Past Chaos (April Kirk & Roy Farner)

In this episode, April and Loren discuss dating disasters.  The women each talk about a past date that did not end well.  They also tell us how they feel about being set up on blind dates.

For research, the ladies took to the dating scene at their favorite bar.  Listen as they describe their mission in detail!  Did anyone get lucky?  Find out and hear their advice on new-age dating.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the reasons they got married.  Loren talks about both of her marriages and what made her decide to take the plunge of matrimony.
April divulges the reasons she got married each time.
The women are celebrating one of their children getting married this week.  In honor of the event, the ladies give advice on what they would have wanted someone to say to their younger selves,
Why do people get married? Love, money, children?  Listen as April and Loren go through reasons they feel people get married and what they feel is important in making sure your marriage lasts.

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In this episode April and Loren talk about giving up.  More specifically, what they have given up for marriage, motherhood, and careers.
Listen as the women discuss things they missed out on in order to have a happy marriage, be great moms, and have a successful career.

Loren rates her date!  Hear the most recent date Loren went on and they outcome.  Will there be a second date?  Listen to find out!

Remember, you can now stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss how to survive raising teenagers.  They have six children, they have successfully raised two teen daughters, but will they survive these boys?
April confesses something that she is sure she will be mom-shamed for.  Loren divulges a secret from her childhood that she feels bad about now.

In this week's dating escapades, April reveals that she had a date!  Loren also tells us that she was just invited on an out of town date.  How does April feel about that?  Listen to find out all about this and so much more!

Also, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss what they think women really want.
What do they want out of life, relationships, or just for themselves?
You are sure to learn a lot,  and you are sure to relate a lot. 
April reveals that she had a procedure done this week and gives a PSA on what lead to the decision.  Loren gives an update on her dating life. 
Listen to hear all this and so much more.

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In this episode, April and Loren talk about birthing stories.  Loren goes into detail about all 3 of her births, including the shocking conception of her first child.  Hear the scary details of her second and the almost home birth of her third.
April tells us all about her first teen pregnancy, and if that wasn't enough, she manages to do it all again...still as a teen!  Her third and final was full of delivery room surprises.  Listen to find out what happened that kept her from sending our birth announcements for the last baby.

Also, Loren has some BIG dating plans coming up soon.  How big?  Well, you'll have to stay tuned to find out!
Remember,  you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss self-destructive behaviors.  The ladies are vulnerable as they divulge their individual patterns they experienced when going through their divorces.  April opens up about her vices while attempting to heal from heartache.  Loren talks about the scary truth behind her healing from the pain of her divorce.

Remember, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss relationship cons.  It's like being catfished, but worse!  Both women admit to their biggest relationship con.  They also reveal who they feel was the one man that brought the biggest con to them.
Loren announces a major scare she recently had.  She brings us up to speed on her dating life, while reminding us to stay off the internet when drinking wine.
April confesses to an awkward internet search.  Ironically, this episode also contains a lot of embarrassing boob talk.

Remember, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss living a fulfilling life.  However, this is not what they were supposed to be discussing this week.  This was supposed to be a break-up episode, but that is a tale to tell for another time.
Are you fulfilled?  Listen to what the ladies have to say about their lives and where they find fulfillment.  Also, get an update on the sugar daddy search.  Loren ends the episode with a dating life update.  Hear the deep question she has for April.

Remember, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss taking accountability.  Both women recall the time in their lives when they began taking accountability for their actions, behaviors, and choices.
Sadly, some people never learn this art or do it far too late in life – which causes their ability to have healthy relationships nearly impossible.
Hear the women's advice on how to take accountability, in order to live a more productive and peaceful life.
Also, listen to the update on Loren's dating life.  This one is a real doozie - you will NOT want to miss it!

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss what's been going on lately.  They took a hiatus; they were on a break!  But why?  Don't worry, they always kiss and tell!  
The women give a bird mom update.  You will also hear some really exciting news that involves a new family member.

Which child has been giving them a run for their money lately?  Also, find out what happened recently that made the women question what is and isn't being taught to their children in school.

April asks Loren if she thinks their relationship is "too close".  As always, the ladies wrap up with an update on Loren's dating life.  Spoiler alert - you'll find our whose bed she slept in!

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the behaviors of their children and ponder the question...is it a reflection of their parenting?
April talks about an incident with Tanner on the soccer field that opened her eyes to a different perspective.  Loren reveals a parenting mishap with Jagger and how she stuck with her consequences for his negative behavior.
The women also make a big confession about their relationship - do they ever argue with each other?

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss authentic friendships, and the undying love they have for their true friendship.
The ladies are also joined by one of their very best friends, Heather.  
Heather has recently celebrated a very important anniversary - she has gone an entire year without sex!  Loren is baffled, and April is perplexed.  
The women also discuss how to define where a relationship is going, and if or how you decide to place a label on your relationship.

