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Is young divorce 'chic' now? And living with schizophrenia with Elfy Scott
01:18:02
Hey Lifers!
Producer Keeshia is in the hot seat today but Laura's been on the stirrups seat!
We kick today off with some pap chat. Click, click, click of the speculum and some 'interesting' questions of who you'd like doing your pap smear were raised.
Em Rata is wanting to brand being divorced in your 20s as 'chic.' Previously we spoke about micro marriages and with Olivia Rogers about her divorce. We unpack whether young divorce needs a rebrand and whether Em Rata is a bit too privileged to label it as "chic."
Joining the podcast today is journalist, podcaster and author of ‘the one thing we’ve never spoken about,' Elfy Scott. Elfy grew up in a household where her mum’s schizophrenia was rarely spoken about inside or outside of their home. Today we’re going to unpack the reality of what living with schizophrenia is actually like as well as the stigma that we have surrounding complex mental health conditions
We chat about:
How our understanding of what schizophrenia is is wrong
Diagnosis, misconceptions and stigma
Different types of hallucinations/delusions
Schizophrenia presenting differently in men & women
Why it's possible to have an onset of schizophrenic symptoms when you have a baby
If you'd like to grab a copy of Elfy's book you can here Follow Elfy's Instagram and check out her website If you'd like to access some helpful resources, Elfy recommended Sane
In this episode we mentioned an episode that we did on bipolar. You can find that episode here!
You can cast your vote for the Australian podcast awards here!
Can Divorce Make You A Better Parent? Girls' Weekends Away and Wedding Venue Mishaps
01:00:07
Hey Lifers,
We are back from a little few day vacay! Laura's friend catch up FINALLY made it's way out of the group chat and into reality! She had a little mishap at the airport and there's a valet parker who hopes she never comes back. Britt and Producer Keeshia went to Bali to sus out Britt's wedding venues and food tastings. They ended up getting sick and missing some of the important parts. Chaos and motion sickness; very on brand for life uncut!
The world is in mourning as JLo and Ben Affleck file for divorce! Lots of the world are talking about whether you think it's ever a good idea to go back to your ex. But, we're more interested in whether you think divorce can make you a better parent. There was a really interesting article by Kathryn Jezer-Morton in the Cut that explored the idea that the end of a marriage, while challenging, can lead to personal growth and improved parenting skills. We discuss:
Whether our experiences of divorce or parents staying together influenced our views on relationships and marriage
Whether you should or shouldn't stay in a step kid's life
Whether we think divorce is always traumatic to kids
How it shaped our views of conflict
Parents who are only staying together for the kids - is this a good thing or a bad thing?
Does being a 'child of divorce' make you more 'realistic' about marriage?
We mentioned a podcast that we recorded with Esther Perel
Modesty or Misogyny: The Debate Over Olivia Culpo’s Wedding Dress
00:46:13
Hey Lifers!
We are BACK from a little holiday and feeling refreshed, but truthfully still as unhinged as ever! Britt made a big hotel mistake and Laura admitted that Matt was right to be annoyed about something she did when she went away. At the time of recording, media outlets across the world have reported that Margot Robbie is pregnant, despite not having it confirmed by Margot or her husband. It feels like we're not living in 2024.
Just over a week ago Miss Universe from 2012 Olivia Culpo married NFL player Christian McCaffrey. Her wedding attire and subsequent interview with Vogue has cause quite the stir with the question of whether her dress was meant to impress or suppress. We unpack the internet's response to her interview and weigh in on whether we think it's a conservative campaign with a side of Madonna whore, or if she should be able to choose whatever wedding dress she wants for any reasons she likes!
Hey Lifers! Today is...chaos. We are wrapping up the final live show in Brisbane tonight and they have been so incredible!
We first unpack a very viral story that involves some information that you couldn't torture out of us. There is simply no going back from this glory hole experience.
We also talk about the new program being funded by the Aus government in an effort to tackle harmful messages of toxic masculinity on social media. Is a project in schools able to contrast the influence of people like Andrew Tate?
If you'd like to listen to our episode with Will McMahon on Toxic Masculinity you can here!
Grab your oxygen tanks people because we are about to get deep. We chat about the new bachelor contestants before we dive right in to a more serious topic, dating a sociopath. Britt opens up and shares the experience that completely changed her life. We also introduce a new segment, “Ask Uncut” where we answer your questions. Please hit subscribe, if you like us hit 5 stars and leave a review to help us grow. Because, well, we love love. x
Laura went to the reptile park and had a brilliant time. She's also planted a new fear in a friend's child by accident. Are there activities that you feel like you can't do unless you have kids with you?
Do you think you can recycle and reuse nudes? Do they have an expiry? Does it matter if they're taken while during the current relationship? Britt and Ben are on different sides of the fence for this one!
We break down the new 'dating terminology' coming to 2025 that includes:
Swamping
No-habiting
Fiscal attraction
Loud dating
Marmalading
Digital ex-pression
Are you meant to say anything to a woman who is pregnant? There is currently a huge amount of commentary about Margot Robbie's pregnant body. But, is this type of commentary only for celebrities and pap pics or do most women receive comments on their body when they're pregnant? We speak about how some comments are received in a different way to what they may be intended and how inappropriate some of the common types of comments are.
We also spoke about Kate Winslet being labelled as 'brave' for being okay with her 'belly rolls' being on display during a topless scene in a new film that she stars in.
Hey Lifers! Producer Keeshia is filling in for Britt while she hangs out with all of the creatures in the jungle! But I'm a celebrity had us thinking about a particular insight into all of our relationships and it's one that will be polarising!
My boyfriend (31) and I (28) started dating in June last year, we made it official at the end of July. Since the very beginning we’ve been very happy. We are both super committed to our relationship and each other, we communicate really well and he shows me every day how much he loves me. I truly thought I had found my penguin. However… I just found out he cheated on me 2 times just when our relationship started. He cheated on me with a girl he met back in June. She was away in Europe for a bit so when we started our relationship she wasn’t around but they were still texting. When she was back they met up 2 times and had sex. This was 1 week, and 2 months after we made it official. All of this came out because the girl reached out to me to tell me everything.I confronted him, he felt really guilty and owned his mistakes. He said it absolutely didn’t mean anything. He was lost and scared and he said he could never do that to me now because we are in such a different stage of our relationship. I can see how our relationship has changed in the last 4 months. He says he has changed and did the inner work after the cheating. I think he still needs to work on himself to potentially continue the relationship. And he agrees. My question is how bad are the red flags? I know you can recover from cheating but can you when you started the relationship and fell in love with the person when he was cheating? I think I really want to make this work and give him another chance
HOW DO I ASK IF HE'S SLEEPING WITH OTHER PEOPLE
I’ve been seeing this guy for a month so far so good - convos, good hobbies align, values align and watching him work out was a beautiful sight. BUT he is going away in two weeks for a 2 month trip with a mate. Usually it would be way too soon to define the relationship but with him going away my question is do I ask are we not sleeping with other people during this time I feel like it’s usually too soon to ask but I also think if he likes me he shouldn’t want to. He has also told me he’s deleted all the apps (which is how we met) Do I have the convo?
BLOW JOB ETIQUETTE
I was in a 17 year relationship, married with 2 kids. It was a tough time when we separated and I gave myself a year before I started dating again. I hadn't dated a lot before I got married. I have dated a bit now and it has been fun and hard and an emotional roller coaster. But my question is, what is the etiquette when giving a guy a blow job? Should he ask you and/or tell you before he cums in your mouth? I went out with a guy on a few dates and the first time we were intimate together I was quite surprised when I went down on him and a short time later he just came in my mouth without saying anything until after he came he said 'Good girl'. I felt degraded and a bit used to be honest. I usually don't mind this happening but previous guys have always asked or warned me so I can make a choice. What do you think?
Hey Lifers!!! We hope you're in the mood for a bit of a chaotic laugh! We are catching up on the highlights and 'vibe' of our summer break. Laura's attempt at spicing up their sex life ended in a hard, terrible way... Britt had an overseas sauna experience that she will not forget anytime soon.
Tiktok came back from cancellation quicker than we've ever seen a celebrity recover. Thinking that the app would be closed for business forever, some American tiktokers confessed their lies that helped them go viral! Some were innocent, others were a lot more on the nose. Are we surprised that creators lie in order to go viral? Not at all. But is it questionable when they've financially profited off the back of deceiving people?
We speak about Trump's inauguration and how Melania's outfit choice sums up the mood. We also speak about the tech bros that attended and their attempts at rebranding their personal image.
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
When you can't have what you've always wanted. Infertility, IVF & Miscarriage - Uncut with Chloe Fisher
01:31:28
Hello beautiful Lifers,
Joining us today is the wonderful Chloe Fisher from the Darling Shine podcast
Chloe's life looks incredible from the outside. She travels the world with her husband, Grammy award nominated DJ Fisher. They look like they have it all; except the one thing that they truly want more than anything else, a baby.
Chloe has undergone IVF treatment 7 times, and had 4 miscarriages. She speaks very openly about her struggles with fertility and the toll that it can take.
In this chat we talk:
The mental load that fertility takes on us
How it can affect your relationship
How to help a friend going through fertility issues
Life in a Throuple. “People Often Sexualise Our Relationship But We Are Just 3 People Who All Love Each Other.” Uncut with Camp Throuple
00:40:25
Have you ever wondered what life would be like living with not one but two partners?
Joining the podcast today are the wonderful Alana, Kevin and Megan who are a throuple!
Kevin and Alana were in a relationship for 3 years when Alana expressed that she was bi curious and had thought about experimenting with a woman. They met Megan on a dating app skewed towards non monogamy. Fast forward a few months and the three of them were in love and started their journey as a throuple! There’s so much curiosity around how relationships that don’t follow the traditional dynamics work and often a fear of the unknown or the unfamiliar.
We spoke about:
How other people in their life reacted to their relationship after they had kept it a secret for a year
How their relationship is often over sexualised and viewed as a ‘kink’
How Megan adjusted to coming into an established relationship
Navigating insecurities, communication, inside jokes and conflict
Their unusual sleeping arrangement
Finding out that some of their friends and family had been in polyamorous relationships in secret for a long time!
Their advice for people interested in exploring being polyamorous
Hello lovely listeners! WE HAVE CROWNED OUR BACHI KING AND QUEEN. All hail Chelsea and Astro Bachi. We are also talking about friendship in all it's colourful forms. How do you juggle friendships as an adulty adult when you're time poor and life has so many demands. If you like listening as much as we like talking please hit subscribe and share the love because we love love x
Ask Uncut - Can you expect monogamy if you no longer want sex with your partner?
00:52:20
Hey Lifers!
There's a lot going on today: ringworm, TV free lives, and pre peacocking.
Big question for ya, if you are in a long term relationship and you stop wanting to have sex (for any reasons), can you/should you 'allow' your partner to fulfil their sexual desires somewhere else?
There are so many factors that come into play with this question, and we unpack the grey areas.
Vibes for the week: Laura: Errr not having a TV Britt: Cruel Summer on Prime video Keeshia: Only murders in the building on Disney+
Then we jump into your questions:
Should I feel guilty about having a sex dream about one of my boyfriend’s single friends? This is maybe the second time I’ve ever had a sex dream and I woke up very horny.
My partner and I have been together for 8 years. Within the next few months he is going to receive a portion of his inheritance from the sale of the family business. It is a huge amount (8 figures). He sat me down last night and explained to me that (his exact words) he did not trust me with his money and he wants me to sign a prenup/binding financial agreement before he receives it. I'm really hurt by the way he has raised this issue. Am I right to feel upset or am I overreacting?
I separated from my husband of 12 years about 2 years ago, it was a defence family so I spent a lot of my marriage alone looking after our 2 young kids whilst he was away and feeling very alone, unsupported and unimportant compared to his work. I became very depressed. I have recently started dating someone & he is a widow. His girlfriend passed away 3 years ago with cancer. He has had flings but nothing more since. Now after we spend time together he feels guilty and depressed because of his grief. I understand this is very normal. My question is… do I persist or will I be 2nd to something else again? This sounds wrong but I suffered years of never feeling like I was the priority.
The best of The Pick Up radio show - Mitch gets the shock of his life
00:38:01
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ask Uncut - Should I Tell My Husband That I Slept With Him?
00:46:34
Hey Lifers, Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Laura has had to deal with our worst nightmare; it involves gastro and a child burrito.
SHOULD I TELL MY HUSBAND I SLEPT WITH HIM I’ve moved back to the town I grew up in and had a situation where I recognised a tradie that came to our property… I had slept with him! I didn’t mention it to my husband but then I had a thought that maybe I should have told him. I would never lie if he asked outright but now I don’t know if I need to divulge this information voluntarily. Just to add, I didn’t speak to him at all, he didn’t see me and he won’t be returning. It was purely a short fling and it was so long ago who knows if he’d recognise me back. What are your thoughts?
HOW TO STOP OBSESSING WHEN DATING I’m 35 and in the dreaded dating scene. I’ve just been ghosted suddenly after a few great dates and what felt like a really good connection forming. How do I stop obsessing over what I may have done wrong and what could’ve been. I feel like this will make my dating anxiety even worse. I feel like I’m losing all hope that I’ll ever meet someone that actually likes me back.
SHOULD HE BE CONTRIBUTING FINANCIALLY I moved to another country to be with my partner. I have said that it’s really important for me to go back home twice a year (4hr international flight, but it’s also a 4hr drive to the airport). Some of my friends and family mentioned that they reckon he should be contributing financially to me going home because I’m the one that moved away. I've always just paid but it did get me thinking and I think it sounds reasonable that he helps me out (he makes significantly more than me) but he doesn’t think so. We’ve been together for a few years now and don’t have any shared finances. What do you guys think?
CHEATING NOTE ON MY CAR I met the greatest guy ever! My family adore him and he treats me so well. We were living in an apartment complex in a main city where we had an external car park with allocated parking. One day on my way to work, I noticed a note on my windscreen. When I pulled over to read the note, it said, "he cheated on you babe." As soon as I read it, I instantly thought, nope, this isn't for me but as I got to work I kept thinking about it. I started to get upset and told my boss I wasn't feeling well and had to leave. When I confronted my partner, I told him if it's true, let's just talk it over because I can appreciate people who make mistakes. He remained very confident in saying this was not true and he was upset that someone would do something like this. What are your thoughts on this? Would you believe a note someone left on your car, without a contact name or number over someone you loved? Why are people such assholes?
Til Death Do Us Part - Nothing To Fear About Death. Uncut with Hospice Nurse Julie
00:44:14
Hey Lifers,
Conversations about the end of our lives and the end of the lives of the people we love are hard. Sometimes they’re so hard that we completely avoid them and we can put ourselves in situations where we don’t know how to manage the last part of a loved one’s life. With that being said you might assume that today’s conversation would be a bit of a difficult listen, but hospice nurse Julie somehow makes it light, interesting and even humorous! Hospice Nurse Julie aka Julie McFadden started educating people about death on tiktok and has grown to have over 3 million followers.
In today’s chat we speak about:
Julie’s nursing life showing her that prolonging life wasn’t always the best option
Processing and accepting the idea of letting someone go
Death bed phenomenon like the rally & visioning
Voluntary euthanasia. How it works and what it is
Some of Julie’s experiences witnessing people’s last breath
Ask Uncut - expiration dating, gamers and the worst sex you've ever had
00:35:49
Welcome to your therapy Thursday where we unpack your questions and concerns, but first we need to get to the important stuff. We asked for you to describe the worst sex you've had in 6 words.A galvanising experience! We've all had one bad one but these take the cake.
What the girls are vibing or unsubscribing from this week: Britt: Vibe = new season of Bump Unsubscribing = people not letting you use their bins Laura: Vibe = Big Miracles on channel 9
Today we're unpacking these questions:
-I have been seeing someone that I really, really like. Problem is, he's moving back home in a few months and I have no desire at all to move overseas. My question is, should I keep spending my time with him even though I know it's not going to go anywhere?
-My fiance and I want to book our wedding date (in 16 months time) on the date that his friend's fiance wants to have her bridal shower... They are planning on getting married 2 weeks after. She is telling me that I am being selfish by trying to book that day when she 'already has plans for that day,' but I think she is being unreasonable so who is in the wrong?
-My husband is obsessed with gaming and I feel like it’s becoming an addiction. We’ve discussed it, but he just laughs it off or denies that it’s an issue. He will get home from work and be on his games till well after I’m asleep. I feel like it’s really starting to irritate me and he’s not listening to any of my concerns. What should I do? How can I get through to him to spend less hours playing video games?
If you have a question you'd like us to answer send it to @lifeuncutpodcast on instagram!Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love!! xx
The Best Of The Pick Up - When a good deed backfires
00:33:49
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ask Uncut - Racoons or Architects, Boy's Trips, Cutting Ties & Empty Wishing Wells
00:53:13
Hey lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your life dilemmas!
Are you the partner who packs the dishwasher like a Scandinavian architect or a racoon on meth? The dishwasher is causing some problems in households but maybe we are a bit guilty of weaponised incompetence too! Britt is heading over to Romania tonight and Laura is hosting the Christmas Carols in Surfer's Paradise this weekend! Carols details here
HUSBAND GOES ON LOTS OF BOYS TRIPS AND I'M RESENTFUL My husband is part of a boys punting club where they put in $20 every week and then use the pool of money to go on an annual boys weekend away. He also has an annual interstate golf trip with a different group of dads. Both these trips are expensive and mean that I am left home with our 3 kids under 4. Am I right to feel resentful that he has these boys trips or are my expectations too high that he should give them up during this stage of life? All my friends are mums to young kids/babies so it’s a lot harder to organise a girls trip and I’d feel guilty to leave the kids for a few nights. Also I would rather spend the time and money on a family holiday or a trip with my husband. My dad never had boys trips, is this just the new normal for our generation?
PARTNER COMPLAINS ABOUT MY TOILET SKIDDIES Bit of a gross one but I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong here my partner constantly complains that I leave skid marks in the toilet. I’m not going out of my way to leave them there but we have a VERY clingy one year old so going to the toilet in itself is a bit of a challenge at the moment, let alone scrubbing the toilet when I’m done. My partner gets genuinely upset about it and has even gone so far as to call me 'an animal' because of it. Again, I’m not going out of my way to do this and when he brings it up (it comes up a lot), my response is, “it’s a fucking toilet”. Like that’s where the shit is meant to go, right?! Is it really that bad if I leave the odd skid mark on the toilet bowl?
BROKEN UP BUT CAN’T CUT TIES AND STILL HANGING OUT My partner and I split up 3 weeks ago. We dated for 5 1/2 years and had a house, a dog and a cat. It was a mutual breakup and it really came down to wanting different things and a lack of communication. Closer to the end we got quite distant which helped me come to terms with making the decision. After we broke up we started spending time together and talking through things and like we’re dating again. We know we have to cut ties but we’re just enjoying each others company. What do I do? How do I just leave? I’ve moved back with my parents but I’m spending a lot of time at his house now (my old house) I just can’t break ties and he isn’t the one to call it.
NO CARD IN WISHING WELL. CAN I BRING THIS UP? We got married about a month ago. Like most weddings we had a wishing well for cards and well wishes. After opening all the cards we noticed there was no card from a couple that attended the wedding (reception and ceremony). Whilst we do not expect a monetary gift we’re a bit taken aback by there not even being a card. It seems somewhat out of character for the couple so we’re wondering if had somehow gone missing. Is there any polite way of bringing this up with the couple or do we just leave it to avoid any awkwardness? I just can not fathom ever attending a wedding and not bringing a card let alone gift.
Do You Like Your Labia ... Puffed? Plus The Man Who *Likely Faked His Own Death
00:47:12
Hey Lifers,
It's officially Britt's bangiversary! She's tried to dupe Ben into a fancy gift but Ben's aware of her antics. We speak about the advice we got from our grandmothers. Some of it hasn't aged particularly well.
We might have found the world's most conflict avoidant man; the man who *likely has faked his own death to ditch his family and go to a woman in Europe. There was a video filmed back in June (two months before Ryan Borgwardt's disappearance). It shows a man on a bike asking if he should go to Uzbekistan to meet a woman, despite being married. After the video went viral, authorities say that the video isn't Ryan.
Also, how do you like your labia? We've spoken about symmetry, length and comfort when it comes to labia but labia puffing seems new. We ask:
Is our generation more obsessed than ever with labia?
Do you think this trend highlights empowerment or unnecessary pressure for perfection?
Today we have a special bonus episode for you with someone we could talk to all week!
Boy did we covered some ground in this chat. Everything from childhood theatre school, to the new drag show laws enforced in some states of the US, from anxiety, being a Queer icon, to filling the shoes of Freddie Mercury as the front man of Queen.
Adam is exceptional. He is so warm. He is so humble considering all of his achievements.
We were so lucky to have sat down in his hotel room and had this chat in person.
His brand new album is called 'High Drama' and you can listen to it now!
Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx
Welcome to flirt school. Here you'll learn what to do, and quite likely exactly what not to do. How much is too much eye contact? Have you tried breaking that eye contact and taking your gaze to a forehead? We unpack...
Things start off today with some plant talk and it's no stretch to say that Laura is not quite on the path to being a green thumbed goddess. Hopefully the plants can be rescued from the compost.
Vibes/unsubscribes for the week:
Britt - Halty style of dog lead Laura - Netflix Live to 100. Secrets of Blue Zones Keeshia - Unsubscribing from people using descriptive words in second hand ads Ben - Mark Manson documentary on Apple TV
Then we jump into your deep, dark and dirty questions:
I’m currently on maternity leave so I’m home a lot. We have a security camera at our front door that my fiancé and I get notifications for when someone’s there. However my fiancé is obsessed with looking at it every time it goes off, literally EVERY time.. so it feels like I’m sort of being watched with whatever I do. I made a comment a while ago that it makes me feel a bit weird and it’s giving controlling vibes and he was apologetic and said it was absolutely not his intention, he said he will stop looking at it, and he stopped commenting on every time a notification went off. But now he’s doing it again. Is this normal?!
Last night at dinner my partner told me he had masturbated the night before as he was in the mood but I had fallen asleep. He always watches porn if he’s going to masturbate- which I’m totally fine with. However, my question is: is it weird for your partner to masterbate while watching porn, when I’m in bed next to him sleeping?? I find it a little strange and weird knowing he was getting off to some porn while I was right there next to him. Not because it wasn’t me he was getting off to, just the fact he had to do it while I’m there sleeping.
One of my absolute pet peeves is not receiving a thank you for my generosity. I’ve given them gifts, home cooked meals and heartfelt cards. I’ve previously travelled interstate for a wedding and contributed to the wishing well. Some of them I don’t even receive a thank you from unless I bring it up. Am I being unreasonable?
End of Year Chatch ups and Chaos, Hair Loss and Raygun's Trademark
00:58:17
Hey guys!
This time of the year feels like chaos and most of us are crawling to the finish line but today's episode matches the chaotic vibes! We chat:
Hair loss, transplants and visiting Türkiye
Alternative therapies using placentas
What's in store for Christmas & Christmas traditions
Having very 'curious' 5 year old asking about Santa
Your best talent quest memories
There's an Aussie comedian named Steph Broadbridge who created a musical parody 'Raygun the Musical' and was going to launch the show over the weekend. However, Steph was forced to cancel the show after Raygun's lawyers sent a cease and desist letter saying that Raygun owned the dance moves and that they were committed to protecting her intellectual property and ensuring that her brand remained strong and respected.
There are a lot of opinions online (and within our team) about who is in the right and the wrong in this scenario. We speak about the optics, owning your brand, being tired of being mocked and cultural appropriation.
Ask Uncut - Not My Biological Father, Career or Motherhood & Concert Etiquette
00:47:19
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we unpack all of your deep dark and burning questions. Laura is a bit f*cking rooted today apparently! There are no sick days here at life uncut! First very important question: which colour snakes (lollies) do you like the least? Is it orange? It's probably orange right?? Second very important question: what flavour is the orange lolly? The answer to this still hurts my brain.
Keeshia has been reunited with Britt's dad Tony and there's a lifer who now gets where our obsession with him comes from!
DO I LET IT GO TO PROTECT MY DAD? Growing up, I always looked and felt really different from the rest of my family. It was always a running joke that I was the “adopted” child because I don’t resemble anyone. When I was 14 and really into science, I learned that my blood type wasn’t a possible combination of my parents. I brought it up with my mum, but she completely shut me down and made me feel silly for even questioning it. Fast forward to late last year, and my sister and I did a heritage DNA test for fun. When the results came back, we found out we’re only half-sisters—meaning we have different dads. I have no idea what to do with this information. I’ve always had suspicions that my mum might have had an affair over the years (I’ve even seen some texts on her phone to another man). The thing is, my dad is the sweetest, most pure-hearted man. He’s retired now and living his best life, and I know that something like this could absolutely shatter him. I don’t know if it’s my place to bring it up or if he would be happier living in ignorant bliss. I don’t care about finding out who my “real” biological father is—I just care about what’s best for my dad. Is it my duty to dig deeper and confront my mum? Or do I let this go to protect him? I’m completely torn.
CONCERT ETIQUETTE Can you stand up at a concert when in a reserved seating area? If you want to stand to pop along, should you book a GA standing?
DO I REKINDLE THINGS AFTER SHE HAS THE BABY? I’ve just started talking to a new man for the first time after being cheated on in my last relationship. We went on two dates, and I really liked him. We slept together, he stayed the night, it was great! This man ticked all of my boxes. All of a sudden, after staying the night, he stopped replying! I thought he’d ghosted me and things were done. Then three days later, he came back and explained that he and his ex had hooked up in October last year and SHE IS PREGNANT! She’s now just started her second trimester. He said he wants to prioritise the baby and her, and he and his ex agreed on no dating/communication through the pregnancy, which is completely reasonable. He said he wants to keep talking to me after the birth because he really enjoyed spending time with me and wants to see where things go. My question is, do I rekindle things in 5 months, or is it just too messy?
CAREER OR MOTHERHOOD? My partner and I are trying to work out when we should have kids. I’m 30 and he is 39. His career is well and truly set up and he is happy where he is. I however am not! When I was younger I always wanted to be a mum, but as I get older my priorities have shifted to being career focused. I am a pilot and I want to progress in my career a little more before we have kids. I am not happy where I currently work (very toxic workplace) and want a bit more of a stable job, especially one to go back to after having babies. I’m not sure this new job will come in the next year or so, so my husband and I have been talking about prioritising babies first, due to my husband approaching 40. As much as I want to be a mum, it breaks my heart that I may not get my dream career that I’ve worked years for and spent $200 K to train for (does this mean I shouldn’t be a mum?😢). I don’t want to put off having kids for too long, but I also feel If I take a break now from my career that I’d be setting myself back years compared to my male colleagues. I feel so stuck and lost and I keep getting told that I’ll know when the time is right but will I? Is 40 getting too old to be a first time dad? Also - the income I earn would not be enough to support a family, so my partner (also a pilot) would have to be the one to continue working and I’ll be the one to take time off
Ask Uncut - Christmas Gifts, Photo Albums of Exes and Shared Middle Names
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Hey Lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions with our best but technically unqualified advice. Britt is nudging for an honorary doctorate! Laura can have orgasms in her sleep. We're aware that this is likely a unicorn and very fortunate skill but have you ever had one in your sleep? Britt has an unfortunate injury and somehow zooper doopers have entered the chat.
BUY XMAS GIFT FOR NEW BOYFRIEND OR TOO SOON? I’ve been dating this guy for about 9 weeks now, it’s going great, amazing communication, sex etc etc. From the get go we’ve been straight about not dating anyone else, pausing the apps etc. With Christmas coming up, I’m wondering do you think it would be too full on to get him a small gift? It will have been ~3 months of dating by then, he’s really easy to buy for and I know what I’d get him but also am aware of him being spooked in the past when he hasn’t felt 100% sure. He’s said numerous times how much he’s enjoying this and wanting to continue seeing me and see where things go. I’m worried if I get him a Christmas gift he might freak out? I don’t expect one in return but have seen a few small things I know he’d love. Too much too soon? Or okay?
IS IT NORMAL FOR BF TO SAY HE WOULD SLEEP WITH FRIENDS IF SINGLE? My boyfriend has been talking to a girl who he met online. He said she is only a friend but he would sleep with her if he was single. He tried to justify this by saying he would sleep with any of his friends if he was single and they wanted to as it is just sex. He said that all men think like this. My question is… is this true that all men think like this and he is just being honest, or is it a strange comment?
KEEPING PHOTO ALBUM OF EX My fiancé recently got some of his old belongings from his parent’s home as they’re currently going through a move. In the items was a photo album of him and his long term ex who we happen to have had issues over in the past. I found the photo album hidden in a wardrobe after he told me “yuck, they can go in the bin”. My question is, do you think keeping photos of an ex is a red flag and why do you think he’d want to keep them?
SIBLING WANTS TO USE SAME MIDDLE NAME AS MY KID So I had my baby in May and he’s the first grandchild of the family. His middle name is my dad’s first name. My brother‘s wife is having a baby in January and he told me he wants to give their baby the same middle name - after my dad. Thoughts?
MY PARTNER CONSISTENTLY WETS THE BED WHEN HE DRINKS & HE WON’T STOP DRINKING My partner (M37) is a big drinker and also has an overactive bladder which leads him to wetting the bed basically every weekend when he drinks. I’ve expressed my discontent with this numerous times throughout our three year relationship and have tried to help by buying nappies, setting alarms during the night and trying to trick him into sleeping in other rooms. I’ve also pushed him to see a urologist where he now takes medication to urinate less throughout the day however as the bed wetting is primarily a problem from alcohol, he’s still frequently wetting himself. This impact also extends to when we go away with friends, for weddings, on holidays etc and he makes no effort to drink less and I’m left to monitor him throughout the night to make sure he gets up to pee and doesn’t wet the bed as we have no where else to sleep.
I’m at my wit’s end and have even gone to see a relationship counsellor who basically said (long story short) that if I try to change the un-changeable then I’m going to drive myself crazy and I basically need to learn to live with it. My partner has an enormous victim mentality about this and his only emotional response is that “it’s not fair that his mates can drink as much as they want without this problem” and “why me, it’s not fair”. Am I being unreasonable in expecting him to drink less to stop this problem? If he was in his early 20s I’d give him time grow out of it, but at nearly 40, I’m heavily considering leaving the relationship because it’s so sad and unattractive, and I don’t want this for my future. Please tell me if I’m being too hard on him like he says that I am.
IS IT OK TO WANK AT WORK?
I randomly asked my husband when he last had a wank, to which he replied “uh, probably last week?” Me being a stay at home mum who is home…ALL THE TIME, then asked “was I home?” He so casually responded “oh no, nine times out of ten I’d have a wank at work.” Now, I’m NOT here to yuck someone’s yum, HOWEVER, this is NOT the first partner I’ve had to do this! My husband is a tradie, one was in real estate, another was in the medical area. My question is… is this normal? Why not do it at home? Is it a risk kink thing?
HUSBAND NOT REACHING OUT WHILST AWAY
My husband has gone to Darwin for a week for a friend's 40th (we live in NSW) which is fine. I encouraged him to go. I am at home with our 2 children, aged 2 and 4 months. I am feeling a little bit let down with how often he is checking in with me while he is away. I feel like I have been initiating all contact with him, sending messages with updates of the kids etc and he takes hours to respond if at all. He doesn’t bother to send good morning or goodnight messages or calls. And I can see that he has been active online. He is staying at his brother's house and I know for a fact they have just been sitting around drinking for the last few days. Am I being unreasonable thinking he should be checking in on us more? I have pulled back on how many times I initiate contact to see whether he would pick it up on his end, but he hasn’t. Should I bring it up with him or just let it go?
WEARING A BRA TO WORK
Do you always wear a bra to work? I haven’t a couple of times, I have small titties and wear normal neckline tops. I thought I could absolutely get away with it, but I did notice one of my male coworkers looking down and it made me feel a bit weird. I have a desk job and am worried it might not be very professional. Would love your thoughts!
Ask Uncut - Should I tell my cousin he's actually my half brother?
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Hey Lifers!
Welcome to your therapy Thursday - today we've got some questions that not only do we disagree on, but they're also beyond the norm!
Producer Keeshia is filling in as Laura enjoys her week in newlywed bliss.
Your questions that we are jumping into today are:
-I was made redundant from my dream job, my partner left me and I'm living back at my parent's house. How do I pull myself together when I feel like I'm at rock bottom and have no motivation to do anything?
-Should I tell my cousin that he is actually my half brother? My mum donated her eggs but the family drifted apart and they never told him. I've recently learned that we are genetically siblings and I don't know whether to keep the secret or to tell him.
-My love language is physical touch & my boyfriend is religious and does not want to have sex before marriage, which I respect. But I feel rejected and question whether he's attracted to me. He feels guilty touching me and doesn't sleep well next to me. What can I do?
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Laura is an elite athlete now. She's possibly getting a ticket for indecent exposure but we're focussing on the success of doing 14km with a donkey pram! Britt has done one of the more Britt coded things possible and embarrassed herself again. If you could theoretically find out who the love of your life was going to be and specifically when you would meet them at the age of say 18, would you? Would you like to know? If you had a crystal ball and could see whether you and your current partner were going to be together in 10 years, would you like to know that?
Ben has moved to Romania and Britt knows a bit too much about Dracula... Laura has an update on how her conversations with her girls went about their grandfather passing away. The entire world cannot stop talking about Raygun. We unpack where the line between trolling and criticism is, whether the commentary is gendered and whether it's 'good enough' that she 'did her best'. We also take a bit of a dive into her own research in the field and how it seems to contrast her performance at the Olympics.
Bust out the gins, and enough cucumber to make a salad! Channel 10 have done the dirty and dropped 4 episodes this week. F O U R!!There aren't enough cucumbers in the world to get us through this.
Now Laura and Matty J had a holiday planned and so this episode unpacks episodes 4, 5 and 6! Episode 7 and all of its glory will be dropped in a bonus episode later this week.
So, where to begin? Well, there's eye waxing, wet and wild women, drum sticks, a mass walk out, Matt cries, and Laura forgets she is recapping the bachelor and tells us all how she was hit on in the sauna the other day.
The rest of the episodes can be summarised in one word; polyamory.Polyamory, polyamory, polyamory.
Strap on in for the chaotic retelling of eps 4,5 & 6
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Ask Uncut- Banging your boss & not setting boundaries
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Welcome back Lifers and Lovers,
Today we start by unpacking whether it's the responsibility of the interviewee to hold up the conversation if the interviewer isn't doing a great job. Hugh Grant is being slammed for his interview with Ashley Graham, and we might be in the minority on this one.
-When is it okay to be someone’s second choice? Context- I met this guy 5 years ago and we followed each other on instagram. Fast forward and we went on a nice date a few weeks ago. The following week I got a message saying that he had such a great time and really liked me, but his ex had been in contact and he felt as though things weren’t finished between them. Fast forward again, it’s been two months and he’s messaged saying that things are well and truly finished and that he’d like to go out again. Would you go?
-I had a sex dream about my boss and now I can’t stop seeing him in a sexual way. He is single but there would be what I guess you’d say a power in balance between us. Should I put out some feelers and see if he maybe sees me in the same way or am I asking for trouble? I’m not sure if it’s just a bit of a hot fantasy or if maybe we actually could work in a relationship. We have a lot in common and I know that a lot of people meet their long term partners at work
-How can I distance our relationship without ruining it? I have a half-sister & we did not grow up together. Initially I loved the idea of having a sister, but she wants the type of relationship where we text all day, call a few times a week, and basically give a play by play of our day and our lives. It's exhausting and not who I am.
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Uncut with Tones and I - "You’ve Got to Be the Whole Package and I Just Wanted to Be the Music"
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Today's interview felt like such an honour. It's with one of the most successful Australian artists, who likely needs little introduction, Tones and I! She has over 10.5 billion streams worldwide. Her songs have been number 1 in 31 countries and she was the first female artist to reach 3 billion streams on spotify! But, Tones rarely does media and we feel so lucky that this is her first ever long form podcast. We chat about:
Why Tones felt like hiding from a public life was a safer option
How she grew up and why she worked so hard for what she wanted
Dance Monkey catapulting her into the public space and what that felt like behind closed doors
Being in her sequin, confidence era
Choosing to go sober
Living as a married person with a bunch of friends
Touring with P!nk after offers from Robbie Williams
Announcing her OWN national tour!
You can find everything about her tour at her website!
Does All Failure Lead to Lessons or Success? - Unpacking Failure, Friendship & Fertility Privilege with Elizabeth Day
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This episode feels like a warm hug with our newest British friend who just GETS IT! It's a beautiful conversation with Elizabeth Day. Elizabeth is a journalist, podcaster and the author of several best-selling books, including "How to Fail: Everything I've Learned from Things Going Wrong.”
In this chat we cover off 4 big F words:
Failure - How Elizabeth's 'failed' marriage and attempts to have a child taught her so much about herself
Finding purpose - How those adversities led her to seeking a different purpose for her life and how our purpose isn't always tied to raising children
Friendship - Learning quality over quantity
Fertility privilege - Having more awareness around people who may be struggling with fertility
If you'd like to check out Elizabeth's podcast, books or Aus tour, you can find everything here!
You can cast your vote for the Australian podcast awards here!
A Terminal Diagnosis at Twenty Five - Uncut with Kellie Finlayson
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Hey Lifers,
Today we kick off the episode by celebrating Laura's 37th birthday! She's got some feelings about turning 37 and they're not the feelings that you might expect.
We talk about judging parents of young children for allowing them screen time and have a bit of a silly discussion about why we view women's sex toys as 'empowering' but men's sex toys as gross and creepy!
Then we are joined by the wonderful Kellie Finlayson.
Kellie Finlayson was 25 and had a beautiful 3 month old daughter with her partner Jeremy, when their world turned upside down. Kellie was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer.After spending a large part of her daughter's life in hospital and a horrific experience with chemo, Kellie beat her cancer. But then months later Kellie found out that her cancer had spread to her lungs. Kellie is now on a mission to spread awareness of bowel cancer, especially in young people. You can follow her journey here: https://www.instagram.com/kelliefinlayson_/
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The Playboy Mansion , Hugh Hefner and the 60 Year Age Gap - Uncut with Crystal Hefner
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The playboy mansion and playboy empire is surrounded by so much intrigue and controversy. Today we got to chat with Crystal Hefner. Crystal became a sexual icon of the 2010’s when she entered the playboy mansion at only 21 years of age. When Crystal turned 26, she married Playboy tycoon Hugh Hefner who was 86 years old and news of this wedding circulated to every corner of the globe.
Crystal has just released a tell all memoir titled “only say good things” about the truth of what really happened behind closed doors of the elusive playboy mansion.
We chat about:
How Crystal initially entered the Playboy Mansion
What life was actually like day to day
How the exploitation of such young women was in plain sight to the entire world
Finances inside the house and how much the girls actually got paid
Sex inside the mansion
The ‘reality’ of original reality TV - The girls next door
Ask Uncut - Don't Tell Your Partner You Weren't Attracted to Them
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Hey Lifers! We're in with our last ask uncut of the year! Britt is in Scotland and scaring strangers in her apartment complex. Have you experienced a bit of a sliding doors moment with your partner? Maybe your paths almost crossed before you actually met, or something happened and it meant that things could be so different to what they are now!
We have a chat about a woman who is going viral for a post she made about how she wasn't attracted to her husband. It's getting...mixed reviews!
Vibes for the week:
Britt: movie - Promising Young Women Laura: Netflix doco Bad Surgeon: Love Under the Knife
Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning quesitions!
I’ve been with my husband for 13 years. Recently an openly gay dude who he’s acquaintances with started sending him messages at all hours of the night telling my husband how much he likes him and that he can’t stop thinking about what his 🍆 would look like etc. We would also wake up to deleted messages in the morning (so the friend had deleted it before my husband read it). It’s made me really uncomfortable. Yes, my husband showed me the messages but when I asked him to tell the friend to stop, he wouldn’t. He said “I’m not gay so it shouldn’t matter.” Eventually my husband messaged the dude and told him to stop but he did it in a way that was so undermining to me. The message was basically “I’m as shocked as you are, I don’t mind the messages but my psycho wife has lost her shit about it so to save my sanity could you just not send me those messages anymore”. The messages stopped but after that I feel so differently about my husband. I feel like he betrayed me….. just by the lack of respect and throwing me under the bus to the other guy. What do you think? Have I over reacted here?
Last night my husband and I were just chatting and the conversation turned to our sex life. We’ve never watched porn together. I asked him if he had watched porn before, since we’ve been married and then again after our first child was born. During that convo, I became curious and started asking more questions but he said he didn’t want to talk about it anymore as it made him uncomfortable. Instead of listening to him and respecting his wishes, I kept questioning him. He got frustrated as I didn’t respect his wishes and he refused to talk about it anymore. I then became really upset and angry. Not because he put a boundary in place, but because he’d watched porn since we’d been living together. We’ve always had a great sex life (with the exception of dry times after the kids) and have always been open with our communication about it.
Him watching porn since we have been living together and being married makes me feel like I haven’t been enough for him and like I’m not good enough, and he has to get pleasure outside of me. However, I actually don’t have a problem with porn - I’ve watched it myself before, watched it with previous partners and would have been open to watching it with my husband. Upon reflection, I now know why I’m so upset about it. In my previous relationship (before I met my husband), my then-partner watched porn a lot. It got in the way of our sex life and he never wanted to be intimate AT ALL with me. I really don’t know how to go about this and how to move on mentally. My husband hasn’t done anything wrong and this isn’t his issue.
I went ahead and booked a holiday during cyber Monday sales. I only need one day of unpaid leave to be approved from my job (I’m a teacher) in order to go, however I didn’t wait for the leave to be approved before booking. For reference, people take unpaid leave for holidays all the time at my work. I have only ever taken one day off other than sick leave throughout my 6 years of teaching at this school. My boss has rejected my leave and told me to cancel my holiday or fly home half way through for this one day of work. It’s a professional development day and no kids will be there. Apparently I can’t attend via zoom (because she doesn’t want me to) and have to be there in person in order to reconnect with everyone. I don’t know what to do. I love my job and don’t want to have my bosses think of me badly, but I’ll lose over $1200 to book new flights home and my holiday will be shortened by 5 days. What should I do?
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Do You Feel ‘Crazy’ Around the Time of Your Period? Unpacking Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) with Dr Izzy Smith
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There’s a huge amount of stigma associated with anything to do with our periods and for a lot of people, they may have spent years being told that they are dramatic, moody and irrational around the time of their period. As it turns out, it may not have just been ‘that time of the month’. They may experience a condition called PMDD or Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder.
As for any invisible health condition, having a name for it can be really validating and give you a sense that you’re not crazy and you’re not alone. It also helps people around you understand what might be going on so this episode isn’t just for the girlies who experience extreme mood shifts like depression, irritability, anger and hopelessness around their period, it’s also for those of us who don’t so that we can be more supportive for a loved one who does.
Today we have Dr Isobelle Smith, an endocrinologist with over 10 years of experience in hormones, joining us to unpack the ins and outs of PMDD. We chat:
What PMDD is and how it differs from PMS
The stigma of ‘erratic’ moods and emotional dysregulation
The possible causes of PMDD
PMDD being listed as a mental disorder
Treatment and management for PMDD
How PMDD changes over the course of your ‘reproductive’ years
PMDD in perimenopause and menopause
Medical misogyny and advocating for your own health
Welcome to Ask Uncut, where we answer all of your deep, dark and dirty questions.
First up today, we'd love to know, if you are single or if you were single, would you be open to wearing a particular ring to indicate that you were single and open to being approached IRL?We've got mixed feelings and wonder whether it may become as mainstream as online dating.
Question 1:
When I was on a night out with a friend, I met a guy. His friend invited my friend and I back to his apartment. Our physical intimacy progressed throughout the night and we got very close, only I didn’t sleep with him because of a weird gut feeling that something was off. I gave him my number and we said we couldn’t wait to go on a date to spend some time together. The next day, I found his Instagram. His tagged posts have a wedding video of him and his beautiful wife. I clicked on her profile and it shows they’re still married. I feel disgusted with him and myself. My question is, do you think the wife has a right to know and should I be the one to tell her?
Question 2:
I'm 26 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I've decided I want to move to Australia for 1 year. He has said that he would be keen to come with me. He's great, kind etc, but I'm not sure he is the one! Should I allow him to move to the other side of the world with me if I'm not 100% sure about him or should I break it off for a fresh start even though I'm not sure if I want to break up?
Question 3:
If your partner has 'made' the decision that it is time to go to sleep, e.g. lights off, phones down, do both of you have to put the devices down, turn the lights off and go to sleep?
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The Best Of The Pickup - A photoshopped MP and Mitch's Bristol stool scale
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater at the Wicked Premiere & Should You Loyalty Test Your Partner?
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Hey guys! Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow. Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed?
We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere! We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.' We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance! There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in!
Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner? We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating?
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Are you wearing eye shadow? Apparently we are not fitting in with the youth anymore, but we certainly have the 'tired eyes' look covered!
Britt is sad that she's missing out on some family memories. Laura's kids picked their cat, but Matt has rules and we're not sure if it will be cat or cats...
I went out for a first date with a guy for a drink! I drove there so I was expecting to have 2 glasses of wine MAX over a possible 2 hours. He sat down, said we would be getting a bottle of wine - not even asking about my preference. I told him, I would prefer a glass as I was driving and he said “no that’s definitely going to change. You’ll be drinking more and staying for the bottle and eventually we will go back to yours.” I immediately felt uncomfortable and was very shut off from wanting to get to know this person which I eventually voiced. After I finished my one glass, (he on his third) I very respectfully said that I would be heading off and to be polite I said, let me know your bank details so I can transfer you for half the bottle. This morning I woke up to his bank details and he told me the bottle was $90! This is probably one of the worst dates I have ever been on so how much do I send him if any?
My boyfriend of 15 months is sweet, kind, generous and patient. I, on the other hand, am passionate and fiery. I crave excitement and stimulation but find my relationship very comfortable and complacent. My boyfriend has a good job and studies, but is happy to live a fairly simple life and doesn’t push himself too hard. Despite this, he always goes above and beyond to make me feel special and loved. It hurts so bad to admit but I find myself feeling a bit bored and underwhelmed, almost as if I’m missing that spark. I know (from you guys) better than to dream about the greener grass or go chasing butterflies and thrills but I can’t help but feel as if there’s a relationship out there that would make me happier. Am I being unappreciative? What should I do; Stay with the sweet boy who is comfortable and safe? Or find someone who can match me intellectually and who I feel more chemistry with?
Someone I follow posted trying to set her husband's best friend up on a date - she listed qualities of him etc. Fast forward, I’m texting this guy and we go on a first date. We both have busy schedules which are opposite which means we only share a few messages a day (I’m a fitness instructor so work mornings/nights). After not speaking to him for a whole day (he might be ghosting me) I accidentally sent my location on my way to work. MY LIVE LOCATION AT 5 AM in the morning!!! When he hasn’t even replied to my last text.How do you recover from this? I am mortified. I wanted to see this guy again
Can you guys settle a debate between me and my boyfriend? Is peeing in a pool gross? He thinks the ocean or river is fine but a pool is too far 😂 I think a pool is fine because it’s usually treated for that stuff right? Thought this was a good poll question!
People Pleasers Anonymous! Better Boundaries with Terri Cole
00:47:59
Hey Lifers, Are you a people pleaser? Do you say yes to far too many 'favours' when you'd like to be able to say no? Setting boundaries is something that we all know we should do, but when it comes to the people who we love and care about, it can be a lot easier said than done.
Joining the podcast is psychotherapist and relationship empowerment expert Terri Cole. Terri joined the podcast in June of 2022 for an episode on cheating. You can listen to it here! Today Terri shares her insight into everything surrounding boundaries. We chat about:
Saying yes when you want to say no costs the relationship
Why we don't want to disappoint people but we end up being people pleasers
Having good boundaries will protect you emotionally
Disordered boundaries and co-dependency
The difference between control and having boundaries when trust has been broken
Healthy parent-child relationship boundaries
Why you shouldn't be best friends with your child
You can find more of Terri here! You can get her new book here.
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The best of The Pick Up radio show - 'Good Moaning'
00:56:59
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ocean Wave, Volcano or Avalanche; Which Type Are You?
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Hey Lifers!
You might have noticed a sneaky little bonus episode drop into your feeds on Friday! We released the meaty, juicy part of today's episode on Friday to line up with Adam's media schedule!
So today's episode is a bit of a laugh!First up, Laura was recognised at potentially the worst place imaginable...enter the gastroenterologist.
We unpack a study that found that women have one of three types of orgasms:
-The ocean wave, -The volcano or -The avalanche.
We also asked you what 'thing' you got into because the person you were into liked it and our advice is steer clear of any sports that go for more than 2 hours...
We got to sit down with Adam Lambert and have a big ol' chat that you can find here: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-king-of-queen-uncut-with-adam-lambert/id1472126503?i=1000603487506
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Make it 1% Better! Sweating the Small Stuff Leads to Success: Lessons from Steven Bartlett
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Hey Lifers!
First up today, Laura's come to an interesting discovery about her anatomy... Britt has an update on her egg freezing journey and we're deeply thinking of anyone who is struggling with their or their partner's fertility at the moment.
We have a question for to ask yourself, your friend, colleague, partner or kids. How can I be 1% better? You can interpret this however you wish. It could be in your work life, towards your partner, personal growth etc.
Then, it's producer Keeshia's dream come true. Her favourite podcaster Steven Bartlett joins Life Uncut! Steven Bartlett is the host of The Diary of a CEO, one of the most listened to podcasts in the world. He's an incredibly successful businessman and entrepreneur. He's also an author and an investor on Dragon's Den (the UK version of our Shark Tank).
In this interview we focus on the secret sauce behind what made Steven so successful, making incremental improvements, and embracing the art of effective communication.
We chat:
Sweating the small stuff - why the seemingly insignificant things matter
The power of never disagreeing - why "never disagreeing" doesn't mean sacrificing your opinion but instead fosters a culture of empathy and understanding.
Pissing people off for success - why making waves and challenging the status quo can be a sign that your business strategy is working.
Unapologetic values & how these values can determine what we make of ourselves
You can grab Steven's new book The Diary of a CEO: The 33 Laws of Business and Life by Steven Bartlett here!
Producer Keeshia is filling in today and Britt is curious about her chewing gum and toilet choice habits. Britt has had a very serious emergency that could have had a very dire outcome. This story isn't for a laugh but more a word of warning! Vibes for the week can be found on our website Britt: Keeshia: Modern Wisdom - How to stop feeling like your success is never enough and Apple airpod max headphones
Then we jump into your questions!
IS HE LYING TO ME? A few years ago when I was around 7 months pregnant I noticed a condom missing from the pack. The only reason I noticed this was because we don’t use condoms and only had them because we were going through fertility treatment and advised to use them prior to egg collection and embryo transfer. I confronted my husband about it and he said he likes to wear them when he ‘relieves’ himself because he likes the feeling of it. Fast forward to now and we have been trying for a second baby for almost 9 months. We have embryos frozen so have decided to go through fertility treatment again. Again, we have been advised to use condoms to avoid multiples etc. My husband hasn’t used any of ours since then, or told me that he’s brought more. For the past few months he has been working away a few nights a week and staying at a friend’s house while he’s away (this friend is married with kids). The other day our 2 year old was going through his bag. He opened a zip and pulled out 2 condoms saying ‘daddy biscuits’. A few hours passed and a comment was made and we ended up talking about it. He told me again he liked the feeling of it and that I have nothing to worry about. My sex drive has been very low the last few months trying for a baby again and sex feels like a chore. He doesn’t want to push me or put any pressure on so finds the need to ‘relieve’ himself which is totally fine. I explained to him why it seemed suss and he understood where I was coming from and said he never even saw it that way. Now the question is - I don’t know if this a red flag and he’s lying to me or is this a legit thing and I should just trust him? We are about to have another embryo transfer and I’m just all over the place with my emotions and how I feel about this. I don’t have actual proof he’s done anything wrong or cheated and I don’t have reason to not trust him.
AM I A BAD FRIEND? I’ve got a friend who seems to chase chaos in relationships. She is clearly the reason her last wonderful relationship didn’t work out, and since then she has dated multiple toxic guys back to back, and says she loves red flags - as if it’s funny, until it’s not funny anymore. She also never takes any accountability for her bad behaviour. I wish I didn’t get so invested and didn’t care what she did with relationships but it’s put me off our friendship. She’s never done anything bad to me but I find myself with the ick and not wanting to hang out with her because I can’t possibly listen to one more of these chaotic and red flag guy stories. Am I being a bad friend?
NOT BUDGETING FAIRLY My family is going on a big holiday for a whole week. I’m talking about my sisters, their husbands and their kids + my parents and me (I’m single). One of my sisters has been the arranger of the whole trip. It was her idea so she has booked and budgeted everything and explained how much everything is costing and how it’s getting split. Now it’s coming to the crushing time of paying everything and getting close to us all going but I’m starting to feel as if things haven’t been fairly budgeted. What’s your perspective? We are 3 sisters helping pay toward ours and our parents' holiday however 2 of us have partners also contributing to the 1/3 expected on each of our behalf and then there is me who has to support the whole 1/3 on my own. Is this just the way the cookie crumbles or should this actually be split by 5 to include my sister's husbands?
‘That’s Triggering!’ Is Therapy-Speak Changing Our Relationships?
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Hey Lifers!
Britt looks like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson today, but the dress code for her wedding has caused an unintentional stir. The Europeans think she's a bit of a creep! Last week Laura told us how much she loved the reptiles at the reptile park and in a relatively ironic turn of events, she might have 15 of her own coming to her new home!
A few days ago, Love Is Blind US (Netflix) released season 7 of the show. There was a particular moment where one of the contestants, Stephen admits to Monica that he has emotionally cheated in the past. He then went on to say “we went through therapy. We worked it out” and “I’m actively in therapy to talk about these things.”
We spoke about how speaking about therapy in the dating landscape can be great, but it can also be used as a tactic to manipulate their date into thinking they're more emotionally intelligent than they are! Many women now say they prefer to date men who’ve been to therapy. Do men now use therapy as a badge of emotional depth?
We also spoke about "therapy-speak" and the overuse of certain labels or phrases like triggering, trauma, narcissist, gaslighting and sociopath. Do you think the overuse of these terms dilutes the experiences of people who have endured genuine abuse or trauma? We also spoke about how we can spot when therapy-speak is being used manipulatively versus when it reflects genuine emotional growth.
Hi Beautiful people! Welcome to Life Uncut! Join us, Britt and Laura as we delve into the deep, dark, intriguing, confusing, hilarious but mostly wonderful world that is Love and reality TV. We reveal a little about our shared reality tv past, how we got there, how we met and some Bachelor chat so that you can get to know us.We are an independent little podcast just starting up and would love for you to share the love! Please subscribe and leave a review to help us grow. Because, well, we love love. x
How to Manage a Break Up & Why You Seem to be Dating the Same Person Over and Over- Uncut with Jillian Turecki
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How the f*ck do you move on when you're in the depths of a relationship?
Today's episode is with the incredible Jillian Turecki!
Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer. She has helped thousands of people be better in their relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself, and has helped just as many people manage the aftermath of a relationship breakdown.
We ask for Jillian's advice on:
How to know whether you should break up with your partner
How do I know if it's just a normal relationship lull or if it's actually the end of the relationship?
Do you know when you've found 'the one'?
Are break ups always devastating or are they an opportunity?
When it's actually not them, it's you. You're the problem
Patterns in your dating and relationships
You can find more from Jillian on her website and on her Instagram
We did an episode on break ups back in 2020! You can listen here!
Another episode that we did on break ups with Alexis Fernandez on break ups is here!
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
What's on the show:
Bed wetters
The worst cities to date in and it's bad news for the east coast of Aus
Awhina from MAFS
Marlie Mae has a new and unexpected pen pal
Betty's life advice
Interrupted vows
The worst excuses you've used to get out of something
The Morning Shed, Beauty Mishaps and Career Milestones
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Britt’s peacocking has gone horribly wrong. She’s blaming the laser therapist. The laser therapist is blaming her… She’s going to be a unicorn at the wedding. She also might be banned from a different laser place for a different reason.
Laura has reached a truly incredible career milestone with ToniMay. We are here cheering her on as *influencers, *business partners or friends.😂It’s been 15 years in the making and we’re all so proud and chuffed of their hard work. Plus your spiciest confessions are back! Again, we are galvanised by how cooked everyone else is.
Are you on the ‘morning shed’ or the ‘5 hour morning routine’ algorithm? We speak about the standards that keep evolving for what we are ‘meant’ to be doing to prevent ageing and wake up ‘beautiful.’ The lines between beauty and wellness seem to be blurred and it’s a bit bat sh*t that they’ve run out of things to market to us when we’re awake so they’ve moved on to products to use when we are unconscious. Are morning routines a competition? Who are they really for?
Who is surviving the apocalypse? The best of The Pick Up
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Are Cosmetic Injections the New Fight Club? Propagating and Suing Because You're Undatable
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Hey Lifers,
Britt is on her home run of recording from Scotland. We chat about navigating long distance & how it's going to work for her in 2024. Laura is... propagating. Lots of propagating. She might be a lost cause at this point but at least the house will be filled with fresh oxygen!
We speak about a man who is suing people who outed him on a facebook group as being bad to date. Sounds a lot like someone who wouldn't be great to date to be honest...
We also unpack the new crackdown that the TGA is having on the advertising of cosmetic injections. While existing rules banned Botox ads, that didn’t stop clinics from scooting around them by using 'code words' like “anti-wrinkle treatment” and “lip filler”. But not anymore! Essentially there's no longer going to be any advertising of these types of services. We raise the question of 'is this going to reduce or increase patient education about the procedures that they may wish to have?' Is the TGA putting energy into scrutinising the right thing?
We previously spoke about our views on cosmetic injections and you can listen to that here!
Plus we have accidentally unfiltered and suck and sweet!
If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
“And then I became deeply hungry to get out of pain.” Mindset and Manifestation with Zoe Marshall
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Zoe Marshall is a lot of things. A podcaster, a content creator, an ex radio host, a mother of 2 and she’s now an advocate for mindset and manifestation. She’s joining us today to talk through why mindset is so important in our lives and the science behind some practices that have been thought of as a bit 'woo woo'.
Zoe also speaks about what led her in a different direction from the successful podcast 'the deep' and how we all process and manage trauma.
We speak about:
How ‘manifesting’ has been labelled as only for the privileged
Finding purpose in less conventional ways
Conscious thought and taking action especially in relationships
Reticular activation system
Shifting mindset from fear to gratitude
It’s the feeling, not the ‘thing’ that you actually want
Ask Uncut - He's in a sexless marriage, can I be his side piece?
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Hey Lifers,
Britt's stuck her foot in it (unexpected) and our favourite Laura is back!! First up today, a queer bar on Oxford St has had enough of the hens and bucks parties!
Our friend Xander joins us to chat about his experiences in gay bars and the reasons behind why this decision has been made!
Vibes for the week:
Laura - Triangle of Sadness movie on Amazon Prime
Britt - Iced coffee cubes
Questions for today:
I met a guy on an app and he is seeking one person to have FWB. He is in a sexless marriage, and not wanting to leave his wife. Personally, I am fine with what he wants as that suits what I’m looking for, and it’s his decision if he is choosing to cheat. I have not actively gone after him. I know it’s wrong but I’m so over doing what is right for everyone else when I just want to have some fun and I deserve that. I have been cheated on in the past and it is horrible. But if it’s not me he will still do this with someone else. My question/worry is that if I meet someone down the track, do you think this would be something they would judge me for given the situation? Does this make me a bad person?
I’ve been with my partner for 2 years now and he has a child with his ex partner. He has baby bump pictures of his ex in his phone, some of which she is completely naked in. Am I being a complete psychopath and jealous because I want a baby with him but he isn’t ready so him having these photos makes me super sad and I feel like this is such a horrible thing for me to feel. Is this ok?
My partner and I have been together for 6 years and lived together for 4. My ideal bed time is 10pm however my partners isn’t until 11pm. I like to go to bed at the same time as I tend to sleep better and don’t get interrupted when he gets in. It might seem comical but we are often arguing about bedtime! Is this an area of contention in other relationships? How do you suggest we manage this? Presume other couples like to go to bed at different times so there must be a solution here!
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How To Spot A Liar & Handle Difficult People. Uncut with Jefferson Fisher
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Is confidence the key to effective communication? How are you meant to respond when someone says something incredibly rude? How can we use silence to out a liar?
Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer who you might know as the guy who records videos from his car all about how to communicate during life’s everyday awkward situations and arguments! Jefferson amassed 5.8 million followers and has a new book out titled “the next conversation” and it’s his tried-and-true strategies to deal with difficult people and tough situations.
Our favourite thing about Jefferson is that he provides word for word advice on how to navigate a lot of conflict and having the tool of ‘if someone says this to you, respond with this’ is incredibly helpful!
In today’s conversation, we unpack:
Where Jefferson learnt the art of storytelling
How storytelling can determine the outcome of a court case
Why you should never try to win an argument
How you can park your ego and emotion during an argument so that you can get your point across in a way that will be listened to
Jefferson’s tips to make a liar out themselves (remember he’s a trial attorney)
How to spot a liar!
What to say when someone says something rude to you
Fluffy emails, filler words and over apologising are harming how we are perceived
The ghost of the theatre pooer, an investigation - The best of The Pickup
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
The Best Of The Pick Up - This Group Chat Mishap Is The Stuff Of Your Nightmares
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
What's on the show:
Sia reveals the 'craziest rumour' she's heard about herself
Jess Mauboy chats about bringing a baby into the world and launching a business at the same time
Group Chat Mishaps
Britt has had enough of strangers weighing in on her relationship
We haven't been able to keep up with all the questions rolling in for ASK UNCUT. So here is a whole hearty episode of our misguided, questionable, unqualified but heartfelt advice to your most pressing questions. And with this Ep, that marks the end of Season 1! We can't wait to come back bigger and brighter next season. In the mean time you can follow us on Insta @lifeuncutpodcast. If you love this Ep please leave a smashing review and share the love, because, well, we love LOVE!
My husband and I have two kids. I would happily have another but he doesn't want another. I've become comfortable with this being our family unit. As such, I have broached the conversation of him having a vasectomy because I don't feel as though I should be responsible for contraception given that he is the one who has made this decision. He has completely taken the idea of a vasectomy off the table and said that he will not have one. Although I feel he should have bodily autonomy, I think it is an unfair expectation that he won't have one when I have already given birth to our two children.
I was house/pet sitting while the owners were away on holidays. I just discovered an indoor camera in the kitchen / living area - after having a very hot sex with my partner pretty much right in front of it! I have also been walking around naked or just undies when it’s hot. I did ask the owners about cameras/security before agreeing to the house sit and they only informed me about a front door security camera. What do I do now?? Do I ask them about it or should I just ignore it and pray that the camera wasn’t recording, nobody saw anything and they don’t have first class porn stored somewhere on their cloud?
Do you think sexual chemistry can grow? I met up with a guy from Hinge, had a great chat, lots of laughs and things in common but couldn’t picture myself kissing him. I usually rely on it from the get go but I’m trying to date guys I wouldn’t usually initially pick since the guys that I do feel instant chemistry with haven’t worked out.
My boyfriend just told me that when he was at his best friend's house the other night he lost track of the odds and had to drink his bestie's baby mama's breast milk. We don’t have kids yet and I always thought mine would be the only breast milk he tried. Idk how to feel about it. I'm kinda grossed out and feel upset that he tried another woman's breast milk but don’t know if I’m overreacting or not. He also thinks it’s fine cos it’s the same as drinking female cow milk.
New Year, New You? The Micro Changes We Can Make To Have A Much Happier Life. Uncut with TJ Power
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New Year, New You is a bit outdated, but in January many of us are looking for ways to improve our lives—whether it’s forming healthier habits, becoming more focused, or simply feeling happier. But how often do we think about how our brain chemistry plays into all this? Today, we’re joined by neuroscientist, international speaker, and author of The DOSE Effect, TJ Power. His work focuses on small, practical habits that can help us regulate our brain's key chemicals: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins.
Today we chat about:
How the modern world affects our brain chemistry.
Quick fix and crash dopamine - porn, sugar, social media, alcohol.
Why we hate being bored and why boredom is good for us.
The new 5 minute morning routine that will change the rest of your day.
How different types of communication affects oxytocin - texting = 0, calling = some.
How porn is affecting our brains and our relationships.
Whether we have control over our willpower or not.
Ask Uncut - Is This Normal? Bridesmaid Beef & Beers For One
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Hey Lifers,
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!
Britt has some terrible dating advice that includes faking a celebrity interaction. The tide seems to be turning on Raygun. There is more speculation around the ethics of her journey to the Olympics since we recorded on Monday morning. Laura helps Britt learn about her (Ben's) new home in Romania.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I have kids, he doesn’t. I have always felt like he is my best mate, not necessarily my penguin but at the same time it’s been 5 years we’ve put in the work and my kids now adore him. His best friend moved in with us a year ago. I obviously noticed this man was attractive and I’ve known him for a long time but I was happy and content with my partner and I thought hey it’s normal to just appreciate someone’s good looks.
Until… he messaged me one night. I was at work and he had been drinking. It said “Hey please don’t repeat what I’m about to tell you.” He goes on to tell me that he finds me irresistible and the reason he chose to take a FIFO (3 on, 1 off) job was because he struggles to be alone with me. He said he thinks about me non stop.
I would be lying if I didn’t say I felt the lust. I went home, slept it off and felt so guilty that I showed my boyfriend the messages. He kind of just said ‘Oh wow he is thinking with the wrong body part’ and has since pretended like it never happened. Now I’m in a tailspin. I dream about this man. He creeps into my mind constantly. He comes home in a week and I’ve tried gently suggesting to my boyfriend that we ask him to move out. Obviously I haven’t told him that I am attracted to his best friend but I just said that it’s a little awkward. My partner just replied that the extra income is helpful and he probably won’t try anything. But what he doesn’t know is that his friend has messaged me since telling me he is sorry, however I am just so beautiful and kind, how I’m the sweetest and he can’t help but think about me. I truly think that I’m just feeling this way because after 5 years and being a full time working mum, I feel invisible to my family so having a man call me irresistible is a thrill. I do not want to go against my morals and destroy someone’s trust over a fling but I also don’t want to tell my partner how I feel. Should I be looking at this as a sign I’m unfulfilled in my relationship and maybe it’s time to move on (not with his friend) or is this just a normal reaction to having an attractive man show me attention and once he has moved out I can just move past this without hurting my boyfriend?
DON'T WANT TO WEAR THE BRIDAL OUTFIT How do I tell the bride and groom of a wedding I’m attending later this year that the bridal party outfit they have chosen for me is awful and I don’t want to wear it? Keep in mind they also asked me to pay for it (so now I am out of pocket too). I live in a different state to them, so had to order online without trying the outfit before buying. It is unflattering, does not suit my shape, and I feel so uncomfortable in it. I do not want to wear this in public, let alone in front of a crowd at a wedding. I had suggested early on that if I’m paying for it, could I buy a nice dress in their colours that I’d be likely to wear again. They insisted however they wanted everyone to be ‘uniform’. Do I just have to suck it up, as the day is not about me? (Also, this is a destination wedding so I am already spending thousands on travel and accommodation to attend)
I DON'T LIKE HIM DRINKING ALONE My husband and I had a disagreement and both genuinely could not work out who was in the wrong, so reverting to the brains trust! My husband works shift work, so often has midweek days off or finishes really early on weekdays that I'm working. Sometimes (say once a week) he likes to go to the local pub by himself and have a few beers until I finish work. He usually comes home tipsy on these occasions. I feel uncomfortable about him drinking by himself and coming home tipsy after doing so. I don't have any issue with him drinking with friends or if we have a few drinks together - it's just the by himself aspect (which I think stems from growing up with parents who had issues with alcohol). He gets upset by this and feels like I'm trying to control how he spends his free time. He doesn't think it's unreasonable to do this once a week. I don't have an issue with him doing any activity by himself that doesn't involve alcohol, so don't feel that I'm being controlling. Who is in the wrong?! Am I being unreasonable? We both have had multiple convos about this and both are not sure if each of us are in the wrong. For context, we are in our early 30's and have no kids, just living at home the 2 of us (and otherwise have an amazing relationship)!
PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLING A couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members?
GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGED I am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore.
HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABY I am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner
Britt is back baby! There are always so many questions about what happens 'behind the scenes' on any reality TV show & in today's episode, Britt answered a big bunch of your questions, truthfully! We unpack:
How 'time' and filming worked in the jungle (on camera/off camera)
How the food situation worked and what affect it had on each of them
What happens for the women on their period
Her realisations about having children in the future
We’re all rev heads now. Officially on the F1 bandwagon; real housewives or documentary, you can decide. We have a quick catch up on our weekend! RIP Keeshia’s toe and Britt’s dignity after a trip to chemist warehouse and a case of mistaken identity. Laura has a small health update of something she’s been putting up with since last September. We desperately need better options when it comes to women’s health care and this is a little reminder to advocate for your own health.
Is there a double standard when it comes to full frontals on our screens?
Jason Isaacs is sick of being asked whether or not he wore a prosthetic penis in The White Lotus where his character, Timothy Ratliff, had his penis hanging out of his bathrobe while in front of his children.
He said “It’s interesting that there’s a double standard for men. But when women are naked, Margaret Qualley, in ‘The Substance,’ nobody would dream of talking to her about her genitalia or her nipples. So, it's odd that there’s a double standard.”
We speak about:
Whether he has a point
How women’s nudity has been used on screens
How the media has approached female on screen nudity
The difference between romantic/seductive full frontals and shock/comedic nude scenes
Our thoughts about prosthetics being used on screen
Welcome to therapy Thursday! It's time to unpack your deep and dark dilemmas!
First up today we chat about a girl who had the longest running grudge we've ever heard of. Crazy or correct? We will leave that to you to decide. We also hear what your most petty acts were.
Vibes for the week: Laura: Mac face and body and MCo beauty xtend mascara
Britt: Book trilogy - The Bronze Horseman by Paulina Symmons
The questions we unpack this week are:
-I am getting married in 3 weeks! I don’t know if I am getting the normal cold feet to the legit ick. My partner has never been good when comforting me or saying the right things if I am upset. Today I found out our family dog has untreatable cancer and we don’t know how long she has to live. All I wanted to do was tell him everything and have a simple hug and kiss for comfort When I told him about my dog all he said was ‘awww sad’ and then after an awkward silenceI said ‘so what should we have for dinner?’ and then left to shower and cry alone. I know your partner can’t be everything but is it normal to expect comfort and empathy at times like this?
-I’m 22 and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years and I love him so much. We live together and have traveled all around together. He truly is my person. The only issue is, he’s starting to go bald both at the back and in front. How do I broach this subject without making him feel bad about it, and to open up the discussion so that he doesn’t feel like I’m attacking his looks?
-Recently my dad gave my sister his car - roughly worth about $20k as he no longer needed the car. My sister is a single mum with a good job earning good money. I have two young children and a husband. When I brought up to my dad that I was a bit hurt that he gave my sister a car and my family didn’t get anything, he told me he didn’t think of the car as money and basically dismissed my feelings as he didn’t see it that way. My question is am I being unreasonable to expect something as well?
Hey lifers, Today is a bit of a silly, fun episode because we're all crawling to the finish line, right?? Laura's been in some child induced hell for the last few days and Britt has learnt that kids can be assholes. Weird that it took this long to get here!
Britt has a new theory of girl language; the things we say vs what we actually mean.
PS Ben, always get a gift.
Plus we chat about how many of you have been through break ups this week because December 11 is the most common day for relationships to end! Is it a good thing to go into the new year with a fresh start and no strings to the past or is it selfish to break up with someone just before Christmas?
If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
Making Christmas Christmassy & What You'd Do If Your Partner Lost Their Memory of Your Whole Relationship
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Hey Lifers! It's so crazy that Christmas is so close! Britt is on her way to Scotland. Laura is not carol'd out. We have a bit of an accidentally deep chat about making Christmas feel special and how we can feel at this time of the year.
Britt was mistaken for someone else but we all know she needs to clean her car before she could do well in that job!
A few days ago we were sent a message from one of our listeners and it was such a big conundrum that we wanted to unpack it today.
The short version is that our listener has been in a relationship with a man for a year, and they have kept it on the down low. He was king hit a few weeks ago, severely concussed and now has no memory of their relationship. She doesn't know what to do or how to be a supportive partner. We chat about Laura's personal experience that is quite similar and how we think she should go about supporting her partner.
If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
The Best Of The Pickup - MAFS is up-cycling contestants
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
The Best of The PickUp Radio show - TALK DIRTY TO ME
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Take care of Maya - When Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy is Misdiagnosed
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Hey Lifers, Britt had a big surprise this week and Laura had a wonderful family holiday; except for one part where she said something to a stranger that has made us want the ground to swallow us up!
We unpack the redemption story that the Kardashians are trying to pull off with one of the world's most notorious cheaters Tristan Thompson. It raised the questions if your sister's or friend's partner cheated on them, and they forgave them, do you have to as well? Do you have to be okay with whatever they decide? Does it depend on the specific situation and what happened with the cheating?
We also discuss the documentary on Netflix "Take Care of Maya" and the court case that resulted in a $211 million payout last week. We speak about Maya's mother being mislabelled as having Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and the tragic outcome for their family that resulted.
If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
When Christmas Doesn't Slay - Uncut with Dr Hannah Korrel
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year lifers,
Except maybe it's not feeling merry or happy and maybe this period of the year makes you feel a bit stressed, depressed or anxious. Today we're taking a deep dive on how our brains physiologically become overloaded at this time of year.
But first, producer Keeshia has some advice from a tik toker to help you get your crush to slide into your DMs! We also unpack the best, and quietest, maneuvers to get it on while you're visiting family this festive season.
Then Dr Hannah Korrel, neuropsychologist joins us to talk about:
-Expectations of how we're supposed to feel at this time of the year v how we actually feel
-Whether we feel a sense of accomplishment of what we've achieved this year based on what we thought we would or where we thought we'd be
-The additional pressures put on women around Christmas
-Diet culture and new years resolution stress
-Going through the holidays single, after big life changes or experiencing grief
If you have a friend who might need to hear something we spoke about in today's ep, send it their way.You know the drill, tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx
Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. We recorded this a few days early as Britt is currently on her way to Italy to have a very close quarters catch up with her fiance, sister, brother in law and niece! We’ve really realised that we are in the next age bracket with our vibes this week! Vibes for the week: Britt - Podcast Stalked Keeshia Contour Cool Gel Knee Pillow Laura Instagram Sydney Plant Guy Instagram
Then we get into your questions!
HUSBANDS MUM HAS HIS LOCATION SETTINGS ON My husband’s mum has his location settings on, so basically she is able to track him at all times. She isn’t necessarily controlling or making a big deal about it but I often hear her saying things like “I saw you were at the pub the other night” or “why were you at work on Saturday”. It makes me feel a certain way. I just find it a bit odd but I feel like I can’t really just ask him to turn it off because she’ll ask questions and I don’t want it to come back on to me. I guess my question is, am I being ridiculous to be annoyed at this?
HOW DO TWO AVOIDANTS MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK? I’m 29 and have finally got my hands on the man I've been plotting about for 10 years. We’ve always had a strong connection, but life has led us in different directions over the years. We’ve been seeing each other as exclusive ‘fwb’ for the last year, but things have evolved recently. We spend hours chatting, planning our future, our communication is great, and we’re super compatible. The spark is strong; it may as well be fire. But we have both realised that we have avoidant attachment styles, which has prevented us from going ‘all in’. Recently, we’ve both admitted that we’re in deep and would like to try to be together. So my question is, how do ‘regular’ people do this? I can’t get my head around how to ‘be’ a girlfriend.. and what that might mean for my sense of self, and my lifestyle. I’m hyper independent, falling in love and absolutely terrified.. Help!
IS IT WEIRD FOR BRIDAL PARTY WEDDING TO SLOW DANCE? What’re your thoughts on a bride making the bridesmaids and groomsmen slow dance together at the start of the night? My boyfriend is in a wedding this afternoon and he has to slow dance with his partner for 5 MINUTES!! Is this normal, am I overreacting that I find this weird? My heart rate is resting at 120 right now, I'm that anxious.
Are You the 'Fixer'? Unpacking High-Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole
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Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss’ and ‘Too Much’. This is the third time Terri has joined us on the podcast! The first time was to speak about cheating, the second was to speak about boundaries and today Terri is joining us to unpack codependence! But, not the standard idea of what codependency is.
Today we speak about what Terri refers to as ‘high functioning codependence’ and how we are able to recognise when we are doing ‘too much’ for other people, and need to prioritise ourselves more. Spoiler, none of us identified as being codependent… until we learnt what high functioning codependency looked like and the alarm bells RANG!
We speak about:
High functioning codependency isn’t what we typically think of a a ‘codependent person’
They’re highly capable, the person everyone depends on, the problem solver, the ‘fixer’
Resentment inventories! We all need to identify where we are ‘over giving’ and ‘over functioning’
Being hyper independent, “I got it” and not wanting to ask for help or owing other people anything
How it all contributes to burnout and cognitive overload
Do you identify with any of these labels? They might be new to you! -approval seeking, -auto fixing/auto accommodator -self sacrificing -hyper helping
WE ARE BACK BABY! Did he put a ring on it? And taking swipes at your ex
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Hey Lifers,
It's so nice to be back in your ear holes!! We are coming to you cross hemispherically (but you're not to trust Laura with geography).
First up today, we have a big catch up about what's happened over the break! This catch up included Britt frolicking to the nicest destinations on the planet and Laura being hospitalised with pneumonia. So, you know, same same! We have a big chat about asking your friend when they're going to going to get engaged/proposed to. Do we all need to stop doing this?
We also talk about whether you should, if given the chance, take a swipe at an ex. Chelsea Handler hosted the critic's choice awards the week after her ex boyfriend Jo Koy hosted the Golden globes and the two monologues were like chalk and cheese. The audience's laughter and acknowledgement of joke writers really showed who came out on top. We also discussed whether gendered jokes are okay in one direction and not the other.
You can watch Chelsea Handler's whole monologue here.
It's so nice to be back and we're really excited about what is planned for this year!
If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
Hey Lifers, What're your thoughts on the skateboarding in the Olympics? We're hooked! Britt has had an old roommate come to visit and it's got her reminiscing on the good old nostalgic days of stitching up a housemate when they bring home a date.
The men (human and canine) in Laura's life keep on sh*tting in inappropriate places but it's bringing a lot of joy to the Life Uncut family!
Republican vice presidential candidate J.D. Vance previously made some outlandish comments that included the country being run by “a bunch of childless cat ladies”. He's joined the conservative Megyn Kelly show on Friday and somewhat doubled down on the commentary. It's a story that now has Jennifer Anniston, Hilary Clinton and Opera involved so we thought we'd throw in our two cents.
It had us asking a few questions:
-Do you think it shifts voter’s perspectives on who will be best to run a country if they have children or not? -Do your perspectives on how you see the world shift when you have children? -Are you more ‘entitled’ to a vote if you have a kid that will live in the world that we are creating policies for?
Is that a dead bird or are you just happy to see me? The best of The PickUp
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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Elise Loehnen is the host of the podcast “Pulling the Thread” and is the co-author of 12 books, 5 of which were NYT best sellers. But then she wrote her first book under her own name “On our best behaviour. The price women pay to be good,” which was also a New York Times Best Seller. Before all of this Elise was the right hand woman to Gwyneth Paltrow and Goop, she hosted the Goop Lab TV show and Goop podcast, and was Goops Chief Content Officer.
In this episode we take a big deep dive into WHY we seem to be so impressed by 'the hustle' and how rest has been branded as lazy and sloth-like. We speak about how women in particular struggle to 'switch off' and delegate the mental load of their families.
We also spoke about jealousy, envy and why women try to tear each other down. Elise speaks about utilising feelings of envy as a driving force to show us what we actually want in life. She explains how we've been conditioned to suppress anger and the scarcity mindset placed on women.
You can find all of Elise's work, her podcast, book & newsletter here!
From a Child Refugee to Working with Queen Bey - A Story of Resilience with Aweng Chuol
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Hey Lifers,
Today we've got a big ol' announcement to make! We are doing a live show tour in October!
We're hitting up Adelaide, Brisbane, Gold Coast, Auckland, Sydney, Canberra, Melbourne and Perth! Details will be added here once we have links but for now, jump on to our Instagram for all of the details!
Laura moved house, and the jury isn't decided on whether a box of 'personal' items should have been unpacked or not. Britt gives us an update on her egg freezing & fertility journey. If you'd like to listen to the episode we did 2.5 years ago about egg freezing you can here!
Joining the podcast today is South Sudanese Australian model, actress and artist Aweng Chuol. Aweng's story is a big one to summarise. She lived in a refugee camp in Kenya before coming to Australia when she was 7. Aweng is the oldest of 12 kids; her mum was only 15 when she was born, her dad a child soldier, her grandfather a pastor.
Aweng was working at fast food restaurants when she was scouted. She has gone on to model for some of the world's biggest brands and worked with the likes of Rihanna and Beyonce.
In this chat we speak about:
Being a Black, queer woman and having her community turn on her
Forgiving parents and giving them grace for the wrong decisions they made raising us
Laura: Lover, Stalker, Killer on Netflix (sorry fam, can't link netflix because it takes you to the sign in page)
Then we jump into your questions!
Last night I had a dream about another guy. Nothing particularly scandalous happened but I felt guilty so I told my boyfriend and it upset him quite a bit. Is he overreacting or is it better to not tell your partner about a dream involving another guy?
My partner of 5 years recently had some significant family troubles and it's taken a toll on his mental health. He's found himself thinking about his ex, and wondering whether his life was happier when they were together. He says he wants to be with me, but I'm wondering if this is a reflection of his current mental state or if it's a reflection on our relationship.
My boyfriend is a corporate king on $500k+. Although, whenever he does the groceries he walks out and never pays.. or sometimes pays for only part. I’m talking about meat, fruit, veggies, yogurt, pasta etc.. substantial items.. not like picking a grape and quickly putting it in your mouth whilst shopping. This does not sit well with me. He does it because “no one’s watching, and why would I pay if I don’t have to?" I think he also likes the “rush” he gets from it. He has very strong morals and values elsewhere and this can be seen a little off brand with the rest of his character. I’ve brought it up and said I don’t like it but he doesn’t see it as a big deal. I’m worried he’ll get caught and I also don’t want his young children to see this behaviour and think it’s right. Thoughts, opinions on how to navigate this?
If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
Hi Beautiful Humans! Ready? Because THIS WEEK LAURA WAS ON THE BACH and we dig for inside goss! Also, according to 60 Minutes Megan Markle has lost her sparkle, but we call bullsh*t. Heard of "The grass is always greener? When it's broken down, the grass is greener syndrome is really just an unfortunate byproduct of self-doubt and comparison. And comparison is the thief of joy we say! Loved it? Please leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love x
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Welcome to therapy Thursday where we unpack your life dilemmas!
First up, Laura's obsessed with the original 'quiet quitters' and they're pigeons. You can see why here.
There's a bit of a conspiracy theory going on tiktok where people are claiming that they've been conned by restaurant owners! They are saying that they have been chatting to people on dating apps, and teeing up a date at a restaurant only to be stood up at the restaurant. So what do they do? Well, most of them end up buying dinner and drinks for themselves! Is this the most ridiculous conspiracy theory you've ever heard or do you think there's merit here?
Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions:
-My friend and I are moving out together to a rental. My boyfriend didn’t want to move out as he is happy living with family and is not working full time like my friend and I.My question is… when should you make your partner pay rent or put money towards things as he is bound to come stay multiple nights. Is it if he stays x amount of nights? What kind of boundaries do I need to set?
-How important is it to talk through your issues after having a disagreement with your partner? My partner and I tend to have issues, get cross with each other for a couple of days and then just go back to normal like nothing ever happened. Part of me thinks this is ok as we can’t always be hunky dory, but there is another part of me that thinks there needs to be resolution and understanding when there are issues? I grew up in a household that was not good at resolving conflict so learning on the go now
-I was ghosted by a guy who has come back and apologised for treating me poorly. I accepted the apology and we kept chatting. Last night I sent him a meme of a cat (he has a cat). We got onto the topic of dating and so on. I asked if he thought things would be different or the same if we dated now. He said probably the same and that we aren’t compatible because I have a dog! My dog is a small non barky toy poodle and is crate trained, sleeps in his own room and is an angel. So even though this guy and I get on super well and the sexy time was great at the time, his deal breaker on compatibility is because I have a dog - yet he has a cat…
If you have a question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram here
Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!
First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now...
Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it?
HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOS My ex husband left me & after 4 years of IVF. We have embryos in storage (we have one beautiful little IVF baby girl) who is my entire world. But I would love to make her a big sister one day too! He has so easily just said let’s donate the spare embryos. I am mortified by how easily he has suggested this and absolutely not interested in donating, I want them! They’re my babies. I walked through the toughest times of my life undergoing IVF and on my 8th transfer, I got my beautiful girl. I’m 33 and I don’t know if I should freeze my eggs and get a donor sperm .. or wait till I ‘might’ meet someone. PSA - I will continue to pay for storage for my embryo babies as I love them too! I also didn’t see our marriage being something that would end but he clearly fell out of love with me & left me 10 months postpartum.
CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILY I have been invited to spend Xmas with my partner's family interstate (we are mid 20s and dated for almost 6 years). My family has been disapproving/disappointed when I told them about not having Xmas at home and tried to guilt trip me out of accepting the invite. However, I really do want to go. How do I approach the topic again with them and is it wrong to spend one Xmas away from your family?
THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS?
I've been in a relationship with this guy for 6 months and everything is great. He is a wonderful guy and we share the same sense of humour. He could be my person, however there is one glaring problem. The sex is not good. He's a jack hammer kind of guy where he seems to only be interested in pleasing himself. I have done all of the things that you would normally recommend; we have had the conversations and I have tried to softly guide him to do the things in the way that I like it. The problem is that he does the things I like for about a week and then goes back to the jack hammering. How do I navigate this? How important is having great sex in a relationship?
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
On today's show we chat
- How did you ruin a wedding?
Maddison Cottle, Miss Universe Australia living with MS diagnosed in your 20's
Mitch is moving home
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the Kiis Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
We Need to Talk About Ageing - Uncut with Melissa Levi
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Hi Lifers,
Today is an episode really close to Laura's heart. It's an episode she has wanted to do for a long time. Initially we thought this was going to be a chat about dementia, but it ended up being so much more than just a focus on dementia. This episode is important for anyone who has a loved one that will hopefully be lucky enough to grow old. Melissa Levi is a clinical psychologist with over a decade of experience.
She is also the author of "We need to talk about ageing."
If you have a loved one that is ageing, you need to listen to this conversation! We chat about ageing:
-How to approach conversations with loved ones about changes you've noticed in their behaviour or memory
-The importance of knowing what they want out of their life as they age
-Navigating other family members to work together for the wishes of your loved person
-End of life conversations
We also chat about dementia:
-What it is and all of the different types
-How we can try to prevent dementia
-Whether it's actually worth making effort to spend time with loved ones who will likely not remember the experience
-Bringing joy into the lives of loved ones with dementia
If you'd like to check out any of the free resources that Melissa collated you can find them here!
Melissa's book "We need to talk about ageing" can be found here!
Patient names, identities and situations have been changed. Any similarity between the people referred to in this podcast episode and any person living or dead is purely coincidental.This podcast episode was created for informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a replacement for professional medical, psychological, psychiatric, financial or legal advice. Always consult your own healthcare professional.
Everything Feels Increasingly Political. Navigating Conversations With People Who Have Different Politics - Uncut with Zara Seidler
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When it comes to politics, it can be particularly tricky to navigate political conversations with the people you love — especially when they sit on the opposite side of the fence. We have a very important federal election coming up on May 3 so we’re expecting these conversations to increase more and more in the next few weeks. Today we wanted to dive into how pop culture has become increasingly political, why the divide between left and right feels so extreme, and perhaps most importantly, how do we actually vote for what matters to us, beyond what’s trending on Instagram or TikTok?
Today we’re joined by Zara Seidler — co-founder of The Daily Aus. The Daily Aus are particularly tapped into what young people are asking and what they care about in the political landscape. Zara has experience in the political world and also has a degree in political science.
We cover:
How politics has become embedded in pop culture
Why there is a push towards independents
What the upcoming election actually means for us
Cost of living is the number 1 thing people care about now
The issue with receiving political info from just one source
Algorithms, outrage culture and how it’s impacted politics
How to have conversations with people who have different politics
Every weekday we are having a yarn on our national radio show THE PICKUP. On the Kiis Network from 3-4pm we are joined by the fabulous Mitch Churi, and every Saturday we will be dropping the highlights right here!
This week we have an intervention with Britt, Matt's beat boxing escalates and we have Bachelor winners Jed and Alysia joining us for a chat, then we speak with MAFS relationship expert John Aiken.
Ask Uncut - My Partner Does Drugs on Special Occasions
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Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekly therapy session where we answer all of your deep, dark and controversial questions (today). Laura is in Bali and has been making her sister bank roll the trip. Britt is still in the jungle and we can keep it that way by voting to save her!
Vibes for the week: Laura - Brittney Saunder's new business pod Big Business
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. We’re 24, we live together & share a pet. I’m a hyper romantic & an extrovert. He’s pretty negative & modest at times. He doesn’t like to show his affection unless he’s drunk or we are alone. Over the past year our sex life has gone from weekly to 1-2 times a month. I love him so much & despite our arguments I want this to work. When I questioned him as to why we aren’t having more sex he said “you nag me about it too much & it seems like you’re forcing the seductiveness”. I pulled back any attempt to be overly sexual or touchy & nothing changed. I even put on lingerie, wore his favourite perfume, lit candles and he still said no he didn’t feel like it. I understand but I’m so lost. I’m so young to be in this position because I know that nothing will change. But I don’t know what else to do.
I recently went on a 3rd date with a guy, which so far everything was going well with - he was ticking many boxes in terms of constant communication, making plans etc … and on this night he had initiated dinner, booked the restaurant and was even there early … and the date went fabulous. At the end of the night , after going to a bar for more drinks we decided we wouldn’t go home together. By this point all we had done was kiss. As we were exiting the bar - I saw him on his phone, but little did I know he was already booking his Uber. Once we get outside (it’s around 1am) he tells me his Uber is nearly here, I quickly book mine but mine says 9 minutes away.. His Uber arrives and without hesitation he just jumps right in - I thought surely he’d check how far mine was or wait for me but no. He didn’t. He just left me standing on the street alone waiting 8 more minutes for mine … I thought I’d at least get a message from him asking if I got home safe, but nothing. He couldn’t have cared less how or if I got home. But still messaged me the next day asking to see me again. Chivalry is HUGE for me but sadly his lack of care here has given me the major ICK. Do you think this is bad behaviour / a red flag or I should just carry on seeing him and hope it was a simple mistake?
My partner & I are planning to start our lil fam. After a recent miscarriage, he was the most supportive person & outside of this, we have the best relationship. I know he will be such a great parent. He will be the stay at home parent after my paid leave finishes as I earn more. I am just not sure where I sit with this one thing. I know it’s common and almost normal these days, but every 6 or so months, he uses cocaine on a “special occasion” with friends. This isn’t really my thing, which he respects, but I appreciate that he’s always been open when he has used them. He agreed without hesitation not to use it while we try again, but I get the impression that he may still use it on rare occasions in the future. It’s not a deal breaker, but I just have a mind-set that it’s something you ‘weed out’ out of your life when you become a parent.
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Breaking Up With a Parent & Breaking Into the Music Industry - Uncut with Sam Fischer
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Joining the podcast today is the newest official member to the Life Uncut family Sam Fischer!
Sam just finished touring around the country and opening our live shows! Not only is he just the BEST & we genuinely have so much love for him but he's also hilarious and a real 'heart' person who shares so openly and makes everyone around him feel safe enough to be vulnerable themselves. Something we learnt about Sam along the tour is that he had a really interesting start to the music world & a complex relationship with his family. We chat:
Having a song as big as 'This City' catapult him into the spotlight and then the pandemic hitting
The pressure to follow up on that success
Navigating a really complex relationship with his dad
What led to him eventually cutting contact
Whether his bad relationship with his dad has affected his want to have kids of his own
How men can be really self conscious about hair loss/going bald
We've spoken a lot about whether or not we're into 'nice' guys, but what about the available guys? Are we okay with the nice guy as long as they've got a bit of a chase to them?
We unpack.
Then we jump into your deep, dark and burning questions:
-Is withholding a pregnancy deceitful? I'm up for a promotion at work that I think I deserve and will get, but it's for a 2 year contract. Should I tell my employer that I am in the early stages of pregnancy given that if I get the job, I won't be able to work the whole contract out
-I met someone very special this year, however it has been a rollercoaster since we met (my dad died, I had an abortion, I moved overseas). He is also overseas now too but he has recently gone off to do his own thing. He said he loves me very much and wants me in his life but he doesn’t know to what extent right now. I love him so much and I keep coming back to this thought that he is “the one”. Is this naive? How do you know if someone is the one? I know I can be okay on my own but I want him in my life.
-Is it normal to not be able to get over your ex's dick?
I was in a relationship for 2 years and he had the greatest penis. Now whenever I sleep with someone I can't seem to be disappointed by theirs and I keep comparing it to my ex's.
Is this normal?
Can I get over this?
If you have a question you'd like us to answer, send it in to lifeuncutpodcast on instagram! And you know the drill; tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because we love love! xx
Should We Feel Guilty For Speculating About Princess Catherine?
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Hey Lifers!
Britt has gone into the jungle!! She's petrified of heights and we don't know why she didn't lie about her fears. It's Laura's 38th birthday!!!! (It's possibly her 37th but we've referred to google for reference). Laura speaks candidly about not being a birthday person and why she feels a little bit indifferent to gifts; unless they are plants. We speak about being in certain places of life by a certain time as the years click over.
Over the weekend, Princess Catherine announced that she has been battling a cancer diagnosis and undergoing preventative chemotherapy treatment. We question whether people in positions like hers are entitled to privacy just like everyone else, and whether we should feel bad for contributing to the public speculation. Did she feel as though she had to come out with this information because of public harassment or because the PR team royally f*cked up so many times that it pushed her into a corner?
Ask Uncut - Can I bone my ex besties situationship?
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Hey Lifers!
We're coming in hot after the very last live show last night in Brisbane! What a whirlwind month! Thank you so, so much to every one of you who came and had a ball with us at the shows; they were really a dream come true.
Vibes for this week: Laura: Dear Jane podcast Britt: Wagatha Christy on Disney plus
Then we jump into your questions that are very friendship based dilemmas this week!
My best friend, and I have been besties for about seven years. A couple of months ago we both went travelling separately. I went with my boyfriend and she went on her own as she had broken up with her partner, so she went overseas for a holiday to find herself. She met a guy over there who she is now living with. I never saw an issue with it, and never raised any flags until she ran into some trouble and needed help from me, her mum and her “ex- boyfriend” back home. This is when it all unravelled for her. It turns out she never broke up with the boy from home and has been lying and cheating on him for a couple months. I had to tell him that she was cheating on him. I had to break her boyfriend's heart and tell him the truth about what she had been doing overseas. We found out that she actually intended to move overseas for this other guy, and she just left her boyfriend at home sitting around waiting for her to return from her 6 week holiday. My question is, how can I go back to being friends with her after she’s lied, manipulated me and put me in a very uncomfortable position with her boyfriend!?? How can I trust her again?! Plus this is the second time in our friendship that I have been in this position!
I was having a few glasses of wine on Saturday night scrolling through tinder when I came across my ex besties, ex situationship. She has always said it was just purely sex and she didn’t ever really like him that much. I swipe him a like and we match, he messages me being very flirty asking if I am still living with my ex bestie as he would love to come over and see me. We move to Snapchat and things get hot 🥵 I no longer talk to my ex bestie and it seems she is in a very happily one year relationship. Should I feel bad for wanting to have sex with him because I feel no shame whatsoever. He’s very cute and I’m very tempted to text him to come over, but I know it will lead to sex, what should I do?
I met a guy on hinge, it’s been 5 weeks and things have been going great. Early on he told me that he’s slept with one of his current housemates a few months before I met him whilst he was drunk, twice. He said there was nothing between them although she did have feelings for him which was one sided. I’ve always struggled with boundaries and am pretty uncomfortable with the whole thing but am well aware it’s pretty early days. At what point do I bring this up and what’s reasonable to expect?
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"Fix the sex, fix the relationship" - Uncut with Esther Perel
01:24:51
It’s been the best weekend! Laura and Matty J got MARRIED!!!
So today Britt and Producer Keeshia give a little bit of a wedding recap, but next week we will have a whole episode with Laura and Matt unpacking the entire day!
Today we are joined by the world leading relationship psychotherapist Esther Perel.
Esther has been our dream guest for over 2 years so it felt like Christmas had come early being able to interview her and get her advice on:
-What relational/erotic intelligence is
-Disillusionment from expectations of our partners
-Can one person be the problem in a relationship?
-Desire and prolonged connection
We also speak about Britt's journey on the challenge starting and who she forms alliances with.
Voting is still available for the Australian Podcast Awards and we'd truly be grateful if you could take a minute to vote for life uncut. You can vote here: https://australianpodcastawards.com/vote
If you loved the episode and want to hear more from Esther she has a show coming to Australia.
You can check it all out here: http://estherperel.com/australia2022
Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx
Work-Life Happiness and Figuring Out Your Identity When You're Adopted - Uncut with Sarah Davidson
01:03:17
Hey Lifers, This episode was such a joy. Sarah Davidson is known as a 'funtrepreneur" (fun entrepreneur) for giving up her very successful career path in law to start her own business and find what brings her joy.
Sarah speaks with incredible insight into the way that we view success and how that aligns (or doesn't) with happiness. Something a lot of us question is whether we could be feeling a bigger sense of purpose if we were doing something else, and also when to take that lunge and when not to; a cost-benefit analysis of your work-life happiness.
Another really interesting part of Sarah's story is that she was adopted at 5 months old from an orphanage in Korea. Sarah has found a different type of curiosity around her identity now that she is pregnant and will have a family member reflect her physical traits for the first time. We speak about some of the questions that adoptees face and have themselves.
If you'd like to follow along with Sarah's story, or get her podcast, books etc you can find her here!
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Breast Implant Illness & Explant Surgery - with Dr Kirsty Seward
01:17:13
Hey Lifers,
First up, Laura set herself on fire at a surprise wedding where she had special duties and spoiler, one of them wasn't setting off the fire alarms!
Ben finally met Britt's family. Britt might have some competition from her nan... and she also might want to find some new accommodation options for when she visits Port Macquarie.
Then we are talking boobs!
Joining us today to speak about her own personal experiences of breast implant illness and explant surgery is Dr Kirsty Seward.
Kirsty had breast augmentation when she was 25 years old. 5 years on & Kirsty had a range of symptoms from a condition that she had never heard of, breast implant illness. Her implants had not ruptured or leaked, but she was constantly fatigued, sick and had major brain fog.
In this chat:
The reasons why Kirsty got implants to begin with (and later regretted)
How breast augmentation surgery works
Symptoms of breast implant illness
Explant surgery
How her body healed afterwards
We also speak about the psychological side of plastic/cosmetic surgery and questioning 'why' we want to change certain parts of ourselves.
This is a great episode for anyone who has considered or has undergone a procedure just to be aware that there are potential side effects that aren't spoken about.
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