Parenting The Adlerian Way (Alyson Schafer)

Got a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode. 

Q1.  8 year old refuses to apologize 

Q2.  Divorced w/ shared custody, but teens want to see friends instead of uphold the parenting agreement to be with me outside the city

Q3.  Improve my patience levels 

Check out my Feb 23rd workshop on sibling rivalry

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Q1. 18mo crawls in and out of cot and plays instead of going to sleep. 

Q2.  4 Yr old goes to bed but then requests things (toilet, water etc). 

Q3. 5.5 yr old daughter spits and is rude when grandpa sets a limit with her. 

 Q4. 13 yr son rejects any of my advice on life matters.

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Q1. 9yr old can’t explain why she is crying

Q2. 9yr old says “don’t cheer for me” when I say “way to go – you did it”

Q3. 9 &13 yr old boys who complain about nothing being fair between them

Q4. 9 &13 yr old boys who constantly fight and bicker 

Q5. 9 & 13 yr old boys with a dad who is a bad role model and the marriage is not working

Q6. 13 yr old boy who is sneaking

Aug 4th Do’s and Don’ts of Managing Teens’ Partying webinar link for details and registration here. 

Books on encouragement:  

Encouraging Children To Learn https://tinyurl.com/26h25w82

Turning People On: How to be an encouraging person:  https://tinyurl.com/59e88bta

Calvin Armerding podcast interview on the co-operative family: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/parenting-the-adlerian-way/id1508655119?i=1000522893991

Paul Rasmussen podcast interview on emotions: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/parenting-the-adlerian-way/id1508655119?i=1000503066250

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Q1. Am I creating trust issues by leaving my screaming 2.5 year old child at daycare?

Q2. Help with a 9yr old daughter who is upset about the impending death of her grampa

Q3. 11 yr daughter hangs with a friend who has bad qualities, she sees it, but still wants to be friends regardless. 

Q4. My 4 yr old son is very rude when we have company (especially grandparents). 

Q5. My twins in grade 6 think sex ed about lesbians and transgender is too early, and they don’t like their friends acting it out in front of them. 

Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

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This month’s workshop:  Kids and Tech.  Details and registration here: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/managing-kids-and-tech-tickets-307638654497

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Q2.  4 year old has clothing sensitivities 

Q3. 18 yr old daughter uses my toiletries and refuses to wash her clothes.

Q4. 13yr son hates school and refuses to talk about with me. 

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Fionnuala gave up her teaching job to become a full time Adlerian Parent Educator and now has expanded to train educators too.  Originally from Ireland, and working in Germany, Fionnuala shares her journey and how others might seek out this fulfilling career, or at least explore more about Adlerian psychology outside of just a parenting class. 

You can check out training programs with Fionnuala at www.parentingtools.de 

Positive Discipline:  www.positivediscipline.org

Parent Encouragement Program P.E.P www.pepparent.org

Adlerian Summer Schools are called ICASSI and they are here: www.ICASSI.net

North American Society of Adlerian Psychology NASAP https://nasap.memberclicks.net

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Dr Belangee is an Adlerian clinician in private practice in Canton Georgia where she specializes in treating eating disorders from an Adlerian perspective.  In this episode we talk about social media’s impact on body image, family factors and personality traits of people who develop anorexia or bulimia, the difference between the two disorders, signs to watch for, preventative measures in your parenting, and how to approach dieting when it’s actually needed. 

Check out more about Susan here: 

Linkedin:  www.linkedin.com/in/susan-belangee-ph-d-lpc-b5248975

And Susan provided some great resources for listeners: 

National Eating Disorders Association – www.nationaleatingdisorders.org

ED Referral – www.edreferral.com (main page); for outside of US: www.edreferral.com/international

Boys and Eating Disorders - https://childmind.org/article/boys-and-eating-disorders/ (The Child Mind Institute site is a great one for general mental health info as well)

Book – Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher; recently revised 2019 for 25th anniversary

If you are interested in learning more about Adlerian psychology and parenting, check out the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology:  https://www.alfredadler.org and consider membership.

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Q1. 15 yr old girl lying and sneaking out to see her boyfriend.

Q2.  9yr old boy doesn’t like his body shape.

Q2. ADHD teen boy won’t do his chores, but fights to get more data and gym membership. 

Q3.  7yr old boy who is a constant struggle. He will not listen or get along with his siblings.

Q4. 7yr old girl who speaks disrespectfully to Mom when she is having an explosive episode.

Q5.  University Prof looking for Adlerian / non-traditional grading methods for students. 

Details and registration information for Alyson’s webinar on October 5, 2022 on “Parenting Strategies For Teens and Tweens” is here.  

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Dr. Rich is an Associate Professor of Pediatrics at Harvard Medical School and the Director of the Digital Wellness Lab located at Boston’s Children Hospital where he practices Adolescent Medicine. In this interview, we discuss parenting advice for a healthy digital upbringing and the resources available at the Lab. As well, we discuss PIMU - “Problematic Interactive Media Usage” - and the underlying issues that correspond to its appearance in certain populations of children. 

Here is the link to the Digital Wellness Lab: https://digitalwellnesslab.org/ 

I highly suggest you subscribe to their e-newsletter here: https://digitalwellnesslab.org/about/newsletter/  

You can follow the digital wellness lab on social media too: 

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/company/digital-wellness-lab 

Twitter - https://twitter.com/DigitalWellLab 

FB - https://www.facebook.com/digitalwellnesslab/ 

IG - https://www.instagram.com/digitalwellnesslab/

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I am bringing you a special guest to celebrate my 100th episode! Julie Lythcott-Haims joins me to talk about “adulting”. She is the New York Times best-selling author of “How To Raise An Adult”, and today she and I discuss her latest book, “Your Turn: How to Be An Adult”. Enjoy!  

You can find Julie on social media at: @jlythcotthaims

Her books can be found at:  https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn 

And her TED course:  https://ed.ted.com/lessons/uX3soXgB

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Jamie Scrimgeour specializes in stepfamily dynamics. She hosts the KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. In this episode we discuss the challenges of step parenting and how the changes begins with us. 

You can find Jamie below: 

On FB at www.facebook.com/scrimgeourjamie

Or on IG www.jamiescrimgeour.com/jamiescrimgeour

The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast – www.jamiescrimgeour.com/kickassstepmompodcast

Get Jamie’s “The Secret To Improving Your Stepfamily Life” a free download here: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/freeguide Also, register for Alyson’s upcoming webinar on power struggles.  Details and registration can be found here: https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/power-struggles-tickets-259113775277

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Q1.  3 year old’s growing dependency on taking her teddy bear to daycare.

Q2. 12 year old is cutting.  

Q3.  3 year old randomly hits people including strangers, babies in strollers etc

Q4. Daughter won’t eat with her mouth closed at the table.

Details and registration information for Alyson’s webinar on October 5, 2022 on “Parenting Strategies For Teens and Tweens” is here.  

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Erica founded the YummyMummyClub.ca 14 years ago, well before on-line communities were a “thing” and now she’s garnering over a dozen prestigious awards for her work.  In this episode, Erica talks about her personal parenting journey and the need to have support from other moms as she raised her children, especially the teen years when mental health issue arose.   

Erica also discuss her new musical series for kids called “Outta The Books” which is launching on YouTube. You can check out the trailer here.  

Follow her on social: 

Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericaehm/

Twitter https://twitter.com/EricaEhm

FB https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsEricaEhm

IG https://www.instagram.com/ericaehm/

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Q1. My 14 yr old lies and we don’t want her dating 

Q2. What are the signs of anxiety and how can we help kids manage?

Q3. How do we manage FOMO in the age of social media?

Centre for Humane Technology:  https://www.humanetech.com

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Dawn has a unique blend of experience. She has spent 30+ years working in the travel industry, including her parents’ firm Barclay Travel Ltd, plus she holds a degree in psychology and marketing. In this episode, Dawn shares with me travel strategies and anecdotes from Certified Autism Travel ProfessionalsTM.

To continue to follow Dawn’s advice, check her out here: 

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawnbarclay/ 

Twitter  http://www.twitter.com/@travelingdiff 

FB http://www.facebook.com/travelingdifferent

Book: https://www.amazon.ca/Traveling-Different-Strategies-Inflexible-Neurodiverse-ebook/dp/B0B2ZJR7FV/ref=sr_1_3?crid=32XN11N3MN1L0&keywords=traveling+different&qid=1654883754&sprefix=traveling%2Caps%2C57&sr=8-3

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Lauren is a sociologist, youth advocate and award winning educator.  In this episode, Lauren shares some of essential skills that students are developing right now that will be lead to later success after the pandemic.   Lauren talks about finding the balance being supportive while also nurturing independence as kids learn to do school remotely.  Drop the guilt,  get realistic, model healthy limits and much more! 

Check out more about Lauren here: 

Linkedin - linkedin.com/in/laurenbarr4innovated

Twitter – @Lauren_M_Barr

FB -  facebook.com/proflauren.barr

IG - @laurenbarr_innovat.ed

And Lauren provided some great resources for listeners: 

An article from MindShift:  How Can Teacher’s Nurture Meaningful Student Agency?

Greater Good has some wonderful science-based information from in positive psychology to help build those traits we need to manage life’s challenges more successfully.   https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/parenting_family

A letter I wrote to my students this fall: https://venngage.net/pl/ovjKALzpW2w

A Permission Slip for Parents – great video from an Ontario Administrator https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=3605607989556485

Many parents and students don't realize there are free resources out there. If they have HS students who need the support of a text to understand concepts better, and they don't have one at home, these can be great.  Open Textbooks: 

https://open.umn.edu/opentextbooks

https://open.bccampus.ca/browse-our-collection/find-open-textbooks/

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Q1. Guilty about 3 year old being left in the dust, as parent is consumed with demands of helping 5 and 7yo with on-line school.

Q2. 10yr son won’t take responsibility for his actions and just blames others

Q3. My 13 yr daughter was confident as a child, but now fears what others will think of her.

Q4. How much freedom should I give a 13yr old if they are hanging with people who vape and smoke pot.

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Shane and Nikki’s courses:  www.preparingparents.com

On IG and FB: @preparingparentscourse

LEAPT:   Play Therapy Training with Terry Kottman: www.adlerianplaytherapy.com

The Dougy Center for Grieving Children and Families www.dougy.org

Books: 

10 good things about Barney

You’ve got Dragons

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Ria Simon is a Registered Early Childhood Educator and worked 6 years in the classroom. She taught all ages but mainly preschoolers.  In this episode, we chat about the relationship between parents and their children’s teachers, and why communication is so important. We discuss what is too much, too little and how the pandemic impacted our ability to connect. 

Check out more about Ria and the resources she provides at HiMama as the community ambassador through these links to her social media 

1. www.himama.com
2. https://www.facebook.com/groups/himamacircletime
3. https://www.instagram.com/himamaapp/

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Dr Frank Walton is an internationally acclaimed and well respected Adlerian psychologist with more than 40 years’ experience working with families in private practice in Columbia, South Carolina.   He has taught Adlerian family counselling practices around the globe. He has produced and published many resources, articles and manuals on teens and teen suicide. He was the psychological consultant for the critically acclaimed and award winning video “Teen Suicide: An Approach To Prevention”. 

Check out the free downloadable resources on Dr Walton’s website.

The South Carolina Society of Adlerian Psychology’s Annual Conference

International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes  (ICASSI)

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Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach for ambitious and overwhelmed women.  Sound familiar?  In this podcast we talk about her personal journey as a cancer survivor and how the cultural norms for motherhood have to be challenged.  Being a good mother should not kill us.  Listen as Heather shares advice for how to make parenting a beautiful spiritual journey instead. 

Here’s where you can keep up with Heather: 

www.facebook.com/heatherchauvincoaching

www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_/

http://heatherchauvin.com/podcast

http://heatherchauvin.com/book

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Q1. My boyfriend’s kids are not vaccinated and not following protocols which puts my kids in danger. 

Q2. How can I help my 14yo and 16yo discover themselves and their career / job skills? 

Q3. What are your thoughts on setting boundaries and guidelines for dating? 

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Register for my upcoming webinar “Parenting Strategies for Tweens or Teens” here

Q1. 15 yr old girl, A student, caught smoking e-cigs in the school bathroom

Q2. 3.5 yr old boy, talkative at home, but won’t say hello / good-bye to others

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End of summer is a common time for parents to decide to end their marriage.  Family Law Lawyer Nathalie Boutet is my guest this week to discuss the different options available to parents as they move through separation and divorce.   There is much that parents don’t know!  I learned a lot myself. 

Here’s where you can connect with Nathalie: 

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/nathalieboutetlawyer 

Twitter: @BoutetFamilyLaw

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Jane and Chip just launched their co-authored book “Positive Discipline in the Montessori Classroom”.   We discuss the shared philosophies of Adler and Montessori, and the need to incorporate a consistent classroom management plan.

You can find more about Chip here:  

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chip-delorenzo-53568a10/

FB:  https://www.facebook.com/pdformontessori

You can find out more about Jane, all her book titles and Positive Discipline here: 

https://www.positivediscipline.com

https://www.positivediscipline.org

https://www.facebook.com/positivediscipline https://www.twitter.com/PDTweets https://www.pinterest.com/pdpins1 https://www.instagram.com/positivediscipline https://www.youtube.com/user/PositiveDiscipline

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Robert Omwa is bringing Adlerian Psychology to teachers in Kenya, his home country that has a long history of corporal discipline, mostly through caning. He grew up being caned at school, and then became a teacher who caned his pupils, when he decided there must be another way. Listen to his journey and the remarkable impact he is making. 

Mentioned in the podcast: 

Beacon Teachers Africa  http://beaconteachersafrica.org

Precious Seeds Africa  https://www.end-violence.org/members/precious-seed-africa

Follow Robert here: 

https://www.facebook.com/RobertOmwa https://www.instagram.com/omwarobert 

https://twitter.com/RobertOmwa www.linkedin.com/in/robert-ouko-omwa-hsc-aaa76211b 

Powerful teacher testimonial: 

https://youtu.be/7G_RcqqL7CY

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Dr. Dan O’Neill is the author of “Survival Of The Fit”. He is an orthopedic surgeon, sports psychologist and the former Team Physician for the U.S. Alpine Ski Team. He is passionate about helping children live healthy and happy lives. In this interview we hear about the obesity issues in children today, and how parents can assist in setting their kids up on a good trajectory for a lifetime of healthy living starting now!

Purchase Dr. O’Neill’s book through his website: https://survivalofthefit.net

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Could it be that your “monkey child” who annoyingly hangs upside down from the furniture is actually not seeking your attention, but is a kid solving their own vestibular issues? Sabrina Adair (M. Sc. O.T.) discusses her new book “Understanding a Child The Occupational Therapy Way; Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child. 

Sabrina is not your every day occupational therapist! She is a like-minded professional working to help the world understand children through a developmental, holistic perspective that includes the Adlerian usefulness of behaviour but so much more.  Sabrina invites us to be curious instead of reactionary to use the wisdom of OT’s to really getting to know your child inside and out, so you can make educated decisions and choices in creating an environment at home and school that helps them thrive!  Everyone experiences the world uniquely.  Your kids don’t have to be symptomatic for you to learn how to best foster their potential. 

Sabrina’s website is www.enablingadaptations.com

You can email her at info@enablingadaptations.com

You can follow Sabrina through any of her social media handles: 

Linkedin  linkedin.com/in/sabrinaadair

Twitter  @EnablingAdaptn

FB Facebook.com/enablingadaptations/

IG @enablingadaptations

YouTube  Enabling Adaptations Inc You can find Sabrina’s new book here:  Understanding a Child the Occupational Therapy Way: Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child

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Michaeleen is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. When her daughter Rosy was 3 years old, she bundled her up and left San Francisco to live amongst three ancient cultures to experience their parenting first hand.  She spent time with the Maya of the Yucatan, the Inuit of the Artic Circle and the Hadzabe in Tanzania.  In this interview we discuss the pitfalls of Western “WEIRD” parenting and the merits of ancient methods she refers to as “TEAM” parenting. 

You can follow Michaeleen on twitter @FoodieScience 

And her website:  www.michaeleendoucleff.com 

She loves emails:  mdoucleff@npr.org

You can purchase her book from Amazon too:

https://www.amazon.ca/Hunt-Gather-Parent-Ancient-Cultures/dp/1982149671

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Aimee Buckley is a veteran school teacher and founder of Study Help Inc. In this episode, we discuss how students struggled academically through the pandemic and what is needed to close the gap and get kids caught up at school. 

Aimee Buckley’s tutoring platform is https://study.help 

On social media: @study.help.inc

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I am so excited to introduce you to Ned Johnson, co-author of  What Do You Say: How to talk with kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home. Written during COVID but useful anytime. I met Ned years ago when he attended a presentation of mine in MD for the Adlerian organization in the Washington DC area known as PEP ( Parent Encouragement Program). Ned and Bill Stixrud have written an amazing follow-on book to their first national bestselling book The Self-Driven Child. I am so happy to see so many references to Adlerian quotes, books, concepts being catapulted into the mainstream through this important book. Enjoy the interview! He’s a gem. 

You can find the books here: 

What Do You Say? 

The Self-Driven Child

And follow Ned here:

Linkedin

Twitter

Facebook

Instagram

YouTube

TikTok

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I am very excited to bring you this episode of the podcast!  Listen in as I speak with Kirsten Chase.  Kirsten is the founder of Kidevolve which is an unique company that’s creating targeted, super-engaging mindfulness meditations training materials for children 6- 12.  You’ll hear snippets of great guided meditations geared for children and why social emotional learning is so key, especially during a pandemic.  

You can find more about Kirsten and her work at the links below: 

💝 Lots more at http://www.kidevolve.com/ 

💝 👉 Follow Kidevolve on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kidevolve 

👉Follow Kidevolve on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kidevolve/ 

👍 Like Kidevolve on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kidevolve/ 

🎧 Listen to our Creative Mind Journeys on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2Suf6jw 

💝 Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE! https://bit.ly/2yhtB3b 💝

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Q1. 5yr old son is biting in kindergarten class 

Q2. 3.5yr son keeps sitting on his 5 mo baby brother 

Q3. 3.5yr daughter makes shy / anxious with strangers  (esp. men)

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Julietta Skoog is a fellow Adlerian parent educator with years of experience working with children through her career as a school counsellor. Because so many parents complain of their children not getting along, I wanted to invite Julietta on the podcast to discuss tools for parents who are dealing with fights and squabbles utilizing Adlerian methods.  

You can follow Julietta here: 

FB – https://www.facebook.com/besproutable 

IG - https://www.instagram.com/besproutable 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/sproutable 

Learn more about Julietta’s work at https://www.besproutable.com

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Meet Cameron Davis, a 17yr old youth activist, athlete, entrepreneur, teen traveler, content creator, and role model for youth, as he shares his journey to becoming a world youth leader and how your kids can too! 

Check out his charity clothing line which supports disenfranchised youth: www.721mech.ca

Follow Cameron here:

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/CameronTravels

IG @ogcammyd and @721merch.ca

FB www.facebook.com/RTWCameron

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Q1. How do I street proof my 11yr old daughter for going to the park independently?

Q2. My 17yr old daughter is spending her paycheques on fast food instead of saving for university. 

Q3. My teen can’t get a girl to stop naming calling and the school won’t help. 

If you’d like to purchase access to my webinar “Parenting Strategies For Teens and Tweens”, you can email my operations manager, Donna at Hello@alysonschafer.com and she’ll set you up! 

Protective Parenting for prevention of child abduction can be found on my website here. 

Bullying resources for parents, children and schools can be found at PREVNET.CA

Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my free download “Home Responsibilities By Age”.

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In this episode of the podcast, I speak with a fellow senior Adlerian teacher, practitioner and friend, Wes Wingett. We discuss one of the most practical tools for understanding human behaviour and how to mine our memories of the past in order to bring about change in the way we solve problems, behave and function today. 

North American Society of Adlerian Psychology website is here. 

Wes on YouTube

Wes’s email weswingett@gmail.com

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Dr. Rebecca Jackson and I discuss how to help learners get caught up this year by helping parents create a homework strategy that includes considerations for the state of the child’s brain. Dr. Jackson explains the individual and daily fluctuations in the status of the brain that can impact a child’s ability to focus, concentrate, control impulses and more. She offers ways to improve these skills and capacities. A fascinating interview!

You can find out more about Dr. Jackson and the Brain Balance Centers below:

https://www.brainbalancecenters.com/  

https://drrebeccajackson.com/

https://www.facebook.com/brainbalancecenters/ 

https://www.youtube.com/user/brainbalancecenters  

https://www.linkedin.com/company/brain-balance  https://www.instagram.com/brainbalancecenters/?hl=en

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Q1. 3yr old girl who is shunning her mother and preferring her father. 

Q2. 6yr old girl who is perfectionistic and gets angry when things don’t go the way she wants.

Q3. How to connect with an 11yr old boy who acts like he is 17, is defiant, and doesn’t think his parents know anything. 

Details and registration information for Alyson’s webinar on Nov 16th, 2022 on “Managing Kids And Technology” is here. 

Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist.

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November is will month. Do you have a will? Is it up to date? Do your parents have a will? Do you know who has been named executor? David Edey is a Certified Executor Advisor with over 35 years’ experience. He also spent 7 years in court when a sibling contested their parent’s written will, so he is passionate about helping families get their affairs in order to save them from strained family relationships and chaos. I was my father’s executor and I know how unprepared I was for the task. David is here to help!

You can find David’s book “Executor Help Book” here:

The Executor Help Podcast - https://executorhelp.libsyn.com/

And follow David on social media:

Facebook 

Twitter  

LinkedIn

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In this episode of the podcast, I interview Carolyn Hays, the author (pen name) of “A Girlhood: Letter to my Transgender Daughter”, which takes parents along her family’s personal journey of raising a transgender daughter. In our conversation we discuss the science, and the hurdles, joys and challenges of parenting a transgender child. We also discuss how to be an ally to the LGBTQ2+ community.  

Carolyn mentioned this impactful documentary: Disclosure  

Resources and more about the book on Carolyn’s website.

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Q1. My son says he doesn’t like that other people make the rules and then hurts us so we feel sad too.  

Q2. How do I manage the ubiquitous opportunities for my children to eat sugary foods?

Q3. My sons act out when my ex and I are together briefly at hand-off time between households.

Q4. My 9 yr old has troubles with her emotions especially anger towards her younger sister. 

Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

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Dr. Amoneeta discusses the positive impact of beginning a meditation practice at the youngest of ages. Squirming kids seems like a tough request for sitting still on a cushion, and that is why Dr. Amoneeta created the A-E-I-O-U and Y vowel version of teaching children in engaging ways the components and skills that are fun to learn and practice. Any teacher or parent can work with children using his model. 

His book: “Teaching Mindfulness” can be found here: 

https://bookpubco.com/content/teaching-mindfulness

You can follow Dr. Amoneeta on social media here: 

IG: dr.amoneeta

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Amoneeta/featured amoneeta.com

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Leslie Forde is a researcher and consultant. During the pandemic, she began researching the topics of caregiving, career growth, equal partnership, and self-care. In this interview we discuss the best practices for improving workplace culture, and how to empower working mothers with the tactics they need to navigate their career growth, domestic commitments, and their own well-being. 

You can find Leslie Forde here: 

https://www.momshierarchyofneeds.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moms_hierarchy_of_needs 

Facebook: https://facebook.com/MomsHierarchyOfNeeds

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Q1. 17 year old watching porn

Q2. 6 year old who stomps his feet when he is angry or frustrated

Q3. 12 year old girl crying and sharing she feels she is weird and not fitting in

Check out the information on porn at www.truthaboutporn.com

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Doug Price is a riot! And he is on a mission to teach 17 year olds financial literacy so they become millionaires. What 17 year old isn’t going to perk up their ears when someone asks if they want to be a millionaire?! In this episode we discuss his book and how he is resonating with youth to teach this important life skill - a skill parents often fail at themselves.  

His book, “17 to Millionaire” has its own website: www.seventeentomillionaire.com

The course SmART Money Canada website: www.smartmoneycanada.ca

On Twitter: @17tomillionaire

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Today’s guests are the rock stars of motherhood. They literally fill stadiums with cheering mom fans on their multi-city tours across North America and beyond. Yes, they even travel by tour bus with wine and roadies! They have captured the hearts of moms everywhere with their honest and authentic convos about modern motherhood. With such a huge fan base that they engage with regularly, it was a perfect chance to ask Cat and Nat what they are seeing out there as trends and concerns in motherhood today. They also have taken my parenting classes, so I was especially interested to see how that stood up with everything else they see. Check out their perspective.

You can find Cat and Nat on social media at @catandnat and @thecommonparent

Listen to their podcast called “Cat and Nat Unfiltered”.

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Q1. Should I force my 11 yr old to include their 7 yr old twin siblings in their playdates? 

Q2. 7yr old grade 2 (who was a premature December baby) wants to see his report card which indicates he is “progressing with difficulty” in all subjects. Do I show him?

Q3. Should I pay someone to be a friend for my 14yr old son with Asperger’s who has no friends?

Q4. My 7 and 10yr olds make their lunch but still prefer to take the offerings from the fridge in the classroom meant for kids who can’t afford to bring one. 

If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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When we raise our children, we bring our whole selves to the job. But for most of us there are unresolved wounds and hurts from our childhood that can negatively impact our children. In this episode, Sophia Barna and I discuss the self-responsibility of self-care to heal our wounds, and how to love unconditionally. 

Find Sophia here:

www.crossingyourbridges.ca

Facebook

YouTube

And check out, or purchase, her book at: "The Simple Way: A Graceful Path to Success" 

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Dr Vanderloo is the Scientific Director for ParticipACTION and Dr Tremblay is the President of Active Healthy Kids Global Alliance, and the Chief Science Officer for the ParticipACTION Report Card. In this episode we talk about the recent report called the Global Matrix 4.0 and how poorly Canadian children are doing compared to other countries when it comes to initiatives to keep our kids physically active. We discussed the impacts of the pandemic, both good and bad, as well as actionable tips every family should be taking to get our kids MOVING!

To learn more, check out these links: 

ParticipACTION

Instagram (English)

Instagram (French)  

TikTok

Facebook 

Twitter (English) 

Twitter (French)  

LinkedIn

YouTube 

Active Healthy Kids 

https://www.activehealthykids.org/4-0/ 

https://www.participaction.com/the-science/children-and-youth-report-card/

 https://twitter.com/activehealthyk1

 https://www.facebook.com/ActiveHealthyKidsCanada

 https://www.linkedin.com/company/ahkga/

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Q1. 7yr old boy is very impatient and screams about small stuff.  

Q2. 16yr old girl feels judged by other girls and flees unless friends are with her.

Q3. 15 yr old boy won’t listen to parents about getting more sleep. 

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Adlerian therapist, Dr Sara Saeedi works with youth in a counselling centre in British Columbia. She shares research findings and insights into the “good, the bad and the ugly” of social media and how it’s usage can hurt self-esteem or grow social interest and belonging. She offers tips for parents to help manage the content and amount of social media usage. 

Follow Dr Saeedi here:

FB https://www.facebook.com/drsarapsychology/

IG & TikTok @drsarapsychology 

Check out ICASSI - the Adlerian summer school – coming up in Ireland in 2023.

https://www.icassi.net

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I sat down with Jim White, a coach and founder of The Family Enrichment Academy to talk about his latest book “How To Be The Parent Your Teenager Needs You To Be”.

Jim explains the importance of building connection with your teen and how to set the stage to do so. He also talked to me about empowering our teens by intentionally choosing a “love-based mindset”, which he explains. One of his main takeaways for parents is to recognize that all “bad” or unwanted behaviour by teenagers is actually a call to connect. He recommends making the shift from trying to control what your teenager does to empowering them to be their absolute best. 

Download Jim’s free resource for listeners, “10 questions you should never ask your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking”, at https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions 

Website: https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5KxKx0WQAwmz5qKh5sapGA

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Q1. How to help a tween adapt to our moving to a new town and high school? 

Q2. 7yr old daughter refuses medicine for her cold. 

Q3. 6 yr old son is being aggressive and defiant at school.

Q4. How do we parent proactively around prevention of addiction?

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With a thirteen percent increase in drug deaths last year, it seemed fitting to talk to skateboard prodigy Brandon Turner, who overcame his own struggles with addiction and run-ins with the law. We’ll hear his journey to sobriety and how that led him to create a new rehab center that provides skateboard programs (and other types of programs as well) to create a safe, healthy, and healing community for teen skateboarders and beyond.  

Learn more at:

https://healthyliferecovery.com 

Social media: 

IG @healthyliferecoveryinc and @bturner_

FB https://www.facebook.com/healthyliferecoveryinc 

LI https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-turner-b35089100

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Dr. Ben Rader and I discuss the concept of “chosen family”. It turns out that almost everybody has a chosen family if they take a moment to consider the idea. Ben helps us understand the important role a chosen family provides in creating social belonging as well as important opportunities it provides to either perpetuate or change the roles we play in our most important relationships. 

Check out Dr Rader’s community at www.MASLCommunity.org

Check out the Color of Child Welfare conference we discussed here: https://www.eventleaf.com/e/COCW2023

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Q1. 7yr old daughter with anxiety has explosive fits when things don’t go as she’d like.  

Q2. When to start talking about sexual consent and how? Is 11 too young? 

Q3. 16 yr old son embroiled in a power struggle who refuses to communicate about the need to work together instead of living like he’s in a boarding house.

Q4. 5 yr old triplets and a 2 yr old sibling. One refuses to own responsibility for mistakes and blames others, one is quirky and hoards things in her bed and the room is chaos. And the 2 yr old refuses to eat what is served so dinner is a 1.5 hour ordeal. 

If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

Sign up for The Daily Adler to get a hit of Adlerian inspo and learning in your inbox https://dailyadler.com

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Parenting often targets the Mom demographic and their needs and wants, leaving us to assume Dads don’t engage enough. Turns out, Dads just want to engage differently! My guests Dave Drazen and Dr Brian Lewis are two Dads who have conducted a lot of research to learn about that difference so that Dads who want to step up their parenting get the support they need the way in they want it delivered.  

From this episode: 

North American Society of Adlerian Psychology (NASAP) and its annual conference is here. 

Parent Encouragement Program (PEP) here

Dr Brian Lewis on FB here

Dave Drazen is on social media @daviddrazen

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As a childhood survivor of cancer, Dr Kelly Fradin grew up to become a pediatrician dedicated to helping children with complex medical conditions. She has been helping parents navigate the challenges that arise once you get a diagnosis for a child. We talk about how to find good information and support, about how this impacts the marriage and siblings, how to find the joy on the journey and much more. Even if you aren’t parenting a child with a diagnosis, we can all learn how to be a better community for those who need us too. 

You can order the book here: 

You can follow Dr Fradin’s parenting advice on IG @AdviceIGiveMyFriends

Dr Fradin’s website https://adviceigivemyfriends.com

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Q1. Daughter talks like a “mean girl” to her sister. Will she talk to everyone like that? 

In this episode I also discuss a common parenting trend I see: The gridlock between parent and teen as the parent says “why should I do something nice for you when you are being so rude and irresponsible” and the child is thinking “why would I want to be nice and co-operate with you when you are so mean to me?”. 

I also shared some great ways for parents to get more involved and learn more about Adlerian parenting ideas. Here are the links: 

NASAP (North American Society of Adlerian Psychology) annual conference June 1-4 in Denver, CO. Check out The Parent Track

ICASSI (International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes) in Dublin, Ireland. I am attending the first week July 30th to Aug 5th, but there is also the second week Aug 6th – 12th. You can do one or the other or BOTH! 

The Daily Adler e-newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast (hosted by my brother Jeff Knight). 

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Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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Sue Groner is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator and the author of “Parenting with Sanity & Joy: 101 Simple Strategies”, as well as creator of the CLEARR™ method of parenting. In this episode, Sue talks about her parenting model and also gives very clear examples for screen time, school lunches, clean rooms, healthy eating and more.  

Parents can visit her website to receive 5 tips for Parenting with Sanity and Joy – Now!  

Her Podcast is The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast (anywhere you get your podcasts). 

Her book “Parenting with Sanity & Joy: 101 Simple Strategies”.

And, here’s where you can find Sue: 

https://theparentingmentor.com 

https://www.instagram.com/theparentingmentor/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingmentor 

https://twitter.com/ParentMentoring

https://www.facebook.com/theparentingmentor1

https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-g-groner-09aa395/

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Psychologist Dr Vanessa Lapointe discusses the recent stats on the negative effects of social media on our youth’s mental health. We also discuss the film “The Cost Of Beauty” - a 3 minute heart-wrencher of a documentary about a mother and daughter ‘s journey of how social media created a deadly eating disorder. Dr Lapointe discusses Dove’s Self Esteem Project and their latest project to encourage parents to petition for changes to the Kids Online Safety Act to put youth mental health ahead of profits. 

You can find the movie, The Cost of Beauty, and the petition form, youth mental health hubs here:  https://www.dove.com/ca/en/stories/campaigns/kids-online-safety.html

Download the confidence kit here:  

https://www.dove.com/ca/en/dove-self-esteem-project/help-for-parents.html

More about Dr Vanessa LaPointe here:  

https://drvanessalapointe.com

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Also, check out The Daily Adler e-newsletter and podcast so you can get inspirational personal development in your inbox daily! 

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/daily-adler/id1671211692

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In this episode I talk to Rachael Katz, author of the book “The Emotionally Intelligent Child”. We discuss the importance of understanding the developmental continuum our children are on as they learn social and emotional intelligence, as well as activities to help them develop in these areas. Rachael introduces her MIND framework, which stands for Mindfulness, Inquiry, Non-Judgmental, Decide as tools and skills to develop as we tackle the bigger skill of parenting. 

Buy Rachael’s book here:

https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Cooperative-Well-Balanced/dp/1684038154

More details on the book from the publisher New Harbinger Press: 

https://www.newharbinger.com/9781684038152/the-emotionally-intelligent-child/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAw8OeBhCeARIsAGxWtUyu6qhtnC2ModrhlWY8b3Bo3eYJEnlmDu0_scv-fZNeFLfWdk1A1pEaAr5vEALw_wcB

Send any questions or comments to Rachael on LinkedIn at:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachael-katz/

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This is an exciting episode of the podcast!  I have expanded the format to include guest interviews. My inaugural guest is Washington area pediatrician Dr Steve Silvestro.  Dr Silvestro is the creator of The Child Repair Guide, a multimedia child health education platform utilizing video, podcast, and written content designed to help parents “think like a pediatrician” and take ownership over their kids’ health.  

In this episode, I talk to Dr Silvestro about the pandemic and what parents really need to know about coronavirus amidst so much confusion and misinformation.   We talked about which key  statistics parents should be paying attention too. I also asked Dr S’s thoughts on the controversy about kids and if they should or should not wear masks. We delved into the impact of the pandemic on families and education and more!  

I am sure after this interview you will want to learn more from Dr Silvestro so I encourage you to follow him on his platforms: 

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevesilvestro/

Twitter - @zendocsteve https://twitter.com/zendocsteve

FB - https://facebook.com/drstevesilvestro

IG - @zendocsteve https://instagram.com/zendocsteve

YouTube - https://youtube.com/drstevesilvestro

Parents can sign up for Dr Steve’s newsletter, and find all of his articles & podcasts, and

Mindfulness for Parents Online Course at www.drstevesilvestro.com 

Parents of children ages 2-6 can check out ‘10-Minute Preschool,’ a collaboration between Dr. Steve and his wife, Monica, an early childhood educator. With a welcome song, creative lesson and activity, and goodbye song, ‘10-Minute Preschool’ brings all the best parts of preschool right to your home.

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Q1. Discovered my 13yr old is texting with a girl who says she is cutting.  

Q2. Stepmom of 10yr old looking for support for dealing with parental alienation.

Q3. Do you have a podcast with the whole parenting theory? 

Q4. Nanny of 2yr old & 3 mo old asks how to help Dad who is now losing sleep as the once trained 2 year old is waking again in the night.

Q4. Nanny of 2 yr old asks for help with transitions that lead to anger and throwing items.

Resources from this episode: 

Check out Jamie Scrimgeour’s work with step parenting 

Book on Parental Alienation:  Parenting With A Toxic Ex

Details and registration for Alyson’s Webinar “School Readiness – Utilizing the Summer to Prepare for School” 

If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist.

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This is one of my longer podcasts because I was intrigued with the compelling content of the discussion I had with Stéphane Deschênes, founder of the Bare Oaks Family Naturist Park and President of the International Naturist Federation. I caught up with him in Paris, France.  

I learned more about the motivation behind living as naturist. Turns out it holds many Adlerian principles at its core too. We discussed the benefits for children, which is especially important given the growing rates of mental health issues for children with body image issues.  

Stéphane also discusses the irrational parental fear that some parents have regarding how safe his and other parks around the world are.  

A fascinating episode!

You can learn more about Bare Oaks Family Naturist Park at their website here.

And follow them on social media at: 

IG @bareoaks

YouTube BareOaks

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Maya Payne Smart has a mission to help parents nurture, teach and advocate for children getting on the road to reading. We discuss her book “Reading For Our Lives” and why it has such a gripping title of urgency. She also spells out an action plan from birth to six on ways parents can foster literacy. In this episode we learn what the research shows about best practices and how “laps over apps” is the way to go when it comes to reading to our children. Plus, so much more! Give it a listen and share with your friends. 

Maya has a great website full of free weekly resources for parents at: www.mayasmart.com

You can also get social with Maya at: 

IG: @mayasmarty 

Twitter: @MayaSmart 

Pinterest: @mayasmart

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Author and journalist Jennifer Wallace discusses the research and findings that lead to the writing of her amazing book, titled above. We discuss what conditions have created this problem, how it’s affecting both our parenting and our children…  and most importantly; what we can do about it.  

You can find Jennifer’s website here

Her book can be ordered here:

Check out “The Mattering Movement” here.

Follow Jennifer on IG @jenniferbwallace

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Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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Q1. Help with sleep training a 20 month old the Adlerian way

Q2. Help with fostering independence in a 13 year old

Looking for more Adlerian Wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. 

If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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Every parent needs to be aware of the possibility that their child may have an intimate photo being distributed without their consent, and the harmful effects this causes. In this episode, I talk with British Columbia’s Attorney General, Niki Sharma, to discuss the alarming rise in sexploitation and the work she has done in B.C. to protect the rights of victims of sexual violence. Minister Sharma announced new legislation that removes the previous barriers to getting those images removed and better legal recourse for the platforms that host them.

To read a copy of the letter from the Minister’s office, visit: https://news.gov.bc.ca/files/Intimate_Images_Protection_Act_Letter.pdf

To learn more about the Intimate Images Protection Act, visit: https://gov.bc.ca/ProtectingYourImages

To read about supports available for survivors of gender-based violence, sexual assault, or domestic violence, visit: https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/safety/public-safety/domestic-violence

To access resources and research about the online sexual exploitation of children, visit: https://cybertip.ca/en/

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Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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What does it mean to be a “good parent” by today’s northern hemisphere, privileged standards?  Good grades, good jobs, good car, and house. What if that is all wrong? What if that is actually contributing to the downfall of civilization?  Dr Elizabeth Cripps, a parent herself, applied her educational training in philosophy to try to answer how we solve global problems like climate change, pandemics, antibiotic resistance, and social inequity by the way we parent and use our collective power for the good of our children but also for all. We had a great discussion about all of that, as well as her latest book, “A Philosopher’s Guide to Doing Right by Your Kids – and Everyone Else”.  

Check out some of these great organizations for social action: 

https://parentsforfuture.org

https://www.momscleanairforce.org

https://ourkidsclimate.org/

And keep following Dr Cripps work here: 

on twitter at @ebcripps 

www.elizabethcripps.weebly.com

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Also, check out The Daily Adler e-newsletter and podcast so you can get inspirational personal development in your inbox daily! 

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/daily-adler/id1671211692

https://dailyadler.com

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Q1. 10yr old daughter claims she forgets everything and I have to remind constantly. 

Q2. 16yr old is skipping 3-4 classes a week and I worry about her marks.

If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist.

Check out The Daily Adler Podcast too.

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Always fantastic to interview my fellow Adlerians who are creating important curriculum for the public. In this episode, I talk to Morgan Crew who is a single mother of two (ages 17 and 20), a registered nurse as well as a registered psychotherapist and mental health educator. She has created a program to help teach mental health skills in an upstream manner, rather than waiting for a crisis. It’s great for parents, but also for teens and parents to take together! 

Connecting with Morgan:

Therapy practice website is www.morgancrewcounselling.ca  

Email morgan@morgancrewcounselling.com 

PREVAIL course can be found at: www.prevailproveyourpower.ca

email is: info@prevailproveyourpower.ca

Social media:

Facebook and LI is Morgan Crew

Instagram is @morgancrew.ca 

If you like my podcast Parenting The Adlerian Way – please like, share and write a review! 

Also, check out The Daily Adler e-newsletter and podcast so you can get inspirational personal development in your inbox daily! 

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/daily-adler/id1671211692

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I am excited to share my conversation with two-time Fulbright Scholar Sam Young M.Ed., a neurodivergent educator, as we discussed issues such as masking, the pitfalls of deficiency models and the importance of strength-based talent development. 

In the podcast Sam mentioned the great Sir Kenneth Robinson TED Talk, “Do schools kill creativity?” so I am including that link here: https://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY?si=_bROeNrtJqEcp_kA

You can also look at the online classes and resources at Young Scholar’s Academy, the school that “Mr. Sam” runs as an adjunct to their main educational outlet. 

His courses can be found here. 

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Q1. Kindergartener doesn’t want to go to school and explodes.

Q2. Even with all the Adlerian approaches, 10 and 12 yr old sisters still fight.

Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. 

If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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The Adlerian father/daughter duo Ted Wohlfarth and Marjie Longshore talk about their impressive work in using games and play to create unique experiences for developing the skills and felt experiences needed to help build peaceful, win-win relationships. You’ll hear how their game methods and unique scoring system can be useful at home, in the classroom, the workplace and indeed anywhere people gather.  

Check out The Family Leadership Center website 

And social media 

FB 

Or on IG @the_4cfamily

If you would like to support the work of The Family Leadership Center which is a non-profit organization, you can donate to their “A Peaceful World Starts At Home” campaign that furthers their work. 

Check out the free games and resources at EnTeam’s website

Here is the summary of some of EnTeam’s corporate success stories:

https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Manufacturing-Plant-Turnaround.pdf

https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/International-Pharmaceutical-Company-.pdf

https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Electric-Power-Plant-Teamwork.pdf

And follow EnTeams on social media 

FB

LinkedIn

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How much do you know about AI? Are you prepared to talk to your kids about it? How will it impact them? How do you respond when the school emails you to share that your child plagiarized a paper using AI? Thankfully, Adlerian Valerie Tih of JoyFULL Coaching has the answer parents are looking for!  

FREE Download: Top 10 Tips for Navigating AI with your Child

https://mailchi.mp/a04b5ed1d560/alyson

Enneagram course:

https://joyfullcoaching.ca/the-enneagram-unplugged-course/

Use code “Alyson” for 20% off

Enneagram Discovery Package:

https://joyfullcoaching.ca/coaching/

https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/enneagram-discover-package-tickets-644373918737?aff=oddtdtcreator

Use code “Alyson” for 20% off

Follow Val and JoyFULL Coaching on social here:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/JoyfullCoaching 

IG https://www.instagram.com/joyfullcoaching/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerietih/

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Q1. 6 year old hits and gets angry when he doesn’t get his way

Q2. 7 year old tells “creative stories” about how his day was (aka lying). 

Q3. 2.5 year old is defiant with screaming fits esp on waking in the night.

Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. 

If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com 

Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com 

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Dr Marina Bluvshtein is a renowned researcher and archivist of Adler’s life. She shares how the events of his life shaped the development of his theory we know as Individual Psychology. In this conversation, Marina shares Adler’s own parenting journey and how his theory, and that of Rudolf Dreikurs, came together to still be an evolving, optimistic parenting model.  

Links mentioned in the show: 

Learn more about the Adlerian Summer School known as ICASSI 

Check out the offerings at the Adler Academy of Minnesota

And write directly to Dr Bluvshtein at mbluvshtein@adler.edu to learn more about Adlerian training events in Chicago, Vancouver and online.   

On social media, you can find Dr Bluvshtein on FB.

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Jenna Hermans has used her own extensive training and personal parenting experience to write a book for overwhelmed parents. In this podcast Jenna shares her story and gives us the highlights of the 5 tips we should all incorporate into our family lives for more calm in 2024. 

Links mentioned in the show: 

On IG @Jennazhermans

Website https://jennahermans.com 

Buy her book at a local book seller or online here: From Chaos to Calm

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Q1. 10yr old son having difficulty with change (new items in home).

Plus, my thoughts on under- and over-functioning parenting.

Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. 

If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com 

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Amy Yip is the author of “Unfinished Business” and in this interview we talk about her personal journey of being a child of immigrant parents and how that experience impacted her life. She discusses how she took charge of the process of changing the relationship with her parents and how that informs her parenting today. For anyone dealing with wounded relationships with their parents, or who wants better for their own children, this is the podcast for you! 

Links mentioned in the show: 

Amy’s book: Unfinished Business

http://unfinishedbusinessbook.com/, 

Amy’s Website

https://amyyipcoaching.com/

Follow Amy on social media 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amycyip & https://www.facebook.com/amyyipcoaching 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amycyip & 

https://www.linkedin.com/company/amyyipcoaching 

Instagram: @amyyipcoaching

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Dr. Amanda Craig is the author of “Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still Listening”. In this episode, Dr Craig defines what the tween years are, what is happening developmentally and how to maximize the parenting opportunities during this unique period. She also discusses the important four pillars of your parenting to focus on and methods to achieve that stable base in the relationship. 

Links mentioned in the show: 

Book: Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still Listening

Dr Amanda Craig’s Website

Follow Dr Amanda Craig on social media at IG @amandacraigphd

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I am always looking for question for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com 

For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com

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Q1. 9yr old son is not trying and his confidence is dwindling.

Q2. 14yr old son with type1 diabetes is too lazy to take his insulin at school. 

Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. 

If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com 

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Could AI replace standard counselling? It’s certainly cheaper. With the trend towards “manualizing” therapy, maybe we are closer than we know. How do you feel about that? How scared should we be? Adlerian counsellor and teacher/trainer, Calvin Armerding, shares his thoughts with me.  

Read the original article and other posts from Calvin on his Substack at:

https://calvindarmerding.substack.com/

Follow Calvin on social media at: 

https://www.instagram.com/henosispress/ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLe4ACV00vWcS3DTATvos1XVm2MhTKSq2Z https://www.instagram.com/travelersrest.counseling/ https://twitter.com/ArmerdingC

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Dr. Mike Rucker is the author of “The Fun Habit”. In this episode we’ll discuss the concept of happiness, the moral injury that can occur when we seek it too much and the benefits and methods for fitting joy and awe into your life and through your parenting. 

Additional resource book mentioned in our convo: 50 Dangerous Things (you should let your children do) 

Follow Dr. Rucker on all his platforms: 

Website https://michaelrucker.com 

Twitter https://twitter.com/performbetter

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mike.rucker.phd 

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thewonderoffun

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelrucker 

Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/mikeruckerphd 

Simon & Schuster https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Fun-Habit/Mike-Rucker/9781982159054 

Substack https://funhabit.substack.com

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I am so excited to be launching this podcast. In this intro episode, I explain my Adlerian family history and some of the core concepts of Adlerian psychology from which I give parenting advice. So glad to have you onboard. Please feel free to share with your friends, subscribe and write a review! 

Happy Parenting

Alyson

www.alysonschafer.com

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Q1. How do I explain COVID and the pandemic to my kids? 

Q2. How do I entertain my kids all day long during lock down? 

Q3. How can I get my child to just settle and focus?

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Q1. I’m trying to work from home, but I am getting nothing done with the kids at home.  HELP.

Q2. My kids keep coming into my home office and interrupting my work. 

Q3. What is it with being on a phone call? As soon as I take a call my kids demand my attention. 

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Q1. Attached toddler won’t let mom out of her sight in the house.

Q2. 6 year old still soiling underpants. 

Q3. How to deal with lying. 

Link to Po Bronson’s Article on lying research: https://nymag.com/news/features/43893/

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Q1. What are the consequences for a 12 yr old daughter who is mean to her 9 yr old brother? 

Q2. When is it okay to swear? My 13 year old just started. 

Q3. Help in bringing back and improving family meetings now that they are teenagers.

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Q1. 2 yr old competitive dancer has gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and I want to bring this up to her properly, and in a healthy way. 

Q2. 2.5 yr old has lost interest in potty training. How do I motivate them?

Q3. 7 yr old loves our new puppy but refuses to follow the rules and be gentle. What should I do? 

Q4. 8 yr old is loud and shrieks all the time. How do I get this to stop? I have tried everything. 

Alyson’s blogs on the topic of encouragement:  

https://alysonschafer.com/category/best-parenting-practices/praise-encouragement/

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Alyson’s thoughts on education and homeschooling during Covid. 

Q1. My daughter struggles with math and says “I’m stupid”. How do I get her to do her online math homework without a fight? 

Q2. My son does his homeschooling online in the morning from his bedroom, but when I check on him, he is on YouTube. How do I get him to do schoolwork without policing? 

Q3. (24:24) My son won’t sit still to do his homework. He gets up and down and it ends up taking him twice as long.

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Q1. I am using your Adlerian parenting approaches but my husband has not studied them yet. How can I manage our different parenting styles? 

Q2. I am trying your techniques on ignoring when the kids fight and just walking away, but they follow me or they get physical with one another. What do I do?

Q3. My kids are using Zoom calls to stay connected with friends but when I check they were being disrespectful and just watching a friend play instead of visiting with one another.  

Q4. My daughter is using tech to stay connected with her friends more since Covid. Now that they are all online, they are excluding my daughter on FaceTime group chats like “mean girls”.

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Q1. How do I get my 12 yr old son who has become moody, to open up and talk to me about what is wrong?

Q2. My kids are starting to play on the street with social distancing rules, but I don’t trust them to actually keep their distance. What do I do?

Q3. My 8 year old son is exhibiting anxiety in going out in public now that more things are opening up. How do I help him?

Q4. The whole family has become snappy and I am yelling more. Everything is a battle. How do I get my family back on track?

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Q1. How do we talk to our kids about racism and the George Floyd riots? 

Q2. My son saw the video of George Floyd’s murder. How do I help him process his emotions? 

Q3. What can I do as a white parent to ensure I don’t raise a racist and do my part to eradicate racism? 

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Q1. 6th grade girl is the target of a mean “best friend”. 

Q2. My kids live in a two-household arrangement, and the other home doesn’t have structure. 

Q3. 16yr old daughter changed schools halfway through the school year and while she has a couple of new friends, she still stays in room and is lonely.

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