The inaugural episode of Poly Pocket Podcast. We discuss who we are, answer some questions, talk about what we know (or think we know) about Pegasus and threaten to start a number of additional podcasts. Hope you enjoy!

Note: This is a test episode and the quality between segments varies more than we'd like. We'll work on making it better but welcome any feedback you have for us.

In this episode we answer some (more) questions and talk about how we became polyamorous. 

Completely sabotaging our planned episode to talk about the best sex we've ever had and why it keeps getting better.

A journey into how we got better at communicating and learnt from our mistakes and a shout out to @Polyphiliablog for her excellent support of the community.

Note on audio quality: We've bought a new microphone and still tinkering with the set up so apologies for any distortion or blow outs you hear.

In this weeks episode we talk about Texan Tom, why soft swaps rule, our first social meet and chew over what the term Vanilla really means:

Medium Link: here
Hormone Hub: here

This week we’ll do a quick roundup in our personal journey (and Butcher’s foreign fetish perhaps). 
We then have the first in our ‘Communication Series’ which will go into more detail on the key lessons we’ve learnt over the past 2 years. 
We’ll also do our regular media review and wrap up with what’s in Butchers pocket this week. Given the temperature she’s been wearing bikinis so her pockets are probably non-existent. 

Lets find out. 

H & B x

Special guest auntie 'Bunny' joins us on holiday in Wales to talk about how we got here, why getting the front seat is special and why Butchers knickers flooded this week.

What happens when you send your introverted husband to a fetish club with your extrovert girlfriend! Fun, chaos and a few lessons to be learnt.

Also, we establish Butchers and Hunters genders. Absolutely shocking! 😂

Our last episode recorded from the valleys of Southern Wales. This week we summarise our week away, we talk about hierarchies in relationships and we have a very special transatlantic guest. We also ramble about Eyes Wide Shut in our media review. 

Hello dear listener.... This week we talk about a busy week of fun with Mr French Fancy, Legs and we have an anniversary with Bunny.

We try, with moderate success, to unpick the difference between ENM and CNM.

We also, controversially, discuss what happens when your sex toy becomes sentient.

References
Indian matrilineal society
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matrilineal_society_of_Meghalaya

Westworld
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Westworld
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Westworld_(film)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Westworld_(TV_series)

ENM vs. CNM
https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/comments/pdn2j3/call_it_enm_or_cnm/

This week we go back and review the time we went to Torture Garden together. It feels like so long ago but we’ve learnt a lot since then and trust each other so much more. We are on a journey together and we’ve come to accept that we will make mistakes but also that we can learn and grow as a result.

 We hope you find it interesting.

Torture Garden blog - ‘Permission Please”

https://www.torturegarden.com/permission-please/

Kitchen Table Polyamory

https://feeld.co/blog/feeld-guides/what-is-kitchen-table-polyamory

Sooo... You want to run a sex party. Let us tell you about the time we went to one and it was a disaster (FYI - Not hosted by us!). Somebody sold the dream but delivered a dodgy nightmare.

Keep up to date here - https://linktr.ee/polypocketpodcast

Media Review - Enthusiastic Consent

https://www.killingkittens.com/blog/what-is-enthusiastic-consent/

What’s in your pocket? Garden Party Polyamory

https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamory-glossary

Garden Party Polyamory:  The middle ground between kitchen table and parallel polyamory; sometimes used for the polycule with a bit of everything, and sometimes used for folks who see each other at large events a few times a year.

So after last weeks episode where we pick apart how NOT to run a sex party, this week we thought we'd talk about our recent trip to Hedonism in London which is, in our opinion, how TO run a sex party.

Parties
Killing Kittens - https://app.killingkittens.com/home

Media Review
Sex Education - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7767422/
https://www.netflix.com/

What's in your pocket?
Parellel polyamory - https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamory-glossary

This week Butcher gets a massage, I eat a burger and we both have that little happy jolt of compersion where you realise how happy you are that your person is happy. We also discuss what happens when your partner falls in love with someone else and what we did when it happened to us.

Media Review - BBC - Bisexuality is the largest sexual minority. New report

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-63121245

What’s in your pocket?

Cowboy/Cowgirl: The gendered names for someone who acts polyamorous and then after forming a relationship, tries to remove their partner from the polycule to be monogamous with them. so called because they are "roping one off from the herd." Some folks online use Cowpoke as a gender neutral for this, although I haven't yet heard that used outside of an educational context.

This week…. Nothing. Nothing happened. Unless you count a wonderful weekend away on the coast with ‘the ones that got away’ (Mr & Mrs Gotaway). 

We discuss the all consuming first few months of ‘the lifestyle’ and what to watch out for at the various stages.

Media Review - 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/ChXYHl5FXU-/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=

What’s in your pocket? 

https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamory-glossary

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Relationships: A relationship in which a (usually formerly monogamous, usually hierarchical and primary) couple choose to allow each other to see other people but don’t want information on their metamours or what their partner does with them. Sometimes there is a clause included for basic sexual risk/safety information to be shared. The most extreme form of parallel polyamory. 

As an established, married couple we operate through the poly and CNM world in a particular way. You assume because the people you're engaging with are also open/poly that you would all naturally land on the same page... this just isn't the case. Like within anything in life experience dictates your view point and you have to work hard to bridge the gaps in this to help one another understand why you're 'operating' as you are!
We've had this title prepared for weeks but weren't sure how to best approach it until a couple of days before our recent break with Bunny we hit on the idea of properly interviewing her to try and help couples who are dating others to understand how they may view you and why.
This is our longest episode to date but there's a lot of great content (we think) but also we feel it was valid to keep it in.
Sorry in advance for the poor sound quality - there isn't a filter on air bnb for 'Podcast Acoustics'...

Media Review - 

Ask me about Polyamory

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ask-Me-About-Polyamory-Cuddles/dp/099646011X

What’s in your pocket?

Bustle

https://www.bustle.com/wellness/poly-relationship-terms-metamour-nesting-partner

This was meant to be a quick episode but it turns out it had legs! Sorry.

We're two and a bit years into our journey and it's fair to say that we've both made mistakes. This means we've learnt a lot and developed our 'rules' to stop us from remaking mistakes again. We kept meaning to write them down but we kept adding and changing them so we never got around to it. 

This week we ask, before you decide to do it, should you? Is it right for you? 

We also catch you up on dog walking in Winchester, being an Ethical Slut and the risks of googling in Butchers pocket.

Hope you enjoy 

Hunter

We finally did our homework!!

We've written out 12 rules for (our) polyamory and in this episode we will walk through rules 1 to 4. 

Rules 1 to 4

1. Always be open and honest
   1. Tell the other person as much as THEY want to hear
   2. Don’t hide, avoid or obfuscate, even if it might hurt the other person. But don’t be mean about it
2.  Safety first
   1. Condoms (Protect)
   2. Testing (Prevent)
   3. Fluid partners (Risk)
3. Trust yourself more than you trust others
   1. Never rely on a 3rd party to convey information
   2. What others want may not align with what you want
4. Enthusiastic consent
   1. Know what you want
   2. Know what your partner/s want
   3. Make sure both sides know 

Media review

When Did Calling Yourself Polyamorous Become An Excuse For Terrible Behaviour?

https://www.vogue.co.uk/arts-and-lifestyle/article/polyamory

Pocket

Reindeer penis - https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/mum-people-stitches-brazen-message-28350193

Hunter is ill this week so, finally, the real talent is driving todays show.

Following on from last weeks review of an article in Vogue, we have a more in depth chat about whether calling yourself Polyamorous is a valid excuse for being a bit of a twat (spoiler alert: Its not). 

We also learn what an OPP is and we find out if Butcher is on-board (spoiler alert: she's not).

Anyway, the joy is in the journey so join us on this more pocket sized edition of Poly Pocket Podcast

Hunter & Butcher x

A shorter than normal episode as we're both sleep deprived. not for good or exciting reasons but because we have a poorly child.

We cover, briefly, our week in poly and have a combined (and time efficient) 'What's in Your Media Pocket Review'.

What’s in my Media Review Pocket
Sexual Currency
Sexual currency can be defined as anything that's not “sex”, but you would only do with a partner. It might look like a five-second lingering kiss rather than a peck on the cheek, a suggestive glance, a compliment, an unexpected touch as you pass each other in the kitchen.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ck3J0jnAVAi/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Dr Karen Gurney she/her
Clinical Psychologist translating sex science + therapy to futureproof your sex life. 📖Author of MindTheGap. 2x TED❌ speaker. 🌈Psych @ #transplus

linktr.ee/thesexdoctor

Sometimes we just need a way of agreeing how we approach polyamory with out partner or partners. This week we go over how we did it and talk about rules 5 to 8 in our contractual obligation series. 

These are OUR rules, not THE rules and everyone needs to bring their needs and concerns to the conversation.

We also review our week in Poly (hint: it's all about Hunter this week) but skip the media review and whatever is in Butchers pocket so we don't overstay our welcome in your ears 🤔

Thanks for listening and remember you can give us feedback either via your Podcast app of choice or at poly_pocket_show on Instagram.

Ciao x

Hunter & Butcher

Sometimes you just need a cuddle.

Once you or your partner return from having fun, it might be a good idea to reconnect with them to ensure you're both ok and no issues, gaps or questions, unanswered or otherwise, are on anyones mind. Reconnection can be physical, emotional, sexual and possibly just spending time together. In this episode, we talk about what it means for us.

Media Review
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2022/nov/19/polyamory-penthouses-and-plenty-of-loans-inside-the-crazy-world-of-ftx

What's in your pocket?
New polyamory flag - https://www.polyamproud.com/flag

It's nearly Christmas here at PPP headquarters and we're keeping a list. Not to see who's naughty or nice (you're here so you've self selected already 😈). No, we are keeping a list of our play partners so we can get in touch just in case we need to get in touch following an STI test result. 

It's a wild episode which starts with bingo and ends with homosexuality in Iran 🤷🏻‍♂️. 

Hope you enjoy 

H & B x

Despite the World Cup we have a soft spot for France so we decided to interview a Frenchman. Specifically, Mr French Fancy!

How did he get into the lifestyle, where is he from, what's he been up to etc etc (if you listen carefully you can hear Butcher blush a few times).

Media Review
People who use emoji have more sex
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201908/people-who-use-more-emojis-have-more-sex-and-get-more-dates

What's in my pocket
Pay Pig
https://www.businessinsider.com/side-hustle-with-a-difference-women-making-thousands-from-pay-pigs-2022-7?r=US&IR=T

What's more seasonal than talking about pegging? Has Christmas made your hole weak or your whole weak? We're here for puns about butt stuff!

We also have our week in Poly and Hunter has another swipe at the media for lazy journalism about Polyamorism.

Merry Christmas to your family, your polycule and you. 

Stay tuned for our pre and post Killing Kittens New Years ball and Country Mansion episodes. For those attending please start thinking of your nicknames now 🤣

In this episode we review our year in Poly, joke about Hunters knob and Butcher has an existential crisis over whether she's been very good or very bad this year. We also do our pre-party-prep for the Killing Kittens New Years Ball (and talk about the very special group we've somehow been smuggled in to!)

A belated Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you, your polycule and your nearest and dearest!

See you in 2023 x

Hunter & Butcher

We went to the KK NY ball and had an extraordinary evening and to help us piece it together we did a quick interview with Bunny on New Years Eve.

This week we are knuckling down and preparing for another KK party this coming weekend. Yes, its Country Mansion but this time, we are not going with each other 🙀

Media review

Giving swingers the cold shoulder causes them psychological distress - Telegraph - https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2022/12/19/giving-swingers-cold-shoulder-causes-psychological-distress/

Research Paper - https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/01461672221139086

What’s in my Pocket?

Air tight  (Thanks Legs 😘)

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=airtight

Wow! A lot to unpack this week as we recover from Country Mansion. Lots to talk about so a slightly longer than usual episode. 

We talk about our week in poly, the run up to the party itself, what worked and what didn't work for us. 

We met some great people and really appreciate your support. 

Thanks

Hunter & Butcher x

Hunter has a polywobble and Butcher pulls him back with some help from Carol Vorderman!

As always, we have an "interesting chat" about the pros and cons of living the poly life.

What's in my pocket
Polywobbles
https://www.gordonmclean.co.uk/2014/09/01/polywobbles/

Media review
Carol vorderman - https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-11657773/Carol-Vorderman-reveals-five-special-friends-long-term-explains-lifestyle.html
And her 5 ‘special friends’

This week we will be finishing off the Contractual Obligation series with rules 9 to 12

Media Review
I just think that being CNM would be easier… 

https://youtube.com/shorts/fkljC3jG9eM?feature=share
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Scott_(criminal)

What’s in your pocket?
Queening - https://www.allure.com/story/sex-acts-defined

This weeks see's us walk around a difficult week for Butcher and who you can talk to about it without overloading your other partner/s.

Media Review
Find my website here: www.crystalwelch.com
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6vqcw9akoRM83WFkQlpwPa

What's in my pocket
Friends with benefits: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=friends%20with%20benefits
(more on this next week)

For the record, 1.2% of our listeners are in Wales!  You'll have to listen to get that one ;)

This week we travel, vicariously, to France (not Wales) and discuss what friends with benefits means. Whether it's Poly and then get into Butchers love of Hate labels apparently.

Media Review
https://heatworld.com/celebrity/news/una-healy-throuple/
Una Healy throuple (and the negative coverage in the media!)

