Queer Relationships, Queer Joy (Keely Helmick & Melisa De Seguirant)

The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Learn how to navigate your exes from both a monogamous and non-monogamous framework, co-parenting strategies around the holidays, and how exes are like cats.

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Three very different stories about what gay pride means. Cody, Maia, Alison and Tanner share their queer experiences about coming out, coming in, and celebrating Pride their own ways!

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Do life partners make good business partners? What challenges will they face? How do Tam and Morgan of Rebel Heart Therapy make it work? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Pro-choice resources:

Marches, action, and abortion support: plannedparenthoodaction.org
Donate or get financial assistance for abortion: abortionfunds.org
Laws and legal stuff: nwlc.org 
Resources in Spanish: latinainstitute.org 

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Rebel Heart Therapy website: www.rebelheartpdx.com 

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What’s the difference between a red flag and a misplaced expectation? Have you ever put someone on a pedestal and then later found out they weren't who you thought they were? What if you don’t want to meet your heroes? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Relationdhips, Queer Joy; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How do we make sure sex workers are treated fairly? What do you do if you disagree with your partner about watching porn? How do you work through shame around porn usage?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

In this episode we interview Kayla the normie and Gretchen the kinky jock. We discuss respecting differences when opposites attract, learning from each other, and growing from each relationship.

Magnus Strength and Conditioning: www.magnussc.com

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The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

In this episode we interview Alison and Tanner Jamison of "Hey Babe, I'm Queer?!" podcast. Now married, these two highschool sweethearts from the Christian midwest talk about their journey into polyamory, kink, community, and gender exploration. They give great advice for any couples wondering how they can enter that space as well.

Alison Jamison's website: alisonjamison.com

Hey Babe, I'm Queer?!

"Sex Is A Funny Word" by Cory Silverburg

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What do you want to leave behind? What do you want to move towards? How do you get the things you want to let go of out of your mind? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

More Queer Joy on our website: connectivetherapycollective.com 

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And with that, Season 2 of the Queer Joy Podcast comes to an end. Join Keely and Melisa as they recap the first half of the year in the season finale. Hear it all on this episode; where these two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How do you know it’s time to introduce your metamours to each other? How do you talk to your kids about your poly relationships? What about your friends? All relationships impact other aspects of our lives, and polyamory is no exception. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What do you get when you really invest in friendships? What does a healthy friendship look like? Is it normal to come together and drift apart over the years?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Does attraction in all different forms need to end with sex? Can you recognize the different types of attraction? What does it mean to be aesthetically attracted to someone? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

In this episode we discuss finding friends on dating apps, being ready for love after a 10 year marriage, demisexuality, and (of course) the Relationship Hierarchy and how to navigate it.

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Being a queer person in today’s world is traumatic–shaping us and our relationships in complex ways. We discuss how to address these traumas and build stronger relationships with Dr. Jennifer Towns, a trauma therapist and author of a book on trauma and healing. 

You’ll hear

• One tool to keep growth alive in long-term relationships
• How not addressing shame and guilt in relationships can hinder the process of repair
• Why it’s important to move beyond shared trauma as the sole base of a relationship

Check out Jen’s book, “Our Deepest Roots: Navigating Past Trauma to Build Healthier Queer Relationships," and find her on Instagram @your.queer.therapist

We’d also love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

What are the ways that you can experience pleasure even if you are in pain? How can you explore with yourself within the limitations of your body? What is the connection between disability and sex? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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From defining relationship dynamics to navigating multiple connections, agreements ensure that everyone's values and desires are respected and honored. We’re joined again by Heather Simpson to talk about polyamory, agreements, and communication.

