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Today, we're talking to Allie Ticktin, MA, OTD, OTR/L, about sensory and child development, sensory sensitivities, and sensory toys. Allie is a seasoned occupational therapist with a focus on the significance of sensory development and play in early childhood. Holding a master's degree and a clinical doctorate in occupational therapy, and having personally experienced sensory issues as a child, Allie brings a unique and informed perspective to the table. She firmly believes that sensory development and play are vital for early childhood development, arguing against early academics and emphasizing the role of play in building muscles and sensory skills that support academic tasks later on. Allie suggests that a lack of play and sensory experiences can lead to an increase in behavioral issues and developmental needs, and she underscores the role of toys and play experiences in shaping children's interests and passions. Join Jamie and Allie on this episode of The Oh Crap Parenting with Jamie Glowacki to delve deeper.

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Whoop! I’m so excited about this episode with Danielle! She’s a functional nutrition therapy practitioner and blood sugar specialist. With so much internet noise about food and nutrition and different ways of eating, it can be so overwhelming to know what’s right for YOUR body. But there’s a way to cut through all that noise and that’s learning about insulin and blood sugar and  your particular body. This is particularly important while navigating highly palatable foods and our little ones. This may be my all time favorite interview. Web: Daniellehamilitonhealth.com IG: Danielle Hamilton Health Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, hey! Today, I dive into the dynamics of relationships and how they form a "love umbrella" that shields the entire family. I talk about how power imbalances in marriages impact co-parenting and family unity. We explore the significance of addressing postpartum depression, the influence of parental behavior on children's emotional development, and the critical need for regular communication and alignment on parenting philosophies. I share insights on creating a secure and loving environment for your children by maintaining a strong emotional connection with your partner. I also emphasize recognizing signs of a toxic marriage and the importance of not staying together just for the kids. Prioritizing your relationship is essential for a stable and nurturing home. Join me as we uncover the foundations of a strong partnership that benefits the whole family.

(00:03:03) Parenting Unity: Impact of Marriage Dynamics
(00:06:26) The Impact of Postpartum Depression on Relationships
(00:09:04) Parental Relationship Impact on Children's Emotional Development
(00:12:21) Nurturing the Marital Relationship for Family Harmony
(00:15:35) Strengthening Family Unity through Shared Principles
(00:20:52) "Prioritizing Love and Affection in Marriage"
(00:32:38) Unified Front in Parenting for Family Harmony

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Michelle and I met on IG and we’re just shooting the shit today about working out, feeling good in your body, and ya know… life as a mom.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of the podcast, I’m so excited to be joined by Dr. Stephanie Rimka to talk about the science behind sauna, red light, and cold therapy. Dr. Rimka is a holistic brain optimization specialist; she’s been in private practice for twenty years, focusing on using a variety of natural therapies, including bio-hacks, to treat mental health issues including autism, depression, strokes, and Alzheimer’s. Her practice uses technology-based devices focusing on electromagnetic and light frequencies to alter brain structure and function and return normal function to it.   The Finer Details of This Episode:  Dr. Rimka usually starts her patients with red light therapy before moving on to sauna therapy.  Red light is highly stimulating to the vagus nerve, a cranial nerve that comes out of your brain and is the most soothing, calming part of the nervous system.  The fight or flight response is designed to last twenty to thirty seconds optimally and two minutes maximum. Yet many families are in fight or flight all day long, and that input is destroying health and longevity because your body can’t fight threats when it’s constantly in life or death mode.  Dysregulated parents will always struggle to co-regulate with their child, and often the parent will assume the lack of regulation is a problem with the child rather than examining their own issues. It’s critical for parents to accept that they need to take care of themselves in order to take care of their families, even if that means bringing someone in to help.  Dr. Rimka suggests that we have unrealistic expectations of what motherhood is supposed to be because of the information overload and the distractions of the internet and social media.  Sauna therapy is a huge tradition in the Nordic region, which has long had saunas as part of its culture.  Research suggests that saunas can have a beneficial effect on longevity, heart attack risk, and prevention of neurological conditions like dementia.  A sauna is like a cardiovascular workout, equivalent to a two-mile jog but with zero impact on your joints.  Your mitochondrial line comes from women—the male mitochondria get destroyed the moment the sperm goes into the egg.  Unlike human DNA, mitochondria pick up on their environment and adapt by mutating very quickly in response to their surroundings.  A mismatch between your genetics and where you live can create health problems—if you move a naturally warm person to a cold climate, they’re unlikely to flourish, and their health may suffer as a result.  You can help your system adapt to such changes by using therapeutic doses of light, heat, or cold. However, it’s important not to overdo things, remember that what matters is how the body responds after the treatment, and to prioritize sleep because that’s when all your healing is done.  The biohacking world is very male and very aggressive, but women are great at combining strength and softness in a way that really nourishes and nurtures.  Our temperature-controlled homes and lack of exposure to hot and cold are breaking our hormone systems and contributing to massive dysregulation in insulin, blood glucose, cortisol, and testosterone. It’s part of what’s making us fat, depressed, and slow.   Links: Jamie’s Homepage -  www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page:  www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Brain and Body Solutions Dr. Rimka’s Store Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey you guys! Today, we're talking core memories, popularized by the Pixar movie Inside Out, and discuss how this idea, while engaging, is not based in science. I caution against the societal pressure parents may feel to create these "perfect" memories, emphasizing that true core memories are formed from the emotional connections behind everyday moments. Forget about orchestrating extravagant events; the best memories come from simple, meaningful interactions like cooking together or playing outside. Tune in to learn how staying present and creating loving, calm moments can help build lasting, positive memories for your children.

(00:02:29) Core Memories Concept
(00:08:44) Emotional Connections
(00:13:03) Nostalgia and Childhood Memories
(00:15:54) Emotional Impact on Lasting Memories
(00:19:54) Memory Fallibility

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Okay…let’s talk about big transitions…particularly with back to school coming up. Make sure you ease into a new schedule and don’t forget about transitional objects to help! Also: due to some recent family events, I’m gonna bug you guys to attend to matters in the event that something should happen to you.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

All right! I got to sit down and chat with Vani Hari, aka The Food Babe. We talk about how she accidentally became the influential food activist she is today. She takes on huge corporations, getting them to ditch their most toxic additives in food. You know I love all things food and this conversation was awesome. We also discuss the worst ingredients for kids.  You can find Vani at: foodbabe.com IG: @thefoodbabe And her new cookbook: Food Babe Family is available for preorder (and comes with some extra bonuses too!) Jamie’s Homepage -  www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page:  www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s that time again to open up the digital mailbag, and respond to some of your questions, which I absolutely love, love, love. While some of today’s questions offer new twists on previous topics, all of them are, of course, excellent ones which I know so many are wondering about as well, so let’s dig in, shall we?   Today, we’ll look at ways to handle the constant ‘I want’ requests from your kid, revisit the concept of changing the family dinner if it’s not working well currently, look at sleep and dealing with early risers, and handling the stage of combining ‘No’ with emotions. We’ll also delve into the dynamics of having an older and younger child, as well as the world of playdates especially at a friend’s house, and the importance of being an asker as opposed to a guesser. Again, I love receiving these questions so much because they reflect real life, and give me the opportunity to share real, practical advice rather than theoretical. Please keep them coming – I can’t wait for our next Q&A session!   The Finer Details of This Episode:    There’s no cure for sibling fighting; it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other  Kids are going to be relentless in their asking  Create a culture of answering your child’s requests with ‘Yes’, ‘No’, or ‘Maybe’ where ‘Maybe’ means “Probably, but it will turn to a ‘No’ if you keep asking”  If you can get children talking about their ‘favorite’, you can derail just about any behavior that you’re not wanting; they’re often looking for engagement with you  If your dinner time is miserable, it’s okay to fix it; you don’t need to have it the way others might  Giving up a nap can help with children who wake up too early  Don’t be tricked into thinking there are ‘kid night owls’  Circadian rhythms are often backwards in children with ADHD  We don’t want to be ‘sportscasting’ with our kids  Statements such as ‘No angry’, ‘No happy’, ‘No sad’ could actually be expressing ‘Don’t look at me/Don’t see me’ so don’t look at them in that moment; it’s a phase  When you have an older and younger child, you need to cater to the older child’s needs; give them a safe space to play and create  Leaving your child with another parent is based on your answer to ‘Do I feel comfortable with how the other parent disciplines and/or handles it when the shit hits the fan?’  Playdates are just a reality today; choose the people that you like and respect; clarify with the other parent about ‘trading time’ – be an asker, not a guesser; paying for child interactions happens all the time so it might be something worth considering   Quotes:   “What it is, is engagement.”   “I’m a fan of, like, reverse engineering.”   “Sleep gets conditioned by us and by the things we need to do, but toddlers don’t have that.”   “Be very careful that you’re not limiting your older child because of the younger child.”   “As your child gets older, you don’t have to be friends with your child’s friends’ parents, so that’s kind of a real relief.”   “It’s so rare for somebody to come and grab your kid out of their yard.”   “We do feel like we have to hover.”   “We need parental time.”   “It’s far better to be an asker, because there’s no ambiguity and there’s no mistakes.”   “You need to fucking ask if there’s guns in the house. Like, that’s…a non-negotiable.”   Links:   Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This interview was so fun! Mikki is a Conscious Co-Parenting Coach. If you’re separating or divorcing, you need her warm, compassionate help. We’re going to talk about the do’s and don’ts of co-parenting and how to do it with ease and grace (as much as possible). Mikki is the host of the Co-Parenting with Ease podcast and you can find her at: IG: Mikki Gardner Web: Mikkigardner.com Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m very excited to bring this episode to you today since it’s about one of my favorite topics – Seasonal Affective Disorder, the winter blues, and how to beat them. Winter was not always my favorite season, and if that’s true for you as well, today I’m going to share with you how I flipped it so it is now number one on my list. With everything that is still going on these days, this winter is bound to be a really hard one for many people, so let’s look at some of the strategies I employ that can help turn that around.   We’ll begin by reviewing the fact that your attitude toward the season will show up in your kids, and then I offer some of my food and sleep suggestions that have really helped me in the past and continue to do so. Keeping expectations low or level for the holidays, and using lighting to help generate a positive mood are a couple other suggestions that we’ll explore, as well as the greatest strategy of all which is to embrace the outdoors and stay out with your kids as much as humanly possible. I have some tried and true clothing and activity recommendations that will help you achieve this, and I truly hope that you will be able to find the good things that winter has to offer and celebrate them with your kids. Naturally, if you are experiencing a massive depression due to the season, be sure to speak with your doctor, but if you are simply looking for a ‘mood boost’, today’s episode has a lot of great ideas for you. Don’t suffer – experience all the joy that this winter can bring!    The Finer Details of This Episode:    If you don’t like winter, you will see the same in your kids  Going into the winter, I’m careful about food and sleep  If you live in a place that experiences pretty harsh winters, you are going to be low in Vitamin D  I keep up on Vitamin C, D and Zinc, bone broth, root vegetables  Lowering the expectations around holidays can help  I use a lot of twinkle lighting around the house  Stay outside as much as possible  Buy the right outdoor gear for you so you can stay outside with your kids  Outlets are amazing for outdoor gear  Smartwool is the best but it is expensive  For kids: buy overalls for snow pants, Hannah Anderson stuff is great, mittens are warmer than gloves – buy lots in the same color, don’t buy cotton clothes, buy waterproof items, have extras if you can, OAKI rain gear is fabulous  When the weather switches over to cold, change over your kid’s closet to winter clothes  Get involved in winter sports like snowboarding, ice skating, snowshoeing, cross country skiing  Try to look forward to all the things that are good about winter  Full spectrum light bulbs can help   Quotes:   “I do think kids are affected by their parents’ mood and their parents’ winter blues.”   “I don’t want that massive sugar crash after the holidays.”   “I can feel, like, my body go into storage-mode.”   “Us moms are the fuckin’ worst about winter self-care and clothing.”   “If you are happy in the cold, your kid will be happy in the cold.”   “I have fat ski pants and I have skinny ski pants.”   “Eliminate all your kid’s bitching.”   “Snowboarding changed my life…it’s like dancing on a surfboard.”   “If I break my leg ice skating, I’d be so pissed.”   “Try to like winter.”   Links:   Jamie’s homepage -   http://www.jamieglowacki.com/    Oh Crap! Potty Training –   https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I’ll be giving 2 real life examples about how unresolved trauma work can show up in your life. And why I think it’s so important for you to do this work, especially as your kids get older and need a different way of parenting.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I tackle one of the biggest challenges we face: balancing work and home life, especially when working from home. I dive into the friction points that can trip up our daily routines—like those chaotic mornings or stressful mealtimes—and how to design a family life that works for you, not against you. By identifying these "hot spots" and making small adjustments (like prepping meals ahead of time or finding the right workspace), we can create smoother, less stressful days for everyone. Let’s make life more manageable for both parents and kids!