What's in my pocket
Meaningful Connection to yourself @theloving.guide on IG

This week we discuss whether the goal of Polyamory is to create a 'perfect' relationship in composite across multiple partners or if it's finding multiple versions of the thing that you like. Or something else entirely.

What’s in your pocket

Polyphiliablog - Leanne Yau 

https://www.instagram.com/p/Co0CJ33IdxK/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

“Friendly reminder that it's okay to leave a polyamorous relationship. I find that a lot of non-monogamous people put pressure on themselves to stay to prove to others that polyamory works, and as someone who has been there: don't. Your happiness and safety is more important.

Polyamory is not cobbling multiple mediocre partners together to make one perfect relationship, or using other partners as a band-aid to cover a dysfunctional relationship. Different partners meet different needs, but there should be a core set of needs met in every connection.”

Media review 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-tyne-64678612

Roman wooden dildo!

This week we chew over whether you can be successful in a polyamorous relationship if you're "naturally jealous".

And Butcher gets very very embarrassed! 🤣

Media Review
'The worlds shitest media review' - Butcher

What's in your pocket
DTR - Define the Relationship

Hello dear listener! 

This week we talk about the promise of endless sex and whether that is the reason some people become Poly (and then bail when they realise how much work is involved 😅). 

What do you think though? What drew you to the Poly world? Let us know at poly_pocket_show on Instagram or Butcher@polypocketpodcast.com

Thanks 

H & B x

This week we review the TV show Sex Actually with Alice Levine where she meets and interviews members of the poly community with mixed results. 

We also have our week in poly but we got so into detail we skipped the media review and discovering what's in Butchers pocket has been put back a week.

As always, we love to hear from you so if you have thoughts, feedback, feelings, please message us at hunter@polypocketpodcast.com, butcher@polypocketpodcast.com or via Instagram at Poly_Pocket_Show.

Ciao

Hunter & Butcher

This week we have an interview with our non-poly friend 'Lion' to get an outsiders view of us, the lifestyle and using a podcast to advertise yourself to all the bi-men our there...

(All his views are his own... honestly!) 😇

We also spend more time reviewing Heat magazines coverage of Una Healy and we discuss the wonderful PR team 'Fury Horn'! 😆

H & B x

Do you know who loves a birthday? Butcher! Butcher loves a birthday more than anyone else we know so when she says she wants to have her own personal s*x party in a house in the country, thats what she gets!

I'm sure we talk about other stuff too but this episode is mostly about Birthday Mansion :)

Butcher and Hunter have a 'Business Meeting' and discovery the joys of ditching Teams and having a more hands on approach.

We also start to talk about how seeking sex can be a trauma response (but we need to give it more time so you can do some homework by reading this... )
https://www.instagram.com/the_hormone_hub/?hl=en

We booked our 'meeting' room via Day Use and it gives you options to meet people when it's not nighttime.
https://www.dayuse.co.uk/

Note: This weeks episode touches on the subject of sexual abuse.

This week we have an extended media review following an article from our friends at The Hormone Hub about how a high sex drive can actually be a trauma response and not necessarily a display of sexual empowerment.

Hope you find it interesting and if you are affected by this episode we're happy to support you and if you feel you need professional help we can highly recommend Holly at the The Hormone Hub.

Thanks

Hunter & Butcher x

Bonjour! Apparently we have a busy life between running, football, work, parties, partners, work and spending time with each other raising a family and trying to keep two little people alive and thriving! I'd agree. You wanted to know how we fit it all in and so we spend some time rambling about how we do all that.

We also have a pocket/media review from Butcher and todays background music is provided by French karaoke coming from a nearby bar.

Au revoir 

Hunter & Butcher

Bonus for you lucky listeners! We were lucky enough to have been invited to present at one of WeAreX's Live Conversation series where we got to talk about how to meet people as a couple and then answered some questions from the (dear) listener!

If you were listening live, a massive thank you from both us and the WeAreX team. 

If you missed out, now's your chance!

We'll be back to our usual schedule next Monday at 9am UK time.

Ciao

Hunter & Butcher x

This week we talk about our return to Torture Garden for their 33rd birthday party (I went back and checked).

We also have our Poly Filler, Media Review and Whats in Butchers Pocket.

Pineapple Story

Lessons in Chemistry

Shout out to Florence (the saddest balloon in the world 😥)

H & B x

This week we talk about why people don't bother reading peoples profile before sending a 'like'. Hunter desperately wants to know if there is a good reason for this. If so you can reach him at hunter@polypocketpodcast.com and you can reach us on Instagram at Poly_Pocket_Show.

Hot Dog Tinder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOA75NAoN6Q

MindGeek
https://fortune.com/2023/03/23/who-owns-pornhub-mindgeek-ethical-capital-canadian-private-equity-acquisition/

Porn Internet Traffic
https://www.forbes.com/sites/julieruvolo/2011/09/07/how-much-of-the-internet-is-actually-for-porn/?sh=fb899fe5d169

Hunter has a man date with Mr High-5 to talk about how he got into the lifestyle, Butcher has, improbably, blue balls and Gwyneth talks about sex with her ex!

All that and more on this weeks Poly Pocket Podcast.

Sad news this week as we talk about the difficulties of break ups in the Poly world and dive into why this is relevant to us this week.

Media Review

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cr_cHvssWGu/

Being a parent is a time of really low sexual satisfaction for many people. It's really important to state because people can end up feeling as though there's something unique to them or unique to the sexual relationships they find themselves in which is problematic. We know it's a period of low sexual satisfaction and there are a ton of reasons for that, time available, increased stress, increased mental load ….. decrease in relationship satisfaction. The bottom line is parenthood is associated with lower sexual satisfaction, but know that there is hope at the end of the tunnel.

This week we chat about the recent social event we attended with a load of other names from the scene. 

Media Review:

Holidays with my husband got easier — when we invited our boyfriend

https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/holidays-with-my-husband-got-easier-when-we-invited-our-boyfriend-9csfn9czk

Riddle: A father and son were in a car accident where the father was killed. The ambulance brought the son to the hospital. He needed immediate surgery. In the operating room, a doctor came in and looked at the little boy and said I can't operate on him he is my son. Who is the doctor?

Whats in my pocket?
Motivational Quotes (part 1 of many)

"I think you have to live through what love is not before you can truly appreciate what love is" - Dante Paladino

So we completely ran out of time to record and edit so we apologise for the rougher than usual episode this week.

We talk about Hunter's acne teen years and Butcher's over feeding grandparents. We also incorporate succulents, optimised running weight and why body confidence is usually you gaslighting yourself!

We ditch, as a matter of expediency, media review and Butchers pocket contents.

The Obstacle is the Way - Ryan Holiday
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Obstacle-Way-Timeless-Turning-Triumph/dp/1591846358

Ever wondered how to prepare for a s*x party? Join us this week on the Poly Pocket podcast as we reveal our personal pre-party rituals  (hint: sushi is a must, but overindulging is not).

