Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen (Heather Hester)
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| 07 Mar 2023 | Breaking Free from People Pleasing: A Conversation with Annie Henderson | 00:44:14 | |||||
The dialogue between Heather Hester and Annie Henderson unfolds the layers of people-pleasing, a common yet often under-discussed trait that can hinder personal growth, especially in the LGBTQIA community. Annie, who specializes in coaching individuals through their coming-out journeys, shares her own evolution from a life dictated by the need to please others to one characterized by authenticity and self-empowerment. The episode highlights the emotional struggles inherent in people-pleasing, including the incessant self-doubt and anxiety that accompany the fear of disappointing others. Annie's candid reflections draw listeners in, making the episode relatable and insightful as it addresses the root causes of these behaviors and their impact on mental well-being. As the conversation progresses, Annie delves into her experience as a parent of a pansexual child, emphasizing the crucial role of fostering a supportive environment. She discusses the challenges and joys of guiding her child through the complexities of identity in a world that can often be unwelcoming. This perspective opens up a broader discussion about the generational shifts in understanding and acceptance within families. Annie underscores the importance of modeling healthy boundaries and self-advocacy, demonstrating how parents can influence their children's ability to embrace their identities with confidence and pride. The episode ultimately serves as a call to action for listeners to confront their own tendencies towards people-pleasing and to recognize the power of vulnerability in building authentic connections. Through shared stories and expert advice, Heather and Annie create a nurturing space that encourages reflection and growth. The message is clear: while the journey to self-acceptance may be fraught with difficulties, it is also a path laden with opportunities for joy, understanding, and deeper relationships. This engaging and thoughtful discussion is a treasure trove of insights for anyone seeking to navigate their own complexities with grace and authenticity. About our Guest: Annie M Henderson is a Certified Professional Life Coach specializing as a Coming Out Coach for the LGBTQIA community and helps people-pleasers that avoid conflict, over apologize, and struggle to say no, start living authentically and find the peace they have been missing. After going from an unfulfilled existence checking all the boxes of perceived “success,” to breaking into an intentional, abundant life, she now uses her experiences and professional background as a teacher, counselor, and life coach, to teach and mentor others. In working with her diverse clientele to discover unapologetic joy, including the LGBTQIA community and people-pleasers, her teachings focus on releasing self-doubt, embracing the power in setting boundaries, and removing the habit of over apologizing. She’s the international best-selling co-author of She Did It!, which follows women from around the world and their transformational journey. Annie’s masters degrees in education, school counseling and professional counseling, complement her mission and inform her regular content shared with loyal followers on TikTok and Instagram. www.tiktok.com/@anniemhenderson | |||||||
| 21 Jun 2022 | Building Diversity, Equity, Inclusion and Belonging into a Brand’s Core Values with Crystal Whiteaker | 00:38:20 | |||||
Crystal Whiteaker intrinsically understands the importance of inclusion. As a leadership development and DEIB consultant, she specializes in inclusive coaching and consulting for brands and leaders that care deeply about Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging (DEIB). Join Heather and Crystal as they talk about Crystal’s motivation to reaffirm a brand's core values, create a “Brave Space” within yourself, and create a positive, nourishing, nurturing, and healing connection with people. Do not miss these highlights: 03:32 - Helping leaders get rooted in their core values so that they can create a clear, streamlined message and experience within their business 08:33 - Becoming aware of the beliefs you hold and whether they are truly yours or if they are ‘absorbed’ from others 13:08 - Using trauma-informed training in order to create not just a safe space but also a “brave space” 18:07 - Dealing with the sensitive nature of discussing parenting skills with others 23:19 - Formulating your message by getting very clear on your role and values whether for business, parenting or anything else in life 32:03 - The value of listening to your children and having love and compassion for them can change the world for them when faced with adversity Resources Mentioned Free Guides Inclusive Brand Statement Guide Personal Philosophy Statement Guide Introductory Offers Empowered Environments Workbook (Guided Workbook for Inclusive Leaders) Work with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! About our Guest: Crystal Whiteaker (pronouns: she/her/hers) is a Leadership Development and DEIB* Consultant specializing in inclusive coaching and consulting for brands and leaders that care deeply about diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging. Crystal brings over 15 years of creative, relational, process driven experience across multiple industries. She is a self-described "corporate trained, creative hippie” who puts a strong focus on core values to help people elevate their community connections to communicate and lead with clarity and confidence. Crystal is an advocate for leaders and organizations that provide resources and support for healing, particularly in relation to trauma. When... | |||||||
| 03 May 2022 | Be You; Do You with Sam Castle | 00:49:01 | |||||
Overcoming adversity that led him to his life’s passion of being a life coach, Sam Castle is here to share his story about removing stigma, bias, and fear. Sam shares about his gender transformation, how life coaching changed his world when traditional therapy could not, and his overall love and passion for helping others to live life courageously. Do not miss these highlights: 04:42 - How hiring a life coach changed his life in a way that 10 years of therapy could not 08:28 - “You are valuable, you are loved. And it all it all starts in your mind, in the thoughts because you are the creator of your reality.” 13:48 - Fear is keeping people from being more vocal in their support and those that are vocal in their misinformation are giving their opinion on experiences that they themselves have never had. 18:06 - Don’t stay in that place, whether mental, emotional or phsyical, seek help. There are resources. 21:34 - When you invest in yourself, be it financial, time or other resources, tohse are the ones that you get the most value from 23:26 - Our ups and downs are meant to grow us, not break us. 28:20 - Be authentic. It is okay to be messy, people want to know how you got through it. 35:49 - Trust in yourself and don’t be afraid to seek out the support you need. About our Guest: Sam Castle - “I am Sam of BE YOU; DO YOU podcast and life coach. Be you; do you podcast was inspired by my gender transition from female to male and learning to love and accept who I am....a show that amplifies REAL and RAW stories of authenticity and courageous living! Be you; do you will create a transformation for listeners and participants as you begin to see that even in our differences, we are so much alike. Be you; do you is a safe space for the queer community to be seen, felt, and heard...be uplifted and encouraged. It's time to BE YOU; DO YOU and live courageously!” You can find Sam’s podcast on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/show/235Kp7SogjS42Q26ZKPYN2 Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 21 May 2024 | A Deep Dive Into Queer Expression: Stories from the 'I'm Feeling Queer Today' Podcast | 00:50:29 | |||||
With the compassionate insights of Celeste Lecesne from the Future Perfect Project and the vibrant duo, Lily and Eric, from the "I'm Feeling Queer Today" podcast, in today's episodes we are going to discuss the resonating impact of giving voice to the marginalized, weaving a narrative that highlights the significance of safe spaces, creative expression, and the indomitable spirit of queer youth. Join us as we navigate the inspirational paths of our guests, whose aspirations and educational pursuits demonstrate the transformative power of passion. Their stories are a testament to the importance of a supportive network, reminding us all that our involvement, whether as listeners, parents, or allies, is crucial in fostering a nurturing environment for self-acceptance and growth. Encouraging trust and curiosity, we explore avenues of support that emphasize presence and understanding over perfection. Celebrating the courage of queer individuals, we underscore the Future Project's role in shining a light on their creative talent. Our exchange is a profound acknowledgement of the difference that even one supportive figure can make in a young person's life, inspiring gratitude for the connections that shape a brighter, more inclusive future. To Learn More about the Future Perfect Project visit https://www.thefutureperfectproject.org/ Listen to the I'm Feeling Queer Today podcast on your favorite app or on Apple Podcasts at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-feeling-queer-today/id1726198109 Don't forget to grab your copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Available Now! https://chrysalismama.com/book Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 02 May 2023 | Empowering Conversations: How Parents Can Support Their LGBTQ+ Children | 00:47:00 | |||||
This podcast episode delves into the significance of self-acceptance in the journey of understanding one's gender and sexuality, emphasizing that "coming in" to one's identity is often more crucial than coming out to others. Heather Hester hosts Lori Sweetman, a gender and sexuality holistic life coach, who shares her experiences and insights on creating safe spaces for exploration and validation. The conversation explores the complexities of fluid identities, the importance of compassionate parenting, and the challenges faced by LGBTQ individuals in less accepting environments. Truly highlights the need for open discussions about identity, safety, and the fluid nature of both gender and romantic relationships. This enriching dialogue encourages listeners to embrace their journeys and celebrate the exploration of identity in a supportive community. About our Guest: Mx. Lori Sweetman (They/She/Lor) is owner and director of Include LGBTQ Empowered Education and Consulting LLC and through there provides Queer Holistic Coaching to those desiring to achieve a more fulfilling life. They will use motivational inquiry and a carefully crafted positive psychology based coaching plan for their client to build the confidence to live fearlessly, authentically, and truthfully, as their best self. Lor has their MA in Psychology, specializing in gender and sexual fluidity. Lor has conducted research on gender and sexual fluidity at the intersections of special education, art for identity formation, social psychology, and positive psychology. A more detailed bio can be found here. Additionally, Lor is a nominee for the Russ Berrie Making a Difference award, and is a member of the APA special interest group in gender and sexuality. Lor voluntarily holds support groups for LGBTQ+ adults and teens in person in Warren County, NJ. You can listen to Lori speak on various podcasts as well. When Lori isn’t with family and pets, they are looking for opportunities to advocate for the LGBTQ+ communities, working on their book, hugging a tree with their kids, or creating art. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share... | |||||||
| 16 Jan 2024 | Navigating the Spectrum of Gender: Insights from a Trans Parent | 00:46:39 | |||||
Join us as we warmly welcome back Trystan Reese, Author, Storyteller, Consultant, Coach, and Facilitator; back to the podcast, where we explore the rich and complex tapestry of transgender parenting. We engage in a heartfelt conversation that underscores the importance of creating a supportive environment for our children, one that champions their individuality and respects their evolving identities. This dialogue is a must-listen for parents, allies, and anyone invested in understanding the dynamics of gender non-conforming families. Listen in as we dive into the delicate dance of parenting adolescents amidst the fluid landscape of gender identity. We touch on the critical role of unconditional love and the power it holds in allowing children to safely explore and express their gender. Our chat emphasizes that the path to understanding gender is not always linear. By embracing change and supporting our kids through their journey of self-discovery, we not only nurture their growth but also contribute to a more inclusive community. Our conversation reveals how empathy and understanding in parenting can prepare children for the world, equip them to face social challenges, and cultivate a sense of self-assuredness. Moreover, we consider the power of unlearning preconceived notions and the expansion that comes from embracing new perspectives. About our Guest: Trystan Reese has been organizing with the trans community for nearly two decades, serving on the frontlines of this generation’s biggest fights for LGBTQ+ justice around the country. He then launched onto the global stage in 2017 when his family’s unique journey gained international media attention. He was honored to partner with many major media outlets, including CNN, NBC, People, and Buzzfeed, to bring his message of trans family love and resilience to the mainstream. Professionally, he is the founder of Collaborate Consulting, providing customized training solutions for individuals, organizations, and communities interested in social justice. His first book, How We Do Family, was released in the summer of 2021 and his children’s book, The Light Of You, was released at the beginning of 2022. Trystan is married to his partner Biff, and they live in Portland, Oregon, with their three kids: Riley, Sully, and Leo. They are very happy. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe | |||||||
| 18 Jul 2023 | Conversations on Love: Reflecting on Six Years of Family Growth and LGBTQ Advocacy | 00:52:39 | |||||
The latest installment of Just Breathe Parenting features an incredibly heartfelt conversation with my husband Steve and two of our children, Connor and Gray. The episode celebrates not only the evolution of our family dynamics over the past six and a half years but also the transformative journey each member has experienced as we navigated the complexities of parenting an LGBTQ child(ren). The intimate discussion reveals how our family's communication has deepened and grown more empathetic, thanks in large part to therapy and a commitment to understanding each other's truths. Connor reflects on how his coming out changed the family, allowing everyone to express themselves more freely while fostering an environment of unconditional love and support. Gray shares insights on their growth and comfort in their identity, highlighting the importance of shared experiences and how they've shaped their understanding of queerness within the family context. The conversation touches on the themes of acceptance, empathy, and the significance of open dialogue in a family setting. Each family member reflects on their personal growth, with Isabelle noting how the familial bond has made growing up easier by enabling candid conversations about identity and feelings. The episode also explores the concept of being uncomfortable as a catalyst for growth, emphasizing the need for parents to engage in difficult conversations and trust their instincts. In a world where LGBTQ issues remain contentious, the family's openness serves as a beacon of hope for others navigating similar journeys. Their collective experiences paint a vivid picture of how unconditional love and support can create a nurturing environment for children to flourish. Listeners are reminded that they are not alone in their struggles and that developing a nurturing family dynamic, even amidst challenges, is not only possible but essential. The episode concludes with an invitation for listeners to join the Just Breathe community, reinforcing the idea that connection and support are vital in the parenting journey. Whether through shared laughter, tears, or collective wisdom, the Hester family's journey is one of resilience and love, inspiring parents and children alike to embrace their authenticity and support one another unconditionally. Takeaways:
Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into... | |||||||
| 09 Jan 2025 | Your Guide to a Supported and Connected 2025 | 00:09:55 | |||||
The podcast opens with a warm welcome to listeners as we step into the new year of 2025. Heather Hester emphasizes the importance of taking a moment to breathe and reflect on the past year, inviting everyone to slow down and listen to the needs of their bodies and souls. This episode dives deep into themes of self-care and boundaries, acknowledging the emotional challenges many faced in 2024, including feelings of anger, disbelief, and isolation. Heather highlights the crucial role of setting boundaries, whether for the first time or as a seasoned practice, and how these boundaries can create space for rejuvenation and recalibration. As the conversation progresses, Heather shifts focus to the future, encouraging listeners to contemplate their needs and concerns moving forward into 2025. Questions about support, resources, and community are posed, underscoring the podcast's commitment to providing valuable content and connection for listeners. The introduction of a new substack newsletter and a private podcast, along with a community Discord channel, is announced as a means to foster a safe space for vulnerability and connection among listeners, particularly those within the LGBTQ community. The reflective nature of the podcast culminates in a personal sharing of grief and celebration. Heather shares their journey of holding space for both the loss of a loved one and the joy of personal achievements, such as the publication of their first book. This duality is framed as a vital aspect of the human experience, encouraging listeners to acknowledge their feelings—both good and bad—and navigate their own emotional landscapes with compassion and awareness. Ultimately, the episode is a call to action for self-care, connection, and hope as we move forward together into a new year. Takeaways:
Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! | |||||||
| 01 Aug 2023 | The Art of Vulnerability: A Conversation with Yuval David | 01:21:51 | |||||
How would you feel if you had the ability to express your deepest emotions in a safe and supportive space? Is it possible that the secret to growth and self-realization is hidden in our vulnerability? Award-winning actor and activist, Yuval David, joins us on the show today to explore these questions and more. We kick off our conversation delving into the powerful realm of storytelling, and how it shapes our perception of ourselves and others. Yuval shares his insights on the transformative power of stories, how they've influenced his work in film, television, theatre, and the digital space, and his ongoing advocacy for civil rights, social justice, and representation. Ever stopped to truly appreciate the 'now', the present moment you're in? The Hebrew concept of "Hineni", meaning 'I am', serves as our guide as we embark on a journey to discover mindfulness. Yuval delves into this concept, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, not for our successes, but for the mere fact of our existence. We then navigate the often-underestimated importance of expressing our emotions, in particular, through crying, and how establishing a secure space for these expressions can be therapeutic, bringing about a sense of equilibrium and peace. To wrap it up, we delve into the world of the LGBTQIA+ community, examining the power of vulnerability and the critical aspect of setting boundaries. Yuval and I bring to light the importance of standing up as an ally and using our voices for tangible positive influence. We then explore Yuval's groundbreaking art project, Wonderfully Made, which portrays Jesus as a member or ally of the LGBTQ community. So tune in, and join us on this enlightening journey through storytelling, mindfulness, and advocacy in the realm of LGBTQIA+. About our Guest: Yuval David Emmy Award winning actor, host, filmmaker, and advocate with a creative mantra to entertain, uplift, and inspire. As a filmmaker, Yuval produces, directs, and writes short and feature films, documentaries, web-series, and digital and TV content, including the award-winning episodic series, One Actor Short, Pranks of Kindness, Better World with Yuval David, What Makes You Beautiful, and numerous other web series. His work has been screened at international film festivals, receiving over 100 awards. Yuval advocates for all marginalized communities through his creative work and social action, including the National LGBTQ Task Force, GLAAD, Rainbow Railroad, Freedom House, EndJewHatred, the Shoah Foundation, the Jewish National Fund (JNF), Keren Kayemet, Stand With Us, A Wider Bridge, The Aguda, American Israel Cultural Foundation, Chabad, the Jewish Learning Institute, the Embassy of Israel, Covenant House, LGBTQ Centers across the US and internationally, The Giving Group Community, Black Jewish Entertainment Alliance, Creative Community for Peace, and other organizations. Find him on social media at https://www.yuvaldavid.com/ Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. 12 Jul 2022 | Your Message Can Change People’s Lives with Michelle Abraham | 00:32:34 | | ||||
Michelle Abraham joins Heather in the virtual studio in this week’s episode. Michelle is an international speaker, podcast producer, and the category directory for kids and family in Podcast Magazine. Listen in as they discuss Michelle's foray into the podcasting industry, the lessons she has learned, and still learning, as a parent, and the importance of getting your message out into the world before it is too late to do so. Do not miss these highlights: 04:47 - How parenting led her to discover podcasts and her drive to inspire others to get their voice out there. 07:01 - The organic evolution that started her to assist others in developing their podcasts 11:54 - You don’t need to be an expert in what you are podcasting about, but a curator of content. 16:00 - Live a life that you are happy with and on your terms 19:51 - Treat your child like a human being. Say things, express things, the way you would want to see things expressed to you. Don’t be afraid to ask your kids for their input on how you can be a better human being. 24:47 - Find comfortable places to have conversations and don’t expect boys to make eye contact when talking to you. 30:05 - Michelle’s inspiration of making sure you get your message out before you are no longer able to. Work with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! About our Guest: Michelle Abraham - Podcast Producer, Host and International Speaker. Michelle was speaking on stages about podcasting before most people knew what they were, she started a Vancouver based Podcasting Group in 2012 and has learned the ins and outs of the industry. Michelle helped create and launched over 30 Podcasts in 2018 and has gone on to launch over 200 shows in the last few years, She wants to launch YOURS in 2022! 14 years as an Entrepreneur and 8 years as a Mom has led her to a lifestyle shift, spending more time with family while running location independent online digital marketing business for the last 9 years. Michelle and her family have been living completely off the grid lakeside boat access for the last 4 years! Check Us Out on: Join our facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/MyPodcastCoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AMPLIFYOU.ca/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YouAmplif Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amplifyou.ca/ To Join our FREE Podcasters Tool Kit: https://bit.ly/PodcastToolKit For More Podcast Training - http://amplifyounetwork.com/ AmplifYou Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/amplifyou/id1457094134 Blissful Parenting Podcast - | |||||||
| 13 Jun 2023 | Navigating Your Body: Insights from a Somatic Sex Educator | 00:48:08 | |||||
In a compelling episode of Just Breathe, Court Vox engages the hosts in a candid exploration of sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the vital role these elements play in our overall wellness. The conversation begins with Vox recounting his personal journey into the field of sex education and intimacy consulting, revealing how his early experiences with sexuality were shaped by an open and accepting household. This background allowed him to develop a unique perspective on the importance of body acceptance and the exploration of desires in a judgment-free environment. The hosts and Vox discuss the ongoing stigma surrounding sexual topics, highlighting how traditional therapeutic approaches often overlook the significance of physical connection and somatic practices in fostering self-acceptance and intimacy. As the discussion progresses, the trio delves into the idea of pleasure as an essential aspect of mental health, encouraging listeners to embrace their sexuality as a natural and fulfilling part of life. Vox articulates the concept of somatic education as a means to reconnect individuals with their bodies, facilitating a deeper understanding of their desires and boundaries. This approach not only aids in personal growth but also enhances relationships with partners and friends, promoting a culture of consent and communication. The episode serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of open dialogue about sexuality, encouraging listeners to confront their own beliefs and biases while fostering a greater understanding of diverse sexual identities. Towards the end of the episode, the conversation shifts to the experiences of parents navigating the complexities of raising LGBTQ children. Vox emphasizes the critical need for parents to create supportive and safe environments that allow for open conversations about sexuality and identity. He advocates for a shift in perspective, suggesting that coming out does not have to be a monumental event but rather an organic part of living one’s truth. By promoting acceptance and understanding, parents can help their children thrive in their identities. The episode concludes on a hopeful note, reminding listeners that the journey toward embracing one’s sexuality and identity is both personal and shared, filled with opportunities for growth, healing, and connection. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: About our Guest: Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA . He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Bodyvox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of... | |||||||
| 26 Sep 2023 | Empowering Kids: The Importance of Consent Culture in Today's Media | 00:58:19 | |||||
Join us as we navigate the compelling topics of consent culture, representation in media, and gender inclusivity in sports with our remarkable guest, Michele Meek. As a writer, filmmaker, professor, and entrepreneur, Michele brings an enlightening perspective to our conversation. Listen in as we explore her work on consent culture, her interest in representation in film and media, and her upcoming short film on gender and inclusivity in sports. From her earliest interest in sexuality to her most recent book, Consent Culture and Teen Films, Michele’s insights are bound to challenge your thinking and start important conversations. Engage in our thoughtful discussion on teaching kids about consent culture and bodily autonomy from a young age. We examine the best ways to initiate conversations about boundaries, body safety, and how to introduce age-appropriate books to children. As we navigate through this topic, we also touch on the positive effects of consent culture in teaching young individuals the importance of communication and respect for others. Finally, we'll get into the topic of representation in youth media, focusing on the need for more diversity in gender representation, particularly in teen films. We contemplate the effects of traditional sports rules and regulations on youth athletes, with a focus on gender divisions. As we close, we look at the possibilities of gender-neutral sports leagues and the benefits of allowing children to express themselves without being confined to a box. Michele's extensive research on gender diversity and her conviction that society needs to be more open to these findings, makes this a conversation you won't want to miss. About our Guest: MICHELE MEEK, Ph.D. (she/her) is a writer, filmmaker, professor, and entrepreneur. She authored the book Consent Culture and Teen Films (published in 2023 with Indiana University Press), and she has published several other books including Independent Female Filmmakers (2019) and The Mastermind Failure Club (2020). She presented a TEDx talk “Why we’re confused about consent—rewriting our stories of seduction” and has written for Ms. Magazine, Script Magazine, Entrepreneur, The Good Men Project, Salon.com, among others. Michele has also directed numerous award-winning short films, including Bay Creek Tennis Camp (2023), Imagine Kolle 37 (2017), and Red... | |||||||
| 19 Dec 2023 | Embracing the Messiness: Holiday Survival Tips for LGBTQ Families | 00:28:15 | |||||
Holidays should be a time of joy and celebration, but what happens when they turn into a period of crisis? We’ve all been there, and know firsthand how tough it can be. Join me as I share my personal experiences and effective strategies for managing these challenging situations. You will begin to understand how to regain control by calming your mind and emotions, reaching out to loved ones and practicing self-care. Listen in to find out how to navigate these testing times, guided by your intuition and finding what works best for you. As we move forward, I will offer you an arsenal of seven powerful tips and tools to turn your holiday crisis into a season of peace and happiness. Draw a deep breath, focus on the present moment and embrace life as it comes – the good and the bad. Discover the concept of impermanence, the power of kindness and the transformational ability of gratitude. Prioritize self-care, lean on your loved ones for support, and always remember - tough situations are temporary. Let's embark on this journey together to embrace the beauty and messiness of life and make the most of your holiday season. Enjoy! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 03 Dec 2024 | Uplifting Women: The Power of Community and Vulnerability | 00:53:35 | |||||
This episode delves into the importance of self-care amidst the chaos of modern life. Heather emphasizes the need to step back from overwhelming news cycles and political unrest, urging listeners to focus on personal rejuvenation and inner work. A central theme is the power of community and connection, particularly among women who are inspiring each other through shared experiences and resilience. The discussion transitions to a heartfelt introduction of Aransas Savas, a well-being and leadership coach, who shares her unique journey and approach to coaching that marries science with energy work. Aransas explains her podcast, 'The Uplifters,' which celebrates women making positive impacts in their communities, showcasing stories of those who dare to challenge the status quo and lift each other up. Through compelling narratives, the episode captures the essence of collective strength, demonstrating how vulnerability can lead to empowerment and transformation. The stories shared highlight the critical role of supportive relationships in fostering bravery and purpose, making this episode a rich exploration of the intersection between personal growth and community impact. Takeaways:
Connect with Aransas Savas: https://www.aransassavas.com/ Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Mentioned in this episode: Patreon Learn more about the Just Breathe Community on Patreon This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 04 Jul 2023 | Navigating Parenting & Mindfulness: A Conversation with Mahur-Nain | 00:54:22 | |||||
Heather Hester welcomes Madar Nan, a seasoned psychotherapist, to explore the intersection of meditation, mental health, and parenting. The conversation begins with an emphasis on the importance of mindfulness in daily life, particularly for parents navigating the challenges of raising children. Hester shares her experience of meditating and how various methods can help individuals find calm amidst chaos. Nan, who integrates Eastern and Western philosophies in her practice, discusses her journey from international business to psychotherapy, underscoring her commitment to helping others through the power of meditation and breathwork. The duo highlights how meditation can serve as a tool for self-regulation, especially for parents dealing with stress and anxiety. A significant part of the discussion revolves around the benefits of Kundalini Yoga and its unique practices, such as chanting and breathing techniques, which can aid in achieving mindfulness. Nan elaborates on how these practices not only help individuals manage mental health challenges but also strengthen familial bonds. The conversation flows into the complexities of parenting teenagers, where both Hester and Nan reflect on the profound lessons learned from their children. They agree that parenting is a journey filled with simultaneous joy and challenges, where self-awareness and communication are paramount. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to embrace their parenting experiences with curiosity and compassion, fostering a safe space for both themselves and their children. Takeaways:
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| 27 Feb 2024 | Unconditional Love and the Voyage Beyond Gender Norms with shawndeez, Ph.D. | 01:03:30 | |||||
Discover the power of love and acceptance as I am joined by the insightful shawndeez, Ph.D., to explore the journey of parenting LGBTQ children. Through our conversation, we unearth the intricacies of identity, acceptance, and the transformative self-discovery that not only reshapes the lives of LGBTQ individuals but also their loved ones. Hear the touching stories that cut across the fabric of spirituality, gender, and the path toward embracing one's true self, offering a glimmer of hope and guidance for those supporting queer and trans family members. The episode traverses the emotional landscape that parents navigate as their children reveal their gender identities, delving into the delicate balance of protecting and accepting, and the profound realization that unconditional love can deepen through understanding and awareness. We discuss the importance of patience, education, and dialogue in fostering a family environment where differences unite rather than divide. With shawndeez's personal narratives serving as a backdrop, the discussion highlights the healing potential of open-hearted acceptance within the family dynamic. Listen as we contemplate the societal impacts of gender fluidity, and how fostering joy within the lives of trans individuals can lead to a culture of thriving. Whether you're a parent, a friend, or simply someone seeking understanding, this episode is a beacon of hope and guidance in the quest for a more inclusive world. About our Guest: shawndeez, Ph.D. (they/them) received their doctorate in UCLA’s Department of Gender Studies. While at UCLA, they created and led courses on Trans Magic, Queer & Trans Muslim Feminisms, and QTPoC Resistances while simultaneously serving on the Trans Wellness Team, a collective of medical doctors and mental health providers working to provide gender-affirming healthcare to trans students across the UC system. shawndeez’s dissertation research explored how queer, trans, and nonbinary individuals engage with the spiritual as a form of resilience, healing, and possibility. They are now a full-time public speaker, spiritual guide, and workshop facilitator, offering spiritually-conscious spaces for queer/trans people to lean into their joys. shawndeez is currently most excited for their newest adventure – offering one-on-one support for parents and elders of trans and gender non-conforming people who seek guidance in reimagining their relationship with their child. If you are interested in learning more, please visit their website shawndeez.com. SOCIALS: ig - @drshawndeez website: https://www.shawndeez.com/ the specific page for parent support work: https://www.shawndeez.com/work/parents LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shawndeez/ email address: shawndeez@ucla.edu Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, 30 Jan 2024 | A Journey of Resilience: Launching My First Book for LGBTQ Families | 00:11:50 | | ||||
This episode is a celebration of our shared path, offering a compassionate embrace to every parent and guardian out there walking this road. Looking back at where we started and where we are now, we have peeled back the core truths of nurturing our LGBTQ+ loved ones, sharing stories that resonate with authenticity, and equipping ourselves with the tools needed to uplift and empower these incredible teens. I am also very excited to announce the upcoming release of my first book, "Parenting With Pride: Unlearn Bias To Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ+ Teen". It's a milestone for me, as I have learned so much about myself in the writing process and could not have done it without the knowledge and support that I received from this podcast. Our quest is about so much more than mere acceptance—it's about celebrating the vibrant spectrum of love and identity. To become part of the Book Launch Team please visit: https://launch.chrysalismama.com/book-launch-team or drop me an email at hh@chyrsalismama.com Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 25 Jul 2023 | The Talk Reimagined: How to Have Ongoing Conversations About Sexual Health with Your Kids | 00:47:35 | |||||
Dr. David Huebner returns to discuss critical research surrounding the alarming rates of HIV and other health risks faced by queer boys, emphasizing the importance of open communication between parents and their children. He shares insights from a recent study that highlights the role parents play in influencing the health and well-being of LGBTQ youth, particularly regarding sexual health education. The conversation explores how parents can better support their children by fostering strong relationships and being proactive in addressing minority stress. Huebner also introduces an innovative online toolkit designed to help parents effectively communicate about sexual health with their sons. This episode is a valuable resource for parents seeking to navigate these important discussions and ensure their children feel supported and understood. Are you ready to rethink how we support our LGBTQ+ kids? This episode brings forth a critical conversation as we unravel the research of Dr. David Huebner. His latest work spotlights an alarming rise in the distress rates among children, especially queer youth. His comprehensive survey toolbox stems from his study on HIV among queer boys, and he enlightens us about the worrisome trends of escalated depression, substance use, and suicide among youngsters. Now, the question is, how do we tackle these distressing trends? This conversation isn't just about understanding the problem, but about finding solutions as well. We explore how parents can adapt their behavior to provide better support for their LGBTQ+ kids. From advocating for their child's rights at school to encouraging self-expression, we share insights to guide parents. We also highlight the importance of open conversations about sexual health with your kids and the need to normalize these discussions. We also share updates on his study and emphasize the importance of utilizing available resources to understand the risks faced by LGBTQ+ youth better. From education on laws to online toolkits like PATHS (Parents and Adolescents Talking About Healthy Sexuality), we discuss various avenues to help. We hope this riveting conversation will inspire you to join us in raising and supporting LGBTQ+ kids in the best possible way. Become a study participant with Dr. Huebner:
About our Guest: Dr. David Huebner is a clinical psychologist and Professor of Prevention and Community Health at George Washington University. He has spent 20 years researching how parents influence the health of LGBTQ youth. He’s also a dad to an energetic, hysterical middle-school-aged son. You can learn more about his work by visiting www.parentwithlove.org. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon | |||||||
| 04 Apr 2023 | Empowering Teens: How Camp Odyssey Fosters Self-Discovery | 00:41:00 | |||||
Join Heather Hester as she explores the transformative power of Odyssey Teen Camp, a unique space that provides support and acceptance for LGBTQIA teens navigating their identities. Adam Simon, the camp's Executive Director, shares his journey of creating a welcoming environment where campers can truly be themselves, free from judgment. The conversation delves into the importance of representation and community for young people, highlighting how seeing others like them can be life-changing. Heather and Adam discuss the challenges faced by both teens and parents, emphasizing the need for understanding, compassion, and open dialogue. This heartfelt discussion is a reminder that no one is alone on their journey and that there are safe spaces available for exploration and growth. Connect with Adam: Schedule a call/ or video meeting OTC Changes Lives! Donate to our Campaign Here! Website: https://www.odysseyteencamp.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/odysseyteencamp/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/odysseyteencamp Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 04 Mar 2025 | The Art of Authenticity in College Essays: A Conversation with Dyllen Nellis | 00:47:30 | |||||
This podcast episode delves into the nuanced realm of college admissions, emphasizing the vital importance of authenticity in the application process. We engage in a profound discussion with Dyllen Nellis, a distinguished college admissions coach and founder of Next Gen Admit, who elucidates how students can effectively communicate their personal narratives and values in their applications. Dyllen advocates for a holistic approach, underscoring that grades and test scores, while significant, do not singularly determine a student’s admission prospects; rather, it is the unique story each applicant brings that truly captivates admissions committees. Throughout our dialogue, we explore strategies for nurturing intellectual curiosity in students, fostering their individual passions, and guiding them in articulating their authentic selves. By the conclusion of the episode, we aim to equip parents and students alike with invaluable insights into navigating the complexities of the college admission landscape. The discussion unfolds around the challenges and nuances of the college admissions process, particularly emphasizing the transformational journey students encounter while preparing their applications. The speakers reflect on the significance of authentic self-discovery in crafting college essays, noting that the admissions process is not merely a bureaucratic hurdle but a profound opportunity for personal growth. In sharing insights from their conversations, they highlight the misconception that academic grades and test scores are the sole determinants of admission success. Instead, they advocate for a holistic approach, which prioritizes the articulation of personal narratives and values unique to each applicant. The episode serves as a guide for both students and parents, encouraging a shift in perspective towards viewing college admissions as an exploration of identity rather than a mere checklist of achievements. Takeaways:
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| 31 May 2022 | The Journey of Self-Discovery Continues with Connor Hester | 01:13:49 | |||||
Connor helps Heather kick off Pride Month with a fun conversation that ranges in topics from an update on how he’s doing to his thoughts on rainbow capitalism. For newer listeners who do not know who Connor is, first of all, welcome, and second of all - Connor is Heather’s oldest son whose bravery and life experience allows for this podcast as well as all of Heather’s other work. This is the fourth episode Connor and Heather have done together, so be sure to check out the others to get very real insight on the coming out process as a teen and young adult. Do not miss these highlights: 01:52 - Catch up on what has been happening in Connor’s life since his last appearance in August 2020 13:08 - After leaving home, learn the changes in dynamics that occurred between Connor and his parents 21:17 - Utilizing therapy as a tool for self-awareness and uncovering how to address issues in a therapeutic context. 33:59 - The complexities of reconnecting socially as the pandemic restrictions ease up 41:53 - Navigating the social media as a queer youth and the fears of parents having their kids faced with the hate that is out there 49:08 - Transitioning from queerness being a central component of your existence to being really just a part of who you are and how living in New York has allowed him to live openly 55:03 - A look at Rainbow Capitalism and it’s detrimental effects on queer artists and the pseudo support of businesses during Pride About our Guest: Want to know more about Connor and his story? Check out his earlier episodes on Just Breathe. Connor Shares His Story - Part 1: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-one/ Part 2: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-two/ Part 3: https://chrysalismama.com/connor-shares-his-story-part-three/ Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 05 Nov 2024 | Breaking Free: A Path to Authenticity and Love | 00:33:21 | |||||
Join me for a heartfelt conversation that explores the journey of self-discovery and deconstruction of beliefs. My guest, Britt Sandoval, shares their transformative experiences, from navigating the challenges of parenting three daughters with a rare genetic disorder to questioning their identity in a heterosexual marriage. As they reflect on their upbringing in a traditional religious setting, they candidly discusses how pivotal moments, including the impact of COVID-19 and societal events, led them to embrace their pansexuality and challenge long-held beliefs. The episode highlights the importance of fostering open conversations about identity within families and the empowering realization that authenticity is key to personal fulfillment. Tune in as we delve into the complexities of identity, love, and the journey toward living authentically in a world full of expectations. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Bio: Britt Sandoval is an inspiring keynote speaker, entrepreneur, and thought leader with a unique blend of experience in authentic leadership, healthcare, and entrepreneurship. As the founder of Your Feeding Friend LLC, Britt has empowered countless families while building a thriving business. With a background as a registered nurse and expertise in inclusive leadership, Britt brings valuable insights into effective leadership and inclusive work environments. Currently pursuing a Master of Human Relations in Inclusive Leadership at the University of Oklahoma, Britt’s passion for fostering diverse and equitable workplaces drives their work | |||||||
| 21 Nov 2023 | A Legacy of Unconditional Love | 00:13:40 | |||||
As we celebrate the fourth glorious year of Just Breathe, I can't help but look back on our remarkable journey. Our endeavor to support families, friends, allies, and LGBTQ individuals themselves has grown into a thriving business, a testament to our collective hard work and shared belief. We've welcomed a plethora of guests, each leaving us with invaluable lessons and beautiful memories. From shared laughter to tears, we've nurtured an environment of growth, learning, and love. This episode is not just a celebration of our journey but also a tribute to my beloved golden doodle, Teagan. Diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer, Teagan, our family's constant, taught us to cherish every moment and draw strength from each other. Her unwavering presence during challenging times, whether it be my son's coming out or my sister's illness, filled our hearts with unconditional love. As we pay tribute to Teagan's remarkable legacy, join us in spreading love, fostering connections, and making a difference, one ripple at a time. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 12 Sep 2023 | Breaking the Silence: A Heartfelt Discussion on LGBTQ+ Youth and Suicide Prevention | 00:52:52 | |||||
Content warning: This episodes discusses the important issue of teen suicide and its' prevention. What if we told you that a staggering 41% of LGBTQ+ youth have considered suicide in the past year? Yes, you heard it right. That's the chilling reality we tackle on this episode of Just Breathe, where we engage in a deeply important conversation about suicide prevention. Our guest, AnneMoss Rogers, is a mental health and suicide education expert, who bravely shares her personal journey and the valuable lessons she learned from her family's tragic experience with suicide. Woven into our discussion is the heart-rending story of a mother who battled her son's mental health issues and substance misuse. We navigate through the complexities of his diagnosis of major depression, ADHD, anxiety, and substance use to mask his feelings of suicide. The moment she learnt about her son's death underscored the urgent need for suicide prevention efforts. In the latter part of the episode, we commit to addressing adolescent suicidal risk, shedding light on the signs to watch out for and how parents can provide support. We share practical tips from creating a crisis response plan to fostering open conversations about suicide and empowering your children with coping mechanisms. As we wrap up, we want to remind you that you are not alone and that help is always available. Let's join hands to raise awareness, demonstrate compassion and save lives. About our Guest: AnneMoss Rogers is a mental health and suicide education expert, professional speaker, trainer, and consultant. After her 20-year-old son, Charles died by suicide in 2015, AnneMoss chronicled her family’s tragedy in a newspaper article that went viral, and her blog, Emotionally Naked, has reached millions. She is the author of the award-winning memoir, Diary of a Broken Mind and the best seller, Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with co-writer Dr. Kimberly O’Brien. She has been a TEDx speaker, was featured in the New York Times, Variety Magazine, and was the first non-clinician invited to speak on youth suicide at the National Institute of Mental Health. A UNC-Chapel Hill alumna, Anne Moss currently lives in Richmond, VA. Her surviving son is a filmmaker in LA. Website: https://mentalhealthawarenesseducation.com/ Emotionally Naked© blog: http://emotionallynaked.com AnneMoss’ TEDx – Can a Blog Save Lives? AnneMoss’ books and free e-book library: https://mentalhealthawarenesseducation.com/mental-health-books/#free_mentalhealth_ebooks Hotlines: · TrevorSpace Discussion Board for LGBTQ+ peer support · Canada... | |||||||
| 12 Mar 2024 | The Parent's Guide to Spotting Misinformation: Empower Your LGBTQ Journey | 00:28:43 | |||||
Have you ever felt adrift in the murky waters of the internet, trying to fish out the facts you truly need? Today's episode is a beacon for LGBTQ+ parents seeking guidance in distinguishing the credible from the questionable online. Today we plunge into the methods of verifying author expertise and publisher reputation, emphasizing the difference it makes to lean on peer-reviewed resources. Our conversation goes further than just picking out the good from the bad; it's about strengthening the very foundations of your knowledge with tools that ensure what you're learning is rooted in verified truth. As we navigate this digital landscape together, we lay out a map of strategies to keep you on the path of objective and accurate information. We discuss the nuances of sifting through content, from performing reverse image searches to discerning the intent behind the words you read. It's a masterclass in critical thinking and self-awareness, aimed at debunking biases and promoting a balanced understanding of the issues close to your heart and your LGBTQ teen's experience. Embrace a balanced, informed approach to content consumption, and join us on this journey toward becoming a savvier, more critical thinker in the digital age. Takeaways:
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| 02 Jan 2024 | Embrace Allyship: 8 Steps to Support LGBTQ Youth in 2024 | 00:20:36 | |||||
Let's kick off 2024 by committing to be better allies to the LGBTQ+ community. Guaranteeing an enriching conversation, I will delve into what it means to be an ally and how we can actively show our solidarity. I share personal narratives and discuss strategies for asserting your truth and creating safe, inclusive spaces. Educate yourself about LGBTQ+ issues, challenge biases, and amplifyqueer voices. By exploring literature, watching relevant films, or simply engaging in meaningful conversations, we can broaden our understanding and contribute to a more inclusive society. Addressing intersectionality within the community, I shed light on the significance of solidarity, advocating for rights, and promoting representation in media. Learn how to be part of the change, from using inclusive language and providing financial support to celebrating queer stories and achievements. We, as allies, have a crucial role in challenging discrimination in ways that the LGBTQ+ community cannot. Consider this episode your call to action. Let's recommit ourselves to true allyship and work towards a society that champions acceptance and equality, standing strong for those who need us the most. This 2024, let equality and acceptance be our resolution! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 04 Feb 2025 | You Are Not Alone: Validating Our Shared Experiences of Heaviness | 00:18:56 | |||||
The thematic exploration within this podcast episode revolves around the acute emotional burdens that many individuals are currently enduring in response to the tumultuous sociopolitical climate. Heather articulates a pervasive sense of heaviness that extends beyond mere individual responses to current events, suggesting a collective emotional weight that is both profound and multifaceted. Throughout the discourse, Heather invites listeners to engage with their feelings, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and validating these emotional experiences as a crucial step towards personal and communal healing. Central to the discussion is the recognition that the current upheaval has unearthed a plethora of emotions, ranging from fear and anger to confusion and sadness. The speaker asserts that these feelings are not arbitrary but rather reflections of a deeper societal malaise that many are grappling with. By encouraging listeners to confront these emotions head-on, Heather fosters an environment in which vulnerability is not only accepted but is essential for fostering resilience and connection. Furthermore, this episode serves as a clarion call to embrace empathy and compassion, particularly towards marginalized communities who may be disproportionately affected by recent developments. As the episode progresses, Heather provides practical guidance on how to navigate this emotional landscape, advocating for self-reflection through writing and the importance of establishing healthy boundaries regarding news consumption. She underscores the necessity of creating spaces—both physically and virtually—where individuals can express their fears and hopes without judgment. Ultimately, this podcast episode is not merely an exploration of emotional heaviness but a transformative journey towards understanding, supporting one another, and cultivating a shared sense of hope amidst adversity. Takeaways:
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| 15 Aug 2023 | Navigating Queer Life: Insights from Life Coach David Devore | 00:52:51 | |||||
Get ready for an intense journey of self-discovery and healing as we welcome David Devore, a psychotherapist and wellness coach. Listen in as David unravels his personal spiritual journey, shedding light on the struggles of coming to terms with his queer identity and how internalized homophobia and shame were affecting his life. His transformative experience has equipped him to work effectively with the LGBTQIA community, offering insights and support from a place of empathy and understanding. We also focus on the importance of parental support for queer children. Our conversation with David delves into the complexities of shame, religion, and LGBTQ+ children, highlighting the potential damage the heteronormative narrative of religion can cause. We stress the significance of creating a safe and supportive space for children to express their identity, the role of education in fighting homophobia, and how parents can prepare themselves for this important conversation. David discusses the significance of grace, understanding, and readiness to learn for parents navigating this sensitive terrain. Listen in to understand the potential effects of rejection, shunning ceremonies, and addiction that many queer youth face, and the immense power of support, acceptance, and open conversations. The profound connection between a parent and child can be maintained, despite the imperfections, as long as the conversation stays open and filled with love. About our Guest: David DeVore is a life coach specializing in the challenges of queer life such as coming out, internalized homophobia, and shame. David embarked upon a spiritual journey in his early 40s in response to midlife/existential crisis. He discovered that internalized homophobia and shame had been holding him back in all areas of his life, by negatively coloring the lens of his perspective. This cathartic moment ignited David's passion for the work he does with the LGBTQIA community today. David is a former masters level psychotherapist, and wellness coach. He enjoys hot yoba and meditation. https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdevore https://www.instagram.com/coachdevore/ Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! | |||||||
| 06 Jun 2023 | Together We Rise: Strategies to Support LGBTQ Rights in Challenging Times | 00:12:19 | |||||
In a powerful and poignant episode, Heather Hester opens the conversation about Pride Month 2023 with warmth and reflection. The episode serves as a reminder that while Pride is a time for celebration, it also marks a moment to confront the harsh realities faced by the LGBTQ community. Heather emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for parents of LGBTQ children, inviting them to feel a sense of belonging in the Just Breathe nest. As she shares personal experiences and insights, listeners are reminded that they are not alone in their journeys, and that collective support is essential. As the episode progresses, Heather introduces exciting developments within the Just Breathe community, which aims to provide resources and support for parents navigating their children's LGBTQ identities. Heather’s enthusiasm is infectious as she articulates her vision for a compassionate space where parents can share their fears, triumphs, and questions. This initiative highlights the importance of community in times of uncertainty, providing a platform for parents to find solace and understanding. However, the conversation takes a serious turn as Heather addresses the alarming rise of anti-LGBTQ legislation across the United States. She shares sobering statistics about the number of bills aimed at restricting the rights of LGBTQ individuals, particularly targeting transgender youth and their families. Heather calls upon her listeners to become active participants in advocacy, urging them to engage in local elections and communicate their values to lawmakers. Through actionable steps, she inspires her audience to harness their unique talents and engage in discussions that promote understanding. The episode closes with a heartfelt message of love and solidarity, reminding listeners of the power of community and the importance of standing together in the face of adversity. Takeaways:
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| 09 Nov 2023 | The Shadows We Carry: Michael's Insights on Overcoming Shame | 00:43:37 | |||||
Have you ever felt lost in your own skin, or like a puzzle piece that doesn't fit? Feel the weight lift as you join us in a poignant conversation with Michael Mammina, a master life coach who has navigated his way through these feelings and has emerged as a beacon of inspiration. In this episode, he candidly shares his personal journey of coming to terms with his sexuality, encountering severe bullying, and grappling with the feeling of being an outsider. Despite his outward success, Michael felt an internal void until he discovered the concept of the 'shadow' and its profound impact on our lives. Our discussion is not merely a narration of Michael's journey but resonates with every individual who has felt different, out-of-place, or trapped by their own fears. We delve deep into the impact of shame on the LGBTQ community, the stages of coming out, with a special focus on the 'avoidance stage' and 'overcompensation stage'. At the heart of our conversation is the importance of self-love in leading an authentic life and the influential role of support in weathering life's storms. Throughout our exploration, Michael imparts practical advice and tools for self-acceptance, personal growth, and creating safe spaces for those coming out. This episode will serve as a gentle reminder that it's never too late and there's never a wrong time to seek help, learn to love ourselves, and live our best lives. So, buckle up for an inspiring journey into self-discovery, acceptance, and transformation, and remember to soak up each moment, seek support, and just breathe. Resources Mentioned The Dark Side of the Light Chasers By Debbie Ford The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs PhD About our Guest: Michael Mammina is a Master Life Coach with multiple certifications and global professional experience, whose passion is to create the space for successful people to increase their self-worth and net worth while achieving their desires. Self-worth is a dynamic of emotional and mental health that is often sadly neglected. Unless you truly value yourself, you won't have the motivation to exercise, get enough sleep, eat healthfully, and care for yourself. Michael helps people uncover and own their inherent self-worth while holding them accountable to take action, and co-creates the safety to reach inside and see what is holding them back from their dreams. Discover that you are truly perfect, whole, and able - exactly as you are with no limits. Get your Free eBook to help listeners learn 5 simple steps to get them toward the life they desire. Methods to break through the obstacales that are holding them back at https://michaelmammina.com/5steps/ Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon | |||||||
| 04 Apr 2025 | Beyond the Breath: The Importance of a Free Press | 00:34:29 | |||||
The salient point of today's discourse centers on the imperative nature of freedom of the press as a cornerstone of democratic society. As we delve into the intricacies of this topic, we shall explore the alarming erosion of such freedoms in contemporary America and the vital role that a free and independent press plays in safeguarding democracy by holding those in power accountable. Furthermore, I shall illuminate the historical context of the First Amendment, emphasizing its foundational significance in protecting citizens from governmental overreach. We shall also examine the contemporary challenges posed by misinformation, disinformation, and media consolidation, which threaten to undermine the integrity of journalism. Ultimately, this episode serves as a clarion call for enhanced media literacy and the revitalization of local journalism as indispensable tools for fostering an informed citizenry and a resilient democracy. The podcast episode is an incisive examination of the current state of press freedom and its critical importance within the framework of American democracy. Heather Hester, the host, articulates a fervent appeal for the necessity of an independent press, asserting that the erosion of this freedom poses a significant threat to the democratic ideals that underpin society. The narrative commences with a call to action, urging listeners to engage in 'Hands Off' day, reflecting a broader movement against the encroachment of authoritarianism by influential figures who seek to monopolize power and influence. As the conversation unfolds, Hester delves into the historical underpinnings of the First Amendment, contextualizing its establishment as a safeguard against government overreach. The episode highlights the role of landmark judicial cases that have shaped the landscape of press freedom, with particular emphasis on the vital function of journalism in holding the powerful accountable and providing the public with essential information. Hester's exploration extends to contemporary challenges, including the rampant spread of misinformation and the complexities introduced by social media, which often prioritizes divisive and sensational content over substantive reporting. Hester calls for a renewed commitment to media literacy as a means of empowering individuals to navigate the increasingly convoluted informational terrain of today’s society. By fostering critical thinking skills and encouraging engagement with diverse media, the episode advocates for a collective effort to rejuvenate local journalism and promote informed civic participation. As Hester poignantly concludes, the responsibility to protect democratic values and uphold the integrity of the press lies not only with institutions but also with each individual, as we strive to cultivate a society that values truth and transparency. Takeaways:
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| 30 Mar 2025 | Beyond the Breath: The Imperative of Authentic Allyship | 00:17:39 | |||||
Allyship represents a vital and active commitment to justice, equity, compassion, and love, which we explore in depth throughout this discourse. I have reflected extensively on the multifaceted nature of allyship, recognizing that it transcends mere passive support and demands genuine action. We examine the imperative for individuals to embrace their roles as allies across diverse communities, particularly during these tumultuous times when marginalized voices are in dire need of amplification and support. It is crucial to understand that authentic allyship requires not only listening and learning but also engaging in uncomfortable conversations and actions that challenge existing power dynamics. By acknowledging the various communities that require our advocacy and taking tangible steps to support them, we can foster a more equitable society and truly embody the essence of what it means to be an ally. A profound exploration of the concept of allyship is presented, delving into its multifaceted nature and the imperative for individuals to engage actively rather than passively in the pursuit of social justice. I reflect upon my personal journey as an ally, emphasizing that true allyship demands a commitment to understanding, advocating, and making sacrifices for marginalized communities. In this discourse, I dissect the stark contrast between performative allyship and authentic engagement, illustrating with tangible examples how the former often manifests as superficial gestures devoid of genuine impact. I implore listeners to ponder their own experiences of standing up for others, particularly in moments of discomfort, as these instances often define the essence of true allyship. The episode further delineates various communities requiring allyship, including the LGBTQ community, racial minorities, individuals with disabilities, and women. Each segment elucidates the specific challenges these groups face and articulates the roles allies can play in dismantling systemic barriers. For instance, I emphasize the importance of inclusive language and the necessity of advocating for equal rights within the LGBTQ community. In discussing racial equity, I highlight the critical role of white allies in amplifying voices of color and participating meaningfully in movements such as Black Lives Matter. Through these discussions, I aim to foster a deeper understanding of the responsibilities and actions that constitute effective allyship. Concluding the episode, I offer actionable steps for listeners to embody allyship in their daily lives. I stress the necessity of continuous education, the importance of challenging biases, and the imperative to support systemic change. By advocating for legislative reforms and prioritizing the needs of marginalized communities, we can collectively forge a more equitable society. I encourage listeners to reflect on their capacity to be allies and to share their stories of authentic allyship, thus inspiring others to engage in this vital work. The essence of this episode is a clarion call for all individuals to commit to being active participants in the pursuit of justice, equity, and compassion, even in the face of discomfort. Takeaways:
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| 22 Mar 2025 | Beyond the Breath: Fighting Fatigue: How to Maintain Your Well-Being While Engaging in Activism | 00:28:49 | |||||
This episode emphasizes the vital necessity of self-care amidst the tumultuous political landscape characterized by incessant assaults on our rights and well-being. As we navigate the relentless barrage of distressing news, it becomes of extreme importance to prioritize our mental and emotional health in order to sustain our resilience in the ongoing struggle for justice. I will delineate several of the most egregious actions by the current administration, which are instrumental in maintaining our awareness of the socio-political climate. Furthermore, we will explore practical strategies designed to facilitate rest, rejuvenation, and personal well-being. By embracing these methods, we fortify our resolve, ensuring that we remain engaged and prepared to confront the challenges ahead. In this episode of Beyond the Breath, Heather talks about the pressing concern of self-care amidst a tumultuous political landscape fraught with disconcerting developments. The narrative commences with an enumeration of disheartening actions undertaken by the Trump administration in recent times, which have engendered a profound sense of anxiety and hopelessness. Heather emphasizes the imperative nature of maintaining one’s mental and emotional well-being as a prerequisite for active engagement in the ongoing struggle for justice and equity. Consequently, the discussion transitions towards practical strategies for self-care, encompassing techniques to mitigate the overwhelming influx of distressing news. This dual approach not only serves to inform the listener of the current socio-political dynamics but also equips them with tangible methods to foster resilience and endurance in the face of adversity. Heather’s call to action encourages listeners to adopt personalized self-care routines that allow for both informed activism and restorative respite, thereby striking a balance between awareness and well-being. Takeaways:
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| 23 Aug 2022 | Creating Safe Spaces Online: A Guide for Parents of LGBTQ Children | 00:54:27 | |||||
This podcast episode delves into the critical discourse surrounding the navigation of the digital landscape for LGBTQ children and their parents. We commence by emphasizing the necessity of maintaining open lines of communication, particularly regarding online engagements and the inherent challenges that accompany them. Our esteemed guest, Sarah May, founder and CEO of the Start Effect, provides invaluable insights into fostering a safe and healthy digital presence. We further explore the paramount importance of teaching children about the nuances of sharing personal information online and the significance of establishing boundaries regarding their digital interactions. Ultimately, our discussion underscores the imperative of equipping both parents and children with the tools necessary to navigate the digital world effectively while fostering a supportive and understanding relationship. Sarah Maynard is here with Heather today to talk about the digital world and your kids. She lays out some of the “shoulds” and “should-nots” of what your children are sharing online and highlights the important fact, that once it is out there, it is never going away. Sarah shares how to have the foundational conversations early on with your children so that when it comes to the harder stuff the digital world has to offer you can approach those together. Join Heather and Sarah as they talk all things digital.
Do not miss these highlights: 01:30 – Topic for today: The digital world and your kids 03:30 – The number one thing for parents to know 09:25 – What your kids should/should not be sharing online 13:49 – Once it’s out there, it’s never going away 14:11 – The effect of the digital world on college applications 19:42 – Knowing each app's privacy settings 20:18 – Conversations with kids about what they really want from this app 21:39 – The internet and LGBTQ+ 25:13 – Empowering our children to say no or unfollow 26:21 – Positives of taking a break from social media 34:00 – Modelling social media use for our kids 39:00 – Interpersonal relationships 45:55 – New question and answer segment Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com
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| 21 Feb 2025 | Beyond the Breath: A Reflection on Modern Discourse | 00:27:26 | |||||
This podcast episode delves into the pressing concerns surrounding nationalism and its implications for democracy in contemporary society. I reflect on two poignant speeches that resonate with the current political climate, emphasizing that the roots of division often stem from seeds of distrust and blame. I draw parallels between historical precedents and contemporary issues, highlighting the dangers of authoritarianism and the necessity for civic courage. The discourse urges listeners to contemplate their roles in fostering inclusivity and combating hate, particularly in light of governmental actions that undermine diversity, equity, and inclusion initiatives. Ultimately, I call upon each individual to assert their voice and take actionable steps, thereby contributing to a collective resistance against tyranny and fostering a more just society. The discourse presented in this episode of the podcast delves into the profound implications of societal narratives shaped by political discourse. The speaker embarks on an introspective journey, reflecting upon two poignant speeches that resonate with the current socio-political climate. One of the speeches, delivered by Governor J.B. Pritzker, draws critical parallels between historical authoritarian regimes and contemporary political strategies that seek to divide and ostracize marginalized communities. The speaker articulates a deep concern regarding the insidious nature of hatred and nationalism, positing that these elements serve as precursors to tyranny. This examination encourages listeners to engage deeply with the implications of blind allegiance to supremacy, advocating instead for a patriotism rooted in inclusion and diversity. The speaker underscores the necessity of courage and collective action in the face of rising authoritarianism, urging individuals to confront fear and silence with resolute opposition. Through this lens, the episode not only highlights the pressing need for vigilance against oppressive narratives but also calls for a unified front in defense of democratic values, thereby fostering a space for reflective contemplation and active engagement in societal discourse. Takeaways:
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| 05 Dec 2023 | Coping with Non-Affirming Friends and Family During the Holidays | 00:22:58 | |||||
The holidays are a time of magic, love, and connection. Unfortunately, the crises in our lives don’t stop just because it is the holidays. This episode is all about equipping you with the tools and language needed to gracefully handle situations with non-affirming individuals. We'll use the guide "The Language of LGBTQIA+" to understand the terminology your child or friend might use. Alongside this, we'll discuss the importance of maintaining presence with all kids, investing quality time with your partner, and nurturing a sense of gratitude to keep the positivity alive, even amidst chaotic times. But there's more. We'll debunk common misbeliefs propagated by non-affirming individuals and learn how to respond to them. You'll discover how to provide essential support to LGBTQ+ individuals during the holiday season, and I'll share some self-care tips that have proved to be lifesavers during holiday crises. And last but certainly not least, we'll explore the transformative power of gratitude. Take the time to amplify the positive, find peace amidst chaos, and embrace the holidays in all their messy wonder. Don't miss this heartwarming and empowering conversation - it'll leave you feeling ready to embrace the holiday season with open arms and an open heart. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 22 Jan 2025 | From Awareness to Action: Supporting LGBTQ Individuals with Eating Disorders | 00:47:32 | |||||
The episode begins with Heather reflecting on the intersection of politics and the LGBTQ community in the current socio-political climate, particularly following significant events that threaten LGBTQ rights. She introduces Kristin Szostak, who shares her expertise in treating eating disorders, especially within the LGBTQ population. Kristin outlines the various eating disorders, including anorexia and bulimia, while also educating listeners about binge eating disorder and ARFID. This detailed exploration provides a foundation for understanding how these disorders manifest and the emotional challenges that underlie them. Kristin's insights extend beyond clinical definitions; she passionately discusses the societal factors that disproportionately affect LGBTQ individuals, such as discrimination, body dysphoria, and the pressure to conform to societal norms. The episode emphasizes the need for a compassionate approach from friends and family members, who play a vital role in supporting those struggling with eating disorders. Kristin offers practical advice on how loved ones can create a safe space for open dialogue, encouraging normalization of diverse eating habits and emotional expressions. The conversation culminates with a discussion of the Renfrew Centers' SAGE program, which provides specialized support for LGBTQ individuals. Kristin emphasizes that their approach is about recognizing the whole person, rather than just their struggles with eating. This message of inclusivity and understanding is a powerful reminder of the importance of community support in recovery. The episode is rich in content and serves as both an informative resource and a call to action for listeners to foster acceptance and support within their own circles. Takeaways:
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| 17 May 2022 | Unapologetically Me with Katie Miller | 00:33:11 | |||||
Creating a safe place for people to speak the truth, Katie Miller, the co-founder & assistant director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society and host of Adulting Sucks podcast, is here to share her story of coming to live her life unapologetically herself and encouraging others to do the same. Do not miss these highlights: 04:07 - Keeping her bisexuality under the radar, Katie is now speaking up about it and holding space for people who have just have things they need to share 07:03 - We don’t need to meet the judgments, opinions, and expectations of others, We just have to meet our own. 10:48 - Take your time to process what it is that others are saying because you might not know what's going on when you're not in the same room with them all the time. 15:66 - When others are under stress or distraught we need to show them the options they have as it is not always seeable and this is the concept used for the Team Suicide Prevention Society. 20:39 - Embrace and reinforce the positive belief that you are capable, creative, and resourceful enough to figure out anything 26:49 - Listen without judgment and have a response based on love. About our Guest: Katie Miller Katie is the co-founder & assistant director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society. She knows that every message matters. Katie knows what it was like to be afraid to speak up. After launching her podcast “Adulting Sucks, but it does not have to”, Katie became more aware of the need for people to feel safe when speaking. So, Katie has created that safe place with her podcast. Katie’s calming presence will let you focus on what you do best, sharing your message with the world.
Join the "How to Bust Your Limiting Beliefs" every Wednesday at 3:30 pm ET. https://jackieac2922.clickfunnels.com/webinar-opt-in1640994177173?affiliate=kt4tech Website and social: https://kt4tech.com/ Get your free gift: Why Not Workbook https://kt4tech--successjourneyacademy.thrivecart.com/why-not-workbook-gift/ Adulting Sucks Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4tSUmZJotgs6DKSztd7s0z?si=8e65e2464d764553&nd=1 Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 23 Apr 2024 | Unveiling the Heart Behind 'Parenting with Pride' | 00:13:34 | |||||
Ready to transform the way you parent your LGBTQ child with pride and understanding? "Parenting with Pride" isn't just a book; it's a journey of evolution, a guide filled with heartfelt stories, robust research, and strategic tools that I have poured my heart into. This episode peels back the curtain on the creation of my upcoming literary labor of love and answers the burning questions so many of you have shared. As we sit back in our cozy coffee shop chat, I'll reveal the four pillars that are the cornerstone of both the book and our ongoing discussions: Embrace, Educate and Unlearn Bias, Empower, and Love. Trust me, this is a conversation that goes beyond the pages, designed to illuminate and guide every step you take with your LGBTQ teen. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 13 Feb 2024 | Unlocking Love: Connecting with Your LGBTQ Teen | 00:14:17 | |||||
This episode of Just Breathe Parenting your LGBTQ teen focuses on the importance of understanding and connecting with your loved ones through the five love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and gifts. Host Heather Hester emphasizes that every individual expresses and receives love differently, making it crucial for parents and caregivers to recognize these differences in their relationships with their children, partners, and friends. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own love languages and how they can enhance their connections with others by acknowledging and honoring these preferences. The discussion also highlights the significance of creating safe spaces for open communication about love and affection. Join Heather as she shares insights and practical ideas to foster deeper bonds and understanding within families. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 22 Feb 2022 | The Tao Te Ching Path to Self-Discovery with Jessie Kanzer | 00:51:23 | |||||
Not many have the privilege of knowing who they are from the start. For most of us, life is a journey of reflection and self-discovery. Jessie Kanzer, actress and reporter turned author, joins us today to share her journey as a Russian Immigrant feeling lost in an alien world to her discovery of the Tao Te Ching that set her on the path to becoming the person she is meant to be. Listen to her grounding message that will not only benefit each of us personally but our loved ones as well. Do not miss these highlights: 02:10 - A look into Jessie’s book, Don't Just Sit There, DO NOTHING: Healing, Chilling, and Living with the Tao Te Ching, and an explanation of what Tao Te Ching is about. 6:21 - How these teaching influenced her coming from an “achievement-based” culture 9:05 - Connecting and trusting your inner voice and begin listening to our intuition, especially when it comes to parenting our children 14:55 - Realizing that stepping into our awareness requires vulnerability and that authenticity does not come in a form of perfection 17:22 - Jessie summarizes the Tao Te Ching to three concepts; simplicity, patience, compassion 23:15 - A look at how losing your identity can be a gift to find yourself again. 28:07 - A discussion about labels and the hindrance they bring to self-discovery 32:12 - The importance of helping our children to fully understand what they are feeling and put a name to it. 36:05 - “When somebody else questions their identity, it almost becomes a mirror. And if you have never faced the nuances within yourself, including nuanced emotions, that is very uncomfortable.” 39:33 - How The Tao can cure you of perfectionism 41:11 - The importance of embracing stillness About the Guest: Jessie Kanzer was born in the Soviet Union. At the age of eight, she emigrated with her family to Brooklyn. She is a writer, former reporter and actress. For years, Jessie felt like a failure, unable to hustle hard enough to "make it" either as an actress or in the rat race. Her childhood as a Russian immigrant in post-Cold War America heightened her insecurity and threatened her identity, desperate as she was to fit into a culture that was alien at best and hostile at worst. This loss and eventual reclamation of her sense of self sent her on a spiritual journey during which she discovered the Tao Te Ching, which changes everything for her. The Tao taught her that there was power in stillness and that all struggles come bearing gifts if you know how to recognize them. Her message will connect with listeners desperate to find grounding as we move into a new year filled with trepidation and no guarantees of a return to normalcy.
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| 04 Jun 2024 | From Stonewall to Today: The History of Pride Month | 00:21:33 | |||||
In this encore episode from 2021, Heather shares an overview of Pride history, including the Stonewall Riots, why the pink triangle is a global symbol, and how the rainbow flag became the symbol for LGBTQ+ pride. She begins with the following anonymous quote: "LGBTQ pride was not born of a need to celebrate being LGBTQ, but our right to exist without persecution. So instead of wondering why there isn't a straight pride, be thankful you don't need one." If this episode piques your curiosity about the history of Pride, check out some of Heather's favorite resources: Websites * them. Books Gay & Lesbian History for Kids: The Century-Long Struggle for LGBT Rights Pride: The Story of the LGBTQ Equality Movement What was Stonewall? (One of the "What was? Who was? books) Stonewall: The Definitive Story of the LGBTQ Rights Uprising That Changed America Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! | |||||||
| 09 May 2023 | Embrace the Journey: Conscious Parenting and Self-Discovery with Maureen Spielman | 00:37:42 | |||||
Today's conversation focuses on the importance of self-care and emotional awareness in parenting. Heather Hester and her guest, Maureen Spielman, explore how parents can take a step back during challenging moments to prioritize their own needs, which ultimately enhances their ability to support their children. They discuss the significance of understanding and validating one’s emotions, encouraging listeners to lean into discomfort rather than shy away from it. Maureen shares her journey from being a speech-language pathologist to a conscious life coach, emphasizing the transformative power of conscious parenting. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that taking care of oneself is not just beneficial but essential for fostering deeper connections with our children and navigating the complexities of parenthood. About Our Guest: Maureen Spielman is a Conscious Life Coach trained by Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s Conscious Parenting Institute and Suzi Lula’s Soul Care Certification + Mastery programs. Maureen is passionate about supporting individuals and families on the journey of finding their true, authentic selves and purpose. She guides and supports people in: looking at how their pasts inform their present, understanding their emotional landscape, and learning to apply self compassion to the hurting parts, amongst other methods. Through experiential processes and learning to be in the present moment, as much as possible, her clients experience transformation within and it positively impacts their outer relationships. Maureen is also the founder of the Mystical Sisterhood podcast, a community built on joy and healing. Website: https://www.maureenspielman.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/792606735186886 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maureenspielman/ Mystical Sisterhood Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mystical-sisterhood/id1665695685 Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 25 Jan 2022 | The Importance of Inclusive Literature with Middle Grade Novelist, Greg Howard | 00:57:56 | |||||
Heather is joined by Greg Howard, an author that writes novels aimed at middle-grade students. What is fantastic about Greg’s books is that he taps into stories about marginalized youth, specifically LGBTQ+. Listen as they talk about Greg’s books, his motivation, the effects his books have had on readers, and the importance of having representation for the often forgotten middle-grade readers. Do not miss these highlights: 02:07 - A look into his latest book, The Visitors, which is about a middle-grade ghost story about the spirit of a boy who is stuck on a deserted rice plantation. 05:31 - How Greg taps into where the kids are and evolves it through his new books 10:21 - The 2 big reasons why Greg wrote his book, The Whispers 14:56 - Reading their kid’s book helps parents gain so much insight and will be able to see things through their kids' eyes 19:37 - When you read stories about marginalized people, it should change your perspective and develop more empathy for them. 20:52 - Why the topic of suicide is not inappropriate for middle-grade readers, especially given the youth suicide statistics 31:47 - Greg shares some of his experiences of being a queer kid 39:53 - There is a need to recognize that are dealing with different issues and that their stories are valid, have value, and they need to be represented and seen. 43:15 - What is the fear inherent ins parents that their queer child will read about another queer child committing suicide. 50:17 - There is usually more than one reason that kids commit suicide. It is rare that there is a single cause. 52:59 - The most important thing for marginalized youth is to know and feel like they're being seen and heard Howard’s Books The Visitors - https://amzn.to/3tTzxtz The Whispers - https://amzn.to/3nSqiG4 Middle School’s A Drag - https://amzn.to/3nTRS5Z About our Guest: Greg Howard was born and raised in the South Carolina Lowcountry where his love of stories blossomed at a young age. Originally set on becoming a songwriter, Greg followed that dream to Nashville, Tennessee, where he spent years producing the music of others before eventually returning to his childhood passion of writing stories. Greg writes about LGBTQ characters and issues as his focus is writing the kind of books he wishes he’d had access to as a gay kid growing up in the South. He currently resides in Nashville with his three rescued fur babies--Molly, Toby, and Riley. Greg’s latest middle-grade offering, The Visitors, will be published by Putnam/Penguin on February 1, 2022. www.instagram.com/greghowardbooks https://twitter.com/greghowardbooks https://www.goodreads.com/greghowardauthor Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: | |||||||
| 06 Sep 2022 | Suicide Prevention Awareness: Insights from the Trevor Project | 00:37:45 | |||||
This podcast episode features an enlightening dialogue with Kevin Wong, the Vice President of Communications for the Trevor Project, which stands as the preeminent organization dedicated to suicide prevention and mental health support for LGBTQ youth. Central to our discussion is the alarming statistic that LGBTQ young individuals are over four times more likely to attempt suicide than their peers, underscoring the critical need for accessible and effective support systems. We delve into the multifaceted programs offered by the Trevor Project, including crisis intervention services, educational initiatives, and the empowering peer support platform known as Trevor Space. Moreover, we explore the imperative role that acceptance from even a single adult can play in significantly reducing the risk of suicide attempts among LGBTQ youth. This episode not only emphasizes the vital resources available but also provides actionable insights for parents and allies on how to approach conversations surrounding identity and mental health with empathy and understanding. With September being suicide prevention month, it was imperative to have Kevin Wong on the podcast today. Kevin is the Vice President of Communications for the Trevor Project, and he shares with us all the amazing resources the Trevor Project has for LGBTQ youth and their parents. There are many stigmas when it comes to talking about suicide and Kevin and the team at the Trevor Project are bringing awareness, advocacy, and safe places for LGBTQ youth to have these conversations. Join Heather and Kevin as they discuss the importance of the Trevor Project and supporting children in the LGBTQ community.
Do not miss these highlights: 01:50 – A little about Kevin 03:58 – Who the Trevor Project is 08:46 – How to get this information to our children 11:23 – Moderators on the site 12:45 – Resources for questions and support children can get on the Trevor project site 14:55 – The Trevor Project & advocacy work 18:33 – How to be an advocate 21:47 – What signs parents can look for in their kids, that may show they want to come out or are struggling 23:33 – The acronym C.A.R.E for helping a kid in a moment of crisis 27:32 – The stigma of these topics 30:40 – How to receive your child when they come out
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| 08 Feb 2022 | Talks that Save Lives with Jackie Simmons | 00:55:21 | |||||
Jackie Simmons, the Director of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society, joins Heather in this week’s episode. Jackie shares her story that drives her passion to make teen suicide a thing of the past. She also discusses the impact we can have just by having simple conversations with our "Power 20" that can help teens and adults alike to start thinking differently about their lives. Do not miss these highlights: 02:47 - Jackie discusses the awakening she had with her daughter at age 37 opened up about her own story during a speech. 09:30 - With over 3000 teen suicide attempts a day, could these be stopped just by opening up to have conversations? 12:23 - Jackie and Heather roleplay the script of 4 questions to ask your teen when beginning the conversation. 15:33 - These straightforward questions begin to build a new neural network that causes one to start looking at reasons for staying. 17:37 - Suicidal thoughts are normal and part of the brain’s worst-case scenario 19:35 - How the script builds a buffer to help people not go from helpless to hopeless 21:38 - Jackie talks about the Power of 20 and being powerfully proactive. 23:28 - A look at the impact the Society has had in Nairobi, Kenya 25:32 - The reasons why teens do not want to talk to others about suicidal thoughts 28:20 - The Double Down effect that happens to the brain when you try not to think about something and Jackie explains the law of attraction in action. 35:11 - The pre-covid rate of suicide thoughts in teens and when you need to get an intervention specialist in place 39:32 - A look at the Positivity Quotient - the number of positive thoughts to negative 44:18 - Open up the conversation because we should assume that everybody is at risk About Our Guest: "TEDx speaker, Radio Show Host, International Best-selling Author, Resilience Master, and co-founder of the Teen Suicide Prevention Society, Jackie Simmons is best known for her mission to “Wake Up The World.” In 1995, blindsided by her 14-year-old daughter’s suicide attempt, Jackie entered a world of depression, addictions, medical mysteries, and deadly silences. The journey into the world of mental health services and cultural taboos left Jackie feeling lost and alone. “OK” on the outside, with “really, I’m fine,” her most frequent response to inquiries about how she was doing. Jackie hid her deep, psychic wounds from the world behind a façade of frantic entrepreneurial activity. Then on August 3, 2019, Jackie’s now 37-year-old daughter, broke the silence. Jackie wasn’t ready. She calls August 3, 2019 the day her “purpose tapped her on the shoulder.” Please join Jackie on her mission to make teen suicide a thing of the past. You may never know whose life you’ll save. www.TeenSuicidePreventionSociety.com The Teen Suicide Prevention Society is a registered 501c3 – to make a donation visit: www.TeenSuicidePrevnetionSociety.org" Learn more about Heather's Mission: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with... | |||||||
| 18 Mar 2025 | Trans Visibility from the Stone Age to Stonewall and Beyond: A Conversation with Celia Daniels | 01:03:58 | |||||
This podcast episode features an enlightening dialogue with Celia Daniels, a multifaceted entrepreneur and advocate, who emphasizes the critical importance of truth, accurate information, and education as effective countermeasures against the pervasive spread of misinformation. Our discussion delves into Celia's remarkable life experiences, including her journey as a gender non-binary trans femme, and her insights into the intersections of faith, identity, and advocacy. Celia articulates the concept of "trans evangelism," reframing it as a vehicle for spreading hope and kindness amidst a world rife with hate. As we navigate the complexities of contemporary societal challenges, we explore the profound necessity for empathy and allyship in fostering understanding and support for marginalized communities. This conversation serves as a poignant reminder of the resilience and strength found in sharing our stories and learning from one another. The podcast episode unfolds with an enthusiastic welcome and an expression of gratitude for the audience's presence. The host, Heather Hester, elaborates on the evolving format of the podcast, highlighting a shift towards more direct and topical discussions. This episode features a significant conversation with Celia Daniels, a multifaceted individual whose identity as a gender non-binary trans femme intersects with her remarkable accomplishments as an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and advocate for diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI). Speaker A emphasizes the importance of truth and accurate information in countering the pervasive spread of misinformation, which forms a backdrop to the guest's insights. Through the conversation, Heather and Celia explore the challenges faced by marginalized communities, particularly in the context of the current sociopolitical climate, and emphasize the necessity of empathy and understanding in fostering a more inclusive society. As the episode progresses, the dynamics of the host-guest interaction reveal a profound respect for Celia's lived experiences and insights, culminating in a rich dialogue about identity, faith, and the human experience that resonates deeply with the audience. Takeaways:
Celia is an entrepreneur, Motivational speaker, DEI champion, blogger, composer, musician, photographer, hiker, and filmmaker. She currently resides in Southern California with her family. She is an Asian Indian who identifies as gender non-binary, trans femme. She is recognized as one of the Top 20 LGBTQ leaders in Biopharma and the | |||||||
| 08 Oct 2024 | Finding Calm in Chaos: Strategies for Nervous System Regulation with Kelly Lubeck | 00:38:40 | |||||
This conversation between Heather and Kelly offers a rich exploration of how our nervous systems respond to both personal and collective challenges. Kelly's insights into the biological underpinnings of stress responses illuminate why many feel overwhelmed and how the current political climate exacerbates these feelings. The discussion transitions into practical exercises, such as shaking off stress and connecting with the natural world, which are vital for re-establishing a sense of safety and stability. Kelly stresses the importance of acknowledging our body's signals and taking proactive measures to remain regulated, especially for parents and caregivers who are often on the front lines of emotional turbulence. By implementing these strategies, listeners can foster resilience not only in themselves but also in their communities, reinforcing the idea that personal well-being directly influences collective health. Takeaways:
Link for Befriend Your Body: https://kellylubeck.my.canva.site/befriend-your-body-3-final Kelly is extending the $500 early bird savings through Friday, October 19! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Mentioned in this episode: Patreon Learn more about the Just Breathe Community on Patreon This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 11 Jan 2022 | Podapalooza | 00:40:41 | |||||
During a recent event, Podapalooza, I was fortunate to connect with two people that right away I knew I had to get them on the show. The first guest is Amy Zwaigenbaum, and she is a transformational stress coach. And we all know we can do with less stress in our lives. She discusses some of the stresses we as parents, especially moms are facing and a few coping strategies we can all use. My second guest is Joanne light and she really talks a lot about emotional intelligence and the importance of developing that as a skill. We are raising the future and Joanne works with parents to help their children develop resilience and empathy to become the leaders of tomorrow. About our Guests: Amy Zwaigenbaum Niche: Professional Supermoms over 30 suffering from stress-related illnesses I am a Reiki Master, Teacher, and Transformational Stress Coach who realized that society has taught women for longer than anyone can remember that they need to be a Supermom taking care of their homes, husbands, and children in addition to being professional career women to help support their families. This creates an impossible workload to accomplish that results in stress-related illnesses and a reduced enjoyment of life. I help people break free from stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and burnout. This is accomplished through individual and group coaching sessions, meditation classes, Cleaver Fever Cure classes, and workshops. Stress Relief tool: https://helpmestresscoach.com Joanne Light Niche: Parents of Tweens and Teens Joanne Light is a Parent Empowerment Coach, mother and grandmother, and retired College administrator and counselor. She earned her doctorate in education and counseling from Boston University and chose to further her expertise through a life coaching certification and a certification in training in Emotional Intelligence. Her coaching practice currently focuses on the challenges and strategies parents need to navigate their parenting journey. Through research and personal experience, Joanne continues to pursue her passion for heart-centered coaching and for contributing to raise the next generation. Her appearances on radio shows, podcasts, and summits have enabled her to share with a diverse audience. Thanks for Listening!! Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet! Are you looking for a new way to discover podcasts, music, meditations, and more...all on one platform? Check out Vurbl for a unique listening experience, one that you can curate and really make your own! Heather has just been named the ambassador for the LGBTQ category and is so excited to share snippets and playlists of her favorite content. Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by: | |||||||
| 07 Feb 2023 | Just Breathe: Lessons in Love, Loss, and Resilience from One Family's Journey | 00:11:56 | |||||
This podcast episode delves into the deeply personal story of Heather Hester's sister, Corinne, who was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia at the age of 42. Heather reflects on their contrasting personalities and the complexities of their relationship, highlighting moments of joy, conflict, and support throughout the years. As Corinne's condition progressed, Heather faced the emotional struggle of balancing her family’s needs with the challenges of caring for her sister. The episode emphasizes the intertwined nature of growth, sadness, and joy, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their struggles. Ultimately, it conveys a powerful message about compassion, resilience, and the importance of being kind to oneself and others during difficult times. Family is one of the most influential things in our lives, no matter what your feelings towards them are. Heather shares her personal story of her relationship with her sister, the loss of relationship during a time of crisis with Connor’s coming out, and coming to terms with the tragedy of an illness that stopped them from becoming close once again. “Changes, growth, tragedy, celebration, sadness, and joy. They can all happen at once. Life doesn't happen in a vacuum.” In a deeply personal episode, Heather Hester invites listeners into her journey of navigating the complexities of family life while raising a queer teenager, focusing on her relationship with her sister Corinne. As she recounts memories of her sister, the contrast between their personalities becomes evident. Corrine, the younger sibling, was a vibrant presence, known for her infectious laughter and adventurous spirit. Despite their differences, the bond they shared was strong, showcasing the beauty of sisterhood amidst varying life paths. However, the episode takes a somber turn as Heather reveals Corinne's struggle with frontotemporal dementia, sharing the emotional challenges it brought to their family. Heather's narrative unfolds against the backdrop of her family's journey through Connor's coming out, which added layers of complexity to their family dynamics. As she reflects on the boundaries she had to set with Corinne during this time, listeners are offered a glimpse into the emotional turmoil of balancing support for her children while coping with her sister's unpredictable behavior. The episode poignantly illustrates how life can change in an instant, and how joy and sadness often coexist. Through her candid storytelling, Heather emphasizes the importance of compassion and understanding within family relationships, urging listeners to cherish their loved ones and navigate through adversity with grace. The episode closes with a resonating message about resilience and the human experience. Heather reminds her audience that they are not alone in their struggles and encourages them to be kind to themselves and others. By sharing her sister's story, she fosters a sense of connection among listeners, highlighting the shared nature of grief and joy in life. This episode serves as a heartfelt exploration of love, loss, and the strength found in familial bonds, making it a powerful listening experience for anyone grappling with the challenges of life and relationships. Takeaways:
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| 10 Jan 2023 | Navigating Identity: Insights on Non-Binary and Gender Fluid Experiences | 01:12:45 | |||||
The podcast episode delves into the nuanced world of gender identities, specifically focusing on non-binary and gender fluid identities through a heartfelt panel discussion. Heather, the host, brings together her daughter Gray, her friend Kate, and Autumn Graham to share their experiences and insights. The conversation kicks off with a critical examination of the terminology surrounding gender identity. Autumn uses a creative analogy comparing gender to a numerical spectrum, helping to clarify that non-binary identities exist as part of a broader continuum rather than strict categories. This foundational understanding sets the stage for a deeper exploration of individual experiences and societal perceptions. Throughout the episode, the panelists recount their personal journeys with gender identity, highlighting the emotional complexities involved in coming out and the varying responses from family and society. Kate shares her experiences as a trans masculine person, discussing how her identity has evolved over time and the importance of creating supportive environments for young people. Gray adds that many individuals struggle with the fear of rejection from their families, particularly in cultures where traditional views on gender are prevalent. This discussion sheds light on the intersection of cultural expectations and personal identity, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding within families. The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that understanding gender identity is an ongoing process for both individuals and their families. The panelists encourage listeners to engage in meaningful dialogues, replete with empathy and curiosity, to foster a sense of security and acceptance. They stress that every person's journey is unique, and as such, the approach to understanding and supporting one another must be tailored to individual experiences. This episode serves as a valuable resource for parents and allies looking to navigate the complexities of gender identity, while also affirming the importance of community and connection in the LGBTQ experience. Takeaways:
About the Panel: Autumn Graham - I am Autumn, a non-binary teen who loves to discuss and have a deeper understanding of things, such as the topic of this podcast. I am a naturally curious individual who loves to learn about new things and see them from another perspective. Kate Versage - Kate is a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community who specializes in helping other LGBTQ+ individuals and their families process their coming out experiences, navigate their identities, and provide support and resources for their journey through life coaching. Kate has a Masters degree in Mental Health Counseling and Expressive Arts Therapy and devotes her free time helping to educate communities, businesses and organizations on the issues and concerns that face the LGBTQ+ community. Kate is also a proud mama, Dj and Drag King. Grace (Gray) Hester - My name is Grace, I also use the name Grayson. My pronouns are she/they/he but I’m comfortable with any. I am 17 years old, and a junior in high school. Acting is my passion, and like most teens, I like hanging out with my friends. Connect with Heather: Join the | |||||||
| 24 Sep 2024 | Hope and Action: Conversations on Preventing Teen Suicide | 01:33:42 | |||||
Understanding Teen Suicide and Mental Health: Insights, Strategies, and Support In honor of September's Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, this episode compiles powerful and actionable insights on suicide prevention, featuring personal stories from guests like Jay Reed and initiatives by people such as Kevin Wong from The Trevor Project and Ann Moss Rogers. The episode emphasizes critical themes including the importance of open conversations about mental health, actionable strategies for suicide prevention, and understanding the heightened risks faced by LGBTQ youth. It includes practical advice for parents on recognizing signs of mental distress, fostering meaningful connections with their children, and leveraging resources like crisis hotlines and peer support platforms. 00:00 Introduction to Suicide Prevention Awareness 00:27 Recurring Themes in Suicide Prevention 01:17 Important Crisis Numbers 01:59 Interview with Jay Reed: A Father's Story 06:10 The Impact of Modern Life on Teen Mental Health 10:41 The Role of Parents in Suicide Prevention 19:43 Introducing Cara McNulty: Mental Health Advocate 31:01 Jackie Simmons: The Talk That Saves Lives 41:36 Why Stay? Heather's Reasons for Living 42:44 The Power of Neuroplasticity 46:43 Introducing Kevin Wong from The Trevor Project 48:17 The Trevor Project's Mission and Programs 57:52 Advocacy and Support for LGBTQ Youth 01:01:21 Recognizing and Addressing Mental Health in LGBTQ Youth 01:07:36 Ann Moss Rogers: A Personal Journey and Advocacy 01:26:51 Creating a Crisis Response Plan Links to Full Episode Kevin Wong, The Trevor Project Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! | |||||||
| 11 Jul 2023 | Unlocking the Power of Listening: Transform Your Relationships | 00:46:36 | |||||
What if the key to transforming our relationships was as simple as truly listening? Candy Motzek, a celebrated coach known for her thought-provoking insights, unravels this very idea in our enlightening conversation. Together, we delve into the three levels of listening, from the surface level to a holistic approach that encompasses words, body language, pace, and the gaps in between. Truly listening is not just about hearing the words; it's about completely immersing ourselves in the conversation and giving it our complete focus. Listening emerges as a transformative force in relationships in the latest episode of Just Breathe, where Heather Hester converses with the insightful Candy Motzek. The discussion begins with a powerful inquiry into the nature of our interactions: How might our lives shift if we prioritized listening over speaking? Candy's expertise shines as she elaborates on the three levels of listening, drawing a vivid picture of how many of us engage at a superficial level, often distracted by our inner thoughts rather than fully being present for others. This episode serves as both a tutorial and an invitation to challenge ourselves to become more attuned to what is being expressed—not just through words, but also through tone, body language, and the emotional nuances that accompany conversations. Candy shares heartfelt anecdotes and practical strategies that listeners can implement in their daily lives, particularly in the context of parenting. She addresses the common scenario of parents feeling overwhelmed yet striving to engage meaningfully with their children. The conversation emphasizes the importance of being physically and emotionally present, suggesting techniques such as eye contact and mindful body language to enhance connection. As they navigate through these themes, the episode highlights that listening is a vital act of love and respect, fostering deeper bonds within families and communities. It becomes clear that improving our listening skills can lead to more fulfilling relationships and a greater sense of belonging. The episode also touches on Candy's work with new coaches, emphasizing that effective listening is essential in the coaching process. As she guides aspiring coaches on their journeys, she reinforces the idea that the ability to listen deeply not only enriches personal relationships but also enhances professional development. This multifaceted discussion ultimately advocates for a shift in mindset towards valuing listening as an essential skill that can transform not only individual lives but also the broader societal landscape. By embracing this practice, listeners are inspired to cultivate a more empathetic approach to their interactions, enriching their experiences and the lives of those around them. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: About Our Guest: Candy Motzek is an author, podcast host , and business coach for life coaches. Candy helps smart people start successful... | |||||||
| 24 May 2023 | The Power of Being a Savvy Ally: Tips and Stories from Jeannie Gainsburg | 00:55:38 | |||||
Heather Hester welcomes Jeannie Gainsburg, author of the newly released second edition of "The Savvy Ally," to discuss essential strategies for becoming an effective LGBTQ ally. The conversation delves into the importance of understanding and respecting pronouns, as well as the need for continuous learning and adaptability in allyship. Jeannie shares her journey from a late bloomer in advocacy to becoming an educational trainer in LGBTQ inclusion, highlighting the valuable lessons she's learned along the way. Listeners will find practical advice on how to engage respectfully with LGBTQ communities, including tips for addressing outdated language and fostering inclusivity in everyday situations. This insightful dialogue reinforces that being an ally is an ongoing process of growth and understanding, encouraging everyone to embrace mistakes as part of the journey. Join the conversation as Heather and Jeannie take a deep dive into the ever changing terminology in the LGBTQ+ community, embracing and accepting diverse pathways of gender identity, and the role of allies can take in order to show their support. Get caught up in using 'they' as a singular pronoun? Learn the trick that Jeannie used to make it part of her everyday vocabulary. About our Guest: Jeannie Gainsburg is an award-winning educational trainer and consultant in the field of LGBTQ+ inclusion and effective allyship. Formerly the Education Director at the Out Alliance of Rochester, N.Y., she is the founder of Savvy Ally Action and author of the book, The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate. In 2019, Jeannie received a citation from the New York State Assembly for Distinguished Educational & Human Rights Services for her work in promoting LGBTQ+ rights and inclusion. Website: https://www.savvyallyaction.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/savvyally Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeanniegainsburgauthor/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeannie-gainsburg/ Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! 18 Jun 2024 | How to Be an Ally: 8 Essential Tips for Supporting LGBTQIA Youth | 00:46:17 | | ||||
What truly makes someone a good ally to the LGBTQIA+ community? Join me in this heartfelt episode as I unpack the essence of allyship, especially during Pride Month. With insight from my daughter while preparing for this epsiode, we pay tribute to the countless advocates and activists who've fought tirelessly for equality and shine a light on the ongoing societal issues that demand our attention. Being an ally isn't about self-promotion; it’s about standing up for basic human rights and fostering an inclusive world. Explore with me how unity and unwavering support can make a real difference. Being an ally requires more than just good intentions—it demands action. Delve into what it means to genuinely support LGBTQIA+ individuals, focusing on active listening and respectful communication. When someone comes out, knowing how to respond with empathy and dignity is crucial. I also break down eight actionable ways to be an effective ally, from challenging heteronormativity and prejudice to ensuring everyone is treated with respect. This episode is packed with practical advice that can help you make a tangible impact. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Takeaways:
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| 16 Jul 2024 | Passing the Torch of LGBTQ+ Resilience with Eric Marcus | 00:48:54 | |||||
Join us as we welcome Eric Marcus, an acclaimed author and LGBTQ+ historian, who brings his deeply personal coming out story to the forefront. Together, we explore the emotional landscape of acceptance within families and the transformative power of advocacy, exemplified by his mother's pivotal role in co-founding the Queens chapter of PFLAG. Our conversation takes a heartfelt look at the roots of LGBTQ advocacy, where Eric shares his encounters with the early gay rights movement and pioneering organizations like the Mattachine Society and the Daughters of Bilitis. You'll hear touching stories of Jean Manford and her son Morty, the co-founders of PFLAG, and their relentless dedication. The devastating impact of the AIDS crisis also comes to light, with deeply personal stories of loss and resilience from families like the Ashworths. Through these narratives, we gain a richer understanding of the socio-political climate of the 1980s and the ongoing fight for LGBTQ rights. Eric also reflects on his accidental journey to becoming a historian, starting with an oral history book that evolved into the Making Gay History podcast. We'll discuss the challenges and emotional rewards of capturing these stories in print and audio, and how they continue to inspire educational initiatives. As we celebrate the resilience of the LGBTQ community, we emphasize the importance of passing the torch to future generations. Tune in for a powerful episode filled with personal reflections, historical insights, and a strong message of advocacy and unity. Resources Mentioned: Making Gay History Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-gay-history-lgbtq-oral-histories-from-the-archive/id1162447122 Stonewall 50 Consortium: https://stonewall50consortium.org/ American LGBTQ+ Museum: https://americanlgbtqmuseum.org/ About Eric Marcus: Eric Marcus is the author of a dozen books, including two editions of Making Gay History (the original 1992 edition is entitled Making History), Why Suicide?, and Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times bestselling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. Eric is also the co-producer of Those Who Were There, a podcast drawn from the Fortunoff Video Archive for Holocaust Testimonies. He is the founder and chair emeritus of the Stonewall 50 Consortium and is a founding board member of the American LGBTQ+ Museum. Learn more about Eric in this NBC News profile. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride.... | |||||||
| 21 Feb 2023 | The Coming Out Process: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Their LGBTQ Teen | 00:15:15 | |||||
Navigating the complexities of raising an LGBTQ teen can feel overwhelming, especially for parents who may not fully understand the coming out process. This episode dives deep into the stages of coming out, particularly focusing on the experiences of young people as they grapple with their identities. Heather Hester emphasizes the importance of recognizing the internal struggles that LGBTQ youth face, often starting as early as middle school. Through personal anecdotes, she illustrates how her own son, Connor, spent three years wrestling with his feelings before coming out. The conversation highlights the emotional turmoil of self-discovery, the fear of rejection, and the loneliness that can accompany this journey. Parents are encouraged to provide unconditional love and support, while remaining patient, allowing their children to navigate this process in their own time without pressure to come out prematurely. Additionally, Heather touches on the invaluable role that external support systems, such as counselors and LGBTQ advocates, can play in helping both teens and their families find clarity and understanding during such a transformative period. Takeaways:
Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Mentioned in this episode: Patreon Learn more about the Just Breathe Community on Patreon This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 13 Dec 2022 | Paws for Patrick: The Healing Power of Emotional Support Animals | 00:44:03 | |||||
Exploring the intricate relationship between mental and physical health is at the heart of this engaging podcast episode featuring Heather Hester and her guest, Daniel Maigler. In an age where mental health discussions often take a backseat, Heather encourages listeners to treat mental health with the same importance as physical health. This conversation begins with a thought-provoking examination of our daily habits that prioritize physical well-being—like diet and exercise—while questioning what proactive steps we take to care for our mental health. This inquiry serves as a crucial reminder that mental health should not be an afterthought but a fundamental aspect of our lives, deserving of intentional attention and care. Daniel Maigler, with his extensive experience as a therapist and high school counselor, provides invaluable insights into the normalization of mental health topics, particularly among teenagers. He shares his involvement with Pause for Patrick, an organization that emerged from a tragic loss to suicide, aimed at fostering emotional well-being through the companionship of therapy dogs. This initiative highlights the transformative power of animal support in mental health treatment. Daniel emphasizes that therapy dogs not only provide comfort but also help bridge gaps in communication for those who may struggle to express their feelings. This powerful narrative sheds light on the healing potential of animals in therapeutic settings, urging listeners to consider how such companionship can enhance emotional resilience. As the discussion unfolds, Daniel addresses the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA youth, advocating for inclusive support systems that recognize the importance of chosen families. The episode reinforces the idea that mental health struggles are often compounded by societal pressures and misunderstandings, making community support all the more vital. Daniel's insights encourage listeners to cultivate empathy and understanding within their circles, promoting an environment where individuals feel safe to share their experiences without fear of judgment. By the end of the episode, the message is clear: prioritizing mental health is not just a personal journey but a collective responsibility. Together, we can create a culture that values openness, supports those in need, and recognizes the profound impact of belonging and acceptance on mental health. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Ways to connect with Daniel J Maigler Daniel is on the board for Paws for Patrick. To learn more: Website: https://www.pawsforpatrick.org/ Instagram: PawsforPatrick and notallowedtodiepod | |||||||
| 11 Sep 2024 | Accepting and Protecting Our Transgender Community | 00:55:46 | |||||
Summary The ACLU and Human Rights Commission are reporting a record number of anti-trans bills proposed in the United States for the fourth consecutive year, with almost 600 in 2024 alone. Combined with an increase in reported hate crimes and discrimination targeting the trans community, there has never been a more critical time to educate the public and encourage allyship. In this conversation, Heather welcomes three extraordinary guests: Jeannie Gainsburg, Jayna Sheats, and Kate Brooks to discuss their motivations for writing their books and the importance of allyship and pronouns. Kate wrote her book to provide support and affirmation for parents of transgender children, Jeannie wrote her book to guide allies in supporting the LGBTQ+ community, and Jayna wrote her novel to humanize the transgender experience. They emphasize the need for allies to create safe spaces and educate themselves about gender identity. They also discuss the importance of using correct pronouns and normalizing the practice of sharing pronouns. The conversation covers various topics related to allyship, the upcoming election, and parenting LGBTQ+ teens. They all share personal stories and provide practical tips for taking action and supporting transgender individuals. Takeaways
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Motivations for Writing Books 07:51 The Importance of Allyship and Safe Spaces 21:31 Respecting Pronouns and Normalizing Pronoun Sharing 28:19 The Power of Pronouns and Allyship 30:41 Taking Action in the Upcoming Election 41:47 Supporting Transgender Children: Acceptance and Affirmation 47:58 Practical Tips for Gender Inclusive Language 50:35 Understanding the Stakes: The Impact of the Election on the LGBTQ+ Community Bios Authors/Activists/Mothers Jayna Sheats, a trans woman, Jeannie Gainsburg, an LGBTQ+ ally, and Kate Brookes, parent of a trans teenager, are teaming up to share their message of acceptance and increase understanding of the issues facing the trans community. Sheats, Gainsburg, and Brookes say anger and hate often disguise fear of the trans community. By sharing their stories and offering best-practice tips for support, they hope to counter the discrimination, help humanize the trans experience, and encourage all people to become allies. Jayna Sheats (she/her) is the author of Hanna’s Ascent. She is also a noted chemist and entrepreneur, who... | |||||||
| 13 Aug 2024 | Navigating Educational Consulting and Mental Health Advocacy with Jodi Liston | 00:40:49 | |||||
In this episode, Heather and Jodi Liston discuss her journey and extensive experience in educational and clinical consulting. She talks about her motivation, originating from her personal quest to find appropriate mental health treatment for her children with severe mental health issues. Jodi explains the role of educational consultants, clarifying common misconceptions, and emphasizing the breadth of services her firm offers, including special education advocacy. She shares insights on the increased visibility of LGBTQ+ issues post-Covid and addresses the challenges parents and students face in today's education landscape. Jodi also expresses her passion for helping families navigate crises, whether related to mental health, learning disabilities, or emotional and behavioral challenges. 00:00 Introduction: A Personal Journey into Mental Health Advocacy 00:40 Early Challenges and Determination 01:29 Seeking Expert Help for My Children 02:12 Years of Struggles and Experiences 03:22 Helping Other Families Through My Experiences 06:33 Understanding the Role of an Educational Consultant 12:45 Challenges Facing LGBTQ+ Students and Families 13:15 The Impact of COVID-19 on LGBTQ+ Issues 19:19 Personal Reflections on Acceptance and Advocacy 24:01 The Importance of Due Diligence in Choosing Consultants 30:41 Special Education Advocacy and Personal Stories 35:17 Conclusion: Resources and Contact Information Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com Mentioned in this episode: Patreon Learn more about the Just Breathe Community on Patreon This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 24 Jan 2023 | Navigating Gender Bias in Schools: Insights from Jason Ablin | 00:34:34 | |||||
Jason Ablin's insights into gender equity in education come alive in a riveting discussion with Heather Hester about his book, "The Gender Equation in Schools." This episode delves deep into the often-overlooked biases that exist within educational systems and the significant impact they have on students' experiences and outcomes. Ablin, who has spent over 35 years in various educational roles, brings a wealth of knowledge and personal experience to the conversation, emphasizing the need for educators to cultivate awareness and understanding of gender dynamics. The dialogue explores how traditional gender stereotypes can limit students’ potential, particularly in fields like mathematics and science, which continue to be perceived as male-dominated. Hester and Ablin advocate for a transformative approach to education, one that encourages all students, regardless of gender identity, to pursue their interests and excel in all subjects. The episode serves as a crucial reminder for educators and parents alike that fostering an inclusive environment is essential for the growth and success of every child. Ablin shares a significant moment from his early teaching career that reshaped his perspective on gender engagement in the classroom. He recounts how feedback from observers revealed his misinterpretations of student engagement, particularly among girls. What he initially perceived as high engagement was, in fact, a reflection of compliance. This realization pushed him to reevaluate his teaching methods and strive for deeper connections with all his students. Throughout the conversation, Hester and Ablin unpack the complexities of gender identity and the implicit biases that can skew educators’ perceptions of student behavior. They challenge listeners to reflect on how their own biases may influence their interactions with students and stress the importance of creating learning environments where every student feels recognized and respected. The episode further examines the critical intersection between gender identity and mental health within school settings. Ablin passionately argues that schools must serve as nurturing environments where children feel free to explore their identities without the pressure of conforming to societal norms. He points out that students are often subjected to gender boxes created by adults, which can lead to feelings of anxiety and isolation. The conversation encourages educators to embrace a more inclusive approach, fostering spaces where all expressions of gender are welcomed and celebrated. As they wrap up, Hester and Ablin emphasize the need for continuous dialogue around gender equity in education, urging listeners to become advocates for change within their own communities. This episode not only sheds light on the challenges faced by students but also inspires actionable steps toward creating a more equitable and supportive educational landscape. Takeaways:
About our Guest: Jason Ablin (@JasonAblin) is the author of The Gender Equation in Schools: How To Create Equity and Fairness For All Students. He has served as a teacher, department chair, principal, and head of school. He holds national certification in leadership coaching and mentoring from the National Association of School Principals | |||||||
| 29 Nov 2022 | Embracing Love and Boundaries: A Holiday Guide for LGBTQ Families | 00:24:14 | |||||
Navigating the complexities of parenting an LGBTQIA child during the holiday season can be challenging, especially when confronted with non-affirming relatives. Heather Hester opens the conversation with warmth and reassurance, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe space for both parents and their children. She encourages listeners to take a deep breath, reminding them that they are not alone in their experiences and struggles. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, Hester delves into how to handle difficult conversations that may arise during family gatherings. The episode provides insights into maintaining boundaries while still fostering understanding and compassion. Hester also introduces resources, including her guide on the language of LGBTQIA, aimed at demystifying the terminology often encountered in these discussions. The episode’s heart lies in its call for love, patience, and education, underscoring that the true spirit of the holidays is about cherishing moments with loved ones, despite the challenges that arise. Hester also explores the emotional landscape that parents and children navigate when facing non-affirming attitudes. She highlights the need for parents to equip themselves with facts and strategies to respond effectively while safeguarding their children's well-being. The conversation touches on the significance of recognizing the personal journeys of both the LGBTQIA child and the non-affirming family members. Hester emphasizes that understanding takes time, and she encourages listeners to approach these dialogues with grace while being prepared to set clear boundaries. By focusing on education and compassion, she helps listeners find a balance between advocating for their children and maintaining family relationships. Ultimately, the episode serves as a guide for parents, offering both emotional support and actionable steps to navigate the holiday season with confidence and love. Takeaways:
Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and... | |||||||
| 19 Apr 2022 | Manifesting Your Desired Outcome with Candy Motzek | 00:44:43 | |||||
To fully feel the human experience we have to be able to overcome the fears and feelings that we innately avoid. In today’s conversation, our guest, Candy Motzek discusses how we are so influenced by our thoughts and the feelings behind them that it does not allow us to connect to others in a way that is mutually beneficial. Self-awareness is key and Candy shares some strategies on how we can recognize our thoughts and feelings and create the actions that will create our outcomes. Do not miss these highlights: 03:27 - Discover how Candy came into coaching and even more specifically, coaching other coaches. 09:08 - Listening to the words of someone is one thing but when you can watch and listen, you can gain a whole being perspective and learn much more about the person 13:34 - Utilizing the car as a way to create a safer environment for conversations to happen with your teen. 16:43 - Part of the life journey is fear and we all need to accept that it is just an emotion and accept it as part of life, not try to avoid it. 22:44 - Fear does not differentiate between physical and emotional danger 24:12 - Candy shares a technique to help you clear your thoughts, understand how they make you feel, and maybe feel more centered in your day. 27:38 - “Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions, and the sum of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, create your life and create your outcome.” 32:24 - A process to look at how to understand our feelings behind the thoughts. 38:38 - Helping children at any age to understand their feelings allows them to have a more full human experience. Resources Mentioned Candy’s Podcast - She Coaches Coaches About our Guest: Candy is a podcast host, author, and life & business coach for coaches. She believes that coaching transforms lives. She helps coaches get unstuck and feel more confident so they can play bigger, sign clients and create more meaningful success. She is a 'recovering' corporate executive and engineer who combines practical strategy and mindset in her calming unique approach. Connect with Candy at https://stepintosuccessnow.com Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 08 Mar 2022 | The Power of Being Present with Mia Moran | 00:31:17 | |||||
As a parent, and especially if you're a mom, you know the importance of creating a safe and nurturing environment for your children. But do you do it for yourself as well? Mia Moran of Plan Simple is joining Heather today to talk about not just making sure we are providing what we need for our children’s mental health but also what we need to do for ourselves to support them. Do not miss these highlights: 02:21 - Mia shares the revelation that led her to start her health journey and create Plan Simple 03:44 - Pulling her kids out of school to go on tour teaching people how to plan simple healthy meals and how it did not impact them educationally but instead benefited their global development 09:22 - The Correlation between a parents mental health care in order to be able to teach our children to have their own healthy sense of mental health 10:58 - Taking herself to the next level in order to support her daughter who was struggling emotionally 16:26 - Being in the present really helped determine what was needed to support her 18:04 - How Mia’s work has shifted because of this experience 23:22 - The pitfall of filling your “planner” in order to be busy and not taking time for yourself and also being present for your family About our Guest: Mia Moran is a mom of three and coach who also makes time for wellness—and shows overwhelmed women how they can too. She is the host of the PlanSimple podcast, bestselling author of PlanSimple Meals, and creator of the FLOW Planning Method and Planner. Mia’s wellness adventure became a full-blown ride about 12 years ago during a health crisis when she understood the power food could have on her health, her family connection, and her productivity. That experience led her to become a student of food, wellness, spirituality, motherhood, and productivity. She experienced two unforeseen gifts from this journey. First, the practice of finding ease, despite balancing what looks like a full plate of work, home, motherhood and food. Second, the gift of a good plan. Website: https://plansimple.com Instagram: instagram.com/plansimple.co/ Podcast: Plan Simple Podcast Book: Plan Simple Meals Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! 26 Jul 2022 | Healing Your Mind, Body and Spirit To Reach Your Highest Potential with Jennifer Takagi | 00:37:54 | | ||||
This podcast episode centers on the transformative journey of Jennifer, who imparts wisdom on harnessing the power of intuition and personal purpose. We explore her evolution from a federal government employee to a soul care coach, adept at accessing Akashic Records and employing energy healing techniques. Jennifer's narrative is underscored by her profound experiences that illustrate the intricate connection between emotional healing and physical well-being. Throughout our discussion, we delve into practical strategies that individuals can implement to navigate personal challenges, particularly in the realms of stress, anxiety, and relationship dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of listening to one's inner voice and recognizing the guidance that resides within, reinforcing the notion that we possess the tools necessary for our own healing and growth. Jennifer Takagi is here to help women discover the power of their purpose. Through tapping into your truths, listening to your intuition, and trusting yourself, Jennifer can help you unlock your fullest potential. Her big message is to start paying attention to those intuitive hits we get, as they are messages guiding you to your purpose. Join Heather and Jennifer as they cover how Jennifer got started on this path of helping heal others' energetic blocks, how to pay attention to your intuition, and how to heal your mind, body, and soul to reach your highest potential.
Do not miss these highlights: 03:37 - Snapshot into Jennifer’s life and what got her to where she is now. 06:53 – Paying attention to the signs and intuition hits. 09:23 – Whatever your belief system on receiving messages is, listen to them. 11:47 – Leadership Development Training and Spiritual Intuitive. 13:12 – Learning akashic records. 19:00 – Talking about skeptics. 23:09 – “The future of medicine is in frequencies”-Albert Einstein 30:00 – Asking your subconscious if body or emotion codes could work 33:31 – Listening to your intuition. You have more guidance within you than you give yourself credit for. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com About our Guest: Jennifer Takagi is the founder of Takagi Consulting. She is a 3X time Amazon.Com Best Selling-Author,... | |||||||
| 22 Oct 2019 | Welcome to Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen | 00:29:52 | |||||
In this inaugural episode, Heather Hester lays the framework for this exciting podcast. Who is the podcast for? What is she going to talk about? WHY is she talking about this? Filled with raw personal stories, educational information and tools, and mental shifts, Heather uses this episode as a springboard to transforming the LGBTQ conversation. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 05 Nov 2019 | Coming Out - It is a Process! | 00:39:54 | |||||
Heather Hester discusses the six stages of the Cass Model of Coming Out (coming out of the closet or coming out as gay) and shares personal experiences along the way. This episode is loaded with great information and links in the show notes to help you understand and support your teen through this process. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 05 Nov 2019 | Embracing the Messiness of it All! | 00:33:15 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester shares the story of her family's journey and outlines specific reasons why the coming out process can be messy. She encourages the listener to embrace it and gives tips and tools to help along the way. We hope you enjoy this episode as you breathe into the messiness! Hit subscribe to get new episodes right away! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 26 Nov 2019 | Parents, You Get a Process, Too! | 00:34:31 | |||||
In this episode of Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, Heather talks about the six stages that parents go through when their child comes out to them as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or any other sexual orientation or gender identity. The stages are shock, denial, guilt, expression of feelings, making decisions, and true acceptance. She explains each clearly and without judgment, weaving her own stories throughout. This episode provides insight and tools to help you through your process and on your journey! We hope you enjoy this episode as you work through your own stages! Hit subscribe to get new episodes right away! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 10 Dec 2019 | Surviving Crises with Your LGBTQ Kid During the Holidays | 00:31:22 | |||||
Appropriately timed, in this episode about surviving crises during the holidays Heather Hester shares another snippet of her personal story and gives seven strategies that worked for her. Her ultimate goal is for the listener to feel supported and like they have options and choices for working through tough times that happen to occur during this most wonderful - and most hectic - time of year! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 07 Jan 2020 | Parenting an LGBTQ Can Be Hard: Finding a Support System that Works! | 00:35:37 | |||||
In episode 6 Heather Hester discusses the different types of support available and how to find what is right for you, the parent. Loving and raising an LGBTQ teen is hard; allow yourself to be supported. Filled with personal stories, educational information and tools, and mental shifts, Heather encourages listeners to be vulnerable, explore their options, and allow themselves to be supported. She looks specifically at Faith/Spirituality, Family, Friends, and Professional Support options (ie. therapy, counseling, etc.) Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 21 Jan 2020 | Hey Parents, This is What Your LGBTQ Teen Wants You to Know! | 00:47:41 | |||||
In episode 7 Connor Hester joins his mom, Heather, for a lively and informative discussion about the different topics parents should and should discuss with their LGBTQ teen. Filled with personal stories, tips, humor, and very direct thoughts from Connor, this episode is both delightful and one you don't want to miss! Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 04 Feb 2020 | Self Care - The Ultimate Plan for Taking Care of YOU! | 00:44:35 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester discusses the importance of self-care. While massages, mani/pedis, time with friends, and exercise are all beautiful self-care strategies, Heather uses this episode to dive deep into the "whys" and "hows" of a well-rounded self-care plan. She talks about aligning the following areas: * Physical Health * Fitness * Relationships * Career * Finances * Mental Health * Spirituality Self-care is important for everyone but can be especially valuable during difficult or uncertain times. Heather discusses how self-care became vitally important as she and her husband supported Connor as he struggled with anxiety and depression as well as impulse control and dangerous behavior. She learned that she had to separate herself enough so that every minute wasn't a crisis, and sometimes remove herself altogether to refill her cup so to speak. Essentially, self-care is putting on your own oxygen mask before you assist those around you - you can only help others when you are the best version of yourself! I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 18 Feb 2020 | A Powerful Call to End Teen Suicide with Jay Reid | 00:36:48 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester shares a powerful interview with Jay Reid, a successful businessman, author, and devoted husband and father who lost his youngest child to suicide in March of 2018. His authenticity, his story, and his mission will move you to talk to your kids and join his efforts to end teen suicide. While this episode is a must-hear for all parents; parents of LGBTQ youth please know there is very valuable information here. My next episode will focus specifically on the different mental health issues our LGBTQ kids struggle with and how we can best support them. Here are the links mentioned in the show: The Trevor Project is an incredible resource for ending LBGTQ suicide. Check them out here: Trevor Project I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 03 Mar 2020 | Understanding the Mental Health of Your LGBTQ Teen | 00:33:54 | |||||
In this episode of Just Breathe, Heather Hester discusses mental health specific to our LGBTQ kids starting with some tough questions: 1. Why are depression and anxiety increasing in our kids when overall awareness is also increasing? 2. What are the underlying potential causes that ALL youth have in common? 3. What shifts are needed across the board ie. family/school/professionals? Heather takes a look at the signs and symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as statistics specific to our LGBTQ kids. She talks about the importance of awareness, and being available and then takes apart the "why" as well as the "what we can do." This episode will not only help you understand LGBTQ-specific adolescent mental health better, but it will also give you tips and information that will help you support your child. My resources page is a great place to start! I have my favorite websites, articles, and books listed here. I refer to it often, so take a look around. I also add to it monthly, so keep an eye out for new information! The Trevor Project is a go-to resource for saving young LGBTQ lives. A personal favorite, Psychology Today allows you to search for all types of therapists using different filters. Love this one! The Administration for Children and Families will allow you to search for youth and family service agencies in your region. (When in doubt, Google "youth and family services near me.") An all-around good resource, The National Alliance on Mental Illness provides a plethora of information. Connect with Heather: Join the Just Breathe Community on Patreon Give a copy of Heather's new book, Parenting with Pride. Join Heather's *free* Substack weekly newsletter Work with Heather one-on-one or bring her into your organization to speak or run a workshop! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Email: hh@chrysalismama.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 17 Mar 2020 | Faith Questions Answered with Susan Cottrell | 00:52:42 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester shares an insightful interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org, mother of 5 (2 of whom are queer), advocate, and beautiful human being. Susan shares stories with authenticity and depth of knowledge that makes you want to learn more! Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people. Listen in with an open mind and open heart! Here are the links mentioned in the show: I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 31 Mar 2020 | Faith Questions Answered Part 2 with Susan Cottrell | 00:49:13 | |||||
This episode is the conclusion of Heather Hester's interview with Susan Cottrell, founder of Freedhearts.org. More incredible information is waiting for you! Susan's message crosses all faiths, as every one of us regardless of church or cultural tradition has received messaging in our lives about LGBTQ people. Listen in with an open mind and open heart! Here are the links mentioned in the show: I would be so grateful if you would subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 14 Apr 2020 | Help Your Teen Manage Their Anxiety with Dr. Melanie McNally | 01:00:52 | |||||
Heather Hester interviews clinical psychologist Melanie McNally in this episode which is loaded with great tools and unique approaches to helping your teen or young adult manage their anxiety. In addition to working with adolescents face-to-face, Dr. McNally utilizes a unique online platform of her creation called Destination YOU. Check it out HERE! She is also the author of a coming of age novel, Counting Dragonflies, that beautifully weaves family and mental health struggles and triumphs throughout. Please subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 28 Apr 2020 | Protect Your Energy! | 00:26:36 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester returns to basics and discusses ways to protect your energy no matter what may be going on around you - a pandemic, a crisis with your child, or just the usual day-to-day ups and downs of raising teenagers! Heather first looks at identifying the different ways your energy gets sapped, and then details tips and tools for strengthening your reserves and protecting them. This resource lists five tools to help you "fill your cup" and keep it full. This article explains the science behind visualization. Here are five of Heather's current favorite affirmations (adapted from a Gabby Bernstein meditation that she loves): 1. All is well. 2. I am open to creative solutions. 3. I am guided. I am protected. I am loved. I am safe. 4. I move through my day with grace, wisdom, and light. 5. I choose to see joy. Meditations: Positive Energy (Gabby Bernstein) As always, Heather is grateful for reviews, and please forward to anyone who may benefit! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 12 May 2020 | 015 - Soul Not Skin with Jen Slumac | 01:01:10 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester interviews Jen Slumac, author of Soul Not Skin. She is a mentor, educator, performer, and producer, and is known as a hope dealer. "...care about ourselves, cherish ourselves, and learn how to honor other people's journey..." Jen is in long-term recovery from alcoholism, a coping mechanism she used to survive as a queer woman in a world that told her she didn't belong. Her captivating storytelling exudes, as well as inspires, courage. Jen's website is filled with incredible resources, and her new podcast, Just Say It, is raw, vulnerable, and real. Jen is truly engaging and refreshingly no BS! She will also be doing virtual healing circles with Susan Cottrell (episodes 11 and 12), so be sure to check those out! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 26 May 2020 | When It Feels Scary | 00:16:34 | |||||
In this short but powerful episode, Heather talks about two feelings that almost every parent of an LGBTQ child/teen/young adult experiences at some point or another - "when it feels scary" and "caring what others think." She shares personal experience and wisdom that has helped her family and her over the past three years. As always, I would be grateful for ratings and reviews so I can reach even more people who need to know that they are not alone! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 09 Jun 2020 | Differently Wired with Debbie Reber | 00:57:02 | |||||
017 - In this episode, Heather interviews Debbie Reber, NYTimes bestselling author of Differently Wired, and the creator of the Tilt Parenting Community and Tilt Parenting podcast. She is a speaker, mentor, educator, and book coach. Debbie has created 18 shifts, or what she calls tilts, to help parents navigate parenting a child who is differently wired. Although her parent audience differs in some ways from Heather's, the tilts work brilliantly whether you are parenting a child who has ADHD, sensory issues, anxiety, or lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning. "...we want to form, what I call, an uneasy alliance with that fear...so we can say, I see you, I know what you're trying to do, I appreciate you're trying to protect me - I've got this - and we want to come up with evidence for how that fear may not be true. We're trying to loosen up the grip of fear and open up to the possibility of what might be..." Debbie's website, Tilt Parenting Community, and podcast are FILLED with extraordinary resources, and her Tilt Together Facebook group is an excellent place to connect with parents. Here is the link for Todd Rose's End of Average, which Heather and Debbie discuss in detail. Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 05 Jun 2020 | Just Breathe Podcast Trailer | 00:02:32 | |||||
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| 23 Jun 2020 | Raising Hell with Julie Ferwerda | 00:56:34 | |||||
018 - In this episode, Heather interviews Julie Ferwerda, researcher and author of Raising Hell - Christianity's most controversial doctrine put under fire. This is an absolute must-hear if you've ever questioned the existence, possibility, or reality of Hell. As parents, allies, and advocates of LGBTQ kids, teens, and young adults, if we've been raised in any kind of religion, one of the first fearful thoughts that pop into our heads when our kids come out is - are they going to hell?? And for all of the LGBTQ listeners, this fear is likely times a thousand! Julie spent well over a year researching the Greek and Hebrew texts and interviewing dozens of experts to offer "compelling evidence historically, philosophically, and scripturally as to why the doctrine of hell is the biggest and most damaging deception of the modern church." Here are the links for this episode: Book - Raising Hell Spiritual Terrorism by Boyd Purcell Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 07 Jul 2020 | What Are These Boundaries You Speak Of?! An Interview with Diane Becker Part One | 00:54:51 | |||||
In this episode, Heather Hester interviews Diane Becker. She is a nationally certified juvenile treatment specialist, a licensed clinical social worker, licensed continuing education provider for social workers and professional counselors, and has been connecting with families and professionals for over 30 years. Diane and Heather have been friends for more than 15 years. The main topic of this two-part interview is the subject of boundaries - what are they? how do you set them? what do they look like in different environments? Diane emphasizes the importance of connectedness, health and safety, and family. Below is a list of the resources Diane mentions in the interview: National Crisis Hotlines International Association for Prevention of Suicide: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Domestic Violence: https://www.thehotline.org/ Find a health care provider: GLMA: health professionals advancing equality: www.glma.org Connections: Parents: PFLAG www.pflag.org Youth to 25y: Trevor Project: www.thetrevorproject.org Information: American Academy of Pediatrics: www.heatlhychildren.org Strong Family Alliance: www.strongfamilyalliance.org It Gets Better Project: www.itgetsbetter.org NAMI: National Alliance For Mental Illness: www.nami.org Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 21 Jul 2020 | What Are These Boundaries You Speak Of?! An Interview with Diane Becker Part Two | 00:39:30 | |||||
020 - This episode is part two of Heather Hester's interview with Diane Becker. Diane is a nationally certified juvenile treatment specialist, a licensed clinical social worker, licensed continuing education provider for social workers and professional counselors, and has been connecting with families and professionals for over 30 years. Diane and Heather have been friends for more than 15 years. National Crisis Hotlines International Association for Prevention of Suicide: https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Domestic Violence: https://www.thehotline.org/ Find a health care provider: GLMA: health professionals advancing equality: www.glma.org Connections: Parents: PFLAG www.pflag.org Youth to 25y: Trevor Project: www.thetrevorproject.org Information: American Academy of Pediatrics: www.heatlhychildren.org Strong Family Alliance: www.strongfamilyalliance.org It Gets Better Project: www.itgetsbetter.org NAMI: National Alliance For Mental Illness: www.nami.org If you are looking for a place to connect with other parents, family members, and friends of LGBTQ adolescents, teens, and young adults, I would love for you to be part of my private Just Breathe Community Facebook group! Please subscribe to, rate and review Just Breathe. AND, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/HeatherHester)This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 04 Aug 2020 | Connor Shares His Story - Part One | 00:46:25 | |||||
Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the first part of his story with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. Heather and Connor experimented with a new format in this episode which allowed Connor to share his thoughts and reflections with Heather responding toward the end of the episode. Connor shares:
**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares his suicide attempt, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you** Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 18 Aug 2020 | Connor Shares His Story - Part Two | 00:57:10 | |||||
Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the second part of his story with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. Connor shares:
**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares stories of substance use, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you** Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 01 Sep 2020 | Connor Shares His Story - Part Three | 00:49:10 | |||||
Heather's son Connor has returned to the mic for a three-part series! In this episode, he shares the third part of his story (taking us to the present day) with humor, vulnerability, and the ability to recount what happened then, why, and what he has learned since. Connor shares:
**TRIGGER WARNING - Connor shares stories of substance use, so please do not listen if this is a trigger in any way for you** Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 15 Sep 2020 | Highs and Lows of Our Coming Out Journey | 00:53:04 | |||||
Heather's husband, Steve, was so blown away by Connor's three episodes that he suggested a recap episode to highlight the emotional journey and lessons learned from their perspective. They both also thought it would be great for all of the resources mentioned to live in one place. Heather shares:
Resources, resources, resources!!!
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| 29 Sep 2020 | Understanding Transgender with Susan Buss, LCSW | 00:57:29 | |||||
In this episode, Heather interviews LGBTQ+ activist Susan Buss, LCSW. Susan is the president of her private practice, Big Sky Consulting, Inc where she sees adolescents and adults. She has 35 years of experience in social work, working in community agencies as well as teaching at the Master's level. In addition to psychotherapy, Susan facilitates different workshops working with transgender people, focusing on healthy dating, and overcoming hoarding. She is the proud mom of a transgender child. Susan imparts her wisdom, shedding light on and offering a basic education on gender identity, specifically the transgender experience. She shares valuable resources which are all listed below.
Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! Please subscribe to, rate, and review Just Breathe. And, as always, please share with anyone who needs to know they are not alone! Support Heather's Work: https://linktr.ee/chrysalismama This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 13 Oct 2020 | Depression Awareness 101 with Maureen Kebo | 00:56:24 | |||||
In this episode, Heather highlights Depression Awareness Month in an interview with Maureen Kebo. Maureen is a well-being therapist and is certified in the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) which is a cutting-edge model for addressing attachment, relational, and developmental trauma. On a personal level, Maureen is extraordinarily special to Heather because she is her therapist of 5+ years. Maureen imparts her wisdom, shedding light on and offering a basic education on depression especially as it relates to LGBTQ youth. This interview is packed with valuable information and strategies that can be implemented right away. Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 27 Oct 2020 | Struggling for 2020 Vision with Kirsten Beverley-Waters | 00:58:14 | |||||
In this episode, Heather chats with Kirsten Beverley-Waters about her new book, Struggle Guru. Kirsten is a fitness instructor, devoted yogi, personal growth champion and coach, and LGBTQ public speaker. The guiding principles she shares come from decades of personal experience as well as experience coaching others. You will love finding out how to access your struggle guru because if 2020 has taught us nothing else it is that we all struggle! You will also learn how to adjust your internal compass. Everything Kirsten and Heather discuss can be found on Kirsten's website - www.kbwaters.com. Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 10 Nov 2020 | A Dad's Perspective - A Conversation with Steve | 00:57:07 | |||||
This episode is Just Breathe's one-year anniversary episode! Heather's husband Steve joins her (finally!) to share his perspective of the past four years. He opens up with incredible vulnerability and offers meaningful wisdom and advice. Steve welcomes any questions and can be reached at shester@hesterdecorating.com. Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 24 Nov 2020 | The Transgender Experience: One Woman's Journey | 01:20:24 | |||||
Heather interviews Rochelle Pattison in this episode and it is packed with emotion, education, "a-ha" moments, and large doses of reality and love in equal measure! Rochelle shares her journey as a transgender woman with refreshing transparency. Her reflection on her life and the decisions that brought her to where she is now will not only increase your understanding but also make you want to cheer! "Time is limited. Seize the moments to be accepting while we have them and be open...and be seen to be open." Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 08 Dec 2020 | How To Be A Good LGBTQ Ally | 00:20:33 | |||||
In this episode, Heather shares seven tips for being a good ally and why being a good ally to your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer loved one is so important. 1. Be a good listener 2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do your own research 3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable 4. Speak up 5. Support equality 6. Learn the language 7. Offer financial support if you are able Resources mentioned in the episode: GLSEN - www.glsen.org The Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.org SAGE - www.sage.org How to be an LGBTQ Ally - Next Avenue LGBTQ Ally Tips - UCDavis LGBTQIA Resource Center Ways to be an LGBTQ Ally and Supporter - Oprah Magazine Being an Ally - Youth for Change What a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like - Vox Terminology glossaries - Human Rights Campaign, Lambda Legal, The Trevor Project, PLFAG Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 05 Jan 2021 | How Do Hard Times Help Us Heal? An Interview with Kevin Nahai | 01:25:39 | |||||
In this episode, Heather interviews life coach Kevin Nahai. Faced with extraordinary mental health and physical health challenges as a teen and young adult, Kevin tried many paths before digging into and healing the roots of his struggles. Through his journey, he created his own approach and methodology for whole-body wellness. He is now a coach for young adults working with them on: * self-esteem and confidence * body image * anxiety and depression * dating and relationships His quest is bridging the gap between what we know in our heads and feel in our hearts. Kevin shares so many wonderful nuggets that can help all of us on our journeys! You can find Kevin through Instagram @KevinNahai Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 19 Jan 2021 | Parenting an LGBTQ Teen - Buckle Your Seatbelt! | 00:26:29 | |||||
In this episode, Heather responds to a listener's request for more information on changes during the coming-out process. She approaches her answer from two angles: 1. reviewing the stages of the coming out process 2. sharing specific instances from her family's experience Connor and Steve weigh in as well with thoughtful responses from two very different perspectives. Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 02 Feb 2021 | A Gay Man's Guide to Life with Britt East | 01:03:16 | |||||
In this episode, Heather interviews author and speaker, Britt East. While Britt's book, "A Gay Man's Guide to Life," is written for gay men by a gay man - it is an engaging, informative read that really sheds light on understanding gay men for those of us who are raising one! Heather and Britt discuss societal homophobia, sustainable gay friendships, hook-up apps, and so much more! Britt offers meaningful advice for those of us who love and/or are raising LGBTQ kids: "When you ask 'What can I do?' ask instead, 'Who can I be?'" In one of the most powerful segments, Heather and Britt discussed the importance of modeling our humanity, "...find a path to set down your trauma and heal so they can witness that healing in you, and thereby heal part of themselves..." To gain a better understanding of the LGBTQ+ experience, Britt recommends brushing up on your LGBTQ history. Here are a few books to get you started: Learn more about Britt HERE Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||
| 17 Feb 2021 | Hard Days Suck | 00:12:35 | |||||
This short episode packs a punch! Heather candidly shares some recent experiences and her thoughts on hard days, as well as the serendipitous discovery of an article by one of her favorite thought leaders, Brene Brown. HERE is a link to Ms. Brown's website and HERE is a link to one of her podcasts, Unlocking Us. Heather also shares a mini-lesson on self-compassion, using an incredible resource from Positive Psychology as a guide. HERE is a helpful daily checklist! Connect with Heather: Solutions listed on her website: https://chrysalismama.com For the Language of LGBTQIA+ E-book, visit: https://learnwith.chrysalismama.com/book Digital Coming Out Course for Parents - Text Ally to 55444 to get Heather's "My kid just came out and I'm freaking out!" Toolkit! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Blubrry - https://create.blubrry.com/resources/about-blubrry/privacy-policy | |||||||