Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman (The Language of Love)

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down with Sonia Choquette. Sonia is a spiritual teacher and visionary guide, as well as the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers. Her latest book “Trust Your Vibes (Revised Edition): Live an Extraordinary Life by Using Your Intuitive Intelligence” is a crash course for anyone who wants to tap into their inner wisdom and call in their higher guides. Also joining us are Sonia’s two daughters. Like their mother, these women are also highly gifted and talented, and they have also recently written a book together. Called “You Are Amazing,” this self-help book is meant to help readers trust their inner magic and discover their true power. In this episode, you will learn: • What is the ‘sixth’ sense and how can we allow ourselves to be spiritually informed, even if we don’t fully trust the whole process • Understanding ‘intuitive intelligence’ and realizing that the purpose of this intelligence is to help us move forward and advance our gifts • The different ways we experience intuition and how this can be unique to each person • Learning to hear and trust your angels and spiritual guides • How to act on your intuitive guidance in a way that will build confidence and self-worth If you have ever struggled to trust your own mind or believe in your own truth, this is a very powerful episode that can help you to realize how much intelligence your spirit really has. You have an internal guide inside of you that wants to help you achieve your soul-work, and you have angels and spirits around you that want to connect with you and help you to fulfill your mission here. We just have to get out of our own way and learn how to connect with this intuitive intelligence. Take a listen and let me know your thoughts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives.   Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos.     During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into: The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium  Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness  The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening The powerful thing that happens when you actually ask your spirit guides for help The importance of protecting your energy and finding play Visit Christina Lopes’ website to learn more about her journey, spiritual awakening, and healing. You can also watch her videos and read her wonderful new book Walking With the Masters!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Songwriter, poet, speaker, and bestselling author IN-Q is joining me on this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the process of self-exploration through art and the journey to transformation and self-love. Through Inquire Within, his recent book, he shares the role that poetry has played in his life as he’s walked through a life of grief, joy, fear, love, and everything in between.  In this Conversation, we unpack:  How to move beyond fear to fully express our authentic selves  Ways art can be a path to self discovery  The fact that everyone is a poet of some sort and how to begin your own creative expression  When you know your own creative expression is complete  Visit IN-Q’s website, follow him on Instagram, and check out his book, Inquire Within, for more information on his story as an artist and the storytelling workshops that he holds for individuals around the globe.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we talk about abusive relationships, we tend to focus on physical abuse. That is why leaving a purely emotionally abusive relationship that doesn’t have any physical abuse can be very confusing. If you don’t have a black eye, is it abuse? If he doesn’t push you down or slap you, is it abuse? If she doesn’t throw things at you or put her hands around your throat, is it abuse? YES. Even if your partner never lays their hands on you, emotional abuse is STILL abuse. Emotional abuse is incredibly damaging and traumatic. Even after you leave the relationship, emotional abuse leaves its mark. It shakes your view of yourself and it threatens your ability to visualize a better future for yourself. It keeps you stuck in a pattern of being wounded and unable to move forward to healing. Today on “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a woman who bravely left an emotionally abusive relationship. Now, she is looking for ways to heal, but also for ways to co-parent with her ex. During our discussion, we uncover that my caller routinely finds herself in relationships in which the other partner is the one holding all the cards. She always feels more invested in relationship or as though she is an embarrassment to her partners. She was made to feel demanding or nagging, and as though she has unforgivable flaws that she has to hide or modify if she wants her partner to tolerate her. I can tell that this is a core wound that is stemming from her childhood, and we peel back the layers of her relationships to find out when these patterns first began in her life. Throughout our discussion, we also talk about how she can heal from her abusive past and effectively co-parent with the ex who tried to destroy her self-worth. Be sure to tune in to hear my advice, and then share your thoughts with me on social media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another Language of Love Session! I’ve got a truly engaging conversation lined up for you. But first, let me pose a thought-provoking question: Have you ever felt that the path to reaching an orgasm has become rocky? Meet Marla and Ken, a couple in their 60s, deeply in love. Here's the deal: they've been facing challenges reaching climax, and it's been putting a strain on their love life. Marla often takes the initiative, but Ken feels he isn't fully satisfying her. No matter how passionate a lover you are, age can throw in a few curveballs, like changes in hormones and blood flow. So hang tight, because this is one session you won't want to miss! In this episode, we’re diving into: The importance of open communication and discussing intimacy issues with your partner Why men often avoid addressing problems related to sexual performance How a lack of sexual intimacy can impact other aspects of the relationship, leading to emotional disconnection Ways to be intimate without the sole focus on reaching climax The magic of spending just 15 minutes each week on kissing, cuddling, and deep conversations to build emotional intimacy Don't forget to take a look at my books, Real Sex for Real Women and Loving Sex, as well as my program, Seven Days to Better Sex, which you can find on my website along with the rest of my books and courses on love, sex, and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Communication is an important part of any relationship and crucial to building and sustaining a lasting, long-term relationship where you and your partner are connected and passionate allies in love.  In this Language of Love Bite, will help! We’ll discuss: The three reasons why people refuse to communicate: humiliation, societal constraints, and disassociation.  Methods for making your partner feel comfortable expressing their feelings.  How to create a judgment-free zone between you. Difference between most men and women in their communication needs. Getting clear on how you want to be supported in sharing feelings with your partner.  Identifying the cues of the body to understand what you (or your partner) are feeling. Embodiment tools for facilitating emotional expression.   If you want better emotional intimacy in your relationship, longing for your partner to share more, or struggling in your communication, this episode is for you! Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A kiss is so much more than a fleeting expression of affection. It's a silent language that can speak volumes, not to mention plays a huge role in maintaining healthy long-term attraction in love. This Language of Love Bite is all about the power of a simple kiss. I shed light on the often-overlooked importance of kissing in intimate relationships. I also introduce the concept of non-demand kissing and a kissing practice that you can try with your partner to heighten your connection and intimacy. Try the four-time-a-day, ten-second kiss practice for a week, and let me know how your experience goes! You might be surprised at the power of this simple yet impactful gesture. Don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program for more practical strategies and tips to spice up your sex life! Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Katie and Gay Hendricks. This husband-and-wife duo have transformed the lives of thousands of people with their iconic self-help books, including their New York Times bestseller “Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment.” In this episode you will learn: • How to identify and break negative thought patterns that are keeping you from finding love • How to find healing and purpose even when the world feels chaotic and dangerous • How to communicate with your partner in a way that resolves fights rather than amplifies them • How you can influence your partner’s behavior with nothing more than your own energy Listen now to hear this inspiring interview with self-help gurus Katie and Gay Hendricks! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heart aches and and heart breaks will happen for each of us—trust being broken, losing someone we love, or wounds from the past—can shape our lives in significant ways. But the good news is that we can grow through adversity into even better versions of ourselves.  In this Language of Love Conversation, I have the honor of hosting the incredible Brandi Sellers-Jackson. Brandi, a masterful storyteller, birth and postpartum doula, and the creative force behind "Not So Private Parts," joins me to discuss her profound new book, "On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors." We dive deep into the heart of trauma, infidelity, grief, and the powerful journey of healing. We unpack: The four “labors”: relationship, mental health, grief and loss, and feeling bothered The path to and power of finding gratitude even in the darkest times The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and mental health The concept of re-parenting oneself for healing from childhood trauma The courage it takes to harness self-intimacy and truly know oneself The strength it takes to move forward after betrayal Remember to check out Brandi’s book, On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors, and to connect with her on Linkedin.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life coach, light worker, and author Glodean Champion joins me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation. We talk about a myriad of topics relating to gender identity, race, self-acceptance, and more. All these topics are tackled in her recent fictional book, Salmon Croquettes. We also explore how her trip down south during the Black Lives Matter protests shaped her understanding of love, and how it helped her remember that she is a beacon of light in this world!  In this Conversation, Glodean and I discuss: How to become a leader by using unconditional love The three lessons Glodean learned from her trip to the South during the BLM protests  Powerful lessons from upbringing as an adopted child of a single mother Glodean’s TEDx Talk on her suicidal thoughts and how one town saved her life.  Visit Glodean’s website for more information on her career, mission, and leadership resources. You can also read her beautiful debut novel Salmon Croquettes and listen to her TEDx Talk! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if grief isn’t just about loss, but about staying connected to those who’ve passed on? Have you ever wondered if your loved ones are still with you after they’ve gone? What if there’s a way to feel their presence and find healing through that connection? Grief can be a painful, overwhelming journey, but it’s also one that can offer profound moments of connection across the divide between this world and the next. So, how do we bridge that gap and keep the bond alive? In this heart-to-heart conversation on The Language of Love, I’m joined by Meghan Riordan Jarvis, a trauma therapist and author of Can Anyone Tell Me?. Meghan shares her own transformative experiences with grief, including the loss of her parents, and how these personal moments of sorrow shaped her work as a therapist. Together, we dive into grief from a holistic perspective—exploring how it affects us emotionally, physically, and spiritually, and how we can stay connected to those we’ve lost, even beyond this life. In this episode, we cover: Grief and Afterlife Connections: What if grief doesn’t have to mean letting go? Spiritual Practices for Healing The role of trauma therapy in processing grief The impact of unresolved childhood trauma on adult grief Differences in grieving processes based on the nature of loss Why does grief feel so heavy, both emotionally and physically?  How do we build resilience when grief feels overwhelming? Why is it so important to talk about grief openly?  Remember, healing through grief is a personal journey, and there’s always more to learn and explore. For deeper insights and ongoing support, be sure to connect with Meghan Riordan Jarvis on her website and LinkedIn, where she shares more about her work and offers valuable resources for navigating grief and trauma. If you're looking for guidance, Megan's book Can Anyone Tell Me? answers some of the most frequently asked questions about grief. Also, if you’re looking for more guidance on your own grief journey, check out my Good Grief Course on my website. It’s designed to help you process loss and find healing through practical steps and spiritual connection.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Therapists are people too! And just like anyone else, therapists have their own unique struggles, fears, and insecurities.  In this Language of Love Session, I speak with therapist and PhD candidate, Mary, who opens up about her money fears and shame. In this session, we explore: Mary's recent experience of fear and shame around money and finances Dispelling the notion that therapists should be perfect and have it all figured out The concept that therapists as wounded healers (the desire to heal our own wounds drives us to become healers ourselves)   Strategies for healing and integrating different parts of ourselves, including self-talk and mindfulness practices The concept of physiological and energetic responses to triggers Grounding and calming the nervous system during acute moments of agitation Trust and faith in relation to overcoming scarcity The importance of daily spiritual practice and connecting with a higher self and guidance Cultivating coherence and peace within oneself to attract positive experiences and manifestations The value of staying grounded, calming our nerves, building trust and faith, and having a daily spiritual routine. Remember to take a look at my book Quantum Love for some fascinating insights. In the book, I show you how our emotional states can actually impact our energy levels, and this has been scientifically proven. It affects what we attract into our lives and how people around us respond. It's pretty mind-blowing stuff! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner has threatened to hurt themselves if you leave?  Unfortunately, this is a surprisingly common situation that I hear from a lot of you. In today’s Language of Love Bite, I want to equip you with a few tools to navigate a situation with someone who is either genuinely at risk or might be using suicidal thoughts as emotional blackmail. The tips I outline will hopefully give you some comfort and peace when navigating a stressful situation such as this.  In this Bite, I explore: What emotional manipulation looks like  The important difference between Suicidal thoughts/ideation vs. a suicidal plan How to spot some of the red flags in someone at risk Steps to take to leave the relationship in a way that leaves your partner protected.  If you’re afraid that your partner is going to hurt themselves and don’t know what to do, call a clinician, 1-800-273-8255, or dial the suicide hot line 988. Erring on the side of caution will give you the peace of mind that you need. No matter what happens, remember that no one is entitled to hold you emotional (or any kind of) hostage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Martha Beck—bestselling author, life coach, and one of the smartest women Oprah Winfrey knows (I agree!). Martha holds three Harvard degrees and her latest book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life’s Purpose, is a powerful guide to moving past anxiety. In this episode, Martha and I dive into what she has discovered is the key to resolving anxiety. She explains how shifting from the “anxiety spiral” to a “creativity spiral” can transform our stress into joy and growth. She even helps me work through some of my own anxieties to show how you can do the same. Through personal stories and insights, we uncover how creative expression can turn anxiety into fulfillment and connection. Here’s a sneak peek of what we talk about:  How creativity serves as a catalyst for personal growth and emotional healing    The effects of staying calm on individual wellbeing and enriching relationships    The concept of "quantum love" and its transformative impact on emotional bonds    Strategies for overcoming different forms of fear and anxiety    The vital role of community and shared experiences in the journey toward healing Don't miss out—grab a copy of Martha’s book Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life’s Purpose! You can also connect with her on her website, LinkedIn, or Instagram. And while you're at it, explore my website for exclusive courses tailored to help you thrive! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Bite, I'm going there. We are talking about the impact of pornography on our love lives.  One of the main concerns I discuss in this episode is the accessibility of porn to young people. With the internet being so readily available, it's easier than ever for children and teens to stumble upon explicit content. It turns out that newer research is demonstrating porn can have a profound long-term effect on the developing brain, impacting one’s ability to get aroused without using it. Another issue we are covering is the addictive nature of porn. It's not uncommon for individuals to become hooked on watching porn, spending hours upon hours consuming it.  