Happy Anniversary to us! Thank you for listening and sharing the podcast with others. I have a quick story to share and some thoughts and feelings about the last two years. Happy (Belated) Fourth of July and let's have a great third year together talking about sex.

Cathy and I discuss unwanted sex; whether or not she wants to know about her young teenagers and their sexual experiences; and how she didn't really enjoy sex until about 11 years ago when she first started seeing the man she is with now.

Monika returns to the podcast to talk about using EMDR therapy in order to deal with being abused as a child and how that has affected her marriage as well as her relationship with her family. We also talk about Erin’s Law; BDD - Body Dysmorphic Disorder; Toxic Masculinity; and writing about topics like “Covert Incest” for TheMighty.com

themighty.com/author/monika-sudakov

erinslaw.org

emdr.com

My guest is Marla Renee Stewart. 7+ years ago she founded Velvet Lips, which is an education company that empowers people of all ages to embrace, educate, and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives.

We talk about her coming out to her mother at 16 as a bisexual; masturbation; orgasms; the swinging community; threesomes; Unicorns and how to find them; safe words; spanking; strap ons for men; and sexual innovation.

You can find her on marlareneestewart.com

Twitter: @1marlastewart

marla@velvetlipsllc.com

In the first part of my conversation with Mark and Patricia, I asked what they hoped people would come away with from their book.

I hope it empowers people to take on relationships and design them to become what works for themselves. -Patricia

How to engage sexually….We’re not advocating one way of being (in a relationship) is superior to another. -Mark

We talk about how romantic, emotional bonds and erotic bonds are being pigeonholed into one thing. We also touch on 9 of their 10 Myths about “Good Relationships.”

For more information on Mark and Patricia you can go to their website tantrapm.com

My guest this week is Olivia Samson. If you look at her twitter account @oliviacasualsex you'll find her talking about #polyamory #openrelationship #sexpositive #genderequality and you'll see it from someone who is still learning as she's going and willing to let you in on her thoughts and feelings as she goes. You can also read her blog at oliviasamson.net and read her articles on hamburgersnheroin.com. BUT, the best way to get to know her is to listen to our conversation right here. Enjoy.

My guest is Brenda Marie Davies. She's here to talk about her book, "On Her Knees," which chronicles Brenda’s spiritual journey over the course of a decade in LA, through marriage, divorce, unlikely friendship, and sexual exploration. We discuss sex education; purity culture; the definitions of being a Christian; surviving religious trauma; the Playboy Mansion; badass women from the bible; whether the word “arsenokoitai” means homosexual or not in the bible; the actual definition of a “biblical marriage;” hookup culture; #churchtoo; and a short talk about abortion, that probably should have been a lot longer.

My guest this week is a returning guest from episode #69. The last time Natalie was on we talked about her experience of hosting sex toy parties, but this time we talk about her first experience going to a sex party. We also talk about dating during the time of Covid-19 and her new favorite sex toy. Enjoy!

The podcast is now officially International! While I was in Amsterdam for my birthday, I talked to Mariska Majoor of the Prostitution Information Center, which she opened in 1994 after she had stopped working as a prostitute. The PIC’s goal is to make it easier for people in general to talk openly about sex work and to create public respect for sex workers (a word used increasingly frequently rather than “prostitutes”). She is also the chairman of PROUD, which represents the interests of sex workers, not just in the workplace, but also in politics, media and society. One of the main tasks is to improve the image of female and male sex workers. "The biggest problem is still the stigma that hangs on everybody in the box, even if you do it with great pleasure. We have to try to do something about it," says Majoor.

This episode is a conversation I had with a new friend, Olivia Osol, talking about the Intimacy Directing workshop we attended back on 10-13-19. This workshop was for directors, actors, and stage managers to learn about directing/coordinating intimate scenes on film, TV, and on stage. I felt like these were concepts that could just as well be used by anyone outside of entertainment too. So, instead of just talking about it myself, I asked Olivia to come onto the podcast so we could have a conversation about what we learned and how this would help in the real world as well.

You can find Olivia's podcast "I Stream, You Stream" on iTunes

My guest this week is Guy Blaise, author of “Vive la Difference: A Frenchman’s Perspective on American Women, Love, Respect, and Relationships” and “Love Like The French,” which comes out 4/22/21. The new book gives his unique perspective on sex for American women. We discuss the difference between sex and lovemaking; dick pix; ménage e trois; racism; PDA; and so much more.

thefrenchperspective.com

My guest this week is Brenda Knight - publisher for Cleis Press and Viva Editions. She is also an author. Her latest book is called, "Be A Good In The World". She was also part of the team who made the world a better place with Random Acts of Kindness.

Brenda went from almost being a buyer for a merchant marine to talking her way into a job at Harper-Collins (working for Rupert Murdoch, which is a story for a different podcast) and about eight years later moved into indie publishing and eventually over to Cleis Press – which is about to celebrate 35 years of being in business this summer.

This is truly a conversation with two guys drinking beer and shooting the shit about sex except that the only one drinking is Peter…I just sound like I'm a drunken school kid laughing at all of his jokes.

