NeuroConversant Leadership (Jeremy Doran)

Brendan Kumarasami, founder of MasterTalk, shares his journey from studying accounting to becoming a speech coach. He discusses the importance of communication skills for STEM professionals and offers three key tips: the random word exercise, the question drill, and the video message. Brendan emphasizes the need for engineers to develop their communication skills in order to advance in their careers and become effective leaders. He also highlights the importance of motivation in overcoming communication challenges.

Learn more about Brenden at https://www.rockstarcommunicator.com/

where you can sign up for a free online workshop.

Or you can send him a message on Instagram at

https://www.instagram.com/masteryourtalk/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:06 Discovering a Passion for Communication

03:00 The Importance of Adaptability in Business

03:29 The Challenge of Open-Mindedness

04:26 The Evolution of MasterTalk

05:25 Targeting Specific Clientele

06:19 Becoming a 1% Communicator

07:33 The Random Word Exercise

08:52 The Question Drill

10:38 The Video Message

12:23 The ACE Framework for Meetings

13:42 Reflecting on Difficult Questions

14:48 Getting to the Point in Communication

17:00 The Three Balls to Juggle in Communication

19:07 Overcoming the Fear of Extemporaneous Speaking

20:14 Stepping Out of Comfort Zones

21:46 The Importance of Communication in STEM Fields

25:31 Favorite and Dream Travel Destinations

26:34 Favorite Communicator: Tony Robbins

29:19 How to Connect with Brendan

Takeaways

Developing communication skills is crucial for STEM professionals to advance in their careers and become effective leaders.

Three key tips for improving communication skills: the random word exercise, the question drill, and the video message.

Motivation plays a significant role in overcoming communication challenges.

Effective communication involves acknowledging, counting, and evaluating updates in meetings, as well as actively listening and asking meaningful questions.

Tony Robbins is recognized as a great communicator for his ability to engage and energize audiences.

Reflecting on how your life would change as an exceptional communicator can provide intrinsic motivation to improve.

Keywords

communication skills, STEM professionals, speech coaching, random word exercise, question drill, video message, motivation

Jeremy announces a name change for the podcast to 'NeuroConversant Leadership' and explains the reasoning behind it. He discusses the need to consolidate his online presence and create a unified message. Jeremy shares his interest in communication and leadership, particularly in the context of neurodiversity. He highlights the communication challenges faced by engineers and the importance of effective communication in the STEM workplace. Jeremy explains the concept of neurodiversity and advocates for its inclusion in diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts. He emphasizes the need for neuroconversant leaders in STEM fields and announces the launch of a new webpage. Jeremy concludes by previewing the upcoming guest and future plans for the podcast.

Takeaways

Consolidating online presence and creating a unified message is important for effective communication.

Understanding and communicating across neurodiversity is crucial for leaders in the STEM workplace.

Engineers and other STEM professionals may face challenges in communicating with non-technical colleagues.

Neurodiversity should be included in diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Name Change

00:29 Consolidating Online Presence

02:42 Communication Challenges for Engineers

04:17 Understanding Neurodiversity

05:48 Inclusion of Neurodiversity in DEI Efforts

06:35 Communication Challenges in STEM Fields

07:25 Focus on NeuroConversant Leadership

08:15 What happens now?

8:35 Upcoming Guest and Conclusion

Summary

In this episode, Lauren Larson, a program manager with a background in engineering and management, discusses her experiences in managing engineers and non-technical people. She highlights the differences in communication styles and the importance of understanding and adapting to them. Lauren also shares insights on how to effectively respond to complaints and identify the underlying needs of the person making the complaint. She emphasizes the value of listening and offers advice on how to improve communication by listening more and truly understanding others. The episode concludes with a discussion on travel experiences and the importance of open and candid conversations in personal relationships.

You can reach out to Lauren at https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-m-larson/

Takeaways

Understanding and adapting to different communication styles is crucial when managing engineers and non-technical people.

When responding to complaints, it is important to identify the underlying needs of the person making the complaint and provide the appropriate response (sympathy, advice, validation, empathy, or resolution).

Listening more and truly understanding others is a key communication skill that can improve relationships and resolve conflicts.

Open and candid conversations are essential in personal relationships to build trust and create a safe space for communication.

Chapters

00:30 Introduction and Background

01:39 Managing Engineers vs Non-Technical People

03:31 Dealing with Different Departments

04:59 Setting Ground Rules for Meetings

06:33 Understanding and Responding to Complaints

08:38 Different Reasons for Complaints and Responses

11:18 Rephrasing Complaints and Asking Questions

14:34 Taking Responsibility for Communication

18:07 Taking Complaints Personally

19:37 Bringing Work Lessons Home

20:31 Learning Communication Skills

23:08 Lessons from Work and Personal Life

26:52 Favorite Travel Experience and Dream Destination

28:08 Great Communicator

29:28 Communication Advice

Greg Williams, VP of Strategy at Western Computer, discusses the importance of effective communication in translating technical information to non-technical audiences. He emphasizes the need to simplify complex concepts, avoid jargon and acronyms, and focus on the business benefits. Greg shares his experience in training his team to communicate effectively and the importance of pausing for questions and checking in with the audience. He also highlights the value of recording and reviewing presentations to improve communication skills. Greg's advice is to slow down, listen to the room, and take your time when communicating.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview of Greg's Role

01:55 Translating Technical Jargon and Plain Language

03:10 The Importance of Pausing and Checking In

07:02 Coaching Team Members for Effective Communication

09:25 Navigating Joint Presentations

12:05 Don't give too many options

15:40 Build an outline for presentations and practice

19:35 Living in a multi-cultural household

21:50 Greg's first presentation experience wasn't good

23:00 When clients get into the weeds

28:35 What do you want to see in future episodes?

This is my second solo podcast and it is all about Emoting...which is something I don't do well. I do not have a very expressive face or body language and it is something I need to work on...for the sake of everyone around me!

Carrie Beers is an international Coach, Trainer, Mentor, Speaker, and Author. Whether the topic is change management, team building, diversity and inclusion...or all things communication, Carrie has many years of experience. You can reach out to her at carrie@carriebeersconsulting.com

linkedin.com/in/carriebeers In this episode we dive into the DISC assessment. As well as discussing what each of the four types means, we discuss the different ways in which to communicate with each. At home, in the office or at a board meeting, understanding these types will go a long way.

Do you struggle to ask for help? Do you ask too often? When someone asks you are you unable to say no?

In this episode, Jeremy Doran discusses the importance of asking for help and provides tips on how to ask for help effectively. He shares two stories from his own experience to illustrate the lessons he learned. The first story highlights the importance of asking directly for help and not beating around the bush. The second story emphasizes the need to empower others by encouraging them to come up with their own solutions. Jeremy also emphasizes the importance of giving trust and respect, as well as taking responsibility when asking for help.

If you know anyone who might relate to this, have them listen to this episode at www.NeuroConversantLeadership.com

Sound Bites

"All she needed was the key to the supply cabinet."

"They were no longer coming to me to help solve a problem. They were coming to me to show off the fact that they were able to overcome an issue."

"If you flinch when you ask, they're going to think it's a big deal. If you just say, this is what I need, it's a lot easier to get them to agree."

Takeaways

Ask for help directly and be specific about what you need.

Give trust and respect to those who ask for help.

Take responsibility for asking for help and come up with potential solutions.

Empower others by trusting them to make good decisions.

Share the episode with managers or teachers who struggle with taking responsibility for their own problems.

In this conversation, Jeremy discusses the importance of physical and verbal poise in various communication settings. He emphasizes the significance of volume, ending sentences with confidence, and speaking from the diaphragm. Jeremy also highlights the impact of posture on voice quality and suggests using standing and movement to enhance communication. Finally, he emphasizes the importance of enunciating and maintaining poise in sales pitches, team meetings, and presentations.

It's a short episode, and he is trying out a clip on microphone rather than his usual mic. Plus he has 2 cameras because he wants to be able to move around. Will probably go back to the regular microphone next time, but worth experimenting!

Chapters

00:57 The Importance of Physical and Verbal Poise

02:25 Volume and Ending Sentences with Confidence

03:25 Speaking from Your Diaphragm

04:16 The Impact of Posture on Voice

05:13 Using Standing and Movement to Enhance Communication

06:13 Enunciating and the Importance of Poise

In this conversation, Jeremy and Trent discuss the importance of communication in accounting and how accountants can improve their communication skills. Trent shares his personal journey and how he developed his communication skills. He emphasizes the power of creating one-minute stories and provides tips on how to develop and use them effectively. They also discuss the benefits of exercise in organizing thoughts and reducing filler words. Trent shares information about his books and podcast, as well as his achievements in swimming. The conversation concludes with Trent's advice on communication and how to learn more about him.

www.TrentTheroux.com

Takeaways

Communication is essential in accounting, and accountants can improve their communication skills through practice and specialization.

Creating one-minute stories with a head, heart, humor, and hard-hitting elements can make communication more engaging and memorable.

Exercise, such as running or swimming, can help organize thoughts and reduce filler words in presentations.

Storytelling is a powerful tool in communication, allowing complex ideas to be understood by a wider audience.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:36 The Importance of Communication in Accounting

03:19 Specializing and Building Expertise

04:02 The Power of Confidence in Communication

06:09 Creating One-Minute Stories

07:39 Practicing and Using Stories in Networking

10:00 Using Personal Traits to Develop Stories

11:52 The Power of Storytelling in Communication

13:15 Finding Inspiration and Ideas through Exercise

15:20 Organizing Thoughts and Eliminating Filler Words

18:09 The Importance of Practice in Communication

19:36 Trent's Books and Podcast

23:05 Trent's Swimming Achievements

27:06 The Joy of Watching Children

29:28 Antonin Scalia as a Great Communicator

30:40 Creating One-Minute Stories as Communication Advice

31:01 How to Learn More about Trent

Do you lead a team of people who are different from each other and different from yourself? Do you know how to knit them together for maximum productivity? Tom Dardick, the principal of Dardick Interpersonal Communication, discusses the importance of healthy communication in diverse teams and building a healthy workplace culture. He emphasizes the need for leaders to see and value each individual, fostering trust and respect. Tom introduces the Eye of Power model, which helps individuals and organizations make positive changes by focusing on emotional growth and relationships. He also highlights the significance of recognizing the unique value in every person and building the muscle of respect. Tom shares his admiration for Winston Churchill as a great communicator and advises everyone to prioritize building their respect muscle.

00:00 Introduction

00:56 Explanation of Tom's Eye of Power in communication

03:34 Working with Individuals and Teams

05:07 Find your lane, and then expand it

06:26 Knitting Together Diverse Teams

08:59 Building Healthy Cultures in the Workplace

10:38 Seeing each person's uniqueness

13:50 How to measure a healthy work culture

16:43 The difference between intelligence and wisdom

18:11 Respecting Differences and Universal Truths

21:54 Building the Muscle of Respect

27:19 Great Communicator: Winston Churchill

28:44 Communication Advice: Building the Muscle of Respect

30:48 Outro 3-20-24.mp4

Takeaways

Building healthy workplace cultures requires trust, respect, and open communication.

Recognizing and valuing the unique attributes of each individual fosters a sense of belonging and purpose.

Leaders should focus on aligning the team's shared mission while also acknowledging and leveraging the unique strengths of team members.

Respect is the foundation of healthy communication and can be developed by intentionally recognizing the value of others.

Being open to learning from different perspectives and finding opportunities for connection can lead to personal and professional growth.

Sound Bites

"A healthy culture is one where if you are upset with somebody or mad at somebody, it's okay and you're expected to just go and talk directly to them."

"Demanding respect without showing respect is not a winning formula."

"Get in the habit of building your respect muscle. Look for and recognize the unique value in every single person you're speaking with."

Do you want to learn to streamline your communication? Make it simpler and more concise? That's what Geoff Weinstein talks about in this episode.

Jeff Weinstein, a communications coach and author, shares his journey into the field of communication and the importance of effective communication in maximizing productivity. He emphasizes the impact of vulnerability and fear of public speaking on our ability to communicate.

Geoff focuses on lean communication, which involves making communication more efficient and effective. He discusses the challenges of email overload and the need to prioritize and streamline communication. Jeff also explores the role of AI in communication and the importance of cutting out fluff to deliver clear and concise messages.

Learn more about him and his book "Buried Alive: Digging your way out to clear communication" at

https://www.geoffweinstein.com/

Chapters

00:00 The Journey into Communication and the Fear of Vulnerability

03:57 The Importance of Learning Communication Skills

06:40 Understanding Lean Communication

13:22 The Role of Technology in Communication

21:35 Using AI as a thought partner

Takeaways

Effective communication is essential for maximizing productivity.

Vulnerability and fear of public speaking can hinder our ability to communicate effectively.

Lean communication focuses on making communication more efficient and effective.

Email overload is a common challenge that can be addressed by prioritizing and streamlining communication.

AI can be a valuable tool for brainstorming and content creation, but human input and critical thinking are still necessary.

Cutting out fluff and delivering clear and concise messages is crucial for effective communication.

Sound Bites

"I didn't do any of the stuff that he did here, I didn't prepare, I didn't memorize, I don't even really have a good script to read out."

"You need to learn how to parlay your expertise into a language that others can understand."

"Email is anything, but lean. Email is full of waste that needs to be stripped out."

In this episode I explain why I think this topic is so important for everyone, and how it affects me personally. I'll also share the format for the coming weeks so you will know what you can expect going forward.

In this episode, Jeremy emphasizes the importance of listening in effective communication. He highlights how listening plays a significant role in personal and professional relationships, and how it can impact productivity and engagement. Jeremy also discusses the challenge of listening, as our brains tend to get distracted easily. He suggests techniques for deep listening, such as paying attention to the shape, tone, and pauses in speech. Additionally, he encourages listeners to listen with their eyes and observe non-verbal cues. Jeremy concludes by providing practical tips for maintaining attention and actively listening to others.

For a PDF with seven steps for better listening, go to www.JeremyDoranSpeaks.com, click on the contacts tab and request the PDF. You can also sign up for a workshop on his webpage, and if you use "weirdo" as a promo code, you will get 10% off!

In this episode:

00:00 The Importance of Listening

01:29 Listening in Personal and Professional Life

02:14 The Challenge of Listening

03:39 Deep Listening

05:10 Listening with Your Eyes

06:09 Maintaining Attention

07:03 Practical Tips for Active Listening

In this episode, Jeremy discusses the popularity of the TV show 'The Big Bang Theory' and how it resonates with viewers because of the unique and quirky characters. He emphasizes that everyone is unique and encourages embracing and understanding the differences in others. Jeremy suggests two courses of action: embracing differences by finding out what others are passionate about and why, and finding your own people by joining specific interest groups. By doing so, you can discover hidden overlaps and build connections with others.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:42 The Appeal of Unique and Quirky Characters

3:53 Two courses of Action

3;55 First - find the overlap

7:10 Second - find your people

09:15 Conclusion

In this episode, Jeremy interviews Katja Schleicher, a communications trainer and consultant. They discuss various aspects of effective communication, including intercultural communication, agile communication, and the power of narrative. They also explore the importance of listening skills, balancing big picture and detail-oriented communication, and adapting communication to different audiences. Katja emphasizes the value of talking and resolving conflicts, as well as the significance of effective communication in relationships. She shares her favorite travel destinations and highlights the importance of starting conversations and being polite in communication.

You can reach her at https://www.katjaschleicher.com/ In this episode:

00:30 Introduction and Background

02:15 Impact Communications and Intercultural Communication

03:47 Agile Communication

05:44 The Power of Narrative in Communication

08:44 Communication in Leadership Positions

11:22 The Importance of Listening Skills

12:40 Balancing Big Picture and Detail-Oriented Communication

16:45 Cultural Differences in Communication

19:45 Adapting Communication to Different Audiences

23:03 The Power of Talking and Resolving Conflicts

26:34 The Importance of Effective Communication in Relationships

29:58 The Value of Checking In and Asking for Understanding

33:18 Favorite Travel Destinations and Great Communicators

37:11 Communication Advice: Start Talking and Be Polite

In this episode, Jeremy interviews Dr. Gary Simonds, a neurosurgeon, professor, and author, about the challenges of communication in the medical field and beyond. Gary discusses how the specialized training of surgeons can hinder their ability to communicate effectively with patients and offers insights into improving communication skills. He emphasizes the importance of listening, preparing for difficult conversations, and using humor to connect with others. Gary also shares his expertise on burnout and resilience, providing strategies for preventing and addressing burnout in various professions. Overall, this conversation highlights the significance of effective communication in building relationships and navigating challenging situations.

You can learn more about Gary, and connect with him at

https://garyrsimonds.com/

In this episode

00:30 Gary's background

01:22 Surgeons and Communication

03:08 The Language of Medicine

07:24 Emotionally Charged Conversations

09:48 Preparing for Difficult Conversations

12:30 The Importance of Listening

15:42 Body Language

17:30 Gary's Book on Burnout

21:15 Building Resilience to Prevent Burnout

24:00 Taking Control of External stressors, the 90/10 rule

27:07 Travel destinations

28:22 Great Communicators

30:00 Communication Advice: Listening and Humor

31:37 Gary asks Jeremy HIS answers to the 3 questions

Do you struggle to make real connections with people over zoom?

Evgeniy Kharam, a cybersecurity expert and author, discusses the importance of soft skills and effective communication. He emphasizes the need to connect with others, especially in a virtual environment, and highlights the power of voice and breathing techniques in overcoming fear and improving communication. Evgeniy also shares the value of asking open-ended questions and using pauses to enhance communication. He recommends self-awareness and self-improvement as key components of becoming a better communicator.

You can reach him on linked in at linkedin.com/in/ekharam or check him out at

http://security-architecture.org/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:31 The Importance of Soft Skills in Effective Communication

07:25 Overcoming Fear and Improving Communication

09:32 The Power of Self-Awareness and Curiosity in Communication

16:35 Building Personal Connections and Adapting to Different People

23:24 Enhancing Communication Skills with 'Soft Skills Stack'

27:21 Favorite Travel Destinations and Communicators

29:48 One Piece of Communication Advice

32:05 Conclusion and Contact Information

Sound Bites

"Soft skills is something that's important for everyone in our life, not just for people that are selling stuff."

"Slowing down your breathing forces your body to slow down as well, reframing your focus from being afraid to being present."

"Replace filler words with pauses. Two seconds of silence won't hurt, and it can make your communication more impactful."

This episode explores how to make people want to pay attention and listen to what you have to say. It emphasizes the importance of understanding that people are self-centered and suggests making conversations relate to them. The episode provides an example of how to frame a conversation to highlight what's in it for the listener. It also discusses the use of hooks to capture attention and shares tips for telling interesting stories. The episode concludes by recommending listening to Episode 10, and getting Chris Fennings book called The First Minute

https://chrisfenning.com/

00:00 Introduction: Importance of Getting Attention

00:25 People are Self-Centered

00:55 Make it Relate to Them

02:28 Start with a Hook

03:28 A fact Jeremy thinks is interesting

04:49 Further Resources

Why should you apologize? Is it even worth it? What does it take to make a good apology?

In this conversation, Jeremy explores the intricacies of apologies, discussing his personal journey from avoiding them to recognizing their importance in maintaining healthy relationships. He outlines the steps to delivering a meaningful apology and shares a personal example of his own apology, emphasizing the significance of sincerity and timing.

Chapters

00:00 The Complexity of Apologies

00:57 Why I didn't want to apologize

01:58 In favor of apologies

03:52 Steps to a Meaningful Apology

06:30 Timing your apology

08:00 Who do you know who apologizes well?

Takeaways

Apologizing can be difficult, but it's essential for healthy relationships.

A genuine apology acknowledges the hurt caused to another person.

Actions often speak louder than words when it comes to apologies.

A good apology includes specific acknowledgment of the wrongdoing.

Taking responsibility is crucial, even if the harm was unintentional.

Timing can affect the effectiveness of an apology.

A meaningful apology should include a plan to prevent future mistakes.

Explaining why a mistake happened can reinforce sincerity, but should not sound like an excuse.

Apologies are not just for personal relationships; they are important in professional settings too.

Recognizing and appreciating good apologies can strengthen relationships.

The reason why I started this podcast is to talk about communication. The reason this is so important to me is because I help people (especially technical people) make the transition from excellent producers into excellent managers and leaders. That takes a major shift in communication, but also in mindset.

In this episode I talk about the leadership mindset and the 4 styles of leadership.

Peer

System

Boss

Goal

I apologize that the sound quality isn't up to where I would like it to be. I am losing my voice due to a headcold, so was unable to re-record. Once I am better, I will do that and replace this audio.

Thanks for listening!

If you have feedback, please reach out on linked in at JeremyDoranSpeaks

Millenials, Gen X, Gen Z...the differences can make communication a challenge! But don't forget about how much variability there is within each generation, and how many similarities there are between generations. Naming the generations may provide some helpful guidelines, but as ever, making assumptions about how others want to communicate is going to cause problems.

Thank you to Craig Mattson for his insights on this topic as well as the 6 modes of communication in his new book " Digital Overwhelm".

Learn more about him at www.TheModeSwitch.com

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Neuroconversant Leadership

02:07 Diversity in Communication Styles

05:31 Generational Differences in Communication

10:52 Work-Life Balance Perspectives

15:43 Modes of Communication

21:12 The Importance of Non-Verbal Signals

26:17 Final Thoughts and Communication Advice

29:53 Outro 3-20-24.mp4

Takeaways

Effective communication requires understanding diverse thinking styles.

Leaders should be hospitable in their communication approaches.

Generational differences in communication are pronounced but nuanced.

Digital overwhelm affects how younger generations communicate.

Work-life balance perspectives vary significantly across generations.

Non-verbal communication plays a crucial role in workplace interactions.

Small talk can facilitate deeper conversations and connections.

Pausing before responding can enhance communication quality.

It's important to recognize the relational dynamics in communication.

Categorizing people can lead to misunderstandings and missed connections.

(Show note - I have made a scheduling change. Two interviews in a row, with a solo show next week. I am thinking I may go to solo episodes every third week. Thoughts?

Ulrike Seminati is a coach, trainer and consultant who operates globally. She brings a wealth of experience as a former C-level executive, which has added to her expertise in authenti leadership and impactful communication. She uses her experience and research to help leaders establish trust and manage change.

You can learn more about her at https://ulrikeseminati.com/

or on linked in at https://www.linkedin.com/in/ulrikeseminati/

In this episode...

1:11 - She tells me how to actually pronounce her name

4:33 - Where corporate communication most commonly breaks down

7:13 - Assumptions can cause problems

12:35 - What is important for the listener

13:18 - Words that senior leaders love...but might be scary to employees

16:52 - People who resist corporate change initiatives can actually be very valuable

18:00 - Repeating a message instead of listening

19:25 - Profile of people who tend to resist change

23:19 - How to get resistant people on board

25:16 - People who resist change are the defense your team needs to balance it's offense

26:39 - Places she has travelled and wants to travel to

29:09 - Once piece of communication advice we can all benefit from

Many concrete and actionable tips from Matt! Since he lectures at Stanford and has his own podcast about communication, I knew he was going to be good...but not this good!

Some of the tips are from his new book "Think Faster, Talk Smarter" and some are just from his years of experience.

Learn more about Matt at www.MattAbrahams.com or reach out to him at linkedin.com/in/maabrahams

Are you excited about Thanksgiving and other holidays where everyone gets together? Are you also a little stressed about how it is going to be with that group of people? You are not alone! It is a wonderful time of year, but a little bit of preparation will go a long way towards making it even better. In this episode, we explore the dynamics of family gatherings, the potential for triggers, and offers strategies for managing stress during these events. Emphasizing the importance of mindset, he encourages listeners to focus on gratitude and engage in meaningful conversations while setting boundaries when necessary. Jeremy concludes with tips on finding personal space during gatherings to ensure a positive experience.

Takeaways

Family gatherings can bring up triggers from the past.

Taking a deep breath can help manage stress.

Mindset is key to enjoying Thanksgiving.

Prepare stories to share during conversations.

Engage in deeper conversations instead of small talk.

Curiosity can lead to productive discussions.

Setting boundaries can prevent uncomfortable situations.

Offering help can ease social interactions.

Finding personal space is important for mental well-being.

Sound Bites

"Take a deep breath."

"Ask with genuine curiosity."

"Offering to help is an easy way to participate"

Are you actively branding yourself and your company? Does your brand actually match your brand promise?

In this conversation, Jeremy discusses the significance of having a clear mission statement, the relationship between branding and reputation, and the importance of organizational culture in fulfilling brand promises. He emphasizes the need for both individuals and organizations to articulate their missions and brands effectively to guide decision-making and enhance leadership in the STEM workplace.

Need help articulating your personal or mission statement? Jeremy would love to help. Reach out to him at www.NeuroConversantLeadership.com to schedule a complimentary 30 minute session to review and develop your mission statement(s).

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Mission, Vision, and Branding

00:50 Vision and Mission Statements

01:26 Branding and Brand and Culture

01:50 What are mission statements good for?

02:45 The Importance of a Concise Mission Statement

03:30 Personal and individual mission statements

04:23 Branding

05:38 Branding: Promises and Perceptions

06:27 Culture and Follow-through

08:09 Next steps to take

10:55 How can I help?

Takeaways

A mission statement is essential for guiding decisions.

Branding is about controlling perceptions and fulfilling promises.

Culture is crucial for organizations to maintain integrity.

Concise mission statements are more memorable and effective.

Personal branding should align with how others perceive you.

Engaging with others can help clarify your mission.

Understanding your brand promise is vital for reputation.

Communication of values is key to organizational culture.

Regularly reassess your mission and brand promises.

An outside perspective can help refine your mission.

In this conversation, Jeremy discusses various leadership styles, including system, peer, boss, and goal-oriented leadership. He highlights the strengths and weaknesses of each style, emphasizing the importance of flexibility and adaptability in leadership. Jeremy encourages listeners to reflect on their own leadership styles and consider how they can effectively manage different situations.

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Leadership Styles

00:24 System style leadership

02:20 Peer style leadership

03:23 Boss leadership style

04:19 Goal leadership style

05:15 Which style is right for you?

06:43 Outro

Takeaways

System style leaders prefer the status quo and established systems.

Peer leaders focus on team happiness and engagement.

Boss leadership is effective in urgent situations but can be overused.

Goal-oriented leaders prioritize achieving objectives collaboratively.

Each leadership style has its pros and cons.

Flexibility in leadership style is crucial for effective management.

Identifying your primary leadership style can enhance your effectiveness.

Understanding others' leadership styles can improve team dynamics.

Hard decisions may not always please everyone but are necessary.

Feedback on leadership styles is valuable for growth.

Do you avoid political conversation all together because it ends in arguments? Would you like to talk about ideas, but get frustrated with how those conversations go?

In this conversation, Jeremy Doran discusses the increasing polarization in politics, especially as the presidential election approaches. He reflects on personal experiences with heated political discussions and emphasizes the importance of understanding differing viewpoints. Jeremy shares strategies for navigating contentious conversations, such as actively listening, avoiding personal attacks, and refraining from making assumptions about others' beliefs. He encourages listeners to engage in respectful dialogue, especially during politically charged times.

Takeaways

Politics is increasingly polarized, especially during elections.

Mocking someone's position is a personal attack.

It's important to have a nuanced view of political issues.

Active listening is crucial in contentious conversations.

Don't make assumptions about others' beliefs.

Separate the person from their political views.

Avoid using labels like 'you Democrats' or 'you Republicans'.

Challenging assumptions can lead to better conversations.

Political discussions should focus on understanding, not attacking.

Engage in respectful dialogue during politically charged times.

Have you been left to just figure out how to become a manager? You are not alone!

In this episode, Jeremy Doran interviews Edward Morgan, the founder of Gordian Knot, about the transition from being an engineer to a leadership role. He emphasizes the need for training and support for new managers and the value of taking an engineering approach to problem-solving in management. Plus, he loves and seeks out feedback constantly!

You can read out to him at

https://www.linkedin.com/in/edwardpmorgan/

or

https://www.gordianknot.company/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:14 Effective Interviewing Techniques for Software Engineers

05:32 Lessons Learned from Transitioning into a Management Role

14:14 The Value of Feedback in Leadership

19:44 Improving Communication by Avoiding Assumptions

27:27 How to Connect with Edward Morgan

Keywords

engineer, leadership role, Gordian Knot, hiring processes, software engineers, neurodivergent individuals, communication styles, transition, manager, feedback, micromanagement, training, problem-solving

Do you struggle to convey complex information in a Power Point presentation? Meet Emily Schneider.

In this episode, Jeremy Doran interviews Emily Schneider, a visual storyteller who helps business leaders simplify complex information using PowerPoint. Emily works with clients in various industries, including pharma, business intelligence, data, finance, and technology. She focuses on creating visual presentations that drive audience engagement and help leaders articulate their stories. Emily emphasizes the importance of simplicity, consistency, and intentionality in slide design. She also discusses the use of visuals, such as images, illustrations, and icons, to enhance presentations. Planning ahead and practicing are key to delivering a confident and impactful presentation.

You can learn more about Emily at

linkedin.com/in/emilyschneider719

Websites

• behance.net/emilyschneider (Portfolio)
• iamemilyschneider.wixsite.com/mysite (Personal)

Sound Bites

"I describe myself as a visual storyteller."

"When things are visually designed, you're 65% more likely to retain information than when it's just copy and when it's not consistent."

"Practice your presentation to be able to jump to any slide at any time."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview of Visual Storytelling

03:24 Simplifying Complex Information with Visuals and Storytelling

06:45 The Importance of Consistency in Color, Font, and Design

18:46 Planning Ahead and Being Intentional in Presentations

22:42 The Power of Visuals and Storytelling in Engagement and Memorability

Takeaways

Simplify complex information using visual storytelling in PowerPoint presentations.

Focus on simplicity, consistency, and intentionality in slide design.

Use visuals, such as images, illustrations, and icons, to enhance presentations.

Plan ahead and practice to deliver a confident and impactful presentation.

We talk about Improv and how that helps with communication. She also talks about how we sometimes bully our own children...with the best of intentions.

She had kids at home with her, so I did my best job to edit...but you will hear kids talking in the background sometimes!

If you want to learn more about Melissa (she generally goes by Bowler) you can find her web page at http://www.melissa-bowler.com/

Dr. Jenn talks about some of the psychology behind communication issues, as well as the many ways that poor communication can cause issues in peoples lives.

"I'm Jeremy and I am an imposter"...sounds like a self help group, doesn't it? Imposter syndrome is a common experience where individuals feel like they are frauds and fear being exposed as such. It is often experienced by high achievers who struggle to internalize their accomplishments. The perception of oneself and how others perceive them may not align, leading to feelings of inadequacy. Comparing oneself to others, especially those who are perceived as excellent, can exacerbate imposter syndrome. However, imposter syndrome can also be a sign of growth and stepping outside of one's comfort zone. Accepting compliments, recording successes, and seeking validation from trusted individuals can help combat imposter syndrome. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Feeling Like an Imposter 03:11 Defining Imposter Syndrome 05:02 The Impact of Others' Perception 07:31 The Grass is Always Greener 07:57 Strategies to Overcome Imposter Syndrome 09:49 Conclusion: Sharing Your Story Takeaways Imposter syndrome is a common experience, especially among high achievers. Comparing oneself to others can contribute to imposter syndrome. Accepting compliments and recording successes can help combat imposter syndrome. Seeking validation from trusted individuals can provide reassurance and perspective. Keywords imposter syndrome, fraud, fear, high achievers, perception, inadequacy, comparison, growth, comfort zone, compliments, successes, validation

Carlos Alvarenga, author of The Rules of Persuasion, discusses the importance of persuasion in effective communication. He explains that persuasion is a demonstration that something is true or appears to be true, and it can be achieved through the character of the speaker, the arguments presented, and the emotions evoked. Alvarenga emphasizes the need for authenticity in persuasion and cautions against using fake emotions or sentimentality. He also highlights the importance of understanding the audience and tailoring the message to their needs and preferences.

Learn more about Carlos at

https://www.carlosalvarenga.com/

Sound Bites

"Persuasion is chemistry with language."

"The words in the card that were printed at the factory are sentimental. What you write into the card is emotion."

"Think about what must be true in order for any message that you're gonna give to work."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:22 The Journey to Writing The Rules of Persuasion

04:31 The Need for Persuasion in the STEM Fields

06:35 The Definition of Persuasion

07:41 The Three Modes of Persuasion

09:35 The Innate and Learned Skills of Persuasion

10:42 The Dark Side of Persuasion

12:05 Using Persuasion to Interpret Political Messages

12:54 The Transition from Technical Expertise to Leadership

17:07 The Power of Personal Stories in Persuasion

24:31 The Difference Between Sentimentality and Authentic Emotion

24:38 Tailoring Communication for Different Audiences

27:07 Three traits in a great communicator

29:24 Simple vs. Easy

31:31 Conclusion and How to Connect with Carlos Alvarenga

Victoria Pelletier, founder and CEO of Unstoppable You, discusses her upcoming book 'Influence Unleashed' and the importance of personal branding. She emphasizes the need for authenticity, vulnerability, and storytelling in building a personal brand. Victoria also highlights the significance of diversity and inclusion in business and the role of personal stories in fostering connection and trust. She shares insights on legacy and impact, encouraging individuals to think about their long-term goals and the mark they want to leave on the world.

You can learn more about Victoria at https://victoria-pelletier.com/

In this episode:

00:30 Introduction and Background

02:12 Writing the Book 'Influence Unleashed'

03:46 Lessons from Recording an Audiobook

06:08 The Importance of Personal Branding

07:56 Defining Legacy and Impact

10:36 The Importance of Vulnerability and Authenticity

13:01 Promoting Diversity and Inclusion in Business

16:45 Using Personal Stories in Business

21:53 Sharing Failures and Lessons Learned

25:54 Favorite Travel Destinations

26:59 Great Communicator: Barack Obama

27:31 Communication Advice: The Power of Storytelling

What can 4 star generals and admirals teach us about leadership? Quite a lot! In this interview with Dr. Tom Collins, he reveals the four essential pillars of leadership. Character, Competence, Caring & Communication.

These apply whether you are in the military, medicine, manufacturing...or anywhere else.

Find out more about Dr. Collins on his podcast "The Science of Leadership" found wherever you are listening to this podcast.

Or linkedin.com/in/tomcollinsmd

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Leadership and Communication

02:51 The Science of Leadership Podcast

05:45 Research Insights from Four-Star Generals

08:41 The Four Pillars of Leadership

11:34 Character: The Foundation of Leadership

16:32 Competence: Knowing Your Craft

19:34 Caring: The Human Element in Leadership

23:19 Communication: The Key to Effective Leadership

26:54 Translating Military Leadership to Corporate Success

30:36 Outro 3-20-24.mp4

Takeaways

Effective communication is crucial in leadership.

Character is the foundation of trust in leadership.

Competence involves knowing your craft and leading effectively.

Caring for team members fosters a positive work environment.

Communication encompasses both verbal and non-verbal cues.

Change is often met with resistance due to fear of the unknown.

Leadership lessons can be learned from military leaders.

Setting clear expectations is vital for team success.

Leadership is about enabling others to succeed.

The four pillars of leadership are interrelated and essential.

Do you like to decide on a plan early on or do you prefer to wait until there is more information and be flexible in your planning?

In this episode, Jeremy Doran delves into the Myers-Briggs MBTI assessment, focusing on the Judging vs. Perceiving preference pairing. He explains how these preferences influence decision-making, planning, and spontaneity in both personal and professional contexts. Through personal anecdotes and insights, he highlights the importance of understanding these differences to improve communication and teamwork.

For information on all 4 pairings of the MBTI assessment, listen to episode 18 with Michael Segovia.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Judging vs. Perceiving

04:51 Personal Experiences with Planning and Spontaneity

07:29 Conflict in Teams: Judging vs. Perceiving Preferences

Sound Bites

"Judging is not about being judgmental."

"People who prefer judging like to plan things out."

"I hate planning vacations."

Takeaways

Judging is about making decisions and seeking closure.

Perceiving involves keeping options open and exploring.

Personal experiences can illustrate the differences in preferences.

Conflict often arises in teams with differing preferences.

Both preferences are necessary for successful relationships and organizations.

Judging individuals prefer structured plans, while perceiving individuals thrive in spontaneity.

Understanding each other's preferences can reduce stress in relationships.

Communication is key to navigating differences in preferences.

Flexibility in planning can benefit both types of individuals.

Awareness of these differences can enhance teamwork and collaboration.

Michael, Principal Consultant at the Myers-Briggs Company, explains the MBTI assessment, what the results mean and how understanding the differences can help with communication.

You can learn more at www.MBTIonline.com

4:00 - We talk about what it means to be an introvert...which we both are

6:10 - What a high score actually means

8:39 - Nature vs. Nurture

>> Communication challenges between people who prefer... 10:51 - introversion and extraversion

13:56 - sensing and intuition

16:24 - thinking and feeling

20:00 - judging and perceiving

29:00 - Michael shares his favorite place to travel

30:30 - The one piece of advice we can all benefit from

Does a tendency towards introversion hold you back in your career? Could it actually be one of your greatest strengths? In this conversation, Jeremy Doran and Stacey Chazin explore the unique strengths and challenges faced by introverts in leadership roles. Stacey, a leadership coach, emphasizes the importance of embracing introversion as an asset rather than a liability. They discuss strategies for networking, effective communication, and leveraging personal strengths to thrive in professional environments. The conversation highlights the need for introverts to find their authentic voice and approach to leadership, while also addressing societal biases that favor extroverted traits.

Learn more about Stacey at www.ifactorleadership.com

Takeaways

Introverts can be great leaders by embracing their unique strengths.

Networking can be approached in a way that feels authentic to introverts.

Preparation is key for introverts to feel comfortable in social settings.

Introverts often excel in deep, meaningful relationships rather than superficial connections.

Writing can be a powerful tool for introverts to communicate their ideas and establish thought leadership.

Introverts should focus on quality over quantity in networking and relationships.

Understanding and leveraging one's personality type can enhance leadership effectiveness.

Empathy is a significant strength for introverts in building relationships.

Introverts can be effective communicators by asking insightful questions.

Creating structured environments can help introverts thrive in meetings and networking events.

Sharon Costanzo is super smart, and also really good at relationships. It was such a joy to have her on the show!

Sharon, who is both an engineer and relationship coach, discusses effective communication in the STEM workplace. She emphasizes the importance of openness, curiosity, and collaboration in problem-solving. Sharon shares her experiences as a female engineer and the challenges she faced in a male-dominated industry. She also highlights the significance of building strong relationships and valuing the whole person in the workplace. In her coaching business, Sharon helps individuals and couples improve communication and navigate conflict. She encourages a shift from the need to be right to focusing on competence and relational skills. Sharon's advice is to prioritize understanding and finding common ground rather than winning arguments.

Takeaways

Openness and curiosity are essential in effective communication and problem-solving.

Building strong relationships and valuing the whole person in the workplace leads to greater engagement and productivity.

Shifting from the need to be right to focusing on competence and relational skills improves communication and relationships.

Understanding and finding common ground are more important than winning arguments.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:21 Transitioning to Coaching and Instructional Design

04:18 Challenges in Communication for Engineers

07:11 The Importance of Letting Go of the Need to Be Right

10:17 Gender Dynamics in Engineering and Tutoring

14:00 Navigating Gender Bias and Discrimination

15:47 boys and girls in math and science

22:26 Progress in Gender Equality

24:12 Sharon's Coaching Business and Podcast

26:32 Repairing Relationships in the Engineering World

30:43 Conclusion and Communication Advice

Keywords

communication, STEM workplace, engineer, relationship coach, problem-solving, collaboration, female engineer, male-dominated industry, building relationships, valuing the whole person, coaching business, understanding, common ground

Have you made a new years resolution? Have you made them before? What is the longest you have ever kept a resolution? In this episode we talk about 7 steps for making a new years resolution much easier to keep.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to New Year's Resolutions

01:06 1: Choose only one goal to implement at a time

01:33 2: Make it simple

02:43 3: Make it enjoyable (as much as possible)

03:17 4: Choose one goal with multiple benefits

04:12 5: Tell people about your goals

04:47 6: Tie it to a habit you already have

05:40 7: Get started....now

06:54 Outro

Takeaways

Eat healthier, exercise, and get more sleep is a doomed resolution.

Make one change at a time for better success.

Start with minimal commitments to build habits.

Choose enjoyable activities to maintain motivation.

Select goals that offer multiple benefits.

Accountability can enhance commitment to goals.

Create triggers to help remember new habits.

Immediate action is crucial for success.

Most resolutions fail by mid-February.

Share your resolutions to increase accountability.

The name of this podcast is partly based upon the term "NeuroDiversity". But, what exactly does that mean?

Neurodiversity is an umbrella term that describes people with variations in their mental functions. It includes conditions like autism, ADHD, and dyslexia. While neurodivergent individuals may struggle with soft skills and social interactions, they also have unique strengths. Labels like neurodiversity or ADD can be misinterpreted as weaknesses, but they should be embraced as differences that can be both advantageous and challenging. It's important to avoid using these labels as excuses and instead focus on adapting to the challenges and identifying the strengths that come with neurodiversity. Authenticity and embracing one's unique traits are key to success. There are several podcast episodes and resources available to explore the topic of neurodiversity and its strengths.

Takeaways

Neurodiversity is an umbrella term for people with variations in their mental functions, including conditions like autism, ADHD, and dyslexia.

Neurodivergent individuals may struggle with soft skills and social interactions, but they also have unique strengths.

Labels like neurodiversity or ADD should be embraced as differences that can be both advantageous and challenging.

Authenticity and embracing one's unique traits are key to success.

It's important to adapt to the challenges and identify the strengths that come with neurodiversity.

Avoid using these labels as excuses and focus on finding ways to thrive.

There are resources available, such as podcast episodes, to explore the topic of neurodiversity and its strengths.

Episodes that I reference are

9,11,13 - Me talking about Myers Briggs

18 - Michael Segovia THE Myers Briggs expert is a guest

16,46 - Michael Whitehouse and Nic Redman on being your authentic selves.

31 - Matt Zakreski on defining Neuro-Diversity

I also referenced Michael Whitehouses podcast which can be found here

https://www.neurodiversitysuperpowers.me/

Have you been hearing the term NeuroDivergent all over the place, but not know exactly what it means? How about NeuroDiversity or NeuroTypical?

In this conversation, Dr. Matthew Zakreski and Jeremy Doran delve into the complexities of neurodiversity, exploring its definitions, implications, and the importance of understanding different brain types. They discuss the roles of neurotypical and neurodivergent brains, the significance of the prefrontal cortex, and the challenges faced by individuals with executive dysfunction. The conversation emphasizes the need for skill-building, coping techniques, and redefining success in personal and professional contexts. Dr. Zakreski shares insights on communication, creativity, and the importance of small talk in networking, while also highlighting resources available for the neurodivergent community. Ultimately, the discussion aims to empower individuals by fostering knowledge and understanding of their unique brain functions.

If you want to learn more about Dr. Matt for your organization, click on

https://www.drmattzakreski.com/

Want to learn more about this topic for yourself? You can learn more at

https://www.theneurodiversitycollective.com/

Takeaways

Neurodiversity encompasses all brain types in the world.

Neurodivergent brains have quantifiable differences in form or function.

The prefrontal cortex is crucial for executive functioning skills.

Willpower is a finite resource that can be depleted.

Success can be redefined beyond traditional metrics.

Understanding differences can lead to better communication.

Small talk serves as a means to navigate social situations.

Creativity manifests differently across various thinkers.

Pro-social behavior can enhance networking experiences.

Knowledge about one's neurodivergence can empower individuals.

I start with a story I am not proud of :-( But it does illustrate the power of making people feel seen and heard.

In addition to helping reduce conflict, there are a lot of good business reasons for making people feel seen and heard. Businesses make more money and turnover is reducced!

0:46 Story

2:10 The power of people feeling seen and heard

2:46 The business reasons

5:09 Active listening

6:13 Specific compliments

7:17 How to turn a homerun into a Grand Slam!

Have you ever struggled to get on the same page with your team? Have you ever realized, when it is too late, that you haven't been on the same page the whole time? Today's interview with Rob Lion addresses that issue and some ways to overcome it. You can learn more about Rob at

BlackRiverPM.com or on Linkedin at https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertlion

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Black River and Its Mission

05:17 Teaching Leadership: Timing and Application

11:24 The Value of Slowing Down for Creativity

17:09 The Role of Communication in Relationships

22:33 Understanding Communication Styles

26:11 The Importance of Client Relationships

31:42 Communication Skills and Adaptability

32:53 Outro 3-20-24.mp4

Takeaways

Work should fuel the human spirit, not drain it.

Autonomy must be contextualized within organizational frameworks.

Leaders should aim to empower their teams to self-manage.

Reflection is crucial for effective leadership and decision-making.

Downtime and work-life balance enhance creativity and productivity.

Navigating personal relationships requires communication skills and understanding.

Curiosity is essential for effective communication and connection.

Common language in teams helps bridge communication gaps.

Assessments can provide valuable insights into team dynamics.

Communication is a skill that can be developed over time.

Have you ever thought you were the only person in the room who didn't understand something...but when you asked the questions, found that that no one else understood it either?

Asking questions requires confidence and can lead to valuable insights and opportunities. Many people are hesitant to ask questions, but those who do often gain respect and create a more open and collaborative environment. Good questions go beyond surface-level understanding and can lead to deeper discussions and problem-solving. It is important to ask questions that are relevant, thoughtful, and show a level of understanding. Handling questions well also requires confidence and the ability to address challenging inquiries. Dismissing or avoiding questions can indicate a lack of confidence or understanding. Asking and answering questions effectively can make a positive impression in job interviews and business meetings.

If you would like to speak with Jeremy in person on this or any other topic, reach out to him at

www.NeuroConversantLeadership.com

Chapters

00:30 The Importance of Asking Questions

02:11 The Confidence to Ask Questions

3:02 Is there such a thing as a dumb question?

04:10 Asking Good Questions

07:15 Handling Challenging Questions

08:45 The Impact of Questions in Job Interviews and Business Meetings

Takeaways

Asking questions requires confidence and can lead to valuable insights and opportunities.

Good questions go beyond surface-level understanding and can lead to deeper discussions and problem-solving.

Handling questions well also requires confidence and the ability to address challenging inquiries.

Dismissing or avoiding questions can indicate a lack of confidence or understanding.

Asking and answering questions effectively can make a positive impression in job interviews and business meetings.

Sound Bites

"I didn't know what duration was, so I leaned over and I asked a very experienced advisor next to me, I said, what does duration mean? And he looked at me and said, it's tough to explain."

"He was so confident that he knew a lot of things that if he didn't know the answer, it was a good question."

"If you're asking a question out of laziness, it may not be a dumb question, but it's not a good one."

School and work are all set up to favor extroverts. Even so, there are a ton of very successful introverts. Some of whom might suprise you. Kim Kardashian????

The differences between the two are real, and there are some things you can do to be very successful as an introvert in fields you would expect to be better for extroverts. Most public speakers are actually introverts, and introverts are some of the most successful sales people in the world.

Join me as I share some of my personal stories.

But, I want to hear your stories as well! Please go to my linked in page

and tell me about a lesson you learned about communication. I might just use it in a future podcast!

how-to-talk-to-weirdos

Are you a non-technical person who now manages a team of engineers? Or an engineer who has become a manager where the truth is a bit softer than you are used to?

Nick Jain is our guest and he has a diverse background and has been in both positions. He has a lot of insight in how to reach across a boundary that many find scary.

Reach out to him at linkedin.com/in/nickjain

In this conversation, Nick Jain, CEO of IdeaScale, discusses the importance of innovation in organizations and how his company facilitates idea generation and evaluation. He shares insights on managing diverse teams, the significance of empathic listening, and effective communication strategies, particularly in technical environments. Jain emphasizes the need for metaphors in explaining complex ideas and the balance between technical expertise and business acumen for executives. He concludes with practical advice for improving communication skills and highlights the value of understanding motivations within teams.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to IdeaScale and Nick Jain

03:18 Managing Diverse Teams: Skills and Motivations

06:25 The Importance of Empathic Listening

09:06 Communicating Complex Ideas Effectively

12:20 Using Metaphors and Analogies in Communication

14:43 Navigating Technical and Managerial Roles

17:53 The Balance Between Technical Skills and Business Acumen

20:42 Advice for Technical Executives

23:44 Conclusion and Personal Insights

27:31 Outro 11-3-2024.mp4

In this episode Jeremy talks about some changes to the Podcast, one he has made, one he chose not to make...and one that he wants your feedback on!

Those changes are largely due to feedback, so he spends a lot of time talking about how to get better at receiving feedback and using it. He also talks about how to give feedback in a way that is easier to receive.

He talks about feedback he has gotten, which has changed how he is doing this very podcast. Unfortunately, he is getting over a chest cold and had a few coughing fits that had to get edited out.

Lastly, he talks about potential new names for this podcast...and he wants YOUR feedback.

Please vote in the survey below, or send him an email to Jeremy@JeremyDoranSpeaks.com

Your input is very valuable!

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction to How to Talk to Weirdos

00:57 Changes in the Podcast

01:26 Active Listening and Feedback

03:25 Tips for Receiving Feedback

05:21 Tips for Giving Feedback

07:50 Example of Receiving Feedback

09:28 Making Changes Based on Feedback

10:45 Considering a Name Change for the Podcast

13:35 Requesting Feedback on a possible name change

In this solo episode, Jeremy talks about the difference between people who tend to focus on the big picture and those who see all of the details.

Jeremy is a big fan of the Myers Briggs assessment and he is an INTP. This episode is focused on the N part of that.

He talks about issues with communication that can come from dealing with people who are different, and some strategies for making conversations smoother.

I recently spoke with someone for whom english is a second language. It got me thinking about how sometimes it can feel that way for me if someone uses too much jargon or slang.

1:04 I talk about a time when I used too much jargon and made myself look silly

2:46 Some jargon that you might hear in corporate America

Scope Creep - adding additional features or functions that were beyond the agreed upon scope of a project

Boil the Ocean - try to do too many things at once, cause nothing to get done

Move the needle - create noticeable, measurable change

KPI - key performance indicator, used to judge the success of a person or team

3:45 Scary sounding things a doctor might say, which are relatively 'benign'

5:30 Slang, including "wicked" and "sick"

6:59 Abbreviations that are now used in every day language like FOMO and YOLO

Do you struggle with giving constructive feedback to people on your team? Do you avoid it all together out of dread?

Takeaways

Constructive feedback is essential for employee growth.

Framing feedback positively enhances receptiveness.

Start with undeniable facts to avoid defensiveness.

Encourage employees to explain their perspective.

Use 'I' statements to express personal impact.

Empower employees to propose their own solutions.

Offer assistance in implementing solutions.

Clearly communicate consequences for inaction.

Follow up to reinforce positive changes.

Address issues promptly to prevent escalation.

Wouldn't it be easier if we never had to talk to "Those People"? But life is so much richer when we do! In this episode, Jeremy Doran discusses the importance of embracing diversity in the workplace and effectively communicating with people who think and communicate differently. He emphasizes the value of different perspectives in generating new ideas and solving problems. Jeremy encourages reaching across the aisle and integrating people from different departments or with neurodivergent traits. He highlights the need to listen to divergent voices, understand their point of view, and incorporate their ideas. Jeremy also emphasizes the responsibility of neurodivergent individuals to improve their communication skills and effectively express their ideas. Overall, the episode emphasizes the importance of collaboration and understanding in creating a rich and innovative work environment.

Takeaways

• Embrace diversity in the workplace and value different perspectives.
• Reach across the aisle and integrate people from different departments or with neurodivergent traits.
• Listen to divergent voices, understand their point of view, and incorporate their ideas.
• Neurodivergent individuals should improve their communication skills and effectively express their ideas.
• Collaboration and understanding are key to creating a rich and innovative work environment.

• The Value of Different Perspectives
• Embracing Diversity in the Workplace

• "Effective communication in the STEM workplace and with neurodivergent individuals."
• "Diversity expands our universe and generates new ideas."
• "Reaching across the aisle in the workplace leads to the best solutions."

Chapters

00:00 Embracing Diversity in the Workplace

02:33 Reaching Across the Aisle for the Best Solutions

04:21 The Responsibility of Neurodivergent Individuals

05:48 Understanding and Appreciating Diverse Viewpoints keywords: communication, workplace, diversity, different perspectives, neurodivergent, collaboration, understanding

Summary

Our brains are wired for stories because storytelling provides sensory stimulation, activates patterns, and promotes social interaction. When we hear a story, our brains are immersed in the situation as if we were there, releasing dopamine and cortisol that make it easier to remember. Stories also provide context, helping our brains organize and understand information. Additionally, storytelling creates empathy and connection through the release of oxytocin. To effectively share information, motivate, and inspire, it is important to tell more stories.

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Storytelling: Engaging the Brain and Creating Connection

1:05 There are 3 reasons why storytelling is so effective

1:09 Sensory stimulation

3:10 Our brains love patterns

3:59 Short term memory limitations

05:42 Social interaction through storytelling

06:11 The Art of Selling: Relating to the Audience Through Storytelling

6:50 I want to hear your stories!

Takeaways

Our brains are naturally wired for storytelling.

Stories provide sensory stimulation and activate patterns, making it easier to remember information.

Storytelling promotes empathy and connection through the release of oxytocin.

To effectively share information, motivate, and inspire, it is important to tell more stories.

Sound Bites

"Good stories can provide TMI: teaching, motivating, and inspiring"

"When we hear stories, we're immersed in the situation as if we were there"

"Our brains really like patterns and are basically designed to detect them"

In this episode, Jeremy discusses how people use labels to win political arguments and the negative impact of weaponizing words. He shares personal experiences where labels were used against him and emphasizes the importance of avoiding labels in conversations. Jeremy encourages listeners to focus on specific topics and avoid broad assumptions. He also asks for listeners' help in sharing interesting bromides for a future episode.

Chapters:

00:42 Why politicians use labels

01:36 Weaponize vs. Weaponise

02:05 Being labelled a "Fan of Ayn Rand"

03:05 "I know all I need to know..."

04:08 Political debate and being labelled a "liberal"

06:03 Challenge not to use labels

06:50 Future episode on Bromides...I need your help!

Takeaways

Labels are often used in politics to paint a broad picture of opponents and avoid discussing actual issues.

Labels can carry assumptions and baggage that hinder productive conversations.

Avoid using labels in conversations and ask others to clarify what they mean by a label.

Focus on specific topics and avoid broad assumptions when discussing politics or contentious subjects.

Bromides, or common sayings, can be unhelpful and prevent meaningful discussions.

Keywords

labels, political arguments, weaponizing words, assumptions, conversations, bromides

Do you have difficulty making eye contact? Are there other challenges you have that make communication difficult? In this conversation, Dr. Iyer explains how he overcomes his ADHD and being on the Autism Spectrum by being vulnerable and opening up to form deeper connections.

You can learn more about Dr. Iyer at http://www.driyer.com/

Takeaways

Communication is a two-way street involving interpretation.

Vulnerability fosters deeper connections in conversations.

Effective communication can transcend neurological differences.

Communities are formed through shared emotional connections.

Neurodiversity should be viewed as a spectrum, not a deficit.

Creating safe spaces encourages vulnerability and openness.

Resilient teams are built on impactful interactions.

Neuro-alignment focuses on cognitive strengths rather than accommodations.

Understanding emotions is key to effective leadership.

True communication resonates with the soul and speaks truth.

Sound Bites

"I had to resort to vulnerability."

"I want to be heard."

"The essence of communication is connection."

Were you so good at your job, that you got promoted into management? Are the same things that got you promoted, the very things that are making your new job a challenge?

In this conversation, Jeremy and Luigi Pecoraro explore the intricacies of leadership development, emphasizing the balance between science and art in executive education. They discuss the importance of adapting to new roles, the significance of focusing on strengths, and the need for continuous learning in a rapidly changing environment. Luigi shares insights on transformational learning, the platinum rule in leadership, and the necessity of building a culture that embraces learning from failures. The discussion culminates in practical communication advice for effective leadership.

You can learn more about Luigi at

https://www.linkedin.com/in/luigipecoraro or reach out at luigipecoraro@arizona.edu Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Leadership Development

03:26 The Science and Art of Leadership Education

06:27 Trends in Leadership Development

08:43 The Shift from Individual Contributor to Leader

11:41 The Platinum Rule in Leadership

14:26 Focusing on Strengths vs. Weaknesses

17:13 Understanding Learning Agility

19:34 Building a Culture of Continuous Learning

22:17 Transformational Learning and Its Impact

25:30 The Importance of Support in Growth

28:14 Final Thoughts and Communication Advice

30:20 Outro 11-3-2024.mp4

Takeaways

Leadership development combines both science and art.

Executive education focuses on practical application of academic research.

High achievers often struggle with the transition to leadership roles.

Post-COVID, strategy and technology are key trends in leadership.

The platinum rule emphasizes treating others as they wish to be treated.

Focusing on strengths yields better results than shoring up weaknesses.

Learning agility is crucial in today's fast-paced environment.

Building a culture of continuous learning requires leadership commitment.

Transformational learning involves significant personal growth.

Authenticity in communication resonates most with people.

Summary

Nic Redman, a spoken voice and recording coach, discusses the importance of voice training and communication in corporate environments. She emphasizes the need to focus on the impact and emotional connection in communication rather than just the technical aspects. Redman highlights the significance of vocal warm-ups to prepare the voice and release tension. She suggests quick and easy exercises that can be done anywhere. Redman also emphasizes the holistic nature of voice, involving the body, mind, and breath. She explains how pitch and variety play a role in effective communication, and encourages authentic expression to make the listener feel something. The principal themes of the conversation are the connection between voice and childhood habits, the importance of releasing tension and exploring vocal expression, and the value of authenticity in communication. The speaker emphasizes that childhood experiences and upbringing can shape one's voice and professional path. They also discuss the need to release tension and explore dormant aspects of the voice to achieve vocal variety and movement. The speaker provides exercises for tongue and jaw release. They advocate for valuing one's own voice and using it authentically in corporate environments.

Find out more about Nic at

https://nicolaredman.com/on-the-mic-book/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nic-redman-voice-podcast-recording-coach

https://www.instagram.com/nicredvoice/

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:26 The Importance of Emotional Impact in Communication

06:22 Silent Warm-up Exercises for Public Settings

08:11 The Connection Between Voice Warm-ups and Tension Release

09:16 Relaxing into Communication and Overcoming Nervousness

11:03 The Relationship Between Tension and Pitch

12:27 The Importance of Variety in Communication

16:10 Expressiveness and Releasing Emotion in Communication

19:09 Exercises for Releasing Tongue and Jaw Tension

24:14 Finding Nic Redman and Her Work

26:07 Favorite Travel Destinations

27:25 A Fantastic Communicator: Mari Black

28:45 Valuing Your Presence in Communication

29:59 Please give me a review!

Are leaders made or born? Laura Watson shares some of the lessons she shares which can help anyone become a successful leader.

In this conversation, Laura Watson discusses her extensive experience in leadership and business coaching, focusing on the transition from being a doer to a leader. She emphasizes the importance of effective delegation, communication skills, and emotional intelligence in leadership roles. Laura also highlights the significance of listening and adapting communication styles to different situations. The discussion covers common challenges faced by leaders and the distinction between innate leadership qualities and those that can be learned through coaching and practice.

You can find out more about Laura at

http://www.venturecoaching.ca/ (She is Canadian ;-)

https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurawatson

Some resources Laura referenced

https://www.eosworldwide.com/ (Traction)

https://www.gordontraining.com/leader-effectiveness-training-l-e-t/ (LET)

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Leadership Coaching

03:15 Transitioning from Doer to Leader

06:07 The Roles of Leader and Manager

09:16 Common Challenges in Leadership

11:58 Effective Delegation vs. Abdication

15:09 Communication Skills for Leaders

18:00 Listening and Emotional Intelligence

21:15 The Importance of Silence in Communication

24:19 Leadership: Innate vs. Learned Skills

27:12 Flexibility in Leadership Styles

30:12 Conclusion and Resources

33:15 Outro 3-20-24.mp4

Takeaways

The transition from doer to leader is challenging.

Effective delegation requires clear expectations and communication.

Listening is a crucial skill for effective communication.

Silence can be a powerful tool in conversations.

Leaders need to adapt their styles to different situations.

Leadership skills can be learned and developed over time.

Emotional intelligence plays a key role in leadership success.

Having a plan and following it is essential for focus.

Communication issues often stem from assumptions and judgments.

Coaching can help leaders develop necessary skills quickly.

Are you funny? Do you use humor at the right times and places? Do you know the 8 triggers of laughter?

In this conversation, Jeremy explores the complex nature of comedy, focusing on what makes jokes funny, the elements that trigger laughter, and the appropriate contexts for humor. He discusses a controversial joke made by Tony Hinchcliffe, examining the implications of humor that 'punches down' and the societal reactions to it. The conversation delves into the science behind laughter, the timing and appropriateness of humor in various settings, particularly in the workplace, and offers insights on how to effectively use humor without offending others.

Resources:

Tedx talk by Andrew Tarvin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MdZAMSyn_As

Jerry Corley's explanation for what makes people laugh

https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine/magazine-issues/2018/aug2018/cracking-the-laughter-code

Understanding Laughter - Stand up Comedy clinic

https://www.standupcomedyclinic.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/laughter-triggers.pdf

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Humor in Leadership

00:24 Jokes and politics don't mix

03:36 8 elements that trigger laughter

06:29 Where and when to use humor

08:28 Humor at work

11:56 What to avoid

14:10 In Summary

14:54 Outro 11-3-2024.mp4

Takeaways

Comedy often reflects societal issues and sensitivities.

Timing and context are crucial when delivering humor.

Humor can be a tool for connection but can also offend.

Understanding the elements of humor can enhance comedic delivery.

Punching down in humor is generally considered inappropriate.

Laughter can be triggered by surprise, superiority, and incongruity.

Humor in the workplace can improve morale and productivity.

Sarcasm can be misinterpreted, especially in written communication.

Puns are generally safer than sarcasm in professional settings.

Developing humor is a skill that can be practiced and improved.

Do your clients trust you? Do your co-workers? Have you built a culture of trust?

Summary

In this conversation, Natalie Doyle Oldfield discusses the significance of trust in business relationships, emphasizing the importance of building trust both externally with clients and internally within teams. She introduces her concept of 'trust equity' and the Trust Triangle, which includes communication, behavior, and service as key components of trust. Natalie also highlights the role of first impressions and empathy in establishing trust, providing practical advice for enhancing trustworthiness in professional interactions.

To learn more about Natalie, visit her ⁠website⁠ at

or connect with her on ⁠LinkedIn⁠Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Importance of Trust in the Workplace

01:54 Natalie's Journey to Building Trust

06:19 Trust is the critical success factor

07:35 Internal Trust and High Performance Teams

07:44 Trust has to start internally

09:01 Defining trust

11:08 The Eight Principles of Trust

16:27 Establishing Trust: First Impressions Matter

20:14 How to communicate to build trust

22:18 The Tangerine Bear - importance of smiling for a first impression

30:26 Wrap-up and How to Connect with Natalie

Takeaways

Trust is the critical success factor for all of us.

Building trust starts within an organization.

The Trust Triangle consists of communication, behavior, and service.

First impressions can be formed in as little as 33 milliseconds.

Empathy is essential for understanding others' perspectives.

Trust equity can be built over time and helps in recovery from mistakes.

Effective communication is key to building and maintaining trust.

Everything we do communicates a message about trust.

How we deal with challenges can significantly impact trust.

Being intentional in communication can either build or destroy trust.

Equity and inclusion (DEI) is an important topic in the workplace, but it is often controversial. There is a lot of pushback on making it a requirement, but there should be no question that embracing diverse points of view is critical in business success..

Diversity in companies, particularly having women on the board of directors, has been shown to lead to higher returns on equity, net income growth, and lower debt levels.

Diverse teams are more effective in problem-solving and generating innovative ideas because they challenge each other and bring different perspectives.

Neurodiversity, or thinking differently than the norm, is an important aspect of diversity that is often overlooked.

Embracing diversity in all its forms, including neurodiversity, can lead to greater productivity and profits in companies.

Chapters:

0:00 DEI and why it is so controversial

1:45 Focusing on the benefits of Diversity in the workplace

5:43 The benefits of diversity in problem solving and innovation

8:30 When diversity isn't enough, you need NeuroDiversity

11:20 NeuroDiversity is difficult to see, let alone define!

13:00 It is also important to embrace people who are Neuro-Different than you

Ana is a podcast coach who helps podcasters accelerate their business goals. She loves to help people who want to make the world a better place! She grew up in Portugal so English is her second language. We discuss some of the challenges and benefits of engaging with people in your second (or third or fourth) language.

You can reach out to learn more about her at https://www.ThePodcastSpace.com/

In this episode:

3:42 Ana explains her background

9:47 How she learned spanish

18:30 Giving compliments to strangers

22:00 Using your hands to express yourself and keep people's attention

29:22 Where would she love to travel to

30:40 Who she think is a great communicator. (It's Nic Redmon who she interviews in episode 6 of ThePodcastSpace)

31:45 When you really know a language

32:45 One piece of communication advice

Have you ever wondered why some stories capture the audience and some fall flat? Jeremy went to his first Moth Storytelling event and would like to share what he learned!

You can listen to the Moth stories on NPR, or on their website https://themoth.org/podcast where you can also purchase their books and even their story telling game!

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Storytelling

00:58 New Chapter 2

03:13 Telling a story in present tense vs. past tense

05:10 How to interpret a theme or question in a story

06:14 Engaging the Audience Through Present Tense

06:47 Letting people know how long a talk will be

07:17 Having a theme

07:56 Lessons from the Moth Storytelling Event

08:22 How to learn more about Moth Storytelling

Takeaways

Storytelling is a powerful tool for communication.

Engaging the audience is crucial; present tense helps.

Themes in storytelling can be interpreted broadly.

Memorizing a talk can lead to a lack of emotion.

Five minutes is an ideal length for presentations.

Having a clear theme keeps the audience engaged.

Personal stories can effectively convey business lessons.

Observing others' storytelling can enhance your own skills.

Emotional connections are key to compelling storytelling.

Resources like the Moth can provide valuable storytelling insights.

Do you ever struggle to make true connection with people on your team? Have you wondered how you can be a better story teller?

In this episode of NeuroConversant Leadership, Jeremy Doran speaks with Aleya Harris, a strategic storytelling consultant, about the importance of authentic communication in leadership and marketing. Aleya emphasizes the need for individuals to excavate their limiting beliefs and replenish their authentic selves to communicate effectively. She discusses various storytelling frameworks that can help leaders convey their messages clearly and engage their audience. The conversation also touches on the elements of effective storytelling and the significance of vulnerability in communication.

Learn more about Aleya and her book "Spark the Stage" at

https://www.aleyaharris.com/book

Takeaways

Authentic communication is key to effective leadership.

Excavation of limiting beliefs is essential for self-discovery.

Storytelling frameworks help in conveying messages clearly.

The central character in a story should be the audience, not the speaker.

Vulnerability fosters deeper connections in communication.

Every story needs a beginning, middle, and end.

A problem is necessary to engage the audience in a story.

Clarity in communication is more effective than ambiguity.

Honesty in communication can improve workplace culture.

Personal experiences can be transformed into valuable lessons for others

Summary

In this episode, Jeremy talks about some of the most popular male actors and what they have in common. He highlights the unique voices of actors like Sylvester Stallone, Christopher Walken, and James Earl Jones. Jeremy then introduces the five elements of voice usage: pitch, pace, pauses, tone, and inflection. He explains how each element can be used effectively to enhance communication. Jeremy encourages listeners to record and analyze their own voices to improve their communication skills.

Takeaways

Male actors with interesting voices tend to be more popular.

The five elements of voice usage are pitch, pace, pauses, tone, and inflection.

Recording and analyzing your voice can help improve your communication skills.

Matching your tone with your words is crucial for credibility.

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Voices in Male Actors

02:18 The Five Elements of Voice Usage

03:48 Pitch and Pace

04:44 Pauses and Tone

06:20 Inflection and Meaning

07:13 Recording and Analyzing Your Voice

08:38 Applying Voice Techniques

Paul gives some examples of effective stories, and gives a general structure that works for all stories. Some of it is obvious, some is not! He also gives examples of how to tell effective stories, for topics that are very data centric. Very helpful stuff!

Check him out at www.LeadWithAStory.com

There you can learn about his books, his courses and more about what he offers.

If you don't have time to listen to all of this and want to fast forward to some highlights..

3:04 How we make decisions

12:35 What made his most effective presentation ever

16:08 Entrpreneur story about making payroll

29:00 8 steps to effective story telling

Enjoy!

A major source of communication issues within companies can be the channels of communication that people use. Face to face, phone calls, emails, instant messaging and video conferencing all have their place...but be aware of the pitfalls to each!

Most of us have been talking since we were two, so communicating as adults should be easy…shouldn’t it? Have you ever understood the words someone is saying, but have no idea what they meant?  Or tried to explain something ‘simple’ and received blank stares in return? 

Employee surveys show that the most common complaint in corporations is…communication. Communicating within your own team is challenging enough…but what happens when an introverted scientist and a gregarious salesperson need to work on an important project together? 

Relating to people who think and communicate differently than we do is a challenge, but it can be done!

Hi, I’m Jeremy Doran. Growing up, math and science always made sense to me – people never did. In effect, I was the weirdo. On my journey through studying both Engineering and Psychology, developing global markets for technology companies, and coaching hundreds of aspiring leaders, I have spent years closely observing how people communicate.  There are some simple skills that best communicators use regularly…and some techniques that are to be avoided at all costs.

The How to Talk to Weirdos podcast will air every week.  Episodes will alternate between me sharing my own stories about lessons I have learned, usually the hard way.  In the other weeks, I will interview experts on such topics as personality types, communication styles, active listening, presenting your ideas, and much more.

So, whether you want to improve communication so that you can be better at your job, have a better relationship with your family, meet new people, or share your important ideas, this is the podcast for you.

New episodes will release every Thursday, starting August 3rd, 2023.

Follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast platform, check out our webpage at jeremydoranspeaks.com for the latest updates, or check out the new “How to Talk to Weirdos” LinkedIn group and join our community where you can suggest episode topics.

Do you struggle to gain credibility with prospective clients? Especially if you are younger or new in a field?

In this episode of NeuroConversant Leadership, Jeremy Doran interviews Trish Edora, a Business Development Manager at Pro Engineering Consulting. They discuss the importance of effective communication in the STEM workplace, the role of a business development manager, and how to build credibility in the engineering field. Trish shares her experiences in project management and emphasizes the need for transparency and authenticity in business relationships. The conversation highlights the significance of personal touch in networking and the value of referrals in gaining clients.

You can reach out to Trish at linkedin.com/in/trishedora

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Pro Engineering Consulting

02:20 The Role of a Business Development Manager

07:54 Building Credibility with Architects

14:12 Qualities for Success in Project Management and Business Development

19:26 Communication Insights and Final Thoughts

24:58 Outro 3-20-24.mp4

Takeaways

Pro Engineering Consulting aims to be a one-stop shop for engineering services.

The role of a business development manager involves expanding the company's network.

Building credibility with architects requires personal touch and referrals.

Effective communication is crucial in project management to bridge gaps between clients and contractors.

Transparency in business dealings fosters trust and collaboration.

Personal interactions can leave a lasting impression on clients.

Understanding your market is essential for effective business development.

Asking questions can enhance credibility and foster relationships.

Authenticity in communication helps in establishing genuine connections.

Maintaining professionalism while being authentic is key to successful communication.

Michael is an author, podcaster and entrepreneur. He coaches people on how to network well, and is launching his own event called JVConnect December 12-14. He is commonly referred to as "The guy who knows a guy" and you can learn more about him at https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/

He starts off explaining how he got into networking...without even having a product to sell!

7:30 - talks about being a nerd and an event he ran called "entreprenerd"

10:10 - Being your authentic self

16:30 - ADHD is his superpower

25:45 - The code of human behavior....there is actually a book about it

I almost got into a physical fight! Luckily, it didn't happen, but it did get me thinking about what is the difference between a discussion, a debate and an argument.

We will look at what factors make a conversation one or the other of those, and also what are some steps you can take to avoid or extract yourself from arguments.

In this episode, Chris talks about lessons from his book The First Minute. He talks about how to get people interested in what you have to say to them, and how to keep them interested. To find out more about Chris, or to contact him reach out to him on his

Website or his Linked in page

Some exerpts

Chris Fenning (05:43.997)

to keep people paying attention, keep things short and keep them relevant. And if you can do the relevant bit, the short tends to come with it. Now, most of our communications training focuses on being short. In fact, some of my books are entirely about how to be brief, how to be concise. But to keep somebody's attention after you've got it, your message needs to be relevant.

and relevance can be easily defined in something we can all understand. To make a message relevant, show how it impacts them. Them being the person that you're talking to. Jeremy, if I want to make it relevant to you, I need to talk about my topic not from my perspective, but how does this impact you and the things that you care about?

because I bet you if I tell you something that's going to impact you or something you care a lot about, you're going to pay attention.

Chris Fenning (06:55.941)

Yes, yes, can I give a really specific example? And we'll go with, it could be engineering software, but a very technical topic. This is true for whether it's finance, fishing, engineering, whatever. But let's say I was a software developer and I was talking to my boss about a problem I just discovered. If I want it to be relevant.

I don't say there is this problem with this system and it's causing this in the back end and here's what I'm going to do about it. That's not relevancy. It's all fact. It might all be important, but it's not relevant and it's not showing impact. What I should say instead is, hey boss, I found a bug. Our software is going to stop working tomorrow and customers can't buy our product. My boss is going to care about that.

Chris Fenning (07:45.289)

Not the detail, but the outcome.

.....

Allan talks about his years of experience selling to people in their own homes. He has some great stories and tips about how to read people through body language, and how to get conversations back on track when things start to go awry.

Have you ever had to lead a group without having any authority to enforce your directions? That takes a special kind of leadership. In this conversation, Jeremy Doran interviews Hannah West, a former captain of high school basketball and lacrosse teams. She discusses her experience as an informal leader and how that experience helped her to get a college scholarship.

Hannah shares her journey of becoming a captain at a young age and the challenges she faced. She discusses the importance of communication, learning to use her voice, and adapting her leadership style to meet the needs of different team members. Hannah also talks about the differences between public and private schools and the importance of honesty in communication.

-Keywords-

leadership, communication, informal leader, captain, basketball, lacrosse, public school, private school, honesty

-Takeaways-

• Being an informal leader requires a unique set of skills and challenges
• Leadership roles can be thrust upon individuals unexpectedly
• Learning to use your voice and communicate effectively is crucial for leadership
• Understanding and meeting the needs of different team members is important
• Public and private schools have different approaches to freedom and trust
• Honesty is a key aspect of effective communication

• Learning to Use Your Voice as a Leader
• The Challenges of Being an Informal Leader

• "I have to use my voice a lot...to make decisions and help them"
• "There were times where I had to stand up to the coaches"
• "Knowing your audience is really important"

Do you like sales people? Are there times when you have to be one? This is a conflict which needs to be resolved!

In this episode, Jeremy discusses the importance of self-promotion and sales skills. He shares his personal experience of realizing the need to promote himself and the challenges he faced. Jeremy emphasizes the need to believe in your product or service and focus on the customer's needs. He also provides tips for overcoming the fear of rejection and asking for the sale. Additionally, Jeremy talks about the importance of networking and not missing the opportunity to promote yourself to the person you're speaking with. He concludes by sharing his own self-promotion and inviting listeners to reach out for a consultation.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and the Need for Self-Promotion

04:05 Transition to Sales Skills

08:06 Overcoming Fears and Obstacles in Sales

10:59 Networking and Asking the Right Questions

13:24 The Power of Having a Sales Process

14:57 I am guilty of all of the mistakes I talk about

16:54 Jeremy's 55 second sales pitch

Takeaways

Self-promotion is important in the workplace and requires a mindset shift.

Believe in your product or service and focus on the customer's needs.

Overcome the fear of rejection by realizing that a 'no' is not a personal rejection.

Ask for the sale and don't be afraid to promote yourself.

Networking is an opportunity to promote yourself to the person you're speaking with.

Having a process and steps to follow can make asking for the sale easier.

Practice and repetition can improve sales skills.

Don't miss the opportunity to promote yourself to potential clients.

Invite others to reach out and offer a consultation.

2023 has been quite the whirlwind! I hesitated for the first half of the year to start a podcast...because it was scary. Then I spent the second half of the year putting out podcasts and learning more and more with each episode! One large recent change is that people can now listen to the podcast from my webpage!

I had no intention of this episode being about Social Media...but it was such a big part of my recap, that I figured I would just stick with it. It is a big part of how many of us communicate with the world afterall.

Chapters in this episode

00:30 Introduction and Reflections on Podcasting

01:29 Challenges with Video Clips and Social Media

03:54 Using AI Tools and Improvements in Recording

04:25 Exploring the Upsides and Downsides of Social Media

07:21 Personal Use of Social Media

09:32 Business Use of Social Media

12:00 Taking Control of Social Media

12:27 Closing Remarks and New Year's Resolution

Are soft skills important in engineering?

Dagna Bieda, an engineer turned career coach, discusses her transition from coding to coaching and the struggles engineers face in communication and self-marketing. She emphasizes the importance of soft skills and business acumen in engineering careers. Dagna also introduces the concept of brain refactoring and neurofeedback training as tools for optimizing the brain's hardware and software. She shares her favorite travel destination (Mongolia) and a place she wants to visit (Finland). Dagna's communication advice is to remember that everyone is doing their best with the knowledge, awareness, and skills they have.

Find out more about Dagna at https://www.themindfuldev.com/ and

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dagnabieda

Takeaways

Transitioning from coding to coaching requires recognizing burnout and finding a new passion.

Soft skills, such as communication and self-marketing, are crucial for success in engineering careers.

Brain refactoring and neurofeedback training can optimize the brain's hardware and software.

Mongolia is a beautiful travel destination, while Finland offers the opportunity to see the northern lights.

Remember that everyone is doing their best with the knowledge, awareness, and skills they have.

In this episode with Peter George, airing on October 19, 2023 we talk about both interpersonal communication and public speaking. In both cases, it's all about the audience.

He questions whether most people are really afraid of public speaking, or if it really comes down to lack of preparation and confidence.

You can learn more about Peter, and reach out to him with questions on his website https://petergeorgepublicspeaking.com/

In this episode, Jeremy interviews Dr. Matt Zakreski, a clinical psychologist and expert in working with neurodivergent people. They discuss the concept of neurodiversity and the differences between neurodivergent and neurotypical brains. Dr. Matt emphasizes the importance of finding one's community and embracing individual strengths and weaknesses. He also shares insights on effective communication strategies, such as meta-communication and the power of talking about talking. Throughout the conversation, Dr. Matt draws from his personal experiences and expertise to provide valuable advice and perspectives.

You can learn more about Dr. Matt at

https://www.theneurodiversitycollective.com and

https://www.drmattzakreski.com/

Neurodivergent brains are outside expected thought and behavior patterns, representing about 30% of the population.

The systems and structures in place are often designed for neurotypical individuals, making it challenging for neurodivergent people to fit in.

Finding your community and embracing your strengths can lead to greater satisfaction and success in life.

Chapters

01:04 Understanding Neurodivergent People

02:32 Neurodivergent Brains vs Neurotypical Brains

03:54 Challenges Faced by Neurodivergent People

05:24 The Experience of Growing Up Neurodivergent

06:58 The Importance of Finding Your Community

08:36 Embracing Third Door Solutions

10:23 Navigating Leadership and Management Roles

14:04 The Importance of Meta-Communication

17:54 Different Communication Styles and Preferences

23:13 The Desire to Fit In and Masking

26:51 Personal Experience and Expertise

29:22 The Impact of Scott Barry Kaufman

34:15 The Power of Meta-Communication

I often ask myself when navigating conflict...what would an engineer do!

In this episode, Jeremy Doran discusses why engineers are great at conflict resolution without compromising. He emphasizes the importance of stating assumptions and seeking the best solution instead of settling for a compromise. Using the example of planning a vacation, he shows how engineers can find a third option that satisfies both parties. By checking assumptions and looking for the best outcome, conflicts can be resolved in a way that leaves everyone happier.

Chapters

00:00 Why Engineers Are Great at Conflict Resolution Without Compromising

01:04 Stating Assumptions and Seeking the Best Solution

05:09 Finding a Third Option Instead of Compromising

06:27 Channeling Your Inner Engineer for Effective Conflict Resolution

Takeaways

Engineers are skilled at conflict resolution because they state their assumptions and seek the best solution.

Compromising often leads to a solution that makes everyone slightly less unhappy, but it is not the best outcome.

Instead of compromising, channel your inner engineer and look for a third solution that satisfies both parties.

By checking assumptions and seeking the best solution, conflicts can be resolved in a way that leaves everyone happier.

Have you ever had a conversation go sideways? Afterwards think "If I had only"...or just not gotten the results you were hoping for?

In this conversation, Jeremy Doran discusses the importance of gaining control of conversations and offers a method called PTSD (Preparation, Time, Subject, Deliverable) to help with this. He emphasizes the need for preparation, including researching and taking notes ahead of time, and suggests sharing an agenda if necessary. He also advises scheduling conversations and estimating the time needed, as well as informing the other person if there may be interruptions. Clarifying the subject of the conversation and stating the desired deliverable are also important. By following these steps, conversations can become more effective and productive.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Taking Control of Any Conversation

01:28 What is P T S D

01:40 Preparation

2:38 Time

4:12 Subject

5:03 Deliverable

7:50 Business and non-business conversation benefits

8:30 I want to hear your stories!

If you go into a networking event thinking that it is going to be awful...you are probably correct.

3 things that can help make networking events both more fun and more productive are

-Mindset

-Structure

-Preparation

In this episode I talk about a video on Harvard Business Review by my friend Matt Abrahams about small talk. I highly suggest clicking here to listen to that as well.

The term EQ is all the rage these days...but most people don't really know what it is. Let's talk about what EQ is and what it isn't.

In this conversation, Jeremy explores the concepts of IQ and EQ, highlighting their definitions, differences, and the importance of emotional intelligence in personal and professional settings. He emphasizes that while IQ measures potential, EQ encompasses interpersonal skills that can be developed. The discussion also covers the components of emotional intelligence, including self-awareness and empathy, and offers practical advice for improving one's EQ through self-reflection, feedback, and expert consultation.

Chapter

00:00 EQ is crucial for business success

01:16 Defining IQ

02:11 Defining EQ

02:39 Compare and contrast IQ and EQ

05:03 Practical step 1: Analyze yourself

06:02 Practical step 2: Ask for feedback

06:48 Practical step 3: Seek expert help

07:18 Wrapping up

Some key takeaways

IQ is a static measure of potential.

EQ refers to interpersonal skills that can be taught.

Self-awareness is crucial for understanding emotions.

Empathy differs from sympathy in emotional understanding.

Practicing emotional awareness can enhance EQ.

Feedback from others is valuable for personal growth.

Consulting experts can aid in emotional development.

Reading can provide insights into emotional intelligence.

Emotional skills are essential for effective leadership.

IQ and EQ together contribute to overall success.

This is a solo episode, so just Jeremy talking about thinking vs. feeling. That is one of the 4 dimensions on the Myers Briggs personality assessment.

He talks about how he makes decisions by himself and in groups. Including a discussion about important decisions in a zombie apocalypse! His bug out bag includes such things as fishing line and hooks, flint and steel, water purifying tablets...etc. What is in yours?

You can learn more about Jeremy at www.JeremyDoranSpeaks.com

Triggers, like stress, can be good or bad. They are stimuli that spark intense emotions. Negative triggers can be caused by various factors, such as past experiences or body image issues. In conversations, common triggers include feeling invisible, dismissed, or controlled. It is important to be mindful of the impact of our words and to ask questions to clarify intentions. When triggered, taking deep breaths and asking oneself and the other person questions can help diffuse the situation. Positive triggers, such as certain smells or music, can also evoke strong emotions.

Chapters

00:51 Triggers, like stress, can be good OR bad

02:01 Common triggers in conversation

04:07 The Impact of Triggers

07:32 Some Positive Triggers