Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast (Let's Talk Polyamory)
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| 12 Nov 2024 | What to Say? How to Talk to Kids About Non-Monogamy, Sex, Kink and Other Stuff | 01:16:35 | |
Talking to kids about topics like non-monogamy, sex, intimacy, kink and relationships can sometimes feel daunting parents. It's easy to worry about saying the wrong thing, making things awkward, or just plain messing it up. In this episode, we sit down with sexuality educator Ms. Ashley Robertson for a deep dive into guiding these conversations with kids of all ages—from toddlers to teens and beyond! Together, we share practical tips, advice, and recommended approaches for discussing these topics at every stage. We cover what the focus should be, how to approach these subjects, which words to use, and even how long these conversations should go. We also discuss what not to say, how to avoid oversharing, and ways to build a “scaffold” of knowledge that helps your kids climb layer by layer without falling off. We touch on essentials like when and how to introduce non-monogamy and partners to kids, what to say if a partner is no longer in your life, and how to manage those moments when kids bring up people from your past that you’d rather forget. And we explore concepts like “chosen family,” the “onion” and “buffet” analogies, being an “askable adult,” consent and how kids are “bystanders”, the “skipping stones” strategy for teens and more! Plus, we answer questions from our Let’s Talk Polyamory community. And… spoiler alert ...a lot of these tips are great for adult conversations, too! Tune in for practical advice, a few laughs, and all the insights you need to make these talks a little less intimidating and a lot more meaningful! You’re going to love it! Resources:
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| 15 Apr 2024 | 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships: Part 3 | 00:38:30 | |
What gets you hot and bothered in the bedroom? In this episode we are continuing our discussion of the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long Term Relationships with #4... Increasing sexual and erotic energy! So how exactly do you do that? Maybe it’s being touched somewhere unusual where you’re not normally touched, or that you don’t normally think of as an erogenous zone? Like the side of your ankle which André shares a story about. Or maybe it is something that allows you to prepare and get warmed up for intimacy which Tara shares. We talk about all these things as well as concepts, like responsive desire and how to utilize that and other things to get things hot again! If you missed parts 1 and 2 we talked about: ✅ Having some distance and spending time apart ✅ Being present which includes being physically, emotionally and sexually present with our partners ✅ Interrupting Patterns and Routines If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support, book a relationship rescue call with Tara here: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: https://www.taraandandre.com/ The lifestyle/sex/libertine club we referenced in the podcast is Club L in Montréal, Quebec, Canada. You can find out more about them at https://www.leclubl.com/ The life-changing Cervix Wand that Tara refers in this episode can be found on https://waands.com/products/cervix-wand?ref=taraandandre and you can enter the code TARALYNNEFRANCO to get a 10% discount. | |||
| 28 Oct 2024 | Building, Rebuilding and Maintaining Trust in Relationships - Part 1 | 01:01:36 | |
In this two-part series we take a deep dive into one of the most essential—and sometimes challenging—aspects of relationships: TRUST! Recently many our the Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group and in our individual coaching and therapy practices have raised TRUST as an issue they are currently facing in their relationships. For some it is because of a specific situation that occurred, like a betrayal, while for others, the issue of trust goes a bit deeper and stems from past experiences in relationships with previous partners, friends or family. In this special series we explore the ins and outs of building, maintaining, and restoring trust, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships. In Part 1 we cover:
In Part 2, we will tackle the tough topic of rebuilding trust after it’s been lost. Whether you’re looking to set up a rock-solid foundation or need tools to heal from trust setbacks in your relationship or yourself, this series has you covered. This is the perfect starting point for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships. Comment with your stories of trust or loss of trust and if this episode resonated with you! Please 💖comment, ✅subscribe, ➡️share and 📝write a review so others can find us! We really appreciate it! Show Resources:
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| 31 Mar 2024 | 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships: Part 1 | 00:56:52 | |
We often expect our partner to be both our best friend and erotic partner. But these two needs often push against each other. On the one hand, we need security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven and secure base. But we also need adventure, unpredictability, mystery and surprise which is what ⛽️fuels sexual energy! Join us, your hosts and coaching and therapist duo T&A -Tara and André as we discuss desire in relationships in Part one of: The 5 Ways to REIGNITE 🔥FIRE in Long-Term Relationships! In this episode we cover the first two ways: ✅ Have some distance and spend time apart ✅ Being Present We also touch on our attachment patterns and how they impact relationships as well as resentments and how they can build and hurt our connection with our partners! If you need support in addressing decreased desire or navigating your open or polyamorous relationships we can help! Book a complimentary Relationship Rescue Consultation Call with Tara and find out how you can navigate your open relationship with ease & pleasure using our proven Securely Polyamorous Framework™. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue or check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/ for information on our programs and services. | |||
| 08 Apr 2024 | 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships: Part 2 | 00:46:11 | |
When we are in longer-term relationships we can have so many amazing things - security, safety, familiarity and predictability and a safe haven. However, these things we love can be the very things that can dampen the mystery, intrigue, excitement and longing that are strong foundations for desire and eroticism. Hence why it is so important to find ways of keeping the excitement alive in our relationship. In Part 1 of The 5 Ways to Reignite the Fire in Long-Term Relationships we spoke of the first two things: ✅ Having some distance and spending time apart ✅ Being present which includes being physically, emotionally and sexually present with our partners In this episode we continue with the 3rd thing you can do: ✅ Interrupting Patterns and Routines If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support, book a relationship rescue call here - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue | |||
| 17 Jun 2024 | Polyamory Terms and Definitions: Metamours & More | 00:42:03 | |
In this episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast we are open up our polyamory dictionary and cover a ton of common definitions and terms you may come across as you navigate consensual non-monogamy:
We cover common myths you might hear (like that you MUST get to know and like your metamours) and how terms and labels such as these are useful to help identify yourself and why you still need to ask someone what their definitions are so you are on the same page in understanding. And of course it wouldn't be our podcast if we didn't share some of our personal stories including how our relationship fits into multiple "styles" and how being with others who are different than each other doesn’t take away from our relationship, but instead is one of the things that enhances our relationship and why polyamory is such a great fit for us! Resources referenced in this episode:
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| 01 Jul 2024 | 6 Steps to Feeling Less Jealous & More Secure in Polyamorous Relationships | 00:49:08 | |
At some point in your journey towards non-monogamy someone you know has likely said to you "I could never do that. I'm too jealous!" Maybe you've even wondered this about yourself or have been afraid that you aren't cut out for non-monogamy given some of the strong feelings you've felt. While jealousy is one of the main things that people are challenged with when opening a relationship or experiencing polyamory for the first time, and it can be intense and feel all consuming, there are ways of understanding your jealousy and finding of ways to work through these feelings so that you can shift to being neutral or even experiencing compersion! 💖 Pinky swear! And... a little myth busting... the reality is that most non-monogamous people experience jealousy or insecurity under certain circumstances from time to time. The key is to learn how to be less impacted by it. In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast we dive into this topic and share with you the 6 things you can do starting now to feel more secure in your relationships! Resources referenced in this episode:
Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources on our website at: https://www.taraandandre.com/ | |||
| 19 Aug 2024 | Season 1: It's a Wrap! | 00:02:26 | |
Thank you for an amazing first season of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! We will be back with Season 2 and brand new episodes starting in late September 2024. In Season 2 we are inviting some very special guests to join us to take a deeper dive into how you can successfully navigate consensual non-monogamy making it secure, adventurous and even more sexy! In the meantime you can catch up on this season’s episodes where we talked about:
And More! If you want a secure foundation for your open or polyamorous relationship so you can have a lifetime of pleasure and satisfaction, join us for our next cohort of Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery which begins in October. Sign up now and get access right away to all the training modules and content! It will give you extra time to get started before we jump into the live coaching calls in October! Learn More and sign up at: https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Show references:
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| 04 Mar 2024 | How to Succeed as a Poly Newbie | 00:33:14 | |
Are you exploring consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and finding yourself overwhelmed by the tide of tough emotions? Perhaps you constantly feel like you're putting out the latest emotional fire, and being polyamorous or in an open relationship isn't unfolding quite as you had imagined. There’s heartaches, self-doubt, arguments, jealousy, frustration and more. If any of these resonate with you, this episode on ⭐️HOW TO SUCCEED AS A POLY NEWBIE⭐️ is just for you! In this episode, we delve into the seven essential elements that serve as the foundation for success as a poly newbie. We share advice on:
But here's the exciting part – all the essential elements discussed in this episode have been carefully integrated into our Poly Newbies Digital Course. This comprehensive course is now fully built out and available, providing you with a step-by-step guide to confidently open your relationship in a way that feels comfortable and secure! If you're tired of feeling poly-terrified and want to enjoy more pleasure, less pain in your polyamorous journey and build a secure foundation for all your relationships our Poly Newbies Digital Course has everything you need. Find out more and secure your spot now: https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse Note that this talk was originally recorded in September 2023, and all course modules including trainings and exercises are available! You have full access to all the training for a full 6-months when you sign up! You can also find out more about us, the services we offer, plus some cool stuff like PRIDE wear, free resources and how you can book a free consultation call at our website at www.taraandandre.com. | |||
| 18 Mar 2024 | How Is My Attachment Style Impacting My Non-Monogamous Relationships? | 00:35:32 | |
Our individual attachment style influences how we react when we experience separation, threat, or pressure in a relationship. This can look like being perfectly fine to being clingy, impulsive, to overwhelmed or pushing others away. Opening a relationship or becoming polyamorous can activate our primary (or default/dominant) attachment style and patterns, especially if they are one of the 3 insecure styles. In this episode we explore attachment theory in the context of consensual non-monogamous relationships and discuss:
And speaking of that… this week we have a special free WORKSHEET to help you do just that! You can sign up to get it at https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet You can discover your attachment style through one of these quizzes:
Get Support: Book a complimentary Relationship Rescue Consultation Call with Tara and find out how you can navigate your open relationship with ease & pleasure using our proven Securely Polyamorous Framework™. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue or check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/ for information on our programs and services. | |||
| 26 Nov 2024 | Building, Rebuilding, and Maintaining Trusts in Relationships - Part 2 | 00:55:20 | |
When there's been dishonesty, a betrayal or cheating in a relationship, it can result in a loss of trust that's hard to recover from. This episode is part 2 of a two part-series on Building, Rebuilding, and Maintaining Trusts in Relationships. In Part 1, we explored:
In Part 2, we pick up where we left off with a recap on what trust is and how trust can be lost specifically in non-monogamous relationships. We then share specific strategies on how you can rebuild trust as a result of any of these things or other setbacks such as:
We also share how you might recognize if is an isolated situation or if this person is not trustworthy and it isn’t in your best interest to trust them again. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships. And, in celebration of Polyamory Day on November 23 our gift to you is that you can get our Poly Newbies Digital Course for just $27—a 90% savings off the regular $297 price until Cyber Monday. Learn more at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday Show Resources:
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| 08 Jul 2024 | Danger Ahead: Polyamory Risks and Threats | 00:45:05 | |
Thinking about opening your relationship or diving into polyamory? It sounds thrilling and 🔥hot, right? Imagine the excitement of meeting new people and having the freedom to explore both emotional and sexual connections with them. For us, it's been an incredible and fulfilling journey, surpassing our wildest dreams. But, there are some unexpected risks and challenges that can threaten the security of any relationship. In this episode, we share our personal experiences and cover the things you'll want to be ready for including: ✨ Feeling different than you might imagine. ✨ How your attachment style and your partner(s)'s can influence your experiences. ✨ The gap between your expectations and reality. ✨ You don't know what you don't know. ✨ You might not be as great a communicator as think you are and you'll need to communicate more than you'd expect. ✨ You are not as prepared as you believe! We share specific examples for each point and provide insights on how to better prepare yourself for the unexpected as you navigate your personal journey! Resources referenced in this episode: - Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse - S1E8 podcast episode: How is My Attachment Style Impacting My Relationships - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3KUuTKZQKRNHBISBeynIvq?si=R2jyYOCDT1ueCM4BgIzatQ - Attachment Quiz - https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/ - S1E5 podcast episode: Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and Great Guest - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3cOwAFpV7tpRgR56tzRtvf?si=ZRUMtrsaSp-VBd83LUyM2g * all podcast episodes also available on Apple and YouTube podcasts, Amazon Music and iHeart Radio | |||
| 29 Jul 2024 | Pardon Me But You’re Stepping on My BOUNDARIES | 00:42:46 | |
Personal boundaries… they’re the imaginary lines we can draw around ourselves to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time for ourselves and from the behaviour or demands of others. Our boundaries are most effective when we are first clear about them ourselves and then when we communicate them to others. If you find it hard to share your boundaries, you are not alone. Even when someone crosses our boundaries (intentionally or unintentionally), common worries are that we are asking for too much, being too difficult or if we say something, they might not like us. In this episode you’ll learn: ✅ What personal boundaries are vs. agreements or rules we might have with our partner(s); ✅ Why boundaries are important (hint: it’s about you) ✅ How to set your boundaries; ✅ How to communicate them; and ✅ Why people want to know your boundaries Download our Building and Communicating My Personal Boundaries FREE WORKSHEET which will guide you in setting your boundaries and having them stick! If you'd like it to feel EASIER to communicate your boundaries and feel SECURE in your open or polyamorous relationship, we can help! Book a complimentary call where we can speak confidentially about your personal circumstances and how we can work together OR jump right into our Poly Newbies Digital Course or Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery coaching program which have proven systems that will provide you with a foundation for success! Show References:
Note this previously aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where viewers shared comments which we read during this episode. | |||
| 12 Feb 2024 | Combatting Jealousy and NRE with Awesome Communication | 00:40:46 | |
In this episode, we dive deep into the complex yet rewarding world of polyamory exploring the challenges of jealousy and the intoxicating allure of New Relationship Energy (NRE). Join us as we unpack strategies and insights on fostering open communication to navigate these emotional landscapes and strengthen your polyamorous relationships. Your hosts T&A, coaching and therapy team Tara & André share their experiences and practical advice on identifying and addressing jealousy, offering invaluable tools for individuals and couples alike. They also delve into the concept of NRE – that exciting rush of emotions in new connections – and discuss how to manage both these things with COMMUNICATION. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, practicing radical transparency, and developing a strong foundation of trust and security! Whether you're a seasoned polyamorist or just curious about exploring consensual non-monogamy, this episode provides a roadmap for fostering healthy connections and navigating the unique dynamics of polyamorous relationships. Tune in for an always candid conversation about the beautiful complexities of polyamory and how this can be offset by amazing communication. Want to navigate your relationship with ease and security, sign up for T&A's Poly Newbies Digital Course. Find out more at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse Learn more about T&A's services and programs and where you can find other content at www.taraandandre.com | |||
| 25 Mar 2024 | The Do's and Don'ts of Polyamory | 00:54:42 | |
