Get Naked with Dr. Kate (Cloud10)

We're exploring all avenues of empowerment this week, from female friendship to being a "Free Agent", bonobos vs. chimps, and even exploring age hypogamy relationships. Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. joins Dr. Kate on this week's episode of Get Naked to talk about: • Recent studies on female friendship and the crucial role it plays in women's lives • The benefits of decentering men • Bonobos, chimps, and the key differences of their social structures (including what we can learn from bonobos) • Why younger men reported wanting to be with older women • The concept of new masculinities And truly SO much more! By the end of this episode, you may be asking yourself, "How can I live more like a bonobo?" Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. has been a writer and social researcher in New York City (and now Los Angeles) for over two decades. Her writing explores gender, parenting and motherhood, popular culture, and female sexuality. Her memoir, Primates of Park Avenue, is a hilarious, touching, and insightful look into the exotic world of Manhattan motherhood. Her book Stepmonster, a finalist for the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award, is widely considered the “go-to” source for stepmothers, adult stepchildren, therapists and others who seek a uniquely candid, interdisciplinary, cross-cultural and comprehensive look at the topic. You can check out more of Wednesday's work by visiting her website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Dr. Nazanin discuss the link between body shape, body dissatisfaction and the effect of negative body image on sexual experiences. They also delve into self-perception, positive or negative, in young people as well as adults. Eating disorders can also influence how we feel about our body and our sexual well-being. This episode has so much great information on the toll body image can take on us and ways to be aware of and improve this. Dr. Nazanin Moali,PhD is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, and podcaster. She specializes in assisting clients with eating disorders and sexual health challenges. Additionally, she hosts the podcast "Sexology" where she dives into findings in sex and intimacy psychology. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment and find out if Addyi is right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate loves getting questions from you, the listener, about anything on your mind, no matter how bold, embarrassing, or shocking. Not much phases this Sex Therapist. So, please keep your questions coming. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  This episode covers one question about Kate’s trajectory to becoming a psychologist and how and where one can get credentialed in the specific area of Sex Therapist. She also answers a question from a woman who experienced sexual trauma much earlier in her life, and her question reveals that her husband “gifted” her a vibrator and the very complex reactions she has to this present.  Dr. Kate gets into it and reminds us maybe his own need for getting his wife more interested in sex was actually dismissing the effects of making her feel less than, shamed and other undesirable emotions. Dr. Kate suggests ideas to bridge the gap of desire discrepancy and how “waning” libido can be for many reasons that need to be discovered together. She shares a reminder: Intentions and actual impact can be very different. Dr. Kate also answers a question from another listener which has some of the same theme. He is sexually frustrated and wants to hear how he can have open communication about it. Again, desire discrepancy is part of the situation. Kate makes a big point of not guilting or shaming your partner, ever. Again, Dr. Kate gives ideas of how to address solutions together and suggest other ways to cultivate connection with your partner. Listen and leave a rating and review below if you can. And remember to send in any question you may not be able to ask others about. Dr. Kate loves an interactive platform that is here to help you. (See email address below) Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG:  https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kayla Tricaso is the Office Manager and Intake Specialist at Modern Intimacy and has been working in the mental health field for 6 years. She currently is in graduate school to eventually become a therapist who specializes in helping people heal from trauma. Kayla has been interested in and written a blog about the effects of emotionally immature parents on their children and the heartache it brings oftentimes in that strained relationship. This podcast addresses the parents and their children. Kate and Kayla talk about and give suggestions for parents to embark on conversations with their adult children in hopes of everyone really hearing one another, not placing blame, giving confirmation of feelings for each other and not being judgemental. They also talk about evaluating the history of the relationships and making a definite decision of wanting to repair the relationship or not, and if the choice is to try to mend it, to remember nothing gets fixed overnight. Everyone involved needs to have realistic expectations and time frames. This is a poignant conversation about the pain of estranged relationships of parents and children with a healthy dose of optimism for the future. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have all been through it and break-ups are not easy. Dr. Kate and Rachel discuss what leads up to and how to finesse a break-up, including the potential signs that can indicate a parting of ways is inevitable. They also outline the range of feelings you can expect – from sadness and anger to joy and relief –no one is exactly the same. Ultimately, healing involves trusting yourself again and trusting your choices as you move on, and giving yourself grace. Rachel Overvoll is a Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach and published author of Finding Feminism. Using her credentials from the Somatica Institute and Kinsey Institute, she works through the mediums of embodiment and self - attunement to help clients step into the power of an authentic and pleasure centered life. Rachel is the author of The Breakup Journal, exercises to help you through a break-up.    Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. GREEN CHEF: Go to www.greenchef.com/60getnaked and use code 60getnaked to get 60% off, plus 20% off your next two months. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

ADHD can impact so many different aspects of a person’s life…including in the bedroom! On this week’s episode of Get Naked, Dr. Kate is joined by Alexandre Fraysse to discuss how to navigate living with ADHD (or loving someone with ADHD) and the ways that it may show up in the bedroom.  Together, they unpack: • Tips for taking accountability  • Sharing tasks in partnership • Recommendations when you’re stuck in a “functional freeze” • The role ADHD plays in the bedroom And so much more! Alexandre Fraysse is an ADHD coach for professionals who specializes in helping his clients master their lives and natural gifts, empowering them to become unstoppable forces of nature in their professional and personal lives. Through creating personalized strategies and providing unwavering support, Alex’s clients transform their lives, harness their strengths, and conquer any obstacles in their way.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tik-Tok sensation Caylee Cresta’s @cayleecresta TikTok account has gained 2.8 million followers and 46 million likes. Her channel consisted of makeup and comedy videos before she shifted to sharing her thoughts about views on women in society. Caylee is a social media personality on a mission to empower women. With a prior career in the male dominated industry of construction, she was originally inspired by the communication barrier she found between men and women and set out to translate the plight of everyday women like herself in an effort to help couples reconnect and women to see more clearly what they may be feeling. It was here that she found her passion and became determined to describe every facet of the female experience in hopes of making her fellow woman know they weren’t alone and to feel understood. Caylee is often praised for her ability to articulate tough topics and does so with her blunt demeanor and a comedic twist. Caylee wants to be able to laugh about some of the serious subjects and to know no one is isolated in this, it is universal. She is the mother to a young son, a cat lover, and enjoys playing with makeup when she’s not fighting misogynists. Caylee also reveals on this podcast that she is in fact married and talks about her relationship with Dr. Kate. Dr. Kate and Caylee talk about how this started for Caylee, about some of her most controversial posts and threats that ensued. They speak about men’s societal views of women and how these posts can shine a light on how a woman is feeling and often start great conversations with their partners. This is definitely a fun and enlightening episode we hope you enjoy. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: DIPSEA: Go to www.dipseastories.com/getnaked for a 30 day extended free trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is an incel? What leads a person to become an incel? And what does it mean to be black-pilled and red-pilled? On this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Dr. Kate is joined by Brendan Kwiatkowski, an educator, researcher, and speaker specializing in the social-emotional development and well-being of boys and men. The two dive into an illuminating conversation that aims to better understand the root reasons that men become drawn to inceldom, including the roles that entitlement and shame play. Together, Brendan and Dr. Kate work to unpack: • What traits embody precarious masculinity • Why a person may find themselves identifying with incel culture • Why men in particular are targeted by / attracted to the incel community • The difference between red and black pilled ideologies and so much more! A special thank you to our sponsors for this week's episode, Lume Deodorant and VIIA Hemp! VIIA HEMP 👇 Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+). Celebrate 4/20 the right way with VIIA. Happy Holidaze! #ad LUME DEODORANT 👇 Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code GET NAKED at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is anal s-x only for gay men? Is it riskier than other types of s-x? Does it cause incontinence? These are just a few of the ASSumptions that Dr. Evan Goldstein debunks on this week's episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate. Anal play can be daunting for some, especially if you have no idea where to begin, or you've been poorly educated around the topic (or not educated at all)! Luckily, Dr. Evan Goldstein and Dr. Kate are here to help untangle some common myths surrounding all things butt related. Together, the two break down: • Common misconceptions around anal • How to begin training your sphincter • Exploring the body in an interoceptive way and much more! Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between is now available – buy it here. A special thanks to this week's episode sponsor, VIIA HEMP! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their award-winning gummies. (21+). Take your passion and pleasure to a whole new level with High Love from VIIA Hemp! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alexandra Solomon’s new book LOVE EVERY DAY 365 Relational Self Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive is released today, October 10th. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. She also writes a popular blog for Psychology Today. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples. She is a founding expert on the Mine’d app, and she serves on the clinical board of Dame Products. She has contributed to outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. In this episode Kate and Alexandra talk about the nuances of relationships. They refer to the quiz Alexandra created that reveals roles we take on in the Family of Origin Roles quiz and how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. They also talk about the premises in her new book: *Love is a Daily Practice. *How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. *How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. *How do you love someone and not lose yourself. They also talk about some of the 365 specific practices to keep love going suggested in the book. It is a revealing and spirited talk about you, relationships, and keeping the curiosity alive. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Mayer Labs- Swirl Lubricants: Go to www.Amazon.com and visit the Kimono Swirl store. Use promo code 20SwirlNaked for 20% off through the month of November. Dipsea: For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering a 30 day full access free trial when vou go to: www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets.   Dr. Kate and Courtney talk about how Pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together. There are 14 muscles in the Pelvic floor and if it’s not strengthened, it can cause low sensation in the pelvic area and can affect orgasm and climaxing. They talk about why there is a connection between the pelvic floor and sexual enjoyment. Many have heard of the Kegel exercises. Listen to Courtney’s advice and opinion on other ways to work on your core.  Hear about the collaboration between Courtney and Ashley Black who invented the Fascia Blaster and the program to work on the pelvic floor via the Fascia. Dr. Kate and Courtney share ways to work on the pelvic floor and increase sexual enjoyment with a reasonable investment of time. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG:  https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSORS:  OMGYES  Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. DIPSEA Go to www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked for an extended 30-day full-access free trial HELLO FRESH   Go to www.HelloFresh.com/50getnaked and use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus free shipping Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've been on TikTok or Twitter, chances are you've come across Girthmasterr, the Australian adult content creator who has made quite a splash with his – well – generous anatomy. This week on Get Naked, Girthmasterr joins Dr. Kate in the studio to open up about his experience entering the adult content industry and his sudden rise to fame. Together, they discuss: • The double standard of s-x work between men and women • The behind-the-scenes of creating adult content scenes • STI health & s-x work • Parasocial relationships & p0rn exposure and much, much more. Girthmasterr is an award winning adult actor and content creator that has collaborated with some of the biggest names in the p0rn industry. He has appeared in Rolling Stone, Daily Beast, Slate, and The Cut, as well as many more publications and is one of the top creators on OnlyFans. A special thank you to this episode's sponsor, LUME Deodorant! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code GETNAKED at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ryan Martin (aka the Anger Professor) researches and writes on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. His newest book How to Deal with Angry People came out on May 9th. His previous book is Why We Get Mad: How to Use Your Anger for Positive Change, explore why people become angry, how people can use their anger in productive ways, and how to work effectively with angry people. Ryan also hosts the popular psychology podcast,Psychology and Stuff.  He is a Professor of Psychology and an Associate Dean for the College of Arts, Humanities, and Social Sciences at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay. His work has been featured in the New York Times,  NPR’s Invisibilia podcast, BBC Radio’s Digital Human, TED.com, and elsewhere.  Anger is a hot issue in our lives and in our country. Dr. Kate and Dr. Ryan discuss why. They talk about how prevalent anger is today from road rage to restaurant workers, and also who is modeling for us how to express our anger. They discuss how we evaluate if our anger is justified. And so much more. Let’s get more understanding of anger and anything we can do to handle ours and others.   Website: www.modernintimacy.com   Social media: IG: @themodernintimacy https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/   @drkatebalestrieri     https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. betty martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with The School of Consent, betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Dr. Kate and Dr. betty talk about the 3 Minute Game: founded on two questions: "What do you want me to do to you?" and "What do you want to do to me?" which uncover so much, including how detached we are from knowing what we really want and what we are truly comfortable with. We learn that until we get in touch with what we want, it is difficult to give and receive authentically. And until that, we are potentially giving and receiving but actually getting resentful and angry, as we stand disconnected from our wants, and performing to what we believe our partner wants, acting as if it is all good. Learn tools to discover more about yourself and your sexual or non-sexual giving and receiving with a partner, co-worker, client, etc. It can be liberating step toward balanced relationships. __ Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Visit www.modernintimacy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hope Ray, LPC CSAT CHFP CCPS is a therapist, theoretician and the pioneer of Complex Partner Trauma (CPT), a complete framework that pinpoints the endangerment betrayed partners face when their significant others use abusive deception to hide fidelity violating behavior. In 2023, Hope established the Betrayal Violence Institute (BVI) an interdisciplinary network that provides definitions and education for mental health clinicians + coaches, medical + legal professionals, faith-based + community organizations, and general society to better understand the conduct and impact of secret infidelity in intimate relationships. Hope is the creator of Complex Partner Trauma Magazine, a publication for betrayed women and the host of Women Who Discover, a private podcast about infidelity betrayal available on her website along with other programs and resources. Today we are talking about Hope’s new model for understanding chronic infidelity that positions it as violence. Dr. Kate and Hope talk about the definition of betrayal violence, which is not usually physical violence, but emotional violence. It is about keeping secrets from your partner on an on-going basis, and always denying any allegations. They also talk about the emotional fallout of partners putting a wall up and withdrawing into their lies, and leaving the partner cheated on in a state of mental confusion. Hope describes DIRE, the traits that exist in this personality profile of a cheater, betrayer: Detachment, Incongruence, Regression, Entitlement They also talk about Victims going through CPT (Complex Partner Trauma) which includes being left in the dark, when you start to see evidence, when you can see the totality of what is going on and when you can begin to heal and set boundaries. It is an important discussion and listeners may relate to some of the signs happening in their relationship.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com The Get Naked Podcast listeners can download a free printable booklet from Hope Ray about betrayal violence here: www.hoperay.com/getnaked  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Hello Fresh: Go to www.HelloFresh.com/50getnaked and use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In 2015, while working as a features writer for The Guardian in New York City, Rose wrote a widely-circulated article on emotional labor, which radically changed her way of understanding how power, gender and race affect the most intimate ways in which people relate to one another. Her research on emotional labor in the eight years since — as an invisible, devalued, feminized and yet essential form of work — has sought to drastically reframe our view of women, work and the nature of persistent inequality.  In 2013, she graduated with a master’s degree in Human Rights from Columbia University, where she focused on social and economic rights violations in the United States.  Rose’s first book, Emotional Labor, is out now.   Dr. Kate and Rose talk about: Women are expected to play an impossible game: show compassion and submission while being assertive and confident How women have to put feelings aside in order to make others’ feel more comfortable.  How this is expected behavior, and raises heads if not acted out Emotional labor is uncompensated work to make others’ feel better. The book is not just about white women and not just heterosexual dynamics. Our society does not value Emotional Labor. How can we change the dynamics of Emotional Labor so that is more equal and works in a way to better society? Listen to the conversation as Rose and Dr. Kate uncover the insidious prevalence of this, and all it effects, while bringing to light ways to possibly fix this into creating a better society. Website: www.Modernintimacy.com Social Media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Allison Yarrow is an award-winning journalist, speaker, and author of Birth Control: The Insidious Power of Men Over Motherhood (Hachette/Seal Press, July 2023).  She is also the author of 90s Bitch: Media, Culture, and the Failed Promise of Gender Equality (Harper Perennial, 2018). She has written about health, politics, and gender for many publications including the New York Times, the Washington Post, Vox, Insider, USA Today, Time, and Newsweek. She was a national magazine award finalist, a TED resident, an Aspen Ideas Festival fellow, and a grantee of the International Women’s Media Foundation. She produced the award-winning Vice News documentary “Misconception,” and gave a TED talk called “What to Expect Post-Expecting.”  Dr. Kate and Allison talk about how modern medicine should make pregnancy and childbirth safer for all. But in Allison’s book Birth Control, she reveals how women are controlled, traumatized, injured, and even killed because of the traditionalist practices of medical professionals and hospitals. They talk about the dangerous misogyny that permeates pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood in our hospitals. Kate and Allison also talk about how doctors were trained by midwives and then stole control of birth from them in the 19th century. Allison touches on specific birthing practices that are steamrolling women by a male-dominated medical establishment that has everyone convinced that birthing bodies are inherently flawed and that every pregnancy is a crisis that it alone can “solve.” Misogyny and racism, not scientific evidence and support, shape the overwhelming majority of America’s four million annual births. Drawing on extensive reporting, expert interviews, an original survey of 1,300 mothers, and her own personal experiences, Yarrow documents in her book how modern maternal health care is insidiously, purposefully designed to take power from women to the detriment of their physical and mental health—not just during labor, but for years after. She shares this in her conversation with Dr. Kate and discusses better ways this can be handled They also talk about a new post-partum depression drug and so much more. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS:  OMG YES: Go to www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount           BETTERHELP: Visit www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Aaron talk about how men benefit from Platonic Touch with other men including physical touch as well as energetic presence, song, movement, nature connection, and deep listening. Aaron is committed to interrupting the Chronically UnderTouched trauma story and be a part of the collective healing of closeness. It’s a movement supporting People of the Global Majority — people of color — to access healthy, nourishing, platonic touch in a culture that, in the United States, denies it at every turn. Tender touch means seeing people as full human beings. It is the antidote to the invention of The Black Brute archetype. Aaron Johnson is a teacher of closeness, a consultant and activist. He has made a lifelong commitment to end racism. He uses intimacy and closeness as a primary means to that end. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: ADDYI Go to www.Addyi.com and use the code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks with Christene about Asian Americans and their cultural and mental attitudes towards relationships and sex as seen first hand by Christene growing up in this culture.  She says there is almost always a sense of shame or guilt whether talking about sex, having sex, seeking therapy, dating before marriage, etc. and the weight of that shame can be seen as a betrayal to the culture historically and present day, as well as to the family. This overall taboo causes multiple problems for the individual as they try to balance what they want in life versus what they think they should do for the family.   Christene works as a BIPOC AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, IITAP Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Christene specializes in the treatment of sex-related issues and compulsive sexual behavior.     Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Brooke Brownlee, APCC (Clinical Associate at Modern Intimacy) discuss a listener question, about how to navigate a partner's inflation fetish. They address questions about what an inflation fetish involves, how to ensure safety during activities, and how to support a partner's interests without feeling uncomfortable. They also debunk myths surrounding inflation fetishes and provide resources for further exploration. Takeaways - It is common for partners to have mismatched sexual interests, and it is important to approach these differences with curiosity and support. - Engaging in inflation activities can be safe as long as there is consent, communication, and awareness of potential risks. - Supporting a partner's inflation fetish does not require personal arousal, but rather a willingness to understand and participate in a way that feels authentic. - Myths surrounding inflation fetishes, such as associations with child attraction, should be debunked to promote understanding and acceptance. - Self-exploration, open communication, and seeking resources can help navigate and introduce inflation fetishes into the bedroom. Keywords #inflation #inflationfetish #partnership #partnersupport #safety #resources Read More: What Does It Mean to Have an Inflation Fetish? by Brooke Brownlee, APCC https://www.modernintimacy.com/what-does-it-mean-to-have-an-inflation-fetish/ The Juicy Round World of Blueberry Porn, by Samantha Cole, Vice https://www.vice.com/en/article/wjmjqw/the-juicy-round-world-of-blueberry-porn ____________________________________ 📞 SCHEDULE A FREE 30-MIN CONSULTATION: https://www.modernintimacy.com/contact ____________________________________ 🔗 FOLLOW MODERN INTIMACY ↘ INSTA: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ ↘ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@modernintimacy ↘ NEWSLETTER: https://www.modernintimacy.com/newsletter ↘ Check out the Modern Intimacy podcast on Apple Podcast or Spotify ____________________________________ 🔗 FOLLOW DR. KATE BALESTRIERI ↘ INSTA: https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ ↘ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@drkatebalestrieri Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joel Kim Booster and Dr. Kate talk about mental health, relationships (Joel is in a non-monogamous relationship) and how to find one’s own identity and have the courage to be who you know you are. Joel Kim Booster is an American actor, comedian, producer, and writer. He co-produced and wrote for Big Mouth and The Other Two. In 2022, he wrote, produced, and starred in the Hulu romantic comedy Fire Island, with a main cast of Asian American actors. In 2018, he released his debut stand-up album, Model Minority. In 2022, he released a stand-up special on Netflix called Joel Kim Booster: Psychosexual, a funny and biting deconstruction and reconstruction of Booster’s identity onstage. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: ADDYI- Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GetNaked for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gina Gutierrez, is co-founder and Chief Creative Officer at Dipsea, and is passionate about de-stigmatizing sexual wellness for women. Dipsea, an audio app, is home to some of the best erotica in the world. It’s audio content is "redefining pleasure for women." Dr. Kate and Gina talk about using sexy stories and imagination as powerful tools in sexual arousal and enjoyment and the importance of connecting to our female sexuality and empowerment… all to improve each woman’s sex life. They talk how the effects can help put the spice back in relationships and increase our own sexual desire. Gina is offering our listeners a 30 day free trial to Dipsea, Details below in Sponsor section. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GetNaked for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. DIPSEA: Go to www.Dipseastories.com/GETNAKED for a 30 day free trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Playboy Mansion has developed itself as a landmark of excess and pleasure in American culture – but what happens behind its gilded doors? For Crystal Hefner, life at the mansion wasn’t always the glitz and glamor portrayed in the media. You may know Crystal as the third (and last) wife of Hugh Hefner – but she is so much more than the man she married, and she’s ready to take back her narrative. On this episode of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, we discuss: * The impact of losing oneself in a relationship, and the disorientation this causes when it ends * The realities of living in the Playboy mansion (and the lack of privacy it granted) * What messages she would like to send to the young women who consume Playboy content It is a poignant, vulnerable conversation around finding oneself in the wake of a tumultuous and controlling relationship – with a man and with an entire franchise that depends on the male gaze. Make sure to check out Crystal’s latest book, ONLY SAY GOOD THINGS: SURVIVING PLAYBOY AND FINDING MYSELF to hear her story directly from her. --   Crystal Hefner is a world-renowned model, advocate, entrepreneur, a former Playboy Playmate and author of ONLY SAY GOOD THINGS: SURVIVING PLAYBOY AND FINDING MYSELF. She now works to bring awareness to issues she is passionate about, speaking out on social media to her 10 million followers about body image, objectification, and beauty standards in the media.  ____________________________________  Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate:   IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/   Thank you to our sponsors:    ADDYI:  Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you.   VIIA:     Go to www.VIIAhemp.com and use code GETNAKED to receive 15% off and one free sample of their sleepy Dreams Gummies (21+) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tatiana Fogt is the founder, host, and sexuality educator behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. She is on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable. With a background in graphic design and branding Tatiana’s aim is to rebrand contemporary sex, love, dating, and intimacy to make room for what's between the hyper-clinical and hyper-sexual narratives we so often see. Dr. Kate and Tatiana join up again to answer your sex/relationship questions. They have great insights and answers and have fun while imparting their thoughts and knowledge. In this episode, Tatiana and Dr. Kate answer questions from Dr. Kate’s followers and talk about everything sex: - About breaking a sexual dry spell within a partnership - About wanting to start a casual sex practice and keep emotionally, physically and spiritually safe. - About wanting to get kinky even without a consistent partner. Listen to Dr. Kate and Tatiana discuss Munch, sex parties, safety and consent and some choices that may enhance solo sex. - About a Partner having pain during sex and Dr. Kate and Tatiana give suggestions. AND DONOT miss Dr. Kate and Tatiana’s totally entertaining and insightful game of SMASH or PASS!! (hint: Harry Styles may be mentioned) You will want to hear their take on every juicy question. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.co m/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: BETTERHELP: Go to www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What kind of sex is worth wanting? Does your sex life inevitably suffer in longterm relationships? On this week's episode, sex educator, researcher, and renowned author of "Come As You Are" Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. joins Dr. Kate to answer these questions. Together, they discuss the genesis of Emily's latest book "Come Together", and the reality of how our sex lives change in longterm partnerships. They discuss: • The popular rhetoric we hear about how sex works in longterm relationships, including the conversations around "keeping the spark alive" • The importance of pleasure, authenticity, and vulnerability when it comes to desire in longterm partnerships • Why it is so important to co-create an erotic context with a partner • Why longterm partners get stuck in the cycle of having the same sex over and over • Asking yourself: What kind of sex is WORTH wanting? and so much more. Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister, Amelia, of Burnout. She combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist! You can order Emily's latest book "Come Together" here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Get Naked, Dr. Kate sits down with Modern Intimacy's Digital Media Coordinator Claudia Vera to answer your pressing questions about sexuality and relationships! Together, they three listener questions: • Why is it that I can't get aroused unless someone is watching? • My partner has a fantasy about having a threesome with me... is he not sexually satisfied with me? Will he still desire me? • Why do we (in the beginning of a relationship) feel the need/desire for sex, but then after awhile it goes away? Do you have a question you want Dr. Kate to answer on the podcast? Send it to QUESTION@GETNAKEDPODCAST.COM or fill out this Google form for the chance to have your question featured on the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 Dr. Kate and Rachel are talking today about Social media and dating, and how use of social media can effect real connection and intimacy. Do you find yourself watching a movie or having dinner with your partner and look over to see him/her looking at their phone? There is a large disconnect when one partner is distracted, and this can cause a ripple effect in the relationship; including a deterrent and turn-off to real intimacy and sexual intimacy. They also talk about how to bring up discussions of boundaries and guidelines with use of social media that is comfortable for both people as well as red flags to watch for in your partner’s social media use. Dr. Rachel Needle is a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice and the founder and executive director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, and Shape. LUME: Go to www.Lumedeodorant.com and as a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code GETNAKED. That’s 40% off your Starter Pack. ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this enlightening episode of "Get Naked with Dr. Kate," we welcome Pamela Madsen, the visionary behind Back to the Body. Together, Dr. Kate and Pamela dive deep into the world of embodied sexuality, desire, and vulnerability. Pamela shares how women can reclaim their pleasure and sovereignty by embracing their eroticism and shedding the shame that often surrounds sexual exploration. This conversation touches on the significance of immersive practices, the challenges of arousal imprints, and how sexual healing transcends the bedroom to affect all areas of life. Tune in for an empowering discussion that will leave you inspired to reconnect with your body and embrace your authentic desires. For more information about Pamela Madsen, you can find her here: Website: https://backtothebody.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As technology has advanced, so has the ability to harness images without consent – this is where deep fakes and AI generated images enter the picture.   On this week's episode of Get Naked, Dr. John Delatorre joins Dr. Kate to break down WHY image-based sexual violence is so damaging, how it appears in our culture today, and the small but meaningful ways we, as individuals, can intervene.   Together, they unpack:   • The implications of distinguishing the real from the fake via AI image • What may compel someone to engage in creating deep fakes • The dehumanization of celebrity as an object for consumption • The Taylor Swift AI lawsuit and controversy that followed • The role of fear and anger in deep fake perpetrators   and so much more!    John Delatorre, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist in Texas, Arizona and New York State. He provides therapy and assessment for a variety of concerns, including providing interventions to the severely mentally ill, individuals with significant trauma histories, and crisis interventions/de-escalation. A special thank you to this week's sponsor, LUME Deodorant! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code GET NAKED at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David F Khalili is a Licensed Therapist, board-certified sexologist, and founder of Rouse Relational Wellness, a sex and relationship and mental health wellness therapy center serving San Francisco and all of California. David’s book Mental Health Workbook for Men: Exercises to Improve Your Emotional, Psychological, and Social Well-Being was published recently to help men with their mental health and improve their relationships with themselves and others.  Dr. Kate and David discuss how men are not always encouraged to be open and honest about their emotions—especially when it comes to mental health struggles. As mental health pros, they explore how much shame and anxiety men live with and how it relates specifically to sex. They talk to us about “Soul Murder”, a term referring to boys killing off parts of themselves that leads to sadness and loneliness. They also describe Anxiety Closeness and how it affects relationships. David’s new workbook on men’s mental health issues, gives exercises, strategies and writing prompts that help men improve the way they handle challenges and is solution focused. If you are a male looking for some understanding of the male experience or are the significant other, spouse, sibling of a man, listen to this podcast and pass it on to those you care about! SPONSOR: Addyi- Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarah Cooper is a popular writer and comedian with a big social media presence and huge list of credits. She created the posts that went viral during the Pandemic where she lip-synched content of former President Trump, gaining her much notice by fans and the industry. She is the star of the Netflix comedy special Sarah Cooper: Everything’s Fine. She is author of her debut memoir Foolish: Tales of Assimilation, Determination and Humiliation that comes out today. Oct. 3. She also authored 2 books before her new one: How to be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings and 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings. Sarah is a comic that brings satire and a hint of sarcasm to her observations of her own life and others’ and in sharing these, may just shine a light on situations she and other women find themselves in. She has appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, Tonight Show, Ellen Degeneres and many more. She has been written about in the NYT and Washington Post just to name a few. Dr. Kate and Sarah talk about why Sarah decided to write a memoir, they talk about her experiences, not always great, on the dating apps, how to make and maintain boundaries, and the importance of feeling self-empowered. They discuss the power we may give away is really something we need to feel within ourselves. Enjoy this episode!! Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: BetterHelp: Visit www.BetterHelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month. Mayer Labs: Visit the Kimono Swirl store on www.amazon.com and use code 20SwirlNaked for 20% off through October 31. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imani and Dr. Kate talk about a new area of research that explores the Impact of a Child’s sexual victimization on the lives and sex lives of the parents of the child. This traumatic event for the child can take it’s toll on the parents as well. Feelings of guilt, concern for their child’s mental health, shock, can all lead to a breakdown of communication and little interest in sexual activity with their partner. Imani Reynolds is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California and a board-certified sexologist. Imani is currently a doctoral student in Human Sexuality with research focused on sexual desire, sexual intimacy, and sexual trauma. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com The Get Naked Podcast listeners can download a free printable booklet from Hope Ray about betrayal violence here: www.hoperay.com/getnaked  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are revisiting an audience favorite this week! Heather Shannon joins Dr. Kate to talk about Hot Wifing and Cuckolding kinks, including what these terms mean, unpacking the themes of humiliation, desire, power and pride, and understanding how it can be practiced in heterosexual and queer relationships. They discuss: • The differences between cuckholding vs. hot wifery • The role of humilation • How to begin this conversation with a partner if you're curious about exploring • Best practices for aftercare, including discussing the experience with one another & so much more! Heather Shannon is a Certified Sex Therapist and Host of the top-ranked “Ask A Sex Therapist” podcast. With over 12 years in private practice, Heather helps queer, kinky and/or non-monogamous people to explore who they are as sexual beings and how they want to show up in their relationships. Heather has been featured in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Self Magazine as well as on podcasts including The Horny Housewife and Curious Girl Diaries. She is a sex and relationship expert for the Peanut app, which serves 2.5M women throughout all stages of life. Original episode air date: August 15, 2023 HAVE A QUESTION? ↘ EMAIL: question@getnakedpodcast.com A very special thank you to this episode's sponsors, OMGYES and BetterHelp! ↘ OMGYES Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. ↘ BETTER HELP Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex, trauma, and ketamine-assisted therapy (KAP), author, yoga teacher, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr Cat is the founder of SexLoveYoga.com, an online platform integrating various schools of thought including science, tantra, yoga, psychedelic therapy, and psychology designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life.  As an expert and published researcher on the topic of sexual health, Dr. Cat sees clients in her private practice office in Beverly Hills and leads workshops, lectures, and retreats internationally. Dr. Cat is the host of the podcasts Eat.Play.Sex and Erotically Wasted, co-founder of Un.done women’s sensual yoga experience. She is also part of the Breathwork app Othership, a breathing App that helps you regulate your emotions and nervous system through guided breathwork. Dr. Kate talks with Dr. Cat about the many advantages of breathwork. They talk about how Dr. Cat first felt free, calm, and safe while practicing Yoga. It was in that moment that she realized she could feel something different than the intense anxiety + tension that shook her body on a daily basis. ​ This inspired her lifelong dedication to discovering more about the voice of her body claiming the fullest spectrum of erotic expression. She talks about her mission to help others become more “undone” so that they can fully claim their most raw + authentic erotic self --- whatever that looks like for them. From Tantra to BDSM to sex + trauma psychology, psychedelics, yoga, + the modern sciences, Dr. Cat sees healing from a holistic lens and they talk about the effects each can have.  Dr. Cat’s approach is inclusive of all expressions + integrates the mind, body, spirit, + the energy that moves through it all.  Listen to this amazing conversation about the freedoms that can result from breathwork. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather Shannon, LMFT, CST and Dr. Kate talk about the sexual kink Hot Wife and Cuckolding. They explore what these terms mean. Hot Wife and Cuckholding kinks play with themes of humiliation, desire, power and pride, and can be practiced in heterosexual and queer relationships. They discuss Cuckolding and Hot Wifing, and the differences between them. They also talk about the mystery around this form of kink and why this is erotic to some. Both can be practiced in relationships that practice open monogamy or consensual non-monogamy. Heather and Dr. Kate outline how to begin this conversation with your partner, if this is interesting to you, as well as how to talk about the experience and feelings after participating in this practice. It is an open and very direct conversation about this sexual kink. Heather Shannon is a Certified Sex Therapist and Host of the top-ranked “Ask A Sex Therapist” podcast. With over 12 years in private practice, Heather helps queer, kinky and/or non-monogamous people to explore who they are as sexual beings and how they want to show up in their relationships. Heather has been featured in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Self Magazine as well as on podcasts including The Horny Housewife and Curious Girl Diaries. She is a sex and relationship expert for the Peanut app, which serves 2.5M women throughout all stages of life. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSORS:  OMGYES  Go to www.OMGYES/GetNaked for a special discount. BETTER HELP  Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are men afraid of women? The answer may surprise you. Dr. Kate is joined by Dr. Avrum Weiss on this week's episode of Get Naked to discuss the ways that men's fear of intimacy may negatively impact their relationships with women. Together, they unpack • The deepseated root of fear of intimacy, starting from our childhood relationships • The strain that fear can place on intimate relationships between men and women • How men unconsciously identify their own fears of intimacy • The role of the patriarchy when it comes to control • Starting points to help men overcome fear of intimacy and so much more. Dr. Avrum Weiss is a psychologist, author, and speaker. He has written four books, the most recent “Hidden In Plain Sight: How Men’s Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships”. A special thank you to this episode's sponsors, VIIA and LUME DEODORANT! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies (21+). Lume’s Starter Pack is perfect for new customers. It comes with a Solid Stick Deodorant, Cream Tube Deodorant, two free products of your choice (like Mini Body Wash and Deodorant Wipes), and free shipping. As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code GETNAKED at LumeDeodorant.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to be with someone who exhibits sexual narcissism? On this week’s episode, Dr. Kate is talking all about sexual narcissism – what it looks like, how it differs from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and best practices for navigating relationships with someone who exhibits signs. Dr. Kate had the pleasure of sitting down with Keresse Thompson, a seasoned therapist specializing in toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, borderline personality disorder, and empaths, to unpack this topic. They discuss: • How sexual narcissism may present itself • The subtle ways covert narcissism can occur • The role of baiting and love bombing • Different ways an individual can counterbalance their own needs not being met in relationship And so much more. This conversation is designed to help you to recognize if you are with someone who is sexually narcissistic, and offer tools on how to move through it while maintaining autonomy. If you want to schedule a free 30-minute consultation and get connected with a coach/clinician at Modern Intimacy, head to www.modernintimacy.com/connect. A very special thank you to this episode’s sponsor, Factor Meals! Go to www.Factormeals.com/GetNaked50 and use code GetNaked50 for 50% off your first box and 2 free wellness shots per box while subscription is active. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can you keep the curiosity alive in a relationship? In this episode, we revisit a community favorite where Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon talk about the nuances of relationships. They explore some of the questions that Dr. Solomon created in her quiz that reveals roles we take on within relationships. The two work to unpack how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. Together, they discuss: • How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. • How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. • How to love someone while not losing yourself. & so much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Be sure to check out her latest book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive. Original air date: October 10, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you ever be truly prepared to be a parent? And how can fathers show up for their sons to ensure that they grow up with emotional maturity? On this week's episode of Get Naked, Eli Weinstein joins Dr. Kate to discuss the in's and out's of parenting, especially when it comes to navigating fatherhood.  Together, the two unpack:  • How weaponized incompetence may be used in parental dynamics • The lack of role modeling for fatherhood that many men face • How postpartum may impact men • Tips for new fathers and so much more! Eli Weinstein is a Licensed Clinical Social Work Therapist who has worked in multiple settings, including psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. Eli has honed his skills of CBT, ACT, positive psychology, and other therapy techniques to reach a grasp of the inner workings of the human mind. His mission is to use his experience, expertise, and voice to help empower individuals and let them know the life they hope for is possible. A very special thank you to this week's sponsors, SEED and VIIA Hemp! Support your gut this summer with Seed’s DS-01® Daily Synbiotic. Go to seed.com/getnaked and use code 25GETNAKED to get 25% off your first month. Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their award-winning gummies. (21+). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are anal play and pegging are safe (and okay to enjoy)? This week on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Australia's leading men's sex coach Cam Fraser joins the podcast to discuss all things anal play, and to help shed some of the stigma surrounding it within male spaces. Together, they unpack: • Myths around male sexuality and masculinity • Why some men may fear anal play, and why they may be curious about it • How prostate orgasms can be achieved (and what sets them apart) • Tips for getting started with pegging and anal play in solo/partnered sex And so much more. We hope that this episode can help to dispel myths around anal play, masculinity, and what it means about one's sexuality, so that individuals can feel free to explore what feels safe and pleasurable for them. Cam Fraser is a Professional Sex Coach, certified with the World Association of Sex Coaches, as well as a Sexologist, and the current Deputy Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists. His work aims to help men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. You can learn more about Cam by visiting his website. A very special thank you to this episode's sponsor, FACTOR MEALS! Head to FACTORMEALS.com/getnaked50 and use code "getnaked50" to get 50% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Artimus Wolz is a film school grad and Digital creator. He is an artist and a musician and created tik tok videos that have received wide spread attention. His Tik Tok followers are over 670,000 and his likes have reached 13 million. Artimus’ hit, Incompedance was his comedic but insightful video pointing out the male tendency of Incompetence in the avoidance and manipulation of feigned incompetence of daily chores and beyond. This is the basis of the discussion between Artimus and Dr. Kate: The phenomenon of Weaponized Incompetence and how good men are at it.  Wolz picks up on social ilks and is honest and vulnerable in his videos. In the podcast, he speaks of a tense relationship with his father and his video Eggshells talks about that and going home for the holidays. Raw but comedic, insightful and entertaining, his lyrics hit home on many subjects as does the conversation between Dr. Kate and Artimus. In this podcast we learn more about who Artimus is, how he takes real vulnerabilities, anger and comedy and mix It up in a number of great videos. We also hear how psychologically,  Incompedance may have shone a light on weaponized incompetence and hopefully caused some changes. Based on the high numbers of followers for his videos, Artimus had put them along with new ones together in an album called Chaos. This includes  Incompedance, Eggshells, Saddy Daddy-o, Leave her Alone and more. Links for Artimus: linktr.ee/artimuswolz https://www.tiktok.com/@artimuswolz   Incompedance:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JShZtBp1J4  Eggshells: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sYod64AzJM   Links for Modern Intimacy:  Website: www.Modernintimacy.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Theresa Gallagher, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist in NY. She earned her Psy.D at Midwestern University in Glendale, Arizona, and received training in trauma-informed therapeutic techniques, Forensic Psychology, and psychological assessment. She believes in empowering individuals to find strength within themselves. Dr. Gallagher helps clients break free from cycles of the past and move into the future with confidence and self-efficacy. Dr. Gallagher is a Clinical Associate on the Modern Intimacy team.In this episode, Dr. Kate and Dr. Gallagher talk about Bodily Autonomy as it relates to sexuality and gender.  This subject matter is particularly relevant on the heels of Roe v. Wade being overturned and other misogynistic policies enacted globally that infringe on a uterus owners' right to their body.Bodily autonomy means, "My body is for me; my body is my own." It’s about power, and it’s about agency. It’s about choice, and it’s about dignity. This episode of Modern Intimacy talks about a shift in uterus owners knowing Roe v. Wade is overturned and options of putting into effect one's own choices are limited now. Women are feeling unheard, disconnected, anxious, and alone. There is also a question of if they feel supported by their partner.As therapists, the Doctors have been hearing fallout from Roe v Wade, such as how the uterus owner’s partner may never understand how helpless they feel.  They may also be looking for empathy for the feeling of having sex being risky now. It has impacted and hindered feeling sexually curious, available and how their partner understands this downshift. There are so many side effects of this decision on women and ultimately it affects their partners as well. We hope this shines a light on these new results from a “no choice” decision. And can help define what you may be experiencing but haven’t been able to define where it’s coming from.All of this is discussed in this important episode of Modern Intimacy. Website: www.ModernIntimacy.comIG:  @themodernintimacy and @drkatebalestrieri      TikTok: @modernintimacy and @drkatebalestrieri Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks with Raquel VanLoon, LPC, CADC,  a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist - Candidate. Raquel is a Clinical Associate at Modern Intimacy, and earned her Masters degree in counseling psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology with a specialization in treating addiction. Raquel works with clients feeling overwhelmed with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, stress management, life transitions, trauma, substance use/abuse, building coping skills, body image, and lifestyle balance, to name a few. Raquel meets clients where they are and supports them through getting where they want to be. Foreplay is necessary for a good f*ck. So many of us know how important foreplay is but yet it doesn’t get a lot of attention.   Without adequate foreplay, partners can have feelings of disappointment, feel less than, confused, disconnected if sex did not live up to their expectations. Often, partners carry misinterpretations from porn that sex does not require foreplay, clitoral stimulation or consists of quick penetration, and still have the expectation for ecstatic orgasms. When this doesn’t happen in our reality, partners often feel deflated.   Foreplay is that important. Some therapists say just 15 minutes of foreplay can increase chances of orgasm.   Dr. Kate and Raquel talk about specifics to up the exploration of one another’s body parts and bring awareness of foreplay to both partners. Do you know that foreplay can occur in and out of the bedroom? It can start with a text, a hand on your back, helping with a chore, and then hopefully elongate the pleasure of foreplay.   Listen to this conversation and get excited about exploring the importance and fun of foreplay.   Website: www.modernintimacy.com IG: @drkatebalestrieri and @themodernintimacyTikTok: @drkatebalestrieri and @modernintimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Grooming is the process during which a child sexual offender draws a child in by gaining his or her trust in order to sexually abuse the child and maintain secrecy. The offender may also groom the parents by persuading them of his or her trustworthiness with children. In this episode, Dr. Kate talks with Barret Pall a former model, now a life coach, who has decided to talk about his experiences of being sexually abused, and show that this happens to people of all genders.  Dr. Kate shines a light on the process of grooming so people can be aware of the steps predators take once designating a victim and the psychological make up of those predators, as well as the psychological effects on the victim, especially when this happens at a young age.  Former model Barrett Pall began his fashion career while studying as an undergraduate at New York University. Pall, now 33, is opening up about the alleged sexual abuse he received from photographers behind the scenes. Pall, as many do, thought the fashion industry would be glamorous. But quickly found out that isn’t what it is. On his very first photo shoot, he was sexually assaulted by the photographer. And on a trip to Los Angeles, he was in an uncomfortable situation with his “agent.” He says there is no one specific way that someone is sexually assaulted or abused,” “I personally was not penetrated in any way, but I was sexually abused, and I say that wholeheartedly, knowing full stop that is what happened to me. There was no consenting, there was no asking, there was no ‘Are you OK with this?’” Men also suffer from unwanted sexual advances, with 1 in 6 males reporting to have been sexually abused or assaulted.  “There is something that’s taken from you, and as more people share their stories that are similar to mine, you get to take back a part of your narrative, which is taking back some of your power,” he told Yahoo. The message he wants to send out to other men, regardless of your sexuality, is that consent is something that we also get to have for us and our sex lives. It’s an enthusiastic ‘yes’ — or it’s not a ‘yes’ at all.” Healing can take a lifetime, and for Pall, that journey includes helping others to heal. For the last eight years, he’s been working as a life coach focused on helping his clients unlock their potential. Website:  www.modernintimacy.com Dr. Kate IG   Dr. Kate Tik Tok The Modern Intimacy IG   Barret Pall IG   Barret Pall Tik Tok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rachel Overvoll is a Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach and published author of Finding Feminism. Using her credentials from the Somatica Institute and Kinsey Institute, she works through the mediums of embodiment and self-attunement to help clients step into the power of an authentic and pleasure-centered life. The term “purity culture” is generally associated with the white, American, Evangelical Christian Purity Movement. However, evangelicals don’t have a monopoly on the ethics of purity culture. The specifics vary by religion and culture, but gender and sexual control upon which purity culture stands is global, cross-religious, and cross-cultural.  Rachel and Dr. Kate talk about the Purity Culture that conflates women’s worth with their virginity.Couples don’t even hold hands til engaged. Any distractions to man’s path to God are a sin.But actually, men keep control over women’s bodies in the form of sexual oppression.Some see it as positive…but in the Purity Culture, it is embedded so deeply and really is oppression. Rachel talks about how Purity culture instills in women a deep hatred of their bodies and mistrust of their bodies because they are taught it causes evil.Women in this culture cannot enjoy their bodies as it causes themselves and men to sin.The process of women trying to leave the Purity culture is also part of the conversation: Regaining love of your body, and knowing you deserve pleasure.Dr. Kate and Rachel talk about:1. what purity culture is and some of the lessons it teaches children growing up in it 2. How did Rachel begin to unpack purity culture messaging? 3.   How does purity culture impact how someone shows up for themselves? For a partner? 4.  How can someone recovering from purity culture begin to explore what is pleasurable for them? 5. How can someone deal with the shame that's rooted in purity culture as they begin their exploration of pleasure? And so much more. Join us.The Modern Intimacy WebsiteSocial: Dr. Kate The Modern Intimacy Rachel Overvoll  @rachelovervoll  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joel is a grammy-nominated songwriter, certified meditation teacher, life coach, and creator of the R.I.S.E. Journal.  R.I.S.E. stands for Release, Inquire, Self-Awareness, Empower. This practice reconnects practitioners to their truth by infusing meditation, asking “heart questions,” and deep listening into a modality that Joel calls meditative journaling. Joel has committed his life to be a conduit for grounding, healing, and transformation. He uses music, poetry, and meditation, to create a safe space to feel, heal, and grow in self-awareness.  Joel Cross grew up in Cleburne, Texas singing gospel songs with his seven siblings. At the age of twelve, he fell in love with the guitar. He was self-taught, finding inspiration in gospel, soul, classical, and r&b.  In 2003, he began to study jazz at the University of Houston. There, he learned the traditions of improvisation and bebop. His influences were Grant Green, George Benson, Wes Montgomery, and Joe Pass. In 2006, he transferred to the University of North Texas in Denton where he finished his performance degree in Jazz Studies. Though his formal education was focused on guitar, Joel was always inspired by creating new music and telling stories that brought the listener in. His heartfelt approach showcased his ability to make each piece his own.  One afternoon, while playing a show in Dallas, Joel decided to appease the crowd’s unconventional request for a song by Taylor Swift. A fan happened to catch his very soulful rendition of “Shake it Off” on video and uploaded it to YouTube. By the next morning, it had over half a million views and Joel’s face was on every major news source in Dallas. The viral video quickly catapulted his career as he captured the attention of fans across the globe, including Ellen DeGeneres, America’s Got Talent, Capitol Records, Time, and MTV. Four-time Grammy award-winning artist, India Arie, was also intrigued by Joel when she heard one of his original songs, “Candlelight,” and invited him to collaborate with her. In 2017 that album, Songversation: Medicine was nominated for a Grammy, Best New Age Album. Joel collaborated with India in 2019 for her album Worthy, co-writing and playing guitar on several songs.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Joel Cross Socials:Instagram TikTok YouTube  Insight Timer  Web: asoulcalledjoel.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.  In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron, has been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including Sex with Dr. Jess, American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Multiamory. She has written for Authority Magazine and Good Vibrations, been featured in Vice and Ms. Magazine, and is a frequent public speaker.   Dr. Kate and Kate talk about how entering into the world of non-monogamy also brings you into contact with overtakers/narcissists. They often garner more joy from overtaking than sharing. Kate Loree has followed the path of consensual non-monogamy and talks about the positive side plus some things you may run into and want to avoid.   For more information, please visit her on the web at KateLoree.com. Books: Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships Website: www.modernintimacy.comSocials:Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Having spent her professional life working within male-dominated industries, Randi Shover has a lot of experience with, and a whole lot of thoughts about, the inherent misogyny in our society. In particular, she has a lot of thoughts about how men can take active steps to identify their misogynistic behavior and how they can stop it. As a single mom of two daughters with a deep passion for creating safe spaces for women everywhere, Randi focuses every day on dismantling the patriarchy in both her professional and personal life. You can find her on TikTok and Instagram at @feelingrandi78 as well as on her own podcast Feeling Randi.  She is the host of Feeling Randi, a podcast that is “horny for female empowerment!” On her podcast, and here on the Modern Intimacy podcast today, Randi discusses sex, dating, relationships, dingdongs on TikTok, pop culture, and feminism all with a focus on uplifting women everywhere. Together, we can smash the patriarchy, one laugh at a time!  Randi is here to remind you how powerful you are, that you need never take shit from anyone, and that loving yourself just as you are is a revolution!   Join Dr. Kate and Randi talk all about how not to be a misogynist! Website: www.modernintimacy.com Social: Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks with Raquel VanLoon, LPC, CADC, A Licensed Professional Counselor in IL, a Certified Alcohol Drug Counselor, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist - Candidate. She earned her Master's degree in counseling psychology from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology with a specialization in treating addiction.    Raquel works with clients feeling overwhelmed with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, stress management, life transitions, trauma, substance use/abuse, building coping skills, body image, and lifestyle balance, to name a few. Raquel meets clients where they are and supports them through getting where they want to be. Socials: @raquelleigh    In society, we are taught and socialized for what traits, likes, and behaviors fit men (and women). Men like blue, and women like pink. Men are taught not to cry and to “man up” at a young age. Women are allowed to be vulnerable, and for men, that shows weakness. But really it’s all about being a human being. And Dr. Kate and Raquel talk about this inability for men to be vulnerable naturally and the destigmatizing of the shame of that vulnerability.     Website: www.modernintimacy.com   Social:Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yolanda is a Trauma Therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor in Private Practice at Latibule Counseling (latibulecounseling.com) in Arizona. She is trained in EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Brainspotting, and DBT. She also owns Yolanda Renteria, PLLC (yolandarenteria.com), where she provides Somatic Processing Sessions, psychoeducational workshops, and speaking services.  