IMbetween Podcast on Marriage, Parenting, Faith, and Everything In Between (Daniel Im and Christina Im)

In an age where we measure success, influence, Youtube subscribers, and Instagram likes, how do you measure motherhood? What makes a Perfect Mom? And is being a good Mom just not good enough? On Episode 88, Daniel and Christina interview New York Times best selling author, Melanie Shankle. Melanie shares her wisdom and humor about the realities of motherhood and helps speak truth into the facade of the "Perfect Mom."  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: The difference between a Perfect Mom and a Good Mom What happens when we parent out of fear How you know when you should stop having children  What our kids need most from us Quality time versus quantity time  Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Grab a copy of Melanie's newest books, On The Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love and Being True to Yourself and children's book, Piper and Mabel: Two Very Wild but Very Good Dogs Check out Melanie's blog, The Big Mama Blog Listen to our previous episode about Why We Need to Teach Our Kids to Fail  Want to hear more about raising kids that are resilient, passionate, and gritty? Tune into Episode 10: How to Raise Resilient, Gritty, and Passionate Kids  Are you a stay-at-home parent? Listen into Episode 14: How to Thrive as a Stay-At-Home Parent Needing to learn how to balance your work and home life? Check out our interview with Christy Wright about Work-Life Balance Quotables and Tweetables: "The perfect Mom doesn't exist. And, even if she did, we would all hate her guts." @BigMama "The perfect mom is a unicorn, mythical at best. But a good mom is the velveteen rabbit, a little worn from use." @BigMama "I'm confident I'm a good mom, because what ultimately makes a good mom is showing up." @BigMama "I've learned that I sometimes want to parent out of fear, and that's not good for any of us." @BigMama "If we're scared, then we're going to raise kids who are scared. And you know what scared kids don't do? Grow up to be people who impact their world." @BigMama "Let's teach our kids to be brave, even if that means we sometimes have to pretend to be less scared than we really are as we watch them learn to fly." @BigMama "And that sums up having a teenager. These are the years that increase our prayer life as we hold on for the ride to see who they are going to become and try to figure out how to show them the way and get out of their way at the same time." @BigMama "Perfect parents exist. They just don't have kids yet." @imbetweenshow Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Spotify Stitcher Google Podcasts Google Play Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! _________________________________________________________________ Meet Melanie Shankle:  Melanie writes regularly at The Big Mama blog and is the New York Times bestselling author of four previous books. Melanie is a graduate of Texas A&M and loves writing, shopping at Target, checking to see what’s on sale at Anthropologie and trying to find the lighter side in every situation. Most of all, she loves being the mother of Caroline, the wife of Perry and the official herder of two wild dogs named Piper and Mabel. The five of them live in San Antonio, Texas.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For centuries, people have been using stories and narrative to teach important lessons. Stories have the power to teach us to love, to forgive others, to be empathetic, just, and to strive for better than we have.  On Episode 90, Daniel and Christina interview children's author Sarah Parker Rubio about teaching our kids empathy and compassion through the use of story. Sarah opens the refugee discussion between kids and parents in her book, Far From Home. Far From Home is a simple but multi-layered refugee story (drawing directly from headlines) that will help children understand the world around them and remind them that they are not alone. Grab Your FREE Printable to Create a Guiding Statement For Your Family: This printable will help you create a guiding statement for your family. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Teaching our kids empathy and compassion through the use of story  How to talk to your children about the refugee crisis Practical ways your family can help refugees  Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Purchase a copy of Sarah's beautiful children's book, Far From Home Read Sarah's articles, 4 Ways Anyone Can Help Refugees  and How To Talk To Your Kids About Refugees Listen to our previous episodes about How To Raise Kids That Change The World and How to Raise Grateful Children  Check out Episode 87: How to Find Your Family's Purpose Quotables and Tweetables: "Many of us cannot imagine that level of trauma, but we can think about what would it be like. We can make a connection from an experience that we've had and use our imagination to get to a place of empathy and compassion." - Sarah Parker Rubio @imbetweenshow "Story gives us the opportunity to strengthen our imagination and help us bridge the gap between our experience and someone else's experience that may be very different" - Sarah Parker Rubio @imbetweenshow "Story helps us make points of connection with people who may be different than us and see their humanity." - Sarah Parker Rubio @imbetweenshow "Empathy and caring is really seeing the humanity of another person, being open to their experience, being willing to receive their story, and being willing to put yourself in their shoes as much as you can." - Sarah Parker Rubio @imbetweenshow "Hope is our armor." - Sarah Parker Rubio @imbetweenshow "Wherever we are together, that's home." - Sarah Parker Rubio @imbetweenshow Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Spotify Stitcher Google Podcasts Google Play Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! _________________________________________________________________ Meet Sarah Parker Rubio:    Sarah Parker Rubio edits children's and young adult books by day and writes them by night. She was born in the United States, grew up in Costa Rica and Ecuador, and now has a bilingual and bicultural family with her husband, Colombian composer Gary Rubio. They live in the Chicago area with their two sons, Gabriel and Adan; two sassy cats, Perry and Bono; and a giant white dog named Finn. Find out more about Sarah via her Website, Facebook, and Instagram   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dannah Gresh shares her personal story of navigating her husband's addiction to pornography in their marriage. She discusses the impact it had on their relationship and the importance of seeking help and support. Dannah emphasizes the role of faith and the Holy Spirit in the healing process, highlighting the need for God's power in overcoming addiction. She also talks about the importance of forgiveness, trust, and the journey she and her husband took together to heal from the hurt and pain of infidelity. In This Episode, You'll Hear About: The Power of Honesty and Accountability: Dannah's emphasizes the importance of open discussions about struggles and establishing accountability. It's crucial to prevent addiction from becoming a source of comfort. The Role of Faith: Dannah's shares a powerful moment of divine intervention that led them to seek help. She underscores the importance of the Holy Spirit and the Word of God in the healing process, believing that without them, traditional therapy has limited efficacy. The Journey of Healing: Dannah's story highlights the need for individual healing. She shares a powerful analogy about taking responsibility for her own healing, rather than relying solely on her husband. The Impact on the Church: Dannah discusses the devastating impact of pornography on the church and the need for open dialogue. She believes the church should be a sanctuary where people can find freedom from addiction. The Process of Rebuilding Trust: Dannah acknowledges that forgiveness and trust are interconnected but do not necessarily happen simultaneously. She uses the analogy of "putting cookies in the cookie jar" to describe the process of rebuilding trust through consistent actions and behaviors. Other Episodes That May Interest You: How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn with Dr. Simon Sheh Will Porn Ruin My Marriage? with Dr. Simon Sheh Porn-Proofing Your Child with Rosie Mackinney My Spouse is Addicted to Porn with Rosie Mackinney For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode174 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 101, Daniel and Christina interview author and business owner, Rebecca Smith about how life is better when it is slow. Imagine a world in which dreams and passions are achieved with slow steps, simple obedience, and steadfast diligence? Is that not the world we are living in today? This pandemic has all forced us to pause, to allow our souls to take a deep breath, and to re-evaluate the goals we've been hustling for. It's time to learn why life is better when it is slow.  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode101 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anxiety is something that most of us have experienced in our life, especially during these uncertain times. This 5 step exercise can be very helpful during periods of anxiety or panic by helping to ground you in the present when your mind is bouncing between various “what ifs.” The Grounding Exercise: 0:31 What anticipatory grief is and why it matters.  1:33 The importance of deep breathing versus shallow breathing.  2:25 Explanation of the 5 step grounding exercise.  3:24 A step-by-step walk through of the grounding exercise.  Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Anticipatory grief is the mind going to the future and imagining the worst. @imbetweenshow I was grieving things that hadn’t actually happened. I had to purposefully pull my thoughts to come into the present reality or else I would spiral out of control. @imbetweenshow If you'd like to be taken through a deep breathing exercise, listen to our first mini episode about Centering Prayer This quick exercise will help ground you in the present. Grounding yourself reminds your body, your nervous system, and your brain that you are safe. @imbetweenshow The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 15 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Daniel and Christina discuss the intricacies of marriage with Brian and Jen Goins and how marriage is like a living art form that demands creativity, evolves, and requires a blending of different perspectives and experiences. The episode highlights the re-release of "The Art of Marriage" series, which encourages couples to engage in open dialogue about love, intimacy, and the divine representation of God's love in marriage. In This Episode, You'll Hear About: Marriage as an art and the re-release of "The Art of Marriage" series The intention behind the creation of marriage and its purpose as a representation of God's love Importance of love, forgiveness, and intimacy in marriage Having healthy and transparent conversations about sensitive topics like sex and intimacy The "Art of Marriage" program as a platform for couples to grow together Stories of transformation and growth in marriages through the "Art of Marriage" program Emphasizing the power of humility, learning, and actively working towards building a strong and healthy marriage For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode183 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Having choices is both a blessing and a curse; it is a blessing to be able to make choices and not be forced into a decision. However, when you cannot decide —when there are too many choices — you can start to feel overwhelmed or stuck. In Episode 116, Daniel and Christina give you 3 things to do when you cannot make a decision.  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: How to figure out what is essential in your life Learn how to clear your soul clutter When is quitting the right decision? 3 Decisions You Can Make: What’s essential in your life Wait for more information Try on your decision IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode116 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you raising kids who are kind and compassionate? It is critical to demonstrate to our children what it means to include others instead of excluding them. In episode 162, we share with you some ideas of how we can raise kids who are “includers” by modelling what that looks like.  For the full show notes, including date night questions and journal prompts about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode162 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Relating Theme in your child. The Relating Theme: 0:54 Characteristics of the Relating child 1:44 Emerging signs of the Relating theme 3:08 Action items for parents with a Relating themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child, The Future Thinker Child,The Organizer Child,The Relating Child  If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

With the rising costs of gas, groceries, and pretty much everything in life, are you feeling the financial strain like we are? In Episode 156, we’re so thankful to be talking with the founders of SeedTime money, Bob and Linda Lotich. They answer the tough question, "Finances are killing my marriage. What do I do?" Bob and Linda Lotich have spent the last 15 years helping millions discover true financial freedom with their award-winning blog SeedTime.com and SeedTime Money podcast. Unlike most financial experts, they lead with grace over judgement and focus on creating hope while washing away the shame so many carry with money. In their new book Simple Money, Rich Life they share practical steps to save and earn more money in order to fund your God-given purpose and dreams. For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode156 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 187, Daniel and Christina chat with Erin Loechner—once a social media influencer with over a million followers—who made the radical choice to step away from the digital spotlight and embrace a low-tech lifestyle. Erin reflects on the impact of social media on her mental health, identity, and parenting, sharing how the constant pressure to stay “connected” was eroding what mattered most. In this conversation, she offers practical tips for reducing tech dependence, from simplifying devices to creating meaningful offline moments with loved ones, all while reminding us that true connection thrives in real life, not on screens. In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: The impact of social media on mental health and personal relationships. The decision to opt out of social media for family well-being. The evolution of social media from sharing to attention-seeking platforms. Experiences and benefits of living without social media. The importance of community and real-life connections. Practical steps for families to create a healthier relationship with technology. The role of parental controls and intentional tech use. The dangers of social media algorithms, especially for young users. The significance of authentic relationships over digital interactions. Encouragement for families to reflect on their technology use and its implications. Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Pick up a copy of Erin's latest book, The Opt-Out Family: How To Give Your Kids What Technology Can't Read Erin's first book, Chasing Slow: Courage To Journey Off The Beaten Path Erin's Website Listen to our other episodes about raising kids in this tech era:  Parenting In Our Digital Age Unplugging for Connection: How To Break The Distracted Parenting Cycle Netiquette: Teaching Our Kids Online Manners Breaking Up With Our Phones Meet Erin Loechner: Founder of global tech-free movement The Opt-Out Family, Erin Loechner is a former social media influencer who walked away from a million fans to live a low-tech lifestyle—and is now teaching others how to do the same. Her cutting-edge work has been praised in the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, the Huffington Post, and the Today Show. When she’s not scrawling on her trusty steno pad, Erin, her husband, and their three kids spend their days chasing alpenglow, reading Kipling, and biking to town for more tortillas. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple, go to: IMbetween.org/episode187 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Importance of Journaling: 2:05 What's the purpose of journaling?  3:24 Learning to value our every day lives.  3:52 Discovering moments of grace.  5:05 Frameworks around the process of journaling.  7:22 The importance of guilt-free journaling.  9:00 Inviting our children into the process of reflection.  Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: To find out more about Leslie, check out her website Pick up a copy of Leslie's copy of her newest book: Your Story Matters: Finding, Writing, and Living The Truth Of Your Life "Journaling is an important way of processing the events of the day thoughtfully." @lesliefields "I don't think we value the plain, beautiful, everyday moments, and we miss seeing God in those moments." @lesliefields "Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace." - Frederich Buechner "Journal prompt: How has God shown up today?" @lesliefields The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow   _________________________________________________________________ Meet Leslie Leyland Fields:Leslie Leyland Fields is an award-winning author of twelve books, an international speaker, a popular radio guest, the founder of the Harvester Island Wilderness Workshop and a commercial fisherwoman for four decades, working with her husband and six children in a salmon-fishing operation on a remote island in Alaska. Her newest book, Your Story Matters: Finding, Writing and Living the Truth of Your Life presents the fruit of her 30+ years of writing, editing and teaching story-making around the world.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve, many of us breathed a sigh of relief. Finally…2020 is over! Kiss me, we survived! What many of us may have not done is talk about how the last year has been because how do you put into words what 2020 has done to us? In many ways, 2020 has been traumatizing. What was is no longer what is. That much change in such a short period of time is exhausting and unnerving. Many times the new year offers us the chance of a “do-over”. What we didn’t like about the previous year is what we hopefully won’t bring into the new year. However, this year when we realize that what we wanted to leave in 2020 is most likely sliding in through the door of 2021, it’s really important that we take the time to check-in with one another.   That’s why in Episode 128, we want to walk you through how to do a new year’s relationship check-in and help you carve out the space to think through what relationship resolutions you may want to make for 2021. Psst...Looking for the Relationship Check-In quiz mentioned in the episode? Visit IMbetween.org to grab this free resource right away. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode128 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does stress do to a marriage? Does it make it or break it? We are seeing stats come out of China - the first country to be quarantined from the Coronavirus - that divorce rates have skyrocketed once the quarantine was lifted.  While feelings of fear, anxiety, and stress come with the territory of unexpected times, it does not have to break your relationship. Here are 4 keys to help you and your spouse survive your marital stress while constantly being together.  Have You Grabbed Your FREE Guide to Better Relationships with The Enneagram? We can’t wait for you to get your hands on this resource! This printable will help you have a healthier marriage, deeper friendships, and better work relations, especially during this time! Download our FREE printable: The Enneagram and Conflict Resolution: A Guide to Better Relationships IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode95 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The longer this pandemic goes on, the more things and events are being canceled. Birthday parties, summer camps, vacations — the list goes on and on. In some ways, it feels like COVID has thrown fun out the window! Now, more than ever,  we need to look for creative ways to incorporate more fun into our lives.  In Episode 99, Daniel and Christina share simple ways to incorporate more fun into your daily lives — with yourself, with your family, and with your spouse. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode99 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Because of this global pandemic, our entire lives are registering on our brains—with red lights twirling around and sirens blasting—ERROR! As a result, our bodies have quickly amped up and our normal everyday functioning—emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and physically—is off-kilter.  In Episode 102, Daniel and Christina discuss how our brains react in a crisis and 5 ways we can hit the reset button to bring back calm into our lives.    IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode102 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you remember how easy it was to make friends in kindergarten? Do you wish it was still as simple? With the number of people we meet in-person and online, work with, and become friends within our lifetime, learning how to be successful in friendships is a crucial life skill to have. That’s why in today’s episode, we want to do a crash course on everything that they didn’t teach you in school. Welcome to Adult Friendships 101.  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Why you may be feeling frustrated with your current relationships  What relational intelligence is and why it matters The difference between doing things versus doing life with others The four categories of relationships: Friends - individuals who are relational assets and not liabilities; a relationship where you can be your authentic self Associates - a relationship where a common interest or intersecting schedules brings individuals together. The nature of the relationship is friendly, but there isn't a desire to go deeper in the relationship or you don’t know enough about the person to really trust them. Assignments - a trainee, a mentee, and/or advisee. It is a mentoring relationship where you are the mentor Advisors - when an individual is mentoring you for a limited amount of time IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode118 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you find yourself currently frustrated with a relationship in your life? Perhaps you've been ghosted and you aren't sure what you did. Perhaps you constantly feel aggravated by a person with who you were once close. It is natural for friendships to change over time, but it can cause hurt, confusion, and frustration if you aren't sure why it happened. In Episode 120, Daniel and Christina continue their conversation about Adult Friendships. They discuss how to know which category of relationship a person belongs in, and how to discern if you are expecting someone to give what they are incapable or unwilling to give.   In This Episode, You Will Hear About: The reason why some friendships change over time and what to do about it (especially if you are hurt) The next steps to take after understanding the 4 categories of relationships Learn to discern who is in your life, what category they are currently in, and whether they should actually be there How to readjust relationships to lessen frustration and journey with others in love, grace, and freedom IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode120 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Caring Theme in your child. Caring Theme: 0:40 Characteristics of the Caring child 2:20 Emerging signs of the Caring theme 4:45 Action items for parents with a Caring-themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child  If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?!Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There has been a lot of talk about personal burnout as the result of everything we have been experiencing. In the same breath, there have been lots of conversations about how we can practice self-care to improve/protect our mental health and overall well-being. And while these conversations are important, one crucial piece of the puzzle has not been highlighted enough: marriage burnout.  In Episode 145, Daniel and Christina interview Carey and Toni Nieywhof about what marriage burnout is and how to prevent it. We also discuss the crucial link between getting healthier personally and having a healthier marriage. If you are currently experiencing marriage burnout, they share some really practical ways to heal and move forward together with your spouse. For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode145 IMBETWEEN FB: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Daniel and Christina discuss the importance of discipleship at home. They emphasize the need for parents to set an example in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity, and discuss how children can sometimes guide and correct their parents. Sharing personal experiences, they explore the significance of aligning actions with words, as children learn more from what we do than what we say. They also discuss the importance of personal growth and helping children grow in these areas, and the role of spiritual disciplines in this process. They conclude by reflecting on the need for genuine faith and a consistent relationship with God. In this episode, you'll hear about the following: Importance of discipleship at home Setting an example for children in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity Grounding children in the truth of God's word Parents being open to their children as a source of guidance and correction Repairing relationships and apologizing to children Aligning actions with words Importance of personal growth and helping children grow Prioritizing worship and gathering as a church community Practicing spiritual disciplines and developing well-worn pathways in the brain For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode177 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes our spouse can feel like our best friend. And, other times, they can drive us crazy! In episode 158, we want to give you 4 ways to stick together when you feel bored, irritated, or frustrated with your spouse. For the full show notes, including date night questions and journal prompts about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode158 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We were recently asked about what advice we would give to younger couples, and so that’s what we want to unpack today. If we were to write a congratulations card to your wedding or sit down together to chat with you about those first precious years of your marriage, here’s what we would say… For the full show notes, including date night questions and journal prompts about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode160 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever caught yourself scrolling through your phone while your child's voice fades into the background? Yup! Us too. Let's face it, the era of smartphones has us all hooked. But did you know that this habit might be doing more harm than good to our kids? Distracted parenting isn't just about not hearing their stories—it's about the message we send about their value to us. In Episode 182, Daniel and Christina breakdown the costs of distracted parenting and discuss how we can respond to our children's bids for attention to foster intimacy and connection. In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: Distracted parenting and its impact on children Importance of being present and engaged with children Examples of distracted parenting scenarios Emotional impact of distracted parenting on children Responding to children's bids for attention and connection Role of empathy in nurturing intimacy with children Practical tips for parents to improve engagement with children Creating undistracted time to fully engage with children Modeling attentive behavior in interactions with others Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Episode 36: Netiquette: Teaching Our Kids Online Manners Episode 62: Parenting In Our Digital Age The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place by Andy Crouch For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode182 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We interview Christa Hardin, a relationship expert, author, and podcaster about the role of Enneagram types in intimacy and sexual relationships within marriage. Christa explains how understanding each type's natural tendencies can help couples navigate conflicts and enhance their intimate lives. She offers specific advice for every Enneagram type, emphasizing the importance of open communication, vulnerability, and emotional connection. The episode provides practical insights for couples to foster deeper connections and improve their intimate relationships by leveraging the Enneagram framework. In This Episode, You'll Hear About: Understanding the Enneagram and its relevance to intimacy in marriage. Natural states of intimacy for different Enneagram types and potential conflicts. Creating a safe environment for open communication about intimacy. Navigating differences in sexual desires and preferences between partners. Insights into the strengths and growth areas of each Enneagram type regarding intimacy. The importance of vulnerability and emotional connection in intimate relationships. Strategies for addressing and overcoming intimacy challenges specific to each Enneagram type. Encouragement for couples to explore deeper connections through understanding their Enneagram types. Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing + Link for Bonus Chapter by Christa Hardin Enneagram and Marriage Listen to our previous Enneagram episodes: 155: THE ENNEAGRAM FOR UNDERSTANDING YOUR SPOUSE WITH DANI COOPER 134: ENNEAGRAM AND PARENTING: TIPS FOR CULTIVATING A CLOSER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR KIDS BASED ON YOUR TYPE 121: NINE ENNEAGRAM QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU MAKE WISER DECISIONS WITH DR. DREW MOSER 98: HOW THE ENNEAGRAM CAN DEEPEN YOUR MARRIAGE CONNECTION WITH JEFF AND BETH MCCORD 70: RESOLVING CONFLICT WITH THE ENNEAGRAM WITH LAUREN GRAY 69: ENNEAGRAM AND COMMUNICATION STYLES WITH LAUREN GRAY 51: THE PERFECT GIFT FOR EVERY ENNEAGRAM TYPE WITH DR. DREW MOSER Take a look at our Enneagram printables. They are completely free! E-Book: The Perfect Gift For Every Enneagram Type The Enneagram Guide To Better Relationships Looking for an Enneagram test to find out your type? For a free Enneagram Test, please click here  For a paid Enneagram Test (which will be more accurate), check out The Enneagram Institute Testing Center Meet Christa Hardin: Christa Hardin, MA is a relationship expert, author, as well as host of the popular Enneagram & Marriage Podcast. Christa has been working with and researching marriage for two decades, providing hope for couples struggling to find their light, love, and mission together in any relationship season. Her most recent Amazon best-selling title, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing," is now available wherever you buy books. You can catch up with her on the podcast at @enneagramandmarriage on Instagram, Substack at "Of Light and Joy". You can find her website, blog, and Enneagram & Marriage podcast links at www.enneagramandmarriage.com. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple, go to: IMbetween.org/episode191 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We live in a day and age of fake news where half-truths are everywhere. At first glance, these partial truths don't seem so hard to swallow. We desire peace in our hearts, in our minds, and in our bodies. So, we become less busy or busier. We set goals of numbers that we want to see on the scale by January 31st. We get a new planner to fill with all the things we want to do. We buy into the lie that we are what we do, we are what the scale says we have become, and we are what the calendar block of the day tells us. It's not the outright harmful, evil, or unjust lies that are dangerous; they are the easily recognizable ones. However, the half-truths - the ones that mingle truth and falsehood with the deliberate intent to deceive? Those are the ones we need to pay attention to.  On Episode 82, Daniel and Christina Im walk through two of the common lies that we believe about ourselves reframed as half-truths: You are what you do and You are your past. These two lies are from Daniel's book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love. Grab Your FREE Guide to Setting a SMART Goal: This printable will help you set and achieve your goals in 2020. We can't wait to hear all about the goals you have smashed this year! In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Daniel's latest book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love The lies we believe about ourselves The dangers of believing that you are what you do and you are your past Why we need to overcome these lies and how to overcome them  Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Grab a copy of Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love Listen to our This Is Us episode where we share about our past and the purpose of our podcast  Quotables & Tweetables: "A life dictated by doing is not much of a life at all." @danielsangi "Freedom and flexibility are hallmarks of the gig economy." @danielsangi "In doers, I don't want to trust."@danielsangi "No wonder we over-identify with our jobs - we've been conditioned to do so, both from within and from without."@danielsangi "Unfortunately, the thing about pretending is that it always leads to anxiety. You're constantly looking over your shoulder, wondering when you'll be found out, and what will happen then."@danielsangi "When we let this lie define our lives, we inevitably end up neglecting the relationships that mean the most to us, our emotional well-being, and our spiritual health." @danielsangi "We're called human beings, and not human doings." @danielsangi Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode82 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After a year of ups and downs, loss of power and control, children in and out of school, and working from home, our lives have become more chaotic than ever before. Are you ready to bring peace into your home? In Episode 143, Laura Hernandez shares with us her proven customized systems that have brought calm and order into her family of 12. If you feel like you are only reacting to your life instead of intentionally living your life, this episode is for you! Laura Hernandez and her husband Tony live in the Dallas area where they raise their 10 amazing children, 7 biological and 3 adopted. Laura created Mama Systems to help others bring peace to their homes through customized systems. She offers coaching and courses that help families live more intentionally.  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode143 IMBETWEEN FB: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why is it so hard to say, "I'm sorry?" If you’ve been married longer than a week, you’ve probably already realized that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. You will have disagreements, misunderstandings, hurt feelings, or trust broken. Making mistakes is what makes us human. But, when you’ve hurt your spouse, knowing the right way to apologize makes all the difference. True apologies strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together, not further apart. That’s why we want to give you 4 steps to healing hurts with your spouse by learning the art of apologizing. An Important Note: Before we dive in, we do want to note that some mistakes are bigger than others. Sometimes saying sorry is not enough, especially if there is a big betrayal like an affair. If you are walking through this journey, these 4 steps are a good start, but we highly recommend counseling both for you as a couple, and also as individuals. There is much more that needs to be worked through than we have time to discuss today. Apologizing is About Repairing Connection: Knowing you’ve hurt the one you love feels awful, right? And it may feel quite frustrating when it seems like whatever you do or say makes things worse. "I said I’m sorry! What else do you want?!" Apologizing to your spouse and healing your relationship involves more than just saying “I’m sorry.” It’s about repairing your connection. As Dr. John Gottman, says, “Successful relationships master the art of apology.” Knowing how to apologize well is one of the keys to successful relationships. It’s not about accepting the blame for something. But, instead, it’s about acknowledging and responding to your spouse’s emotional pain. You can and should be accountable, but as we talked about in last week’s episode about boundaries, everyone is responsible for their emotional reactions. Relationships are a tender dance that can have many stepping on toes moments from both dance partners. But, by knowing how to apologize well, these "stepping on toes" moments can go from hurting each other to learning to work together and repair your emotional connection. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode132 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anyone feeling tired, stressed, and overwhelmed? Are you looking for a tool to simplify your life and bring back the calm, peace, fun, and love in your home? Us too! In this episode, you will discover how brain science can increase the connection with your spouse and your children. We interview author and speaker Cherilyn Orr on the stoplight approach. You will discover the link between brain science and the Bible, and how you can use this knowledge to cultivate a connected and thriving "green home." In this episode, you'll hear about the following: Explanation of the stoplight approach (red, yellow, green brain states) Connection between the stoplight approach and marriage and parenting Comparison of the stoplight approach to traditional parenting techniques like timeouts Description of a "green home" and its pillars (safety, mutual respect, responsibility) Importance of skill-building and empathy in teaching responsibility Application of the stoplight approach to teenagers and the decision-making process Meet Cherilyn Orr: Cherilyn Orr is an educational consultant, trainer, coach, and resource developer. She has been an educator from pre-school to university level for 35 years. Cherilyn was a teaching professor at Vanguard College in Canada for 14 years and has worked with families and educators in Canada, Uganda, Greece, and England to help build safe schools, safe homes, safe communities, and resilient children. The Stoplight Approach she developed synthesizes the latest research in brain science and her years of experience as a teacher (early childhood, primary, special needs), as a mom to 7 children through birth and adoption, and as a foster mom. Her practical, simple, hands-on approach to understanding children's emotional health and relational needs has helped hundreds of parents, caregivers, and teachers build strong, healthy relationships with their children and their students. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode171 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are many times we have found ourselves feeling stressed, unsure, scared, anxious, and completely overwhelmed with the brokenness of our world. That is when we stop, open our Bibles and continue to remind ourselves about the promises of God. The promises written in His word about how He will never leave us or forsake us, promises that He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. His word is a balm to our hearts, minds, and souls. It is the cure to our overwhelm. On today’s mini episode, we want to read 7 bible passages to you and over you. So, next time you are feeling “all the feels” and you just don’t know what to do, listen to this episode and remind yourselves of the truth that never fades, never changes, and never fails.    The Cure To Your Overwhelm: 0:31 What to do if you are feeling overwhelmed 1:08 The truth that never fades, never changes, and never fails 6:28 The cure for your anxiety Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Psalm 91: The Protection Of The Most High 2 Corinthians 1:3-7: The God of Comfort Romans 8:18-30: From Groans To Glory  Psalm 23: The Good Shepherd Psalm 40:1-5: Thanksgiving and a Cry for Help Matthew 6:25-31: The Cure For Anxiety  Isaiah 40:28-31 God's People Comforted The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?!Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What marriage and parenting advice do a 10, 9, and 5 year old have? To celebrate our 100th episode, our kids are answering your questions! They cover topics like the Enneagram, what parenting advice they'd like to share, and how important they think marriage is.  Looking For Date Night Ideas? Here's a FREE printable to keep the romance alive...even during a pandemic! 5 Cozy Quarantine Date Ideas For Busy Parents IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode100 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

With the Coronavirus pandemic, we all seem to be glued to our news media channels or social media to see what our friends and family are posting. We, too, feel like we want to stay up-to-date with everything that is going on. But, is there a point where it becomes an unhealthy obsession? If the gain of more knowledge is driving you to become anxious, fearful, and losing sleep, perhaps this can be a gentle encouragement to take a little breather.   On this episode, we talk about how COVID-19 is causing us to want to break up with our phones. We also discuss why our phones are so addicting and how we can break off this unhealthy relationship.   Grab Your FREE Printable to Create a Guiding Statement For Your Family: This printable will help you create a guiding statement for your family. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Why we want to break up with our phones Discuss the connection between brain science, slot machines, and phone apps (it's both fascinating and frightening) How the 3 W's can change your relationship with your phone Hear all about joining our 5-day social media detox Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Watch the clip about Social Media Dangers Exposed By Mom Posing as 11-Year Old Want to find out what your child's love language is? Listen to Episode 53 and Episode 54 about Discovering Your Child's Love Language. Hear more about creative ways to connect with your child/teenager on our interview with Melanie Shankle, Debunking The Myths of Motherhood. What does it look like to have technology in its proper place in your family? Check out Parenting In Our Digital Age to find more more. Have you ever thought about the need to teach your kids online manners? We talk about Netiquette: Teaching Our Kids Online Manners on this episode. Do you need some ideas about what to replace your screen time with? Tune into Episode 87: How to Find Your Family's Purpose. Are you wanting to hear more about how to break up with your phone? Read Catherine Price's book, How To Break Up With Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan To Take Back Your Life Quotes and Tweets: We aren’t saying to throw out your phone, shut down your social media profiles, or ban your family from screen time. When used properly, they can be tools to bring you closer together as a family. @imbetweenshow Any time you notice that you are about to reach for your phone, take a second to ask yourself: What For? Why now? What else? @Catherine_Price If you wanted to invent a device that could rewire our minds, if you wanted to create a society of people who were perpetually distracted, isolated, and overtired, if you wanted to weaken our memories and damage our capacity for focus and deep thought, if you wanted to reduce empathy, encourage self-absorption, and redraw the lines of social etiquette, you’d likely end up with a smartphone. @Catherine_Price our attention is the most valuable thing we have. We experience only what we pay attention to. We remember only what we pay attention to. When we decide what to pay attention to in the moment, we are making a broader decision about how we want to spend our lives. @Catherine_Price Technology is in its proper place when it starts great conversations. It’s out of its proper place when it prevents us from talking with and listening to one another. @ahc Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Spotify Stitcher Google Podcasts Google Play Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Presence Theme: 0:56 Characteristics of the Presence child 2:16 Emerging signs of the Presence theme 3:14 Action items for parents with a Presence themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child, The Future Thinker Child,The Organizer Child If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMbetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

No one wakes up and decides, "I’m going to ruin my marriage, neglect my kids, and cause mistrust in my family." Yet, sometimes our spouse and children can feel like they have taken second (or last) place to our personal goals and busyness.  In Episode 157, Dr. Josh and Christi Straub share with us how seven core decisions can help us put what’s most important center stage in our lives. If you can carve out 20 minutes a day for your child, it can fuel their soul. Dr. Josh and Christi Straub are speakers, authors, and marriage and leadership coaches. Together they lead Famous at Home, an organization devoted to equipping leaders, organizations, military families, and churches in emotional intelligence and family wellness.  They host the weekly Famous At Home Podcast, lead a yearlong coaching cohort called The Leader’s Heart, and have written children’s books on emotional intelligence. Josh and Christi love spending time on the lake with their three sweet kids and their feisty Goldendoodle, Copper. For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode157 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Known as 40 days to give up chocolate, alcohol, social media, or a "quick" way to diet before Easter, the Lenten season can easily be misunderstood. It’s not in the Bible and Jesus never told us to do it, yet the ancient Church declared the months before Easter a fasting season, and millions of Christians still observe it today. In Episode 153, we interview best-selling author, Tsh Oxenreider, about celebrating Lent as a family.  Whether you have been celebrating Lent for many years, or you are just wanting to dip your family's toes into this liturgical practice, this episode is full of practical tips and historical background of the why and how of observing Lent. Starting with Ash Wednesday, Tsh guides us to a better understanding of Jesus’s sacrifice as we delight in His ultimate love. She opens up with a brief history of Lent, the importance of Lent’s trifecta: fasting, almsgiving, and prayer, as well as 5 questions to ask yourself when you’re deciding what to give up. She also gives us some practical ideas about how to involve our children in this practice.  So, pull up a chair, get a warm drink, and listen to our conversation with Tsh. Consider this your invitation to go deeper this Lenten season. Tsh Oxenreider is the bestselling author of several books, most notably At Home in the World, her memoir about her family’s year traveling around the world and living out of backpacks. She’s also a travel guide, teacher, and podcaster, and she lives in Georgetown, Texas, with her husband and three children. She is equally happy snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef with her family and putzing around her own backyard. For all the show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode153 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM COMMUNITY: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In light of November being National Adoption Month, Daniel and Christina Im interview Jamie and Aaron Ivey about their adoption story. They have four children, three of whom are teenagers, and one preteen. 15 years ago, they started building their family through adoption — 2 international and 1 domestic. Jamie and Aaron honestly share about their experience, how they continue to talk about adoption with their children, and how their approach to adoption has changed over the years.    In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Jamie and Aaron's adoption story How to talk to your children about adoption How we are all called to care for the orphans, but how we may not all be called to adopt Practical ways to help and support those who are going through the adoption process IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode123 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In every conflict, there are two options: to go down the road of an argument or open the doors to a deeper conversation which can lead to a greater understanding between you and your spouse. As John Gottman’s research has shown, it doesn’t actually matter what you fight about. What matters is how you repair your relationship after the fight. In Episode 137, we want to give you the framework of how to repair your relationship after a big fight. Because, if you don’t process your conflicts, you may both find yourselves feeling disrespected, unheard, lonely, and festering in your anger. The little fights will become huge arguments because you don’t feel safe with one another.  IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode137 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raise your hand if you've ever yelled at your child? And at the moment it felt good to blow off some steam, but afterward, you feel terribly guilty, right? We know how it feels because we used to be serial screamers. Thankfully, both of us have learned and grown through these experiences. In episode 122, Daniel and Christina share what it means to be a mindful parent and how we can learn to respond to our feelings of stress, anger, and frustration, instead of scream.   In This Episode, You Will Hear About: What mindful parenting is Why we tend to scream at our kids when we are stressed How to recognize your emotional triggers and hotspots The importance of self-care 3 key factors to mindful parenting: Notice your own feelings when you’re in conflict with your child Learn to pause before responding in anger Listen carefully to a child’s viewpoint even when you disagree with it IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode122 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you live your life trying to avoid pain? Maybe you've pretended everything is fine even though you feel like you are crumbling inside. While most people would never choose to go through a difficult season, we have all walked through some very dark days. In Episode 135, we interview Lisa Harper about the hidden treasure of difficult times and why it's important not to fake it through the hard stuff of life.  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: What this pandemic can help us learn. Why "faking it 'till we make it" is a horrible idea. How to stop pretending everything is fine and what to do instead. How Jesus is enough...even in really difficult circumstances: When you are single and parenting When you lose a loved one When you are hurt by other people, especially Christians When you are learning what it means to grieve with hope IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode135 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you find yourself being bossed around by your feelings of fear or anxiety, try this centering prayer.  Centering Prayer:  2:32 - Why should I do a centering prayer?  3:37 - What is a centering prayer? 5:40 - Daniel walks us through a centering prayer.   Resources Mentioned During This Episode: Great Are You Lord song by All Sons and Daughters  "Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me." Psalm 54:4 "In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God." Romans 8:26, 27   The IMbetween Podcast Dropping Twice a Week?! Got 15 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Does everything need to be perfect in order for us to have a reason to celebrate? Can we experience joy even when we are suffering? On Episode 94, Daniel and Christina interview author and advocate, Katherine Wolf. At the age of 26, Katherine experienced a near-fatal stroke when her son was only 6 months old. Katherine shares her inspiring story of recovery and how she learned to celebrate everything even in the midst of pain and suffering.  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Learn how to survive anything by redefining everything.  Hear how celebration and suffering are not mutually exclusive.  Disrupting the myth that joy can only be found in a pain-free life.  How celebration can be an act of worship, community, faith, and joyful rebellion.  Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Purchase a copy of Katherine and Jay Wolf's newest book, Suffer Strong: How to Survive Anything by Redefining Everything Check out Katherine and Jay's first book, Hope Heals: A True Story of Overwhelming Loss and an Overcoming Love To find out more about Katherine and Jay, visit them at​ Hopeheals.com Quotes and Tweets: Life defines us, suffering redefines us, and hope refines us. @hopeheals Worship in its purest form doesn't happen when everything comes perfectly together; it's most powerful when everything is falling apart. @hopeheals Celebration can be an act of worship and an act of hope and perhaps, in a way, an act of joyful rebellion against fear. @hopeheals We all have a seat at this table, at God's table, if we're willing to be vulnerable and brave enough to sit down to the life we have and celebrate the life we can't yet see. @hopeheals Even in the face of the unknown, we can remember what and who we do know, and help each other remember it too. In so doing, we can start to know the truest things again. We can preach them to our own hearts until we actually believe them. @hopeheals Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God. - Corrie ten Boom God made you to do the hard thing in the good story He's writing for your life. Whether tomorrow is the best or worst or last day of our lives, we pray that God will give us everything we need to live it out to the fullest with courage and joy. @hopeheals Celebration and joy can be part of the hard stories of suffering. Celebration and suffering are not mutually exclusive. @hopeheals Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Spotify Stitcher Google Podcasts Google Play Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! ________________________________________________________________ Meet Katherine Wolf: At the age of 26 years old, Katherine Wolf experienced a near-fatal stroke. Miraculously, she survived and continues her rockery to this day, including having a miracle baby boy in 2015. Today, Katherine and her husband Jay, run the non-profit ministry Hope Heals, and are advocates for disabled individuals and their families. The couple, and their two sons, live in the Atlanta area. To find out more about Katherine and Jay, visit hopeheals.com For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode94 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Daniel and Christina explore the nuances of apologizing in relationships by discussing the 5 Apology Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. They delve into the emotional depth of expressing regret, the challenge of accepting responsibility without excuses, the significance of making restitution to show sincerity, and the commitment required for planned change to rebuild trust. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they underscore the importance of understanding and using these apology languages to foster forgiveness and reconciliation with the ones you love. In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: Importance of apologies in relationships What "fake" apologies are and what to watch out for The 5 Apology Languages: expressing regret, accepting responsibility, making restitution, planned change, and requesting forgiveness How forgiveness and trust are not to be equated Ways to discover your apology language and the apology language of others Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret To Healthy Relationships by Dr. Gary Chapman Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner Listen to our previous episode about The 7 New Love Languages and 4 Steps To Get Your Love Language Heard Do you need more help with learning to apologies? Listen to our previous episode: Do You Suck At Apologies? Here Are 4 Steps To Healing Hurts With Your For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode181 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shutdowns. Stay-at-home orders. Canceled holiday plans. Christmas certainly looks different this year. And while we may feel like we can't celebrate anything, does everything need to be perfect for us to have a reason to celebrate? Can we experience joy even when we are suffering? In Episode 126, Daniel and Christina interview author and advocate, Katherine Wolf. At the age of 26, Katherine experienced a near-fatal stroke when her son was only 6 months old. Katherine shares her inspiring story of recovery and how she learned to celebrate everything even in the midst of pain and suffering.     Looking for the PERFECT Gift For A Friend, Co-Worker, or Loved One? Download our FREE eBook: The Perfect Gift for Every Enneagram Type IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode126 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, you will learn about the benefits of couples therapy and discover practical steps to inspire your spouse to attend therapy. You will also learn how to approach your spouse who may be resistant to attending therapy, and how you can present therapy as an opportunity rather than an obligation. Overall, this episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and patience in working through relationship issues. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode170 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, we’re going to be discussing how to support your hurting spouse when you are hurting too. This topic hits close to home because we’ve lived it this past year. In May of last year, we said goodbye to Daniel’s dad after a brave 16 month battle with cancer. Thankfully, we were literally there to say goodbye to him. We had flown into Daniel’s hometown on Sunday and his dad unexpectedly passed away two days later.  We weren’t ready for this kind of grief. No one is.  Many of you have been grieving and hurting as well. Perhaps you’ve lost a loved one too. Maybe you’ve lost your job in these tumultuous times. Perhaps you’ve lost friends or family members over differences of opinion. It’s been a difficult few years, to say the least.  So, how do you support your spouse when you’re hurting too? How do you not ignore your own pain to be there for your spouse? How do you not resent your spouse for needing extra attention when they are not necessarily paying attention to your needs and wants? There are no easy answers, but we wanted to share with you a few tips that have helped us during these difficult times.  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode151 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM COMMUNITY: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the strengths based parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. We didn’t have time to get into detail, so we wanted to deep dive into each theme separately. Here is how to spot the Achiever Theme in your child.   Achiever Theme: 1:44 Characteristics of the Achiever 2:44 Emerging signs of the Achieving theme 5:27 Action items for parents with an Achiever-themed child 6:42 What to do if your child doesn't have the achiever theme Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hope can seem like such an elusive thing. In Episode 159, Drake Farmer unpacks for us what hope is, where we should put our hope when we are going through a difficult season, and how to be full of love, fueled by faith, and addicted to hope. For the full show notes, including personal journal prompts and discussion questions for you as a couple, go to IMbetween.org/episode159 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that you can't think? Have you found yourself tossing and turning at night because your mind is racing? When you feel out of control, when you can't sleep, try this: Palms Down, Palms Up.    Palms Down, Palms Up Exercise: 1:09 Breathing exercise to prepare. 1:36 Begin Palms Down prayer. 2:54 Begin Palms Up prayer.  4:07 Short breath prayer. Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: If you want to hear more about the benefits of deep breathing, listen to Centering Prayer  Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me, because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22, 23 The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 15 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are two words that we need to erase from our vocabulary during this difficult time. People assume these two words help themselves and others get through a funk. Instead, they stunt the process of grief that we all need to walk through. Do you know what these two words are? Are you saying them? Tune in to find out.  The Two Words To Avoid: 2:30 What happens when we speak these two words to ourselves, our friends, and our family. 3:04 The dangers of comparative suffering.  3:52 The lie we've believed about pain. 5:09 What we should all be saying instead of these two words.  Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: "Comparative suffering is dangerous. Empathy is not finite. When we practice empathy, we create more empathy. Hurt is hurt, and every time we honor our own struggle, and the struggles of others by responding with empathy, the healing that results affect us all." @brenebrown “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28 "It is necessary to hold our pain in one hand, hold the pain of others in our other hand, and go to Jesus and lay them down at His feet." @imbetweenshow The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 15 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We interview Dr. Bob Paul about the concept of intensive marriage therapy and how it differs from traditional counselling. Bob explains the advantages of intensive therapy, such as addressing core issues and providing a focused environment for couples to work through their challenges. He also discusses the person-centred approach of their program, prioritizing the well-being of individuals while building healthy relationships. Bob addresses the suitability of intensive therapy for couples and emphasizes the importance of investing in relationships. In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: Intensive marriage therapy vs traditional weekly counselling sessions Advantages of intensive therapy  Importance of individuals being whole and healthy for successful relationships Self-care and honouring God to bring the best selves to marriage and family Suitability for intensive therapy or traditional counselling The definition of a great marriage Resources, opportunities, and aftercare support provided by the program Recognizing when a couple is drifting apart and investing in the relationship Seeking professional help for couples hanging by a thread Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Hope Restored Marriage Intensive in Canada   https://hoperestored.focusonthefamily.ca/ Hope Restored Marriage Intensive in the USA   https://hoperestored.focusonthefamily.com/ The DNA of Relationships for Couples by Greg Smalley and Robert Paul - https://amzn.to/3M9TKng 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage: And the Truths That Will Save It and Set It Free - Robert Paul and Greg Smalley https://amzn.to/4041D3c Restoring Hope - Robert Paul, Robert Burbee, Christine Arnzen https://amzn.to/3S2knhM Reconnected: Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Marriage - Greg and Erin Smalley https://amzn.to/3QtDIHz Meet Dr. Bob Paul: Dr. Robert Paul is the vice president of the Focus on the Family Marriage Institute. He is also one of the founders of its highly acclaimed Hope Restored marriage intensive programs. He is a licensed professional counselor, an international speaker, and co-author of a number of books including The DNA of Relationships and 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode175 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are going to give you a framework to be able to set your family's weekly rhythm. You can establish a routine for your family, despite how chaotic or busy your lives are. Just as you may create a family budget to direct where your money goes, you can establish family rhythms to direct where your time goes. If you do not take authority over your time, you risk living in the tornado of whatever events the day or the week throws your way. There is no room for moments, rest, or enjoyment in that kind of life. However, when you live by intentional rhythms, you can live the life God created for you. A life of learning to abide in Him. For the full show notes, including date night questions and journal prompts about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode164 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After studying thousands of couples for over 4 decades, Dr. John Gottman found that the difference between happy and unhappy couples is not how much they fight, how often they have sex, or how much money is in their bank accounts. Instead, it is how often they turn toward each other instead of turning away from one another.  In episode 144, Daniel and Christina share how the first half of their marriage was a disaster waiting to happen and what changes they made to ensure the second half of their marriage was healthier.  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode144 IMBETWEEN FB: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Friendship can enrich your life in many ways. Good friends teach you about yourself and challenge you to be better. They encourage you to keep going when times get tough and celebrate your successes with you. But friends do a lot more than give you a shoulder to cry on; they also positively impact your health. Some research even says friendships are just as crucial to your well-being as eating right and exercising. If friendships are so impactful and beneficial to our lives, shouldn't we be talking about them more often? In episode 166, we talk about three relationships you can cultivate daily: friendship with Jesus, your spouse, and others.  For the full show notes, including date night questions and journal prompts about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode166 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On the surface, while the Internet, smartphones, and the rise of the gig economy appear to be connecting us with one another, they’re actually doing the very opposite. They’re exacerbating the problems of disconnection, isolation, and loneliness. We are more disconnected than ever before, which is leading to a decline in trust. And the more disconnected and untrusting we become, the more we are going to turn inward and become unhealthily obsessed with ourselves.  Marriage is about unity, oneness, and should be the opposite of selfishness. On Episode 83, Daniel and Christina walk through two of the common lies that we believe about marriage reframed as half-truths: You are who you know and You are what you experience. These two lies are from Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love. Grab Your FREE Guide to Setting a SMART Goal: This printable will help you set and achieve your goals in 2020. We can't wait to hear all about the goals you have smashed this year!  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Daniel's latest book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love The lies we believe about marriage  The negative sides of believing that you are who you know and you are what you experience Why we need to overcome these lies and how to overcome them Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Grab a copy of Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love Listen to Episode 82: The Lies We Believe About Ourselves where we go more into depth about the lies "You are what you do" and "You are your past" Quotables & Tweetables: "On the surface, while the Internet, smartphones, and the rise of the gig economy appear to be connecting us with one another, they’re actually doing the very opposite. They’re exacerbating the problems of disconnection, isolation, and loneliness." @danielsangi "If we're not careful, chasing after experiences can become a god in our lives." @danielsangi "Comparisons is a zero sum game. Underneath it all, there is no end to this lie. There is always more comparison. Instead of quenching the flames of jealousy and envy in our hearts, experiences end up fanning them." @danielsangi "And while freedom is the allure of the gig economy— that you will have more flexibility in your schedule to spend time with your loved ones, and money to spend on experiences—it actually leads to the opposite."@danielsangi "Just consider the free time or downtime that you used to have after work to invite friends over for dinner, to talk with your neighbors, or go to the lake with your family on the weekends. Haven’t you replaced some or all of it with hustling, grinding, and working on the side, so that you’ll have more money to spend time with them . . . at some point in the future?" @danielsangi Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode83 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you’re sitting down with your not-yet-born children, grandchildren, or great-grandchildren, what are you going to say about 2020? And when you read through the not-yet-written history books outlining the COVID-19/coronavirus global pandemic of 2020, what lens will you be looking through? What words will you use to describe this unprecedented year? What sorrows, joys, and silver-linings will you share? 2020 was the year that literally felt like the world had stopped spinning. We quickly learned to have all of our plans written in pencil so that they could be erased, put on hold, or put aside. We learned how to be bosses, workers, teachers, personal chefs, and sanitation engineers,..sometimes all at once. We learned that toilet paper, sanitizer, masks, and wipes are treasures more valuable than gold. There was a LOT to process, to grieve over, to cry about, to be frustrated about, and to rejoice over. What lessons did you learn in 2020? In episode 127, we share the 7 lessons we learned from a year that did not go as planned. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: The importance of taking the time to pause and reflect about 2020 Why naming your emotions is a vital part of processing all that happened this past year The 7 lessons we learned from a year that did not go as planned How these 7 lessons will help you walk in freedom in 2021   IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode127 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 148, we are chatting with Karen Ehman about How to Break The Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life. As we enter into the holidays, there are many times we bend over backward or say “YES!" to many situations that we look back and wish we had said no. Whether it’s packing the calendar with holiday parties, or hosting Christmas dinner for the family because “No one else will do it and then what will happen?!” this episode will help you realize if you are a people pleaser or not. This interview will also give you practical steps about how you can implement boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers, and others who try to call the shots in your life.  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode148 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM COMMUNITY: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Confidence Theme in your child. The Confidence Theme: 0:55 Characteristics of the Confident child 1:38 Emerging signs of the Confidence theme 3:37 Action items for parents with a Confidence-themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?!Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you sleep 8 hours a night and still wake up feeling tired? Do you find yourself feeling exhausted, even though you’ve had your second cup of coffee and put your feet up to rest while checking social media? In Episode 111, Daniel and Christina interview Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith about the 7 different kinds of rest and why you need each one to live your best life. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode111 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Organizer Theme in your child.   The Future Thinker Theme: 1:18 Characteristics of the Organizer child 2:33 Emerging signs of the Organizer theme 4:07 Action items for parents with an Organizer themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Grab a copy of Daniel's book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies About Work, Life, and Love Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child, The Future Thinker Child If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is there a way to fight with your spouse without the argument blowing up into World War III? We previously discussed what to do with perpetual conflicts and how a conflict-free marriage should not be your goal because it’s impossible. In Episode 114, we want to dive deeper into those “solvable conflicts” and how you can fight with your spouse without ruining your marriage.  While conflict is inevitable in a marriage, we’ve learned through experience that there are many different ways we can fight; and some fights may last longer or hurt deeper than we intended because of the “weapon of choice” we choose to battle with. Here are 5 tools you can use during your next argument to help defuse the flames of a fight.  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode114 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Help! My spouse is addicted to porn! If these words are familiar, this episode is for you. Porn is a billion-dollar industry and a national epidemic that is seeping into our homes and taking marriages captive. In Episode 109, Daniel and Christina interview Rosie Makinney about how you can fight against porn in your marriage and family.    IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode109 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 186, Daniel and Christina Im engage in a profound conversation with Chuck De Groat, a licensed therapist and author of "Healing What's Within." The discussion centers on themes of loneliness, healing, and the integration of spiritual and psychological insights. Chuck shares his journey in writing his book and emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with oneself. The episode explores practical tools for self-examination and highlights the significance of understanding and addressing deeper longings for connection and fulfillment. In This Episode, You'll Hear About: Exploration of themes of loneliness and disconnection. Discussion on the healing process and its significance. Integration of spiritual and psychological insights. The importance of self-awareness and introspection. The role of community in the healing journey. Examination of internal conflicts and desires. Reflection on the biblical concept of "coming home to oneself." Practical tools for self-examination based on biblical questions. Encouragement to engage in contemplative practices and connect with God. Meet Chuck DeGroat: Chuck DeGroat is a professor of pastoral care and Christian spirituality at Western Theological Seminary in Holland, Michigan, where he also serves as the founding executive director of the clinical mental health counseling program. He is a licensed therapist, spiritual director, author, retreat leader speaker, and faculty member with the Soul Care Institute.  As a therapist, he specializes in navigating issues of abuse and trauma, pastoral (and leadership) health, and doubt and darknights on the faith journey. He trains clergy in handling issues of abuse and trauma, conducts pastor and planter assessments, and facilitates church consultations and investigations of abuse.  Before transitioning to training and forming pastors, Chuck served as a pastor in Orlando and San Francisco. He and his wife, Sara, have been married for 30 years and have two adult daughters. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple, go to IMbetween.org/episode186 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A recent survey shows that 8 out of 10 people feel we are completely, hopelessly divided from one another. Do you feel the same way? We have come to the point where we are valuing being right over valuing those around us. In a culture of polarization, do we have to join in? In Episode 119, Daniel and Christina interview Sharon Hersh about how peace and common grace can be the transformation that we all desperately need.    In This Episode, You'll Hear About: How to be a voice of peace in a culture of polarization on social media/in-person What relational violence is and what to do when you've been the receiver/giver Why we all need common grace IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode119 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many times we do not set boundaries because we feel the need to help others or we fear disappointing them. While helping others is not wrong, if you feel like you can’t say no because you’re afraid of disappointing the other person, or you feel like you are giving so much of yourself that you are exhausted or in deep emotional pain, it has crossed the line of helping to hurting. That’s why, in Episode 131, we want to teach you how you can learn to set boundaries…even if you’re a people-pleaser! This is the year you learn to set boundaries. We’ll also address some common myths about boundaries, which may be the reason why you aren’t setting them. What is a boundary? Boundaries are what define us. They define what is you and what is not you. In its simplest sense, a boundary is a property line. It outlines the beginning and end of something. By having boundaries, you are able to know what we are to own and take responsibility for. In relationships, ownership is really important. If you know where the boundaries are in a relationship, you know who “owns” things such as feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. You don’t own someone else's feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. Neither do they own your feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It's important to note that boundaries are not walls. They are not meant to keep people out. It isn’t an excuse for you to be a hermit or unkind to those who are outside of your boundaries. In John 17:11, it says that we are to be “one." We are to be in community with others. But, in every community, all members have their own space and property. Like author Dr. Henry Cloud says, "The important thing is that property lines be permeable enough to allow passing and strong enough to keep out danger. Boundaries help us distinguish our property so that we can take care of it.” In other words, boundaries help you take care and improve your own life. Instead of being SO concerned about what others are thinking or doing, you focus on your own health and well-being.  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode131 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Money is often the source of many marital conflicts and has been one of the top reasons for divorce. But, it doesn't have to be this way! In Episode 130, we interview #1 New York Times bestselling author and money expert Rachel Cruze about the money advice married couples should not ignore. When couples understand why they handle money the way they do it changes everything. You can partner with your spouse more effectively, you can build on your strengths, change your bad habits for good, see some serious life-change, and have the freedom to do the things that matter most to you. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Discover how the way you grew up influences your money decisions. The 4 money classrooms: Anxious Classroom - emotionally stressed and verbally closed Unstable Classroom - emotionally stressed and verbally open Unaware Classroom - emotionally calm and verbally closed Secure Classroom - emotionally calm and verbally open Why it is important to set a value system about money with your spouse. The 7 money fears and how fear can signal what financial changes need to take place in your family. How working together on your money will improve other parts of your relationship. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode130 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Prayer can feel daunting, especially with the busyness of life. Where to begin? What to say? How do you make time to pray when you don't even have time to think? On today's mini episode, Chrystal Evans Hurst takes us on a guided journey to develop a powerful daily prayer life.    Transforming Your Conversation With God: 1:24 What does "pray without ceasing" mean? 1:50 What a day of prayer looks like.  6:50 Prayer as a conversation with God. 7:07 How you can hear from God.  10:00 Time of reflection.  Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: To find out more about Chrystal, check out her website Pick up a copy of Chrystal's newest book: The 28-Day Prayer Journey: A Daily Guide to Conversations with God Anytime is a good time to have a conversation with God. @chrystalhurst Praying without ceasing is an invitation to talk with God. @chrystalhurst If you want to hear from God, you start with His word. And then if you want His word to resound in application in your life, then you have to make time for Him to allow that word to take seed, to sprout out, and then infect and inform the way you think, the way you feel and, in return, what you do. @chrystalhurst Prayer is our conduit into relationship with God. Just like any relationship, our relationship with God requires time, intentionality, and consistent deposits of our hearts while listening to His. @chrystalhurst Don't let distraction or forgetfulness throw you; just pick up where you left off with God. He is ready and willing to listen and wants to talk to you, no matter how long it has been. @chrystalhurst The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow _________________________________________________________________ Meet Chrystal Evans Hurst: Chrystal Evans Hurst is an encourager who teaches people to love God, to love others, and to love themselves. Chrystal is a wife, mother of five and grandmother of two. She is also a speaker and the best-selling author of She’s Still There and Kingdom Woman and the newly released, The 28-Day Prayer Journey.  Chrystal is an energetic, life-loving “girl-next-door” who loves encouraging others to fulfill their potential in Christ. With humor and vulnerability, Chrystal tells it like it is but does so with grace, integrity, and love. You can find Chrystal regularly sharing encouragement via her podcasts and blogs, where she poignantly reflects on faith and speaks with frank honesty about the everyday experiences of women.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The holidays are known to be the most stressful time of the year. And perhaps this statement rings true in your own life. But, it doesn't have to be this way! In episode 124, Daniel and Christina share the 5 questions you need to ask your spouse before the holidays start. With a little bit of planning ahead and some cozy couch discussions, this Christmas can be a celebration worth remembering, even if it is in the midst of a global pandemic.   In This Episode, You Will Hear About: The 5 discussion questions to have with your spouse before the holidays: What did Christmas feel like in your own home while growing up? What boundaries do we need to set? How can we play to each other’s strengths? What do you need to feel recharged during this season, especially when visiting family? Do we need a Plan A and Plan B? Looking for the PERFECT Gift For A Friend, Co-Worker, or Loved One? Download our FREE eBook: The Perfect Gift for Every Enneagram Type IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode124 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you're a bride-to-be, a mother-in-law-to-be, or a woman who has been braving the in-law relationship for decades, every daughter-in-law and mother-in-law needs help navigating their relationship sometimes. In Episode 154, we chat with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law duo, Barbara and Stacy Reaoch, about practical ways the in-law relationship can genuinely thrive in the midst of difficulty. Barbara Reaoch, author of A Better Than Anything Christmas (2020), is the former director of the children’s division at Bible Study Fellowship International. Her home is Minneapolis, Minn., with her husband Ron. Prior to her role at BSF, Barbara and Ron lived in Cape Town, South Africa, to teach Bible Study Fellowship classes. They also worked with the Rafiki Foundation to train young women in job and life skills. You can connect with her at www.barbarareaoch.com. Stacy Reaoch is a pastor’s wife, mother of four, and the author of Wilderness Wanderings: Finding Contentment in the Desert Times of Life. She has written for various ministries including Desiring God, The Gospel Coalition, and Revive Our Hearts. Stacy and her husband, Ben, (Barbara’s son) live in Pittsburgh, Penn., with their children. You can find more about Stacy and her writings at www.stacyreaoch.com. For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode154 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Resilience is the ability to withstand and overcome. As a parent, you have shown resiliency through a pandemic, through school closures, through canceled playdates and vacations. But, what if you find yourself exhausted from the load of parenting? How do you continue if you feel like you have nothing left to give? In Episode 108, Daniel and Christina interview Laura Howe about the 7 keys to resiliency for the exhausted parent.  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode108 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 147, we have the great honor of interviewing Ruth Chou Simons. Y’all…this was such an incredible discussion as we jump right into why we need to stop pretending we have it altogether, the gospel of self-improvement and why we need to replace it with the gospel of life-transforming grace. We talk about growing up in a shame based household as we all grew up in first generation Asian families, and how she learned not to carry on the same way of parenting into her own family. We also talk about what it means to be a third-culture-kid and striving for approval. We could have talked to her for hours on end as we feel like we were just scratching the surface of what it means and how it feels to be an Asian North American during this time.  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode147 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM COMMUNITY: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On the surface, believing the lie that you are who you raise doesn’t seem too bad, since involvement in your child’s life is better than neglect. However, underneath the surface, this lie frauds us into believing that our children’s success is our success. And their failure is our failure. Are we the ones that are ultimately in control over the destiny of our children? Can we shape and mould them into our image and likeness? Do we have the power to sustain them? Outwardly, of course we would blurt out, "NO!" But inwardly, we may be sitting with a lie that actually tricks us into believing that our self-worth is tied directly to our children.  On Episode 84, Daniel and Christina unpack two of the common lies that we believe about parenting reframed as half-truths: You are who you raise and You are what you know. These two are from Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love Grab Your FREE Guide to Setting a SMART Goal: This printable will help you set and achieve your goals in 2020. We can't wait to hear all about the goals you have smashed this year! In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Daniel's latest book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love The lies we believe about parenting The vicious cycle we create when we believe the lies that you are who you raise and you are what you know Why we need to overcome these lies and how to overcome them Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Grab a copy of Daniel's new book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love Listen to Episode 82: The Lies We Believe About Ourselves where we go more into depth about the lies "You are what you do" and "You are your past" Catch up on Episode 83: The Lies We Believe About Marriage were we discuss the lies: "You are who you know" and "You are what you experience" Quotables & Tweetables: "If media, which includes YouTube, has become the number-one influencer for our children's career choices, what are the implications?" @danielsangi "And then one day we realize that we have no idea why we are doing what we're doing. And when it comes to parenting, that's a scary place to be." @danielsangi "You are who you raise: This lie is so dangerous because it deceives you into believing that parenting ought to be your all and everything. That your children should be the center of your universe." @danielsangi "On the surface this lie, "You are who you raise" doesn't seem too bad, since involvement in your child's life is better than neglect. However, underneath the surface, this lie actually tricks you into believing that your self-worth is tied directly to the performance of your children." @danielsangi "This lie, "You are who you raise" frauds you into believing that your children's successes your success. And their failure is your failure." @danielsangi Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode84 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can a movie about divorce really teach us important lessons about marriage? Most certainly! We recently watched the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. While it is a heartbreaking to watch a marriage literally crumble, the movie highlights some very important relationship lessons that can make or break a marriage. On Episode 93, Daniel and Christina continue their discussion about the 6 crucial relationship lessons from the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. If you have not listened to Part 1 yet, make sure to go back and do so. Have You Grabbed Your FREE Guide to Better Relationships with The Enneagram? We can’t wait for you to get your hands on this resource! This printable will help you have a healthier marriage, deeper friendships, and better work relations. Download our FREE printable: The Enneagram and Conflict Resolution: A Guide to Better Relationships In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Crucial marriage lessons from the Netflix movie Marriage Story What intruders are and how to protect your marriage from them How men and women are wired differently when it comes to physical intimacy Why you and your spouse should have more sex The importance of counseling and how it can help strengthen your marriage Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Listen to Part 1 of 6 Relationship Lessons From The Netflix Movie Marriage Story Tune into our previous episode about How To Strengthen Your Marriage in 15 Minutes Check out Episode 74: Blended Families: Strategies to Help Your Stepfamily Blend and Episode 75: Common Pitfalls in Blended Families and How to Overcome Them Interested in learning more about Stone Walling? Listen to Episode 76: 4 Things to Remember When Marriage Is Hard  The Enneagram is an incredible tool to help strengthen your marriage! Listen to Episode 69: Enneagram and Communication Styles and Episode 70: Resolving Conflict with the Enneagram to find out more.  Want to find out more about bids? Read Dr. John Gottman's books The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships and What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal  Interested in finding out more about intruders in your marriage and how to have healthy marriage boundaries? Read Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries in Marriage  Deb Hirsch's book Redeeming Sex: Naked Conversations About Sexuality and Spirituality Quotes & Tweets: Intimacy is an important part of a romantic relationship and one of the first areas to suffer if the marriage is going through a difficult season. @imbetweenshow God designed both spouses to invest continually in their attachment to each other. Couples need to work to keep their love secure and safe. @drhenrycloud When a marriage contains conflict or hurt, we tend to busy ourselves in other people and activities. Busyness is less painful than facing some seemingly unsolvable problem in love day after day. @drhenrycloud The reality is that marriage is only as good as the investment people make in it. @drhenrycloud Living in unconditional grace is never an excuse to be irresponsible or hurtful. @drhenrycloud There are other issues surrounding the fact that you do not want to be physically intimate with your spouse. @imbetweenshow Never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you're there. @GottmanInst Every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay. @GottmanInst Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever felt like you don't understand your spouse? Have you ever wondered why your spouse handles a situation in a completely different manner than you would? Do you wish for a closer connection, but don't know how to get there? In Episode 98, Daniel and Christina interview Enneagram coaches, Beth and Jeff McCord, about how the Enneagram can give you the language to communicate with your spouse, the empathy to understand your spouse, and the tools to help defuse conflicts before they start with your spouse. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode98 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Competing Theme in your child.   Competing Theme: 1:41 Characteristics of the Competing child 2:43 Emerging signs of the Competing theme 4:05 Action items for parents with a Competing-themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child and The Caring Child If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether we realize it or not, we all have a relationship with money. Some have a wonderful, healthy, and bountiful relationship with money. Others feel drained, owned, or overwhelmed by money. Every person has a unique way of thinking about and dealing with money. This is called a Money Personality. Not everyone has the same money personality. Perhaps you can see it in your own children. Some kids save like money is going out of style. Others may earn a quarter just so that they can tun around and spend it on anything and everything. Like our own children, we have very different ways of thinking about and dealing with money. It may seem obvious, but here’s a good reminder: most of us may assume that our spouse thinks about money like we do, and if they don’t, they are wrong. But, is that really true? In Episode 79, Daniel and Christina help you discover what your Money Personality is in order to help you understand yourself and the way you think about/approach money.  Have You Grabbed Your FREE Guide to Better Relationships with The Enneagram? We can't wait for you to get your hands on this resource! This printable will help you have a healthier marriage, deeper friendships, and better work relations. Download our FREE printable: The Enneagram and Conflict Resolution: A Guide to Better Relationships In This Episode, You Will Hear About: What the 5 Money Personalities are Saver Spender Risk Taker Security Seeker Flyer  How to discover which Money Personality you are The strengths and shadow sides of each Money Personality What financial infidelity is and how to avoid it Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Are you wanting to learn more about The 5 Money Personalities? Make sure to pick up The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language by Scott and Bethany Palmer Want to learn more about how marriage and money can successfully go hand in hand? Listen to Episode 17: Money and Marriage with author Art Rainer Pick up a copy of Art Rainer's book The Marriage Challenge: A Financial Guide for Married Couples Are you wanting to teach your kids about handling money in a way they understand? Take a look at Art Rainer's kids books to help your children learn about money: The Great Lemonade Standoff, The Mad Cash Dash, and Trouble At The Toy Store Want to learn how to raise children that are wise with their spending, saving, and giving? Listen to Episode 29: How to Raise a Money Saavy Kid with Rachel Cruze (daughter of Dave Ramsey) Pick up a copy of Rachel Cruze's book Smart Money, Smart Kids: Raising the Next Generation to Win with Money Quotables & Tweetables: "Sometimes the combination of different Money Personalities can create serious tension and conflict. But when you know and respect your spouse’s Money Personality, you will have a greater understanding of each other and hopefully money will no longer be such a “trigger point” to a heated discussion." - @imbetweenshow "There is no right or wrong Money Personality. The goal in finding out your and your spouse's money personality is to help you understand each other better and the way you think about and approach money." - @imbetweenshow "In the grand scheme of things, it's not really about the money. It’s about the relationship, it’s about trust, and respect, and communication." - @imbetweenshow   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode79 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you know what story you are living according to? That’s influencing the way you parent? Do you know what story your children are living? Every day, we are exposed to over 5000 ads a day! At the grocery store, on Instagram, onYoutube, on Tik Tok, and on the bus ride to and from school.  Every day, it is estimated that we make around 35,000 decisions! The stories that we believe and let drive our lives matter because they are not only providing for us the framework to make decisions, but are also influencing the way we spend our time, our money, and our energy. So if we’re not intentional and proactive in living our lives, and parenting according to the story that matters most to us, then we’re opening the doors to allow fortune 500 companies, peer pressure, and fate to write our stories. And, we can guarantee that none of those things or people have our—or our family's—best interests in mind. The fact is, if we do not invite our children into a story, someone else will.  On Episode 87, Daniel and Christina give you the tools to identify and craft a family story that will give you purpose, direction in life, and connection with one another.  Grab Your FREE Printable to Create a Guiding Statement For Your Family: This printable will help you create a guiding statement for your family. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: What a guiding statement looks like Why it is crucial that your family knows what story they are living out How to invite your family into a meaningful story Principles to creating a guiding statement for your family Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Listen to our previous episodes about How to Set Goals and ACTUALLY Achieve Them and How to End Your Year Strong  Not quite ready to set goals for 2020? Listen to our previous episode about The Year of Grace and Gratitude Want a chance to win a copy of Daniel's newest book: You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love? Head to @imbetweenshow on Facebook or Instagram for more details.  Quotables & Tweetables: "The fact is, if we do not invite our children into a story, someone else will." @imbetweenshow "Unless you have an overarching framework for your family’s story, you won’t know what to say yes to, and what to say no to." @imbetweenshow "When your guiding statement introduces a challenge or problem that you see in the world and how your family is going to overcome it, it will be exciting, memorable, and something that everyone wants to be invested in." @imbetweenshow Your guiding statement creates a sense that you are on the same team moving in the same direction toward a common goal." @imbetweenshow "The sweet spot is if your guiding statement scares everyone just a little bit. Like, can we actually do this? It requires a struggle, an investment, faith, and to trust God outside of our own abilities." @imbetweenshow "By defining the key characteristics your family needs to solve an issue, all of a sudden, you and your children wake up realizing that you are playing a much more important role in your life and in the world than you have ever realized!" @imbetweenshow Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode87 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever made a decision that you later regretted? Do you wish you knew how to make wiser choices instead of repeating the mistakes over and over again? In Episode 121, Daniel and Christina interview Enneagram teacher, Dr. Drew Moser, about how you can make wiser decisions by asking yourself these nine Enneagram questions.  In This Episode, You Will Hear About: How The Enneagram can give you a good framework to help you make wiser decisions The different centers of intelligence and how they can help you in your decision-making process The importance of looking at the past, present, and future (the fullness of time) as you navigate a decision Should Christians use The Enneagram? Looking For The PERFECT Gift To Give The Special People In Your Life?  Download our FREE eBook: The Perfect Gift for Every Enneagram Type to find out what your loved ones really want this holiday season.  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode121 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If there’s anything that’s tested our resilience as parents, it’s COVID. Schooling at home or in person, masks/no masks, bus/no bus, having others over or not; the choices seem endless and the stakes seem really high. In the midst of all of these difficult decisions, parenting sometimes feels very weighty. In Episode 117, Daniel and Christina interview Leslie Leyland Fields about what we can do when parenting feels so hard.     In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Should parenting feel this hard? Is there a parenting hack to make things easier? Myths about parenting that many of us believe and the truth behind them How you can tell the difference between the myths you believe about parenting and the truth The importance of laughter and fun, especially during a pandemic IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode117 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There has recently been a heightened awareness of human trafficking in the news and on social media. While there are many conspiracy theories floating around, one thing is certain: There are an estimated 40 million people trapped in slavery around the world. If that’s the reality for 40 million people, we can no longer choose ignorance of this issue. In Episode 113, Daniel and Christina interview Richard Lee, the Global Officer of Public Engagement with International Justice Mission, about how your family can take part in the fight against modern-day slavery. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode113 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As a family, the New Year is a great opportunity to decide together what habits and rhythms of life you want to live out in 2021. It’s also a great time to come together and set some family goals for the upcoming year too. And, that’s why in today’s episode, we want to share 4 Life-Changing Near Year’s Resolutions for your family to make this year. These ideas will grow your closeness with one another, but they will also set healthy rhythms for your children to take with them into adulthood.  When we think of New Year’s Resolutions, many times we are very aware of what changes we want to make in ourselves like losing the last bit of baby weight or wanting to read more books. And sometimes we are keenly aware of what changes we hope to make in our spouses. Har, har..just kidding…this episode has nothing to do with that. Until the pandemic hit last year, we had never thought about making meaningful family resolutions. In a previous episode, we talked about discussing with your family about what stays and what goes. It was in the middle of our country’s lockdown when we were all working and learning from home. Everything else but grocery stores were shut down…so literally, we lived, worked, and played at home. But, in the middle of this mess, we were able to look at everything we used to have in our schedules and take a proactive step in choosing if we will put those activities back in. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: The 4 life-changing resolutions to make with your family: Adopt a growth mindset. Try things that we will fail at. Practice "secrecy." Learn to apologize. Why having a growth mindset is crucial to your family's well-being. We'll discuss why we need to teach our kids to fail. We will break down the practice of "secrecy" (and no..it's not about keeping secrets from one another). We'll talk about all things apologies and how to avoid the tricky "I"m sorry" traps. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode129 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We interview Dr. Charles Fay, president of the Love and Logic Institute, about parenting strategies from his book "Raising Mentally Strong Kids." Dr. Fay emphasizes allowing children to experience and learn from mistakes, fostering resilience, confidence, kindness, and responsibility. He discusses the negative side effects of overprotective parenting and introduces practical techniques for encouraging problem-solving and independence. The episode also explores the role of mental hygiene, highlighting the need to challenge automatic negative thoughts and promote truthful thinking to support children's mental health. In This Episode, You Will Hear About The Following:  Parenting strategies for building resilience in children and teens. The importance of fostering confidence, kindness, and responsibility in youth. Current trends in youth mental health and their implications for parenting. The significance of allowing children to experience small failures for growth. The role of empathy in effective parenting and problem-solving. Differentiating between healthy and unhealthy struggles for children. The concept of "mental hygiene" and managing negative thoughts. Encouraging open discussions about parenting challenges and strategies. Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Pick up a copy of Dr. Charles Fay's book Raising Mentally Strong Kids Listen to our previous episode about Why We Need To Teach Our Kids to Fail Listen more about the importance of joy in your children's lives: The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids Meet Dr. Charles Fay: Dr. Charles is an internationally recognized author, consultant, and public speaker. He is also president of the Love and Logic Institute, which became part of Amen Clinics in 2020. Millions of educators, mental health professionals, and parents worldwide have benefited from Dr. Fay's down-to-earth solutions to the most common and frustrating behaviors displayed by youth of all ages. These methods come directly from years of experience serving severely disturbed youth and their families in psychiatric hospitals, public and private schools, homes, and other settings. For more information, visit loveandlogic.com For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple, go to IMbetween.org/episode185 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is just in time for the holidays! Are you looking for the PERFECT gift to give to your loved one, friend, co-worker, or neighbor? Are you tired of dropping hints to your loved ones about what you want, only to be disappointed by their gift-giving? If you want to give or receive the perfect gift, the Enneagram can help guide you. Dr. Drew Moser takes us through the perfect gifts to indulge and/or to encourage each Enneagram type to grow into a healthier version of themselves. And as an added bonus, go to IMbetween.org/episode51 to grab your FREE Enneagram Gift Guide e-book. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting isn’t for wimps, especially when it comes to navigating the crucial conversations that we must have with our kids. Jimmy and Kristin Scroggins have had plenty of crucial conversations in their lives—not only with their own eight children but with parents who are scared and seeking wisdom. In Episode 139, Jimmy and Kristin share the "conversation map” to work through any tough conversations you will have with your children. IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode139 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bonnie Gray knows a thing or two about being stressed. During the first year of the pandemic, Bonnie's once full, black hair began falling out. Overwhelmed by the exhaustion of disrupted routines and pressure to meet expectations at work, parenting, ministry and a bottomless checklist of To Do's, Bonnie focused on meeting everyone else's needs at the expense of neglecting her well-being. With her usual coping mechanisms stripped away, she was drained by worries, stress, and anxiety. On Episode 172, Bonnie describes how using soul care and breath prayers can create healthy habits with God to help restore peace and joy in your life. You'll Hear About: The concept of soul care and the four areas of wellness The importance of social wellness and building meaningful relationships The impact of negative emotions on our bodies and the importance of naming and discussing them Tips for managing burnout and improving sleep quality The practice of breath prayer and its impact on managing stress Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Breathe: 21 Days to Stress Less and Transform Chaos to Calm by Bonnie Gray Sweet Like Jasmine: Finding Identity in a Culture of Loneliness by Bonnie Gray https://thebonniegray.com/soulcarequiz/ Breathe: The Stress Less Podcast Breath as Prayer: Calm Your Anxiety, Focus Your Mind, and Renew Your Soul Meet Bonnie Gray: Bonnie Gray is a Soul Care mentor and the author of Breathe: 21 Days to Stress Less and Transform Chaos to Calm, Whispers of Rest, Finding Spiritual Whitespace and Sweet Like Jasmine, an ECPA 2022 Christian Book Award Finalist. Heaving healed from PTSD, Bonnie is passionate about helping thousands of listeners detox stress and flourish in emotional wellness with God’s love through soul care, Bible Study and prayer.  Bonnie is a trusted voice writing for Proverbs 31, Christianity Today and RelevantMagazine. She is also the host of Breathe: The Stress Less Podcast. Take Bonnie’s Soul Care Quiz to learn which area of wellness you’re missing at SoulCareQuiz.com. She loves hiking and eating waffles with her husband and two teenage boys in Silicon Valley. For all of the show notes, including discussion prompts for your next date night, check out IMbetween.org/episode172 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How many times have you lost your cool since the start of this pandemic? How many times have you yelled at your kids or gave the silent treatment to your spouse? No matter your experience with anger, it’s important to be aware of the anger that we feel. It is our body’s way of signaling something is wrong. On today's mini episode, Daniel and Christina address how anger is a secondary emotion; it's a reaction to another emotion. Your anger is trying to tell you something deeper is going on.    What Is Your Anger Telling To Tell You?  1:15 Anger as a secondary emotion.  1:42 Why we need to pay attention to our primary emotions.  2:58 What your anger is trying to signal to you.  4:42 Use your anger as a yellow flag. 4:52 What to do with your anger.  Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Hear more about the Palms Down, Palms Up Prayer "What emotion is underneath my anger?" @imbetweenshow "Anger is what we call a secondary emotion. It’s a reaction to another emotion" @imbetweenshow "While anger, frustration, or irritation is what’s showing up on the surface, the emotions are actually much deeper than that.  And knowing those deeper, primary emotions, is important." @imbetweenshow "Our anger is always trying to signal to us something deeper is going on. So when you feel yourself getting angry, when you notice frustration, irritation, and annoyance, stop, take a breath, and notice those feelings." @imbetweenshow The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The gift of Enneagram for relationships is that it offers us insights and perspectives of others. If you've ever found yourself questioning why your spouse does certain things in some ways or reacts to certain triggers in other ways, this episode is for you. In episode 155, we interview Enneagram coach, Dani Cooper, about how the Enneagram can help you understand your spouse at a deeper level. She also helps you learn how to love your spouse well by discovering the core lies they believe and how you can speak truth to their deepest wounds. Dani Cooper is a Certified Enneagram Teacher and Coach for individuals, couples and teams. She is the author of a new book, The Enneagram For Christian Couples. She is passionate about encouraging others to get on the road to self-discovery, and believes that only as we begin to understand ourselves, can we begin to truly love and care for the people in our lives and grow in our relationship with God and the world around us. For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode155 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

100% of married couples have conflict. But, not 100% of married couples know how to resolve their conflict. We recently watched the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. While it is a heartbreaking to watch a marriage literally fall apart, the movie points out some very important relationship lessons that can make or break a marriage. On Episode 89, Daniel and Christina discuss 6 crucial relationship lessons from the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. Whether you have watched the movie or not, these 6 points will help you re-center and re-focus your marriage on the path to growth, connection, respect, and love for one another.  Have You Grabbed Your FREE Guide to Better Relationships with The Enneagram? We can’t wait for you to get your hands on this resource! This printable will help you have a healthier marriage, deeper friendships, and better work relations. Download our FREE printable: The Enneagram and Conflict Resolution: A Guide to Better Relationships In This Episode, You Will Hear About: Important marriage lessons from the Netflix movie Marriage Story How marriage is hard, but divorce is harder  What bids are and why they are crucial to your relationship The importance of learning to resolve conflict with your spouse  Resources Mentioned During the Episode: Want to find out more about bids? Read Dr. John Gottman's books The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Workand The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships and What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal  Tune into our previous episodes about resolving conflict: Episode 19: How to Handle and Resolve Conflict Episode 37: One of The Greatest Secrets to a Successful Marriage Episode 61: I Think I've Married The Wrong Person  Episode 69: Enneagram and Communication Styles (with Lauren Gray) Episode 70: Resolving Conflict with the Enneagram (with Lauren Gray) Episode 86: The Good, The Hard, and The Beautiful  Curious about how the Enneagram can help your marriage? Check out Beth and Jeff McCord's book, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage Quotables & Tweetables: "Getting divorced with a kid can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It’s like a death without a body." @marriagestory Walking away from conflict does not solve it nor does it end it. @imbetweenshow Marriage is hard, divorce is harder. @imbetweenshow Maybe it’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters. Maybe it doesn’t even matter whether couples agree or disagree. Maybe the important thing is how you pay attention to each other, no matter what your spouse is talking about or doing. @gottmaninst Simply put, successful couples are attentive. They listen, and they put their phones down when the other person wants to chat. @gottmaninst Gottman found when couples break up, it’s usually not because of issues like big fights or infidelity. More often, it’s a result of the resentment and distance that builds up over time when partners continually turn away from bids for connection.@gottmaninst Seek to understand the situation and your spouse's feelings. @imbetweenshow Assumicide is when we incorrectly believe we know another person’s thoughts, feelings, and motivations. We assume we understand why they are behaving in a particular way, and then we respond without asking clarifying questions. @enneagram_coach Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For the full show notes and downloadable images, go to IMbetween.org/episode89 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are there some things your child is naturally better at than other people? What if you could spot those areas of talent and turn them into strengths? That's what this episode is precisely about. In This Episode, You Will Hear About: The importance of knowing your own strengths Why the Strengths-Based parenting approach to raising children is crucial How to notice, appreciate, support, and build on your child's talents The difference between focussing on your child's weakness versus managing their weakness How to cultivate your child's interests and turn them into strengths  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode104 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you feel like you have a sexless marriage? You are not alone and there is hope. In Episode 107, Daniel and Christina interview Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley about what triggers sexual inactivity in a marriage, what to do if there is a mismatch in the desire for sex, and some practical steps you can take to resurrect your sex life.  Psst...Looking for the sex conversation starter questions mentioned in the episode? Visit IMbetween.org/printables to grab this free resource right away. IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode107 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you believe that not having conflict with your spouse is a sign of a healthy marriage? While, it may seem like couples that don’t disagree or argue, seem to have a good marriage, there is more to the story. In Episode 106, Daniel and Christina discuss why a conflict-free marriage should not be your goal.  IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode106 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During the Strengths Based Parenting episode, we mentioned 10 themes that you can start to spot in your child. Here is how to spot the Future Thinker Theme in your child. The Future Thinker Theme: 2:35 Characteristics of the Future Thinker child 3:22 Emerging signs of the Future Thinker theme 5:24 Action items for parents with a Future Thinker themed child Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Grab a copy of Daniel's book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies About Work, Life, and Love Listen to our previous episode about Strengths Based Parenting Listen to our previous mini episode about The Achiever Child, The Caring Child, The Competing Child, The Confident Child, The Dependable Child, The Discoverer Child  If you don't know your own strengths, read StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup Have a child that is 15 years old and above? Read CliftonStrengths for Students Have a child between 10 to 14? Read StrengthsExplorer for Ages 10 to 14 Strengths Based Parenting: Developing Your Children's Innate Talents  Listen to our episode about a Strengths Based Marriage  The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays! Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow YouTube - @imbetweenpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Research shows that worry has a trickle-down effect from parent to child. Thus, it's important that parents learn how to manage their worries so that they can cultivate a more peaceful environment for their children. It is possible to give your children (both young and older) the tools for coping with worry and the ability to think differently about the problems and challenges they encounter in the world around them.  In episode 146, Daniel and Christina interview Dr. Josh Straub about what tools to teach our kids to help them manage their worry and trust God. We can all choose to be brave and live free even when we worry. Here's how to do it.  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode146 IMBETWEEN FB: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Canadian Certified Counsellor Nadine Crain discusses the impact of purity culture on parenthood. She explains the origins and effects of purity culture, highlighting how it emphasized abstinence and tied a person's worth to their sexual purity. Nadine emphasizes the need to develop a healthier relationship with our bodies. Also, she discusses the importance of communication with our bodies and how to navigate the tension between teaching a biblical ethic around sexuality while avoiding the harmful aspects of purity culture.  In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: Impact of purity culture on parenthood Origins and long-term effects of purity culture on individuals How to develop a healthier relationship with our bodies Importance of recognizing and acknowledging our bodies Communication with our bodies and addressing past traumas Navigating the tension between biblical ethics and harmful aspects of purity culture in parenting Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Christian Counsellor's Network Nadine's website Nadine's Instagram Picture/Children’s books: “Bodies are Cool” by Tyler Feder “It’s My Body!” by Elise Gravel Books for Parents Personal Healing and Learning: Faithful: A Theology of Sex, by Beth Felker Jones The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living, by Hillary L. McBride, PhD Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals our Way to Healing, by Jay Stringer Meet Nadine Crain: Nadine is a Canadian Certified Counsellor with a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. Nadine is a pastor’s wife, and has served in ministry with her husband Brandon for the past 13 years. They live in Edmonton, AB, and have three daughters. Nadine’s passion is helping Christians connect their mental, emotional, and spiritual health with how they live and experience their bodies. In her counselling practice Nadine works with couples and individuals who are struggling with anxiety, emotional regulation, recovering from religious trauma, or struggling with sexual intimacy and communication. Nadine also offers Pre-Marital Counselling, and presentations for church groups. While completing her Master’s degree, Nadine chose to research “How Purity Culture Has Impacted the Self-Esteem, Sexuality and Spirituality of Evangelical Women.” Her findings from that project have inspired the trajectory of her counselling practice and ministry. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode176 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

While there are a lot of things that are out of our control, it is helpful to underline for our families what we can control. So, sometime today, when y’all are altogether, ask your family this one question. Ask Your Family This Question: 0:38 How things have changed. 1:14 The one question to ask your family. 1:24 Why you should be asking your family this one question. 2:17 What we can and cannot control. Resources And Quotes Mentioned During This Episode: Episode 4: Why slowing down life matters  Episode 68: Why your kids need to be bored this summer The IMbetween Podcast Drops Twice a Week Now?! Got 10 minutes? Tune in every Friday to hear practical ways of how you can continue to build strong, connected, and joy-filled marriages and families. Make sure to subscribe to The IMBetween Podcast, so you don't miss any episodes NOW dropping on Tuesdays and Fridays!   Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow Pinterest - @imbetweenshow   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy 2020! Can you believe another year has passed?! We have also entered a brand new decade! With the start of the New Year, have you set some resolutions for yourself? For your family? For your business? According to a recent article in Forbes Magazine, less than 25% of people actually stay committed to their resolutions after just 30 days, and only 8% actually accomplish them. But, guess what? You don't have to be a part of that statistic! On Episode 81, Daniel and Christina discuss how to set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Based) goals and how this acrostic will help you achieve and smash your 2020 goals! Are you ready?! Grab Your FREE Guide to Setting a SMART Goal: This printable will help you set and achieve your goals in 2020. We can't wait to hear all about the goals you have smashed this year! In This Episode, You Will Hear About: How to set goals and practical ways to achieve them What setting goals and Dopamine have in common The SMART acrostic and how it will help you achieve your 2020 goals Specific Measurable Attainable Relevant Time-Based Resources Mentioned During the Episode: The Forbes Magazine article about New Year's Resolutions that Daniel was referring to Listen to our previous episode about How to End Your Year Strong Not quite ready to set goals for 2020? Listen to our previous episode about The Year of Grace and Gratitude Grab the FREE printable for the Date Coupons here PRE-SALE OFFER for Daniel's newest book: You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love If you buy before Feb 3 using this link, you will get the paperback copy for 50% off retail price, and a FREE copy of a digital version when you email the receipt to daniel@danielim.com. Quotables & Tweetables:"Make sure the goals you are setting in 2020 are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-Based - @imbetweenshow Subscribe and Connect With Us: Apple Podcasts Stitcher Google Play Spotify Instagram - @imbetweenshow Twitter - @imbetweenshow Facebook - @imbetweenshow And don't forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode! For all the show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode81 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trillia Newbell, the author of Celebrating Around the Table, unpacks the book's themes of food, fellowship, and faith. Trillia shares how her family's tradition of exploring different cultures through meals inspired her book. She highlights key figures like Elizabeth Freeman and Ruby Bridges, emphasizing courage and resilience. The conversation underscores the importance of intentional family time, even with simple meals, and the educational value of learning diverse histories. The episode concludes with encouragement for families to cultivate deeper connections and celebrate their unique stories through shared experiences. In This Episode, You'll Hear About:  The importance of food, fellowship, and faith in celebrating cultural stories. Impact of cultural exploration on family dynamics and appreciation for diversity. Highlighting significant figures in Black Christian history, such as Elizabeth Freeman and Ruby Bridges. Discussion of courage, resilience, and faith as central themes in the stories. Encouragement for families to engage in meaningful conversations around the dinner table. Practical advice for simplifying family meals while prioritizing connection. Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Celebrating Around the Table: Learning the Stories of Black Christians Through Readings, Fellowship, Food, and Faith trillianewbell.com Meet Trillia Newbell: Trillia Newbell is the author of several books including, 52 Weeks in the Word, A Great Cloud of Witnesses, Sacred Endurance, If God is For Us, Fear and Faith, and the children's books Creative God, Colorful Us, God's Very Good Idea, and Jesus and the Gift of Friendship. She is the host of the podcast 52 Weeks in the Word and hosts the weekly radio program Living by Faith from Moody Radio. When she isn’t writing, she’s encouraging and supporting other writers as the Acquisitions and Editorial Director at Moody Publishers. Trillia is married to her best friend, Thern, and they reside with their two children near Nashville, TN where they enjoy hiking and eating lots of bbq.  For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple, go to: IMbetween.org/episode190 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Daniel and Christina discuss strategies for deepening love in your relationship. They explore how to address complaints constructively, repair conflicts, and avoid contempt. They also highlight the role of physical touch, expressing gratitude, and the power of forgiveness in strengthening marital bonds. The episode provides practical advice and personal insights for couples looking to enhance their relationship and foster a deeper connection. In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: Addressing complaints without blame in a marriage Repairing conflicts and distinguishing between solvable and perpetual conflicts Sticking to the issues during arguments and avoiding contemptuous behaviour Understanding underlying emotions and addressing unmet needs in relationships Extending the time between feeling, thinking, and speaking in a relationship The significance of physical touch and the impact of oxytocin on reducing stress hormones Growing fondness and admiration in a marriage through gratitude and appreciation Seeking to understand before seeking to be understood and the role of forgiveness Practicing apologizing and forgiving in a marriage Timestamps: Share your complaint without pointing fingers (00:07:41) Discussing the difference between sharing complaints and criticizing your spouse, emphasizing the importance of addressing specific issues. Repair conflicts with skill (00:11:14) Exploring the concept of solvable and perpetual conflicts in relationships and the significance of addressing and bouncing back from disagreements. Stick to talking about the issues at hand (00:12:37) Emphasizing the importance of avoiding name-calling, personal attacks, and contempt in arguments, and the need to understand underlying emotions. The impact of contempt on relationships (00:15:07) Exploring the destructive nature of contempt in relationships, its role as a predictor of divorce, and the need to avoid displaying contemptuous behavior. Recognizing and addressing signs of contempt (00:16:26) Discussing how contempt can develop over time in relationships and the importance of recognizing and addressing signs of contemptuous behavior. Moving toward reconciliation and repairing (00:17:26) Highlighting the significance of acknowledging and apologizing for displaying contemptuous behavior and moving towards reconciliation and repairing the relationship. Extending the space between feelings and thoughts (00:17:48) Discussing how to extend the time between feeling anger and reacting, to respond instead. Showing love through physical touch (00:19:26) Exploring the benefits of physical touch in relationships and the impact of a six-second kiss. Growing fondness and admiration (00:21:18) Encouraging the practice of expressing gratitude and appreciation for one's spouse's positive qualities. Seeking first to understand and then to be understood (00:23:04) Emphasizing the importance of active listening and understanding in communication. Practicing apologizing and forgiving (00:28:19) Discussing the significance of forgiveness and the process of seeking and granting forgiveness in relationships. Conclusion and episode recap (00:31:56) Summarizing the six ways to deepen love in marriage and expressing gratitude to the audience. Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Learn the difference between perpetual and solvable conflicts and how to handle each of them:  A Conflict-Free Marriage Is Not The Goal  How To Fight With Your Spouse Without Ruining Your Marriage How To Repair Your Relationship After A Big Fight Learn about the importance of turning toward your spouse and responding to their "bids" What 15 Years Of Marriage Has Taught Us The 4 Keys To Long-Term Sexual Satisfaction For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode179 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jason VanRuler, a therapist and author, discusses the transformative power of facing one's past. He shares his personal journey from a troubled childhood to professional success, highlighting the importance of self-reflection and seeking help to overcome recurring life challenges. Daniel and Christina explore with Jason the various ways individuals can begin addressing their issues, whether through therapy, journaling, or simply talking to a trusted friend. Jason emphasizes that healing from the past involves changing our relationship with it, reducing its emotional intensity, and no longer allowing it to dictate our present and future. In This Episode, You'll Hear About The Following: Importance of confronting brokenness and the past Impact of childhood experiences on adult behaviour Promises individuals make to themselves that may keep them stuck Jason's personal journey from a challenging environment to becoming a therapist and author Why we need to address and change our relationship with the past Paths forward for confronting brokenness, including seeking therapy, journaling, and talking to others Importance of community and connection in the healing process What it looks like to be healed from our past Meet Jason VanRuler: Jason began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships. Jason enjoys spending time with his wife and three children playing games and traveling. In his spare time, Jason enjoys cycling, running, music, fly fishing, and all things personal development related. For the full show notes, including discussion prompts for you as a couple about this episode, go to IMbetween.org/episode178 Connect with us on: Facebook | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marcus and Chris have spent years studying human relationships and were previously on our podcast talking about the connection between joy and marriage. Now they offer parenting principles derived from the way our brains are hardwired. As you'll soon find out, joy isn’t some abstract concept, but a neurochemical reality that arises from the choices we make.  Listen to this episode to learn how to make the parenting decisions that bring joy to yourself and then to those young lives in your hands. You’ll never regret investing in joy!  For the full show notes, go to IMbetween.org/episode150 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM COMMUNITY: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever considered going to couples counseling, but were afraid of the unknown? The first step is often the hardest because you are not sure what to expect. In Episode 140, we interview Monica DiCristina, a Licensed Professional Counselor, about some tell-tale signs your relationship could benefit from counseling. We also discuss what to expect during your initial counseling session, how to know if you and your therapist are a good fit, and what to do if one partner is more willing to pursue counseling than the other. We also ask Monica to take us through a counseling session using a real-life example that plagued our marriage for almost 7 years! We hope that our vulnerability will help demystify what happens during a counseling session and help you take the next step toward healing and wholeness in your relationship. IMBETWEEN SHOWNOTES: IMbetween.org/episode140 IMBETWEEN FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/imbetweenshow IMBETWEEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/imbetweenshow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices