More Than a Lumpy Jumper (Bridge Forster and Bobby Davis)
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| 30 Jul 2024 | Hanging out with "All the C's"! | 00:31:54 | |
This week for Guests with Gifts, Bridge is joined by Danni and Jo, who truly embody all the beautiful C’s: Curious Conversationalists, Community Collaborators, Connectors, Creatives, and above all, Carers. They lead with kindness, passion, and ideas, making this episode full of thoughtfulness, raw honesty, and a real desire to support future generations. Tune in and listen for all the delightful C’s! Links Being a Person with a Bigger Purpose Good Day Cork: Be inspired by uplifting news, podcasts and videos Many Tongues of Cork - pandemic edition Speak Up and Grow Podcast with Danielle Edwards and Bridge as a guest | |||
| 20 Aug 2024 | Hanging out with Yin and Yang | 00:32:42 | |
In this episode of "Guest with Gifts," Bobby and Bridge connect with some more of their most dedicated listeners. Bobby is joined by Sarah and Nicole, two exceptional managers who kept her almost sane during the dark days of COVID, bringing camaraderie, chuckles, and a lot of hard work. Sarah and Nicole are the ultimate doers. They describe themselves as Planners, but their “get sh*t done” attitude sets them apart. Though different in style, approach, and learning, their camaraderie and now strong friendship shine through in this conversation. Tune in to hear how these massive supporters feel like every episode is recorded just for them. And if you know the long fancy word Bobby used in an early episode, please get in touch! Sarah Abercrombie Chartered MCIPD | LinkedIn Radical Candor — Kim Scott (kimmalonescott.com) Unreasonable Hospitality: Will Guidara: Amazon.co.uk Being in Community - More Than a Lumpy Jumper Being a Fraud and Doing it Anyway Being a Person with a Bigger Purpose Being in Meetings - More Than a Lumpy Jumper | |||
| 30 Apr 2024 | Being a Dynamic Team Builder | 00:41:00 | |
What makes a great team? What makes a terrible one? And what do you do when you know the vibe is slightly off? Join Bobby and Bridge as they attempt not to incriminate themselves talking about teams they have enjoyed being part of or leading and those they have not! Along with some pieces of research to help you in your quest for team dynamism. Links 20 Questions to Ask When Your Team’s Vibe Is Off Tuckman's Model of Team Development The Avengers and Tuckman's Model Johnson and Johnson Cooperative Learning Five Vital Conversations for Getting Things Done In Groups | Richard Watkins | TEDxRoma Improve Your Team Dynamics (lianedavey.com) Read the damn pre-read people! (lianedavey.com) 8 Alternatives to Having a Meeting (lianedavey.com) The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: Patrick Lencioni A summary of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team : Executive Agenda Good To Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap... and Others Don't: Jim Collins | |||
| 02 Jan 2024 | Coping with Overwhelm | 00:14:03 | |
Whilst overwhelm can come calling at all times of the year, December can bring some added pressures to daily life…attending and throwing parties, entertaining extended family, gift shopping. And then there’s the December lurgies, the lack of daylight, more feelings of exhaustion than normal. Is overwhelm any real surprise? Join Bobby and Bridge as they search out a few more little gifts to help you with such feelings over the holiday period. Links Nalanda Institute for Contemplative Science | Compassion-Based Resilience TrainingKindness to Self | Compassion Based Meditation About Dr Libby Weaver - Nutritional biochemist Rushing Woman's Syndrome | Dr Libby Weaver The Pace of Modern Life versus our Cavewoman Biochemistry: Dr Libby Weaver: TedX Life is a Verb | 37 Days to Wake Up, be Mindful and Live Intentionally | Patti Digh Unwind with the 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique (mondaycampaigns.org) | |||
| 15 Oct 2024 | Being an intentional networker | 00:50:15 | |
Networking—it’s no longer just awkward handshakes and juggling canapés while swapping business cards. Join Bobby and Bridge as they explore how networking has evolved into something much more meaningful. In this episode, they’ll dive into new, informal, and digital ways to connect, showing how with a bit of intention and a fresh perspective, networking can transform from a dreaded task into a powerful tool for building genuine relationships. Sound less ghastly? Tune in to hear more on "Being an Intentional Networker" with Bobby and Bridge! Links Takingthe Work Out of Networking : Karen Wickre (Amazon.co.uk) [PDF] Taking the Work Out of Networking Summary - Karen Wickre (shortform.com) KingsleyAikens - The Networking Institute Giveand Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success: Adam Grant (Amazon.co.uk) HowLeaders Strategically Enhance Their Networks For Maximum Impact (forbes.com) EasyNetworking Tips for the Networking Haters (hbr.org) Act Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader: Herminia Ibarra (Amazon.co.uk) Social-Chemistry-Decoding-Patterns-Connection : Marissa King (Amazon.co.uk) Why Women Need a Professional Network : Forbes.com Adam Grant's Wish for Workplace Cultures Seven-tips-for-building-a-strong-network-of-fellow-women-in-business: Forbes.com How-women-leaders-can-build-strong-networks : ddiworld.com Why-women-need-to-build-and-actively-use-more-networks : Gov.UK | |||
| 06 Feb 2024 | Being a Heart Speaker | 00:45:54 | |
What have Barry Manilow, Bernard Matthews and Bernard Manning got to do with speaking from the heart? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! But other than this slight confusion about who’s who, Bobby and Bridge do manage to get into the topic as to why it really is SO hard to speak from your heart to another’s. Fear of rejection, vulnerability? Putting on an act to mask true feelings? Or blasting when you haven’t spoken what’s truly in your heart and kept it bottled in? Do any of these sound like you? Come and have a listen. Links Sidney Jourard - The transparent self Simon Sinek – turn off your phone Keeping communication authentic during remote work “Leadership is not a formula or a program. It's a human activity that comes from the heart and considers the hearts of others. It's an attitude, not a routine.” | |||
| 25 Jun 2024 | Being with Lifelong Friends | 00:51:52 | |
As it's Armed Forces Week we have an excuse to have a chat with a couple of female veterans who just happen to be our lovely friends - the amazing Lt Col Wendy Faux MBE and the equally wonderful Lt Col (retd) Sally Purnell. Despite having given you all an episode on Not Saying Sorry, Bobby and Bridge do think they need to offer an apology as there are probably a whole load of acronyms that are going to pop up during this episode which will make you think WTF (look there’s another one!). They really tried to pull together a Glossary but…it didn’t happen. If it really makes little sense, get in touch. Otherwise, sit back and listen to the regaling of tales from a bunch of ladies, who go back a long way and have MUCH to say about their time serving in the Army and all that happened after. While we have your attention we'd really appreciate if you could vote for MTALJ in the British Podcast Awards https://www.britishpodcastawards.com/voting Links Ruth Bader Ginsburg in her own words Begum Hazrat Mahal: The Revolutionary Queen of Awadh To War with Whitaker( Wartime Diaries of the Countess of Ranfurly: Amazon.co.uk | |||
| 24 Sep 2024 | Being an ABC in a positive culture | 00:52:38 | |
This week we chat with Debra Corey, who transitioned from traditional HR roles to becoming a "Chief Pay It Forward Officer" (flipping love this title!!). Debra shares her journey, discusses the evolution of HR, and explores the true meaning of workplace culture. She also dives into the lasting impact of "bad bosses" and her latest book, "Bad Bosses Ruin Lives." Tune in for a fun, insightful conversation on trust, empathy, and building a positive workplace culture.
Links Bringing Your Values Out to Play: A Playbook on Company Values | Debra Corey | Amazon.co.uk Bad Bosses Ruin Lives | Debra and Ken Corey | Amazon.co.uk Effective HR Communication | Debra Corey | Amazon.co.uk Legacy: What the All Blacks Can Teach Us about the Business of Life |James Kerr | Amazon.co.uk How to Drive Employee Engagement and 'Pay it Forward' |Debra Corey on Happiness at Work | Spotify Building-Better-Bosses-with-Debra-Corey: Happier at Work Summary of Legacy: All Blacks by James Kerr: thegrowthfaculty.com Adam Grant: Workplace Culture: thegrowthfaculty.com
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| 26 Mar 2024 | Being a navigator | 00:46:16 | |
Do not fear…they are not off sailing or map reading (both of which Bridge is good at…Bobby not so much!), instead they are off into a conversation around navigating tricky conversations, dealing with discomfort. How can you hang out there and learn to listen to understand rather than listening to respond. Join them for some ideas on how to cope and even thrive in such moments. And however, hard she listened, Bobby never quite got to the bottom of the Pigeon Playing Chess scenario. See if you do better! Links 5 Exercises to Improve Your Conscious Listening - Wide Lens Leadership Julian Treasure books: How To Be Heard and Sound Business Playing chess with a pigeon- arguing with idiots “Life is about perspective and how you look at something…ultimately, you have to zoom out”. Whitney Wolfe Herd | |||
| 13 Aug 2024 | Hanging out with the Js | 00:26:06 | |
This week, Bridge is joined by James Fulford-Talbot, making a return to MTALJ, and Jogging Jodie Fulford-Talbot, a new and very welcome guest. The conversation is rich, with an overriding message that this podcast helps leaders not feel alone in their struggles. They can come here to listen in for conversation starters, something to share, and thought-provoking ideas. Tune in to hear more from these super advocates and discover who the famous Freddie and Mr. Percival are! Jodie Fulford-Talbot | LinkedIn James Fulford-Talbot | LinkedIn Being a Person with a Bigger Purpose | |||
| 30 Jan 2024 | Being fine with not being fine | 00:49:05 | |
Time to Talk Day is upon us which has prompted Bobby and Bridge’s conversation around the “I’m Fine” response to the question “How are you?” No really. How are you? Join them as they explore how to get underneath the “I’m fine” response and the impact it can have on psychological safety, mental health and wellbeing and feedback if you don’t. And seemingly a WRAP can be so much more than a lunchtime option. Who knew? Links Time To Talk Day - 1st February 2024 Strozzi Institute | Somatic Practice Inspiring insights - Well-being and resilience in senior leaders (deloitte.com) How Leaders Fake Psychological Safety (hbr.org) | |||
| 19 Nov 2024 | Being compassionate with men | 00:52:00 | |
Join Bobby and Bridge as they mark International Men’s Day. They are joined by their special guest, Daniele Fiandaca from Token Man Consulting to dive into the often-overlooked challenges that men face today, from mental health to shifting roles in society. Together, they discuss the importance of creating spaces for men to be vulnerable, break stereotypes, and how inclusive leadership plays a crucial role in moving the conversation forward. Tune in for an engaging and insightful conversation on why it’s time to support men as allies and agents of change. Links Workplace Diversity, Inclusion, Gender Equity | Michelle P. King (michellepking.com) 7 Leadership Lessons Men Can Learn from Women (hbr.org) | |||
| 02 Jul 2024 | Being a person for a bigger purpose | 00:55:14 | |
Ooooooooooooooo A GUEST! Bobby and Bridge are joined by the amazing Alison Riley (better known to us as Dunney!!) who they met at Sandhurst some 30-plus years ago. And she’s another one who has had an interesting “career path” since those tumultuous days of military training. Alison served for 5 years before leaving and qualifying as a secondary Maths teacher. She taught for 10+ years before deciding on a further career change and being ordained as a Minister!! So join us as we hear about the whys and wherefores of her career journey before delving into Alison’s wisdom on what faith, spirituality, and belief (you choose the word for yourself) brings to leadership. Oh, and find out about Chill Church. It is just SO cool (pardon the pun!!) Links Rev. Alison Riley Network Youth Church The Centre for Action and Contemplation - Building on Richard Rohr's Founding Vision Radical Candor: How to Get What You Want by Saying What You Mean | Kim Scott | Amazon.co.uk Spiritually-Intelligent-Leadership | Yosi Amram PhD | Amazon.co.uk | |||
| 06 Aug 2024 | Hanging Out with “Life Long Learners” | 00:20:13 | |
Welcome to Guest Gifts, where Bobby and Bridge get to hang out with some of their most dedicated listeners. This week, Bobby is joined by Gina and Ella, who must be the most patient humans she has ever met. They've endured Bobby's appalling technical skills with grace and are incredible people in general, especially given the work they do in the HR world. Gina and Ella are deeply invested in their own development, exploring MTALJ with a commitment to trying new things both at work and in their personal lives. They have discovered some valuable nuggets amidst Bridge and Bobby’s meanderings. Come and listen as they share what they are learning and how they are applying it. Links | |||
| 05 Mar 2024 | Being able to break from a sticky floor | 00:41:39 | |
Sticky floors, broken ladders, glass ceilings? What on earth are these two up to now? Talking about “investing in women, accelerating progress” in preparation and to honour of International Women’s Day, this coming Friday (8th March). This, however, is NOT a podcast for women only. Bobby and Bridge talk collaboration for solutions to benefit ALL. How are we, TOGETHER, going to fix that ladder rung into middle management. There’s no easy answer…but come and take a seat anyway, share in the meanderings and give yourself some time for leadership reflection. And if you know a good adhesive remover…let us know! “I love to see a young girl go out and grasp the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve gotta go out and kick ass” ~ Maya Angelou Links International Women's Day | United Nations A Modest Manifesto for Shattering the Glass Ceiling (hbr.org) How women can escape the “sticky floor” and innovate for the future (diversityq.com) Women in the Workplace 2023 report | McKinsey New LeanIn Study: The Broken Rung Keeping Women From Management (forbes.com) The 50 cups of coffee challenge | Bobby Audley | TEDxPSUErie (youtube.com) | |||
| 27 Feb 2024 | Being your ground filling your space | 00:45:01 | |
Leap Day is nearly upon us. The day where, tradition states, women can propose to men and men should be sure to carry cash and gloves with them to hand over to any woman’s proposal they wish to refuse! Don’t worry…Bobby and Bridge are not looking to make an episode out of this baloney…only to use it as a segway into conversation about all of us learning to stand our ground for what we believe in and filling our space just the right amount rather than shrinking from the world. What does ground and space mean for our variety of leadership styles? And before we go…does anyone know what a group of peacocks is called? Links Shrinking Women Poem by Lily Myers (youtube) Shrinking Women Poem by Lily Myers Amy Cuddy: Your body language may shape who you are | TED Talk Why women stay out of the spotlight at work - HBR “Our bodies can change our minds and our minds change our behaviours and our behaviour changes our outcomes”. | |||
| 16 Jul 2024 | Being an Advocate for Yes....and | 00:35:51 | |
In the Season 3 finale, Bobby and Bridge explore the transformative power of the phrase "Yes...and." Despite initial doubts about the topic's depth, they dive in with curiosity, a bit of discomfort in trying to practice “Yes…and” in the moment with a bit of spurious chat about an imaginary hat and a committment to take an improv class together. Yes…AND in the process they begin to uncover the surprising depth that a simple shift in language can bring for creativity, collaboration, and growth for us, in work, and even for life in general. Join us for this slightly random but enlightening episode to wrap up the season! Links Whose Line is it anyway - you tube How To Leverage 'Yes And...' As The Gold Standard for Influencing (forbes.com) Leading With A 'Yes, And' (forbes.com) The Power of Yes: Why the Yes Mindset Leads to Innovation and Creates Great Leaders (forbes.com) The Risks of ‘Yes, and’ Leadership - The New York Times (nytimes.com) Why “Yes, and…” Might Be the Most Valuable Phrase in Business. Big Think What is a Kaospilot?: Explore now and become part of Kaospilot | |||
| 28 Nov 2023 | Being your authentic self - Keeping it real | 00:46:18 | |
Bobby and Bridge talk about showing up as their most Bobbyist and Bridgeyist selves and what it’s like when you don’t. The difference that others can feel when you are all in and when you are not. And then once again, they meander off topic and begin surmising who would play them in the movie version of themselves. There’s even a story about stockings. Honestly, who let these two loose with recording equipment. Link Authentic Leadership Authentic Leadership: What It Is & Why It's Important | HBS Online Living your Values – Brene Brown Living Into Our Values Brené Brown (brenebrown.com) Values Document Bevy Smith: How to discover your authentic self -- at any age | TED Talk Leader: Know Love and Inspire Your People by Katy Granville-Chapman, Emmie Bidston Good Leadership in UK Business Leading and Flourishing in Difficult Times - online course Human Flourishing Programme - Harvard Daniel Goleman – Emotional Intelligence, Social Intelligence, Ecological Intelligence Goldberg on Emotional Regulation Emotional Intelligence Frameworks, Charts, Diagrams & Graphs (positivepsychology.com) Caitlin Moran and the menopause More menopause and more Caitlin Always look on the bright side of life | |||
| 19 Dec 2023 | Cultivating Play and Rest...but mostly play | 00:11:18 | |
What an awesome topic!! Eager to continue this conversation about the importance of play (and NOT just because they are an evil couple of mischief makers!!), but for now Bobby and Bridge offer you some gifts around play and rest…but mostly play, in the belief that when playing, you really are giving yourself a break. So don your fancy dress, grab a water pistol or a pillow, tell stories, jokes, laugh and if all that fails, take a listen to this mini episode for some more inspiration. Links The Gifts of Imperfection: 10th Anniversary Edition: Brené Brown Infographic for the 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living by Brene Brown | |||
| 03 Sep 2024 | Being able to pivot | 00:52:39 | |
It's a new season! And boy have we got a heap of awesomeness coming your way! This week join Bobby and Bridge as they welcome the fabulous, Fiona Galbraith, to join them on MTALJ. Through her business, Ruralink, she partners with land-based businesses to develop career opportunities focusing mainly on career changers especially advocating for fellow ex-military colleagues. Fiona is also a University Lecturer in Intelligence Security, Risk and Resilience, as well as Chair of Governors at Cirencester College and a volunteer responder for REACT Disaster Response. Clearly a Master of Pivots amongst Pivoters (is there such a word). Come and join us for Fiona’s multitude of insights into making career decisions and in the words of Barack Obama “Being the person who gets things done” Links Ruralink - Growing Fresh Careers 4 Key Pivoting Phases of a Successful Career Change (forbes.com) Five Strategies for Making a Career Pivot | Stanford Graduate School of Business The Rise of Security and Why We Always Want More | Mike Croll (Amazon.com) | |||
| 22 Oct 2024 | Being a Leading Follower | 00:49:26 | |
In this episode, Bobby and Bridge dive into the fascinating dynamics between leadership and followership, exploring how followers play a critical role in organisational success. Following the insights from thought leaders like Barbara Kellerman and Robert Kelley, they break down the five followership styles. And through real-world examples and personal stories, they discuss how good followers can challenge leaders, promote teamwork, and contribute to a thriving organisational culture. Whether you're a leader or follower, this episode will leave you thinking about how both roles work together for success. Tune in for “Being a Leading Follower” and see where the convo takes you. Links A British Army Followership Doctrine Note.pdf (mod.uk) Followership - the great skill of Leadership Kelley's model for followership Followership: How Followers Are Creating Change and Changing Leaders: Barbara Kellerman: Amazon.com Encouraging critical thinking in the workplace A Leader is Made by a First Follower (YouTube) What Is Followership? 14 Qualities of Good Followers | Indeed.com The 10 Rules of Good Followership: Meilinger.pdf (govleaders.org) | |||
| 22 Nov 2023 | Being in Community | 00:44:13 | |
What’s the difference between a truly toxic workplace and being in an environment where there’s high pressure situations and people are stressed? Are they one and the same? Where do you find allies? How do you look after yourself? Bobby and Bridge talk about their different experiences in such environments AND what they found by way of connection and solace when finding community and making time to look after themselves. Links Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD Nonviolent communication cartoon Positive and Negative Feedback Helps Agents Perform Toxic Work Cultures 5 Marks Of A Toxic Work Culture—And How You Know It’s Time To Leave | |||
| 11 Jun 2024 | Being a stand for self-compassion | 00:42:28 | |
You couldn’t make these things up. Join Bobby and Bridge as one of them spends more time on mute coughing themselves inside out and not practicing self-care when they are meant to be talking about self-compassion and resilience. I ask you…the hypocrisy!! And in spite of all that, here is another episode full of personal anecdotes, scientific research, and practical strategies for embedding self-compassion into everyday life. Enjoy…cough, splutter, gasp! Links 10 Powerful TED Talks on Resilience, Empathy, & Compassion - mind remake project Operationalizing Kindness at Work: This Is What Kindness Looks Like | LinkedIn Self-Compassion Will Make You a Better Leader Discover the Empowering Videos Featuring Dr Kristin Neff Self compassion exercise (with apologies about the bath scene) | |||
| 19 Mar 2024 | Being Happy with Happiness | 00:41:08 | |
Happiness, in psychology, a state of emotional well-being that a person experiences either in a narrow sense, when good things happen in a specific moment, or more broadly, as a positive evaluation of one’s life and accomplishments overall—that is, subjective well-being ~ Brittanica On the cusp of International Day of Happiness (20th March), Bobby and Bridge explore their relationship with happiness and how it might have changed or stayed the same through stages of life. And in what they have learned, how can Happiness be applied in the workplace, by leaders? Come and join them and please don’t forget to bring a grin with you! Links International Day of Happiness Get a monthly happiness calendar The Happiness Report 2024 Create a Happy List - The Joy Within Your Happiness Calendar for March 2024 (berkeley.edu) Rohit Dev | LinkedIn | Creating a Happiness Playbook The Science of Happiness | Greater Good (berkeley.edu) Radical Acceptance - Tara Brach Happiness In The Workplace Is Serious: Why Leaders Need To Respond (forbes.com) Sugar and sloth neurodiversity cuteness The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less Socrates | |||
| 05 Nov 2024 | Being a Brand | 00:48:56 | |
In today’s episode, Bobby and Bridge dive into the transformative power of personal branding with Kayleigh Lloyd, a creative powerhouse helping women in business craft authentic, standout brands. Kayleigh shares her unique journey from working with corporate giants to becoming a "brand goddess," and offers insights into how personal branding is so much more than just a logo—it's about telling your story. Learn how to align your brand with your true self, embrace creativity, and create a lasting connection with your audience. Tune in for inspiring stories and actionable tips on building a brand that's authentically you. Links Quick Links — Lloyd Creative (lloyd-creative.co.uk) Personal Branding: What It Is and Why It Matters (hbs.edu) A New Approach to Building Your Personal Brand (hbr.org) How to Define, Develop, and Communicate Your Personal Brand (hbr.org) Who are you really? 25 Questions to define your personal brand. | LinkedIn
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| 26 Nov 2024 | Hanging out with Sailors | 00:33:33 | |
It's the in between seasons bit! So we get to hang out with some of our lovely listeners. This week it's Lucie Barker and Murray Smith fellow soldiers who share a love of messing about in boats. We get to chat about their favourite episodes as well as motherhood, cat parenting and why self-reflection is important but only to a point. Links Learn to Sail from Princess to Pirate | |||
| 03 Dec 2024 | Hanging out across the sea | 00:34:03 | |
This is Bridge's last week in the driving seat of guests gifts and she is joined by Leina Ibnouf, a Sudanese Irish community activist and John 'Willy' Williams a military veteran, 7 Signal Regiment survivor and scrum master (which apparently has nothing to do with rugby). They discuss why they listen to the podcast, their favourite episodes with a focus on curiosity, the pain of not belonging, and how somehow Bobby and Bridge have become role models (yes seriously!) despite their tendency to be a bit sweary. It's a really honest, vulnerable and heartfelt episode so come and join for some real chat. Links Ellie Middleton - autism advocate AkiDwA - Network of Migrant Women in Ireland | |||
| 27 Aug 2024 | Hanging out in sport | 00:33:30 | |
Welcome to the final episode of our "Guests with Gifts". This week, Bridge is joined by two remarkable women who've made significant impacts in their fields and communities. First, Nina Killick, a longtime friend of Bridge with a portfolio career including sports coach and project manager in the hospitality industry, and Lieutenant Colonel Ann O’Flynn, the Commanding Officer of the British Army’s 1st Military Working Dog Regiment. They discuss everything from sports like rugby and triathlons to values, change management, and authenticity. Get ready for a sporty, thoughtful, and engaging finale to our mini season! Links Dr Ann O'Flynn MCMI BSc (Hons) BVSc PGDip MSc MRCVS | LinkedIn 1st Military Working Dog Regiment Being Blame free with accountability Being a Person with a Bigger Purpose | |||
| 12 Nov 2024 | Being a Sparking Introvert | 00:45:37 | |
This week, Bobby and Bridget are back with a vibrant new episode, welcoming Michelle Hartley from People Sorted and the HR Geek Squad. Known for her rainbow wardrobe and lively energy, Michelle is here to talk about "Being a Sparkling Introvert." They dive into the paradox of introversion and extroversion, the power of self-awareness, and the courage it takes to lead authentically. Tune in to uncover why there's no one quite like you-er than you! Links Michelle Hartley FCIPD | LinkedIn An Introvert’s Guide to Visibility in the Workplace (hbr.org) How to work with Introverts and Extroverts (amazingif.com) Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking: Susan Cain(Amazon.co.uk) Quiet at Work | 30-day Interactive Journey with Susan Cain INFOGRAPHIC: What Every Introvert Needs to Know to be Happy and Successful (happify.com) The Different Characteristics of Introverts, Extroverts and Ambiverts | |||
| 23 Jul 2024 | Hanging out with Heart Speakers | 00:28:52 | |
Welcome to Guests with Gifts, where we get to hang out with some more of our dedicated listeners. This week, Bobby is joined by Roger and Gail, exceptional leaders, lifelong learners, and heart speakers with military connections. So many joining of the dots as they discussed their favourite MTALJ episodes with Bobby. Roger and Gail are deeply committed to developing others and seek learning through various mediums to achieve this. You’ll find them delving into the additional research links after listening to each episode, with their healthy appetite to learn more. Come and listen to these fantastic advocates as they share their feedback and extended insights, keeping our Being conversations alive and kicking. Links | |||
| 05 Dec 2023 | Being Guilt-free with a No | 00:45:27 | |
To round off the series, Bobby and Bridge are joined by James Fulford-Talbot of nXsus People in Australia for a conversation about Boundaries. How do you keep a check on your own boundaries whilst working in an environment whose structures and habits may call for more…perhaps unreasonably so? What helps or hinders us setting healthy boundaries for ourselves, within our teams and indeed within our family set ups? And what are the consequences when we don’t? Links Our Amazing Guest! nXus Global Leadership Wellbeing Survey Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson About the lecturer and author Thomas Erikson (surroundedbyidiots.com) Charlie Brown Charlie Brown Teacher Speaking Herrman Brain Dominance Instrument HBDI (Herrmann Brain Dominance Instrument)® Assessment | Herrmann (thinkherrmann.com) | |||
| 17 Sep 2024 | Being a Full EQ | 00:47:51 | |
Join Bobby and Bridge as they dive into the world of emotional intelligence (EQ) and uncover its complexities. From the origins of EQ to its impact on leadership and corporate culture, they explore how EQ can be both a powerful tool and a potential weapon. Whether it's leaders who thrive despite low EQ or the rise of "dark empaths" who use their emotional savvy for manipulation, we tackle the good, the bad, and the controversial sides of EQ. Tune in for a lively discussion that challenges the conventional wisdom on what it really means to be emotionally intelligent. Links The Art of Managing Emotions | Daniel Goleman (youtube.com) Merve Emre on Emotional Intelligence as Corporate Control - WorkLife with Adam Grant | Spotify Is Emotional Intelligence Real - WorkLife with Adam Grant - Apple Podcasts Emotional Mastery: The Gifted Wisdom of Unpleasant Feelings | Dr Joan Rosenberg (youtube.com) The Power of Emotional Intelligence | Travis Bradberry (youtube.com) Emotional Intelligence from a Teenage Perspective | Maximillian Park (youtube.com) The Dark Side of Emotional Intelligence (simplypsychology.org) 15 Most Valuable Emotional Intelligence TED Talks on Youtube (positivepsychology.com) Adam Grant podcast work life with Merve Emre Walter Michelle: Marshmallow study No stupid question Angela Duckworth and Stephen Dubner - How important is Emotional Intelligence Mayor-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCEIT) Merve Emre - The repressive politics of Emotional Intelligence Salovey and Mayer - model of 4 emotional intelligence abilities (You Tube) 12 Traits of Emotionally Intelligent People: Daniel Goleman (Podcast) ‘Dark empaths’: how dangerous are psychopaths and narcissists with empathy? Daniel Goleman On How To Manage Your Emotions At Work & Why EQ Is More Valuable Than IQ (LinkedIn) Preview YouTube video The Salovey & Mayer Model of Four Emotional Intelligence Abilities The Salovey & Mayer Model of Four Emotional Intelligence Abilities
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| 12 Dec 2023 | Centering is not just for Christmas | 00:15:54 | |
Centring is not just for Christmas because…. it’s a practice to help all of us whether we are celebrating this holiday period or not…it’s equally a practice that could help all of us every day of the year. So what is Centring? Centring or Grounding (interchangeable) usually refers to our mental and physical state of mind. It’s the place we know we have to get back to when we’re not feeling like ourselves. Bobby and Bridge chat and offer gifts a plenty of things you can do to help you back to Centre. And there’s a lot of chat about Gravy! Links Richard Strozzi Heckler - Centring Practice Shout Out to the lovely Grainne Bagnall of Forest Bathing West Cork 123 Gratitude Journal Prompts: The Only List You'll Need Centring yourself: 11 practices to try | |||
| 29 Oct 2024 | Being one year old | 00:43:53 | |
It's our birthday! Welcome to the one-year anniversary episode of More Than a Lumpy Jumper! Bobby and Bridge are celebrating 39 episodes, 14 mini-in-between Season episodes, 23 incredible guests, and countless laughs. In this special one, they reflect on the highs, the lessons learned, and a few hilarious behind-the-scenes moments (including a memorable baguette incident). Whether you're curious about their journey, or just here for the laughs, join them as they look back—and forward—at the wild ride so far! Links For one week only, we are back to diddly squat! Take a little look back over previous episodes to see what Resources you might have missed | |||
| 04 Jun 2024 | Being Blame free with accountability | 00:43:16 | |
“It wasn’t me; it was her!” Are we listening to the words of a 5-year-old or an adult work colleague throwing you under the bus??! Both. Blame just comes all to easily in the workplace to help us escape from discomfort, pain, anger and the like. But what happens when a leader takes true accountability for the part they played? When they have their teams do a deep dive into lessons learned when things go wrong Come and join Bobby and Bridge as they track through the science of blame, their experience of blame cultures and practical advice on how to change an organisation’s narrative to one of accountability. #nipitinthebud Links Project Retrospectives: A Handbook for Team Reviews: Norm Kerth Creating a Culture of Accountability, Not Blame - Michael Timms (including Table showing Culture of Blame v Culture of Accountability) Blame Culture Is Toxic. Here's How to Stop It. - Michael Timms | |||
| 07 May 2024 | Being included | 00:39:28 | |
Wowzers…when you decide to get going on the topic of Belonging and Inclusion, you just find out how much we still need to learn and how far we still need to go. THIS, however, is no reason not to make a start. So, join Bobby and Bridge as they make THEIR start in contemplating what it feels like to Belong BE INCLUDED. Links How to overcome our biases. Walk boldly towards them : Verna Myers (TEDx) Micro-messaging-final.pdf (utsouthwestern.edu) The quiet discrimination of microinequities: A Q&A with Adjunct Professor Mary Rowe | MIT Sloan Micro messaging: Why Great Leadership is Beyond Words : Stephen Young (Amazon.co.uk) 9 Ways Leaders Can Build A Culture Of Belonging (forbes.com) | |||
| 30 Oct 2023 | Being in the Conversation | 00:54:29 | |
The art of great communication might be where Bobby and Bridge start with this episode but as with so many of their conversations, they meander all over the shop! One of the key requirements of great communication is storytelling and wowzers they do love a story! Listen in as they chat about the importance of understanding and being understood, crafting messages, and the power in conversations where everyone wins. | |||
| 02 Apr 2024 | School your face | 00:20:02 | |
Does your face often scream what you are trying not to say? Oh yeah! Bobby and Bridge have tried for years to curb both their Inner Voice AND their faces saying exactly what they are thinking! So in some sort of cathartic exercise, they are looking to share some Easter gifts with you on this topic. And then, of course, they will need to go and take heed of all these gifts themselves. Life remains a work in progress! Links Who Am I? How Face Language Reveals Your True Identity: Eric Standop Freeing the Natural Voice : Kristin Linklater What's that look on your face Catherine S. Snodgrass 10 Face Yoga Moves to do each morning How to Manage Your Facial Expression When You Speak How to Control Your Emotions During a Difficult Conversation | |||
| 09 Jan 2024 | Being a Commitment in 2024 | 00:47:44 | |
Well…you may feel like Bobby and Bridge are splitting hairs here as they try to fathom the distinctions between a vague and probably unachievable New Year Resolution versus making a Commitment…and then where the heck does an Intention fit in? But join them anyway as they get to grips with making Commitments for the year. Find out what BSQ stands for. And another of Bobby’s pet hates is revealed! Links How to Play to Your Strengths (hbr.org) The Importance of Practice – And Our Reluctance to Do It HBR- Feedback is a gift ! ACT receiving feedback model What is BSQ Goal: Goal-Setting Framework (hqhire.com) Don't underestimate the power of reflection - HBR.org The power of journaling as a life habit - Rest Less What happens when you get rid of performance reviews - Forbes 5 steps for giving effective feedback - the muse.com Now for the woo-woo How to have a moon ceremony - Vogue | |||
| 10 Dec 2024 | Hanging out with podcast virgins | 00:55:26 | |
And now it’s the Bobster’s turn to be in the driving seat for "Guest Gifts," hanging out with dedicated listeners. | |||
| 18 Jun 2024 | Being Lonely in Leadership | 00:43:04 | |
Join Bobby and Bridge as they embark on a fascinating journey, analysing why loneliness seems to have reached epidemic proportions across the young, the old and whatever the in between looks like. What is at the root of loneliness? How does it affect leadership? And then most importantly, what can we start to do to bridge the gap of loneliness, seeking to rebuild our social muscles in a world that feels more disconnected than ever. Links Jonny Sun: You are not alone in your loneliness | TED Talk Kio Stark: Why you should talk to strangers | TED Talk Richard Renaldi | Touching Strangers Index Robert Waldinger - Research on Loneliness Robert Waldinger - Loneliness Kills Vivek Murthy: How To Solve the Work Loneliness Epidemic (forbes.com) | |||
| 16 Apr 2024 | Superpowering Collaboration | 00:19:58 | |
This week is International Leadership Week (15th – 21st April) celebrating this year’s theme of the Power of Collaborative Leadership. Bobby and Bridge offer some gifts around the topic including those inimitable words once again… Creativity and Communication #CollaborateForSuccess Links Betterup blog : Breaking Down Silos Five Vital Conversations for Getting Things Done In Groups | Richard Watkins | TEDxRoma Group Genius: The Creative Power of Collaboration: Keith Sawyer How to manage for collective creativity, Linda Hill [TED] - DeBoer Fellowship Cheryl Cran- Transformational Leadership & Breaking Down Silos | |||
| 09 Jul 2024 | Being in Meetings | 00:53:48 | |
Join Bobby and Bridge as they dive into the wild world of meetings! From the taxonomy of different meeting types to those head-scratchers where you’re not sure why you're there, they are dissecting it all. They share experiences of various meeting styles, ponder why people often stick to unproductive routines, and discuss how we can all break free from habitual suffering. Whether you're a meeting lover or dread them, this episode is packed with insights and chuckles. Tune in and rethink your next invite! Links A taxonomy for meetings: distinguish or suffer | LinkedIn Maximizing The Productivity of Meetings Is as Easy As 3-2-1 (forbes.com) Stop Wasting People’s Time with Bad Meetings (hbr.org) Stop the Meeting Madness (hbr.org) Stop wasting valuable time (Hbr.org) What It Takes to Run a Great Virtual Meeting (harvardbusiness.org) How to set up a Fishbowl conversation meeting Open space technology meetings Silent Meetings are more inclusive Monitor manterrupting with gender timer Equaltime.io speaking monitoring app UN-REDD monitoring women and men's meeting participation Meeting Audit in 2023: Stop Wasting Precious Time (rhythmsystems.com) | |||
| 23 Jan 2024 | Being with Kelly Swingler | 00:49:15 | |
Ooooooooooooooo A GUEST! Bobby and Bridge are joined by Kelly Swingler, Coach for the HR World, Burnout Expert, Author…basically all-round Bonne Oeuf with a compelling story to tell about her recovery from Burnout and her crusade to ensure it doesn’t KEEP happening to HR Directors the length and breadth of the land. And all three of them have got colds whilst recording this episode. Promise it isn’t too much of a snort fest other than the inevitable laughter… Links Kelly Swingler | The Coach for HR Leaders Mind The Gap: A Story of Burnout,... by Swingler, Kelly (amazon.co.uk) Frazzled The Podcast (kellyswingler.com) 10 rules for a stress-less life Blends - artisan ayurvedic lattes by Claire Paphitis Light Is the New Black: A Guide To Answering Your Soul’s Callings: Rebecca Campbell: Amazon Books Menopausing: The Positive Roadmap to Your Second Spring: Davina McCall | |||
| 20 Feb 2024 | Being with Neena Sims | 00:49:31 | |
Ooooooooooooooo A GUEST! Bobby and Bridge are joined by Neena Sims, coach, facilitator, poet and mother as well as formerly an actor and director. Needless to say…awesome! Together we explore how we can learn to love ourselves more. Our beautiful conversation meanders through some theory, depth and simplicity, a “real life” working example (where Bobby sweats a bit), and some interruptions from our menopausal brains. What’s not to love. Come and join us. Links Meet Neena and Third Space Coaching No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz | The Gifts of Imperfection:10th Anniversary Edition by Brene Brown | | |||
| 16 Jan 2024 | Being In and being A great support system | 00:47:52 | |
National Mentoring Month gives Bobby and Bridge a way into a conversation on how to establish a support system for growth, development and learning. Their history has clearly been spattered with support and help which, in their youth, they have clearly been CRAP at requesting or didn’t realise they had. So join them as they explore the importance of a support system for SELF as well as the need for Leaders to step up and find the capacity to be support systems for others. Links What the Best Mentors Do (hbr.org) Bridge mentoring - A Better Approach to Mentorship (hbr.org) Are men afraid to mentor women? Forbes How to set up a mentoring programme | |||
| 26 Dec 2023 | Constantly Curious | 00:15:28 | |
Bobby and Bridge do love the curiosity topic. Or is it more their toddler predilections of asking Why? Either way, they are very aware that curiosity as part of our make up has such benefits. It can make you happier, strengthens relationships, expands empathy and boosts achievement to name but a few. So join these two inquisitive creatures as they hand out some gifts to improve your curiosity. It really didn’t kill a cat! Links Britannica’s Curiosity Compass | 10 Ways to Improve Your Curiosity Britannica’s Curiosity Compass | The Quiz Why curiosity gets you farther than ambition | Drew Lynch | TedX | |||
| 14 May 2024 | Being a fraud and doing it anyway | 00:40:29 | |
“I wonder if today’s the day I get found out”. “Oh…I was just lucky to get this job”. “I feel such a Fraud”. Do any of these little mutterings ever take up residence in your self-talk? Join Bobby and Bridge as they try and fathom which comes first your self-talk or the environment that helps create it. Is there a cure? And if not what strategies do we have to work with this phenomenon? Links The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women : Valerie Young Amy Cuddy: Your body language may shape who you are Stop telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome The Authority Gap : Mary Ann Sieghart Ted Talk - How to close the authority gap | |||
| 07 Nov 2023 | Being comfortable with curiosity | 00:50:15 | |
Curiosity starts with building a safe space for questions. Questions DO NOT mean you are somehow lacking. That is Boll*cks! Think about children you know, FOREVER asking “Why?”. Yes exhausting but SO necessary for learning and progress. When did you last ask Why? Join Bobby and Bridge as they explore the power of curiosity, harnessing playfulness for creativity (with or without alcohol) versus hiding your light under a bushel, accepting the status quo and missing a place where new possibilities can take root. | |||
| 21 May 2024 | Being a Wall Breaker | 00:46:14 | |
Silos, Barriers, Walls … doesn’t matter what you call them, if they take hold in an organisation … EVERYTHING seems to get that little bit trickier – communication channels, processes, procedures and above all relationships. So, join Bobby and Bridge as they do a little bit of ranting and a whole lot of chatting about how to deal with Silo Working. Do Silos ever work in an organisation? And what can you do rather than deconstructing a whole organisation in an attempt to get rid of them. That’s where the Bridge comes in. Over to you Bridge!! Links NextMapping | The Future is Human | Cheryl Cran Future of work - No more silos | |||
| 09 Apr 2024 | So what do you do? | 00:18:43 | |
How do you introduce yourself? OK, fine…you might start with your name but then what? Your title? What does that actually mean or even say about you as a person? Bobby and Bridge explore some more Easter gifts in this mini to support Leaders in leading without a title. Step forward and be YOU! Links Leaders Without Titles: Unlocking the Power of People Who Am I?: Psychological exercises to develop self-understanding: The School of Life Leadership is a Choice, Not a Title | Leadership Expert Mark Sanborn | |||
| 13 Feb 2024 | Being a Lovely Leader | 00:37:16 | |
So, whilst romance isn’t entirely dead in either Bobby or Bridge’s house, it was much easier to focus this episode questioning whether there is a place for the word LOVE in leadership and the workplace. They even go as far as to explore the word INTIMACY in the workplace…NOT the naughty, naked type (that’s a whole other podcast!) Love and intimacy might not be the words many of you, as leaders, want to use but what about your leadership actions? Showing more care, attention…love. Curious? Come and have a listen and make up your own mind. Links The Oxford Character Project | About Us Leader: Know, love and inspire your people by Katy Granville-Chapman | Amazon The Leadership Challenge Book Summary by James M. Kouzes and Barry Z. Posner (shortform.com) Can You Really Power an Organization with Love? (hbr.org) Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant | Amazon Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don't by Simon Sinek | Amazon Matt Tenney: Why the Best Leaders Make Love the Top Priority | TED Talk “Give away love like you are made of the stuff..” Bob Goff “You can love people without leading them, but you cannot lead people without loving them” Unknown | |||
| 14 Nov 2023 | Being your own change | 00:48:06 | |
Ooooooooooooooo A GUEST! Bobby and Bridge are joined by Steve White - NED, Executive Coach, Board Advisor and Deputy Chair of BLESMA (the Armed Forces Charity for Limbless Veterans) as they chat about living and learning through their decades in Leadership Roles. What would they go back and tell their 20 something versions? What have they learnt along the way? And whilst Steve wanted to be introduced as “once a tw*t always a tw*t”, he’s anything but. Full on human being who cares deeply for others whilst keeping things light and full of cheeky banter. About Steve: Steve is currently the Chairman at Moat Homes Limited, a Board Member for Orwell Housing Association and Deputy Chair for BLESMA (Armed Forces Charity for Limbless Veterans) and most importantly.... he was once Bobby's Boss. Steve was part of the first all-amputee team to swim the English Channel in 2014 and recently became the first amputee to swim the 14 km across Lake Geneva. If you would like to donate to BLESMA, the JustGiving page is in the links below Links Our Amazing Guest! Steve White Caitlin Moran : All About Women 2021 Menopause, Drugs and Me | |||
| 28 May 2024 | Being your age (dis)gracefully | 00:41:29 | |
Oh they SO wanted to behave Disgracefully in this episode and then decided that perhaps they weren’t quite old enough yet? So, instead Bobby and Bridge are here considering our aging workforce. What are the stages of life you witness at your dinner table when the family gets together? And then how does that extrapolate to a business? How do you cater for the spectrum of ages in a workforce and how they look at and interact with the world and each other? Turns out this is a great topic…whatever your age. Come and have a listen. Links Richard Rohr - Falling Upwards Harnessing the power of age diversity Article on Aging Helena Clayton | Leadership or eldership? The Elders | Independent global leaders Ethical Leadership Why You Should Create a “Shadow Board” of Younger Employees (hbr.org) | |||
| 01 Oct 2024 | Being a procrastinator (or maybe later!) | 00:47:15 | |
Are you a master at putting things off? So are Bobby and Bridge! In this episode, they dive into their own procrastination habits, sharing why they think they do it and Bobby shares old practices from her younger days that might help them out now that they're working for themselves. And for all those procrastinating leaders out there, there's also some fascinating research on breaking the procrastination cycle, the self-talk that can shift your mindset, and why dealing with discomfort is key to getting things done. So if you're ready to face your procrastination demons (or just want to delay that looming task) join Bobby and Bridge for a fun, honest and maybe a little uncomfortable conversation on "Being a Procrastinator (or maybe later!)" Links Pomodoro® Technique - Time Management Method (pomodorotechnique.com) Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator | Tim Urban (TEDTalk) Why You Procrastinate Or Lack Motivation—And What To Do About It. (forbes.com) The 5 Second Rule | Mel Robbins (youtube.com) Five-ways-leaders-can-embrace-and-manage-their-procrastination : Forbes.com 4-types-of-procrastination-problems-and-solutions : www.belongly.com The Cure to Procrastination - Leadership Society of Arizona (leadaz.org) How-to-Beat-Procrastination-as-a-Leader-7-game-changing-strategies: Nirmal Chhabria: medium.com The-productivity-paradox-exploring-the-positive-effects-of-procrastination: Blog 21-ways-successful-people-beat-procrastination: cleverism.com The-5-stages-of-procrastination: wizeprep.com
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| 12 Mar 2024 | Being at your edge | 00:45:10 | |
When was the last time you were an absolute beginner…learning something from scratch? Can you even remember or like so many of us, the discomfort of not knowing how to do something is just TOO much? Join Bobby and Bridge as they chat about learning styles, the benefits of having both a growth and a fixed mindset, how we expand our learning “blob” in different territories and not have it stay contracted because of previous experiences. There is also chat about Banksy style mind maps, geese, stationary collecting and javelin throwing. But you will need to join them to find out more. Come and find out about your Learning Edge. Links Sir Ken Robinson | Speaker | TED Gardner's Theory Of Multiple Intelligences (simplypsychology.org) Carol Dweck: The power of believing that you can improve | TED Talk What Having a “Growth Mindset” Actually Means (hbr.org) Mindset: How You Can Fulfil Your Potential: Amazon.co.uk: Carol Dweck | |||
| 10 Sep 2024 | Being critical of criticism | 00:49:17 | |
Hmmmmm…that moment when you wonder if you should have had a Guest for this topic. A leader who is professional in their handling of criticism rather than Bobby and Bridge’s approach which entails going bright red, potentially yelling “f*ck off” or disappearing for a good old teenage sulk!! Seriously…should these two really be let loose on such a topic! Well, the answer is YES. Come and have a listen to these two feisty leaders being incredibly honest about their relationship with unsolicited feedback (in other words, criticism) and how their approaches have morphed (or not on occasion) as they have grown in self-awareness, self-reflection and self-assurance. Links 7 Strategies Smart Leaders Use to Handle Criticism | Inc.com Dealing with Criticism | Wisdom for Life (YouTube.com) How to Keep Criticism from Undermining Your Confidence (hbr.org) 4 Constructive Ways Leaders Can Handle Criticism (forbes.com) Why Your Critics Aren’t the Ones Who Count - Brené Brown (brenebrown.com) Wisdom from The Four Agreements | Don Miguel Ruiz (Amazon.co.uk) The Seven Day Mental Diet: How to Change Your Life in a Week | Emmet Fox (Amazon.co.uk) | |||
| 08 Oct 2024 | Being ALOUD to be Proud | 00:51:52 | |
In this special episode timed to coincide with National Coming Out Day, Bobby and Bridge are joined by Colonel Ali Brown OBE and Alex Meyrick from Fighting With Pride – the LGBTQ+ Military Charity, to discuss the challenges LGBT+ veterans face. Ali shares her journey as part of the first female intake at Sandhurst, navigating military life while concealing her identity, and her mission to improve services for female veterans. Alex discusses her work supporting veterans and the lasting impact of the military's LGBT+ ban. And all together, we explore how leadership is evolving, the cost of hiding one's true self, and the importance of diversity in leadership. A powerful conversation on pride,resilience, and healing. #making the journey home Links Ali Brown (fightingwithpride.org.uk) Lifting the ban on gay military service members | Imperial War Museums (iwm.org.uk) Pride in Veterans Standard (fightingwithpride.org.uk) | |||
| 23 Apr 2024 | Stop saying Sorry | 00:15:21 | |
Can you make “Sorry” sound like you don’t mean it at all? Or do you use it every other word out of habit, even when there is nothing to apologise for! In the last episode of the “Easter minis” Bobby and Bridge offer some gifts to help break the habit. #sorrynotsorry Stop Over-Apologizing at Work (hbr.org) Shira Miller: Stop the Apology Speak | TED Talk How Apologies Kill Our Confidence | Maja Jovanovic | TEDxTrinityBellwoodsWomen (youtube.com) Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals: Rachel Hollis | |||