She is passionate about helping people break generational cycles and thrive in parenting and relationships. Aside from her work in mental health, she is an Adjunct Faculty Psychology Professor at Northern Arizona University and utilizes social media platforms to bring awareness of generational cycles that perpetuate trauma.  In her free time, she enjoys reading, writing, and spending time with her family. She and Dr. Kate talk about ways to repair relationships with parents and how parents bring their own emotional issues to parenting. They discuss the process of children seeing their parents as flawed humans, creating their own boundaries, and ultimately either repairing the relationship or sometimes having to let it go. Socials: IG: @thisisyolandarenteria  Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Janelle Marina Mendez (she/her) is a feminist human rights leader turned certified human rights consultant. She is the first and only person to author, lobby, and enact intersectional military and veterans’ legislation. Her first intersectional legislation was the Restoration of Honor Act of 2019 which was signed in to law in New York State. On the federal level the U.S. Navy and Marine Corps. enacted the Safe-to-Report Policy and the Department of Defense is in the process of enacting Mendez-Viera’s Military Industry Regulatory Authority legislation that was written in to law in Congress’s NDAA of this year. Janelle is the subject of an evidential biography titled Boricua Gringa by British author Eleanor Wait which details her experience being sex-trafficked as a teenager while enlisted in the U.S. Marine Corps in a time where there were no laws in the U.S. to protect against state-sponsored child sex trafficking. After years of injustice, Mendez launched the Military Sexual Trauma Movement, a feminist human rights organization to enact the United States' first intersectional military and veteran laws.Janelle talks with Dr. Kate about the Radicalization Pipeline, how she developed it, and how it’s hindering egalitarian relationships built of mutual respect.They also talk about her work as a human rights leader. She is passionate about the state of the disaffected males and its effect on how women are treated.Janelle’s Socials Business Facebook: BoricuaGringa  business IG: Boricua.Gringa  Business tiktok: Boricua.Gringa  Website: BoricuaGringa.com   Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raquel Savage is a Black, queer, therapist, educator, and sex worker. She facilitates trauma therapy through Zepp Wellness Center, a non-profit organization she founded in 2019 that centers on the mental health needs of Black queer folk and sex workers. She does the majority of her education online via Savage University (where she has an archive of educational videos, #ThoughtProvokingThirstTraps, live streams, and more) and through Kink Media Group, a production company she started in 2020, where she posts her #SexxxEd series, a hands-on, informative and real-life version of sex ed that fills the gaps for adults who missed out on early, ethical and affirming examples of sex education. Through Kink Media Group, Savage also executive produces different projects for QTPOC and sex workers, including CVNT Productions, a porn production company that shoots exclusively Black, queer & trans, fat, and disabled performers.Savage is also building out the Equitable Care Certification, a certification for therapists around clinical competency for working with sex workers, and frequently leads workshops and lectures about mental health and sex work for undergrad, graduate, Ph.D. students, and organizations. Savage is also working on a workbook for Black women around healing trauma. She’s been a sex worker for a decade, including 6 years of full-service work, and, currently creates adult content online. Dr. Kate and Raquel talk about the social implications of slut shaming and external and internal blaming. They talk about how to stop slut shaming yourself and the right to safety and well-being for every person.Social Media: IG: RaquelSavage Twitter: Raquel_Savage Website: raquelsavage.comWebsite: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest today is Keeley Rankin, featured in publications like Huffington Post and O Magazine. She calls herself a pleasure advocate and a sexy-preneur. Keeley is a sex and relationship coach based in San Francisco, California. She works with individuals and couples who want to embrace their innate desires, build sexual confidence, and fully realize their sexual potential.Dr. Kate and Keeley define and discuss Sex Clubs, and answer multiple questions such as What are the different frameworks of consent practiced at sex clubs. Conversations that may behoove them to have beforehand. Are they for couples and singles?  And of course, the pros and cons of embarking on this type of outing, along with the psychological and emotional states of each partner about this issue.  You can find Keeley at: www.keeleyrankin.com and IG https://www.instagram.com/keeleyrankinsexcoach/ Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Steven Kniffley jr. is a clinical psychologist, professor, author, speaker and advocate for marginalized populations. His work empowers others through therapy, education, and advocacy with issues of Racial trauma and its negative effects, how to become aware of racial and intergenerational trauma and not compartmentalize it.Dr. Kniffley is the Chief Diversity Officer for Spalding University and an Associate Professor at the Spalding University’s School of Professional Psychology. He is also the coordinator for the Collective Care Center which is one of the few racial trauma clinics in the country. He received his doctorate and master’s degree in clinical psychology from Spalding University where I specialized in child, adolescent, and family therapy. He completed his post-doctoral training at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Kniffley’s area of expertise is research and clinical work with Black males. Specifically, his work focuses on understanding and developing culturally appropriate interventions for Black male psychopathology as well as barriers to academic success for this population.Additionally, he conducts research and clinical work on the challenges related to the experience of racial trauma. Specifically, he has developed a treatment protocol for the experience of racial trauma and trains clinicians in the implementation of the protocol. As an educational consultant, he has worked internationally with students and school administrators in South Africa and India. He also serves as an organizational diversity consultant and works with law enforcement departments on addressing conflicts between communities of color and police officers. Some of his books and works in progress include: “Knowledge of Self: Understanding the Mind of the Black male,” “Out of KOS (Knowledge of Self): Black male psychopathology and its treatment, ” and “Black males and the Criminal Justice System.” Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Joe Kort is a psychotherapist, clinical director, and founder of The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak, Michigan, a board-certified sexologist, an author of 4 books, a lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops. Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed-orientation marriages; male sexuality and sexual health concerns; “compulsive sexual behavior,” out-of-control sexual behaviors; sexual identity issues; childhood sexual abuse; LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy; Male Sexual Fluidity and Imago Relationship Therapy. Dr. Kort can be found on Instagram, TIkTok, Twitter,  Facebook, and LinkedIn @drjoekort, and his website iswww.JoeKort.com Dr. Kate and Dr. Kort discuss Straight Men having Sex with Men: About this choice, the reasons why, and effects of. They discuss: 1.  Talk about some of the reasons a straight man would engage in sex with another man? 2.  What would you tell a straight man who has had these thoughts or has had sex with another man? 3.  What would you tell people who say this action defines a person’s sexuality? 4.  How might this impact other people in his life?  5.  If the man is in a relationship with a woman, what might the repair process look like? And so much more on this topic. Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brooke Brownlee, APCC is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor at Modern Intimacy under the supervision of Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Brooke is passionate about helping clients heal from trauma, feel more empowered sexually, and repair relationships. Brooke is continuing her education and working towards becoming a Certified Sex Therapist. “Where such men love, they have no desire, and where they desire, they cannot love.” This quote directly from Sigmund Freud describes a phenomenon he called the Madonna Whore Complex.  The Madonna Whore Complex is deeply rooted in misogynic beliefs and is damaging to women on both an individual and societal level. The Madonna Whore Complex (MWC) is a psychological complex often perpetuated by heterosexual, cisgender males which places women into two categories the “Madonna, “ a woman who is pure, virtuous, and nurturing, or a “Whore,” a woman who is deemed as overly sexual, manipulating, and promiscuous. The dichotomy of MWC creates a rigidity that limits women’s sexual expression, agency, and freedom by defining their sexuality into one of two categories. Dr. Kate and Brooke discuss the origin and effects of the Madonna Whore Complex in this podcast: the effects on women and men. Brooke wrote a blog on the Madonna Whore Complex that can be found on the Modern Intimacy website. https://www.modernintimacy.com/the-psychology-of-the-madonna-whore-complex/ Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Jamie Goldenberg works at the University of South Florida and has been involved in the study of Terror Management Theory and Objectification of oneself and others, the body and sex, objectification of women. Roxanne Felig has been a part of the same research study. Dr. Goldenberg's research focuses on psychological experiences associated with being a woman. To this end, she has conducted extensive research examining the causes and consequences of objectification of women. One approach to these questions is to apply terror management theory, a theory that takes an existential perspective on human motivation. Her research suggests that people are motivated to deny mortality and any connection to animality (or creatureliness) – objectification of woman accomplishes this by turning women into literal (and immortal) objects. The focus on women’s appearance and consequent denial of personhood and internal attributes affects perceptions of women and can hinder their success, having implications for political progress for instance, and also affects women’s self-perceptions, undermining self-concept clarity and congruences between the self and bodily experiences (e.g., explaining why women sometimes dress as if they are imperious to the cold). They have also applied the terror management perspective to health outcomes, developing the terror management health model; this line of research led to 10 years of continuous funding from the National Institutes of Health. Recently, she and her graduate students have been interested in the consequences of social media on women’s health and well-being.Dr. Kate discusses with her guests  Objectification : the Disconnect from one’s body, the pyscho dynamic denial of the body’s natural abilities including feeling pain or pleasure. And so much more on the findings of this study and the phenomenon of Objectification, fear of death, and connection of it all.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kayla Tricaso (she/her) is the Office Manager and Intake Specialist at Modern Intimacy. Kayla earned a Bachelor's Degree in Marketing Communications with a concentration in Public Relations from Columbia College Chicago. Whether scheduling appointments, helping with billing questions, or through the consultation process, Kayla works diligently to ensure current, and prospective clients feel seen, safe, and supported throughout their journey with Modern Intimacy.What is a "pick me" girl? It is a (shaming and misogynistic) term used to describe women who are entrenched in their own internalized misogyny, and aim to please men, at the expense of other women. Dr. Kate and Kayla discuss women being conditioned to maintain gender roles and make choices to be more liked by men.  They want to be “picked” by men. Some of this is very subconscious behavior. This podcast sheds light on this and may have women see patterns they have had that they may be ready to leave behind. Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stefanie is an author and journalist covering the many ways Ambition touches women’s lives- from money to power to career.Stefanie’s work and advice has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, CNBC, USA Today, Glamour, Cosmopolitan and more. A go-to expert, Stefanie has appeared on ABC World News, CBSN, Fox Business, Bloomberg, The Dr Oz Show, The Doctors and local television stations across the country.She is also the host of Real Simple Magazine’s podcast, Money Confidential. And look for ‘Too Ambitious’ a new series from Stefanie about work, money, and the price women pay for power.Dr. Kate and Stefanie talk about why there is a difference for women in integrating ambition with life and all the things around that including resistance to ambitious, powerful women...Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raquel Savage is a Black, queer, therapist, educator, and sex worker. She facilitates trauma therapy through Zepp Wellness Center, a non-profit organization she founded in 2019 that centers on the mental health needs of Black queer folk and sex workers.She does the majority of her education online via Savage University (where she has an archive of educational videos, #ThoughtProvokingThirstTraps, live streams, and more) and through Kink Media Group, a production company she started in 2020, where she posts her #SexxxEd series, a hands-on, informative and real-life version of sex ed that fills the gaps for adults who missed out on early, ethical and affirming examples of sex education.Through Kink Media Group, Savage also executive produces different projects for QTPOC and sex workers, including CVNT Productions, a porn production company that shoots exclusively Black, queer & trans, fat, and disabled performers.Savage is also building out the Equitable Care Certification, a certification for therapists around clinical competency for working with sex workers, and frequently leads workshops and lectures about mental health and sex work for undergrad, graduate, Ph.D. students, and organizations. Savage is also working on a workbook for Black women around healing trauma. She’s been a sex worker for a decade, including 6 years of full-service work, and, currently creates adult content online.Dr. Kate and Raquel talk about the social implications of slut shaming and external and internal blaming. They talk about how to stop slut shaming yourself and the right to safety and well-being for every person.Social Media: IG: RaquelSavage Twitter: Raquel_Savage Website: raquelsavage.comWebsite: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Euphemia Russell, (they/them) is a full spectrum pleasure coach and bestselling author of Slow Pleasure.Slow Pleasure is a practical and philosophical exploration of pleasure, teaching you how to claim, prioritize and integrate pleasure into your daily life.They combine their training in somatic coaching, and sex education to create space for their clients. Creating space for them to pause, listen and remember their full spectrum of pleasure and choices in each moment, drip by drip and microdose by microdose. All in the name of aliveness and reestablishing a nourishing connection to self, others, and the land.Euphemia is trained and certified in somatic coaching, International Coaching Federation, sex-positive education, sexual violence counseling, and trauma-informed facilitation, and has a background in Community Cultural Development.Their work aims to support people to flourish and feel pleasure. Even despite our collective crisis of pace and disconnection. They’ve been featured in Elle, Cosmopolitan, Vice, Harper’s Bazaar, and other publications.Dr. Kate and Euphemia discuss why people have forgotten, through Covid and other factors, how to know what pleasure is anymore. They discuss remembering… how to and why it’s important for connection and joy. We can start slowly, and build our capacity for pleasure and fun again!Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elena Bahar, LMFT, is the Clinical Director at Modern Intimacy in Los Angeles, CA. She earned her Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology from National University (NU) with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT). Elena is very passionate about working with individuals and couples who are looking to heal and grow, build a sense of meaning and purpose in their lives, and reintegrate with their true selves. Elena has special training and skill in interviewing and diagnosing clients, then counseling them and treating any mental and emotional disorders within the context of marriage and family. As a Marriage & Family Therapist, Elena performs counseling and emotional support to help families navigate relationship and behavioral issues, while seeking to secure a long-term solution to mental and emotional disorders and a wide variety of relationship issues. Significant conditions treated by Marriage & Family Therapists include marital conflict, dysfunctional behavior, communication issues, and mental illness.  