You’ll hear about

• The importance of check-ins and agreements in non-monogamous relationships
• Having open and explicit conversations about sexual health & sexual preferences
• Why some relationships could benefit from a written agreement over a verbal one

If this episode resonates with you, we’d love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

What is a relationship agreement? What things do you need to agree upon? Why are relationship agreements important for both monogamous and non-monogamous partners, no matter how long you’ve been together? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What does gender mean to you? How do we perform gender with our friends? How do we perform gender with our lovers? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What happens when queerness and body size intersect? Can joy and pleasure be found at this intersection? In what ways can we create space for a diversity of bodies and pleasures? Join us as we interview guest Dani Adriana and explore these questions and more. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Find Dani Adriana here linktr.ee/iamdaniadriana

Fearing The Black Body by Sabrina Strings: nyupress.org/fearing-the-black-body

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Grief comes in all forms. This episode is specifically about the Club Q shooting on 11/20/22, but also about introverted and extroverted grieving, navigating queer collective trauma, witnessing your feelings, and finding the joy.

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

CTC Group Therapy: www.connectivetherapycollective.com/group-therapy 

Website: www.connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy 

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How do you tell the difference between healthy conflict and toxic conflict? How do you navigate healthy conflict with your partners? When do you have that conversation? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Power and Control Wheel: https://www.connectivetherapycollective.com/post/ep-51-healthy-conflict-field-guide 

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It’s easy to dismiss Valentine's Day as this commericialized holiday full of red roses, hallmark cards, and cupid’s arrows. The real meaning of love gets buried under all the marketing hype. That's why we're all about redefining the holiday, making it more about genuine love and connection, as we like to put it, leading with love as we move through our relationships.

You’ll hear

(12:56) What it looks like to lead with love in daily life
(18:23) When it’s not possible to lead with love
(21:05) Balancing love with other challenging emotions
(30:26) Queer joys

If you want to keep the conversation going, let us know what you think by writing in at info@connectivetherapycollective.com.

The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Winter holidays often mean seeing family. For LGBTQ+ folks, that can be complicated. In this episode we aim to offer support for different relational situations people find themselves in around the holidays.

From coming out of the closet, to setting boundaries, to hanging out with chosen family, we're here with tips to help you get through it!

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The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

In this episode we talk about destabilizing the relationship hierarchy, finding pleasure in unexpected places, and creating community.

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Looking for signs of a healthy and thriving relationship? We’re diving into recognizing green flags in your connections–from calmness and effective communication to conflict management and healthy boundaries.

Green flags are something that could be very personal to you, and we’re curious to know what you identify as a healthy sign, so write to us at info@connectivetherapycollective.org or hit us up on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

Often for non-monogamous folks there is no “taking some time to be single” between breakups and new relationships. Today Melisa and Keely explore how to hold space for both the death of something dear, and the birth of something new and exciting. They also touch on some more advanced ENM situations and techniques.

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships!

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In small communities, whether that’s a small city or simply being queer and polyamorous, exes and old connections often overlap. We're discussing how to navigate these interactions and collaborate with our partners to establish agreements or guidelines for engaging with others in our social circles. We'll explore topics such as control, comfort and discomfort, preferences and requests vs rules, and ultimatums. These concepts can help us manage our partners' relationships outside of our own while also considering what is possible and ethical.

You’ll hear—
(12:52) How much control do you have over interactions with your exes
(16:12) Making requests and ethical boundaries 
(24:48) The importance of flexibility and understanding in agreements
(31:58) Queer joys

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How can we expand our definitions of love? What does queering Valentine’s day look like? What are some daily practices that can cultivate self-compassion so we can love more? How do we change the way we talk to our inner critic?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How do you find your people? How can you make yourself feel good in a world that wants you to feel bad? How do you communicate with your sexual partner around kink?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Fertility treatment! Adoption! Craigslist sperm donors! Never in a million years did Gina think she would be a parent. Until she met Rae.

What does it look like to go through so many changes together? How do you navigate conflict in a long term relationship? How does this queer couple approach having and raising children? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Find Gina at: heygina.com or @heyginasena on Insta

Find Rae on Instagram @transpainter

Ethical Non-Monogamy Group: bit.ly/enmgroup

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Talking about sex in our own relationships can be difficult and uncomfortable—even for a queer sex therapist with a lot of practice. It’s vulnerable to talk to partners about our desires and the changes we feel around sex. That’s why we’re discussing how to talk to both new and long-term partners about our sexual desires.

