How’s Your Sex Life? (KCRW)

How can I get my husband to do foreplay? I’m tired of my wife turning me down for sex. Is squirting real? Sex educator Emily Nagoski answers your questions. 

How do you know if you want a casual or committed relationship? What’s a good first vibrator? Can you experience sensuality without a partner? Host Myisha Battle helps you explore what YOU truly want out of sex and dating. 

Can women initiate sex? I’m thinking of breaking my celibacy, but men scare me. How do I set boundaries with my parents about my sex life?

I love kinky sex, but I need a break! Is faking an orgasm evil or generous? How do I get my libido back? 

Author Brontez Purnell writes about sex and queerness. His book ‘100 Boyfriends’ was awarded the 2022 Lambda Literary Award in Gay Fiction. Brontez joins Myisha to talk kinky sex in midlife and if it’s ever okay to fake an orgasm. Plus, Brontez shares what he doesn’t tolerate in relationships.

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Brontez: @brontezpurnell

For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

Our first guest of the season! Queer cartoonist and scholar Justin Hall joins us to talk about how a kink can create or block intimacy in a relationship. Plus we play a game to test what makes something kinky or not kinky. Got a question for Myisha? Send an email or voice memo to sexlife@kcrw.org with some background info and your question may be answered on the show.

How to enjoy intimacy again after a miscarriage? How to handle mismatched libidos in long term relationships? And getting turned off by messy sex. 

How to deal with trust issues? Am I terrible for thinking my partner isn’t hot anymore? How do I tell someone I hooked up with that I just want to be friends?

I don’t see my friends unless I organize the hangout and I’m over it! How can I rebuild my connection to my long-distance bestie? My friend thinks I betrayed them, help! 

This week we’re answering your friendship dilemmas with Ann Friedman, co-author of Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close. Plus, Ann shares ways to support your friends who are in lousy relationships. 

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife

Sick of dating apps? Avoiding a tough conversation around sex? Hitachi leaving you numb? Sex and dating coach Myisha Battle is here to help. 

Read the full transcript here. 

How to deal with a bad kisser? How soon is too soon to take a relationship exclusive? And how to stay close with long distance friends. KCRW DJ Tyler Boudreaux joins us to dish advice and share her Top 3 love songs.

How do I navigate casual dating? How do I get over my ex? And is dating possible when I’m asexual?

Is monogamy or my sexual fantasy the problem? How common is a sexless marriage? I’m Gen X, why are young people trying to date me? 

This week Myisha and Jonathan Bastian, host of KCRW’s Life Examined, dig into the science of love and heartbreak.  

My ex-friend is hooking up with my brother-in-law! Will I regret having sex with only one person my whole life? Is it okay to get back in touch with an old flame?

Matteo Lane and Nick Smith are comedians, frenemies, and hosts of the I Never Liked You Podcast. They join Myisha to talk about redefining monogamy and revisiting an old hookup. Plus, Matteo and Nick share their funniest sex mishaps. 

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Matteo: @matteolane

Follow Nick: @nicksmith09

Check out I Never Liked You on your favorite podcast app! 

For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife 

Damona Hoffman, host of the Dates & Mates podcast, drops by to answer your questions alongside Myisha. Should you lie about your age on dating apps? What are the pros and cons of changing your last name when getting remarried as a widow? Plus we dig into Bumble’s list of dating trends to expect in 2024! 

How do you tell your partner what you really want in bed? Is it okay to think about your ex while climaxing? You guessed it, we’re talking orgasms.

Today we’re sharing an episode from our friends at Dear Prudence, Slate’s advice podcast.

In this episode, host Jenée Desmond-Harris is joined by Dan Savage, host of the Savage Lovecast. The two get into how to tell your sibling you think they’re in an emotionally abusive marriage, how to share with your parents you’re omnisexual, and how to approach a serious relationship with someone who lets her pre-teens sleep in her bed. 

Where to watch feminist porn? Do women actually like roleplay? Holly Randall, host of the Holly Randall Unfiltered podcast, talks porn literacy and shares her hot takes on porn tropes. 

I’m new to dating other women! Is it ok to look for traits my ex had in future partners? How do I deal with an ex who keeps sending me mixed signals?   

Amber Whittington, aka AmbersCloset, is a content creator and LGBTQ+ activist. This week, she joins Myisha to talk about being true to yourself as a baby gay. Plus, Amber shares how an ex helped her through her grief.   

Read the full transcript kcrw.com/sexlife 

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Amber: @amberscloset

Author and activist Virgie Tovar is back with her own questions about sex dreams, perimenopause, and masturbating in the sun. Plus, Virgie shares how she got over her sexual hang ups.

Visit the podcast feed for part one of our conversation with Virgie about dating cis men, fatphobia, and unrequited crushes. 

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle
Follow Virgie Tovar: @virgietovar

For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife

Hormone therapy has tanked my libido, but I’m hornier than ever! How can I stay creative in my kinky relationship? 

Sam Sanders, co-host of Vibe Check, drops in for our final episode of the season! Sam gives advice on disclosing STIs, separating sex from your self-worth, and he chats with Myisha about what he’s tired of hearing on first dates. 

We’ll be back in the new year! Be sure to follow the show to be notified when new episodes drop. Got questions about solo sex, finding your sexual self, relationships, or friendship woes? Drop us an email at sexlife@kcrw.org. Be sure to include some background info and your question may be answered on the show.

Is there such a thing as too much masturbation? How can I talk to my partner about reigniting our intimacy? My husband’s sex drive is gone and he doesn’t want to talk about it!

Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, gives advice. We talk about the panic people feel when it comes to masturbation, how intimacy is about more than having sex, and how sex changes as you get older. Plus, Cindy shares her go-to sexual fantasy.  

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Cindy Gallop: @cindygallop

Follow Make Love Not Porn: @makelovenotporn

For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife 

What dating app should I use? How do I talk to my partner about using sex toys together? How can I explore my sexuality as someone who had no sex ed? 

Anna Lee, co-founder and CEO of Lioness, takes a break from engineering smart vibrators to dish advice. We talk about why you should see sex toys as collaborators, not competitors and how to move past sexual mishaps. Plus, Anna shares how her career has helped her learn to enjoy her body. 

Read the full transcript on our website.

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. 

Follow Myisha on IG: @myishabattle 

Anna Lee: @annaisaverage

Lioness Health: @lionesshealth

I’m scared to date women my age! Is zodiac compatibility real? My partner isn’t into astrology like I am, are we a bad match? Astrologer Isa Nakazawa weighs in.  

How do you explore a nature kink? Why does playing hard to get work? How do you talk to your partner about unprotected sex? This week Myisha answers questions speed round style at On Air Fest! 

Read the full transcript here. 

Got a question for Myisha? Send an email or voice memo to sexlife@kcrw.org with some background info and your question may be answered on the show.

First episode baby! Host Myisha Battle gives advice on queer dating, a 12 year booty call gone wrong, painful sex (ouch), and dating while broke. We’ve all been there.  

How to deal with sex and chronic pain? When to bring up a mental health condition in a relationship? And the best and worst parts of dating with a disability. 

How do I talk to my wife about my desires? I’m a 51-year-old virgin and I don’t know where to start! And is there sex after divorce? 

How do I stop dating avoidant people? I’m grieving the death of my partner. Will I connect with someone sexually ever again? And the art of sex magic. 

How do I get more comfortable with dirty talk? What type of person ghosts someone? What type of person gaslights? And I can only orgasm with a vibrator — am I alone? 

Comedian Heather Chelan gives advice and talks about choosing honesty over ghosting, learning not everyone comes from penetrative sex, and how she’s finally having shame free sex. 

Read the full transcript here.

Need advice for your love life? Send Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. You’ll be kept anonymous.  

How can I nurture my bisexuality in a straight passing relationship? How do I reconcile my sexual fantasies with my beliefs? Plus learning new bedroom skills.

Frustrated with your low sex drive? Want sex more often than your partner? Trying to keep your long distance relationship spicy? This week Myisha tackles the highs and lows of libido. 

Got a question for Myisha? Send an email or voice memo to sexlife@kcrw.org and your question may be answered on the show. 

Why can’t people accept that you can be romantic and casual? I adore my partner, but our bedroom is dead… help! Should I tell my crush I like them or play it cool?  

Dylan McKeever uses humor to talk about trans identity and queerness in her work. She joins Myisha to talk situationships and why non-monogamy isn’t for everyone. Plus, Dylan shares the best lesson she’s learned in relationships.

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Dylan: @deemakes

For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

I’m sick of dating apps but it’s hard to meet people in person! How do I talk to my partner about his porn habits without sounding like a prude? And when do I pose the infamous: ‘what are we?’ 

Tomás Mier, Rolling Stone journalist and pop culture content creator, talks Only Fans and queer dating with Myisha. Plus, he shares his own dating standards including when to bring a partner to family dinner. 

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Tomás: @tomas_mier

For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

While we’re off this week, you can catch up on past episodes about kink, self-love, and orgasms right here in the podcast feed. And send your sex and dating questions to sexlife@KCRW.org. 

I want to be more than friends with benefits! How do I keep things romantic with my spouse? Is pegging in my future? 

KCRW DJ Rocio ‘Wyldeflower’ Contreras dishes advice. We talk about when to walk away from being friends with benefits, the importance of setting aside one-on-one time with your spouse, and one listener’s pegging guilt. Plus, Ro shares why she appreciated her single era. 

P.S. We’re taping a special friendship episode of the podcast. What advice do you need about the friendships in your life? Drop us an email at sexlife@kcrw.org with friendship in the subject line. We'll keep you anonymous. 

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Ro aka Wyldeflower: @wyldeflower

For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife 

Doubts about your small penis? Exploring a new kink? Love smelling your partner, but they’re not into it? This week we’re kicking shame to the curb and embracing our bodies. 

How do I get over someone I never dated? I date cis men and fatphobia is our unwelcome third wheel. 

Virgie Tovar (author, activist, and weight-based discrimination expert) gives advice in the first of this two part episode! We talk about the pain of unrequited crushes and setting boundaries as a plus-size dater.

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle
Follow Virgie Tovar: @virgietovar

For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife 

Are you disheartened by dating or running into sexual incompatibility in your otherwise thriving relationships? Too much connection… or not enough? KCRW and sexologist Myisha Battle wants to know, how’s your sex life?

Is my sex vanilla just because I don’t want a threesome? My ‘no strings attached’ sex life is not as fulfilling as I thought. I don’t want to be a sex doll! How do I navigate external validation and what I really want?

Tracy Clark-Flory explores desire in her book Want Me and weekly newsletter. This week, she joins Myisha in tackling personal versus external desires. Plus, Tracy gives advice to her younger self. 

Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.

Follow Myisha: @myishabattle 

Follow Tracy: @tracyclarkflory

Read the full transcript on our website: kcrw.com/sexlife

Why isn’t there a Viagra type drug for women? What happens when your porn habits impact your dating life? When it comes to sex the answers aren’t always so simple. 

How do you open up a monogamous relationship? What to do when your spouse comes out of the closet? How do you date in your 40s? Ashley Ray, comedian and host of Earwolf’s TV, I Say, joins Myisha to talk dating while poly, supporting your partner, and how to not be poly-shady.