Positive Parenting Pep Talks (Debbie Godfrey)

In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, you will continue to learn about the systematic approach to discipline and behavior that I use in Positive Parenting. By understanding why your child is acting up, and identifying their mistaken goal, you can then have specific ways to discipline. You will learn about how to use a tool I created called, "Dial-A-Discipline."

In this episode, I cover general pointers to keep in mind about identifying the 4 mistaken goals:

• Attention
• Power
• Revenge
• Inadequacy

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is a continuation of the conversation about creating a routine for nap time.  

Quiet time can be a great way to get through the day with less fighting and more fun times.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk is a continuation of yesterday's episode.  Today, we look at this same issue from the perspective of the step-parent.  It's not easy when there are 2 vastly different perspectives and I think that we navigate the delicate issues involved in a grace filled way.

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In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, you will learn how to give your child a useful way to be powerful to get out of a power struggle.

I created a tool called, "Dial-A-Discipline".Dial-A-Discipline is a wheel that you can use to identify and correct your child's misbehavior. The dial comes with a one hour audio (MP3 download) tutorial with your purchase.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about the temperament trait regularity.  

On one end of the continuum is a child that is predictable, and on the other end is a child that is irregular.

Learn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Learn tips and best practices different scenarios--when you and your child have similar temperament and when you have opposite (this is where many parent-child clashes occur).

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk will give you some ideas for helping your children learn about making mistakes.

Children learn how to handle their mistakes by your response to them.  Make it a good lesson!

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This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikur's book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."  

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Extracting promises should be avoided.  

It doesn't work for the result we have in mind and can even cause children to behave worse, rather than better.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

This is the first of three Positive Parenting Pep Talks regarding attachment and bonding.

Early brain development is driven by a child's early experiences.  

I'll talk about some of the things that can set up a bonding disruption.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

This Positive Parenting Pep Talk completes the ideas about redirecting the goal of revenge.

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Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk will give you several ideas for getting kids to clean up their rooms.

Room cleaning can be fun, but remember to have age appropriate expectations. 

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Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk contains a guided visualization. It would be best to listen when you are in a quiet place.

Use this PEP Talk when you need to have a fresh perspective with your child.

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk I’ll give you tips on shopping with kids. 

Shopping can be so miserable and these ideas will help you enjoy shopping with your kids.

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I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk is a great insight from a dad about keeping your relationship a priority over discipline.

It is important to discipline and teach your children well, but the everyday battles are not worth damaging our relationship.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about what to do when you and your spouse disagree.

It is more important to support each other's parenting than to parent "right".

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Learn more about using Positive Parenting to implement Natural Consequences.  

There are four circumstances where you do not want to use natural consequences.  

Learn what the exceptions are and why.

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This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikurs book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."  

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Dreikurs was the first to talk about the idea of "Address the behavior, not the child." 

This topic talks about that and the results when children don't feel liked or loved.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk, I reference the book, Children, The Challenge” by Rudolf Dreikurs. 

He talks about the anxious parents creating anxious children and how to get out of that generational cycle. 

I give an example from my own children to illustrate.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk contains 3 success stories from parents in a recent parenting class.  

Child learns self-control, mom redirects kids fighting and little boy is redirected from a meltdown.

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Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk is about why it is important to be consistent.

Being consistent with love, compassion and empathy helps you have more parental authority.

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This is the third of three Positive Parenting Pep Talk's regarding attachment and bonding.

Today's the discussion is about some of the things you can do to heal a bonding disruption.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, I’ll give you tips for responding to the mistaken goal of attention.

What is your child seeking when they keep interrupting you?

What is their behavior telling you?

How can you respond in a more effective way?

I created a tool called, "Dial-A-Discipline".Dial-A-Discipline is a wheel that you can use to identify and correct your child's misbehavior. The dial comes with a one hour audio (MP3 download) tutorial with your purchase.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about the temperament trait mood.  

On one end of the continuum is a child that is sunny, and on the other end is a child that is somber.

Learn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Learn tips and best practices different scenarios--when you and your child have similar temperament and when you have opposite (this is where many parent-child clashes occur).

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In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, I help a mom brainstorm solutions to a revenge cycle.

This mom has taken the class and been practicing Positive Parenting for a couple years, and still sometime the answers don't come right away.

