Love Beyond Limits (Desire and Purity)

In this episode, we delve into the sometimes murky waters of dating and kink, exploring stories like Purity’s and Desire’s, where romantic dates unexpectedly turned into encounters with fetishists looking for free thrills. Discover the lengths some go to promise kinks without commitment and learn to spot the red flags that signal someone’s true intentions. We’ll share practical tips to safeguard yourself against hookup and kink hunters, ensuring your dating experiences align with what you truly seek. Join us as we navigate the complexities of intimacy and desire in today’s dating landscape.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Purity's tale: Getting played by a fetishist for free kinks
• Desire's journey: Romantic dates that turned into random hookups
• The crazy extents people go to for free kinks - only giving empty promises
• Red flags your date just wants hookups and kinks - even if they say they want a relationship
• Top tips to guard yourself against hookup and kink hunters

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. When what they say and what they do don't match up, it's a huge red flag. If they're always making promises but never delivering, they're likely stringing you along for their own benefit.
2. New to the scene? Be careful. If you’re just starting out and don’t have much experience, you’re more likely to get taken advantage of. Connect with people who’ve been around longer—they can give you tips and tell you who to watch out for.
3. Trust your gut. If it feels like you're putting in all the effort and your partner isn’t meeting your needs, don’t make excuses for them. Just walk away.

Wondering where to meet polyamorous people?

Now you've had the conversation, opened your relationship, or simply decided solo poly is your ideal relationship style, how do you go about finding potential partners?

Since coming out as poly, our host Desire has tried all the dating apps from the kinky ones like Feeld to the more vanilla ones like Hinge. She's even hit up social meets for poly people. So, which one actually helped Desire find her partners? You'll have to tune in to find out!

From the perks of online dating (Desire's a big fan!) to the best apps for finding both romantic connections and kinky hookups, we've got you covered. And hey, ever wondered if you can stumble upon poly people on regular apps like Bumble and Hinge? We're tackling that too!

IN THIS EPISODE

• The advantages of online dating for polyamorous people and why Desire prefers it to meeting people in person.
• The best online dating app for meeting polyamorous people who want a romantic relationship - this is where Desire met her two partners.
• The best online dating apps for meeting polyamorous people for kinky relationships - and what to be wary about.
• Can you meet polyamorous people on vanilla dating apps, like Bumble and Hinge?
• Where to meet polyamorous people in person - best events and practices.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Figure out what kind of polyamorous relationship you're looking for. Some apps and hangouts are all about finding partners for serious, romantic connections, while others are more about exploring kinks and having fun hookups.
2. When you're chatting with people on dating apps, asking the right questions helps you figure out if they're a good match. It's like a filter that boosts your chances of meeting awesome people and having really great dates.
3. Meeting folks in real life is awesome for seeing if there's a spark, but online dating has its own advantages. It gives you a comfy space to talk about stuff that might be awkward in public. That way, when you meet up, you're already on the same page about your lifestyle and what you're looking for in a relationship.

LINKS

OK Cupid: https://www.okcupid.com/

We Are X: https://wearexapp.com/

Feeld: https://feeld.co/

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Picture this: you're engrossed in a conversation with someone you're considering as a potential polyamorous partner. The chemistry is palpable, and everything seems to be falling into place until you realize you're not looking for the same things in a relationship.

It's a frustrating scenario, but fear not – in this episode, we're tackling this common dating dilemma head-on. We'll delve into the intricacies of vetting potential poly partners, helping you figure out whether your relationship goals align with theirs.

From discussing relationship dynamics and communication styles to addressing concerns about emotional availability and commitment, we'll cover all the essential topics you need to consider when navigating the poly dating scene.

Whether you're new to polyamory or a seasoned veteran, this episode will provide valuable insights and strategies for finding the right match in the polyamorous community.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The right questions to ask to find out if you want the same things from a polyamorous relationship.
• The #1 red flag message that lets you know the person you're talking to is not interested in a relationship.
• Warning signs a potential partner is trying to groom you into something you don't want.
• How to tell straight away when a potential partner is emotionally unavailable for a relationship.
• Is a recent breakup a sign a person isn't ready for a new relationship?
• The 5 types of people you should be wary of starting a new relationship with.
• Should you get involved with people who have "NSA" or "No drama" on their dating profiles?

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Don't hold back from asking questions about their journey with polyamory and their other partners. If someone is authentically polyamorous and open-minded, they'll likely be happy to share their personal stories and reflections with you.
2. If you're chatting with someone who's new to polyamory, ask them what got them interested and how much they know about it. Whether they've been flipping through "The Ethical Slut" or chatting with poly friends, you want folks who really get it and aren't buying into the usual stereotypes.
3. Building a successful polyamorous relationship requires more than just shared interests and lifestyle preferences; it requires a strong emotional bond where both partners feel understood, respected, and cared for.

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Setting up a dating profile that stands out in the poly and kinky communities?

Now, while looks are important, they're not the be-all and end-all. There’s something else that significantly influences swipe rates. And speaking of swiping, let’s talk about those subtle red flags in pictures that might be sending potential matches left instead of right.

When it comes to your bio, there are some common pitfalls that could be stopping you from getting matches. Don't worry, though, we'll also share three key things you can add to your bio to draw in a high-quality partner, even if you’re struggling with what to say.

Finally, we’ll help you perfect the "What I'm looking for" section to ensure you attract exactly the right kind of partner for your adventures. Ready to revamp your profile? Let’s get into the nitty-gritty of creating a dating profile that's truly irresistible.

IN THIS EPISODE

• How to pick the right pictures for your dating profile.
• How many pictures should you have on your dating profile?
• Do looks matter? (Hint, not as much as this one thing)
• Red flags in pictures - the subtle signs that make your potential match swipe left.
• Is filtering your pictures cheating (and the right way to do it)?
• Should you include sexy pictures in your dating profile?
• Is it ok to include pictures of other people in your dating profile?
• The number one picture hack to get more matches swipe right.
• The most common mistake people make in their bio that stops them from getting matches
• 3 things to write in your bio to attract a high quality partner - even if you don't know what to say
• How to fill in the "What I'm looking for" section, so you can attract partners that are the right match for you

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Be honest. Don't be afraid to share your dealbreakers and what you're looking for in a relationship. You'll save yourself time (and money, if you're paying for the date) and only match with people who are the best fit for you.
2. Grooming is more important than looks. Who wants to go on a date with someone who looks like he couldn't be bothered to take a shower when taking his profile picture?
3. When writing your bio, ask yourself: what do I want people to know about me? Add a curious fun fact to pique interest.

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Desire had high hopes for her date with the man she met online. Their virtual connection sizzled with anticipation, promising an evening filled with excitement and potential fireworks. But as the night unfolded, what started as a promising encounter quickly took a turn for the uncomfortable.

In this episode, we're diving deep into Desire's date disaster. We'll chat about how men and women see online connections differently. See, while men might think it's all smooth sailing from the dating app to an in-person date, ladies are more cautious. They're all about feeling safe and comfortable and taking things slowly.

We'll also talk about the importance of respecting boundaries. Sometimes, even the nicest gestures can come off all wrong, leaving the other person feeling weird and uncomfortable. Plus, we'll touch on the whole mixed signals thing. When a woman's feeling scared or uneasy, she might send out some mixed vibes as a defense mechanism.

So, if you're keen to hear about the highs and lows of modern dating, buckle up. We're diving into the wild world of online connections, decoding mixed signals, and figuring out how to keep things chill on a date.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Desire shares how she met her date and the sensual connection they developed online - will it lead to fireworks in person?
• How women think of a sizzling online connection VS how men think about it - and how this key difference leads to mixed expectations on a first date.
• Is it ever a good idea to break your dating rules before a date?
• How a nice gesture can create a bad first impression that's almost impossible to recover from - and how to avoid making this mistake.
• How to get out of something you don't want to do on a date in a polite and safe way.
• How a woman behaves when the freeze fear response is triggered on a date - and the mixed signals it sends to her date.
• The secret reason a woman kisses a man she never wants to see again on a first date - and how to tell if the kiss was real or not.
• What to do when your date keeps violating your boundaries: honest mistake or gigantic red flag?
• What Desire's date could have done differently to create an excited evening that would have gotten her eager to play.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. We've all been there - the online convo's popping, you're thinking you've found your soulmate, and then bam! You meet up, and it's like, "Wait, where did all the vibes go?" Yeah, it happens. Here's the deal: no matter how awesome the online connection feels, meeting in person is a whole new game. So, take it easy, keep it chill, and remember, it's basically a first-time encounter.
2. Sex happens in a safe and fun environment . If you're meeting a new lady, hold off on ordering that drink until she arrives. Even the sweetest gestures can feel off if you're jumping the gun on those essential safety precautions.
3. If a woman refuses a drink, puts her coat between you, or asks to slow down, it's a clear sign she's not comfortable. Ignoring these boundaries means there's no turning back.

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So, Purity hit up Amsterdam's Red Light District, and let me tell you, it was a trip. Ever wonder if a solo gal can actually hire a prostitute there? Purity's got the scoop, plus some wild stories about giving unsolicited business tips to pimps and getting mistaken for one of the local working girls. It's all in a day's (or night's) adventure when you're exploring solo in Amsterdam's most buzzing neighborhood.

But wait, there's more. Purity didn't stop there; she checked out the Prostitution Museum and let's just say, there were some eye-openers. However, the Sex Museum? Kind of a letdown for her. And because it's Amsterdam, there were also some left-field observations about everything from pubic hair trends to why crepes are ridiculously expensive. Purity's take on Amsterdam? It's wild, weird, and totally worth the wander.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What Purity did in the red district.
• Is it possible for a single woman to hire a prostitute in the red district?
• Giving business advice to pimps, being mistaken for a working girl, and other shenanigans that happen to women walking alone in the red district.
• Visiting the Prostitution Museum in Amsterdam: what are the highlights?
• Why the Sex Museum disappointed Purity.
• Pubic hair, expensive crepes, and other random thoughts about Amsterdam.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. It's safe for a woman to walk alone in the red district. But if you're wearing makeup and look polished, you may be mistaken for a working girl.
2. If you're a woman looking to hire a prostitute for 1:1 play, expect to be charged extra. Very few working girls offer this service, so it comes at a premium.
3. The highlight of the Prostitution Museum? The Confessions Section, where people disclose (anonymously!) their biggest kinks and most secret fantasies.

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Diving into the kinky scene? It's a whole world of excitement and exploration, but it comes with a price tag. What does it really cost to get your kink on? We're going beyond the entry fees of those high-end, glitzy events to uncover the real deal about splurging versus saving in this lifestyle.

Ever wonder if those luxe kinky parties are worth it, or what sneaky expenses might catch you off guard? We're getting into the nitty-gritty of what men and women are shelling out in this scene - spoiler: it's not always what you'd expect.

And for the professionals among us, like dommes hosting sessions at places like Bossy Paw, there's a whole other layer of costs. Plus, we've got the inside scoop on snagging the best deals for that perfect kinky outfit, including where to find those Honey Birdette lookalikes without emptying your wallet.

Wrapping it up, we'll share some savvy tips for living that luxe kinky life on a budget. What's really worth your hard-earned cash, and where can you cut corners? Stick with us as we dive into the dollars and sense of living it up, kinky-style.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Introduction to the kinky scene: what is it and what to expect
• The most common expense you'll encounter in the kinky scene
• Are expensive, luxury kinky events worth the price tag?
• The hidden costs of living a kinky lifestyle
• What men spend money on VS what women spend money on: who spends more for a kinky lifestyle?
• The hidden expenses professional dommes face when charging for sessions at kinky events, like Bossy Paw
• Best places to shop for kinky outfits - including where to find affordable dupes for luxurious Honey Birdette lingerie
• Our top tips on how to live a luxury lifestyle on a budget
• What's worth splurging on and what to save on when living a kinky lifestyle

3 VALUE BOMBS

• Both men and women spend a similar amount of money to embrace a kinky lifestyle. They just invest their money in different things.
• Keep in mind the hidden expenses that come with attending an event, including travel, outfit... You're paying for a lot more than the ticket price.
• When you're new to the scene, try attending as many events as you can to discover what you really enjoy. Once you've found your scene, then it's time to invest in the right attire, gadgets, and everything else for the full experience.

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Ever heard of veto power? It’s that move where you say “nope, not happening” to something your partner wants to do or someone they want to see. But should you actually be using it? We’ll break down why vetoing might not be the best idea for your relationship and give you better options to handle those uncomfortable situations. From finding ways to accept your partner’s choices to talking things out without starting a fight, we’ve got practical tips to help you avoid a power struggle. Plus, we’ll dive into the healthy alternatives when compromise feels impossible.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is veto power? 
• Why do partners exercise the power of veto?
• Should you ever veto your partner's choices/desires? Here's why it's not always the best idea.
• 3 options to use instead of exercising veto power.
• What does accepting your partner's choice really mean.
• How to tell your partner you don't want them to see someone or do something you're not comfortable with - without causing a fight.
• How to brainstorm alternative solutions to vetos and reach an outcome both partners are happy with.
• The healthy and ethical alternative to veto if you can't find a solution both partners are happy with.

