Maybe Someday (Sarah Dobson)
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| 13 Jun 2019 | Refusing to repeat the past (with Veronica Armstrong) | 00:47:46 | |
Veronica Armstrong has a complex and painful family history. That history played an important role in her decision not to have children of her own. In this episode Veronica opens up about how her past influenced her choices to nurture and set an example as an auntie. Follow Maybe Someday on Instagram Support the podcast by becoming a patron
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| 01 Aug 2019 | Reflection: Am I really childfree? | 00:05:48 | |
The focus for this season of the podcast has mostly been on stories about being childfree by choice. I’ve put myself in the childfree by choice camp because I’ve decided not to conceive a child or to raise one. But I always feel a bit uncomfortable talking about being childfree because I don’t know that I am, exactly. But I don’t feel that I have a kid, either. Tune in this week to hear more about my own journey with stepmotherhood. | |||
| 19 Sep 2019 | Quirkyalone and childfree (with Sasha Cagen) | 00:49:19 | |
In 2004, Sasha Cagen wrote a book called Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics, based on a term she’d created to describe people who are comfortable being single but who want to be in a relationship and won’t settle for something (or someone) that doesn’t allow them to be who they truly are. I first found Quirkyalone probably 10 years ago, and like most people who are drawn to Sasha’s book, I felt like someone finally understood me. So having Sasha on the show meant a lot to me. 15 years after publication, Sasha opened up about her perspective on quirkyalone now, and how it relates to choosing to become a mother. We also talk about wisftulness about having children, confronting our fertility expiration date, climate change, and not settling for anything less than what you truly want. | |||
| 27 Sep 2018 | Reflection: Am I Enough? | 00:05:19 | |
Sarah reflects on her follow-up conversation with Myriam and what it brought up for her around making life-changing decisions. | |||
| 30 May 2019 | Taking charge of your own destiny (with Meng Wang) | 00:57:13 | |
Meng Wang gave up her steady, comfortable dental practice in the city to work in the Australian outback. She travels long distances by road and air to visit remote communities in North Western Queensland, where she provides dental services to people in need. Meng has interned and volunteered as a dentist in 5 different countries, and she loves to travel off the beaten path. In 2018, after ten years of suffering, Meng was successfully treated for endometriosis. The procedure that would put an end to her pain meant that she wouldn’t be able to get pregnant in the future. So, she electively chose to be sterilised at the age of 29. The procedure drastically improved her quality of life , and she hasn’t looked back. But she had to fight to be able to get it done. Hang out with me on Instagram! Become a patron of the show and join the Maybe Someday community
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| 25 Jul 2019 | Going all in with your bonus kids (with Patricia Qhobela Jenkins) | 00:55:49 | |
Patricia Qhobela Jenkins always knew she didn’t want to have biological kids. When she met and married her husband, she got two “bonus” kids in their teens. On this episode, Patricia talks about what it was like for her to become a parent to those two kids and to be all in. I very selfishly treated this as an opportunity to get advice from someone who’s been where I am now. If you're a step-parent yourself, I think you'll love this conversation, too. | |||
| 18 Jul 2019 | Defending your childfree life (with Jennifer Rogers) | 00:48:58 | |
Jennifer Rogers never felt that ticking biological clock. So she and her husband (who also doesn’t want kids) decided to focus their love on their four rescue dogs, their nieces and nephews, and their friends’ kids. On this episode, she shares a lot of hard-won wisdom about what it’s like to step outside of the mainstream, what it’s like to challenge the belief of “that’s just the way things are” and really stop to think for a minute about what you want and why you want it.
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| 29 Aug 2019 | Reflection: How I learned to trust myself | 00:05:47 | |
These last few episodes have got me thinking about listening to your intuition, trusting your gut, and following your own path. I used to believe that I didn’t really have much of a sense of intuition-that all my decisions could be made with logic and deliberation and pro and con lists. But that was a long time ago. And I was dead wrong. This week on the show, I'm sharing how I learned to trust myself. I hope this helps you to trust yourself, too. So that when the decisions comes to keep on going, or to make your own path, you'll choose the latter. | |||
| 12 Sep 2019 | Enthusiastically childfree (with Laura Belgray) | 00:53:36 | |
Laura Belgray (yes, THAT Laura Belgray) has a very happy life without kids. But she spent a long time on the fence deciding whether to have them—she wanted to want kids, but she just didn’t. Laura noticed that there weren’t a lot of examples of women who were living full, rich, happy lives without kids (except for, um, Helen Mirren), which made imagining a happy childfree life a lot harder. (Although Helen Mirren is a pretty great role model tbh) So, Laura ended up becoming her own example of how to live a fun, happy life without kids. Laura dishes about Grade 6 bullies, growing up in NYC, and agonizing about whether to have kids. Oh yeah, and she talks about what inspired her super-popular Mother's Day article on Medium. If you've followed Laura for a while, I think you'll hear a few new stories. Grab your headphones! | |||
| 28 Jun 2018 | Discovering What's Essential (with Jen Riday) | 00:53:36 | |
Jen Riday is a mother of six. She has a PhD in in human development and family studies, and runs an online business helping women heal their hearts and build self love. In this wide-ranging conversation, Jen shares how raising her children has helped her discover what’s essential. Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday Learn more about Jen Riday and her very popular Vibrant Happy Women podcast: www.jenriday.com Listen to Sarah's interview on the Vibrant Happy Women podcast.
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| 13 Sep 2018 | Reflection: The Disappointment of Strangers | 00:05:33 | |
In this episode, Sarah reflects on her conversation with Maggie Reyes and what it means to be childfree by choice. | |||
| 23 Aug 2019 | Living life to the fullest (with Briena Sash) | 01:00:10 | |
Usually, when people talk about living life to the fullest, they mean having adventures and maximizing every moment for excitement. But I think living life to the fullest actually means having the freedom to go where life asks you to go and letting yourself experience the full range of human emotions—not just the pleasant parts. Join Briena Sash, owner of Wellness Stock Shop, and I this week as we talk about how she lives life to the fullest and how her decision not to have children has played into this. Enjoy! | |||
| 06 Jun 2019 | Reflection: Please believe me | 00:08:38 | |
Sarah talks about a recent experience in the medical system, what it's like to live with a rare and progressive genetic disease, and how it feels to have your pain dismissed.
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| 23 May 2019 | Healing difficult relationships (with Karen CL Anderson) | 00:45:42 | |
Karen Anderson doesn’t remember a time that she ever wanted to have children. She just assumed she'd have them anyway. She thought she’d go to college, meet a guy, get married, and have kids. Cause that’s what you do, right? When she had an unwanted pregnancy in her senior year of college, she decided to have an abortion. Karen is now 56 and has been married for 21 years to a man who has three (now adult) children. When she met her now-husband and fell in love with him, it was such a relief for her to learn that he didn’t want more kids. Karen reached out to me by telling me than in the years since her abortion she has explored, deeply and on many levels, the hows and whys of who she is and why she didn't want to have children. Part of that exploration led her to healing her relationship with her "difficult" mother (and writing a book about it, for other women who have difficult relationships with their mothers). And it led her to explore and to write about the truth of her relationship with her husband's ex-wife (and the mother of his children) who died nearly five years ago (her essay was published in oprahmag.com in January). I wanted to talk to Karen about deciding not to have biological children, about being a stepmother, and about her work on difficult mother-daughter relationships (and other difficult relationships). ******* Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday Follow Maybe Someday on Instagram: www.instagram.com/maybesomedayshow Learn more about Karen: https://www.kclanderson.com/ Full episode notes and details: www.maybesomedaypodcast.com/episodes/2019/healing-difficult-relationships | |||
| 12 Jul 2018 | Guiding a Child's Becoming (with Nicole Gulotta) | 00:48:23 | |
Nicole Gulotta is a writer based in Los Angeles. There’s a myth that creative types, writers especially, are solitary creatures with vast amounts of time available to devote to their calling. Most of us need to juggle family and career and life on top of our creative work. Nicole understands this better than most - she writes and promotes her books while raising her young son. And she shares her wisdom about making time for writing by teaching how to ‘write in the margins’—in other words, how to make the time for creative work in the small spaces we have in our day. In this episode, Sarah finds out how Nicole makes space for her writing during this season in her life. Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday Visit Nicole's blog at: www.eatthispoem.com
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| 11 Jul 2019 | Changing your mind about having kids (with Tia Johnson) | 00:39:16 | |
Tia Johnson grew up spending a lot of time with her grandmother and step-grandfather. When they died, Tia went through a period of deep grief and transformation. Tia’s spiritual journey after the death of her grandparents helped her to redefine herself, her life, and her outlook on having children. Tia used to second guess becoming a mom because of how unsafe the world is. But after a lot of reflection and a lot of talking with people she trusts, she has changed her mind. She’s decided that in spite of all that, she does want children. Now, she juggles a full-time job, running a business, and getting back into the dating scene. | |||
| 14 Jun 2018 | Catalogue Baby (with Myriam Steinberg) | 00:35:12 | |
Myriam Steinberg is a writer based in Vancouver, BC. Myriam's in her forties and she's been trying to have a baby on her own for the last five years. She’s documenting her experience in a graphic novel called Catalogue Baby. Sarah talks to Myriam about the decision to conceive a child as a single woman in her forties, and what it's been like for her. Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday Learn more about Myriam's work at www.cataloguebabynovel.com Follow Myriam on Instagram at www.instagram.com/catalogue_baby
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| 18 Oct 2018 | Many paths to motherhood (with Sonja Overhiser) | 00:40:19 | |
When Sonja Overhiser was diagnosed with a rare hereditary form of leukemia in her mid-twenties, she and her husband Alex had to rethink their plans for starting a family. In this episode Sonja and I talk about the different paths to motherhood and the choices we make to create our family. She shares the story of adopting of her son. | |||
| 06 Sep 2018 | Childfree by choice (with Maggie Reyes) | 00:48:31 | |
When Maggie Reyes got married, she and her husband both assumed that they’d start a family eventually. But every time they checked in with one another, the answer, for both of them, was ‘not yet’. Eventually they realized that their marriage would not include children. In this episode Maggie talks about her experience of being child-free and how it has changed her relationships with the people in her life.
Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday You can learn more about Maggie and her coaching work by visiting www.modernmarried.com
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| 04 Jul 2019 | Reflection: Will I regret not having kids? | 00:06:52 | |
Sarah reflects on the conversations she's had recently about mixed feelings and potential regret around not having kids. Ambivalence doesn't have to mean that you're indecisive. It means that you're thoughtful and introspective about how you want to live your life. | |||
| 20 Jun 2019 | Facing your fertility expiration date (with Leslie Cason) | 00:49:24 | |
Leslie Cason is getting close to her “fertility expiration date”, as she calls it, but she hasn’t spent a lot of time thinking about it - until now. Our conversation explored ambivalence, grief, legacy, and restlessness towards the end of our fertile years. Leslie is at the point in her life where she feels the clock running out, but she doesn’t want kids badly enough to have them on her own. Still, she struggles with the idea that one day this decision won’t be hers to make. | |||
| 19 Dec 2019 | Reflection: This is it | 00:06:00 | |
A couple of months ago I went back and listened to the very first episode of this podcast. I wanted to remind myself of what it felt like to be at that starting point 18 months ago, realizing that I’ll never be somebody’s mother. Honestly, I was surprised at how emotional it all was. So today, join me for a final reflection that brings season 2 to a close. And if you’ve been a part of Maybe Someday’s story, thank you. | |||
| 26 Jul 2018 | Little Corners (with Tammy Cannon) | 01:00:03 | |
Tammy Cannon lives near Seattle, WA with her husband and three teens. In the early days, she was at home with her three children, who were all under the age of three. I wanted to talk to Tammy about the expectations she had for herself as she shifted from working at a job she loved to being at home with three young kids. She talks openly about the little corners of herself that feel like mothering might have gone differently for her in the beginning. Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday | |||
| 19 Jul 2018 | Reflection: Guides and Witnesses | 00:06:37 | |
Sarah reflects on Nicole's observation (Episode 3: Guiding a Child's Becoming), what it meant to her growing up, and what it means to her now. | |||
| 26 Sep 2019 | Surviving combat wounds and infertility (with Casey Jourdan) | 01:01:36 | |
Truly, in my eyes, every single one of my guests is extraordinary. But I have to tell you that Casey Jourdan, my guest this week, is remarkable. At just 17 years old, she enlisted in the military. After graduating high school, she was deployed to Baghdad at the beginning of the Iraq war. Years later, she and her husband went through round after round of IVF. On this episode we discuss surviving combat wounds and infertility. Casey is truly a fighter. If you’re trying to conceive or if you’re childfree, but not by choice, then I can’t recommend this episode enough. | |||
| 10 May 2018 | I'll never be somebody's mother | 00:14:31 | |
Sarah always imagined that she'd have children of her own. But, you know, maybe someday. Now, at 37, she's in a relationship with someone who already has a kid and doesn't want more. So she has to decide what she wants: stay in the relationship (and develop a bond with someone else's kid), or leave to have a baby of her own. | |||
| 21 Jun 2018 | Reflection: The Ghost Ship | 00:05:40 | |
How do we know what we'll regret? Sarah reflects on her conversation with Myriam Steinberg. Listen to Sarah's conversation with Myriam (Catalogue Baby): http://bit.ly/MaybeSomedayEp1 Read the original Dear Sugar essay: http://bit.ly/DearSugarGhostShip Have something to say? Get in touch: Email: sarah@maybesomedaypodast.com Instagram: @maybesomedayshow Facebook: @maybesomedayshow | |||
| 21 Nov 2019 | Should a childfree life be everyone's goal? (with Rosie Tran) | 01:02:38 | |
If you’ve been around here for a while, you’ll know that I’m a big believer in celebrating everyone’s choices, no matter what they are. As long as you’re comfortable with your decision, or comfortable living with the question for a while, I’ll cheer you on. So when Rosie Tran reached out to me to pitch a discussion about why being childfree should be everyone’s goal, I hesitated. My gut reaction was to be really skeptical and uncertain that this was the right kind of conversation for the show. But my curiosity won out, and we had a fascinating conversation. | |||
| 30 Aug 2018 | Devotion (with Carol Egan) | 00:45:06 | |
In small-town Connecticut in the late 1970s, Carol Egan got pregnant—quite unexpectedly—at 18. In this episode Carol describes her experience being sent away to a home for unwed mothers to give birth, being forced to give up her child and fighting to get him back, and raising her son as a young single mother. Become a patron of the podcast and join the Maybe Someday community: www.patreon.com/maybesomeday Learn more about Carol by visiting www.carol-egan.com | |||
| 08 Aug 2019 | Trusting your intuition (with Melanie Scott) | 00:50:14 | |
Melanie Scott, the Intuitive Business Strategist, is my guest this week. She takes a spiritual and intuitive approach to being childfree by choice (and really, to making any life decisions). I think this is an important topic for us to cover on the show. Over the last year, I have started tuning into my intuition and paying attention to how my thoughts affect my mood and it has truly improved my life. This ended up being such a rich and wonderful conversation about dealing with difficult feelings, trusting your gut, and following your heart, I invite you to join us. | |||
| 31 May 2018 | Reflection: Who Am I? | 00:05:19 | |
If I'm not a mother, who am I? In this preview of the Reflection episodes, Sarah talks about the questions that led her to create the show. You can find all the episodes of Maybe Someday at www.maybesomedaypodcast.com Want to support the show by leaving an iTunes review? (It's a huge help!) Here's how to do it: http://bit.ly/ReviewMaybeSomeday | |||
| 25 Oct 2018 | My So-Called Selfish Life (with Therese Shechter) | 00:52:14 | |
Therese Shechter is a documentary filmmaker based in Brooklyn. Her latest project is My So-Called Selfish Life, a feature-length documentary about choosing not to have children in a society where motherhood feels mandatory. Find out more about the film at: myselfishlife.com | |||
| 15 Aug 2019 | Honoring yourself (with Satya Purna) | 00:50:55 | |
Like many of the guests I’ve spoken with this season, Satya Purna knew she didn’t want to have kids. What she did know was that she wanted to be her own boss. So that’s what she set out to do. This was such a rich discussion about honoring yourself and honoring what makes you come alive, following your gut, and thinking critically about the stories you hear—from yourself and from the world around you.
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| 05 Jul 2018 | Reflection: The Voice In Your Head | 00:03:24 | |
All of us—mothers and non-mothers—have that voice in our head asking, "Am I good enough?" It's a question about worthiness, but it’s also a question about our place in the world. In this episode, Sarah reflects on what that question is really about. | |||
| 27 Jun 2019 | Grappling with ambivalence (with Sara Hopkins) | 01:02:08 | |
Sara Hopkins is ambivalent about having kids. She's decided that she won't have them, but she still struggles with the choice. She wonders why her ambivalence keeps showing up, she wonders what to do about her ticking biological clock, and she wonders whether she might be missing out on "the greatest love of all." In this wide-ranging conversation, Sara and I talk about ambivalence, loss, friendships, intuition, and creativity. Support the show: become a patron | |||
| 16 May 2019 | Queering parenthood (with Bon Jon) | 01:00:53 | |
Bon Jon is a self-described queer feral cat. A few weeks ago, in a hot, cramped sound booth at the Vancouver Public Library, I sat down with Bon for a long conversation about gender, parenthood, and family. Bon identifies as genderqueer and goes by the pronouns they/their/theirs. I asked Bon to share some of their insights about gender and parenthood, family, and being childfree by choice—but as you’ll hear - Bon is a natural interviewer and they pretty much ended up interviewing me. What I loved so much about our conversation, beyond Bon’s gentle, insightful approach to queering parenthood, is that it was a great reflection on the first season of Maybe Someday and helps set the stage for our new season. You can find Bon over on Instagram (@bonnbury). They just released a new podcast called Gender Blender (#genderblenderpodcast) - look it up! It's amazing. www.maybesomedaypodcast.com/episodes/2019/queering-parenthood | |||
| 05 Dec 2019 | Choosing the life you already have (with Kerry Graham) | 00:48:08 | |
Earlier this year Kerry Graham published an article on HuffPost called: No, I Don’t Want To Have Kids And I’m Tired Of Having To Explain Why Not. Kerry reached out to me not long after she published the article, because she had a lot more to say about deciding not to have kids. We talked about how Kerry handled ambivalence about being childfree, and how she decided that she didn’t want to have kids. We also talked about her two big passions, teaching and writing, and how those passions led her to choose the life she already had. | |||
| 05 Sep 2019 | Childfree for the climate (with Rachael Levasseur) | 00:52:25 | |
I get scared sometimes about the state of the world. No matter which way I turn there’s hate and turmoil and corruption and climate disasters. It makes me think about what it must be like to bring a child into this moment in history. I think about the children in my life who are living through it, and I wonder what their future will look like. I wonder if there will be anything left for them. So, this week on the show I chat with Rachael Levasseur about choosing not to bring a child into a bleak future. This topic doesn’t get nearly enough attention in the conversation around being childfree.
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| 14 Nov 2019 | Looking back on your choices (with Antonia Banewicz) | 00:45:03 | |
When I talk to people who are grappling with the decision not to have a kid, one of the worries I hear most often is about whether they’ll regret the decision when they get older. Will they feel they missed out on something? Who’ll look after them? What will their legacy be? Because most of the conversations I have on this show are with people whose ‘fertility expiration date’ hasn’t yet passed, this isn’t a topic that we’ve covered in much depth. Except ,of course, as a hypothetical. So for today’s episode I’m introducing you to Antonia Banewicz. Antonia shares the story of her unconventional upbringing, trying to make it as an actor in New York, and the choices she made about having kids. Now that Antonia’s in her sixties, she shares what it’s like to look back on those choices. | |||
| 09 May 2019 | Season 2 preview | 00:03:07 | |
The second season of Maybe Someday launches on May 16, 2019. Sarah talks about what you can expect from Season 2.
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| 12 Dec 2019 | Getting unstuck (with Bianetth Valdez) | 00:47:22 | |
Bianetth Valdez was born and raised in Texas, straddling two cultures. As a Latina, she grew up believing that being a mother was what was expected of her, and she didn’t give it a second thought. But when she turned 25 she started to encounter women who were living fulfilling lives without kids, and she started questioning what she wanted for herself. I loved hearing her unique perspective and think you will, too. | |||
| 01 Nov 2018 | Reflection: A Part-Time Someone | 00:08:48 | |
In this final episode of Season One, Sarah reflects on her relationship with her boyfriend's daughter. Learn more about all this season's episodes at: www.maybesomedaypodcast.com/episodes | |||
| 20 Sep 2018 | Catalogue Baby Part 2 (with Myriam Steinberg) | 00:38:20 | |
Sarah catches up with Myriam Steinberg from Episode 1: Catalogue Baby. Myriam reveals some surprising news! To hear Episode 1, visit: http://bit.ly/MaybeSomedayEp1 For more information about Myriam, visit www.cataloguebabynovel.com
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