Discover the importance of dressing the part for such an event, from the right lingerie to the mandatory masks, and get our top tips on making your mask-wearing experience comfortable and enjoyable. And of course, we'll discuss our strategies for managing sexual health at s*x parties. 

Finally, we share our experiences with Gollum, Butcher's trusty strap-on, and provide a freephone number to book a slot (joke!)

So grab your headphones, get comfortable, and join us for a fun and insightful episode packed with practical advice, you won't want to miss it!

Keep us and your protection, in your pocket amigo's!

Have you ever felt the weight of expectations in the bedroom, especially in polyamorous and s*x parties? This week, we share Hunter's intimate experiences with performance pressure and vulnerability, along with some lighthearted stories that will (might) make you chuckle.

Ted Lasso

Join us as we spill the tea on our experience at the lavish KK Summer Ball and the unforgettable polyamorous date we had with one of our podcast listeners. We share our insights on the importance of getting to know people first, and how this approach can result in deeper, more meaningful connections.

In this episode, we take you through our entire KK Summer Ball journey - from the exciting pre-party chat group to the glamorous white(ish) themed outfits and the sexy venue itself. Plus, we'll share some reflections on our past experiences at parties and meeting new people, and how these have shaped our outlook on forming new relationships.

Lastly, we celebrate our nearly one-year podcast anniversary and express our heartfelt gratitude to all of our listeners. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey, and we look forward to continuing to bring you fresh content every Monday morning.

The Challengers Trailer

Midsommar

Pop the champagne and celebrate with us as we reminisce, learn, and dream about the future of the Poly pPocket Podcast. We're your hosts, Hunter and Butcher, and we're taking a look back at a year of dynamic discussions on polyamory, relationships, and everything in between. We've navigated the complexities of love languages, sex parties, mental and physical connections, as well as emotions like jealousy and FOMO. Our journey has allowed us to form new connections and friendships, redefine our perspectives, and contribute meaningfully to the normalisation of polyamory.

Looking ahead, we're excited about bringing more voices into the conversation. We hope to host external professionals, expand our topics, and keep breaking down barriers around polyamory. We're eager to share this journey with you, and we're committed to making every episode a learning experience. So, come along with us as we venture into the next 52 episodes, continue to explore, learn, and grow in the world of polyamory. We're just getting started!

Ever wondered how society's binary thinking and 'bisexual ignorance' impacts those of us with fluid sexual orientations? We delve into Butcher's personal experiences of bi-ignorance, societal pressures, and how they have shaped how she operates within middle-class UK. We highlight the importance of safe spaces for discussion, breaking the shackles of binary thinking and fully embracing the spectrum of our experiences. It's not just about bisexuality, we also touch-on the fascinating world of hot-wifing and the subtle differences from cuckolding in our combined media review and what's in Butcher's pocket.

This episode is an exploration of healing and personal growth. We discuss how stoicism can help manage emotions and the importance of achieving a state of equanimity. We also reflect on recognising patterns in relationships and making active choices, reminding you that only you have the power to control your thoughts and emotions. We even touch on the healing power of shared projects, from building a veggie patch to navigating the challenges of parenthood.

Our conversation takes a bold turn as we tackle sexual orientations and queer identity. We attempt (and fail) to build a comprehensive comparison between terms like heterosexual, bi-selective, heteroflexible, bisexual, gay, lesbian, and the broader term 'queer'. 

So, tune in and join us on this unique journey of self-discovery and growth!

This week we're talking about to how adjust boundaries as you're polyamorous relationships develop and how the need to accept change is central to an anchor partnership.

We've all heard that communication is key, but in a polyamorous setup, it's not just essential, it's survival. We dive headfirst, no pun intended, into the complexities of our poly lifestyle, discussing everything from solo dates and threesome dynamics to adventurous anal escapades. Ever found yourself contemplating a gang bang, or negotiating boundaries in a challenging situation? We've got you covered. We explore our perspectives, experiences, and even our fears, all in an open, honest and often humorous conversation.

As we wrap up, we delve into the importance of trust and protection in our lifestyle, reflecting on the constant need to adjust and grow. We also share the lighter side of our journey, recounting our daredevil child two's escapades and how we manage to keep the laughter alive amid the chaos. So, if you're intrigued by the polyamorous lifestyle or just curious about the unconventional side of relationships, this episode is for you! Embrace the laughter, the lessons, and the love with us on the Poly Pocket Podcast.

**Butcher was not gang-banged in the making of this episode 😆 **

Ever wished you could navigate the tricky terrain of revealing polyamory to those who know you (but don't know yet) without inducing a heart attack? Join us, your friendly guides Hunter and Butcher, as we recount personal anecdotes and offer useful insights on how to handle these potentially shocking revelations with honesty and tact. We assure you that your lifestyle choices don't have to change the way people perceive you.

But there's more on the menu! We also venture into rather intimate territory - the burgeoning world of penis enlargement surgery. We discuss the economic impetus behind its popularity, the slew of available surgical techniques, the lurking dangers, and even take a peek into the  online forums dedicated to this topic. This episode won't shy away from the harsh reality of unrealistic expectations set by celebrity culture and pornography, that often fuel the demand for these procedures. 

Finally, get ready to crack a smile as we explore the curious evolution of slang words, with a special focus on the term 'gang bang.' From being a term used in negative connotations to a phrase that now holds a more positive context, its journey is quite fascinating. 

So, tune in, get comfortable and prepare to be entertained and enlightened!

In this special edition of Poly Pocket Podcast we are sharing the WeAreX Live which was broadcast on July 27th 2023. Due to some technical difficulties, the first 8 minutes or so are missing but it quickly starts to make sense.

Have you ever questioned how you'd navigate the complex and intriguing world of polyamory? Picture yourself sitting down with our guests, Kapil, Dan, and Steff, sharing a candid conversation about their personal experiences in polyamorous relationships, the curveballs they've faced, and how they've grown from them. We open the lid on jealousy, an emotion that often shadows polyamory, but when channelled correctly, can become a powerful tool for self-realization and development.

Communication, a cornerstone for any relationship, takes on a unique significance in polyamory. Our guests illuminate its importance in fostering understanding and harmony within a polyamorous dynamic. We navigate the intriguing concept of 'compersion', a term that encapsulates the joy derived from a partner's happiness, paired with the challenges and rewards of a polyamorous lifestyle. We also distinguish between CNM (Consensual Non-Monogamy) and polyamory, underscoring that each couple should define what works for them, rather than fitting into pre-ordained categories. Suffused with personal anecdotes and practical advice, this episode invites you to understand the beautiful symmetry and intricate dynamics of polyamorous relationships. So come, join us on this insightful journey!

In this episode we debate the difference between polyamory and polyf**kery? We dig deep into the distinction between these two terms and underline the importance of long-term connections versus fleeting encounters. We emphasize that it's all about the connection, not just the sex! Also, we discuss the concept of a sliding spectrum of polyamory. 

And, hold onto your hats as we navigate the often tricky waters of honesty and authenticity in the pursuit of polyamory. We ponder on the possible pitfalls of playing the numbers game and stress the need to invest time and effort into relationships. We're also putting non-monogamy in the spotlight, discussing its rising prevalence due to the pandemic and the potential for this lifestyle to become more accepted in mainstream society. We wrap up by reflecting on how the pandemic has impacted our lives and affected the way we view time, consideration for others, and the importance of living life to the fullest. We look forward to you joining us on this enlightening and entertaining journey!

When we think about trauma and jealousy, we often overlook the profound connection they have with our bodies. Join us in a captivating discussion with dance movement therapist, Orit Krug, as we explore this intriguing correlation. Orit's expertise in the field unravels the mysteries of how our bodies react to trauma, with responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and how these can be linked to feelings of jealousy particularly in relationships.

Ever wondered how a simple touch can bridge communication gaps in a relationship? Orit guides us through the fascinating world of dance movement therapy, demonstrating how physical gestures can offer vital insight into the language of our bodies, and subsequently, our relationships. We discuss the tale of a couple struggling with shared responsibilities and the power of a simple touch in fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is a treasure trove of valuable knowledge about the close relationship between our bodies and our minds, and how a deeper understanding of this connection can help manage trauma responses and foster healthier, happier relationships.

And if you're in a polyamorous relationship or curious about them, this episode will not disappoint. We delve into the importance of secure foundations and effective communication in maintaining balance and harmony. And, if you're looking for holistic ways of healing trauma, we talk about how the potential of movement therapy to heal trauma. Get in on our conversation about Orit's services and an upcoming retreat in Costa Rica. Our chat with Orit is not just enlightening; it's an invitation to a journey of self-discovery and healing. Embark on this journey with us—you won't want to miss it!

You can read more and contact Orit Krug here - https://oritkrug.com/

We're reflecting after a busy week and decided that we should focus just on our week in Poly so we have an episode of pure Poly Filler for you!

This one takes you right into our lives: the bonds we share, the adventures we embark on, and the conversations we have. We promise you an episode that dives deeper into our polyamorous journey, giving you an authentic taste of our world.

We share our experience of celebrating two birthdays with two different cakes. Catching up with our friend, Texan Tom and his kids, and spending quality (vanilla) time with The Air Steward and Legs. 

But it's not all fun and games. We also discuss the importance of communication within our polyamorous community, using a recent date as an example, and highlighting how our approach has evolved over time with the aim to ensure the comfort and well-being of our dates. 

But we're not stuck just in our world. We also venture into the ethical use of nudity in films, looking at respectful portrayals versus exploitative ones. 

As we wind down, we give you a sneak peek into our upcoming camping trip. So buckle up and get ready for an episode that's not just about the physical intimacies of a polyamorous lifestyle, but more about the emotional and mental connections we build, and the meaningful conversations and experiences that shape our lives.

Swordfish boob bonus - https://decider.com/2018/07/14/swordfish-netflix-halle-berry-topless/#

How well versed are you in the dark art of gaslighting? Imagine a situation where your reality is manipulated, your perceptions warped, and your emotional sanity questioned. That's the shadowy territory we venture into in this episode, as we expose the enigma of gaslighting within polyamory relationships. We scrutinise its forms, tactics, and its insidious effects on the human psyche. We'll guide you on the less-traveled path to distinguishing gaslighting from self-discovery.

Ever wondered how gaslighters ply their trade, or why it seems so hard to call out within the polyamorous community? We dissect real-life incidents, laying bare the manipulative techniques of gaslighters and how they exploit our personal experiences. With no traditional framework in polyamory, we'll arm you with our experience of identifying deception and, hopefully, defend yourself against it. We'll also share insights on how gaslighting can, shockingly, be a response to trauma.

Finally, we'll delve into the unique challenges and nuances of non-monogamous liaisons. From the appeal of purely sexual relationships to the complexities of navigating romantic entanglements, we cover it all. We emphasise the importance of reputation awareness, support structures, and self-protection in the polyamorous community. By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped to spot gaslighting in polyamory and navigate your way through it. Join us on this enlightening journey.

Ever thought about why breakups in polyamorous relationships feel so final? Well, that's the topic we're exploring today.

We explore some of our personal experiences and consider whether it's the absence of sexual connection, the unique glue binding polyamorous relationships or that there is nothing unique about polyamorism that makes these breakups feel so terminal.

We're also delving into the  power dynamics within polyamorous relationships. You know those relationship escalators, the standard steps like dating, moving in together, marriage, and having kids, they can sometimes work a little differently in polyamory. When things end, there's not just two, but multiple hearts involved, making the situation increasingly complex. But fear not, we're discussing a potential solution: de-escalation, a strategic stepping back on the relationship escalator to alleviate unnecessary pain and confusion.

So, whether you're curious about polyamory or you're already a part of the polyamorous world, we've got an enlightening episode just for you. Let's get the conversation rolling!

Links:
Tiddlywinks - (I was right!) https://www.roshambopodcast.com/episodes/tiddlywinks

Ever wondered about the power of language in shaping intimate relationships? Here's a conversation that guarantees to enlighten you, using candid discussions and our personal reflections. Our episode today takes a deep dive into the dynamics between partners during intimate moments and how it can dramatically shift depending on language and communication. We highlight the importance of choosing the right language modes - from hyperbolic expressions to more direct communication, and how they contribute to enhancing or hindering relationship dynamics. 

Moreover, what could be more relaxing than recording this episode in the serene(ish) French countryside, with a glass of rose and the soothing sound of nature (and a tractor) in the background? 

Enjoy the frogs, butterflies and lakeside chat on this weeks episode.

None of us travel alone and we become the people we are today because of the people in our past. This week we shout out to our ex's and thank them for knocking some of the rough edges off our younger selves.

We also talk about our recent holiday to France where we did not just sit around eating cheese and drinking wine 😏.

At the end of this episode there are bonus musical and football sections for those with more time than sense 😅

So whether you're a seasoned polyamorist or just curious - you're sure to find something worth your while in this episode of the Poly Pocket Podcast!

Pull up a chair and join us as Butchers hike through the beautiful valleys of Wales ends with mild hot tub drama. A lighthearted moment among friends that led to an unexpected conversation about our sexuality and lifestyle.

Navigating the complex world of relationships can be quite a handful. But there's nothing a bit of open communication can’t solve, right? From the raw honesty required in our interactions to maintaining emotional and physical bonds, we have it all covered. Throw in some tips on sexual health, and you have a guide to managing relationships without the messy complications. And, if you thought that was it, wait till we dive into the deep end of jealousy, admiration, and the role they play in our relationships. 

Don't wait, tune in, and let's embark on this journey together.

Are you ready to challenge your preconceived notions about societal norms? We welcomed Claire Doré, the Wild Woman CEO on Instagram, for a rich exploration of these ingrained perspectives and how they shape our lives. In an eye-opening conversation, Claire, an embodiment coach extraordinaire, helps us spotlight the uncanny mirroring of boardroom behaviours in the bedroom and why women often hold back from articulating their desires. 

Diving deeper, we examined how generational and cultural norms shape our relationships and decision-making processes. We hash out the tightrope walk between forging a path of independence for the younger generation and respecting the old ways. Claire imparts invaluable advice on navigating tricky conversations with those who hold opposing viewpoints, emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion. 

Wrapping up our session, we broached the controversial topic of sexual liberty. Claire took us on a sneak-peek journey into her upcoming book, detailing her personal voyage of sexual self-discovery and how dating became her healing balm. We also discuss the potential backlash against sexual liberation and how having a strong support system can make all the difference when standing against the tide. So folks, pull up a chair and join us for this thought-provoking discussion that’s guaranteed to reshape your perspectives!

Unpack your running shoes and prime your ears for a wild adventure through sports, love, and life! Join Butcher and myself as we traverse the untamed terrain of football matches, half-marathons, and the riveting world of polyamory. From casual vanilla dates to tackles on the pitch, we're sharing it all – even the moments that had us questioning, "when do we reveal our relationship status in all its non-mainstream glory?"

Ready to delve into the delicate dance between honesty and privacy? We're getting real about our own experiences, discussing how our lifestyle choices can impact dynamics with family, friends, and colleagues. It's a tricky balance, we've discovered, with potential misunderstandings lurking around every corner. Listen in for some enlightening anecdotes and tips on how to steer these tricky conversations with tact and sincerity.

Join us as we explore how we would (or would not) approach telling people about our lifestyle choices.

Movie reference is Flatliners (1990) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0099582/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk

... and in case you missed it, Butchers team won 10-0 🙄

Episode 69!!! (sorry, not sorry)

Ever wonder what life's like in Amsterdam's infamous Red Light District? Imagine the vibrant bustle of the pubs, the openness of a sex club, and even a spontaneous decision to get inked. That's exactly the kind of whirlwind adventure we embarked on during our weekend in Amsterdam. From stumbling across a group of South Africans in a pub to kicking off candid conversations about our open relationship, we embraced an exploratory spirit that set the tone for a truly unforgettable trip.

We found ourselves drawn into the heart of Amsterdam’s open lifestyle - it was an adventure like no other. As our journey unfolded, we ventured to Fata Morgana, a sex club on the outskirts of the city. We were met with unexpected sights, sounds, and experiences that culminated in a surprising nine-person orgy. But this trip was about more than just the physical. We delved into BDSM, explored the power of trust, and even managed to squeeze in a champagne breakfast at the airport and a Himalayan massage that was painfully unforgettable!

Amsterdam's polyamorous culture was a revelation. We explored the candidness and normalcy with which the Dutch approach their adult relationships, a stark contrast to the culture back home in the UK. This trip was filled with much more than the typical sightseeing - swinging, drinking, and a whole lot of open conversations. From the pubs to the art exhibitions, from the School for Life Cafe to our experience in a local sex club, our Amsterdam adventure was nothing short of transformative!

Are you ready for a wild ride? Strap in (strap on!) as we recount our thrilling adventure at the famed sex club, @swingersclub_fatamorgana in Amsterdam. Get a glimpse of the atmosphere, better than expected buffet, and 'excellent company'. 

Brace yourselves, as we take a plunge into the world of sex clubs…

So here it is… an informative, eye-opening discussion that could very well be your first step into the thrilling world of sex clubs and parties! 

Care to join us? Find the link in the bio! 💚

What if there was a world beyond the traditional definitions of love and relationships? A world where you could be you, and that was not only accepted but celebrated? This episode explores the intricacies of polyamory - a lifestyle choice that is often misunderstood and misrepresented. We share personal stories and discuss the challenges we face in maintaining relationships with partners, children, and businesses - a balancing act that is both demanding and rewarding.

Making the leap to live a non-traditional life requires not just the courage to break social norms but also visible examples of successful alternative lifestyles to emulate. Our episode touches on the necessity of creating opportunities and incentives that go beyond quotas and numbers. We discuss the power of vulnerability and allyship in living a life outside the status quo, and the importance of being seen and represented, particularly for minorities in industries like tech, where they are still grossly underrepresented.

Enjoy x

Did you ever find it challenging to share your relationship orientation with your date, even though it's stated clearly on your profile? Are you grappling with how to navigate your polyamory lifestyle while wearing a wedding ring? Well, you're not alone! We're dedicating this episode to explore these predicaments and share our personal experiences, hoping to shed some light on this complex world of polyamorous relationships. We're also sharing our family adventures, as well as a 'hilarious' chicken joke marathon that will have you questioning your life choices!

H & B x

Just when you think you've got a handle on human behaviour, life throws you a curveball. How do we distinguish fantasy from reality? How can you tell if someone has crossed the invisible line, blurring truth with elaborate fabrications and lies? 

This week on the Poly Pocket podcast, we're trying to strip down some of the complexities of human psychology, starting with a hearty debate about what separates a fantasist from a liar. We're bringing our personal stories to the table as we're not psychologists, but we're also no strangers to the art of self-deception and spinning tales. 

Join us as we dissect the potential mechanisms behind constructing fantasies, and how one fails to recognise a well-crafted lie masked as a harmless daydream and then diving headfirst into the what happens when fantasies become destructive? What's the fallout when the lines between reality and fantasy blur to such an extent that it becomes a manipulative escape from uncomfortable truths? 

Come get lost with us in the enigma of human behavior, on this week's episode of Poly Pocket.

NOTE: There is some troubling content at the 10 minute mark regarding homicide and mental illness caused by a fantasy. If this is likely to upset you, we'd suggest skipping the 10 to 13 minute section.

H&B x

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We often say we are not experts... so instead, we spoke to one! We've brought in the expertise of Elizabeth Cunningham, a seasoned life and love coach with over 13 years of experience in the field of polyamory. This episode is a fantastic exploration of shifting from monogamy to polyamory, managing the complex dynamics, and setting expectations in non-monogamous relationships.

Our conversation with Elizabeth was nothing short of enlightening. She shared invaluable advice on navigating the messiness often associated with polyamorous relationships; managing egos, understanding the uniqueness of different bonds, and advocating love and respect even in the most challenging moments. This episode is not just about learning - it's about unlearning too. It's about letting go of preconceived notions, stepping out of comfort zones, and embracing the beauty of complexity in love.

Elizabeth also shared insights on the art of communication within polyamorous relationships. From handling difficult conversations, fostering trust and connection, to understanding and setting boundaries - it's all about nurturing healthy communication habits. And what's more, we also discussed the concept of 'falling' in a relationship, and how to recover and grow from these falls. Tune in to our episode with Elizabeth Cunningham and prepare to expand your perspective on polyamory and relationships. Don't just listen. Immerse, understand, and transform.

Ever walked into a party and felt out of place or unprepared? Well, we're here to lend a hand! We're going to share some of our hard-earned insights on how to choose the right crowd for sex parties, how to read people's cues, and why knowing what you want (and know yourself) is key to making the most of your event. We'll also reveal some practical tips like the importance of a good night's sleep, staying hydrated, and keeping protection handy. And remember, if you're not enjoying the event, it's best not to push yourself.

Now, we understand that attending parties, especially sex parties, can be complex and intimidating. So think of this as your guide to navigating the atmosphere, the attendees, and even your own mindset. So, buckle up for a thrilling, enlightening, and frank conversation about the world of sex parties. Trust us, you won't want to miss this.

Ever been on a date and the person is nothing like their online persona? 

We have all been there and this episode navigates the intricacies of our digital selves versus our real-life selves. We also delve into how to spot and deal with a problematic online persona.

Sometimes, it becomes necessary to don a facade that isn't entirely true to us and there are some advantages and we explore where the potential pitfalls that arise when your online persona is a far cry from your real life.

Enjoy!

H & B x

This week we review the Killing Kittens Birthday Ball.  Happy 18th KK!

Our journey begins with the  anticipation leading up to the event, and culminates with the night's unforgettable experiences. We share our stories, from pre-party chats to navigating the charged atmosphere of the party.

We caught up with old friends and had unexpected (and exciting) encounters with new ones.  We danced, we played and we managed to relocate our underwear (never taking that for granted)!

Join us once again for the flagship podcast of polyamory, CNM and, in particular this week, sex parties.

H&B x

Are you feeling drained, stretched thin, or like your energy is being constantly siphoned off in your relationships? Your rescue is here... Maybe 🤔

Listen in as we navigate the intricate dance of safeguarding personal energy, especially in polyamory. We discuss the significance of having allies in this community - those who exhibit empathy and balance and don't allow their kindness to turn them into pushovers.

We bet you've heard about how the world divides into introverts and extroverts, but have you ever stopped to think about how these tendencies affect your energy pool? We draw on personal experiences, opening up about how we recognise when our energy reserves are in the red and what we do to replenish them. We expand on how to identify triggers and dodge our personal energy-draining vibes, ultimately maintaining a healthy energy level and mindset. 

Finally, we tackle the art of protecting and managing your energy. We share our thoughts on setting boundaries, spotting energy leeches, and taking the necessary steps to alter our circumstances. We discuss a completely non-existent flowchart to illustrate the thought process, we underscore the paramount importance of self-care and conserving our energy. 

Pressing play on this episode will arm you with valuable insights on how to handle your energy levels day in, day out, ensuring you're not just surviving, but (hopefully) thriving. 

Make it so!

H & B x

Have you ever wondered how a global pandemic would affect your sex life? Join us, Hunter and Butcher, as we venture down the path of polyamory in the time of COVID-19, sharing our personal experiences and exploring the shifts in sexual dynamics. We dive deep into the ups and downs of managing relationship changes during a unique time in society.

As we navigate these turbulent waters, you'll gain an understanding of how COVID has (potentially) shaped the non-monogamous community. We tackle the tough subjects about the rise in alternative relationships, the risks of suppressing desires, and how a global health crisis can trigger an increased sexual activity. 

By the end of this episode, we will have considered a new perspective about the evolution of relationships within the lifestyle community and how it has adapted to a new normal caused by the pandemic. 

H & B x

Have you ever felt the sting of disappointment in a sexual encounter? Did you feel that it was up to you to make the other person feel better? Definitely tricky ground and women are often expected to play carer in this situation. We discuss the impact this can have and what can be done to reduce the impact on someones confidence both in themselves and in their sexual counterparts.

With a pinch of humor and a dose of reality, we chat about the roller-coaster ride that is the world of relationships. From the intricacies of male sexual performance and its impact on women to the tricky navigation of guilt and disappointment, we've got it all.

Think it's only about being in the mood for a good romp? Well, think again. Our candid discussion on male sexual performance might just change the way you view this topic. We shed light on how a lack of male sexual response can affect women, emphasizing that it's not always about both parties wanting to engage in sexual activity. It's about understanding the multitude of factors at play, and finding that elusive balance in caring for everyone's feelings.

We also dive headfirst into the murky waters of disappointment and guilt in relationships. Ever been the collateral damage of someone else's issues? We certainly have, and we share these personal tales with you, highlighting the importance of taking ownership of our actions. 

We also talk (again) about football 🙄

H & B x

Imagine opening your heart and life to more than one person — sounds exciting, right? As thrilling as it might be, polyamory is a complex lifestyle that often requires navigating uncharted waters. Join us, Hunter and Butcher, on the Poly Pocket Podcast, as we unpack our experiences and lessons learned in polyamorous relationships, beginning with a candid chat about our recent date with a like-minded couple. We use this experience to explore how open communication is instrumental in recognising gut feelings and red flags, not just within the swinging community but in polyamory as a whole.

Now, think about how much does one share in a poly relationship? We bring in our thoughts on sharing information, where we vouch for transparency that provides general details without oversharing. As we walk you through a situation where a coffee date turned unexpectedly intimate, we underscore the importance of setting boundaries and maintaining communication, which are the bedrock of trust in a polyamorous setup. Pivoting to rules and boundaries, we delve into our personal experiences to highlight how these guide our relationships.

But what's the difference between rules and boundaries? We (fail to) clarify this often confusing aspect, whilst trying to emphasise the value of consent when sharing personal information. As we conclude this  conversation, we take a moment to reflect on the purpose of our podcast, hoping to serve as a beacon for those navigating similar paths. In the end, whether it's discussing STIs and pregnancies or seeking approval from involved parties, everything loops back to the most crucial component — effective communication. So, whether you're already in a polyamorous relationship or contemplating it, let's learn, grow, and navigate together!

H&B x

Ever found yourself floating on cloud nine after a date that just clicked? That's where our journey begins this episode, as we recount a year swept up in the highs of connection and the lows of navigating the intricate dance of polyamorous relationships. We talk about a year crammed with personal breakthroughs, from the electric spark of a first KK party anniversary to intimate ventures abroad that tested our independence and resolve.

Imagine stepping off a plane in France, heart pounding with the thrill of solo travel, or the quiet pride of shaping a birthday bash into a celebration of lifestyle friendships. That's the stuff of our real, lived experiences this year. Hunter shares the depths of his romantic evening with Lady V, a testament to the emotional bonds that can bloom in the world of non-monogamy. We pull back the curtain on our adventures and misadventures, revealing the flesh-and-blood moments that have stretched and strengthened us, from navigating club dynamics without an anchor partner to the misunderstandings that can turn into belly laughs—or lessons learned.