We brainstorm ways to deal with discipline when the power struggle turns into revenge.

For more in depth education about how to redirect power struggles, you can take my online video class at Udemy.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast is a recording of and interview I gave many years ago on the Happier Kids Now Online Expo. I wanted to share it with you because I was able to provide so many ideas for helping you to help your kids behave better.

I mentioned the Dial-A-Discipline Wheel that you can purchase here.

I talked about Power Struggles and have an online video class you can purchase for $12.99 here.

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In this episode:

• About my back ground and how I got started
• Why do kids Misbehave?
• Kids have need they are trying to get met through their behavior.
• Spend time with kids when they’re not misbehaving.
• How do you identify misbehavior?
• A systematic approach to misbehavior in your children.
• A misbehaving child is a discouraged child.

There are 4 mistaken goals of misbehavior:

• Attention
• Power
• Revenge
• Inadequacy

Dial-A-Discipline to help identify and correct misbehavior.

• Why do kids love to power struggle with us?
• What age do they learn to power struggle with us?
• What’re the 2 best ways to teach them not to power struggle with us?
• How do you get out of a power struggle?
• Why do kids always have to get the last word in?
• What is the high level communication tool you can role model for your children?
• What happens if your child is being hurtful or hateful?
• You need to know which discipline to use on which behavior.
• What is the child who is helpless, tired or says, “I Can’t”?
• What is the first thing to do when your child is being hurtful or hateful?
• How can you understand the behavior without taking it personally?
• Mirror back to your child the impact they are having on their world.
• An example of my daughter bing in the goal of revenge and how I handled it.
• Valuable insights into the goal of revenge.
• Looking at how adults model this behavior.
• Learn to redirect a child that is whining and saying, “I can’t!”

During the last 20 minutes, Deb offers parents specific help during Q&A.

If you want more in depth information about powers struggles and the other 3 goals go to Season 1 of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast.

I this Positive Parenting Pep Talk I give you more insight into how the children cycle through these goals. 

I created a tool called, "Dial-A-Discipline".Dial-A-Discipline is a wheel that you can use to identify and correct your child's misbehavior. The dial comes with a one hour audio (MP3 download) tutorial with your purchase.

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In Positive Parenting Pep Talk I read another essay from Robert Fulghum's book, "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in kindergarten."

This story is about yelling and its effects. 

I found it helpful to remind me not to yell at my kids.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk is about saying no to your kids.

Kids need to hear no and you don't need to explain yourself!  It also helps if you take the time to consider whether you may actually want to say yes to their request.

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This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikurs book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."  

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

When parents talk too much, the kids tune out and don't listen or learn.  

It's so important to choose when to talk and choose words wisely.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk contains three success stories.

Fighting in the car, fighting over coming to the dinner table and hurting mom, all with creative solutions.

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Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk explains about writing notes to your children.

This is a great way to enhance the communication between you and your child(ren).

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about one idea for getting out of a power struggle with your child.

This idea corrects the misbehavior and at the same time builds your child's self-esteem.  When a child has more self-esteem, he or she will power struggle with you less.

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In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, you will learn how to use loving guidance to get out of a power struggle.

I created a tool called, "Dial-A-Discipline".Dial-A-Discipline is a wheel that you can use to identify and correct your child's misbehavior. The dial comes with a one hour audio (MP3 download) tutorial with your purchase.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk gives you the format for using an "I" message.

I feel________when you________________________ because____________________________I would like_____________________________________.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about the temperament trait Frustration reaction.  

On one end of the continuum is a child that has a persistent reaction to frustration, and on the other end is a child that is easily discouraged or frustrated.

Learn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Learn tips and best practices different scenarios--when you and your child have similar temperament and when you have opposite (this is where many parent-child clashes occur).

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Follow me on InstagramLearn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk contains information about setting your intention to get results.

So many times, we make a plan for how to handle future misbehavior, and then our child never does that behavior again.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk I share an example of a logical consequence.

This is an example of how we generated a logical consequence when Michael was name-calling.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

This Positive Parenting PEP Talk is and idea for how to handle chores and allowances.  

This is one philosophy for dealing with chores and allowances in a way that creates a sense of belonging and minimizes power struggles.

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Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk is about helping kids be successful by giving them clear directions.

We often assume they understand what we want, but they probably don't!  This pep talk will give you suggestions for making sure you are clear and specific.

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What is your family's mission?  

This Positive Parenting Pep Talk will help you learn to figure out your family mission.  

This idea will help your family feel more close and connected.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about responding in an obvious way.

So often we make parenting more complicated than it needs to be.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about the temperament trait Approach to new things.  

On one end of the continuum is a child that has high approach to new things, and on the other end is a child that has a cautious approach to new things.

Learn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Learn tips and best practices different scenarios--when you and your child have similar temperament and when you have opposite (this is where many parent-child clashes occur).

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is part one of four on dealing with temper tantrums.

There are 7 reason whys kids tantrum, today I'll tell you about the first 3, fatigue, hunger, and illness.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

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You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk, I'll talk about ways to help kids resolve conflict.

Whether you have kids that are fighting or an only child, you can use these ideas whenever there is conflict between your child and another.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk you will learn more about the goal of inadequacy. This is the goal where the child is whining, giving up or saying, “I can’t!”

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about natural consequences.  

Why should a parent use natural consequences?  

What are the three guidelines in order for natural consequences to work effectively?  

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk will give you some ideas for how to identify when your child is in the goal of inadequacy.

I created a tool called, "Dial-A-Discipline". Dial-A-Discipline is a wheel that you can use to identify the 4 goals and correct your child's misbehavior. The dial comes with a one hour audio (MP3 download) tutorial with your purchase.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk explains the difference between autocratic and democratic parenting.

When you understand the long range out come of different parenting styles, it helps make decision about how you would like to parent your children.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk contains ideas for encouraging your kids.

Praising can often lead children to be “externally motivated" rather than "internally motivated".  

These ideas will help create internally motivated children.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is part three of three on understanding and dealing with kids fighting.

Kids fighting can often drive parents crazy. This series offers suggestions on getting through the conflict more effectively.

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This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikur's book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Today's is part five of five on the discussion about the dangers of spoiling a child.

I love the way this information is still so relevant today!

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is a reminder to continue to do GEMS with your child every day.

A genuine encounter moment is when you give your child 100% attention and see the world through their eyes.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

On today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk Podcast, you will learn to create logical consequences when your child does not keep the screen time agreement.

Please go follow me on instagram, @positiveparentingdebbie and leave me your comments about screen time.

Share solutions that have worked for you, questions you have, and anything else you think will help this conversation be the most useful for parents.

If you found these ideas helpful and would like more, please visit my website and learn more about Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Please follow me on Instagram or Facebook and leave your comments and suggestions about these ideas.

Thank you for your interest in Positive Parenting.

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In this episode of Positive Parenting Pep Talks, a mom shares her frustration with her three year old having melt-downs.  We talk about the causes of the escalation and the various points where an intervention could work to prevent the full blown tantrum.  Other parents chime in with helpful suggestions.

If you found these ideas helpful and would like more, please visit my website and learn more about Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Please follow me on Instagram or Facebook and leave your comments and suggestions about these ideas.

Thank you for your interest in Positive Parenting.

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Today's Positive Parenting PEP Talk concerns discouraging messages we can send our children.

I give a couple of examples of phrases we use often that can discourage kids and how to say them in an encouraging way instead.

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In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, a mom shares her concern about not spanking for an important discipline challenge. I found our conversation to be fascinating and enlightening as this mom processed her reasons for spanking and then looked at alternatives to get a better result.

If you found these ideas helpful and would like more, please visit my website and learn more about Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Please follow me on Instagram or Facebook and leave your comments and suggestions about these ideas.

Thank you for your interest in Positive Parenting.

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Don't ever give up!

Keep yourself encouraged.

Deb gives you ideas to evaluate yourself in a reasonable way.

And what to do when you are critical of yourself.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk continues with ideas about redirecting the goal of revenge.

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is an introduction to your child's inborn temperament.  Both you and your child fall somewhere on a continuum in each of the temperament traits.  In this episode, I distinguish personality and temperament.

The next eight Positive Parenting Pep Talks, will explain each trait and how your child may behave. You will then be given examples of what happens when you both are the same end of the continuum and when you are on opposite sides of the continuum.  Where is your child's temperament on this continuum? Where is yours?

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about teaching your kids to set boundaries.   

It is important for your kids to comply with authority (yours!), but it is also important that they can say no to an authority if it's necessary.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about the temperament trait Adaptability.  

On one end of the continuum is a child that has high adaptability, and on the other end is a child that has low adaptability.

Learn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well. 

Learn tips and best practices different scenarios--when you and your child have similar temperament and when you have opposite (this is where many parent-child clashes occur).

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk a dad talks about his process for learning to parent differently.  Slow and consistent progress can be made with diligent effort and application.  Communication is so important for all our relationships.

If you found these ideas helpful and would like more, please visit my website and learn more about Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Please follow me on Instagram or Facebook and leave your comments and suggestions about these ideas.

Thank you for your interest in Positive Parenting.

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk, you will learn key ideas to set you and your children up for a successful morning routine.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk offers you some ideas of what to do instead of yelling.

Yelling discourages kids and makes us feel bad.  

Today is a good day to try something different.

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk you will learn ways to avoid battles over food.

Finding ways to avoid food battles is important so that we don't contribute to creating eating disorders in our kids.

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For today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk I share some experiences I had with a friend's kids on a drive to Malibu.

Sometimes it can help to see your child through the eyes of another, to get out of the routine thinking that leads to stress and frustration.

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This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikur's book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."  

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Today's is part three of five on the discussion about the dangers of spoiling a child.  I love the way this information is still so relevant today!

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In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, I help a mom brainstorm solutions to a power struggle.

This mom has taken the class and been practicing Positive Parenting for a couple years, and still sometime the answers don't come right away.

We brainstorm ways to more firmly handle power struggles when the talking, negotiating and flexibility aren't working.

For more in depth education about how to redirect power struggles, you can take my online video class at Udemy.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk will encourage you to have faith in your kids and just how capable they are.  

Allow your children to amaze you with how brilliant they are!

The way in which you handle discipline situations now will set the tone for later when they are teenagers and the issues become more serious.

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In today's Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast, 2 parents share their success stories from the class. The first is a dad who is doing his best to maintain his progress with the class on not fall back into old habits. The second is a mom that came up with an I-message and logical consequence when her 5 year old forgets to use the washroom and has an accident.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is the third of four dealing with different types of parenting styles.

If you are this style, what are your assets?  What are your liabilities?  Most important, what are the things you can practice to be a more effective parent.

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A couple discusses the way they can handle conflicts with the children.  Sometimes one parent can be a mediator and sometimes it’s better to simply support the other parent’s efforts.

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk, a mom asks about motivating her child with bribes. We discuss the downfall of using rewards or brining, and also the appropriate time and manner in which to use rewards. We also discuss a tool to change a stressful time of day.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk describes you can use Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs to provide the appropriate discipline for your children.. A child must get their survival needs met before they can move up the hierarchy and interaction in a socially appropriate manner.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is part two of three on understanding and dealing with kids fighting.

Kids fighting can often drive parents crazy. This series offers suggestions on getting through the conflict more effectively.

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Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMS) are perhaps the most important parenting tool you can learn.  In today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk, you will learn that they were first discussed, in a book called "Your Child's Self-esteem" by Dorothy Briggs.  You will learn how to do a GEMS and how often.

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Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

This Positive Parenting Pep Talk will give you my suggestions for what to do instead of rewards.

What can you say instead of, "If you do this, you'll get that"?

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about seeing the situation from your child's perspective.

Kids have so little say in their life and decisions.  Learn to be compassionate about their perspective.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk has some thoughts for teaching your child the value of earning.

If you want your child to have a "prosperity consciousness" rather than a "lack consciousness", these ideas can assist.

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk, we'll look briefly at why kids fight.

Then I describe some of the thing we do that contribute to making the fighting worse.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk offers ideas giving yourself energy when you feel you have nothing left.

Sometimes it just isn't possible to get someone else to take over and we have to be able to keep ourselves together so we don't lose it with our kids.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about the temperament trait Intensity of emotions.  

On one end of the continuum is a child that mellow, and on the other end is a child that is dramatic.

Learn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Learn tips and best practices different scenarios--when you and your child have similar temperament and when you have opposite (this is where many parent-child clashes occur).

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Follow me on InstagramLearn the clues to look for to figure out where your child is on the continuum, and where you are as well.

Learn more pointers about identifying the 4 mistaken goals, and why you need to use your feelings rather than their misbehavior.

I created a tool called, "Dial-A-Discipline".Dial-A-Discipline is a wheel that you can use to identify and correct your child's misbehavior. The dial comes with a one hour audio (MP3 download) tutorial with your purchase.

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In February, I recorded a Positive Parenting Pep Talk about changing our discouraging messages.  I've included the link here to review.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is a continuation of that topic.  

Are you tired of telling your kids to “hurry up?” Have you ever told your kids to, “Stop whining?” 

You don’t want to miss this Pep Talk today.

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In this Positive Parenting Pep Talk, I help a mom get her kids to listen better.

If you found these ideas helpful and would like more, please visit my website and learn more about Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

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Thank you for your interest in Positive Parenting.

This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikur's book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."  

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Today's is part one of five on the discussion about the dangers of spoiling a child.  

I love the way this information is still so relevant today!

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

You can also Follow me on Instagram and share your favorite episodes and don’t forget to tag me!

Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

The best way to prevent your kids from getting off track is to create a strong sense of belonging in your family.  

Family work is one idea for doing just that.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk contains a new philosophy for disciplining your child.

In the past, we disciplined kids and then told them we loved them.  Let's do it in reverse!

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk encourages you to take care of your needs as a democratic parent.

Taking care of your needs as opposed to sacrificing is one of the best ways to role model a democratic ideal.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is part three of four on dealing with temper tantrums.

Today I talk about the tantrums that come from a child feeling powerless.

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This Positive Parenting Pep Talk continues with ideas about redirecting the goal of revenge.

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This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks from Dreikur's book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Nagging and fault finding rarely held the child.

They will usually tune us out and won't learn from the natural consequences of their behavior.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

For today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk I share a couple of success stories from class.

One is from a mom that redirected the goal of inadequacy.  

The other success story is from a mom working on getting her daughter to mow the lawn.

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Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

In this episode of the Positive Parenting Pep Talks Podcast, you will learn about the systematic approach to discipline and behavior that I use in Positive Parenting. By understanding why your child is acting up, and identifying their mistaken goal, you can then have specific ways to discipline. You will learn about how to use a tool I created called, "Dial-A-Discipline."

In this episode, I have my friend, Stephanie, demonstrate each of the four goals by being my mother when I won't pick up my toys. In this way, you can experience the situation that most resonates with what your child does in similar circumstances.

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Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk dealing with understanding and handling ambivalence.

This behavior can drive parents crazy until understanding what is happening and how to manage it.

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What did it mean if your parents said there was a family meeting?  

Usually it meant someone was in trouble.  

Learn the Positive Parenting way to implement family meetings to create a closer family bond.

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Do you want your kids to contribute and be generous? 

In the Positive Parenting Pep Talk today, you will learn ideas to inspire them to make a contribution.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

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You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today’s Positive Parenting Pep Talk is about appreciating your child. 

So much focus is spent on outside distractions and influences. 

One way to keep a strong relationship and connection over time is to love and appreciate your child right where they are.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

This is the next in a series of Positive Parenting Pep Talks inspired by Dreikur's book, "The Challenge of Parenthood."  

In this series, I am using ideas from the book, written in 1948, and putting a modern day perspective to the topic.

Parents that are over cautious or anxious rob their children of the opportunity to learn responsibility and respect for things that are harmful and dangerous.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

You can also join Self-Directed and facilitated Positive Parenting classes.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk is part two of four on dealing with temper tantrums.

Today I talk about the tantrums that come from hypersensitivity.

Thank you for listening and subscribing to the Positive Parenting Pep Talks podcast.

I would deeply  appreciate your support by leaving us a review today.

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Do you need one on one coaching? Deb is available! Read more about purchasing a coaching session here and you can schedule a call with me now. I have time available in the evening and weekends for busy parents.

Visit our website, PositiveParenting.com to discover more great ideas for disciplining your children without breaking their spirit.

Today's Positive Parenting Pep Talk conveys the idea of creating an emotional bank account between you and your child.  

When you have a full bank account, the kids are more patient and better behaved.  If that bank account is empty, kids may have meltdowns.

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