Whenever you try something new, you’re bound to make some mistakes or literally “step in it” as you try to figure out what to do and not to do. This is especially the case when there are people, relationships and feelings involved - like when you’re navigating the complexities of polyamorous relationships which requires a unique set of skills, insights and things to consider. In this podcast episode, we discuss the essential essential ✅ Do's and 🛑 Don'ts of Polyamory - from parking your ego at the door and taking responsibility for your actions and feelings, to not comparing yourself to others or using polyamory as an excuse to do whatever you want. This episode was inspired by someone André is working with and supporting their transition to consensual non-monogamy (and other things) who mentioned that they are reading The Polyamory Workbook: An Interactive Guide to Setting Boundaries, Communicating Your Needs, and Building Secure, Healthy Open Relationships by Sarah Youngblood Gregory. In the book Sarah has a graphic of some high level do’s and don’ts which we break down and provide our thoughts! We also add some of our own! Check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/ to find out how to join our online community and learn more about about our coaching and therapy services, our digital course Poly Newbies as well as how you can book a complimentary consultation call. | |||
| 19 Nov 2024 | Casual Car Conversations: STIs, Testing & Acceptable Risk | 00:57:17 | |
You may not find it surprising but we talk about non-monogamy, relationships, sex and related topics A LOT, especially when we are driving or travelling. We were having one such conversation recently and decided to record it as we felt our listeners would find it helpful to hear as we work through and discuss a situation that arose for us personally around possible STI exposure and how we might handle sharing how we feel about upcoming plans with friends. In this episode we cover:
We encourage you to do your own research, inform yourself, talk to your doctor, talk to your partners and figure out what’s right for you! And as we asked during the podcast are these things you’ve considered and/or has this podcast changed what you think about wanting to be non-monogamous or in the lifestyle? Let us know in the comments! Show Resources:
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| 27 May 2024 | Part 2: How to Securely Transition in Consensual Non-Monogamy | 00:43:44 | |
In this episode we pick up where we left off in part 1 and take a deeper dive into WHY making a transition to a different relating style of consensual / ethical non-monogamy can be such an issue for couples. These new and unexpected feelings and struggles often come as a surprise as prior to making the change they might have felt secure in what they were doing. If you missed part 1, we shared the 5 essential steps to feel good in making a change in your relationship: ✅ Understanding what makes you want to make the change ✅ Finding clarity around what you want and developing your personal relationship vision ✅ Communication (no surprise this is on the list right?) ✅ Making a plan to implement that vision including agreements you might want to make ✅ Regular reviews and making adjustments as necessary. The program we refer to in this podcast is our 16 week Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery program which includes 8 modules of training plus direct coaching with us! You can find out more about this program at https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery You can learn more about us, access free resources and find out about our Poly Newbies Digital Course and other coaching and therapy services on our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/. Get Support: If navigating this transition is causing some unfamiliar big feels that you're having trouble with, or if you need support on another issue, we invite you to book a complimentary Relationship Rescue Call. On this call we will help you unpack what might be the cause of these feelings and give you an action plan of next steps you can take on your own and/or with our support to get you back to that place of fun and pleasure you've always enjoyed in your relationship. You can book that call at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue | |||
| 13 May 2024 | Is It Time to De-Escalate My Relationship? | 00:49:23 | |
Have you ever found yourself choosing between staying together or splitting up for good? If you're considering changes in your relationship, tune in as we delve into the intriguing question: Is It Time To De-Escalate My Relationship? Because there's other options out there, and we're diving deep into them in this special podcast episode. We kick things off with a heartfelt, unscripted conversation about our own journey in reshaping our polyamorous relationship. Trust us, it's been quite the adventure! 🎢 Next up, get ready for a captivating discussion on de-escalating a relationship where we cover:
And finally we go over the steps you can take to de-escalate or modify your relationship in a consensual and loving way including how to approach your partners proactively. If your are considering if it’s time to call it quits, de-escalate your relationship or if you want to dig in and make changes to improve your relationship we’d love to help. Book a confidential call to talk about it with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue. Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: https://www.taraandandre.com/ | |||
| 22 Apr 2024 | 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥FIRE in Long-Term Relationships: Part 4 | 00:25:21 | |
Are you putting in effort to keep your sex life 🌶spicyyy or just waiting and wishing for things to change on their own? This is the final instalment of our podcast series the 5 Ways to Reignite the 🔥Fire in Long-Term Relationships where we cover the 5th way: Doing something different that takes deliberate effort. Because epic relationships, awesome adventures and 🔥hot sex lives don't just appear out of thin air! If you missed the first 3 parts of the series we covered: ✅ Having some distance and spend time apart ✅ Being Present - physically, emotionally and sexually ✅ Interrupting patterns and routines ✅Increasing sexual and erotic energy We recap these in this episode and give more examples too! Here's the link to our Let's Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where you can share your ideas on what keeps the fire alive in your relationships or start a discussion on a topic of your choice! https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: https://www.taraandandre.com/ If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support in addressing issues you're struggling with, book a complimentary call with Tara. She'll make sure you leave with the next step you can take to take towards what you want. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue | |||
| 05 Feb 2024 | 5 Steps From LIMITATIONS to LIBERATION in Your Polyamorous Relationships | 00:49:22 | |
It's a very common story, you excitedly open up an existing relationship, decide transitions to polyamory or explore swinging and feel more LIMITED than you would have expected. And much less pleasure and desire than you fantasized about! In this podcast episode we share the exact 5 steps you can take to shift from relationships filled with LIMITATIONS to ones where you feel 🌈LIBERATED and ❤️ LOVED and where your needs, wants and desires are met!
If you need support being more liberated and secure in your relationship, we can help:
This talk originally aired in our private Facebook group Let's Talk Polyamory as part of our T&A Alphabet Series under the title L is for Limitations, Liberation and Love! | |||
| 02 Dec 2024 | Your Poly Newbie Survival Kit Essentials | 00:23:18 | |
What essentials need to be in your Poly Newbie Survival Kit? Are you new to non-monogamy or opening up a relationship? In this episode, we’ll equip you with a list of the tools, insights, and strategies you need to thrive—and avoid some of the most common challenges along the way. These essential steps are drawn straight from our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course, designed to set you up for success: 1️⃣ The Basics of Non-Monogamy: Key definitions, identifying your “why,” and navigating your hopes and fears. 2️⃣ Choosing Your Style: Exploring what kind of non-monogamy aligns with your needs and desires. 3️⃣ Mastering Communication: Building connection, eliminating toxic patterns, and speaking your truth effectively. 4️⃣ Rightsizing Jealousy: Understanding this complex emotion and cultivating greater security. 5️⃣ Attachment Styles: Discovering yours and moving toward secure attachment. 6️⃣ Boundaries & Agreements: Creating personal boundaries and our signature Values-Based Relationship Agreements™. 7️⃣ Keeping It Awesome: Relationship check-ins, dating tips, and maintaining the spark! ✨ Plus, we dive into juicy extras, including:
All this and personal stories from our own non-monogamy journey! 🎉 Hit play and start your journey toward thriving in non-monogamy! 🎧💖 Show Resources & Special Offers:
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| 10 Jun 2024 | How to Start in Polyamory (And Not Totally Suck at It) | 00:35:53 | |
Are there things that you feel you 😩 “suck” at in your open or polyamorous relationships? Perhaps it seems that others are having an easy time and doing it “right” and that you’re the only ones with an all-you-can-ride ticket on struggle bus! Here’s the TRUTH though... Nobody does it perfectly. Everyone sucks at non-monogamy at some point. This can happen at the beginning or at any stop along the way in your journey. We know from our own experiences and from the couples and individuals we've worked with. Just when you think you’ve figured it out, something can come along that surprises and challenges you. That doesn’t mean it isn’t right for you. Maybe you, like André admits on this podcast, sucked at monogamy which is why polyamory is a better fit and is worth figuring out. In this episode we talk about the 5 things you can do when opening an existing relationship or exploring polyamory so you suck less!
If you want to start in opening a relationship and would like support so you don't suck, for a limited time you can benefit from a focussed intensive coaching experience with us that will allow you to MINIMIZE your growing pains & MAXIMIZE your pleasure, connection and security. Find out more at 🏁https://go.taraandandre.com/openrelationshipstartup NOW AVAILABLE: Our Poly & Proud & PRIDE gear! https://my-store-f79154.creator-spring.com/ Want to know more about us, the services and programs we offer or book us for your event or podcast? Visit us at: | |||
| 07 Oct 2024 | Can MONO-POLY Relationships Really Work? | 00:43:14 | |
Welcome to Season 2 of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! We are kicking things off with a hotly debated topic: Can Mono-Poly Relationships Really Work? What happens when one partner is monogamous while the other embraces polyamory? Are these relationships destined for failure, or can they actually thrive? Mono-Poly relationships come with unique challenges—navigating asymmetrical freedoms (where one partner has multiple emotional and/or sexual relationships and the other doesn’t), balancing time and attention, and dealing with jealousy and insecurity. In this episode, we break down these common struggles, discuss why people might choose this dynamic, and tackle some of the biggest misconceptions. We also share actionable strategies for making these relationships work—like mastering open communication, setting personal boundaries, and using our Values-Based Agreements™ model. Plus, we’ll dive into compersion, or finding joy in your partner’s happiness with others, and talk about the importance of seeking expert support. If you’ve ever wondered whether a Mono-Poly relationship can truly flourish, or if you’re in one and looking for ways to make it work—this episode is for you! Show References:
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| 19 Feb 2024 | How to Avoid the Mistakes We Made When Opening Up | 00:50:06 | |
Mistakes in relationships are common, but do they have you feeling"poly-frightened"? You know... the jealousy, self-doubt and frustration ... that throbbing pain in your chest and the intense overwhelming feeling that you just aren't going to figure out how to make your open or polyamorous relationship work? And that you'll make the same mistakes over and over again? You're not alone. We've faced these things as have so many others! In this week's episode, we delve into a topic that many of us can relate to: the common mistakes made when first opening up to polyamory or other form of consensual non-monogamy. Join us as we open the vault and candidly share with you some of our dirty laundry - the mistakes we made at the beginning of our polyamory journey and how you can avoid making the same ones! Topics we cover include unicorn hunting, allowing jealousy to fuel poor communication, hierarchy, not understanding all of our "stuff" we were bringing into the relationship (like attachment), STI testing, and talking about what we each wanted out of being consensually non-monogamy. Don't get us wrong. We still mess up from time to time and face tough moments. The difference now is that we have the tools to recover from these things quickly and use them to power our relationship rather than cause micro-tears in the fabric of it. If you need support navigating your open relationship with ease & pleasure we can help! Check out our website where you can find out about our digital course Poly Newbies, different ways you can work directly with us and access a ton of free resources! | |||
| 25 Jun 2024 | New Relationship Energy: The Awesome and The Awful | 00:51:49 | |
New Relationship Energy, or NRE, sometimes gets a bad rap in polyamory as while one person may be experiencing the highs of being with someone new, others that they are in relationships may feel left behind, or jealous or find it threatening to the security of that connection... hence the "awful" But it’s not all about putting out forest fires. There’s nothing wrong with new relationship energy in itself, and in fact it can be an "awesome" experience for all involved. One of the amazing things about polyamory is that it allows people to experience all the magic of new love without destroying long-term, stable relationships in the process - and may even breathe new energy and pleasure into them! There are always considerations or things to navigate whether you’re the person experiencing the NRE with someone new, the new person or the people they are in relationships with. We talk about all of these things and more in this podcast episode! We want to encourage and support spreading the word of polyamory and normalize it as a valid relational identity - one which can be secure and long-lasting! To help you and others to learn more, we’ve decided to reduce our profit on our 7-Module Poly Newbies Digital Course so that more people can access this valuable resource. You can find this special offer at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer You can book a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession Want to know more about us, find out about our other coaching and therapy services or book us for your event or podcast? 👉 https://taraandandre.com/ | |||
| 12 Aug 2024 | Kites and Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy | 00:40:04 | |
It's said that in successful relationships, there's always a KITE and a STRING. Which are you? You may have heard of this metaphor which is often used to describe dynamics in monogamous couples, however in this episode: Kites & Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy, we take a polyamory spin on it and talk about how it may apply to the world of non-monogamous relationships as well! We explore what it means to be a kite or a string, how these roles may shift when we interact with other kites and strings either in a dating or lifestyle/swinging situation, and the dynamics of pairing with different types of partners. We also discuss how someone might yearn to step into a different role than they usually occupy—like someone with kids and family responsibilities who gets to feel the exhilarating freedom of being the kite when with another partner and how they might secretly want their other partner to offer them this opportunity as well! We give specific examples of how you can be a “switch” and bring excitement into your relationships and how this might offset resentments around always having to be one thing! And it wouldn’t be a podcast without some playful fun and teasing about our own tendencies to be the kite and string in our relationship! Show References:
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| 26 Feb 2024 | Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and a Great Guest | 00:55:11 | |
Have you every been to a sex party or lifestyle event, wanted to host one yourself or just curious about what they are all about? If that's a yes for you, you'll ❤️ love this episode: Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and a Great Guest! Coming 🔥 hot off the heels of our latest party, in this episode we share:
Topics we cover include planning in advance, creating a guest list, getting help, sex-party friendly food and drinks, supplies to have on hand, setting up play areas (including an awesome hack that friends shared with us), consent, taking photos, choosing a theme, STI testing and a whole lot more! If you watch the video you'll see the webpage we create for parties that houses all the information your guests need! Want to get our Ultimate Sex Party Guide when it's available? Reach out and message us through our website! If you need support navigating your open relationship with ease & pleasure we can help! Check out our website where you can find out about our digital course Poly Newbies, different ways you can work directly with us, join our mailing list and access a ton of free resources! | |||
| 11 Mar 2024 | How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me? | 00:45:29 | |
It’s one thing to find yourself in a place where you feel that monogamy may not be a fit for you, but a whole other thing to figure out what exactly is. In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory podcast we walk through the different styles of consensually non-monogamy from monogamish, swinging and open relationships, to polyamory, relationship anarchy and everything in between. We uncover the nuances and possibilities within each style helping you navigate your personal journey of finding the right fit for your relationship preferences. We share our thoughts and reflections of how our style has changed over time and how we aren’t just one, but many different styles and that’s totally cool! Plus, we offer up some questions you can ask yourself to figure out what’s right for you including what level of emotional or sexual exclusivity you’re looking for. All these questions are in a free worksheet you can sign up for at https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet. If you have a burning question, want to talk to us about our programs or how you can work with us so that you can master your open or polyamorous relationship, you can book a 15 minute coffee chat with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/15mincoffeechat. Check out our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/.for information about about our coaching programs and services and how to get other great stuff! | |||
| 23 Jul 2024 | Relationship Rules By the Numbers: 1-1-1 to 69! | 00:53:54 | |
You’ve probably seen the various “rules” out there that attempt to cleverly use numbers to describe what you should or shouldn’t do in a relationship or when dating. Having rules and guidelines to follow to lead you to a desired outcome can be helpful and even comforting. Like the 2-2-2 one that suggests that couples should go on a date once every two weeks, spend a weekend away every two months and take a week-long vacation every two years. Others are just plain awful. There's the 6-6-6-6 rule that women with "high standards" should only look for men who are 6 feet tall, with a 6 inch 🍆, six figure salary and a six-pack! In this episode we take an informative and humorous look at these relationship rules, debunk the myths and as always provide expert solid advice on what things you might want to consider to have secure, successful and sexy polyamorous relationships! There's even some food talk in there to keep you entertained with references to yams, sausages and oysters! We would love to hear your take on these numerical rules, what your favorites were and any that we missed (good advice or otherwise). If you’re listening on Spotify you can now add comments to each episode! We want to continue to keep this podcast free and reach as many people as possible so it would help us a lot of you hit the like button, subscribe, share with your friends and write a review! Show references:
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| 20 May 2024 | How to Securely Transition into Different Ways of Doing Non-Monogamy | 00:36:27 | |
Change is exhilarating and exciting, but as you may have experienced, it can also be challenging, especially in relationships! Many of our listeners have shared with us that they are in the midst of making a transition in their relationships, opening up to the idea of polyamory and dating people individually. These transitions often involve difficult discussions and feelings of insecurity and instability that weren't there before. Firstly, this is NORMAL! As new people enter the picture in closer and more emotionally intimate ways, it can trigger some unexpected emotions. And secondly, as always, we’ve got you! In this episode,⚡️How to Securely Transition Into Different Ways of Doing Non-Monogamy you'll learn five key strategies to create a solid foundation for this transition, helping you feel less scared and much more secure to move forward. If you’d like to make a secure transition in your relationship and address issues that have come up as a result of opening your relationship, book a confidential Relationship Rescue Call with Tara and get your next steps at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue. Find out more about us, the services we offer, book us for a talk, and access other great resources at https://www.taraandandre.com/ The club we spoke at and refer to in this episode is Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto, Ontario, Canada: https://oasisaqualounge.com/ We invite you to subscribe and share a review on any of our podcasting platforms! | |||
| 15 Oct 2024 | 69 Ways To Amplify Your Sex Life with Your Partners | 00:49:21 | |
Sex... we love it, we want it, and, for many, it is part of our "why" behind being consensually non-monogamous in the first place. Having said that, if we've been intimate, or in a relationship, with someone for a longer period of time, things can sometimes feel a little stale. At the same time, the ⚡️New Relationship Energy (NRE) we may be experiencing with others we are in relationships with might feel exciting and super 🔥hot! In this episode we talk about the 69 Ways to Amplify Your Sex Life with Your Partners! Ok.. so maybe not quite 69, but there are 5 main areas (with lots of sexy suggestions under each) which will support you increasing DESIRE in ALL your relationships:
As part of this cover topics like responsive desire, dirty talking, disentanglement, Sensate Focus and more! Join us at the 💋Toronto Taboo: Everyhing To Do With Sex Show - October 18-20, 2024. We are giving away passes - enter to win via the link below ⬇️ Show References:
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| 05 Aug 2024 | How Much Do I Want To Know? From DADT To All the Juicy Details | 00:44:01 | |
While we all know that open and honest communication is the key to relationships success, a recent University of California study found that there’s plenty of people would rather not know certain details about what their partner is up to! This is one of the big questions that people often struggle with, and are often at odds with, in non-monogamous relationships. Some prefer the DADT - don’t ask, don’t tell - model where everything is unsaid. It’s a … I’d rather not know because what I don’t know won’t hurt me? However, as we said to a coaching client recently and talk about in this episode, when we avoid hearing from our partners about their experiences completely, our brains “fill in the blanks” and that story is often much worse than knowing the truth. There's others that LOVE to share all the details about their encounters with others and those that want to hear everything, but there's the matter of privacy of others to consider. And some people are ok with some details but want certain things left out. We cover all these things and more in this exciting episode - How Much Do I Want To Know: From DADT to ALL the Juicy Details! And if you're newly navigating non-monogamy or facing some bumpy territory, we've got you! Our Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - has a proven system that will provide you with a foundation for success! AND is now at a special price for our followers and our online community! Other Show References:
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| 29 Apr 2024 | Unicorns & Unicorn Hunting: Can It Be Ethical? | 00:56:44 | |
🦄Unicorns… mythical creatures or real? In this episode we talk about UNICORNS in the context of consensual non-monogamy and if if UNICORN HUNTING can be done in a way that defies this stereotype so that it’s ethical, consensual and feels good for all parties involved! The term unicorn-hunting typically describes the practice of an established couple searching for a third person to engage in either threesomes or triads. You may have seen such couples stating they are “looking for a third”. Often this is a heterosexual couple looking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship who is equally attracted to both of them and interested in whatever arrangement that couple has in mind. Where this can end up being a less than favourable arrangement, in particular for the unicorn, and why searching for a third gets a bad rap is because of the unequal power dynamic that can exist in some cases. Having said this, there are those that LOVE being a unicorn when the conditions are right. We talk about this and the results of a survey we did of our Let’s Talk Polyamory community members on this controversial topic. We have left this survey open for those who wish to share their views as well - https://forms.gle/4jL3JhYVANRmFo1c9 which we can use for a follow-up episode. Join our Let's Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group and can share your ideas on the topic of unicorn hunting or start a discussion on a topic of your choice! https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources at: https://www.taraandandre.com/ If you want to talk to us about what's going on in your relationships and what options there are to get support in addressing issues you're struggling with, book a complimentary call with Tara. She'll make sure you leave with the next step you can take to take towards what you want. https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue | |||
| 06 May 2024 | Can An Open Relationship Save My Marriage? | 00:54:16 | |
It's a question we often get asked... Can opening my relationship (or monogamous LTR) save my marriage? Conventional wisdom, and perhaps even our own advice in the past, would warn against opening up a relationship as a fix or solution. BUT... the more accurate answer is YES, it could help in some cases. In this episode we explore the possibility of opening your relationship and the many benefits you can gain such as deeper connection, trust, variety, sexual and emotional stimulation and personal growth to name a few. All while enjoying the rewards, security and benefits of being married or in a LTR that you desire. We also share the very unique circumstances and conditions that need to either be in place before you open or that you need to build your “qualifications” in such as fantastic communication, understanding your jealousy, secure attachment and more. If you’d like to open a relationship and are unsure if it will work for you, or if you’ve already opened and feel that perhaps you weren’t quite ready for it, we can help via individual and couples coaching or one of our programs! Book a confidential call to talk with Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue to find out what would be best for you! You can also find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources on our website at https://www.taraandandre.com/. | |||
| 20 Dec 2022 | How Open Relationships Work | 00:44:20 | |
Have you ever wondered how open relationships work and if non-monogamy is for you? In this first episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast with T&A we give you the down low on everything you need to know to begin in consensual non-monogamy including the essential questions you need to ask yourself before diving in as well as the the different types of relationship styles out there, from dipping your toes in and being monogamish, to swinging, polyamory, relationship anarchy and more! We share definitions and answer the burning questions you may be afraid to ask! We created a special worksheet to accompany this episode which you sign up to get it sent to your inbox - https://go.taraandandre.com/openrelationshipsworksheet If you're serious about setting a secure foundation for your open or polyamorous relationship, join us for our next cohort of Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery or sign up for our Poly Newbies Digital Course. And... if you'd like to talk to us directly about your own personal situation book your complimentary Relationship Rescue Call here - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue | |||
| 16 Jul 2024 | Accidental Polyamory: Now What? | 00:32:21 | |
Have you heard the term ACCIDENTAL POLYAMORY? This is what some call those unexpected journeys that lead individuals and couples into exploring polyamory dynamics either as a willing participant or with some fear or resistance. In this episode, Accidental Polyamory: Now What? we cover 3 different unexpected scenarios one can find themselves in. Imagine you're in a monogamous relationship, and suddenly, one partner expresses a desire to explore consensual non-monogamy or open the relationship. How do you navigate those conversations and potential changes? Or, picture this: you're single and enjoying the dating scene when you meet someone amazing, only to find out they are polyamorous. How do you handle being with someone with multiple partners, and determine if this is a relationship style that suits you? Maybe you’re already non-monogamous - like a swinger or in an open relationship - and then you or your partner start developing deeper emotional connections and want to shift to a more polyamorous model. How do you handle this significant change? We share other definitions and terms you might come across in these situations like cowboy/cowgirl and poly-bombing. Join us as we share real stories, expert insights, and practical advice for anyone finding themselves unexpectedly on the path to polyamory. Whether you’re curious about polyamory, already practicing some form of non-monogamy or simply interested in the diverse ways people love and connect, this episode is for you! Resources referenced in this episode:
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