You’ll hear—
(09:51) The challenges of talking about sex with our partners
(15:47) Societal pressure around orgasms
(22:31) How exploring gender and sexual labels can impact your preferences
(34:58) TW: sexual assault, domestic violence, skip to (38:34)
(39:35) Queer Joys

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If you like the show, please leave a rating and review and tell us your thoughts on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

Are you navigating non-monogamy as a newbie, feeling intimidated by those with more experience who have read all the books or had lots of partners? Or maybe you're the one with the experience, rolling your eyes at the fresh faces? We’re exploring the nuances of different experience levels in the context of non-monogamy because experience doesn't guarantee a great partner or ethical behavior, just as being new doesn't always lead to disaster.

You’ll hear—
(12:38) The nuances of being experienced or new to non-monogamy
(22:15) Having a beginner’s mind and staying curious
(30:07) Generational differences in non-monogamy
(38:37) Going into a relationship with intentionality
(42:52) Queer Joys

Let us know your experience exploring these dynamics as either a newbie or someone with experience. As always, you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.

How can you tailor your self care to get the most out of it during winter? What’s the difference between emotion dumping and intentional venting? What f**k is cuffing, and is it a good thing? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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We’re wrapping up season 3! Join Keely and Melisa as they recap what has happened so far this year and what’s happening next. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Desires Worksheet: bit.ly/3MKiTFX

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Why would someone live alone while in a deeply romantic relationship (or several romantic relationships)? What are some tips for voicing insecurities? What is a brain thought?!

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

This week’s guests are Liana Griebsch and Elizabeth Cunningham.

Liana Griebsch instagram @lianagriebsch

Elizabeth Cunningham instagram @ELZCunningham

Love deeper @love._.deeper

elizabethanncunningham.com

Queer And Poly

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What does the patriarchy look like in medicine? Why is it important to bring sexuality into the doctor’s office? How can you queer up your life? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Dr Evelin Dacker IG @sexmeddoc 

STARS worksheet: www.maketimeforthetalk.com/resources 

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Another three unique stories about what pride means. Cardinal, Gretchen, Kayla and Garrison share their queer experiences about coming out, coming in, and celebrating Pride their own ways. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What is trans sex? How can we access our body parts in a new way? What is muffing? This week we interview sex educator, Author, and therapist Lucie Fielding. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Trans Sex Workshop with Lucie Fielding: qrcc.me/roln5h5ivd0s

Lucie’s Website: luciefielding.com

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In relationships where multiple partners are involved, we may make gestures to promote fairness and balance. But, is true fairness achievable when certain hierarchies naturally exist in non-monogamous dynamics? We’re discussing how to navigate these inherent imbalances.

You’ll hear

• How layers of hierarchies subtly exist within polyamorous relationships
• The importance of intentionality over guilt or obligation in approaching these conversations
• How to show self-compassion for those impulses to make everything “equal”

Come connect with us both on Instagram @Queer_Therapist_PDX  and @licensedwip or our podcast @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

Dating can be difficult and complicated, especially if you are queer. Intimacy ConAmore share some dating advice on this episode of Queer Relationships, Queer Joy; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Derica on Instagram: @polyfreelove

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How do we engage with the world around us and continue some form of activism or social justice while also finding moments of joy? We’re exploring this question to bring some optimism and mindfulness when it feels like the world is fire. 

You’ll hear
(5:56) Finding joy in challenging times
(8:37) Balancing activism with moments of joy and hope.
(13:56) Finding hope and inspiration in small moments, or glimmers 
(19:43) Oxytocin and sex
(25:23) Meaning, joy, and overstimulation in modern life
(28:06) Queer joys

Keep up with Melisa on Instagram @therapeutic.ideas and look out for the training on April 20th by Alex Iantaffi on mixed orientation relationships at Eventbrite or connectivetherapycollective.com.

How does being neurodivergent impact relationships and sexuality? What are some common yucks and yums? How can everybody foster understanding? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists (and guest Taylor Kravitz) explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Can being honest about what you need actually sound sexy instead of needy? How do we foster more connection and figure out how we're all the same instead of focusing on our differences? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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There are a LOT of variations and gray areas when you’re having queer sex. Pleasure, pain, gender, STI’s, vocabulary, bodies, oh my! In this episode of QRQJ, Keely and Melisa clear out shame and discuss the in-between.

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Charlie came out as trans to his partner of 12 years. What happened next was a wild ride of ups and downs. Spoiler alert; there’s a joyfully queer ending.

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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In this episode we talk about destabilizing the relationship hierarchy, finding pleasure in unexpected places, and creating community. This is a re-release of our interview with Tuck Malloy on epsidoe 5, season 1 of QRQJ. 

Tuck's IG: @intra_sensual

Queer Relationships, Queer Joy

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Are you planning on attending a pride event this year? In this episode, we’re diving into how to navigate pride differently this year and what community compersion looks like.

We’re sharing why communication with your partner(s) is important in preparation for pride, how to set expectations for your pride experience, and three ways you can be a better ally.

Pride events are crucial for celebrating diverse identities and love and we know this episode will prepare you to be present and joyful in these spaces. Chat with us more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Therapist_PDX or @ConnectiveTherapyCollective.

And stop by our booth at Portland Pride if you're in the area!

What does queer longing mean? Where does it show up in our relationships? How can you heal from that deep, forbidden yearning? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Trans Erotic Embodiments Workshop: bit.ly/TransEroticEmbodiments

Lucie Fielding episode: connectivetherapycollective.com/post/62-being-ethically-curious-about-trans-sex 

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What’s working well in Tara and Maddie’s relationship? How have they worked through previous trauma to be able to connect better? How do they address mistakes? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Find Tara on IG @taralsharp

@alanafaithchenfoundation

@queerpsych_original 

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How do you find your own way of being gay? Does having a neurodivergent diagnosis help your relationship? What do you do if you're kinky and your partner is vanilla?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Put QRQJ into action with our free Relationship Check-in worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet

Find Dr. Joe Kort on Tiktok at Dr.JoeKort or in his Facebook group; Side Guys.

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How do you stop the break up & make up cycle? How do you settle in to safety? How does whiteness relate to our idea of attachment? And wtf is a baecation? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What’s the difference between non-monogamy and polyamory? How do you know if you should try non-monogamy? Is cheating different than unethical non-monogamy? And what the heck is WORKING in these relationships?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How can we expand our definitions of attraction? Is it normal to be friends with your ex? What is a relationship, anyway? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Today’s guest is Sam Cat of Shrimp Teeth. Find Sam on their website www.shrimptheeth.com

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Nothing exists in a vacuum, we are all a part of many systems. What relationship systems do you exist in? Monogamous? Non-monogamous? How do we act with responsibility towards both ourselves and others in our system? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How do you start off new relationships from a place of integrity? What about if you’re nonmonogamous? How do you integrate integrity into existing relationships? What is the difference between nondisclosure and dishonestly? Is people pleasing manipulative? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

In this episode we welcome Shannon and Yara to talk about their multi-cultural long distance relationship. They discuss how they built the foundation of a relationship that ended up moving one of them 5,000 miles so they could live together.

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Raise your hand if you’ve ever had your queer awakening to your friend moonwalking in the office, the same friend that also officiated your wedding to another man. Anyone? Well luckily, we found that exact couple, Caroline and Amy Bouvin, and they’re here to tell you their unconventional but very queer love story.

You’ll hear–

(02:54) How Amy and Caroline became friends

(06:44) Making out with girls while drunk (the signs were there)

(10:37) Sobriety and moving in together

(18:09) Coming out to family and the grief of divorce

(26:41) Joyful moments from the proposal and wedding

(37:36) Queer Joys

If you are interested in Amy and Caroline’s couples retreat you can check it out here. And let us know what you thought of this episode @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy.

What is it like to come out later in life? How can we support newly emerging queer folks? How can we all approach a new partner with a beginner’s mind? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How can a family heal after divorce? What do you do if your kid comes out? What do you do if your mom comes out??? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Personal Photo Journal Prompt: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet

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In this end-of-year episode, we're taking a moment to celebrate the past two years of this podcast. It's hard to believe, but we're already at the midpoint of our current season and heading into a well-deserved mid-season break. As we wrap up another year, we're excited to dive into applying these end-of-year reflections to the realm of relationships.

You’ll hear about

• Nervous system regulation in dating and relationships
• Connection and communication challenges in the digital age
• “Slow burn”, year-end reflections, and setting intentions

Stay connected with us over the break @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy, and we’ll be back in the new year.

What does the Roe V Wade overturn have to do with bisexuality? Is there a difference between bi and pansexual? Why does the queer community erase bisexual identities? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What is sex therapy really about? What do you talk about in sex therapy? How do you prepare for sex therapy? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see the joy in queer relationships.

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Ah, New Relationship Energy (NRE)–that magical, butterflies-in-your-stomach phase at the start of a new relationship, where everything feels exciting and your new person seems absolutely perfect.  Maybe you're in this phase–love it or hate it–or maybe you're on the outside watching someone else experience this rush. Whichever side you’re on, we’re discussing how to navigate NRE.

You’ll hear

(10:23) How we experience NRE and how it impacts others

(18:22) NRE in non-monogamous relationships

(25:56) Change, jealousy, and trust issues

(28:39) Setting boundaries, self-care, and sitting with the unknown 

(39:51) Queer Joys

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Differentiation of self is like learning how to be your own person while still being part of a group, or a relationship. We’re unpacking this fancy psychological term by Bowen and applying it to dating to help you be connected with your own emotions while also being present for others. 

You’ll hear—
(15:19) What “differentiation of self” is and why Melisa thinks it’s a fun term 
(18:38) Differentiation in the context of relationships
(25:12) How to practice self-awareness in this process
(29:47) Queer joys

Connect with us over on Instagram @melisa.deseguirant and @queer_therapist_pdx

Relationships should be about developing connections, not just seeking stability. In this episode, we’re exploring the idea of being in a long-term relationship for healthy reasons, rather than relying on the other person for stability or other unfruitful reasons.

You’ll learn

• How to know when you’re at the place where you’re ready to leave
• Why it’s important to create explicit agreements and consent in your relationship
• Where to find the balance between being selfish and selfless as a partner

If this episode resonates with you, we’d love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

Keely and Melisa celebrate Pride Month by getting a little vulnerable and sharing their personal coming in and out stories. Plus, some tips on what it means to come out, and what it means to come in to yourself and your community.

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Maybe you’ve heard terms such as "narcissist", "gaslighting", and "toxic" in your own relationship, or when scrolling social media. These terms are overused and even weaponized leading to a breakdown in communication which is why we’re exploring the misuse of therapy jargon, differentiating between casual use and actual diagnostic criteria.

You’ll hear

• How certain terms, such as "narcissist," are often weaponized in relationships, leading to unproductive conflicts
• The nuances of trauma and triggers
• How to communicate boundaries without sounding like an ultimatum
• What alternative Melisa would use for “gaslighting”

We’d love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

How can we reframe "breakups" to be more constructive? Are polyamorous breakups different from monogamous ones? Is there anything we can do to ease the pain? Do we even need to ease the grief and "get over it"?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Transitions are always bittersweet. We’re reflecting on the transitions we've experienced over the course of the podcast, the changes we've faced recently, and Melisa's departure from the podcast.

You’ll hear—
(04:00) Melisa’s challenges with sharing queer content online
(07:26) Keely using ambiamory as a new label
(22:17) Melissa's farewell announcement
(24:25) Reflecting on the podcast journey
(32:16) Queer Joys

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What are the different intentions behind “finding a third”? What are some tips for unicorns looking to date? How can you create a throuple that is balanced and meets everyone’s needs? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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How do you figure out what you are interested in, and use that to find your people? Who would be your ideal person to date? Who do you wanna be friends with? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Slowing down in your relationships gives you the opportunity to make really intentional choices, with who you're connecting, how you're connecting, and what choices you're making especially during a time of pressure. In this episode, we’re exploring the dynamics of pacing and intentionality.

You’ll hear

• The importance of prioritizing self-care during this holiday season
• How pacing new relationship energy can lead to a more sustainable connection
• Why attention and curiosity can revitalize a relationship as you both grow & change

A few quick shoutouts

• Connective Therapy Collective is featured on the website, QueerPsych.com !
• For those in Portland, the new CTC building will be having a welcoming early next year, so keep an eye out for an announcement
• Melisa maintains a mysterious presence on Instagram and is available for individual therapy at therapeuticideas.com

Dating leads to marriage leads to kids. That’s how relationships move forward, right? UGH. How do we make progress in relationships outside of what we've been taught? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What do you do when someone thinks you’re something you’re not? How can we cope with being unable to control other’s view of us? Could that be impacting your relationships? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Keely and Melisa explore the complexities of how unhealed trauma from past relationships show up in present relationships. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in monogamous, polyamorous, and single queer relationships.

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Do we need to label our sexuality? Am I actually queer if I don't label myself? Isn't it enough just to vibe and love? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Are you feeling bored and wanting more from the relationship(s) you’re in? The thrill of the chase fades, routines set in, and suddenly, things feel a bit predictable? In this episode, you’ll learn ways to add that zest back into your relationships – and trust us, it's not just about spicing things up in the bedroom.

You’ll hear

• Why relationships don't always have to follow a traditional "escalator" trajectory
• The role overstimulation in modern society plays in relationship boredom
• How self-reflection and understanding the core of your boredom can pave the way for revitalizing connections

We’d love to hear what you’re doing to shake up your relationship or if you’re thinking about trying a digital detox. Write us over on Instagram or Tiktok.

We love the energy of the New Year, especially as a time for embracing new intentions and releasing old patterns. Today, we’re sharing how we can slow down to evaluate relationships, trust our intuition over societal expectations, and use the winter season for reflection and leaving behind what no longer serves us.

You’ll hear–

(11:19) Slowing down & the process of transformation.

(13:16) Rest, setting intentions, and personal growth during winter.

(21:26) Goal-setting with attunement and awareness.

(30:08) Relationship markers, grief, and New Year's “NRE”.

(34:39) Queer joys.

Let us know what intentions you have for the new year and connect with us over on Instagram.

Let’s talk about relationship counseling! We've received questions from listeners about when it's time to think about couples counseling and how to make the most out of it. So, we’re exploring the nuances of couples therapy, its challenges, and its impact on addressing relationship issues.

You’ll hear

• Why you might seek support during transitional periods
• How to get the most out of couples counseling
• When to decide it may be time to seek out relationship therapy

Be sure to check out Connective Therapy Collective’s weekly drop-in group for polyamorous folks and connect with Keely and Melisa on IG.

How do you balance personal responsibility with social responsibility? How do you grow through relationship with self? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. This week's guest is Robin Keesler.

Free self love workshop from Robin: https://mailchi.mp/7f7621ddcc32/self-love-worksheet 

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How do we stay calm and adaptable in the face of life's ups and downs, especially in our relationships? We’ve talked before about regulating your nervous system, but after you’ve taken those first steps, let’s shift the conversation to building flexibility and adaptability.

You’ll hear—
(12:46) Finding reliability and stability during times of unexpected change
(15:31) How to ground yourself to feel a sense of consistency
(21:29) Creating relationship rituals
(26:56) What to do if you struggle with change or are neurodivergent
(32:22) Queer Joys

Let us know what you thought of this episode @QueerRelationshipsQueerJoy or email us at info@connectivetherapycollective.com

What do you do when you're home alone, or you're jealous that your partner is spending time away? What do you do if you're the one pulling away? We'll explore in the moment actions as well as deep reflections about attachment styles, and finding stability in close relationships.

Hear it all on this episode QRQJ: where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What does it really mean to explore in a relationship? Do you stop exploring when you get married? Do relationship therapists ever take their own advice? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Join us for a laid back conversation with fellow queer therapist, Heather Simpson as we delve into the world of queer polyamory, platonic relationships, and modern dating.

You’ll hear about

• Fashion as a tool for queer self-expression and dopamine dressing
• Decentering romantic relationships and couples privilege
• Love is blind and polyamory in dating shows

If you’d like to learn more about Heather and her practice, you can visit www.mindfulinquirytherapy.com.

And if you’re looking for a queer, poly therapist in Portland, Oregon, or you live in California and want to do teletherapy, go to Melisa’s website, www.therapeuticideas.com.

How can you honor everyone’s needs, including your own? What is the difference between a boundary and an agreement? Can boundaries be manipulative? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Aftercare is not just for kinks. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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What do you do after breaking a relationship agreement? How can we look at sex addiction through a new lens? What’s the difference between a “healthy sexuality” and “sexual health”?

This week our guest, Doug Braun-Harvey, answers these questions and more about what’s working in queer relationships.

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Lost faith in humanity? Come, let us restore it. <3

This extra joyous Valentines Day special is a compilation of the best moments of queer joy from Melisa, Keely, and all the guests on Queer Relationships, Queer Joy.

Hear moments of connection, community, growth, love, and triumph from seasons one and two of our little podcast project.

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Ready to dive in the strategies and getting into more of the nitty-gritty with mental health & relationships? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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Everyone feels stressed and anxious from time to time, but high stress leaves an impact on your body, particularly your nervous system. Join us for an overview on understanding how to calm our nervous system and why its important for your relationship health. 

You’ll hear

(15:24) The nuances of anxiety, dysregulation, and sensations in the body

(18:59) Coregulating in relationships

(21:23) Strategies to regulate stress and strengthen the vagus nerve

(36:41) Queer joys

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What does hierarchy in relationships mean? What does it look the ideal model look like? How do you know who’s more important than who? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

Expectations might not be what you expect! In this episode we discuss how to set expectations around sharing time together, household chores, communication styles, expectations for yourself, and, of course, sex.

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If you have diagnosed mental health issues, when do you disclose that to a new partner? How much do you disclose? If you're dating someone with anxiety or depression, how can you support them and yourself at the same time?

Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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When you recognize that you’ve been harmed by a partner or caused harm, and you would like to move forward and reconnect, what does that actually look like? In this episode, we’re discussing repair and accountability, in the context of cancel culture and how what is going on in the bigger social sphere affects our relationships and us individually.

You’ll hear

• How cancel culture lacks genuine intention in repair
• Why it’s important to practice self-compassion in order to take accountability
• A callback to Dr. Jen’s framework, PEACE talks, for resolving conflict

If this episode resonates with you, we’d love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

How do you navigate a changing relationship? What if you want it to remain a flexible situation? Michelle and Paul invite us into the special relationship they have made. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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When does love addiction become pathological? What's the recipe for addressing love addiction? What's the difference between love addiction and codependency? Who are you when it is just you? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

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So you’ve learned how to meet people and start relationships, but like, now what? In this Season 4 kickoff, you’ll get a sneak peak at our focus this season of deepening and maintaining your relationships. 

You’ll hear

• How Keely has found themself in a relationship anarchy model
• Two theories on why it’s difficult to sustain queer relationships over time
• And, the lifelong dream that Keely recently fulfilled

If you want to read ahead for our interview with an author that writes about healing trauma and improving queer relationships, we’ll share the book over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

The Queer Joy Podcast; two relationship therapists exploring what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.

In this episode we talk about how to invite communication, playfulness, and openness into the bedroom.

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