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In this episode, April and Loren unpack A LOT!
School is out for the summer, and the ladies contemplate whether or not they are bad moms because summer with a house full of boys is maddening!
Also, would they choose their moms all over again, given the chance?  Find out what "wild" thing each of the women did when they first left home.
The women discuss their custody battle and how important it is that you do not put your kids in the middle.  They also discuss different ways they parent in order to protect the innocence of their children.
Lastly, what is their take on parents and friends approving of the person they date or marry?

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren interview a very special guest.  Sarah and her husband made a big decision to go against the grain.  After her husband's retirement from the military, Sarah  decided they should purchase a giant RV and take their 3 daughters and pet children on the road for a year.  Listen to the interesting details of her travels and how she stays sane during her journey of life on the road.
Can you guess the "spicy" question April and Loren are dying to know from Sarah?
Also, find out how Loren was recently interrogated on her parenting style.

If you want to hear more about Sarah and her family or just follow along on their journey, check out her website:  www.threegirlsandagoose.com

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren give an update on what's been going on this summer.  They have a lot to catch up on after their "mental vacation".  The ladies will answer some burning questions.  Also find out why they have been causing such a stir on TikTok.

The big secret...Loren updates us on her dating life.  Who, What, When, Where, and Why is she dating!

The second most asked question - are April and John still married?  Listen now to find out this and so much more!

Remember, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery +. 

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In this episode, April and Loren finally discuss Loren's most recent breakup.  
After giving a brief update on what's been going on in their lives, the women realize they left out a big chapter of their story.  So, April put Loren in the hot seat and asked very personal questions about the relationship and why it ended.  Listen as Loren shares very intimate and personal details of her breakup.
Since Loren seems to be such a professional at ending things, April requests her help in how to let men down easy.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss several topics in motherhood and coparenting.
There's a lot of chatter in Hollywood surrounding coparenting.  What do the ladies have to say about that?
Do you think it is ok for someone to call out your child on social media or a public forum?  Hear what the women have to say about a situation that recently happened in their neighborhood.
A listener wrote in for advice on her coparenting situation.  Since it was a scenario they are very familiar with, they decided to answer the question during this week's episode.
Finally, April asks Loren a very tough question about motherhood.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the first week of back to school for their kids.
They also talk about whether or not they would recycle a previous romantic partner.
The women dive deep into the topic of open relationships.  Have they ever been in one?  Would they ever be in one?  Are there rules or boundaries?  
Also, is a "vanilla" sex life ok?   Hear what the ladies have to say about this and so much more!

Find out what happened this week that lead to April's question for Loren at the end of the episode!

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In this episode April and Loren share an exciting goal they reached together.  The women survived another week of school, but which one of their children decided to raise Hell?
The ladies talk about having tact and agree on the one that has a tad more tact than the other.  The big discussion this week is breaking old relationship habits before getting into a new one.
Listen to their opinions on being independent versus being in a co-dependent relationship.  

Also, April and Loren express their concerns on being understood about their stance on sex.  Is one woman right and the other wrong, or is it just up to personal preference?  Hear what they have to say about the topic.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+. 

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It's been a long week! From surviving another week of school, to remaining calm amidst the slew of house guests we've had, it is amazing they are still somewhat sane.  In this episode, April and Loren discuss giving unsolicited mom advice.  They are all for accepting help, especially from good, seasoned moms.  The issue is getting unwanted wisdom from the not so wise.
The ladies talk about their night on the town, how important cleanliness is in their world, and speaking of unsolicited advice - April received some words of discouragement about her sex life.  Ready for a shocker and a laugh - listen til the end to find out Loren's reaction to someone getting a little too excited about April's Facebook picture.

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After a couple of hectic weeks, the ladies are getting back to their routine.  All the house guests have left the building, which means it is back to business as usual.
This week, the women answer the age old question..."Where do you see yourself in five years?"
The ladies also talk about what they feel is one of the more difficult aspects of blended families - getting the children back on a schedule after visits with the other parents.
In true April and Loren fashion, keeping it on the fun side, the women discuss age gaps in relationships.  How big is too big...of an age gap.

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Our lives are so chaotic that even this episode was unplanned!  The topic we were supposed to discuss got lost in the mess.  However, you are in for a treat.  You're invited to listen in on one of our regular, day to day conversations.  

April admits that she actually does need help in one area of her life, after Loren calls her all the way out.  Listen to the embarrassing event that took place in their neighborhood - as if they need to give the neighbors another reason to dislike them.

Loren tells us about her google search history.  She found out that she's not as kinky as she thought.  Loren also gives us an update on her trip to introduce her girlfriend to her family.

The ladies realize how much they downplay the uniqueness of their relationship and just how special it really is.  

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After a two week break, the women are back!  April and Loren admit that even though they see each other every day, their lives are still so hectic that they sometimes only have time for a quick hi and bye.
Why has April been feeling 'mom failure' lately?  What do the ladies have planned for Halloween?  In this episode, April and Loren discuss being in relationships and still making time for friendships.  Should you just dive head first into romance and forget about your friends?  Hear what the women have to say about this topic and so much more.  Be sure to listen til the end to find out the Shit Show Mom of the week story.

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After surviving a house full of sick children, the ladies were ready for the weekend.  Loren had a first time experience...she attended her first body building show.   April was glutton for punishment and chose to stay home and play monopoly with the kids.  It was not a tragic ending like most monopoly games.
This week, April and Loren discuss helping  others when you have no experience in the situation. The women also take a listener question.  Turns out, they know a thing or two about marriage, divorce, and coparenting.
Find out which ex Loren would recycle, how April would react if Loren and John ever thought of getting back together, and why Roy went to "jail".

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex". on Discovery+.

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Are you ready to unpack a whole lot of family drama?  We sure hope so, because that's what we are doing in this episode.
Roy, aka Papa Gator, is in town for a visit.  What better way to get the scoop than from the horse's mouth.  April and Loren put Roy in the hot seat this week.  They find out what's been going on since the show aired.  What were his true feelings about being on a reality show?  Did he have a best and worst part of filming?
Do April and Roy get into a heated debate on the things he disclosed during the show?  Most importantly, is Roy single, or does he have a Misses Papa Gator?
Find out this and so much more!

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April and Loren discuss their personal experiences with anxiety and depression.  Is it hard being positive for others when you are not feeling yourself?  How about dealing with anxiety in motherhood?
If given the chance, would you look through your best friend or significant other's phone?  Find out which one of the women did and what she found out!
April and Roy had a heated argument over a coparenting issue.  Listen as the women discuss the difficulties of parenting in a blended family.
Also, is it ok to tell our children that we are struggling?  Hear all of this and so much more!

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, and My Ex" on Discovery+.

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The ladies are in rare form this week.  How do they feel about accents, and which ones do they think they have?  Do you wish life had a "try-on" option?  If so, what would you like to exchange?
April and Loren talk about the magic surrounding the holidays.  They discuss the importance of family time and holiday traditions.
Find out why Loren sent an SOS during her visit with family.  And learn what April thinks about being friends with benefits.
The hot topic this week is dealing with disrespect in your coparenting relationship and deciding when it is time to walk away to spare your mental health.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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After listening to the start of last week's episode we realized it sounded like we were having our toenails plucked.  Sorry for that, because we are in fact not miserable!  
This week we brought our positive attitudes and good vibes.
Do you drunk shop?  One of the women admits they do, while the other shops enough sober.  Also, are you aware of your surroundings.  April admits that she has become much more situationally aware, while Loren says when she feels safe, she lets her guard down.
April talks about a feeling she got this week, and how her journey of self-discovery is going.  Loren got her lips done and gives an update on how she feels about them.
The women started rewatching "You, Me, & My Ex" and discuss their thoughts on the first episode, how they felt then and now.
Finally, are you a crazy ex?  Listen to find out the craziest things April and Loren have done post breakup.

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After surviving the world's longest week, the women are preparing for the holidays.  While attending their child's orchestra concert, the ladies were recognized as "the girls from TLC".  
April shocks Loren by telling her that she was pulled over by the cops this week.
To kick off the weekend, the women attended a concert that gave them high school nostalgia.  
The ladies discuss meeting in-laws and how they felt meeting the parents.  April divulges her feelings of being on the other end of that scenario.
Listen to find out what types of gifts April and Loren live to give and receive.  Also, how are they handling this blended family Christmas?
The women discuss rewatching the next episode of You, Me and My Ex.

Also, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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After a rough start, April and Loren are back and ready to take on this new year!  
Are we a shit show?  We are really questioning ourselves, especially after finding out what some of our neighbors think of our lifestyle.  This revelation makes Loren reveal what an ex referred to our house as.
April had an epiphany that has her rethinking the way she handles things in her life.
In this episode, April and Loren discuss 2022.  They talk about the good and bad parts and what they learned from it, both agreeing that they are happy to see it end.
Even though 2023 started out rough for the ladies, they are ready to face this year head on and with optimism.
The women discuss their biggest regret of 2022 and their intentions and hopes for 2023.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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This week has left us feeling like we were on autopilot!  There's always something crazy going on in our home.  Right now, April is scared for her life because Loren is trying to quit a bad habit.  
Are you superstitious?  Find out if the ladies are and which superstitions they believe in most.  April and Loren have a strong discussion on whether or not they believe a place of employment should be able to dictate what you do on your personal time.
The big topic - do you have a hard time relating to your kids?  Is it important to find a commonality between you are your children?  Find out what the ladies have to say about this and so much more in this week's episode.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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There was so much to unpack, we didn't even have time to unpack it all!  During this busy week, we celebrated a birthday for one of our middle children.  
Find out what people do in pictures that really bugs the women.  
Loren has a confession for April.  This leads to a discussion on Loren's habit of running from her relationships, and why April thinks it is perfectly healthy this time.  
Then, April has a little confession for Loren.  Hear why it was difficult for her to decide the right time to tell Loren, due to the fact April is her best friend and bonus mom to her children.
Finally, the women discuss double standards for women and men.  Listen to all of this and so much more during this week's episode. 

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

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Welcome to Season 4!  It's been a LONG time coming, and worth the wait.  
This week, there are some new things happening on Past Chaos.  We have a new co-host joining the show.  When one door closes, another door opens.  

April got a new job and is entering a new phase of life and she couldn't be happier.  
BIG NEWS - Roy has joined the conversation!  April asks if he was scared when he decided to marry a woman that already had 2 daughters and an ex-husband.  Find out 
Roy's shocking response that left April a little speechless.

Do you ever worry that you're not getting it right when it comes to parenting?  Is education important?  What is your biggest regret when raising your kids?
Listen to this week's episode to find out all these answers and so much more!

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discover+.

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In this episode April and Loren introduce themselves and give listeners an insight into who they are, what listeners can expect to hear, when they will be podcasting and blogging, where they will podcast and the significance of the place, and most importantly - the reason the Wife's decided to join forces and tackle this journey together as a TEAM!

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This season of Past Chaos is coming in hot!  Thank you for the love you have shown us with all the new changes.  We appreciate it so much!
BIG NEWS...our TLC show, "You, Me, & My Ex" was renewed for a Season 2.  The show will premiere April 17th at 9pm on TLC!
Last week April and Roy pondered whether or not they were good parents.  This week, their two oldest daughters, Hayli and Taylar, join April to answer that question.
First things first, what do April's and Roy's daughters think of their parents being on a Reality T.V. show?
Also, what do Hayli and Taylar really think about being raised in a blended family dynamic?  Do they agree with what April and Roy thought were their biggest mistakes as parents?
Find out why April threatens to ground Hayli for a confession she made about her teenage years.  The girls discuss what they feel their parents got right in their eyes and if they have any childhood trauma caused by their mom and dad.
Hayli and Taylar discuss which piece of advice they would give parents raising kids in a blended family, based on their experience as children of a blended family.
Listen to all this and so much more on this week's episode of Past Chaos.

Don't forget, you can also stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+. 

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Do you ever wonder if you are hindering your child's ability to be themselves?  This week April is joined by her oldest daughter.  They discuss allowing your children to have individuality, while still maintaining the reigns as a parent.
April asks her daughter if she feels that she was allowed to have a voice as a child and how that affected her becoming an adult.
Is there a fine line between allowing your child to be an individual but not allowing young minds to make big adult decisions?  Also, find out why April feels like she is being a hypocrite.  

Don't forget, the new season of "You, Me, & My Ex" premiers on TLC at 9pm April 17th!
You can catch up and watch Season 1 on Discovery+.

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We are feeling better after a stomach bug wreaked havoc on most of our family!  This week, April's son-in-law gives the podcast a review.  That opened up a whole can of chaos.  It made us think, why do we mostly review things we don't like instead of making sure people know when they are doing something good?
There have been a lot of unforeseen changes lately with the podcast.  Since they weren't planned, we picked up the pieces and moved on.  After all, the show must go on!
We started this podcast to shed a positive light on coparenting and blended families.  Even though the show has evolved into much more, that will still be our focus.  We have come too far to let one negative opinion overshadow the thousands of positive ones.
Hayli spits some knowledge about an important life lesson she learned growing up.  And April confesses why announcing Season 2 of "You, Me, & My Ex" has given her some anxiety.
The ladies dive deep into why other people's opinions of us should not matter.  Listen as these women talk about spreading more love and kindness instead of hate and negativity.

Don't forget - Season 2 of "You, Me, & My Ex" will premiere on April 17th at 9pm on TLC.  You can catch up by watching Season 1 on Discovery +.

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We are happy to be back...again!  After an emergency trip to her hometown, April has time to reflect on a BIG question.  "What really matters in life?" 
This week, the women talk about reflection and forgiveness.  In life, we face so many obstacles.  At the end of the day, we have to focus on what's most important.

April discusses her feelings on the premier of their reality tv show.  She reveals that several of the other cast members will be making guest appearances on "Past Chaos".

The women also admit their fears about mom burnout and the regrets we face as mothers.  Listen to hear this and so much more!

Don't forget, "You, Me, & My Ex" Season 2 premiers on Sunday, April 17th at 9pm on TLC.  You can also catch up on Season 1, streaming on Discovery +.

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Are you ready for some EX-tra Chaos!  April and Hayli dive in to the Season 2 premier of "You, Me & My Ex".
After a wild weekend of full mom-mode - soccer tournaments and prom night, April gives details about her trip to Florida for the premier party.
In episode one, we meet a new group - Elodie, De'Andre, and Rowan.  De'Andre's mom is still rooting for him to get back together with Rowan.  But Elodie is here to show everyone who is in charge!
Next up is Alex, Caroline, and Stephen!  Caroline and Alex share some very EX-citing news!  However, Stephen is not thrilled.
Last but not least, the chaos crew - April, John, Loren, and Roy.
April gives an inside look into what was really going on the day of the interview.  Listen to this and so much more on this week's episode!

Don't forget to tune in every Monday night at 9pm on TLC for all the EX-citement!

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April and Loren take it way back...back to the beginning.  They dive into their childhood of divorce, blended families, abuse, alcoholism, and teen pregnancy.  The 'Wife's' take you on a journey to where it all started for them.  In this episode you will learn how their upbringing molded them into the women they are today.  You will also gain a better understanding of how their past has and continues to affect their future.  This will be an emotional journey for them, so join in while they laugh, cry, and drink wine!

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Are you ready for some more EX-tra Chaos?
Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 2!  April is joined by special guest host - Caroline Hines.
This episode is a little late because April received some terrible news last week.  Her grandmother passed away, so she rushed back home to Tennessee to be with her family.  Things are getting back to her version of "normal", and the ladies are getting caught up with the drama.
In episode one, we meet a new group - Chelsea, Matt, and Kenzie.  Chelsea is the ex-girlfriend of Matt.  Matt decides to let his ex move in with him and his current girlfriend, Kenzie. 
Elodie, De'Andre, and Rowan are causing heads to shake when De'Andre drips the bomb that his ex, Rowan, has invited him on a tropical island vacation.  Meanwhile, Elodie is none too thrilled.
Meanwhile, in the ATL,  Stephen has decided he is the perfect choice for the godfather of Alex and Caroline's baby.  Caroline had two thoughts - throw the table or walk away.  She chose the right side of the law.
We move over to April, John, Loren, and Roy.
April's oldest daughter gives birth to a beautiful baby boy, and Papa Gator gets to come home and meet him - fresh out of the womb!  But John decides to rain on the joyful parade.  But don't worry, he got April something real nice - a parting gift...a bird with no feathers.
On down to Florida, we catch up with Jennifer, Chantel, Danielle, and Josh.  We learn what a 'Peter Bug" is, but don't worry - they don't bite...too hard!  The family has some big news to share with everyone at baby Camilla's 1st birthday party.
Listen to this and so much more on this episode of Past Chaos.

Don't forget to tune in every Monday night at 9pm on TLC for all the EX-citement!

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Are you ready for some more EX-tra Chaos?
Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 3!  April is joined again by special guest host - Caroline Hines.

This week, we start off with Matt, Kenzie, and Chelsea.  Matt drops the bomb to Chelsea that Kenzie's parents are coming over for a BBQ.  No need to unpack your bags, Chelsea, you need to go to an awkward dinner so Matt can throw you to the wolves.
In Florida, De'Andre and Elodie are chilling by the pool.  De'Andre informs Elodie that she will be meeting his mom...and Rowan - his ex - at the SAME time.

Moving on to a very different Florida, Jennifer, Chantal, Josh, and Danielle have just divulged some shocking news to their families.  They have all decided to move in together!  One of them is not on board.  Meanwhile, their extended family have so many opinions and are not afraid to speak up about it!

Over in North Carolina, April, Loren, Roy and John are heading to Tanner's soccer game.  This is the first time April is seeing John since "bird gate".
April explains her feelings and reactions to the shit show.
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Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 4!  April is joined again by special guest host - Caroline Hines.

We start out with Matt, Kenzie, & Chelsea.  Matt discusses the pressure of getting engaged, and maybe he had a poor choice of words to describe the situation.
We find out that three is a crowd when it comes to blow-up yard pools.
Still, Chelsea was living her best life and showing off her "breast" assets.
However, even the kiddie pool wasn't enough to cool Kenzie down!

Down in Florida, things are heating up for De'Andre, Elodie, & Rowan.
Elodie has decided she is joining De'Andre and Rowan on their island vacation.
De'Andre thinks it is a good idea to introduce Elodie to his mom...and his ex, Rowan at the same time.  This lunch was full of wrong names, boobie talk, and tough questions.

Over in the ATL, Alex, Caroline, & Steve are coming in hot!  Why is Caroline's mom. so upset about her unplanned pregnancy?  What's the real story behind the "bread-winner" comment?  And were the parents-to-be really that unprepared for their new bundle of joy?

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Here is your recap of "You, Me & My Ex" Season 2 Episode 5!  April is joined again by special guest host - Caroline Hines.

We open up with De'Andre and his jewelry line party it.  He admits maybe he wasn't at his best when he was with Rowan, and that's why he wants her to be included in his success now. 
Rowan admits it bothers her a bit that De'Andre didn’t do some of the things he does with Elodie, when they were dating.  At the party, De'Andre is eager to introduce everyone to his ex...but what about Elodie - his actual girlfriend? 

In Tennessee, the tension is high and the respect is low.  Matt takes Chelsea to pick up her vehicle from the shop.  On the way, they make a pit-stop to the bar where they had their first day.
Kenzie is at home stewing over the fact the Matt hasn't completed his honey-do list.
Matt reveals to Chelsea that he wants to propose to Kenzie.  However, Chelsea doesn't think he is ready.

 It's moving day down in Florida!  Josh, Danielle, Jennifer, and Chantal are moving into one giant house.  Everyone seems happy...except for Chantal.  
Things are already off to a rough start when Jennifer and Chantal can't remember the last time they were intimate.
It gets a little tense when it's time to pick rooms.  Why doesn't Chantal want her room to be near Josh and Danielle?

Emotions are high in the ATL!
Steve is planning Alex's "dad-chelor" party.  Caroline has only one rule - NO strippers.
Alex becomes emotional as he talks about not wanting to fully let go of Steve.  He also  worries about the potential aspect of explaining his relationship with Steve to his son.  Caroline becomes upset that she is forced to listen to Alex reminisce about his ex.  

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In this episode the April and Loren discuss their first and second marriages.  Loren goes into detail on her first marriage and how she believes he was her one true love.  Will they find their way back to one another?  She also discusses her second marriage to John, who is April's current husband.  Loren talks about how her marriage to John began as an affair.
April discusses her first marriage that began at a very young age.  She talks about the domestic abuse she encountered during that relationship.  She goes into detail about the positive co-parenting relationship they were able to build and how her second husband played a major role in forging that alliance.  April explains how even though her second marriage ended in divorce, they still maintain a very positive co-parenting relationship, as well.

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In this week's episode, Loren and April go into detail about the bombshell that was dropped on Loren early in her marriage with John.  They will discuss infidelity, secret children, and working through heartache and pain.  April will ask Loren tough questions on what it was like to find out that the father of her child also had a child with someone else.  Join them as the secrets are revealed firsthand!

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the night they first met.  April also discusses how her friendship with John began.  She describes the moment she found out that Loren had moved out and John was getting a divorce. Loren talks about why she left and how she felt about April when they originally met.  She also opens up about what things were like inside their home that led up to her leaving.  

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the infamous 'watering can'.  As April and John's friendship is progressing, Loren returns and things start to heat up.  The tension between Loren and John is at an all-time high.  As a storm rolls into town, Loren decides to confront April about her relationship with John.  

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the continuing saga of their rollercoaster relationship.  It seemed like they had made a mends, but it was short lived.  The drama continued over the friendship that April was building with John, only causing Loren to dislike April even more.  Things came to a head when April discovered a text between Loren and Roy regarding the night they "ended it with a bang".

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In this week's episode, April and Loren discuss the culminating event of the finale of Loren's marriage to John.  April discusses how her feelings for John began to grow stronger.  You will hear about the lies, betrayal, family drama, and so much more!   

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the catapult into their messy relationship.  They will talk about the email that began the horrible custody battle that lasted over 2 years.  Loren discusses her move back to Georgia and how that affected her relationship with John.  April discusses the beginning of her relationship with John, and how they fell in love while he was away for training.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the aftermath of the email that rocked their worlds.  They go into detail about the start of the custody battle that lasted over two years.  This is where things begin to get extremely difficult and emotions that have been buried, never to be seen again, rise to the surface.  

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In this special edition Podcast released in honor of reaching 500 Facebook followers, the Wives sit down with Jessica, the wife of April's 1st ex-husband to discuss their co-parenting dynamic.  April and Jessica take a trip down memory lane to the beginning of their tumultuous relationship, and how they overcame the odds to provide a stable and positive atmosphere for their children. 

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In this episode, the Wives talk about the initial court case that decided custody for Loren and John's three boys.  We hear about the emotional details during the trial and how the outcome affected their family.  The Wives are joined by John, April's husband and Loren's ex-husband, to give his first-hand account of the events that transpired that day.  

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In this episode, the Wives discuss the aftermath of the verdict.  They also discuss their friendship and co-parenting relationship and what they believe got them to the positive place they are in.  They laugh and gasp at their parenting and relationship stories, while explaining what they hope listeners get out of hearing their stories.

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In this episode, the Wives continue to discuss the negative co-parenting relationship they maintained.  They talk about how difficult it was to communicate in all aspects.  April describes her wedding day and shares a secret with Loren that has them both in tears with laughter.  Loren also tells us about the new love interest she met during that time in her life.

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In this episode April and Loren discuss the first major shared holiday in their co-parenting journey.  Loren also discusses the details of her first serious relationship after her divorce from John.  April tells us the struggles she had when she and John discuss having and child of their own, and then drops the bomb on who is expecting a baby.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss their views on children calling stepparents 'mom' and 'dad'.  They explain their take on the topic by giving insight into their individual childhood situations, as well as their current position.  The Wives are also joined by special guests, John and Roy.  The men give their opinions on the topic and offer a few laughs to lighten the mood.  John describes his feelings on his children referring to April as 'mom'.  Roy explains how he felt when April's daughters began calling him 'dad'.

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In this episode the Wives discuss the continuance of their unproductive co-parenting relationship.  April recalls an incident where Loren attacked her insecurities, by insulting her recent lip injections.  April also continues the saga of her pregnant daughter and the drama behind that situation. Loren remembers how difficult her life was when she felt alienated from her children's lives.  She takes us back to the relationship she was in and recalls just how serious things were becoming.  

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In this episode April and Loren continue the custody battle sage with a new court hearing.  This time, the judge orders Loren to pay child support to John.  During court, she also comes face to face with a long time friend turned foe.  Loren discusses the advancement of her romantic relationship and where it is headed.  April tells us about her feelings in the child support hearing, as well as the issues with John's attorney's office.  She learns that her pregnant daughter has decided to get married.  April also realizes that while things are difficult for her relationship with John due to the ongoing custody battle, she will always remain by his side because he is the love of her life.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the first culminating event that aided them in developing a positive coparenting relationship.  Loren explains the importance of communication and compromise while building a good relationship with your counterpart.  April discusses how imperative it is to rebuild trust in a relationship and how it correlates to positive coparenting.   

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss one final attempt at creating their own custody agreement sans attorneys and the courtroom.  They also give listeners an insight into their last mediation, and how pointless in turned out to be.  Loren discusses her struggles with her oldest son and how the divorce and custody battle affected their relationship.  April talks about the day her oldest daughter revealed that she was gay, and how she handled the news.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss what led up to the call that changed their relationship forever.  They talk about returning home to find the devastation that the hurricane left in its path.  April explains how she was able to build a stronger marriage in the process, while Loren discusses the demise of her relationship.

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In this episode, April and Loren give the details of the call that Loren made to April that began the friendship they have today.  Loren discusses the heartbreak and devastation that led to her reaching out to April for help.  April tells us about her feelings on receiving the news from Loren and how that affected her outlook on their friendship and co-parenting relationship.  The women reveal how one simple phone call built the bridge that constructed an extremely strong bond between them.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the three guidelines they believe are important to consider when you are introducing a new love interest to your children and ex spouse.  The talk about timeline, approach, and expectations.  With a special guest, their friend and neighbor Heather, they recall a personal experience of April's ex-husband introducing her and their son to his love interest - Heather.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss gender bias in co-parenting.  They talk about parenting roles they experienced during childhood, and they give their opinions on the same roles in their adult lives.  With a special guest, they delve into the different aspects of gender bias between step-parenting and biological parenting.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the effects that absentee parents inflict on the children they abandon.  The Wives recall their personal childhood experiences involving their family dynamic.  With a special guest, April's son-in-law, they get a male perspective on the topic of growing up with and absent father.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss knowing when it is time to end a marriage.  They talk about how and why each of their previous marriages ended and what made them know it was time to walk away.  They invited a special guest on their show to recall her shocking story of her marriage and what let to its demise.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss dating as a single parent.  April talks about her experiences in dating after her first marriage, while being the single mother of two daughters.  Loren tells us about new-age dating as a single mom, while co-parenting three children with her ex-husband and April.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the process of letting go and moving on.  They talk about the three steps of acceptance, healing, and forgiving and how they used them during their divorces in order to strengthen their co-parenting relationship as well as themselves personally.  They are joined by a prior guest and good friend, Heather, to give her perception on the topic.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the pressure of portraying the 'perfect' life on social media.  They talk about how this relates to co-parenting and the instances that occurred in their real-life custody battle.  April and Loren go into detail about how society and social media place stress on individuals and families to maintain a 'perfect' appearance in order to fit in with the rest of the world.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss their co-parenting relationship and how it has evolved in 2019.  They also discuss their goals and hopes for 2020.  April talks about how her highs and lows of the previous year and where she hopes the co-parenting relationship will go in the future.  Loren tells us how their co-parenting relationship has affected her life as a whole and what she hopes will come of it.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss mom-shaming.  The women talk about how they have both been mom-shamed, as well as admitting they have been guilty of judging other moms in the process.  April also shocks Loren with a revelation about how she feels about women that do not have children becoming part of their blended family.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the heavy topic of mental illness in mothers, while going through a divorce.  They both talk about their personal mental health while attempting to hold things together and parent their children while surviving their divorces.  April and Loren talk about how important it is to open up about your mental health.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the hot topic of "Mommy Issues".  They talk about how their relationships with their mothers have affected their parenting style as adults.  The women are joined by a special guest, Ally, to give her insight on her issues as a child growing up with "Mommy Issues".

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss when men marry a strong-willed woman and attempt to change her.  April recalls that no man has ever tried changing her, but she has put pressure on herself to fit into what she feels the man wants her to be.  Loren tells us that she feels the majority of the men she has dated all want to tame her and place her in a box that she never fits into.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss creating a peaceful co-parenting relationship.  They are joined by Kathy Hammond. a 27-year veteran stepmom, writer, speaker, and award-winning author, with over 2 decades of stepmom experience.  April and Loren go into detail on topics covered in Kathy's latest book, “How To Kill Your Husband’s Ex, Attorneys, and Then Some”.  This amazing read, gives wonderful advice to women on how to survive being a stepmom.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the concept of co-parenting with a stepparent.  They explain that in some relationships, communication between the ex spouses is so toxic, that is healthier for the stepparent to aide in co-parenting until the biological parents can reach a more peaceful existence.  

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the importance of being alone after divorce.  They talk about how it is pertinent for your mental health to know more about your true self, before you expect anyone else to be able to do the same.  How can we expect someone to love us, if we do not truly love ourselves?  This episode is filled with the empowerment you need to become comfortable and confident on your own.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the benefits of having a tribe of friends that you can count on.  During their divorces and co-parenting journey, the Wives have been surrounded by their village.  Their friends, Amanda and Heather, join them to discuss parenting with a village and talk about how important it is to embrace the help that your group of friends can provide during the good times and bad.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss co-parenting with a narcissist.  They talk about five tips they feel are important to consider when co-parenting with a narcissistic person.  

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss relationships and intimacy.  They talk about the importance of keeping the romance in a relationship when you are going through stressful situations, such as a bitter custody battle.  The women are joined by special guest, Rabbi Manis Friedman, to discuss the art of maintaining an intimate relationship and just what that means.

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In this episode April and Loren discuss co-parenting plans during the coronavirus epidemic.  They talk about alternative measures you can take in regards to your parenting plan while dealing with this crisis.  

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the ugly truth that is...jealousy.  They tell us examples of how jealousy affected them during their divorces and early on in their co-parenting relationship.  April and Loren also give listeners three ways to combat jealousy, in order to preserve your relationship and yourself.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss co-parenting a child with a very unique behavior.  They talk about the challenges they face when trying to forge a positive co-parenting relationship, while simultaneously parenting a child that had a much different behavior than they had ever dealt with before.  The women have a surprise guest join them, their son Jackson.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss co-parenting with an addict.  They talk about the experiences they had growing up with family members who suffered from addiction.  Since neither April nor Loren have co-parented with an addict, they have very special guests to shed light on the subject.  Leslie is married to Jennifer's ex husband.  Together, they co-parent two daughters.  Throughout their relationship, Jennifer suffered from addiction.  Leslie and Jennifer have since developed a very strong bond and were able to co-parent past addiction!

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss boundaries in your co-parenting relationship.  They talk about setting boundaries and the ones they feel are important for their family dynamic.  Joining them to give a professional opinion on the topic, Stefani adds a therapeutic insight on why boundaries are important and how to have the sometimes difficult talks about setting them.  
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In this BONUS episode, April and Loren give insight into what has been going on in their co-parenting relationship lately.  They go into detail on the changes that will be coming in their journey as well as a brief recap of what has already happened.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss different styles of co-parenting.  They talk about all the types they have tried in their personal dynamic and what has and has not worked for them.  They are joined by special guest, Tabitha, who shares her emotional co-parenting journey.

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In this episode, April has a guest co-host to help her discuss becoming a stepparent.  She is joined by her ex-husband, Roy, to help shed light on what you can expect when you become a stepparent.  They offer advice and tips on how to peacefully blend your family, while maintaining your sanity.

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In this episode we discuss long-distance co-parenting.  We talk about the three tips we believe are important when co-parenting from afar.  April is joined by a special guest, her ex-husband, Jerry.  Together, they discuss how they were able to positively co-parent while living on opposite sides of the country.  This episode is sponsored by Podcorn.

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In this episode April discusses the difference between co-parenting infants and teenagers. She is joined by a special guest co-host, Leslie.  The women talk about the struggles and joys of being a stepmom.  They explain what they feel has been the most difficult age to parent and co-parent their children.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss being best friends with your new spouse's ex.  The women recount the beginning of their relationship, recalling the ups and downs.  They talk about the benefits of having such a strong friendship as wife and ex-wife, mom and stepmom.  This episode is sponsored by Aila.  You can shop Aila at www.meetaila.com.  Be sure to use our code - PASTCHAOS20 - at checkout for 20% off your order!

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss how divorce and positive co-parenting affect children.  They talk about their individual experiences as well as how their children are coping today.  April and Loren are joined by special guest and fellow Podcast host, Melissa Brown.  Melissa is a mom and stepmom, and she hosts "The Blended Family Podcast".  Together, the women discuss the affects divorce and blending families can have on children.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss parental alienation.  The are joined by Stefanie, a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in the state of WI, who holds a master’s degree in Forensic Psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology.  The women get professional insight on the tough subject of parental alienation, while discussing their experiences in the matter.  

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss their actions while going through both of their divorces.  They talk about how they behaved and what they wish they would have done differently.  April and Loren developed their own Guide to surviving divorce, which they discuss during this episode.  This episode is sponsored by Masami Hair Care products.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss the very sensitive, but relevant topic of Mental Illness.  More specifically, the women dive into the topic of motherhood and your mental health.  They discuss their experiences with depression during their divorces, while trying to maintain sanity so they can still be great mothers.  The women are joined by April's youngest daughter, and she discusses her diagnoses of mental illness.

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In this episode, April and Loren discuss their thoughts on couples that choose to stay married for the sake of the children.  They talk about their personal experience with this, in their previous marriages.  The women are joined by Missy, who describes her childhood with parents that chose to remain married even though their relationship was volatile.  She joins them on the day of her parent's long-awaited divorce - 32 years in the making.

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In this episode, April and Loren recount the events of the last year.  They discuss the highs and lows, the ups and downs, but most of all - the victories they have had while co-parenting past the chaos.  The wives share their hopes for the future and what they wish to share with other families going through a difficult custody battle.

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