With the map of our journey unfurled, we look back at the encounters and milestones that have marked our podcasting (real life) voyage. We acknowledge our listeners across 69 countries who've joined us in the revealing dance of polyamory. As we cast our eyes to the horizon, considering the year ahead, we invite you to lend your voice, sharing your experiences and ideas as we continue to craft a narrative that's as complex, joyful, and authentic as the lives we lead.

Also, Merry Christmas 😁

H & B x

Hope you've had a great holiday break... We are back with the sparkle of holiday cheer still lingering, spinning tales of sneaky gift-giving and sharing how our extended love networks bolster our spirits. And in this sprit we are making plans for 2024 and establishing what our new years resolutions are.

Navigating our unique landscapes, we've learned the art of balancing the day-to-day vanilla with the spice of our lifestyle—valuing heartfelt communication and solid boundaries. In moments of vulnerability, we've stumbled upon strength, transforming jealousy and fear into deeper intimacy and faster resilience. We've seen growth, both in ourselves and in our relationships, and with the new year on the horizon, we're setting structured goals, seeking equilibrium, and exploring the potential of coaching others along their non-traditional paths. Delving into therapy with a poly-friendly therapist, we're embracing the lessons these experiences have brought us.

Lots to unpack (along with an unhealthy amount of Harry Potter) so join us as we kick off 2024 in the most appropriately inappropriate way we can!

H & B x

This week Butcher returns from France, Hunter eats some food and we review the Channel 4 series 'The Couple Next Door' and discuss whether the experience of the participants in this drama is relatable to the community (whilst keeping a straight face).

We also spend some time talking about how the English language has insufficient words for us to express how we feel and that the conflation of feelings around the word 'Jealousy' can be misunderstood.

As we wrap up we talk about the importance of arse holes and how they relate to motivational speaking - Watch the Tim Minchin video here

Finally we bring the latest on the David Haye throuple which seems to be irritating Hunter with its salacious coverage here 

This was an interesting conversation where by we discussed how many new to poly, swing, CNM, ENM all go through this to some level.

It easily done and who doesn’t love the feeling of being a kid in a sweet shop? 🍬 But we’re all adults and we all know that we can all have too much of a good thing before it becomes bad for us… that said we all have different levels of tolerance before it all becomes too much so hats off to those who can catch ‘em all without collateral damage… what’s your secret? 🤫

H & B 

Myself and Ms Captain recorded this session aggggggggeeeeessss ago! She is the most wonderful, authentic, insightful soul and this is evident in the discussion around foods to use with sensual experiences… Be it with two, three, four or more!
Thank you so much for your time Ms C and giving the listeners something “spicy” on Valentine’s Day! ❤️

This one was a toughie…

A lot of our regrets come from not seizing the moment more than the fallout of situations because from these experiences we have grown…

So join us on our meandering, heartfelt, conversation of living and life to the full!

A deep and raw chat about if opening up is for everyone, who should possibly avoid it and if you really want it, what work needs to be done!

We also discuss at length if there are different levels people can open to based on the conditioning and willingness to break out of these cycles.

It’s an endless topic… possibly without any real answers but we hope you enjoy and take away as much from it as we gained by having this talk!

Is this lifestyle and our relationship constructs just one big fantasy? And is that OK?   In this episode and debate this at length and for once POTENTIALLY land on some sort of resounding answer! It does happen every so often! 🤣

Episode 90 was a deep and meaningful discussion about the dark fears that come along for the ride when you’re on the journey from monogamy through to polyamory. What is it that truly scares you and why. Why is it that a lot of the time we don’t know what it truly is or we can’t say so we project our fears on to our anchor partners meaning that’s our fears inevitably “come true.” Finally what does this means for your existing relationship(s) and can there ever be a way out or forward from this?…

Join us on the discussion…

H & B 💚

An insightful conversation with the brains behind PolyamoryUK. This dream team - James and Jo are living their fullest, authentic poly lives and were absolutely here for it!

We touched on so many things but fundamentally we discussed how Polyamory works here in Great Britain. The pros and cons. 

These two need to come back on again soon and we’re looking forward to future collaboration on a number of projects with these fabulous individuals!

This one was a great topic to get our teeth into.

Jealousy is such a hot topic in the circles we move in from poly connections through to monogamous people seeking to understand the dynamic.

This was supported by a recent trip to LB last week and the events that unfolded (all good but because of the work and conversations we’ve had surrounding it!)

Ultimately though, we wanted to get to the root cause. The THING that sets off this interesting and complex emotional state! There’s still so much left to say on this but it’s a good start (hopefully!)

Listen to our latest episode to learn more!

H&B 💚

So here it is - the review of Le Boudoir. With two experiences of different nights under our belts (so to speak) we thought we’d do a little review.

Find out more about our thoughts of the venue, the staff and more!

In this episode we discuss the art of managing the de-escalation of relationships when you’re polyamorous and the potential reasons why you might do this.

It still surprises us how difficult break-ups in changes to dynamics (especially if you’re effectively going back on something) can be. 

In this episode we try and unpick this whilst also asking for kindness and grace when dealing with others heads and hearts.

Have a listen and as always, let us know what you think! Link in the bio ❤️

Going to put it out there - Butcher was not well when we recorded this so we hope it makes sense and somewhat entertaining. We will at some point dig deeper into this topic considering all types of partners but for now we wanted to focus on the anchor partner comms!

Let us know your thoughts! Link in the bio ❤️

There were a lot of feelings and emotions going around with this particular episode. Butcher got angry, Hunter talked her down 🤣 Guess when you’re debating feelings and their place within ENM, polyamory and swinging it really does get people going!

Link in the bio!

#feelings #feelingsquotes #feeling #emotions #emotionalintelligence #emotionsmatter #poly #polyamorous #polywise #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #enm #cnm

This CNM journey can be a rocky one and in this episode we took a closer look at why people would pause from it. The focus was mainly supposed to be swinging but it’s us so there are natural intersections and free flowing conversations that goes across a spectrum of CNM practices!

Link in the bio ❤️

This weeks episode did not go to plan... So we've had to panic record a quick update (and an apology) and we'll be back on track for Episode 100 next week.

As always, send us your feedback, ideas and advice to hunter@polypocketpodcast.com

Link in bio 💚

Well... What a journey we've all been on for the past 100 episodes. In case you haven't listened to all of them, we've tried to sum up the core thinking behind this podcast into a single episode for you. 

(If you have listened to the previous 99, then this is just some light revision, GCSE style)

Thank you as always for your support. We will be taking a few weeks off to plan for what we're euphemistically calling 'Season 2' and will be back in the summer.

In the meantime, we'll be posting what we get up to via Instagram @poly_pocket_show and you can e-mail any ideas for the show to hunter@polypocketpodcast.com or ask Butcher on a date at butcher@polypocketpodcast.com

For now though, keep us and your protection, in your pocket 💚

H & B x