Diving right into the digital world of dating, especially on kinky apps, can feel like navigating a minefield. Let's talk about that crucial first message—because yes, it can make or break your chances. Desire has seen it all, from cringe-worthy openers that had her hitting the block buttons faster than you can say "swipe left" to messages that piqued her interest immediately.

What do men think women want, and what do they actually want? There's often a big gap there, not to mention the mess caused by fake femdoms that hurts everyone's game.

Approaching someone on these apps? It’s crucial to get the tone right. Going full dom on a submissive before even meeting? Big no-no. We'll break down the right way to craft that first message—one that sparks excitement and curiosity instead of the urge to swipe left. Plus, we’ll give you examples of what works to get that eager reply. Ready to turn your dating app experience around? Let’s dive in.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Examples of intro messages Desire received that made her block or report the guy on kinky apps (don't do this!).
• What men think women on kinky apps want.
• What women on kinky apps really want.
• The rise of the fake femdoms phenomenon (and why it hurts everyone on kinky apps).
• How to approach submissive women VS how to approach submissive men - why what works with men backfires with women.
• If you're approaching a submissive on a kinky app, is it ok to dom them before even meeting them in person?
• The secret to writing a first message that makes your kinky interest excited to engage with you (80% of people DON'T do this!).
• Examples of intro messages that get replies.

3 VALUE BOMBS

• When writing that first message, imagine the person is in front of you. What would you say to him/her?
• Sending very sexual messages as an introduction is the same as barging into someone's living room without being invited: it's a boundary violation.
• Let the conversation naturally evolve towards sex and kink. If you feel you're pushing it, you probably are - and it won't end well.

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Can you find true love on kinky apps? Let's dive into Desire's journey to find out. She joined We Are X two years ago, but a sexy date made her decide to leave them for good. We’ll discuss how to tweak your dating profile to attract better matches and reveal the two words you should never use if you’re looking for a serious relationship.

Kinky apps market themselves differently to men and women, affecting your chances of finding the right match. We'll explore whether these apps can hurt a woman's self-esteem and if Desire was naive to search for love on them. Who are these apps really for, and who should avoid them?

Desire has a new strategy to find a polyamorous primary partner. Join us as we explore the world of kinky apps and the search for true love.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why Desire joined kinky apps We Are X (then Killing Kittens) two years ago.
• The sexy date that made Desire decide to leave We Are X (and other kinky apps) for good.
• The evolution of a dating profile: how to tweak what you're looking for to attract better matches.
• The two words you should NEVER use in a dating profile if you're looking for a serious relationship.
• How kinky apps market themselves differently to men and women - and how that affects your chances of finding the right match for you.
• Do kinky apps hurt a woman's self-esteem?
• Was Desire naive to look for love on kinky apps like We Are X?
• Who are these kinky apps for?
• Who should avoid kinky apps - even when they're looking for a kinky partner.
• Desire's new strategy to find a polyamorous primary partner.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Matched with a promising partner online? Always ask them what attracted them to your profile. You'll immediately know if they've read what you're looking for or just trying their luck.
2. Kinky apps are great for people who are too busy to date and just want to find play partners or friends with benefits. If you're looking for love, you may end up with your hopes (and self-esteem) crushed.
3. Using dating apps feels like a fast track to finding a date. You can easily get a match for the night, but you'll end up meeting a ton of people who just waste your time. This can make you lose faith in love. But don't stress, the perfect person is out there, and you might bump into them when you least expect it.

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So, you’ve finally got that first Dom and Sub date lined up—exciting, right? But before you dive in, there are some key dos and don’ts you’ve got to know to make sure things go smoothly. We’re talking about how to ask a sub out the right way, when to bring up your kinks without scaring them off, and the difference between taking the lead and coming on too strong. Let's dive in!

IN THIS EPISODE

• The right way to ask a sub out (get this wrong and you risk ending up on a vanilla date!).
• Taking the lead VS domming: what's the difference?
• What should you talk about on a dom and a sub date?
• When it's the right time to introduce the kink conversation (spoiler: don't open with this!).
• The best question to start the kink conversation with.
• What to ask your date to find out if your kinks are compatible - and most importantly, if they want to explore them with you.
• Should you play on the first date?
• The number one thing to avoid on a first dom and sub date.

In this episode, we’re diving into the world of doms and how to tell the real ones from the fakes. Desire shares her wild experiences and why it’s super important for submissives to find the right match, even if someone seems super attractive at first.

We’ll talk about what makes a dom legit and explore the little differences in how they start the kink conversation. Ever wondered why consent is such a big deal in BDSM, or how to spot when it’s being respected? We’ve got some eye-opening insights.

Curious about what real doms do when planning a scene or providing aftercare? Or how to handle things when they don’t go as planned? Tune in to learn how to find a genuine dom and make sure your experiences are awesome. This episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the kink world with confidence.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Desire's experience with fake doms.
• What is a fake dom?
• Why submissive should avoid fake doms - even when they really fancy them
• Sign #1: Fake doms tries to dominate you from your first interaction.
• Fake doms VS real doms: how to start the kink conversation.
• Sign #2: Assuming submissive = consent.
• Fake doms VS real doms: how to plan BDSM scenes.
• Sign #3: Fake doms are only interested in his pleasure, not the sub's pleasure.
• Sign #4: Fake doms don't provide aftercare.
• Sign #5: Fake doms get angry when the sub disappoints or doesn't want to obey unconditionally.
• Fake doms VS real doms: How they react when a sub stops the play.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Don't assume submissives are down to play with anyone. A sub gets to choose her dom and what she submits to. Always have a conversation about desires and boundaries before play.
2. Being a real dom is about having control. If a dom loses it when a sub doesn’t want to do something or calls it quits, they’re not truly dominant.
3. The difference between a fake and an inexperienced dom? An inexperienced dom is eager to learn and please their subs. A fake dom couldn’t care less about their subs and just wants to get what they want.

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Ever thought about reconnecting with a past poly or kinky partner? It can be tricky. Can you really pick up where you left off? We'll dive into that question and share some real-life stories of reconnecting that didn't quite go as planned—and why they failed. But it’s not all doom and gloom. We’ve got a feel-good tale of a couple who rekindled their spark after months apart and what made it work.

Before you reach out to an old flame, there’s one crucial thing you need to consider. We’ll tell you exactly what that is. Plus, we’ll give you the perfect message to send to reconnect with an old partner and increase your chances of getting a positive response.

Timing is everything, so we’ll discuss when it's right to suggest meeting up in person. And there's one topic you should totally avoid in your messages—unless they bring it up first. Ready to navigate the dos and don’ts of rekindling old connections? Let’s get into it!

IN THIS EPISODE

• Can you ever pick up an old connection where you left off?
• Some real-life stories of reconnecting gone wrong - and why they failed.
• A feel-good tale of a couple rekindling their spark after months apart - what made it work.
• The most important thing to think about before reaching out to an old flame.
• The exact message to send to reconnect with an old kinky and poly partner - and get a positive response.
• When’s the right time to suggest meeting up in person?
• The one topic you should totally avoid in your messages - unless they bring it up first.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Before you send that first message, get clear on your intention. Are you just looking to hook up again, or do you actually miss them and want another shot?
2. Skip talking about what you want at the start. In your first text, just check in with them and see how things are going.
3. Hold off on the sexting. Just because you’ve been intimate before doesn’t mean they’re ready to go there again.

Curious about polyamory? Are you starting to feel like monogamy isn't for you but you don't know what other options are out there? Ever wondered what swinging, solo poly, hierarchical non-monogamy?

In this episode, we break it all down, from friends with benefits to genuine connections that go way beyond a simple hookup. It all started when Desire realised she was polyamorous... and quickly realised that every man she went on a date with had a different idea of what being poly really is!

Desire and her friend and co-host Purity share how to navigate the often confusing world of polyamory so you can get the love and sex you desire - without wasting time on connections that aren't a match.

We share personal dating stories, highlight red flags you need to pay attention to, and bust myths about what polyamory really is. Hint: it's NOT all about hookups.

So, whether you're curious about polyamory, already practicing, or just seeking to broaden your perspective, this episode is your guide to understanding and embracing the beauty of consensual non-monogamy.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Welcome to Love Beyond Limits. Who the podcast is for.
• Desire's story: how she realised she's polyamorous.
• What I thought dating as poly was VS what it really is.
• What polyamory really is (hint: it's NOT what you think!) and different ways of practicing it.
• Solo poly.
• Hierarchical non-monogamy.
• Relationship anarchy.
• Monogamish.
• Swinging.
• Friends with benefits.
• Serial monogamy.
• Polyamory VS cheating.
• The red flags to pay attention to when communicating your relationship style to a new partner.
• What to expect from this podcast.
• Parting words and how you can support us.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Polyamory is about creating emotional AND physical connections with multiple partner. It's not just about hooking up.
2. Ethical non-monogamy requires every partner to be aware of one another and give their consent to the dynamic. If someone isn't aware or consenting, it's cheating.
3. Having the courage to open up to your partner about your relationship and sexual needs is painful in the moment, but on the other side, there's a life and relationship better than you ever thought possible.

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Is it time to open up about being poly or exploring kink? Let's dive into Desire's story. After spending six years in a monogamous relationship, she decided it was time to embrace and open up about being poly. If you're sitting on a similar fence, this episode's for you. We're unpacking those moments that whisper, "Hey, it's time," and how to lean into those conversations with your nearest and dearest.

Navigating these waters can be tricky, right? How do you even begin that chat, and what if the response isn't what you hoped for? We've got you covered with some friendly advice on getting the ball rolling in a positive way and handling the mix of reactions that might come your way. Plus, we're talking about setting up those all-important boundaries so that moving forward, everyone's clear on what this means for you. It's all about building a foundation of respect and understanding as you step into your truth.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Desire shares her decision to open up her 6 years monogamous relationship.
• When you realise you're poly or kinky, should you tell your friends and family straight away?
• The subtle sign that tells you it's time to be open about being poly or having a kink
• Why Desire decided to come out as poly to her friends and family very early on in her journey
• The hidden benefits of coming out as poly you may not be aware of (that make coming out so worth it!)
• Practical tips on how to come out to your friends and family
• How to start the coming out conversation on the right foot
• How to deal with people's judgements and opinions, especially when they don't agree with your lifestyle choices
• How to set boundaries and expectations for the future, so the people in your life know how to treat you going forward

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Give the people you love credit. While your disclosure might catch them off guard, they're likely to appreciate your trust in sharing this part of yourself and will mainly wish for your happiness.
2. Be open to all kinds of questions (people are curious!), but don't feel pressured into changing your mind. You're asking for support, not permission.
3. Don't be afraid to set boundaries. Most people don't know how to deal with this revelation, so state what you expect and ask for the support you need to take your relationships to the next level.

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Step into the intriguing world of the Chardmore Society, where the Suited Male and Naked Female parties challenge conventional social norms. Ever wondered what really happens behind those exclusive doors? From the unique dress code (yes, it’s as literal as it sounds) to the eclectic crowd and the carefully curated vibe, we’ll uncover the details that make these events so fascinating. How do you get in, who should attend, and is it worth the hype? Plus, we’ll explore what’s served, what’s BYO, and whether the experience lives up to its mystique. Dive into the untold story and decide for yourself.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is the Chardmore Society?
• What's a Suited Male, Naked Female party like?
• What's the crowd like?
• Where is the party hosted?
• Do you need to get vetted to attend this party?
• What's the dress code like - and is it really that literal?
• Food and drinks: what's served at the location and can you bring your own drinks?
• Who should attend this party?
• The final verdict: is Chardmore Society Suited Male And Naked Female worth going to?

Get ready to dive into the dating scene like never before! This episode spills the secrets on what really makes you stand out to women. We’ll chat about showcasing your unique qualities, understanding what women want, and shifting your mindset to boost your confidence. Whether you're after a casual fling or something more serious, these tips will help you catch her eye and score more dates. Tune in and learn how to make a lasting impression!

IN THIS EPISODE

• The number one question you need to answer before you ask a woman out.
• 3 reasons why women play hard to get (hint: we pay a higher price for casual sex).
• The real reason women engage in casual sex when they don't enjoy it (this is more common than you think!).
• What women look for in a sexual partner.
• The fast-track to getting a kinky play partner (it's NOT what you think!).
• It's not about you, it's about them: The mindset shift that'll help you get more dates.
• How to organise a great first date that impresses your partner and sets you up for success.
• What men who get a lot of dates do that everyone else doesn't - and how you can stand out too.

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Ever wondered what it truly means to be a sadist? Curious about the world of sadism and its often-misunderstood nature?

Well, you're in for a treat! In this episode, we'll take you on a fascinating journey through the experiences of Purity as she navigates the discovery of her own sadistic tendencies.

From childhood influences to the liberating effects of acceptance, we'll uncover the nuances of sadistic desires. Alongside exploring Purity's journey, we'll discuss the impact of repressed desires on relationships and the unexpected benefits of embracing one's true nature.

So, whether you're curious about your own inclinations or seeking to understand a loved one, this episode offers a candid exploration of the misunderstood world of sadism. Get ready for some candid conversations, valuable insights, and tips on safely exploring your inner sadist.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Purity's story and how she found out she was a sadist.
• What sadism really is (it's not what you think!).
• Does sadism develop early in childhood or later on in life?
• The unassuming sides that give away you are a sadist - and how to tell.
• How being a repressed sadist negatively impacted Purity's life and relationships.
• How Purity started exploring her sadist side in a safe and consensual ways.
• What happened the first time Purity engaged in sadistic play at a party.
• The benefits of coming out as a sadist (that you wouldn't ever think of!).
• Parting words and how you can start exploring your inner sadist too.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Sadism isn't about being a bad person. It's about enjoying inflicting pain and humiliation in a consensual way.
2. When you try and repress it, your inner sadist will inevitably come out in other areas of your life, subtly influencing your interactions with friends, family, and coworkers, and creating all kinds of havoc.
3. Always engage in sadistic play safely. sing safe words isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength. Setting boundaries means everyone gets to enjoy the fun to the max.

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In this episode, we’re diving into the world of solo polyamory. Curious about what solo poly actually means and how it differs from being single? We’re breaking it down and sharing what it takes to become solo poly.

Desire shares her experience with solo polyamory and whether it’s everything it’s cracked up to be. We'll chat about why people choose this path and how to handle the loneliness that can sometimes creep in.

Thinking solo poly might be for you? Tune in to learn the number one sign it’s not, and what you can do if you find yourself in that boat. Don't miss out on this deep dive into the nuances of solo polyamory!

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is solo poly?
• How do you become solo poly?
• Solo poly VS single poly: what's the difference?
• Desire's experience with solo poly: is it all it's cracked up to be?
• Why people choose to practice solo poly?
• The loneliness of solo poly - and how to deal with it.
• Are solo poly people treated fairly by their partners' metamours?
• Being jealous of your partner VS being jealous of a nesting dynamic: what's the difference?
• The number one sign solo poly is not for you - and what to do about it.

3 VALUE BOMBS

• Solo poly individuals prioritize themselves as their main partner and enjoy dating multiple people without the intention of settling down. Being single poly means identifying as polyamorous, even if you're not currently in any romantic relationships.
• Going solo poly gives you a ton of freedom, but it can get lonely. Once the thrill wears off, you might miss having someone to cuddle with every night or share holidays like Christmas.
• Solo poly can happen by choice or by chance. You may genuinely not want to ever settle down with anyone or you may simply not have found the right partner to share your life with yet.

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BDSM marks: show them off or hide them in the summer? Many subs cherish these marks despite the pain because they’re symbols of intense and intimate experiences.

But summer poses a unique challenge. You might not want to sport those marks with all the skin-baring outfits and trips to the beach. How do you ask your dom to avoid leaving marks during this season? We’ll give you some pointers on how to make that request.

If you do end up with marks, we’ve got the best techniques to conceal them. We’ll also dive into whether BDSM marks are viewed differently on men versus women and what that means for your summer wardrobe choices. And, of course, we'll cover what to do when those marks make an unexpected appearance, despite your best efforts to keep them hidden.

Tune in for all the tips and insights you need to navigate BDSM marks in the sunny season.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What are BDSM marks?
• Why subs love getting marks from BDSM play - despite the pain.
• Why doms love marking their subs during BDSM play.
• A few reasons you may not want to get any BDSM marks in the summer - and how to make the request to your dom.
• Best techniques to conceal BDSM marks in the summer.
• Are BDSM marks perceived differently on men and women?
• What to do when your BDSM marks accidentally show up, despite all your best efforts to conceal them.

3 VALUE BOMBS

• BDSM marks can be cherished as pleasant reminders of intense, beautiful moments shared with your dom or sub. They symbolize the trust, connection, and mutual enjoyment experienced during your play sessions, making them much more than just physical marks on the skin.
• If you're planning a beach holiday, don't hesitate to ask your Dom to go easy on you, ensuring you can enjoy your trip without visible bruises. Alternatively, schedule your play sessions with enough time for marks to heal before you hit the beach or board your flight.
• Long-lasting foundations are your best friend for covering severe bruising, even when you're in the water. Just make sure to apply them correctly for maximum coverage and durability, ensuring your marks stay hidden while you enjoy your summer activities.

In the world of BDSM and kink, the lines between personal pleasure and partnership fidelity can sometimes blur. Today, we're diving deep into a topic that stirs up plenty of controversy: Is playing with a professional Dom considered cheating? Purity opens up about her encounters with married subs who navigate the delicate balance of satisfying their kinks while remaining faithful to their partners.

So, what exactly constitutes cheating? As everyone has their own set of relationship rules, identifying what crosses the line can be complex. We'll explore how to determine if you're cheating, based on varying definitions and relationship dynamics.

Moreover, can someone engage with a Dom or play partner without catching feelings? It's a common fear among married or partnered individuals stepping into play or ethically non-monogamous (ENM) relationships. We'll discuss the emotional risks and how to manage them.

But not all strategies for fulfilling your desires are created equal. We'll look at some approaches that might seem good on paper but fail in practice, especially when your significant other isn't into the same things. Is constantly seeking new, one-time play partners a healthy way to manage your needs? Or does it lead to its own set of problems?

Wrapping up, we'll guide you through the right way to satisfy your kinks when your partner isn’t on board, ensuring respect and consent are never compromised. Join us as we unpack these thorny issues, aiming to shed light on a path that keeps relationships intact while honoring personal desires.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Purity shares her story of being approached by married subs looking to satisfy their kinks without cheating on their wives.
• What is cheating?
• How to know if you're cheating when everyone has different rules.
• Is it possible to play with a Dom or play partner without developing feelings for them?
• Why married/partnered people are scared of developing feelings for play or ENM partners - and how to deal with it.
• Bad strategies for satisfying your kinks when your partner isn't into the same things as you.
• Is always looking for new, one-time play partners healthy?
• The right way to satisfy your kinks when you're partner isn't on board.

3 VALUE BOMBS

• Everyone has a different definition of cheating. Discuss boundaries with your partner before engaging with new people. And if you ever feel like you're cheating, you probably are.
• Developing feelings for other people, including play partners, is natural. It's part of being human. Expect it to happen, but don't make it mean anything about this new relationships. You can have feelings for someone new without it hurting your marriage or primary relationship.
• Your kinks are never going away. The sooner you open up to your partner, the sooner you can create a fully satisfying relationship for everyone involved.

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If you’re into glamorous kink socials, then Dominium Vita might just be your vibe. Picture a luxurious venue setting the mood for an elegant and sensual evening. But is it all it’s cracked up to be? Who’s actually attending these events, and what kind of vibe can you expect? Is there a dress code, or can you show up in your favorite leather jacket? We’re breaking down everything you need to know: membership, ticket prices, and whether this fancy night out is really worth it.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is Dominium Vita? 
• The venue - luxury settings for sensual evenings.
• Who attends Dominium Vita socials?
• Is there a dress code?
• The bar: how long does it take to get a drink?
• Do you need a membership to attend Dominium Vita events?
• Let's talk pricing: how much are the tickets?
• Dominium Vita social: who is it for?
• The final verdict: is it worth going to the Dominium Vita social?

In this episode, we're diving into the Tribe experiment, exploring why it’s way more than just a sex party—it's a full-on community. Wondering what Tribe is all about and how to get in on their exclusive socials and parties? We've got the lowdown on the crowd, the venues, and, of course, the dress code.

Thinking about joining Tribe? We’ll discuss who it’s for, and you’ll hear Purity’s take on why she’s steering clear, while Desire explains why Tribe is her top pick for sex communities in London right now.

Tune in to get the final verdict on whether Tribe is worth joining. You won't want to miss this one!

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is Tribe?
• How do you get access to Tribe socials and parties?
• What's the crowd like?
• Where are the socials and parties hosted?
• What do you wear at the Tribe socials and parties?
• Themed parties: how to rock the dress code without breaking the bank.
• Food and drinks: what to expect at the socials and parties?
• Fun games to spice up the night.
• What happens at the Tribe parties?
• Who should join Tribe?
• Purity's experience: why you won't be seeing her at Tribe anytime soon.
• Desire's experience: why Tribe is currently her fave sex community in London.
• The final verdict: is Tribe worth joining?

3 VALUE BOMBS

• The Tribe community is attractive, friendly, and mischievous. If you're easily offended, you won't vibe well with this crowd.
• Tribe parties have cool themes, like Rockstars & Groupies and Welcome To The Jungle. Make an effort to follow the dress code. It makes the night more fun for everyone!
• Guests are strongly encouraged to do a STD test before attending a party. As soon as you arrive, you'll get a wristband. Its colour indicates how recent your last negative test was. It gives everyone peace of mind and encourages shame-free discussions about sexual health.

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Foot fetish is one of the most common and known fetishes - as Desire happily discovered when her last monogamous partner showed a tremendous interest in her feet. So what makes foot so arousing? And how do you develop a foot fetish?

Desire and Purity bring on their friend Mr X, a real life psychologist and foot fetishist (who, for the time being wishes to remain anonymous) to talk about all things foot fetish. Listen on and get all your questions answered!

IN THIS EPISODE

• Mr X's story and his interest in foot fetishes.
• The full spectrum of foot fetishes: different ways to play with feet.
• How foot fetishes develop - or are you just born with it?
• What is arousing about feet.
• At what age do you think people realise they have a foot fetish?
• What stigmas do people with foot fetish face?
• How to talk to your partner about your foot fetish.
• ⁠When does a foot fetish become an obsession or mental health issue?

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Foot fetishes develop early on in life. If you realise in your 40s you have a foot fetish, you have probably repressed it.
2. When talking about foot fetishes with your partner, wait until you establish a genuine connection and associate the fetish with pleasure.
3. A foot fetish becomes a problem only when it starts to negatively affect other areas of your life.

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You meet someone new, there’s a spark, you’re vibing—and then it hits. What you thought was “a date” is, to them, just “hanging out.” In the world of ethical non-monogamy, even the words we use can get messy fast. Between trying to figure out if it’s a date or just casual, dealing with the twists of hookup culture, and clashing with different dating norms around the world, things can get confusing. Today, we’re diving into what all these labels really mean, why they matter, and how to make sure everyone’s on the same page before things get complicated.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Date VS Dating: What's the difference?
• Different dating cultures worldwide - and the confusion they generate.
• Hookup culture and its impact on dating.
• Making your intentions clear when asking someone on a date - and avoid being friend-zoned.
• How to communicate what you want in a relationship before you ask the person out.

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Sometimes, ending a relationship is the healthiest choice, but it doesn’t make it any easier. In this episode, we’re unpacking the signs that it’s time to let go, how to navigate the emotional rollercoaster, and ways to handle a breakup with as much respect—and as little mess—as possible. Whether you’re noticing red flags or just feeling stuck, we’ll walk through what it takes to break up in a way that leaves both people with their dignity intact. If you’re questioning your relationship, this one’s for you.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The two main signs you're headed for a breakup with your partner
• The top 4 reasons couples stay together long after the relationship is over
• How to minimise the financial and motional impact of a breakup
• When to know it’s time to breakup
• The number one red flag you’re marrying the wrong person
• How to breakup in a healthy way

In this episode, we explore how to smoothly transition from social events to romantic connections. How do you find events that are filled with people looking for the same thing you are? What’s the secret to picking up on body language cues that scream “I’m interested!”? Is there a right way to ask for contact details without being awkward?

If you’re curious about how to turn a casual chat into a romantic connection, this episode is for you. Let’s dive into the art of making that transition seamlessly and see how to ask for a date like a pro. Tune in to learn the ins and outs of sparking a romantic connection!

IN THIS EPISODE

• How to pick the perfect events to meet potential partners who are looking for the same dynamic as you.
• Setting the right intention for the night - do this wrong and you may repel potential partners!
• The right questions to ask to discover if the person you're interested in is open to dating - and what their relationship style is.
• Should you ask for someone's contact details? The body language cues that tell you your potential partner is just as keen as you to connect further.
• When is it the right time to ask for someone's contact details?
• How to ask for a date the right way.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Go out to have a good time and meet some cool people. We all hope to find the right partner at these events, but coming on too strong can make people put their guard up and turn them off from getting to know you.
2. Shifting from socializing to dating is more of an art than a science. It's not about having the perfect lines or timing your number request just right. It's about showing real interest in the person you're talking to and building an authentic connection.
3. Be upfront about your intentions when you ask someone out. You might see it as a date, but they could see it as just a friendly meetup.

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Are you getting mixed results on the Feeld app and wondering if you should give their socials a go?

In this episode, Desire and Purity delve into the intriguing world of Feeld, exploring the difference between its in-person events and the online dating app. Is the crowd the same?

From discussing the allure of the venue to detailing the nuances of bar service, they leave no stone unturned. Wondering what attire is appropriate for a Feeld social? They've got you covered.

Plus, they address common queries such as membership requirements and offer handy tips for initiating conversations with strangers, especially for those feeling a tad shy. And of course, they share whether they found any romantic connections at these events and ultimately deliver their final verdict on whether attending Feeld socials is worth it.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is the Feeld online dating app?
• What is the Feeld social?
• Feeld app VS Feel social: is the crowd the same?
• Why Desire is off the Feeld app, but she still loves to go to the socials.
• The venue - a beautiful space with a couple of drawbacks.
• The bar: how long does it take to get a drink?
• What do you wear at the Feeld social?
• Do you need a membership to attend the Feeld social?
• The easy way to start conversations with strangers at the Feeld social if you're feeling shy.
• Did we get any partners out of the Feeld social?
• Feeld social: who is it for?
• The final verdict: is it worth going to the Feeld social?

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. It's common for Feeld events to oversell tickets beyond venue capacity. Arrive early to take advantage of the free drinks and avoid queuing outside for a chance to get in.
2. Be open to conversations about polyamory and kink. Feeld caters to people who are curious to explore a different kind of relationship - and sex.
3. The atmosphere at the social event differs from that of the app. If you've ever felt uneasy about aggressive approaches online, you'll find our in-person crowd super respectful and friendly!

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Thinking about hitting up the Fox Den Skulk social? Let's dive into whether it's your next must-go event. How does the venue itself play into this? We'll dive into whether it's just a cool setting or if it really helps you connect.

What's the dress code? From casual to extravagant, we’ll tell you how to match the mood. Who's going to be there? Expect a mix of seasoned community members and curious newcomers, all ready to mingle. And if you get peckish, we’ll cover what kind of food and drink you can snag without missing a beat.

No need for a membership to join the fun, so is it worth checking out their themed parties? We’ll wrap up with a quick verdict on whether the Fox Den Skulk social should be your next night out. Tune in to find out if this is your scene!

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is the Fox Den?
• The venue - does it help or hinder networking?
• What do you wear at the Fox Den social?
• The crowd - who can you expect to meet?
• Food and drink - what you can get at the venue
• Do you need a membership to attend the Fox Den Skulk social?
• What kind of parties does Fox Den host - and are they right for you?
• Fox Den Skulk: who is it for?
• The final verdict: is it worth going to the Fox Den Skulk social?

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Fox Den is a favourite for newcomers to the poly and kinky scene, thanks to its friendly and inclusive vibe. You'll meet a lot of newbies who are as eager to mingle and make connections.
2. You don't need a membership to attend a Fox Den Skulk, but you do need one to attend their play parties. The vetting process involves a call with the founder, Foxy, to make sure you're the right fit for the community.
3. Fox Den hosts luxurious and cozy dinner parties, big glamorous balls, educational workshops, and informational pub social - no matter what you're into, there's something for everyone.

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Curious about the London Foot Party, the ultimate event for foot fetishists? We'll dive into what this unique gathering is all about and where it's hosted. Wondering about the crowd? We'll give you a glimpse of who you can expect to meet.

Is membership required to attend? We’ll discuss that too. And what’s the vetting process like for women? How do dress codes differ for men and women? We’ll cover all of that.

Pay-to-play might sound sleazy, but it's far from it. Want to know what happens during a paid session and how much it costs? We've got the details. Plus, we’ll introduce you to the organizers behind the London Foot Party.

Who is this event really for? Stay tuned as we unravel the mysteries and give you the inside scoop on this fascinating event.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What is London Foot Party?
• Where is the party hosted?
• What's the crowd like?
• Do you need a membership to attend the party?
• What's the vetting process for women like?
• Men Vs women: what's the dress code?
• Pay to play: what you need to know before you engage with a girl - and why it's not as sleazy as you think.
• What happens during a paid session - and how much is it?
• What are the organisers of London Foot Party like?
• Who is London Foot Party for?

3 VALUE BOMBS

• London Foot Party is a pay to play event. They make sure the women participating are really into the play, so everyone involved can have an awesome and genuine time. It's all about creating a great atmosphere where people can truly enjoy themselves.
• London Foot Party is the top foot party for anyone with a foot fetish. The cool atmosphere and real crowd make it a perfect place to indulge in all your foot fantasies.
• At London Foot Parties, there's always a theme. The women have to follow a fun dress code, but men can rock whatever they're comfortable in.

In this episode, we’re tackling a big one: dealing with jealousy in polyamorous relationships. Ever thought you knew what jealousy is? Think again! We’ll break down why we feel it and why it's not always what it seems.

Wondering if all ENM folks feel that warm, fuzzy compersion? Spoiler: not always. And yes, poly people experience jealousy too. The usual monogamous tricks for handling jealousy? They don’t cut it here. We’ll show you what actually works.

Learn the healthy way to manage jealousy without putting the brakes on your partner’s freedom. Should you tell your partner when you’re feeling those jealous pangs? We’ll guide you through that tricky conversation and what to do if your partner brushes off your feelings.

Tune in for real talk and solid advice on keeping jealousy from messing with your poly vibes.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Jealousy: what it is (hint: it's not what you think!) and why we feel it.
• What is compersion - and do all ENM people feel it?
• Do poly people experience jealousy?
• Why the traditional, monogamous way of handling jealousy doesn't work - and what to do instead.
• The healthy way of handling jealousy, so you can get your needs met without restricting your partner's freedom.
• Should you tell your partner when you're experiencing jealousy?
• How to have the jealousy conversation with your partner.
• What to do when your partner ignores your jealousy feelings.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Jealousy is the fear of losing someone or something you love. It's just a messenger that highlights your insecurities, so you can heal them.
2. Feeling jealous? Before bringing it up with your partner, figure out what’s making you feel insecure and then ask them to help you work through it.
3. If your partner is gaslighting you or brushing off your jealous feelings, that’s a big red flag. A good partner won’t let you control their freedom, but they’ll make sure you feel emotionally supported.

Casual sex gets hyped up as fun, liberating, and carefree, but is it really that simple? In this episode, we explore why many women find themselves engaging in casual sex, even when they aren’t fully on board. We’ll also take a look at the emotional, mental, and physical costs that can come with it—things that often get overlooked.

We’re breaking down the differences between casual hookups and friends with benefits, and why some FWB arrangements can work better than you’d expect. If you’ve ever wondered whether casual sex is really worth it, this episode dives into the details you won’t want to miss.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Desire shares her experiences with casual sex: what she thought would happen VS what really happened.
• Why do women engage in casual sex (even when they don't really want to)?
• The high mental, emotional, and physical costs of casual sex for women.
• Friends with benefits VS regular hookups: what's the difference?
• Positive friends with benefits stories: why they work.

Talking about your kinks with your partner can feel daunting, but it doesn't have to be. Have you ever wondered why so many kinksters hide their desires from their partners? The reasons might surprise you. We'll explore the best time to bring up your kink and share a no-pressure approach to kick-start the conversation.

What if your partner doesn’t even want to talk about it? We’ll cover strategies to navigate this tricky situation. And if they’re not open to exploring your kinks, don’t worry—breaking up or suppressing your desires aren't the only options.

Plus, we’ll uncover the real reasons your partner might feel hurt by your revelations and how to prevent that from happening. Tune in for tips and insights on making these conversations smoother and more comfortable.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why kinksters hide their kinks from their partners - it's not always what you think.
• When's the best time to have the kink conversation with your partner?
• The no-pressure way to initiate the kink conversation with your partner.
• What to do when your partner doesn't even want to have the kink conversation.
• What to do when your partner isn't open to exploring your kinks (hint: breaking up and suppressing your kinks aren't the only options).
• The real reason your partner may be hurt by your revelations - and what to do to prevent it.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Don't just drop the kink talk out of nowhere. Pick a quiet time and place where you won't be interrupted, and give them a heads-up first.
2. If your kink is pretty wild or you're unsure how your partner will react, start off easy with a general chat. You could say something like, 'So, I came across this article on water sports. What do you think about that?'
3. Opened up about your kink to your partner after years together and got a terrible reaction? t's not the kink that bothers them—they just feel like they've been living with a stranger. The earlier you share your kinks, the better.

How would you like to attend a kinky event where you can shop for new BDSM gear with your partner, put on a performance on a stage with your new toys, and meet potential play partners too?

Welcome to the London Alternative Market, or LAM for short. Hosted the first Sunday of every month in East London, LAM is a fetish market that turns into a kinky afterparty as the evening dawns.

Desire and Purity are regulars at the market. It's their top recommendation for beginners who want to dip their toes in the kinky scene. In this episode, we reveal everything you need to know to have the best experience at the market. Listen on for our thoughts on the venue, the best stalls to buy from, the fun to be had at the after party, and so much more!

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why LAM is the best event for newcomers in the kinky scene.
• The venue - no one will know you're visiting a fetish market.
• Food and drink: what's worth getting at the market.
• Our favourite stalls to satisfy all your fetishist needs.
• Workshops: learn the ropes (literally!) and explore new fetishes in a safe space.
• The afterparty - the real fun begins (what is and isn't allowed).
• The crowd: who you can expect to meet at LAM.
• Dress code - how to feel comfortable without looking out of place.
• How to stay safe during play.
• Do you need a membership to attend LAM?

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. LAM is one of the best events for newcomers in the Kinky Scene. You can do a bit of sexy shopping, try your new gear on stage in front of an excited crowd, and meet new play partners and friends - without the obligation of having sex (it's actually forbidden).
2. The crowd is incredibly welcome and inclusive, fostering an atmosphere where everyone is empowered to freely express themselves.
3. The majority of sellers craft their own products. If you come across something you fancy, don't hesitate to ask them to have the items customized to your liking and preferences.

LINKS

London Alternative Market website: https://londonalternativemarket.com/

Bear Bites Bondage Etsy Shop: https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/BearBiteProducts

Godemiche Sex Toys Shop: https://g-silicone.com/

Spank Fetish Clothing Shop: https://spankonline.co.uk/index.html

Kinky Moongazer Candle Shop: https://kinkymoongazer.com/

Fudge Builds BDSM Toys Shop: https://www.fudgebuilds.co.uk/

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Ever find yourself feeling shame around your kink? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving into what kinks and fetishes really are and why the shame you’re feeling likely isn’t coming from where you think it is. You'll get a straightforward 3-step formula to help you stop shaming yourself for what turns you on, plus some insights into where to find the right kind of support when you're ready to leave the shame behind. Get ready to redefine the way you think about desire—judgment-free.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What are kinks and fetishes?
• The true reason you feel shame (hint: it's not what you think!).
• The 3-step formula to stop shaming yourself for your kink.
• Where to get support to deal with kink shame.

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So, picture this: Purity's on cloud nine, vibing with a new submissive who ticks all her boxes. The chemistry? Off the charts. But then, out of the blue, bam! Ghosting or a major boundary breach? Purity's left scratching her head, wondering what went wrong and why her play partner disappeared into thin air.

Now, let's get real about ghosting. It stings, right? Especially in the BDSM scene where trust is everything. Purity's left in a whirlwind of emotions, wondering whether to hit up her ghoster for some closure. But how many texts is too many when they're not replying? And what's going on in the mind of someone who pulls the disappearing act anyway?

This episode spills the tea on all things ghosting, from why people bail on amazing connections to the potential fallout within the kink community. Plus, it's not just about the ghosted—there's some solid advice in there for the ghosters too. So grab a cuppa and tune in for some real talk on dealing with the ghosting phenomenon.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Purity starts seeing a new submissive play partner who ticks all her boxes and has incredible chemistry with.
• The first sign something is off in this connection: ghosting or boundary violation?
• How Purity realised she was being ghosted.
• The emotional impact of your play partner breaking off the connection abruptly - and without an explanation.
• Should you contact the ghosting partner for an explanation - and what to say in that message?
• How many times is it ok to contact a ghosting partner that is not replying to your messages?
• Into the mind of a ghoster: why men (and women) give up on an amazing connection.
• Can you leave the door open to rekindling a connection in the future after ghosting someone?
• The potential dangers of ghosting someone - especially in a small kinky scene.
• Can you spot a ghoster before they ghost you?
• How to deal with ghosting: our advice to the ghosted and ghosters.

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Honesty is always the best policy. Ghosting might seem like keeping options open, but to the person on the receiving end, it's like a door slammed shut, no going back.
2. If you've been ghosted, know it's not about you. It's about the other person feeling uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.
3. Unsure if you're being ghosted? Don't hesitate to reach out, share your concern, and let them know that if they're considering ending things, you'd appreciate knowing why, so you can both move on without drama.

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Thinking about going to your first sex party but not sure what to expect? We’re diving into everything you need to know before you step into that world. From choosing the right type of party and figuring out what to wear, to understanding the vibe of the crowd (spoiler: it’s not all models and six-packs). It’s all here, so you can walk in feeling confident and ready for a night to remember.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The different types of sex and kinky parties: which one is right for you?
• What do you wear at a sexy party?
• What kind of crowd can you expect to find at sex parties? (Hint: not everyone has a six pack).
• How to connect with other attendees before the party (especially if you're nervous about going alone).
• Going with your partner? The number one thing to discuss before heading to the party to avoid jealousy and fights.
• All you need to know about consent.
• Should you bring your own toys to the party?
• Is voyeurism allowed at parties?
• Alcohol and drugs policies at sex parties - what you need to know.
• Should you get tested for STDs before attending a sex party?

3 VALUE BOMBS

1. Not sure what to wear? Check out the dress code and inspiration boards shared by the organisers, so you can pick an outfit that'll make you stand out while feeling comfortable in your own skin.
2. Going with a partner? Make sure to chat about your desires, boundaries, and what you both expect, so you can enjoy a night of naughty fun without any drama.
3. Always ask before touching or initiating play with someone. If you break consent, you'll be permanently banned.