We also get into the ways porn is being misused as a poor form of sex education, setting couples back who have a skewed perception of what pleasurable sex looks and feels like. This can lead to a distorted view of what constitutes a healthy sexual relationship, as porn often portrays unrealistic scenarios and expectations. I’m also sharing: Why porn is not all bad, and how it can be used in a healthy way  The digital distortion of porn and how it affects how your brain perceives what it sees How porn can negatively affect your dopamine levels The misrepresentation of sexual relationships by porn The pressure on women to engage in activities influenced by porn Why porn is not a substitute for intimacy If you or someone you know is struggling with the impact of porn on their relationship, I encourage you to seek professional help — a therapist who specializes in sex addiction can provide guidance and support in navigating these complex issues.  Also, if you’re looking to heighten the intensity and connection in your sex life, don’t forget to check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program! Visit my website to explore my range of books and courses on love, sex, and relationships, and be sure to tune in regularly to the Language of Love podcast for thought-provoking discussions and invaluable advice aimed at helping you love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all heard debates about what really excites a woman intimately — whether it’s the clitoris, kisses, nipples, or other sensations. But what if I told you the real secret might surprise you? In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into how to excite the vagina and keep the passion alive in ways you might not expect. I explore some of the best exercises and tips that can work wonders and add an extra spark in the bedroom. I also share a little something you might not have considered that can play a huge role in arousal, building that emotional connection and setting the stage for deeper pleasure. Ready to discover what really makes a difference? Remember to visit my website and unlock your free Quantum Sex course, designed to help you elevate your sex life to new heights! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’re unsure how to come clean with your partner about something from your past? It’s uncomfortable, right? In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, one of my listeners, Sasha, finds herself in a tough spot—she’s not sure how to come clean to her partner after being less than honest about her sexual history. We’ve all had moments where telling the truth feels scary, right? How do you face that kind of conversation? I help Sasha navigate the importance of being open and real with her partner. After all, isn’t love about embracing each other’s pasts, imperfections and all? We also discuss how self-worth and emotional growth can create a deeper, more genuine connection. In this session, we cover:  The importance of honesty in relationships How to approach difficult conversations about past sexual history The implications of hiding personal information from a partner Discussing emotional and psychological aspects of past relationships Affirmation of self-worth beyond sexual history Are you ready to explore deeper connections and transformative experiences? Visit my website for personalized courses like 'Quantum Sex' and more, each thoughtfully crafted to support your unique journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know menopause comes with 34 symptoms—yet most women are never told what to expect? Instead, they’re left guessing, struggling, and wondering if it’s all just in their heads. In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Tamsen Fadal, Emmy Award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, to get real about what’s happening to our bodies and why so many women feel unprepared. Her new book, How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before, is changing the conversation—because menopause isn’t the end. It’s a new beginning. Tamsen shares her personal journey through menopause, from the initial confusion and misdiagnosis to becoming a leading voice in the menopause movement. She discusses the societal stigma surrounding menopause, the flawed research that silenced a generation of women, and how she’s working to change the narrative. If you or someone you love is going through menopause,  or you’ve ever felt dismissed, confused, or alone in your menopause journey, this episode is for you. Tamsen’s story is one of resilience, advocacy, and hope, and her message is clear: you can feel better than ever before. We dive into: The truth behind the Women’s Health Initiative study that misled an entire generation about hormone therapy How to recognize perimenopausal symptoms—because it’s not just hot flashes! The 34 symptoms of menopause and why so many women go undiagnosed What doctors should be asking you (and how to advocate for yourself if they don’t) Hormone therapy: who it’s for, who it’s not for, and what the latest science says Non-hormonal strategies for managing menopause—nutrition, strength training, sleep, and stress management How menopause affects your sex life (and what you can do about it) The cultural stigma around aging and how we can redefine what it means to thrive after 40 If you're ready to take control of menopause, pre-order Tamsen Fadal’s book, How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before today. For deeper insights, watch The M Factor, her must-see documentary on menopause. Join the conversation—follow Tamsen on Linkedin, visit her website and connect with a community breaking the silence on menopause. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Manifesting has been a buzz word for decades now. Many people think they know what it means to manifest and how to go about it, but the truth is that you may be going about it all wrong. On this special “Love Bites” episode of “The Language of Love,” I reveal why many people approach manifesting the wrong way, and how to change it. If you're trying to manifest the love life you desire, you need to stop thinking about what you want and instead start thinking about how you want to feel. Yes, manifesting all comes down to getting aligned with the emotions you want to experience in your love life. Emotions are energy in motion, and the universe is fueled by energy. All of our experiences are created by energy, so if you want to create more passion and romance, you need to get your energy in the right place. But how? Listen to this episode to find out and start manifesting your dream love life now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating can be a challenging proposition no matter which stage of life you find yourself walking through, but especially if you’ve been out of the game for some time. Setting standards and knowing what you’re looking for in a mate are critical steps.    In this Language of Love session, I spend time with Mary, a woman trying to navigate the often-complicated dating terrain to find her person. The challenge she faces is she thinks she knows what she wants, but I help her realize she’s actually focusing too much on what she doesn’t want! Listen in as I walk her through the process everyone should get clear on if they are seeking to manifest the love they most desire.  Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you beginning to feel like your partner’s phone is becoming the third wheel in your relationship? Are you tired of being "phubbed"—that unsettling mix of phone and snubbed? You’re not alone. In this Language of Love Bite, we explore how to reclaim connection in your relationship without starting World War III. In this episode, I delve into the science of disconnection, revealing how our phones trigger dopamine responses similar to addictive substances. But this isn’t just about the tech—it’s about finding solutions that strengthen intimacy and foster connection. Discover small but powerful ways to unplug, reconnect, and bring joy back to your shared moments. Plus, I share some proven practical tips and daily rituals that foster intimacy. Here’s what I cover: Understanding the neurological impact of constant screen use. How to identify tech’s impact on your relationship, from decreased eye contact to “parallel play.” Simple, actionable strategies to combat tech addiction If you’re ready to create meaningful change in your relationship, tune in to this episode of The Language of Love. And don’t forget to check out my free course, 7 Days to Better Sex, and  Quantum Sex, which offers tools to enhance intimacy and connection even further. Subscribe to the podcast and start reclaiming the love you deserve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is The Bachelor’s Nick Viall ready to pop the question to his girlfriend of two years, Natalie Joy? Why does he think he was so unlucky in love TWICE on The Bachelorette? And what is his hopeful versus grateful list? I’m covering all of that and more in my heartwarming, inspiring, and really honest Language of Love Conversation with former reality star, Nick Viall. He is dishing about it all from looking for love in front of the camera – to healing from being cheated on by his ex-fiance. We talk about how, for many years, Nick’s ego and insecurities led to the decisions he made in his relationships and how he learned to recognize when he was fighting for love versus fighting to continue to be in a toxic relationship. We discuss how he learned to put his own ego in check when it comes to dating. We also talk about Nick’s new book “Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday,” where he shares the best advice he’s picked up in his dating life through the years. And Nick answers whether he thinks you can really be friends with your exes. In this conversation, we talk a lot about Nick’s new love, what he's learned through that relationship, how it's different from his past relationships, and what the future might hold. He shares how keeping a hopeful vs. grateful list helps remind him of all the wonderful things about his relationship. We also get the skinny on the Bachelor Nation and whether or not it’s realistic to expect an engagement on the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Losing someone we love is a heartbreak like no other. When I lost my son Sammy, it felt like a piece of me went missing, but that wasn’t the end of our connection. In fact, since he crossed over, I’ve felt his presence in the most unexpected ways. Turns out, love has a way of sticking around—even when we are no longer here in physical form. In this deeply moving Language of Love Conversation, I’m thrilled to chat with Suzanne Giesemann, a spiritual teacher, evidentiary medium, and author. After the loss of her stepdaughter, Susan, Suzanne began a whole new journey as a spiritual medium, discovering that the bonds we share don’t fade—they just change channels. She even shares her “Sip of the Divine” meditation, a practice that’s helped countless people, including me, turn pain into purpose and keep those we love close at heart. So, if you’re curious about keeping that connection alive or just need a little comfort, this episode is one you won’t want to miss! Here’s a glimpse of what we explore: Signs that indicate that our loved ones are still with us after they've passed How we can find growth through grief and turn pain into purpose Ways of connecting with the spiritual realm “Soul plans” and why they matter How gratitude can help us bridge spiritual connections Don’t forget to pick up a copy of Suzanne’s book, The Awakened Way, and explore her website for even more insights. You can also connect with her on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube for updates and inspiration. Looking for extra support on your own healing journey? Visit my website for resources like Good Grief Course and more transformative tools! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Sarah D. Little. Sarah is a dear friend of mine. She is a beautiful, passionate writer who knows firsthand how painful trauma and loss can be. Sarah has an amazing story that I know will inspire and empower all of you. Sarah has dealt with everything from heartbreak to depression to financial loss to suicide attempts. Sarah shares with me how her love for literature, writing, and the work of authors like Cormac McCarthy helped her to endure even as her life seemingly unraveled. You can watch Sarah’s YouTube channel called Love Letters from Sarah to learn more about her origin story. Her history is painful, but relatable. From being cheated on by her partner to losing her beautiful home and garden, Sarah has endured so much turmoil and heartbreak, but has come through with her soul and her purpose intact. After losing her relationship and all of those external things which made her feel strong and protected, Sarah had to turn within and find her own power and talent in order to survive. Sarah is living proof that there is nothing that we cannot live through, nothing that we are not strong enough to endure. And, most importantly, that our pain can often deepen our creative expression and our purpose here. Her story is truly poetically beautiful and inspiring, and I am so honored to have such a strong and powerful friend. She has taught me so much about how to live with appreciation and strength, even when it seems like everything has been taken away from you. If you have ever struggled with depression, loss, or thoughts of suicide, I urge you to listen to this episode and listen to how Sarah dealt with her pain and not only survived, but thrived. You can find Sarah's Youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2xtHp-0DTZ2fGFPLa4PswA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love Bite, I’m talking about female genital self-image. Just like our bodies, women’s vaginas and vulvas come in all different shapes and sizes. And, we get caught up in how we think our vulvas should look based on images we see portraying them.  Did you know that I have researched genital self-image (and published results in a scientific journal)? How you feel about the shape and appearance of your genitals directly affects how willing you are to be sexual with someone! The truth is, your vulva is PERFECT the way it is. I’m truly concerned with how many women feel self-conscious about how their vaginas look and are going under the knife to change the shape, size, and appearance of their genitals, to make them tighter or more desirable.  I’m not telling women they are wrong for wanting these surgeries, but as a medical professional, I want to make sure women understand the risks and complications that can happen as a result of nipping and tucking down there from a physical as well as emotional standpoint. In this episode I address:  The WHY behind your need to change the appearance of your genitals. Did someone make a comment about it being “too loose” or not attractive that left you feeling self-conscious? Physical Changes you don’t expect like sensations during sex that may change The anatomy of your vagina, your vulva, g-spot and how it all really works … and how your vagina can adapt to different size penises.  I also give you exercises to strengthen your vaginal muscles. Which you need to do whether you have surgery or not.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of hearing the same old advice about love and dating? Are you finding it difficult to navigate the dating world, or finding love in a world of swipes, catfishing and ghosting?  If you are looking for love and want some advice that will change your whole dating game for the better, tune into this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Damona Hoffman, a celebrity dating coach and author of "F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story". In our conversation, we debunk the common myths about love and dating and how these misconceptions can hinder the process of finding love.  We talk about: The common myths and misconceptions about finding love Understanding the concept of "butterflies" in relationships The importance of curiosity and attraction in dating Mindful dating and finding partners on a similar level of awareness Exploring different avenues for dating, including online dating, setups, and communities For more insights and advice from Damona, check out her podcast, Dates and Mates, and her book, F the Fairy Tale, which offers hope and actionable advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating. You can find more information about her book and testimonials from satisfied readers on her website, damonahoffman.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it or not, this is a very common issue couples face. One in five men suffer from low desire, and one of the most common causes is that they are investing too much sexual energy and time into watching porn.  On this episode of Language of Love Session, I am speaking with Isabel whose husband has a porn addiction. I explain to her why her husband is being unresponsive to sex, the reasons behind his immense fascination to porn and more importantly, some of the things they can do as a couple (I assign her homework!) to counter that.  If you are wanting your partner to be less on his laptop and more on you, listen to this Language of Love session! Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about what men really want in the bedroom, and why men seem to have higher desire than women when it comes to intimacy. Dr. Berman reveals that the most common issue that she sees in her clients is the fact that men want more sex than their partners, and how those mismatched libidos can wreak havoc on your relationship. When sex falls by the wayside, it can lead to less affection, less physical touch, and less romance in general. When a woman doesn’t want sex, she may brush off her partner if he tries to cuddle her or kiss her, because she thinks “Oh no, he is just going to want sex, and I don’t even want to go there right now.” Or maybe she even feels guilty accepting affectionate touch since she isn’t ‘keeping up her end of the bargain’ and being the passionate, hands-on partner that she knows her partner wants her to be. Yet the more these things disappear (the cuddling, the hand-holding, the pet names, the snuggling under the sheets) in a relationship, the more her desire will continue to plummet as well because she needs these forms of affection to help fuel her libido. So, it becomes a vicious cycle in which less sex means less romance, and less romance means less sex, and in the end, both partners end up feeling very isolated and disconnected. Dr. Berman’s advice for couples is simple: Start by being honest about the fact that you each have different levels of desire, but make room for the possibility that this can change in the future. Every sex life has ebbs and flows, so even if you are not currently where you want to be in the bedroom, make room for the possibility that this can change and that you and your partner have the power to create the passion, fulfilling sex lives you both desire and deserve. Listen to today’s episode of “The Language of Love” to hear Dr. Berman’s best sex tips for couples struggling with mismatched libidos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As most of you know, I believe we’re all psychic. But in this episode of the Language of Love, I’m talking to a professional psychic medium who has a lot to teach us all! Known to his fans and celebrity clients as the, ‘Manhattan Medium’, Thomas John and I talk about his new book, Never Argue with a Dead Person: True and Unbelievable Stories from the Other Side. He shares thoughts on whether he thinks people have trouble crossing over to the spiritual side as well as ways being psychic has shaped his life, including:  How his psychic and medium abilities developed What it was like growing up psychic in a home filled with skeptics How to choose a medium that’s right for you Does he believe there are such things as evil spirits?  What role he thinks Covid has played in our spiritual evolution  Thomas John even did a reading on me! He connected with several of my loved ones on the other side, including my sweet son, Sammy. One relative he contacted, and called out by name, left me speechless. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The idea of “masculine” and “feminine” goes way beyond gender. We all have masculine and feminine within us, we just lean in one direction or another. The energies of the masculine is more directive, organized and containing. The feminine is more emotional, creative and flowing.   In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by my good friend, transformational coach AnnMarie Chereso. Together, we're exploring the intriguing dynamics of masculine and feminine energies within relationships. AnnMarie, with her expertise in guiding personal transformations, is here to offer valuable insights into how understanding and balancing these energies can significantly influence the quality of our connections with others. AnnMarie's wisdom promises to shed light on the mysteries surrounding these energies, providing a thoughtful perspective on navigating relationships with heightened awareness and deeper connection. We unpack: The transformative power of choosing love over fear and how it can positively impact your relationships How tuning more deeply into your feminine energy as a woman can bring balance and harmony to your love life Why receptivity is crucial in creating fulfilling and meaningful connections How your romantic partnerships can become powerful tools for personal growth and healing Steps you can take to move out of fear, especially in relationships If you're ready to unlock the secrets of masculine and feminine energies and create a love life that's truly fulfilling, check out AnnMarie’s courses on her website! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like you are being haunted by your past? If so, you need to tune into “The Language of Love” to hear how you can heal your wounds so that you can finally let the past go. We all experienced trauma as children, even if you fortunately didn’t have hugely disturbing experiences like sexual assault, physical abuse, or extreme poverty in your childhood. I call these kind of traumas “Big T” traumas, because they’re easily identifiable to all of us as areas of pain and terror. However, there are also “little t” traumas, traumas that aren’t as easily identified as wounds. These events might include an overly critical parent, religious fear-mongering, bullying at school, weight struggles, learning difficulties, and sibling rivalry, just to name a few. All of these experiences impact our self-worth, our beliefs about ourselves, our beliefs about how we should be treated, and about how the world works. They may not feel as worthy of healing and attention as other major wounds like abuse, but this kind of thinking only allows your ‘little t’ traumas to bury deeper into your psyche and bleed into all areas of your life. That shame and embarrassment you feel about being gentle with your past wounds is in fact PART of your wound talking: If you feel like your pain isn’t serious enough or that you’re being too sensitive or that you don’t have the ‘right’ to feel upset about something that happened 20 years ago, guess what? That’s your core wound talking. Your core wound that tells you that you aren’t strong enough or that your pain isn’t worthy of tenderness or that other people have it worse than you, so you should just ‘get over it’….these are all messages we got from our family systems when our pain triggered them. They weren’t able to address our needs so they shamed us for having them: Now we as adults do the same thing. But we can change the pattern. This isn’t about wallowing in the past, it’s about healing it so we can finally move on. If you can’t bring attention and tenderness to these parts of you that need healing, you will forever be dominated and controlled by your past. You won’t be able to expertly manifest your dreams and work towards your goals, because your energy is being sapped by these invisible wounds that just won’t heal. Listen to this episode to find out how you can begin to let go of the past right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this very special episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with Susan Grau. Have you ever wondered it means to be a medium, or have you ever felt as though you have a ‘sixth sense’ or an ability to see or feel people who are no longer here? Then this episode is for you: Susan Grau is an Internationally recognized Intuitive Medium, Life Path Intuitive, Life Coach, & Hypnotherapist / Past Life Regressionist. Susan is known for bringing her genuine, benevolent, and down-to-earth style to her clients and sessions. Susan works with the spirit world using her “Clair Senses” as a means to communicate with your loved ones. She has been offering her professional and spiritual services to the public for over three decades. “You are made of light. You are good, kind, and filled with the spiritual beauty of the afterlife. Never forget where you came from. Never allow anyone to make you feel less than what you are. Always know your value. You are from the light,” says Susan. On this episode, Dr. Berman talks with Susan about the near-death experience she had when she was 4 years old. Susan says she didn’t see bright lights or the traditional light at the end of the tunnel, but she had an incredible experience in the afterlife that she shares with Dr. Berman in this thrilling episode. Dr. Berman also shares how she has been able to connect with her son Sammy and her mother after their deaths, and how she uses her deep pain as a gateway to creating these incredible channels of connection. If you have ever wondered about the afterlife or how to cope with grief or the loss of your loved ones, this is an episode that will bring you enlightenment and comfort. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, you read that right! On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking about whether you should give your daughter the power to take her pleasure into her own hands. I first brought this up a long time ago on the Oprah Winfrey Show and while Oprah agreed with me, Gayle King and much of America didn’t. This episode, I elaborate explicitly on why teaching your daughter self-stimulation has long-term benefits to her safety, self-advocacy, and ultimate sexual and romantic pleasure and satisfaction. Listen in as I talk about how giving your daughter a sex toy can positively affect her sexual development.  Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex, and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!  This week I’m taking a few minutes to talk about frequencies, manifestations, and how the two are related. We’re all like human tuning forks, which means that sometimes our moods can be brought up or down just by being near others. This experience is very human, but I want to help you learn how to adjust, maintain a higher frequency, and attract abundance with a few of my tried-and-true tips.  In this episode, I’m sharing: How your frequency and ability to manifest your desires are related The different levels of frequency and how they relate to your mood and the moods of others Why holding your own energetic frequency is necessary to reach your desires and manifestations Tips to raise and maintain your frequency How to create room for sadness, loss, anger, frustration, etc. and then move beyond Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s this long-held and much belief that all narcissists are evil people bent on destruction who take pleasure in delivering pain. And that pain is often delivered to vulnerable and meek codependents who are viewed as meek, sweet souls whose sole purpose in life is to please others. But what if I told you that while on the surface, they seem totally different, operating from completely opposite ends of the spectrum narcissists and codependents are actually opposite sides of the same coin?  On this episode of Language of Love Bites, we’ll discuss the similarities between narcissists and codependents and how they originate from the same place. Chances are we’ve all dealt with one at some point in our lives and understanding why they behave in a certain way could help us, help them, and in the process, help our relationships. There’s a lot to unpack here including some of the myths out there about codependents and narcissists! Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so honored on this episode of “The Language of Love” that I get to sit down with Katherine Woodward Thomas. Katherine is not just a New York Times bestselling author, master teacher, and a marriage and family therapist: She is also a dear, dear friend and someone I often turn to for advice and support. If you have ever heard the term ‘conscious uncoupling’ (made popular a few years ago when Gwyneth Paltrow when she divorced her partner Chris Martin), you know Katherine. “Conscious Uncoupling” is one of her most beloved books and truly a game-changer when it comes to how to approach breakups and divorce. Her latest book “Calling In the One” is a must-read for anyone who is looking for love, or anyone feeling as though they don’t have the passion and romance in their life that they so deeply desire. On this episode, Katherine and I get a chance to talk about some of my favorite things. Here are some crucial life lessons you will learn in this episode: • Resigned to Loneliness: Learning how to hold the possibility for love even when you are dating in what feels like a ‘meat market’ and are feeling bitter and hopeless after fruitless online dating • Overcoming the Four Main Obstacles to Love, including your ‘False Love Identity’ • Healing Your Past Wounds: Finding your ‘source fracture’ story which has lodged into your identity and made you feel unlovable and ‘not good enough • Feeling it, Not Thinking it: How somatic experiencing can help you ‘feel’ the love you deserve • Getting Free from the Past: How to recognize and release old stories and wounds • Becoming Future-Focused: Learning how to lean into your evolution and your possibility for powerful growth I am so excited for you to tune into this episode. Give it a listen and let me know your thoughts! One more thing! Are you interested in becoming a love coach and helping others call love into their lives? Or maybe you want to learn for yourself! My dear friend and wonderful teacher and therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas is inviting us all to a free 90-minute webinar to learn more about calling in the ONE!  https://webinars.kwt.online/lb-coaching-sacred-calling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to shift a relationship that’s just not working? How do we reestablish independence and access our gifts while carrying childhood trauma?  This listener and I are breaking down these questions and assessing the state of her marriage in today’s Language of Love Session. It’s not uncommon for some people in long-term relationships to feel like their independence is tied to the presence of a partner – we almost revert to a child-like sense of ourselves. But we must teach our inner child to speak up for their wants and needs, so tune in to discover the valuable tips I offer this listener!  In today’s Session, we explore: The state of her marriage  The trauma we carry into our relationships Reestablishing independence as adults How to integrate the wants and needs of our inner child into our lives Why a somatic therapist can help  Releasing generational trauma  How our souls choose our family of origin Tips to cultivate connection and access our gifts We have to work through our fear and resistance to move toward love and intimacy. Check out my website for more information on how you can begin this journey!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with internationally acclaimed author and lecturer Marianne Williamson. Dr. Berman’s grief journey following the death of her son Sammy has been greatly illuminated and shaped by Williamson’s past works, such as “A Return to Love” and “Tears to Triumph,” so sitting down for an interview with such a beloved soul-guide has been a longtime plan of hers. In today’s interview, Dr. Berman and Williamson talk about this incredibly difficult time that we are living in, and how crucial it is for us to stay present and engaged, rather than hiding our heads in the sand. How can you find your voice and help to promote peace and integrity when you just want to hide away from the ugliness of the world? Williamson says we must start acknowledging our own power and refusing to be silenced. In particular, Williamson believes that empaths and spiritually-minded people have a huge responsibility right now in helping to heal the world. She urges listeners to find a way to overcome the ‘overwhelm’ and tap into their amazing powers, because sitting by idly will only lead to further spiritual and physical destruction of our country and climate. “The effects of love are maximal,” says Williamson. “We [need to] stop disengaging from the political system.”   Dr. Berman and Williamson also talk about ‘The Course in Miracles,” which Dr. Berman is working through and which Williamson narrates for the audiobook. Listen to this inspiring episode and let Dr. Berman know your thoughts on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that most arguments in relationships aren’t really about what they seem? That fight about the trash? The dishes? Being late? It’s rarely about the actual issue—it’s about something deeper. Feeling unheard. Feeling unappreciated. Feeling disconnected. In this Language of Love Session, we continue to follow Brian and Stacey as they navigate the challenges of trust, intimacy, and emotional connection. Brian feels like he’s doing everything right—planning dates, showing affection, making an effort—yet the intimacy still isn’t there. Stacey, meanwhile, struggles with past trauma and the weight of expectation, making it hard for her to fully engage. We confront the hidden emotions and unspoken fears that keep them stuck in the same frustrating cycle. What’s inside this episode? How past traumas influence trust and intimacy in relationships Why taking sex off the table can help rebuild emotional and physical connection The importance of non-sexual touch in fostering intimacy and trust How to navigate the "Drama Triangle" (victim, villain, hero) in conflicts Practical strategies for shifting out of conflict and into connection The role of appreciation and physical affection in healing relationships How to create a culture of safety and understanding in your partnership Don't forget—love is a journey best taken together. Whether you're healing from past traumas, deepening intimacy, or improving communication, every step forward is one you don’t have to take alone. Explore powerful tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle for trauma recovery, or dive into transformative resources like Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks. Want to go even deeper? Read my book Quantum Love. You can even check out my Quantum Sex Course. Have questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ever uncertain about your sexual confidence? Whether it's feeling self-conscious with your partner or nerves about your first time, rest assured, you're not alone. No matter your level of experience, I'm here to help you feel more comfortable with your sexuality.  In this  Language of Love Bite, I dive into a topic that many people shy away from discussing—sexual confidence. Strengthening your sexual confidence can greatly enhance both your mental well-being and your relationships. It might feel like opening Pandora's box, but fear not! I'll guide you through how to cultivate that crucial sexual confidence, unveiling the seven keys to mastering it. I'll reveal what it takes to bring your A-game to the bedroom, leaving your partner craving more. Get ready to feel empowered and equipped with everything you need to excel between the sheets! Looking to spice up your sex life? Start by prioritizing open communication, experimenting with the fantasy box technique, joining my Seven Days to Better Sex program, and exploring Quantum Sex. Visit my website to learn more about how you can reignite the passion and create a deeply fulfilling sex life with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that most women fake their orgasms? It's a shocking reality that brings to light the underlying issues surrounding female pleasure. However, amidst the discussions on faking orgasms, there's a lesser-known side to the story. What happens when a woman actually cannot reach an orgasm? This Language of Love Bite is all about a topic that is both captivating and incredibly important for women – achieving orgasm. I acknowledge that it can sometimes be a difficult subject to discuss, but let's have an honest conversation about it. Understanding our bodies is essential, and this includes becoming comfortable with self-stimulation. Ultimately, it's about being self-aware, right? Here is a glimpse of what I unpack:  What happens when a woman can't reach orgasm  The common causes for an orgasm, or difficulty or inability to reach orgasm  The most common myths about women reaching orgasm  Importance of self-exploration and understanding one's body Why many women fake orgasm The guilt and shame around sexuality  The impact of attention deficit disorder on orgasm The lack of enough foreplay among couples  The physiological aspects that influence a woman's ability to orgasm. Debunk the myth that mutual orgasm is the ultimate goal The significance of intimacy and connection in sexual satisfaction Please remember to visit my website where you can find my free course on Quantum Sex. This course is designed to help you enhance your sexual response and experience full-body orgasms. It will also teach you how to use sex magic to manifest your dreams and establish a deeper sexual connection with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with one of favorite people: Christina Lopes. Christina is a former clinician who is now a spiritual teacher and healer. Christina bridges together science and spirituality to help people heal their lives and unlock their true potential. On this episode, I talk with Christina about how the universe is evolving right now and how our global consciousness is changing. Due to the pandemic and other social and cultural crises happening across the world, many of us are going through what is being called “Ascension,” and if you don’t know what is happening, it can be very overwhelming and confusing. That is why I am so excited to sit down with Christina and talk about some of these very important things, like: • Ascension: What is going on in the universe right now and what are the symptoms of “ascension”? How do you know if you are going through ascension and how can you get the most of this experience? • Synchronicity: Is it is a coincidence or is your soul trying to receive a message from the universe? From feathers to special numbers to patterns, many of us receive messages in the form of synchronicity (even if we don’t realize it!) Christina helps explain what synchronicity is all about and how we can lean into these experiences, even if we don’t fully believe or understand what is happening. • Entering (and Exiting) the Void: Why do some of us experience a ‘void’ in which we feel like our lives are stagnant and not moving forward, no matter how hard we are trying to create a shift? This stage can sometimes be known as a “Void,” and it can even happen after a spiritual awakening. What is the point of the “Void” stage and how can we learn from it? • Following Your Joy: Why you should follow your joy, and how you can lean into your intuition and soul’s wisdom when you are faced with challenging decisions. If you lead with joy and what makes your soul happy, you’re going to find abundance that goes far beyond material things (but it can often be quite fruitful on that level as well!). Listen now to learn more about these topics and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a ‘Sessions’ episode. This is where I get to sit down and do a real-time session with a caller just like you! Today I am speaking with a caller who says that she has found that she is growing away from her husband. Although she deeply loves her husband, she is finding that they just aren’t connecting the way they used to. She feels herself being called to a more soulful, meaningful existence, and she is being pulled out of her comfort zone into a place of magical transformation and self-growth. But while this can be a beautiful space of healing and wisdom, it can also be frightening and uncomfortable, especially if your partner isn’t on that same wavelength with you. My caller says that her husband very much wants things to stay at the ‘status quo.’ He doesn’t want to see their relationship change or his wife grow into new directions. So what do you do when this happens? Can one partner ‘ascend’ to a higher state of consciousness and healing while the other partner stays in their comfort zone and clings to their old ways? How do you keep your marriage tight and intimate when you feel like you and your partner are vibrating at completely wavelengths? This is a very important episode because this is an issue that is coming up more and more lately among my clients. As I discuss in my new e-book about Ascension, many people are undergoing massive spiritual transformations right now. As a result, their relationships are changing and they are moving away from people and situations that no longer serve them. But if you deeply love your partner and don’t want to lose that relationship, how can you safeguard that bond when you are no longer on the same energetic frequency? Tune in right now to hear my advice! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Stephanie Arnold. Stephanie has an incredibly powerful story which she shared in her international bestseller, “37 Seconds: Dying Revealed Heaven’s Help—A Mother’s Journey.” The title of the book comes from Stephanie’s real-life experience in which she died for 37 seconds. That’s right: She died and came back to life, and what she learned in those 37 seconds is so unforgettably powerful. I am so honored to speak with her today and learn what dying taught her, and I think you will find it to be so uplifting and informative. You will learn about: • The truth about your ‘sixth sense’ and how it can save your life • What scientists, medical experts, and philosophers have learned from studying clinical death (a.k.a. ‘near-death experiences’) • Stephanie’s premonition that she was going to die, and how she learned to advocate for herself after her fears were not taken seriously by her medical team • What Stephanie saw and heard when she died • How you can key into your sixth sense and tap into your divine intuition Stephanie’s story is so important for all of us to hear, especially those of us who have trusting our own truths and advocating for own safety. Learning how to apply this wisdom may end up literally saving your own life, but also help you learn how to deeply connect with the powerful source within you and make your days more meaningful and magical. Listen now and share your thoughts with me--I love to hear from my listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Dr. Laurie Mintz. Dr. Laurie is a sex therapist and a professor who has written two amazing books about sexual pleasure: “A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex” and “Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It.” I was thrilled to sit down with Dr. Laurie because we have a lot in common: Like me, she originally was going to school for psychology, but when she became her studies, she realized that there was a huge lack of focus on sexual pleasure. Also like me, she grew up in a house where sexuality was not a shameful topic or something to be afraid of, and so she was innately comfortable tackling these topics with her clients and being a trailblazer in what was then a very new field. On this episode of the “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laurie and I will help you discover: • What Orgasm Equality Means (Hint: It’s the exact opposite of the Orgasm Gap) • Why Orgasm Equality Can Lead to Gender Equality Outside the Bedroom as Well • How Women Can Begin to Find their Orgasmic Power • Why I Believe that We Won’t Have Political Equality for Men and Women Until We Can Have Orgasm Equality in the Bedroom First If you’re struggling with orgasm or any love, sex, and relationship issues, please reach out to me. I would love to help you begin your journey to feeling more empowered in the bedroom. Send your questions here or reach out to me on social media (Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or TikTok), or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. You can also leave me a voice message on Speakpipe, or book a private appointment with me at Appointments@LauraBerman.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re back with another Language of Love session! In this episode, I chat with a 40-something-year-old listener who wants to find love but feels an aversion to dating. She’s never dated and never been physically intimate with someone.  As we explore some of her childhood and current attitude toward men, we unpack the things that might have landed her where she is today. I also break down some tools to begin practicing to open her heart to love vulnerability, like fostering your friendships first!  In this session, we discuss: How our parents’ marriage can deeply affect our perception of love and care  What we are really craving in the search for emotional and physical intimacy  Why friendship can be a wonderful stepping stone to romance How vulnerability and open heartedness with our pets can heal some of the wounds blocking us from love  The power of somatic experiencing in healing our blocks to love If you’re curious about somatic experiences, check out the Hakomi Institute or Somatic Experiencing International for more information.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for Part 2 of Dr. Berman’s intimate chat with television superstar Nick Cannon. On Part 1 of this special interview, Dr. Berman and Nick talked about everything from monogamy to sex toys to how Nick’s fear of germs keeps him going back to his baby mamas instead of finding new partners. But, on this second installment, Nick and Dr. Berman tackle something much deeper and darker: The loss of Nick’s infant son, Zen, and how he is coping with that grief. Zen died of a brain tumor in December 2021 when he was just five months old. Since then, Nick has grappled with every parent’s worst nightmare: Losing a child. It’s a nightmare Dr. Berman knows well, as she also lost her son in 2021. On this episode you will learn: • How Nick and Zen’s mother have celebrated their son’s short life • How you can stay connected to lost loved ones even after they are gone • How you can present with grief without being overwhelmed by the waves of sadness and anger • Why grief is such an important process that has so much to teach us about love and life • How you can become better resourced to deal with your own grief You can always reach out to Dr. Laura Berman on her social media pages or by emailing languageoflovepod@gmail.com with any questions or comments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take a moment to look at the circle of people closest to you. They are there because you energetically attracted them into your world. We’re all living, breathing magnets. Understanding your unique relationship magnetics puts you in the driver's seat when it comes to creating the love life you most desire.  On this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I talk with the amazing Robert Ohotto, one of the foremost voices in psycho-spirituality, about understanding our unique relationship magnetics, where they come from and how to change them in service to creating a healthy and fulfilling love life. Robert shares how to harness the relationship abundance magnet that thrives inside each of us.  In this episode, we’ll discuss: How to cultivate acceptance as a key to changing relationship magnetics patterns that don’t serve us. The keys to breaking the cycle of being codependent (and how codependency affects your relationship magnetics) How to use relationship magnetics to call the love in you most desire How to navigate and shift relationship magnetics to a more positive place in an existing relationship The importance of separating from (unconsciously) identifying as a victim so we don’t carry forward the magnet for trauma Preparing for the ways your life (including your circle) will change when you shift out of negative relationship magnetics Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Robert Ohotto Robert Ohotto – Website Robert Ohotto - Facebook Robert Ohotto – Instagram Robert Ohotto - Twitter Robert Ohotto YouTube.com  About Robert Ohotto  Robert Ohotto is recognized as a trailblazing presence within the field of psycho-spirituality, multi-sensory development, and human consciousness. Robert’s popular radio show, “Soul Connexions Radio”, is currently one of the most listened to and downloaded podcasts on iTunes. He has been featured by Fortune Magazine for his work as an Intuitive Strategies with Fortune 500 Companies and numerous times on Oprah Radio. He is highly sought after for his dynamic lectures, intuitive consultations, and unique astrological expertise. His leading-edge work challenges the conventions of mind-body-spirit paradigms by integrating intuitive perception, archetypes, and life cycles.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wished harm on another person? Someone who did you wrong in some form or fashion? Maybe it’s an ex, a co-worker, or a neighbor who crossed you. The truth is most everyone has felt this way a time or two. But have you ever thought about the cost of vengeance? In this Language of Love Bite, we’ll uncover the hidden costs of vengeance, fury, anger and what they can potentially cost you. There’s a healthier way to express your disdain for a situation or a choice that doesn't align with your core values or desires. It doesn’t cost you anything and allows you to feel complete. Listen to this episode to learn more! Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex, and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When was the last time you had a kiss that truly took your breath away? Not just a peck on the cheek or a quick smooch in passing, but a kiss so meaningful it sparked something deep inside? If it’s been a while, you’re not alone. For many couples, kissing tends to fade into the background of a long-term relationship. But here’s the good news—it doesn’t have to. In this Language of Love Bite, I’ll show you how to bring the magic back with eight key tips that will make you a better kisser. And yes, there’s even a playful game to help you and your partner rediscover the joy of kissing together. What you’ll discover in this episode: Why does kissing fade in relationships, and how can you reignite the spark? What does it take to set the perfect mood for a memorable kiss? How can you fine-tune your technique to make every kiss unforgettable? The little things to up your kissing skills that make a big difference. A simple, fun game to uncover what you and your partner love most about kissing. But wait—did you know that kissing isn’t just about physical connection? It actually boosts emotional intimacy and can even affect hormone levels! Who wouldn’t want to unlock all that potential with just one kiss? Looking to deepen intimacy and connection in your love life, or even elevate your personal understanding of relationships? My free course on Quantum Sex is a fantastic place to start—it’s designed for anyone, whether you're single or partnered. Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited about today’s episode of “The Language of Love”! I am sitting down with the one and only Dr. Drew! I have known Dr. Drew for 25 years, and I remember sitting in his audience in “Loveline” way back in the 90’s and just being amazed at how deeply intuitive and wise he was (and still is). Dr. Drew and I are talking about one of the topics that make me geek out the most: Intuition! Our brains are only able to process a tiny percentage of the information that we are being exposed to at any given moment. Our brains have evolved this way to help ensure our survival: To give us the most pertinent information and filter out everything else. But, here’s the thing: If you are an intuitive person, you likely may sense or feel these ‘hidden’ messages all the time. It wasn’t until very late in my career that I realized I had these intuitive powers I could use to help really elevate my clients’ healing. I began tapping into all the signals the universe had been sending me my whole life, signals I have learned to ignore or dismiss because they weren’t easily explainable or ‘rational.’ But in learning more about quantum physics, I found that these experiences actually are deeply rooted in science and what we know to be true about the universe. Einstein himself said “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.” On this episode you will learn: • How to engage in ‘whole-body listening’ and really cue in what is happening around you, even beyond the words you are hearing • How to start paying attention to your ‘inner perceivers’ and start picking up on more of the information around you • Ways to use your intuition to improve your love and sex life Listen to this very special episode and let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For far too long, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) have carried a heavy weight of stigma—whispers behind closed doors, silent fears, and the crushing anxiety of disclosure and the rejection that might follow. Many people would rather avoid dating altogether than face the possibility of judgment. But should a diagnosis really hold that much power over your life? Should it define your worth, your relationships, or your future? In this Language of Love Session, I’m responding to an email from Claire, a listener who recently received a herpes diagnosis. Claire’s feeling overwhelmed by shame and fear about her dating future. She’s worried she’ll never find love and is unsure how to share her diagnosis with potential partners. Here’s the truth: A herpes diagnosis does NOT make you undateable. In fact, 1 in 4 people have herpes, and 80% of them don’t even know it! The stigma around STDs, especially herpes, creates unnecessary shame. But at the end of the day, herpes is just a manageable skin condition—one that can be effectively treated with medication. In this episode, I dive into: The prevalence of herpes and why the stigma needs to end Why herpes doesn’t define you: You are so much more than your diagnosis, and the right person will see that. How to manage outbreaks and reduce transmission risk The best way to disclose your diagnosis to a potential partner If you need any help or advice, you can email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com and you can also get a chance to join me on Zoom for a one-on-one session. I’d love to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the most impossible loss turns out to set you free in ways you couldn’t imagine?  What if instead of going through loss you could grow through it?  What if you become a more self-actualized, tapped-in and tuned-in empowered version of yourself, because of what you’ve been through (not in spite of it)?  What if love really lives forever and you can learn to continue a relationship with your loved ones on the other side?  What if you didn’t have to go through terrible loss alone or struggle to find the right kind of support or community who understands?  These are questions I couldn’t imagine having, much less answering over three years ago when my son Sammy was killed. Grief became my unwelcome companion, but strangely, it also became my greatest teacher. Healing from loss is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Now, I'm on a mission fueled by passion—to help others like me find their own paths through grief and toward spiritual renewal. Join me as I share my story, the hard-won lessons, and how we can all navigate the stormy seas of grief with grace and resilience. This is what we explore: The transformative power of allowing oneself to fully experience and process pain The interconnectedness of grief and spirituality The importance of embodiment, nature exposure, spirit connection, tribe, creative expression, and cognitive thinking in the grief healing journey The therapeutic value of creative expression and cognitive thinking in understanding the stages of grief My personal journey of grief and the resources and programs I offer for individuals seeking support and guidance For those in need of more support and guidance, check out the Good Grief course on my website along with other resources and programs aimed at assisting individuals through their grief journey. Remember, grief is not merely a destination but a transformative journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we're continuing our conversation with Ken and Marla, who have been kind enough to share their intimacy journey with us. If you've been following their story, you know that we've been exploring some of the challenges they've been facing in their relationship, particularly around intimacy and sexual health. For those who might have missed our previous episodes, I highly recommend going back and checking them out to get the full context of Ken and Marla's journey. It's been an enlightening experience, not just for them but for all of us listening in. Now, picking up from where we left off last time, Marla was opening up about her struggles with a lack of sexual response, which she suspects might be linked to hormonal imbalances. And Ken has been dealing with low energy and sleep problems, which can certainly take a toll on intimacy. I want to stress the significance of hormones in sexual health. They play such a crucial role, and it's important that we don't overlook them. It's not uncommon for sleep issues and low energy to be connected to hormonal imbalances, and identifying any issues there is vital for overall well-being and, by extension, Ken’s relationship with Marla. So, let's dive in and see how things have been going since our last conversation.  In this episode, we’re diving into: Marla's concerns about her lack of sexual response and arousal Ken’s struggles with low energy levels and poor sleep quality The role of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone in sexual response and overall well-being Marla's previous experience with hormone replacement therapy and concerns about family history of breast cancer. Recommendations for personalized hormone therapy and regular monitoring The potential risks and side effects of hormone therapy Remember to check out my free course on Quantum Sex. It's going to teach you how to take your sexual response to the next level. Just go to my website’s homepage. Until next time! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we’re continuing our journey with Ken and Marla, a couple I've been helping to boost their intimacy. Their story is like so many others. Marla has been opening up about her shyness around masturbation, and I've got to say, I'm proud of her for being so honest. Ken has been amazing, too—totally supportive of Marla's journey into self-exploration. I always tell people how crucial masturbation is for your personal health and really getting to know your body. It's a game-changer, especially for your sex life together. I've recommended a vibrator that I think could be a great fit for Marla, and I'm all about them experimenting to find out what feels good. And it's not just about those intimate moments in the bedroom. Ken and Marla have been finding ways to connect in their everyday lives, which is just beautiful. They're on this path to achieving orgasm together during sex, and let me tell you, they're making some fantastic progress. Here is a glimpse of what we explore: Ken and Marla's relationship update and experiences with intimacy Incorporating a vibrator into sexual activities Guidance on enhancing physical intimacy Ken and Marla's efforts to maintain physical connection Prioritizing Marla's pleasure during intimate moments Recommendations for exploring new ways of intimacy Masturbation and its role in understanding one's body and enhancing comfort Advice on using a specific vibrator and experimenting with different options The importance of consistent physical intimacy and building intimacy in different moments The goal of achieving an orgasm during a sexual encounter and inspiring others through their journey This episode is a big one because it's not just their story—they inspire so many others dealing with the same issues. Stick with me, and let's see where their journey takes us next! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself bending over backward to please others and losing sight of your own needs and desires? Anna Kloots, bestselling author and content creator, is joining me today during Language of Love’s conversation to discuss how you can cultivate your inner relationship with a fear of the unknown, the beautiful process, and finding your own magic. She talks about how to thrive in unknown scenarios and create new comfort zones. Anna's journey of self-discovery and self-love is a true testament to the power of resilience and hope. She sheds light on the idea that the problems we experience in love aren’t about giving away too much of ourselves to someone, but about not knowing our true worth and thus giving it to the wrong people who can’t or won’t reciprocate.  Listen in as Anna shares the lessons she’s learned through her own journey of heartbreak that woke her up, led her back to her own magic, and allowed her to manifest the beautiful life and love of her dreams.  If you’ve been struggling to claim your worth or take that big leap your soul is calling you to make, this episode will inspire you to go for it all.  Visit Anna’s website, and check out her upcoming book My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act releasing May 16th, and follow her to check out the amazing journeys she’s on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a session with a caller who says she’s afraid of abandonment and builds walls to protect herself. In her friendships and romantic relationships, she has trouble letting people in, and she believes this fear stems from past trauma. However, she is ready for a change: As a lifelong people pleaser who tends to overextend herself, my caller says that she often gives, and gives, and gives, until she gets emotionally exhausted and resentful and chooses to end the relationship. Does this sound familiar to you? It certainly does to me. As a recovering people pleaser, what I have come to realize is that sometimes we actually are givers because it’s a way for us to maintain control over the relationship. It makes us feel like we have agency and we can protect ourselves, because we think we are choosing to be the bigger person and sacrifice the most in the relationship. But in the end, all our needs go un-met, because we have chosen to never express them. By not admitting our needs or asking for love, we are protecting ourselves in a little bubble of isolation. We make a conscious choice to be a giver, but in such a way that it also prevents us from being a receiver. Love is supposed to be a two-way street, whether we are talking about platonic or romantic love. When we choose instead to make it a one-way street and not allow ourselves to make space for people to give to us in return, it is often a symptom of past trauma or energetic blockage. So how can my caller learn to bring down her walls and start allowing herself to receive as much love as she gives? Listen to this episode for my advice to her and then share your thoughts with me on social media! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you stuck in the same argument over and over again? It starts with something small—an offhand comment, a last-minute plan, or a simple misunderstanding. Before you know it, you’re in yet another argument, saying things you don’t mean, feeling unheard, and wondering, how did we get here again? In this episode of The Language of Love Session, we check in with Brian and Stacey, a couple who love each other deeply but keep getting stuck in frustrating fights. Their latest? A basketball game invitation that—on the surface—seemed harmless. But for Stacey, it wasn’t just about the game. It was about priorities, commitment, and feeling like she mattered. Here’s where things got messy: Brian had already skipped their usual weekly sporting activity together. So when he jumped at the chance to go out with a friend instead, Stacey felt like she was coming in second. A simple, innocent decision spiraled into yet another heated argument. But here’s the real issue—it wasn’t about basketball. It was about unspoken fears, emotional triggers, and the stories we tell ourselves when we feel hurt. In this episode, we’re breaking it all down: Why small decisions can feel like big betrayal How unspoken fears and insecurities sneak into your conversations and turn them into battles The power of pausing before you react  How to recognize when you’re stuck in the Drama Triangle—and what to do about it The art of making your partner feel heard without silencing your own needs If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same frustrating arguments, wondering why your partner just doesn’t get it, this episode will shift your perspective. Want to go deeper? Check out my Quantum Sex Course for relationship-transforming tools. Got a love dilemma of your own? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode with someone who needs it. Because love isn’t defined by the big moments—it’s built in the small ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can love truly heal the wounds of the past? It’s a question many of us ask ourselves when past traumas creep into our relationships, casting long shadows over the love we’re trying to build. For Brian and Stacey, one of the amazing couples who come on the show to get support, this question isn’t just philosophical—it’s a daily reality. How do you rebuild trust when intimacy feels like a minefield? How do you show affection when touch triggers painful memories? And can love, no matter how strong, truly heal the wounds of the past? In this Language of Love Session, we dive deeper into the emotional rollercoaster of Brian and Stacey’s relationship. Will they find a way to bridge the growing distance between them, or will past traumas continue to pull them apart? If you’ve been following their journey, you know this is a story filled with raw emotion, vulnerability, and the struggle to heal. If you’re new, buckle up—this is a journey you won’t want to miss. And if you would like to come on the show to get some support, make sure to email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: How past sexual trauma can distort feelings of love and connection Why physical affection can feel both comforting and threatening The double bind of wanting closeness but fearing intimacy How to create non-sexual physical touch that fosters connection The importance of tuning into your partner’s emotional needs Practical tools for building warmth and trust in a relationship How to navigate the Drama Triangle without blaming each other The power of pausing and shifting energy during conflicts Why avoiding each other can feel safer—but isn’t the answer Check out my free quiz and 7 Days to Better Sex to start improving intimacy today. Healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can be incredibly helpful.  Got questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—and don’t forget to share this episode, because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Tara Brach. Brach is an incredible thought-leader in the field of radical self-acceptance, emotional healing, and Buddhist mediation. During their special talk, Brach explains to listeners how you can deepen your practice of self-love and self-acceptance so that you aren’t just working around the edges of unconditional love and surrender, but that you are living and nurturing that state of mind on a moment-by-moment basis. After you have listened to this episode, you will know how to: • Embark on a journey of self-love that goes so much deeper than our culture’s current understanding of self-care and self-esteem • Begin a meditation practice that will be accessible, enjoyable, and a natural part of your daily life • Identify unhealthy thought patterns that undermine your ability to wholly love yourself and accept your whole being • Heal and release toxic family programming that is keeping you from accessing your real power If you liked this episode, you can check out Tara Brach’s books Radical Self-Acceptance, Radical Compassion, and Trusting the Gold: Uncovering Your Natural Goodness to help you as you continue your journey of loving and healing yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever thought about what it's like to live under the same roof with someone who once promised to love and protect you, but now subjects you to a relentless storm of emotional jabs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and manipulation? Welcome back to another Language of Love Session. Today, I'm chatting with Mia, who's on a journey of healing and self-discovery after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. We're diving into her  journey of self-discovery and navigating the challenges of sharing space with her ex while sorting out the drama of divorce. Setting boundaries is a big part of our conversation today—so crucial for reclaiming your confidence after a rough patch. I'm reminding Mia (and you, too!) about the power of letting those pent-up emotions out. It's like clearing out your closet—you've got to make space for the new by letting go of the old! Here is what we explore: The emotional toll of narcissistic relationships How to recover from codependency and reclaim your own truth (again and again) The steps to leaving an abusive relationship Expressing and releasing emotions in a safe and non-destructive manner Encouragement to allow oneself to feel and release sadness without suppression Creating a safe space for holding your own boundaries Importance of ongoing support and guidance during the transition out of the relationship Remember, if you're going through a tough time, swing by my website for resources and courses. Let's tackle this healing journey together and come out stronger! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about self-love and how self-love can help to heal the world. She tackles the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, explaining that self-esteem is conditional. Self-esteem is often based on other people’s perceptions of us and that external validation, such as whether you can perform well enough or achieve enough in the world’s eyes. Only then can you have pride in your accomplishments and feel confident in yourself. But, as the sex therapist explains, self-worth is completely different. It is totally unconditional love that you never have to compete for or earn.  “Self-worth is ultimately, at its core, the understanding that you are worthy of abundant love, simply because you exist. You don’t have to do anything or be anything, you’re actually perfectly imperfect exactly as you are and perfectly lovable exactly as you are. You are the unique, one-of-a-kind expression of spirit,” says Dr. Berman. So how can you begin to establish self-love? What are some ways you can create a self-love practice that will help you to elevate your energy and receive the abundance you deserve? And, for parents, how can you create a household in which self-love radiates throughout the family and your children feel loved and celebrated by you simply for existing? Dr. Berman also talks to a caller who wants to know how she can support her adult child who is going through a difficult time. How can parents of adult children help to model self-love and encourage their children to make smart decisions without being a helicopter parent? A caller also asks Dr. Berman about how to overcome childhood abuse and self-destructive coping mechanisms that are interfering with his ability to establish healthy self-love in the present and create positive relationships. How can you build self-love when your childhood was traumatic? Listen to Dr. Berman’s advice on self-love and how to create it on her this newest episode “The Language of Love.”  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am talking with a caller about her struggles with low libido throughout her life. As we discuss her low desire, I uncover what I find to be troubling abuse in her current marriage. For reasons she didn’t quite understand, my caller never felt deep desire for her husband, even before they got married. She always assumed she just had low desire, or that she might have trouble feeling passion because of the negative messaging she received about sex as a child. But, over time, she realized it was simply that she didn’t feel desire for her husband in that way. Finally, they made the decision to divorce, and she moved on to a new marriage…this time with her ‘soulmate’ who was her old high school sweetheart. Although the intimacy and desire are there with her old flame/current husband, the trouble is that her husband becomes quite volatile during arguments. From yelling to name-calling to physical altercations, he is very defensive and easily angered. He lashes out, sometimes pushing her or covering her hand with his mouth. Is this abuse? And what should my caller do to protect herself and save her marriage? And should she try to save her marriage when things are so destructive between them? Listen to this episode to find out and hear my advice. During these “Sessions” episode of “The Language of Love,” I am able to talk callers just like you about their sex, love, and relationship issues. If you want a chance to talk to me live on-air about your issues, reach out to me on my social media accounts or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bites” episode! These are my short-and-sweet episodes in which I answer listeners’ most pressing questions. For this “Bite,” I tackle a question from a viewer who wants to know how to deal with people-pleasing in the bedroom. Being a people-pleaser might sound like a good thing, but it is often very self-destructive for the person who is being the pleaser. They often give up their boundaries and their truth in order to satisfy the needs of everyone around them, and as my caller points out, this can even occur inside the bedroom too. So what happens if you are stuck in people-pleaser mode in the bedroom, or if your partner displays this behavior during intimacy? How can you ensure that BOTH of you are feeling valued and respected, and that each of you are truly enjoying sexual pleasure instead of just going through the motions or faking orgasms? In my own experience as a sex therapist, I have found that people who struggle with people-pleasing behaviors and codependent behaviors often have a very hard time being honest about how they really feel and what they really want. They are so used to saying “It’s okay” or “I’m fine” that they end up becoming truly isolated from what is happening inside of them. It’s easy to see how truly problematic this can be for sexual pleasure! If you are not comfortable asking for what you want, or if you don’t even know how to tune into your own body and pay attention to what is happening for you (instead of trying to feel how your partner might be feeling or wondering what they might be thinking or needing from you), it’s going to be super hard for you to get to a place where you can have fulfilling, passionate sex. So what can you do? How can you move on from people-pleasing behavior and become more vulnerable and connected in the bedroom? Tune in right now to listen to my advice for this caller. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know your kitchen is like a special sanctuary where you can nourish your body and soul, and even find a way to cope with loss and grief through cooking? In this Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by the amazing Jules Davis, also known as the Kitchen Healer, and the author of “The Kitchen Healer: The Journey to Becoming You.” Jules and I talk about how cooking and food aren't just about filling our bellies but also key ingredients in self-care, personal growth, and nurturing our emotional health. Jules has some incredible insights on the power of cooking with intention and how being mindful in the kitchen can transform the whole experience. As for me, I'm sharing a bit about how I have had to redefine my own relationship with food over the years. It's been a path of discovery, not just about what I'm eating, but also understanding my deeper hungers – those emotional needs that we often try to satisfy with a snack or a meal. Together, we’re challenging some of those traditional views on nourishment. We are all about embracing a more nurturing, expressive, and yes, delicious approach to cooking and eating. So, let's get ready to stir the pot and spice things up in this episode! Curious about what's on the menu? Here's a sneak peek:  Jules’ expertise as the Kitchen Healer and her work on women's healing The concept of nourishment and its connection to emotional well-being  Recognizing cooking as a meditative and nurturing practice The emotional and spiritual dimensions of cooking Slowing down and creating intention around nourishing oneself Nourishment beyond just food, encompassing connection, love, and passion Don't forget to explore Jules Davis' book, The Kitchen Healer, to discover how turning on the fire in the kitchen and in your life can bring you freedom. Connect with her on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram or Website. Also, If you are going through grief, please remember to visit my website to explore my good grief course because no one should go through grief alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you grow up feeling like sex was a taboo topic to discuss—something mysterious, maybe even a little forbidden? Most of us did, which can make it easy to see sex as a "guilty pleasure" rather than what it really can be—a natural, healthy and beautiful part of life. But here’s where things get interesting: turns out, a satisfying sex life does a whole lot more than bring pleasure. In this Language of Love Bite, I am breaking down all the juicy, science-backed reasons why sex is a win for your body, mind, and spirit. We’re going way beyond the basics here—it turns out, sex is pretty much a health and happiness booster! And if you’re ready to take things even further, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website. I’ll guide you through full-body orgasms, sex magic, and deeper connections. It’s all there, waiting to add a little magic to your love life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Language of Love episode is a special one! I'm sharing another talk from my Good Grief Day event, and this time I’m featuring the incredibly gifted medium and author, Susan Grau. She has an extraordinary ability to connect with the other side, and she reached out to our audience members, delivering messages that are sure to touch the heart. During the event, Susan brought comfort offering apologies, expressions of love, and even signs from their departed loved ones. They’re truly powerful moments, and you can feel the love reaching out from beyond. It's moments like these that remind us of the unbreakable bonds of love. As we delve into these connections, I can't help but relate to the profound sense of grief that comes with losing someone we love. I've been there, and I understand how hard it is. But I also know the solace and closure that can come from feeling that connection to our loved ones who have passed on. It's a reminder that love transcends all, even death. Be sure to check out my website for my online course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love, for more guidance and support on your healing journey. And, remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book “Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons.” Happy reading! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is a special one as my guest today is someone with whom I share both a professional and personal connection. Gabby Bernstein is a New York times bestselling author with 8 books. She is also a motivational speaker and host of the “Dear Gabby” podcast. Her latest book, Happy Days, is her most personal work to date. Gabby shares her healing journey after recovering traumatic memories of sexual abuse In this week’s Language of Love Conversation, Gabby takes us along on her deep and personal journey of healing, sharing with us the resources she discovers that have helped her heal, and the tough lessons she learned along the way. We even get into an event we co-facilitated and I (lovingly) confront Gabby about a hurt I suffered at her hands close to a decade ago!  If you are someone or love someone who’s suffered any kind of trauma, this is not an episode to miss! In this LOL Conversation we talk about: The difference between “Big T” Trauma and “little t” trauma The surprising secret Gabby shares about the difference between the Gabby on-stage and Gabby in her personal life The 2 major events that were the catalysts that launched Gabby into a major AFGE (Another Frickin’ Growth Experience) How to feel safe enough in your own body to go deeper into therapy Strategies for facing trauma head on while being supported in your healing Visit Gabby Bernstein’s website and check out her latest New York times best seller book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. You can also watch her on her podcast Dear Gabby. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered about the deeper meaning of life or the purpose behind our existence and the journey of our souls? If so, you're not alone. Many of us ponder these, seeking guidance and understanding. Caroline Myss, renowned author, speaker, and spiritual teacher sat down with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the intriguing concept of sacred contracts, the different levels of consciousness, and the unexpected power that can be found in love and integrity.  During our conversation, Caroline and I dive into: The concept of sacred contracts and its relation to different levels of consciousness The role of archetypes in our lives and how they influence our choices and manifestations The cosmic dynamic of life and the predetermined nature of our entry and exit points The transformative power of love and the need for a bio-spiritual ecological evolution Why collective participation in awakening and supporting others is crucial through Global events we’ve all been experiencing  The stages of inner self-development and the importance of moving beyond narcissism The wounded healer journey and the significance of discernment in personal growth The power of intuition and the consequences of ignoring it The importance of integrity and the normalization of lying in society The impact of honesty and the consequences of not being truthful in relationships    Please feel free to access Caroline's workshops by downloading them or exploring her upcoming autumn schedule on her website. Additionally, you can find her books, "The Anatomy of Spirit" "Sacred Contracts," and others available for purchase on Amazon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Bite” episode. These are my short and sweet episodes in which I distill my best sex, love, and relationships advice into concise, actionable steps. These episodes are less than 10 minutes long so they are perfect for those times when you are running short on time but still want a boost for your mind, body, and soul. For today’s “Bite” episode, I am addressing one of the most common questions I get asked as a relationship therapist: How do I know if my partner is ‘the one’? Many times, people stay with partners that don’t necessarily tick all of their boxes, but being with someone is better than being alone. Does this sound familiar? If you have every stayed in a relationship that is far from ideal just because you would rather be with someone than be alone, then you need to listen to this “Bite.” On this episode, you will learn how to: • Find out if your romantic choices are being driven by fear or by a need to find someone to ‘complete’ you • How to lean into your intuition to see if you are really in love or if you just don’t want to be alone • Discover your key childhood wounds that might be playing a role in your fear of being alone or not having a partner • Stand in your own power and feel complete on your own, whether you are with a partner or you are single Give this “Bite” episode of “The Language of Love” a listen and then reach out to me on social media to let me know your thoughts! Have you ever stayed in an unhappy relationship just because you are afraid of being alone? Do you ever fear that you are settling just so you don’t have to be single? Reach out to me and let me know your thoughts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends with benefits…it’s common in our dating vernacular now. A friendship where sex happens and no commitment beyond friendship. It can seem modern and cool and a great idea.  But I find in most cases, one person is benefiting while the other person is (probably secretly) hoping it’ll turn into more.   On this Language of Love Bite I discuss the hidden costs of being a friend with benefits and why it may not be as beneficial as it appears to be on the surface. Intimacy is one of life’s most pleasurable experiences and one we all deserve. But when the clothes come off, the lines can often become blurred. There are so many things to consider before embarking on this kind of relationship journey … So let's talk about it! Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about triggers. You’ve probably heard the words “triggered” or “trigger warning” a lot in recent years. And, for good reason: As a nation we are becoming more aware of mental health battles and the importance of being compassionate and supportive when it comes to people’s ‘triggers,’ i.e. those hidden trauma wounds that can be opened up by certain conversations or experiences. But in this episode, Dr. Berman challenges everything you *think* you know about triggers. She will teach listeners: • The difference between being triggered and simply being irritated or upset. • The value of paying attention to our triggers. While we have a knee-jerk reaction to run away from pain or discomfort, Dr. Berman says that our triggers often hold our deepest opportunities for growth and healing. • Realizing that we sometimes use “triggers” as an excuse to avoid difficult conversations or moving out of our comfort zones. • How we can learn our partner’s triggers and navigate those tricky waters as we support them without forcing them to accept help or healing before they are ready. Make sure to tune into this timely episode so you can learn the truth about triggers and how you can better control as well as learn from your ‘trigger’ points. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am joined by Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is the cofounder of Quest Nutrition, a billion-dollar corporation which produces health-conscious meals and snacks. She is also the President of “Impact Theory” and the host of “Women of Impact,” a web series you can find on YouTube or listen to online. On her show, Lisa interviews women who have overcome massive difficulties and tragedies in order to make their dreams come true. I adore Lisa’s new book “Radical Confidence,” and I have recommended it to so many of my girlfriends. If you haven’t read it yet, be sure and grab a copy, because it is truly transformative and inspirational. Whether you are struggling to feel confident in your career, in your romantic life, or just in general, her book will inspire you to live authentically and chase after your wildest dreams. On this episode, I talk with Lisa about what inspired her to write this book and what she wants readers to take from it. You will learn: • How to overcome disappointment and keep showing up, even when you aren’t seeing the results you desire • How to stop ‘acting from your trigger’ and instead lead your emotions, rather than being led by them • How to create a game plan that is practical and solution-based, so that you don’t get stuck in a cloud of anger or bitterness I found this episode so inspiring and full of really actionable advice that you can begin applying to your life right now. If you’re in the need of a boost of motivation, this episode is for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For most of us, we avoid the hard conversations. And if we have them, we wait until the end is near to sit down, ask questions and get the answers we need before saying our final goodbyes. But the truth is we don’t have to wait until we are about to loose someone to clear the air. Those hard conversations can actually be the beginnings of beautiful new chapters of life.  In this Language of Love session, I speak to renowned actress Laura Dern. We’ll discuss the new book she recently completed with her mother, the legendary Diane Ladd entitled, Honey, Baby, Mine: A Mother and Daughter Talk Life, Death, Love (and Banana Pudding). Listen in to our heartfelt, insightful, & eye opening conversation about hope, honesty and the important conversations we shouldn’t wait to have. Because healing only comes with being brave enough to get honest with those who’ve hurt us, especially our loved ones. I hope you are as inspired by this conversation as I am.  Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Laura Dern Instagram – Laura Dern Twitter – Laura Dern Honey, Baby, Mine: A Mother and Daughter Talk Life, Death, Love (and Banana Pudding) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about the most common mistakes that people make in the bedroom. How can you create passion and meaningful sexual intimacy even when you have been together for years? How can you make sex special on a regular weeknight when the kids are down the hall and there are still dirty dishes in the sink? From understanding the different ways that men and women approach sexual pleasure to getting in touch with what you really want in the bedroom, Dr. Berman explains that the most fulfilling and passionate sex is often born out of self-knowledge and a willing to go beyond the surface. “When we think of exciting sexual encounters or passionate hookups, we tend to imagine a very Hollywood image of what that kind of sex looks like. We picture a couple stumbling home from their date night or a night out at the bar, pulling each other’s clothes off as they trip down the hallway and then land in bed together. The sex feels very spontaneous and unplanned,” says Dr. Berman. “But what I have found throughout my years as a sex therapist is that the best sex really happens when couples consciously do the work necessary to make uninhibited, whole-hearted sex possible. It’s not about a drunken hookup where you’re struggling to pull off each other’s close as fast as possible. It’s about slowing down, feeling what’s really happening inside, and knowing that you are safe enough and loved enough to show your whole self.” Dr. Berman explains that this type of sex is also so special because it requires no preparation or extra window dressing. “You don’t need the lingerie or the date nights or the candles,” says Dr. Berman. “Those things are wonderful and special, but if you’re having conscious, whole-hearted, enlightened sex, or some form of conscious physical connection (even if it’s just for 10 minutes), that means more than a whole night of bells and whistles without any emotional depth or real intimacy.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people know or love someone who’s a cancer survivor. But it’s not just the cancer patient who survives and hopefully recovers from this kind of medical trauma. Caregivers, while they didn’t have to personally weather the life-threatening illness and its treatment, they did so by proxy, holding the patient up emotionally, physically and logistically while still managing and usually repressing their own fears and exhaustion.  Most caregivers put their own needs, and even their lives, on hold when their loved ones are suffering or undergoing treatment. And then, when the worst is over and it’s time to move forward, it’s not just the patient who must recover. The caregiver needs and deserves time, grace and support to do so as well. This journey can be especially complex in the case of romantic relationships as it becomes necessary to shift out of caregiver and patient roles back to partners and lovers… In this Language of Love Session, I have a follow up chat with a listener, Veronica, whose boyfriend has now finally finished cancer treatment. Against all odds, he’s now in remission. But instead of the celebration she was expecting, Veronica finds her life remaining on pause as she waits for her love to come back to the relationship they were building at the time of his diagnosis. Instead of excitement about enjoying their lives after their harrowing year, he’s been depressed, angry and distant. And Veronica is feeling resentful and abandoned.   In this episode we discuss: The ways medical trauma compares to other kinds when it comes to healing. Steps one can take to assist and inspire a loved one to move forward when the worst is over after trauma.  Some of my own struggles I had as a cancer survivor when my treatment was finally over and my caregiving husband was ready for me to come back to life. How the caregiving journey can be an opportunity to learn to hold our own peace (or even happiness) in the face of those we love remaining stuck in frustration and sadness.  What’s realistic to expect from a partner after a traumatic illness, and when it may or may not be time to throw in the towel.  If you’ve been a caregiver or you love one, you will get so much from this healing conversation! Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Language of Love session, I sit down with Regine, a listener facing the dual challenges of a partner with PTSD and her journey through grief and caregiving. She's navigating the delicate balance between her social desires and her partner's need for solitude due to PTSD. It's a dance many couples know all too well – the push and pull of togetherness and independence. This has put a strain on their relationship, as Regine longs for shared social experiences and support, especially after the loss of her son and the emotional toll of caring for her mother with Alzheimer's. We also touch on something incredibly profound – the connection between our bodies and our emotional well-being. Regine shares her journey of caregiving and personal loss, and together, we discuss the transformative power of tuning into our bodies to find healing and peace. We deep dive into: Life's fragility and the desire to cherish every moment The roles of victim and villain in relationship dynamics The importance of understanding love languages in a relationship The importance of having a supportive community outside the relationship The impact of grief and loss on relationships Finding the middle ground and compromising in relationships Why you should be listening to your body and use your heart as a compass Don't forget to check out my website for helpful meditations on the Quantum Love page that can assist you with your relationships. Take a look at the list of available meditations and see which ones resonate with you.  Also, if you are a mother who has lost a child in any way, join my retreat for grieving mamas at 1440 Multiversity in Santa Cruz, California. Experience healing, community, and workshops with experts like David Kessler and Paul Selig. Visit 1440.org for more information and join us in the beautiful redwoods for four amazing days. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever find it hard to express love to your partner? You know you love them and how important they are in your life, but for some reason, you can’t bring yourself to express it out loud. In most cases, it’s not the present that’s holding you back … it’s your past, specifically the things you experienced as a child.  In this Language of Love session, I spent time speaking with Connie. She loves her partner, but can’t express it to them. She grew up in a home where trauma was a constant companion, leading her to emotionally shut down to feel safe. We get into her past, revealing the little girl who still resides inside the grown woman, too scared to love out loud. And we begin charting a course for healing. In this episode, we’ll discuss: The many ways the expression of love is modeled (or not) in our families growing up.  The lingering effects of a childhood without reciprocal love on difficulty with attachment.  How being raised by an addict affects self expression in love and fosters insecure or avoidant attachment.  The path to healing attachment wounds   Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Additional Resources You’ve tried and tried, but you’re not getting the answers you need. Here’s the good news, the world is full of valuable resources. If you’re looking for someone specializing in Talk Therapy or Family of Origin of Family Addiction Issues, visit Psychology Today (www.psychologytoday.com), to find a provider in your area. If you’re interested in Somatic Healing, visit Trauma Healing (www.traumahealing.org) or Hakomi Institute (www.hakomiinstitute.com). Both of these websites will guide you to resources near you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you been experiencing mysterious and unexplained physical, mental, and emotional symptoms over the past few years? Have you gone to doctors and specialists who, perhaps along with family and friends, are telling you it’s all in your head? Have you heard of Ascension Syndrome? In this Language of Love Bite, I’m giving you some answers that will help it all make sense. Ascension Syndrome is impacting all of us.  I am so fascinated by Ascension Syndrome and want to help as many people as possible understand what’s happening in the world right now. So, In this Love Bite, I share what I learned through my research for my new eBook, You're Not Crazy, You’re Just Ascending, a guidebook where I share advice from renowned experts, guided meditations, and other tools to help you stay centered in this mass awakening. In this episode you’ll learn:  -what ascension is, how it’s impacting you and why this is actually a magical time -why spending time in nature is so beneficial and helps keep your mood and body healthy - simple ways you can keep your own energetic frequency at a higher level to create more ease in the chaos. .   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Language of Love Conversation, I am joined by my friend and Clairvoyant Healer, Bobbi Vogel and our conversation goes deep! I am very excited to share her wisdom on the Language of Love. Listen in as Bobbi tells of the near death experience that was the catalyst of her awakening. She shares the secrets she’s discovered for building Faith as a path to healing the body and mind. And we even take some of your questions live, on the topic of faith, connecting with our deepest selves and unlocking our fullest potential.    Learn more about Bobbi on her Instagram page or website, Etheric Medicine. Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Language of Love, I am featuring another session from the Good Grief Day event, and this time we have speaker and author Anita Moorjani. Anita's story is nothing short of miraculous. She was grappling with end-stage cancer, her body riddled with tumors, and she was on the verge of what seemed like an inevitable end. But it was in this moment of extreme physical depletion that Anita experienced something extraordinary—a near-death experience that would change her life forever. She also explores the significance of joy in our lives and the comforting idea that our departed loved ones are still with us in some form. During the Q&A segment, she offers her perspective on what the afterlife might hold for controversial figures, discussing the notion of personal growth beyond the traditional view of eternal punishment.  We explore: Cultural conditioning and societal expectations impacting Anita's illness Anita's miraculous recovery and the importance of finding joy and uplifting energy Communicating with deceased loved ones and the signs they send Addressing the belief that grieving may keep loved ones trapped The choice to operate from the highest version of oneself Please remember to check Anita's website to learn more about her latest projects. Don't forget to grab a copy of her book "Dying to Be Me" for more insights. You can also connect with her on LinkedIn. As usual, you can visit my website for more amazing resources and courses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about her newfound hobby, Ecstatic Dancing. This unique form of dance is often misunderstood, and many people may not even know about this amazing, transformative form of body movement. So, together with Robin Parrish (Co-Founder and Managing Director of Ecstatic Dance LA), Dr. Berman discusses what ecstatic dancing is really all about, as well as how she has been using ecstatic dancing to cope as she moves through her grief journey after her son’s death. Ecstatic dancing isn’t about learning choreography or having the best rhythm: It’s about leaning into the changing waves of our lives, and learning how to dance and move with these ups and downs. Ecstatic dancing is all about listening to the wisdom of your body, and moving through any fears or doubts as you embrace the music within you. Ecstatic dancing has been said to lead to feelings of ecstasy or pure joy, and whether you do it alone in your backyard or with a group of friends or fellow dancers, you may find that this dance feels meditative, rejuvenating, or that it promotes feelings of serenity. In fact, ecstatic dancing has its roots in religious rituals that reach back thousands of years into human history. Listen to today’s episode to hear about the benefits and history of ecstatic dance, and how you can start grooving like Dr. Berman. Click here to learn more about Robin Parrish and Ecstatic Dance LA.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt shocked at how strongly you react to something? Feeling stuck in the same patterns you know don’t serve you?  Well it may be your Shadow at work.  And understanding your shadows leads to transformation and sets you free.  The path to that freedom lies in the parts of yourself you've been ignoring. Joining me in this Language of Love Conversation is the amazing business consultant and psychotherapist Kristan Sargeant. Together, we dive into a fascinating conversation about the shadow—those hidden parts of ourselves shaped by societal pressures and intense experiences. It’s incredible how these buried aspects can impact our lives in unexpected ways.  Kristan breaks down the whole concept of Shadow, explaining how it forms and why it's so important to bring it out into the light. We even do a mini shadow session with a my producer, Sam! Kristan also shares some of her own personal insights and gives tips on how to build a relationship with your shadow for some serious personal growth and transformation. This is what we explore: What is shadow and shadow work? Practical steps for engaging with the shadow to stop negative patterns  How to negotiate with your shadow and consistently show up for it The importance of shadow wisdom Remember to check out The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower--and Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion by Phil Stutz and Barry Michaels for insights on Shadow work. Follow Kristan on Instagram, LinkedIn or visit her website for her latest projects. Also, remember to visit my website for courses and books designed for you and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for a follow-up session! In a previous Language of Love Session, Marla and Ken opened up about their struggles with intimacy. Ken's performance fears and feelings of inadequacy had led to a dwindling sex life. This week, we’re doing a follow-up session, and I continue my work with Marla and Ken to spice up their love life. And guess what? They're on a roll! I gave them some homework, you know, the fun kind – daily hugs and weekly heart-to-hearts. And guess what? It's working like magic! Marla and Ken are like my relationship rockstars. They've been sharing how these little exercises have turned up the heat and brought them even closer. Can you believe it? Hugs and chats, people – that's the secret sauce! I gave them a virtual high-five for sticking to it. I mean, commitment level: expert! But you know me, always looking for ways to level up. So, I threw in a few more suggestions to keep the love train chugging along. We got into a cool chat about communication and trust – the real MVPs in any relationship. They're totally vibing with the idea and are all in to keep the good vibes flowing. It's like they've unlocked a new level of emotional and sensual connection. So, there you have it – Marla and Ken are the dynamic duo, taking on the world one hug at a time. Can't wait to see what other relationship adventures we'll embark on together This journey with Marla and Ken has been a testament to the power of open communication, commitment, and the willingness to work on a relationship. Their story serves as an inspiration for couples facing similar issues, reminding us all that with the right guidance and effort, we can rebuild and strengthen our relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even when we love our in laws, we all also love our space, right? But what do you do when your mother-in-law starts showing up unannounced like she’s got her own set of keys? In this Language of Love session, I dive into a challenge so many couples face: how to set healthy boundaries with in-laws. Shannon, one of my listeners, writes in to share her frustrations about her mother-in-law's frequent, unannounced visits since moving close to her husband’s hometown. While she appreciates her mother-in-law's help, it’s starting to affect her personal space and her relationship. Shannon's husband doesn't see an issue, and she’s unsure how to navigate this tricky situation without hurting anyone's feelings. We tackle: Why it’s your partner’s job to set boundaries with their family How to lovingly ask for space without causing tension The importance of being a united front in your marriage Simple steps for creating healthy boundaries that honor both relationships Why it’s okay to say no to unannounced visits and still maintain a loving connection If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by a well-meaning but over-involved family member, this episode is for you. And remember, the most important relationship in your family is between you and your partner—it’s the foundation for everything else. I also share my own experiences with grief and how it’s transformed my life, offering insights and resources from my Good Grief course, available on my website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Language of Love bite, we are talking sexual relationships and how men and women approach sex from different angles. Guys and gals, young and old, whether you are single, married or it’s complicated, if you love sex, this episode is for you!  Listen to this short and pointed discussion (pun intended) as I explain why we are the way we are. Why men are so focused and driven? Why women are so amazing at multi-tasking? And how you can enjoy your sex life to the fullest despite the difference in approach. At the end of this Language of Love Bite, I will tell you some things you can do to attend to those differences, so be sure to listen to the whole episode! Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” we are doing another episode of “Language of Love Bites.” These extra-special short episodes are meant to be direct, simple, and to the point, so you can easily apply my advice to your love life and start seeing results right away. For this installment of my “Language of Love Bites,” I am talking about how you can get your partner to show up for you in the way you desire. I often get questions with these theme for my callers and clients, and even strangers on the street. They want to know how they can get their partner to behave differently or show up for them differently than they currently are—maybe they want their partner to be more romantic, to be more passionate, to be more helpful around the house, or to be more patient and joyful. On this “Bite,” I reveal how you can start to see this shift, not by changing your partner, but by changing yourself. The secret to getting more of what we want from our partner is to bring more of that energy into the relationship ourselves. This might sound complicated or as though I am asking you to do all the work, but I am not: In fact, I am asking you to do LESS work. Because instead of trying to fix, manage, or control your partner’s energy or state of mind, you fully step into your power and instead just focus on your own energy. Let me explain how to go about this so you can start enjoying this meaningful shift in your relationship right away. Listen to this episode to understand what I mean and how you can master the art of creating the energy you want in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever had that inkling that your past life may be affecting your present moment?   During this week’s Language of Love Session, past life psychic, spiritual teacher, and author Ainslie MacLeod and I are unpacking reincarnation and the basics of past lives. We break down the relationship between the body and soul, how learning about our past lives can set us free, and how our past lives impact our ability to love. Ainslie also reveals his journey to this profession, his recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook, how he refined his psychic ability, and how he came to know the spiritual guides that instruct him.  In this conversation, Ainslie Macleod and I discuss:  The Basics: What is a past life? What does it mean? The healing power and purpose that can come with learning about your unique past life How Ainslie developed his psychic connection in the early days of his profession The concept of twin flames and how misconception can fortify toxic relationships  The experience of losing my son and how that devastation helped me foster stricter boundaries  The thread between death, grief, teaching, and healing Visit Ainslie MacLeod’s website to learn more about his psychic journey, services, and recent book, The Old Soul’s Guidebook: Who You Are, Why You’re Here, and How to Navigate Life on Earth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down to talk to a woman who says she is struggling in her long-term marriage. As the mother of 3 young kids, my caller says that she is beginning to examine her past and her current relationship and now realizes that she is co-dependent. As a child, her father was emotionally available and displayed narcissistic behaviour, and her mother always had to keep him happy and calm in order for the house to run smoothly. As a result, my caller also learned to fill this role of being a people-pleaser, always seeking to keep the peace and hide her own needs. Now, in her marriage, my caller says that she is tired of having her boundaries ignored and her emotional needs go unmet. Although she loves her husband dearly, she feels like she has minimized her own needs and go along with whatever he wants, even if it makes her unhappy. She is stuck in a pattern of placating him and always putting him first when she doesn’t feel that same support from him. These emotions have come to a head lately as she recently lost her mother and is not feeling supported by her husband in her grief. So what should she do? Is her husband a narcissist and is such a diagnosis even useful? On this episode I teach listeners: • How our early family systems shape the roles we take on in life (like being a people-pleaser or hiding our own needs to make other people happy) • How the universe offers us soul-mates that will encourage us to face these unhealthy patterns • What to do when you and your partner are stuck in a negative loop of fighting, silent treatments, and unspoken resentments • Why I think we are all a little narcissistic deep down…and why that is okay Check out this episode and let me know your thoughts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The saying goes, “A parent is only as happy as their least happy child.” While this may be a bit of a codependent edict, it’s true that when your child is struggling with anxiety, depression or in any other way it takes a deep toll on the family system. And as parents we try everything we can think of to help, but often those efforts don’t create any substantive change.  In this episode of the Language of Love, I welcome back my good friend Kristina Kuzmic, a writer, creator, and mother, to discuss her new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. If you're a regular listener, you'll likely recall our in-depth chat in 2023 about her book 'Hold On, But Don't Hold Still,' where we explored personalized parenting and supporting our children through mental health challenges. Today, Kristina shares her journey of parenting Luca, her son who battled depression, ADHD, and anxiety. At a certain point he became suicidal and a danger to himself and others. Kristina’s journey and the amazingly authentic way she shares it is inspiring and instructive.  We have a heart-to-heart chat about the importance of empathy and connection over trying to fix or control their struggles. She shares important and effective lessons she learned the hard way about how to best to support our kids through their toughest times.  Kristina and I deep dive into: What it takes to parent children who are struggling Kristina's backstory that led her to write her book Why we should embrace empathy over control with struggling children The ways our Children's struggles require that we address our unhealed parts The importance of self-care for parents to better support struggling children Redefining “good motherhood” Check out Kristina's new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child, as well as her previous bestseller, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still, for valuable insights. Follow her on LinkedIn, Website, Facebook, or Instagram for updates on her projects. And don’t forget, you can visit my website for helpful courses and resources designed for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am very excited about this week’s Language of Love Conversation because we are talking about something that I have always been curious to explore and learn more about. It is a very exciting form of alternative healing that is known to improve health and vitality.  Scalar energy researcher, Tom Paladino, is joining me today to talk about how scalar light therapy can be used in healing the body and mind.   What’s scalar light you ask? Well listen in as Tom elaborates on how scalar light therapy works and how it can be used to improve human health and vitality. It’s a fascinating new holistic approach to healing that I will be learning about alongside you. This week on Language of Love. This is one episode you don’t want to miss. https://www.scalarlight.com/ Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your hesitation—your fear of being fully seen—actually keeping you from the deep, lasting connection you crave? In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Lindsay Jill Roth, award-winning producer and author of Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) in 250 Questions.  Lindsay isn’t afraid to tackle the tough stuff. We dive deep into the role of religion in relationships, the stigma around dating divorced people, and why so many of us shut down love before it even has a chance to grow. She also takes on a challenge so many career-driven women face—hitting their 40s, finally ready to settle down, only to realize that most of the men they’re meeting are already dads. How do you navigate that? How do you avoid getting stuck in this situation in the first place? And most importantly—how do you move forward without settling for something that isn’t right for you? We’re diving into: Why so many people feel lost in love—even with endless advice at their fingertips The hidden ways we sabotage our relationships without realizing it How asking the right questions can transform how we connect with a partner The surprising link between communication and attraction (yes, talking can be sexy!)  Why those “butterflies” you feel might actually be a red flag The tough topics we avoid—like religion, divorce, and long-term compatibility Why we’re too quick to write people off early in relationships (and what we might be missing) How self-awareness and personal growth shape who we attract The key to building emotional safety, trust, and deeper intimacy Want more from Lindsay? Connect with her on Instagram and check out her book Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) in 250 Questions for even deeper insights.  Remember to check out my Quantum Sex Course for next-level intimacy and connection. And as always, let’s keep having these conversations about love, sex, and relationships—because even though it’s still a taboo topic, it’s one we need to be talking about.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when she’s not in the mood, but you are? Thirty percent of women under the age of 59 suffer from low libido and that number continues to increase after the age of 60! But it’s not just older women who experience low desire. Younger women struggle too due to stress, exhaustion caring for young children, depression, body image, and a host of other issues, younger women can experience low libido too.  On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss low sex drive in women and uncover the variety of issues that are at the heart of the matter. When sex is working in a relationship it’s just one part of it. But when sex isn’t working, it can definitely take a toll on the connection between you. We’ll discuss ways to understand and overcome low desire with the goal of bringing the passion back where it belongs! If your bedroom has been lacking, tune in to this episode! Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How many times have we overlooked the little moments that make our relationship special? The gentle touches, the inside jokes, the quiet ways our partner shows they care. It’s so easy to focus on what’s missing that we forget to appreciate what’s already there. But here’s the secret: gratitude isn’t just a feel-good idea—it’s a powerful force that can reignite passion, deepen your connection, and completely transform your love life. In this Language of Love Bite, I pull back the curtain on how gratitude works like a love potion for your relationship. I show you how a simple “thank you” releases oxytocin—the bonding hormone—and creates a ripple effect of connection, intimacy, and yes, even better sex. Plus, I share a game-changing daily practice and a heartfelt exercise that leaves your partner feeling seen, cherished, and deeply loved. We uncover: Why gratitude is the ultimate aphrodisiac (yes, really!) How focusing on the good stuff can rewrite your relationship story A simple, daily gratitude hack that takes less than a minute but works like magic The power of gratitude dates—and how they can bring back the butterflies A heartfelt exercise: writing a love letter that will leave your partner speechless And if you’re ready to take your love life to the next level, I’ve got something special for you. Head over to my website and check out my free course on Quantum Sex. You’ll learn how to unlock full-body orgasms, use sex magic to manifest your dreams, and connect with your partner on a deeper, more intimate level. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The number one question I get from couples is: How do we spice up our sex life? So in this episode of Language of Love Bites I’m diving into the secret to creating the intensity and connection we all crave; Quantum Sex. It’s a system I developed to teach couples how to channel their sexual energy and create an even more exciting, intense sex life than they imagined was possible. In this episode I explain: How to use your body's energy, your physical sensations, your atomic energy, and your conscious awareness to enhance arousal The difference between feminine and masculine sexual energy  How to create a deeper heart centered connection with your partners How to use visualization to channel your sexual energy to your partner  The power of the “Pink Sparkly Vagina” technique Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with intuitive consultant, life coach, and mindfulness-based psychotherapist Maureen Riley. Dr. Berman has been a longtime client of Maureen Riley, and she reveals that Riley’s wisdom and intuition has helped her deeply. Riley is committed to teaching people how to unlock their own potential and get out of their own way. If you’re starting 2022 with a list of daring resolutions and hopes for the New Year, this is a must-listen episode that will teach you what you need to know in order to make your resolutions a reality. “Imagine being able track back to the hidden source of what’s blocking you while you simultaneously access the power within that unlocks, opens and shifts you into a new reality- one that’s aligned with your Wholeness, well Being, and Source of inner guidance,” Riley states. “Once activated, this energy and intelligence can repair your health, put your life into alignment with your true purpose and then, by sacred law, activates your personal stream of abundance. Imagine having what it REALLY takes to re-ignite and flourish, trusting yourself and life again.” On this episode, Riley explains what manifesting really is, and challenges some of the misconceptions people may have about manifesting and how to apply it your own life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode of the Language of Love, I am sitting down with wellness and emotional health advocate Dr. Neeta Bhushan, the author of the acclaimed book, That Sucked Now What? At a very young age Neeta experienced the loss of her brother and both her parents, leading her into a spiral of grief, an abusive relationship and struggles with codependency.  In this conversation, we talk about the ways that magical moments that can grow out of our deepest pain, as well as the many powerful strategies Dr Neetha shared to “sit with the suck” in order to move through it and thrive.   Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.  Mentions: That Sucked, Now What by Dr. Neeta Bhushan. https://www.amazon.com/That-Sucked-Now-What-Embrace-ebook/dp/B0B4ZF99PS Dr. Neeta Bhushan https://www.instagram.com/neetabhushan/ https://www.youtube.com/c/NeetaBhushanofficial https://twitter.com/NeetaBhushan https://www.linkedin.com/in/drneetabhushan/ https://open.spotify.com/episode/7fHAmeOjc32wjpHulhr96U?si=05b42715c27a4f4c&nd=1 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/solocast-why-i-decided-to-write-my-new-book-that-sucked/id1608226580?i=1000576347313 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am doing a “Sessions” episode! These are some of my absolutely favorite episodes because I get to sit down with listeners like you and offer my real-time advice on your love, sex, and relationship questions. For today’s session, I am talking to a caller named Lisa. Lisa is struggling with issues with her partner, who she believes could be a narcissist. Lisa’s partner has kept her trapped in a toxic marriage (over 18 years) in which he has threatened her with financial consequences or alienating their kids if she leaves him. Although Lisa is desperate to leave, she is frightened to exit the relationship. Lisa is a self-described codependent who has always struggled with expressing her needs and standing up for herself. Although she reports that her childhood was relatively happy, as I explain to her, codependency is not a trait we develop in adulthood. It’s a trait we establish in childhood as a way to survive and cope in our family systems. In discussing her childhood with Lisa, we discover that her mother and father had a similar marriage to the one Lisa now finds herself in. Her mother spent her life serving her father and ensuring that his every need was met, and now Lisa finds herself in a similar situation. On this “Sessions” episode, I delve into codependency and the fundamental wound which can lead to codependency. I also reveal how codependency and narcissism can be two sides of the same coin. Although this might sound shocking, people who struggle with codependency can often have shades of narcissism, just as people who struggle with narcissism can also have shades of codependency. Tune into this episode of “The Language of Love” to learn more about what causes codependency and why I feel it is related to narcissism. Check out the advice I have for Lisa about leaving her marriage and healing her fundamental wounds, then shoot me your opinions on social media! I love to hear from you: And, remember, you too can do a “Sessions” episode with me if you email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or private message me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to achieve true harmony in our relationships? Regardless of your gender or sexual identity or role in your relationships, understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for intimacy, connection and personal power in love. In this Language of Love conversation, I have a heart-to-heart with therapist and author, Dene Logan. Dene’s new book, “Sovereign Love,” delves into finding the perfect mix of masculine and feminine energies in our relationships. We discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially for moms juggling responsibilities and managing dynamics within their relationships. We explore the question of how we can lean on each other in love without losing ourselves and how we can work as a team with our partners to heal what isn’t working in love. It's all about getting to know yourself, embracing what makes us different, being real with each other, and keeping that spark alive while staying true to yourself. We unpack: Reclaiming healthy masculine and feminine energies in love and partnership Balancing masculine and feminine energies in work and home life Societal norms and their impact on relationships Challenges faced by couples, particularly in the context of motherhood Embracing interdependence in relationships The vulnerability and authenticity that lies within communication Check out Dene's book, "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within," for more insights, and tune into her podcast, “Cheaper Than Therapy” too! As always, visit my website to explore my available courses to improve your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down with energy expert and transformation guide Lee Harris. Harris is the author of “Energy Speaks: Messages from Spirit on Living, Loving, and Awakening,” and on today’s episode, he talks about how we can get in tune with our energy and help use our consciousness not only to heal ourselves but to heal the world. Harris explains to Dr. Berman how we can better raise boys and help them to get in touch with their emotions. Since our society encourages men to be stoic and never cry or show weakness, many boys grow up being unable to cope with or even identify their emotions. On this episode, Harris shares his important insights on raising emotionally healthy boys, but also emotionally healthy kids in general. How can you better tap into your child’s emotions? How can you parent in a conscious, vulnerable way? These questions are so complex, but the answers are already within us, if we can just let our egos and expectations get out of the way our intuition and our inner wisdom. When we connect to the source of unconditional love and our true power, we can parent in a way that allows our children to break free from painful family patterns, even those that may have existed in our family legacy for generations. “The heartbreak of this planet is healing. It may not seem so, but it is. Heartbreak is healing on a planetary level. That is why hearts are breaking. So, lead with your hearts both for yourself and for others,” says Harris. “Where you share your love with others, you lead with your hearts. None of you acknowledge yourselves enough for this. And where you lead with your hearts, you the lead the way for others to open their hearts.” Don’t miss this insightful episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices