Physician Assistant Burnout: Tips, Tools, and Interviews with PA and Life Coach Hope Cook (Hope Cook, Physician Assistant (PA) Burnout Life Coach)

Hi! Thank you for listening! I'd love to get to know you; send me an email at hope.cook@gmail.com or visit ⁠my website⁠ for more "words of Hope." My book is coming out later this year, and if you'd like to be on my list of first readers or beta readers, please let me know!

Are you interested in having me ⁠speak⁠ at your event? Do you want to hear more about ⁠group coaching?

Key points:

1. Think about career choices in terms of sustainability, what needs to happen to allow you to work in medicine for years to come?
2. You don’t have to sacrifice your needs and your health for your patients and your job 
3. Ask yourself what YOU need first and foremost.  Only then can you serve others. You can’t provide compassionate care if you’re burned out.   
4. Create a margin between what you spend and what you make so you’ll have the freedom to walk away if you need to. 
5. First ask yourself which values matter the most to you.  Then look at how you show up on an average day, does this support your values and how you want your life to be?
6. Pay attention to your health.  Your body will let you know when your values and priorities are misaligned.  
7. Don’t become so entangled in your identity as a PA that you lose sight of your own self-worth.  
8. Let go of guilt over making job changes.  We’re all adults, we’re free to make choices and live lives without regret.  
9. This job is not your “one shot.”  We add exceptional value to the healthcare system both as providers to our patients and colleagues with the doctors we work with.  

Tracy Bingaman’s info:

⁠Website⁠, ⁠FB⁠ ⁠Instagram, ⁠

⁠Tracy’s free quiz on burnout

John is an inspiration, especially if you've thrived at the top of your game only to realize it wasn't "filling your cup." John realized he was letting work be the driver of his life, and it was leading to burnout and unhappiness. He made the courageous decision to talk to management and admit he was burned out, but they weren't willing to make changes. So he decided it was up to him to make the change. Hear how he made the shift to academics and the effect this had on the other areas of his life.

You can find John on Linked In or FB. He's also sharing his email if you want to contact him!

If you liked what you heard and want help with your own burnout journey, I'd love to talk. I'm writing a book on how to heal from burnout (due out 1/25), and I have a group coaching starting June 11th.

If you'd like to be a podcast guest or want to discuss sponsorships or speaking engagements, reach out via email, hope.cook@gmail.com

Registered Dietician Andrea Heyman of Adventures in Feeding My Fam felt a pull towards sharing her passions with food, healthy eating, and family meals on a broader scale.  She shares how she started a podcast and online courses while overcoming her fears.  If you've ever toyed with the idea of taking your career in a new direction and branching out into entrepreneurial territory, this is a must-listen episode!

Andrea can be found on Facebook and Instagram (Adventures in Feeding My Fam).  She also has a podcast by the same name-check it out,  you won't be disappointed!

Have you ever had the thought that this day in history is never happening again?  This happened to me while writing today's date in my journal.  I was inspired to go back and look for my journal from 1/1/11 and to think about how I wanted my entry to look on 3/3/33 (I'll be 55, whoa Nelly!)

If you need a perspective shift and a wide-lens view of life, this episode is for you!  Skip this episode if you prefer to keep your head down and not live your life on purpose.  

Reach out!  Let's chat and see if you're a good fit for my life coaching.  Or, apply today for next month's group coaching (12 weeks with 4-7 other women)--here's the link to sign up for your free discovery call, go to  https://www.coachhopecook.com/workwithhope

Madeline will wow you with everything she's done.  She continues to push herself to learn new things, be curious, and take leaps.  She's working on her memoir, dating, participating in athletic competitions, and curating her art while being an advocate for other African American artists.  I met Madeline a year ago and get to chat with her weekly in our writing group.  She has become a friend and inspiration.  I know you'll love this conversation as much as I did. 

What happens when you pour your heart (and money, time, and effort) into becoming a PA and you fall out of love with medicine? Can you salvage your career?

I'll tell you how!

If you liked what you heard and want help with your own burnout journey,⁠ I'd love to talk⁠. I'm writing a book on how to heal from burnout (due out 1/25), and I have a ⁠group coachin⁠g starting June 11th.

If you'd like to be a podcast guest or want to discuss sponsorships or speaking engagements, reach out via email, hope.cook@gmail.com

I tell about two times when I listened to my gut and spoke up about something.  Come over to my website if you'd like more tips on speaking up for yourself!

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Through mentors and her own search for growth and happiness, Mysti decided to go back to school despite fears of inadequacy around a low GPA.  She decided to show up for herself, naming 2020 the "Year of Me."  Mysti's story is will inspire anyone suffering from limiting beliefs around what you're capable or worthy of.

www.hopethepa.com for show notes

After I listened to this episode on the Hidden Brain podcast I had an ah-ha about how this fits into burnout. We often think we need MORE of something. More help, more money, more vacation time. But what we really need is LESS. We need to find our friction points and minimize them. For example, what if you're a working mom and you have zero time or zero patience after work? Getting a big fat bonus check won't make you get unstuck. But, if you work fewer, but more efficient hours, you'll have more time. What if you didn't have to help the kids with homework and cook supper every night? Identifying your pain points and then brainstorming how to let them be easier will change your life.

Also referenced is this book, The Human Element: Overcoming the Resistance that Awaits New Ideas. Loran Nordgren and David Schonthal, Wiley, October 2021.

A quote or poem to give you a dose of hope and motivation for your week

Beatriz knew from a young age that she'd end up working for Globo TV, the premier television station in Brazil.  And so she did.  This led her on a journey she never could've imagined, starting an NGO for promoting positive social media campaigns amongst college students in response to news that ISIS and other alt right groups were recruiting young people with their social media videos promoting racism and hate speech.  

https://www.wordshealtheworld.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-2bZnFCazUYlzRZgbwR2XQ

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wordshealworld/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wordshw/

Hope news: https://www.wordshealtheworld.com/what-is-new/hope-news-is-back/

For a summary of this podcast and take-home-points, go to www.hopethepa.com

After spending time dreaming and getting to know the new you, post burnout, you'll get to a point where you're ready to make big changes. Maybe you change specialities or maybe you stay put and work part-time or change your duties. How do you know what to do? Because this is a frequent question, I decided to put all my answers in an episode to help you navigate the changes and decisions that lie ahead.

If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend and leave a review on Apple iTunes so others can find it!

Want more Words of Hope? My burnout book will be coming out later this year and I'd love for you to be a beta reader or on my list for first-readers. Sign up on my website (in the comments, let me know if you'd like to be a reader). ⁠⁠www.coachhopecook.com⁠⁠

If you or someone you know is a PA with an inspiring story or words of wisdom to share, please reach out via my website.

If you're interested in working together, ⁠⁠please reach out!

CodyAnn is a rockstar mama in my book.  She chose to go back to school and made the difficult decision to go after this dream with two little kids at home.  Hear her inspiring story, it'll no doubt make you want to conquer your own self-doubt and fears as you move forward on your journey.

For show notes, go to www.hopethepa.com

Cody Ann can be found at healthyish.blog or on FB at CodyAnn McGovern or on Instagram @psychpac

Finish this year by cleaning your attic, aka your mind.  Notice the stories you tell yourself over and over, notice the labels you use to define yourself.  Examine your intentions.  

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After reading dozens of Facebooks posts and comments from people who say they'd love to cut back to part-time but can't, I decided to share 3 tools to give you the shift you need to make it happen. If you've longed for a change in your schedule but a part of you says it'll never happen, this episode is for you.

If you still don't feel ready, reach out and I'll walk you through the steps to get you there.

Hope.cook@gmail.com or check out www.coachopecook.comwww.coachopecook.com

I was so blown away by Annie Duke, cognitive psychologist and world champion poker player. Her ideas around quitting are beyond helpful if you're struggling with this decision. As I was listening to an interview with her and I pulled over, grabbed a sheet of paper, and started taking notes. I haven't read the book yet, so this is sort of the Cliff Note version, but if you're on the fence about quitting, please invest the next 15 minutes in listening to this!

And, if you decide you definitely need to make a change, I'm your girl! Well, maybe. Maybe not. Not if you're psycho, ridiculously needy, or have stalker-ish tendencies. Otherwise, reach out if you're a semi-sane person struggling with career stuckness. Let's schedule a complimentary discovery call and you can check me out, too! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website, www.coachhopecook.com

Do you get mad at yourself for not going after your dreams or not even dipping a toe into whatever it is you're curious about? Do you blame yourself, your busy life, lack of money, age, etc.? You're not alone. Resistance isn't unique to you. I'll describe what it looks like and how to win the war. This podcast is loosely based on Steven Pressfield's amazing book, The War of Art as well as Gay Hendrick's Zone of Genius.

If you'd like to meet up on zoom and talk about your dreams and why you can't seem to make progress, reach out!

Interview with a fellow mom (and my SIL) who took a giant leap and quit her job after calculating how many hours a week she actually saw her kids.  We discuss going from hopeless with no options to feeling empowered and courageous.  Lauren admits she's still figuring it out, but she doesn't regret this new path even a little bit.  

https://www.laurenharrelldesign.com/

Insta: lauren_harrell_design

Contact me via my website at www.hopethepa.com

I discuss why life isn't always picture perfect and why depression is more than a bad mood.  I tell you the story of being married to someone who suffers from depression.  

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When Katie Avery found herself a single mom with three kids, no job, and a broken heart, she kept faith that God had a plan for her life.  Little did she know the plan included her dream job in her dream town and going on dates again with her high school sweetheart.

Take-Home Points:

1. When your heart is opposed to a decision, you may have physical symptoms like Katie when she wasn't able to catch her breath while running and she was crying all the time.  She knew deep in her heart it wasn't where God needed her to be despite it feeling like what she felt like she should do.  Trust your instincts.
2. When you feel unloved, unattractive, unappreciated, these are all indications you're out of alignment.
3. You never know what someone else is going through, even if they look like they have it all together on the outside.
4. When faced with a difficult decision, ask yourself what you'd tell your child if this situation were happening to her.
5. Pray through every decision; never lose faith that God has a plan for your life.  Use the hard times as reminders that even though you feel broken, these difficulties can be used as part of your purpose.  And finally, you've gotta be the one to decide to rewrite your story.  You can choose to focus on the pain or you can choose to get healthy, make good choices, and move forward.

Books mentioned:  It's Not Supposed to Be this Way, Girl Wash Your Face, Love Lives Here

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This interview felt more like two friends and medical professionals sitting down to coffee than a podcast interview.  We talked about our Wayfinder coaching program we're in, we chatted about our burnout stories (and Jillian turned the mic back on me to ask what my own pivots looked like) and we demonstrated a coaching tool on Jillian's thought that she didn't have enough money to sign up for a coaching program.  

If you're not on the path you want to be on, but lost the map and aren't sure what to do next, schedule a free mini coaching session to see if we're a good fit and to get a taste of coaching!  Visit www.coachhopecook.com for more info on other packages!

Take-home points from the interview:

1. Burnout signs may include apathy, not caring as much about doing a good job or disordered eating, physical complaints like not sleeping or headaches or anxiety.
2. Grinding through/showing grit is a societal expectation.  Burnout is your Essential Self begging you to rest and recover
3. In order to take time off, you'll come up against a lot of beliefs and thoughts about not being able to afford to take the time off.  It's important to dissect these beliefs and see what's true and what's a thought error.  Byron Katie has a method called "The Work" that helps you question your thoughts.
4. Identify your support systems at work and home.  Is your job a "people first" type job, or is it all about churning out productivity?
5. Use therapists or coaches to help you see other options because when you're in the midst of burnout, your brain can't come up with any viable options to get you over the hump.
6. When to consider therapy: If you've had trauma or grief and haven't addressed it.  Consider coaching if you're functioning but want to function better- we'll teach you the tools for forward momentum
7. Learning how to feel things in your body is huge because it allows you to identify which thoughts are helpful and which thoughts are causing pain
8. Often our stories about ourselves aren't embedded in reality.  We feel shame based on false beliefs.  Like, "I'll be fired/perceived as weak" if I admit I'm burned out.

Kevin MD article:  Recovering from Burnout, a permission to pivot 

Books mentioned:  The Way of Integrity and Finding your Own North Star (both by Martha Beck)

Byron Katie "The Work" (these are the questions we refer to in the session)

Dr. Jillian Rigert's website

First episode with Dr. Jillian Rigert

Take a big-picture look at your life.  It's time to do a fall clean-up.  What activities are you doing that used to be a good fit, but may not be anymore?  Who are you spending time with who's no longer a good fit for the type of person you want to be?  

See full show notes at www.hopethepa.com

How do you listen to your intuition?  If we possess Inner Knowing, how do we access It when our lives are so busy, when our worlds are chaotic and noisy?

Send me a DM and let me know if this podcast resonated with you.  Send me a message letting me know how you access your own Inner Knowing

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Betsy shares how she kept taking new steps towards things she loved or was curious about, including flying, pharmaceutical sales, working for a candy bar giant,  counselor, writer, exec for Girls on the Run, ultramarathoner, and intuitive eating coach.  Wow!  And get this, y'all!  She became a first-time mom at 47!

I can't wait for you to hear her story!  For show notes and links to Betsy's sites, go to www.hopethepa.com

Before we get to the show notes, group coaching is now starting after Labor Day, so if you haven't signed up, it's not too late.

• More info and sign up⁠⁠⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠⁠⁠ It'll start early Sept and it's only $149 for 8 wks. It's just for PAs this round and will be one hour every Friday. If you can't do Fridays, reach out anyway and we'll discuss alternative days. If you want to talk one on one, click ⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠to schedule your complimentary discovery call. I'm also writing a book on how to heal from burnout (due out 1/25), so ⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your email and you'll get periodic updates and sneak-peeks.

If you'd like to be a podcast guest or want to discuss sponsorships or speaking engagements, reach out via email, hope.cook@gmail.com

Okay, back to this week's show. This episode stemmed from a discussion (aka argument) with my husband around values. How we spend our time, what's most important to us, etc. My son also pointed out one of my big distractions/addictions later that week and it made me think about how each of us has a safety mechanism in place when we're burned out or super stressed. These aren't bad per se, but they can distract us from the real issue at hand and keep us living in Stuckville.

Have you ever felt everything inside you say "YES!"? Or maybe "NOOO!" These are huge clues from your subconscious (also known as your gut, your spirit, your intuition, or your essential self). I'll share times in my life when I've had this whole-body knowing and give you tips on how you can access this same knowing in your body.

If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my ⁠⁠⁠⁠website ⁠⁠⁠⁠and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the actual book will be published later this year!)

If you'd like to try Magic Mind, those cute little green energy (coffee alternative) drinks, click ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ for a 20% discount!

When I started my podcast, the idea was to share stories from women who'd done brave things, some had crazy career pivots, some had clawed their way back from the edge of disaster, others had made scary leaps into the unknown. What I didn't realize was that each woman, while she shared her words of wisdom, was mentoring me in the process. The podcast helped give me the courage to step outside my comfort zone and to gather enough strength and courage to make it through burnout. This podcast then morphed into helping others find their way through the dark and scary forest of burnout.

Join me as we celebrate my 200th episode!

If you liked what you heard and want help with your own burnout journey,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I'd love to talk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. I'm writing a book on how to heal from burnout (due out 1/25), and I have a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠group coachin⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠g starting mid-August after my wild kids go back to school.

If you'd like to be a podcast guest or want to discuss sponsorships or speaking engagements, reach out via email, hope.cook@gmail.com

A tiny dose of goodness to start your week off right!

This episode is full of small, almost too-simple changes I've made over the years to help me still like seeing patients and shift the way I think about my "have to" list.

If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend and leave a review on Apple iTunes so others can find it!

Want more Words of Hope? My burnout book will be coming out later this year and I'd love for you to be a beta reader or on my list for first-readers. Sign up on my website (in the comments, let me know if you'd like to be a reader). ⁠⁠⁠www.coachhopecook.com⁠⁠⁠

If you or someone you know is a PA with an inspiring story or words of wisdom to share, please reach out via my website.

If you're interested in working together, ⁠⁠⁠please reach out!

From pooping in a bucket to swimming with snakes, I discovered a new (or was it a lost) part of myself.  I give you 5 things I learned after being on vacation that you can apply to your own life.

Burnout is like a clogged pipe; it's an ugly mass of hair, toothpaste, dental floss, and who knows what else. It starts months before you realize it with stress and overwhelm. If the stress goes unchecked, you find yourself with a major problem. The funny thing is how we're the ones taking on everyone else's issues--essentially taking on more grossness to create our clog in the first place. What if you were able to Let Go and Let Them (manage their own dang issues)?

If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!)

If you'd like more "words of Hope" head to my website and find out how we can work together or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout.

Caroline Ward tells how she broke down in the pediatrician's office 15 years ago with her two babies and a bad case of post-partum depression.  This marked the beginning of a new journey listening to God.  She took a brave step in a new direction that didn't make sense to anyone but her, signing up for a course on personal training.  Caroline lets us in on what it's like to listen to "God whispers" and take life one step at a time.  You won't want to miss this inspirational episode!

Caroline's amazing studio and personal training info: https://www.transfitathens.com/

For show notes, go to www.hopethepa.com and click on podcast

It's time, people! You finally get to nail what's sucking your energy and wasting your time. I'll teach you how to figure out who or what needs to go bye-bye and how to carry this out. If you like this episode, listen to 159 and 160 for decluttering your space and decluttering your emotions.

Body compass exercise video I mentioned in this episode and my interview with Patty, an example of a high-energy yoga friend.

Reach out if you'd like to hear more about working with me hope.cook@gmail.com or visit my site, www.coachhopecook.com

In this episode, I share tales of a higher power showing up to help achieve your utmost potential, along with a cautionary reminder about still doing the work it takes to get the ball rolling.  

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Based on my interpretation of a chapter in The Power of Now about the energy associated with complaining.  The book refers to it as "psychic pollution."  Eckhart says we have three choices with matters we find annoying/irksome/frustrating.  We can accept it/surrender, speak up if possible, or change it.  He says all else is madness.  In this episode, I confess how much I've been complaining about my hubby's snoring.  I'll try applying Eckhart's advice.  

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Meg Leddy is a mom, wife, Physician Assistant in melanoma plastic surgery, and podcaster (host of the podcast:  Burnout, What I Have Learned So Far with Meg Leddy  For those of you struggling with burnout in your jobs, this is the episode for you!  You'll walk away feeling like you've got this!

Take home points:

1. Burnout usually isn’t a one-time thing, it happens over and over again.  Be on the lookout for the signs: losing sleep, waking at 2 am,reflux or other physical problems, being unusually forgetful or distracted.  Remember, someone can appear to have it all figured out but still be burned out.
2. Tips: Meg uses Brene Brown's suggestion before falling asleep at night by reminding herself "I am enough, what I did today is enough."
3. Remind yourself constantly, "The Universe has my back".  This helps you not feel like you have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders and reminds you You don’t get to choose the outcome in life, it’s not all under your control.
4. Make the choice to match your schedule to your intentions.  Choose your intentions based on your core values (click here to see the Brene Brown exercise Meg used).  Core values are like your compass, they determine where you go in life.
5. Your job doesn’t define you.  If every piece of you is defined by your job, you’ll burn out.  Bring all those other pieces back into who you are.  Look at who you are outside of work.  We’re not one-dimensional beings.  You can have a slash career.  This can give us more balance and we’ll be better at our jobs.
6. If you’re self-identifying as burned out, there’s help, there’s something better out there.  Take time. Stop, take time to heal.  Burnout eventually affects your health if you don’t get help.

Y'all, I finally got my mom to agree to an interview.  She shares her regrets in life and advice for younger women in this meaningful conversation.  

Do you ever feel like you're bashing your head against a wall? You know what you're doing isn't working out so well, but the idea of making change feels like too much? You end up following the same pattern again and again, blaming everyone around you, and nothing changes?

If this is you, give yourself the gift of 20 minutes to listen to this episode. This episode will help you break that pattern.

If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share it with a friend!

If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my ⁠⁠website ⁠⁠and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)

If you'd like to try Magic Mind, click here for a 20% discount!

Everyone has fear to some degree. But how do some people keep doing scary things and others get stuck for years (or a lifetime)? What do you do about fear of making a mistake or fear of failure?

If fear is keeping you stuck, reach out, and let's talk! I schedule complimentary discovery calls (go to www.coachhopecook.comwww.coachhopecook.com) or shoot me an email at hope.cook@gmail.com

Have you proudly proclaimed you're a perfectionist?  I used to think it was a good thing to try and be perfect.  Why settle for mediocrity when you could put forth a little more effort and be perfect?  The problem is, of course, none of us are perfect and we can't maintain that standard.  This is me in my closet chatting with you about my flaws and what I do when the perfectionism monster climbs on my back.   

None of us are immune to down moments, dips in mood, catastrophes and disasters. They're part of life, right? What can you do now (assuming you're not in the throes of a cataclysmic event) to help the Future You get back up when she gets knocked down? Don't worry, these are pretty simple, yet powerful concepts. If you implement even one suggestion, you'll be better prepared the next time sh$% hits the fan.

If you want to meet up for 1:1 life coaching, reach out! Alternatively, if the idea of group coaching appeals to you, my next group starts in January, reach out now so we can see if you'd be a good fit!

See you next week,

Hope

Shelley Kovar was in the same job in a small town in Michigan for 25 years when she began getting asked to help with social media marketing by local small business owners.  Shelley didn't know a lot about Facebook, but she decided to say "yes!" and figure it out as she went.  Her inspiring story proves you can branch out and try new things and you can be successful in any size community.  

Take-Home Points!

• Pay attention when multiple people start asking you for your advice or for you to do something for them, this means  there’s a need in the market and it means they believe you’re good at it
• Even in a small town you can be an entrepreneur and grow a business.  The key is to build the know, like, and trust factor.  Nurture it.  Look for a need and fill it.
• When you need to uplevel but you don't have teachers around you to help you grow, invest in yourself.  Sign up for a course or class.  You can’t get to where you want to go if you don’t have people around you to teach and push you to grow.
• Use discomfort to make you grow or light a fire under your bum.
• You ARE the company and you need to invest back in the company.   Being around high-energy people will fill your cup up.  Look at it as continuing education.  Invest in yourself.  Seek out positive podcasts, books, and mentors
• Work smarter, not harder (batch your posts, batch your cooking)
• You don’t have to be everyone’s perfect person, when you make a  mistake, you’re your biggest critic.  Instead, use the discomfort of imperfection to light a fire =under your bum to make you grow.  Don't be afraid of C+ work

When we resist What IS, we suffer.  When we GRIP, we also suffer.  So, how do you not suffer?  When bad things happen or when you feel anxious or stressed or worried, what can you DO?  

Listen for tips and ideas on how to handle suffering in your own life.  

If you'd like to work with me, let's schedule a time to talk!  A complimentary session is just a DM or email away (@coachhopecook on IG or email me hope.cook@gmail.com)

Go to www.coachhopecook.com for more info!

For 25 years Melanie was content living in the Bay Area and working in the non-profit arena until she looked around and realized she was discontent.  She was in senior management working in trauma-based mental health when her stress culminated in her first-ever panic attack, prompting the realization that change was essential.  One serendipitous event after another landed Melanie and her family in Canada with a new plan for their lives and careers.  In addition to being in graduate school, Melanie helps other people realize their dreams of moving overseas.

For links to Melanie's site and show notes, go to www.hopethepa.com

Have you ever noticed how if you're scattered and cluttered in one area of your life (your refrigerator or car for example), this might mirror an area of your life where you have scattered relationships or ideas.  Or maybe your life is cluttered with unfinished projects and dreams which is reflected in your bathroom cabinets.  This simple coaching tool can be done in a few minutes but will open your eyes to areas of your life that could benefit from small changes.  

If you'd like to schedule your own private coaching session, click here for a free discovery call!  For more on my services and to see all the goodies, go to www.coachhopecook.com

Did you know there are ways to trick your brain into thinking it's safe to take action even when you're scared out of your mind? Nobody wants to make a choice they regret, and we don't want to take a leap without knowing how it'll all turn out. You can't blame the brain for wanting to keep you safe, right? But it can also keep you stuck for YEARS (trust me, I know!)

Listen to this episode to ensure you don't live in Stuckville for the rest of your years.

If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share with a friend!

If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my ⁠⁠website ⁠⁠and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)

Were you scared of things as a kid?  We all were.  Are you still scared of things?  Again, we all are.  But how we handle that fear determines how we live our lives.  How do you know when you need to sit up and pay BIG attention to fear?  I'll also talk about the different kinds of fear.  

Included in this episode:  my childhood fear of kidnapping, my fears about my kids, and how fear may have kept my son safe at a birthday party when he was 5.  

Are you considering life coaching?  My ideal client is a working woman (usually they're moms but not always) who isn't thrilled with her work life but she feels trapped and isn't sure if she can or should consider quitting.  And yet she goes to work day after day feeling misaligned, out of sorts, and overall meh (or UGH!).  

That's my jam, so if you need help, reach out!  Schedule a discovery call here, it's complimentary!  

In this episode I share a vulnerable truth about not getting to do the Mastercoach program I applied to, I talk about the mistakes I've made when I squeeze my eyes shut and hope for the best, and I tell about a relative who ate poison by accident.

If you'd like to explore life coaching, reach out! You can email me at hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website and scheduling link at www.coachhopecook.com

This episode topic was dreamed up while reading Martha Beck's new book, The Way of Integrity.  Here's a quote from it:  You're trying to act in ways that don't feel right to you at the deepest level.  Emotionally, we feel grumpy, sad, or numb.  Physically, our immune systems and muscles weaken; we might get sick and even if we don't, our energy flattens. Mentally, we lose focus and clarity, that's how it feels to be out of integrity.  -Martha Beck

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For at least two years I read every self-help book I could get my hands on.  I saw three different therapists, I listened to career clarity podcasts, but when it came down to it, I knew what I needed to do.  When I read Martha Beck's book, Finding Your Own North Star, I had so many ah-has!  Finally, I was ready to answer those hard questions and take off my blinders.  In this episode, I'll ask you many of those same questions.  Get ready with your pen and paper! 

And if you're not a DIY kind of person, let's sit down together with a mug of coffee (or a glass of wine) and I'll ask you all these and more!

Schedule here!

Oh, I almost forgot!  If you're interested in being a client on air for my podcast, shoot me an email at hope.cook@gmail.com  You'd get free coaching and I'd get a change to show my listeners how coaching works!

After my interview last week with Suzanne Kingsbury, I thought about something she said.  She said writing for her was liking coming home to the boy next door.  It had always pulled on her, but she stayed busy with her desk job and ignored the pull.  When she finally decided to take a year off and write, she said it felt like she'd finally allowed herself to fall in love with the boy next door.  He'd been there all along, waiting for her to see him.

In this podcast episode, I explore how to find the boy next door and how to let him into your life again.  

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If you can't seem to move forward on your path (or if you don't even have a path), start here.  I explain how past experiences can still play out decades later in your current life and how your thoughts about a situation get put on "rewind and repeat" in your head, keeping you stuck.  Plus, I share my own (unhelpful) thoughts after my hubby made a comment last night and explain how I'm trying to let it go.  

Want to talk more specifically about your thoughts and how they might be keeping you bogged down?  Let's have a complimentary session!  Shoot me an email at hope.cook@gmail.com or visit my website to learn more:  www.coachhopecook.com

In this episode, I discuss Martha Beck's definition of phase 1 of the change cycle, something we all go through many times in our lives.  Being stuck is one way to describe being in this state of immobility and formation.  I'll reveal why being stuck is so important and necessary in the transition to the new you.  

How are you feeling stuck right now?  When was the last time you went through a transition to a new chapter or a new version of you? 

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Why are you doing what you do for a living?  Do you feel a sense of purpose?  Do you have joy in your daily work?  Why are you staying there?  

Hard questions but worth spending the time to ask yourself!  Grab a cup of tea (or wine!) and your journal for this episode.  

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In this episode, I interview my friend and fellow dermatology PA, Archana Sangha. Archana is a past president of SDPA and is currently working as a Medical Science Liaison. Not only does she share how she landed her job, but she also talks about her path to get there and how she managed two little ones, a full-time dermatology job, and held PA leadership positions during the pandemic.

Archana and I met on a Kenya medical mission trip when we were new dermatology PAs, and our most recent escapade was dressing as Tina Turner and Dolly Parton at a Nashville conference. This woman is amazing; you won't regret listening to her interview!

If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my ⁠⁠⁠website ⁠⁠⁠and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)

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I sometimes coach clients who've mustered the courage to do something big--quit their jobs, start dating, get a degree, and then BAM!  It all ends and they're back to square 1.  This is such a hard place to be--they experience loneliness, sadness, and feelings of shame.  Listen to this episode or share with a friend who's going through it.  Tip:  Don't tell them about a similar situation you or a friend has had. Bite your tongue!

If you want to meet up over zoom while you're in your office parking lot, on your bathroom floor, or in your closet while the kids go nuts, click here to schedule a complimentary discovery call.  

Want free resources, book recommendations, and to see pics of my crazy crew?  Click here. 

IFS seems to be all the buzz these days--or is it just me because I'm a therapy-addict?  I'll explain how this way of thinking about ourselves can give you a new take on your areas of least satisfaction.  For example, is your inner Perfectionist making your mom-life miserable?  Is your Pleaser keeping you at a job you should've left 2 years ago?  Is your Rebel making trouble in your relationship?  

Want to connect and meet on zoom?  Let's do it!  Click here to schedule a "Hope Session".  The first one is complimentary!

Amy Whipple delights us with her tales of being a stay-at-home mom and coming up with an idea for medical underwear to discovering what her true strengths are.  Amy had the courage to know when to fold 'em and sell the first business to move forward to a more fulfilling career where she's able to fully utilize her strengths and work in her zone of genius.  Amy can be reached at awhipple@lionleadership.com 

https://www.lionleadership.com/amy-whipple

Mo Jones has a remarkable journey.  Her story begins with letting shame and fear prevent her from using her voice as a young adult to deciding to become a Speech and Language Pathologist for children and stroke victims.  She later realizes her true calling is helping other women find their own voice.  She encourages us to use our courage muscles and go after fear instead of running away from it.  

This episode has so many pearls of wisdom!  Check out the show notes on my website (www.hopethepa.com) for the take-home points and to see a picture of Mo.  

Her website is www.molifespeaks.com Instagram @molifespeaks, and FB at molifespeaks

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As we drove the 4 hours to my hometown, I jotted down stories from my life, my clients' lives, and my patients' lives to illustrate how we create pain by living in the future and past.  By living in our cocoon of the present moment, we "seal up" our lives against needless worry and anxiety.  

If this episode resonates, consider sharing it with a friend.  Or, if you'd like to apply for a spot in my group coaching (starts 1/23), send me an email!   Check out my free resources and coaching offers on my website 

Youtube video mentioned in podcast (my friend Tiffany)

When you're frozen in uncertainty, the good news is that the situation won't stay the same whether you act or not.  Even by not making a move, you're essentially making a move, right?  

Taking a good look at where you're stuck and what your options are can be a relief when things start piling up and weighing you down.  I'll share how a fall into frigid water gave me the ah-ha I needed!

If you're a woman in the throes of career woes, reach out!  Group coaching will be starting in a couple of weeks, or you can consider 1:1 coaching!

See you next week, 

Hope

We create stories in our heads about situations we believe to be true based on past experiences or fear.  

A tremendous amount of energy is tied up in these stories.  Our minds create them and eventually they become our beliefs.  Our beliefs determine our actions, which basically determine the trajectory of our lives.  

What's the craziest story you've ever concocted and believed to be true (only to discover later that it wasn't)?  DM me @hopethepa or shoot me an email at hope.cook@gmail.com

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Yes.  I, the staunch non-dog person, now has a shelter dog I adore.  And wow, what a great teacher she's been!  Listen in for tips you can use in your everyday life.  

Want to explore whether or not you need life coaching?  Let's set up a time to chat.  The first call is complimentary, just email me at hope.cook@gmail.com or click here to schedule 

My friend Heather McElroy shares her story of being a teenager without a supportive home life who craved a future different from her parents.  Unlike many of my guests, Heather made the decision at a young age to rewrite her script and chart a different path.  

Have you ever felt an inexplicable pull towards something different from the path you were on?  

send me a DM @coachhopecook or email me at hope.cook@gmail.com

New website coming soon!  

Reflections from moi about why it's not the best idea to try too many things at once.  I also tell about our Christmas edition "hidden object" books and how this is similar to searching for your interests or passions in life.  

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Shoot me a DM in Instagram @hopethepa and tell me if you've ever thrown too many noodles at the wall.  

Heather is like your wisest friend, giving you pearls of wisdom while she walks you through her journey of total career burnout to slowly awakening to her creativity and finally coming full circle to discover what it means to Choose Yourself.   

For show notes and links to Heather's info, go to www.hopethepa.com or message me on IG @hopethepa

Robyn tells us her heartbreaking story of caring for Bill, her husband and fellow musician who was diagnosed with a terminal illness.  Afterward, she embarks on a physical and metaphorical journey to find herself and figure out her next step by walking the Camino de Santiago in Spain.  

Robyn's website and blog: https://www.robynpassowfisher.com/blog/a-reliable-stride

Robyn's podcast (A Long Walk): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-long-walk/id1526242037

Nadine was devastated when fertility treatments failed, but she found hope and resilience, publishing a memoir about her struggles and eventual pregnancy.  Nadine also discovered her knack for helping other writers finish and publish their pieces and thus began a new chapter as a  writing coach. 

https://nadinekenneyjohnstone.com/

Nadine's book: https://www.amazon.com/This-Much-Im-Sure-Memoir/dp/1631522108

I talk about two impactful books that opened my eyes to my ability to rewrite my story, to rechart my life.  How will your next chapter go?  

Shoot me a message and write a review!

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Amanda Pedota and I first met 10 years ago in Kenya.  We were both volunteering in dermatology and serving a rural clinic in the Masa Mara area of Kenya.  Fast forward a decade and she now has 4 little boys.  What amazes me about my friend is how she still does cool things, not letting diapers and nap time interfere with traveling to cool places.  She also describes what so many of us moms struggle with--how to not lose ourselves after having kids.  Amanda found that she was an enthusiastic cook of savory foods, so when she landed on an amazing biscuit recipe she thought "why not?" She's started a cottage biscuit business and is learning as she goes.  

For years I held myself to such high standards I made myself miserable. I walked around on Empty. But I wasn't able to see that I was the problem. Instead, I blamed others and my job. Learn to assess which things fill you up and which things drain you, then give yourself permission to let go.

If you're curious about whether life coaching can help you get unstuck or make your next career move, let's talk! We'll meet up on zoom and chat. I'd love to meet you, so stop thinking about it and take action! Remember, you can't think your way to clarity, but taking action will lead you there.

I like old-school emails better than anything! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website www.coachhopecook.com

How can we make the best choice in a situation? What happens if you don't? How to handle regret and how to live life so it's less likely to happen. What if you really screw up, can you repair the damage? In this honest episode (not that the others aren't honest!) I share some of the questions I struggle with. How do I live a life that matters?

Oh! And I wanted to invite you to consider joining my group coaching:

• Starts on 9/13/24 at noon Eastern time
• One hour a week on Zoom
• You'll learn tools to help heal from burnout and chronic stress as well as map out your next chapter, all in a safe, supportive small group setting with other PAs
• Eight weeks total, $149
• Go to my ⁠website⁠ to sign up

My book on healing burnout will be out in 2025 (editing now!!); if you're interested in being on my advanced reader team, or would like a few sneak peeks beforehand, shoot me an email, hope.cook@gmail.com or sign up for any of my free resources on my ⁠website⁠

If you want to have me as a speaker or podcast guest or collaborate with me, use the email above to connect!

How will you dance in the rain this week when storms come your way?

I walk with you down memory lane to 2nd grade.  By reconnecting with your 7-year-old self, you can help map out the next part of your journey and learn to treat yourself with compassion and love.  

Send me a picture of you in 2nd grade!  www.hopethepa.com or hope.cook@gmail.com

Did you hear the story last summer about the lady who fell head-first into the porta-potty while trying to retrieve her cell phone using her dog leash? I use this fascinating story of (attempted) resilience and failure to illustrate what we can do when we find ourselves in situations involving shi%$y work situations.

If you're curious about whether life coaching can help you get unstuck or make your next career move, let's talk! We'll meet up on zoom and chat.

I'd love to meet you, so stop thinking about it and take action! Remember, you can't think your way to clarity, but taking action will lead you there.

I like old-school emails better than anything! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website www.coachhopecook.com

Dorothy began her entrepreneurial career in the beauty industry, but she's had many successful businesses since then, including a consulting business where she helps young entrepreneurs scale their business to the million-dollar mark.  She wrote Streamline Success, which became a best-seller.  She wrote her second book, Conflict Revelation, based on her 40 years of experience working with her employees, many of whom she'd had for decades.

visit www.hopethepa.com to see show notes and find links to Dorothy's site.  

My life coaching mentor, Martha Beck, has used the metaphor of swinging from a rope swing to help clients determine if they need to jump, keep swinging for a while, or stay on the safety of the rock for a while longer.  Maybe you've considered taking a leap, but something tells you it isn't time.  Or maybe there are things you can do to make your current job be a better fit so you don't have to jump off into the unknown.  

If this episode resonates and you'd like to explore your "leaping options" with me, click here to set up a complimentary discovery call or check out my website for free resources.  

I share personal details of what my expectations have been lately for marriage, kids, etc.  and how I tried an experiment to change my reality by changing my expectations.  

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Will you be terrified? Yes! Can you afford not to decide? No, not if you want to live a life filled with purpose and joy again. You may not be ready for this step, maybe you're still in the freaked out paralyzed Step #1, maybe you're in the planning and dreaming phase of Step #2, or, maybe you're finally ready for the action of this step!

Not sure which step you're in? Or, maybe you need help navigating this whole burnout thing. Let's talk! Schedule a complimentary discovery call by reaching out, hope.cook@gmail.com or find more info on www.coachhopecook.com

So often we want to escape the drudgery of our jobs and start over.  We bemoan how unfulfilled we are.  But whoever said it was your job's job to "complete you?"  Before you send out a CV, listen to this.  Fulfillment can be found despite your job situation.  

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A small dose of inspiration for your week

It's time!  Grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and learn more about Hope and how this whole podcasting thing works.  Hear how her family is making it work financially (or not), hear what her kids think about it and how it's affected her relationships.  Why am I writing in third person?  Because it makes it sound like I have a team.  Spoiler alert:  There's no team, just moi:)  Reach out if you'd like to explore individual or group coaching, we'll schedule a free discovery call!  

Website:  www.coachhopecook.com or DM me on Instagram @coachhopecook or email hope.cook@gmail.com

A quote to get your mind right this Monday!

 Andree Terry didn't let inexperience stop her in her tracts.  She recognized a gap in the market for a line of skincare products safe for the fragile skin of cancer patients, so she set off on a journey of learning how to create products from industry giants like Loreal and Clairol.  She traveled to Egypt and Europe, learning about ancient techniques and skincare ingredients used for centuries.  

Andree's products were so successful, they were chosen as one of the elite gifts in swag bags for the Grammy's and are now shipped all over the country.    

What is lack of experience keeping YOU from doing/trying?  Send me a DM and let me know!  @coachhopecook

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A tiny dose of inspiration for your week

I share how frazzled I'd been feeling before I made some hard but necessary changes.  

Walk away with steps you can implement today to help you live a more meaningful life.  

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I could listen to this lady for days! She's so grounded and generous with her wisdom. If you're feeling down and out or uncertain about your chosen career, sit back and listen.

If you'd like to connect with Sharon, she's on FB and IG

If you see this before Friday the 13th, there's still time to join my masterclass PA burnout group coaching. Reach out via email, hope.cook@gmail.com or go to my site!

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Have you ever been in a Chic-Fil-A or Starbucks and wondered how they do such a good job keeping things running smoothly?  Have you groaned in despair at the chaos in your home and wished you could streamline everything?  Here are some concrete ways to run your home like a business and get your kids on board.  

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An excerpt from a poem by Ben Okri to give you a boost this Monday

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I recorded an entirely different episode, but the energy was definitely off. It took a walk around the block to decipher why. I was having a hard time with jealousy. Not something I'm proud of, but I decided if I'm struggling with it, maybe some of you are, too.

Here's how I shook it off, used it as good information, and reversed the effects.

If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share it with a friend!

If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my ⁠⁠website ⁠⁠and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)

Show notes:

1. The Journey Begins: Understanding the Struggle Bus:

• We kick things off by talking about the notorious "struggle bus." We've all been there, right? Feeling stuck and overwhelmed in your career, your relationships, or with another person. Today, we're going to break it down.

2. What if you saw your struggles as tests in the classroom of life?

• Life presents us with tests, and passing the tests helps you move to the next level. I'll share a few tests I've faced and we'll explore how we can look at life through the lens of "earth school"

4. Embracing Imperfection:

• Perfection? Not our goal here. Let's discuss the importance of embracing imperfections and understanding that they're all part of our journey.

5. Unpacking the Purpose:

• Time for some introspection. What's the point of your current struggle? How can you learn and grow from it? We'll uncover the wisdom hidden within challenges.

6. Stay in Your Lane:

• Comparison is a tricky game. I'll teach you why it's crucial to focus on your unique path and not get caught up in comparing your struggles to others.

7. Self-Reflection and Journaling:

• Grab your pen and paper, folks. We're diving into self-reflection and journaling. These tools are essential for processing emotions and finding clarity during challenging times.

8. Emotional Intelligence and Coping Strategies:

• Let's explore emotional responses and healthier ways to cope with life's challenges. Building emotional resilience is a key lesson.

9. Rewrite Your Story: Shifting Self-Labels:

• What if you could change how you see yourself? I'll show you how envisioning a different narrative for yourself can lead to personal growth and transformation.

10. Paying It Forward: Inspiring Others:

• Lastly, we'll talk about the ripple effect. Sharing your experiences and wisdom with others is a powerful way to inspire personal growth in yourself and those around you.

Conclusion:

• Remember to embrace your unique journey, accept life's tests, and keep your focus on the big picture. What is this teaching you or what could it teach you if you let it?

If you've found value in this episode, I'd love to hear from you or meet with you on zoom to explore whether life coaching might help you with your ride on the struggle bus.

Amy's energy and enthusiasm are contagious!  She'll have you laughing out loud at her stories of becoming a bartender, then teaching 8-year-olds, and finally deciding to become an entrepreneur and sell juice.  She shares her personal journey with rheumatoid arthritis and IBS and how this led to learning what her body needed to be healthy and thriving.  

1. Have the spirit of 8 yr old.  They show up, they're an enthusiastic Big Fat Yes, they don't sweat yesterday or today.
2. Ask yourself if you are living the life you want to live or the life you think you're supposed to live?  Are you making decisions based on what you truly want or on what you think others expect you to do?  Realize it's okay to disappoint others.
3. You can fail but not be a failure.  The success comes from getting up over and over.  If you're so obsessed with not failing and being perfect, you'll miss the journey
4. Squeeze the day.  Focus on how you can make the best out of each day.   Be a "Yes" and make everyone feel better when they come in contact with you.  Show up in that day and be the best person you can be.
5. Know what fills your bucket.  For Amy, it's serving people, being busy, being passionate about food.
6. Instead of asking "what if it doesn't work", ask "what if it does?"   Likewise, ask yourself what's going well instead of noticing all the things not going well.
7. People are willing to teach you if you're willing to learn  Figure out how to do things yourself by asking questions like Amy did with her electrician, her plumber, etc.
8. Think long term in terms of health, it's what you do every single day, not just a 3 day cleanse here and there.  Aim for long-term health.  You didn't get to this place overnight, make small choices every day and they'll add up.  Each human body is unique and you have to figure out what's best for you.  You've gotta be willing to love yourself enough and think that you're worth it to put forth the effort.

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Even if you don't have a religious bone in your body, you won't want to miss this episode.  We're all here with various gifts and talents to be used while we're alive.  How the heck do you figure out what you're supposed to be doing?  What if that "something" no longer feels right?  How do you know it's time to pivot?  Laura shares her own journey from music history to ministry with honesty about all the ups and downs of feeling pulled towards one thing and having it lead to a dead-end or change into a new calling.  

Show notes and more info on how to work with me (Hope!) at www.coachhopecook.com

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