Let's Talk About Sex, Really (Dr. Alisa Kriegel)
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| 20 Nov 2022 | Let's Talk About Sex Rooms: Redecorating your Relationship | 00:21:04 | |
In this episode Dr Alisa Kriegel is talking about all the reasons why you should be watching the Netflix show "How to Build a Sex Room." She discusses all the ways in which it can help you learn more about what turns you on and how to create a more sensual space in your life for exploring sex, alone or with partners! | |||
| 27 Sep 2023 | Let's Talk About Hacking Your Nervous System for Better Sex | 00:27:13 | |
Dr. Alisa talks about the nervous system. While it might sound neuro-science geeky, the Poly Vagal Theory can help you have better sex! She discusses how being stressed in a flight or fight/trauma response (Sympathetic nervous system) can shut down parts of your body's functioning needed for sex. Being in a Parasympathetic State, also known as Safe & Social, helps your juices flow for better, wetter and more connected sex. Listen to learn a simple hack to help get your body or your partner's body feeling safer, sexier and more present! This will help you re-think your whole foreplay game! | |||
| 15 Feb 2025 | Let's Talk About Romance | 00:27:40 | |
Valentine's Day is here again—the hearts, flowers, candlelight dinners, and grand gestures plastered all over Instagram. Let's be honest, a lot of this is driven by the hope of romance and sex. But from what I've seen with clients, friends, and even in my own life, it often leads to pressure, obligation, and the feeling that we're failing to live up to some rom-com ideal. So, can we ditch the once-a-year pressure and figure out how to weave romance into our lives every single day? At the end of the day, we all crave love. We want to feel loved. Deep down, it's about connection and validation—feeling seen and heard, not just for the polished, perfect parts of ourselves, but for the messy, flawed bits we desperately hide, fearing they'll make us unlovable. In this podcast, Dr. Alisa shares several time-tested and "lab-tested" ways to cultivate real romance and deepen your relationships. These are for EVERY DAY, you absolutely don't need a holiday as an excuse for romance. Radical Vulnerability:
The core idea is that mutual vulnerability creates closeness. As the study's authors put it, "One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.” The Small Things That Add Up to Lasting Love:
John and Julie Gottman can predict with 94% accuracy whether a marriage will last, simply by observing couples for 15 minutes. One of the biggest factors? How often a couple "turns toward" their partner instead of "turning away." "Turning toward" means accepting "bids for connection." We can do this by saying YES, showing interest, having curiosity to learn more. Examples of bids to accept:
Learn to Speak Your Partner's Love Language:
You can take the quiz here (although there's a cost for a full report) https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language The secret is learning their language, not just speaking your own. Can you give a "gift" based on your partner's love language, not what you would want? Be creative! Listen to the podcast for some ideas! Or, better yet, share this bid for connection with your partner and listen (and learn) together! 💕 Thank you for being here. You can find the video version of this podcast at: https://www.youtube.com/@dralisakriegel Find more about me at: | |||
| 04 Mar 2025 | Let's Talk About a New Definition of Sex | 00:30:24 | |
In today's episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel discusses the need for a broader definition of sex, moving beyond traditional view of "sex" mainly referring to penetration & "p in v" intercourse. By expanding how we define sex with also expand the many ways we can explore sex and pleasure. As always, she encourages open conversations with your partner for all the ways to experience sensual and sexual touch and pleasure. References in the podcast: NY Times article on the Orgasm Gap https://www.nytimes.com/2024/08/06/well/family/orgasm-gap-women-age.html?smid=url-share Emily Nagoski, PhD, Come Together Ian Kerner, PhD, She Comes First | |||
| 26 Mar 2025 | Let's Talk About Non-Monogamy | 00:36:48 | |
Are you curious to know more about open marriages or polyamorous relationships? In this episode of "Let's Talk About Sex Really," Dr. Alisa Kriegel dives into the world of non-monogamy. With her expertise as a therapist and personal research, she explores the realities of open relationships, polyamory, and consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Kriegel dispels the myths, emphasizing that true non-monogamy isn’t about affairs or casual flings—it’s about communication, consent, and honesty. She discusses the challenges (jealousy!), the tools (like "R.A.D.A.R talks"), and the work required to make these relationships thrive. Whether you're curious or committed, this episode offers insights and resources, including recommended reads like The Ethical Slut and Polysecure. Tune in for a no-shame, real talk on what non-monogamy truly means. Check out YouTube for the video! ***Explore Dr. Alisa's recommendations from this episode!*** Book & Articles: "Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá** "I Opened My Marriage. Maybe I Should Have Tried an Affair" (New York Magazine, The Cut) by Haley Mlotek https://www.thecut.com/article/open-marriage-divorce.html Additional Resources: "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy" by Jessica Fern URL: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/From-Sexless-Marriage-to-Sex-Goddess/Alisa-Kriegel/9798896360063 | |||
| 07 Apr 2025 | Let's Talk About My Review of the New Show "Dying for Sex" | 00:17:35 | |
This is my first movie/show review about a new show that has been getting a lot of buzz lately. I've been seeing sexy posters all over NYC for this new FX limited series starring Michelle Williams and the cover of NY Magazine touted it as the "kinkiest show on TV." So, is it? Does it live up to the hype. How kinky is it? I had to see for myself. And after a weekend binge I'm here to give you the lowdown. | |||
| 11 Feb 2021 | Let's Talk About This Podcast, Really | 00:18:18 | |
Just like sex, there are so many ways to do a podcast about sex. This premier episode will help you know more about who I am, why I'm excited to share this with you, and what it's all about. Honest talk, pleasure focused, and shame free. It's a warm up to see if it's a fit and you're ready to jump into the next episode and all the ones that follow! Thanks for checking it out! Episode is Not Live Publish: Feb. 09, 2021 @ 8PM Edit Publish Get episode better indexed by search engines. Listeners can tap through & see what’s coming up. Create a Visual Soundbite Share Episode On | |||
| 14 Feb 2021 | Let's Talk About New Discoveries of Desire: Knowledge Is Pleasure! | 00:19:01 | |
Do you need to feel desire or be "in the mood" as a prerequisite for sex? Waning feelings of desire for a partner or for sex at all is not uncommon. In this episode I share two major recent discoveries about desire and how it can change the way we've been taught to understand it's role in sex. After all, knowledge isn't only power; in this case it's pleasure! | |||
| 19 Feb 2021 | Let's Talk About Sexless Relationships: Everyone's NOT Doing It! | 00:16:53 | |
Are you someone who isn't having sex frequently or barely at all. Maybe it's been months or years even. You're not alone. Sexless marriages and relationships are much more common than you may realize and nothing to be ashamed of. Dr. Alisa Kriegel explores underlying causes so that you can know where to begin if you want to make changes to your sex life. It's possible! | |||
| 16 Mar 2021 | Let's Talk About "Fit": Bigger Isn't Always Better! | 00:16:50 | |
***This Episode has been recommended as a "Listeners' Favorite" *** | |||
| 29 Mar 2021 | Let's Talk About How to Have Less Shame and More Pleasure | 00:18:21 | |
Shame is something that comes up a lot with regards to sex. We all have our own stories that bring up feelings of shame and judgment toward ourself and sometimes toward others. It often comes from our own discomfort as well as from the messages we have heard. In this episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel shares some stories, including the one that inspired her to start this podcast. She also recommends ways for you to let go of the shame and create more pleasure and positivity around sex in your life! | |||
| 14 Apr 2021 | Let's Talk About Closing The Orgasm Gap | 00:20:45 | |
Did you know that men on average orgasm during sexual encounters and intercourse far more frequently than women? Statistics often show a difference of as much 40% more. This wide gap is often referred to as THE ORGASM GAP. In this episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel talks about possible causes for these differences and more importantly, explores ways in which we can start to close the gap! | |||
| 15 May 2021 | Let's Talk About Reconnecting with Your Sexual Self | 00:19:48 | |
Sometimes you go through phases where you're not having sex, possibly even longer than a phase. Or where there has been significant changes in your life and you are no longer experiencing sex and pleasure the same way. In this episode Dr. Alisa talks about how to take a step back and learn to connect with your basic sense of pleasure as a first step to reconnect with the sexual part of yourself. | |||
| 02 Jul 2021 | Let's Talk About Exploring Your Sexual Self (Sex Included) | 00:20:24 | |
In Episode 7 I talked about reconnecting with pleasure and giving yourself permission to have pleasure in your life as a way to start re-connecting with your sexual self in a non-sexual way. Now in this Episode (#8) I talk about different ways to deepen that exploration to get more comfortable in your body and see what turns you on sexually. I truly believe that feeling great sexually (whether by yourself or with a partner) begins with you knowing yourself and what you like. | |||
| 23 Sep 2021 | Let's Talk About Sex Toys: Solo Sex and Partnered Sex with Toys, Oh My! Part 1 | 00:30:25 | |
Part One covers an introduction to some basics of how to find and buy the best toys for you. In this episode I then focus on sex toys marketed for women. I recommend this for anyone who has a vulva or plays with someone with a vulva as you may want to understand what you or your partner may like! This is all about experimenting, getting to know your body and your pleasure, and of course having fun! | |||
| 19 Nov 2021 | Let's Talk About Sex Toys: Solo Sex and Partnered Sex with Toys, Oh My! Part 2 | 00:23:57 | |
Dr. Kriegel continues sharing information about sex toys this time with a focus on toys for Men and also toys for Couples. This is about exploration, pleasure and play. There is no one way to have sex or be sexual. Sex toys are an opportunity to discover new pleasures for yourself and your partners! | |||