Handy Mandy Podcast (Amanda Pahl)

Holy sh*t, it's happening. Welcome to the Handy Mandy podcast, an open, unfiltered, education-informed discussion on all things sex and sexuality.  Do you have a question you want answered or topic you want covered, email your question to handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME." New episodes every Tuesday or Wednesday!

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We all have to start somewhere! In this first episode, I talk a little bit about ~me~, my education, underlying perspectives, and what the hell happened with my TikTok. Then I answer some of the most popular questions I've been asked by you guys recently: this week it's pornography addiction and some signs you might want to talk to a therapist. If you have a question for me, email it to handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "Handy Help Me." If you want to support me further, please download this episode and leave me a 5-star review. See you next week <3

The student becomes the master! Unlike the sex-ed you may or may not have had in school, there is no scare tactic, shame, or judgment here! In this episode I give a crash-course on the biological, psychological, and emotional aspects of sex. Let's replace the performance and orgasm-focused view of sex with a more pleasure and intimacy based one! Check out my instagram to view the accompanying graphics and pictures for this episode. View the original powerpoint presentation here. If you have a question for me, email it to handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "Handy Help Me." 

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH! Whether you party hard all month or silently wonder how gay pride  could possibly apply to you, it's important to know how to support your LGBTQ+ friends. In this episode I cover gay history in the US, redefining how we think about certain terms, misconceptions, and 7 ways to be a good ally!

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It's time to expand your sexual menu! In this episode, I give a quick crash course in all the different types of sex toys, lubes, and products I frequently recommend. In future episodes, I'll be diving into fetishes, kinks, and specific techniques, but I feel like we need this base level introduction to get the full scope of options. If you haven't explored the world of sex toys yet, get into it!

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You know what squirting, handsfree orgasm, and stronger orgasms have in common? Pelvic floor muscles! I take my experience attending a pelvic floor workshop and combine it with medical resources to give you the full run-down on the role your pelvic floor plays in your sex life. I explain how to locate, tone, and use these muscles to improve your sex life from the inside out!

*this podcast was recorded prior to the SCOTUS decision overturning roe v. wade*

If you would like me to answer your question on the next episode, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP."

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Do you have a secret kink or fetish? Most people have kinks and at least 30% of the US population keeps theirs a secret! NO MORE!
In this episode, I'll define what kinks and fetishes are, where they come from, what the most popular kinks are, and how to introduce them to your partner. And if you're into vanilla sex, that's cool too--you can still learn about the other flavors. Call yourself a kink connoisseur!
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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

I'm finally answering your BURNING questions about how I knew I wanted to go into sex therapy and how I got to the place I am today. Some of these are personal stories and some are career choices, but please be respectful of my narrative and the topics I touch on. I also describe what the process is like to become a licensed sex therapist and what my long-term goals are!
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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Giving head, fellatio, cunnilingus, blowjobs, sucking d*ck, eating p*ssy, sloppy toppy; whatever you wanna call it, here it is! Oral sex could get it's own podcast altogether, but here is the overview of how to give good head, no matter what parts your partner has! This episode does trend heterosexual, but the straights need more guidance in this area. Definitely go check out Beducated and use the free trial to watch some of the courses on blowjobs and cunnilingus.

Blowjob Instructions: 17:23
Eating Pussy Instructions: 39:13

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

We're talking about squirting & female ejaculation! YAY! In this episode I cover common myths, squirt anatomy, the differences between female ejaculate and squirt, and techniques for learning how to squirt. I also touch on the Only Fans rumor (lol). 

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

In this episode, I share some of the mind-blowing facts and concepts I've recently learned about kink in school. The specific article I reference comes from the Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy, published in 2017, which includes fun facts about kink,  common myths, reasons people may seek therapy for their kinks, and what we can learn from kinky people. Listen to the end, because there is an incredible section from the book that shows an empirically-validated foundation for kink and BDSM altering states of consciousness. WHAT?! I know, so cool. Also I answer a question about what to do when you're accidentally gaslighting your partner!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

People who practice sexual mindfulness experience more desire, better self-esteem, more consistent orgasms, a better relationship with their partners, and better overall sexual functioning! In this episode I introduce Tantra and Sensate Focus as ways to incorporate sexual mindfulness into your life.  Plus I answer a question about meeting and dating with social anxiety!

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6 Tips for Sexual Mindfulness
5 Reasons People Who Meditate Have Better Sex Lives
Sensate Focus

We get so much information from our families, communities, media, and larger society about sexuality and a lot of times, it's unhelpful or downright inaccurate. Today I'm correcting 10 common myths about sex drive:

1. Aphrodisiacs make you horny
2. If your partner rejects your advances, they aren't attracted to you
3. Porn doesn't change your sex drive
4. Sex should last 30 minutes or longer
5. Men are always horny and ready for sex
6. Women have lower sex drives than men
7. Sex and desire should be spontaneous
8. Having a low sex drive is bad
9. Your sex drive is fixed and stable
10. Sex drive disappears as you age

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."
Sources in this episode: The Journal of Sexual Medicine & The Wiley Handbook of Sex Therapy

Meet my friend Anaya from Pretty In Kink! I asked her a few questions about her career, what issues she commonly sees with her clients, and what we can learn about being more open and accepting.

Go check out her website at Pretty In Kink!
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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Tons of guys are worried about cumming too fast or not lasting long enough, but when is it actually a problem and what can be done about it? In this episode I cover misconceptions and unrealistic expectations about the duration of sex, what a premature ejaculation diagnosis actually entails, and a few strategies to prolong penetration. Plus I answer a question about orgasm-induced sneezing! It's a thing!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Do you feel like you take forever to finish and it's impacting your ability to enjoy sex or stay in the moment with your partner? Well this one's for you!

There are many reasons some people take longer than average to reach orgasm, and some are more easily fixable than others. In this episode, I list some of those reasons and suggestions to overcome them. Ever heard of death grip syndrome? Listen up!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Once a cheater always a cheater?
Why do people cheat?
Is it possible to make it work after someone cheats?
All of these questions and more answered here! We'll look at cheating through the lens of attachment theory and the Gottman Approach, a therapy model that is based on decades of research and over 3,000 couples!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

You've heard of the G-spot, but do you know about the A-spot and U-spot?
In our FIRST EVER SPONSORED EPISODE (omg wow) I walk through how to give a sensual vulva massage, with techniques straight from a Tantric expert on Beducated.

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Also check out my Amazon Sex Toy Gift Guide! It's honestly coming in so handy for me (pun kinda intended).

If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Isn't a penis massage the same thing as a handjob? NO! It's more intentional, sensual, and erotic AND can lead to full-body orgasms and even multiple orgasms (yes, men can do that too).

Many of these techniques come from Beducated, a streaming service for sex ed!

Also check out my Amazon Sex Toy Gift Guide! It's honestly coming in so handy for me (pun kinda intended).

If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

IF your high school offered any kind of comprehensive sex-ed, they probably talked about birth control using scare tactics: how to prevent from scary STIs and expensive unwanted pregnancies. Well, there's actually a lot of information that people never learn, including the dark history of birth control, why some methods aren't as effective as you think, and how side effects can impact your sex life. I cover all of that and more in this episode (plus a few ranty personal stories about the US Healthcare System, oops). Think of it like "Birth Control for Dummies," except you're not dummies, our education system just sucks :)

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Dirty talk can be so hot and add to the intensity of your sex life, but it can also be uncomfortable, intimidating and awkward! In this episode, I provide a few tips to overcome your fears, transition out of silent sex, find your dirty talk style with  10 specific categories, plus some tips for sexting and phone sex! At the end, I answer a question about aftercare and why it's important.

Check out Beducated's course and worksheet on dirty talk!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Is circumcision really necessary? What's the deal with attachment styles? Are men actually trash? Why is Viagra so easy to get? Today I'm talking about all of my controversial opinions and what led me to feel the way I do about them. If you don't agree with me, that's okay. But make sure that you're giving critical thought to your opinions and actually exploring your beliefs. Nobody get triggered, okay?

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Pornography has the potential to be SO beneficial but it also has the potential to cause a lot of harm. In this episode, I talk about the pros & cons of porn and why the debate is so divisive. Listen to the end for recommendations for ethical and audio porn websites!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

DON'T LET CRAZY CHRISTIANS HARSH YOUR VIBE!! Whether or not you have directly experienced purity culture, you may have internalized some of the harmful effects. This long-lasting shame and guilt around sex can lead to emotional, psychological, and physical harm.

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Starting Season 2 off with a BANG! I sit down with certified freak and host of the Sex Party Podcast, Dustin Rybka. We talk about his villain origin story, toxic advice to get girls, his new kinks, and which horror movie characters we would boink.

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Do you want more of something sexually? Less of something? Want to try something new? Ask your partner to shower better? Find a solution to boner problems? You have to talk about it! In this episode I provide helpful tips for having potentially awkward or sensitive conversations with your partner. Plus I answer a listener's question about exploring anal.

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Ever wondered what a professional dom mistress actually does? Today, we're talking to a mistress from Denver about how she got into this work, what she does, how she helps people, and how this impacts her personal dating life.

Tune in next week for part 2 where she answers listeners' questions and gives advice for people who are curious about getting involved in the kink community!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Part 2 of our conversation with a dom mistress! She gives helpful advice for people that are curious about working with a mistress and couples that are looking to join the kink community. She also shares some personal stories from her work AND provides some insight into her sex life!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Ever wondered what effects different substances can have on your sex life? This week, we dive into how substances like alcohol, weed, stimulants, opioids, and recreational drugs can impact your sexual desire, arousal, and long-term health. Don't worry, it's all of the information and none of the fear tactics. No judgement here!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

So many heterosexual men are curious about prostate stimulation, anal play, pegging etc. but don't know where to start. In this episode, I provide a very basic anatomy lesson, tips for how to prepare and have a good time, and I address the misconceptions and worries that many straight men face when exploring their prostate.

All the products and toys I discussed are linked here in my Amazon storefront!

If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

Have you ever thought about the grey areas of consent? Not just a simple yes or no, but the situations where communication is unclear or something just doesn't feel right? In this episode we dive into the less talked about aspects of consent with some examples of how to make sure everyone is feeling comfortable and confident. We also explore what consent means in the context of society and specifically the current state of our ~government~.

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."

What the hell is asynchronous vs synchronous sex? Asynchronous sex breaks the traditional mold of penetrative, mutual, everything-happening-at-the-same-time sex by allowing one partner to focus completely on receiving pleasure and the other on giving. In this episode, I cover the many benefits of asynchronous sex, how you can incorporate it into your sex life, and specific examples of what it can look like!

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If you want me to answer one of your questions, email me at handymandy919@gmail.com with the subject line "HANDY HELP ME."