Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser (Cam Fraser)

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tamica Wilder, a somatic sex coach and multi qualified complimentary therapist with over a decade of group work, facilitation and coaching experience. Tamica leads with passion, embodied wisdom and playful curiosity in all that she does. She believes that our social and cultural narratives around sex and embodiment need a damn good shake up! - Never one to shy away from a challenge, she's committed to leading the charge. Tamica is a hand holder, a permission giver and a safe place to land for those serious about re-awakening their sexual spark and living a life lead by pleasure. We talk about Tamica’s work with men as well as the importance of creating safety for men to open up about their sexual concerns. We also discuss parenthood and modelling healthy sexuality for children.

Key Points:

- Tamica shares about her work and journey to motherhood

- Creating spaces for men to talk about sexuality

- Should men or women work with men around sexuality?

- Creating boundaries when working with people’s body

- You don’t need to action your arousal

- Intersectionality and masculinity

- What are men seeking help for?

- Parenthood and sexuality

- Modelling healthy sexuality for your children

Relevant links:

Free "confident Communication in the Bedroom" Video Series: https://www.theorgasmicmama.com/sexualconfidence

Tamica’s Instagram: @theorgasmicmama/

Tamica’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheOhMama

Tamica’s Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheOMama

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jenna Love. Jenna has been a sex worker in Australia for over a decade, mostly as an independent full service sex worker and online adult content creator, but also with experience in brothels and massage parlours. She is the President of Scarlet Alliance, Australian Sex Workers Association, and is the co-host and Producer of sex industry podcast Somebody You Love, which was a finalist in the Australian Podcast Awards Sex & Relationships category in 2021. She is a pansexual polyamorous cat mum who lives with her husband of 15 years on Dharug & Gundungurra land in the Blue Mountains, NSW.

Key points:

- Jenna introduces herself

- Decriminalization vs legalization models

- The “whorearhcy”

- Challenging misconceptions about clients

- The range of client experiences

- Pleasure and sex work

Relevant links:

Jenna’s Instagram: @jennaloveaus

This is a special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. Today’s episode celebrates a year of “Men, Sex & Pleasure.” It has been such an amazing year and I feel really grateful to have spoken with 51 incredible guests who have all taught me so much. To celebrate a year of the podcast, I decided to record my first solo episode. When I reflected on what I wanted to talk about, a lot of things came to mind. However, there was one topic which really stood out to me. I get asked on a daily basis about pornograhy. Without fail, everyday someone, somewhere asks me something about porn. I have a lot to say about porn and having to respond every single time with my myriad of thoughts is usually impossible. So I had the idea to record an episode about my opinion on pornography which I can share with people when they ask me for my thoughts. Like I said, I have a lot to say and this ended up becoming a two part instalment. This episode is part 1 and is released alongside part 2. If you’re interested in the nuances of the porn debate, hopefully you’ll find these two parts interesting. I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, just have a conversation. Thank you for supporting the podcast for a whole year. I look forward to bringing more interesting conversations in the year to come.

Key Points:

• Introduction to and intentions for the conversation
  
• I understand the harm some porn has caused
  
• Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn
  
• What is porn? The problem with definitions
  
• The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy
  
• Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line?
  
• Operation Spanner and private sex groups
  
• Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn
  
• Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation
  

Relevant Links:

Cam’s Instagram/Twitter/TikTok: @thecamfraser

Cam’s Website: www.cam-fraser.com

Quicky #18 is from Season 2, Episode 4: Be A Man: Sex, Anger and Doing the Work (with Tim Morrison)

On today's episode I chat with a dear brother of mine, Tim Morrison. He is a leading Mens work facilitator and transformational coach, he is also a multi instrumentalist and gifted shamanic, somatic bodyworker who uses sacred sound and breath to create deep transformational spaces Tim guides people on the path of personal transformation. He initiates a deep inner journey to walk people home to themselves, to connect back to the earth, back to who they truly are so they can live and lead from their heart. His passion is to walk through the shadows of deep change. Tim is building a transformational movement where everyone is guided to consciously lead within their own life, so they can live a life of purpose and fulfilment in their own genius. Tim was initiated onto the shamanic path from spirit and plant medicines, along with having trained in breath work, jungle medicine with the Katukina tribe of Brazil and worked with the Shipibo and Mestiso lineage in Peru. His focus now is on expanding consciousness and deepening human connection. We talk about the intersection of men's work and sexuality as well as the transmission of sexuality teachings in the Tantra community.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Pomma. Pomma does various forms of sex work and is a huge advocate for decriminalizing and destigmatizing sex work. They make educational content about sex workers’ rights in hopes to humanize sex workers and their needs to people and systems who commonly overlook sex workers. It’s very important to Pomma that sex workers’ voices are at the forefront of legislation and conversations that affect their lived realities since they’re often excluded. Pomma likes to keep their feminism and politics intersectional, because, at the end of the day, what affects them affects you, and affects all of us. When they’re not raising awareness about censorship or decriminalization, Pomma is crafting cosplays and traveling for conventions.

Key Points:

• Pomma introduces themselves
• The importance of sex work
• “Rights, not rescue”
• Purity fetish and the sex work heirarchy
• Decriminalization vs legalization
• SWERFs: Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminists
• Educating on social media

Relevant Links:

Check out Pomma’s educational work and socials at their Carrd: Pomma.Carrd.Co

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice. As a leading bisexual activist, Zachary has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months and also attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama). Zachary and I talk about the stigma bisexual men face and why mental health issues are greater among bisexual people. We also discussed the stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships, such as open relating and polyamory.

Key points:

- Zachary shares some of his story as a writer

- Your bisexuality and what it means for you

- Mental health issues concerning bisexual people

- Stigma from the gay and straight communities

- Overcoming shame and accepting yourself

- Exploring and navigating open relationships

- More stigma from a monogamous society

- Practical advice for bisexual men

- Practical advice for polyamorous men

Relevant Links:

Zachary’s website: https://zacharyzane.com/

Zachary’s Instagram: @zacharyzane_

From episode #81 with Jazmin Wu.

More from that episode:

- Jazmin shares about her journey with BDSM

- The spectrum of kink

- Holding space for submissives

- The submissive mentality

- Letting go of performance anxiety

- Reframing sexual validation

- Sexual symbols and rituals

- Boundaries, exploration, and safewords

- Sub-space and trance states

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Joe Kort, a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist. Dr. Kort specializes in working with male sexual dysfunction, infidelity, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ, and presenting issues. He is the author of four books: 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men. Dr. Kort is a blogger for Psychology Today. He is founder and director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, overseeing a group of therapists who provide outpatient psychotherapy services to clients. Dr. Kort is also Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes running a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology and provides LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy Certification, Couples and Sex Therapy Certification and Sex Therapy Certification and continuing education to mental health and medical professionals around the world. Dr. Kort and I talk about the rigid parameters of sexual orientation and why it can be beneficial to lean into fluidity. We also discuss how this impacts men, women and couples.

Key Points:

- Dr. Kort shares about his practice as a therapist

- Heteroflexible and homoflexible

- Discussing Jane Ward’s book, Not Gay

- Bisexual erasure

- Queering heterosexuality

- “Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation”

- Fragile masculinity

- Working with couples in therapy

- Wives’ experiences with heteroflexible men

- Sexual fluidity for men and women

- Practical advice for men

Relevant links:

Dr. Joe Kort’s Instagram/Tiktok/Twitter: @drjoekort

Dr. Joe Kort’s podcast: www.SmartSexSmartLove.com

Dr. Joe Kort’s website: www.JoeKort.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Teddy Loveny. Teddy is a social impact obsessive who is passionate about bringing an intersectional perspective to the way we observe, measure and interpret change. They have fingers in many pies, working in outcomes measurement for the community sector alongside designing and delivering learning experiences to promote queer literacy and allyship. Teddy is loudly and proudly queer and trans. They love to help others be curious about the intersections of identity, the space we take up and the impact we have on the community around us. The two of us talk about Teddy’s experience as a transmasculine non-binary queer person as well as what all those terms mean to them. We also discuss the supposed erasure of womanhood and attack on masculinity.

Key points:

• Teddy introduces themselves
• Defining transmasculine and non-binary
• Privilege and transitioning
• Societal pressure and the trans narrative
• What does being masculine mean?
• Labels, language, and specificity
• Experimenting with hypermasculinity
• TERFs and the erasure of women
• The attack on masculinity
• “Queer” is a verb

Relevant links:

Teddy’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/teddy-loveny-8a4b9048/

Show Notes:

Abigail Thorn YouTube video: https://youtu.be/v1eWIshUzr8

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Elle Stanger (she/they). Elle is a queer, mid-thirties nonmonogamous, parent, sex worker, AASECT Certified Sex Educator, and media producer. She has worked as a porn shop manager and product buyer, pole dancing stripper, consultant for anti-trafficking organizations, professional cuddler, porn maker, writer, podcast host, and certified sex educator. The two of us talk about their advocacy for sex workers’ rights as well as the nuances of the debates around sex work.

Key points:

• Elle introduces herself
• The importance of sex work
• Anti-sex work discrimination
• Decriminalization vs legalization
• SWERFs: Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminists
• Feminist porn?
• Supporting sex workers

Relevant Links:

Elle’s website: ellestanger.com 

Elle’s Instagram: @stripperwriter

Elle’s Twitter: ellestanger

On this episode of Men, Sex & Pleasure, I chat with Tim Fisk from Complete Men.

If you're interested in supporting our men's mental health initiative Men, Mates and Mentors, check out the following links:

Website | Feb 24 Showcase | March 22 Event

Key points:

Tim's background and passion for men's work

Tim introduces himself as a 66-year-old man living on the Gold Coast, and shares how he became involved in the Complete Man Foundation and the Rights of Passage program, which focuses on supporting teenage boys and their families through rites of passage experiences. Tim is passionate about this work as it allows him to heal his own younger self and model healthy masculine behaviors.

The value of rites of passage and community support

Tim explains how the rites of passage program takes fathers and sons into the bush for several days, removing them from everyday distractions. This immersive experience allows the boys and fathers to bond, communicate openly, and learn from each other. The program also includes ongoing community support and check-ins after the retreat, which Tim sees as crucial for helping the participants integrate the insights and changes from the experience.

Tim's personal journey and the importance of men's groups

Tim shares his own struggles with suicidal thoughts and the importance of being able to open up and share vulnerably in men's groups. He contrasts this with unhelpful responses he received when reaching out for help in the past. Tim emphasizes the value of men's groups in providing a sense of belonging, lifelong friendships, and tools for personal growth and healing.

The Men, Mates and Mentors initiative

Tim discusses the upcoming Men, Mates and Mentors event, which aims to introduce men to various men's support organizations and programs in the local community. The goal is to provide men with exposure to different approaches to personal development and growth, while also ensuring they know where to turn if they need support in the future, even if they don't engage right away.

Closing thoughts and next steps

Tim and Cam wrap up the conversation, with Tim inviting Cam to volunteer with the rites of passage program. They discuss the vision for expanding the Men's Mates and Mentors initiative to other communities beyond the Gold Coast.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Erica Smith (she/her). Erica is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV positive youth and transgender youth in her work. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program- sex education that aims to teach people everything that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive.

Key Points:

• Erica introduces herself
• Purity culture and sex education
• Religious beliefs and anti-pornography
• SWERFs and Christian extremists
• NCOSE, Exodus Cry, and FTND
• The Pornhub lawsuit
• Speaking to consumers of porn
• Porn literacy

Relevant links:

Erica’s Instagram: @ericasmith.sex.ed
Erica’s Twitter: @ericasmithsexed

Erica’s Website: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/ 

On this special episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with David Dyke. David Dyke is a man on a mission. After experiencing the earth-shattering news of a prostate cancer diagnosis, David was then inspired to help other men in their own struggle by deciding to film the entire journey, as raw and honestly as possible. When David first learned he had prostate cancer, he soon realised there were not many people he could talk to about the realities of the disease and its treatment, especially the taboos like incontinence and erectile dysfunction. So we discussed these things and more together in Waugal Cave, also known as Rocky Bay Cave, in Cypress Hill, North Fremantle.

Key points:

- David offers an Acknowledgement of Country

- David’s relationship with pleasure and masculinity

- Being diagnosed with prostate cancer

- Life after surgery

- Incontinence and erectile dysfunction

- Masturbation and multiple orgasms

- Old age and masturbation

- How your sex life changes as you age

- Healthy vs unhealthy masturbation

Relevant links:

David Dyke Prostate Journey: From Diagnosis to Rehabilitation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PutQPR1-ExA

David’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/prostatecancerdiagnosis/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lana Jade. Lana is an intimacy coach as well as an adult industry coach/mentor. She has been in the industry for 7 years, and during that time she has had an incredibly successful career. Lana began in the industry as many do, desperate and in need of money to turn her dreams into a reality, and to feed her family. She had always been interested in and fascinated by the adult industry and in a sense she is grateful that desperation led to her exploring it. Lana comes from a sales and marketing background and is determined, strong willed and resourceful, so it wasn't long after working for agencies and others that she started working independently. By navigating the industry’s rapid changes, feeling overwhelmed at times, reworking strategies and systems continuously, and shifting her priorities, Lana developed a very structured and systematic way that works for her, earning her more than she has ever earned, while also having the balance she craved. She has made the industry work for her. And that's exactly what she wants to do with others. The two of us talk about her experience in the adult industry as well as the stigmatization she has felt from the spirituality community and how she works with clients.

Key Points:

- Lana shares about her experience in the adult industry

- Integrating other modalities

- Emotional burnout and compassion fatigue

- Mentoring others in the industry

- Stigmatization from the Sacred Sexuality community

- “Real” women vs adult performers

- Only Fans, camming, and authenticity

- Male clients, pleasure, and communication

- Advice for potential clients

Relevant links:

Lana’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/lanajadexxx

Lana’s podcast: @are.you.available.podcast

Lana’s Instagram: @whatss.my.name.again

Quicky #19 is from Season 2, Episode 10: The Seed Bearer: Conscious Conception for Men (with Josh Fairleigh)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Josh Fairleigh. Josh grew up on the east coast of Australia, surfing, skating, boxing, fishing, loving all the outdoor active lifestyle this environment allows. School was very low on the list; this resulted in a early school drop out and the introduction of his first job in the surfboard industry. Surfing being Josh’s life passion; he shaped custom surfboards for about 15 years until his Saturn return when he began to see the environmental impact of the industry and pictured his own health in another 15 years. This was the time when Josh became very interested in health and natural medicines. After an awakening during a yoga course in Thailand with some influential teachers Josh began studying Ayurveda, Yoga, Reiki, Pranic Healing and Shamanic Crystal work and finally found the passion for academic education that he could not find in the earlier school years. Josh now teaches Breath workshops and does energy and Shamanic Healing’s. Josh became interested in Feng Shui as he spent many years traveling the world and Australia, through this travelling from town to town, country to country he was aware of his own moods, perception and reality changing; which made him curious as to how much our environment has an effect on our reality, from the weather, the land forms, water quality, different beliefs, colours, shapes and the spiritual energy. Josh has studied Feng Shui and Environmental studies with the Australian College of Environmental Studies. He now emphasises Breathwork as a tool to facilitate spiritual, mental, physical and emotional health. This approach and training touches all of these aspects of life; from physical fitness, to harmonising our internal and external energy bodies.

We spoke about Josh's Lyme Disease and how it has affected his relationship with himself, his wife and his daughter, particularly with regards to how he perceives his masculinity.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samuel Shin. Samuel is an ex-psychotherapist now working as an Authentic Dating Coach. He's also a certified men's work facilitator. Samuel offers an alternative to the pick-up industry by helping men open up to their authenticity, masculinity & sexuality to naturally improve their dating & relationships. His work includes 3 components: developing masculinity, working on the root cause of insecurities, and learning what he calls "conscious pick-up.” After recording this episode, Samuel wanted to add a disclaimer for listeners. Though he shares his criticisms of the Western mental health system in the interview and why he stopped practicing therapy, he wants listeners to know that he is still a huge advocate of therapy and recommends everybody try it for at least 6-months with a therapist they really like & feel a connection with (he emphasizes personally liking them and feeling a connection as a prerequisite to successful therapy). Therapy has been instrumental in his path of growth & healing, and he believes there is nothing like it. Getting guidance from someone who is educated & trained at the highest level in understanding the psychological underpinnings of maladaptive thoughts & behaviors is something a lot of life coaches won't be able to offer.  

Key Points: 

Samuel introduces himself 

Disillusionment with talk therapy 

Samuel’s sexual self-discovery 

Entering the dating scene 

Cultivating authenticity 

Dating advice for men   

Relevant links: 

Samuel’s Instagram: @authenticdatingcoach 

Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daniel Di Pietro. Daniel is a Melbourne-based sexologist with a Masters in Sexology and provisional psychotherapist with several certifications in sex therapy; including how to treat mismatched sexual desire between couples and navigating issues of sexuality and sexual difficulties. Daniel has a keen interest in male sexual health, behaviour, pleasure and function and has presented his thesis on male sexual health for the Queensland Society of Australian Sexologists branch. Daniel enjoys working collaboratively with binary and non-binary people of all ages, cultural backgrounds, beliefs and sexual orientations. The two of us talk about the research Daniel conducted for his Masters in Sexology regarding erectile dysfunction and its impact on masculinity. We discuss how erectile dysfunction impacts men’s self-esteem and the strategies they use to compensate for it. We also look at the issues disseminating research related to men’s sexual health and functioning.

Key points:

• Daniel introduces himself
• Introducing Daniel’s research
• The different types of erectile dysfunction
• Hostility and masculinity
• Problems recruiting study participants
• Compensating for erectile dysfunction
• Traditional sexual scripts
• Managing erectile dysfunction

Relevant links:

Daniel’s website: www.dipietrosexology.com

Daniel’s instagram: @dipietrosexology

Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com

Cam’s patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kelly Gordon. Kelly is a 32 year old entrepreneur and consultant based in the West Midlands, UK. She has Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 3 which is a genetic disability meaning for her, that she uses an electric wheelchair to get around. Kelly’s condition is progressive and has meant that she has faced losing her ability throughout her life especially when her body faced big changes and challenges such as pregnancy. Kelly has two young sons, which is quite trying for any parent but absolutely loves parenting with her disability with help from her supportive partner Josh and her awesome team of PA’s. From a young age Kelly was outspoken and never let anyone dictate what her disability meant or allowed her to do, this has seen her go through mainstream schools, get into a lot of trouble at college and ultimately push herself through many exciting and predominantly male dominated industries. Kelly now works as a consultant which allows her to dedicate her time to projects that truly excite her and allows her also to manage her time to ensure she has sufficient time with her young sons. Kellys current projects span from recruitment to working for forward thinking sex toy brand Hot Octopuss. Kelly also works as a presenter and is the current host of Hot Octopuss’s brand podcast Pleasure Rebels, as well as this Kelly has also worked on projects for the BBC, Channel 4 and Virgin Media. Kelly also regularly appears in mainstream media throughout the UK discussing issues that disabled people face and advocating for other disabled people. Kelly has also co-founded the business "With Not For” with Emma Gardner. Kelly and Emma are working together on this project to not only get disabled people into work but to push disabled people into high paid and high power roles, ultimately getting them to boardroom level by embracing talent, confidence and reeducating big employers about the benefits of adding people with disabilities to their teams. The two of us talk about Kelly’s experience as a disabled person as well as the intersection of disability and sexuality.

Key Points:

- Kelly shares some of her story

- The novelty of sex toys

- How Kelly’s disability has impacted her sexuality

- The extra layers of consent

- The disability bubble

- Stigmatization of wheelchair users

- Sex toys for people with disabilities

- Sex toys for flaccid penises

- Advice for people with a disability

Relevant links:

Kelly’s Instagram: @mskelgee

Pleasure Rebels podcast: @pleasurerebels

Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ruby Ryder of PeggingParadise.com and TheArtofPegging.com. Ruby is a podcaster, blogger, sex worker, sex educator and a published writer of erotic fiction. She has been educating people about pegging for the last 13 years. She moderated panels at CatalystCon East and West, and presented at DomCon LA. Ruby’s erotica is in Violet Blue’s ‘Best Women’s Erotica 2014.’ She also appeared in an episode of Comedy Central’s ‘Not Safe with Nikki Glaser’. Ruby’s mission is to help interested people add one more thing to their sexual treasure chest of choices by teaching them all about pegging, and to do everything she can to encourage more sex-positivity with less sexual shame. She resides in Southern California near the beach, and loves watching the surfers change out of their wetsuits.

Key points:

• Ruby introduces herself
• The misconceptions around pegging
• The importance of communication, consent, and comfort 
• Role reversal, deepening intimacy, and understanding partners
• Emotional responses during pegging
• Equipment for pegging
• Erections, performance, and pleasure 

Relevant Links:

Ruby’s websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ and https://www.theartofpegging.com/

Ruby’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise

From episode #68 with Danny Lakey. More from that episode:

- Danny shares about his career on radio

- Showing up authentically

- Australian men and our drinking culture

- Sobriety and masculinity

- Altered states of consciousness

- Experiencing the divine feminine

- Stigma about psychedelics and sex

- Combining sex with psychedelics

- Danny shares some advice

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Habeeb Akande. Habeeb is a British-Nigerian sex educator, erotologist, and author. Habeeb has authored several books on Islamic erotology and African sexual practices to empower women and couples. His bestselling book, Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure, explores the ancient African practice of squirting and sexual pleasure. He recently helped produce and feature in the BBC documentary, The Orgasm Gap exploring female sexual pleasure in Rwanda. He is passionate about female sensuality and aims to close the gender orgasm gap. Primarily based in the UK, Habeeb has given intimacy workshops and seminars in the UK, France, Brazil, Curaçao, and the US. The two of us talk about his research into Islamic erotology and also his education of the practice of Kunyaza. Beyond that we discuss religious and cultural perspectives of sex and pleasure as well as the importance of speaking directly to men about this.

Key Points:

• Habeeb introduces himself
• A Taste of Honey: Sexuality and Erotology in Islam
• Ars erotica vs scientia sexualis
• Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure
• Changing your approach to sex
• Engaging men in sexual development
• African sexual practices and cultural appropriation

Relevant links:

Habeeb’s Instagram: @Habeeb_Akande

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Michelle Roberton. Michelle has shared her work with many, for 20 years, specialising in Sexual Trauma & Intimacy as a Tantric educator, body worker and counsellor for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse Her passion stems from her own journey of discovering the medicine in the poison as she set it upon herself to reclaim her body, her breath, her sexuality and sensuality and express that in new, life enriching ways. Michelle very much believes that our mind can only take us so far into any release of body trauma and healing of our sexuality. The discovery of who we authentically are is not hidden in our thoughts but in the sensuality and home of our body. Her touch has been described by many as her gift to others. Her gentle, authentically honest & calming approach, a comforting breath of fresh air. Michelle lives in the colourful, vibrant city of Brighton with her four superstar children.

Key points:

• Michelle introduces herself
• What is Tantric bodywork?
• How trauma manifests in the body
• Individual and universal experiences
• Working with tension and disconnection
• Facilitating pleasure

Relevant links:

Michelle’s Instagram: @michellekroberton

Michelle’s website: https://sacredtantrictouch.com/

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also the Relationship Tech consultant for Couply and Scratch Adventure mobile apps. In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching. The two of us talk about the common concerns our clients have as well as the creative ways in which to navigate these concerns. Dr. Tara shares a lot of advice about how to communicate with your partner about sex and how to begin exploring your sexual desires.

Key points:

• Dr. Tara introduces herself
• Managing mismatched libido
• Meeting sexual needs creatively
• Cultural influences on Dr. Tara’s work
• How to have a thriving sex life
• Talking before actioning
• Advice for exploring your fantasies

Relevant links:

Dr. Tara’s website: https://www.luvbites.co/

Dr. Tara’s Instagram/TikTok: @luvbites.co

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Dex Parker. Dex is a pansexual, male erotic adult performer and companion. But outside of these labels, he is a human. Just like you and I. Dex describes himself as gentle, receptive, and strong. His missions are erotic creation, connection, and service. Dex is trained in respiratory therapy which compliments his many years spent teaching yoga and movement to create a holistic somatic experience of pleasure, insight, and joy. His work as a creator and companion is founded in a pursuit to experience and give breathe to a more holistic approach to sex work, performing, and services. He believes wholeheartedly that sexuality and spirituality need not be perceived as mutually exclusive. On the contrary, they compliment each other beautifully; and Dex is here to show you how. In his content you will find opportunities to be both aroused and informed: hopefully both. In his virtual and in-person services you will be introduced to a space of safety, empowerment, discovery, and passion.

Key Points:

- Dex shares about his journey

- What is sex work?

- Experiences of a male sex worker

- Erotic content creation

- Alternative expressions of male sexuality

- Discussing pornography

- Advice for exploring your sexuality

Relevant links:

Dex’s Instagram: @mrdexparker_backup

Dex’s website: https://www.mrdexparker.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Emily Gough. Emily is a human connection coach, writer, speaker and host/founder of the respected top 200 Room to Grow™ Podcast. Fuelled by insatiable curiosity for the nuance and complexities of relationships and the human experience, she takes a holistic mind/body approach using the psychology and physiology of emotions to give you the guidance, real-life tools and perspective you need to take ownership of your life, revolutionize your relationship to yourself, and create thriving connections with others.

An old soul, Emily’s style of both teaching and coaching combines powerful insights and wisdom with a playful attitude and sense of humour. With features in well-known publications like Forbes and interviews on dozens of podcasts, Emily is sought after for her compassionate, direct and genuine approach. The two of us talk about interpersonal communication and how a lack of compassion is hindering our capacity for connection with the people in our lives. Emily also shares ways in which we can cultivate courage within relationships so as to help our partner and ourselves feel safe enough to be vulnerable and authentically open up.

Key points:

• Emily introduces herself
• Communication and compassion
• Giving people space to share
• Embodying compassion
• “The story I’m telling myself right now is…”
• Feeling emotions as physical sensations
• Courage, safety, and vulnerability
• Comparison and authenticity

Relevant links:

Emily’s Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

Emily’s website: www.emilygoughcoaching.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Euphemia Russell. Euphemia, (they/them) is a full spectrum pleasure coach and bestselling author of Slow Pleasure. Euphemia is trained and certified in somatic coaching, international coaching federation, sex-positive education, sexual violence counselling, trauma-informed facilitation, and has a background in Community Cultural Development. Their work, which aims to support people to flourish and feel pleasure, despite our collective crisis of pace and disconnection, has been featured in Elle, Cosmopolitan, Vice, Harper’s Bazaar, and multiple national radios and newspapers. They are particularly dedicated to resourcing and cherishing people who are distanced from their pleasure and bodies – usually because of holding minority identities and being socialised to be people-pleasing and appeasing, defaulting to others, overgiving, and/or playing small to be safe and liked. Euphemia is of Scottish descent, born a settler on unceded Kulin Nation lands (AKA Melbourne, Australia), and a migrant to Tongva land (AKA Los Angeles, California). They hold the identities and experiences of being white, queer non-binary, able-bodied, born middle-class, and a trauma survivor. ‘Slow Pleasure’ is both the name of Euphemia’s best-selling book and their theory of change. Euphemia believes that by accessing the full spectrum of pleasure, drip by drip and microdose by microdose, readers and clients can feel their own aliveness and reestablish a nourishing connection to self, others, and the land. They see pleasure and somatics as a journey of creating moments to pause, listen and remember, rather than ‘fix’ or accumulate knowledge.

Key Points

• Euphemia introduces themself
• The crisis of pace and being in the moment
• Microdosing pleasure and hustle culture
• Pleasure for the sake of pleasure
• Self-care vs Aftercare
• Post-ejaculatory vulnerability
• Digital boundaries
• Savoring the pleasure of using technology
• Pleasure and other emotions

Relevant links:

Euphemia’s Instagram: www.instagram/com/euphemia.russell

Euphemia’s website: https://euphemiarussell.com/

Key Points:

Exploring identity and authenticity

Ann and Cam discuss the importance of understanding and embracing one's authentic identity, whether related to gender, , spirituality, or other aspects of the self. They emphasize the need to move beyond prescriptive societal norms and labels, and instead focus on self-discovery and self-acceptance.

Unpacking religious trauma and shame

Ann explains her work helping clients who have experienced religious trauma, particularly from high-control religious groups. She discusses how this can lead to anxiety, depression, and shame around and relationships. Cam shares his own experiences with Buddhist monasticism and the control and shame he witnessed.

Navigating masculinity and gender expression

Cam and Ann explore the complexities of masculinity, including societal pressures and expectations. They discuss the importance of allowing men to define masculinity for themselves, rather than prescribing a singular version. They also address the stigma and fear around exploring different aspects of gender and .

Challenging assumptions and biases

Ann and Cam emphasize the need to examine one's own assumptions and biases, particularly around identity, , and spirituality. They encourage listeners to approach these topics with curiosity, empathy, and a willingness to learn and grow, rather than judgment or defensiveness.

Closing and resources

Ann provides information about her therapy practice and upcoming book, and invites listeners to reach out if they would like to continue the conversation. Cam and Ann emphasize the importance of seeking support from professionals who specialize in these areas.

Relevant links:

Ann Russo's website: https://www.amrtherapy.com/about-us/#about-us

Quicky #13 is from Season 1, Episode 14: Sexual Energy Sublimation (with Taylor Johnson). 

On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Taylor Johnson about sexual energy sublimation. Taylor is a sex educator and intimacy coach who helps men master their sex lives in an integrated way. Our philosophies about masculinity and sexuality seem to align and so Taylor and I had a great conversation together about the practical elements of sexual energy transmutation and sublimation. If you've ever been interested in learning how to work with sexual energy and use it to create and manifest other things, this is the episode for you.

Quicky #2 comes from Season 1, Episode 3: Gender Expression, Masculinity & Sex Education (with Kai Schweizer)

On this episode, I chat with Kai Schweizer, a sexologist, sexual health educator, and Masters student. He has a specialist interest in trans and gender diverse sexual health, including dyspareunia, contraception, and HIV prevention. Kai is best known for his sexual health education work with queer young people. This is an eye opening conversation as Kai share's some of his personal story, including his gender transition, as well as some valuable insights into models of masculinity.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. James B. Stein. Dr. Stein is an Assistant Professor at Utah Tech University with a specialization in interpersonal communication. He has published over a dozen peer-reviewed journal articles, which can be found on his professional website JamesBstein.com. In addition to his work as a teacher and scholar, Dr. Stein can be found on social media (specifically, TikTok) under the username "J3wcifer." On that platform, Dr. Stein aims to distil complex relational, political, and pop-culture centred topics.

Key points:

- Dr. Stein introduces himself

- What is the “Manosphere?”

- The core of Red Pill ideology

- Exploiting vulnerable men

- Community, guidance, and personal development

- Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson

- Exiting the manosphere

Relevant links:

Dr. Stein’s website: www.jamesbstein.com

Dr. Stein’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@j3wcifer

Todays Quicky comes from Season 2 Episode 9: #25 Overcoming Fear with Compassion and Love (with Adam Roa)

On today’s episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure Podcast, I chat with Adam Roa. Adam is a transformational artist, founder of the online personal development community, CREATE, and the podcast host of "The Deep Dive with Adam Roa". He has been listed by Goalcast as one of the “Top 33 Gamechangers to Watch" and his viral poem, “You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For" has been viewed more than 200 million times. He has spoken on countless stages, including Oslo Freedom Forum, MindValley A-Fest, and Envision Festival. Adam has recently begun to blend his poetry into mainstream music, with his first single, "Voices", releasing on October 1st. A modern day renaissance man, he is known for his unique blend of science and spirituality wrapped in artistic mediums. We shared about our deepest fears, how they hold us back and how to use compassion to overcome them.

This is a throwback to episode 42 with Jeff Abraham from Promescent. Listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RQobYuSFabSEtMsgwA3b5?si=UD2jRjWISP2aV4hltf6J3g

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jennie Williams, the founder and CEO of Enhance The UK, a user-led charity campaigning to change public perceptions of disability. Enhance The UK provide face to face and virtual training to businesses and organizations on a variety of different topics surrounding disability awareness. All of their training is delivered by disabled trainers, utilizing a powerful combination of expert knowledge, and lived experience.

Jennie is very passionate about the charity’s Undressing Disability campaign, which focuses on the sexual rights of disabled people. The two of us talk about the intersection of disability and sexuality, the sexual stigma surrounding disability, and how Enhance The UK is both educating non-disabled folks as well as advocating for folks with disabilities.

Key points:

• Jennie introduces herself
• Biggest wins and challenges
• Expectations about disabilities
• Communication is the key to bridging the gap
• Self-advocacy and accessibility needs
• Concurrent education and advocacy
• Advice for people listening

Relevant links:

Enhance The UK’s website: https://enhancetheuk.org/

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jo Milios, Ph.D. Jo is a Physiotherapist with a special interest in Men’s Health, Yoga, and Pilates. Since establishing a Men’s Health service in 2005, she has treated over 3000 prostatectomy patients, over 500 chronic pelvic pain patients, and 100’s of men with Erectile Dysfunction. Among achievements such as delivering Men’s Health courses to Physiotherapists in Australia, England, Ireland, Portugal, New Zealand, and South Africa, Jo also established PROST! Exercise 4 Prostate Cancer, a not-for-profit community education and exercise program for men in 2012.

Key Points:

- Jo introduces herself

- Prostate health protocols

- Kegels vs Reverse Kegels: Pelvic floor exercises

- Prostatectomy recovery

- Shockwave therapy for erectile dysfunction

- The importance of intimacy

Relevant links:

Jo’s website: http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Johnathan White. Johnathan is an instructor of Sexual Kung Fu, Qigong, and meditation. His mission is to help men gain a conscious connection with their sexual energy and channel it into manifesting their ideal life. Johnathan and I discuss our personal philosophies about sexual energy and semen retention. We also share some practices that men can use to experience non-ejaculatory orgasms. While our work is similar, Johnathan and I discovered some important differences in the way we both present our teachings. Like myself, Johnathan also has a 6-week online course for men. He shares some powerful and potent wisdom in this episode.

Key Points:

- Johnathan shares about his teachings

- Creating your own personal practice

- Learning to listen to your body

- Your first non-ejaculatory ogasm

- Techniques for non-ejaculatory orgasms

- Mantak Chia’s “Million Dollar Point” technique

- Obsessing over and redefining orgasm

- The importance of non-sexual practices

- Semen retention and NoFap

- The energetics of ejaculation

- Conscious ejaculation vs semen retention

- Testicle breathing practice

Relevant Links:

Johnathan’s Instagram: @sexual.kungfu

Johhnathan’s YouTube: Sexual Kung Fu

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Finn Deerhart. Finn is an AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private sessions, men learn tools to confront their limitations, unravel internal narratives of shame, and spark deeper human connections—grounding themselves into a deeper experience of life. Finn also creates educational erotic content and provides on-site erotic coaching for various organizations, including Himeros TV, an online service that provides explicit educational content for queer men. He co-hosts the weekly Himeros Backstage podcast which can be heard on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts. As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Finn helps gay and queer men ignite their eroticism and step into their emergent selves. The two of us talk about Finn’s work with gay and queer men, highlighting some of the similarities between his work and my work with straight men. We also discuss our opinions about porn and how to expand the way it is used.

Key points:

• Finn introduces himself
• Finn shares his coming out story
• Do we need labels for our identity?
• What you do isn't who you are
• Overcoming fear, finding solidarity
• Being confused by the porn you watch
• Where sexual fantasies come from
• What is it about porn that turns you on?
• Bad porn vs good porn

Relevant links:

Finn’s Instagram:@finndeerhart

Finn’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/finndeerhart

Finn’s website: https://www.finndeerhart.com/

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/

From episode #72 with Rory Callaghan.

More from that episode:

- Rory talks about his work and his mission

- Rory shares about his recent breakup

- Navigating the post-breakup headspace

- Communication strategies and vulnerability

- Integrity and taking time for yourself

- What is self-care?

- The fundamentals of health

- How to achieve integrated health

- Rory offers some advice for men

Today I had the pleasure of talking with Mental Health Practitioner, Tobias Penno, Bach. Sci. Engineering, Masters of Social Work (Hons; Research Prize Faculty of Health & Medical Science UWA) Tobias is an Emotional Health Practitioner & Social Worker with a background in Government Child Protection and Counselling. After years of professionally managing extreme child, family and relationship stress, Tobias has found his passion in healing Emotional Pain & Trauma through the body. Tobias currently runs a clinical practice, Emotional Healthcare, where he combines somatic techniques with narrative therapy, as well as working with people to prepare and integrate psychedelic experiences. Tobias is a researcher at the University of Western Australia, with an award-winning dissertation titled How Ayahuasca Offers Psychosocial Wellbeing, and is currently working on a PhD researching the links between attachment trauma, the body, and best-practice in psychedelic integration therapy. We spoke about the similarities between the sexuality and psychedelic industries and communities, from the challenges to the successes. 

Key Points:

- Tobias shares a bit of his story

- Therapeutic vs Recreational use of drugs

- What it's like to have sex on psychedelics

- Psychedelic vs Antidepressant model of therapy

- Integration and aftercare for peak experiences

- Supporting altered states of consciousness

- The ACE model of intervention

- Fast food analogy of sex and drugs

- MDMA assisted psychotherapy

- Using ecstasy for ecstatic self-pleasure

Relevant Links:

Tobias' website: https://www.emotionalhealthcare.com.au/

Tim Hammond is a grassroots human rights activist who has been involved in numerous social change movements. As a teenager conscientiously opposed to fighting in Vietnam, he wrote copious letters to Congress urging an immediate end to the war. Tim has been committed to Congressional passage of the U.S. Peace Tax Fund Bill, which would re-direct the military portion of one's taxes (currently 50% of every dollar spent by the U.S. government) toward life-sustaining human services. He was active in raising public consciousness about women's rights and the need for the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). In 1987 Tim was among hundreds of men and women arrested on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court to protest its decision to uphold states' rights to legislate private sexual behavior among consenting adults in their own home (a decision the Court ultimately reversed in 2003). He was a member of the Children's Rights Network of Amnesty International/USA and a member of the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization (now MaleSurvivor.org). 

Key points:

• Tim introduces himself
• Activism and retaliation
• Circumcision in America
• Global Survey of Circumcision Harm
• Foreskin anatomy
• A brief history of foreskin restoration
• Advice for men who’re interested in foreskin restoration

Relevant links:

Tim’s survey of foreskin restorers: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41443-023-00686-5

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Asa Baav, the founder of Tailor Matched - a nationwide thought leader in romantic and sexual compatibility in the UK. As a matchmaker, coach and speaker Asa is on a mission to remove taboo from sexual desires and create the freedom to own your wants and needs in life and in the bedroom. The two of us talk about her matchmaking agency and how it all came about. Asa shares about her approach to matchmaking and the stigmas surrounding online dating services.

Key points:

- Asa shares about her agency, Tailor Matched

- Matchmaking vs Coaching

- What is sexual compatibility?

- Collecting information about our sexual desires

- Approaching conversations about sexual function

- Dating: Don’t waste your time

- Who is using matchmaking services?

- Expanding the dating pool

- The stigma of using a matchmaking service

- Emphasizing connection over appearance

Relevant links:

Tailor Matched’s Instagram: @tailormatched

Asa’s Instagram: @coachwithasa

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with The Authentic Man, David Chambers. David empowers men to create the exciting and deeply connected dating lives, sex lives and relationships they long for by developing their true authentic selves. As a Dating & Intimacy coach, coaching men for over a decade, David guides men to create authentic attraction, build deep emotional connections, embody healthy masculinity, and experience connected sexual intimacy. By helping them build self-awareness, emotional intelligence and self-leadership. The two of us talk about finding your purpose and how to balance this with your passions as well as the most common self-imposed barriers that men face when dating. David also shares about his experience as a Black man in the UK doing this work.

Key Points:

- David shares about his work and passions

- Purpose vs passion

- Co-creating attraction and intimacy

- Overthinking and anxiety

- Treating dating like a video game

- Invitations vs expectations

- British masculinity and being a Black man

- Race and the white spirituality community

Relevant Links:

David’s Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

David’s Instagram: @theauthenticman_

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Freya Graf. Freya is a Yoni Mapping Therapist and Holistic Sex Coach & Educator. She has a background of study in Kahuna massage, yoni massage, facilitation, childcare, yoga teaching, tantric bodywork and sacred sexuality. Freya shares on her website that she was crippled by shame, guilt, and self-consciousness around her body, pleasure, and desire so she went on a journey to tackle this whole sex thing once and for all, which completely transformed her relationship to sex and her body. She says she is now deeply passionate about helping others do the same. The two of us talk specifically about her work as a Yoni Mapping therapist.

Key points:

• Freya introduces herself
• What is Yoni Mapping?
• “Yoni” and cultural appropriation
• The healing power of Yoni Mapping
• Connecting with the genitals
• Tips for people who have a vulva
• Tips for people who like to play with vulvas

Relevant links:

Freya’s website: https://www.freyagraf.com/

Freya’s instagram: @freya_graf_ymt

Key Points:

Introductions and Passions

Cam asks Justin to introduce himself, share what he does, and discuss his passions. Justin describes his journey of shedding societal programming to embrace radical authenticity, including his work as a certified nutritional therapist and influencer. He is passionate about human biology, communication, healing trauma through intimacy, and exploring the limits of human potential.

Letting Go of Societal Narratives

Justin shares how he had to let go of the societal narrative that being an exceptional musician would lead to love and validation. He describes his 15-year music career, which left him feeling empty and disconnected, leading him to seek therapy and unpack his lack of true intimacy.

Reclaiming Authentic Self

After leaving the music industry, Justin embarked on a journey of self-discovery to figure out who he truly is beyond the performer persona. This involved stripping away external validation and reconnecting with his passions like martial arts and fitness, but without the need to prove himself.

Emotional Expression and Vulnerability

Justin discusses his current approach to music and martial arts, focusing on doing them for the joy and experience rather than external validation. He emphasizes the importance of being able to express emotions without judgment or the need to perform.

Masculine vs. Feminine Energy

Cam and Justin explore the concepts of "king" and "prince" energy, with the king being secure in himself and able to vulnerably express emotions, while the prince seeks external validation. They discuss strategies for men to lean into emotional expression and self-care.

Navigating Conflict and Relationships

Justin and Cam discuss how even those in a "king" state can still slip back into "prince" behaviors, especially during times of stress. They emphasize the importance of quick apologies, taking responsibility, and creating safety and unconditional love in relationships.

Unconditional Love vs. Commitment

Justin emphasizes that unconditional love does not mean unconditional commitment. He advises that people should be willing to walk away from relationships that are not safe or serving them, while still holding love and compassion for those individuals.

Relevant Links:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/justinnaultofficial

Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 4: #34 Go With The Flow: Libido And The Menstrual Cycle (with Kristin Murray Alexi)

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Kristin Murray Alexi. Kristin has a bachelor’s degree in international studies with a focus on women in history, culture and religion, and a post graduate diploma in sexology. She is a certified Yoni Massage practitioner and trainer, and certified Sex Coach and trainer. She also works in the realm of priestessing as well as initiating other womben into this work. Kristin is known for her gentle yet informative and inclusive approach to pleasure-centered sex education. She offers certified trainings, group and 1:1 coaching sessions, online courses, and a fun and educative podcast with Tanishka Tantrika called Love Blood Sex Death. Kristin has been passionate about womben's wisdom teachings and female sexuality from a very young age. She held girls circles at 12 years old and created supportive materials for her teen female peers while going through puberty together. Her main passions are empowering womben in their sexuality through a better understanding of their bodies and female sexual arousal, as well as helping womben to communicate their individual needs to their partners. Kristin and I discuss how the different phases of the menstrual cycle can affect sex drive and how men can better understand their partner’s cycles so as to connect more intimately together.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Elliot Justin MD, FACEP. Elliot is the CEO and founder of FirmTech, the world’s first sex tech company focused on keeping men firm and fit for a better lifetime of lovemaking and pleasure. Dr. Justin is an Emergency Medicine specialist and healthcare technology consultant in erectile neuromodulation, cardiovascular disease, and diabetes. He and his FirmTech team have developed the Tech Ring and the Performance Ring which are transformative tools to help men optimize personal “erectile fitness,” and to inspire better erectile and cardiovascular health. FirmTech’s mission is to help men sustain an erection, and if they have a problem, prevent it from getting worse. The Tech Ring achieved second place at the 2023 CES/Showstopper event in Health Wellness and Innovation, and the 2023 Most Innovative Sex Toy of the Year at XBIZ. Soon, FirmTech will launch its FemmeTech line dedicated to a similar mission for women.

Key Points:

• Elliot introduces himself
• Erections are “the canary in the coal mine”
• Sex tech and data privacy
• The prevalence of erectile dysfunction
• The etiology of erectile dysfunction
• The future of sex tech

Relevant links:

Elliot’s website: https://myfirmtech.com/

Elliot’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliot-justin-md/ 

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Patti Britton. Dr. Patti has led 55 SAR programs over the past ten years in seven countries to over 1,500 people. She is the author of the only SAR training manual. Dr. Patti is a nationally board-certified Clinical Sexologist and world renown as the Pioneer of the profession of Sex Coaching. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology; a popular speaker to consumers and a seasoned professional trainer for her peers. Dr. Patti has hosted over 40 DVD programs on sexual enhancement. Her media record speaks for itself—with appearances on over 200 television shows, as the featured guest on over 250 interviews for radio, podcasts and media, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, celebrity podcasts and popular sexual health-related websites. Dr. Patti possesses a Ph.D. and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality. She is a Certified Sex Coach. Her stellar credentials include: Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT); AASECT Sexuality Educator of the Year 2016; Clinical Fellow, American Academy of Clinical Sexologists; Diplomate, American Board of Sexology; AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator/Supervisor; Lifetime member and Advisory Council for the American College of Sexologists International; Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality; National Advisory Board Ambassador of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation; Elected member of the Advisory Committee for the World Association for Sexual Health. Dr. Patti has a private practice in the Los Angeles area and online via zoom worldwide. She is also the Co-Founder of Sex Coach U, the world’s premier training and credentialing organization for sex coaches.

Key points:

• Dr. Patti shares about what inspired her to create sex coaching
• What is sex coaching?
• Sex Coaching vs Sex Therapy
• The MEBES© Model
• Dr. Patti’s speciality areas of coaching
• Sex Coach U (and a big announcement)
• Sexology trends regarding masculinity
• Retirement and passions

Relevant links:

Dr. Patti’s website: https://drpattibritton.com/

Sex Coach U website: https://sexcoachu.com/

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Sascha Haert. Relationships are, and have always been, the most important thing Sascha’s my life. Born into a loving and present family, in a home that sat next to a firing line in communist East Berlin, Sascha learned the incredible power of healthy relationships from an early age. As a former professional basketball player and captain of the Junior National Team he went on travels around the world and grew into a life of successful entrepreneurship, investing, building and managing 6-7 figure businesses across Europe & Asia. Fueled by his passion to understand the art of human relating, Sascha moved to Bali to explore the spiritual side of life, discovering the powerful practices of meditation, yoga & energy work. He became fascinated with helping others to appreciate and access the power of navigating relationships successfully in all areas of life. Seeing others get to the point where they can apply these skills in their lives and benefit from them has become one of his greatest pleasures. The two of us talk about Sascha’s work with women and how his clients relate with the men in their lives. We also talk about our differing opinions regarding semen retention and sexual practices.

Key Points:

- Sascha shares about his passions and work

- Building confidence to have better sex

- Men who feel intimidated by women

- You are not your partner’s coach

- Fear of leaving a relationship

- Entrepreneurship and financial independence

- Nourishment and connecting in with your body

- The masculine seeks freedom

- Semen retention vs conscious ejaculation

- The symbolism of ejaculation

- Ejaculation shaming

- Semen retention and meditation

Relevant Links:

Sascha’s Instagram: @sascha_haert

Sascha’s Website: www.saschahaert.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Alex Holmes. Alex is a London-based writer, mental health specialist and trainee existential psychotherapist. In 2021, he won the Creative Impact Award for Best Mental Health Awareness, for his writing and conversations on mental health. He was also featured among Positive.News ‘20 Mental Health Leaders Supporting The Nation’s Wellbeing’. His debut book is titled “Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging, and Connection.” Alex writes a weekly publication,Liminalities, interviewing writers and thinkers on mental health and life’s transitions, and exploring the human condition one sentence at a time. He is also the founder and creator of the leading podcast Time To Talk with Alex Holmes, highly commended by British GQ as a top podcast for 2020 and 2021.The two of us discuss his book, particularly what Alex’s refers to as the real man myths, including real men are fearless go-getters and real men have no worries about their bodies.

Key Points:

- Alex shares about his writing and podcast

- Lack of focus on men’s issues

- Men and mental health

- The myth of the real man

- The lone wolf

- Male friendships

- Masculinity and representation

Relevant links:

Alex’s website: alexholmes.co

Alex’s podcast: https://pod.link/1437894589

Alex’s Instagram: @byalexholmes

Key Points:

Johnny Cole's background and passion for men's work

Johnny Cole shares his personal story and explains how his father's traumatic military experiences and rigid views on masculinity deeply impacted his own upbringing and understanding of manhood. This led him to discover the field of men's work and start his organization Hey Brother Co. to help men and boys unlearn harmful patriarchal messaging and redefine masculinity on their own terms.

The power of vulnerability and emotional leadership

Cam shares his own experiences with rigid masculinity norms growing up, and how he has seen the transformative impact of adult men modeling vulnerability and emotional openness, especially in working with young people. Johnny emphasizes the importance of men being brave enough to have uncomfortable but necessary conversations to drive positive change.

Deconstructing the "man box" and challenging gender norms

Johnny and Cam discuss the concept of the "man box" - the rigid societal expectations and pressures around masculinity that stifle boys and men. They share examples of how they've seen young people have powerful realizations about how these norms have impacted them and their relationships.

The role of sports and media in shaping masculinity

Cam notes how sports have often provided a socially acceptable outlet for young men to express intimacy and emotion. They also discuss how media portrayals of relationships and can give young people skewed and unhealthy messages about masculinity and intimacy.

The importance of platonic male intimacy and affection

Johnny emphasizes the devastating impact of boys being discouraged from physical affection and emotional vulnerability from a young age. He argues this leads many men to conflate all intimacy with , contributing to issues like erectile dysfunction and unhealthy relationships.

Embracing boyhood and avoiding the rush to manhood

Johnny passionately argues against the tendency to vilify boyhood and pressure boys to rapidly transition into a rigid, prescriptive version of manhood. He believes this contributes to many social issues, and advocates for allowing boys to simply be boys without shame or judgment.

Relevant Links:

Johnny Cole's website: https://www.heybrotherco.com/

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anthony Ragonese. Anthony is a writer and public speaker who explores the intersection of the erotic and esoteric. He specializes in topics including masturbation, self-love, body positivity, sacred sexuality, sex magic, and enthusiasm for penises, all of which are part of his spiritual philosophy called Autoerotic Phallicism. The two of us talk about his personal philosophy and his approach to self-pleasure. Anthony also shares advice for men who are interested in exploring their sexuality and spirituality.

Key Points:

• Anthony introduces himself
• The intersection of sexuality and spirituality
• Phallicism and self-pleasure
• Fascinus: the divine phallus
• Practical sex magick
• Creating an altar
• Advice for exploration

Relevant links:

Anthony’s website: https://strokingthesoul.com

Anthony’s Instagram: @StrokingtheSoul

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Alexandra Holovitz. Alexandra is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. She works with career-minded men helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra and self-compassion. She believes awakening sexual energy can support you to have deeper connection, understanding and self-acceptance to liberate and come back to your home (your body), REMEMBER your truth as a divine man! Her mission is to heal the world, one orgasm at a time. We spoke about her use of hypnosis for managing sexual dysfunction with her clients, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. We also discussed the practicalities of establishing professional practitioner-client boundaries.

Key Points:

- Alexandra shares some of her story

- Owning the role of Sex Coach for men

- Introducing hypnosis as a healing modality

- The mind and body (dis)connection

- Using hypnosis for sexual dysfunction

- Rewriting stories and identity conflict

- The stages of hypnosis

- Body awareness and trance state

- Surrender and letting go of control

- How ready are you to make changes?

Relevant Links:

Alexandra’s website: www.alexandra.guru

Alexandra’s Instagram: @alexandra_guru

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with the Techy Tantrika, Devika Singh. Devika is a holistic intimacy and self-relationship coach, holistic sex educator, and pleasure-inclusive sex education advocate. Her work focuses on reporting sex/dating tech trends along with normalizing conversations around topics that are still considered ‘taboo’ or socially charged. These topics include sex education, pro-sex spirituality, various forms of intimacy, rebirth and transitions (personal transformation), death positivity, and how metaphysics impact how we connect to one another throughout life.

Key points:

• Devika introduces herself
• Sexual content, censorship, and terms of service
• FOSTA-SESTA legislation
• “Think of the children” rhetoric
• Artificial intelligence and human trafficking
• Tech billionaires and outrage marketing
• Sex toys and data privacy
• Politics and technology

Relevant links:

Devika’s YouTube/Instagram/TikTok: @TheTechyTantrika
Devika’s website: devika-singh.com

In episode 6 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Herbal Alchemist, Kitchen Wizard, Sex Magician, Mescalero and traveller on the Poison Path, Joel Camp. Joel is a student of the natural world, its medicines, its magick and its mysteries. I met him several years ago when he was dishing up incredible plant-based food at some of Perth's best restaurants and cafes. He is a good friend of mine and an absolute wizard when it comes to plant medicine. We talked about his journey overcoming sexual function issues with the use of herbs and adaptogens as well as discussed ways in which you can incorporate aphrodisiacs into your sex life. This is an episode about cultivating relationships with natural medicines.

Key Points:

- Joel's journey overcoming sexual function issues using natural remedies

- Joel's recommendations for natural sexual enhancers

- Things to be aware of when working with plant medicine

- Aphrodisiacs and their qualities

- How to integrate aphrodisiacs into your sex life

- The erotic nature of food

- Practical advice for exploring this area of your sexuality

Relevant links:

Joel's Instagram: @the_earth.blessings

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Tyson LaRone. Tyson is a Martial Arts Instructor, Strongman competitor and Monster Energy Drink Enthusiast who TikToks about politics, history, philosophy, society and generally trying to affect positive change however he can.

Key points:

- Tyson introduces himself

- Parenting philosophies

- Validating emotions in parenting and martial arts instruction

- Contradictory models of masculinity

- The harms of an exploitative view of relationships

- Finding fulfillment through honest self-reflection

Relevant links:

Tyson’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thewarriorphilosopher

Quicky #28 is from Season 2, Episode 14: #30 Sacred Masculinity for Modern Men (with Brenden Durell)

Today, I chat with Brenden Durell. Brenden is a former professional athlete turned life aficionado. He nudges people with laughter and inspiration so they can understand nirvana and live in every moment. Brenden also plays the game of life by being a Cacao & Breathwork Ceremonialist. He’s also a dedicated White Tantra student. His motto is “peace is the ultimate pleasure.” Brenden resides comfortably in his home, wishing he had a dog. The two of us spoke about the difference between masculine Men’s Work and feminine Men’s Work as well as how masculinity is linked to sexuality and what we can do as men to express but also regulate our emotions.

Quicky #22 is an excerpt from Season 2, Episode 8: #24 Energetical Lovemaking and Deep Intimacy (with Avi Kabani)

Views and opinions expressed by Avi Kabani do not reflect the official policy or position of any other agency, organization, employer or company.

Today on the Men, Sex & Pleaure podcast, I chat with Avi Kabani. Avi is an author who writes about the nature of sexual energy, deep states of lovemaking, and the challenges of modern-day intimate relationships. He is best known for exploring these topics in relation to men, women, culture, and self. Drawing on the work of David Deida, Avi shared with me his take on sex therapy and sexual art. We spoke about the energetics of lovemaking and how to take your sexual experiences to those deeper levels of intimacy. If you’re familiar with Deida’s work, you’ll really resonate with this conversation about sex, healing and masculinity.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Katy Bampton. A passionate and experienced Somatic Sexologist dedicated to empowering individuals on their journey to heightened confidence, effective communication and well-being, Katy brings a unique blend of expertise, compassion, and personalized guidance to those seeking positive transformations in their intimate lives. Katy specializes in helping individuals overcome barriers related to confidence in the bedroom, relationship struggles, navigating ADHD/anxiety, sexual trauma and how to live a life full of pleasure. Her approach is rooted in creating a safe and judgment-free space, where clients can explore their desires, embrace their bodies, and navigate the intricacies with confidence.

Key points:

- Katy introduces herself

- Understanding embodiment

- Overcoming societal conditioning

- The power of breathwork

- Expanding intimacy beyond penetration

- Guiding women to self-touch

- Transcending the bedroom

Relevant links:

Katy’s Instagram: @katybampton

Katy’s website: https://katybampton.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daz Alexandra Tendler (she/they/he). Daz is a sex-and-body-positive sexologist holding membership with the Society of Australian Sexologists. With an understanding that everyone’s sexual and relationship desires and needs are unique and diverse, she ensures her non-judgemental and compassionate practice focuses foremost on individual well-being. Daz is trans, queer and neurodiverse – through personal experiences with ethnicity and religion, class, gender and sexual diversity, and neurodiversity, they know how important it is to nurture safe, supportive spaces for marginalised minorities, particularly LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with ADHD and autism.

Key points:

- Daz introduces himself

- Defining ADHD

- ADHD symptoms and impacts

- ADHD and sexual dysfunction

- Managing ADHD through lifestyle and medication

- Supporting a partner with ADHD

Instagram: @daztranstender

Instagram: @sexspaceau

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daztender/

On this week’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jessica Harvey. Jessica is a certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with Layla Martin’s VITA coaching. She is professionally-certified with the ICF at the PCC level, and is a student of Process-Oriented Psychology with David Bedrick. Her trauma-informed coaching is also inspired by her devotion to classical tantrik meditation and non-dual philosophy under Paul Muller-Ortega and Christopher Wallis. Jessica spent 10 years in a successful career as a Ph.D. chemist before leaving it all to go say ‘yes’ to what scared her. She spent 4 years in full-time study and practice of neo-tantric sexuality, shadow work, and kundalini in a tantric community in Asia. Now she likes to say that she studies a different kind of ‘chemistry,’ and people often call her the ‘tantric scientist.’ Since launching her Bliss Science coaching business, she has worked with hundreds of men - CEOs and leaders in tech, finance, and consulting - to rekindle passion in sexless marriages, recover confidence post-divorce, heal from performance anxiety, communicate in ways that women love, and develop a tantric mentality to life. Her offerings include: her proprietary Love, Sex, and Confidence course for Men, her new Sex Mastermind for Men, in-person VIP days, and custom-tailored 1:1 online coaching for all genders. The two of us talk about the ways in which men can open up more to their sexuality and take their sexual experiences to a deeper level. Hint: It requires getting in touch with your emotions.

Key Points:

• Jessica introduces herself
• Going a journey of sexual self-discovery
• Men opening up about sex
• How to talk to your partner about sex
• Taking sex deeper with emotions
• Creating sexual safety for women
• Practical advice for men

Relevant links:

Jessica’s Instagram: @bliss.science

Jessica’s Website: https://www.bliss-science.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyson Adams. Tyson is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Key points:

- Tyson reintroduces himself

- Defining mindfulness

- Benefits of mindful masturbation

- Challenges to mindful masturbation

- Mirror work and embodiment

- Psychedelic experiences and self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Tyson’s Instagram: @tysonadams__

Tyson’s website: https://linktr.ee/tysonadams

From episode #73 with Mish Middelmann.

More from that episode:

- Mish talks about his diagnosis

- The process of prostatectomy

- Recovery and rehabilitation

- Impacts on masculinity and virility

- Erectile dysfunction after prostate surgery

- Learning new ways of being sexual

- Viagra, penis pumps and dry orgasms

- Reconnecting with a partner

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lachie Samuel. Lachie is the Managing Director of the FIFO Mental Health Group, co-founder of The Association for Mental Health in Mining Australia, and host of the Open Up podcast. On this episode, Lachie opens up about being sexually abused as a child by another boy and how this impacted both his masculinity and sexuality as an adult. We also discuss the feelings of shame and fear associated with this as well as men’s body image issues and negative self-perception.

Key points:

- Lachie introduces himself

- The importance of sexual exploration

- The impact of childhood sexual abuse

- Lachie's struggle with shame and self-perception

- Addressing fears around cock size

- Vulnerability, strength, and disclosure

- Lachie emphasizes the challenges of FIFO work

Relevant links:

Lachie’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lachiesamuel/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Forrest Andrews. Forrest is the Product and Business Development manager of Aneros. Forrest's relationship with Aneros began in 2000 and he has played an important role in the evolution of the company and their products ever since. This started when he was a customer and purchased their very first device. The impact on him was life-changing, turning around a decades-old health condition while revealing a powerful new orgasmic experience he would later call the “Super O”. After a series of productive conversations with the owners of the company, Forrest became their sole product tester and a consultant for the development of new products. Soon after he helped them launch the Aneros forum where he chronicled his own personal journey into the multi-orgasmic realm. In later years he compiled the Aneros WIKI comprised of terms drawn from his several thousand posts and threads. Between 2003 to 2012 he mentored men from all over the world helping them transition to new levels of sensual awareness through prostate massage. During the same period, he attended public and industry trade expos in the U.S. and Europe, as the company’s expert on the use of their devices. In 2016, Forrest became Aneros’ manager of Product and Business development where he’s supervised the creation and launch of the awarding winning Trident Series, the Trident Syn Series, the VICE 2 and the Helix Syn V. The two of us talk about the ins and outs of prostate stimulation, from massage to play to manual to vibration to health benefits to pleasure enhancement. If you’re interested in prostate pleasure, this is the episode for you.

Key points:

• Forrest introduces himself
• Forrest’s journey with prostate health
• The beginnings of Aneros
• Prostate pleasure
• Stimulation: Massage vs play
• To use vibration or not?
• Different types of prostate massagers
• Advice for men wanting to explore their prostate

Relevant links:

The Aneros website: www.aneros.com

Forrest’s email: forrest@aneros.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Gabriella de Mori. Gabriella is a registered counsellor with a Masters Degree in Counselling who thrives on coaching women from emotional overwhelm to self-confidence so they learn to trust themselves to take care of their inner world with grace. Based in Fremantle, Perth she operates a successful private practice offering a variety of dynamic and holistic services that include individual counselling, couples counselling, group courses and coaching, a meditation library and digital resources she has created.

Key points:

- Gabriella introduces herself

- Social media and not feeling “good enough”

- Meditating and self-esteem

- Mindfulness as foreplay

- Dating, feeling sexy, and anxiety

- Unrealistic expectations

Relevant links:

Gabriella’s Instagram: @gabriella.de.mori

Gabriella’s website: https://www.gabriellademori.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jeddy Azuma. Jeddy is the Founder of The Rising Man Movement, a Wilderness Rites of Passage Guide, and Men’s Leadership Mentor & Coach. Since 2008, Jeddy has been in the field of Men’s Empowerment and mentored a wide-range of men: from High-Powered Tech Founders and Corporate Leaders to hard-working family men and vision-driven millennials. He has impacted the lives of thousands of men on his mission to initiate an entire generation into purpose-driven leadership. Despite his achievements, he considers his most important roles in life to be Father and Husband.

Key points:

- Jeddy introduces himself

- Rites of passage and life transitions

- Absence of traditional rites

- Educating children

- Traditional status symbols vs materialism

- Engaging with other cultures

- Exploring personal growth

Relevant links:

Jeddy’s Instagram: @jeddyazuma

The Rising Man Movement’s Instagram: @risingmanmovement

Key Points:

Dr. Frankie's background and passion

Dr. Frankie introduced herself as a clinical psychologist, board-certified therapist, and the CEO and founder of Little Gay Book and Little Black Book matchmaking services. She shared that her passion is helping people have healthier, happier relationships with themselves and others, and being a conduit to bring people together.

Challenges with dating apps

Dr. Frankie discussed common themes she sees with her clients using dating apps, including feeling stuck in a "hamster wheel" of swiping without making real connections, misrepresenting themselves to appear a certain way, and experiencing disappointment when dates don't match their online profiles. She emphasized the importance of authenticity and setting boundaries when using dating apps.

Navigating dating app dynamics

Dr. Frankie and Cam discussed strategies for using dating apps more effectively, such as setting time limits, doing video calls before in-person dates, and moving quickly to meet up rather than prolonging messaging. They also explored the psychology behind the addictive nature of dating apps and the need to be mindful of how they are designed to keep users engaged.

Advice for in-person dating

Cam and Dr. Frankie provided advice for meeting people in person, including the benefits of doing activities you already enjoy, giving thoughtful compliments, and having an "exit strategy" to gracefully end conversations. They also discussed navigating the transition from a romantic connection to a platonic friendship.

Recap and closing thoughts

Dr. Frankie expressed appreciation for Cam's work and the practical, real-life dating advice they discussed. She encouraged people to get out there and make in-person connections, despite any fears or self-consciousness, as most people are hungry for that type of human interaction.

Relevant links:

Dr. Frankie's website: https://www.littleblackbookmatchmaking.com

In episode 5 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Will Blunderfield. He has been teaching yoga throughout Canada, the US and Asia for the last 11 years. He has a degree in Musical Theater from the American Musical & Dramatic Academy of New York (AMDA) as well as a degree in psychology from UBC with a minor in Food, Nutrition & Health. He recently completed a year long kundalini yoga teacher training program in Vancouver and India, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Facilitator training (program from University of Massachusetts Medical School), and was grateful to study in 2020 with Sexual Kung Fu Taoist Grandmaster himself, Mantak Chia. He performs original Kirtan/Sacred Song in his classes, retreats and workshops and his music is released through Nettwerk Records/Sony. His original music has reached number one on the iTunes world music charts multiple times. This was a great chat about how using sound, yoga, and nudity can heal men's sexual insecurities.

Key Points:

- Will's journey through the music industry

- How Will came to teach naked men's yoga

- The use of sound to explore and express sexuality

- Sexual repression by the dominator system

- Circumcision, penis size and body acceptance

- The brain and balls connection

- Practical tips for male sexual health

Relevant links:

Instagram - www.intstagram.com/willblunderfield

Only Fans - www.onlyfans.com/willblunderfield

Podcast - Urban Yogi Podcast

Cam's Instagram: www.instagram.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Aren Bahia. Aren is a Canadian entrepreneur/philanthropist who's lived a "full spectrum life". From growing up in a rough area in Vancouver to spiritual development in Asia, Aren's seen his world shift from the life of cars, cash, and women to meditation and yoga in the Himalayas where he learned to live a life of generosity, connection, and compassion. Since starting his life over in Bali in 2016, he's launched 4 businesses in 4 years and raised tens of thousands of dollars every year for underprivileged and mentally disabled Balinese children. He's the founder of Karma House Bali, Conscious Arts Tattoos, Full Reset Coaching and a founding partner in YogiLab. We talk about Aren’s transition from organized crime to personal development and spirituality as well as what he learned from his life as a drug dealer which translates into his work today. We also spoke about what it means to perform masculinity by wearing a metaphorical mask, including tattoos, muscles, and the “bad boy” persona.

Key points:

- Aren shares about his “Eat, Pray, Love” journey

- Catalysts for transformation

- Learnings from organized crime

- Practical aspects of spirituality

- Compartmentalization, context and authenticity

- The “Bad Boy” mask: Performing masculinity

- Self-pleasure, self-care, sex, and sensuality

- Defining presence and being present

- Owning your arousal and communicating with a partner

Relevant links:

Aren’s website: www.arenbahia.com

Aren’s Instagram: @ink_pray_love

Cam’s website: www.cam-fraser.com

Cam’s Instagram: @thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Will Tantra. Will is a sex and intimacy coach living in Los Angeles. He is also a naked yoga instructor and massage instructor. He now mainly teaches through video and at Tantra retreats around the world. Will is known for his practical and hands on approach to sex education and for providing men with easy to follow exercises designed to teach how to give and receive more pleasure. Teaching men how to exercise their bodies and masturbate in a way that better prepares them for partnered sex are favorite lessons of Will's. His other passions include dance and springboard diving and he performs regularly with a burlesque theater troupe. The two of us discuss the ways in which self-pleasure can be used as means to improve our sex lives.

Key Points:

• Will introduces himself
• Tantra for queer men
• The principles of self-pleasure
• Sports analogies
• Training for game day
• Practical advice for self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Will’s Instagram: @tantric.fitness

Will’s Twitter: tantricfitness

Kenneth Play is an international sex expert and sex educator. From a deeply insecure Asian immigrant to over 8 million views on PornHub and being named the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker by GQ, Kenneth develops sex techniques to help couples learn new ways to connect and overcome challenges in the bedroom. His newest course features over 70+ videos and 12 hours of content, and was described by AskMen as having "at least one nugget of sexual learning you’ve almost certainly never encountered before, if not several." His teaching has been described as a mashup of Bruce Lee’s mixed martial arts approach and Tim Ferriss’s 80/20 rule. He worked with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to conduct the world's largest survey on squirting; with Pamela Madsen at the Back to the Body Sensual Retreats for Women; and has been a featured presenter at New York University and San Jose State University. He has devoted his life to empowering couples to close the orgasm gap and experience the best sex of their lives.

Key Points:

- Kenneth’s journey from Asian immigrant to Sex Hacker

- Sexual stereotypes of Asian men

- Overcoming stereotypes and facing fears

- Inner work and outer work

- Being confident and competent

- Approaching sex like a Sports Scientist

- Skill acquisition and teaching sex hacks

- Educational porn

- Sexual feedback and calibrating to your partner

- Practical tips for better sex

Relevant links:

Kenneth’s Instagram: @kenneth_play

Kenneth’s Website: www.kennethplay.com

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Emily Claire. Emily is an erotic embodiment dance teacher and sacred sexuality and embodiment teacher, dedicated to inspiring people on their journeys toward integrating with themselves, their bodies and to the deepest part of themselves, their sexuality. She transitioned careers from a Lawyer to this work after being deeply inspired by the profound impact embodiment and sacred sexuality work had on her own life. Emily has mentored with the leading international and national experts in her field. She holds a wealth of knowledge in sexuality, sacred sexuality and neo Tantra, embodiment and dance as healing and is trauma informed. Emily has created Erotic Temple Dance, A 4 Week erotic embodiment journey into feminine sexuality archetypes which tours across South East Queensland, Australia, she facilitates group work in spiritual sexuality practice for men and women and she privately coaches people. The two of us talked about her offering for men, which she has called “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness.” We discussed our opinions about masculinity and femininity as well as what we think is needed in the world of men’s work.

Key Points:

- Emily shares about her journey from Law to Tantra

- Mentoring with John Wineland

- Healing your relationship with men

- A woman’s experience working with men

- Mix-gendered spaces: Learning from other genders

- “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness”

- What are men’s natural desires?

- Integrating the animal part of ourselves

- Masculine and Feminine Energy

- Fight, Flight, Freeze, Feed and Fuck

- Practical advice for men wanting to begin this work

Relevant links:

Emily’s Instagram: @an_erotic_heart

Emily’s Website: www.deepenembodiment.com

Quicky #25 comes from Season 2 Episode 11: #27 Sex with Herpes: Diagnosis to Disclosure (with Courtney Brame)

Today, I chat with Courtney Brame, the Founder and podcast host of Something Positive for Positive People. As a podcast, this serves as a hub of interviews with people living with genital herpes along with his own experiences navigating stigma from diagnosis to disclosure. As a nonprofit, SPFPP raises money to pay for people who are struggling with HSV stigma to receive therapy. After his own diagnosis in 2012, Courtney navigated the world identifying heavily with his diagnosis unconsciously as you'll hear more about in this episode. After finding community, all of his problems with dating and disclosure appeared to disappear. However, this made space for underlying concerns herpes had exposed. 1 was how many people despite having community and a space for finding love regardless of their HSV status wanting to end their lives. 2 was how true to himself he was able to be with these complete strangers who had one thing in common (knowing about his HSV status) versus how hidden he was with people who'd known him most of his life who did not know about his herpes status. We talk about living with herpes, from contracting the virus and receiving a diagnosis, to managing it, how it affects your masculinity and ultimately discussing it with and disclosing it to a partner.

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Danny Lakey. Originally from Western Australia and growing up in Perth, Danny started out doing casual music shifts at hit90.9 Sea FM Gold Coast and has also worked at hit 92.9 Perth and the breakfast shift at Star 106.3 in Townsville. He currently hosts The Danny Lakey Show, a national night time show on Triple M, which you can listen to from 7pm to 10pm weeknights across the country. Danny is a self-confessed pub quiz master and amateur comedian. The two of us talk about his experience with alcohol and sobriety, particularly as an Australian man in our drinking culture. We also talk about exploring altered states of consciousness with psychedelics and plant medicine. Lastly, we talk about sex and masculinity and how these two things have impacted and continue to impact Danny’s life.

Key Points:

- Danny shares about his career on radio

- Showing up authentically

- Australian men and our drinking culture

- Sobriety and masculinity

- Altered states of consciousness

- Experiencing the divine feminine

- Stigma about psychedelics and sex

- Combining sex with psychedelics

- Danny shares some advice

Relevant links:

Danny’s Instagram: @dannylakeyshow

Danny’s website: https://www.triplem.com.au/shows/the-danny-lakey-show

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Laurie Mintz, a Professor at the University of Florida where she teaches Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 55 academic works. She is the author of two popular press books—both with published studies demonstrating their effectiveness: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It  and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.  Mintz has a private practice, working with clients on general and sexual issues. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating that her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology.

Key points:

• Laurie introduces herself
• Eating disorders and sexuality
• Penis size anxiety
• Representations of the penis
• The importance of the clitoris
• Prioritizing pleasure with vibrators
• Men being invested in women’s pleasure
• Closing the orgasm gap

Relevant links:

Laurie’s Website: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ 

Laurie’s Instagram: @drlauriemintz 

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/ 

In this episode I chat with Harris O’Malley, a dating coach who provides geek dating advice at Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as on Kotaku and elsewhere. He and his work has been featured on Nightline, Vice, The Guardian, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Wired, Sex Nerd Sandra, Daily Life, Slate, The Austin-American Statesman, Austin Monthly, Geek and Sundry, Boing Boing, Everyday Feminism, Buzzfeed, The BBC, The New Yorker, The New York Post, The Daily Dot, The Washington Post, Kotaku, Lifehacker, NeilStrauss.com, The Good Man Project, MTV’s Guy Code, The Harvard Business Journal, and many others.

Key Points:

- Harris' journey from pick up artist to dating coach 

- Unlearning pick up artistry bullshit 

- The positive sides of the pick up artist community 

- Real dating advice for men 

- Having a healthy casual sex life 

- Models of masculinity 

- More practical advice

Relevant Links: 

- Harris' Twitter: @DrNerdLove 

- Harris' Instagram: @DrNerdLove 

- Harris' Facebook: facebook.com/groups/DrNerdLove

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, the manufacturer of Promescent. Born in Pittsburgh Pennsylvania, Jeff moved to California chasing the burgeoning semiconductor industry, where he opened a successful staffing agency and retired early to focus on his role as a single father after winning a $9.5M lawsuit against Hyundai for their illegal hiring practices. When family friend Dr. Ronald Gilbert asked for Jeff's business advice on his new product Promescent, Jeff immediately invested in the company after trying the product once. Brought on as Promescent CEO in early 2012, Jeff was charged with taking Promescent from a boutique brand one could purchase from a Doctor’s website to a global wellness company. Today, Jeff has placed the fan-favorite male delay spray in Target and consistently maintains the spot as one of Amazon’s highest-selling sexual wellness products. We talk about Promescent, men’s expectations of sex and the technology behind male genital desinsitizers, known as “delay sprays.”

Key Points

- Jeff shares about his journey with Promescent

- Talking openly about sex as an older man

- Men’s warped expectations about sex

- The need for sexual enhancement products

- Brief history of male genital desensitizers

- What sets Promescent apart from the competition?

- How does a “delay spray” work?

- What are the adverse effects?

- Emphasizing communication and pleasure

- The future of Promescent

Relevant links:

Jeff’s Twitter: @jeffabraham111

Jeff’s Instagram: @jeffabraham111

Today, I chat with Brenden Durell. Brenden is a former professional athlete turned life aficionado. He nudges people with laughter and inspiration so they can understand nirvana and live in every moment. Brenden also plays the game of life by being a Cacao & Breathwork Ceremonialist. He’s also a dedicated White Tantra student. His motto is “peace is the ultimate pleasure.” Brenden resides comfortably in his home, wishing he had a dog. The two of us spoke about the difference between masculine Men’s Work and feminine Men’s Work as well as how masculinity is linked to sexuality and what we can do as men to express but also regulate our emotions.

Key Points:

- Brenden shares a bit of his story

- What is Men’s Work?

- The difference between Men’s Work and Women’s Work

- “Masculine” Men’s Work and “Feminine” Men’s Work

- The intersection of masculinity and sexuality

- Sexuality as intimacy and vulnerability

- Oversharing and emotional instability

- Burdening your partner in a relationship

- Emotional expression and regulation

- Practical relationship advice

Relevant links:

Brenden’s Instagram: @innerlightwarrior

Brenden’s Website: www.brendendurell.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Moshe Weizman. Moshe is a certified men’s sex coach, specializing in Sexological Bodywork. Since 2018, has served as the catalyst for many men to discover more fulfilling sexual lives. Guiding them through overcoming insecurities, lasting longer, and unlocking mind-blowing full-body orgasms. His unique approach combines traditional Taoist sexual techniques, practiced for thousands of years, with modern Sexological Bodywork principles. Currently, Moshe offers regular 10-week sexual empowerment courses that can help you too cultivate a sex life that feels amazing and liberating.

Key points:

- Moshe introduces himself

- Incorporating energy practices into solo and partnered sex

- Exploring mindful masturbation practices

- Experiences with non-ejaculatory orgasms

- Scientific research on energetic practices

- Benefits of establishing a self-pleasure practice

Relevant links:

Moshe’s website: www.multiorgasmcoaching.com

Quicky #1 comes from Season 1, Episode 1: From Caveman to Multi-Orgasmic Man (with Nicolas Spadaccini)

On this episode, I chat with engineer, author, film maker and life-long student of all things Tantra, Nicolas Spadaccini. This clip is taken from Season 1, Episode 1. He dropped a lot of practical knowledge about male bodies and multiple orgasms. Nic has a refreshingly open way of talking about the not so talked about parts of our sexual bodies. In 2016, he started writing the soon to be released book entitled, "Penises & Vaginas - A Users Manual." It's a hand guide to the basics about our sexual bodies that are often overlooked in our modern world. I really resonate with Nic's approach to sexuality work and always gain valuable insights whenever I chat with him. 

Link to full episode: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/pUZlo0fh9ub 

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Samantha Zipporah returns to chat with. Samantha is a fertility, sex, & cycle educator, author, & activist with over 20 years of experience. She is devoted to breaking the spells of oppression in reproductive & sexual health through collective healing, liberation, & education. A former birth doula, she provides radical love for navigating the womb continuum & reclaiming ancestral wisdom. Sam’s unique praxis weaves a balance of scientific data & spiritual presence to offer knowledge & embodied wisdom for claiming inner authority, pleasure, & power in fertility, sex, & cycles. Sam provides vital education for everyone from professionals to preteens and inspires individuals to claim their power through body literacy & sovereignty. The two of us pick up where we left off from our previous conversation and talk about the parallels between ejaculation and ovulation, and how men can take responsibility for their ejaculation by learning about the energetics of ejaculation and practicing what I call conscious ejaculation.

Key points:

• Samantha reintroduces herself
• How do we reach men?
• Unexpected pregnancies in the Tantra community
• Conscious ejaculation/ovulation
• Fertility awareness and pleasure
• Presence and consent
• The energetics of ejaculation
• Connecting with ancient wisdom

Relevant links:

Samantha’s website: www.samanthazipporah.com

Samantha’s Facebook: facebook.com/samanthazipporah

Samantha’s Instagram: @samanthazipporah

From episode #46 with Georgia Grace.

More from that episode:

- Georgia shares about her work

- Being in a sex-positive bubble

- Managing boundaries and online harassment

- Innovative sex-tech and new products

- The Arcwave Ion and Pleasure Air™ Technology

- Changing the way men masturbate

- Using sex toys to enhance pleasure

- Outdated science about sexuality

- Updating understandings about male pleasure

- Cultivating your curiosity

Relevant links:

Georgia’s Instagram: @gspot._

From episode #49 with Johnathan White.

More from that episode:

- Johnathan shares about his teachings

- Creating your own personal practice

- Learning to listen to your body

- Your first non-ejaculatory ogasm

- Techniques for non-ejaculatory orgasms

- Mantak Chia’s “Million Dollar Point” technique

- Obsessing over and redefining orgasm

- The importance of non-sexual practices

- Semen retention and NoFap

- The energetics of ejaculation

- Conscious ejaculation vs semen retention

- Testicle breathing practice

Relevant Links:

Johnathan’s Instagram: @sexual.kungfu

Johnathan’s YouTube: Sexual Kung Fu

From episode #63 wit Betty Martin. More from that episode:

- Betty shares about her career

- The inception of The Wheel of Consent

- Giving/Receiving and Doing/Done-To

- The four quadrants

- The 3 Minute Game

- Learning how to take pleasure

- You can’t make someone surrender

- Practical advice for men using The Wheel

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Gold Coast based Sex Therapist, Relationship Counsellor, and Intimacy Coach Helena Nista. Helena is certified in sex therapy, somatic counselling and Tantra. She’s a mentor, author, speaker and lover. Helena is passionate about helping her clients become the best lovers they can possibly be, overcome any sexual difficulties and create amazing sex lives. She does it through 1-on-1 sex therapy & coaching, online courses, books, workshops and events. Helena’s 1-on-1 sessions are conducted internationally over Zoom. To date Helena has coached thousands of clients, done hundreds of sex therapy sessions, and her online programs have reached countless individuals all over the world. The two of us talk about the practical aspects of being a legendary lover, particularly for men who have sex with women.

Key Points:

• Helena introduces herself
• The foundations of good sex
• The importance of communication
• Speaking to your partner
• Tips for touching your partner
• Tips for oral sex
• Tips for penetrative sex
• More practical advice for men

Relevant links:

Helena’s website: www.helenanista.com

Helena’s Instagram: @helenanista

Helena’s YouTube: youtube.com/helenanista

Helena’s book: “Legendary Lover”

Quicky #36 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 8: #38 Parenthood and Modelling Healthy Sexuality (with Tamica Wilder)

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tamica Wilder, a somatic sex coach and muti qualified complimentary therapist with over a decade of group work, facilitation and coaching experience. Tamica leads with passion, embodied wisdom and playful curiosity in all that she does. She believes that our social and cultural narraitives aound sex and embodiment need a damn good shake it! - Never one to shy away from a challenge, she's committed to leading the charge. Tamica is a hand holder, a permission giver and a safe place to land for those serious about re-awakening their sexual spark and living a life lead by pleasure. We talk about Tamica’s work with men as well as the importance of creating safety for men to open up about their sexual concerns. We also discuss parenthood and modelling healthy sexuality for children.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sureya Leonara. Sureya is a Holistic Sex & Relationship Coach and Writer. She is on a mission to change the world through healing and liberating sexuality, the seed of our creation, in a way that permeates every area of our lives, not just the bedroom. With eloquence, depth, playfulness, unconventional insight, and penetrating intuition, she catalyses profound shifts in the lives of her clients and audiences.

Key points:

- Sureya introduces herself

- Expanding definitions of pleasure and somatic awareness

- Cultivating curiosity, experimentation, and a no-pressure approach to sex

- Supporting partners through mutual understanding and non-linear intimacy

- Addressing performance anxiety and the mind-body connection

Relevant links:

Sureya’s website: www.sureyaleonara.com

Sureya’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sureya_leonara

Sureya’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sureyaleonara

Sureya's free practice: https://blue-block-67264.myflodesk.com/nxsyaw1wyh

From episode #67 with Manu Paradiso. More from that episode:

- Manu shares about his story and his passion

- Discussing approaches to coaching men

- Personal sexual turning points

- The line between sexualization and objectification

- Having intention with sexual energy

- Being honest about your intentions

- Listening to your “Yes”

- Advice for men interested in this work

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Destin Gerek. Destin is a Certified Sexologist through The American College of Sexologists International. Destin is a globally recognized coach in masculinity, sexuality, and personal empowerment. He is the author of the best-selling book, The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs, and the One She Craves and the creator of the film Seductive Devotion. Destin hosts the podcast Diving Deep with Destin: Sex, Love, & Evolution.

Key points:

- Destin introduces himself

- Creating safe erotic spaces through consent and care

- Impact of mainstream porn on relationships and sex

- Transforming masculinity through self-mastery and care for women

- Working with high-achieving men through somatic sexology

Relevant links:

Destin’s website: https://destingerek.com/

Destin’s Instagram: @destingerek

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Danielle Bezalel, MPH, aka DB (she/her/hers). Danielle is the Creator, Executive Producer, and Host of the ⁠Sex Ed with DB⁠ podcast, a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. Danielle earned a Master of Public Health with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health from Columbia University. Danielle lives in Oakland, CA. Go to⁠ www.sexedwithdb.com⁠ to learn more about the podcast and get discounts on DB’s faves ⁠here⁠. You can listen to the podcast on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠,⁠ Spotify⁠, ⁠Soundcloud⁠, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Sex Ed with DB on⁠ TikTok⁠,⁠ Instagram⁠,⁠ Twitter⁠, and ⁠YouTube⁠.

Key points:

Introductions and background

Danielle introduces herself as a sex educator and podcast host, sharing her passion for providing medically accurate, pleasure-centered sex education. Cam shares that his wife is also a musician and has done work related to birth and postpartum.

Defining pleasure-centered sex education

Danielle and Cam discuss what it means to have a "pleasure-centered" approach to sex education, focusing on topics like birth control, STIs, LGBTQIA+ health, consent, and the physical and emotional aspects of sex. They emphasize the importance of using scientifically-backed, non-judgmental, and inclusive language.

Danielle's "Magic Wand" self-pleasure experiment

Danielle shares details about a self-experiment she conducted using a Magic Wand vibrator, tracking the impact on her health, mood, and sexual experience over three weeks. The results showed decreased stress and anxiety, more positive moods, and increased libido when using the Magic Wand daily.

Navigating public discussions about and intimacy

Cam and Danielle discuss the challenges of having public conversations about sex, particularly for men. They explore the differences in how men and women are typically portrayed when discussing their masturbation habits, and the importance of creating safe spaces for open, non-judgmental dialogue.

Closing thoughts and resources

Danielle shares some final wisdom about the importance of self-love and appreciation, and provides information about how to connect with her through her podcast, social media, and an upcoming workshop on building a profitable online education business.

Quicky #35 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 7: #37 The Stigma of Bisexuality & Polyamory (with Zachary Zane)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice. As a leading bisexual activist, Zachary has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months and also attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama). Zachary and I talk about the stigma bisexual men face and why mental health issues are greater among bisexual people. We also discussed the stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships, such as open relating and polyamory.

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I have the pleasure of chatting with Julieta Chiara. Julieta is sex blogger, entrepreneur, and sex toy fanatic. A digital sex nomad, she travels the world full time with her luggage full of sex toys, connecting with folks through her adventures and advocacy for female pleasure, exploring kink, sexual health, and reclaiming your power in pleasure, life, and business. She started her blog in 2017 as a compliment to her studies in human sexuality, and never looked back at a normal life. Working closely with adult brands and having multiple appearances as a writer, podcast guest, and interviewee, her passion has been connecting with her community. Julieta’s work extends far beyond her blog, which is her passion project. She is the CEO & founder of Chiara Collective, her digital media agency for adult brands. Helping position folks in the adult space for success, Julieta says it’s been an honor bringing sex toys to the mainstream. We talk about the sexuality industry and the available career paths. We also discuss what the Tantra community could learn from the BDSM community. We also share ways in which men can explore their sexually submissive and dominant sides.

Key points:

• Julieta shares some of her journey
  
• Sexuality related career pathways
  
• Discovering your authentic sexual self
  
• Sex industry expectations and assumptions
  
• Introducing kink and BDSM
  
• Male submission and surrender
  
• Male dominance and assertiveness
  
• Creating safety to sexually explore
  
• Experimenting with power play
  
• Tantra and Shibari
  

Relevant links

Julieta’s Website: www.julietachiara.com

Julieta’s Instagram: @julietachiara

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with anti-racism educator and American historian Kokayi Nosakhere. Since relocating to Southern Oregon in 2018, lifelong activist, Kokayi, has chosen to go on his healing journey, addressing the “on-going trauma of being Black in America.” A paradigm-shift on the American landscape is happening. It is happening while you and I are alive. You and I can choose to participate in helping the American populace walk towards greater humanity by committing yourself to modelling what a healed person looks like. This is the work at hand.

Key Points:

- Kokayi introduces himself

- The origin of Woke

- Racial and existential stress

- What is Critical Race Theory?

- 'Elite Capture': re-codifing language

- Anti-capitalism and decolonialism

- Advice for beginning your anti-racism journey

Relevant links:

Kokayi's email: royalstar907@gmail.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lucy Rowett, CSC CS ACS. Lucy is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for womxn to explore their full erotic potential. Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again. She is a resident on UK contraception platform, The Lowdown, and she is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including Men's Health, GQ, Kinkly, The O Diaries, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour. The two of us take a critical look at the sacred sexuality and Neo-Tantra community, addressing some of the things we’ve noticed, and sharing some practical ways for listeners to explore and embody their sexuality.

Key Points:

• Lucy introduces herself
• Conservatism and religion
• Casual sex vs hookup culture
• Polarity coaches
• New-Age to Alt-Right pipeline
• Heteronormativity
• Embodiment practices
• Relationship with pleasure

Relevant Links:

Lucy’s Website: https://lucyrowett.com/

Lucy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett

Lucy’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucyrowett

Lucy’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lucyrowettcsc

Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Celeste Moore. Celeste is an Image Consultant and a Dating Coach who helps midlife men who have been married to their careers or recently divorced and forgot how to date by providing discreet dating and image consulting to improve their appearance, relationships, and confidence. She helps them learn to navigate this crazy modern dating world we live in. She's also the host of The Down and Dirty Podcast, the show gets down and dirty every week as she talks about dating, love, sex, and pop culture. 

Key Points:

Celeste introduces herself

Confidence through appearance

Colour psychology and trustworthiness attire

Importance of grooming, dressing, and personal style

Evolving dating trends

Mock dates and first date manners

First date recommendations, meeting places, online dating insights

Relevant Links:

Celeste’s Instagram: @celestemooreimage

Celeste’s website: https://celestemoore.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lovehoney Director and Head of Operations in Australia, Rob Godwin. Rob is responsible for day-to-day commercial operations and performance, as well as growing the Lovehoney brand in Australia. Rob’s role at Lovehoney is diverse and encompasses creating, developing and implementing a multi-level business plan and strategy to ensure the successful operations of Lovehoney Australia, while accelerating its year-on-year growth. Rob manages a 30-strong team with four departmental heads, covering; customer service; warehousing and distribution; online trading; PR and marketing; finance; and buying. Rob established Lovehoney Australia in Queensland in September 2013 from his spare room with one staff member. Previously having run his own business, the Love Group, Rob successfully tendered the Fifty Shades of Grey license in association with the UK company, Lovehoney Ltd. The Fifty Shades of Grey range is now one of the companies most successful product lines. Rob’s career has been highly focused on implementing and overseeing strategies to drive revenue growth and raising the profile of the adult industry. After studying a Bachelor of Business Administration at Lancaster University, Rob moved into marketing and strategy and has worked his way up to CEO of Sexpo and Club X stores. Since starting Lovehoney Australia, he has been featured in international publications and was on the industry board for six years. He encourages his team to take pride in their work, recognising and celebrating their successes, as well as striving to drive the business forward. Outside of work Rob is a keen amateur boxer and marathon runner. The father of two likes yoga, and is a local junior football coach. The two of us talk about the history and future of Lovehoney and what it is like to be a leader for the world’s largest online adult toy retailer.

Key points:

• Rob shares about his humble beginnings
• What does “sexual happiness” mean?
• The stigma of running an adult toy company
• Inclusivity and diversity
• Recycling adult toys
• Changing the industry
• The cornerstone of a successful sex life
• The future of Lovehoney

Relevant links:

Lovehoney’s Instagram: @lovehoneyau

Lovehoney’s website: www.lovehoney.com.au

Cam’s Patreon: www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

New episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast. This time I chat with Devin Fredericksen about reframing our relationship with the earth, from Mother to Lover.

Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart centered path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. He specializes in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture, and is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer.

By weaving these elements together, Devin facilitates the process of living in harmonious relationship with ourselves. Devinembraces life with gratitude for every day because of the gift of this opportunity to live life NOW!

Key points:

- Devin's journey into his current work

- The difference between Mother Earth and Lover Earth

- Men's relationship with the feminine

- Harnessing sexual energy

- Celibacy and ejaculation

- Nature worship as sexual initiation

- Play and pleasure

Relevant links:

Devin's instagram: @devinfredericksen

From episode #62 with Julieta Chiara.

More from that episode:

- Julieta shares some of her journey

- Sexuality related career pathways

- Discovering your authentic sexual self

- Sex industry expectations and assumptions

- Introducing kink and BDSM

- Male submission and surrender

- Male dominance and assertiveness

- Creating safety to sexually explore

- Experimenting with power play

- Tantra and Shibari

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Sex Goddess and Master Manifestor, Parish Blair. Parish has studied psychoneuroimmunology and practices a variety of healing modalities for over 25 years, with dramatic results of synergy between the mind, body and spirit. As well as offering unique one-on-one sessions, such as Sensual Synergy and Orgasmic Gratitude Meditation, Parish also delivers international presentations, such as ‘Look At What My Pussy Can Do’ and ‘How To Give A BJ With A Heart Full Of Gratitude’. She is also the executive producer of Sexy Spirit TV and the creator of the Parish Blair Love Affair Tour Documentary, which features open lifestyle, swingers and polyamorous couples from 20+ cities in 20+ international destinations with the intention to release judgement and preconceived ideas about our human family.

Key Points:

- Parish shares about her near death experience

- Intuitively following guidance to do this work

- Men think more about their partner’s pleasure

- Who is responsible for your pleasure?

- Unhealthily using sex as a reward

- Expressing feminine energy online

- “Be as juicy as you want her to be”

- Men’s scarcity mindset about sex

- Steps for Orgasmic Gratitude Meditation.

Relevant links:

Parish’s Instagram: @SexySpiritTV @ManifestingLifestyle @GoodSexSelfiesAndSuccess

Parish’s Website: ParishBlair.com

Quicky #24 comes from Season 2, Episode 10: #26 Penis Size: Working With What You've Got (with Lahnee Pavlovich)

On episode 26, I chat with Lahnee Pavlovich. Lahnee is a Sex Educator, Lifestyle Coach and a Sex Positive Journalist. She has made a name for herself as the go-to-woman for a modern approach to sexuality & well-being, bringing you not only her expertise, but connecting you to epic humans and ideas through her various channels. This Aussie based Mum Lady, Word Wizz, Coach, Influencer and Sexual Badass found her passion helping couples, women and men live better, more fulfilling lives in and out of the bedroom by embracing a sense of overall well-being & learning to push the boundaries of what's considered "normal". Lahnee's mission is to get down and dirty to challenge society’s views on sexuality, body image & anything else people don't like talking about. Through connecting the dots between emotional, spiritual, social, intellectual, physical, and sexual well-being, Lahnee inspires others to live a better, more fulfilled, nourishing and 'turned-on’ life. We talk about her new offering, Rate Your Rooster, where Lahnee invites men to send her dick pics - for a fee! - and she provides them with a report with advice and tips about how to best use their penis.

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Nick Perry. Nick is a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, Corrective Exercise Specialist and Men’s Work Facilitator who is passionate and driven by authentic relating and inspired living. Nick’s education in Holistic Lifestyle Coaching draws from personal mentoring and learning from some of the world’s leading healers, facilitators and physical therapists. For the last decade he has immersed himself in study and experimentation, acquiring qualifications across a broad range of modalities. Over the last few years his reach in the world has spread far, as he shares his knowledge, experience and personal story through podcasts, workshops and teachings in his mentorship program. Known for his deep presence, relatability and down-to-earth nature, Nick’s goal when working with clients is to leave them feeling empowered and aligned in themselves - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. 

Key points:

• Nick shares about his work
• Fatherhood and processing emotions
• “I’m not enough”: Self-worth stories
• Relearning about sex and pleasure
• Pleasure is weakness?
• Catalysts for transformation
• Listening to your body
• Supporting other men
• Role models

Relevant links:

Nick’s Instagram: @rhythmhealth

Nick’s website: https://www.rhythmhealth.com.au/about