(00:07:20) Identifying Daily Routine "Hot Spots" for Balance
(00:08:57) Optimizing Daily Routines to Enhance Well-being
(00:10:59) Morning Routines for Positive Starts
(00:11:28) Proactive Meal Prep for Smooth Mornings
(00:21:03) Minimize Family Stress Through Strategic Design

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This week on Oh Crap with Jamie, we’re getting into the nitty gritty of constipation, hydration, and all the poop-related things no one talks enough about.

If your kiddo is struggling with dry, nuggety, or just plain weird poops, this one’s for you. I’m breaking down why fiber might actually be making things worse, why fat is your kid’s best friend (hello, butter!), and how overhydration is totally sabotaging potty training.

We’re also talking fruit (spoiler: it’s not a free-for-all) and why snacking might be more about gut bacteria than actual hunger. As always, I’m here to help you connect the dots between what your kid eats, how they poop, and how they behave—because it’s all very connected. Tune in for real talk, no fluff, and plenty of practical advice to get your little one pooping like a champ!

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(00:06:03) Optimizing Children's Health Through Animal Fats

(00:07:50) Optimal Gut Health in Children: Fiber Considerations

(00:17:56) The Impact of Marketing on Hydration

(00:23:12) "Balancing Fruit Intake for Young Children"

(00:25:02) Impact of Excessive Fruit Consumption on Gut Microbiome

(00:28:47) "Nutrient-Dense Healing for Children's Gut Health"

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Parental self-care is basically nonexistent for the first few years of raising your child. You’re so busy making sure your little one eats on time, has clean clothes to wear and doesn’t run out onto the road that it’s hard to schedule time for yourself to unwind and recharge. Instead, we often end up burning ourselves out to the point that the only self-care we can manage is overly indulgent, unhealthy and ultimately unfulfilling. Self-care shouldn’t be spur of the moment; it requires as much care, consideration and planning as a busy day.   In this episode, Jamie impresses why you should plan for self-care rather than just indulging in it at your wit’s end and lays out a long list of permissions you can take advantage of when stressed. The Finer Details of This Episode:   Why self-care is really just setting yourself up for success. Moving away from unhealthy, expensive “crash pad” self-care to more proactive self-care. The most basic yet radical form of self-care: a good night’s sleep. Drinking might seem like a good way to settle down after a stressful day, but it makes for bad vibes the following day. Don’t just burn yourself out chasing your kids—find the time to properly exercise! Why you need to get behind your own Eight Ball (and what that means). Jamie’s list of permissions you can allow yourself on a particularly stressful day. Quotes:   “If we’re not taking care of ourselves then we cannot be the best people.”   “Put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others.”   “You don’t need to prove your parenting to anyone.” Links:   Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com   Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/   Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nikki is the owner of The Fem Method Pelvic Health, specializing in prenatal, postpartum pelvic health. This is an open and raw conversation about pooping, painful sex, period products, and the truth about kegels. If you’re not comfortable with discussion about bodily parts and corresponding fluids…g’head and skip this one. Meanwhile Nikki and I laughed our asses off. IG: @thefemmethod Web: thefemmethod.com Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode:  a major complaint I hear is kids not playing independently but we tend to do too much for our kids, making them reliant on us teaching independence varies according to age generally speaking, it’s never too early to start teaching independence let’s go through all the ways you can start letting your child be independent and look at how we get in our way doing so Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kids are wild, man. We can’t control their behavior but we can control our reactions. And that’s mostly the crux of parenting. Surfing the wave of difficult times without freaking out. We’ll loop in two awesome questions from patrons about psycho mom rearing her head and another about when your kid is clear about a need but asks in a crappy way.       Jamie’s Homepage -  www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page:  www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're talking about the intricacies of managing emotional states of our kids with a focus on nurturing emotional intelligence and resilience in children. From acknowledging and validating their feelings to providing tools for emotional navigation, we explore how parents can create a supportive environment where kids feel understood and empowered to manage their emotions authentically. Additionally, we discuss the importance of fostering autonomy in children and guiding them through the impact of social media on their perceptions and self-esteem. Join me as we navigate the complexities of teenage heartbreak and the significance of emotional safety in parenting, empowering parents to raise emotionally resilient children equipped to handle life's challenges with grace and strength.
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Hey! Today, we delve into the rhythm and routine of parenting, exploring how consistency and circadian biology play vital roles in creating stability for both parents and children. From establishing bedtime rituals to navigating the infamous "witching hour," I provide practical insights and strategies to help parents maintain sanity and structure amidst the chaos of daily life. Join me as we uncover the importance of prioritizing self-care, establishing calming routines, and aligning our daily rhythms with natural light cues for optimal well-being.
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Let’s go through common therapies that can help you start unpacking unresolved trauma. Many people have hairpin triggers and they’re aware of that. But then they consider it part of their personality, instead of doing the hard work of healing. And it IS hard and it’s best done with help. So let’s talk about that. This is part 3 of a series originally recorded for Patreon in January of 2021. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover why play is essential for your child's growth, from enhancing cognitive development to fostering social skills. Today, I'm joined by Dr. Peter Gray, a research professor at Boston College specializing in psychology and neuroscience, who has dedicated his career to understanding the value of play in children's lives. He is a founding member of the board of Let Grow and author of the acclaimed book "Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life."

Dr. Gray shares insights into how play promotes creativity, problem-solving, and emotional well-being in young children, unraveling the transformative power of play-based learning in schools. Explore the therapeutic benefits of play therapy for children and learn how engaging in play activities can reduce stress, improve mood, and enhance overall well-being. Join the conversation on the role of play in promoting physical fitness, creativity, and the development of social skills. Tune in to understand why play is crucial during early childhood development and how it positively impacts brain development and adult mental health.

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(00:27:31) Unstructured Free Play Fostering School Friendships

(00:40:25) Developing Street Smarts Through Age-Mixed Play

(00:42:59) Decline of Neighborhood Play due to Organized Activities

(00:56:50) The Impact of Academic Pressure on Student Mental Health

(01:03:59) Creating a Nurturing Environment for Children

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Let’s kick off by discussing the crazy amount of options that are drowning us as people and parents. Then, I’ll answer a question being asked by many families: what should I do if my preschooler doesn’t like school? This naturally leads us into intentional living with our kids…what that means and how we can get it. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we’re going to move on from our trauma series, but before we do, I want to thank you all for your fantastic feedback during it. I always love our dialogue, and especially during such an important topic, so once again, thank you. As we move on today, it’s time for another Q & A to look at all the questions that have been piling up over the past month, so let’s get started. The questions this time around range from children displaying shyness, to bringing co-sleeping with your child to an end, to sibling play, and then to driving children around to help them get to sleep. We’ll also look at the age-old concern about getting children to give up their pacifier, as well as what to do when your child is in that “refusing to take ‘no’ for an answer” stage. Once more, we have a full slate of excellent questions that I know so many are wondering about, and I want to encourage you to keep them coming so that, as always, we can work together to address them.   The Finer Details of This Episode:  There are many different preferences regarding children who appear shy in public  I have very little patience for anyone ignoring someone who is greeting them  I don’t care where you sleep as long as everybody sleeps and it works for everybody  The minute you cave on something, you reinforce the behavior  To break co-sleeping silently return your child to their bed, prepare for a few sleepless nights, and have someone to help you with backup  The pandemic seems to have fostered an attitude with some parents to allow undesirable behaviors to continue  Don’t allow your child to do something that makes you dislike or resent them  Many times, children need to experience the consequences of their actions before they will change their behavior  Sleep is everything – the best gift you can give your kids is good sleep habits  I do not like the idea of driving kids around for sleep – find out why sleep is not happening  Read the chapter about dinner times in Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler, if you haven’t already, about when to have dinner in relation to bed time  Under the age of 5, everyone sitting down for family dinner at the same time is not nearly as important as getting nutrition and proper sleep  If you have to make exceptions to sleep routines for some reason, set a date to attend to its end  Slowly giving up a transitional object (pacifier, blanky, etc.) to which your child has become attached is incredibly stressful for them – doing it quickly is much better  Cutting a hole in a pacifier so it loses its ‘suck’ appeal can help in giving it up  There are phases that kids go through (won’t take no for an answer, asking why, etc.) and they usually don’t last too long  Establishing a response tier such as “’No’ means ‘no’, ‘yes’ means ‘yes’, and ‘maybe’ means ‘probably’ but if you keep being up my ass, it’s going to turn into a ‘no’” can prove beneficial  If you’re going to cave, cave early  What you continue to do, fosters the habit – if it’s not working for you, change it   Quotes: “You can be shy, but you have to say ‘Hello’.” “With kids…once you start something, it’s really hard to break it…it’s a slippery slope.” “If something’s not working, change it.” “If your child is not in the right circadian rhythm, they will have a hard time falling asleep.” “They get this, like, well connected, juicy time with their kid after work instead of fighting over one more fuckin’ bite.” “If you know that you have it in you to not cave, then ‘no’ means ‘no’.”   Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired on Patreon on April 22, 2021 There’s a lot of confusion on the difference between these two things. Many people are opting for toxic positivity or false positivity and it’s not helpful. Like at all.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m going to continue exploring “the village” and ways we can ask for help in hard parenting moments. This dovetails into when little ones need more stimulation because they’re bored and getting into trouble. And then we’ll talk about how fearful parenting can present. Jamie’s Homepage -  www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page:  www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Postpartum is the most fragile and vulnerable stage of motherhood and we’re routinely not supported. Thinking you might hurt your baby is one of the biggest hallmarks.  Let’s also talk about “going to your room” and what might be going wrong.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode was originally released on Patreon on Jan 20, 2022. Today we’ll be talking about lessons from Maverick, my cold plunging, and attachments style and a brief primer on what they mean. And how to apologize effectively (spoiler: a lot of folks do it wrong). Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today is more for the older kids! How do we teach our kids to do chores? How can support our kids as they grow? And family relationships aren't natural; we have to work at them. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Toddler time is very slow—after all, we’re talking about little humans who’re still getting the hang of executive functions and motor skills. Consequently, parents need to slow down for their little ones so that we don’t end up transitioning from activity to activity too quickly and upset them in the process. This can be VERY difficult because as a parent, you feel compelled to move quickly and deal with a bunch of tasks ASAP. The solution? Optimize your time like an efficiency expert has taken over your life so you can handle each little task and chore at the best pace for your kid. In this episode, Jamie explains why toddlers can’t move as quickly as we expect them to, gives you a novel way to visualize your priorities, and argues for why airplane mode on your phone is your best friend. The Finer Details of This Episode: What is the Pareto principle, and why does optimizing a mere 20% of your time help you manage the remaining 80%? The priority debacle—namely not knowing how to manage our priorities, or not even being sure what they’re supposed to be! What it means to lose your “white space” as parents. Managing your priorities more effectively by visualizing them as big stones. The ways you interact with your child are going to change over the years, and how much of your time that will involve is going to wax and wane. Managing your social media use through a new method called “time chunking.”   Quotes: “If you give 100% of yourself to your kids you have 0% left over!” “Guys, you can’t have 30 big stones when there’s only 24 hours in the day!” “I want you to own your priorities with pride.” Links: Digital Minimalism book - http://www.calnewport.com/books/digital-minimalism/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you all know I absolutely love hearing from you all, and so many good questions are coming my way these days that I figured now is the perfect time to offer my responses. While some of these questions are specific to the pandemic and all that it entails, the answers, as you’ll see, offer information and advice that are beneficial at any time. I’ll start by further exploring the ‘Govern, Garden, Guide’ concept which we have looked at in the past, and also share some strategies about ending the use of pacifiers and thumb sucking. Other questions I look at are regarding children who are still experiencing difficulty dealing with the restrictions that the pandemic has generated, addressing both typical and violent tantrums, teaching kids to be able to laugh things off, and instilling a good attitude in children. The topics may seem wide ranging, but woven through them all is the desire to provide our children with the strong foundation they need to enjoy strong and rewarding relationships throughout their lives. Let me tell you, there’s definitely something in today’s episode for everyone.   The Finer Details of This Episode: · Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne is one of my favorite parenting books · It’s developmentally inappropriate to try to guide a toddler · You make your toddler feel safe by bonding, setting the rules and boundaries, and letting them know that you’ve ‘got them’ · If your child is having tantrums, you have to look at your governing and your boundaries for firmness and consistency · If a child feels unsafe, it yields poor behavior · It is very important to lay this foundation from 0-6 for future years · If you wait until teen years to discipline, you are fucked · Ending pacifier use can be a matter of just taking it away or slowly cutting a bit of a hole in it over the period of a couple weeks which reduces its ‘big suck’ appeal · Before employing techniques such as putting a nasty tasting lotion on the thumb or putting a mitt on a child’s hand to stop thumb sucking, check in with your dentist · For children who still don’t understand the restrictions imposed by the pandemic, check in on how you talk about the lockdown – ex. saying ‘I get to’ rather than ‘I have to’ · Kids forget and kids are resilient · We are over-socialized – the true extrovert is very rare · We need to transition our children back into social situations gradually from this ‘lockdown’ · The child who is very dysregulated in the house has to go to their room to learn to self-regulate – it’s respectful to let them have their big feelings in there · Revisit the ‘Go to Your Room Strategy’ podcast · Attitudes are caught – watch what you are modeling when showing your child how to laugh things off, help others out, handle angry moments, lose graciously, etc.   Quotes: “You can’t guide a toddler, you have to govern.” “It’s pure brain development.” “Crappy behavior is often your child asking you to say, ‘No’.” “You’re laying the foundation for the beauty of the relationship later.” “Discipline is like teaching…and you can teach very simply by following through.” “If your child is still pining for everyday life that was in February, there’s a culture in your house that is producing that.” “Everything we do or say is teaching.” “If you have a shitty attitude and you don’t shake things off, you know that’s like you speaking French in the house and expecting your child to just learn English – they’re going to do what you do.”   Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most work centers around toddlers and that 0-5 age range. Today, let’s talk about the kids in the 6-12 range. When you do the hard work of boundaries early on, this age range is just magical. But also comes with new disrespect… eye rolling, sarcasm, sighs. So let’s talk about that, shall we? Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’ll be talking about: Teaching kids about money Practical experience with bills and expenses Peer pressure and the appeal of mischief Balancing being yourself and fitting in Peer orientation and maintaining parental closeness Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have more to say about the importance of family meals and how to make them work for your family, this week. It's all about aligning your values, finding a routine that fits your life, and most importantly, creating connection after a long day apart. Whether it's shifting dinner times, understanding your child's needs, or redefining what family meals mean to you, it's time to rethink how we approach this daily ritual. Tune in to explore how small changes can foster deeper connection and reduce dinnertime stress.

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Today, I’m speaking with Ruth Gordon Martin, a postpartum doula and the founder of Coddle.co (@coddledotco on IG). She is like the warm hug we all need after giving birth! The global baby industry is estimated to be 214.13 BILLION DOLLARS. And yet, hardly anything goes to supporting mamas after birth. No wonder we’re all wondering where the village is. Ruth’s company makes beautiful specific products for your mental and physical well being and healing. I just loved talking to her. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I interviewed Sara Rose Whaley of Joyfultodderparenting.com. Sara is MY JAM. We’re just gonna pull it apart today. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the recent passing of my mom and the profound journey of grief that follows. Losing a parent is a transformative experience, and I candidly share the layers of grief, the emotional rollercoaster, and the societal discomfort around death that I’ve encountered. Reflecting on my mom’s complex medical history and our moments together during her final days, I discuss the importance of preparing for the inevitable and finding peace in the process. Join me as I honor my mom's memory, explore the spiritual growth that comes with loss, and celebrate the beauty and complexity of life and death.

(00:00:41) Grief and Spiritual Transformation After Loss
(00:02:40) The Journey of Coping with Complex Health Issues
(00:09:51) End-of-Life Support
(00:22:29) Navigating Grief Through Personal Transformation
(00:30:27) Navigating Loss and Spiritual Transformation
(00:32:25) Embracing Mortality: A Daughter's Journey
(00:41:26) Navigating Grief without Alcohol: A Personal Journey
(00:42:18) Embracing Imperfections and Forgiveness for Healing

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You can be the most patient and understanding parent six out of seven days the week, but there's always the risk of some straw breaking your proverbial camel's back and turning you into Psycho Mom. It sucks for everybody involved, but don't beat yourself up over it; you're human after all. So instead of fretting about that one time you shouted, let's focus on some ways you can keep from shouting in the first place. In this episode, Jamie discusses healthier ways to show frustration, helps you find the ideal middle ground, and reveals the one statement you need to stay away from. The Finer Details of This Episode: Remember: no matter how justified your anger is, Psycho Mom will always be scary to your little ones. Finding healthier ways to let off steam than your Psycho Mom mode. The three major factors that contribute to going over the edge. Finding ways to build up steam rather than letting it all out at once. Jamie’s story of a very conscientious mother who went full Psycho Mom despite her best intentions. Why parents are afraid of being firm even though it's a better middle ground. Testing limits: it's what kids do best. Handy tips for when you next need to apologize. Practice away!   Quotes:   “If Psycho Mom makes a semi-regular appearance in your house, it's because you aren't letting out your feelings.” “Dealing with real feelings and real apologies helps kids manage their own emotional landscape.” “You want to be consistent and safe in your emotional reactions.” “As long as you're in control, you get to be firm.” “Nobody can make you feel anything.” Links: Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tiffany Higgins is a CPA, mother of five, and owner of the “Stay-at-Home Bookkeeper Academy,” a program that walks you through the process of setting up and running your own bookkeeping business from home, even if you do not have any previous bookkeeping experience. If you’re a stay-at-home parent who’s ever contemplated starting your own business from home or having a flexible, lucrative career that also allows for plenty of valuable family time, today’s interview is a must-listen!  Tiffany breaks down how you can “have your cake and eat it too,” and shares her own story of leaving the corporate world to start her business. She speaks about balancing family life and work life, and offers her advice to separate the two so that you can be fully present no matter what you’re doing. She also discusses the importance of hiring the right help at home so that you can maximize your work productivity and actually enjoy quality time with your kids once you’ve packed up for the day, rather than feeling bogged down in chores. This is especially true coming off of the pandemic. We wrap up by comparing our homeschooling experiences, and Tiffany invites listeners to check out her website or Facebook group to see if stay-at-home bookkeeping is the right fit for you!   The Finer Details of This Episode: She walks you through how to set up and run your own bookkeeping business from home, even if you do not have any previous bookkeeping experience Keep work life and family life separate so that you can be fully present no matter what you’re doing It’s also important to make sure you have the right help at home, which might mean hiring a housecleaner or childcare provider With bookkeeping, you’re able to make about $40,000 per year and only work about 10 hours per week You do not need to have any previous bookkeeping experience, and in fact, it’s better to start Tiffany’s program from scratch She teaches how to make the mindset shift to becoming an entrepreneur, and embracing a “growth” mindset Mistakes help us learn and grow There is a common misconception that bookkeepers have to be good at math - you don’t Bookkeeping is also a great career for introverts because everything is done online   Quotes “I started a bookkeeping business, and it literally just changed our entire family's lives in so many ways. So now we help and inspire other moms to do that.” “You want to build up walls around yourself when you're working versus when you're with your family. So that way, you can be present no matter what you're doing.” “It's actually more important to hire help at home than it even is for your business.” “We actually help people understand how to become an entrepreneur, and the mindset shift that's involved with that. How to understand being a business owner, and also how to learn every skill that you need around offering bookkeeping services.” “We teach everything from scratch. We actually prefer to have people that don't have any prior bookkeeping experience, and guide them through the whole process.” “A huge common myth, misconception, about being a successful bookkeeper is that you have to be good at math. You don't - I use the calculator for literally everything.” “It's a really great job for especially introverts because you don't necessarily have to get on the phone or see anybody in person.” “The value that bookkeepers provide to business owners is incredibly high. And it makes the sales process really easy.”   Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?    Stay-at-Home Bookkeeper Academy Homepage: www.stayathomebookkeeper.com Have Your Cake and Eat It Too Facebook Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jamie doesn’t believe kids are capable of “bad” behavior in the traditional sense—most toddlers aren’t mentally developed enough to act truly maliciously. But when you mix complex feelings, a near-complete inability to verbally communicate those feelings, and few if any inhibitions, and your little one can turn into a little shit really quickly. The trick is figuring out what feelings motivate acting out and what tools we can use to help them express those feelings in a healthier (and quieter) way.   In this episode, Jamie discusses the three major ways your little one can act up, as well as some helpful techniques you can use to expand your kid’s emotional vocabulary and keep them from going overboard. The Finer Details of This Episode:   Don’t trust anyone who claims they can eradicate your kid’s unruly behavior. Acting out: when our kids put into action what they’re unable to communicate. Limit-testing: how our little ones figure out what they can get away with.   Tantrum: the emotional explosion that happens when stimuli get to be too much.   Why firmer boundaries will inhibit limit-testing. Nearly every tantrum can prevented if your little one is getting the sleep they need. Don’t go all out for an overly stimulating birthday party your toddler’s never gonna remember. Teaching your kids the basic language that will allow them to express their new and strange feelings. The “tetherball” approach to pushing back against limit-testing. Figuring out which tantrums are preventable and which ones you’ll just have to accept. The “Will I Cave?” method for determining the right times to say yes or no.   Quotes: “Remember, they’re so new—2, 3 years old. They don’t have all the words!” “Children are allowed to have bad days, and I think we all forget that.” “The tricky thing about boundaries is that kids will keep moving them.” “If it’s gonna wack your kid out and result in tantrums and bad behavior, say no.” “Your job is to be a pole in cement, in the ground, that they can totally kick off of.”   Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing certified behavioral consultant Megg Thomspon Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Megg’s Homepage - https://meggthompson.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey guys! In today's fast-paced world, nurturing our children's self-esteem and emotional resilience is more important than ever. In this episode, I dive deep into the dangers of seeking constant external validation and the impact of academic pressure on children's mental health. It's essential for parents to recognize the signs of a nervous learner and provide a supportive environment. We also explore the importance of promoting self-validation skills and allowing children to navigate their emotions independently. From reflecting on daily highs and lows to engaging in challenging activities, there are many ways to foster self-esteem and resilience.

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We've got a fantastic episode lined up with a special guest in the house – Eli Hardwood, AKA the Attachment Nerd. Eli's not just a therapist and mama; she's the guru when it comes to all things attachment theory.

In this episode, we're getting real about attachment parenting. Eli breaks down the four attachment patterns, spills the beans on breaking those generational habits, and dives into finding that sweet spot between nurturing and letting your kiddos spread their wings.

But wait, there's more! We're also tackling the teenage brain rollercoaster and giving you the lowdown on navigating those adolescent emotions.

Tune in for a chill chat, some expert insights, and a whole lot of parenting wisdom. It's Eli, Jamie, and you – breaking attachment patterns and rocking the parenting game.

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Today I’m thrilled to be talking with Suzanne Warye, influencer-turned-sobriety influencer. She hosts The Sober Mom Life Podcast and she’s committed to sharing the truth about the alcohol industry. I’ve learned so much from her! We’ve been tricked and specifically targets by Big Alcohol to think we can’t handle motherhood without wine. I didn’t know alcohol is a class 1 carcinogen nor did I know that it’s associated with all kinds of cancer, particularly breast cancer. Suzanne is loving and kind and I think this is a really important conversation.  Podcast: The Sober Mom Life IG: @mykindofsweet And: @thesobermomlife Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The last few episodes of Oh Crap! haven’t been as upbeat as Jamie’s usual output, but it’s important to address the more serious side of introducing your children to the world and dealing with the not-as-fun aspects of parenthood. To conclude this series, Jamie is looking at how mental health affects our parenting, specifically focusing on anxiety. We all need to discuss mental health in a serious and proactive way, while still giving one another the love and encouragement we all deserve. In this episode, Jamie discusses the different forms of anxiety, explains how you can begin to treat each kind, and gives you permission to not go to that big event you’ve been dreading.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Looking at how we frame mental health in casual discussion and why it can help to not speak as lightly about it. Why Jamie’s brand of self-care can come off as “brutal.” What are the different types of anxiety and how do they each manifest? The reason cutting out sugar intake can massively and positively improve your general level of calm. Magnesium: not just for electronics anymore! How a little bit of liver (and several B vitamins) can go a long way. Be a happy flower and absorb some sun! Vitamin D is essential to keeping you feeling fresh and energized. You don’t have to go to that big event! If you do, both you and your little ones will feel drained and on edge by the end. It’s okay to taper off hangouts with a friend you know is leaving you feeling worn down. Realize that social media and YouTube algorithms are designed to throw upsetting and misery-inducing content in your face; seek out some happier stories for a change! What Jamie does—and you yourself can do—to get through an anxious episode with your wits intact. Why you shouldn’t be afraid of medication, especially if you need it. Medication doesn’t have to be forever, but they can be a helpful guide for when they’re a necessity. Make your mental health one of the first things you address in your day. Quotes: “For me, self-care is about mental health.” “A lot of what we know is not set in stone, and this goes for nutritional research.” “If you don’t feel good all the time it’s worth doing your own research to figure out why.” “You are not showing up fully as a parent if you are suffering from anxiety, depression or other mental health issues.” “If your family’s toxic, you have every right to cut them off.” “Don’t throw yourself under the bus for someone else.” “Stop looking for the bad; look for the good.” “We have to confront what our anxieties are so we can keep our kids safe.” Links:   Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, hey, you guys! I dive into the importance of seeing the world through our children's eyes. We start by discussing the magical perspective children have on nature walks, where every creek and puddle is an adventure. Then, I share a personal story about how my son's fascination with trains led us to hours of joy at the train station, highlighting the value of child-led exploration. We also touch on complex family dynamics, such as relationships with estranged grandparents, and how our kids' views can offer unexpected insights. Join me as we explore how embracing our children's unique perspectives can enrich our parenting journey and strengthen our family connections.
(00:00:52) Discovering Nature's Wonders Through a Child's Eyes
(00:04:20) Exploring Trains through a Child's Eyes
(00:08:28) Embracing Children's Intrigues through Exploration
(00:15:08) Evolution of Grandparent-Grandchild Relationships
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On today’s episode, I’m excited to welcome my good friend and colleague, Stephanie Sotelo, who also happens to be my backup parenting coach. Stephanie blows my mind over and over again as we talk about accessing our “Whys” as parents, and tapping into our values, which act as our compass on this journey and give us the courage to hold firm in our parenting choices when others may question them. We explain how knowing your “Why” can help you understand yourself better as a parent, as well as your partner and even other parents who may have the same “What,” but a different “Why.” We also discuss the ways your “Why” can change over time, and the importance of finding your own authentic voice in a world where so many other opinions are thrown at you. We talk about choosing connection with your child above all else, encouraging your child to advocate for themselves and find their own strong voice, and why authenticity, confidence, and consistency are your most important tools as a parent. Thank you for your listening, and I appreciate your patronage more than I can say. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below. You can also visit Stephanie Sotelo’s website at www.StephanieSotelo.com or on Instagram @consciousparentcoach.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Your values are your compass as to how you’re going to parent (for example, with sports, commitment is very important or it may just be about being social) It’s a bit more difficult for dads to access those emotions and tap into their “Why” But knowing your “Why” and being strong in your values gives you courage Stephanie values respect and manners for her son, but also wants him to be able to advocate for himself and be able to tell other adults when he feels uncomfortable with something It’s not the “What” but the “Why” - Parents have different “Whys” and this is why we judge each other, even when we have the same “What” (for example, two different parents may agree that children need an allowance, but one implements this to help teach money management while another may be trying to teach their child about work ethic) Encouraging kids to advocate for themselves versus being disrespectful Parents can also practice finding their own voice, which can help you sort it out from all the other voices that can be overwhelming in the gentle parenting world Doing parallel chores can help you connect while actually getting a few things done Kids really enjoy playing with everyday items like tape or simply running water on the tap If you’re constantly looking at other people’s lives and not your own, this is where things get lost and you feel like you’re on shaky ground It’s important to honor your voice and adjust based on what works for you As a parenting coach, we cannot give an exact script that will work every time as it will always depend on your ‘Why’ Authenticity and confidence are huge - when you have that confidence and courage, kids are more likely to listen to the boundaries  Pick your hill to die on, and if you’re going to cave, cave early and be authentic to what it is you really want to do It’s also important to keep your child’s age and developmental stage in mind, and shift your expectations for them accordingly We all feel like we want to be perfect, and we all see the “What” out there in the world on social media, but the “Why” is so much more important   Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Stephanie Sotelo’s Homepage www.stephaniesotelo.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired on Patreon on May 26. 2020.  Though I recorded this through the lens of the pandemic, this is an important topic: why “killing” bad guys and aggressive play is important for kids. Further reading on this topic: The Science Behind Play-Fighting and Why It’s Not All Bad - https://www.mother.ly/parenting/the-science-behind-play-fightingand-why-its-not-all-bad/ Boys: Understanding Rough and Tumble Play - https://www.firstfiveyears.org.au/child-development/boys-understanding-rough-and-tumble-play Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am always so excited to hear from you, my listeners and patrons, and today I’d like to respond to two topics that were sent in to me recently. The first surrounds the experience of raising an only child, and being a good friend to those who may be doing so not by choice. Our second topic is all about when and how to introduce social media and devices to your child. What I can tell you is that there are a lot of opinions out there on both topics, and today I offer you mine with some references along the way to my own experiences, both personally and professionally. In terms of the social media and device concerns, as in all aspects of raising a child, I cannot stress enough that you need to know your child – your understanding of them, the bond you have together, and the level of communication you maintain will all prove critical in navigating this successfully.   The Finer Details of This Episode: I don’t think anybody begrudges hearing about your kids and their siblings, but I wouldn’t ‘gush’ – if it’s a close friend, you can ask if it bothers them You can point out the ‘cons’ of sibling rivalry as well You really have to check yourself to not make everything super precious (Princess Syndrome) Don’t try to be friends with a parent that you’re not really ‘vibing’ with The timing and manner of introducing social media and devices varies depending upon the child – you really need to know your kid Ages 0-6 is Govern, 6-12 is Garden, and 12-18 is Guide In the ‘tween’ years, girls seem to be more susceptible to societal pressure Having a phone may be a necessity for your child Snapchat, to me, is one of the nastier platforms I think our kids are suffering from being over monitored, and are entitled to some privacy You have to have huge conversations with your child about what it means to be behind a name on social media We have to create that culture where we communicate with other parents for everyone’s safety Use common sense without being crazy Temper your own anxiety   Quotes: “I think when you have two parents and one kid there’s a ‘preciousness’ that comes about, right, just naturally.” “Nobody wants to talk about having babies on the first or second date.” “I enjoy raising an only child.” “It’s really hard in this day and age to not have a phone.” “We need to trust our kids until they’re not trustworthy, and then we pull in the reins. That is my personal belief.” “Don’t look for somebody to direct you on this. Connect with your kids and be honest – try to see your kid through a lens, try to see what they are drawn to.” “It’s really about your bond and your connection with your kid, and keeping these communication channels open.”   Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alanna McGuinn is a sleep consultant, founder of the Good Night Sleep Site and a stress management coach. As a mother of three, she understands firsthand how vital sleep is for both children and parents during those first few years of raising kids, so she now focuses on how you can maximize not only how long you and your toddlers sleep but the quality of that sleep as well. She’s also hosts the podcast This Girl Loves Sleep, where she recently interviewed Jamie.

 

In this episode, Alanna discusses that tricky transition from cradle to bed, explains why you should invest in a proper alarm clock, and looks at medical conditions that can impact how well your little ones sleep. Jamie also announces the winner of her book pre-launch party giveaway!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

 

• Alanna reveals what prompted her to become a sleep specialist.
• Why it’s always worth trying to put your kid on an earlier bedtime, even if your schedule needs to change.
• Factors you should consider when debating if it’s too soon to move your little one from a crib to a bed.
• Techniques and technology you can use to get yourself in a better mood for deep, restful sleep.
• Why it can be beneficial to get up in the middle of the night and do an activity if you don’t feel tired enough.
• Is it possible to set when your little ones wake up as well as when they go to bed?
• The importance of establishing who’s in charge at bedtime (hint: it’s the parents).
• Navigating the turbulent waters of napping.
• How sleep apnea and adenoids can affect the quality of your child’s sleep.

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“Work out all your sleep kinks first, then transition.”

 

“If we’re waking up and seeing all this clutter it’s just gonna add more clutter to our minds.”

 

“It’s really important to create a positive association between sleep and bed.”

 

“We should be sleeping 85% of the time we’re in bed.”

 

“You don’t negotiate with terrorists or toddlers.”

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On this week’s episode, I want to cover something I’ve noticed becoming quite rampant in the work I do with both parenting and potty training—sustained cajoling as a parental technique. Rewards and compliments are great things to give our kids, but when you start cajoling or bribing to get them to do daily activities, you’re not empowering them, you’re disempowering yourself as a parent. Instead of putting yourself in a position of weakness, I discuss better ways to take control of your parenting, including developing your Mom Voice and using statements, choices, and challenges as your techniques for getting your kid to play ball.

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• When you start cajoling or bribing for daily activities, like getting dressed or putting their shoes on, you run into trouble because you’re asking your child permission to parent them. And by doing so, you’re not empowering them, you’re losing your own power by putting yourself in a position of weakness.
• My number one rule when you’re potty training is don’t ask your child if they have to go. There are many other, more effective ways to prompt by using a statement, choice, or challenge.
• I’m a firm believer in the Mom Voice; I want you to cultivate a voice that means business. That doesn’t mean using a mean voice, it means being regulated and letting your kid know that you’re in control.
• Don’t blow smoke up your kid’s ass by using excessive flattery to get them to do things—children already think they’re the center of the universe, don’t encourage that self-centered perception.
• I got a question from a listener about dealing with her child’s father not wanting to be part of his life. We tend to see this happening with the biological father more than the mother; some women do abandon their child, but it tends to be coupled with factors that make it almost preferable for them not to have contact.
• As single moms, we can fall into the trap of thinking our kids are going to communicate as females, but sometimes they need male figures because men communicate very differently to women.
• As far as full-time homeschooling, I wouldn’t recommend setting up a classroom for kids at an early age, especially for only one child. Part of the reason to do homeschooling is that it gives a lot more freedom in how the kid learns, whereas setting up a classroom keeps you in the mindset of school. Homeschooling lets you break out of the formality of school—and all the crowd control that goes along with it—so you don’t have to stick rigidly to schedules, subjects, or locations.
• One of the best things you can do is read to your child and provide opportunities for learning words. When Pascal was in kindergarten and first grade, I would label everything from the windows to the tables to the chairs to help him learn sight words.
• If you’re planning on getting outside regularly as part of homeschooling (which is a great idea!), invest in some gear. The best thing you can do with your kid is get one of those one-piece shells (insulated or not!), and then you can layer all the clothes you need underneath.
• Go for brand names over generics if you can because they have better heat technology and let you have a slim profile, which makes being outside in the cold so much more pleasant. I tend not to recommend specific brands, but I personally like Hannah Anderson (which are really sturdy and last a long time), Columbia, and North Face.

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This week’s discussion centers on an issue Jamie feels very passionate about, and one which she believes makes our kids act out in crappy ways. That issue? Being so incredibly, uncompromisingly protective of our little ones for fear that they get so much as a scratch. Enforcing extreme caution on our kids at too early of an age means they might grow up too terrified to take ANY of the necessary risks in life, which will come back to bite them—and, indirectly, you—once they head off to college. So rather than bubble wrap our tots, we need to let them explore and discover their own physical limitations. In this episode, Jamie explains the senses at play when it comes to getting a handle on your body, advises you to buddy up with other parents who aren’t afraid to let their kids trip and fall, and helps you come to terms with the fact that your children will need to get a few scratches and scrapes for them to grow on their own terms. The Finer Details of This Episode:   Try putting yourself in the socks or shoes of a little toddler who’s only recently mastered basic motor functions and is being constantly told to “be careful.” Letting our children explore their bodies and range of motion is an empowering experience, bruises and all. Proprioception: our sense of movement and position based on internal stimuli, aka knowing how all our limbs and movements fit together. Vestibular system: our sense of balance and spatial orientation, aka what keeps us from constantly falling over. Why your child’s 3rd birthday is when you need to back off a little and let them take a few risks. What you can do to encourage your little one to explore their range of movement and develop core motor skills. The benefit of letting our kids engage in old school “big play,” such as tag. Seek out friendships with other like minded parents who aren’t afraid to let their kids be a little more boisterous. Some fun ways you can challenge your own kid and foster rough-and-tumble risk taking. Tips for encouraging your child to explore an environment courtesy of Josée from Backwoods Mama. Why you shouldn’t lift your little one up to reach something. Accepting that your kid is going to get hurt at some point, and that it will probably help them in the long run. Quotes: “We have to let them explore the limits of their body!” “There is no magic age at which your child knows how to do something.” “We have to let kids make mistakes.” “We’re being too soft on our kids and we spend our time making their lives easier when really we should just be throwing some obstacles in their way.” “Self-esteem is built by doing things you thought you couldn’t do.” Links: Backwoods Mama - https://www.backwoodsmama.com/ The Land documentary - https://www.kanopy.com/product/land-adventure-play-documentary Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

OMG. I’m geeking out for this interview. I’ve followed Michelle for a long time and just adore her story. In a crazy world, where eating highly processed, hyperpalatable food is considered to be “moderation” and a sign of having no food issues...Michelle healed her own body, mind, spirit, and athletic performance by bucking the dietician standards. Ya’ll know, I love bucking the system. She’s the author of The Dietician’s Dilemma, an awesome book about how our current recommendations are probably not the best route for most people who need healing. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Michelle’s IG: @runeatmeatrepeat Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is the mother of all follow-ups. I’ll be revisiting my episodes on the ‘Go To Your Room’ strategy, tantrums, and negative associations, to clarify some confusion and answer all of your questions on these topics. One of the key ideas here is co-regulation, and whether you can lend your child your calm in moments of dysregulation. If you can be present with inaction, and simply be with your child without trying to fix the feeling or becoming dysregulated yourself, then you can hold space for them. But this is not always possible, as we could be dealing with stressors, trauma, or childhood wounds that sometimes make us lose our shit. And if that's the case, this is when you want to implement the harm reduction model and use the Go To Your Room strategy. It can be done in a way that doesn’t feel “abandoning”, and it prevents you from saying something psychologically damaging, and also allows your child to experience the full cycle of their feelings, and settle their bodies on their own.   The Finer Details of This Episode: We are the first generation of parents to recognize that past parenting approaches were unhealthy and ineffective, so it can be confusing and overwhelming when everything is new territory - the internet also adds to this Go To Your Room strategy can often feel like you’re abandoning your child because it can be done is abandoning ways If you can tolerate your child’s meltdowns, you should probably hold space for your child in those moments - and that means presence with inaction If you can’t co-regulate without trying to stop the feeling, use the Go To Your Room strategy Ideally we would never leave a child in distress, but if you are about to lose your shit and say something catastrophic, this can do a lot of damage and you need to be implementing the harm reduction model in those moments There can be psychological damage when you try to stop the feeling and prevent it from running its full course, and also when you lose your shit on your child Regulation means bringing order, having a baseline of calm - you can be irritated by something, but it doesn’t throw you off If you feel yourself become immediately dysregulated when your child melts down, this is indicative of a childhood wound If it’s a slow burn and the feeling of being dysregulated gradually builds up, it’s the result of resentment and boundary issues Co-regulation is regulating in the presence of another person - dogs are an excellent example of this as they are present when you’re upset, but not doing anything to try to fix it I hate the traditional definition of co-regulation because it implies that you should actively do something to stop, to shift, to fade the feeling your child is having You do not need to do something when your child is upset, you need to be something In a meltdown situation, you have to lend them your calm, not calm your child down Letting your feelings and emotions run their course is incredibly powerful and healing If we over empathize with every single feeling, we’re doing a disservice to our child because we’re not teaching them how to weather disappointment  Go To Your Room strategy allows your child to feel all their feelings, and settle their body on their own The key is for us parents to be regulated Gentle parenting misses the mark by encouraging us to sit with our children through all feelings, but it does not take into account our own stresses and feelings of dysregulation   Links: Jamie’s Website - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page - www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Kimberly Ann Johnson Website www.kimberlyannjohnson.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're talking "Tiny Dictators" and parental preferences, exploring how organization and setting boundaries play a crucial role in managing these challenges. From establishing designated spots for everyday items to navigating children's preferences for one parent over another, I offer practical insights and strategies to maintain authority while fostering a harmonious household environment. Join me as we tackle the complexities of parenting and empower ourselves to navigate these common yet often challenging dynamics with confidence and clarity.
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Today we're talking about the art of apologizing, especially with our kids. Apologies aren't just about saying "sorry" – they’re about making amends and truly repairing relationships. I'll talk about the key components of a genuine apology, like taking responsibility, expressing real remorse, and listening to the other person's perspective. We'll discuss why overpromising in apologies can be harmful and how to avoid defensive reactions. I’ll also share tips on effective communication and addressing past hurts without deflecting responsibility. Tune in to learn how to foster healthier, more honest relationships through sincere apologies.
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In this episode: our kids are overscheduling and not getting enough downtime a huge culprit is organized sports is your little one resisting organized sports? If no, rock on. If yes… my thoughts on organized sports for the under 5 crew let’s examine why organized sports are a relatively new “MUST”. we’ll pull apart YOUR why…why do you want your child in sports as a society…what’s changed that kids are so overscheduled in general a comprehensive list of how we got here things we can do to ease up on the overscheduling and the busy Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Changes: it’s not just a David Bowie song, but something your kid is going to go through a lot of throughout their early years. And Jamie isn’t merely talking about bodily or behavioral changes but changes in routine, changes in circumstances, and changes in family. Something as simple as leaving the house in the morning can be enough to set your little one on edge, so we need to both help them understand these necessary—and occasionally unfortunate—shifts as well as make these transitions a little easier for them.   In this episode, Jamie discusses the significant changes your parenting style will go through as your little one becomes a slightly bigger one, explains how you can help your kid stay on top of these transitions, and suggests ways you can help your child get through the tougher life milestones. The Finer Details of This Episode:   Why Jamie’s new book has “toddler” in the title even though it deals more with the preschool age. How your style of parenting needs to shift in a fundamental way as your little one goes from two to three. Looking at some of the transitions your child will go through, including moving, divorce, milestones, and even being part of a military family. If your child frequently gets upset, take a step back and figure out if these fits and tantrums are happening during moments or periods of transition. How a simple whiteboard can help you and your kids navigate these transitions. When in doubt, slow things down a little. Why the teddy bear or toy your little one wants to bring on a car ride might be just what they need to keep them at ease during transitions. Jamie’s tips for easing children through big, potentially life-changing transitions like moving and divorce. If you’re a parent whose partner is in the military and goes on deployment, consider seeking out other military parents for a supportive community. Quotes:   “Your entire relationship is about bonding in this physical sense and creating this safety within the child’s life.”   “Hang in there and survive and keep the kids alive.”   “The longer the distance, the more transitional objects the kid’s gonna need.”   “Err on the side of talking about it rather than ignoring it.” Links:   Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/     Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm joined by sleep expert Jessica Berk from @awesomelittlesleepers to dive deep into the world of toddler sleep. We're tackling everything from maintaining boundaries in parenting to handling transition periods and adjusting sleep training for older kids. With Jessica's expertise and my own experiences, we explore setting time limits for bedtime conversations and the importance of establishing a structured bedtime routine. Plus, we discuss the flexibility needed in sleep schedules while emphasizing the long-term benefits of instilling good sleep habits in our little ones. If you're struggling with your toddler's sleep, this episode is a must-listen!
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Today we’ll talk about yelling and listening in addition to a bunch of reminders such as: getting better sleep, how to really instill confidence and self esteem (in you and your kids), dealing with the back-to-school clusterf**k, and the parenting PTSD that’s so real if your child was born in 2020/2021. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, let’s get back to those tweens! And talk about when/how to start allowing your child to stay home alone. Before that, I want to share about the conference I recently attended and a little bit more about good food on the go.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This originally aired on Patreon and has been updated In this episode: Winter and darkness are upon us! Things I do to take care of myself physically AND mentally Foods that boost immunity (and foods that don’t) There’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad gear How to look forward to winter and appreciate the slowing down Let’s run through all the gear I love and how to get it cheaper The brands I love (but feel free to share yours on IG!) ​​Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Links: the light pad I use Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is all about something that I see increasingly with Moms, and never really with Dads, but it sorely needs to be addressed, so Dads, feel free to listen in as well. Mom-shaming is definitely on the increase, especially through the internet and social media, and today we’ll look at some of its components and I’ll share my perspective on what to do if it’s happening to you. I begin by looking at the prevalence of ‘identity parenting’ in society today, the importance of ‘staying in your lane’ and just how difficult the internet and social media make this for everyone, particularly through the algorithms they employ. We’ll explore the notion that we, as humans, want to be part of a group, and that currently our groups are so often formed through common ideology where people are getting different takes on the news and care about different things from each other. I dive deep on the causes and concerns with judging others and the futility of debating others online. The current example of where we are all at with COVID-19 protocols perfectly exemplifies the notion that we are all using a goal-risk-reward system to make the best decisions for ourselves and our families, and I recommend that everyone revisit Episode 33 about ‘asking and guessing’. Throughout today’s episode, I stress that it’s okay for you to set a boundary without making another person wrong, that you need to stay in your lane, and that you can never know everything that another person is dealing with in their lives. In the end, this episode represents the latest installment in my overall goal of helping you stay sane, effective and calm, especially in these uncertain times.   The Finer Details of This Episode: · Currently there is ‘Identity Parenting’ · It’s okay for you to set a boundary without making another person wrong · The internet and social media have made it so much harder to ‘stay in your lane’ · Our groups have moved beyond family-based to be ideologically-based · Our internet algorithms are based on confirmation bias · People are getting different takes on the news · Some parents don’t care about the same things as you · Except in cases of extreme abuse, we have to go with the idea that everybody wants the best for their kids · Stay in your lane to stay sane · You don’t know another person’s situation · Judging others is appealing because it makes us feel better about ourselves · Do not get into these debates on line with people · Navigating the differing protocols surrounding COVID-19 precautions is difficult these days · You want to figure out where you’re at with these protocols · All of us are using a goal-risk-reward system · Be very clear about what you need in any given moment · Be flexible · Again, it’s okay for you to set a boundary without making another person wrong · You also can’t be mad when the other person sets their boundary   Quotes: “Everyone is on edge, and everyone is poised and ready for a fight.” “It feels like every choice we make needs to be defended.” “It just is astounding to me that people assume that we’re all seeing the same thing.” “The algorithm is set to increase, to escalate whatever it is you like.” “How about a private message? How about a gentle nudge?” “We can’t do it all, and that’s what’s killing us.” “She needed a hug more than she needed to stay 6 feet away.” “Is the reward worth the risk?” “You can’t be in people’s heads.” “My interest in helping you guys as parents is to help keep you sane and effective and calm.”   Links: Jamie’s homepage -   http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey you guys! Today, I sit down with the incredible Anna Sneed, known as "the period lady" for her expertise in menstrual cycle education. Anna is a dedicated empowerment and life coach who passionately believes in the importance of body literacy and understanding menstrual cycles as the "red thread" that connects us all. Together, we dive into the phases of the menstrual cycle, how they impact mood and daily activities, and the power of tracking these fluctuations to improve communication and support within relationships. Anna shares invaluable insights on normalizing conversations about menstrual health, advocating for women's well-being, and empowering our daughters through education and practical tools like period preparation kits. Join us for a fascinating discussion that will change how you view and navigate menstrual cycles in your family and beyond.

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I’m opening the conversation about invisible labor in any given household. We’re in a cultural shift of Dads parenting in a way that overall, hasn’t happened before. Generally speaking, the language around this is “dads are helping now”... which sort of mucks things up. While there’s plenty on the internet about the mental load of moms, we also need to acknowledge the mental load of dads, which is often forgotten about. This is a messy-human conversation and there’s lots of nuance to it. So I ask that we proceed with grace.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week’s episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I dive into the Surgeon General's recent warning that parenting is hazardous to your health—especially your mental health. I unpack the two major crises we’re all grappling with: a time crisis and a self-care crisis. From the pressure of hyper-vigilant, intensive parenting to the guilt that keeps us trapped in over-scheduling and activities, I’m breaking it all down. I share tips on setting boundaries, simplifying your days, and carving out essential time for yourself—because self-care isn’t selfish, it’s life-giving. Let’s talk about how we can scale back, protect our energy, and nurture the parenting relationship without burning out. It’s time to take care of YOU so you can show up fully for your kids. Let’s do this!

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This week on Oh Crap Parenting, we’re diving into the concept of “the village” and what it truly means in today’s world. Let’s get real: the idyllic, supportive village we imagine doesn’t just show up ready-made. It’s messy, awkward, and sometimes not to our liking, but it’s essential for our sanity as parents. I’m sharing why we often reject the village, the impact of hyper-individualism on parenting, and how we can start building our own messy-but-beautiful community. Whether it’s folding laundry with a friend or letting others step in to help with your kids, I’m challenging you to step out of your bubble and rethink what support really looks like. Let’s bring back connection and ditch the overwhelm—together.

(00:00:01) Embracing the Village: Parenting with Community

(00:08:44) Embracing Community Support in Parenting Journey

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Positive Reinforcement and some Qs and As. connection before connection tantrums over losing it’s okay for a child to feel bad at times Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Balancing hormones” has become the new buzzword in “health”. So many supplement companies and “influencers” are all in on it (and they’re full of crap). But what does it mean? Which hormones? Let’s go through the big players besides our sexual/reproductive hormones and dig into this current soundbite. Also: I fixed my sleep and now I’m a nice person. Mostly. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  The full spectrum lamp Wim Hof Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One topic which has been showing up frequently in the messages I’m getting from parents is a big one: sleep. In particular, I have about 5 clients who are asking about naps these days, so today we’re going to revisit this highly important subject, and provide information and advice that should answer a lot of your questions.

We’ll begin by looking at the typical ages when children start giving up their naps, and the importance of maintaining a quiet time for all children. I’ll offer some valuable tips surrounding these quiet times, some advice about establishing sleep time habits, and a recommendation for finding help if you are suffering in this area. The main theme here today is that sleep is vital to both your children and yourself, and finding a system that works for you and your entire family needs to be a priority. This week’s episode is filled with the information and advice that will help you do this.

 

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• From ages 2½ to 4 it can look like your child is giving up their nap, and at ages 4 to 4½ they are
• For all kids, keep the quiet time, and under certain circumstances, it can be a reasonable solution to lock your child in their room for this time
• For every child up until about the age of 13, the time from 3:00 pm to 6:00 pm is their ‘witching hour’ – make that their quiet time
• When your child is giving up their nap, you have to go to an earlier bedtime (even as early as 5:00 pm)
• Kids have lost some social skills during the quarantine, so start by planning very short meetups for them with other children
• Listening to stories (ex. Audible books) is a great idea for quiet time in their rooms
• Don’t establish nap time in the stroller or in the car
• Be very careful with establishing sleep time habits so that they work for every member of the family
• If you are suffering, find a sleep trainer who resonates with you
• Really, really, really attend to your own sleep
• Potty training may disrupt your child’s sleep

 

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“My son napped right up until his first day of Kindergarten.”

“You cannot make your child sleep, nor can you actually make your child stay in bed.”

“Sleep is everything, you guys…we all need it so much.”

“I know sleep training is super controversial.”

“Sleep deprivation is used as torture in war.”

“There’s nothing better you can do for yourself than sleep, so really set a good bedtime, and commit to being off screen.”

 

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Today I’m talking with Ilene Steinberg who founded and is the CEO of the Center for Lice Control. Ilene’s going to run us through some huge misconceptions about lice, what you can do to truly stave off an infestation, and the actual REALLY good reason that lice are so contagious. Website: Center for Lice Control Ilene’s IG: Ilene Lice Queen Steinberg Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Continuing on from my episode about Co-Regulation, today I’ll be sharing all of my insights, tips, and tricks on how to help your child effectively recognize when their emotions are building up, and cope with them before they escalate out of control. Our kids are very present in their bodies, which is why their feelings tend to come out in very physical ways. Having your child describe the physical sensation of their emotions, asking where they feel them (in the cheeks, fingers, chest, behind their eyes, etc.), using the “Hot and Cold” Method, and giving their feelings a specific name can help slow the process down and give your child time to identify what’s going on. Having a “Throwing Corner” in your home, checking in with your child throughout the day, engaging in Big Play, and getting outside can also help as an outlet for emotional tension. Thank you for your listening, and I appreciate your patronage more than I can say. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Developmental Biologist Bruce Lipton has noted that until age 7, kids don’t have consciousness or self-awareness just yet We want to allow emotions to flow, but also be teaching children the language and skills to properly cope with them Help kids recognize when they are experiencing a buildup of emotion, and intervene before it instantly escalates from 0-60 Our kids are very present in their bodies, which is why emotions come out in such physical ways Asking your child where they feel their emotions (cheeks, fingers, chest, behind the eyes) will help slow the process down Start the day by checking in with your child and using a “dial” to measure where their big feelings lie ‘Throwing Corner’ in your house can help kids vocalize their feelings and complete the circuit of emotion Big play, physical activity, outdoor time also help as an outlet for emotional tension Transitions continue to be very difficult as we return to life after the pandemic Young toddlers do not remember life before COVID, and all they know is your parenting through the pandemic Don’t wait until you get home to have fun and connect with your child - start as soon as you pick them up, walk to the car, or on your drive home We tend to rush to the next “big event,” but it’s important to find ways to slow down and enjoy the transitions together - these are the moments where you can truly connect With hitting, you can try the gentle approach first, but if that doesn’t resolve the behavior, you will need to step in and remove your child immediately Once a child knows they can disrespect you on that level without any consequences, you will have a nightmare on your hands The “Fuck-You Kid” comes out of the womb ready to fight and challenge you With these types of kids, you need to make sure you’re on top of hunger and sleep They also need strict boundaries (set bedtimes, mealtimes), but freedom within those limits (like messy play, tinkering and taking apart old electronics) Set these boundaries and don’t engage in power struggles - no negotiating They could also have ADHD, and their circadian rhythms are backwards They typically have impulse control issues Remember that we get the kid that is meant for us Focus on their good qualities and try not to get bogged down in the negative As with all toddlers, make sure they are getting enough sleep and nutritious food   Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After my recent Instagram post on the arc of a tantrum received such an overwhelming response, I decided to devote an entire podcast to dissecting all things tantrums, meltdowns, and big feelings. Tantrums are the most intense and send your child into an altered state where you’ll actually wonder if you’ve encountered the devil, whereas meltdowns will make you feel more sad for your poor little one who’s just tired and overwhelmed. Big feelings are a momentary freakout that end just as quickly as they came on. All three can meld and morph into each other, and today I’ll look at what’s normal, what’s not, why tantrums happen, and what we can do about them. Tantrums typically begin developmentally around the 16-month to 3-year mark, and coincide with explosive brain growth that happens during that time. At this age, kids do not yet have the language skills needed to express their thoughts, and tantrums could be caused by something as simple as needing to poop. In today’s episode, I clarify that a few tantrums a week is developmentally appropriate, and explain what to watch out for to determine whether your child’s tantrums are cause for concern (whether they act aggressively, where they are tantruming and with whom, how long they last). I discuss my Go To Your Room strategy to help your child self-regulate while having big feelings, how to fix meltdowns by addressing the root of the problem, and the window of opportunity to distract your child at the beginning of a tantrum. I review the entire arc of a tantrum, what you can do to handle them at each stage, and the importance of letting a tantrum cycle run its course.  Thank you for your patronage, and please visit the links below for more information on my potty training and parenting resources!   The Finer Details of This Episode: The difference between tantrums, meltdowns, and big feelings Tantrums, meltdowns, and big feelings can meld and morph into each other What’s normal and what can we do about tantrums? Oftentimes, tantrums can be caused because of digestive issues or allergies, so please do not jump to conclusions that it is a behavioral issue Most behavioral therapists agree that tantrums are a demand for attention, a demand for something tangible, or an escape from a demand (putting on shoes, leaving the house) Tantrums start developmentally around the 16-month to 3-year mark and it coincides with explosive brain development Language skills are also underdeveloped at that time and they do not have the words to express their thoughts or needs Tantrums after 3.5 years are concerning - they should not be happening regularly beyond ages 4 or 5 Be cautious of brushing off behavior that’s out of the norm, as you child could really be suffering Another marker to look for is whether your child is only tantruming with you versus at daycare, in public, at the playground - across the board If they’re having tantrums only with you, that means they feel safe with you and you’re actually a very good parent Average tantrum should only last between 6 to 12 minutes Using the Go To Your Room strategy for big feelings and reactions so child can self-regulate on their own Be cautious of overstimulation and plan your outings accordingly Keep in mind that everyone is allowed to have a shitty day, even kids At the end, you want to hold your child tight and restore connection - do not process the tantrum If you are concerned about your kid’s tantrum behavior, consult a parenting expert like myself or your pediatrician Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  How To Measure Whether Your Child’s Tantrums Are Normal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're diving into the intricate world of sibling dynamics. From observing the natural pecking order among siblings to navigating conflicts and fostering healthy relationships, I explore the complexities parents face in nurturing sibling bonds. Drawing parallels to the pecking order among chicks, I stress the inevitability of sibling hierarchies and the importance of acknowledging and accepting them. I advocate for a hands-off approach, allowing sibling relationships to develop organically while providing guidance and setting boundaries when necessary. Join me as we delve into effective strategies for handling sibling conflicts and promoting harmony within the family dynamic.
(00:01:48) Understanding Sibling Dynamics in Family Relationships
(00:04:08) Encouraging Natural Development in Sibling Relationships
(00:09:57) Navigating Sibling Dynamics for Harmonious Relationships
(00:12:23) Direct Parenting: Setting Firm Boundaries

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I was so excited about the feedback from Episode 94: How and Why I Eat and Train the Way I Do: A Very Long Story. I got so many questions that it took another full episode to answer them all. I just love this topic and digging in. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode: did you know we have 3 other senses? Proprioception, vestibular, + interoception we’ll go through what these mean and why they’re most important for kids what happens when these systems are underdeveloped things that are contributing to this underdevelopment in many kids today how to fix that without labeling kids big play and heavy work are whole body movements organized sports DO NOT COUNT as big play, neither does “running around” this is the most vital aspect of childhood that’s going by the way side how we can incorporate big play/heavy work into our lives regardless of our living situations for the love of all that is holy: GET OUTSIDE!  Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, let’s break down some finer points about abuse, then talk about what to do if you have a runner. Which will lead us into sensory feedback, what that means, raising independent kids, and how to help hitters. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we're diving into a topic close to my heart – managing capacity and setting boundaries for productivity. As we wade through the chaos of December and beyond, I share my personal journey of finding balance and offer tips to help you navigate busy times effectively. From breaking down projects into bite-sized tasks to reconsidering our relationship with social media, I spill the beans on what works for me. Setting boundaries is key, and I'm all about prioritizing self-care and personal limits to prevent burnout. Plus, forget traditional resolutions – let's talk about choosing a guiding word for the year!

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Hey friends, Jamie here with another episode of "Oh Crap Parenting!" This week, as we edge into spring, I'm sharing a personal update about overcoming bronchitis and diving into some juicy topics that have been on my mind. First up, we're tackling independent play—why it's crucial for your kids and how to encourage it without micromanaging their every move. Then, I'm getting real with a rant that's been brewing about the unsolicited "just wait" advice that seems to follow parents at every stage. Whether it's about toddlers, teens, or perimenopause, let's chat about flipping the script to offer support instead of doom. So tune in, get inspired, and maybe even a little riled up, because parenting is all about the wild ride! As always, drop a 🎙️ in the comments if you want the direct link to this episode sent to your DMs. Let’s rock this parenting journey together!

(00:06:21) External Validation's Impact on Children's Dopamine Levels

(00:09:21) Encouraging Independent Play for Firstborn Children

(00:12:18) Encouraging Autonomy Through Uninterrupted Play

(00:20:35) Optimistic Parenting Perspectives Through Generations

(00:22:34) Navigating Child-Rearing Through Adolescence

(00:24:30) Fostering Autonomy Through Struggle and Support

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I'm back with another truth bomb. Parents, we are messing it up. Today, I'm covering preparing young adults for financial independence and the negative impact of over-parenting. I emphasize the importance of allowing kids to navigate challenges independently, fostering resilience, and self-sufficiency. By striking a balance between old-school and modern parenting approaches, we can raise confident, capable individuals ready to tackle life's challenges. Tune in to learn more about promoting personal responsibility, teaching resilience, and creating a harmonious family dynamic.
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(00:10:14) Fostering Resilience Through Independent Challenges
(00:15:09) Promoting Independence and Responsibility in Parenting
(00:17:34) Emphasizing Communication for Effective Parenting
(00:20:22) Fostering Independence and Resilience in Children

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Jamie is back after a bit of a hiatus, and she hits the ground running by delving into the complexity of parenting during these uncertain times. There is so much going on out there these days, and Jamie is here to offer some strategies which can be implemented immediately to help parents and children alike, and to also remind everyone to be gentle with themselves.

 

Comparing the response to this pandemic to the stages of grief, Jamie recognizes that a lot of people are in that anger/bargaining stage, and are at risk of becoming overwhelmed by trying to justify things as educational while also learning how to be together in these unique circumstances. In addition, she highlights just how important it is to ensure that children know they are safe, to talk with them about what’s going on in terms they’ll understand, and above all, to make sure that all of you take the time you need to look after your own mental health.

 

The Finer Details of This Episode:

 

• Justifying things as educational can lead to excessive anxiety
• Loosening up your usual screen time allowance is okay these days
• You are not in charge of your child’s education
• Learn how to be together during this pandemic
• Children need to know that they are safe, and emotional swaddling is necessary now more than ever
• Ensure that all family members get some alone time and ‘combination times’
• Children need to feel touch and to engage in ‘big play’, especially these days
• Take some time for yourself to tend to your own mental health
• Talk about this pandemic with your kids in terms they can understand
• The story behind Jamie’s hiatus and her new Patreon account

 

Quotes:

 

“If you have to work, and you have a child under the age of 5, you have to give them some screen time. It’s a non-solvable problem.”

 

“You need to tell your child that they are safe, and they are loved, and you are taking care of them.”

 

“Our kids need us to be taking care of our mental health.”

 

“Please prioritize yourself.”

 

Links:

 

Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ 

  

Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU

 

Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - 

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738

 

Manuela Molina’s COVIBOOK:  https://www.mindheart.co/descargables

 

Jamie’s Patreon Page:  https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?

 

Join me and the incredible Erica Litzner, a parent, a long time listener, and patron on Patreon, in a deep dive into the rollercoaster world of parenting in our latest podcast episode. We're tackling the nitty-gritty of effective parenting, from the importance of self-care (yes, YOU matter) to understanding the profound impact of childhood trauma on both parents and kiddos. We're navigating the pandemic's parenting challenges, exploring attachment theory, and unveiling the secrets of maintaining mental well-being. Tune in for some real talk, laughs, and a whole lot of parenting wisdom.

Hey friends! I'm seeing a lot of people online talk about "slow summers" and "creating summer memories" with their kids and I wanted to share my perspective on this topic. We're talking about the magic of creating memorable and restful summers for our kids, even when work commitments keep us busy. We'll explore the benefits of traditional camps and summer programs that build connections, improve behavior, and reduce stress for both parents and children. I'll share how simple activities like backyard camping, nature walks, and making ice cream can foster deep bonds and lasting memories. By slowing down and being present, we can create summers full of joy and rejuvenation. Let’s make this summer one that our kids will cherish forever, filled with impromptu fun and quality time together.
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With so many new listeners joining the Patreon recently, today I'll be clarifying the hierarchy of misbehavior, and outlining in very clear steps, the timeline of exactly what to do when your child is misbehaving, using the example of hitting. It may seem cute and harmless when your kid is 16 months old, but if you don't nip it in the bud, hitting can become very problematic and painful if you allow it to continue, particularly when it's directed at another kid. First, you want to try the gentle method of simply grabbing their hand and saying, "No, we don't hit." If the behavior doesn't stop or even escalates from there, this is when the “Go To Your Room” strategy comes into play. The most important thing you can do is keep yourself regulated, and while co-regulation is ideal, this can be hard to do when someone is slapping you in the face or throwing Tonka Trucks at your head. If you need to take space separately to stabilize your own mental state, that’s absolutely okay. This way you can come back and lend your child your calm, instead of giving them your Psycho Mom chaos. Once again, thank you so much for your patronage, and for all of your wonderful questions and feedback as we unpack these important topics together. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Similar to my experience raising my puppy, Maverick, it’s not fair to expect your young child to make good decisions - it’s up to us as adults to help guide them If you are feeling like your routine isn’t working, it might be helpful to break down the components of your day and see where you can shift things around to maximize your time When behavior escalates, we’re working either Overground (stopping the behavior in the moment) or Underground (getting to the root cause behind it) If we give in when the child’s behavior escalates, we are moving the boundary and the child will keep testing it - moving the boundary can actually cause the behavior to escalate and give kids too much power When your child is escalating, check that you’re not moving the boundary or letting them dictate your actions If you allow your child to continue with aggressive or violent behavior, it will only cause you to become dysregulated as well The “Go To Your Room” strategy allows you to separate and calm your bodies before the situation gets out of hand I find the Gentle Parenting approach to label your child’s feeling in the middle of a tantrum very annoying and condescending - they already know they’re angry or frustrated When we get to the root cause, this is where we implement our conscious parenting strategies in non-hot moments (use a throwing corner, help build emotional vocabulary, role play) If you can regulate together with your child, great, but don’t be afraid to take that space alone - it is crucial that you stabilize your own mental state so you can come back and lend your child your calm, not give them your chaos Co-regulation is ideal, but it is not always possible - if that’s the case, it’s okay to separate Maintaining boundaries can be exhausting, and it’s often easier to give in to a meltdown Our kids don’t really care about us - they’re busy playing and learning, and it’s not their job to concern themselves with us Also, they’ll never love us the way we love them so we can’t expect equal love - it’s just the nature of the beast and we will always love them more   Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I’m interviewing Sophie Ricard. She’s a child nutritionist specializing in both picky eating AND optimizing your child’s nutrition for focus + school performance. She has a wide lens on food and kids that I love and super helpful tips and tricks for toddlers to teens. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elizabeth Harris is a scientist, author and spa owner, and today I have invited her to the podcast to share her discovery about PANDAS. I have noticed recently that some clients come to me and can’t find out why their child exhibits certain behaviors. Elizabeth noticed some signs on her sons and, after many visits to the doctors, she began her research looking for the root cause of her son’s behavior. She has authored two books, America’s Infected and What’s Wrong With My Child, and today, we sit down to discuss why it’s important to do your own research and to always trust your gut when something feels wrong. Elizabeth kicks off the show by describing the signs she saw in her son at an early stage - obsession and separation anxiety, amongst others. She talks about delving into the research when she noticed it was not about behavioral therapy but something deeper. Together, we also highlight how important it is to know that, while parenting is difficult, you shouldn’t be wearing yourself out. Your child’s behavior should not engulf your entire existence, and Elizabeth and I talk about this in depth. Elizabeth’s story is a fascinating and informative one, and believe me, you owe it to yourself to dive into today’s episode to find solutions for just what might be happening with your toddler as well.   The Finer Details of This Episode: ● Elizabeth is an author, scientist and a spa owner ● Elizabeth noticed some symptoms like night terrors in her son before he was diagnosed with PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections.) ● What PANDAS means and the controversy around it ● A PANDAS episode can leave you wondering if you are doing things right as a parent ● It goes way back to birth ● Elizabeth delves into finding the root cause by going to medical school ● Is the Gulf War Syndrome responsible? ● Parenting is hard but you shouldn’t be dealing with a specific thing all day long ● Your child should not be crying all night ● When you feel something is not right, trust your guts ● Look out for obsessions and separation anxiety ● Your kid might always want to be the center of attraction ● What’s behind mycoplasma? ● Educate yourself about Group A Strep ● Do a deep research and present your findings to your doctors   Quotes “PANS is where a child basically can flare for literally anything at all, any kind of an immune response.” “Nothing about this journey was easy.” “You know, as a parent, this is beyond what it should be.” “The scientist in me just couldn't let it go.” “It’s our responsibility to step up and try to help the others that don't know what's going on.” “It's hard, but it shouldn't be like wearing yourself out.” “This is more than just rebellion. This is like oppositional defiance next level.” “When you think something's wrong, you go to your pediatrician.” “If you feel like your entire existence is wrapped up in your child's behavior, something's off.”   Links:   Jamie’s Homepage -  www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page:  www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Elizabeth’s website https://www.whatswrongwellness.com/ Elizabeth’s Instagram https://instagram.com/elizabethharrisauthor?utm_medium=copy_link Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The latest episode of Oh, Crap! is a follow-up to Jamie’s earlier installment on keeping kids safe (see episode 15!). Many listeners wanted to know how to most effectively speak to their children about sexual abuse and what precautions should be taken. Jamie doesn’t want to set off anybody’s anxiety, but these are important subjects we need to know inside and out so our kids can be safe out in the world. In this episode, Jamie discusses how to set boundaries with friends and family (and what reactions you should be on the alert for), explains which odd behaviors may be signs of sexual abuse, and wades through the turbulent waters of childhood slumber parties. The Finer Details of This Episode: Why it’s so vital you find a way to heal if you’re a parent who has survived sexual abuse in their past. The reason you should be forthright with your children (at a certain age) and not sugarcoat some of the world’s dangers. How to navigate the tricky space of dealing with an inappropriate—or even potentially inappropriate—family member. Why the very act of setting boundaries is key to figuring out who are the healthy and unhealthy relations in your life. Your kid shouldn’t have to go to sleepovers, especially if you feel uneasy about who will be there. Asking the difficult questions, such as “Will there be drinking?” and “Are there freaking guns here?” Take note that abusive individuals will seek out roles and employment that will allow them to exploit their power over others. Why your kids may be at greater risk if you’re a single parent. Don’t let your denial that the worst could possibly happen lead to your child ending up in a threatening situation. How to look for signs of abuse in your children or other children. Quotes: “We have to name the boogeyman. We have to look the boogeyman right in the eye to disarm him.” “You have to be willing to piss people off rather than jeopardize or compromise your child.” “Healthy people respect boundaries; unhealthy people push back on them.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired on Patreon on March 2, 2022 In Oh Crap I Have A Toddler, I discuss a concept I see in my work all the time. I call it: using your marriage love as a crash pad instead of an umbrella. The love you have with anyone co-parenting your child is what will hold the family together. It needs to be an umbrella to protect from the storms, not a crash pad at the end of the day (or ropes). I’ll also dive into fear and what that does to the brain and my personal lessons on riding the wave of teenage-hood.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lauren Rodych-Eberle is one of the hosts of the Kids Who Explore podcast, which encourages families to connect with nature and explore the outdoors together. She is the owner of Miss Lauren’s Music Studio, where she teaches voice, piano, ukulele, and preschool music classes, and she is the author of several cookbooks. Lauren has a deep passion for food, hiking, adventure, and travel, and she is just an all-around cool person. We connected on Instagram over tips to handle ticks, and I am so excited to talk to her on the podcast today.  We begin with Lauren’s hiking essentials, including a lint roller, TickWise organic tick spray, and a First Aid Kit. We address the pressure parents put on themselves to tackle huge summits, stay on track, and not let their kids stop and explore trails. Lauren offers her advice to keep hikes short, sweet, and fun so that your kids will want to go again, and we look at how hiking builds grit from a young age. Lauren shares her idea to make summer and winter bucket lists, and we trade hilarious parenting stories about dealing with teenagers versus toddlers. We chat about how the most relaxed days with our kids are often the most memorable, why little ones should skip sippy cups altogether, and the inspiration behind Kids Who Explore with founder Adrianna Skori.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Lauren is one of the hosts of the Kids Who Explore podcast They want to help kids get outdoors She also owns a music studio, teaches music, writes cookbooks, and has a passion for adventure Lauren and I connected on Instagram over a post on ticks Tips to use a lint roller after being outdoors, wear white Her backpack essentials for hiking trips include all-natural TickWise organic spray, lint roller, First Aid Kit, water, snacks, bear spray, clothing layers, blanket, hat, and sunscreen Nature walks still qualify as hikes - whatever it takes to get your family outside Keep the pace short, sweet, and fun so that your kids will want to go hiking again Exploring outdoors helps build grit Make time in nature a priority by investing in gear and including time for it in your schedule Lauren’s summer and winter bucket lists, and encouraging your kids to help you come up with ideas The importance of getting outside in the winter to help stave off depression and Cabin Fever Start looking for winter gear in the off-season to help mitigate the cost Most relaxed days with our kids are often the most memorable, like my days eating ice cream with Pascal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner Parents can get obsessed with overhydrating their kids, which can complicate potty training and hinder building patience as a skill Quotes “We want nature to help raise our kids.” “We have to keep this short and sweet. Because my goal is that the kids have fun. And by the end, they want to do it again. But if it's like you're pushing them along and rushing them, then they're not going to say they want to do that again.” “I make [a bucket list] every summer and every winter just to kind of give us ideas of fun things to go through. And so like this summer I'm making one that is super toddler-friendly for my daughter to do with me. And also very COVID-friendly, I guess, too, because not as many things are open.” “I think getting outside is super vital in the winter.”   Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page - www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?  Lauren Robych-Eberle’s website - www.LaurenRodychEberle.com Kids Who Explore website - www.KidsWhoExplore.com TickWise Organic Insect Repellent  The Mini Cup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I’m thrilled to be joined by a very special guest, Sarah Smith, who’s a pelvic floor rehab specialist. Sarah and I share some pretty similar philosophies and practices—we’ve both done intermittent fasting, we both cold plunge, and we both mouth-tape—and I wanted to have her on the show because of her expertise and unorthodox views. We start things off with Sarah talking about her work and explaining the various kinds of pelvic floor issues women can experience, including prolapses. Sarah herself had a pelvic floor prolapse in 2015 and was prescribed kegels as part of her recovery, which she found not only didn’t help but actually made her feel worse. Instead, Sarah uses breathwork to strengthen the core, and she explains how this helps your body manage pressure and align itself as a support system, ensuring that no one part of the body, pelvic floor included, is doing all of the work. Next, Sarah shares some of the breath practices she utilizes in her work that help people get out of constant fight or flight mode (which is hugely important for parents trying to co-regulate with their kids). We also talk about our shared love of infrared sauna therapy, and Sarah shares the impact that using the sauna has had on her health, including dramatically improving her gut health. The Finer Details of This Episode: Oftentimes, the people who realize they need help are postpartum women (whether they’re new mothers or had their kids decades ago) struggling with pelvic floor issues as a result of the changes and sacrifices they’ve gone through after becoming mothers. Sarah says the best way to strengthen the core, including the pelvic floor, is through breathwork. Inhaling creates pressure in the body, which meets resistance from your muscles and creates stability in the body and causes your pelvic floor to relax; exhaling engages your deep core muscles and again creates stability. Sarah thinks kegels create problems for many reasons, number one being that a lot of people are already walking around with tension in their pelvic floors, and kegels make that worse—in fact, they can create inflammation and tension in the body. Signs that you may need some pelvic floor help include chronic low back pain, chronic constipation not caused by diet, tailbone pain, and discomfort in sex (see above!). It seems that we’ve all come to accept a level of sickness in our lives, from sinus problems to hypoglycemia to not sleeping at night. Sarah says that part of the reason for this is some people find themselves in the trap of finding their identity in an illness and locking themselves into that story. Sarah advocates unfollowing social media accounts that make you feel like you’re not doing enough. Seeing those accounts can stress you out and put you in fight or flight mode, so removing them, even just until you can handle seeing them better, is the healthy choice. We’re less connected than we used to be, which means moms are trying to figure out parenting all by themselves. Personally, I think the boomers fucked it up for us because they forced us to reject them as part of our community, but we’re starting to get back to our roots and ancestral wisdom. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki   Sarah’s Homepage: https://www.sarahsmithstrength.com/ Sarah’s Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/sarahsmithstrength/ Sarah’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/sarahsmithstrength/ Dirty Strength Radio podcast: https://sarahsmithstrength.com/podcast/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’ve got to face the facts: try as hard as you might, your kid is going to swear at some point, and when they do drop a big fat expletive it will probably be in the worst time and place. It’s going to be embarrassing, but it’s also a valuable moment that will help your kid understand what is or isn’t acceptable among certain crowds, while allowing you both to acknowledge the emotion beneath the swearing.   In this episode, Jamie discusses her approach to teaching Pascal about swearing and the impression it gives off and suggests how you can help your own children to understand the effect of bad—or rather, “strong”—words. The Finer Details of This Episode:   How Jamie’s son Pascal and his preschool class were exposed to swearing en masse—and what it taught them about the power of words. There are some parents who don’t care about swearing but of course, you need to set boundaries on where and when that happens.  Helping your little one understand that swearing can affect how others see them, and how Jamie has imparted this lesson to her son. Why swearing in inappropriate contexts can actually teach your kid a lot about hurt and shame. The reason Jamie refers to cursing as “strong words” rather than “bad words.” Quotes:   “Swearing is just words we’ve given extraordinary power to.”   “The more power you give the words the more it has and that’s just how it goes.” Links:   Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/     Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The prospect of schools reopening is gradually dawning on us all, and with it comes the news of the potential restrictions which will be in place. As so many of the restrictions seem to greatly impact the level of socializing that children will be able to enjoy upon their return, I am currently fielding a large number of questions regarding homeschooling. In today’s episode, my aim is to address the questions that seem to be the most frequently asked.   It’s important to note that laws and rules regarding homeschooling will vary by, and in some cases within, states, so the information I offer here today is fairly general and you really need to check with a local homeschooler or homeschooling group to understand the specifics for your area. What I can share with you is the remarkable difference between the schooling we’ve all been doing for the last few months and actual homeschooling, some ideas regarding learning styles and curriculum, and some of the basic facts about homeschooling and unschooling. I can also tell you that you have the right and the ability to educate your child at home – you have done it from the moment they were born. Sending your child back to a school filled with social restrictions may rightfully seem daunting to you at the moment, and if you are considering homeschooling, this episode will provide you with information and advice based upon a vast amount of experience and research that can help you begin your decision making process.   The Finer Details of This Episode:    Nobody was actually homeschooling these past few months – we were ‘crisis schooling’  The actual academics don’t take as long as a school day  Every state has their own laws and rules about homeschooling, so go to a local homeschooler or group for advice  A lot of people opt in to homeschooling because they want to opt out of standardized testing and ‘teaching to the test’  Beware of the tendency for school districts to offer their opinion on homeschooling rather than the policy  The Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HLDA) is the only legal defense association in the country to help with homeschooling issues  Nobody should ever go into your home to ‘check out your homeschooling environment’  You do not to be certified to teach  If you are just trying homeschooling for a year, you’re tied to the school’s curriculum – that’s not my favorite way  There is a large choice of other curricula out there, so you need to determine your child’s learning style  You don’t need a curriculum for pre-school – read to them, love them, take them outside  When unschooling, follow the ‘rabbit holes’   Quotes:   “Homeschooling looks so much different than what we just did.”   “It’s your constitutional right to direct the education of your child.”   “I’m not anti-school, but I am anti-bad school.”   “I am more and more of a facilitator.”   “I would argue that we’re always all homeschooling.”   “When you’re working with something you’re passionate about, and you love, you’re going to hit these spots where you have to work through a yucky part of it.”   “I am unabashed in my love of homeschooling…it’s such a lifestyle choice.”   “You know your kid - you are 100% the expert on your child - so lead with that.”   Links:   Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/     Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page:  https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we tackle a phrase we all know too well: "Use your words!" But here’s the thing—our kids don’t always have the words, especially when they’re melting down. I talk about why expecting kids to verbalize their feelings during a tantrum can set us all up for frustration, and how we can better understand what’s really going on beneath their behavior. We’ll break down how unmet needs and connection gaps are often at the root, and why finding ways to stay calm and regulated is key. Join me as we explore better ways to support our little ones through their toughest moments!

(00:02:02) Interpreting and Nurturing Toddler Emotions and Behavior

(00:05:02) Fostering Strong Parent-Child Bonds through Connection

(00:07:58) Creating Strong Family Connections through Shared Activities

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As more and more parents are considering homeschooling, I’d like to answer many questions the people have. Today, I’ll go over when and why I decided to homeschool Pascal, what we’ve learned along the way about curriculum, various resources, lots of tips to keep you sane, and the never ending question of socialization.  Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another episode where I get a chance to respond to some patron questions that I’m sure many of you out there are asking as well. The two we are looking at today deal with waiting and screen time, and with sparking graciousness in your child. As a full believer that, if you need to, use screens to help babysit your kids, I also look at the creative benefits of boredom, and the importance of kids being aware of their surroundings. Delayed gratification remains an issue with kids these days, and the arts of conversation and behaving with other people are suffering from their dependence on screens, so I also offer a number of strategies to use in restaurants, grocery stores and at appointments to help keep kids occupied while also improving these skills. Regarding graciousness, I outline when this actually becomes developmentally possible for kids, and I stress again the need to model the behaviors we wish to see in our children. I cannot tell you just how much I appreciate you and your questions – please keep them coming so that we can all benefit from the learning that results.   The Finer Details of This Episode: · If you need to, allow screens and be clear and honest with yourself about why you’re doing it · We should keep up learning how to occupy ourselves in our own heads · The importance of being aware of your surroundings · Delayed gratification is an issue these days · Kids can be in low-level distress · It’s okay to not go to restaurants if your child is not going to handle it well · Keeping the art of conversation is key · We’re losing the art of how to behave with other people because of screens · Stop ordering for your child as soon as you can · Audiobooks, music, car games are great for the car · Card games, dice, drawing, small talk are great for restaurants · Grocery stores are filled with opportunities to keep children interested · Consider what is being learned or what is being missed when your child is on a screen · Around the age of 8-10, children start to recognize that the world is not just about them – until that point it’s hard for them to see beyond themselves · Kids come in and out of graciousness · Model, model, model – graciousness, taking responsibility, being grateful   Quotes: “There’s no magical age where your kid’s all of a sudden going to be a patient waiter.” “Nobody died from boredom…boredom begets creativity.” “Our kids are just going to have different brains than we have…we’re constantly evolving.” “Life is great when you think it’s just about you!” “You can’t bank graciousness in your kids.” “I think so many of us are more bitter than we think, and so check in on yourself.” “Watch your mindset.” “What a beautiful time to be alive.” “I love the questions!”   Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trauma can show up in parenting as: addictions, perfection parenting, extreme independence, poor boundaries, hairpin triggers and blind rage, getting stuck in victimhood. This is part one in a series, originally recorded for Patreon in Jan of 2021. Let’s start with the basics of just recognizing and owning your trauma. “If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is going to be a doozy as I talk to you once again about one of my absolute favorite topics – boundaries. This time, I’m adding in the component of effective communication as well and the impact it has on boundaries, so buckle up! I start by reviewing my well known love of boundaries, and then explain nonviolent communication and the impact that our caregivers’ responses to our needs as children have upon our ability to communicate needs and set boundaries later on in life. We’ll also explore family culture, codependency, and emotionally clean transactions through a fascinating analysis of ‘Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture’ which I have recently discovered. As you will hear, this topic is extremely important to me, not just professionally, but personally as well, and that is precisely why I am so very passionate about this episode. Join me today, and let’s learn together more about ourselves, and how we can enhance all of our relationships with effective communication.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Having boundaries and knowing when to keep them strong and when to bend them is everything Nonviolent communication is a way to get your needs met through effective communication How our caregivers responded to our needs has everything to do with how we communicate our needs and how we set boundaries, and when our caregivers respond poorly to our emotional needs, we grow up with horrible boundaries Your family culture determines how good or bad you are at boundaries Making people guess at what you’re thinking or feeling is not a style of communication, it’s a dysfunction in your family culture Guessers think that somehow they’re responsible for your feelings Nobody is so clairvoyant that they can tell what a person is thinking or feeling at all times Healthy askers accept ‘No’ for an answer We re drawn to people that make us have to work through our shit In a emotionally clean transaction, you don’t have to explain yourself Codependency is defined by investing a lot of time and energy in making sure the other person is not hurt, upset, or disappointed If anybody ever tells you, ‘See what you made me do? You made me…’, that’s a dysfunction and needs to be addressed.   Quotes: “I think boundaries are the secret sauce to life.” “Communication, communing, communion with other human beings in an effective way that gets both our needs met is the closest thing I know to holy – it’s amazing.” “If you’re a guesser, you’re expecting me to read your mind.” “My family would turn on me…I was kicked out of the tribe. That’s a really powerful motivator to not speak your truth.” “It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.” “Finding the need, I think, is the crux of all of this.”   Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Nonviolent Communication audiobook:  https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TKMBJKE/ Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/MKEManKindProjectOpenMensGroup/posts/ask-culture-vs-guess-culture-were-you-able-to-ask-for-what-you-wanted-or-did-you/3105247169499428/ ‘The Invitation’ link:  http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk about “the parenting village” and a few ways we’re making it super hard on our own selves. I’m also sharing a couple of Power Hour ideas for the end of the day as well as tips to calm your child before bed. And we’ll tackle an awesome question from a patron about her super shy child. Jamie’s Homepage -  www.jamieglowacki.com    Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU   Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738   Jamie’s Patreon Page:  www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices