Is Our Love ____? with Lola Jean & The Reluctant Sexpert (Lola Jean & Stephen Penta)
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| 15 May 2019 | Is Our Love Digital? : App Flirting In The Modern Age | 01:08:27 | |
It's official: We live in the future & date via robots. In the age of fuckbois and ghosts, Stephen and Lola explore how dating apps have changed both the dating landscape as well as hookup culture. How do we use dating apps and are they a tool for good or evil? Which apps are better for dating versus hooking up? What are the rules of app etiquette? This week the sexperts struggle with love in the time of technology. PLUS Stephen and Lola go full on 'Freaky Friday' with their Bumble flirt game. Ya'know... for sex science. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The 'Is Our Love____?' Theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com and this week's end of episode song is one of our classic favs: Connie Francis- 'Love Is Where You Find It' | |||
| 09 Oct 2019 | Is Our Love Masochistic (with Pro Sub Indygo Ann) | 01:17:29 | |
Our BDSM trilogy continues on Is Our Love?! After a few weeks of Dommes, we head to the other side of the spectrum and dive deep into sub space with this week’s guest: Indygo Ann. Indygo is a PRO SUB. Yeah, we’re capitalizing it, ‘cause they’re the unsung heroes of dungeons far and wide. But just because she’s a sub, does she actually enjoy her sessions with clients the same as with a partner? How does one keep themselves safe as a masochist? Whether you’re a Daddy or a Dad, a Mister or a Master, how do you get down with what your partner is into? PLUS, we get to the bottom of: what’s the deal with the hate on male Doms? Follow Indygo Ann on Instagram: @indygo_ann ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is LAKEHOUSE "Fare Thee Well" (which... super loving this new EP) | |||
| 01 Apr 2020 | Is Our Love A Private Public Figure (with Fetish Fellow) | 01:24:49 | |
In a world that isn’t wildly accepting of sexuality, kink, or anything that falls out of heteronormativity can be a scary thing to reveal to folx. Will they accept you? Shame you? Fire you? And if it goes long enough does keeping the secret become the bigger deal? Fetish Fellow is as public a private person can be. As an adored and go-to photo shoot submissive, Fetish Fellow has been in his share of masked displays. The modern day superhero removes his mask to join us to talk about his time in front of the camera as an introvert and rule-follower and what he’s learned along the way. Follow Fetish Fellow on instagram: @fellowfetish If you're finding yourself in need sex, love or relationship advice... or just some old fashioned digital human contact in quarantined times: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "You Are My Sexual Connection" by Sexual Harassment | |||
| 31 Jul 2019 | Is Our Love A Multi-Orgasmic Man (Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms with Dominus Eros) | 01:26:01 | |
No greater sex goal has plagued man more than the non-ejaculatory orgasm. Ok... well maybe not, but unless you’ve been living under a 'fuck' rock, chances are you’ve heard of The Multi-Orgasmic Man. Sometimes thought only to only be achieved by tantric yogi’s meditating in mountains (and livestreaming to youtube), Dominus Eros is here to clear the air. Whether you're a full on guru seeking that sweet 8 hour Sting-esque fucksesh, or a skeptical realist hoping to practically up your game, Dominus breaks down his two paths to achieving internal orgasms so you can find your own toe curling sexual experience. You can find Dominus' classes and workshops: Books Mentioned this Episode: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is White Reaper "Real Long Time" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 22 Jul 2020 | Is Our Love A Male Dom? (with Master Peter) | 01:23:13 | |
Why are femme Dominatrizes more prevalent and heralded than masc Doms? Is there a stigma against masc Doms, particularly cis-male Doms? We discuss why that is and what you can do about it on our latest episode with Master Peter. From swing dancing to switch hitting, Master Peter got into the business sideways and now he is firing from all cylinders. From his time as dungeon monitor, personal relationships, and his clients both couples and singles alike, you’re going to want to learn what puts Master Peter as the creme de la creme and why he is so often sought out in the London scene. Speaking of scenes, Master Peter’s signature teaching tool is gentle dominance. Learn how partnered dance and partnered play have more in common thank you’d think and how YOU can be a better dominant and a better partner. You can find Master Peter at: masterpeter.co.uk If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Miss Kittin "Life Is My Teacher" | |||
| 26 Feb 2020 | Is Our Love Positive? (with HIV Advocate Philipp Spiegel) | 01:06:13 | |
This week on Is Our Love we explore the positive side of being positive. Advocate Philipp Speigel shares his personal stories from reliving his HIV diagnosis, depression, and processing to ultimately becoming a speaker and advocate through owning his positive status. Where it was once thought of as a death sentence, treatment and management for HIV has come leaps and bounds. Do you know what undetectable means? How educated are you on HIV transmission? How often are you getting tested snd how often should you? Take it from Lola and probably Schoolhouse Rock: knowledge is power and getting tested is easy and affordable (and often free.) For testing resources in your area just google your local government funded sexual health clinic or Planned Parenthood. You can find more information about Philipp's art & advocacy at philipp-spiegel.com We love hearing from you for questions, resources, or advice: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "Sacred Scales" by Light Beams | |||
| 12 Jun 2019 | Is Our Love DICKS! with Zachary Zane | 01:10:29 | |
Peen. Cock. Dick. A penis by another other name....well, you get the idea: we’re talking about dicks this week. Zachary Zane joins us to give his unique perspective on hooking up with gay men and straight women and how they differ when it comes to dicks. What makes a pretty penis? And we take a stab at the age old question: does size matter? From early ED to meat market sauna debauchery, Zackary spares no detail in our quest to uncover the universal truths to the peen. PLUS We dig into a fan email about mismatching romantic feelings. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback I couldn't resist: Ida Maria "I Like You So Much Better When You're Naked." | |||
| 30 Oct 2019 | Pass The Porn Takeover: Sex Magick | 01:11:29 | |
What witch, wizard or sorcerer would you want to fuck? It’s Halloween and we’re still not sure if we want to channel our sexual energy for good or for evil. This week we’re not question what our love is or isn’t. Instead, we’re taking you on a journey through space and time to our Pass the Porn event. Nope, no recordings of the porn sounds here, you’ll need to head to our next event for that! What happens when we get a Witch, a Wizard, a Shamanatrix and a Porn Performer on a panel? Tune in to find out! Featuring: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Twin Temple "I Am A Witch." | |||
| 26 Aug 2020 | Is Our Love Represented in Film? (with Nia Ashley) | 01:18:25 | |
What role does film and media play in our love and in our lives? Does culture reflect film or vice versa? This week we are joined by the charismatic Nia Ashley who takes us on her film journey and the media that impacted her life. We reflect on what happened to the era of UPN series and why TV has taken one step forward and three steps back. Nia helps us navigate if we can still love art and artists that we now see through problematic glasses. Nia represents a burgeoning generation eager to create the narratives they so sorely missed. Find Nia's work at niaashley.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is Thao & The Get Down Stay Down "Pure Cinema" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 13 May 2020 | Is Our Love Non Monogamous? (w Ruby Rare) | 01:21:29 | |
Does it seem like everyone is talking about open relationships and polyamory lately? Is non-monogamy actually better? Who is it for? Does non-monogamy mean you have more sex? And why does it have so many syllables? Ruby Rare joins us this week to spell out the shades of non-monogamy from A-Z. Whether you’re already considering non-monogamy or you want some applicable learnings for your future relationships, this episode has relatable bits of wisdom for everyone - monogamous or not. PLUS, Stephen, Lola and Ruby give some advice to a pleasure seeking individual struggling to achieve orgasm with a partner. Follow Ruby on Instagram: @rubyrare If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback: The Rapture "Open Up Your Heart" | |||
| 30 Sep 2020 | Is Our Love Sex Education? (with Cameron Glover) | 01:07:45 | |
An Educator for Sex Educators? A more and more common question these days as more sexuality professionals emerge is: “How can I do that too?” The road to becoming a sexuality professional is murky. Even murkier is how to make that career or side-hustle a viable one. Enter Cameron Glover, whose goal is to make your sex ed business as successful as it can be with the Sex Ed Business Academy. Certifications, training programs, mentorship...there isn’t one go-to path for all individuals. What makes a Sex Educator good at their job? What makes them “official” and who are we waiting for to grant us those titles? Cameron has us question who content is made for and why so many people have imposter syndrome. Whether you’re interested in the sex-ed field or not, Cameron lays down some business advice that’s applicable for everyone. For more of Cameron's work & info on the Sex Ed Business Academy: cameronglover.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is Fuck Buttons, "Red Wing" | |||
| 24 Jul 2019 | Is Our Love A Safer Space? (Gamifying Your Orgy w Robin Scott) | 01:11:05 | |
Exploring sex and love is all fine and dandy but where are we doing all this uber progressive sexploration? Safe(r) spaces are crucial to creating sex positive communities (and sex positive humans)... and Robin Scott is creating some of the most fun, progressive events around. This week, Robin shares how a Roman fertility fest of slapping goat flesh on nubile virgins inspired the gamified orgy that became Eutopia Rising. Even if getting filthy with sticky buns at "THE GREAT BROOKLYN BOINK OFF" isn't your scene, we know you're going to take some of Robin's sexual gameducation back to your bedroom. EUTOPIA-RISING.ORG - for more info & Robin's upcoming events ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, ESG "My Love For You." Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 19 Feb 2020 | Is Our Love Forever Vol.2 (w Lorrae Bradbury: founder of Slutty Girl Probs) | 01:18:01 | |
Between breakups, makeups and all that unfolds in between we’ve all had our uglier moments. Lorrae of Slutty Girl Probs fame walks us through the best of times and the worst of times and how learning from those moments has helped her grow and learn more about herself and the types of relationships she needs. Lorrae and Stephen bond over seeing themselves as the problem child in the aftermath of a breakup, while Lola questions why most people tend to always make a villain out of their ex. PLUS Lorrae discusses how understanding her mental health takes part in how she processes breakups and look for future partners. Do you have questions or wanna share all your fucked up breakup feels? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com Follow Lorrae and hire her for coaching at sluttygirlproblems.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "Door" by Nice As Fuck. | |||
| 04 Dec 2019 | Is Our Love A Violent Hug? (Wrestling Fetish with Ursa Fierce) | 01:07:45 | |
Sometimes love feels like a struggle, but sometimes… maybe we want it too? Wrestling fetish is the biggest craze you’ve never heard about and it’s a lot more common than you think. Before we throw down, we sit with professional fetish wrestler Ursa Fierce to talk about the primal-ness, competitive, and smothering nature of this sport. From pro-style antics to the Butt-Fights you won't want to miss. Ursa explains how wrestling gave her a new perspective on her body and what the sport, the fetish, and the community has taught her. Oh yeah, and then she wipes the fucking floor with Stephen's face, LIVE! Follow Ursa Fierce on twitter: @UrsaFierce If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "Doggg" by SebastiAn | |||
| 19 Jun 2019 | Is Our Love (master)BATIN' (with the Bate' Coach!) | 01:07:57 | |
Where do we learn to masturbate? How do we know if what we’re doing is enough and how would we get better at it? Masturbation coaching is a thing and we sat down with none other than The Bate Coach to discuss his methods of changing men’s relationship with how they view masturbation and getting off in general. Whether you scream to slayer in your car or you like to lift heavy things, everyone’s got a different thing. The Bate Coach provides a glimpse into gay spaces and makes us ponder if straight spaces could handle it. PLUS, Stephen and Lola get heated about normalizing nudity in safer spaces. You can find the Bate Coach's events on Daddyretreat.com & Meetup.com If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is just crushing the innuendo game: Sunflower Bean "Come For Me." Our theme songs are by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com. | |||
| 25 Mar 2020 | Is Our Love A Threesome? | 01:40:17 | |
This week we ironically tackle threesomes as a twosome. Threesomes are often one of the first boxes on people’s sexual bucket lists, but are they all they’re cracked up to be? Stephen and Lola weigh the pro’s and con’s on adding a third, and trade some of their best (and worst) threesome tales. What makes a good threesome? What does a 'unicorn' mean? And what you need to know before you decide to have a threesome. Consider this your no-holds-bared, non-romanticized straight shooting guide to threesomes. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Against All Logic: "Fantasy" | |||
| 29 Jul 2020 | Is Our Love Patient? (with Mistress Eva Oh) | 01:15:45 | |
Is Our Love Particular? Does our love even know what it wants? Whether you’re ideal pairing is in pay-for-play, a long term partner, or your career we could all take a few notes from Mistress Eva Oh (@youwillplease_me) in patience and consistency. Enter this week’s episode bursting with logic. Mistress Eva Oh has a particular list of her small life's pleasures and knows exactly how to go about getting them... or punish shortcomings. We could all learn a thing or two from Eva Oh when it comes to being patient and getting satisfaction. You can find Eva Oh and all her work on eva-oh.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Tiny Deaths "If I'm Dreaming" | |||
| 08 Apr 2020 | Is Our Love Stoya (Pt. 1) | 01:02:41 | |
Stoya. A person who needs no introduction but we’re going to attempt it anyway. The next two episodes of Is Our Love ____? is a uniquely intimate conversation between ex’s about mutual shared history, sex, love, life, and how we can all keep trying to improve. If you'd like advice on sex, love, or relationships you can always email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ... (PS it's worth reminding that you can also email Stoya & her advice column 'How To Do It' at howtodoit@slate.com) You can find Stoya's explicit media and first 2 issues at Zerospaces.com. Our crossover Podcast episode on Unicorns will be part of the upcoming issue #3. You can also follow her @stoya on twitter and instagram. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The recurring musical theme this episode is Innerpartysystem "This Empty Love," (The video mentioned still exists on youtube) | |||
| 23 Oct 2019 | Is Our Love Vaginal Pain? (w Emily Sauer, Founder Of OhNut) | 01:29:15 | |
This week we're hitting where it hurts…...in the vagina? Sometimes our love involves vaginas, but what happens when that love is...painful? Whose responsibility is it? Do we push through it? Avoid it at all costs? Denial? This week we talk about the often experienced but lesser validated ambiguity that is vaginal pain. Emily from OhNut joins us to share how she stumbled upon her calling and how a pink frosted donut changed her life. Find out why doctors are saying “Fuck Yes” to a solution created by a patient. For info and to purchase an OhNut: ohnut.co ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Sarah Vaughan "Make Yourself Comfortable" | |||
| 16 Sep 2020 | Is Our Love A Dirty Word (with Erotic Author Peekaboo Collins) | 01:08:25 | |
For all of the visual stimuli we are bombarded with and lack of sexual communication it’s no wonder we are ill equipped to whisper sweet nothings into our persons ear. Enter: Peekaboo Collins. Whether it’s poetry or short stories, Peekaboo weaves a web of syllables and phrases of the lead up, and the in-betweens of every scintillating moment. We learn that not all erotica has to depict fantasy, and how we can rewrite our own stories in the best possible light….if we want. From the bathroom blowjob that never happened to a built up childhood crush that ultimately leads to being disappointed, everyone has one of those stories that we’ve romanticized or dreamt better than reality. Peekaboo chose to write about it. What are you waiting for, time to finish your own story or create a new one. You can find Peekaboo's work at peekaboocollins.com and @peekaboocollins If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice (or just want to share a story) ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is Peaches "Talk To Me" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 28 Aug 2019 | Is Our Love a One Night Stand? | 01:38:03 | |
No conversation about sex is complete without talking about the one night stand. So commonplace its earned its own abbreviation: ONS. One-night standspert MOMO (@momosinmieda) joins Stephen and Lola as we break down what constitutes a one night stand. Are one night stands inherently bad & what can be done to improve them? With vivid stories from one night stands past, present, and maybe even the future, Momo and Lola bond over shared ghosts and Stephen gets to the bottom of why cis-dudes are so susceptible to becoming ghosts. PLUS: We tackle fantasy habits in our listener questions. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show, Email us! isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is THE DETROIT COBRAS "Bad Girl" | |||
| 25 Sep 2019 | Is Our Love Kinky? (w/ Mistress Nikita Reign) | 01:15:13 | |
If being kinky is a spectrum from a simple roleplay all the way to chastity and eternal servitude, where does a new Pro Domme (Dominatrix) fall into it? Kicking off a string of BDSM focused guests is someone on the newer side of Pro Domming, but who is no stranger to smut. Mistress Nikita Reign is a true performance artist. From peep shows to titty bars to her latest medium: Domination. We talk to Nikita about the difference between Pro Domming in Australia versus the U.S., the role of community within sex work, and why strippers should thinking about having QR codes on their G-Strings. PLUS we answers a listener Q about what to do when you think your partner is depressed. For everything Mistress Nikita Reign: nikitareign.com Tickets for the Oct 1st Pass the Porn event at House of Yes are available at houseofyes.org ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is our favorite BDSM themed Bowie tune: "I Would Be Your Slave" | |||
| 18 Mar 2020 | Is Our Love Financially Stable? (with Lindsay Goldwert) | 01:27:49 | |
This week we take a break from our social distancing to talk about something other than coronavirus. To bring up spirits we decided it would be a great time to discuss personal finances! Totally kidding... we just recorded this episode pre-virus outbreak. In all seriousness, finances are a tricky topic regardless of global pandemic, and what a better time to reassess our relationship with sex, love and money than now. Lindsay Goldwert, author of Bow Down: Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want joins us to talk about cash, workplace power dynamics, and if pro dommes hold the answers to getting what you want in business. Follow Lindsay Goldwert on insta: @lindsay_goldwert, If you're finding yourself with unexpected quarantine time and need sex, love or relationship advice... or just some old fashioned digital human contact: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "Unsatisfied" by The Replacements because I've got a case of the pandemic *fuckits* and have been listening to the Replacements. | |||
| 05 Jun 2019 | Does Our Love start with Cunnilinugs? (w/ Alison Moon) | 01:11:00 | |
What’s with the illustrious “v” word? Learn the difference between a Vagina and a Vulva and why knowing that will make you a better lover (and, likely... person.) This week Allison Moon (Author of Girl Sex 101 & Bad Dyke) helps us with R&D on all things vulva. Join our own Vulvapalooza as we discuss the ups and downs of having a vulva and why we need to continuously learn our partners bodies--even in long term relationships. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The 'Is Our Love____?' theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com. This weeks' end of episode song is Our Girl with their self-titled song "Our Girl." | |||
| 06 May 2020 | Is Our Love A Pelvic Floor (w/ Dr. Rachel Gelman) | 01:28:33 | |
Did you know you have a pelvic floor? Yes, all of you. Do you know what is does? Spoiler Alert: EVERYTHING. Rachel Gelman a San Francisco based Pelvic Floor Therapist joins us this week to tell us everything from the 411 on kegals to why a good bowel movement can make your week. Whether you had no idea that the hammock in your pelvis was responsible for your orgasms AND your urination or you’ve been trying to kegel your way to the heavy weights - there’s always something new to learn. Trust us: you’re going to want to get a notebook for this ep. PLUS Stephen, Lola, and Rachel give some advice to a vortex of vaginal odor & erectile difficulty shame. You can find the extensive list of resources Rachel mentioned here: As always, if you're finding yourself in need sex, love or relationship advice : ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is the Soulwax remix of Hot Chip's "Ready For The Floor" | |||
| 02 Oct 2019 | Is Our Love Full Of Shit? (w Mistress Shayla) | 01:30:53 | |
If our love is full of shit, how much confidence does it take to throatfuck that shit in someone’s mouth? Wait….what? You never asked… we answered, and the answer is this weeks’ guest: Mistress Shayla. A charismatic Texas sadist with a heart of gold. Shayla is seasoned in many areas of FemDom but where her heart shines brightest is when someone is covered in her sweet, sweet excrement. How does one get into pooping on people and why? What do her submissives get out of it and what does she enjoy most. Shayla answers the timeless question: after you’ve used someone’s mouth as a toilet, is there anything in life you can’t do? PLUS, we answer listener questions about how to find someone who is into the thing that you’re into! Follow Mistress Shayla @YesMissShayla on Twitter & Instagram ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is the fucking Carpenters: "Top of The World" ... because it really is the perfect ending to this perfect episode. | |||
| 12 Feb 2020 | Is Our Love High? with Sophie St. Thomas | 01:21:09 | |
Move over stoner comedies and Bob Marley posters, cannabis has a new sheriff in town…. Sophie St Thomas! This week on Is Our Love we have the most responsible conversation about drugs with the famed author of Finding Your Higher Self and upcoming books Sex Witch and The Little Book of CBD for Self Care. Sophie takes us through her journey from her decision to become sober to her battle with PTSD, flashbacks and her journey to healing through Cannabis and other substances. PLUS we get into some witchy shit and Stephen adds 50 black candles to his amazon shopping cart. Are you stoned and want to email us with your sex questions? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com Follow Sophie St. Thomas on instagram and twitter: @thebowiecat ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Music this week is Pure Magic 'I Get High' and Bongripper 'Satan'
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| 18 Apr 2019 | The very first episode: Is Our Love F**ked? | 00:54:21 | |
Everyone and their grandmother seems to be giving sex advice these days. So who can you actually trust? Sex Educator/Olympian Squirter Lola Jean (@lolajeandotcom) and Reluctant Sexpert/resident straight dude, Stephen Penta (@thereluctantsexpert) tow both sides of the line, Stephen representing the hopeless romantic to fulfill greater sexual desires and Lola Jean representing the sex forward, alpha female unable to grasp love. Do *you* need sex & relationship advice? Email us at: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The 'Is Our Love____?' official theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com (thank you! WE. LOVE. IT. AND. YOU!) and this week's end of episode tune is "Love - Everybody's Gotta Live" | |||
| 18 Dec 2019 | Is Our Love A Resolution? | 00:45:53 | |
On our last episode of 2019, we take a look back on our favorite episodes of the year and also discuss our take on “Resolutions.” What’s the deal with benchmarks and why do we put so much weight into the changing of the years? Find out what Stephen and Lola are looking forward to in 2020 and what they’re leaving behind in 2019. Most of all, thank you for listening and we look forward to bringing you even more in 2020. If you have any episode requests or are seeking advice of your own this coming year, reach out to us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song is Daniel Johnston "True Love Will Find You In The End," | |||
| 16 Oct 2019 | Is Our Love A Cold Sore? (Herpes Etc. W Sexologist Emily Depasse) | 01:15:45 | |
What a week to have our first guest on to talk STI’s and we’re kicking things off with the black sheep of the STI fam: Herpes. We get honest with our personal HSV stories: both contracting, spreading, and having in all it’s various formats. This weeks guest explains why people are so socially wired to freak out about Herpes and how discerning between HSV 1 and HSV 2 can add weight to that stigma. Busting myths and forging research, sexologist Emily Depasse is changing the way we talk about and frame a herpes diagnosis. Come one, come all, and give us your cold sore (stories.) Spoiler alert: it’s herpes… it’s always herpes. PLUS, Lola has Gonorrhea this week and she’s blabbing all about her first STI. You can find Emily at: emilydepasse.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Blossom Dearie "Boum"
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| 17 Jul 2019 | Is Our Love Forever Vol. 1 | 01:19:39 | |
We're finally tackling our first LOVE spectacular! Is there a reason we're inherently attracted to the “wrong” people? How do you date for love vs. date for sport? This week, Stephen takes the wheel as the resident hopeless romantic as we're joined by Bobby, who knows a thing or three about love. Two men discuss falling in and out of love, while resident relationship virgin Lola Jean searches for answers. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Julia Jacklin "Good Guy" | |||
| 15 Jul 2020 | Is Our Love A Dungeon? (with Mistress Adreena) | 01:30:49 | |
What is a dungeon and are they all created similarly? We speak with all around sex worker Adreena Angela on how she doesn’t follow all the rules from curating her studio space, how she interacts with clients, and the controversial stance on if Dommes take their tits out. Dungeons and sex work isn’t as scary as you would think and Adreena pulls back the veil to let you know some of the best -- and worst messages and experiences she has in her decorated career. PLUS Adreena, Lola and Stephen answer a listener q from a couple interested in approaching a sex worker for a session. Find out all the etiquette and ways to go about making your fantasies a reality, yes….even in Florida. You can find more about Mistress Adreena and Inanna Studio at mistressadreena.co.uk If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Moses Sumney "Cut Me" | |||
| 20 Nov 2019 | Is Our Love a Cumversation? (with Remy Kassimir) | 01:15:33 | |
This week’s guest knows a thing or two about talking sex stuff in public. Remy Kassimir is the comedian cum role model who still worries if people think she’s cool. Remy joins us to talk about the funny thing that happens when you share your sex life on a global scale. From her first orgasm to managing social responsibility while cracking jokes to going way too hypothetical on how to manage a breakup on a podcast. PLUS, why Hitler would have benefitted from air pulsation technology. You can find links to How Cum and see Remy's live dates on: If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is... Just listen. You know what it is ;) | |||
| 07 Aug 2019 | Is Our Love Codependent w/ Rachel Khints | 01:33:39 | |
If codependency is a spectrum, where is a healthy place to sit? How can you tell if your relationship is in equilibrium or codependent AF? Are you in-love or enmeshed? This week we sit down with Rachel Khints, who specializes in treating codependency with a focus on group therapy. We learn the correlation between codependency treatment and Al-anon as well as where codependent tendencies typically come from. Starting with esteeming ourselves. Rachel walks us through the five compartments of codependency and the process of slowly chipping away in order to move mountains. PLUS opening up relationships in the listener Q's! You can find Rachel's practice at: http://www.rachelkhints.com/ If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us! Esteem Us! : isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is SWAIN "But Then What?" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 23 Sep 2020 | Is Our Love A World Of F**K (with Erotica Writer and Sex Toy Inventor Tabitha Rayne) | 01:24:21 | |
This week we continue our venture into the world of literotica with someone who can not only call themselves an erotica writer but a sex toy inventor as well. Tabitha Rayne is a decorated writer who draws more on fiction than reality. Penning her dirty words as a way to finesse typing and molding her own rideable toy as a means to get off while her fingers flowed, Tabitha quite literally continues to fall into success. Tabitha brings the fun back into saying, writing and reading certain words. We grill Tabitha on where the bridge between written and spoken dirty words--if at all, how you can get into writing your own smut, and how to use erotica in your own life. PLUS, we continue to ask the age old question: Why were people always hiding porn magazines in bushes? You can find all of Tabitha's work on tabitharayne.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice (or just want to share a story) ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is LAPS "Mojo" | |||
| 11 Sep 2019 | Is Our Love Intimate (with Sex Therapist Cyndi Darnell) | 01:24:54 | |
In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some butt stuff with a listener email. With so many great nuggets from this weeks episode perhaps the most poignant is: Ask not only what do you want, but what can you offer. You can find Cyndi's work, digital courses, or contact her for sessions at: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Qveen Herby "Sade In The 90s" | |||
| 11 Mar 2020 | Is Our Love A Genital Rainbow? (w/ Jessy Caron and Rebekah Frank) | 01:11:55 | |
This week, Is Our Love welcomes the gals of the “Welcome To My Vagina” podcast into *our* podcast vagina which is probably... anal? From hashtag#wellness-ing everything, to the reasons why we faked or continue to fake orgasms, Jessy & Rebekah trade genital war stories. We are overcoming our Listen to Jessy & Rebekah on Welcome To My Vagina (on all pod platforms) Questions? Advice? Rainbows? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Jan & Dean "Pocket Full of Rainbows" | |||
| 10 Jul 2019 | Is our Love Bisexual? | 01:15:33 | |
Is bisexuality a 50/50 split or is it a bit more complicated than that. Join us for all the confusion from the bicurious to the biphobic, we discuss all sides of the Kinsey scale and question if straight is built out of fear, ignorance or a definite identity. Julia Koerwer, MSW, joins us to drop knowledge on bisexuality as a demisexual dating an aromantic. Confused, yet? Experiment and question your identity on this weeks’ episode where we talk about everything from Harry Potter erotica to exploring surprising experiences with the same gender later in one’s sexual life. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Tacocat "New World" | |||
| 03 Jul 2019 | Is Our Love CockDependent? (Body Acceptance With Jojo Bear) | 01:27:57 | |
When it comes to body acceptance, bodies with penises tend to focus on just that: PENISES. And as our guest--and current person we’re fangirling over--Jojo Bear puts it: while a part of the body but it tends to be the part of the body we focus on the most. How does one’s relationship with their penis relate to one’s relationship with their body? How does one begin to tackle what they view as “issues.” Jojo Bear introduces us to Soft Cock Massage and PreJac and questions why much of our sex revolves around a hard cock. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Fatherson "Gratitude" | |||
| 29 May 2019 | Is Our Love a First Kiss? | 01:20:29 | |
Your eyes connect... you lean in with that 'look'... but are you getting butterflies or just slammin' faces? What makes a good kiss and can you up your game? Is a kiss connection chemical, or a skill? This week we're joined by real life couple and kissing comrades Kat and Gerard who have both kissed their fair share of men and women for play and for work. Professional kissing. Kat and Gerard discuss the difference between acting kissing and kissing for funsies. PLUS we all slam faces and makeout... FOR SCIENCE. It’s as every bit awkward and exciting as your own first kiss. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The 'Is Our Love____?' Theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com. Our makeout theme is Francis Lai "Un Homme Et Une Femme" and end of episode throwback jam is Syl Sylvain and the Teardrops "Just One Kiss." | |||
| 18 Sep 2019 | Is Our Love Body Conscious? (Sex After An Eating Disorder w/ Devon Day Moretti) | 01:30:57 | |
With all of the positive strides modern media is making with showcasing different types of bodies and faces, it can feel like body positivity is a simple compliment away, right? It’s not always as easy as telling yourself “I Love You” specifically if that negativity is rooted in insecurity and esteeming through others. *cough* Stephen *cough* This weeks guest Devon Moretti is a body image coach, but she didn’t get there overnight. Devon tells us the steps she took to getting to more accepting place with her body and where she still needs work. Because recovery is a process and not a destination. PLUS announcements for our event: Pass the Porn. You can find Devon & all of her programs at devondaymoretti.com Tickets for the Oct 1st Pass the Porn event at House of Yes are available at houseofyes.org ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Julia Jacklin "Head Alone" | |||
| 05 Feb 2020 | Is Our Love Defined? (with Kinky Queer Architect: Vanilla Honey) | 01:24:49 | |
We’re back from a *brief* hiatus to bring you the first episode of 2020. We’re getting all kinds of heady dissecting the phrasing, attire and spaces we frequent and what makes then “queer” “kinky” “sexy” etc…. How do we react to each of these individually and how do they influence or affect our behavior. Kinky queer architect Vanilla Honey shares her kink journey from her first experience with latex to her fantasy of designing the minimalist dungeon of your dreams. We question what is normal and why are we so concerned with it? Do you have questions or feelings--ALL THE FEELINGS--that need attention? Email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com Follow Vanilla Honey on Instagram: @vanilla.honey ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "Meticulous Bird" by Thao & The Get Down Stay Down. | |||
| 09 Sep 2020 | Is Our Love Normative (with Porn Performer & Activist Lync Johnson) | 01:35:07 | |
What is a norm and how do you know if you’re willingly or unwillingly abiding by it? By now we know our formative years at least have some influence in our worldview. Does that mean norms are good? Bad? or do they not even matter at all? Porn performer and activist Lync Johnson (@lyncjohnson3x) takes us through his formative years and how his lack of societal influence helped him form norms of his own. From a unique first time experience to rejecting labels, Lync’s journey down memory lane has us all questioning our societal influences and how norms can be particularly gendered. PLUS a listener gets some words of advice from Julia Koewer (@JuliaKoerwer) LMSW on finding affordable therapy for a new lover. Follow Lync everywhere: allmylinks.com/lyncjohnson If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is Suicide "Dream Baby Dream" | |||
| 06 Nov 2019 | Is Our Love A Toy? (Sex Toys w Nadia Deen Founder of AM.appointment) | 01:31:35 | |
Sometimes our love feels like a game, but just how much are we toying with it? What are the roles of toys in our sex life and how should we be using them? Are we using toys too much? Too little? ARE WE EVEN USING THEM CORRECTLY!? Nadia Deen of AM.appointment teaches us how to chill the fuck out and stop pressuring ourselves (and our partners) to achieve the sexual equivalent of keeping-up-with-the-Jones’. Whether you vibrate, buzz, or just plain suck, come share your toys, your questions and curiosities with us on this weeks ep. You can find Nadia on: Tickets for the next PASS THE PORN event on Tues Nov 12th are available at: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Sasami "Turned Out I Was Everyone" | |||
| 13 Nov 2019 | Is Our Love Bound By Rules? (with NYC Power Dynamics Practitioner: Lady Euphoria) | 01:20:50 | |
This week we are joined by Pro Domme and sometimes sociologist Lady Euphoria to pick apart why it is that we are so drawn to rules and why the lack of rules makes us so uncomfortable. We are a culture taught to thrive on efficiency and not thoroughness. This conversation uses BDSM as a framework, but make no mistake: this is a human conversation that EVERYONE needs to hear. We find ourselves questioning What are our rules and where do they come from? Does this come from a fear of rejection or fear of failure? If this makes you uncomfortable... or just curious, give this episode a listen. You can find all of Lady Euphoria's links and upcoming classes on her Instagram: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Moderat "Therapy" | |||
| 11 Dec 2019 | Is Our Love Fertile? (Egg Freezing with Morganna Nickoff) | 01:20:57 | |
This week’s Is Our Love ___? hits us right in the babymaker. Cartoonist and budding comedian Morganna Nickoff (@morganna.jokes) joins us to question our fertility and our own opinions on why is it that we do or do not want offspring. What does it say about you if you do want kids and when should you start worrying about that biological clock a’ticking? Fresh from freezing her own eggs mere weeks before recording this episode, Morganna spills all the tea on what the entire process was like from the hormonal shots down to how much pocket change is required to pluck those golden eggs from her ovaries. Follow Morgana at: @morganna.jokes If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Yo La Tengo "You Can Have It All" | |||
| 01 May 2019 | Is Our Love New? :First Times | 01:37:05 | |
No sexpert can exist without a first time. Stephen and Lola are no different. This week re-lose all our virginities as we welcome our first guest: Janet (Who has lost more virginities than she can count.) Could you use sex & relationship advice? Email us at: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The 'Is Our Love____?' official theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com
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| 21 Aug 2019 | Is Our Love the Fetishization of Asian Women? | 00:53:25 | |
This week we boldly go where two white podcasters dare not tread... for good reason. Inspired by a listener question regarding the fetishization of her race within her dating pursuits, Stephen and Lola try their best not to “white savior” by bringing in roommates and friends Yuko and Rachel. Both Yuko and Rachel grew up in wildly different parts of the US and have had wildly different experiences as asian women. Get ready to tighten your butthole as we discuss wildly uncomfortable, yet necessary conversations from the stereotypical roles of Asian women in porn, to the difference between having a ‘type’ and fetishizing a race. Uncomfortable yet? If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show, who knows, YOU MAY INSPIRE AN ENTIRE EPISODE! Email us: isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is FLUME "Voices (feat. Sophie & Kucka)" | |||
| 19 Aug 2020 | Is Our Love Sex Down South (with Marla Stewart) | 01:11:25 | |
This week we're joined by southern sexuality superhuman Marla Stewart, whose impressive body of work speaks for itself. Co-founder of the Sex Down South conference, Marla is already making history and a forging new educated era in sex and sexuality. Plus... she loves an uncomfortable conversation as much as we do. From strip club culture to pop culture we discuss how history and geographical location influences cultural upbringing. Oh, and we take a highly academic lens to the impact and significance of WAP. Follow Marla at: @1marlastewart If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 05 Aug 2020 | Is Our Love Dead? (with Audrey Fatale) | 01:23:41 | |
Oh I’m sorry... did you think we were an good-vibes-all-the-time podcast? Stephens inner goth gets to let loose as we welcome this week's fascinating guest Audrey Fatale. We learn all about the death industry and how Audrey navigated her way through it. Find out what secondary trauma response is, what one learns working at a morgue and in traumatic bereavement, and how she’s brought alllllll of that into BDSM. From necrophiles to the funeral business, You can find Audrey Fatale at: mistressfatale.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is the timelessly brilliant but *so* painfully sad Scott Walker "My Death" | |||
| 12 Aug 2020 | Is Our Love Conventional (with Hannah Witton) | 01:21:28 | |
Based on the number of pro dommes we've had on this podcast the past few weeks, we need a little reminder that good, old fashioned, fuck yes, traditional sex is still fucking fantastic and fun for all! We are joined this week by Sex Educator and Youtuber Hannah Witton who's advocating for the conventional. Marriage, kids, monogamy. What does it mean to be sexually progressive when you tic so many privileged boxes? How do you handle secret fantasies or masturbating to an ex in a committed relationship? Find out how Hannah sometimes treats her relationship like a job performance review, and why you should too. Follow Hanna on instagram, youtube, her podcast DOING IT! and check out all her books, content, etc. on Hannawitton.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is The Clean "Tally Ho" | |||
| 04 Sep 2019 | Is Our Love HYPNOTIZED? (Erotic Hypnosis with Wizard: Devin Person) | 01:36:57 | |
This week on Is Our Love we talk to a *fucking* Wizard. Find out how one becomes a fucking wizard and what a real life wizard even does. Devin Person dispels the mystique behind erotic hypnosis and what happens when a hypnosis goes dark. So much of pleasure based sex ed focuses on physical touch, but how can one manipulate the mind as a part of the mind-body experience? Whether you subscribe or not, hypnotism has many interesting parallels to BDSM and sex. PLUS, Stephen and Lola get hypnotized and have (you guessed it)*very* different reactions. You can find all things Wizard or book sessions with Devin at personisawake.com and hear him on his podcast: THIS PODCAST IS A RITUAL. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? MANIFEST! isourlovepod@gmail.com Books mentioned this episode: Mindplay: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman
This weeks' end of episode song is a throwback, Aphex Twin "Film." | |||
| 02 Sep 2020 | Is Our Love Consensual? (with Intimacy Coordinator Mia Schachter) | 01:26:43 | |
By now we all know what consent means…..or do we? How much do you really know and what can an intimacy coordinator teach you about your current understanding? Alot, it turns out. If you thought consent = permission, this week is for you. Intimacy coordinator Mia Schachter (@miaschachter) graces our presence to boost our understanding of consent and what most people get wrong within their understanding. We can all use a better understanding of consent and how boundaries relate to it both sexually and non-sexually. Mia lets us in on the burgeoning Intimacy Coordinator role, how she came about it, and why she is surprisingly not always well received. Plus we learn what the fuck prosody is, what we can learn from it and why we should all be critical consumers. You can find more information on Mia's work, upcoming workshops, and her podcast at sharetheloadinc.com. If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is Rival Schools "Hooligans For Life" Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 14 Aug 2019 | Is Our Love A Summer Fling | 01:07:41 | |
It's summer and we've been on vacation! Lola and Stephen reconvene after a little break and recount what happened with their summer flings and things. While Lola fucked (and educated) her way through Europe, the Reluctant Sexpert spent his days sex nerding at Sex Camp. There's some romance, revelations... at least a few good stories. Whether you realize you’re more of a Dad than a Daddy or that you need to keep your European submissive in check, capture the fleeting flag of that summer fling and get ready to head back to introspection school. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us! isourlovepod@gmail.com ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is THE REPLACEMENTS "Unsatisfied" | |||
| 07 Oct 2020 | Is Our Love The Objectification of Black Men with King Noire | 01:07:57 | |
Black men in particular are one of the most objectified groups in porn. Black men are a porn genre, which begs the question of why race is a genre….BBC is more than just a porn SEO tag, it is a colloquialism, signaling on dating apps and even a proclaimed sexual lifestyle. Though we may think we are idolizing the black male body, where does this notion come from, how is it perpetuated and how do those on the receiving end experience it? King Noir is no stranger to speaking out politically and sexually. Experiencing this objectification first hand in both the music industry and the sex industry, King has navigated these mirroring communities for decades. King helps us decode how the industry dehumanizes porn performers and the ripple effect to marginalized folx outside of the industry. Find all of King's content on kingnoire.com If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The end of episode song this week is King Noire "Hu$tle Matrimony" | |||
| 22 May 2019 | Is Our Love A Real Connection? : Flirtgame w/ Olive Persimmon | 01:33:53 | |
What makes one a good flirt--or for that matter--a bad one? Are we flirting right now? How does one flirt in the post #metoo era? Professional word-sayer Olive Persimmon (author of 'Unintentionally Celibate' and 'The Coitus Chronicles') joins us this week to discuss her jump from a 5 year celibacy streak to being coached by a pick-up artist. From grown men climbing bunk beds to throwing napkins for attention, Olive takes us through the mating habits of flirting and being flirted with. PLUS, Stephen introduces us to “The Blurt,” and we answer our first listener emails. Do *you* need sex & relationship advice? Email us at: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The 'Is Our Love____?' Theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com and this week's end of episode song is Who Is She- 'RomCom' | |||
| 22 Apr 2020 | Is Our Love A New Era Of Porn? (w Inka Winter of ForPlay Films) | 01:03:13 | |
Everyone and their step-sibling seems to be making their own bootleg smut these days. Is there room for a new era of porn graduated form the yesteryears of gonzo? Is there a difference between porn and erotica? And above all - how does one transition from growing up in a sex cult to creating responsible porn? Frustrated by a lack of quality heterosexual porn that spoke to her, one-woman-show Inka Winter set out to make her own with For Play Films. We find out about the process that goes into each scene and how Inka selects her talent. As if Inka wasn’t already productively putting us all to shame, this director is adding “sex therapist” to her list of accomplishments truly ushering in a new era of porn. Find all of Inka's films at forplayfilms.com, which is currently running free memberships. You can also follow @forplayfilms on socials, and subscribe to her educational series "Sexucation" on YouTube. ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- End of Episode music feature this week is Pom Pom Squad "Red With Love" | |||
| 15 Apr 2020 | Is Our Love Stoya (Pt.2) | 01:07:05 | |
"I have caffeine, nicotine… and the conversation’s all over the place just like I like it.” - Stoya This week is the conclusion of our 2 part conversation with Stoya. We dive right in. If you haven’t listened to pt.1 … well, you’re doing it wrong. We talk balancing love, a career in adult film, and how the modern world forced her to become an expert in costuming & disaster-preparedness. We discuss Stoya's tween years spent researching sexuality, bdsm, & evolutionary biology at her local library. Plus Stephen and Stoya get a bit of closure rehashing their relationship. Stories abound. We hope you enjoy it. Hear Stoya & Stephens’ conversation about Unicorning (and other groupsex experiences) on the upcoming issue of Zerospaces.com and follow Stoya on Twitter & Instagram @stoya If you'd like advice on sex, love, or relationships you can always email us at isourlovepod@gmail.com ... (PS you can also email Stoya & her advice column 'How To Do It' at howtodoit@slate.com) ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Exit music for this episode is Tom Waits "You Can Never Hold Back Spring" | |||
| 26 Jun 2019 | Is Our Love A Gaping Hole | 00:51:47 | |
Lola Jean and Stephen make the best of getting stood up by their guest and take things in an unexpected direction: Anal. Well, maybe not so unexpected. From fucking butts, to having their butts fucked, Is Our Love explores first time anal and how that compares to the anal they’re currently having. Whether you’re an anal connoisseur or haven’t spelunked into the great unknown, there’s something for everyone in this episode. If you have a sex or relationship question for us or have a topic you want to hear covered on the show? Email us!!! (we really love hearing from you): ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Charles Bradley "Things We Do For Love" Our theme songs are by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com. | |||
| 28 May 2020 | Is Our Love The Fetishization of Latinx Womxn? (with Rebecca Carvalho) | 01:23:27 | |
Have you ever had a stereotype projected onto you? Have you ever felt guilty about embodying or identifying with a stereotype of your ethnicity or otherwise? These conversations may not be easy but they’re absolutely necessary. This week we welcome Rebecca Carvalho to discuss her relationship with her ethnicity as it relates to her sexuality and how this comes into play throughout her dating life and interaction with porn. Latinx people covers a WIDE range of persons. Rebecca uses her personal journey as well as learning about her roots and past, including reconciling with a shame of embodying some of the common stereotypes. PLUS Stephen and Lola answer an advice question about squirting that isn’t really about squirting at all! Follow Rebecca on Insta @rebeccaecarvalho If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Ricky Martin, "Shake Your Bon-Bon" because holy shit that really happened once upon a time. Our official theme songs were lovingly composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 29 Apr 2020 | Is Our Love A Coming of Age (with Liv Revamped) | 01:23:25 | |
Rebelling against your Pagan family by joining a church... this isn’t your average darling come porn performer coming of age tale. From the industry trying to pigeon hole a multi-racial gal as “latina,” to diversifying her porn profile Liv Revamped drops some wisdom for any aspiring porn performers about how she’s stayed fresh with over a decade of performing sex on camera. We learn pros vs. cons, working indie vs. contract, and discuss porns' rampant streaming evolution PLUS Stephen, Lola and Liv give virginal advice for first time sex! Follow Liv at livrevamped.com and @bish.izbak on Instagram ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- End of Episode music feature this week is Blossom Dearie "Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea" | |||
| 20 May 2020 | Is Our Love the New 'Talk'? (with Jet Setting Jasmine) | 01:24:41 | |
Do you remember getting the talk? Who gave it to you? How would you give “the talk?” Easier said than done. This week’s guest Jet Setting Jasmine is not only walking the walk but talking THE 'talk'. Jasmine is a mother of three and can add therapist, pornographer and domme to her extensive resume. Jasmine schools us on the sex positive parenting playbook that doesn’t exist, answering questions like: When do you start introducing topics of sex to your children and how you go about doing it? Do you have to be comfortable with your own sexuality to be able to provide them with a quality ‘talk?’ Does it have to be awkward? Above all, how do we keep our children safe while enabling them to explore sexuality in a healthy manner? PLUS we talk to Jasmine about how to educate your kids on looooove. Find everything Jet Setting Jasmine on: jsjlinks.com (or, like she says, just google her) If you're in need of sex, love or relationship advice : ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is Madison McFerrin "TRY" | |||
| 08 May 2019 | Is Our Love Restrictive? : Boundaries | 01:24:31 | |
Boundaries get a bad rap, but what if we told you they’re actually a GREAT thing? Stephen and Lola Jean explore the role of boundaries as it relates to relationships, friendships, sex work and kink. What lessons can be learned from those required to exercise (and realize) their boundaries often? This week, married couple Kayla and Sean help us explore if our love is doomed. It’s the classic story of fetish wrestler meets poster-child poly-boy. Married for a year and together for three, Sean and Kayla are learning on the job using their ability to accept and thrive in their ever changing selves. Learn from our mistakes. Learn from their mistakes. Learn that mistakes can be a fantastic part of the process. Need sex & relationship advice? Email us at: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert The 'Is Our Love____?' official theme song is by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com | |||
| 04 Mar 2020 | Is Our Love Bleeding (w/ Valarie Merced ...aka the blood queen) | 01:14:13 | |
This week we live in the taboo, the messy, and the sometimes woo woo. That’s right: We’re on the rag, riding the crimson wave….we’re BLEEDING love. Valarie Merced (aka The Blood Queen) schools us on why it’s important for her to bleed on her lovers. From seeing her mother’s menstruation to the safeties and physiological response during menstruation, this episode is for people with vulvas AND those who enjoy them. Hell, how often do we get to talk about period and period sex? Strap on your Thinx and your Diva cups, it’s gonna get red. PLUS we challenge you to post a selfie with a “Simba” blood mark on your forehead & use #isourlovebleeding. Will this be the next ice bucket challenge? ...probably not. But... why not? Follow Val's magazine PRECIPICE on instagram: @precipicemagazine We love hearing from you for questions, blood stories, or advice: ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- This weeks' end of episode song is "Risk It" by Austra | |||