Peter and I discuss drunken sex. “Drunk sex ends up, for me, being fooling around naked, messing around with each others bodies until we both pass out and then we wake up in the morning and have morning sex.”

We also ask how many people it takes to make up an orgy. "Is five considered an orgy?" Then Peter tells me he always believes in pillow talk…except when he doesn't.

Both of my scheduled conversations got postponed this week. So, instead, I talk about a book of erotica I read called "Never Say Never" by Alison Tyler. It offers "tips, tricks and erotic inspirations for couples."

I love this book and I think you will too! Alison offers thoughts on 16 different sexual kinks from exhibitionism to soft swapping (and more) and then gives you 16 short stories of erotica – one for each kink. She has a very flirtatious way of writing and drawing you into her imagination. I really enjoyed this book and I look forward to having her as a guest on the podcast very soon.

http://www.alisontyler.com/

http://www.cleispress.com/index.php

My guest this week is Kerry Cohen, a psychologist and licensed therapist, specializing in sex and relationships. She is a prolific writer and we talk about her latest book, “Crazy For You: Breaking the Spell of Sex and Love Addiction.” We define what sex and love addiction is and is not; why this addiction is unique for women; Breaking the Spell; the essential process of self-awareness; emotional wounds; and The Four Foundations of continued self-growth.

This podcast contains three conversations about The Nashville Statement: A Coalition for Biblical Sexuality which you can find at the link below.

https://cbmw.org/nashville-statement/

You can find the link to the response from Christians United at the link below.

http://www.christiansunitedstatement.org/

Please let me know what you think about this format and what you think about the topic. Thank you.

Susan was home schooled and received very little information about sex from her parents. She thought that sex seemed "gross" and couldn't understand why anybody would do that willingly. She was brought up in what she calls a "purity culture" - not only is there no sex, but the first kiss is to be at the altar on your wedding day. Susan talks about how she eventually moved away from that and yet still deals with the aftereffects from it. "I wish I could look back on my first kiss without that baggage." 

For more information on the fertility awareness method

http://www.fertaware.com/

To read Susan's posts about her story growing up...

https://homeschoolersanonymous.wordpress.com/2015/03/04/reprogramming-susan-youngs-story/

My guest this week is Ella Dawson. Her TEDx talk about fighting herpes stigma has been viewed over 765,00 times. Today we talk about STI stigma; emotional abuse; slut shaming; mental health; disclosure conversations and much more. You can find Ella on twitter @brosandprose and join her Patreon page at patreon.com/brosandprose

Jet-Setting Jasmine is my guest this week. She's a certified SexPert and the fourth woman of the six Sisters of Sexuality that I have had on the podcast.

We discuss her Catholic and conservative upbringing and how at the age of 25 or 30, she changed her mind about labeling the stuff that she does now as being bad or nasty. We also talk about how she communicates with her daughters about what she does in the adult industry.

We talk about her SexEd Workshops and highlighting the more erotic side of sensuality through Fantasy Flight parties as well as her work with health care providers on learning how to bring up intimacy with people who have sustained serious injury. She’s also a national contributor on the issues of Intimacy & Chronic Illness and Sexuality & Aging.

http://sistersofsexuality.com
http://jetsettingjasmine.com

October 11 was National Coming Out Day, so in honor of that I was able to interview Kristin Russo, the co-author of "This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids." It is a fabulous book and I truly recommend it to all parents - especially new parents. It offers straightforward and practical advice on how to communicate and better parent gay children.

http://www.everyoneisgay.com/

http://theparentsproject.com/

http://www.aliforneycenter.org/

http://www.hmi.org/ (The Hetrick-Martin Institute)

http://fortytonone.org/ (Cyndi Lauper's project)

Dr. Kristen Mark and I talk about her three-week sexuality course that she teaches in Amsterdam; her couples study at the University of Kentucky that collects data from over 200 long-term heterosexual couples measuring desire and compatibility; how to improve sexual education here in the states by making it a health issue rather than a moral issue; better condoms coming our way; and what she thinks of the new "desire" drug for women, Addyi.

I give my comments on an article I found called "10 Good Reasons To Save Sex Until Marriage".

I invite you to listen and then get ahold of me and give me your thoughts. Tell me if you think I'm wrong on any of this. I would love to hear from you.

@etleviton

howwetalktoeric@gmail.com

No guest this week. Just a short conversation about an article in The Atlantic called "What Schools Should Teach Kids About Sex." I will post it on the Facebook page for How We Talk About Sex.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/How-We-Talk-About-Sex/382431735154635?ref=hl

My guest is Jenny Block, the author of “Open”, “O Wow – Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm” and “The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex.” We talk masturbation, Kleenex, the clitoris, faking orgasm, a study on homophobia, politics, sports, and her article, “Why the LGBTQ Community is a Waste of Your Time.”

My guest is Reggie. It's not that her parents didn't talk to her about sex, it's that she just wasn't that interested in hearing about it. When her teacher asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up, she answered, "A virgin." She says that it wasn't until she turned 34 that things really started to change for her sexually.

I edited two long, separate conversations into one and we cover quite a bit.

Kids in high school and college are confused by all the sexual information they find on the internet. Since 2004, Cindy Pierce has been talking to them and helping them navigate through it all. Most of them wish she had come and talked to them earlier in their lives. Cindy and I talk about the hook-up culture; what young people find to be awkward to talk about; and about how there is a lot of misinformation going around.

Cindy Pierce is a leading social sexuality educator - combining humor and research, she enlightens people about the choices and obstacles confronted in today’s media-driven world. Cindy is the author of SEXPLOITATION: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn Driven World and is co-author of Finding the Doorbell.

My guest this week is Rose Caraway. She's a writer, editor, blogger, narrator, audio book producer and podcaster for the hit show “The Kiss Me Quick’s” Erotica Podcast. She tells us about her strict and over protective upbringing and how her imagination and dreams led her to writing erotica at a very young age. Rose is the editor of a new book called "The Sexy Librarian's Big Book of Erotica" and it's available right now on amazon.com. Her story "The Mating Chamber" is also the last story in the book and it is great!

http://www.thekissmequicks.com/

http://www.rosecarawaythesexylibrarian.blogspot.com/

Happy New Year! (and Merry Christmas, Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Halloween and every other holiday I have missed over the last four months!)

On this episode it's just me talking about my friend's experience with inappropriate touching by the TSA at a NY airport. This year we may focus a little more on our sexual rights, human rights, female rights and other things that might be more political in the past. I hope you will not only continue listening, but also become more of a voice on this podcast by sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences as we go.

Has dating declined because we expect so little of one another? This is just one of the topics that Katrina and I cover on the podcast this week. We talk about what she dislikes about online dating as well as her thoughts on the "hook-up culture."

"In the hook-up culture, which is where I live, we're less about human relationships and more about instant gratification."

Since 2011, Anthony Asanti has been a straight Male Escort Companion and Sensual Warrior for the busy woman & couples who crave experiences that bring a sense of fulfillment. We talk about how he got into the business; what he deals with as a straight male escort; multiple male orgasm; and Bondassage. Enjoy.

website anthonyasanti.com

Twitter @anthonyasanti

IG anthony.asanti

This is Cooper S. Beckett’s third time on the podcast! Since last we spoke he has written two queer horror novels, started a new podcast, The PikeCast, and gotten married in a hot tub…well, sort of. We discuss how the swinging community is dealing with the pandemic – Naughty in N’awlins; correlating herpes with Covid; personal freedom versus general welfare; depression and anxiety; the outgoing and incoming administrations; and how much he and his wife miss their girlfriend.

Nikki Irish is an escort, who’s also an educated southern redhead with a wicked sense of humor and a love of the irreverent. She is a funny, sexy, and vivacious woman who LOVES sex. We talk about how she balances her personal life with her professional life and all the things that come with it. Enjoy the conversation!

Happy 3-year anniversary to us!

Just a short talk about how we need to keep up the conversation of sex with each other. I quote articles that are up on the Facebook page. Thanks for listening and for sharing these conversations with the ones you love.

Eric Leviton

@etleviton

howwetalktoeric@gmail.com

https://www.facebook.com/pages/How-We-Talk-About-Sex/382431735154635?ref=hl

http://qz.com/439211/this-season-of-the-bachelorette-reveals-americas-hypocrisy-about-sex/

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/07/06/science/colorados-push-against-teenage-pregnancies-is-a-startling-success.html?hp&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&module=second-column-region®ion=top-news&WT.nav=top-news&_r=1

My guest, Lee Jagger, is the CEO and founder of Rock The Bedroom — the only sex education community of its kind.
She helps women be more confident, creative, and playful in the bedroom. It's her mission to normalize conversations around sexuality and make obligatory sex become a thing of the past. We talk about one thing that women get wrong about the penis; her 69 erotic massage techniques; her "7 Minutes In Heaven" morning routine; how Mother Teresa can teach us to show up as a compassionate lover; the one thing Dr. Ruth got wrong about sex; and why she gives a percentage of her sales to The Girl Power Project.

My guest this week is Bryan, who I met at the SexExpo back in September. Bryan and I talk about his new app, BIEM which provides the easiest way to talk with a healthcare professional, get tested, share results, and be notified if a person you've been with tests positive for an STD in the future. We also discuss PrEP; “stealthing”; being sexually irrational; and consent.

biemteam.com

whatisprep.org

Nicholas grew up in a large Catholic family and wound up experimenting with sex at a very early age. We talk about his short and ill-fated marriage to a narcissist, how therapy helped him and we even get into threesomes and his favorite outdoor sexual experience.

Kristin Russo is back for a second time! She's the co-founder & CEO of Everyone Is Gay & The Parents Project and is the host and co-producer of First Person, a video series on gender and sexuality from PBS Digital and WNET. We talk about the book tour for "This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids" and how she became the host of "First Person" - a show about sexuality and gender…among many other things.

http://everyoneisgay.com/

http://www.autostraddle.com/

http://www.isabellarotman.com/

https://www.radremedy.org/

Candice and I talk about her first book, "From 6 to 9 and Beyond: Widening the Lens of Feminine Eroticism", but we also get personal. Candice believes that "anorexia is a fear not just of food, but of pleasure and of sex." We also talk about orgasmic meditation. She thinks of orgasm as "the living, breathing, creative life force that creates every moment."  You're going to really enjoy this conversation.

Pre-order your copy of her book at
from6to9andbeyond.com

Follow her blog at
theorgasmiclife.com

For life + sex coaching, you can find her at
candiceholdorfcoaching.com

Parish and I talk about masturbation, manifesting, Jehovah’s Witness, marriage at 19, inviting demons into your life through blow jobs and anal, spirituality, releasing judgment, pregnant threesomes, the pocket rocket, the law of attraction, psychoneuroimmunology, a near-death experience, naming body parts, and sexy Saturdays.

This week we talk about street harassment. It's a problem that seems to be getting worse and worse. I had a conversation with my friend, Rachel and we talk about her new campaign, "Respect The Walk" which is looking to confront the issue.

“I’m trying to find something that has an action behind it and a way for women to feel empowered, because a big part of the change that has to happen is women have to stop ignoring it. We have to stop ignoring it. We have to start confronting it and we have to start telling them, ‘it’s not okay.’”

I also asked a couple of friends of mine to share their street harassment stories. If you want to get involved, check out the links below.

Thanks for listening.

@respectthewalk

http://www.stopstreetharassment.org/

http://www.ihollaback.org/

Jaeleen Bennis, the creator of Bondassage®, which is an exploration of the senses comprised of light bondage, sensory deprivation, sensual massage and sensation play is our guest this week.

“I thought that BDSM people who wanted more erotic touch were going to be the clientele…Not at all, the clients who come to us are mainly people who had done tantra or sensual massage, that kind of want to dip their toes into the kinky waters, but don’t want to go to a dominatrix because it’s too scary and it’s going to hurt.”

www.bondassage.com

Woody Allen once said, "Don't knock masturbation, it's sex with someone I love." But even if you're satisfied with your solo play, wouldn't it be nice to have new and exciting techniques to try? What if you wanted to try new things, vary it a bit or even do it with a partner? Where do you start? How do you approach it? What toys can I get to enhance my experience?

Elle Chase is a sex educator who has many sexual workshops that she presents. I asked her to come onto the podcast to talk about "Mutual Masturbation - Give Yourself a Hand" because it's National Masturbation Month!

Just a couple of funny (slightly embarrassing?) stories to share on Memorial Day 2014. It's short and quick and I hope you get a chuckle or two.

Talk to you next week!

It's episode #100!! It's also Part 2 of my conversation with Kristen, Pearl, and Gina.

If the government would legalize prostitution (and marijuana for that matter) these women could invest, be legitimate, and improve the economy. These women are just looking for equality.

You can find the documentary on Netflix, On Demand, Hulu, Google Play, Amazon, Red Box Instant, and many other places.

Gina’s websites are 40ddd.com and ginadepalmaxxx.com

Kristen's personal website is mykristen.com She is also the executive director of SWOP Sacramento which is a sex workers outreach project. www.swopsacramento.org

A quick discussion about "Steak and BJ Day" and how that holiday led me to a charity I had never heard of before called CoppaFeel!

Once I found this website, I thought it was important to share what this charity is doing - especially for young women.

coppafeel.org

facebook.com/coppafeel.org
@CoppaFeelPeople
@KrisPoB

officialsteakandblowjobday.com

Shannon Boodram is a clinical sexologist and author of LAID and a Sex/Love expert to millennials, using her own very popular YouTube channel, Shan BOODY that talks about sex, love, and relationships. I ask a lot of questions about her videos and her guests and at the end we take a Cosmo sex quiz, which is a first for this podcast!

I also added my own postscript about my receiving a dick pic for the very first time the night before I uploaded this conversation.

"Sex changes as we age, but for every problem, there is a solution!" says Joan Price, advocate for ageless sexuality, media-dubbed “senior sexpert,” and author of three books about senior sex:

The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life

Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex

Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty

joanprice.com

nakedatourage.com

Adam Lippin of Cuddlist is my guest this week. I'll use his words to introduce him.

"Most of us don’t get enough touch in our lives.

We’re touch-deprived, and most of us don’t even know it consciously. All we know is that there’s loneliness and stress and a deep sense of missing out. And there is something missing: touch and the connection with others that it fosters.

That’s why we started Cuddlist. Safe, non-sexual, consensual touch fills a need that’s badly neglected in our society. Cuddling relaxes us and reduces stress at the very least, and on the deeper level it nourishes our soul and helps us get in touch with our higher self."

My guest this week is Dr. Ina Park, a Medical Consultant for the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. She tackles a wide array of sexual health topics with empathy, humor, and inclusivity in her first book, "STRANGE BEDFELLOWS: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs," which is out right now! There is SO much to talk about!

Maggie McNeill is a former sex worker who blogs as The Honest Courtesan.

http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/

Maggie tells me about her decision to become a stripper and how her mother refused to speak to her afterward. We also talk about the term "casual prostitution", how she never even saw a condom until she became a stripper, and how “sex was always transactional for (her).”

Link to the documentary called Scarlet Road

http://www.scarletroad.com.au/trailer/

Link to the Touching Base charity

http://www.touchingbase.org/

My guest, Galen Fous and I discuss the 5 Keys to Being Sexually Authentic as well as Sexual Authenticity Disorder, which is the fear of revealing or having others discover your deepest sexual desires.

Galen has been “out” publicly in the Sex-Positive, Fetish and Sacred Sexuality communities since 1998. He has a Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology with an emphasis on the study of Fetish, Kink and D/s-BDSM.

There is a lot to talk about! Enjoy!

Jeff is married to last week's guest, Monika. He and I discuss his search for a connection when it came to love and relationships. He refers to himself as "bi-sexual but I lean toward hetero". We also talk about how he struggled with sabotaging relationships and how his therapist walked him through the beginning stages of his relationship with Monika.

I met Anne Hodder through Elle Chase, who was on the podcast last year. Anne Hodder, ACS, is a multi-certified sex educator endorsed by the renowned San Francisco Sex Information program and the American College of Sexologists International. She is the sex ed teacher you wish you'd had in high school.

We talk about how she taught herself about sex; household items as sex toys; her sex-positive PR firm; her sex workshops; men and emotions; and “69.”

https://annehodder.com/

https://screamingo.com/shop/charged-positive-vibe/

https://www.amazon.com/Jamye-Waxman/e/B001JP4E52

http://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/1-2-AJ-BE02/good-vibrations-toys/fukuoku-9000-massager-

Paul tells me how his mother didn't talk to him for two weeks after he came out to her because she thought it was her fault somehow. His first sexual experience with a man turned out to be a close friend of his from high school who emailed him anonymously to gauge his interest in having a gay experience. We also talk about his "whore phase" and then we finish by talking about HIV and communication.

Emojibator promotes health and humor with high-quality sex toys for women. Inspired by the infamous eggplant emoji, Emojibator makes body safe vibrators to bring more fun into the bedroom. Today, women experience 30% fewer orgasms than men. Emojibator empowers women to close the climax gap. Designed with love in Philadelphia, PA. Go f*ck yourself. Literally. 

emojibator.com

facebook.com/emojibator

@emojibator

instagram.com/emojibator

youtube.com/emojibator

It’s just me this week as I talk about my fading memory of my first time having sex. I heard Marc Maron on his WTF podcast talking about his first time and it occurred to me that I don't remember as much about that time as I used to, which saddens me.

What do you remember?

In "My Life on the Swingset," Cooper Beckett throws off the lid and lets you look inside his exploration of not only the world of swinging but also his own personal growth as a lover, a husband and as an individual. He's here to pass on as much information as he can to potential "newbies" and yet he's not afraid to show you the mistakes he made along the way and that's what I enjoyed so much. I knew next to nothing about The Lifestyle before I read this book. I always thought it was an interesting topic, but in my mind it was something that USED to happen back in the 60s, 70s and maybe the 80s. Reading about Cooper's life over a 5-6 year period through the essays in this book is eye-opening and I feel like I finally understand how it all works and why this Lifestyle can be so attractive to a great many people.

Do yourself a favor and read this book. It's a very easy and quick read and you'll learn new things and laugh along the way. I highly recommend it to everyone. Who knows? You may find something new that you might like to try.

Ep #1 with Michelle

http://traffic.libsyn.com/howwetalkaboutsex/HWTAS_with_Michelle_episode_2.m4a

Ep #2 with Mary Joe

http://traffic.libsyn.com/howwetalkaboutsex/HWTAS_with_Mary_Joe_Ep2v3.m4a

Ep #4 with Karen

http://traffic.libsyn.com/howwetalkaboutsex/HWTAS_with_Karen_G.m4a

Ep #5 with Julie

http://traffic.libsyn.com/howwetalkaboutsex/My_conversation_with_Julie.m4a

Dr. Patti Britton is a pioneer in the new growing field known as Sex Coaching. She's been a professor and trainer for 35+ years, a sex educator, and a counselor. In 2005, she authored the very first book on sex coaching, The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice.

“Our sexuality needs to be decontaminated, normalized, validated, celebrated, and upheld.”

SexCoachU.com
drpattibritton.com
Sexcoaches.org

My guest this week is Cooper S. Beckett, the author of "My Life On The Swingset - Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory."

Although we've dipped our collective tow into the discussion of swinging, this episode we dive off from the high board and plunge deep down into it and everything that goes with it - from hosting parties to realizing that jealousy serves a purpose to finally experiencing a prostate orgasm and everything in between. You're going to love this conversation.

Lifseontheswingset.com

Swingset.fm

Coopersbeckett.com

Cooper's Twitter is @swingsetlife

Tea Hacic Vlahovic (TAY-UH HA-CHEECH VLA-HO-VEECH) has been a blogger, sex-columnist, TV host, and is now an acclaimed novelist. “Life of the Party” will be out in bookstores on June 2, 2020 but it’s already available as an e-book on Amazon right now. We cover many topics including moving to Milan at 19; sexual hypocrisy in Italy; dealing with abusive relationships; and how it’s never too late to be a teenage slut.

Zoey Trope returns to HWTAS. She is an Asian American writer and creative consultant based in Los Angeles. She serves as executive producer of SAKE (Socal Asian Kinkster Events). When she's not enjoying the glow of a newbie enjoying their first taste of sadism, Zoey writes about kink and non-monogamy.

See her work at http://zoeytrope.com/#work
@zoeylikesit
@sakelaevents
askfirstcampaign.org

My guest is Elise Carr. She is the woman behind StellaMuse.

"The blending of what I offer you is Like Psychology for the Soul – honouring your physical, sexual, emotional, mental and spiritual layers; what has brought you thus far, where you are, and what needs healing and guidance all ultimately in alignment with your Soul’s plan of fulfillment."

She also is the host of the Sacred Guidance with StellaMuse podcast, which you can find just about anywhere including on her website.

www.stellamuse.com

Kristin Russo is my guest for the third time. We talk about her two new projects – “Getting in Bed with Kristin” which is a weekly themed interview show and her new podcast with her wife, Jenny Owen Youngs, called “Buffering the Vampire Slayer” where they not only discuss every episode of “Buffy, the Vampire Slayer,” but they also write a song that recaps each episode. We also veer into politics a little including her experience in the Women’s March in Los Angeles.

a-camp.org

autostraddle.com

everyoneisgay.com

mykidisgay.com

ourrestroom.com

In my conversation with Tampa Bay Times writer and Catholic Blogger, Arleen Spenceley, we talk about the reasons behind her decision to stay a virgin until marriage. Arleen emailed me after she stumbled across my podcast back on June 3, 2014, when I talked about the article, "10 Good Reasons To Save Sex Until Marriage". She has been talking and writing about her choices for the last 5 years or so and has a book coming out on November 28th called, "Chastity is for Lovers - Single, Happy, and (Still) a Virgin"

http://arleenspenceley.com/

http://www.tampabay.com/news/perspective/why-im-still-a-virgin-at-age-26/1236657

Charlie Glickman is my guest. We discuss how he started his sexual education to becoming a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator and a sexological bodyworker as well as bring co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners.

We talk about how to approach prostate pleasure; somatic sex therapy, which includes sexological bodywork; the 3 minute game that helps with sexual communication; and how to get freaky without being creepy.

Just a couple of "sex stories gone bad" and some follow up questions with my guest from last week, Paul.

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Ryan “Wry” Mantione is kind of the perfect guest for this podcast. He believes in being well-informed regarding options and alternatives to a hetero-normative, traditional love life, as well as maintaining dialogue with partners.

He is hosting a workshop on Saturday, Sept 10 at 4pm in Brooklyn with Janet Hardy, co-author of The Ethical Slut as well as other guests. Go to Eventbrite.com to find the link to buy tickets for $35-$50. It will take place at the Hacienda Villa in Bushwick, Brooklyn, which is considered to be a polyamory house.

https://nonmonogamyconsultant.com/

Sexpert Tyomi is my guest this week. She’s been posting videos on sex positions and other topics on YouTube.com for the last 5 years. More recently she has been blogging about various sexual topics like PE, masturbating, finding the right vibrator and her own experience with fetish training. Enjoy!

Have you ever had two completely different sex talks from the same parent? Adriana did. The first was pure Southern Baptist - brimstone and fire. Sex was something to be feared! Then after some self-exploration, mom came back with the second talk where sex was liberating. Can you relate? I think you'll enjoy this conversation with a married 28-year-old woman who is just about to graduate from law school in Oklahoma. There is a whole lot to talk about.

Hey podcast listeners! No new conversation this week, but an update about what's coming next week and beyond! Also, I share a quick story about a man who decided to keep track of the lack of sex with his wife…on a spreadsheet. That’s not a good idea.

My guest this week is Julie, a divorced mother of three teenage boys. We talk about her first exposure to sex at a rather young age; not finding true comfort in her body until 27; the sex talk with her boys; and then we get into dating and learning about new partners sexually.

Amy Jo Goddard, author of "Woman on Fire" is my guest on the podcast.

We all need to be the agent of our own sexuality. To be the agent is to be in charge – to be the one moving things forward. No one else should be the agent of our own sexuality. The government wants to be the agent of our sexuality. Sometimes boyfriends and girlfriends want to be the agent of our sexuality…and wives and husbands, companions. No one else gets to be agent, but YOU have to claim that. “When we really come into a full and authentic place of sexuality, that’s what empowerment really looks like. We really change our lives and relationships, because we show up very differently when we are fully in our agency.”

What does a sexually empowered person look like? Download her fact sheet for free at
http://amyjogoddard.com/factsheetdownload

You can find all the exercises from the book in one .pdf file online for free at womanonfirethebook.com

Email Amy Jo at moreplease@amyjogoddard.com for more information

Thom and I talk about chivalry. Is it dead? It just might be. In this conversation we move from chivalry to gender equality to racial equality and then back to chivalry. I play a lot of devil’s advocate and we never really come up with an answer as to why chivalry is not practiced very much anymore, but we have a very good conversation as to why it should be…with everyone.

Maggie and I met on Twitter when I saw the #rightsnotrescue picture campaign that she helped start with @mistressmatisse. So, part 2 of our conversation is all about Maggie being an activist for sex workers. It's a great conversation. Please enjoy and let me know what you think.

Naama Bloom is the founder of HelloFlo.com, a modern day health site for girls and women. Her mission for HelloFlo was to create a space where women and girls could learn about their bodies in an open and honest environment without any shame and with a healthy dose of humor.

HelloFlo's first two videos, " The Camp Gyno" and "First Moon Party," have been viewed over 50 million times and show girls that while puberty can be awkward at times, it can also be fun and empowering.

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My guest, Cooper S. Beckett is an author, a podcaster, and so much more. He spent much of his life afraid of sex, sexuality, his bisexuality, his true interests, and global thermonuclear war. In this conversation we talk not just about his new novel, Approaching The Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory in Paradise, but also his personal experiences as a host on these weeklong getaways with his guests.

“Welcome home…”

Those words and a glass of sparkling champagne welcome you to Aphrodite’s Resort and Spa, a place of pleasure and debauchery, situated on a strip of white sand beach on the Riviera Maya.

coopersbeckett.com

April is STI Awareness month so I thought it was time to bring back Jenelle Marie Davis of The STD Project. It's also the four-year anniversary of The STD Project so let's talk about awareness and how we can communicate even better when it comes to our status. Jenelle was recently voted one of the 50 most influential women and she is one of the 40 Under 40 business leaders in Western Michigan.

My guest this week is Alison Bass, author of "Getting Screwed - Sex Workers and the Law."

Alison wound up writing the book because she felt this was an untold story and there was a lot of harm being done to sex workers and to ALL women by criminalizing prostitution. She talked to experts in this field - sex workers, policy makers, law enforcement, and human rights activists. She learned that the narrative of prostitutes being drug-addicted, victimized women wasn’t true and that the laws criminalizing prostitution were actually hurting public health and the very people they’re designed to protect.

http://www.sexworkersandthelaw.com http://www.alison-bass.com/

My guest, Silas Bliss is an artist, a writer of erotica, and a lover of bourbon. Silas and I talk about his art and writing; how he chose his name; sex at a very early age; meeting his wife in a religious cult; and his ultimate fantasy. There is also a giveaway at the end of this podcast. So stick around until the end.

You can find his art here @SilasBliss or at facebook.com/getintobliss

Enjoy!

My guest this week is Lanae St. John, a board certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She blogs about sex, parenting, relationships, and gender at TheMamasutra.net.

We discuss many topics on how to communicate better with your children when it comes to sex and sexuality, like menstruation, being open and honest about sex and we also cover five concepts that Lanae believes are foundational when teaching your kids about sex.

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My guest this week is Vacation.Charlie. Previous guest, Parish Blair, introduced us at the SexExpo in September of 2018. We talk about sexual assault/abuse at an early age and how that led to hosting a workshop about sex and communication. The next workshop will be at Sugar toy shop in Baltimore, MD at 6pm on Sunday, March 24, 2019.

Vacation.Charlie also offers Guided Meditations for the mind and Psychic Readings by way of palm touching for the spirit.

It's 2015 and we're FINALLY back with a new conversation with Monika and a surprise guest…her husband, Jeff.

Monika is a chef, wife, writer, innkeeper, teacher, anthropologist, furrbaby mother and former ballerina.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Monika-Sudakov-Women-Body-Image-Empowerment/1419209461703525

https://monikasudakov.wordpress.com/

Zoey Trope remembers having sexual fantasies at the age of 7 or 8 and has been exploring her sexuality on some level ever since. She is in an open marriage with one man while exploring her kinky/submissive side with another man who is her Dom. We talk all about her experience with a couple of Doms and how she found her husband through an ad on Craigslist. You can find her on twitter @zoeylikesit and her blog at xoxofufu.com.

I hope you enjoy the conversation. I know I did.

On this episode of HWTAS, I talk to 3 of the 11 women in the documentary, American Courtesans. Kristen DiAngelo is the writer and producer of the film. She is also the one who brought all of these women together to talk about their lives and how they came to be in this business. She was kind enough to also invite Pearl Callahan and Gina Depalma to sit down with me and share their experiences of being a part of this unique look at underground world of the American sex worker.

http://americancourtesans.com/

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson return to the podcast after a year and talk about their new book, Designer Relationships. This time we discuss the myths and misconceptions of consensual nonmonogamy and how to create your own "designer relationship."

Designer relationships may encompass: people who bond emotionally but not sexually; people who agree to be non-exclusive; single people who have occasional lovers or friends with benefits; multiple partner configurations where long-term bonds exist among all or some; partnerships in which people are kinky and that make room to explore kink. Best-selling authors and nationally known relationship experts Patricia Johnson and Mark A. Michaels are exemplars of this life choice, and have studied polyamory for over 20 years. This book explains exactly how you and your loved ones can design your own life and love.

http://www.tantrapm.com/index.html

My guest this week is Brooke Norton, a therapist who specializes in sexuality and relationships. She works with clients of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship styles. Brooke feels that her best work is with clients who are dealing with anxiety about their bodies or their relationships. We talk about how she became a sex educator and therapist; her story while working in a dildo shop; desire discrepancy; sex re-education; and finally we talk about her book and different sexual styles.

brookenorton.com

ohmysensuality.com

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My guest this week is Crystal Byrd Farmer, the author of the book, The Token: Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization. We discuss her book; the poly community and her involvement with blackandpoly.org; as well as coping with disability/autism and sex.

crystalbyrdfarmer.com

Lanae St. John aka the MamaSutra, returns to the podcast with her book, “Read Me – A Parental Primer for The Talk.” We cover everything including the cover.

Dr. St. John uses “The Five Building Blocks to a Healthy Sexuality” to ensure children and adults of all ages have the best resources, support, and skills to make good decisions and grow into a happy and fulfilling sex life.

Elizabeth Heineman talks about Germany's equivalent of Hugh Hefner – Beate Uhse. This conversation came from me being asked to give my thoughts about Hefner after he died and I wound up learning about Beate, the woman Luftwaffe pilot who built Europe's largest sex shop empire and embodied Germany's post-war economic miracle. This is a fascinating story. Take a listen.

Al Vernacchio, author of "For Goodness Sex," joins me on the podcast this week. Al is the Upper School Sexuality Educator and also teaches in the English department at Friends’ Central School in Wynnewood, PA. A Human Sexuality educator and consultant for over 20 years, Al has lectured, published articles, and offered workshops throughout the country. His work has been featured in “Teaching Good Sex”, a November, 2011 cover story in The New York Times Magazine.

Taylor Sparks, founder of Organic Loven, is my guest on the podcast this week. Taylor is a passionate erotic educator, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior. With over a decade of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, a site that offers organic, natural and eco-friendly sensual body pleasures. Her workshop series entitled,” How To Make Good Pussy, Better”, is extremely popular and focuses on the benefits of organic lubricants, vegan condoms, and Liberator sex pillows.

http://www.luxury-lifestyle-vacations.com/

http://www.organicloven.com/

http://www.organicloven.com/brands/NobEssence.html

My guest, Ashley Manta, has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. As a professional sex and relationship coach, she helps people navigate these topics to make sure they are interacting, loving, and feeling their best in and out of the bedroom. We discuss surviving sexual trauma; how she used to be anti-cannabis; her work as rape crisis counselor and domestic violence crisis counselor; her “aha moment” using a cannabis arousal lube and so much more.

I met Genoa at her booth at the SexExpo in NY in September of 2018 and as soon as I saw her product, I stopped to ask about it and invited her to come on to the podcast and tell everyone about it. The product came about because they couldn’t find a toy that was slim, transportable, and discreet – especially when it came to flying and having TSA going through your luggage.

My guests today are Genoa and Steffan. They started a company called Soixante9 and over four years of time, created something that turns your rechargeable toothbrush into a luxury vibrator. You’re going to enjoy this conversation.

My guest this week is a return guest from 3 ½ years ago. Sapphire and I met when I hosted an hour of radio for Playboy Radio. We travel all over the place, talking about changes in her life both personally and professionally. We touch on how men need to step up when dating; bisexuality; Hitler dicks, angry dicks and limp dicks; public sex; Symphorophilia; sensory depravation; fantasies; threesomes; and the Sex Terminator. Enjoy!

Jenelle Marie Davis is the Founder & Executive Director of The STD Project, the STD Expert for Answers.com, a Hepatitis C Expert for HepatitisC.net, and an adjunct professor. She is also proof an STI is not a deal-breaker or the end of your world; rather, it is merely an unexpected curve-ball in this interesting game we call life.

Kayla Kandy is my guest this week. She is a web-cam girl who also does porn on the side. She refers to herself as an "All-American country sweetie with class & kink." We discuss growing up as a blue girl in a red state; starting to do web-cam shows at 18; trying out porn for a week in Florida while still a virgin; and more.

@realKaylaKandy

Hudsy Hawn is an internationally well-known Lifestyle Educator, an entertainer, an author and a former Miss Teen Talent Alaska. She got into the Lifestyle about 11 years ago and it changed her life.

We discuss working in a dungeon and at The Stockroom in California; different kinds of kinks; masturbating to James Spader; polyamory; knowing the difference between Slaves, Switches and Dommes; consent; dog play; and being safe, sane, and consensual.

You will love her!

On part 2 of my conversation with Mark and Patricia, we pick up where we left off with the 10 Myths of a Good Relationship.  We touch on "Helicopter Parents," a little more on Novelist Ayelet Waldmen and her comment that she loves her husband more than her kids and I make our erotic life together a priority," as well as "Eye-Gazing" and how that helps you get in tune with one another and we wrap up with sex-positivity vs. sex-negativity.

Kim and I talk about a LOT of different lines of sexual toys and the differences of dildos; comparing glass to steel to silicone. I think you'll really enjoy this conversation.

Founded in 1974 by women's rights activist Dell Williams, Eve's Garden is the world's first mail-order catalog and sexuality boutique designed for the unique needs of women. Located on the upper levels of an office building on New York's Westside, Eve's Garden offers a discreet, comfortable and shame-free atmosphere where women can purchase erotic and sensual toys.

Happy Valentine's Day everybody.

Just a few thoughts and a little history about the holiday. Whether you're in or out of a relationship, be nice to yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself just because you think it needs to be a perfect day. It does not. Love yourself.