bundle of joy is truly a delight for many, but it also comes with predicted and unexpected challenges. Between navigating feedings, sleep schedules, diaper changes and showering yourself, you are left to navigate the relationship with your new baby and your partner.

In this podcast we discuss:

● Common challenges new parents face

● How come parenting issues can be so hot

● How to get in touch with your needs

● How to express your needs

● What attachment is

● Attachment Styles

● Secure Functioning

● Tips for connection with your partner

Link to the book Baby Bomb https://www.karahoppe.com/the-book

Link to Kara’s Website: https://www.karahoppe.com/

Kara’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karahoppe/

Link to ep 79: Attachment Styles and Building a Happy Relationship with Stan Tatkin https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/79-attachment-styles-and-building-a-happy/id1412479463?i=1000557392696

About Kara Hoppe, MA, MFT: She is a psychotherapist, teacher, feminist, and mother. She has spent more than a decade as an inclusive therapist working with individuals and couples toward healing and growing, and toward becoming grounded, integrated people with better access to their own instincts, wisdom, and creativity. Hoppe also offers virtual retreats for parents and expectant couples, based on her book Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, a 2021 INDIES finalist. Her work has been featured in The Atlantic, Parents Magazine, Fatherly, and YourTango, among other publications. She lives with her husband and two children in Pioneertown, CA, and sees clients in private practice via telehealth.

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Alex shares what has made his 20-year relationship work, how they have worked through what could have become massive fights, and how others can do the same.

As Alex shares, Amber provides relationship theory and takes what Alex and his wife are doing right, and shares strategies for other couples the do the same.

In this episode we cover:

· The 3 foundations to emotional intimacy

· The number one predictor of a happy long-term relationship

· How to notice and respond to your partner’s request for attention

· Growing together even when you have different love languages

Alex street: website https://alexstreet.ca/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/streetsays/?hl=enor @streetsays

Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet: https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet

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Catastrophic Couples Conflict and How To Prevent It

Transform fretful fights to calm conversations.

In this episode, we are going to discuss 2 types of problems in relationships and how couples get stuck in fretful fights.

We will answer the questions:

So why are you fighting with your partner anyways?

Are fights even normal in relationships?

Do all couples fight?

We review common cognitive distortions in relationships.

We discuss the two things that happen in all couples conflicts.

I teach out about the number one predictor of divorce and how to overcome it.

One of the tools to overcome this predictor of divorce is the 3 Step Script: Talking So He Listens. Simply text 1-313-710-9683 to download the simple and powerful template.

This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a couples therapist in your area for specific advice for your specific relationship.

Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.

Do conflict like your partner is someone you love.

“Wishes are thorns, he told himself sharply. They do us no good, just stick into our skin and hurt us.” ―A Face Like Glass, Frances Hardinge

Call them wishes or expectations, when they don’t come true they hurt. It’s okay to have expectations, but they also require flexibility and disappointment.

Why do we argue?

Arguing is a normal part of relationships, the goal is understanding.

Why arguments continue

Do arguments like your partner is someone you love.

Blog link  https://www.ccprr.ca/blog/arguing-and-keeping-your-relationship-intact

This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any medical or mental health condition. check with your health care provider before making changes. 

Long-distance was the thing that taught me about bitter loneliness, and the thing that taught me about committed love and two imperfect people who refused to give up on each other. In this episode I’m going to share about my 14 month long-distance experience, as well as share some ideas from couples therapy research to help you with your long-distance relationship. 1. Talk about your goals. 2. Establish rituals of connection 3. Use love languages to bolster the connection 4. Soothe difficult emotions. I am also answering some Q and A. This is not specific relationship advice and an assessment has not been done, so be sure to see a therapist in your area for specific advice for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Here are 3 things you should know about how touch can make you closer, restoke the flame between you, and reinforce the reasons you fell in love in the first place.

Touch used to be the thing that made me recoil from someone, and today it is the only tool that can slower the walls I can put up around my heart.

And if you keep listening, I am going to share with the exact moment everything changed, and why most people call my husband and me a very affectionate couple.

In this episode we discuss 3 ways that touch helps with connection in relationships:

· That it provides safety and comfort

· That it plays a role in the release of oxytocin and bonding

· And kissing, snuggling, nuzzling and massaging plays a role in pair bonding.

We also explore 3 ways that touch can be used to increase connection.

1. Ask permission to touch.

2. Engage in nurturing touch that does not pressure sex.

3. Talk about your touch likes and dislikes.

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Discover how to rekindle your desire and passion in a long-term relationship.

We discuss:

· Key factors to spark the flame

· Uncertainty and its connection to desire

· How novelty plays a role in desire and how to create new experiences

· All the different hats we wear with our partner and how to make sure you make time for your relationship hat

· Ideas for rituals for connection

This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Have you ever wondered “why would my partner rather watch porn than be with me?”, or maybe you’ve started to think your pornography use is becoming excessive and aren’t sure how to stop? If you relate to either of these things, this podcast is worth a listen. 

In this podcast we discuss:

Factors leading to compulsive pornography use

The impact of pornography of relationships

What to do if you think you may have a problem with pornography

Tips to make quitting pornography easier

Healing as a couple after betrayal 

Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized psychotherapist, sex therapist, and expert on healthy sexuality and sexual recovery. 

This podcast is for informational purposes only.