Life Negotiations with Lousin Mehrabi (Lousin Mehrabi)

In this episode I am joined by Sara Laschever, the co-author of the ground-breaking books “Women Don’t Ask: The High Cost of Avoiding Negotiation” and “Ask for It! How Women Can Use the Power of Negotiation to Get What They Really Want”. Sara is an internationally recognized authority on the obstacles women face in the workplace, so she joins me to discuss the important role that negotiation plays in the lives of women. From negotiating their salaries, with their families or for equality, Sara’s research and advice for women allows them to negotiate better and contribute to their workplace and the world in a meaningful way.

Kwame Christian is Director of the American Negotiation Institute, author, and public speaker. He hosts the top negotiation podcast, Negotiate Anything, and is the author of the bestselling book “Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life.” Kwame joins the show to discuss the Compassionate Curiosity framework and how it can help you negotiate difficult conversations to overcome emotional barriers and experience the best in life.

George Kohlrieser is Distinguished Professor of Leadership and Organizational Behaviour at the Institute of Management Development (IMD) Business School in Lausanne, Switzerland. He is the creator and director of IMD’s High Performance Leadership Program and of the Advanced High Performance Leadership Program. George is an international best-selling, award-winning author, a veteran hostage negotiator, organizational and clinical psychologist, media spokesperson, consultant and global keynote speaker. Additionally, he is the Chairman and President of the Kohlrieser Leadership Institute based in Basel, Switzerland. George and I recently connected in the heart of the Swiss Alps, to facilitate the AHPL Program for former HPL participants. Together, under his leadership, we coached and trained senior leaders to become better versions of themselves. I am honoured to have him on the show, where we discuss his philosophy on leadership, the importance of managing emotions in difficult situations, and ways of improving leadership and negotiation competency. Learn more about the topics discussed in this episode: Visit www.georgekohlrieser.com and www.KLI.swiss Connect with or follow George on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgekohlrieser/ Follow the Kohlrieser Leadership Institute on LinkedIn for information about upcoming events, programs, and webinars, including the New Adventures in Leadership open-enrolment program in Saanenmoser-Gstaad, Switzerland on April 21-24, 2022.

Marwan Mery is one of the world’s most renowned Professional Negotiators, the CEO of ADN Group, and the author of 10 books. Throughout his career, he has covered many fields including critical negotiations, life and death situations, diplomatic issues, kidnapping ransoms, social conflict and business negotiations. During our conversation, Marwan shares 7 skills that are used by the best negotiators, his advice for approaching challenging negotiations, and why regulating emotions during a negotiation is critical for success.

Jack Cambria is a retired member of the New York City Police Department who worked in law enforcement for over 33 years. In 2001, Jack was chosen to command the NYPD’s elite Hostage Negotiation Team where he coordinated the training of over 100 negotiators who responded to negotiation incidents across New York. Today, he teaches negotiation principles and skills to businesspeople. In this episode, we discuss the principles of negotiation, the importance of failure in success, how to connect with and handle your emotions, and the role that adversity plays in negotiations.

Gary Noesner is the former Chief of the FBI Crisis Negotiation Unit and author of “Stalling for Time: My Life as an FBI Hostage Negotiator” which was the basis of “Waco,” a Netflix miniseries. In 2003, Gary retired from his role after thirty years and became Senior Vice President at Control Risks, an international risk consultancy, assisting clients in managing overseas kidnap incidents. During our chat, we discuss the traits of good negotiators, why leadership skills are critical for successful negotiations, and why organisations must recognise the importance of negotiation – no matter what industry they are in. Gary is a legend in the art of crisis negotiation, so speaking with him is a true honor.

Chris Voss is the CEO & Founder of The Black Swan Group and author of “Never Split The Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It”. Chris was the lead international kidnapping negotiator for the Federal Bureau of Investigation, as well as the FBI’s Hostage Negotiation representative for the National Security Council’s Hostage Working Group. Today Chris offers courses, seminars, and training to help people become better negotiators in life and in the workplace. Chris shares the role that neuroscience plays in negotiations, the difference between various negotiation models, and how to practice tactical empathy in everyday life.

Lieutenant Scott Tillema is an FBI trained hostage negotiator and trainer whose popular TED Talk has amassed nearly 1.2M views. What made his appearance on the TEDx stage so memorable was his decision to tell the audience about an unsuccessful negotiation that resulted in the loss of life. Rather than share one of his many successes, Scott openly shared a difficult negotiation experience that has impacted him to this day. During our conversation, Scott explains how he has negotiated with himself in difficult times, why adaptability and acceptance are the keys overcoming challenges, and the unique way he is teaching his daughter to be more empathetic.

Prof. Dr. Kasia Jagodzinska is a Negotiation Consultant and adjunct Professor at various universities in Switzerland, France, Italy and Poland. Kasia serves as a Senior Advisor to the United Nations with expertise in Business and Legal Negotiations, Conflict Management, Organisational Behavior & Change Management, Human Resource Management, and Cultural Intelligence. She joins the show to discuss the incredible work she does in the field of negotiations, the advice she has for women wanting to enter the field, and the theory behind conflict and humanization in negotiations.

Kirk Kinnell is a retired Crisis Negotiator and former Head of Hostage Negotiations with 30 years of experience. Having worked in law enforcement and the Armed Policing unit in Scotland, he attended roughly 250 incidents to successfully save the lives of people in crisis and contemplating suicide. In this episode, Kirk shares the 7 steps to listening with impact, the importance of finding the shared common objective, and how he put his negotiation skills to work after experiencing unimaginable loss in his life.

Matthias Schranner is a former hostage negotiator, and the CEO of the Schranner Negotiation Institute. Trained by the German police and the FBI, Matthias has spent his life navigating the toughest negotiation situations. Today, he facilitates negotiation training for organizations, government institutions, and even the United Nations to help them negotiate effectively and achieve the outcome they desire. In this episode, Matthias explains the importance of conflict in negotiation, why you should embrace fear and uncertainty, and how anyone can use conflict as a driver for solutions and conversation.