Dr. Kate and Elena talk about Mismatched libidos in a relationship. When one partner has a high or low sexual desire and the other has the opposite, It can create frustration, feelings of rejection, and inadequacy.  They talk about the importance of communicating one’s needs and help to avoid making this a wedge in the relationship.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Court Vox’s practice, The Body Vox, provides coaching for Sexual Wellness and Intimacy.He is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Bodyvox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationships seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives.  When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years.Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women,  Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe.Dr. Kate and Court talk about ways to awaken our sexual selves by breath, movement, and sound. And addressing concerns such as body shame & awareness, boundary-setting, communication, and feeling stuck in sexual roles and identities. They also address the importance of listening to your body to hear what it needs, as well as feeling empowered to say what you need to your partner.Court’s website is: www.TheBodyvox.comWebsite: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Therapist (CST). She sits on the Clinical Board of Directors for Dame Products and is the Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes.    This unique combination of credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes as well as mind-body health. In addition to teaching numerous sexual health-related subjects, she works with women, men, couples, and gender-diverse individuals on relationship and sexuality issues.    Her treatment specialties include low libido, sexual dysfunction, compulsive sexuality (often called “addiction”), desire discrepancies in couples, recovery from sexual trauma, and alternative/non-traditional sexual expression.    Her book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery.    Dr. Holly is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, Shape, NBC, Wired, Forbes, Oprah, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan and Women’s Health.  Each interlinked facet of her work is grounded in a sex-positive perspective: all sex is good sex as long as it is consensual and pleasurable. This non-judgmental position allows her to assist clients in discovering their true needs, desires, and personal path to wellness.  www.drhollyrichmond.com www.next-sex.com   Dr. Kate and Dr. Richmond discuss finding pleasure after sexual trauma. They highlight triggers that can surface years after the trauma such as pregnancy, birth, and major events. They also talk about when and if to tell your partner about your sexual trauma history.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Sulman Aziz Mirza, MD is a psychiatrist who is triple Board Certified in Psychiatry, Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, as well as Addiction Medicine. He completed his Psychiatry Residency at Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond, Virginia, and his Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Fellowship at the University of Maryland and Sheppard Pratt Hospital in Baltimore, Maryland.   Dr. Mirza has had the privilege to work in a variety of settings, from inpatient psychiatric units with medical capabilities to the classrooms of Baltimore City public schools. He has learned from some of the leaders and pioneers in the field of psychiatry, and his experiences have allowed him to develop a deep understanding of neuropsychiatric conditions in both children and adults.   His unique experience as a child and adolescent psychiatrist provides a valuable perspective when working with adult patients, as he understands how early experiences can affect an individual's mental health later in life. Additionally, his board certification in Addiction Medicine allows him to understand individuals struggling with addiction better and be non-judgmental in his approach.   Dr. Mirza is knowledgeable and experienced with the latest pharmacological interventions and therapy modalities. However, he believes that every individual is different and seeks care for a unique reason. His practice is based on the belief that each person deserves the same respect and treatment that he would demand for himself.    He is active on Tik Tok  @kicksshrink    Dr. Kate and Dr. Mirza discuss Psych meds such as Ketamine and the concept of treatment resistant depression and frustrations with the insurance system that can hold up or deny necessary treatment prescriptions.   They also talk about how mental health is handled by the media, specifically how the media handles suicide reporting. It is important for journalists to not say examples of suicide. Algorithms have shown that specifics are then researched and there can be ideas put in people’s heads that may not be there already.   Dr.Mirza sees a sharp increase in cases of depression, adhd, suicide attempts, addictions and discusses why.   Listen to this episode on this very current and important topic.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, coming out on May 9th, featuring real accounts of intimate and wild sexual experiences curated by the author.He's also the co-author of Men's Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He also has a monthly column at Queer Majority called “Zach and the City,” which explores romance and sexuality through Zane’s fabulous life. Set against the backdrop of New York City, Zane uses his personal experiences as a young and adventurous queer socialite to unpack the current state of cosmopolitan sex, love, and dating. He currently writes for The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, and Prevention and has written for a wide array of publications. As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama), Dr. Kate and Zach discuss bisexuality, sexuality, polygamy, and the sexual shame that arises from so many societal “norms”. They talk about being the rejector and the rejected, “nice” ways to reject someone, and inherent issues that come up even when you do the right thing.Zach is a “sex expert and activist” and honestly portrays the dilemmas and way he’s tried to figure out life unashamedly. Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tatiana is the founder, host, and sexuality educator behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By chatting with sexperts, therapists, innovators, thought leaders & more she's on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable.Her Secret Sauce: With a background in graphic design and branding Tatiana’s aim is to rebrand contemporary sex, love, dating, and intimacy to make room for what's between the hyper-clincal and hyper-sexual narratives we so often see.In this collab episode, Tatiana and Dr. Kate answer questions from their followers and talk about everything sexual health and wellness. They cover it all from sex therapy, who is it for, having a daily pleasure practice, did you know pleasure and you are a definite priority? Watch out for Dismissiveness  in your relationship: It is a definite sexual turn off, and hear about  the whys and some tips about performance anxiety.  Kate and Tatiana also discuss why orgasm is not always the defining goal and so much more!!! You will want to hear their take on every juicy question.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick is a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and specializes in emotional and physical intimacy, relationship barriers, communication skills, and helping her clients to break the "toxic cycle" & address dysfunctional relational behaviors.Dr. Fedrick also specializes in working with depression, anxiety, trauma, attachment, intimacy, grief and loss, life transitions, and personal improvement (including motivation & self-esteem). She is part of Evolve Counseling in Arizona. Her new book Relatable: From Relationship Trauma to Finding Your Truth is out in May.Dr. Fedrick seeks to provide her clients with relatable and nonjudgmental coaching that helps to normalize the struggles they are facing, while simultaneously assisting them to obtain the tools needed to address these issues and improve their relational functioning with self and others.In addition to providing coaching services, Dr. Fedrick is a professor at Grand Canyon University, where she teaches behavioral health and psychology courses. She also hosts a relationship-based podcast: Relatable| Relationships Unfiltered and a mental health podcast: Calm, Cool, & Connected.Dr. Fedrick presents mental health talks & media interviews both in-person and virtually (Good Day LA, Us Weekly, various podcasts), as well as contributes to mental health articles for various media outlets (as seen in, Oprah Daily, Self Magazine, Cosmopolitan, HuffPost, and more.Dr. Kate and Dr. Liz talk about emotionally unavailable people and the signs to spot one, but they also talk about signs to check if you are emotionally unavailable yourself.  They talk about some traits: Guarded, easily distracted, work a lot, too busy for conversations, combative, isolates in hard conversations, and more specifics to be aware of.Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ali Drucker is an author and freelance writer covering sexual health, relationships, and pop culture. Her new book is called Do As I Say, Not Who I Did: Honest Advice on Hookups and Relationships in College, a shame-free, affirmative sex education for college-age women, and anyone just discovering what they want.She previously served as Senior Sex and Dating Editor at Cosmopolitan and Maxim. Since then, her work has appeared in New York Magazine, HuffPost, Refinery29 and more.  Ali lives in Los Angeles with her husband, cat, and moderately well-behaved German Shepherd.Kate and Ali discuss the empowering of women and the mantra you Don’t Owe Anyone Sex. They talk about dating apps, porn, withdrawing consent, sexting, and tips for dating, information and insights for college women and beyond college.Ali info: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ali_drucker/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ali_drucker Book purchase link: https://bookshop.org/p/books/do-as-i-say-not-who-i-did-honest-advice-on-hookups-and-relationships-in-college-ali-drucker/15862712?ean=9781615197965 Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and William Beteet discuss how to recognize the male gaze in media, and unpack its detrimental impacts on dating expectations, relationships and masculinity. Guest info: William Beteet III (he/him/his) has been published in TIME, Huffington Post and Inc. Magazine. He’s a TEDx Speaker, Quora Top Writer and has over 160,000 followers on TikTok. William received his Juris Doctorate from Illinois Tech and has degrees in both Philosophy and History from Baylor University. William lives in New York where he has performed, along side of Bill Burr and Tracy Morgan. Follow William on Instagram and TikTok @billbeteet Additional Resources for Understanding the Male Gaze: Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema by Laura Mulvey (year) https://www.asu.edu/courses/fms504/total-readings/mulvey-visualpleasure.pdf What is the Male Gaze? Definition and Examples in Film by Kim Leonard (2021) https://www.studiobinder.com/blog/what-is-the-male-gaze-definition/ To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks about aligning with podcast producer, Cloud 10, and joining forces for her podcast going forward. Plus there is a name change from Modern Intimacy to Get Naked with Dr. Kate.   The podcast will still be a candid conversation about mental health, relationships, sex, managing depression and anxiety, personal growth, and self-discovery. And Dr. Kate will answer questions from listeners in a bold and direct way, and not avoid any topics that may come up.   Get Naked with Dr. Kate, which will launch officially towards the end of June, can be heard on all platforms that you normally listen on. If you already subscribe to Modern Intimacy, you don’t have to do anything. It is a smooth transition.   We look forward to sharing our podcast with you every week.    Website: www.modernintimacy.com  Dr. Kate Balestrieri  Modern Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate Balestrieri, host of Modern Intimacy, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, helps people live more fulfilled lives by shattering stigma and erasing shame.  It’s no secret that we live in a society that compartmentalizes sex and sexuality from our every day lives. On this show, Dr. Kate is going to change that. And she'll do it by getting curious with experts and listeners.  In this podcast, Dr. Kate invites you to join her as she investigates the relationship between sex, mental health, relationships and modern society.  In return, you’ll get safe, smart, dimensional and practical answers to those complex questions you’ve been wondering about.   Premiering weekly beginning  May 2021, go to www.modernintimacy.com/podcast for links to follow us on your favorite podcast app of choice, so you’re among the first to know when the show drops.  Mental health, sex and relationships do not have to feel like daunting topics. Everyone has questions. You are not alone. On this podcast, Dr. Kate makes information accessible. Because everyone deserves to have more integrated, healthy, and sexually satisfying relationships.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Modern Intimacy, Dr. Kate Balestrieri offers viewers insights in to her professional background, and talks about solo sex and mental health, given that May is both National Masturbation Awareness Month and National Mental Health Awareness Month. For show notes, transcript and references, please visit:www.modernintimacy.com/podcastTo submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and William Beteet discuss how to recognize the male gaze in media, and unpack its detrimental impacts on dating expectations, relationships and masculinity. Guest info: William Beteet III (he/him/his) has been published in TIME, Huffington Post and Inc. Magazine. He’s a TEDx Speaker, Quora Top Writer and has over 160,000 followers on TikTok. William received his Juris Doctorate from Illinois Tech and has degrees in both Philosophy and History from Baylor University. William lives in New York where he has performed, along side of Bill Burr and Tracy Morgan. Follow William on Instagram and TikTok @billbeteet Additional Resources for Understanding the Male Gaze: Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema by Laura Mulvey (year) https://www.asu.edu/courses/fms504/total-readings/mulvey-visualpleasure.pdf What is the Male Gaze? Definition and Examples in Film by Kim Leonard (2021) https://www.studiobinder.com/blog/what-is-the-male-gaze-definition/ To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Modern Intimacy, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and guest, Evelyn Nam, discuss the reason for feminism, the benefits and opposition to it, and the role that men can play as feminists and allies. Guest info: Evelyn Nam (she/her/hers) Evelyn is a lifelong intersectional feminist. She graduated from Cornell with a B.S. in 2016 and from Harvard with two master's degrees in 2020. She studied oppression and how it has all been cemented throughout history in public policy, economy, law, media, and religious institutions. She has helped people study intersectional feminism, build their own enterprise that adds to gender equity, and write articles on women's liberation.Follow Evelyn on Instagram @herspective_feminist and TikTok @herspective and on YouTube  @Herspective and on her website: https://www.herspectivefeminist.com _To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Rupin Rach discuss how to identify enmeshment in parenting dynamics, how to move toward a style of parenting with healthy boundaries, and begin to address the effects as an adult child. Guest info: Rupin Rach helps parents invite conscious presence into their parenting. Clearing out their familial and cultural conditioning, he helps them use mindfulness techniques to build healthier relationships and connect more deeply with themselves, their children, and everyone around them. Connect with Rupin on his website:  meetfox.com/e/consciousparentingcoach and on Instagram @rupinrach and Facebook @consciousparentingcoach or Email rupin@consciousparentingcoach.co.uk_To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media: Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacy TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Pronouns Matter - Modern Intimacy Podcast - Casey Tanner, LCPC @queersextherapy - Episode 4 In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Casey Tanner, LCPC discuss the merits in understanding pronouns, how to think about them, and how to begin taking steps to changing your language to include a more expansive and inclusive vocabulary. They discuss how to ask about pronouns, how and when to declare them, and what to do if you make a mistake. Guest info: Casey Tanner, LCPC is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who combines evidence-based research, queer affirming care, and pleasure activism to cultivate powerful relationships.  Specializing in gender and sexual diversity, Casey partners with individuals, relationships, and institutions to expand limited mindsets, foster courageous behavior, and empower meaningful change around gender and sexuality. The Gender Neutral Language Workshop will take place at 6pm CST on Wednesday, July 7th.  However, the webinar will be available as a recording for those who can't make it live.   Gender Neutral Language Learn how to integrate gender affirming language, including they/them pronouns, into your everyday life.  This will be a 45 minute didactic session with 15 minutes open Q&A at the end. Link to Register - $45 Connect with Casey on Instagram @queersextherapy or www.theexpansivegroup.com To submit ideas for future podcasts, please visit www.modernintimacy.com/podcast To schedule a consultation with a Clinician at Modern Intimacy, visit www.modernintimacy.com/contact Subscribe to the podcast here: Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1563975869 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4YUuXpunV1W4GfMmcu0qXu?si=mfuyAkhrTraN1Nv0SYy2lQ Stay connected with Dr. Kate on Social Media:Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri + @themodernintimacyTikTok: @drkatebalestrieri Intro and Outro Credits Erica Gerard www.podkitproductions.com #malegaze #misogyny #patriarchy #mentalheatlh #relationships #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get off the Path of Fear and Anger When fear leads to anger, you need to know how to control negative emotions and don't let them get the best of you. Neglecting mental health can lead to a domino effect. Counseling and therapy are great first steps to start taking control of your emotional health. In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri discusses anger, its roots, how to make constructive use of anger. They discuss how anger is a necessary emotion, and also discuss alexithymia, and how normalized male alexithymia can lead to anger and aggression. Dr. Martin researches and writes about healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. Author of the book, Why We Get Mad: How to Use Your Anger for Positive Change, he also hosts the popular psychology podcast, Psychology and Stuff.  He was trained as a counseling psychologist at the University of Southern Mississippi, after earning his undergraduate degree in Psychology with a minor in Criminal Justice from the University of St. Thomas.  Dr. Ryan is a Professor of Psychologyand an Associate Dean for the College of Arts, Humanities, and Social Sciences at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay. Follow him on TikTok and IG @agnerprofessor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's no secret that LGBTQ discrimination is widespread between industries and geographical areas. Some discriminatory places are more obvious than others, but what can you do when it's in a much more subtle, and necessary, setting? LGBTQ healthcare discrimination is one of the most overwhelmingly harmful ways LGBTQ individuals are experiencing medical discrimination.In this episode of Modern Intimacy, Dr. Kate Balestrieri speaks with Asia Sullivan, PA-C, MPH about providers can equip themselves to be safe and competent providers for members of the LGBTQ+ community, and how patients can screen providers to ensure their needs will be met and humanity respected. Asia Sullivan is a certified physician assistant working in LGBTQ+ focused primary care in Los Angeles, CA. She is a native of Alabama and completed both her Master's of Physician Assistant studies and Master's of Public Health at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, where she graduated Summa Cum Laude and at the top of her class. Asia's treatment philosophy is a "whole-person" approach that recognizes the interplay of one's physical body, emotional wellbeing, environment, and psychosocial support systems. She is passionate about preventative medicine and considers herself to be a "judgement-free" provider with whom patients are free to be themselves. Asia's hobbies include blogging, style and fashion, yoga, and spending time with her two dogs. To make an appointment with Asia please visit suite401.com. Resources: Health Professionals Advancing LGBTQ Equality  OutCare Folx Nurx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Modern Intimacy, Dr. Kate Balestrieri talks with Dr. Lee Phillips, a certified sex therapist who often works with people with disabilities and chronic illness. Dr. Lee Phillips is in private practice in Reston, VA where he specializes in couples sex therapy. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Washington, DC, Maryland, Virginia, and Florida. Dr. Phillips is a Certified Substance Abuse Counselor (CSAC) in the state of Virginia. He is a Certified Sex Therapist (CST) by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). In addition, he is a Certified Sex and Couples Therapist (CSCT) by the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. He has been in private practice for more than a decade, working with individuals and couples on sexuality after chronic illness. He lectures on topics including sexuality, chronic pain, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, reclaiming sexuality for couples with chronic illness, ethical decision making, the assessment of mental disorders, and exploring sexual communication, freedom, and pleasure for gender minorities with chronic illness, pain, and other disabilities. He has published in the Journal of Baccalaureate Social Work, conducting a research study on LGBTQ-Affirmative Teaching at Historically Black Colleges and Universities: Understanding Program Directors Views. He has been a featured expert in Teen Vogue, Healthline, and The Lily Newspaper. He writes for Psychology Today. Dr. Phillips is writing his first book, Sex and Love When You’re in Pain, which helps couples overcome shame and the sexual limitations caused by illness and gives strategies to create and reclaim a sex life that works. He is the host of the Sex & Chronic Illness Podcast. His podcast features stories from individuals, couples, and other experts in the field on overcoming shame and the sexual limitations caused by illness and disability. He holds a Doctor of Education (Ed.D.) degree in Organizational Leadership with an emphasis in Behavioral Health from Grand Canyon University in Phoenix, AZ. In addition, Dr. Phillips is an adjunct professor in the Master of Social Work Program with the School of Social Work at Western New Mexico University and he is an instructor for The Integrative Sex Therapy Institute and with Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. He can be found at www.drleephillips.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri and Adam Avitable discuss the trappings of benevolent misogyny, the myth of hate "nice guy" and the experience Adam has had in challenging the laters of misogyny within. Adam Heath Avitable is a comedian, author, and former lawyer who is known for his commitment to being brutally honest, transparent, and vulnerable, all in the name of self-improvement. He is the cohost of the relationship podcast Dating Kinda Sucks where he and his cohost try to make dating, sex, and relationships a little easier for the rest of the world, and his true crime podcast Angel at the Starlite Motel is considered one of the creepiest true stories ever told! When not podcasting or writing, he's an amateur photographer with his photos showcased on Instagram @avitable or he's giving advice on TikTok @adamavitable. Visit Avitable.com to read more about this jackass of all trades! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 In this episode, Dr. Kate and TikTok influencer, Dr. Kojo Sarfo, talk in depth about ADHD, and its impact on relationships and sexuality.  Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP is a social media content creator, mental health practitioner, and psychotherapist with over 1 million+ followers on his social media channels (TikTok,Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller). He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to bring people together and to promote mental health awareness. On his TikTok channel, he uses relevant trends and popular music to educate individuals about mental health conditions and the importance of self-care. Dr. Sarfo is also the author of an Amazon best-selling book entitled “You Already Won." Stay connected with Dr. Kojo here: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.kojosarfo https://www.instagram.com/drkojosarfo/ https://www.facebook.com/drkojosarfo https://www.youtube.com/c/kojosarfo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  In this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri speaks with Kaitlyn Connor, @revengeporngirl about her experience with image based sexual abuse (revenge porn), and how it affected her. Kaitlyn Cannon (she/her) is currently a Masters of Social Work student at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She is the Vice President at March Against Revenge Porn, an organization dedicated to advocacy around image based sexual abuse. After being victimized by revenge porn on two separate occasions, she decided this trauma happened to her for a reason, and that reason was to fight back. She is a future therapist and current mental health advocate. She has always made volunteering a priority, and has volunteered with Crisis Text Line, where she served as a Crisis Counselor. In her advocacy to fight revenge porn, Kaitlyn was recently featured in The Washington Post. She hopes using her voice will let other victims know that they're not alone. IG: @marchagainstrevengeprn @kaitybop_ TT: @marchagainstrevengeprn @revengeprngirl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate talks with Tawny about Tawny’s journey to Sobriety and the effects of being present in life, dating and even enjoying sex when not drinking alcohol. They also talk about the physical and emotional aspects of sobriety. Dr. Kate and Tawny talk about ways to a more present life without relying on alcohol but also talk honestly on some of the losses along the way. You will also hear about booze-free date ideas, conversation prompts with a partner, good sex and that the idea of “slowing it down” is truly ok. Tawny reminds us that “you don’t need to hit rock-bottom to decide to stop drinking too much” and you don’t have be sober to investigate how your relationship with alcohol or drugs is affecting your intimacy. Tawny Lara is an advice columnist better known as “The Sober Sexpert” and author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze. She co-hosts the podcast, Recovery Rocks. She also writes a weekly advice column, Beyond Liquid Courage, about all things sober dating and relationships. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gaby Balsells is a Clinical Psychologist, Liscensed in Guatemala, and a Relationship and Intimacy Coach with almost a decade of experience guiding couples to understand each other and become a true team! Within her extensive resume, Gaby is specialized in Attachment Science & Emotionally Focused Therapy. Gaby believes that eroticism is a life force, and she is passionate about helping people find deeper connection to their bodies as a way of reconnecting to their whole Self. She helps couples become fulfilled with their intimacy through creating a sex-positive space that fosters curiosity and deeper connection. Gaby and Dr. Kate talk about the benefits of blending a couple’s 2 different cultures and backgrounds and all it can affect. Gaby’s parents were from two different cultures and both held on to their individual cultures for the family rather than blending it. This can cause some tension and confusion. Gaby and Dr. Kate talk about the 2 cultures’ need to come together and create their own new way- take the best and surrender what doesn’t work. The coming together of two different cultures effects so many things from religion, to language, to views of how to raise kids, traditions, in-laws, freedom of choice for the children, how to talk about emotions, how to express anger, being a woman, and much more. Gaby finds that it is best if it is not an “either /or” situation, but rather a blending that takes place. The blending can honor traditions of each partner and create a new design that both agree upon. They talk about steps bi cultural couples can take for better communication: Creating traditions by their own design Define roles and responsibilities Determine if the relationship takes precedent over work and family How much compromise is needed and couple defined boundaries from the in laws How much alone time each needs. It’s a deep look and practical guide to issues large and small that may affect this particular relationship and families of this coupling. Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ Sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to www.Hellofresh.com/50getnaked Use code 50getnaked for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 Months. Manscaped: Go to www.Manscaped.com and use code Get Naked for 20% off and free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it ever acceptable to cheat? What do fidelity agreements look like in partnership? This week, we are revisiting a community favorite episode with the one and only Dan Savage! Dr. Kate and Dan talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family YOU want, not one dictated by society. Together, they unpack: • The dimensionality of fidelity and loyalty • Inviting sustained and controlled chaos into your relationship • The power of practice in group and community settings • The Karmic Rule of Kink and so much more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, media pundit, author, journalist, and LGBT community activist. Be sure to check out his column, Savage Love, and his podcast, Savage Lovecast. A special thank you to the sponsors for this episode, BEDUCATED and MAYER LABS! Head to BEDUCATED's website and use code "drKate" for 40% off a yearly pass. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Kate and renowned author, Soraya Chemaly, explore the misconceptions and dangers of resilience, highlighting the lack of social care and the value of care in society, highlighter in her new book: The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma. Some of the key points include: - Resilience can be misconstrued and work against us when there is a lack of social care and value for care in society. - The concept of resilience has become detached from science and has proliferated as an ideology. - The science of resilience has biases and limitations, particularly in relation to gender and vulnerable populations. - Healing and resilience are not solely individual endeavors, but require community, relationships, and reflection. - Traditional notions of masculinity can hinder resilience and adaptability to change. - The idea of bouncing back to a pre-trauma state is a myth, and healing involves assimilating experiences and evolving as individuals. Rigid notions of masculinity can be harmful and lead to a lack of resilience. - Marginalized communities may overcompensate in one area to compensate for marginalization in another. - Cultivating an embodied awareness of our environments is important for resilience. - Resilience should be viewed from a relational perspective, emphasizing interconnectedness. -- Soraya Chemaly is a renowned journalist, activist, and author. Her work focuses on the words we use, the images we make, and how to act to build a better world. Her work will make you think, and give you plenty to talk about! Get Soraya Chemaly's books here: The Resilience Myth: New Thinking on Grit, Strength, and Growth After Trauma Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger Follow Soraya Chemaly: Instagram: @rageandresilience Website: https://www.sorayachemaly.com ____________________________________ 📞 SCHEDULE A FREE 30-MIN CONSULTATION: https://www.modernintimacy.com/contact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Dr. Jasmine discuss the role of stress and hormones on sexual desire and arousal. Dr. Jasmine Talei is a California licensed Naturopathic Doctor and believes in a holistic approach to our health. She looks at hormonal imbalances, the skin-gut connection, auto immune conditions, and mold-related illness and how these can effect stress in our lives. For a Link to Dr. Talei’s adrenal support product Mind Body Soul go to https://www.beverlyhillsnaturalmedicine.com/drtalei/p/resp5vh8e62s86oyht2vbt0xuls1kf  Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ ADDYI: Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment and find out if Addyi is right for you. MIND BODY SOUL herbal supplement: Go to site for a 10% discount. Mention code Get Naked. https://www.beverlyhillsnaturalmedicine.com/drtalei/p/resp5vh8e62s86oyht2vbt0xuls1kf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kate and Doc Erica talk today about Doc Erica’s newest book, out today, Intimacy ≠ Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect and look at the holistic definition of Intimacy, including intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical, experimental/recreational intimacy and not just sexual intimacy. Doc Erica believes that only by giving priority to all these forms of intimacy, will a relationship last. They reviewed a few of the 180 activities that can help couples connect and how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy. We are the loneliest we have ever been. Holistic intimate connection is at a low. Has our culture of Electronics affected all of this? Are people dismissing emotional attachment?  Listen to the conversation for insights and practical advice and a fun conversation. -- Dr. Erica Holmes, Doc Erica, is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, author, speaker, and consultant who values knowledge, authenticity, and empowerment. As the Executive Director of Champion Counseling Center, Associate Program Chair and the Director of the Psychological Trauma Studies Specialization in a Master’s in Psychology program in Los Angeles, and the founder of HOMMs Consulting, she has provided psychotherapy and counseling, training and consultation, education and research services to individuals and organizations for over 25 years.    Her areas of inquiry and numerous professional presentations focus on psychological trauma, relationships and coupling, equity, belonging and empowerment, psychotherapy with African American clients and the integration of Christianity and Psychology.    Her books, Dating with Purpose (DWP): A Single Woman’s Guide to Escaping No Man’s Land, Before the Broom: A Premarital Workbook for Dating, Engaged and Newly Married African American Couples and her most recent release, Intimacy ≠ Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect have been met with enthusiasm and positive reviews. Her first textbook, Black Couples Therapy: Clinical Theory and Practice is set for publication by Cambridge University Press August 2023 -- Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSOR: Go to www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In your day to day life, how often do you do something for yourself? Do you incorporate pleasure into your routine, or do you find yourself yearning for some moments of intention? On this week's episode of Get Naked, Bedside host Tatiana Fogt returns to the podcast to talk about how a person can build a sustainable (and accessible) pleasure practice into their daily lives. Together with Dr. Kate, the two explore: • Identifying the significance between rest and pleasure • How to escape from constantly being in a "doing" mindset • Exploring what brings you joy by tapping into childhood • The myth of needing to "earn" pleasure and so much more! Tatiana is the brilliant creator and host behind Bedside, a charting podcast series unpacking the intricacies of modern love, dating, relationships, and all things sex. By chatting with sexperts, therapists, innovators, thought leaders & more, she's on a mission to make sexual wellness more accessible and approachable Be sure to join the waitlist to grab a copy of Tatiana's latest journal here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, an author, and has appeared on numerous television shows. “Savage Love,” Dan’s sex-advice column, first appeared in The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated across the United States and Canada and is the longest running sex advice column. Dan has published six books. His book, Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on Sex and Relationships, Dating and Mating, Exes and Extras was published in September of 2021. In 2006, Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in advice podcast. It has over 300,000 unique monthly downloads and 100,000 paying subscribers for premium Magnum content. It ranks consistently in the top ten Sexuality podcasts on Apple Podcasts. Dan is passionate about helping young people face daily tormenting and bullying and also to help LGBT kids who often hide their sexuality for fear of being bullied. Savage has discussed his relationship with his husband on his podcast, in which he and his partner are committed to each other, but still have non-committal sex with other men. On this episode Dan talks about his relationship with his husband, each of them having boyfriends and how it works for them. Kate and Dan talk about sex, fidelity, monogamy, non-monogamy and the importance of creating the type of relationship and family you want, not dictated by society. There’s even an interesting discussion about Dan’s advocacy for cheating when maybe it’s not the worst thing for the relationship and may actually help it. They discuss the different ways loyalty to your partner may look like and times where infidelity and loyalty may co-exist. We hear what Dan’s take is on the political state of the country as well. This episode is full of bold ideas and a conviction to being honest with yourself. Ultimately, it is about creating your personal world with the plan that works for you. MAYER LABS- Kimono Swirl Natural Cleaning Gel: Go to www.Amazon.com and visit the Kimono Swirl store. Use promo code 20NakedSwirl for 20% off through the month of November. BEDUCATED: Go to https://beducate.me/pd2342-drkate and use code Dr. Kate for 40% off the yearly pass. Try ALL Beducated courses for 1 Day FREE. You won’t get charged for the first 24 hours, you can cancel it any time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you embrace sex positivity if you grew up surrounded by social messaging filled with shame? Dr. Tara is ready to help you answer this question, and share her journey to sex positivity as well! This week on Get Naked, the doctors are in session – Dr. Kate and Dr. Tara sit down to discuss: • First sexual experiences • Defining sex positivity • Unpacking the judgement and backlash that sex positive individuals face (and why) • The macro- and micro-communications about sex and so much more! Dr. Tara is the internet's resident sex expert for GenZennials, on a mission to show that women can at once be sexual, intellectual, and powerful. She is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, the TV host of Celebs Go Dating, an award-winning sex researcher, a TEDx speaker, host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast, and an in-demand sex and relationship coach based in Los Angeles. On TikTok, Dr. Tara is sharing bite-sized nuggets of wisdom to an audience eager to step into their power in sex, life, and beyond. Translation: she's making some serious moves destigmatizing sex, and having a blast while doing it. Sponsor: Lume - use code GETNAKED for 15% off your first purchase at LumeDeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brooke Brownlee, APCC is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor at Modern Intimacy under the supervision of Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Brooke is passionate about helping clients heal from trauma, feel more empowered sexually, and repair relationships. Brooke is continuing her education and working towards becoming a Certified Sex Therapist. Brooke specializes in counseling patients with Pain during Sex issues. In this episode Dr. Kate and Brooke speak about causes for pain during sex and how this can be an isolating experience. They also talk about the gap in mental health and sexual health and some potential remedies. They also speak about various reasons for pain: from abuse, a traumatic medical experience, fear of engulfment from the relationship, disgust and shame and many others. Their discussion of disgust and shame leading to potentially painful sex is eye-opening.  It is a fascinating topic and anyone suffering from this will learn more of it’s potential origins, will feel not alone in this, and will know there is help out there for you. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does one unlearn the rigid beliefs of purity culture? This week, Dr. Kate is joined by Julia and Jeremiah of Sexvangelicals, a a podcast, educational platform, and community building project offering the sex education the church didn't want you to have. The three of them unpack: • The impact that these environments can have on one's relationship to pleasure and sex • The sense of grief and loss that can come hand in hand with the freedom of exiting high control environments • Redefining the role of importance that sex plays in your life and so much more! Be sure to check out Sexvangelicals podcast to gain insight on giving yourself permission to be a sexual person, navigating the deconstructing process, and healing from the ways that Christian communities may have gotten it wrong. RESOURCES MENTIONED: When Religion Hurts You (book) by Laura Anderson Sunday School Dropouts (podcast) by Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs A special thank you to this episode's sponsor, VIIA HEMP! Head to Viiahemp.com and use the code GETNAKED to receive 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+). Happy Holidaze! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jaime Mahler, MS, LMHC, is the New York-based psychotherapist and mental health educator behind the popular Recollected Self social media brand. Jaime’s therapeutic education on trauma and toxic relationships has gone viral on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube with millions of views and likes. In addition to becoming the trusted empathetic resource for her many followers, Jaime is a noted mental health contributor for outlets such as USA TODAY, NBC News, Parade, and more.  She is the author of her new book TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY: Your Guide to Identifying Toxic Partners, Leaving  Unhealthy Dynamics, and Healing Emotional Wounds After Breakup (September 5, 2023). She is actively engaging in conversations around trauma healing and toxic relationship dynamics through her social channels and popular mental health podcast Unlearned.  As a Therapist and trauma specialist Jaime helps people of any adult age take control, reclaim their power and move ahead with pride, determination and optimism when recovering from a bad relationship and prepares them for what to look for when getting back out there. She and Dr. Kate talk about Toxic trauma and healing. They talk about the difference and importance of ME vs. WE and Interdependence vs. Co-dependence. Most importantly is that each partner make sure they are taking care of their “self” and figuring out the difference of a toxic gaslighting relationship vs. healthy respect for one another and true compromise. Jaime goes over her acronym OASIS for points about a toxic relationship. It is an important subject matter and may help you see some warning signs, how to handle them and maybe turn it around. Dr. Kate and Jaime remind us to always watch out for our mental health within a relationship.  Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com  Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG:  https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  SPONSOR: BETTER HELP Go to www.Betterhelp.com/GetNaked to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think of intimacy, what comes to mind? Maybe you think about a passionate kiss, or getting frisky with a partner in the bedroom. But what if we told you there were other ways to cultivate intimacy that didn't involve sex?  This week, we are revisiting a community favorite on Get Naked with Dr. Kate, where Dr. Kate explores the multifaceted definitions of intimacy with Doc Erica Holmes. The two unpack a holistic definition of intimacy, walk listeners through a few activities that can help couples connect, and explore how we as a society can make our way to valuing true intimacy. Doc Erica is a licensed clinical psychologist, educator, trainer, community consultant and author in the greater Los Angeles area. Be sure to check out Erica's latest book, Intimacy Sex: 180 Activities to Help Couples Connect. A big thank you to this episode's sponser, OMG YES! Go to https://www.OMGYES.com/GETNAKED for a special discount. Original episode air date: August 8, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that there are 14 muscles in the pelvic floor? Do kegels actually work? And what IS the pelvic floor, exactly? We are revisiting a community favorite this week with pelvic floor expert Courtney Virden! Together with Dr. Kate, the two unpack: • How pelvic floor strength and sexual pleasure are tied together • The shame around pelvic floor dysfunction • Accessible pelvic floor exercises & so much more! Courtney Virden is a pelvic floor expert, fitness trainer, and founder of iCORE Method. Her iCORE method app with core and pelvic floor programs is used by women worldwide to restore pelvic floor health and wellness. She is a contributor for Kourtney Kardashian's Poosh and consults as a pelvic floor expert for many publications and outlets.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Shyama and Dr. Kate talk about Perimenopause and effects on one’s sex life, sex drive, sexual desire, mood and body. They cover the pros and cons of various hormone replacement options. Perimenopause can bring with it changing bodies, lowered libido, painful sex, hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, fogginess and emotional ups and downs. Dr. Shyama Mathews is a Board Certified OB/GYN, NAMS Certified. Menopause Specialist, and the Chief Medical Advisor of Playground, a Woman’s sex and wellness company. You can find it at www.Helloplayground.com SPONSORED BY ADDYI Go to www.Addyi.com and use code GETNAKED for a $10 telemedicine appointment to find out if Addyi is right for you. ____________________________________ SCHEDULE A FREE 30-MIN CONSULTATION: https://www.modernintimacy.com/contact ____________________________________ FOLLOW MODERN INTIMACY IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@modernintimacy BLOG: www.modernintimacy.com Check out the Modern Intimacy podcast on Apple Podcast or Spotify ____________________________________ FOLLOW DR. KATE BALESTRIERI IG: https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@drkatebalestrieri ____________________________________ DISCLAIMER  The content posted on this page, or any of Dr. Kate’s or Modern Intimacy’s social media channels are for educational and entertainment purposes only and are not a substitute for therapy.  If you need immediate support, please text HOME to 741741 or call 1-800-273-8255 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  ____________________________________ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever had a stressful day, filled with seemingly never ending tasks, and found yourself recoiling at the advances of your partner? If yes, you may be, as author Amanda Montei coins it, touched out. Amanda joins Dr. Kate in the studio this week to discuss this concept of being “touched out”, and the ways that it can permeate into our intimate and familial relationships. Together, the two explore: • The surprises one may encounter when entering motherhood • Being in recovery while becoming a mother • Weaponized choice in parenthood • The division of labor in households And so much more. Amanda is the author, most recently, of Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent & Control. She is a contributing writer for New York Times Magazine, and her work has also appeared at The Cut, New York Times, Elle, Time, Slate, and many others. She writes the newsletter Mad Woman. A special thank you to this week's sponsor, SEED! Support your gut this summer with Seed’s DS-01® Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/GETNAKED and use code 25GETNAKED to get 25% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is Dr. Kate’s first Solo Q&A podcast, answering questions from listeners. We love hearing directly from our listeners, and love answering specific questions you have. This is the first, and Dr. Kate plans on doing these each month, so keep your questions coming! Many answers will feel like she is talking directly to you, as there are so many universal sex and relationship questions. You can ask Dr. Kate truly anything. As in her weekly podcast, she is always honest and open about all things, no matter how sensitive or embarrassing you may think it is. This episode includes a question about being attracted to someone other than your partner, along with discussion of monogamy, opening your relationship to others, inviting porn and toys into the bedroom and much specific advice. Dr. Kate also answers a question about an 18 year old’s inability to ejaculate when having sex with a partner, though he has no problem when having “solo” sex. Listen in. Dr. Kate says this is a more common issue than you would think. Another question is about one partner initiating sex more than the other. Again, Dr. Kate knows this is not uncommon and gets real about it. She shares reasons and also specific take away about this situation. Dr. Kate is there for you. Listen and write in your own questions. She is looking forward to continued interaction with you all! And if you are enjoying the Get Naked podcast, please leave a review and “like” on Apple/ITunes. We appreciate the feedback! Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com   Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/  https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices